You see, I’m worried about this. I recognized him and I would always go to our friends first without trying to solve the problem ourselves. I realized my bestfriend started to hate him, and his friends started to not like me.. I wanted all of us to stay in good faith of each other, so I mentioned to him “we should try our best to work it out before going to our friends” and now I’m unsure if I’m controlling 😭 though there are some other things I did try and control and I’m working on, I don’t think it was malicious for me. What do you think? (We aren’t together anymore but I want to better myself and right my wrongs)
You see, I’m worried about this. I recognized him and I would always go to our friends first without trying to solve the problem ourselves. I realized my bestfriend started to hate him, and his friends started to not like me.. I wanted all of us to stay in good faith of each other, so I mentioned to him “we should try our best to work it out before going to our friends” and now I’m unsure if I’m controlling 😭 though there are some other things I did try and control and I’m working on, I don’t think it was malicious for me. What do you think? (We aren’t together anymore but I want to better myself and right my wrongs)
No you weren’t controlling. Your intent was the problem solve. In my example, the intent was to isolate. Intent matters so much ❤️🙏🏻