Stories like hers are why I try not to judge what others do or how they are. It's horrible what she went through. Thank you for sharing your story amd I'm sure it will help a lot of people.
She should write a book on her life experience because a 8 minute video doesnt do her justice and it seems intresting also I love how at the end she helps people who were in her shoes
I can’t believe that 70 percent of women caught in human trafficking are put right in the public eye. I always thought they were “underground” or taken to other countries. This is eye opening. GOD bless you Harmony. A lot of people would have been destroyed and here you are helping other people get out of horrible situations.
I love how calm and empowered she has become despite everything she has went through, if she hasn’t already realized her purpose, I think it’s giving others that same empowerment and making a diamond in the rough. Her personality is beautiful.
She’s been to the Philippines to tell her story! Poverty is so bad in the Philippines, the sex industry is where women turn to. She reminds these broken women of their worth. She’s really amazing.
Exo Babyyeol! A lot of women in the sex Industry went through some kind of sexual abuse and trauma. You don't know what you would do until it happens to you.
bookdragon34 God is not religion he’s relationship. And that’s what changes the hearts on man. That’s what God wants he wants a personal relationship with everyone. Seek Him he’s already waiting for you to find him.
Luke Barrett perhaps you should find a video that is about strong men's stories and share your opinions there instead of disregarding this woman's story because of your attention seeking tendencies. Thank you.
Mad props to Buzzfeed for making this video. This is a side of women’s rights/equality that needs to be spoken for more, and I never thought Buzzfeed would be the ones saying it.
Finn I mean, isn’t it just equality for everyone? Because men go through similar things as male strippers. It should be equal for all(and i’m a woman). But more importantly, BROKE COLLEGE STUDENTS SHOULDNT HAVE TO RELY ON PARENTS OR BECOME STRIPPERS
Beautybyallii7 Kind of hard to understand last part, the fact that a child had to experience such trauma at a young age doesn't sound like the work of a benevolent creator
This is why compassion and non-judgement is so important. If it wasnt for her friend to love her unconditionally, she may have never known how to get out. We must be kind to one another because judgement and hate isnt going to heal the world.
I was surprised to see that it was Harmony Dust Grillo in the video. I was a big fan of her ex-husband’s work in high school and college and had never heard her testimony before. What a great way to take negative life experiences as an inspiration to help others.
It takes like literally 2 seconds and no brain to judge someone on the basis of their profession ..but what most of the people miss is imagining the conditions behind for their current situation .... STOP JUDGING START UNDERSTANDING !!
August D umm I don’t think prostitution classes a profession? Lol. Given that a dictionary defines a profession as a paid job that involves lengthy training and formal qualification...
I want to hug her, she is a hero to so many women i'm sure! Beauty from ashes, she is using her testimony to change others lives. Amazing, I almost started crying seeing her husband and kids pictures I'm happy she found new life! Such a great story ❤ glad I watched.
I'm proud of you for getting yourself out of such a hurtful existence. You must be so strong to have gone through what you have and now you're helping others. Did you ever speak to your mother again? Did she ever get clean? I can't believe nobody helped you and your brother. Are you and your brother close? Do you have a youtube channel? It seems like your name finally matches your life. Good for you :)
My mom and I are still in touch. I have forgiven her. My brother is doing great! We are still close. And you can check out our youtube channel at ruclips.net/user/treasuresxgirls :)
I wish I could hug her 13 year old self. Thank you for letting me see your side of things because me like many others only judge girls like you. Not anymore. Thank you for sharing your story!
The fact that you went through everything that you did, you still have so much confidence and respect when you speak. You are a great role model of how to overcome even the toughest situations that tried to break you. Some people can never move on in life and waste it all away. Because of your story I will try to live every day as if theres no tomorrow
One, this person never said anything g was her fault and two plus size models don’t exist? Also, they said “should’ve” past tense, they’re talking about when she was younger and if you saw the pictures of her throughout the video you’d know she was skinnier too.
Alicia Wlodarczyk lol she never said she didnt know any industries. Plus there are models of all body shapes and size. But if you actually listen to what shes saying youd see that she made her choices on what life gave to her.
@@samsonright936 she wasnt plus size before though. The modeling industry is very specific about what they want. 5'2-5'5 are commercial models but cant be over 115 or under 90 pounds. 6 feet to be a high fashion model and cant be over 125 pounds. They're also strict about breast and hip size. I dont remember the run down measurements but remember being told my 32DDs were way to big to be a high end model but I was too tall to do commercial modeling. Not to mention its expensive to start training unless you're one of the severe rare ones snatched up by some scout. It is not easy at all or realistic for a teen with no parental support to sign permission for bank accounts, jobs, etc. Meanwhile the model industry is just as bad as the sec industry.
Voices like this get buried under the louder and more privileged voices of 'sex work is SO empowering'. That's not the reality for most women. Thank you for this video. Moving and so necessary
Exactly, it's infuriating. If a woman likes her work, that's great! But they act like a woman sharing her story of abuse is an offense to them, and kind of illustrates how blinded they are by their own privilege.
That's because sex work that you're forced into, metaphorically or physically, isn't sex work. It's sex trafficking. Don't speak for us. - a sex worker
Rips and Rants Sex trafficking is horrible- forced sex work like she went through is HORRID. Sex work when it’s voluntary like it is/was for you is just trashy, immoral, and idiotic.
Rips and Rants - You can't be metaphorically forced into sex work. You can choose to go into it out of circumstances or out of your own occupational fulfillment. But videos like these allow us to see a fuller picture of the sex industry. You might not have a broken background as she does, but many women in the sex industry do. It shouldn't be a glorified option because it lends these women to being further abused, emotionally and physically.
I’m sorry for what you went through💔 I’ve had a hard life too and I’m working on leaving. I suffer from depression, I’m very broken. You’re story is inspiring☀️
This is a really powerful message. I honestly think that religion isn't a bad thing. I think it gave her a purpose to live and a reason why she is valuable. Sometimes you don't have someone to talk to but you have your faith and religion and it helps you look to the bright side of life. I don't think she would be where she is without that new aspect of her life. She is very brave. It's a hard story to tell.
I agree 100%. It’s really unfair to just bash religion or religious individuals, because you never know how exactly they got there. Sure, you have your people who were raised with their set of beliefs, but there’s still plenty who have gone through many struggles and need to be involved with God. I’ve met all sorts of people, just in my school’s church, who, for one reason or another, NEEDED to be there: Even one or two of our own teachers. Point being: don’t bash anyone’s motivation for getting themself out of a bad situation. The important thing is that they have found help, support, and the knowledge that they CAN help themselves.
Amethyst OpalStar // You don't think she would be where she is today if it wasn't for her religion? You need to give the girl more credit. She did this all on her own. God or Jesus or whoever did nothing for her. SHE did it ALL on her OWN.
Not true either. An oversimplification. I had a cousin who had no history of trauma or anxiety or anything emotional/psychological. Went into Stripping to get herself through Law School. Got out of Stripping after paying off all Student Loans. And she had come from a family of Doctors and Lawyers with no money problems, no mental/behavioral issues.
You do realize that trauma is an emotional response to an experience that is distressing. That means that trauma can come from anything from the death of a family member to watching a news report of a school shooting. EVERYONE will experience trauma at some point in their lives, we all just deal with it differently. I bet all your memories are not good memories and thinking about those memories causes you stress aka TRAUMA
What a brave woman! She deserves all the good things that is happening in her life now. She was faced with adversity and yet she never gave up. Bless her heart!
Wow boo ur story shows that this horror isn’t just in the movies. This is so inspiring that u can stand up and tell ur story to thousands this really touched home to me
I don't understand why people actually act surprised that BuzzFeed is showing the bad side of the sex industry. BuzzFeed has always championed feminism. People always assume feminism is only obsessed with sex. No. It's concerned with giving women a *choice* and sometimes that choice is stripping sometimes it's not being violated by customers. It doesn't make them less valuable and vice versa.
bleh usually they’d be the type to encourage or try to normalize stuff like stripping, I never thought they’d have someone of faith come on here to condemn it lol
I wouldn't say she was condemning it, I think her message essentially boiled down to, "There's more to women in the sex industry than meets the eye, and many of them aren't there because they want to be." Though I do understand why it came off as condemning.
I was raised in a conservative household and this is an eye opener for me. I think by making videos such as this the lady has reached out to a lot of women who are trapped in the sex industry. There is a choice and there is a way out regardless of how hopeless the situation may be. I hope that all women out there knows they are beautiful, special and loved. Don't be afraid to dream big.
Worldwide Handsome this is false, judging people is something that everyone does naturally. Even if it’s judging people positively it’s still judging. Everyone will always judge others regardless of what people say or do to prevent it
none of your buisness Stripper over here and I can assure you I am not a waste of life. Do you know any personally or are you just going of what the media feeds you and your hatred towards women.
Am I the only one shook at buzzfeed publishing a video with someone giving so much credit to God or??? I mean, not to make it about me but thank you for the representation lol. Also SUCH a good and timely video.
Not at ALL what I expected from the title and from BuzzFeed. Great video, what a fantastic message and what a tragic story with a happy ending. Makes you wonder how many broken women are on the other end of that dollar.
Honestly, this video made me cry. Im so happy that she found love in God because she deserves the love God gives her and she honestly is a truly good person for sharing the love. She’s brave and courageous and amazing.
dont troll buzzfeed for the content they post.. really. i get why people do that but, just stop and take a look at content like this and just forget about the rest. Mad respect Buzzfeed. thank you
Buzzfeed is laughable. Their “journalists” all contradict each other, they’ll publish literally anything and on many occasions have been found to be misinformed. Hey, as long as it’s someone who’s disabled, a minority, or LGBTQ+, they can have a job there. They matter more than everyone else and their opinion is worth 10x more.
this woman is so beautifully strong and i look up to her so much for never giving up and never harming herself because she knew things would get better..this is such an empowering story and it’s truly beautiful..thank you harmony.
She's so well spoken. I'm touched she now made it her purpose in life empowering those who are in a bad situation like she was in, and I love that they call the organisation treasures ♥
Some women strip because they want to earn some extra money and take care of themselves. Some women strip because they have no other choice. No matter what the situation is,we are not in the position to judge sex workers because of their profession.
Catherine Garavito I totally agree with you, "liberal" feminists always come with that phrase, and they don't think about the real problem... *Why a women should be exposing herself like a piece of meat for men's entertainment? That's totally sad and wrong.*
Lidya Wayne but strippers legit don't make that much cash sorry to burst your bubble but...this would pretty much ruin your own reputation and future generations
A you say sex work is wrong but I bet you 20 bucks you watch porn. Its not wrong. Its a way of making money. Maybe some women like the attention. Maybe others just need the quick cash. You have to seriously respect your body if youre going to work in a field where you are constantly naked or near naked. I guess we gotta shame people who model for artists too, then. They have no shame! Undressing so people can get in basic anatomy drawing! No respect!
reuben mathew to be honest a lot of the dislikes are probably coming from sex workers. This video perpetuates the narrative that this is what it's like for all sex workers and gives people a reason to try and sanction our jobs or take our rights away because it's "dangerous"
honestly i hate when people like you ask these types of questions. like OBVIOUSLY EVERY SINGLE BIG RUclipsR WILL GET A MF DISLIKE! wether its sad, happy, IT DOESNT MATTER
Vicky ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ Sorry I didn't mean to post a generic comment. I genuinely don't get it. Ok sure some sex workers may disagree but the point of this video is to have respect for women and to realise that there are real people with actual lives behind every person working in the sex industry. Why would you dislike something like that?
I'mSmarterThanYou actually I'm glad you said this, I wasn't sure how to feel about the video, I ended up liking it, but I couldn't help feeling like this only perpetuates that all dancers are victims. Not all of us are
Go look at Trump's sex trafficking laws through the channel vox. It's nice to see these types of comments here but it's not well received In many places.
I just can't stop crying listening to your story!!! Nobody should endure this! I pray that your future is free of that pain and suffering. You do what you need to get out.
Hi Harmony if you see this, I just wanted to say that I'm so glad you've chosen to speak about this issue as this video was very relevant to me especially at this time when I feel so worthless. You are setting an example for girls like us who have been through violence and abuse. I hope to be able to follow your lead.
I'mSmarterThanYou No one should shame sex workers because I understand y’all do it for money because you have no other option. But I agree with the original comment and that you shouldn’t glorify sex industries to be something great, most people are in the industry because they have to. You should work to get out and go to college or get a job and follow your dreams. Again..no ones shaming you because y’all have to do what y’all have to do, but glorifying it makes it seem amazing when you should strive for more like this woman.
natalie Why do you assume stripping is my only option? It's because of videos like these. To tell you a little bit about me I grew up in an upper middle class family, my parents are still married and I have NEVER suffered or struggled in any way. At 22 I was working as an assistant in an accounting office making $700 a week working 5-6 days a week for 8-12 hours a day. I HATED MY LIFE. What I was doing was not fulfilling and my job was eating up most of my time and energy. I had been to a strip club before as a guest with friends and I loved the idea that as a stripper you can make your own hours, be your own boss, interact with who you CHOOSE to interact with and make the same amount in a day as I was in a week. I strip because it is the best lifestyle for me. I started as an adult and I chose to go into the industry. I payed for my education entirely by myself and even though now I am graduated I STILL CHOOSE to dance full time because it is a wonderful opportunity and I love it. Everyone's experience in the sex industry is DIFFERENT. It's terrible what happen to this woman... but this does not represent all of us is the point I'm trying to make.
natalie and the line "I understand y'all do it for the money" is just getting old at this point. ANYONE WHO DOES ANY JOB DOES IT FOR THE MONEY. Did you just discover people work in exchange for money? I just choose to make mine taking my top off and flipping upside down on a pole rather than sitting behind a desk all week miserable listening to someone else bark orders at me.
Stories like hers are why I try not to judge what others do or how they are. It's horrible what she went through. Thank you for sharing your story amd I'm sure it will help a lot of people.
SO TRUE
Incredible story
Watch Trumps new laws on sex trafficking through the channel vox. These comments are so nice and understanding compared to that video.
i agree
montia larson xj x j si
*I wish her mother could see her now...she conquered a lot*
Missii pree her mom is looking over her right now probably
She should write a book on her life experience because a 8 minute video doesnt do her justice and it seems intresting also I love how at the end she helps people who were in her shoes
I did! You can find it at store.iamatreasure.com/products/scarsandstilettos2ndedition
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COLOR_THE_ BEAR she did, it’s in the description.😐
COLOR_THE_ BEAR yup
She did it's linked in the bio
Mad respect for this women
*RESPEC WAMEN*
Uzi The Goat
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*woman
Imagine being that guy that intentionally misspells words....
@@hayleebennett6596 ikr
I can’t believe that 70 percent of women caught in human trafficking are put right in the public eye. I always thought they were “underground” or taken to other countries. This is eye opening. GOD bless you Harmony. A lot of people would have been destroyed and here you are helping other people get out of horrible situations.
Glad it was eye opening. You might find this other video I made helpful too: ruclips.net/video/9c1tGD7f2Hs/видео.html
Hessed3712 exactly
The best place to hide things is to hide them in plain sight
Hessed3712 I
Hessed3712 ikr
I love how calm and empowered she has become despite everything she has went through, if she hasn’t already realized her purpose, I think it’s giving others that same empowerment and making a diamond in the rough.
Her personality is beautiful.
That's the power of God right there
a shiny piece of coal
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Potato Dagreat0901 coal isn't shiny weeb
Tsundere Princess she should be a spokesperson for people in abusive relationships or sex trafficking.
How is she not crying and saying her story??
I would cried after introducing myself
Such a strong woman
she may have grown numb to it
Dylan :’(
She eas reborn and made new by God...he works wonders-i know this from personal experience!!
tragedy can desensitize you unfortunately... especially traumas that are constant and consistent
Because her internal wounds are healed♡
I’m 13, and my sister is 5. I could not imagine this. I’m so so so sorry. 😫😭
Girl you shouldn't even be here 😂
Happy... birthday? Maybe?
Omg ur not supposed to say that on the internet lmao
I'm 13 and my sister is 5
OMG same i'm 13 and my little brother's five, I also have a 10 yro sister
She’s been to the Philippines to tell her story! Poverty is so bad in the Philippines, the sex industry is where women turn to. She reminds these broken women of their worth. She’s really amazing.
Leanne Marie that's amazing how she did that!
Yeah nah we moved to Australia
Leanne Marie I'm from Philippines
Mikaella Morales awesome!!!
I lived there for a while ☺️
That's amazing!
RESPECT
She is so brave for putting this up here and stepping up to talk about this. Stop judging people before seeing the big picture.
Maia The_Wray_of_Sunshine I agree 100 percent!
Talk*
kenshe oVo lol yeah XD DAMN TYPOS
Exo Babyyeol! A lot of women in the sex Industry went through some kind of sexual abuse and trauma. You don't know what you would do until it happens to you.
Even if there isn't a big picture like this a girl is a stripper just for the hell of wanting to be a stripper you shouldn't judge. Let people live.
personally, im nor religous but i am so so glad that this woman has found peace and comfort with God and with going to church
bookdragon34 God is not religion he’s relationship. And that’s what changes the hearts on man. That’s what God wants he wants a personal relationship with everyone. Seek Him he’s already waiting for you to find him.
@@fdj3830 your right bro. Jesus is not religion... He is our savior..
@@fdj3830 Your conception of a God is 100% religion. You are not agnostic as to what god may be, if god even exists. All your notions are religious.
Mathew 6:33 I’m not religious tho, I respect your opinion but I don’t live by it sorry
Jesus came to destroy religion🙌🏻
I wish they interviewed her brother also.
Nah, why? He is a man.
Same
Project 2501
Hmm
Yeah that would be cool. I wonder if he knew what her job was...
@@Project_2501 so???
this broke my heart. this woman is so strong, yes girl!
Holly Sparks it’s not yes girl it’s....... YAS QUEEN
Holly Sparks She loved it.
Luke Barrett and I never said they weren't 👍
NOS you can't assume that. It was her only option for income.
Please take your disrespectful comments elsewhere. Thank you.
Luke Barrett perhaps you should find a video that is about strong men's stories and share your opinions there instead of disregarding this woman's story because of your attention seeking tendencies.
Thank you.
Mad props to Buzzfeed for making this video. This is a side of women’s rights/equality that needs to be spoken for more, and I never thought Buzzfeed would be the ones saying it.
Finn I mean, isn’t it just equality for everyone? Because men go through similar things as male strippers. It should be equal for all(and i’m a woman). But more importantly, BROKE COLLEGE STUDENTS SHOULDNT HAVE TO RELY ON PARENTS OR BECOME STRIPPERS
Yes. Never thought BuzzFeed would share this kind of content... Well hopefully there will be more of them.
They never share things about how hard is to be a man tho.
This is very different from the norm, more variety -- we happily welcome it.
Bilgewater boi uhh yes they have? Multiple times actually. Research before commenting hate buddy
I'm so sorry. Every child deserves a fair chance in life.
Pamelina says No
Yes
why?
Wow. She is so strong to even talk about this publicly. Mad respect for the woman. She has come so far and is so strong. ❤
wow this story gave me chills. you WERE put on this earth for a purpose. i believe in you Harmony. so proud of you!!! God is SO good!!
you are so sad
ey your mom is so sad
Beautybyallii7
Kind of hard to understand last part, the fact that a child had to experience such trauma at a young age doesn't sound like the work of a benevolent creator
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Who ever comfirmed that god exist. He probably doesn't exist
What a horrific story... such a strong woman. Full respect to her.
Hanna Olson DID YOU JUST ASSUME ITS GENDER
Christopher Belanger ffs
Hanna Olson remember she went through this because of her mother and her father both man and women
Matthew Zombies what?
This is why compassion and non-judgement is so important. If it wasnt for her friend to love her unconditionally, she may have never known how to get out. We must be kind to one another because judgement and hate isnt going to heal the world.
I feel terrible for her😢
And for all of them. She's really inspiring and respectable
As a mom of 3 little ones, I find stories like this so utterly heartbreaking.
*pat pat*
She was so pretty, wtf. No one deserves this, but she managed to stay strong. Everybody should be able to survive whatever their going through.
chreee She still is!
Mark Boyer right. Like shes still beautiful. No need for the "was beautiful" .. Kinda rude actually
Payton Morgan people can have their opinions shut up not every one has to feel the way you do
She's prettier now as a fully grown and strong woman.
Payton Morgan thank you for correcting me then,, but I mean more in a sense that she is/was always pretty
I was surprised to see that it was Harmony Dust Grillo in the video. I was a big fan of her ex-husband’s work in high school and college and had never heard her testimony before. What a great way to take negative life experiences as an inspiration to help others.
What was his work?
Crucis119 He’s a hip hop artist. He’s still making stuff, but I haven’t listened to his more recent work.
wow..
For the record, he wasn’t the abusive guy she was referring to. The name Dust came from that marriage.
Wow....
she shoulda tried modelling when she was younger...so beautiful.
She still is :)
prince ababua That’s pretty rude tbh.
Dreamy Daze oh shut tf up
Dreamy Daze every single person is beautiful and unique in their own way
she did, she has a book
I respect her. She is so brave👍 You go girl!!
D Dutta yay stripping = bravery
The Skittles
She was saying she was brave because she got out of it eventually and is now living her life.
The Skittles did you not hear the story she is brave because she survived that whole thing
The Skittles did you not watch the video or??
D Dutta "I am a stripper because I had a hard life" is not brave. "I am a doctor despite a hard life" is.
It takes like literally 2 seconds and no brain to judge someone on the basis of their profession ..but what most of the people miss is imagining the conditions behind for their current situation ....
STOP JUDGING
START UNDERSTANDING !!
You call that profession..? More like prostitution
Gamgyull They're doing it for a living. They get paid for what they do. It's a profession, just like being a waitress or a barista.
louis Hendrison I am an engineer dude
August D agreed
August D umm I don’t think prostitution classes a profession? Lol. Given that a dictionary defines a profession as a paid job that involves lengthy training and formal qualification...
I want to hug her, she is a hero to so many women i'm sure! Beauty from ashes, she is using her testimony to change others lives. Amazing, I almost started crying seeing her husband and kids pictures I'm happy she found new life! Such a great story ❤ glad I watched.
What kind of police won’t come to a house when someone is dYiNg??
Daddy Gru some police departments aren’t allowed into certain areas to reduce the casualties
@@andreblackaller3560 How tf is that reducing casualties other than police casualties
the fuvking United State one
MissRandomComment idk I’m not the government haha I just know that because my uncle is a cop
Daddy Gru what kind of mother would leave their children unattended to go off with some random guy
this woman is a badass.
Harmony Dust Grillo
For real 😂😂😂😂
I'm proud of you for getting yourself out of such a hurtful existence. You must be so strong to have gone through what you have and now you're helping others. Did you ever speak to your mother again? Did she ever get clean? I can't believe nobody helped you and your brother. Are you and your brother close? Do you have a youtube channel? It seems like your name finally matches your life. Good for you :)
My mom and I are still in touch. I have forgiven her. My brother is doing great! We are still close. And you can check out our youtube channel at ruclips.net/user/treasuresxgirls :)
Treasures omg thank you for replying, I didn't think that you would and it's awesome to know all of this
Treasures That's great to hear. I'm gonna go subscribe to your channel now :) 💚💚💚
Awesome!
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Oh my god, write a book bc this doesn’t give her story justice
She has one
She has.
JansTheRush - YT Surfer what's. It called
Zaqieboy
Scars & Stilettos
open up the description it’s there
Ok...so we are not going to talk about the mom who left her 13 year old daughter with her younger brother?
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Cloudy Night she was on drugs though, but still what mother would leave their children at that age?!
Not that bad
Nah we don't, because in Buzzfeed's reality only men do stuff like that.
Joefish imagine your mom leaving you,By yourself with your younger brother...
Not that bud huh?
@@CloudyNight sorry, didn't watch the entire video and thought she meant that She was left alone with her with her brother for a few hours.
Women go through alot, she is so strong and beautiful
CamilaaCabellooFann Me *a lot
Karin SHN, get it right mate. Only women matter now. xD
God bless her. I applaud her strength and determination and love.
I wish I could hug her 13 year old self.
Thank you for letting me see your side of things because me like many others only judge girls like you. Not anymore.
Thank you for sharing your story!
not related to the story but 1:58 looks like it’s out of a magazine wow
Multi Potter she could’ve been so much more !😩
That is me
Tammie Ellis It’s the girl telling the story
Ya she is very beautiful 😍she should have modeled
HEY, LOVE UR USERNAME AND PROFILE PIC SO YEAH BYE UR MY NEW POTTER FRIEND(╥﹏╥)
I have so much respect for her! 🙌 Stay strong
Cody Whitlock shut up u didnt even watch the vid
LycanSlasher pullup
Cody Whitlock its fake this is buzzfeed
Cody Whitlock 1000 like
I agree so much Cody
That title was a rollercoaster
Natalie Alfera seriously for real 🤷🏻♀️
Love Animes !! Pleonasm
I legit thought it said “how my children led me to stripping”
same lmaoo
imyay
me
Holy cow I was not expecting this from Buzzfeed. Well done Buzzfeed. Well done Harmony. Thanks for sharing with us!
Carrie Lynn Cos she's white?
Uh no... cause Buzzfeed posts clickbait garbage all the time and this was genuinely good. Oh wait - I see your profile pic. Carry on troll.
Carrie Lynn It was an honest question not a troll. Actually.
Halapecia shaniqua / Why tf would you assume it’s about race? Tf is your problem just assuming like that?
Halapecia shaniqua jeez stop trying to make everything about race!
The fact that you went through everything that you did, you still have so much confidence and respect when you speak. You are a great role model of how to overcome even the toughest situations that tried to break you. Some people can never move on in life and waste it all away. Because of your story I will try to live every day as if theres no tomorrow
This was really well-made, buzzfeed. keep it up
This made me cry! She’s so beautiful and I’m glad her life turned out beautifully at the end.
I understand the 7 year relationship that became abusive. I left him 2 years ago. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
Good for you!
I’m so proud of you, even though I don’t know you! I hope you have an amazing day! ❤️
💓💕💗💕💕💞💞💕
im so proud of you!
:)
I been in your shoes my darling. And finding my light too. Hard life and we still got through. My sister 🙌🏾! You made it
This poor girl! But still so strong!! Wow for telling people about this! So inspiring!
She should've become a model.
she had to be a specific weight, its rare to become a model, and she didn't know any model industries. yeah, 100% her fault.
One, this person never said anything g was her fault and two plus size models don’t exist? Also, they said “should’ve” past tense, they’re talking about when she was younger and if you saw the pictures of her throughout the video you’d know she was skinnier too.
Alicia Wlodarczyk lol she never said she didnt know any industries. Plus there are models of all body shapes and size. But if you actually listen to what shes saying youd see that she made her choices on what life gave to her.
That might not have worked out to be an escape. There's LOTS of sexual exploitation and abuse in the modeling industry too.
@@samsonright936 she wasnt plus size before though. The modeling industry is very specific about what they want. 5'2-5'5 are commercial models but cant be over 115 or under 90 pounds. 6 feet to be a high fashion model and cant be over 125 pounds. They're also strict about breast and hip size. I dont remember the run down measurements but remember being told my 32DDs were way to big to be a high end model but I was too tall to do commercial modeling. Not to mention its expensive to start training unless you're one of the severe rare ones snatched up by some scout. It is not easy at all or realistic for a teen with no parental support to sign permission for bank accounts, jobs, etc. Meanwhile the model industry is just as bad as the sec industry.
I appreciate my life more now....
Apoorva Anwariya
I feel really bad for having anxiety and depression now..
May 20 2018 666 likes in the comment yoooooo
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Apoorva Anwariya there's a girl in my year called Apoorva too..what country is it from?
Respect this beautiful woman❤️🙏🏼
Wow i didnt expect this to be so touching. you go, girl
it's brittany >> in a heartbeat (you Profile picture)
"You go girl"😂😂
Cameraman, stop messing with the focus.
Mitesh Trivedi I know righttt
Mitesh Trivedi damn 😂
Mitesh Trivedi exactly 😶
I saw this comment when I was scrolling down right when he did it took😂😂😂
Dime Ques lol
She was and is so pretty. From the inside and the outside. God bless you, keep doing what you doing.
That's the realest s#!t any stripper has ever spoke
1:58 off topic but *holy crap* she’s goals
Halns 1 ikr
Lol she is rlly pretty tbh
yuck
She's probs 13 in that photo you creep.
If I were a lesbian.....
"Even the police wouldnt come to our neighborhood after dark...." Wow. So brave...
Voices like this get buried under the louder and more privileged voices of 'sex work is SO empowering'. That's not the reality for most women. Thank you for this video. Moving and so necessary
Exactly, it's infuriating. If a woman likes her work, that's great! But they act like a woman sharing her story of abuse is an offense to them, and kind of illustrates how blinded they are by their own privilege.
That's because sex work that you're forced into, metaphorically or physically, isn't sex work. It's sex trafficking. Don't speak for us. - a sex worker
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Rips and Rants Sex trafficking is horrible- forced sex work like she went through is HORRID. Sex work when it’s voluntary like it is/was for you is just trashy, immoral, and idiotic.
Rips and Rants - You can't be metaphorically forced into sex work. You can choose to go into it out of circumstances or out of your own occupational fulfillment. But videos like these allow us to see a fuller picture of the sex industry. You might not have a broken background as she does, but many women in the sex industry do. It shouldn't be a glorified option because it lends these women to being further abused, emotionally and physically.
I’m sorry for what you went through💔 I’ve had a hard life too and I’m working on leaving. I suffer from depression, I’m very broken. You’re story is inspiring☀️
She was gorgeous when she was younger. She still is but when I saw the pics I was like "wow"
Colette Walker I know right! she's aged well.
Colette Walker yupp
Every girl has a purpose on earth. Don't let anyone control you.
Python Modding that's not the only purpose....
Python Modding idiot
Doreen shiran how is that person an idiot by just stating an opinion
Python Modding You're kidding, right? You can't seriously believe that. People like you scare me.
peaceful_person I don't know
Completely out of context but she is one of the most beautiful woman i have ever seen. Especially her old photos, she is gorgeous
Deniz Gül right!! At least she has took care of herself through everything and she is beautiful
breezy cook ikr
Ikr i was thinking the same thing. So sad she had to go through that though
Shes a 6 at most lol
BQNG look how she looked like when she was younger 2:00
I remember reading her autobiography and wow! This lady went through a lot. I’m so glad she found God.
what happened tothe borther do you know
@@КсенияРен-у6щ yeah I wonder if they know
God found her .....
God is fake
@@leomiller4440 respect other people's religion geez
This is a really powerful message. I honestly think that religion isn't a bad thing. I think it gave her a purpose to live and a reason why she is valuable. Sometimes you don't have someone to talk to but you have your faith and religion and it helps you look to the bright side of life. I don't think she would be where she is without that new aspect of her life. She is very brave. It's a hard story to tell.
religion is fine, it becomes a problem when it starts infiltrating politics and school
I agree 100%. It’s really unfair to just bash religion or religious individuals, because you never know how exactly they got there. Sure, you have your people who were raised with their set of beliefs, but there’s still plenty who have gone through many struggles and need to be involved with God. I’ve met all sorts of people, just in my school’s church, who, for one reason or another, NEEDED to be there: Even one or two of our own teachers.
Point being: don’t bash anyone’s motivation for getting themself out of a bad situation. The important thing is that they have found help, support, and the knowledge that they CAN help themselves.
Amethyst OpalStar // You don't think she would be where she is today if it wasn't for her religion? You need to give the girl more credit. She did this all on her own. God or Jesus or whoever did nothing for her. SHE did it ALL on her OWN.
Mind Flowers
It's not religion it's god that helped her through her struggles
Beautiful testimony. Im glad she escaped. May this open doors of freedom for victims of human trafficking.😢
Stories like this make me value the life I’ve been given so much more.
Baron Wright I know you meant well. But that sounds a little insulting & complimentary, all at once.
Not everyone from a traumatic past goes into the sex industry but everyone from the sex industry has a traumatic past.
Not true either. An oversimplification. I had a cousin who had no history of trauma or anxiety or anything emotional/psychological. Went into Stripping to get herself through Law School. Got out of Stripping after paying off all Student Loans. And she had come from a family of Doctors and Lawyers with no money problems, no mental/behavioral issues.
Not true
Neither are true
You do realize that trauma is an emotional response to an experience that is distressing. That means that trauma can come from anything from the death of a family member to watching a news report of a school shooting. EVERYONE will experience trauma at some point in their lives, we all just deal with it differently. I bet all your memories are not good memories and thinking about those memories causes you stress aka TRAUMA
False.
1:59 oh my god she was honestly so beautiful, she looks like she could be a model
Her face is... Something else.
Wow. So much respect for such a tough lady 🙌 I wonder what happened to her baby brother.
CBEEBLE He is married now and has come a long way!
CBEEBLE same
CBEEBLE I hopes he's good :)
likewise
CBEEBLE her brother also became a striper
What a brave woman! She deserves all the good things that is happening in her life now. She was faced with adversity and yet she never gave up. Bless her heart!
Wow boo ur story shows that this horror isn’t just in the movies. This is so inspiring that u can stand up and tell ur story to thousands this really touched home to me
I don't understand why people actually act surprised that BuzzFeed is showing the bad side of the sex industry. BuzzFeed has always championed feminism. People always assume feminism is only obsessed with sex. No. It's concerned with giving women a *choice* and sometimes that choice is stripping sometimes it's not being violated by customers. It doesn't make them less valuable and vice versa.
Lucky Girl Course it doesn’t make them less valuable every human is worth importance but unfortunately the customers don’t look at them as such
Lucky Girl 👏👏
Women have a choice and that is to get any job not jist stripping and no matter what you don't have to sink that low
Chinchilla 0 who said stripping was low? You? When did you become the integrity police?
Chinchilla 0 nobody is going to live their life the way YOU want. You aren't such a relevant factor.
"Everyone thinks the sex industry is glamorous and empowering" I don't know anyone who's ever thought that lol
MITCHELL WIGGS I think those people who think that are on drugs
We hear that a lot lately, just watch pornstar interviews ect
I hate the industry, it's messed up and disgusting and very very wrong.
xpapillondenuitx heyy thank u 🤗🤗
Maybe glamorous but..empowering? I don't think that was the right word...
Never thought I’d see buzzfeed do a video like this
They have tons lol
bleh usually they’d be the type to encourage or try to normalize stuff like stripping, I never thought they’d have someone of faith come on here to condemn it lol
I wouldn't say she was condemning it, I think her message essentially boiled down to, "There's more to women in the sex industry than meets the eye, and many of them aren't there because they want to be."
Though I do understand why it came off as condemning.
She’s found her purpose. Extraordinary women. Bless you ❤️
i'm crying and eating ice cream right now
einstin! 😂
einstin! yea me too
einstin! what kind
Oh honey, its ok I got you.
same chush
Wow you are an amazing, strong, beautiful woman! Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
My pleasure!
Ashli Mathews 😗😙😘😚😍😍
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im crying im so happy for her very inspirational
So glad you found it inspiring:)
So inspirational now I want to become a stripper too 😁
Aspensworld you're not crying.
Aspensworld wow. So strong
G Cool seriously lmao it was ridiculous
I'm glad she found her way to get through all of this and didn't lose hope. such a strong and beautiful woman.❤
I agree 100% also I love your profile name 😊
Who else would read a book about this?
Nah, but I'd watch the movie.
She wrote one. It is in the description.
asseater007 Me that would be inspiring
asseater007 Nice pic and name.
Me I would love to read a book with this story , I love to read
I was raised in a conservative household and this is an eye opener for me. I think by making videos such as this the lady has reached out to a lot of women who are trapped in the sex industry. There is a choice and there is a way out regardless of how hopeless the situation may be. I hope that all women out there knows they are beautiful, special and loved. Don't be afraid to dream big.
What does being raised in a conservative household have to do with the rest and of this comment.
He is suggesting that his upbringing didn't expose him to this issue
It takes zero effort not to judge others. Sex workers are human too.
Worldwide Handsome this is false, judging people is something that everyone does naturally. Even if it’s judging people positively it’s still judging. Everyone will always judge others regardless of what people say or do to prevent it
Worldwide Handsome it takes zero effort for me to judge people and even less to insult them.
It's human nature to judge people; it would take more effort not to judge, if not being outright impossible. Positive judgement is still judgement.
none of your buisness Stripper over here and I can assure you I am not a waste of life. Do you know any personally or are you just going of what the media feeds you and your hatred towards women.
cecedoll88 out of all the occupations in the world you picked to be a stripper?
Am I the only one shook at buzzfeed publishing a video with someone giving so much credit to God or??? I mean, not to make it about me but thank you for the representation lol.
Also SUCH a good and timely video.
Well, if she thinks God got her out of this one then let her. There's nothing wrong with her believing that
Yes.Yes you are
lol yeah because god really need representation in one of the most religious countries in the world. moron!
I was surprised too.
Not at ALL what I expected from the title and from BuzzFeed. Great video, what a fantastic message and what a tragic story with a happy ending. Makes you wonder how many broken women are on the other end of that dollar.
People shouldn't have to go through this
The Whoniverse
I agree.
The Whoniverse sadly a lot still do and worse
I just want to hug this woman. Shes a beautiful soul!
Honestly, this video made me cry. Im so happy that she found love in God because she deserves the love God gives her and she honestly is a truly good person for sharing the love. She’s brave and courageous and amazing.
ira Sergio your so right
YES BUZZFEED I'M SO GLAD YOU POSTED THIS IT IS SO GOOD THIS IS THE MESSAGE WE NEED
dont troll buzzfeed for the content they post.. really. i get why people do that but, just stop and take a look at content like this and just forget about the rest. Mad respect Buzzfeed.
thank you
Narain Gokul buzzfeed is cancer
Buzzfeed is laughable. Their “journalists” all contradict each other, they’ll publish literally anything and on many occasions have been found to be misinformed. Hey, as long as it’s someone who’s disabled, a minority, or LGBTQ+, they can have a job there. They matter more than everyone else and their opinion is worth 10x more.
ArsenicLemonade then why are you here
the thumbnail title was a little bit dizzy, but it was a great story, i don't know why people disliked this video
Narain Gokul Sometimes they post good content, but most of them are just *TRASH*
this woman is so beautifully strong and i look up to her so much for never giving up and never harming herself because she knew things would get better..this is such an empowering story and it’s truly beautiful..thank you harmony.
Thank you:)
She's so well spoken. I'm touched she now made it her purpose in life empowering those who are in a bad situation like she was in, and I love that they call the organisation treasures ♥
Some women strip because they want to earn some extra money and take care of themselves. Some women strip because they have no other choice. No matter what the situation is,we are not in the position to judge sex workers because of their profession.
Lidya Wayne "earn" you mean more like be exploited. No one should have to share their body to "earn" money
Catherine Garavito I totally agree with you, "liberal" feminists always come with that phrase, and they don't think about the real problem... *Why a women should be exposing herself like a piece of meat for men's entertainment? That's totally sad and wrong.*
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Lidya Wayne but strippers legit don't make that much cash sorry to burst your bubble but...this would pretty much ruin your own reputation and future generations
A you say sex work is wrong but I bet you 20 bucks you watch porn. Its not wrong. Its a way of making money. Maybe some women like the attention. Maybe others just need the quick cash. You have to seriously respect your body if youre going to work in a field where you are constantly naked or near naked. I guess we gotta shame people who model for artists too, then. They have no shame! Undressing so people can get in basic anatomy drawing! No respect!
Does anyone else not understand what goes through people's heads when they dislike videos like this??
reuben mathew to be honest a lot of the dislikes are probably coming from sex workers. This video perpetuates the narrative that this is what it's like for all sex workers and gives people a reason to try and sanction our jobs or take our rights away because it's "dangerous"
honestly i hate when people like you ask these types of questions. like OBVIOUSLY EVERY SINGLE BIG RUclipsR WILL GET A MF DISLIKE! wether its sad, happy, IT DOESNT MATTER
Vicky ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ Sorry I didn't mean to post a generic comment. I genuinely don't get it. Ok sure some sex workers may disagree but the point of this video is to have respect for women and to realise that there are real people with actual lives behind every person working in the sex industry.
Why would you dislike something like that?
I'mSmarterThanYou I see your point
I'mSmarterThanYou actually I'm glad you said this, I wasn't sure how to feel about the video, I ended up liking it, but I couldn't help feeling like this only perpetuates that all dancers are victims. Not all of us are
So much respect for her. God bless her.
I wish I could give her a huge hug and tell her she's a strong woman. 😭
What we actually want to see from Buzzfeed
A. G. Yes! Seriously
I love these type of videos, keep em coming 😊great story
Go look at Trump's sex trafficking laws through the channel vox. It's nice to see these types of comments here but it's not well received In many places.
She’s so strong and beautiful!! Just proves that you can’t judge a book by its cover and that there’s always light at the end of the tunnel.
I just can't stop crying listening to your story!!! Nobody should endure this! I pray that your future is free of that pain and suffering. You do what you need to get out.
Hi Harmony if you see this, I just wanted to say that I'm so glad you've chosen to speak about this issue as this video was very relevant to me especially at this time when I feel so worthless. You are setting an example for girls like us who have been through violence and abuse. I hope to be able to follow your lead.
alice on the internet good luck !!!!
1:26 What! $20 only? She deserves better.
Tanisha Mollah that’s like 130$ inflation
That's honestly pretty good I could live off that for ages
Tanisha Mollah ikr wtf
Kyle Jorcha what wtf
Yes she was 13 with an 8 yo brother to care for, with only $20 and a few food stamps.
This is so much better than videos/interview that glorify the sex industries
Kar Yen why? Because it helps feed your negative stereotypes about us?
I'mSmarterThanYou No one should shame sex workers because I understand y’all do it for money because you have no other option. But I agree with the original comment and that you shouldn’t glorify sex industries to be something great, most people are in the industry because they have to. You should work to get out and go to college or get a job and follow your dreams. Again..no ones shaming you because y’all have to do what y’all have to do, but glorifying it makes it seem amazing when you should strive for more like this woman.
natalie Why do you assume stripping is my only option? It's because of videos like these. To tell you a little bit about me I grew up in an upper middle class family, my parents are still married and I have NEVER suffered or struggled in any way. At 22 I was working as an assistant in an accounting office making $700 a week working 5-6 days a week for 8-12 hours a day. I HATED MY LIFE. What I was doing was not fulfilling and my job was eating up most of my time and energy. I had been to a strip club before as a guest with friends and I loved the idea that as a stripper you can make your own hours, be your own boss, interact with who you CHOOSE to interact with and make the same amount in a day as I was in a week. I strip because it is the best lifestyle for me. I started as an adult and I chose to go into the industry. I payed for my education entirely by myself and even though now I am graduated I STILL CHOOSE to dance full time because it is a wonderful opportunity and I love it. Everyone's experience in the sex industry is DIFFERENT. It's terrible what happen to this woman... but this does not represent all of us is the point I'm trying to make.
natalie and the line "I understand y'all do it for the money" is just getting old at this point. ANYONE WHO DOES ANY JOB DOES IT FOR THE MONEY. Did you just discover people work in exchange for money? I just choose to make mine taking my top off and flipping upside down on a pole rather than sitting behind a desk all week miserable listening to someone else bark orders at me.
Wow, it's almost like there's more than one side to sex work! - a sex worker
She’s so strong. Your story is inspiring never be ashamed❤️