Thank you for talking about the law pf attraction, Paulien! I, too, became very interested in the law of attraction because my life was going nowhere and I didn't know what else to do. As someone who was a strong fearful avoidant, I, too, became a perfectionist and would drive myself to work hard to manifest my desires. Of course it didn't work. Then I prioritized healing unresolved trauma, which allowed me to allow and let go more easily, making me less of a perfectionist. My life isn't yet where I want to be, but I now have a great relationship, an easier life, better friendships, and am just overall happier and more peaceful ❤
At the lowest point in my life I found out about the law of attraction. I also discovered your channel that same year so I really felt like I was handed the tools to change and improve my life. I was 16 at the time so of course I wrote down the most outrageous stuff when completing the exercises. I expected it all to come true by the time I was 20 and I had full & firm belief that it would happen because I was desperate to cling onto some sort of control. Fast forward to today. I am not even close to those goals I wrote down and I'm a few months away from 20. But I do have my life together now and I feel better about who I am and who I can be in relationships thanks to you and the positive mindset I had to pick up in order to affirm. Im not sure if the law of attraction works because I think the world would be a much better place if people could get what their hearts desire. Or maybe the world is the way it is because some people got what they wanted? idk, I loved this video Paulien and I'm glad you got to live in your dream home even for a little bit.
I think you have made a very good point. Sometimes fa, or anyone who has experienced trauma can fall into fantastical thinking, daydreaming, limerence, dissassociation and perfection as a way to avoid reality. Alot of people who talk about the law of attraction fail to account for their own privilege, for their own lives. If you are broke, uneducated, scared, living in a council flat with two kids and have zero self esteem and no partner- you can think about living in a castle as much as you want, it isn't going to happen. And it isn't your fault! But if you want to learn french or dance, or meet a kind person, you take steps toward making space for those skills or people with good attributes.
Thank you for talking about the law pf attraction, Paulien! I, too, became very interested in the law of attraction because my life was going nowhere and I didn't know what else to do. As someone who was a strong fearful avoidant, I, too, became a perfectionist and would drive myself to work hard to manifest my desires. Of course it didn't work. Then I prioritized healing unresolved trauma, which allowed me to allow and let go more easily, making me less of a perfectionist. My life isn't yet where I want to be, but I now have a great relationship, an easier life, better friendships, and am just overall happier and more peaceful ❤
At the lowest point in my life I found out about the law of attraction. I also discovered your channel that same year so I really felt like I was handed the tools to change and improve my life. I was 16 at the time so of course I wrote down the most outrageous stuff when completing the exercises. I expected it all to come true by the time I was 20 and I had full & firm belief that it would happen because I was desperate to cling onto some sort of control. Fast forward to today. I am not even close to those goals I wrote down and I'm a few months away from 20. But I do have my life together now and I feel better about who I am and who I can be in relationships thanks to you and the positive mindset I had to pick up in order to affirm. Im not sure if the law of attraction works because I think the world would be a much better place if people could get what their hearts desire. Or maybe the world is the way it is because some people got what they wanted? idk, I loved this video Paulien and I'm glad you got to live in your dream home even for a little bit.
It’s been hard for me to stop my magical limerent thinking anyway but it never turns into my actual 3D reality.
same I wonder why it doesnt work :(
I think you have made a very good point. Sometimes fa, or anyone who has experienced trauma can fall into fantastical thinking, daydreaming, limerence, dissassociation and perfection as a way to avoid reality. Alot of people who talk about the law of attraction fail to account for their own privilege, for their own lives. If you are broke, uneducated, scared, living in a council flat with two kids and have zero self esteem and no partner- you can think about living in a castle as much as you want, it isn't going to happen. And it isn't your fault! But if you want to learn french or dance, or meet a kind person, you take steps toward making space for those skills or people with good attributes.
Greetings from India! Thank you for your help and support 😊
I used to always be scared I would attract any bad thoughts! Makes so much sense. Most teachers do not take into account insecure fearful people!