Such a relief… validation… to know that this is a recognized disorder. That other people have it. I’ve been picking since I was in 1st grade… It took me until my 30s to realize what was going on and find treatments/coping mechanisms.
I’m probably going to comment a lot because this feels like more of a conversation than just a sit and listen situation, if that makes sense. First of all, thank you to Kim and Natasha for this. Kim, you’ve put out so much quality content and promoted healthy awareness which is something kind of hard to find irl when it comes to excoriation (at least for me). I, alongside many others, really appreciate all that you do and admire your confidence and desire to help us as a community. As for Natasha, I literally just discovered Carmilla and got curious about the people behind the characters so to see that someone I think so highly of struggles with the exact thing that makes me think so lowly of myself is comforting and has helped me see my own excoriation as something other than a point of shame.
8:33 The comment about Natasha personally knowing more people who are AFAB or identify as female with excoriation is interesting because I’ve personally experienced more of the opposite. My little cousin, my brother, I are the only people I know who pick-all of whom identify as male (I’m AFAB, but the two of them are cis). But then the thought about women tending to be encouraged to vocalize these behaviors and the emotions that comes with them does fit what I see. Neither of them are outwardly bothered by their picking, so if I didn’t know them so well, chances are that I wouldn’t know they deal with this just like I do. I can’t speak super openly with either of them about it (one is young and the other is on the autism spectrum) so it just makes me wonder how they view everything.
I don't have this issue, but God I somewhat understand it. My fingers are absolutely disgusting from bitting them, not just my nails, the skin around them, any dead skin that's starting to peal, my zits take forever to heal at 20 years old because they scab and then I peel the scab and then it scabs again. I pick at my calluses on my toes and hands. The calluses on my pinkies are the worst... They're sensitive and I'm just trying to rip them off, it makes walking in my boots painful. I don't know why I do this, it's not stress related, I don't think it's confidence related.. I'm pretty much insecure about everything to do with my appearance.
Actually, I only partially pick at the calluses on my hands. When the dead skin separates from the healthy skin there is such satisfaction for me to bite it off.
Hi! Thanks for sharing this theme. I hate labels but... When it comes to human mind... They HELP! I had an accident at the age of 5 that gave me the coolest super power ever. I have epilepsy in the temporal lobe. Convulsive epilepsy takes place at the frontal lobe. So, this is when it gets interesting. Long story short I'm working on a behaviour tool. Using movements and handwriting as a therapy that can change certain behaviours. It's not at easy as it sounds but it will be less painful and will give you consciousness over the anxiety. Let me tell you that I am really happy watching this interview. Appreciate it. And yes, there are scientific theories about those " addictions" Natasha mentioned. Guys, don't worry about everyone else, that is just people being people. I am extremely happy with being different, abnormal, an alien. I have the heart, I have a soul and I don't get scared easily. Stop worrying - believe me, it's possible ü your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy it's in your hands.
18:21 Forgive me summer babies, but summer is the worst, hands down. It’s validating to know that it’s not just me. It’s easy to wear long sleeves and full length pants/skirts/dresses/etc. in winter, fall, and spring, but once summer hits, it almost feels like there’s no way NOT to be noticed. If you keep wearing more concealing clothing, you stand out. On the other hand, you wear shorts or tank tops and you feel like you stand out because you know this behavior you likely feel ashamed of to an extent is on display. In my personal experience, the trend towards more revealing clothing translates to isolation for anyone experiencing any level of body focused insecurity.
Such a relief… validation… to know that this is a recognized disorder. That other people have it. I’ve been picking since I was in 1st grade… It took me until my 30s to realize what was going on and find treatments/coping mechanisms.
I’m probably going to comment a lot because this feels like more of a conversation than just a sit and listen situation, if that makes sense. First of all, thank you to Kim and Natasha for this. Kim, you’ve put out so much quality content and promoted healthy awareness which is something kind of hard to find irl when it comes to excoriation (at least for me). I, alongside many others, really appreciate all that you do and admire your confidence and desire to help us as a community. As for Natasha, I literally just discovered Carmilla and got curious about the people behind the characters so to see that someone I think so highly of struggles with the exact thing that makes me think so lowly of myself is comforting and has helped me see my own excoriation as something other than a point of shame.
Same here...
There was so much I related to in this conversation. Thank you for these episodes that make us all feel less alone!
You’re very welcome, I’m glad they’re of help and thank you for your support.
Wow I did not expect this from Natasha! Cool interview
Thanks for watching and I’m glad you enjoyed it 💛
8:33 The comment about Natasha personally knowing more people who are AFAB or identify as female with excoriation is interesting because I’ve personally experienced more of the opposite. My little cousin, my brother, I are the only people I know who pick-all of whom identify as male (I’m AFAB, but the two of them are cis). But then the thought about women tending to be encouraged to vocalize these behaviors and the emotions that comes with them does fit what I see. Neither of them are outwardly bothered by their picking, so if I didn’t know them so well, chances are that I wouldn’t know they deal with this just like I do. I can’t speak super openly with either of them about it (one is young and the other is on the autism spectrum) so it just makes me wonder how they view everything.
I don't have this issue, but God I somewhat understand it. My fingers are absolutely disgusting from bitting them, not just my nails, the skin around them, any dead skin that's starting to peal, my zits take forever to heal at 20 years old because they scab and then I peel the scab and then it scabs again. I pick at my calluses on my toes and hands. The calluses on my pinkies are the worst... They're sensitive and I'm just trying to rip them off, it makes walking in my boots painful. I don't know why I do this, it's not stress related, I don't think it's confidence related.. I'm pretty much insecure about everything to do with my appearance.
Actually, I only partially pick at the calluses on my hands. When the dead skin separates from the healthy skin there is such satisfaction for me to bite it off.
Hi! Thanks for sharing this theme. I hate labels but... When it comes to human mind... They HELP! I had an accident at the age of 5 that gave me the coolest super power ever. I have epilepsy in the temporal lobe. Convulsive epilepsy takes place at the frontal lobe. So, this is when it gets interesting. Long story short I'm working on a behaviour tool. Using movements and handwriting as a therapy that can change certain behaviours. It's not at easy as it sounds but it will be less painful and will give you consciousness over the anxiety. Let me tell you that I am really happy watching this interview. Appreciate it. And yes, there are scientific theories about those " addictions" Natasha mentioned. Guys, don't worry about everyone else, that is just people being people. I am extremely happy with being different, abnormal, an alien. I have the heart, I have a soul and I don't get scared easily. Stop worrying - believe me, it's possible ü your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy it's in your hands.
Love this, Marlene! Thank you for watching
18:21 Forgive me summer babies, but summer is the worst, hands down. It’s validating to know that it’s not just me. It’s easy to wear long sleeves and full length pants/skirts/dresses/etc. in winter, fall, and spring, but once summer hits, it almost feels like there’s no way NOT to be noticed. If you keep wearing more concealing clothing, you stand out. On the other hand, you wear shorts or tank tops and you feel like you stand out because you know this behavior you likely feel ashamed of to an extent is on display. In my personal experience, the trend towards more revealing clothing translates to isolation for anyone experiencing any level of body focused insecurity.