A Formula for Introducing Yourself Perfectly Every Time
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- Опубликовано: 1 июн 2024
- Do you know how to introduce yourself so people want to get to know you? Learn the essential formula for introducing yourself with confidence and charisma. Perfect for beginners and pros alike, we've got some awesome tips to help you make those introductions unforgettable.
Read more about how to introduce yourself: www.scienceofpeople.com/intro...
Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction
0:20 - Nonverbal Introductions
1:01 - Handshakes and Greetings
1:33 - Visible Hand for Greeting
1:50 - Angling Towards the Person
2:27 - Avoid Rushing Through Your Name
3:18 - Using Positive Words
3:51 - Stating Your Title
4:07 - Adding a Fun Fact
4:49 - Importance of Introducing Yourself
4:56 - Conversation Mastery Course
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Wow. Am I happy not to live and work with Americans anymore ... All visual and absolutely NO feelings.
People are fed up of "acting" and being politically correct.
If you have been well educated and have good manners, then thats sufficient amongst intelligent adults in ANY situation to have a normal conversation.
I remember the first time I went to the US, several tables of our company and theirs mixed and the boss doing rounds to every table to make sure everything was OK .....
I sincerely made my company people feel sick and ill at ease. Does this mean that everything isn't OK sometimes and that she was just checking to make sure we had no complaints ?
IF we had; we wouldn't have mentioned them to her in anycase !
OK - many thanks, Vanessa! Here's what I learned:
non-verbal (Blade)
Greeting: "Hello!"
Name: "My name is Inigo Montoya"
Reason for being here: "You killed my father..."
Fun fact: "PREPARE TO DIE!!!"
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Inconceivable ❤
@@DorisAnn77 "You keep saying that word, but I do not think it means what you think it means."
This comment had me more 💀than Vizzini on an iocane bender.
Non-verbal (blade) oh man, chefs kiss right there🤌
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In case it helps anyone: i had a voice coach tell me to never use "my name is" and use "I'm / I am" instead. This spares words in your introduction, which helps you to be more briefly informative, is more direct and friendly at the same time, and presents your name in a confident way.
Great tip!
I can really relate to the awkward 'handshake or hug'. A friend I've known for forty years were departing one another. I reached to shake. He reached to hug. It was so awkward. That was four years ago, and it still is top of mind.
I'm fully aware that this qualifies as a first-world problem.
Ugh I feel you though, those awkward moments just love to live in our heads and emerge at the most random times!
The awkwardness from that situation is exactly the amount that you think it is.
What do you mean by that?@@Musicdudeyoutub
@@ceterisparibus8966 Meaning most "awkward" situations are just people getting in their own head.
Oh, I do it in the third world too. 🤣
GENTLEMEN!
Do NOT offer a handshake to a lady. Let her offer her hand, if she so desires. Offering your hand first is passive aggressive. You're are putting her in a position to accept touching you, or to create an awkward moment by declining. Don't assume she wants you to touch her!
No, as a matter of fact, we are NOT the same. Women have different concerns than men. Not offering your hand is not "old fashioned" or sexist. It's being respectful of the very real differences between men and women.
As a woman, I appreciate when anyone offers their hand in a culture where handshakes are appropriate. If I don’t want to accept it, I don’t have to accept it. If a man doesn’t offer his hand (and it is culturally acceptable to do so) I’d wonder about his lack of manners.
@@BeauOnTheGo_DCthen you’re creating an awkward moment for the other person. Smh
@@TK-zz6wkI agree. When you initially meet someone, its normal to offer some form of contact. If both parties don't show they're willing, and what they prefer (hug, handshake, fist bump), it leaves the other party in that awkward split second quandary ... are they a germaphobe? Hate physical contact? Just don't want to? Do I force the issue by extending my hand first? Also, the assumption that women are scared of a simple handshake is not helpful. First, it can imply lack of respect in the workplace. Second, it's other predatory behavior that might go with it that we don't like. If they're reaching for a handshake but staring at our chest, or refuse to let go of our hand, THAT'S a problem! 😂
Appearing to have low confidence isn't really that bad because people will make allowances but saying your name very quickly risks making you look like you're just going through the motions and that's pretty much guaranteed to put everyone's back up straight away.
Always saying your name clearly is one of the most underrated skills you can ever learn.
A very straightforward and informative video. Thank you, Vanessa.
You're so welcome! ❤
Introductions are very important. I started my current job 10 months ago. It started horribly. I was incredibly excited, but that quickly flipped when I saw the team, extremely low energy and no one willing to say hi. For 6 months I was a hermit while everyone talked, even joked. I felt abandoned. Finally, one by one they started talking to me as a human instead of some robot they were commanding, but after 6 months of isolation now my thoughts have turned to suspicion. Sad way to go to work everyday.
All could've been avoided if they were nice for just the initial 2 minutes.
I'm so sorry to hear this! Exactly why introductions are so important. ❤
And you’re sure it’s still everyone else that’s getting the situation wrong? Not you?
"Blade" can be very rude for many cultures, including in the USA when the person you are meeting does not want to shake your hand. By pushing your hand out signaling "shake my hand" you have now put the other person in an awkward spot. If they don't want to or culturally it is against their religious belief to shake your hand, they now appear "rude" to the person who doesn't receive a handshake in return.
Handshake? Hug? Better option is the airborn chest bump. Most people won't reciprocate and you'll end up just awkwardly jumping into them and possibly knocking them over but it's the best filtering system out there. I mean, do you really want those people who delcine a chest bump in your life anyway?
Belly button contact with open arms hug leads to energy exchange that takes it to next level
This is how I establish dominance in every social setting
"airborn chest bump" Type-C Level Civilization greeting. Nice.
Fun Fact: "I'm wearing socks today."
"Do you know where a dad keeps all of his dad jokes? In a dad-abase." That's been a really good ice breaker for clients.
Too funny!
I love the a framed room the window, door and deck choices really adds a lot to appearance and function..
Great video Vanessa. Thank you for keeping it short and sweet and getting straight to the meat of the topic.
Of course ❤
so good, super helpful advice, thank you
This is great, i felt I was always a pleasant in meet and greet settings. After Covid pandemic. i was isolated and feel I lost my touch and stopped being more personable. I need to get back to the swing of things; especially in sales.
You are definitely not alone in that! I know you'll get back into the swing of things ❤
It seems like a lot people are more guarded these days. Maybe it's up to each of us, to push people towards really connecting with each other again.
The world is a better place, thanks to her sharing her decades of real life The world is a better place, thanks to her sharing her decades of real life experience with the masses. Subscribed.
So grateful to have you here ❤
“Hi I’m X, and I’m a recovering awkward person” 😂
That’s a killer line!!!
Haha thank you!!
I always drop in a funny...gets the juices flowing
Recovering awkward person! Goals!! 😂❤
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Hey Vanessa! I loved it! Thank you so much. Stay Blessed 😄
You are so welcome! Glad you enjoyed ❤️
Very simple and informative. Love it. Thank you Vanessa!
So glad it was helpful! ❤
Hey Vanessa😄, your video in which you talked about putting ourselves in uncomfortable situations helped me reduce my phone's screen time.
That's great! I hope the challenges were helpful =)
Thank you for always, Vanessa😊
You are so welcome!
Public Speaking 101!
“Excuse me. I’m new in town. And it gets worse.”
Love this. Thank you and Merry Christmas wishes.
Merry Christmas to you too! ❤
Such great tools! Thankyou!!
So glad you like them!
Hey this is really good and thanks for putting it together. I think it might also be helpful to differentiate more formal gatherings, say in the workplace, from informal ones like a friend’s party. Your presentation is great for the former; how about doing one on the latter? Keep up the good work!
Thank you for this suggestion!
Used to apply some of the gestures, after watching this going to apply more.
Thanks. That was very insightful and delightful. I might have to borrow that I'm a recovering... awkward person punchline.
Check out Boris from The Adventures of Rocky and Bulwinkle . A classic introduction !😂
Hi Venassa, I love your video! Thank you so much for your advices.
You are so welcome! Glad you enjoyed =)
Thank you, Vanessa! This is really helpful! :)
You're so welcome! Glad it was helpful =)
Thank you for this!!
You're so welcome!
I've just noticed that James Bond has these tips nailed at social events..."Bond, James Bond", specifying meeting objective etc.
Excellent thanks Vanessa, really helpful.
You're so welcome!
Thank you!
You're welcome!
👋🏼Just saw you on a Think Media interview and subscribed. Love everything you are doing. Thank you for your dedication and being here on YT😊
Thank you so much! So honored to have you following along ❤
Good advice and insights. Thanks!
So glad it was helpful - thanks for watching!
Be the best fake you you can be!
Excellent! Thanks
You're so welcome!
Thank you
You're welcome! Thanks for watching!
Wow ! The times we live in to have someone explain how to introduce yourself..........I'm 62 years old and to people in my age group, this is like explaining how to breath !
Wow ! Never met an awkward 62 year old. A whole generation with perfect social skills... We are all in awe of your superiority.
Hi there! It's amazing, isn't it? The world is always evolving, and it's never too late to pick up new tips or refresh the basics-even something as simple as an introduction can have its own new twists. It’s great to keep learning, no matter our age! 🙌🏼💕
Succinct and potent. Wonderful content. Thank you. :)
My pleasure! =)
Thank you...enjoyed the video 😊
So glad you enjoyed it!
This video is very helpful Vanessa! I'm good at using positive words! Whenever I introduce myself to others, I usually use my first name. A fun fact about me is that I like dogs!
When I was at TJMAXX a month ago, I had an amazing conversation with a woman and we were in line to checkout our items and the conversation went really well! The line was long, but at least we had time to talk to each other!
That's amazing, Joey! Thank you for sharing ❤
@@ScienceOfPeople My pleasure Vanessa!
great tips Vanessa!
Thank you!
Great advice!!!
Thank you!! =)
I “recognized “ several people during first min, it looks like vide is going to be fun and helpful 😂
Great info. Thanks for sharing.
You're most welcome! 💖
Hi, Vanessa! I'm Eugene. Thank you for the time that you put into creating this video, which is abundant in information.
This seems so useful. I was listening for advice on how to ace an interview. Honestly, I wonder how much easier it would be to get an offer now. Warm confident people seem to deserve the job, and I think that employers will probably try to ask questions that confirm that they aren't being biased in favour of applicants with your warmth and confidence...as opposed to trying find even 1 thing that justifies hiring me.
I feel so confident just knowing the info that you share.
[edit: I decided to subscribe]
I'm so thrilled to hear this, Eugene! Thank you for being here ❤
Great video, informative and very well presented.
So glad you enjoyed! Thanks for watching ❤
Very good content. Thank you😊.
So glad you like it! ❤
There are some audio issues on this video. It cuts in and out and sometimes there is audio on top of audio
Thank you for letting me know! We will fix that!
Excellent advice and system! I can't tell you how many times I've heard people rush their names (and phone numbers) -- I know THEY know their name, but I don't! I'm name challenged so a clear, slow presentation would be great. My wife is sick of me squirming and complaining when, for example, non-profit theater directors come out before the show and make horrible presentations. As a recovering standup comedian, I cringe at their lowering the crowd energy before a performance.
I paused the video to be sure and write down all your tips! Thanks!
So glad you found this valuable! ❤ I totally agree - it's such an important skill to learn!
Great advice and you are very funny too!
Thank you! =)
Good one 😊
Thank you =)
1:28 Traditionally and customarily, a wave is done with the right arm. It goes back to before medieval times to show that you are not armed with a knife or sword. It is a universally accepted form of a peaceful greeting.
I like that term the "handshake blade"
Thank you! Now I am a recovering awkward person too😂 🎉❤
Welcome to the community 🎉❤
I have the M4. I love the quickness that they have. But sometimes I feel I’m missing pressure in the bass region. Like the note is incredible but not the weight to it. Do you have the same feeling sometimes?
hey, it sounds like you have an audio layer issue happening around 1:39 you might want to have a look... Useful video, thanks for putting it together!
Oh thank you for letting me know!!
Glad this one was useful ❤
She _did_ say she was awkward...
Can you do a video about beginning and ending a staff meeting in a casual setting?!?
Noted! Thank you for the suggestion. =)
Good video.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Hi, I'm Paul. So glad you could make it. I'm hosting the party. I'm gay.
Hi Paul! Delighted to be here.
Good vide. :)
Glad you enjoyed it! =)
allow myself to introduce myself.
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Great content, just bought the book. By the way.... #3 Genuine (ui not iu). 😉
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The best introduction I have ever seen is James Bond meeting Auric Goldfinger.
The Dale Carnegie Course covers all aspects of communication. This includes how to properly say your name: Pause, Part, Punch. Pause just before giving your first name, Part your first and second names, and Punch your last name (with a little extra energy).
Hi. I'm so happy to be a continuing fan, first through Creative Live courses. I'm the current President of the Awkward Persons Club.
[So many "I's" in the example/suggestion creates an uncomfortable visceral reaction.]
Welcome to the club ❤ So grateful to have you here!
Yes very good, I would love to have you. Will sign up.
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I fell into a hug once, totally awkward!
Oh no!
Solid advice, thank you. I have a name that is weird for people to pronounce, any advice there? I tried nicknames, didn't really work well for me.
Put it in a funny little rhyme; have a joke or two lined up; let it become the first part of 'breaking the ice' in conversation; embrace the opportunities! And be ready with equal interest in your new acquaintances name. Any of those work?
@@Michael_Arnoldnothing worked tbh, but I will try to come up with something
I would suggest rhyming it, spelling it out, associating it with something memorable, and repeating your name (helps them remember).
Good video, but I laughed when I saw the thumbnail because what first popped into my head was, "My name is Inigo Montoya..."
Best intro ever
Great content. Thanks for the upload.
... on the other hand - I'd recommend to talk slower. using like half speed, in order to sound more real and authentic.
I tried all these tips the last time I visited my parents. They've now disinherited me.
Everyone should wear a hat with their name on it.
Wait a minute, so if you are on stage, you shouldn't try to hug the entire audience? This is brilliant.
Only try to hug the entire audience when on zoom
That reminds me of an old stand-up comedian... "I'd like to thank each and every one of you for coming here tonight."
..."Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you."
I heard of someone who took that exact same advice. He ended up doing 6months community service.
I love the awkward fake Vanessa. Very humorous.
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I hate hugs and i certainly would never hug anyone i am meeting for the first time.
Good suggestions. Your demo of introducing your first and last name is a bit too fast. First name with a millisecond pause…..then the last name. It causes the listener to anticipate or actively listen for the last name. Much more memorable.
I am recently missing a half pinkie finger: I’m a trained handshake introduction, but `omg it hurts to have someone crush at that finger stub
Now what??
Are we gonna handshake... nope, are we gonna fist bump, oh! We're gonna have five.This one often happens to me.🤭
The worst lol
1:40 the audio?
How would you recommend introducing yourself in person if you don’t want to handshake?
Great question! We have a whole article on that =) www.scienceofpeople.com/handshake-alternatives/
You should always look them in the eye, state you last name first, then follow up with your first name, then walk away. Bond, James Bond!!
Lol are you filing your name?
One character in a Bond film, replied, "OK, Bond James Bond..."
Why begin by introducing yourself?
1:40 The Matrix strikes again!!
Can we have a better back ground?
888,000 subscribers! 80 Comments! And I'm the first to like this video?! Huh...
Honestly, I don't care about most of that. As long as they're engaged, as in not on their phone or looking at that bird over there, and they speak clearly I'm good. I don't want all the fluff and I definitely don't want a hug, there's no need for a stranger to be pushing/resting their bumps against you. At best we'd be leaning in but then it's just fake so it's getting avoided.
I live in France. We just kiss everybody. That way you don't actually have to worry about your facial expression when introducing yourself. Victory
My mom always told me; If a lady wants you to touch her, she’ll reach her hand out first. As a man, you should never extend your hand first. When entering a home and are being introduced to the lady of the house, she should always extend her hand to you as a gesture that you’re welcomed in her home. If a husband introduces you to his wife, the wife should extend her hand as a ‘any friend of my husband’ thing. Single women should always make the first move…….never the guy.
I'm guessing a kiss & hug is out of the question...
This is cool in a personal setting. In the professional world, please feel free to extend that hand, or it might look like you're dismissive, or afraid of personal contact.
I have interviewed job applicants. Me,another man, and a female hiring manager, men are the only ones applying for the job.
Almost none of them shake the females hand, they shake our hands. She finds it weird, like they think less of her or something.
Well that's sexist, so no thanks
@@helenalimo3133sexist or not in some cultures, women will not extend their hand, because it isn't acceptable or even forbidden and it will be extremely awkward if a man will try to go for a handshake or anything like it.
You misspelled "genuine".
This doesn't solve the problem if you are not sure why you are there in the first place 😅
"Hi! I'm Karl, and I'm a grammarian. You misspelled 'genuine' at 4:39."