@@jayeverythingThey are both actors. But they demonstrate something many of us can relate to. The frustration, the helplessness, the words and the actions. If I had seen this years ago, many situations would have gone so much better.
I used to be a "traditional" man that put them before myself. After years and years of abuse from rando's I slowly got a clue. I put myself first now and I'm not responsible for making someone else happy. Or pay for their better life.
The concept of owing anyone anything is meaningless. The idea of a better life is nothing but a transient label in an indifferent universe. Everything will eventually dissolve into the infinite nothingness.
Which makes the casual, low cost first date a good tool to screen out insincere women who are just in it to exploit you. The first woman showed who she is, and he believed her and noped her without getting angry . Champ.
Which is also hilarious, considering if you were dating the chick she would likely be one of those that demands you pay for her starcucks every dang day, that i'sh is like 15-20 bucks a visit for some coffee and a crusty pastry... But it's not acceptable for a get to know a person date...
Underrated comment right here. Instead of "walk away on red flags" just say no. People have mistakes, including you, so walking away on the first friction is what creates this mess in the first place.
Nominally he did, but the reason I think this was staged is: you don't drive dates to coffee shops. Coffee shops are "meet you there" dates. The other huge advantage of coffee dates, besides minimal investment, is _easy escape._ When you drive the date to the coffee shop, you've pissed away half the point of the coffee date. I think they are boyfriend and girlfriend, and they staged this but didn't think it all the way through.
My ex-wife would try to start fights for the drama. She'd get angry with me because I wouldn't argue with her. I would just look at her stoically, smile, tell her to stop acting like a five year old child. Then she'd really get mad 😂. She tried to tell me once I would be sleeping on the couch. I told her, "Nope, i'm sleeping in the bed I paid for." You want to be mad?You can be mad on the couch. I don't miss any of that. Since 2015, when my divorce from her was final, I have peace.
I used to put myself on the couch with my ex wife😂 You brought back some memories lol. It was quiet and peaceful on the couch. Dude she was so toxic! Nothing would satisfy or please her. She wanted to control and manipulate everything around her. I'm happy for you and myself for getting out of that. I don't even argue with women anymore, I just walk away, and make them leave.
@@shawnmendrek3544 Nope. None of this gets any better until men start being men again. That means standing up to tyranny... even feminine tyranny. Shows where you must be in life. Kinda pathetic.
@@Jackrabbit_SlimAnd good on you, Darlin'! Decent men and women should have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to being disrespected in relationships!
A Big Red Flag for me, is obsession with social media! If she starts uploading crap, or can't put her phone down for 5 seconds... Then she fails the test!
You are right, but not fast enough. The minute she complains about the date, the date is over. When I was a young man, I was not successful with girls, at all. I had a very pretty girl accept a date with me. I was very excited. When I picked her up the first thing she did was criticize the music that was softly playing on the radio, then criticized my choice of clothes. (button down shirt, blue jeans and a shined pair of Justin cowboy boots) I just stared at her for a second, Then it hit me. She isn't really all that into me. I didn't know why she accepted a date with me, but it wasn't interest. I politely told her that this wasn't going to work, she should get out. We never left her driveway before I ended that debacle. She looked like I had thrown cold water in her face. She tried to protest, but I just held up my hand and said nope, you need to get out. I would have given a lot to hit that, but not my dignity or pride.
Yup.. Woman want tall rich men.. Well, men want woman to not be on their phones 🤳🏼.. and respect them. My ex was always on her phone. I fantasize now about ripping it out of her hand and throwing it at the wall.. glad I never did as it would have made things worse
Woman can be fickle and petty. I don't have close female friends because of it. I know I have a good man. I've been with him for over 30 years with hardships. We get through it TOGETHER.
Wow! My grandmother was a pioneer who worked alongside other women as a school teacher and had fine female colleagues, Just because a video shows some of the worst behaviors that doesn't mean all women are bad.There's equally bad videos of men.So please educate yourself and elevate yourself
You are spot on! I so miss my late hubby. A real man. We agreed on rules like not dropping bombs on each other and calling each other out if we broke the rules. We worked hard on it, breaking old bad habits, and had a very peaceful loving marriage. He died way too early. This guy is speaking truth!
My recent girlfriend disrespected me on Mother's Day weekend this past May. I called out her behavior immediately and said in no uncertain terms that she not talk to me in that manner. I shamed her and the clock started ticking for her exiting the relationship which just occurred this past Sunday. She said that she runs away from relationships when things don't feel good. The trash took itself out once again and she did me a favor. Yes it hurts a little but I will be much better off in the long run.
I sacrificed a year of my life and multiple job opportunities to help a woman care-give for her father. Not only did I receive no respect, but I am painted as a villain after walking away from the relationship. They will punish every mistake, gloss over the value you brought, and ultimately re-write history on you because these women only see things the way it benefits them to. Now that I’m single, I have peace, work whatever job I want and am focused on chasing my dreams!
For women, it's the man's role to look bad so the woman can look good. It's not about who's right or reasonable as they don't care about that like men do, only about what they can or can't do. Sorry you had to go through that, bro.
That re writing of history is the reason for #metoo they are never wrong. I saw s text conversation of my ex talking with another person about me and described things I never did. They are crazy. I never trust women when they said bad things about their exes. If she is in bad term with her ex big red flag
One time, when a girlfriend did something i didn't approve of, as it showed disrespect to me, she saw that I was upset and kept asking me what was wrong. When I finally answered her, she wanted me to get angry and yel at her. But why should I give her what she wants? Why play her game. I looked at her and said "I'm not angry. I'm disappointed." That cut her even deeper.
@@BJBlaskovichGamingbecause doing what you aren't supposed to turns people on. It gives them an adrenaline rush to risk getting caught. If they suddenly become distant and never in the mood, they're probably cheating. A day or two maybe not, but if there's a sudden change that goes on for over a week; you can bet she doesn't have energy to do it with you because she let chad raw dog her too hard.
@@Brometheus420Those women cheated on YOU! All women DO NOT cheat. The one's you wanted cheated, but it might just be that you SUCK, either in bed or in general. I know you try to make yourself feel better by saying ALL women cheat. But it's not true, it's just that ALL WOMEN WHO HAVE DEALT WITH YOU CHEATED......ON YOU!! 😅 Figure out what you're doing wrong and FIX IT! Women who are cheated on REPEATEDLY should do the same thing. See you have something in common with women after all.
@@davidduval5566 I hope you weren't married. My ex was my hs sweetheart, 9 years together; lived with me about 6. Women can just check out from relationships but instead of womanning up they keep using their partners out of convenience until they have a new spot to move. One day I came home from work and she wouldn't even let me hug her. Made me sleep downstairs for nothing. That whole week she was a callous ice queen. I finally had enough of her bs and broke up with her. Tearfully tried to tell me 'something' but instead begged to let her stay until she got a job (hadn't for the past 3+ years meaning I paid for everything). Found out later when her Gmail was left on my computer the pieces fell together and it all made sense. Her reasoning was something like 'I wanted to unalive myself but instead I went out on dates without the intention of sex to talk to people but it ended up happening'. Yet she treated me worse than a bad dog and tried to run away with the guy who ghosted her when she admitted she wasn't single. You can't make this s*it up... the icing on the cake was the dude was literally better than me in every way. Over 6 ft, looked like a model, probably rich, and his unit was so big he caught teeth marks because she couldn't open her mouth wide enough apparently. I should thank him for getting my time and money to myself. Wish I didn't waste my 20s but oh well...
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
The first 2 sentences are right on. Then you took a left to delusionalville if you think you came out stronger, reunited and more resilient. You may have but I guarantee she did not. They don't think like men.
I applaud the sentiment behind your statement, specifically, that two people who are past the initial infatuation stage and are experientially realizing that real life marriage isn't like the fairy tales and Hallmark romance movies say it is can learn to work, live and love together for the long haul *if they put in the work to learn how to do it*. However, given my experience with marriage and that of many other people, I've learned that not only is it not always possible, it's improbable. Marriage is like ballroom dancing: both partners need to be sufficiently skilled dancers on their own (so that was education and skills training right there for each of them), **plus** be motivated to dance with the other, **and also** put in the work to learn how to dance **with that other person specifically** AND THEN **actually do the dancing, each day for years**. Any person who has done dancing long term will tell you that there are blisters, callouses, njuries and days when you just don't feel the motivation. Each person needs to be mostly someone that confers benefits to the other (no one is on their game every day; we're limited humans after all) or else why should the other person stay in relationship? That's a lot of conditions without which a long-term, symbiotic relationship doesn't work. . My belief is that parents don't know this stuff themselves and even if they do, too many don't teach their children about relationship realities and how to love someone when it's not fun or when you aren't twitterpated in endogenous infatuation endorphins. The kids then experience all the usual hormonal and love drives for a mate that our animal bodies produce to enable reproduction out in the wild and go into the relationship scene unprepared. It's not surprising there are so many relationship disasters.
At any sign of disrespect from a woman, be it as small as her trying to belittle you subtly, tell her and put boundaries. Women slowly try to emasculate you like this, don’t let them
True. Even had to put my grandma in place the other day. Went to visit my dad in hospital and as I was leaving she said ‘you need to call your dad more often’. The comment clearly infers that I don’t care enough about my dad and was an unwarranted attempt to shame me at a time and place where I couldn’t fight back. Put her in her place later rather than start a conflict by the bedside of my very sick dad.
@@tomyoung8563 nothing wrong with direct communication. The silent treatment is more of a woman’s tactic. You don’t need to be mute or run away in most conflicts.
The problem is the men that are higher up gave women way to much power and privileges this isn’t equal rights at all that’s the issue. It’s the president and the government
Coffee first should be a legal standard. If you go out with someone for the first time and they turn out to be insufferable, no one is going to want to be stuck waiting for orders or bills.
I once had a younger woman start some drama with me in front of some friends. I got up and just walked away, best decision I made. I warned her, I told her that she was starting some unnecessary issues, she persisted, I left. Easy fix, don’t regret it.
i had to divorce my wife after a line set in stone was crossed. She was so angry there was false police alegations court cases... and finally not guilty vindications. They get real mad.
Best part is that it's HER video!! Meaning after all that she went home and thought she was in the right and that it'd be a good idea to post it online. 🙄
A friend of mine set me up with her gf's friend Her first word to me was, I'm hungry! She didn't even reply when I said hi! So I took her to a restaurant and told her i have to take care of something really quick and I'll pick her up in 30 minutes after she ate! Never heard from her ever again!
To a lot of modern women, their Kryptonite is lack of emotion and indifference. Don't give them any drama to feed off of and they quickly run out of steam.
I had a gf who I loved but she wasn't stepping up. She agreed to improve on 3 things, and the time kine to do it in. The deadline (June 6) came and went. Still no improvement. As she sobbed and whined, I packed up her stuff and took her to her roommate's house. I was done. I still miss her, but I'm not going to put up with that nonsense.
Yup. My ex told me that she could find better men in an argument (what's worse was that she was referring to some guys who were flirting with her via texting she was refusing to cut contact with), so I told her to go be with those better men and dumped her. She begged me for months to take her back. Apparently, none of those men wanted anything but flirting and sex from her, so she ended up being alone. She wasn't even the only ex who begged me to be taken back. When you're a man of quality and maturity, and they're nothing but a child in a woman's body, they sooner or later realise that they'll likely never find someone of your quality willing to commit to them ever again, and they realise that all those guys hitting them up aren't doing it because they're hot commodity, but only because they see them as a piece of meat to have fun with.
THE "POWER" IS SELF REALIZATION, THAT HER MANIPULATIONS! OF YOUR MALE HUMAN-NESS/SEXUALITY, CAN BE OVER RIDDEN BY HER DISRESPECTINGS FOR CONTROLS OF HER DESIRES. YOUR "WALK-AWAY" BLUE-BALLS ARE SELF KNOWLEDGE THAT SELF SELCETED CONTROL IS THE TRUE POWER!
Have you ever noticed that during a critical work deadline, they never offer to help you speed things up? Instead, they complain about not getting enough of your time. So, in your toughest moments, you end up dealing with two issues instead of one. They thrive on creating problems but never contribute to solving them. When you're young and idealistic, you try to resolve these issues, hoping it will bring them happiness. However, it turns into an endless cycle of seeking attention. I no longer have the patience to coax them into behaving like adults. It's a process that takes years and often leads to relationship breakdowns. They take pride in portraying themselves as victims, so you can't criticize them for it; they view it as a form of praise. By challenging their victim mentality each time they exhibit it, by calling it the loser mindset, they eventually begin to understand after a few outbursts.
I hate the rhetoric that women are this unstoppable force in the communication game. They use belligerence and obnoxious behavior as a cudgel. That does not represent cunning or intelligence. It’s a brute force method and yeah they use it aggressively but it’s not a golden stamp of interpersonal championing.
All women this, all men that. People generalize way to much. On some womens channels they do the same thing to men. There they show clips of crazy men and people share awfull stories about them, giving the illusion that all men are crazy and should be avoided. If one man is a kill3r does it mean all men are kill3rs. If one woman is a killl3r does it mean all women are kill3rs. Our brain likes to connect things together even when things are not connected. Maybe it had some advantages for our survival but it also fuels racism, s3xism etc. On a personal level some people like to fool themselves to feel better and push others down because its easyer than to selfreflect and challenge your ideas. People are individuals and should be treated as one.
@@xdaydreamerx you're right and I agree with the facts you said, but women on the whole do have very different minds to men on the whole and it makes sense for us to talk about it to try to understand them. women are a complete mystery to most men
@BreakandEnter-tg9kg truth be told on that my nerves are so fried from bad outcomes that ignoring is the only option I have. Power games are exhausting too.
The number of women I've dumped over this behavior... You never get in an argument with a woman. She will turn it around and make it about her every time.
@@daibo0nemust be the latter. On the logicical vs emotional scale they are as far from logical as possible and that pisses us off. At least for me since im tilted far into logical
This is what a buddy of mine did way before the internet. He stood his ground. He did not take the bait. He turned the car around and drove her home. When she said "If you don't know why I'm upset, then I'm not going to tell you." That's when she showed her hand. He only said 2 more words to her- "Get out."
Biggest regret in my previous relationship was when she was starting a fight while driving to a friend of mines birthday party I didn't just turn around and take her home and go alone, she ignored me the entire night and insisted on taking a $40 taxi home when I offered to drive her. She dumped me five days later and blamed me for it a few weeks after that.
@@joem61 because that's all they've got. Most are shallow, with no interests, and with overestimated looks (they all believe they are extraordinary 10s, while they are average ,like the one in the video here).
The best power a man has is to walk away from the situation. The longer he stays the more disrespectful & demanding she gets. For men it should always respect before love. A woman never love a man unless she respects him.
In order to do so, you can't get married. Paradoxically, if divorce laws were fair, men would be encouraged to get married and the present day degeneracy would end.
@@theathlete771I agree so sacrifice this generation to make it better in about 30 years. Stale mate the futz out of these women. Do not have sex with them. Do not like their photos. Pay them zero attention…let them come to you. Try that on for size. Oh this is gonna be something to see😂
Grey rocking and stonewalling have always been 100% effective. Can't let any narcissistic leech hurt you if you don't acknowledge their existence. Let them talk about you all they want, they're only proving your point that they're shitty 'people' in the end
@@edheldudeI’ll agree to that that’s fair point. If you get to what this guy has got with his Tesla etc then he’s 100% the prize she’s replaceable and a relationship is way more valuable than a transient fun time lay with her. She’s got what billions of women have however he’s got what just millions of guys have 🤠👍.
I had walked away from a girlfriend, once, and it worked. I had gotten about 30 yards away, turned the corner, caught her out of the corner of my eye,and she was still standing there, practically with her mouth hanging open. That ended that particular argument, right then and there. From then on, she didn't try very hard to start another one. This was back in the 80's. Eventually she wanted to make an issue about me walking away from her when she was talking. That was when the relationship ended, because she was trying to test me, and I again walked away after telling her that I was finished playing her games.
Essentially you found the action that activated her anxiety the most. She had no control over you walking away, which is why she wanted to shut it down. A stable person can handle a pause in an argument, and it can give both parties time to reflect. Someone who is not stable doesn't want the other person to have time to reflect, they want them to be in a reactive mode of thought only.
My ex would block the door and not let me leave as she nervously laughed. When driving she would REALLY grind down, she thought she had me trapped. I just pulled over and parked, pulled the keys and walked away. THEN she stopped her crap. We're not together anymore, she started calling cops, that was the end.
The only chick I ever lived with called the cops twice. Over nothing. Only time I ever had the cops involved in my business. Women are incredibly dangerous
Once upon a time, long ago, I had a fiancee that only wanted to "please Jesus". This is why she stole $14,000.00 from my bank account and gave it to her "non-biological family". I had her arrested for altering my check; (original amount was $1,400.00). Soon after, I learned (from The Bank of America), that this is not her first fore into criminal activity. She was arrested, charged and prosecuted for grand-theft in Washington State for a similar crime. I went to the County Lockup, showed them my paperwork on the car and the engagement ring, and they pulled the keys to car, the rings, and the cash she had on-hand, and set-it-aside. After her conviction for theft and fraud were finalized, she was taken to the county lock-up to serve her sentence of 96 months of incarceration, followed by 144 weeks of probation, she called me to ask for "her" car. I told her that I sold the car I bought back to the dealership (at a loss of $4,100.00). I also reminded her that she owes me and the Bank of America restitution for the money she had stolen. She immediately disconnected (hanged-up) on me.
@@AS-ok8hiI'm a woman and I disagree with your message. Because all women should not be put in that category. It's the type of woman that you should be referring to. She loves trouble and drama. And I'm pretty sure she gave away some classic signs of her behavior. Women are clever but love to talk. You should listen to the words she says lined up with her actions! ❤
@@eulabell4871 Okay then. How are we supposed to know? You don't have written in your forehead "crazy, avoid" or "good woman", or whatever. We CAN'T know, because ALL OF YOU CAN DO A 180 IN SECONDS. And if you falsely accuse us of anything, OUR LIVES ARE FORFEIT. Understood?
If u r w a woman like this. Walk away. Because she will NEVER change. No matter how strong calm or how much you keep your frame. She will escalate lie do anything and ruin your life to get what she wants to feed her need to be a victim.
When I was first married my wife and I would argue. When I reached my boiling point I would go to the local batting cages and hit baseballs for an hour or so. I got to know the owner very well. My wife, suspicious that I had a girlfriend asked me where I went and I told her. One day, when we weren’t arguing she asked to go to the batting cage with me. The guy at the cages asked me if I was going to get “the usual” and I introduced my wife. He gave her a free token because I had supported his business.. and he knew it was because of her.
The woman in the first video who is a 3 is the silliest most disrespectful and entitled person i have seen. I am a woman and i applaud the man for taking a stance. Women are getting sillier by the minute
Remember men, you lose when she charges your emotions. It’s why we trash talk in COD lobbies. Your opponent makes a lot of mistakes when they are enraged. We are emotionally intelligent. They are emotionally charged. If they reduce you to their level, they win. So, put yourself through difficult discussions and become insensitive to emotionally outbursts.
Old lady, 70 yrs old (nough expedition 😂) and mother of a wonderful man, and friend and mentor of many others. I 💯 agree with his handling of the situation. Respect is extremely important and non-negotiable
Trying to shame a man into spending more on a first date and then acting shocked when they opt out of your game completely while you try to renegotiate. That's a new one. Society has created a sisterhood of self-entitled, narcissistic, psychopaths. Wisdom to the younger guys who may not be clued in yet... Gents, you are seeking a helpmeet, a partner who will stand with you through life's storms, not to raise an adult emotionally challenged child. There are real women out there worthy of your sweat and toil. Never waste it on a 304.
If you live with them, there is NO walking away, they will follow you around the house berating and emasculating you, leaving PERMANENTLY is your only option, they AREN'T work the grief.
Sounds like the guy skipping on all foreplay. Can't do that with women. As far being in the mood. No telling. She could be going to menopause. She could be getting it from somewhere else. Women are emotionally stimulated.
@@DallaS.88 Nah. .. there are simply selfish people and unselfish people. No matter what label you apply to someone, if they care about their partner they WILL want to take care of their needs, whether they are personally that 'sexual' or not. Many men don't 'desire' to mow the lawn, or watch chick flicks or go to the Opera, but they do it because his partner wants it.
@@bran-qt7ds let's expand upon this. You marry your wife and she reveals what her kink is and wants to do it, you would do it, right? So if her kink is pegging you and having you do ATM, you would do it in a heartbeat. Because not doing it for her on the regular would be selfish. I find it hard you would accept that if you were dominant, didn't want to be anally penetrated, and didn't want to taste your own ass.
Guys: you are the appreciating asset vs the declining liability. Remember, you age like fine wine vs spilled milk. The gentleman in the beginning of this video: priceless, and an outstanding example for all men to follow, many thanks !
Bro is A+ for handling that crazy girl so calmly and succinctly. That's how you do it boys. Don't even raise your voice. Just use a "one strike you're out"-policy when she disrespects you and say goodbye.
@@kawazukaeru643 it’s not always easy to walk away when women have the abuse trump card in the deck at all times, and have the legal system licking their lips when any woman takes her man to court for anything, “grape” child custody the whole package.
The first dude handled the situation PERFECTLY. The entitled brat will never learn, and with an attitude like hers, she will forever be alone. Women #2 is excessively defensive and throwing out suspicious vibes, but if he learns how to put his big boy pants on, he will learn his only option is to walk away from her toxic feminism.
Unfortunately, it is the man's responsibility to recognize a toxic woman and take decisive action immediately. And the best immediate action to take always is to walk away from such a woman.
It's also the woman's responsibility to be not toxic. Unfortunately, we can't control the other person's actions, and women rarely hold each other responsible for toxic treatment of men.
It is a real shame that you're probably the only person providing the level of needed male advice, this openly and honestly. This is not boring gender war tropes, it's genuine advice and I hope it becomes an uncontroversial norm to articulate this advice the way you did. Thanks mate. Despite some of these comments being understandably sour & polarising, there are good women where it's worth being actionable to keep the relationship going because everyone makes mistakes, including ourselves.
_"I look like _*_this_*_ in your car right now and you wanna take me home?"_ I just watched a video about a woman who's in her 50's and she's complaining, saying that men only focus on youth and beauty and don't care about a woman's personality. I bet that, just like this girl, when she was younger, she, too, only cared about her looks and demanded that men treat her like royalty, not because of her personality but because of her looks! Let's wait a few years, when this girl's beauty has faded, when she suddenly cares about personality and starts saying that people are shallow for only caring about looks and then show her this video!
First off, it's important to remember that it's the man who usually approaches the woman when he's interested in her. And if he's the one that approaches her he needs to prove to her that he wants to spend quality time with her. He's not going to do that by taking her to Starbucks! And I hope that wasn't their first date? Second, Women use their looks to attract men because that is what attracts men.😒 Women innately supposed to look for certain qualities in a man as form of protection and security. And that is in just about every culture. I am 50 now and used to date. But it's nothing like the men of today when it comes to dating my three daughters. I understand why women feel entitled in this way. They should always be made to feel special but not entitled. I think the man on here are confusing entitlement with putting in the effort to make a woman feel good around him. That is what he's supposed to do! He's doing it because he doesn't want to put in the work. If you spend a lot of money on doing a silk press, getting MAC makeup, eyelashes, wax, new clothes and shoes, babysitter, etc. I would be mad too if I was going to Starbucks! Plus! I used to go on a date in the 90s and I would have to find a babysitter. Which requires payment! No! You're not taking me to McDonald's or Starbucks! I mentioned the money you spend but at the time consuming effort to make things work just so you can spend quality time with that person. My cheapest date was going to a park with my man enjoying a walk and actually talking to other people throughout the park. Dates are supposed to be special! That's when a man shows that he is really interested in you. I, as a woman (back then), will show my appreciation by looking nice for him. In the video it looks like this woman felt like she was tricked into believing she was going on a special day and she found out that she's not that special to him at all. Because my date would have asked me where I would've wanted to go instead. Which means he saw her as dispensable from the get! They were never meant to be together! Because I taught my own son you put in the work and effort to prove to whoever you want to be your woman that you have feelings for her. And she is his wife now. And he still makes an effort to do date nights for her.
@@eulabell4871 I read everything you wrote and then I had to watch the video again because I felt like I watched a different video than you. The first thing I noticed about this video is that she made a video! You can clearly hear her say _"This guy is broke"_ and I think that we both know that she was making this video to post it online and *shame* him. I agree with you, the man is supposed to make the woman feel good around him...but then you say _"he needs to prove to her that he wants to spend quality time with her. He's not going to do that by taking her to Starbucks"_ .... Why not? What's wrong about Starbucks? Are you one of those who thinks _"Starbucks? McDonald's Ewww, that's for poor people, that's beneath me!"_ ? If you are, then just ignore me. You are 50. I'm 45. I think that both of us are old enough to, not only know ourselves and what we want but also know and understand what other people want. So try to see it from the man's perspective: We hear about more and more cases where women admit that the only reason they go on a date with certain guys is to get a free meal. One way to know if your date is just interested in getting a free meal is to take her somewhere, where they can talk, get to know each other a little bit and _THEN_ decide if he wants to put in the effort, like you say. You can hear him say that money isn't the problem, so maybe he just wanted to know if she's interested in him or just using him.
Been married 18 years and we have a great way of settling disagreements: We sit down. We discuss it in a calm, open and honest manner. Then we both agree that I'm right
Women constantly worry that a "first date" is a horribly extreme event loaded with expectations. Men literally just want to go for coffee. Personally, I hate coffee, so soft drinks are just fine for me.
Damn, I've been being a woman lol. I don't date people I'm not lifetime interested in, so there are expectations there, it's a date lol. Marriage interview
He didn't even take her home!! 🤣🤣 Him,"I'll do ya one better; I'm not even gonna take you home. You said you can pull any guy, right? So, I'm dropping you off right here, and you can go back to your profile and find someone else since that's what your about. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
The one who is willing to walk away always wins the negotiation/argument. Words (argumentation, begging, bargaining) are her armor and ammunition - action (rejection and walking away) something she cannot tolerate.
Possible interpretation: My "this" She might have meant "all dolled uo for a date" rather than just implying how attractive she is. Women place a lot of weight of preparation and display and public appearance. She might have made a big production of getting ready for her special date (to me she looks like she's dressed for the gym, but she probably thinks she's all fancy looking becauseher braid is intricate, or something.).
STOOPER FARCICAL-FISH-AL F-UP Y'ALL! WHY NO PERSONAL-HUMAN-E SELF REFLECTIONS? "SHE" HAS THE "U.S. FREEDUMBS!" TO PROJECT HERSELF TO THE WORLD IN HER SELF GENERATED INTREPTED STYLES. LIKE RABBITS AND DOGS, SHE WILL PROCREATE MULTI TIMES AS FREELY AS HER DONERS ORGASIM.
Thank you for this video. I didnt realise that my girlfriend did this. Every time I thought: "man, our relationship is good, there were no arguments for a week", then she created drama. I didnt think it was because they like conflict. I always thought it was my fault. But after you explained your points, I now see clearer that maybe she wanted these situations. I wil find a line that I can stand by and if she crosses it, she will face consequences. I kinda reminds me of a child.. I will probably fail the first times, but I hope I will manage to be successful
Try making some rules and expectations that you can both live by and agree to call each other out on. Agree not to drop bombs, not to change the subject, to discuss things in a loving way. You might find that you both want peace and love, but you just don't have the tools yet.
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First of all I’m a woman and I fully agree with stating and maintaining your boundaries. Actions DO speak louder than words. Being connected to a toxic person whether female or male is a living hell. This video did have me laughing out loud at times because it’s so accurate and just plain crazy as F in shoes! I would rather be alone then to live that life. What does the Word say-It’s better to live on a rooftop than inside of a house with a contentious woman(man) I don’t care how much spit you put on it
AS IN THOMAS SOWELL'S " BLACK REDNECKS and WHITE LIBERALS, "THAT MAY BE A HERITAGE GENE? FROM DISTANT SHORES OF "THE OLD COUNTIES"! BTW! A MANDATED PUBLIC READ WHEN AN EDUCATOR OF THE WORLD HAS CHOICES.
I find the information helpful in other contexts, like in the workplace for example. One video in particular hit close to home as it described a former narcissistic female boss to a tee.
@@dennisaylen813 Yeah that makes sense to me. It also helps me look out for my son and give him advice and information that just wasn't available when I was his age. There's a lot of predators out there, and the young guys are absolutely unprepared.
You’re designed to have children, and you’re not meant to be alone. Yet, you’re not required to satisfy either condition. The truth of God is seared in your conscience.
@@Unduplicatable that's one of the greatest realizations you can come to. You don't have to play by the rules set by others. You don't owe anybody anything in life. And no one has the right to tell you how to live your life as long as you respect the rights and autonomy of others. The universe has no expectations of you, and you owe the universe nothing. Give enough time,. absolutely nothing you do in your life will have any effect on the universe whatsoever. So live your life for you and find your happiness. If you're happy, then you've already met the only measure of success that actually matters.
WE GUYS ARE THE ATTEMPTERSSOLVERS OF LIFES' PROBLEMS-BIOLOGICALLY. WE MAY NOT "GIVE BIRTH BUT ARE COMPULSIVELY FASCINATED BY "HOW THINGS WORK, AND WHEN NOT! HUH? WHY? WHAT IF???? CAN WE CREATE A SOLUTION?= FIX!
Arguments and drama, all just meaningless banter trying to add excitement to our mundane existence. In the end, it’s all meaningless noise in a pointless universe.
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You don't !!!
Just walk away.
You should make a video about mothers.
'strayians don't know the Mud Shark but it's coming 😅
That guy is an actor, find him on many similar clips
@@jayeverythingThey are both actors. But they demonstrate something many of us can relate to. The frustration, the helplessness, the words and the actions. If I had seen this years ago, many situations would have gone so much better.
We men don't owe these women a better life.
they owe us not to destroy what we planted - no fruit for fucktoy
Bravo.
I used to be a "traditional" man that put them before myself. After years and years of abuse from rando's I slowly got a clue. I put myself first now and I'm not responsible for making someone else happy. Or pay for their better life.
The concept of owing anyone anything is meaningless. The idea of a better life is nothing but a transient label in an indifferent universe. Everything will eventually dissolve into the infinite nothingness.
amen
If she's upset about starbucks, she's not dating you, she's dating money.
Which means divorce is already pre-planned.
ZAPP! SAID THE ZINGER! A "MS. CELLOPHANE" RE: ACTOR, JOHN C. REILEY'S SONG.
Which makes the casual, low cost first date a good tool to screen out insincere women who are just in it to exploit you. The first woman showed who she is, and he believed her and noped her without getting angry . Champ.
Which is also hilarious, considering if you were dating the chick she would likely be one of those that demands you pay for her starcucks every dang day, that i'sh is like 15-20 bucks a visit for some coffee and a crusty pastry... But it's not acceptable for a get to know a person date...
She thought she was humiliating him.....
She humiliated herself.
Does she know that?
@@kylemendoza8860 Probably not, but the whole worlds knows now
Self reports are so common now days. 😂
@@kylemendoza8860 She doesnt know and doesnt understand alot.
The ability to say "no" is the ultimate freedom
So much that I enjoyed being called Mr. No
Underrated comment right here.
Instead of "walk away on red flags" just say no. People have mistakes, including you, so walking away on the first friction is what creates this mess in the first place.
That first dude handled the situation in the most perfect way possible. 😂
Nominally he did, but the reason I think this was staged is: you don't drive dates to coffee shops. Coffee shops are "meet you there" dates. The other huge advantage of coffee dates, besides minimal investment, is _easy escape._ When you drive the date to the coffee shop, you've pissed away half the point of the coffee date.
I think they are boyfriend and girlfriend, and they staged this but didn't think it all the way through.
@@cisium1184 Yes they even reshot the video, I've seen both versions.
He was way too patient. The moment the phone comes out she needs to leave.
Nah she should never have been in his car looking like she did in the first place.
Yeah, he was able to keep it cool, calm and collected. Awesome.
My ex-wife would try to start fights for the drama. She'd get angry with me because I wouldn't argue with her. I would just look at her stoically, smile, tell her to stop acting like a five year old child. Then she'd really get mad 😂. She tried to tell me once I would be sleeping on the couch. I told her, "Nope, i'm sleeping in the bed I paid for." You want to be mad?You can be mad on the couch. I don't miss any of that. Since 2015, when my divorce from her was final, I have peace.
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If someone sleeping on the couch it's the woman like you said. It's your house.
I used to put myself on the couch with my ex wife😂 You brought back some memories lol. It was quiet and peaceful on the couch. Dude she was so toxic! Nothing would satisfy or please her. She wanted to control and manipulate everything around her. I'm happy for you and myself for getting out of that. I don't even argue with women anymore, I just walk away, and make them leave.
Well done to the both of you I've been there bought the T-shirt believe me it's much more peaceful without the arguments😂
If any woman disrespects you walk away, ghost and block her.
walk away and back to inn sell
NO. Put her in her place... then walk away.
@@KennethFabritius Just walk away.
@@shawnmendrek3544 Nope.
None of this gets any better until men start being men again. That means standing up to tyranny... even feminine tyranny.
Shows where you must be in life. Kinda pathetic.
If ANYONE disrespects you, walk away, ghost, & block.
I’m a 52 yo woman & I applaud this man! NEVER let someone disrespect you….
And I'm a 52 year old man and I completely agree. 😆
@@Jackrabbit_SlimAnd good on you, Darlin'! Decent men and women should have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to being disrespected in relationships!
Regarding that first guy - as soon as she starts filming, date: over.
That's just preparing to disrespect you on camera.
A Big Red Flag for me, is obsession with social media! If she starts uploading crap, or can't put her phone down for 5 seconds... Then she fails the test!
You are right, but not fast enough. The minute she complains about the date, the date is over. When I was a young man, I was not successful with girls, at all. I had a very pretty girl accept a date with me. I was very excited. When I picked her up the first thing she did was criticize the music that was softly playing on the radio, then criticized my choice of clothes. (button down shirt, blue jeans and a shined pair of Justin cowboy boots) I just stared at her for a second, Then it hit me. She isn't really all that into me. I didn't know why she accepted a date with me, but it wasn't interest. I politely told her that this wasn't going to work, she should get out. We never left her driveway before I ended that debacle. She looked like I had thrown cold water in her face. She tried to protest, but I just held up my hand and said nope, you need to get out. I would have given a lot to hit that, but not my dignity or pride.
@@gordonduke8812This....
This is what I call self respect
Yup..
Woman want tall rich men..
Well, men want woman to not be on their phones 🤳🏼.. and respect them.
My ex was always on her phone. I fantasize now about ripping it out of her hand and throwing it at the wall.. glad I never did as it would have made things worse
Not yelling, no bad language... Just putting her on her place elegantly. Well done, sir.
"Women are their own worst enemy." My grandmother.
Don't try to understand women. Women understand women and they hate each other - Al Bundy
I've heard multiple nurses and doctors over time say the same thing
Woman can be fickle and petty. I don't have close female friends because of it. I know I have a good man. I've been with him for over 30 years with hardships. We get through it TOGETHER.
Your grandmother is a Fact boss.
Wow! My grandmother was a pioneer who worked alongside other women as a school teacher and had fine female colleagues, Just because a video shows some of the worst behaviors that doesn't mean all women are bad.There's equally bad videos of men.So please educate yourself and elevate yourself
You are spot on!
I so miss my late hubby. A real man. We agreed on rules like not dropping bombs on each other and calling each other out if we broke the rules. We worked hard on it, breaking old bad habits, and had a very peaceful loving marriage. He died way too early.
This guy is speaking truth!
In an emergency why do they evacuate women and children first?
So the men can think of a solution in silence.
yes
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Amen
Bro. This is a golden quote!!!
So they are sure the life raft doesn't sink?
Simps got her so gaslighted that as a 3 at best... she think she's a 10...
Her arrogance makes it even less
Social media has a whole Lot of beluga whales thinking they're 10s on things other than the Richter scale. 😂
Negative 10
My recent girlfriend disrespected me on Mother's Day weekend this past May. I called out her behavior immediately and said in no uncertain terms that she not talk to me in that manner. I shamed her and the clock started ticking for her exiting the relationship which just occurred this past Sunday. She said that she runs away from relationships when things don't feel good. The trash took itself out once again and she did me a favor. Yes it hurts a little but I will be much better off in the long run.
You did the right thing. You can find another girl, who will respect you if you are respecting yourself.
Good job for staying strong, King
Women only serve to distract us and weaken us with drama and kids etc
Congratulations. You got the trash to take itself out.
She’ll be back😂 those h o es always do
The second one scared me. Dead eyes, no ones home. Can't argue with 'crazy'.
I sacrificed a year of my life and multiple job opportunities to help a woman care-give for her father. Not only did I receive no respect, but I am painted as a villain after walking away from the relationship.
They will punish every mistake, gloss over the value you brought, and ultimately re-write history on you because these women only see things the way it benefits them to.
Now that I’m single, I have peace, work whatever job I want and am focused on chasing my dreams!
She got a free caretaker and is now with a new partner, happier than ever
@@deleted01Doubt that 🤷🏾
For women, it's the man's role to look bad so the woman can look good. It's not about who's right or reasonable as they don't care about that like men do, only about what they can or can't do.
Sorry you had to go through that, bro.
That re writing of history is the reason for #metoo they are never wrong. I saw s text conversation of my ex talking with another person about me and described things I never did. They are crazy. I never trust women when they said bad things about their exes. If she is in bad term with her ex big red flag
Sounds like you caught yourself a female narcissist.
What I like most about the way he handled it was how calm he remained. Real man right there salute
"with me looking like this in your car..." yes, a solid 4.5, with a wretched attitude. Dude's a legend.
Looks like the embodiment of an entitled brat.
Yes he is. And he appears modest. Wow.
How’d she pass the initial screening?
Glad someone said it, sheesh! Why do women always think they're the prize and she really thought she was "bad"🤦🏿♂️
@@ericmckenny6748 she catfished him, and he was going to be a gentleman.
One time, when a girlfriend did something i didn't approve of, as it showed disrespect to me, she saw that I was upset and kept asking me what was wrong. When I finally answered her, she wanted me to get angry and yel at her. But why should I give her what she wants? Why play her game. I looked at her and said "I'm not angry. I'm disappointed." That cut her even deeper.
FADE TO BLACK? ECHOS OF FADING FOOT STEPS? COMMERCIALS OR CREDITS ON SCREEN?
I gave my ex wife the excitement and drama she craved. Divorce papers.
Same here.
Lol... and same here
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Me too. This is men’s me too movement . . . Never again married.
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I see this man in a bar I’m buying all his drinks. Excellent response!
The man she cheats on you with does not have to preheat the oven.
Nope, the preheat is some BS. Women are ALWAYS ready to go…….with someone.
@@BJBlaskovichGamingbecause doing what you aren't supposed to turns people on. It gives them an adrenaline rush to risk getting caught. If they suddenly become distant and never in the mood, they're probably cheating. A day or two maybe not, but if there's a sudden change that goes on for over a week; you can bet she doesn't have energy to do it with you because she let chad raw dog her too hard.
@@Brometheus420Those women cheated on YOU! All women DO NOT cheat. The one's you wanted cheated, but it might just be that you SUCK, either in bed or in general. I know you try to make yourself feel better by saying ALL women cheat. But it's not true, it's just that ALL WOMEN WHO HAVE DEALT WITH YOU CHEATED......ON YOU!! 😅 Figure out what you're doing wrong and FIX IT!
Women who are cheated on REPEATEDLY should do the same thing. See you have something in common with women after all.
That's the truth after 15 years together she went right to someone else in few days
@@davidduval5566 I hope you weren't married. My ex was my hs sweetheart, 9 years together; lived with me about 6. Women can just check out from relationships but instead of womanning up they keep using their partners out of convenience until they have a new spot to move. One day I came home from work and she wouldn't even let me hug her. Made me sleep downstairs for nothing. That whole week she was a callous ice queen. I finally had enough of her bs and broke up with her. Tearfully tried to tell me 'something' but instead begged to let her stay until she got a job (hadn't for the past 3+ years meaning I paid for everything). Found out later when her Gmail was left on my computer the pieces fell together and it all made sense. Her reasoning was something like 'I wanted to unalive myself but instead I went out on dates without the intention of sex to talk to people but it ended up happening'. Yet she treated me worse than a bad dog and tried to run away with the guy who ghosted her when she admitted she wasn't single. You can't make this s*it up... the icing on the cake was the dude was literally better than me in every way. Over 6 ft, looked like a model, probably rich, and his unit was so big he caught teeth marks because she couldn't open her mouth wide enough apparently. I should thank him for getting my time and money to myself. Wish I didn't waste my 20s but oh well...
That first guy is my hero. Pure high value masculinity right there. Legend.
Especially since the bro kept his cool while doing what needed to be done. Well done, dude!
That brother was on point, calm and way more respectful than he needed to be. What a dude.
The first video was staged. He makes prank vids all the time.
@@Kaptain_Torrent_ That explains his demeanor. Black men are never that calm in the moment. They argue like the women that raised them.
@@TheBestPill-no2xp😂
@@SomaRiver "It is what it is", right? Why pretend?
@@TheBestPill-no2xpI love racism.😂
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
You wont regret it
The first 2 sentences are right on. Then you took a left to delusionalville if you think you came out stronger, reunited and more resilient. You may have but I guarantee she did not. They don't think like men.
I applaud the sentiment behind your statement, specifically, that two people who are past the initial infatuation stage and are experientially realizing that real life marriage isn't like the fairy tales and Hallmark romance movies say it is can learn to work, live and love together for the long haul *if they put in the work to learn how to do it*. However, given my experience with marriage and that of many other people, I've learned that not only is it not always possible, it's improbable. Marriage is like ballroom dancing: both partners need to be sufficiently skilled dancers on their own (so that was education and skills training right there for each of them), **plus** be motivated to dance with the other, **and also** put in the work to learn how to dance **with that other person specifically** AND THEN **actually do the dancing, each day for years**. Any person who has done dancing long term will tell you that there are blisters, callouses, njuries and days when you just don't feel the motivation. Each person needs to be mostly someone that confers benefits to the other (no one is on their game every day; we're limited humans after all) or else why should the other person stay in relationship? That's a lot of conditions without which a long-term, symbiotic relationship doesn't work.
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My belief is that parents don't know this stuff themselves and even if they do, too many don't teach their children about relationship realities and how to love someone when it's not fun or when you aren't twitterpated in endogenous infatuation endorphins. The kids then experience all the usual hormonal and love drives for a mate that our animal bodies produce to enable reproduction out in the wild and go into the relationship scene unprepared. It's not surprising there are so many relationship disasters.
At any sign of disrespect from a woman, be it as small as her trying to belittle you subtly, tell her and put boundaries. Women slowly try to emasculate you like this, don’t let them
And what if they don't listen. Then you walk away and give her the silent treatment. And in some cases you got to break it off.
Yeh I dealt with this. Mocking behaviour and outbursts of anger, combative behaviour, sometimes disrespect. After 8 months I dumped her
True. Even had to put my grandma in place the other day. Went to visit my dad in hospital and as I was leaving she said ‘you need to call your dad more often’.
The comment clearly infers that I don’t care enough about my dad and was an unwarranted attempt to shame me at a time and place where I couldn’t fight back. Put her in her place later rather than start a conflict by the bedside of my very sick dad.
Nope
Don’t waste your words. Just walk away
@@tomyoung8563 nothing wrong with direct communication. The silent treatment is more of a woman’s tactic. You don’t need to be mute or run away in most conflicts.
My wife and I have learned to be able to recognise our failures and to frankly apologise to one another. I love her to bits.
They will never admit they were wrong. Ever.
I know not even when it is obvius then they turn to rage blame mode insted!
The problem is the men that are higher up gave women way to much power and privileges this isn’t equal rights at all that’s the issue. It’s the president and the government
Democrats do that too.. must be why so many white 304's voted for obiden
Why should they when they can blame it on a man, cry and play the victim or say he's being insecure and controlling 😂
and IF she ever does admit she’s wrong…it’s only used as a manipulation tactic
Coffee first should be a legal standard. If you go out with someone for the first time and they turn out to be insufferable, no one is going to want to be stuck waiting for orders or bills.
I once had a younger woman start some drama with me in front of some friends. I got up and just walked away, best decision I made. I warned her, I told her that she was starting some unnecessary issues, she persisted, I left. Easy fix, don’t regret it.
HOW DID YOU GET SO SMART ?????? AND SO FAST!
i had to divorce my wife after a line set in stone was crossed. She was so angry there was false police alegations court cases... and finally not guilty vindications.
They get real mad.
Best part is that it's HER video!! Meaning after all that she went home and thought she was in the right and that it'd be a good idea to post it online. 🙄
😂 True!
A friend of mine set me up with her gf's friend
Her first word to me was, I'm hungry!
She didn't even reply when I said hi!
So I took her to a restaurant and told her i have to take care of something really quick and I'll pick her up in 30 minutes after she ate!
Never heard from her ever again!
To a lot of modern women, their Kryptonite is lack of emotion and indifference. Don't give them any drama to feed off of and they quickly run out of steam.
I had a gf who I loved but she wasn't stepping up. She agreed to improve on 3 things, and the time kine to do it in. The deadline (June 6) came and went. Still no improvement. As she sobbed and whined, I packed up her stuff and took her to her roommate's house. I was done. I still miss her, but I'm not going to put up with that nonsense.
What were the 3 things she had to improve upon?
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Showing a woman that you are willing to walk away is so powerful.
Yup. My ex told me that she could find better men in an argument (what's worse was that she was referring to some guys who were flirting with her via texting she was refusing to cut contact with), so I told her to go be with those better men and dumped her. She begged me for months to take her back. Apparently, none of those men wanted anything but flirting and sex from her, so she ended up being alone.
She wasn't even the only ex who begged me to be taken back. When you're a man of quality and maturity, and they're nothing but a child in a woman's body, they sooner or later realise that they'll likely never find someone of your quality willing to commit to them ever again, and they realise that all those guys hitting them up aren't doing it because they're hot commodity, but only because they see them as a piece of meat to have fun with.
THE "POWER" IS SELF REALIZATION, THAT HER MANIPULATIONS! OF YOUR MALE HUMAN-NESS/SEXUALITY, CAN BE OVER RIDDEN BY HER DISRESPECTINGS FOR CONTROLS OF HER DESIRES. YOUR "WALK-AWAY" BLUE-BALLS ARE SELF KNOWLEDGE THAT SELF SELCETED CONTROL IS THE TRUE POWER!
Being calm was key too, it allowed him to be clear, and no escalation - he served it cold. Beautiful.
Have you ever noticed that during a critical work deadline, they never offer to help you speed things up? Instead, they complain about not getting enough of your time. So, in your toughest moments, you end up dealing with two issues instead of one. They thrive on creating problems but never contribute to solving them. When you're young and idealistic, you try to resolve these issues, hoping it will bring them happiness. However, it turns into an endless cycle of seeking attention. I no longer have the patience to coax them into behaving like adults. It's a process that takes years and often leads to relationship breakdowns. They take pride in portraying themselves as victims, so you can't criticize them for it; they view it as a form of praise. By challenging their victim mentality each time they exhibit it, by calling it the loser mindset, they eventually begin to understand after a few outbursts.
YOUR CUSSED OPTIMISMS EVOLVED OUR POPULATIONS OF NARCISSISTS.
I hate the rhetoric that women are this unstoppable force in the communication game. They use belligerence and obnoxious behavior as a cudgel. That does not represent cunning or intelligence. It’s a brute force method and yeah they use it aggressively but it’s not a golden stamp of interpersonal championing.
As the Ancient's wisdom sayeth: "If you cannot beat them, get the stones." Those who spare the Rod - you Fools!
All women this, all men that. People generalize way to much. On some womens channels they do the same thing to men. There they show clips of crazy men and people share awfull stories about them, giving the illusion that all men are crazy and should be avoided. If one man is a kill3r does it mean all men are kill3rs. If one woman is a killl3r does it mean all women are kill3rs. Our brain likes to connect things together even when things are not connected. Maybe it had some advantages for our survival but it also fuels racism, s3xism etc. On a personal level some people like to fool themselves to feel better and push others down because its easyer than to selfreflect and challenge your ideas. People are individuals and should be treated as one.
@@xdaydreamerx very much agreed
@@xdaydreamerx you're right and I agree with the facts you said, but women on the whole do have very different minds to men on the whole and it makes sense for us to talk about it to try to understand them. women are a complete mystery to most men
@BreakandEnter-tg9kg truth be told on that my nerves are so fried from bad outcomes that ignoring is the only option I have. Power games are exhausting too.
To need her to agree she is wrong is something I've struggled with and needed to hear this advice.
The number of women I've dumped over this behavior...
You never get in an argument with a woman. She will turn it around and make it about her every time.
Dude I have to deal with this right now.
God messed up creating woman this way.
Or the Drama is for his amusement. 😂
@@daibo0nemust be the latter. On the logicical vs emotional scale they are as far from logical as possible and that pisses us off. At least for me since im tilted far into logical
@@Brometheus420preach
@@daibo0ne God to Adam: "It was a prank, bro."
Just let her know she is a side chick who can compete and try to work her way back up.
The 1st man... Deserves a standing ovation!
This is what a buddy of mine did way before the internet. He stood his ground. He did not take the bait. He turned the car around and drove her home. When she said "If you don't know why I'm upset, then I'm not going to tell you." That's when she showed her hand. He only said 2 more words to her- "Get out."
Biggest regret in my previous relationship was when she was starting a fight while driving to a friend of mines birthday party I didn't just turn around and take her home and go alone, she ignored me the entire night and insisted on taking a $40 taxi home when I offered to drive her.
She dumped me five days later and blamed me for it a few weeks after that.
He used the appropriate and perfect reply: GET OUT.
Thankfully, men are being men ! Good for you. Never let anyone disrespect you.
"You're never hungry!!" That is the problem. The next question is, why? There is a good chance she is seeing someone else.
Her behavior sounds like she is an Asexual.
100%
Or if they have kids. Kids dry women up if dad is a good dad.
It really doesn't matter why. It's time to look for the exit and say goodbye.
@@djangomarine6658 Yep,
Kudos to this Man. He is a Gentleman!
"I look like this ...." Say no more. Goodbye.
not that she is ugly. her attitude is indeed stanky. just like the guy said, she is unappreciative
why even giving her a lift, she could take an uber
It's not about how you look, it's about how you act. Why doesn't a grown ass woman know this?
@@joem61 because that's all they've got. Most are shallow, with no interests, and with overestimated looks (they all believe they are extraordinary 10s, while they are average ,like the one in the video here).
She’s not even all that lol
Dude You Crushed that !! God Bless n Stay Strong Brother !! Your Values Self Worth n Self Esteem will Get you the Queen YOU Deserve !!😎
The best power a man has is to walk away from the situation. The longer he stays the more disrespectful & demanding she gets. For men it should always respect before love. A woman never love a man unless she respects him.
I strongly agree with your statement.
In order to do so, you can't get married. Paradoxically, if divorce laws were fair, men would be encouraged to get married and the present day degeneracy would end.
@@theathlete771I agree so sacrifice this generation to make it better in about 30 years. Stale mate the futz out of these women. Do not have sex with them. Do not like their photos. Pay them zero attention…let them come to you. Try that on for size. Oh this is gonna be something to see😂
Give that brother an A+ ! He set an excellent example for other young men to learn from follow. Very nice 👌
"...looking like THIS..." Like what? Average, but also worse because trashy.
Right!? 😂
yeah you can see her tattoo on her shoulder!
"We're not in high school" yet she acts like a spoiled 14 year old girl
Indifference. A very potent weapon against emotional vampires
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Grey rocking and stonewalling have always been 100% effective. Can't let any narcissistic leech hurt you if you don't acknowledge their existence. Let them talk about you all they want, they're only proving your point that they're shitty 'people' in the end
To be fair, the second couple was a skit. They post fake arguments all the time for views. It's scripted and rehearsed for comedy.
Had a feeling. Weird ppl don’t question someone acting like there isn’t a camera in their face
Men need to realise that they are the prize not women.
Sure if you do the work, but most men don't.
If you do things properly, both are the prize for each other.
Only if you work hard and always strive to be better.
@@edheldudeI’ll agree to that that’s fair point. If you get to what this guy has got with his Tesla etc then he’s 100% the prize she’s replaceable and a relationship is way more valuable than a transient fun time lay with her. She’s got what billions of women have however he’s got what just millions of guys have 🤠👍.
Except, the prize is what is obtained.
Meaning the prize is _not_ the one in the superior position.
Way to go bro!!!! An example for every man to follow. Stay clear men, stay safe, protect your mental health and wallet.
I had walked away from a girlfriend, once, and it worked. I had gotten about 30 yards away, turned the corner, caught her out of the corner of my eye,and she was still standing there, practically with her mouth hanging open. That ended that particular argument, right then and there. From then on, she didn't try very hard to start another one. This was back in the 80's. Eventually she wanted to make an issue about me walking away from her when she was talking. That was when the relationship ended, because she was trying to test me, and I again walked away after telling her that I was finished playing her games.
Essentially you found the action that activated her anxiety the most. She had no control over you walking away, which is why she wanted to shut it down. A stable person can handle a pause in an argument, and it can give both parties time to reflect. Someone who is not stable doesn't want the other person to have time to reflect, they want them to be in a reactive mode of thought only.
@@lyndog Wow, bingo, nice analysis!
2:44 is LITERALLY just like my wife. I needed this video like i needed air, right now. THANK YOU.
My ex would block the door and not let me leave as she nervously laughed. When driving she would REALLY grind down, she thought she had me trapped. I just pulled over and parked, pulled the keys and walked away. THEN she stopped her crap. We're not together anymore, she started calling cops, that was the end.
The only chick I ever lived with called the cops twice. Over nothing. Only time I ever had the cops involved in my business. Women are incredibly dangerous
Once upon a time, long ago, I had a fiancee that only wanted to "please Jesus". This is why she stole $14,000.00 from my bank account and gave it to her "non-biological family". I had her arrested for altering my check; (original amount was $1,400.00). Soon after, I learned (from The Bank of America), that this is not her first fore into criminal activity. She was arrested, charged and prosecuted for grand-theft in Washington State for a similar crime. I went to the County Lockup, showed them my paperwork on the car and the engagement ring, and they pulled the keys to car, the rings, and the cash she had on-hand, and set-it-aside. After her conviction for theft and fraud were finalized, she was taken to the county lock-up to serve her sentence of 96 months of incarceration, followed by 144 weeks of probation, she called me to ask for "her" car. I told her that I sold the car I bought back to the dealership (at a loss of $4,100.00). I also reminded her that she owes me and the Bank of America restitution for the money she had stolen. She immediately disconnected (hanged-up) on me.
@@AS-ok8hiI'm a woman and I disagree with your message. Because all women should not be put in that category. It's the type of woman that you should be referring to. She loves trouble and drama. And I'm pretty sure she gave away some classic signs of her behavior. Women are clever but love to talk. You should listen to the words she says lined up with her actions! ❤
@@eulabell4871 Okay then. How are we supposed to know? You don't have written in your forehead "crazy, avoid" or "good woman", or whatever.
We CAN'T know, because ALL OF YOU CAN DO A 180 IN SECONDS. And if you falsely accuse us of anything, OUR LIVES ARE FORFEIT. Understood?
Stayed calm and cool. What a freaking stud!
If u r w a woman like this. Walk away. Because she will NEVER change. No matter how strong calm or how much you keep your frame. She will escalate lie do anything and ruin your life to get what she wants to feed her need to be a victim.
He refused to accept her childish and manipulative behavior. Good for him. 😊
That dude in the car was wonderfully calm and reasonable. An experienced man no doubt. Well done.
When I was first married my wife and I would argue. When I reached my boiling point I would go to the local batting cages and hit baseballs for an hour or so. I got to know the owner very well.
My wife, suspicious that I had a girlfriend asked me where I went and I told her. One day, when we weren’t arguing she asked to go to the batting cage with me.
The guy at the cages asked me if I was going to get “the usual” and I introduced my wife.
He gave her a free token because I had supported his business.. and he knew it was because of her.
Interesting.
bats work on people too
BETTER THAN 100% BELIEVABLELY TRUE! THAT WORD "SUSPICIOUS" IS DETONATION OF FACTUAL TRUSTS WITH CITIZENS VERSUS LOL LEO-LAWS.
The woman in the first video who is a 3 is the silliest most disrespectful and entitled person i have seen. I am a woman and i applaud the man for taking a stance. Women are getting sillier by the minute
I am shocked that any young woman would act in the ways these young women do! How shameful.
Remember men, you lose when she charges your emotions. It’s why we trash talk in COD lobbies. Your opponent makes a lot of mistakes when they are enraged.
We are emotionally intelligent. They are emotionally charged. If they reduce you to their level, they win. So, put yourself through difficult discussions and become insensitive to emotionally outbursts.
Old lady, 70 yrs old (nough expedition 😂) and mother of a wonderful man, and friend and mentor of many others. I 💯 agree with his handling of the situation. Respect is extremely important and non-negotiable
*experience
Trying to shame a man into spending more on a first date and then acting shocked when they opt out of your game completely while you try to renegotiate. That's a new one. Society has created a sisterhood of self-entitled, narcissistic, psychopaths. Wisdom to the younger guys who may not be clued in yet... Gents, you are seeking a helpmeet, a partner who will stand with you through life's storms, not to raise an adult emotionally challenged child. There are real women out there worthy of your sweat and toil. Never waste it on a 304.
If you live with them, there is NO walking away, they will follow you around the house berating and emasculating you, leaving PERMANENTLY is your only option, they AREN'T work the grief.
There is no such thing as her "not being in the mood". Believe me, she is in the mood and she is getting it. Just not from you.
And or she’s just manipulating you for a new car or something.
Sounds like the guy skipping on all foreplay. Can't do that with women. As far being in the mood. No telling. She could be going to menopause. She could be getting it from somewhere else. Women are emotionally stimulated.
I generally agree, but there are asexual people and they either don't know they are until later or intentionally hide it until marriage.
@@DallaS.88 Nah. .. there are simply selfish people and unselfish people. No matter what label you apply to someone, if they care about their partner they WILL want to take care of their needs, whether they are personally that 'sexual' or not. Many men don't 'desire' to mow the lawn, or watch chick flicks or go to the Opera, but they do it because his partner wants it.
@@bran-qt7ds let's expand upon this. You marry your wife and she reveals what her kink is and wants to do it, you would do it, right? So if her kink is pegging you and having you do ATM, you would do it in a heartbeat. Because not doing it for her on the regular would be selfish.
I find it hard you would accept that if you were dominant, didn't want to be anally penetrated, and didn't want to taste your own ass.
Your standing on there feet bro. Keep up the good work 👏🏻👍
“You never had a grown man I general” ooff. Dude is my spirit animal.
Guys: you are the appreciating asset vs the declining liability. Remember, you age like fine wine vs spilled milk. The gentleman in the beginning of this video: priceless, and an outstanding example for all men to follow, many thanks !
Bro is A+ for handling that crazy girl so calmly and succinctly. That's how you do it boys. Don't even raise your voice. Just use a "one strike you're out"-policy when she disrespects you and say goodbye.
Men need to learn to walk away. If a man can’t walk, he is a prisoner. This is one of Alexander’s best videos!
DUH! 70 YEARS AGO THE BOY VERNACULAR WAS "PUSSY-WHIPPED!"
@@kawazukaeru643 it’s not always easy to walk away when women have the abuse trump card in the deck at all times, and have the legal system licking their lips when any woman takes her man to court for anything, “grape” child custody the whole package.
The first dude handled the situation PERFECTLY. The entitled brat will never learn, and with an attitude like hers, she will forever be alone. Women #2 is excessively defensive and throwing out suspicious vibes, but if he learns how to put his big boy pants on, he will learn his only option is to walk away from her toxic feminism.
Unfortunately, it is the man's responsibility to recognize a toxic woman and take decisive action immediately. And the best immediate action to take always is to walk away from such a woman.
It's also the woman's responsibility to be not toxic. Unfortunately, we can't control the other person's actions, and women rarely hold each other responsible for toxic treatment of men.
It is a real shame that you're probably the only person providing the level of needed male advice, this openly and honestly. This is not boring gender war tropes, it's genuine advice and I hope it becomes an uncontroversial norm to articulate this advice the way you did. Thanks mate. Despite some of these comments being understandably sour & polarising, there are good women where it's worth being actionable to keep the relationship going because everyone makes mistakes, including ourselves.
That man handled that situation right. She was extremely disrespectful. Good job
She wanted to be piped down and expected to get a meal for it. If she would wanted a relationship she would be ok with a coffee date
Just wow... The first video is quite the eye opener right there.
_"I look like _*_this_*_ in your car right now and you wanna take me home?"_
I just watched a video about a woman who's in her 50's and she's complaining, saying that men only focus on youth and beauty and don't care about a woman's personality. I bet that, just like this girl, when she was younger, she, too, only cared about her looks and demanded that men treat her like royalty, not because of her personality but because of her looks!
Let's wait a few years, when this girl's beauty has faded, when she suddenly cares about personality and starts saying that people are shallow for only caring about looks and then show her this video!
What beauty?
You forgot: “…and she has pastrami curtains hanging between her legs.”
@@dogdude2457 BEAUTY IS SKIN DEEP. UGLY PERSONALITY REVEALED GOES ALL THE WAY THROUGH THE BONE-HEADEDNESS.
First off, it's important to remember that it's the man who usually approaches the woman when he's interested in her. And if he's the one that approaches her he needs to prove to her that he wants to spend quality time with her. He's not going to do that by taking her to Starbucks! And I hope that wasn't their first date?
Second, Women use their looks to attract men because that is what attracts men.😒 Women innately supposed to look for certain qualities in a man as form of protection and security. And that is in just about every culture.
I am 50 now and used to date. But it's nothing like the men of today when it comes to dating my three daughters. I understand why women feel entitled in this way. They should always be made to feel special but not entitled. I think the man on here are confusing entitlement with putting in the effort to make a woman feel good around him. That is what he's supposed to do! He's doing it because he doesn't want to put in the work. If you spend a lot of money on doing a silk press, getting MAC makeup, eyelashes, wax, new clothes and shoes, babysitter, etc. I would be mad too if I was going to Starbucks! Plus! I used to go on a date in the 90s and I would have to find a babysitter. Which requires payment! No! You're not taking me to McDonald's or Starbucks! I mentioned the money you spend but at the time consuming effort to make things work just so you can spend quality time with that person. My cheapest date was going to a park with my man enjoying a walk and actually talking to other people throughout the park. Dates are supposed to be special! That's when a man shows that he is really interested in you. I, as a woman (back then), will show my appreciation by looking nice for him. In the video it looks like this woman felt like she was tricked into believing she was going on a special day and she found out that she's not that special to him at all. Because my date would have asked me where I would've wanted to go instead. Which means he saw her as dispensable from the get! They were never meant to be together! Because I taught my own son you put in the work and effort to prove to whoever you want to be your woman that you have feelings for her. And she is his wife now. And he still makes an effort to do date nights for her.
@@eulabell4871 I read everything you wrote and then I had to watch the video again because I felt like I watched a different video than you.
The first thing I noticed about this video is that she made a video! You can clearly hear her say _"This guy is broke"_ and I think that we both know that she was making this video to post it online and *shame* him.
I agree with you, the man is supposed to make the woman feel good around him...but then you say _"he needs to prove to her that he wants to spend quality time with her. He's not going to do that by taking her to Starbucks"_ .... Why not? What's wrong about Starbucks? Are you one of those who thinks _"Starbucks? McDonald's Ewww, that's for poor people, that's beneath me!"_ ? If you are, then just ignore me.
You are 50. I'm 45. I think that both of us are old enough to, not only know ourselves and what we want but also know and understand what other people want. So try to see it from the man's perspective:
We hear about more and more cases where women admit that the only reason they go on a date with certain guys is to get a free meal. One way to know if your date is just interested in getting a free meal is to take her somewhere, where they can talk, get to know each other a little bit and _THEN_ decide if he wants to put in the effort, like you say. You can hear him say that money isn't the problem, so maybe he just wanted to know if she's interested in him or just using him.
Been married 18 years and we have a great way of settling disagreements:
We sit down. We discuss it in a calm, open and honest manner.
Then we both agree that I'm right
Women constantly worry that a "first date" is a horribly extreme event loaded with expectations. Men literally just want to go for coffee. Personally, I hate coffee, so soft drinks are just fine for me.
Damn, I've been being a woman lol. I don't date people I'm not lifetime interested in, so there are expectations there, it's a date lol. Marriage interview
A hike is a good first date. Low $ and lots of energy expended and fresh air to use to talk in a relaxed fashion.
A ZERO, PRIVATE-PUBLIC CONVERSATION SPACE AND TIME, WITH EQUAL ABILITY FOR BOTH TO WALK AWAY WHEN UNCOMFORTABLE.
He didn't even take her home!! 🤣🤣
Him,"I'll do ya one better; I'm not even gonna take you home. You said you can pull any guy, right? So, I'm dropping you off right here, and you can go back to your profile and find someone else since that's what your about. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Men and women seem so different, so incompatible, sometimes I'm amazed humanity has survived this long.
It survived because there was an understanding between the two and today we just decided let's stop doing what worked.
Don't forget the wedding
Humanity was fine before feminism
SEX...🤔
😂😂😂
Communicate is not always about talking, it is about putting some kind of behaviour and it can be in form as leaving, ignoring, don't arguing.
Dump her if she has no respect for you. If a woman truly likes you or loves you,she will make it easy and pleasant for you.
The one who is willing to walk away always wins the negotiation/argument. Words (argumentation, begging, bargaining) are her armor and ammunition - action (rejection and walking away) something she cannot tolerate.
2:26 The worst thing is she thinks she really looks good, rather than very, very mid. I didn't see the body, but the face and hair. Meh.
She is full of herself.
Possible interpretation:
My "this" She might have meant "all dolled uo for a date" rather than just implying how attractive she is. Women place a lot of weight of preparation and display and public appearance. She might have made a big production of getting ready for her special date (to me she looks like she's dressed for the gym, but she probably thinks she's all fancy looking becauseher braid is intricate, or something.).
@@horsemumbler1 I agree with that interpretation, and took that in account when making my pronouncement.
STOOPER FARCICAL-FISH-AL F-UP Y'ALL! WHY NO PERSONAL-HUMAN-E SELF REFLECTIONS? "SHE" HAS THE "U.S. FREEDUMBS!" TO PROJECT HERSELF TO THE WORLD IN HER SELF GENERATED INTREPTED STYLES. LIKE RABBITS AND DOGS, SHE WILL PROCREATE MULTI TIMES AS FREELY AS HER DONERS ORGASIM.
That oven probably hasn't been cleaned in years
@@jtoone3547 she can just marry a beta to give it a good scrub for her no worries.
Thank you for this video. I didnt realise that my girlfriend did this. Every time I thought: "man, our relationship is good, there were no arguments for a week", then she created drama. I didnt think it was because they like conflict. I always thought it was my fault. But after you explained your points, I now see clearer that maybe she wanted these situations. I wil find a line that I can stand by and if she crosses it, she will face consequences. I kinda reminds me of a child.. I will probably fail the first times, but I hope I will manage to be successful
They argue for entertainment, and as a way to control and manipulate the man.
Stand your ground and remain calm and indifferent. If she wants to fight, just walk away.
Try making some rules and expectations that you can both live by and agree to call each other out on. Agree not to drop bombs, not to change the subject, to discuss things in a loving way. You might find that you both want peace and love, but you just don't have the tools yet.
@@judithboulden3456 thank you, that is a useful tip that I will use, if it happens to me :)
FORE WARNED IS FORE ARMED. MASS MEDIA, PUBLIC GUMMIT SKOOLS, SOCIETY OF SUGAR AND SPICE, AND EVERYTHING NICE IS WHAT LITTLE GIRLS MAKE UP ----------WAS! IS! BIASED GAMESWOMENSHIPPED SEX TASTINGS!
First of all I’m a woman and I fully agree with stating and maintaining your boundaries. Actions DO speak louder than words. Being connected to a toxic person whether female or male is a living hell. This video did have me laughing out loud at times because it’s so accurate and just plain crazy as F in shoes! I would rather be alone then to live that life. What does the Word say-It’s better to live on a rooftop than inside of a house with a contentious woman(man)
I don’t care how much spit you put on it
The bitter, insufferable, abrasive, aggressive, combative and entitled nature of the current average woman is utterly astounding.
It baffles me that when called out, western women double down on the delusion and the attitude. No self awareness at all.
AS IN THOMAS SOWELL'S " BLACK REDNECKS and WHITE LIBERALS, "THAT MAY BE A HERITAGE GENE? FROM DISTANT SHORES OF "THE OLD COUNTIES"! BTW! A MANDATED PUBLIC READ WHEN AN EDUCATOR OF THE WORLD HAS CHOICES.
Many men get put in the "Go along to get along" situation, just to get a little peace, a trap easy to fall in.
Why do I keep watching videos like this? I will NEVER get in a relationship again. And yet I can't stop wanting to learn more.
I find the information helpful in other contexts, like in the workplace for example. One video in particular hit close to home as it described a former narcissistic female boss to a tee.
@@dennisaylen813 Yeah that makes sense to me.
It also helps me look out for my son and give him advice and information that just wasn't available when I was his age. There's a lot of predators out there, and the young guys are absolutely unprepared.
You’re designed to have children, and you’re not meant to be alone. Yet, you’re not required to satisfy either condition. The truth of God is seared in your conscience.
@@Unduplicatable that's one of the greatest realizations you can come to.
You don't have to play by the rules set by others. You don't owe anybody anything in life. And no one has the right to tell you how to live your life as long as you respect the rights and autonomy of others.
The universe has no expectations of you, and you owe the universe nothing.
Give enough time,. absolutely nothing you do in your life will have any effect on the universe whatsoever.
So live your life for you and find your happiness. If you're happy, then you've already met the only measure of success that actually matters.
WE GUYS ARE THE ATTEMPTERSSOLVERS OF LIFES' PROBLEMS-BIOLOGICALLY. WE MAY NOT "GIVE BIRTH BUT ARE COMPULSIVELY FASCINATED BY "HOW THINGS WORK, AND WHEN NOT! HUH? WHY? WHAT IF???? CAN WE CREATE A SOLUTION?= FIX!
Arguments and drama, all just meaningless banter trying to add excitement to our mundane existence. In the end, it’s all meaningless noise in a pointless universe.
My mans going through nihilism. Hopefully he'll come out the other end with existentialism or absurdism. Godspeed
@@drunderscore5458 stoicism
I should have this advice years ago.
But I woke up. I agree 100% with this video.