Introducing: Counselor's Corner with Jim Cress
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- Let's face it: relationships are wonderful, until they're not. No matter what sort of dynamics you encounter with those around you, we all could use a little help navigating how to have healthier relationships. That's why for Proverbs 31's Online Bible Study of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst, we wanted to invite her personal, licensed counselor, Jim Cress to answer your questions. Counselor's Corner is almost like you're in a counseling session with Jim. Grounded in scriptural truth, this video will give you a clearer picture and definition of boundaries to set you up for more personal peace and better relationships.
Is it unloving or selfish to set a boundary? Are boundaries even Christ-like? Process questions like these alongside a community of women who also want to make progress with their relationships during the next Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study: Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst. During this study, Lysa will help you see through a biblical lens how boundaries help us better love people, not leave people. The study starts on January 23, so get your copy of the book and sign up today! proverbs31.org/study
Want more wisdom as you navigate hard relational dynamics? Find practical next steps, powerful scriptures and timely guidance on how to set realistic, healthy boundaries in Lysa TerKeurst's new book, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. In the pages of this book, Lysa's personal counselor, Jim Cress, also provides therapeutic insight to help you confidently apply what you read. www.p31booksto....
Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. www.aacc.net
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I’m just beginning, at 58 years old, to establish boundaries with my siblings. We had none growing up and hurting each other was acceptable because we were family. They gaslighted me by always saying I was too sensitive or made a big deal over nothing. No more. This line in Lysa’s book says it all: People who are irresponsible with our hearts should not be granted great access to our hearts. Amen!
We're sorry you've had to walk through this, Pippa! We're praying for you!
Please, more, more, more Jim Cress!!!!
I have come to recognize the biblical stance on boundaries largely due to P31 Therapy and Theology video's, Lysa's book and Jim's online council. In my earlier years I thought boundaries were un-biblical. Unfortunately, these thoughts had been formed by parents who used scripture to mold my behavior and thoughts. They were well meaning, just mis-guided and lacked understanding. Then I became married to a man who grew up without boundaries and thus affected the way he treated me and how I perceived this treatment and my reactions. God has brought people and resources into my life that has changed my perceptions of boundaries over the past 7 years. Praise God! I am on a path of healing over the last 4 years and this book and Jim's video is strengthening my understanding, courage, and self-care. I am being healed day by day and thank God for Lysa's ministry and your words that bring light to the truth that Satan so desperately want to keep us from knowing. We have a responsibility to know the truth and to become healthy with God's great help and guidance. Thank you!
I am so grateful for the truths of God’s Word that allows us to have boundaries. I was in a marriage for 33 years that was dominated by gaslighting with so much projection of guilt and shame. And I thought as a Christian wife, I needed to carry that weight. Realizing it was okay to protect myself and still honor God was life saving. I don’t think I would be alive today had I not understood this truth. Thank you for the work you are doing at Proverbs 31 to help break the abuse cycle.
Thank you for watching, Shelly!
I am so thankful that the Lord led me to this Bible study. I grew up with boundaries that were too strict which limited my growth in relationships. I have been a peacekeeper and a people-pleaser my whole life. Every once in a while I've been able to set a boundary, but my lack of boundaries has given me very few relationships that are true and genuine. I look forward to learning how to improve the relationships that I have and store up the knowledge for future relationships.
I feel exactly the same! Thank you for helping me find the words for my feelings. 😊
Thanks for watching, Joanne!
I am deeply grateful for this series. I'm trying to recover from an abusive 28 year marriage. When I've tried to have boundaries I've been dismissed as controlling. With tears in my eyes, I thank you!!! ❤️🩹
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May our Father restore what the locust has eaten and taken. May He fill you with His love and provision 💛 Amy!
Standing with you in your journey, it’s all too familiar.😢
@Jennifer Wilson Hi Sister Jennifer. I am in the same boat. I feel manipulated, and heart broken. I feel so empty and sad inside but I have to stay strong for my children.
Keep me in your prayers as well.
A lot of women are suffering in silence because of their pure love for their family.
May God richly bless you!
I believe God use this video today to remind me my resolution for 2023.
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference"
I pray that Counselor's Corner be a channel that God uses to counsel many broken hearts. Amen 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@chanceda5053 I agree!!
Men/husbands/boyfriends have been misled by the enemy and the impact on us is devastating!
But …
After I studied Nehemiah 6 (the verse Jim shared) the whole chapter-- he asked the Lord to strengthen his hands/work the resolve of his undertakings!
And God did!
But He didn’t remove the opposition - their presence drove Nehemiah to greater dependence on the Lord and greater determination.
The challenge is to respond properly.
Stay vigilant, God’s armor on and pray !
We gotta stay focused on Jesus and His Kingdom - Matt 6:33
The battle is The Lords💞🕊️🙏🏽
Loved this. I feel like God spoke to my heart about started this study, then doubted myself and thought I didn’t need it, alls good. This video confirmed (in so many ways) that I’m right where I need to be. Thank you❤️.
I created a boundary almost 26 yrs ago which resulted in a goodbye, all when I realized that there was no way God intended me to live in an abusive marriage. But that was the last boundary I set and I've struggled since then. I often give people unrestrictive access and I am the one who pays. I'm ready for healthy boundaries and look forward to a future with healthier relationships.
Thanks for sharing your story with us, Julie!
I was hysterical when my husband set his “ boundaries” of the silent treatment, cold heart, to the final boundary of his divorce. So much unhealed abandonment issues for me. I am just now at 61 learning how to care for myself and set boundaries. I always second guess myself when I speak my truth.
Same age. Story sounds similar. Heartbroken and seeking Godly healing. May God be with you and guide your healing. 🙏🏽
@@SP-hr8kw keeping you in prayer too. We have the best source of strength there is❤️
We're so sorry you've walked through this, friend. We're praying for you right now!
@@OfficialProverbs31Ministries thank you
Truly understanding God's boundaries is so valuable and necessary for me right now. So often I play scriptures over in my head, that I now see the enemy is twisting to allow me to live without peace, without boundaries and without magnifying God's love for me.
I thank GOD He brought me to this Bible Study! Being a pastor's child, I felt extreme judgment from the church people who I thought believed I should be perfect. I felt repeatedly shamed if I didn't know an answer to a Bible question, or when (as a teen) a church member told me I was getting fat. These comments stuck to me and I felt I was never good enough. Needless to say, I developed into a people-pleasing person who never wanted to hurt anyone's feelings (like mine were hurt). I didn't feel free to even tell my parents or family, as they equally seemed to me to be always in a people pleasing mode. I long to break free from this, and I pray for courage to speak the truth in love and to develop healthy boundaries. I know a key is to received God's unconditional love for me and to realize others have faults, just like I do. I have so much to learn. Thank you for this study. Better days are coming.
Thanks for watching, friend!
Thank you for reminding us to give ourselves permission to make boundaries. I too am trying to come out of a 15 year marriage of controlling mental abuse, physical, financial etc.
I really need this and am looking forward to this.
Thank you for sharing part of your story with us, Rebecca. We're praying for you!
Oh! ❤this has been the hardest to start, but I gave myself that permission but but I am seeing my fear and am seeing growth and healing. Thank you team JimmLysa. 🎉😊 I was tired but made decision not to continue dancing in this dysfunction!❤
This "ministry" is an answer to my prayers. I have the utmost confidence in Jim and Lysa as their podcasts have validated and explained so many of my concerns, hurts, reflections! As a pastor's wife, I'm praying for a particular space to receive information within this part of my life. Age 71...been a pastor's wife for 38 years. I have faith I will learn what the Lord is saying to me. As Jim shared, it's hard work.
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I was raised in a home with boundaries. My parents had relational issues typical I would say. My mother was a pastor and missionary, my dad fully supported her ministry. I met my first husband at 16, married right out of high school. We were married for almost 21 years. At one point we did divorce and remarry due to his unfaithfulness. I fell into a very toxic rebound relationship, which also ended in divorce, my dating following that was not healthy to say the least. I met a gentleman that I believed was different. Seemed we had walked the same path looking for the same things in life he led me believe he had a foundation set in Jesus, his parents were very involved in the church during this time of growing up. They had passed away years ago. Little by little the man I come to know was nothing like the man he led me to believe that he was. All the things you spoke of in the video is exactly what I was living, we’ve been separated for almost 4 months. So at age 55 I’m learning what boundaries really are, what self health I need to come to understand. Since I left, he’s had a come to Jesus experience, but I am really struggling with wondering how do I know it’s real or just the man I met in the beginning who led me to believe he was someone he was not?
I'm so sorry you had to walk through this! We're praying for you right now!
Wow just wow! I cried and I do need investigate my feelings. His words and this session is invaluable.
Thank you for watching, Maria!
I find your work on boundaries and more invaluable thank you🙏
Thank you for the reminder of times Jesus had boundaries-God approved and sometimes necessary, esp as I struggle with some of my husband’s behaviors.
Thanks for watching, Sandy!
Thank you for this power packed talk! So easy to listen to and take loads of notes in just a short 6 minute video. I’m changing the contract going forward, letting my yeses and no’s stand. I will speak the truth in love, not editing due to walking on eggshells when interacting with an unhealthy person. Thank you! 🎉😊
Thanks for watching!
I have been so lost. My children were my life and they called me their hero and told me how they loved me. Then two years ago, I have completely rejected, cut off, not allowed to see my grandchildren, and left in the dark as to what I have done. I realize now I need to have boundaries to protect myself. I am grateful you are both a vessel for God to speak to me and others who need to establish self-care boundaries. Blessings on you.
Thank you for sharing part of your story with us, Karen. We're praying for you!
I bought this book after coming across and listening to Therapy & Theology. After experiencing a new friendship turn toxic in a matter of months I knew I had a lot to learn about establishing boundaries. This is the right book at the right time! Plus I so appreciate all this online support!
Thanks for watching, Susan!
AMEN 🙏, Thanks for sharing this program is very helpful.
Thank you for this. You packed good truth and food for thought into a handful of minutes. I took notes.
As a social worker working as a mental health therapist, I can preach boundaries all day long and have seen lots of progress in many clients throughout the years because they are practicing setting boundaries daily. However, at the end of the day; I struggle in a huge way to set and to be firm with boundaries I have placed or say I have placed. I am so thankful for this study because I feel I fail daily at this while feeling I should know better because of my profession, but I do struggle. Thank you for this biblical approach.
We're so glad you enjoyed this teaching!
Yay! Help us Jim. Thank you! Thank you!☺
Thank you Jim and Lysa. This book and the sessions are so helpful for me.
Thank you ! Such truth!
Felt like you were talking directly to me, words I needed to hear.
Thanks for watching!
You have a very soothing voice.
I hope you continue doing these videos.
What is your definition of a boundary?
Thank you
Outstanding goodness tools I plan to use moving forward in my journey! Thank you!
Thanks for watching, Teri!
Thank you 🙏🏻
Love this thank you
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I signed up for this online Bible study and purchased the book but did not receive the journal. How can I get it??
Same here
I printed the journal out of email
You open the blue highlighted words and it opens up in a new window
@@laurieannJake I didn’t get that email.
Hello! Could you fill out this form and let us know a little more about the problem you're dealing with? proverbs31.org/about/contact-us Thank you!
I agree that having boundaries is really hard. I struggle with them. However, what does he mean by "your truth"? I've heard that from so many people (ie Oprah) who distort God's truth. I am pretty leary of the phrase and would love to know how this is defined. Thanks.
Same here. I hope it was a misphrasing or something.
I had the same thought. "My truth" is a new age saying. Truth is truth.
For example, I have been seeking to create safe space for my sons & myself to continue recovering from a neglectful & abusive environment we experienced during the 20 yr marriage to a man who would not and will not take accountability for a single thing that happened. The boys have a right to state their truth. Whether their father admits to it or agrees with it. He twists and denies and has lied to himself and everyone else about it. He is furious and enraged when the kids have tried to express themselves to him. They know what they experienced. They lived it and relive it as they continue to deal with be pain. They are no longer powerless or subjected to his ways. They can stand in their truth and be validated that it was wrong and it’s ok to set boundaries that will protect them and their families moving fwd. That’s how we apply that phrase in our family dynamic of counselling and healing journey these past 12 yrs :)
I struggle with my gut saying no but my mouth says yes. I know what I want to say but when I actually try, it doesn't come out the way I want it to and I am afraid of telling them how I really feel.
We're praying you find the right words, friend!
My husband died after 38 years of marriage, after not getting healed between us of his long term pornography exposure.
Should I look backwards?
So thankful for this new series from Proverbs 31 ministry. I’m reading the book now. ❤️🩹
Thank you 🙂
Thank you