“It’s YOUR responsibility! You’re the oldest!” These kids didn’t go out and get pregnant!! Why is it their responsibility!? They had no control over this situation!!!
This episode was criticized because fans felt that the parents made their four oldest children, particularly Logan, act as substitute guardians to their siblings.
The mother is selfish to the oldest kids and gets mad with Carly and says they can’t help look after the kids inside and they can’t look after the kids outside when it’s what she should be doing, I feel sorry for the oldest 3 kids 😢
Mom is so selfish to insist on two more kids to fulfill her “dream” when the older kids are literally suffering mentally, emotionally and physically! She should be ashamed of herself.
@@Oliviaandtrina oh my gosh are you serious?? This woman is unbelievable. Those kids would be better off without her. All she can focus on is having babies?? Even when that means each child gets less of everything!! Less time, attention, more responsibility put on them and for what?? So she can get her way?? She should be focused on the ones she has this is so detrimental to her other children… it’s all about her and what she wants even if that means her older children have less!! I’m baffled by her behavior.
I wish Jo had explained to Mom that kids aren't a Limited Edition set of designer plates, she doesn't need to collect all 12 for the rest to have any value.
Apparently she divorced this guy and remarried and had 3 more children. The older children who’ve moved out are no longer in contact with their parents and I don’t blame them at all. Her selfishness is truly so sad. She didn’t care about the kids, only about the number.
Girl literally has to co-parent these kids, she cant go out with friends or have friends over because she has to constantly play nanny, I dont blame her for being utterly miserable considering she lost her teen years because her mom cant keep her legs shut.
Agreed.. but I feel Mom has deeper issues which need to be addressed. Most importantly, they're willing to work on getting on track. I'm happy Dale and Amy are in counseling! ♡♡♡ Blessings to this sweet family!
Is it that the dad didn.t quit drinking? It really changes the whole dynamic in the situation. Dad chosing to keep drinking is like saying F.U. to his son. 🍸🍸🍸
Mom and Dale divorced. Mom remarried and had 3 more kids. Mom is no longer remarried. Apparently divorced 2nd husband and lives in FL with 5 of the kids. Seems she is doing to another son what she did to Logan. Making him chauffer his siblings around and she's crying about how she's a single mom and is broke. This was from Dec 2022
I was parentified, and had abusive parents. I ended up in abusive romantic relationships, and when I was able to leave, I withdrew from people because I didn't trust myself not to allow people to treat me poorly.
I strongly suspect that my grandmother was parentified. My dad thinks that she resents having been “the responsible one” during her own childhood, and that it’s why she now goes out of her way to grant her grandchildren’s every wish, sometimes against the express wishes of the parents of said grandchildren.
I think these shirts are what I’d make for my older kids when they don’t want to take care of the younger kids so the little ones can read it and see it and respect their boundaries ❤
So sad that this mom wanted 12 children has 10 and she doesn't even take care of all of them. She expects the oldest son and daughter to take the role of parents not fair
@@lolaa5645She’s a very sick woman. Her “dream” eventually ruined 13 children’s lives. And dad couldn’t cope or step up for his kids. The whole situation was painful to watch. Then finding out the results is heartbreaking!
Logan is stressed out from having to parent, but of course moms first finger is pointed at dads drinking…. Yet all the family issues point back to mom. All the photos in the house are of the offspring as babies. The first person she greets upon return home is the baby. Most of these comments are so spot on, she doesn’t want kids to grow into great humans, just babies to squish and snuggle. I hope all ten received therapy to cope with the dark holes that narcissist has left them with.
This is why better conversations around being able to love, nourish, and mentor younger people without the biological tie. Mum could have fostered babies this whole time. And contributed to the betterment to hundreds of people i stead of accidentally damaging several.
Watching this train wreck was heartbreaking. You could see the pain in Carly & Logan’s faces! I’m not surprised that they left & never looked back. I hope they’re thriving. 🙏
@@KimSearch865 I hope so too! The sooner they realize their mother has some kind of severe mental illness, the sooner they can find acceptance, grieve the loss, let go and go on to have healthy, happy relationships themselves.
The mother is selfish, doesn’t see kids as human beings in their own right (as in, they’re just mini me’s), and doesn’t even have the self preservation to treat them right so that they don’t all abandon her in her old age lol. Wanting 12 instead of 10 seems to me to be the least of her psychological oddities
I'd heard elsewhere that some women can be "addicted" to having babies. Among other things, it has to do with the attention to the mom from others that babies bring.
Helping is keep an eye on the little ones while I shower. Helping is playing with them while mom cooks. Helping is one thing but what these older kids are doing is raising their siblings.
Was just thinking this. It’s one thing to ask the oldest to watch the younger ones while you’re making dinner or switching over the laundry, but this lady expects them to be live in free child care
Absolutely, and the mother had the Audacity to tell them that that was THEIR responsibility... Like no they kept their legs closed, you didn't, its YOURS.
Wow I never wanted kids either after being the oldest of six. I had one daughter at 37yrs old and she’s the best part of my life!! I love her so much!!
My parents had seven of us but other than when my parents went out or had somewhere they had to be and we babysat, we didn’t have to do any parenting. My parents were responsible and took care of everyone. My dad worked and mom stayed at home but when dad got home, he still helped take care of us.
She does take care of them, lol. She is very focused on the younger ones, which is normal. She just also relies heavily on the older ones. Which is very much how people lived and still do live.
She has every right to be angry, couldn’t agree more! Don’t have all those children if you can’t be bothered to parent them. So sad that the oldest ones never had an opportunity to be kids themselves😔
@@jaegrant6441there’s a different between the older kids helping out with their younger siblings and fully dumping the responsibility of caring for the kids onto the teens which is what these parents did.
if you can’t handle having many kids, then don’t have so many. the oldest kids do not need to be another parent to their siblings. that’s extremely unfair. the parents need to step it up
When i first started watching this episode, it made me feel like i was watching 19 kids and counting. Children should be allowed to be children as long as they can!
Terrible mother. Irresponsible and selfish. She doesn’t “love kids” She only wants babies and none of the responsibilities to raise and take care of them once they become kids. And yet she wants 2 more?!? Insanely selfish. Poor kids, poor teenagers.
The fact that they said she doesnt need more and her response was "I disagree" like what does that even mean? The man said he don't consent to more kids..
@@grassytramtracks I see no pets. Maybe they should get the mom one of those small purse size dogs that she can baby, instead of creating another human being who will no doubt grow to go No Contact due to childhood trauma. Edit: Nevermind, spare the dog and get the mom one of those Reborn doll things that can't be killed due to neglect.
Sadly CPS while important, has had multiple consistent failures at doing that important job. There are children who’ve been taken from perfectly happy homes (usually just neurodivergent and figuring it out with their family) There are children who’ve been abandoned because the CPS workers believed the parents outright And even cases of CPS itself being involved with child kidnapping
If you’re struggling with 10, why tf would you add two more? That’s not only incredibly selfish, but just insane. She has the comprehension skills of a 5 year old.
This was frustrating that the oldest kids are forced to sacrifice their childhood/teenage years to babysit their siblings😡😡 THEY ARE KIDS THEMSELEVES!! And the parents can't even take care of the children they have and want to have more
Saw this with the Chapman family (2004) in this series. The narcissistic mother and father expected their 2 teenage girls to parent 3 younger boys and act as housekeepers/maids while attending online classes. But they still expected the girls to put THEIR demands ahead of their schooling. The girls are grown now and out of the house, and I believe they disowned Dad and Mom and cut them off. The boys are adults now but not sure what happened to them.
I watch these videos every opportunity I have. I'm always and very impressed with Jo Jo in the way she handles different parents and children. Her tecniques are very effective, it doesnt matter which family she's called in to help. The important thing is that as parents, responsibility must always be excercised. How two people create children and ignore them or expect them to look after their own siblings is beyond me. It's shameful and very irresponsible.
@@wickedfairy2370She wouldn’t be able to do the job she has if she had her own children. The world is already overpopulated. She probably feels happier helping other families.
I noticed that too and she can change how talks talks with different age groups as well, with the littles she’s able to be very playful and with the older kids she’s able to be more laid back which helps them open up
So sad when the oldest kids are forced to take on the responsibility for the younger kids! They should help some but not to the extent their own needs aren't being met - if the parents can't handle all of their children they need to hire some help - good they realized they needed help!
It’s weird to me that their mom said “I don’t believe my husband can take care of them” and it immediately flips to her 15 year old son taking care of what dad should be doing 🤦🏾♀️it’s so sad
This is so sad. I can’t believe how much responsibility they put on Logan. Can you imagine the trauma? Even the younger ones Carly and the other sister. It’s ridiculous and there’s absolutely no way that even the younger ones don’t also have trauma living with each other either. It’s really unfortunate and neglectful.
As far as 12, this Mom’s not thinking of babies, she’s only thinking of the number. The babies are just objects she’s using to reach her goal. Sad, very sad…
they’re so selfish. they don’t want children, they want cute little babies. once they grow older, they get sick of them. i feel so bad for those kids. i hope they’re doing better now
I don't get it. She just wants twelve kids for the sake of it? Where is the point when by the time she got her number, at least the first three have already run away from home as far as possible?!
The parents giggling and saying "thats funny" that there oldest son was able to rest made my blood boil. They dont even consider there children people, just objects to have.
Amy Costello is the real-life version of Rita Loud from The Loud House; she keeps wanting more children even though she doesn't take proper care of the ones she already has.
Reminds me of my uncle and aunt. They had 9 kids and the older kids were expected to help raise the younger ones. The eldest girl got married as soon as she was legally old enough just to get out of there. She said she may as be out raising her own children. Sad.
this episode blows my mind every time i watch it. i was the youngest of four, raised almost solely by mom, and i already felt neglected with how her time was divided between her going back to school, her job and my siblings. i can’t imagine how emotionally, mentally and physically drained and alienated from their parents these kids feel having dad barely be present, and the kids are more parents than the actual parents are, all while still being kids themselves.
I think the worst part about this is that Logan has been taking care of his siblings ever since he was old enough to do so, meaning he had to do this 9 times as his Mom had more kids and his Dad was absent. On top of that he’s had to watch the following kids that came after him fall into the same trap of ‘being the oldest’ and taking care of the younger ones while the older ones are LEGIT TEENAGERS! These parents selfish and don’t deserve the little angels they have
The dad seems to get it but the mom is selfish and delusional with her desires to pop out more babies who won’t even enjoy being around and will likely despise their existence it’s really sad it’s pathetic I respect the dad for at least stepping up and at least verbally admitting he is at fault and he is responsible and will step up now finally
The dad got thrown under the bus here. No one addressed the mother’s blatant narcissism and delusions. She is abusive to her children and her husband. She gloated in lording his alcoholism over him and using it to scapegoat him. She looked satisfied when the son confronted him. She’s gross.
She's very gross. And it was clear she brought up the alcohol to deflect from having to respond to what Logan said. My only hope is that Jo saw it for what it was and didn't address it because she understood it was pointless. I'm hoping she focused on the alcoholism because she believed that could actually be fixed and saw that the dad was willing to change unlike the mom. But maybe I'm just trying to justify it all
@@jasminejeanine2239 right I do not disagree but he seemed to be taking all of the blame when that’s not right. They are both at fault but she acted like she was innocent and he was the only one at fault.
Children that live like this get all their parental urges out before they're even adults. They see how much it sucks from an early age. He won't want kids.
He is probably traumatized and will refuse to procreate. I know I decided when I was 15 it wasn't for me. I love my baby cousins (who are now amazing adults), but holy crap!
Dale Costello: 64 years old Amy Costello: 56 years old Logan Costello: 31 years old Carley Costello: 29 years old Chaslyn Costello: 27 years old Joelle Costello: 26 years old Corban Costello: 24 years old Addison Costello: 22 years old Nolan Costello: 20 years old Bryson Costello: 18 years old Cameron Costello: 17 years old Keaton Costello: 15 years old
Based on other info in the comments it is likely only the last 2 children are probably with the mother. She divorced dad, married someone else, had 3 more kids and divorced that person. The comments say she lives in FL with 5 kids. She has commented she is broke.
I don't think there is anything wrong with expecting ALL children to help around the house each given the appropriate task based on age but it is wrong to completely throw your older kids under the bus and sacrifice their lives. Maybe babysit every so often and get paid for your time but expecting every minute of their lives to be free caregivers is insane how do you not feel guilty?
I think this is one of the most frustrating episodes I've ever watched. I can't stand the parents. How dare you force responsibilities on the older kids just because you're too lazy to look after the 8 other kids that YOU chose to have?? Apparently the two oldest don't have anything to do with their parents nowadays and don't blame them.
I'm a homeschooling mom of three and even I feel like putting those kids in school would have saved these people's marriage and bettered those kidd lives so much!
Watching this makes me feel extremely grateful for my parents. Yes I have my disagreements or arguments but they were always there for my sister and I.
@@marjoriejohnson6535she had 3 more with her new partner, most of her adult kids have apparently cut contact with her, which is completely understandable
I really think that these parents were expecting Ms Jo to come in and say "There there my loves, you're good parents, it's your collection of children who are rotten by choice!". Utterly unhinged.
the calendar says 2009 so if they bought the house before they had Logan, it would have been the early-mid 90s. I don't know too much about the housing market back then, I just know it was insanely different from now. Who knows, maybe on the dad's salary they could just /do/ that.
“Helping out” at home isn’t weird and creepy. Having reasonable chores and responsibilities as you get older teaches you how to do chores so you don’t move out of your parents home without knowing how to do your own laundry and clean your bathroom. Weird and creepy is parentifying your young teenagers to the point they have too much responsibility to have any childhood like Logan. The 14 year old got bawled out because Mom saw Jo observing them and thought it made her look bad. Unfortunately , bawling her out is what made her look bad.because Jo was observing normal roughhousing between siblings until mom went off.
I feelnlike the mom picked that moment to bring up his drinking to take the heat off of her for being the one who mainly puts all the childcare on Logan. Whata cop out...she could and should have brought that up at any other monet in time
Doubt it alcoholics find any reason to drink. He would drink regardless of if they had 0, 1, 2 or 10. It's probably more likely due to his upbringing and probably some kind of trauma/neglect.
The fact that the mom is so selfish that she doesn’t care that she can’t even take care of the kids she’s got now AMD STILL WANTS 2 MORE is insane absolutely insane
The Oldest Children should be Allowed to study, do homework and have friendships, afterschool activities and dating! The parents need to Hire Adult Nannies to help with all of these children!
the woman was pregnant 10 times, which is 90 months, wanted to get pregnant immediately after having her first child and wanted to go through another 2 pregnancies.
The mom doesnt want to leave the kids alone with their dad or allow him to have more responsibility because he's an alcoholic. The mom is completely selfish and delusional to think having more kids will improve anything.
Lmao. My dad has one kid, me, and never remembers my birthday or age. He and my mom have been married for 32yrs. He also "can't understand" anything I say so my mom has always had to translate/tell him what i said...we all speak English ...extremely frustrating 🤦🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
Thank you Jo for helping dad face his alcoholism. I pray that he got control over his addictions and that the kids can go to AlaTeen to help them understand, because they are at great risk of addictions too. 😢
Great episode, so proud of the wife for not keeping the secret. The children and herself have endured so much. Proud of you Dale, don’t quit. Children should be children, not parent their brothers and sisters. It is your responsibility, mom and dad, to be the parents.
Why in the world did they have 10 if they don't even watch them? This is insane to want 2 more and be treating their oldest as if it's their job. Disgusting "parents".
If parents need older children to help out taking care of their siblings, then those parents shouldn't have had that many kids, it is so irresponsible. The purpose for having children helping out in the family is to teach them for their future adult lives, it should not be because it is vital to make the family life work, that is the responsibility of the parents.
Yeah it’s one thing to ask for the diaper bag, but when you ask your oldest children to watch 6 other kids so you can fuss over the baby then you’ve failed miserably.
IF THAT LADY WANTED SO MANY KIDS THEN IT SHOULD B HER WHO LOOKS AFTER THEM!!! THOSE OLDER KIDS WERE PAYING THE PRICE FOR THE MOTHERS "DREAM"...IT IS SHOCKING WHAT THEY HAVE MADE THOSE OLDER KIDS FEEL....AND FOR HER TO SAY SHE STILL WANTS 2 MORE..IS DISGUSTING.....GOOD LUCK TO LOGAN AND HIS KID SISTER....I KNOW UL MAKE MUCH BETTER PARENTS THAN UR OWN!!....❤❤
“It’s YOUR responsibility! You’re the oldest!” These kids didn’t go out and get pregnant!! Why is it their responsibility!? They had no control over this situation!!!
This episode was criticized because fans felt that the parents made their four oldest children, particularly Logan, act as substitute guardians to their siblings.
I think Jo is an angel. She can know how to solve family problems that they can't understand. 😂
You also saw this situation in episodes like the Chapman, Prescott, and Baulisch families.
The mother is selfish to the oldest kids and gets mad with Carly and says they can’t help look after the kids inside and they can’t look after the kids outside when it’s what she should be doing, I feel sorry for the oldest 3 kids 😢
Indeed! They do not control how much childeren their parents have.
Mom is so selfish to insist on two more kids to fulfill her “dream” when the older kids are literally suffering mentally, emotionally and physically! She should be ashamed of herself.
If this is the episode I'm thinking of the son gets panic attacks and stuff from watching the kids
Well, she got what she wanted. Her and dad divorced and she had 3 more with her new husband.
@@Oliviaandtrina oh my gosh are you serious?? This woman is unbelievable. Those kids would be better off without her. All she can focus on is having babies?? Even when that means each child gets less of everything!! Less time, attention, more responsibility put on them and for what?? So she can get her way?? She should be focused on the ones she has this is so detrimental to her other children… it’s all about her and what she wants even if that means her older children have less!! I’m baffled by her behavior.
@@Oliviaandtrinaoh my god how do you know
@@cusimprettywhenicrywiki, probably
The way the oldest two call their siblings “the kids” and not “my siblings” speaks volumes
Yes. This!
@@solofemaletravelermeoh dear.
Do you have 10 children too?
Yea I call my siblings “the kids” cause I’m always watching them sooo😅😭
.... the way I call my siblings the kids instead of my siblings and my friends always say.. are the kids here
My friends with smaller siblings also does that so i dont think thats why
I wish Jo had explained to Mom that kids aren't a Limited Edition set of designer plates, she doesn't need to collect all 12 for the rest to have any value.
Well said! 👏👏
right!!!!
The mom doesn’t care she selfish and she doesn’t realize that as soon as her older kids turn 18 they are not going to want anything to do with her.
Apparently she divorced this guy and remarried and had 3 more children. The older children who’ve moved out are no longer in contact with their parents and I don’t blame them at all. Her selfishness is truly so sad. She didn’t care about the kids, only about the number.
Great description
My heart breaks for Logan. His eyes don’t shine in that house. The only time his face lit up was when he was on his date.
And when he was smiling whilst hugging Jo.
😢😢😢
He’s got his own family now and has no contact with his parents
@@sannevorrink that is the best news
@@sannevorrinkthat’s great to hear… that this experience didn’t put him off having his own
Carly the 14yr old looks utterly miserable. She looks like she is on the verge of crying the whole time.
Very depressed
Yes! It looked like there was no relief in sight for her. I hope she has found peace today!
Heard she doesn’t even have contact with her parents anymore
I know-poor young lady! I pray that she is happy and healthy today ❤.
Girl literally has to co-parent these kids, she cant go out with friends or have friends over because she has to constantly play nanny, I dont blame her for being utterly miserable considering she lost her teen years because her mom cant keep her legs shut.
These parents were horrible! I don’t blame Jo for being so angry
And the mom really wanted 12
Agreed.. but I feel Mom has deeper issues which need to be addressed.
Most importantly, they're willing to work on getting on track.
I'm happy Dale and Amy are in counseling! ♡♡♡
Blessings to this sweet family!
She has! The last wiki update she divorced, remarried and had 2 or 3 more kids! MAD some of the kids don’t talk to her or the dad anymore
@@avacattell9537 it seemed the dad was as bad as her
Logan does the same thing like his parents do he’s the oldest
Parents cant handle their children and yet they expect the older children to handle them.
That’s messed isn’t it.
Don’t forget that she wants two more on top of all of this mess lol she delulu and selfish
they need therapy or jail
They do not deserve kids
This mother doesn’t want children, she wants babies.
Exactly
After this episode aired, she divorced Dale. Then remarried and had 3 more kids.
And what happened to the 10 kids?
@@LillyMcadams-kj5zxNo way! What happened to the 10 kids?
@@LillyMcadams-kj5zxthats terrible honestly....
Update: Logan has his own family now and is estranged from his parents. One of the daughters, I think Carly, also has nothing to do with her parents.
Can't blame them.
How did you find this update? Did dad stay sober? TIA
Is it that the dad didn.t quit drinking? It really changes the whole dynamic in the situation. Dad chosing to keep drinking is like saying F.U. to his son.
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How do u know this ?
Mom and Dale divorced. Mom remarried and had 3 more kids. Mom is no longer remarried. Apparently divorced 2nd husband and lives in FL with 5 of the kids. Seems she is doing to another son what she did to Logan. Making him chauffer his siblings around and she's crying about how she's a single mom and is broke. This was from Dec 2022
She definitely inspired her daughter NOT to have children!
😂😂😂😂😂 right
Exactly what I was thinking
My mum only had me and I don't want kids. They did something right.
That mum is using pregnancy to fix some deep rooted psychological problem 😢
Oh yes, you got that right ! Very insightful. 👍🌈
Agreed
Filling the void.
More then you think!
That is exactly what Jo told her at 15:38 "So your daughter doesn't have to grow up and have loads of kids to get the same needs met"
in this episode, the children are well behaved and it's actually the pisspoor parenting yet again!
Seriously
What parenting?
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@@AxelNyden
the parenting the children have to do for the smaller ones
The dad didn’t even know how old his own kids were at the beginning! What an ‘amazing’ dad
I wonder if he was under the influence
SHOCKING
Yes! As soon as he started getting the ages wrong I was thinking "Dude, shut up. Seriously, shut up."
omg i peeped that too at the beginning and I immediately knew something wasn’t right.
Glug glug glug...
The girls will cling to the first person who says “I’ll take care of you”. No matter what kind of person they are.
Anybody...to escape...
I hope like hell they ended up with good partners who treat them well. 😢
scary concept but lets friggen PRAY the people who love them are genuine 100%'s that do not harm them and their families love/support them
Sadly...yes😢
😢😢😢😢 I always worried about that
This problem is rightly called parentification in child development and it really harms their behavior and attachments for their whole life
I was parentified and never want children of my own because of it. I'm 29 now and finally getting taken seriously by my doctors about sterilization.
The amount of clients I have in therapy because of parents doing this to their children is honestly crazy and so freaking sad.
I was parentified, and had abusive parents. I ended up in abusive romantic relationships, and when I was able to leave, I withdrew from people because I didn't trust myself not to allow people to treat me poorly.
Well said! I am glad to see that someone else sees this behavior for what it is!
I strongly suspect that my grandmother was parentified. My dad thinks that she resents having been “the responsible one” during her own childhood, and that it’s why she now goes out of her way to grant her grandchildren’s every wish, sometimes against the express wishes of the parents of said grandchildren.
Her husband is drinking and passing out in the car at soccer games and she wants two more kids to make 12😂
He’s probably exhausted from parenting 10 children.
@@robynalvin2849he's an alcoholic
@@anneberoni very true, but let's be honest he didn't want the 10 kids either. They don't help.
People have to stand up and tell their partners what they want. Passivity seems to be the default in most relationships. @@starrynight8903
@ambermoriconi3121 being an alcoholic probably comes from having 10 kids tho and drowning those worries with booze
When the dad tried to hand the baby to Logan and Jo told him he was off-duty, Logan looked so happy
I think Logan looked worried and disturbed too because the adults has created this problem for themselves and for him and his siblings
The dreams of millions of eldest children could be summed up with that "Off Duty" shirt.
I think these shirts are what I’d make for my older kids when they don’t want to take care of the younger kids so the little ones can read it and see it and respect their boundaries ❤
Loved it when dad tried to give baby to Logan and Jo said he's off duty!
I love how non judgemental Jo was about the alcohol addiction. So supportive too.
So sad that this mom wanted 12 children has 10 and she doesn't even take care of all of them. She expects the oldest son and daughter to take the role of parents not fair
Mom doesn't take care of ANY of them
She ended up getting divorced and having three more kids with someone else
@@lolaa5645She’s a very sick woman. Her “dream” eventually ruined 13 children’s lives. And dad couldn’t cope or step up for his kids. The whole situation was painful to watch. Then finding out the results is heartbreaking!
@@lolaa5645Really!?? Where did you read this? So very sad for all of these children. 😢
@@christinebuckingham8369it’s on the super nanny wiki page
Logan is stressed out from having to parent, but of course moms first finger is pointed at dads drinking…. Yet all the family issues point back to mom. All the photos in the house are of the offspring as babies. The first person she greets upon return home is the baby. Most of these comments are so spot on, she doesn’t want kids to grow into great humans, just babies to squish and snuggle. I hope all ten received therapy to cope with the dark holes that narcissist has left them with.
Seems like the mom has unmet needs and is trying to fill them with babies!
I was thinking the dad may be drinking because his wife is forcing everyone into this madness
Yep dad probably drinks because of her she keeps wanting kids he dosnt want anyone
@@ezlow1065”its her dream to have 12 kids” if thats her only dream she needs help
This is why better conversations around being able to love, nourish, and mentor younger people without the biological tie.
Mum could have fostered babies this whole time. And contributed to the betterment to hundreds of people i stead of accidentally damaging several.
Get ready for the older kids to go no contact as soon as they are 18+.
Yep- From what I've found two went no contact and as you can guess. Logan has no contact with either parents.
@@Regulus_OfficalCarly apparently went no contact too
Watching this train wreck was heartbreaking. You could see the pain in Carly & Logan’s faces! I’m not surprised that they left & never looked back. I hope they’re thriving. 🙏
@@KimSearch865 I hope so too! The sooner they realize their mother has some kind of severe mental illness, the sooner they can find acceptance, grieve the loss, let go and go on to have healthy, happy relationships themselves.
@@TrueWalker88 Amen!
It's the fact that the oldest ones call the younger ones "the kids" instead of "siblings" shows how much they've been expected to do.
And that they don’t think of themselves as kids anymore. That’s the real tragedy. Adultification leaves lifelong trauma.
I literally just watched that scene and thought the EXACT same thing😞
I noticed that as well. She said ‘kids’ instead of ‘my sisters and brothers.’ So so so so so sad
"It's your responsibility as the oldest"--- NO MOM! It's YOUR responsibility as the BREEDER!
Yup. Mom was deflecting and denying her own responsibility/role. It's what narcissists do.
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Wow! You nailed it.
Agreed
"I love kids."
lmao no you don't, you can't even care enough about your own kids to prove that statement true
She couldn't care for 2 kids let alone ten , and it is very visible how constant worry and stress has aged them too prematurely
She loves babies not kids.
@@nanakonadu-
@@nanakonadu-and now she has 13..
I love how she goes out of her way to help other families
@tiffanydrs She gets paid to do that, it's her job
@@sallymb6356well she had to get good at child care before she got hired to do this
Are you really that innocent!? It's a well paid TV programme. She has no children either.
Carly looks like she is crying the whole episode and the fact that no one can see it is so sad ….
Jo saw it immediately!
I hope she's okay. another comment said she's no contact and so is her brother. I wish I could hug her
Nah. We see it. ❤
This episode is crazy yet incredible at the same time. Jo is such an underrated person.
Jo isn’t underrated in the least! She is widely respected the world over. Look her up and you’ll see.
We need her to help revamp our family services here in the U.S.
@@conniebell7987I mean you can never get enough credibility for working with children all the time
What's the obsession with 12 kids?? Isn't 10 enough?
The mother is selfish, doesn’t see kids as human beings in their own right (as in, they’re just mini me’s), and doesn’t even have the self preservation to treat them right so that they don’t all abandon her in her old age lol. Wanting 12 instead of 10 seems to me to be the least of her psychological oddities
I'd heard elsewhere that some women can be "addicted" to having babies. Among other things, it has to do with the attention to the mom from others that babies bring.
Just breeder mentality. Nothing more.
Cheaper by the dozen?🤷♀️ It's her dream, her lucky number🤷♀️.
They are like dolls or like collectibles, or like pokemon- catch them all!
Good for Dale.
Helping is keep an eye on the little ones while I shower.
Helping is playing with them while mom cooks.
Helping is one thing but what these older kids are doing is raising their siblings.
Was just thinking this. It’s one thing to ask the oldest to watch the younger ones while you’re making dinner or switching over the laundry, but this lady expects them to be live in free child care
Absolutely, and the mother had the Audacity to tell them that that was THEIR responsibility... Like no they kept their legs closed, you didn't, its YOURS.
Well if the answer still can be no, it isnot their responsibility always to keep an eye on the other children
My big sister was robed of her childhood after being made to "mother " us. She never had children.
Wow I never wanted kids either after being the oldest of six. I had one daughter at 37yrs old and she’s the best part of my life!! I love her so much!!
I totally understand; she would have been ‘mothered’ out.
Oldest sister and cousin here...I'm child free. Thank goodness! My younger cousins, who I frequently "mothered," have 2 each.
I can relate.
Same here. Looked after my younger siblings and it so stressed me out. I am 66. Never had kids....I am quite happy with my decision I might add.😊
“we have 10 kids and we need some help!”
well here’s a solution…. DONT HAVE **10** KIDS
😂😂
If it isn’t the consequences of her actions 😅
My parents had seven of us but other than when my parents went out or had somewhere they had to be and we babysat, we didn’t have to do any parenting. My parents were responsible and took care of everyone. My dad worked and mom stayed at home but when dad got home, he still helped take care of us.
Seems best to have the number of children that we do well in raising. When difficulties arise and they will, it's critical that we seek the solutions.
😂 👍
Apart from that, what an incredible healer Jo Jo is. Bless her with longevity.
This is the angriest I’ve ever seen Jo Frost. These people popped out TEN KIDS and don’t take care of them
She does take care of them, lol. She is very focused on the younger ones, which is normal.
She just also relies heavily on the older ones. Which is very much how people lived and still do live.
She has every right to be angry, couldn’t agree more! Don’t have all those children if you can’t be bothered to parent them. So sad that the oldest ones never had an opportunity to be kids themselves😔
@jaegrant6441 doesn't look like they need any farm hands around the house. It's just selfish in this century.
@@jaegrant6441there’s a different between the older kids helping out with their younger siblings and fully dumping the responsibility of caring for the kids onto the teens which is what these parents did.
if you can’t handle having many kids, then don’t have so many. the oldest kids do not need to be another parent to their siblings. that’s extremely unfair. the parents need to step it up
How about having the dream of being the best parent you can be to the children you already have!!
👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽
This exactly.
Right!?
When i first started watching this episode, it made me feel like i was watching 19 kids and counting. Children should be allowed to be children as long as they can!
@marilynrosen6245yes such good control, that one of their kids was molesting the others!!
Dude I thought the oldest (Logan) was the dad before I knew what was going on…that’s saying something.
I don't think the Duggars were any better to their kids as they got older
@@Oliviaandtrina HUH? WHICH ONE??!
Terrible mother. Irresponsible and selfish. She doesn’t “love kids” She only wants babies and none of the responsibilities to raise and take care of them once they become kids. And yet she wants 2 more?!? Insanely selfish. Poor kids, poor teenagers.
The fact that they said she doesnt need more and her response was "I disagree" like what does that even mean? The man said he don't consent to more kids..
Count in the drunk dad who knocks her up over and over.
Agreed 100%
Self centred mother, has 10 already - wants more, yet neglects the existing kids! Be grateful for what you DO have
Some struggle to have even 1!
She had three more with her second husband! 😂
@@lmaree200886😮
I think she just like babies, gets sick of them when they grow up and has another
@@lmaree200886 *ex husband. Twice divorced, shocking 😮
@@grassytramtracks I see no pets. Maybe they should get the mom one of those small purse size dogs that she can baby, instead of creating another human being who will no doubt grow to go No Contact due to childhood trauma.
Edit: Nevermind, spare the dog and get the mom one of those Reborn doll things that can't be killed due to neglect.
I found it so healing to see how angry at the parents Jo was. Even after the first video in the car, she said "KIDS, I'm on my way!"
You don’t need super nanny you need children protective services.
Sadly CPS while important, has had multiple consistent failures at doing that important job.
There are children who’ve been taken from perfectly happy homes (usually just neurodivergent and figuring it out with their family)
There are children who’ve been abandoned because the CPS workers believed the parents outright
And even cases of CPS itself being involved with child kidnapping
18:36✨️ the fact that✨️ mom is still upset that she✨️ can't have✨️ kid Nr 12 ✨️ is just aghhhh🤡🤡
If you’re struggling with 10, why tf would you add two more? That’s not only incredibly selfish, but just insane. She has the comprehension skills of a 5 year old.
She would be expecting her son to be nanny for her babies . My mom did something much similar
@@Hiesha128 oh no 💔💀that's awful. Sorry to hear that. 🙏💜Hope that didn't effect you much growing up, as much as this family
@@BobRoss-ui5kb you are absolutely correct 🤌
@@BobRoss-ui5kb exactly she wants babies not kids
This was frustrating that the oldest kids are forced to sacrifice their childhood/teenage years to babysit their siblings😡😡 THEY ARE KIDS THEMSELEVES!! And the parents can't even take care of the children they have and want to have more
Saw this with the Chapman family (2004) in this series. The narcissistic mother and father expected their 2 teenage girls to parent 3 younger boys and act as housekeepers/maids while attending online classes. But they still expected the girls to put THEIR demands ahead of their schooling. The girls are grown now and out of the house, and I believe they disowned Dad and Mom and cut them off. The boys are adults now but not sure what happened to them.
As soon as they left childhood, they had to IMMEDIATELY transition into adulthood. I don't blame them if they resent their parents in the future.
My favorite part of super nanny is when she tailors her vocabulary per family. In the UK you would say "mates" but she said "buddys and chill".
Yeah, that’s cool isn’t it… 😬🌈
I watch these videos every opportunity I have. I'm always and very impressed with Jo Jo in the way she handles different parents and children. Her tecniques are very effective, it doesnt matter which family she's called in to help.
The important thing is that as parents, responsibility must always be excercised. How two people create children and ignore them or expect them to look after their own siblings is beyond me. It's shameful and very irresponsible.
@@nancyrenton962 interestingly Jo has no children of her own . Would love to see her interviewed later about this once she has had children!
@@wickedfairy2370She wouldn’t be able to do the job she has if she had her own children. The world is already overpopulated. She probably feels happier helping other families.
I noticed that too and she can change how talks talks with different age groups as well, with the littles she’s able to be very playful and with the older kids she’s able to be more laid back which helps them open up
Well done Dale for admitting to his weakness. Very brave xx
So sad when the oldest kids are forced to take on the responsibility for the younger kids! They should help some but not to the extent their own needs aren't being met - if the parents can't handle all of their children they need to hire some help - good they realized they needed help!
It’s weird to me that their mom said “I don’t believe my husband can take care of them” and it immediately flips to her 15 year old son taking care of what dad should be doing 🤦🏾♀️it’s so sad
This is so sad. I can’t believe how much responsibility they put on Logan. Can you imagine the trauma? Even the younger ones Carly and the other sister. It’s ridiculous and there’s absolutely no way that even the younger ones don’t also have trauma living with each other either. It’s really unfortunate and neglectful.
As far as 12, this Mom’s not thinking of babies, she’s only thinking of the number. The babies are just objects she’s using to reach her goal. Sad, very sad…
*cough cough* narcissism and possibly sociopathy *cough cough*
This episode was touch for me to watch, my father was an alcoholic,it has effected me all my life. I hope this man overcomes the drinking.
I am so sorry you were subjected to that growing up.
Nothing good comes from alcohol.
Mum really thought Jo would come in and force her kids to take on more of the load 😂
😂🤣 ‘cause mum is kookoo beans!
They seem like the parents that would say
“WHy DonT mY KidS viSiT Me?”
I mean, Apparently Logan has nothing to do with her anymore, same with Carly. Don't blame them
You're right, that's exactly what they are. They are narcissists (particularly Mom) who think of their children as PROPERTY, not people.
I’m glad these grown children aren’t my parents 🤦
Me too! ugh
So true.
"Parents"
Real
I agree I’m not going to forward that
Oh my gosh. I am the oldest of 10 kids with similar griefs, and I completely understand.
The mom has “crazy eyes”. 😳
I’d have dark bags under my eyes if I had 10 kids. I’ve 3 and I get bags under my eyes lol.
Yup.. too much sclera...cluster B city.
Yes!!
That's not nice
@@angelryan9624 but still true.
they’re so selfish. they don’t want children, they want cute little babies. once they grow older, they get sick of them. i feel so bad for those kids. i hope they’re doing better now
What woman in her right mind wants to get pregnant at age 42? Her chances of naturally conceiving are only around 5 percent.
I don't get it. She just wants twelve kids for the sake of it? Where is the point when by the time she got her number, at least the first three have already run away from home as far as possible?!
She'd replace them with another 3. 😂😂
And he JUST TURNED 50!!!
The parents giggling and saying "thats funny" that there oldest son was able to rest made my blood boil. They dont even consider there children people, just objects to have.
Amy Costello is the real-life version of Rita Loud from The Loud House; she keeps wanting more children even though she doesn't take proper care of the ones she already has.
Yeah, I had that thought
The parents in the Loud House are awful
She ended up divorcing Dale getting remarried and having 3 more kids.😬
@@crystalandrews8393oh dear, hope the other kids cope well
@@Lizzy-qi6kpthe wiki page
@@crystalandrews8393 She wanted those 12 kids. No matter what the cost.
Never understood why people have this many kids just to not take care of them and dump the kids in the oldest siblings
Selfish and self absorbed adults.
Mum is filling an unmet need from her own childhood
Reminds me of my uncle and aunt. They had 9 kids and the older kids were expected to help raise the younger ones. The eldest girl got married as soon as she was legally old enough just to get out of there. She said she may as be out raising her own children. Sad.
this episode blows my mind every time i watch it. i was the youngest of four, raised almost solely by mom, and i already felt neglected with how her time was divided between her going back to school, her job and my siblings. i can’t imagine how emotionally, mentally and physically drained and alienated from their parents these kids feel having dad barely be present, and the kids are more parents than the actual parents are, all while still being kids themselves.
Jo is an incredible human being!! She needs to be protected at all costs!!
I think the worst part about this is that Logan has been taking care of his siblings ever since he was old enough to do so, meaning he had to do this 9 times as his Mom had more kids and his Dad was absent. On top of that he’s had to watch the following kids that came after him fall into the same trap of ‘being the oldest’ and taking care of the younger ones while the older ones are LEGIT TEENAGERS! These parents selfish and don’t deserve the little angels they have
The dad seems to get it but the mom is selfish and delusional with her desires to pop out more babies who won’t even enjoy being around and will likely despise their existence it’s really sad it’s pathetic I respect the dad for at least stepping up and at least verbally admitting he is at fault and he is responsible and will step up now finally
Dad created those kids just as much as mum did.
@@francespowell6923 yeah but atleast the dad understands what he is doing is wrong mom still wants more children
@@francespowell6923 yeah but atleast the dad understands what he is doing is wrong mom still wants more children
The dad got thrown under the bus here. No one addressed the mother’s blatant narcissism and delusions. She is abusive to her children and her husband. She gloated in lording his alcoholism over him and using it to scapegoat him. She looked satisfied when the son confronted him. She’s gross.
She's very gross. And it was clear she brought up the alcohol to deflect from having to respond to what Logan said. My only hope is that Jo saw it for what it was and didn't address it because she understood it was pointless. I'm hoping she focused on the alcoholism because she believed that could actually be fixed and saw that the dad was willing to change unlike the mom. But maybe I'm just trying to justify it all
The dad might as well not exist. No, he has plenty of blame. The oldest son shouldn't be doing his job.
@@jasminejeanine2239 right I do not disagree but he seemed to be taking all of the blame when that’s not right. They are both at fault but she acted like she was innocent and he was the only one at fault.
logan will make an amazing dad some day ❤
Me realizing he’s like 27 now
He probably won’t want any children! Many 27 year olds don’t nowadays
Children that live like this get all their parental urges out before they're even adults. They see how much it sucks from an early age. He won't want kids.
He is probably traumatized and will refuse to procreate. I know I decided when I was 15 it wasn't for me. I love my baby cousins (who are now amazing adults), but holy crap!
@@JAH-iu3yh he has 1 child !
Dale Costello: 64 years old
Amy Costello: 56 years old
Logan Costello: 31 years old
Carley Costello: 29 years old
Chaslyn Costello: 27 years old
Joelle Costello: 26 years old
Corban Costello: 24 years old
Addison Costello: 22 years old
Nolan Costello: 20 years old
Bryson Costello: 18 years old
Cameron Costello: 17 years old
Keaton Costello: 15 years old
God Help all These Children.
So there's only 3 left at home? Are any of the other kids in contact with their parents or each other?
Based on other info in the comments it is likely only the last 2 children are probably with the mother. She divorced dad, married someone else, had 3 more kids and divorced that person. The comments say she lives in FL with 5 kids. She has commented she is broke.
Thank you for this. I remember watching this épisode when it aired and was actually trying to figure out the ages now 😅
@@beareeves4923 but she still use her older kids ro care for her younger ones most likely becouse this type of people don't change
I don't think there is anything wrong with expecting ALL children to help around the house each given the appropriate task based on age but it is wrong to completely throw your older kids under the bus and sacrifice their lives. Maybe babysit every so often and get paid for your time but expecting every minute of their lives to be free caregivers is insane how do you not feel guilty?
Dad's a drunk and mom still wants two more kids for her other ten to watch..😂 omg and there are people who can't have kids at all...
I think this is one of the most frustrating episodes I've ever watched.
I can't stand the parents. How dare you force responsibilities on the older kids just because you're too lazy to look after the 8 other kids that YOU chose to have??
Apparently the two oldest don't have anything to do with their parents nowadays and don't blame them.
I'm a homeschooling mom of three and even I feel like putting those kids in school would have saved these people's marriage and bettered those kidd lives so much!
Watching this makes me feel extremely grateful for my parents. Yes I have my disagreements or arguments but they were always there for my sister and I.
I want to see the kids after they’re grown and how the kids were impacted and the relationship of the family now.
And how jo possibly changed their lives?
They divorced and the mum now has 13 kids
@@djfhfhgood grief, i hope not...she couldn't handle 10.
@@marjoriejohnson6535she had 3 more with her new partner, most of her adult kids have apparently cut contact with her, which is completely understandable
I heard some of the kids went no-contact (Don’t know wether that’s true or not)
I really think that these parents were expecting Ms Jo to come in and say "There there my loves, you're good parents, it's your collection of children who are rotten by choice!". Utterly unhinged.
This mom is so selfish
Selfish doesn't adequately describe it, though it's accurate. Mother seems narcissistic.
i said it once and i will say it again She is the one who makes the older kids take care of the younger kids they are her responsibilities
The father is an otr driver. Mom stays at home? How do they afford not only the kids but that huge house??
Maybe they inherited the house.
the calendar says 2009 so if they bought the house before they had Logan, it would have been the early-mid 90s. I don't know too much about the housing market back then, I just know it was insanely different from now. Who knows, maybe on the dad's salary they could just /do/ that.
so was everything else in relationship to wage...@@talusneedsalife
Some truckers make really good money; but yes, it does seem hard to believe that just his salary would be enough.
Government assistance. Cash EBT & Food Stamps because of the younger children.
Jo says what they NEED to HEAR: THE TRUTH. 🤦♀️❤️
God, I can relate to Logan. At least my parents left me to parent my siblings due to work and not just neglect.
I’m so sorry. That is so unfair to you!
Expecting children to act adult and 'help out', is so weird and creepy.
Yea right
It wears you out on all levels
It’s because it was widely used in old times. But idiot parents don’t get that we learned it’s not good on the kids mental health
“Helping out” at home isn’t weird and creepy. Having reasonable chores and responsibilities as you get older teaches you how to do chores so you don’t move out of your parents home without knowing how to do your own laundry and clean your bathroom.
Weird and creepy is parentifying your young teenagers to the point they have too much responsibility to have any childhood like Logan. The 14 year old got bawled out because Mom saw Jo observing them and thought it made her look bad. Unfortunately , bawling her out is what made her look bad.because Jo was observing normal roughhousing between siblings until mom went off.
@@nancyturnbough8609that’s their point don’t be obtuse
Unless you need them to work on the farm....their is no reason to have 10 kids!
I feelnlike the mom picked that moment to bring up his drinking to take the heat off of her for being the one who mainly puts all the childcare on Logan. Whata cop out...she could and should have brought that up at any other monet in time
He drinks because she keeps having kids that he can't afford on his own.
Yep, form of escape.
@@irishdeetalks Exactly 💯 👏
Thats what I thought!
Doubt it alcoholics find any reason to drink. He would drink regardless of if they had 0, 1, 2 or 10. It's probably more likely due to his upbringing and probably some kind of trauma/neglect.
He needs to pull out for once lol it takes two
This 15 year old boy.. dude.. amazing. Hope you are the best man EVER
The mom doesn’t care about the kids all she cares about is her dream and I think she doesn’t deserve her children til she can care enough about them.
The fact that the mom is so selfish that she doesn’t care that she can’t even take care of the kids she’s got now AMD STILL WANTS 2 MORE is insane absolutely insane
The Oldest Children should be Allowed to study, do homework and have friendships, afterschool activities and dating! The parents need to Hire Adult Nannies to help with all of these children!
How can you want 12 when you can’t even take care of 10? Dont be so selfish
the woman was pregnant 10 times, which is 90 months, wanted to get pregnant immediately after having her first child and wanted to go through another 2 pregnancies.
The mom doesnt want to leave the kids alone with their dad or allow him to have more responsibility because he's an alcoholic. The mom is completely selfish and delusional to think having more kids will improve anything.
Logan acts way older than 15. He shouldn’t have to deal with all that responsibility. Glad he was able to have success later and have his own family.
How in the hell can anyone afford 10 kids?
Right on one salary??
Government assistance. That many kids they are definitely living off the state.
@@taylorcook7340 Did you see the size of the house though? It makes me wonder if there's some other form of income, like inheritance or something
My father’s family had 8 kids
Good question! The size of that house too? Something going on there… truckers make good money, but… 😢😢😢
imagine your dad doesn't know your age and your mom has to remind him how old u are 😂😂😂
Is so sad ..😢
My dad only has 3 kids, he has no clue how old any of us are.
Lmao. My dad has one kid, me, and never remembers my birthday or age. He and my mom have been married for 32yrs. He also "can't understand" anything I say so my mom has always had to translate/tell him what i said...we all speak English ...extremely frustrating 🤦🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
Im the oldest of 5 my dad only knows my birthday 💀
Jo Frost told the parents they live in "Coo-Coo Land!" ✨
😂 🤣 💖 😂!!! Amen.
Thank you Jo for helping dad face his alcoholism. I pray that he got control over his addictions and that the kids can go to AlaTeen to help them understand, because they are at great risk of addictions too. 😢
He lost his job since he kept showing up drunk /:
Great episode, so proud of the wife for not keeping the secret. The children and herself have endured so much. Proud of you Dale, don’t quit. Children should be children, not parent their brothers and sisters. It is your responsibility, mom and dad, to be the parents.
Why in the world did they have 10 if they don't even watch them? This is insane to want 2 more and be treating their oldest as if it's their job. Disgusting "parents".
If parents need older children to help out taking care of their siblings, then those parents shouldn't have had that many kids, it is so irresponsible. The purpose for having children helping out in the family is to teach them for their future adult lives, it should not be because it is vital to make the family life work, that is the responsibility of the parents.
Yeah it’s one thing to ask for the diaper bag, but when you ask your oldest children to watch 6 other kids so you can fuss over the baby then you’ve failed miserably.
I wouldn’t be shocked if the oldest theee kids grew up and never spoke to the parents again.
Apparently 2 of them have disowned Mom and Dad, and have NO contact with them. Mom and Dad have reaped what they have sown.
IF THAT LADY WANTED SO MANY KIDS THEN IT SHOULD B HER WHO LOOKS AFTER THEM!!!
THOSE OLDER KIDS WERE PAYING THE PRICE FOR THE MOTHERS "DREAM"...IT IS SHOCKING WHAT THEY HAVE MADE THOSE OLDER KIDS FEEL....AND FOR HER TO SAY SHE STILL WANTS 2 MORE..IS DISGUSTING.....GOOD LUCK TO LOGAN AND HIS KID SISTER....I KNOW UL MAKE MUCH BETTER PARENTS THAN UR OWN!!....❤❤