How to Stop Fighting in a Relationship and Resolve Conflict in Marriage
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Conflict in relationships is the most common reasons couples break up or get divorced.
In this video, you'll learn 4 counter-intuitive ways for how to stop arguing in relationship with your spouse and how to resolve conflict in relationships.
Hi I'm Bruce Muzik. I'm a relationship coach and I help couples stop fighting and start being happy.
Conflict in relationships is inevitable. If you learn how to argue in a relationship as well as how to resolve conflicts, fighting can actually bring you closer together instead of tearing you apart.
I've road tested many ways to de-escalate conflict with my relationship coaching clients. Some of them stopped arguments, some of them didn't. These 4 marital conflict resolution strategies (for how to stop fighting and resolve conflicts in a relationship) all work like gangbusters:
00:59 - Relationship Conflict Resolution tool #1
02:33 - Marriage Conflict Resolution tool #2
03:54 - Conflict Resolution for Couples tool #3
04:29 - Conflict Resolution in Marriage tool #4
If you're always arguing in a relationship, go try out these 4 relationship conflict busting tips in your marriage or relationship and let me know how they go.
As useful as these 4 strategies are for fighting in marriage, they can't fix your relationship troubles and stop fights from ever erupting again. That's because until you deal with the root cause of your fights you'll keep triggering each other and repeating your patterns of conflict over and over again.
So...
if you're walking on eggshells...
if there's constant tension in your relationship...
if you experience fuzzy communication...
if one of you is withdrawing and the other is becoming needy and demanding...
...then you need to get to the heart of what's going on or else you'll keep hurting each other until either a) you resign yourself to a life of living with someone you don't feel connected to, or b) you break up and look for someone new.
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Me: "I'm sorry honey, I was in such a hurry and I fell asleep in your arms."
Partner: "Oh so it's my fault?!"
😂😂😂
Yessss. Exactly!
I am actually wondering what should I say if she says that to me afterwards
Ovidiu Bolocan how about instead, re evaluate if this guys strategy is as good as he claims it is? I am not saying he’s wrong at least not completely. The point I’m making is, you won’t find anything fool proof, if you are trying to construct solutions to arguments or conflicts before they happen by solely coming up with pre thought answers, is foolish. You won’t always be able to see what’s going on to assess the situation correctly. I Hope you are doing well and in good health.
If they were in a hurry how is it possible 2fall asleep???
Fuck
Ignore everything. Never have an opinion. No emotion ever. Only say what you have to. Give up hopes and dreams. Start drinking. And BAM! Perfect marriage.
agreed
lol right. can't do it
yeap...have to agree
hahahah Love your humour!
Absolutely true and you still get disrespected and dressed-down.none of this stuff works. It does work like magic... which isn't real!
What if you are always the one getting attacked for silly things? I can't keep always being defensive.
"If you're always walking on eggshells in your relationship, then you need to seek professional help."
Gf attacked because of my skincolor. I said i'm proud of it. She got even more mad.
dont say"did i get it?" she just got even more mad
Bobby Bless Brewer... yeah you should say something like "is that right"? Or "correct"?
ya I was like it seems like it would come off condescending
Bobby Bless Brewer you could say something like is that what you meant or how would you describe it and just repeat what they said
Bobby Bless Brewer yeah bro that is a dumb thing to say cause even if i heard some crap like that im finna think you tryna be a smart ass and my girl definitely will snap
It's an example. But ya.
These are easy to carry out when the conflict is over a fact, in this case car lights. It's FAR more difficult when the conflict is about slights, hurt feelings caused by behaviors and the like. Then it is subjective and can go around and around with no real connection to hold onto afterward.
It also applies to the scenarios you listed. Allowing yourself to become defenseless when insulted, disrespected or hurt usually disarms the other person. If you hurt them, you can still use all of his strategies.. like accepting that you hurt them somehow, repeating what they say back to them, etc.
Good advice and wisdom, but what I have found is when you are in relationship with a person and all they know is drama and conflict (because that's what the learned to do indirectly from their examples growing up).... These tips and tactics won't work. Some people don't know how to do anything else except fight, fuss and argue..... So tho this is great advice, please know it won't work when you are in relationship with an I mature person. Your best solution is to end that relationship before it becomes verbal and or physically abusive, in this situation it's already emotionally abusive.
That is why everyone should be in a relationship with a person on the same maturity level as themselves.
Wow!
I mean, you're not wrong. I also think people can have the opposite problem and not want to face problems head on and instead choose to be avoidant. which is also just as frustrating. the problems don't disappear if you never address them.
Defense and attack are two sides of the same coin -- I love that. Thanks for sharing this!
Lmao very humorous example about saying SORRY I LEFT THE LIGHTS ON CUZ I WAS SO EXCITED TO SEE YOU AND WANTED TO KISS YOU BEFORE YOU FEEL ASLEEP lmao i dont think any Female would believe that haha but HE DID GIVE SOME GOOD ASS ADVICE!!! IMA DEFINITELY TRY THIS!!!! Good stuff man!
Were both stubborn so it's hard to say sorry when need be. Im at that stage where I think back to my "old" life where I was once happier and free of course. We have a child together now and lately it has been a total hurricane.
Thats what brought me here.........lol
This really works, sometimes she is gonna have to release everything out from her chest, we men, we can stand quiet while she yells everything out, but you'll notice once it's all out from her system, she'll gonna feel better and then she maybe will be willing to have a real talk, just don't fight back, just hold!
Great advice, we need to be self assured from within to let her vent out and not feel hurt.
4 ways:
1. Be Defenceless (find something they said you agree with)
2. Demonstrate that you are listening (Repeat back to them what they said; "did I get it?")
3. Take ownership and apologize (you're right and I'm sorry)
4. Stand together and attack against the misunderstanding (stand next to your partner side by side and use "we" language)
I've had a little saying for a long time. I ask people " when me and my wife disagree, who's right. " There is a correct answer and it is, of course my wife. On July 1st we will be married 40 years and I'm proud to say we have never had an argument. Humility is an important part to the answer.
a person can argue with an apology saying that you always apologies... and that's my case
Wally R same
Wally R just don't do it in that way and apologize for the right reasons
Wally R you are so right
Wally R Yh but your still not giving them something back in terms of an argument & basically saying your right to them means it will prevent more arguing & then they will find difficulties with a straight response that's angry
Wally R girl get someone new that’s petty
1. Being defenseless just leads to her keeping up on the attack 2. Demonstrating that I’m listening either makes her think that I’m being sarcastic or that I’m not listening, I only say I’m listening 3. Taking ownership leads to more attacks from her and name calling 4. Standing together doesn’t work because whatever the fight is about is my fault
DunnRightVideos I would say if she is unreasonable it’s time to start making boundaries. Like: okay I’ve explained what happened, I’ve validated your concerns and apologized, I love you but I don’t deserve being treated this way. Then say let me know when and if you want to have a calm discussion and walk away. And if she follows you say, I don’t want to fight, if you continue to try and fight with me I will leave. This is coming from a women, sometimes you have to draw a line and show her that she is being unreasonable but this must be after you have done everything in this video. Just my thoughts ♥️
@@mamathemeat this is all I said being a guy but she didn't mercy on me ...I'm very hopeless now
CASTING ZONE Why hopeless? This is what I’m talking about, you need to have boundaries. Giving her too much power over you. Have some confidence and go do something that makes you happy instead of feeling hopeless over her because she’s being a brat, then see how her attitude changes.
Same happens to me (((
I do everything that was recommended here, but my partner just gets angry with everything. When I agree I've done something wrong, he says "yes, you did 100000 time and I hate it" which makes me more upset. When I repeat what he says and try to confront misunderstanding he gets very angry, saying that he says simple things and there's nothing else behind it to talk about. When I apologise he is still angry at me and might even say things that hurt me, I don't know what to do. Apart from these arguments he is a really caring man so it is very difficult for me. And if we fight most of the time he doesnt accept his fault at all
@@miojannuar9386 this was the explanation I wasn't able to explain ..
me and my husband have never been stronger thanks xox
Thank you YOU helped my mom and dad STOP divorce!
I've tried strategy one over and over and it really hasn't worked for us. #2 is a little better, but he jabs back with "why do I have to repeat myself? Why can't you just listen the first time?" #3 He's tired of hearing me apologize and he doesn't believe me anymore. He's beginning to equate my "bad ending" good intentions with emotional and verbal abuse. I tried #4 tonight with an issue we were having and while he still got triggered and he accused me of wasting his time intentionally, I stood my ground and quietly held space for that instead of snapping or forcing him to snap back at me. I wasn't yelled at and he didn't project any anger onto me. We actually resolved a conflict quietly like normal people. For the first time in a long time. Baby steps.
I feel like "did I get it?" may come off a bit condescending.. depending on how headstrong your partner is.
Yeah, I can’t say that either
The moment I watch this video I felt like I’m part of it, both of us should know how to manage when we are in a relationship. Instead of fighting and blaming each other, try talking and be calm. Instead of doing that try to understand each other.
Not an instant fix for troubled relationships but during a conflict, this helps knock it right out. Its great advice. Has helped so much to calm situatioms that previously turned into full blow fights. thank you!
You said it at the end: "the 2 of you". If the other person does not work on these strategies themselves, it's just way harder to get to the point of resolving conflict. I've learned a few of these strategies in the past, and still put them to practice, but if again, the other person is not willing to follow these strategies, conflict is only resolved after a lot of time to cool off.
VERY GOOD INFORMATION very helpful, best relationship advice I have heard
So i should just take the blame no matter what....lol i see
What a load huh?
That's ver good advice. I'm going to try this and see how it works.
Seriously. Thanks a lot for this. I need this kind of tips and i know i been a fool from a long time. I'm committed to improve my relationship and this is going to help. Thanks a lot
Your advice worked like a charm! Defense vs Attack...perfect!
this video is a big help..and a guide to help marriage on conflicts..
Bruce, you're one amazing coach! I always look forward to watching your videos. Thumbs up sir! :)
I am desperate. Seems like I've tried everything. From being extremely docile, submissive, and non combative. He still chooses to fight. he has even acknowledged before that he does it to get under my skin sometimes.
Thank you! Rehabilitation from TBI and mY communication skills NEED WORK.
Could you please give advice to calm him down in a long distance relationship
All of his advice is with use of verbal communication, which is the only option you have in a long distance relationship
i do think the 4 strategies you suggested are helpful for couples who are in constant petty fights over trivial things. however when it comes to my partner and i, it is quite different. even before i watched this, i have already attempted all 4 strategies mentioned. my first instinct is always to step back and acknowledge a point that she has made and agree with something - like "you know what, you have a good point; you are right, i will try and adjust the way i do this and the outcome will be better." however, i get berated by my partner for being "overcompromising" with the assumption that, eventually one day i will be sick of compromising and blow up and go back to being who i am with no compromises. it's a difficult situation. my partner appears to take things in a generally negative light, to the extent that even when i appear defenceless, even when i always try to resolve things, the other party is still very defensive without me attacking.
this helped me i didn't use it exactly but it helped me take control of the fight and im 17 btw
I've never been married, but someday I hope to be!
Please make more videos Bruce. Your explanations and knowledge is awesome! Thank you,
My mom and my dad are fighting?
Should I do this too?
If they are doing violence (not much), like throwing remotes and breaking, what should I do?
Please help because I want to calm this down
Thank you ! Doesn’t help but feel better already
My husband and I fight because I cannot be as productive as he needs me to be. The truth is I am trying very hard to be more productive. I have stress induced insomnia. What that means is at the end of the day all of the things that are upsetting to me, to him about myself, our circumstances anything stressing me out about my kids all of this comes crashing down on me in a huge wave when night falls. I have spent quite a few nights purposefully staying awake all night and tackling my goals despite exhaustion so that the next day I am entirely too exhausted for my insomnia to effect my sleep. Then the day after that, after I have finally got a good nights sleep I am able to be productive I feel good, I get all of the stuff done that I can I can finally wake up at a reasonable time which makes the day so much better. THIS IS WHERE THE MISUNDERSTANDING HAPPENS. If I can have a peaceful evening then I am able to fall asleep and get up at an earlier time again (which makes me feel so good about myself) - the positivity helps me get even more done. Repeating this daily I AM SURE I could have my insomnia under control and I can start to actually complete all of my goals. INSTEAD My husband brings up things that I didn't do right or could have done better or more of. I have tried everything in this video as well as countless other coping strategies and diffusion strategies and it doesn't work. As soon as the fight starts I feel like bursting into tears because my anxiety goes from perfectly managed to through the roof. It is made worse knowing how hard I worked to get to that small step and knowing I spent all day happy with myself and knowing the next day can be even better. It is never better because that next day that next goal is slashed to pieces because my husband chooses to fight or argue or put me down every single night without fail no matter how much progress I make.
He dead just fixed my last problem in my relationship 🙌🏽
Taking notes here...This is excellent advice for when I do leave them car head lights on!
I wish I could follow your steps, when my girlfriend gets angry I get angrier and it's a never-ending cycle! I hate it and it's driving us apart...
When she gets angry just ask her should you want time to talk so that we can talk ,if she say yes, than give her that time and later go on n discuss , don't blame or argument
That small thing not matter to me but mutual respect and affections each other that matter.
I tried #2 with my husband today and he said don't try any of those psycho tricks on him. He said it really annoyed him and made him feel patronized. So I did it in my head for the rest of the conversation and acted as if this actually worked.
... But then we tried #4 and that seemed better. He's at the point where he doesn't believe a word I say anymore. I feel like vomiting because he projects that past behavior of lying onto me and at this point, he isn't willing to release that and forgive so we can move forward.
Yes but if I tell my wife "honey you misunderstand my words" she probably say "Am I stupid ha?" "I can't even understand because I am an idiot"... This is like paradox xD
This works with people who are moderatly capable to have acutal conversations. Not people who actually have problems with conflict.
To follow up on this video, I’ve read tons of NLP and self-help guides, and boy have they been useful, but I didn’t want to forget my ex deep down. When it came to get my ex back I always knew something was missing. Thanks to Treitan Mellory and his website, I felt the undeniable urge to do what was necessary and am on track now :)
So...my guy has been diagnosed with BPD. When I anger him he will...guilt trip me, drag everything I've ever done wrong out and use it to work me over. He will not accept an apology, not until he's calmed down. He's not able to hear (when calm) that he says hurtful things (when he's not calm).
Since I too have issues, I think the only solution I have is to withdraw until he's back to his more normal self.
Until he's calm, I can't seem to get him to stop saying things that psychologically hurt me, and I don't really have an ability to stand there and take it. I wish I could.
He can't even accept that he's doing it.
I foresee me sleeping in the car occasionally when we live together, if we live together.
Realistically, I'm the one who has to adapt, as he's not in therapy.
thank you bruces for this video.
What do I do if I am defenceless, apologetic, taking responsibility and he still wants to argue and accuse?!
Connie P. great question. My fiance is always angry.
Harmonee Abraham it's so frustrating! I've been friends with my boyfriend for a few years and we just took it to another level, but I don't think we are a good match. He's very argumentative and thinks he's always right. He's a bull headed Leo. Very stubborn.
There's some people who you can't reason with and who's always going to argue whatever you say to them. These kind have no self-control at all and they blame their anger and problems on you from a personal issue what they're dealing with.
Ryan Batchelor Are you living in my closet? You just summed up the constant arguing in my relationship. My fiance blames everyone else for everything. There is so much deep seeded resentment on both sides now. We have been to two therapist in the last year. Now we're going to find a 3rd. Why? Because he felt like I got in the therapist head and convinced them he is the problem. Smh. God help us all.
Connie P. I get the Leo thing. I'm one too. But I am great at compromising. That seems to be a plus for me. I pray things are better in your relationship. Mine is up and down. Stay encouraged Boo.
Thanks bruce for the advice. It really works..
this is like serenity now, serenity now...explosion later! (Seinfeld reference).
This is terrible. I understand what he is trying to say, however, he is assuming that your partner is reasonable... Therein lay the problem...
agreed
Thought the same thing!!
it not terrible but that is true he is assuming that your partner is just gonna listen to you. but some of this helpful. I know from being married 15 yrs that if you don't entertain an argument you spouse will not argue with you
Agreed!!
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Me: I don't know how to stop being mad at you.
Her: I don't know how to stop you from hurting my feelings.
Please demonstrate the use of any of the advice in this video to resolve this conflict...
Both parties need to change thier perspectives by changing thier thoughts that cause the feelings of anger and hurt to flow. If you decide to only assume the best of her and to forgive her for any perceived slights against you, you can choose love over anger. If she is still feeling hurt by you after you are showing her only love then she may need an outpouring of tender loving care and concern from you to feel safe and secure which will allow her perspective to shift into gratitude for your love and support.
@Anette Moerdyk says that her husband shuts down, and that might be the worst case scenario.
If your partner is lashing out, at least they're reaching out, but Bruce is saying to tap out.
Call 'uncle' -- because, the truth is that both the happy and the unhappy marriages experience about the same number of conflicts!
It's the successful marriages that deal with conflicts differently. One difference is to assume the best about your partner and not the worst. Don't assume that your partner is intentionally being difficult, but rather, be an advocate for them.
I Love strategy number 4, but how do i get my husband to agree? I get embarrassed, feeling like he's looking down on me, and my day is full of responsibility. I want to feel we're in this together.
I enjoyed the video. I am unsure as to which stage I am in with my wife. Married for 17yrs in October. I have been unfaithful, which is where 98% of the fighting and arguing comes from. I know she is hurt by my decisions and actions. I am not ready to lose the woman I love so much. I struggle in every aspect of our relationship due to my infidelity. Our fights get very heated as I do defend everything I do instead of listening and empathizing. She is hurt and I have no explanations or reasons that I can think of for doing these horrible acts of betrayal against her. I want my marriage to work and to be with the woman I love. We have kids also, which I know is tearing them apart also. If you can offer any help, I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks for your informative video. Although I have tried many things, I will try these also.
Thanks very much for this words i think am gonna use this
But he continues to attack me though I take fault and repeat back his concerns and promise to make the change necessary. And though I am in full agreement with him, my fiance still continues to stress his concerns over and over in different versions for sometimes hours!! Even though I have fully state I understand and have created the steps to make it possible to move forward from this. He continues to fight??????? Why???
Help!!! please!!! This is urgent were supposed to get married. But how
you he's. right! we should. use his idea.
All these only has to do when you still love each other. After a long time with constant conflicts, everything fall out of place.
Whenever we're in a fight or argument, my bf always bring up the word 'breakup', and it's hurting me. Everytime I have to go and comfort him, the reason why he kept saying breakup is because he hates arguing with me over and over again, and he said he's tired and wants to have a 'better life'. I want to fix this but I'm not gonna risk saying ok when he brings up the word breakup. He treats me very fine other times but when he's angry I hate it. So what should I do?
Caroline Amore break it up, then.
I'm also experiencing this but just say OK and go no contact if they still choose to leave. Sometimes you need a break to gain perspective.
Mostly ppl fight over real issues and a fight over such petty issues can be resolved easily but wht if a person has used all this and still your partner doesnt stop yelling at you.. An argument is bound to continue
thanks for the video Sir those are some helpful tips.
What if your spouse is too proud to issue a heartfelt apology? I find when we argue, it's usually ended with an apology from me for something that occurred within the argument rather than the issue that caused it. I always leave the argument feeling like the bad guy and when she apologizes, it's usually out of frustration and doesn't sound remorseful or real.
If i said "did I get it ?" He's gonna think I'm being sarcastic and it will blow up in my face .
I hope you aren't still experiencing relationship conflict. I am a relationship coach and work with my clients through online coaching. Feel free to reach out to me if you need some clarity in your relationship. My information is in my channel. 🙏🙂❤️
Very helpful information thank you
Yeah I need help in relationship because me and my partner starts to fight whenever we dont update each other what should we do to try understanding each other
The first tip was excellent. The second, third, and fourth would just make her angrier though
Why is that? I think you're right in my case, too, so why is it that she would be frustrated with working together? that's what my parents modeled for me throughout their great marriage.
Điều quan trọng nhất là gặp mặt trực tiếp nói chuyện để có thể hiểu đối phương, giải bày những mâu thuẫn, những hiểu lầm giữa hai người.
thanks mr muzik
Thank you this really helps me
What should you do if it happens every day and is causing exhaustion and stress but you still love them and want to make it work. As soon as I forgive him he does it again just pesters me and tries to annoy me.
Kamylah -- What are the typical things both of you argue about?
I wish I could be married to this guy....
I just figured out this by my self today after a series of quarrels and I took the L
And if I didn't make any mistake.. and he is still fighting for no reason.. may be he is imposing anger of anyone else on me.. so what should I do...
her: *blahblahblahblahblah*
me: You are right honey, Im sorry about that
her: bUt YoU aLwAyS *blahblahblahblahblah*
I said the '' Did I get it?'' and the only thing he said was '' omg you never understand'' lololololllllll
I meant video editing but this is fine too
What about in a long distance relationship? What if she did something and i am pissed off about it? I don't wanna explode. What should I do. Plz reply
Roll over flat and admit everything and say sorry even when its not your fault.
Why, why,why in the hell do relationships have to be HIGH MAINTENANCE?
I feel like men are on this earth to read women's minds and know what they want when they want it. It seems like women want men to be women and men all in one package. I can NOT relate to the sensitive side of the relationship. I AM A MAN WITH TESTOSTERONE NOT ESTER-GENE RULING MY BODY. My head spins!!!!
Mark Hoffman we do lol
Mark Hoffman
I know a lot of man that are sensitive to woman felling and that doesn't make them femenine.
they made them good man
Mildred Conley .Funny. Women are men in the west/ Christian society. Women say, No man is gunna tell me what to do. I tell them what to do. Or else, I'll take everything and turn the kids against you Mr. man.. Now, let's go to church. ha
Mark Hoffman if I said sorry to my husband he would be so fucken proud about being right that he would use it to act like more of a shit head
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We can stop the flossed river, but sorry boss fighting wife unstoppable....I can do nothing but be silent.
thank you I think this video can help
Please help me.I have a fight with my partner. Its my fault ,then he is angry against me. Have can I calm him down and demonstrate him that its is really not intentionally that I have said some words???
Dear brother my girlfriend always searching my small faults and she is starting fight. Sometimes I can't manage it. Then she is braking the mobile and other items and she is making injury in her body. Please help me
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My wife hardly apologises. Always plays the victim card. Shes head strong. Won't accept my apology and won't admit to any fault either.
We haven't spoken for about a week while living together.
Soft approach hasn't worked.
Perhaps I'll try the hard approach - Sleep in separate rooms, Not eat her food etc. Not sure if it's worth a try...
All I'm interested in is a solution where she also admits her faults as I do mine.
Short and clear...👏👌🖒
"oh so now its my fault that you fell asleep in my arms"... i always get objections. I just had to leave the house to stop the argument.
Thank you for this video
Look man iv tried all this stuff it doesn’t work with crazy best way to avoid a fight is to get the hell out of there
What if when I try attack the misunderstanding, it gets worse? I’ve experienced that
Naomi -- The trick here is understanding how to attack it. Most people try to attack it with statements. Try to counter with open-ended questions instead. So for example, you can say something like "Oh so this is what you think. What do you mean by that?" Understand your partner's POV first and then once you've fully understood their POV, suggest yours gently.
i aggreed with you thank u this grear advice good video
Okay i am still very much in LOVE with my Baby Chino from day one and the LOVE I have for him has never changed for him... If anything in our 7 year relationship even threw our up and downs & good and bad times we got through it together but out of the 7 the last 3 yrs we have been arguing and fighting about something I have never or have and will not do to Him because from day one my heart is his 1000%.. Anyway let me just say it how,where or who to that is my baby has accuses,judged and sentenced me to a crime I have not done cheating,fucking,unfaithful or an affair his words and everybody I put this on everything i love have and did NOT do this to him.. How can or what to the fighting and arguing come to stop I hate fighting him when I just want to LOVE Him and have Him just to love me like I want to be LOVE like he did🙁😕😒... When starts accusing I just turn away and walk from a fight or bAttle.. The reason I said that way is because my dad told me growing up choose your battles wisely and I have and to be honest this battle I am hoping I win in the end but at the same time it is a Battle I should Not going through at all..😞 Still even this I Love Him and want our relationship to make it😍 So how or what redirect or believe and trust that I have Always been faithful and Loyal to him now like was from day one.... Thank you, from Punished for crime have not done..
@loveatfirstfight you are amazing
thax for help
How do you tell the girl that she's taking the things you're saying the wrong way? Like if she thinks you're trying to argue but you're really not and you're just trying to have a discussion? How do you even get around something like that if they just think that's what you're trying to do if you just want to talk to them?
did you figure that out? im having the same issue so if u can plz help thanks
i need to know this too. honestly, i just tell her and it usually works.
randy7027
my boyfriend do not trust on me what should I do to protect my relationship?
anita tapali for good relation trust is must. try to change his thinking. if he wont change,better u move on or else sooner r later ull repent...
Be more trustworthy. Don't do things that may be misinterpreted. Reassure you love him.
Anita I'm very hopeless from everything can we talk I can see u r like me ...sorry for asking openly here
I argue with my girlfriend a lot.. but before I seen this video, I was doing this already.
Sometimes I want to speak to my Girlfriend about something I know she has lied about for example, she quit smoking when she got with me because I asked her too.. but I catch her out smoking when I see her with her friends right? so when I sit her down and say can we talk about why you was smoking and didn't tell me please? then she just lies and says she didn't, even when I give good evidence that she was and I say let's look in your back and she gets defencive because there is cigarettes in there.
No matter how much I speak and how calm I am she turns it into an argument because she lies and raises her voice, then she says it's over and runs off to her friends to smoke even more cigarettes and weed because they all do it and she used too..
basically she always lies and when I talk calmly it ends in a big argument and then she leaves me goes to smoke cigs and weed and comes back to me. I said if this happens one more time then it's over for good and so far she hasn't that I know of, but I still think she is because when I ask her about it she never denies it she just runs off or moves on the conversation.
dunno what I'm getting at here but pretty much no matter who starts the argument, it's always me backing down like a bitch just so I don't lose her -_- it's bullshit, wtf do I do?
what if she is 100 % wrong accusing me of things that i havent done ./...fucking daily
Ian Mitchell same dude. Fucking sucks
Ian Mitchell sounds toxic you should look at some of his other videos about that
Thank you so much man
Say this in Malayalam
this has helped me so much