This is why alcohol is just as dangerous as drugs, yet it's legal. You completely lose yourself and it can become deadly. Being cool trying to prove yourself in a Frat House at any college is never worth your life. Just say No and stay firm. RIP to young man and condolence to the family
@@lHurtYourFeeIings no many people believe alcohol to be the number one "drug" killer, they call it the drug that's silently addictive because you can purchase it easily/legally. Ive known some people recovering from it say its actually worse than drugs believe it or not🤷♀️
@@m4nman bull shit. There is a reason why drug crimes are punishable by death in many countries, while alcohol is legal. No drunk will stab you to death just to get another $20 for the next bottle.
I will never understand the need to humiliate one's self to prove that you fit in to someone else's definition of what you should be. What is the point? It's such a waste of time. Prove your loyalty in other ways. People like this are not your friends.
Most of these dumb kids never got attention and love when they were little so they seek approval from crash dummies that don’t care about them 💯 I DONT FEEL BAD ITS THEY FAULT
Finding out that a loved one has passed while driving is the absolute worst. Freshman year in college my 3 best friends were involved in a car accident & only 1 survived. I found out while riding to my parents house, an hour away. That car ride was excruciating. I curled up in my dad's lap & sobbed like a baby when I finally arrived. Loosing someone is hard, but the aftermath of their death & what happens immediately thereafter leaves a lasting impact. It can truly impact the grieving process. I'm so sorry for this family's loss.
I will never forget when a floor mate in college came to my dorm after a night of pledge activities. The frat made 12 pledges drink 6 handles of vodka in one night. If anyone puked they were out and those who were left had to finish the bottles. Those who hadn’t puked early on were stuck drinking over half a bottle each. So unnecessary and dangerous.
As a recent UK graduate, his story will forever break my heart. The things I have heard on campus regarding hazing in fraternities during my 3.5 years there was absolutely ridiculous. The members of these Greek houses need to be held accountable, and harsher punishment needs to be taken on not only this fraternity, but all the other ones who do the exact same things but don’t get caught. Sending so much love to this young man’s family during this incredibly rough time.
Because people in fraternities like the ones in the video exhibit sociopathic behavior. I just don’t understand why fun and drinking a ridiculous amount of alcohol to death are grouped together.
@@KatieMarisol7 And somehow those sociopaths are able to convince others to go along with them to get people to drink until they are dead. Based on what you’re saying, even if they switched hazing activities, it could still get deadly. The whole thing is awful.
So sorry for the family. This should be a warning for all parents -- if your child tells you they have to drink a drink called “4-Loco” you immediately tell that kid to get out of that Frat and even that school.
that 4 loco is something crazy. Im from Lima, Perú and the drink is super famous here. I tried a few sips and 30 minutes later i was vomiting until the next day. No other type of alcoholic drink had done that to me even when i have mixed tequila with other stuff. Its straight up crazy.
I was deeply sad for the family but then realized they KNEW of him having to drink and the mom said it so casually and asked but didn’t care enough to call the cops about underage drinking or drive the 4 hours to get her son or report it to the university.. SHE KNEW!!
The school I'm currently attending is completely against hazing. They will not allow it. When we first get into a sorority or fraternity here we have to sign a form saying that our campus is against hazing, and that we will not tolerate it on our campus.
Not all frat and sororities are bad. A fraternity or sorority doing community service doesn’t make the news. The bad ones ruin it for the good ones. I was never hazed and never knew anyone who experienced hazing in a Greek life organization. A fraternity at the college I went to, would always help fill up the biggest pantry in town and without them the pantry would be half full or not even close to half full. The town is filled with many low income families and a lot of families on snap benefits so the need was there.
@@chrissyellem7397 I know people only paid less than $100 to join. It’s possible to pay $0 to join as well. My dues were very cheap while in a sorority and half of them went to nationals(people who manage us). We didn’t even like some of the national members and that goes for other Greek life organizations as well. It’s not just about buying friends especially when the school doesn’t make people pay to join.
At that age fraternities are brewing sociopathic behavior. They are still kids and when it comes to social behavior things go from 0_100 real quick. But instead of being closely monitored these kids, are given the freedoms of adults. Think about what it had to take to make this all possible.
why is this still going on in these fraternity? If charges are laid, maybe this will prevent some members to think twice before engaging in this kind of behavior. Peer pressure is dangerous and so is stupidity.
I am so sorry for the loss of this young man. I would never encourage or support my child joining a sorority or fraternity, they are more trouble than their worth.
Told my kids if they joined one I would not support it and would stop paying their college bills. I was terrified after hearing from a friend what the new pledges at her sorority were told to do-degrading stuff.
Who provided the alcohol , they need to be charged and held accountable for his death , they provided a deadly amount of alcohol to a minor , then carried him to bed and left him alone to die . Whoever was in charge of the house where it happened also needs to be charged .
Dear parents: the system will not change! Your kids are TOO YOUNG to understand what is being done in the fraternity/sorority houses. I was kicked out of a sorority and I wear that as a badge of pride! Hypocritical behaviour, alcohol abusing, mind control/hazing NORMS. SO SORRY FOR THE LOSS OF ALL THE KIDS. IT'S CRIMINAL.
So sad... Its scary when you send your children off on their own for the first time and you have to have faith that they'll be okay and then something like this happens... its just sad.
I’m sorry for their loss, but when will parents ALLOW their children to take responsibility for their actions and that they should count up the consequence of every actions
Lofton may have willingly drank, but these Frats pressure the mess out of you , so you either drink or drop. Nobody in their own free will and right mind would drink almost 20 shots of bourbon in less than an hour. Hazing is deadly.
@@efio7363 Then the answer may have to be LEAVE THAT FRAT. If they pressure you in such a way where your life and well being may be in danger...then so be it...be an outcast. It is better to be alive and live a life that is a benefit for many others in the world than to worry about the rejection of a crazy few. Be well and be at peace.
@@dz7a756 my point is that it’s easier said than done. When you’re young and want people to like you, you’re more likely to give in to peer pressure. That does not give those people license to put your life at risk.
@@efio7363 I get it...the whole young thing. That's why I posted this. There are a good number of young people who don't realize that youth is fleeting. The whole peer pressure thing will wear off...especially if you start to get a circle of people/friends with sound minds and good judgment. Now it's not like adults don't conform to peer pressure too...that's why it is all the more important to get it out of one's system before those crazy thoughts and wrong philosophies take root. Be well and be at peace.
2:40… you were the parents.. you allowed your own underaged child to drink alcohol? I would have been driving to him right there and then or called the cops to let them know that underage drinking was happening. What the hell. Now you feel the pain of his loss but didn’t care much to hear what he was being given to drink?
Hearing about this is heartbreaking. I was at the university when this happened and I remember talking about it with my friends. Unfortunately, no one is talking about him anymore. It’s crazy. He didn’t need to die!
Yes, yes, and yes. That weak, “Do you have to?” from the mother would have shocked me if I hadn’t seen _ANOTHER_ mother speaking about the hazing death of her son who also gave a weak response to her son when he texted her that he didn’t want to drink but they were forcing him. These parents are just as complicit because their kids are looking to them to tell them, HELL NO and GET OUT NOW!! DON’T DRINK A DROP! They’re still young and need guidance but if the parents are clueless…
When will I ever stop hearing about this kind of news? I could've sworn I'd seen this video before, only to realize it was a new case. What's the purpose of these fraternities, really? And why do people still feel the need to join risking their lives for it?
This is just so awful. This exact same thing happened at my college actually just a year ago and it was just and still absolutely infuriating because it felt like the college did absolutely nothing about it. I feel awful for that family and this one as well and anyone else who has had to go through this it’s horrible. I do hope that some good comes out of this with perhaps stricter rulers for fraternities or something. Idk.. it’s just awful.
So sad. Hugs to this family. It could’ve been any of us as kids. Binge drinking is too often normalized. Thank you for sharing your story. Im sorry for your loss.
Marijuana is illegal and alcohol isn’t. It’s not because marijuana is dangerous or alcohol isn’t. They tax alcohol but they can’t tax marijuana that’s why it’s illegal. Anyone can grow it in their backyard and the government will not be able to profit from it.
@@happyemoji6553 Marijuana is legal in numerous states . Also he was a minor so he couldnt legally drink , whoever provided a fatal amount of alcohol to a minor then carried him off to a room and left him alone to die is responsible for his death and needs to be held accountable and charged with killing him .
Ban all these nonsense fucking fraternities and sororities!! Who created this mess!!! Imagine raising your lovely kid and send them to college only to lose them like this!!!
How is this stuff still going on?!? My Mom told me about how the year my brother pledged his fraternity that 4 guys died that were in his pledge class. That was long ago though and from what I understand it wasn't just alcohol poisoning then either. I think one even drowned. Idk what they all had to do because my brother never told me but it sounded crazy. I guess his fraternity had been banned since then. I assume because of all the deaths that occurred. I was only 5 when my brother graduated college so I didn't hear that much about it and it was obvious years later when my Mom told me. These kinds of things never should happen. I feel really bad for that family. I can't imagine what I'd do if that happened to my son.
Teach your children that the first person responsible for their lives is themselves. Do not expect anybody else to look out for your life. Then the family. Then friends.
I mean good on him for being honest with his parents but…..why would you allow that to continue? Child saying they are going to drink night before a test?
Right. Why did his Mom ask him if he "had to"? He obviously wanted to fit in but didn't want to go out drinking that evening. He was begging for someone to tell him it was ok to say no and that it was ok if the frat idiots didn't accept him. This type of coercion should have no place in the college experience.
@@rebeccagreenhill3016 Thank you! My thoughts exactly. He was looking for guidance from the people he trusted most and what did he get? A weak, nasally “do you have to?”
@@rebeccagreenhill3016 This was my exact thought! The outcome is not her fault; however, why would you ask if he “had to” instead of encourage that an organization in which he was forced to drink is probably not the place for him?!
Let’s not blame the parents for what happened that is not okay. There is no “allowing” a college student to do anything. He was an adult and has the ability to make his own decisions. What happened to him was terrible, and there is no way his parents condoned the behavior but at the end of the day college kids are adults and make their own choices. Do not blame his parents for what happened
@@madmuffin4484 Nobody is blaming his parents but being a parent doesn’t just stop because they can make their own choices. A real parent continues to guide their children to make smart choices. Her son was 18 under the age of 21 to drink alcohol and she wasn’t even trying to guide her son to not drink underage. She just asked if he had to but the answer to that question would be no he doesn’t he is underage. What kind of logical question is that to ask your son. Yes even if he didn’t listen to her at least she would have actually tried to be there to guide and have control of her son. This is extremely sad though and I feel bad for the family regardless.
This has happened over the last 60 years and nothing is being done? Universities all over the country are enabling this behavior by allowing fraternities.
I go to UK and we are all required to take safe alcohol use training courses. Those that are in Greek life take extended courses as well as a hazing course online course to teach students about hazing and that it is not tolerated at the university of kentucky. Still, with a bunch of college kids and alcohol, peer pressure is real. Most frats at UK genuinely do not haze. Some still do, but without the university’s knowledge. Unfortunately, farmhouse is one of them. There are staff in the fraternity housing and working with the fraternity that are responsible for keeping the members safe and preventing hazing, and they are not doing enough. Fraternities in themselves do not condone hazing, but it’s a part of the culture and many college kids themselves don’t want to let it go because it’s part of what creates that “brotherhood”. I’m not saying it’s right, but it’s not as simple as blaming it all on the fraternity or the university.
He lived in my building and I remember when i found out, I remember seeing him a lot in the lobby. It’s absolutely crazy and so dumb that these organizations are still promoted
I went to school at Kentucky for two years until 2017 when I moved out of state. You could walk down Waller Avenue in Lexington near state street and there was always a keg out in the yard. Game days had a lot of pre-game parties, and you could spot the frat boys and sorority girls from a mile away. They were always dressed up in their finest clothes (or dresses) and alcohol (usually bourbon) on hand. There were always stories of kids being hazed at campus. Sigma Alpha Epsilon in Lexington was almost banned due to their behavior, and other frats were also getting in trouble.
Hazing IS awful!!!! Alcohol is dangerous! Sometimes sheltered children just don’t know the danger of drug and alcohol and how fast you can just be gone ….no blame meant just saying Be aware teach your children street smarts before going to college and how to stick up for themselves!! And how to Just say NO!!!
Question : why it’s important or why young students want to be part of a fraternity in the USA? We are seeing many cases like this case all the time in fraternities
Poor parenting which leads to low self-esteemed kids. Who else would participate in such meaningless danger? Someone with a strong desire to be validated maybe?
Really???? Parents don't know that this goes on by now? This has been in the news for at least 20 years every year that I can remember. It isn't surprising.
Not down for fraternities or sororities…. First of all it’s super expensive to join, why does someone need to pay for “friends” or worse lose a child over terrible encouraged behaviors.
These kids are dying because of the “promise” of certain jobs and connections after graduation. Oh, and let’s not forget family tradition and legacy. I used to be so angry when I heard about these hazing deaths because they are so unnecessary. Now? I’m starting to see a pattern and I’m beginning to care less. The stories are the same. Families affected seem similar. Nothing substantial gets done. Little to no criminal charges. Back to business as usual. One more foundation is created “in honor of” and there will be many more to come. Potential death is the price of admission and they’re willing to risk it.
My issue w this story is it sounds like this happened on his own free will, probably the only thing the fraternity is liable for was not checking on him when they realized he had too much to drink and leaving him alone. And I know this sounds harsh, but their son is the one who gave into the peer pressure it's not hazing when he willingly participates, and it sounds like that's what he did.
He was a minor , whoever provided the alcohol gave a minor a fatal amount of alcohol , carried his to a room and left him alone to die . They are responsible and need to be held accountable and charged with killing him .
@@mercuryfever392 it’s not so much about peer pressure as it is about what being in a fraternity supposedly promises (jobs, connections, legacy, etc). If you don’t go along with their dangerous and dumb antics, they won’t consider your pledge.
No need to cry tears now he did it to himself it’s his own fault he was a adult it’s about time these grown ppl take responsibility for their actions dead or alive don’t blame the university
The parents are absolutely not to blame for this - fraternities are not all alcohol and parties. Many college students find friendships and connections that really help them through college as well as professional growth, networking opportunities, and a fun college experience. Fraternities at a National level are against hazing and so is the university of kentucky. Hazing is not an integral part of being in a frat, and most fraternities actively do what they can to prevent it. Unfortunately, this does not always happen and many fraternity brothers see it as a “bonding” experience, and sometimes it’s as simple as getting too carried away with alcohol use. I’m not defending fraternities in any way and what happened to Lofton was horrible and has happened to a lot of people as well. However, this is not true of every fraternity in the US. More should most definitely be done from the universities to prevent hazing, but don’t blame his parents for a second.
That whole fraternity B.S needs to STOP! Pathetic that it’s tradition, what a system. I’ve had friends that come back with busted eye blood vessels sick ! 🙏
I am so sorry for the parents, sisters, other friends and family for the loss of this young man. When the mom spoke to the son, maybe she expressed this but I would definitely tell him if you are getting that much pressure maybe the answer is to LEAVE THAT FRAT. If they pressure you in such a way where your life and well being may be in danger...then so be it...be an outcast. It is better to be alive and live a life that is a benefit for many others in the world than to worry about the rejection of a crazy few. Peace, strength and God's love to this family. Be well and be at peace.
To the people asking what is the importance of a fraternity/sorority, as an outsider looking in, I’d say it’s to make friends/connections. This is very sad that this happened. I suggest watching “Burning Sands”. Last time I checked it was on Netflix. It’s like this situation here..
Peer pressure is real. Was he not taught about peer pressure in Middle/High school? Nonetheless, rest peacefully and I hope the responsible parties pay for what they did. People are not your friends if they push you to do things that may harm you. Alcohol poisoning is a thing.
How many college kids are underage and drinking without being in a fraternity or sorority. No one forces these kids to join a fraternity or sorority. It is a choice they are making. I am sorry this young man lost his life, but he should’ve said no to peer pressure.
I am so glad that there is no Greek life in European Universities. However, there are dudes that have gross frat boys' behaviour even here in Austria. I used to date someone, who worked at a very well known tech start-up group that developed a popular university organisation app a few years ago and after two weeks, I dumped him, bc I was sick of his and his colleague's/friends´ behaviour. They trashed a club while being drunk and found it funny because they know the owners. Another friend of his is keeping a list of women he went to bed with. It´s disgusting and embarrassing. Especially because they are between 27 and 30+. Frat-Behaviour, and it doesn´t matter where and if they are even in a fraternity, it's disgusting and absolutely dehumanizing. Hazing, in general, should be banned on campus and be threatened with serious consequences if a fraternity or sorority keeps doing it.
incoming freshman at UKY this fall. i will never understand the desperation for alcohol and trying to get fake IDs. nobody needs to prove how cool they are through drugs.
These fraternities and sororities should not be a thing because of these stories unless a sorority or fraternity is for something else. There should be criminal charges. I've never heard of this happening here(in the UK).
Sorry, I don’t feel sorry for these parents anymore. Parents encourage these young men to join fraternities, like a right of passage. Cult mentality just for bragging rights passed down from generation to generation.
Wait, so they have a dead son because they didn't raise him with the wherewithal to say NO , I'm not doing that. Dear God... and they want to sue somebody because he needed to fit in and be popular.For Christ sake man.
The human brain isnt even fully developed until around age 25 . We ALL have done things we didnt really want to do. Also he was a minor so he couldnt legally drink , whoever provided a fatal amount of alcohol to a minor then carried him off to a room and left him alone to die is responsible for his death and needs to be held accountable and charged with killing him . That is why there is a min drinking age .
Why should the fraternity be held accountable??I dated a fraternity brother from UVA and I saw the hazing and seriously it was ridiculous...they never made the pledges do anything against their will or even made them drink!! it's going to happen more and more because parents seem to blame everyone else for the outcome of their childs choices .. maybe if the parents today get more involved in their childs life and teach them the reality of being "a grown up".. this crap wouldn't happen!was I correct when I heard his sister say she was there?? WTF 😒
As UK alumni, there were debates in 2014 when the new president Eli Capilouto came on related to the decision to turn UK into a wet campus (permits legal age student drinking on campus) as opposed to a dry campus under former leadership so I would address that. The argument was said that wet campus would mitigate drinking done outside of the campus that was harder for the school to regulate. I do not know the research in other universities of the effectiveness this approach or the last approach under a dry campus status, but its worth looking into.
This is why alcohol is just as dangerous as drugs, yet it's legal. You completely lose yourself and it can become deadly. Being cool trying to prove yourself in a Frat House at any college is never worth your life. Just say No and stay firm. RIP to young man and condolence to the family
It’s the most deadly drug. Alcohol withdrawal can kill you. You can get so dependent on it that if you remove it you die. That’s insane.
"just as dangerous as drugs" really? You aren't good at math.
I'm sorry for your loss may he rest in peace from Jarrod woodard ❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@lHurtYourFeeIings no many people believe alcohol to be the number one "drug" killer, they call it the drug that's silently addictive because you can purchase it easily/legally. Ive known some people recovering from it say its actually worse than drugs believe it or not🤷♀️
@@m4nman bull shit. There is a reason why drug crimes are punishable by death in many countries, while alcohol is legal. No drunk will stab you to death just to get another $20 for the next bottle.
I will never understand the need to humiliate one's self to prove that you fit in to someone else's definition of what you should be. What is the point? It's such a waste of time. Prove your loyalty in other ways. People like this are not your friends.
They just want to be cool and go to the frat parties.
You're so right. I wish these college kids would realize that. It's really just stupid.
Most of these dumb kids never got attention and love when they were little so they seek approval from crash dummies that don’t care about them 💯 I DONT FEEL BAD ITS THEY FAULT
Finding out that a loved one has passed while driving is the absolute worst. Freshman year in college my 3 best friends were involved in a car accident & only 1 survived. I found out while riding to my parents house, an hour away. That car ride was excruciating. I curled up in my dad's lap & sobbed like a baby when I finally arrived. Loosing someone is hard, but the aftermath of their death & what happens immediately thereafter leaves a lasting impact. It can truly impact the grieving process. I'm so sorry for this family's loss.
My dad died in may 23th his name is Bryant Woodard I miss my dad so much from Jarrod Woodard
Hazing?
How is that NOT illegal???
Fraternity IS fatal
and requires to be dealt with
Crimes committed during hazing are illegal.
It’s been made illegal on campuses but college kids can be too much and still do it😑
It is illegal
It IS illegal 🙄
I will never forget when a floor mate in college came to my dorm after a night of pledge activities. The frat made 12 pledges drink 6 handles of vodka in one night. If anyone puked they were out and those who were left had to finish the bottles. Those who hadn’t puked early on were stuck drinking over half a bottle each. So unnecessary and dangerous.
😳
I would've reported them 😭
Evil.
Underage drinking is illegal the fraternity is liable for this child's death.
And so should every frat member
who was at that party
Hell ya !!!
No he should have been taught at home to not take any alcoholic drink! Accountability should be enforced on everyone!
Underage drinking is very common on college campuses. You don’t need to be Greek life for it to happen. The frat should be liable.
As a recent UK graduate, his story will forever break my heart. The things I have heard on campus regarding hazing in fraternities during my 3.5 years there was absolutely ridiculous. The members of these Greek houses need to be held accountable, and harsher punishment needs to be taken on not only this fraternity, but all the other ones who do the exact same things but don’t get caught. Sending so much love to this young man’s family during this incredibly rough time.
Ashley Judd, UK's most famous Alumnus, was a member of Kappa Kappa Gamma!
What a nightmare for the parents! Why does this keep happening? This was an issue when I went to college and I graduated in 1990!
Because people in fraternities like the ones in the video exhibit sociopathic behavior. I just don’t understand why fun and drinking a ridiculous amount of alcohol to death are grouped together.
@@KatieMarisol7 And somehow those sociopaths are able to convince others to go along with them to get people to drink until they are dead. Based on what you’re saying, even if they switched hazing activities, it could still get deadly. The whole thing is awful.
So sorry for the family. This should be a warning for all parents -- if your child tells you they have to drink a drink called “4-Loco” you immediately tell that kid to get out of that Frat and even that school.
4loko is not bad like it was back in the days when I was 18. The formula changed and tbh now ita just flat out disgusting
Another adult was paralyzed after was was to chug a whole bottle of vodka!
that 4 loco is something crazy. Im from Lima, Perú and the drink is super famous here. I tried a few sips and 30 minutes later i was vomiting until the next day. No other type of alcoholic drink had done that to me even when i have mixed tequila with other stuff. Its straight up crazy.
I was deeply sad for the family but then realized they KNEW of him having to drink and the mom said it so casually and asked but didn’t care enough to call the cops about underage drinking or drive the 4 hours to get her son or report it to the university.. SHE KNEW!!
The school I'm currently attending is completely against hazing. They will not allow it. When we first get into a sorority or fraternity here we have to sign a form saying that our campus is against hazing, and that we will not tolerate it on our campus.
Doesn’t mean it won’t happen.
It can still happen.
Sadly that doesn’t stop many people from hazing. In fact, a lot of people sign those forms and laugh about it later.
A form, lol
Sorority-fake friends.
I still can't believe fraternities and sororities are still a thing after all the hazing deaths that have happened. Like, why do we need them?
Not all frat and sororities are bad. A fraternity or sorority doing community service doesn’t make the news. The bad ones ruin it for the good ones. I was never hazed and never knew anyone who experienced hazing in a Greek life organization. A fraternity at the college I went to, would always help fill up the biggest pantry in town and without them the pantry would be half full or not even close to half full. The town is filled with many low income families and a lot of families on snap benefits so the need was there.
Right so stupid-let's buy into a friends circle.
@@chrissyellem7397 I know people only paid less than $100 to join. It’s possible to pay $0 to join as well. My dues were very cheap while in a sorority and half of them went to nationals(people who manage us). We didn’t even like some of the national members and that goes for other Greek life organizations as well. It’s not just about buying friends especially when the school doesn’t make people pay to join.
I feel for his parents such a sad ordeal. Poor young man Rest In Peace Young man.
At that age fraternities are brewing sociopathic behavior. They are still kids and when it comes to social behavior things go from 0_100 real quick. But instead of being closely monitored these kids, are given the freedoms of adults. Think about what it had to take to make this all possible.
All of it funded by their rich parents
why is this still going on in these fraternity? If charges are laid, maybe this will prevent some members to think twice before engaging in this kind of behavior. Peer pressure is dangerous and so is stupidity.
I am so sorry for the loss of this young man. I would never encourage or support my child joining a sorority or fraternity, they are more trouble than their worth.
Told my kids if they joined one I would not support it and would stop paying their college bills. I was terrified after hearing from a friend what the new pledges at her sorority were told to do-degrading stuff.
Who provided the alcohol , they need to be charged and held accountable for his death , they provided a deadly amount of alcohol to a minor , then carried him to bed and left him alone to die .
Whoever was in charge of the house where it happened also needs to be charged .
Yup. Hope they hunt them down.
How there not the ones who siad to drink also those houses most guys are 21 especially on a wet campus
Dear parents: the system will not change! Your kids are TOO YOUNG to understand what is being done in the fraternity/sorority houses.
I was kicked out of a sorority and I wear that as a badge of pride! Hypocritical behaviour, alcohol abusing, mind control/hazing NORMS.
SO SORRY FOR THE LOSS OF ALL THE KIDS. IT'S CRIMINAL.
They are old enough to understand it’s no excuse
Good for you @Sophia Bright! 👏👏👏
So sad... Its scary when you send your children off on their own for the first time and you have to have faith that they'll be okay and then something like this happens... its just sad.
How can this Still Go On. It’s Unacceptable .
I’m sorry for their loss, but when will parents ALLOW their children to take responsibility for their actions and that they should count up the consequence of every actions
Lofton may have willingly drank, but these Frats pressure the mess out of you , so you either drink or drop. Nobody in their own free will and right mind would drink almost 20 shots of bourbon in less than an hour. Hazing is deadly.
@@efio7363 Then the answer may have to be LEAVE THAT FRAT. If they pressure you in such a way where your life and well being may be in danger...then so be it...be an outcast. It is better to be alive and live a life that is a benefit for many others in the world than to worry about the rejection of a crazy few.
Be well and be at peace.
@@dz7a756 my point is that it’s easier said than done. When you’re young and want people to like you, you’re more likely to give in to peer pressure. That does not give those people license to put your life at risk.
@@efio7363 I get it...the whole young thing. That's why I posted this. There are a good number of young people who don't realize that youth is fleeting. The whole peer pressure thing will wear off...especially if you start to get a circle of people/friends with sound minds and good judgment.
Now it's not like adults don't conform to peer pressure too...that's why it is all the more important to get it out of one's system before those crazy thoughts and wrong philosophies take root.
Be well and be at peace.
Get rid of Frat Houses. Doesn't matter about money to college for such crap.
Happens all the time, completely disgusting for organizations to continuously let this happen.
Just don't drink alcohol folks, its not worth your life, just to be cool and fit into a frat at uni.
2:40… you were the parents.. you allowed your own underaged child to drink alcohol? I would have been driving to him right there and then or called the cops to let them know that underage drinking was happening. What the hell. Now you feel the pain of his loss but didn’t care much to hear what he was being given to drink?
Why not just get rid of fraternities? What purpose do they serve besides trying to get in with the rich of the rich?
Um why didn't you tell your child NOT TO DRINK! LIKE SERIOUSLY 😳🙄🙄🙄
They probably thought that it was just going to be regular party drinking but not this level of insanity.
Hearing about this is heartbreaking. I was at the university when this happened and I remember talking about it with my friends. Unfortunately, no one is talking about him anymore. It’s crazy. He didn’t need to die!
If you are at a college and don't know about the danger of consuming alcohol and its danger is sad
2:50 so the family was aware that their 18 yr old son was drinking alcohol, excessively and under cohersion
Yes, yes, and yes.
That weak, “Do you have to?” from the mother would have shocked me if I hadn’t seen _ANOTHER_ mother speaking about the hazing death of her son who also gave a weak response to her son when he texted her that he didn’t want to drink but they were forcing him. These parents are just as complicit because their kids are looking to them to tell them, HELL NO and GET OUT NOW!! DON’T DRINK A DROP! They’re still young and need guidance but if the parents are clueless…
@@c-light7624 She might have thought that it was going to be regular party drinking but nothing like what the fraternity wanted him to do.
Heartbreaking
What about personal responsibility?
I've never been drunk in my life and plenty of people tried to get me to.
Just say No!
You can believe in personal responsibility and still be horrified that frats and sororities do this much damage.
So heartbreaking 💔 his family will never be the same again.
How many more stories do we have to hear. Enough is enough with hazing. Colleges should be held responsible by now.
When will I ever stop hearing about this kind of news? I could've sworn I'd seen this video before, only to realize it was a new case. What's the purpose of these fraternities, really? And why do people still feel the need to join risking their lives for it?
Agree don't understand why anyone would want to just get friends instantly-pretty sorry group of people.
With all the hazing deaths online,ITS STILL MINDBLOWING THAT KIDS STILL DO THIS,come on now
Prayers and condolences to the family 🙏this is why I'm so worried about my two grandchildren that are in college 😢 🙏🙏
Do people go to college for an education? Or for hazing? Why do people do this?
He should have just said No!
@Charlotte how can you compare drinking alcohol willingly to being taken advantage of sexually 😳
This is just so awful. This exact same thing happened at my college actually just a year ago and it was just and still absolutely infuriating because it felt like the college did absolutely nothing about it. I feel awful for that family and this one as well and anyone else who has had to go through this it’s horrible. I do hope that some good comes out of this with perhaps stricter rulers for fraternities or something. Idk.. it’s just awful.
Of course the frat guys got their story together.
So sad. Hugs to this family. It could’ve been any of us as kids. Binge drinking is too often normalized. Thank you for sharing your story. Im sorry for your loss.
I'd have told my son I'm sending you to university to study. Screw the fraternity.
Alcohol does nothing but destroy lives. You don't see stories about people overdosing or dying from marijuana, just saying.
Marijuana is illegal and alcohol isn’t. It’s not because marijuana is dangerous or alcohol isn’t. They tax alcohol but they can’t tax marijuana that’s why it’s illegal. Anyone can grow it in their backyard and the government will not be able to profit from it.
@@happyemoji6553 Marijuana is legal in numerous states . Also he was a minor so he couldnt legally drink , whoever provided a fatal amount of alcohol to a minor then carried him off to a room and left him alone to die is responsible for his death and needs to be held accountable and charged with killing him .
This is awful. Prayers
He should have said no. No fraternity is worth such nonsense
Ban all these nonsense fucking fraternities and sororities!! Who created this mess!!! Imagine raising your lovely kid and send them to college only to lose them like this!!!
How is this stuff still going on?!? My Mom told me about how the year my brother pledged his fraternity that 4 guys died that were in his pledge class. That was long ago though and from what I understand it wasn't just alcohol poisoning then either. I think one even drowned. Idk what they all had to do because my brother never told me but it sounded crazy. I guess his fraternity had been banned since then. I assume because of all the deaths that occurred. I was only 5 when my brother graduated college so I didn't hear that much about it and it was obvious years later when my Mom told me. These kinds of things never should happen. I feel really bad for that family. I can't imagine what I'd do if that happened to my son.
Hi
Did someone pour it down his throat?????
Why do people ALWAYS play "the blame Game".........
He wasn't raised with common sense??????
Teach your children that the first person responsible for their lives is themselves. Do not expect anybody else to look out for your life. Then the family. Then friends.
R.i.e.p Lofton. Condolences to his family and friend
I mean good on him for being honest with his parents but…..why would you allow that to continue? Child saying they are going to drink night before a test?
Right. Why did his Mom ask him if he "had to"? He obviously wanted to fit in but didn't want to go out drinking that evening. He was begging for someone to tell him it was ok to say no and that it was ok if the frat idiots didn't accept him. This type of coercion should have no place in the college experience.
@@rebeccagreenhill3016 Thank you! My thoughts exactly. He was looking for guidance from the people he trusted most and what did he get? A weak, nasally “do you have to?”
@@rebeccagreenhill3016 This was my exact thought! The outcome is not her fault; however, why would you ask if he “had to” instead of encourage that an organization in which he was forced to drink is probably not the place for him?!
Let’s not blame the parents for what happened that is not okay. There is no “allowing” a college student to do anything. He was an adult and has the ability to make his own decisions. What happened to him was terrible, and there is no way his parents condoned the behavior but at the end of the day college kids are adults and make their own choices. Do not blame his parents for what happened
@@madmuffin4484 Nobody is blaming his parents but being a parent doesn’t just stop because they can make their own choices. A real parent continues to guide their children to make smart choices. Her son was 18 under the age of 21 to drink alcohol and she wasn’t even trying to guide her son to not drink underage. She just asked if he had to but the answer to that question would be no he doesn’t he is underage. What kind of logical question is that to ask your son. Yes even if he didn’t listen to her at least she would have actually tried to be there to guide and have control of her son. This is extremely sad though and I feel bad for the family regardless.
I am so sorry for u all loss
God bless he Family
Praying for the Lofton family during this difficult time in their lives. Rest In Peace Angel 🙏🏽💙
😥 Such a senseless waste of a young life.
This has happened over the last 60 years and nothing is being done? Universities all over the country are enabling this behavior by allowing fraternities.
I go to UK and we are all required to take safe alcohol use training courses. Those that are in Greek life take extended courses as well as a hazing course online course to teach students about hazing and that it is not tolerated at the university of kentucky. Still, with a bunch of college kids and alcohol, peer pressure is real. Most frats at UK genuinely do not haze. Some still do, but without the university’s knowledge. Unfortunately, farmhouse is one of them. There are staff in the fraternity housing and working with the fraternity that are responsible for keeping the members safe and preventing hazing, and they are not doing enough. Fraternities in themselves do not condone hazing, but it’s a part of the culture and many college kids themselves don’t want to let it go because it’s part of what creates that “brotherhood”. I’m not saying it’s right, but it’s not as simple as blaming it all on the fraternity or the university.
Still confused why fraternities and sororities are still legal... so many deaths and incidents every year
He lived in my building and I remember when i found out, I remember seeing him a lot in the lobby. It’s absolutely crazy and so dumb that these organizations are still promoted
I went to school at Kentucky for two years until 2017 when I moved out of state. You could walk down Waller Avenue in Lexington near state street and there was always a keg out in the yard. Game days had a lot of pre-game parties, and you could spot the frat boys and sorority girls from a mile away. They were always dressed up in their finest clothes (or dresses) and alcohol (usually bourbon) on hand. There were always stories of kids being hazed at campus. Sigma Alpha Epsilon in Lexington was almost banned due to their behavior, and other frats were also getting in trouble.
I currently attend, heard horrible things about SAE someone even saying people call them the sexual assault fraternity.
SAE is known nationally as a frat to avoid as a girl. Sexual Assault Expected!!
Hazing IS awful!!!! Alcohol is dangerous! Sometimes sheltered children just don’t know the danger of drug and alcohol and how fast you can just be gone ….no blame meant just saying Be aware teach your children street smarts before going to college and how to stick up for themselves!! And how to Just say NO!!!
Son chose to be hazed. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
Question : why it’s important or why young students want to be part of a fraternity in the USA? We are seeing many cases like this case all the time in fraternities
Poor parenting which leads to low self-esteemed kids. Who else would participate in such meaningless danger? Someone with a strong desire to be validated maybe?
Stop The Hazing around the hazing
There should be a law about this no alcohol in college
Really????
Parents don't know that this goes on by now?
This has been in the news for at least 20 years every year that I can remember.
It isn't surprising.
That is messed up 😢
Not down for fraternities or sororities…. First of all it’s super expensive to join, why does someone need to pay for “friends” or worse lose a child over terrible encouraged behaviors.
These kids are dying because of the “promise” of certain jobs and connections after graduation. Oh, and let’s not forget family tradition and legacy. I used to be so angry when I heard about these hazing deaths because they are so unnecessary. Now? I’m starting to see a pattern and I’m beginning to care less.
The stories are the same. Families affected seem similar. Nothing substantial gets done. Little to no criminal charges. Back to business as usual. One more foundation is created “in honor of” and there will be many more to come. Potential death is the price of admission and they’re willing to risk it.
Bingo 🎯
My issue w this story is it sounds like this happened on his own free will, probably the only thing the fraternity is liable for was not checking on him when they realized he had too much to drink and leaving him alone. And I know this sounds harsh, but their son is the one who gave into the peer pressure it's not hazing when he willingly participates, and it sounds like that's what he did.
I don’t think you understand how hazing works.
@@sophiapetrillo3008 Lots of peer pressure?
He was a minor , whoever provided the alcohol gave a minor a fatal amount of alcohol , carried his to a room and left him alone to die . They are responsible and need to be held accountable and charged with killing him .
@@shari9721 Good point. I didn't even think of that. Contributing to the delinquency of a minor.
@@mercuryfever392 it’s not so much about peer pressure as it is about what being in a fraternity supposedly promises (jobs, connections, legacy, etc). If you don’t go along with their dangerous and dumb antics, they won’t consider your pledge.
These stories are getting old as time. No one is forcing your adult child to participate in criminal activities.
No need to cry tears now he did it to himself it’s his own fault he was a adult it’s about time these grown ppl take responsibility for their actions dead or alive don’t blame the university
So the parents were fine with him joining a frat? Isn’t it pretty well known by now how dangerous they are?
I agree, Greek life is sooo expensive I womder how so many parents are okay with having their kids join?!?
they are aware of what goes on, they just dont care till something happens
@@karmicobsession1636 🎯
The parents are absolutely not to blame for this - fraternities are not all alcohol and parties. Many college students find friendships and connections that really help them through college as well as professional growth, networking opportunities, and a fun college experience. Fraternities at a National level are against hazing and so is the university of kentucky. Hazing is not an integral part of being in a frat, and most fraternities actively do what they can to prevent it. Unfortunately, this does not always happen and many fraternity brothers see it as a “bonding” experience, and sometimes it’s as simple as getting too carried away with alcohol use. I’m not defending fraternities in any way and what happened to Lofton was horrible and has happened to a lot of people as well. However, this is not true of every fraternity in the US. More should most definitely be done from the universities to prevent hazing, but don’t blame his parents for a second.
That whole fraternity B.S needs to STOP! Pathetic that it’s tradition, what a system. I’ve had friends that come back with busted eye blood vessels sick ! 🙏
I am so sorry for the parents, sisters, other friends and family for the loss of this young man. When the mom spoke to the son, maybe she expressed this but I would definitely tell him if you are getting that much pressure maybe the answer is to LEAVE THAT FRAT.
If they pressure you in such a way where your life and well being may be in danger...then so be it...be an outcast. It is better to be alive and live a life that is a benefit for many others in the world than to worry about the rejection of a crazy few.
Peace, strength and God's love to this family.
Be well and be at peace.
lord, this hazing is not new. this has to stop
Good grief how does this still happen? How sad.
Parents, teach your children how to be free thinkers and not just go along with peer pressure and trying to fit in
Absolutely senseless😢
It’s the sons fault…
To the people asking what is the importance of a fraternity/sorority, as an outsider looking in, I’d say it’s to make friends/connections.
This is very sad that this happened. I suggest watching “Burning Sands”. Last time I checked it was on Netflix. It’s like this situation here..
Peer pressure is real. Was he not taught about peer pressure in Middle/High school? Nonetheless, rest peacefully and I hope the responsible parties pay for what they did. People are not your friends if they push you to do things that may harm you. Alcohol poisoning is a thing.
How many college kids are underage and drinking without being in a fraternity or sorority. No one forces these kids to join a fraternity or sorority. It is a choice they are making. I am sorry this young man lost his life, but he should’ve said no to peer pressure.
I am so glad that there is no Greek life in European Universities. However, there are dudes that have gross frat boys' behaviour even here in Austria. I used to date someone, who worked at a very well known tech start-up group that developed a popular university organisation app a few years ago and after two weeks, I dumped him, bc I was sick of his and his colleague's/friends´ behaviour. They trashed a club while being drunk and found it funny because they know the owners. Another friend of his is keeping a list of women he went to bed with. It´s disgusting and embarrassing. Especially because they are between 27 and 30+. Frat-Behaviour, and it doesn´t matter where and if they are even in a fraternity, it's disgusting and absolutely dehumanizing. Hazing, in general, should be banned on campus and be threatened with serious consequences if a fraternity or sorority keeps doing it.
incoming freshman at UKY this fall. i will never understand the desperation for alcohol and trying to get fake IDs. nobody needs to prove how cool they are through drugs.
NON sense!
Not CO herced???
PEER PRESSURE!!!
And THAT IS REAL!!!
It’s LIKE bullying!!!
SHAME ON THOSE INVOLVED!!!
you lost me at “hunting and fishing”
These fraternities and sororities should not be a thing because of these stories unless a sorority or fraternity is for something else. There should be criminal charges. I've never heard of this happening here(in the UK).
USA and fraternities/ sororities.. why? And how do parents allow this ?
Sorry, I don’t feel sorry for these parents anymore. Parents encourage these young men to join fraternities, like a right of passage.
Cult mentality just for bragging rights passed down from generation to generation.
18 shots in 45 minutes? Jesus Christ...
Wait, so they have a dead son because they didn't raise him with the wherewithal to say NO , I'm not doing that. Dear God... and they want to sue somebody because he needed to fit in and be popular.For Christ sake man.
It's 'The American Way, Someone Must Pay'
Peer pressure...
The human brain isnt even fully developed until around age 25 . We ALL have done things we didnt really want to do. Also he was a minor so he couldnt legally drink , whoever provided a fatal amount of alcohol to a minor then carried him off to a room and left him alone to die is responsible for his death and needs to be held accountable and charged with killing him .
That is why there is a min drinking age .
My thoughts and prayers are with you...I never would have thought of that UK would have that stuff still going on...smdh
Robin Roberts is insanely annoying.
18 shots in 45 min? How did that seem like a good idea. 😳
That fraternity needs to step up and take responsibility. Don’t make this family sue you to receive justice. End hazing practices for good.
Why should the fraternity be held accountable??I dated a fraternity brother from UVA and I saw the hazing and seriously it was ridiculous...they never made the pledges do anything against their will or even made them drink!! it's going to happen more and more because parents seem to blame everyone else for the outcome of their childs choices .. maybe if the parents today get more involved in their childs life and teach them the reality of being "a grown up".. this crap wouldn't happen!was I correct when I heard his sister say she was there?? WTF 😒
More action has to be done about this you’re talking about an 18 year old boy a father and mother’s child man it’s so messed up
I pray that God continues to place his loving arms around this beautiful family. Your family will be in my prayers ! 💜🙏🏽
I don’t understand why people pay to be treated this way..
May He Rest In Peace 🕊
As UK alumni, there were debates in 2014 when the new president Eli Capilouto came on related to the decision to turn UK into a wet campus (permits legal age student drinking on campus) as opposed to a dry campus under former leadership so I would address that. The argument was said that wet campus would mitigate drinking done outside of the campus that was harder for the school to regulate. I do not know the research in other universities of the effectiveness this approach or the last approach under a dry campus status, but its worth looking into.
SMH. R.I.P