Lol I had to pause the video to read your comment and personally I can relate.. you have to change your mind set or you will grow old alone my friend. Time does not wait for any one and you have to learn to make the first move or you will lose out on opportunities and then you’ll ask your self “what’s wrong with me, Why can’t I find anyone, Did the good Lord fuck me over in this life.. I am drunk but from personal experience I created my own misery by being shy and hoping one day that one beautiful girl would ask me out but at the age of 29 I now realize I have to go for it or I’ll never have it. It’s true when they say a closed mouth never gets fed.. ps always have good body poster and never show signs of doubt women can see it and since it instantly and then you’re in the friend zone
I have the same thinking about it to just the amount of money I save by not being with a women, the headaches and migraines I get it's to much to bear it.
ShaveCave: Yes this is the only time when the thrill is in The Chase ...when you decide it's time to stop chasing and chase the next one ! You don'y have to spend a dime.
Biggest friend zone move, they ask you to help them work on their house or car. Always a bad sign, you think your being helpful, in the end your just being used.
Had both from different women. Also about to block the number of one who thinks she's grooming me for a friendzone. Seems to find me useful to drive her to the next town to shop and help her move house. After her first visit to my place, I kissed her for goodbye and she ghosted me for 3 weeks til she had use for me again. 3 big excuses: so tired from work, only 1 day off a week, couldn't answer cos no ph credit. Says she'll visit but don't come- and no message to call off either, just ghosts me. Happened today again so blocking and deleting her number tonight
@@MrDontfeedthematrix .... exactly ... & that shows the hypocracy of women, these "tests" are to find a malleable & easy-going guy they can exploit... its that simple. 😒
Friendzone equals walk out on her. Ive had girls who wanna talk and want to be an undesired friend. But don't want to date. So....I just quit answering their texts and calls. Screw them. Friendzone is a slap in the face.
@@swhorne you're absolutely right, when they say we should just be friends, or we should remain just friends , it's just an excuse for them, to explore their other options and date other men .They use you as their male tampon and put us on the back burner, when something breaks we can fix it ,or if they want a meal they have you on their speed dial.. I dated one exactly what she was talkin about all above....
I was dating a girl that defines every sign in this video LOL. Friend Zoned! Once I realized that I was in this position, I just walked away and stopped paying attention to her. After a while she started messaging me again. But now I just stop wasting my time with her. Been stood up one too many times. No more. So, the friend zone has arrived at last... Well, the friend zone can kiss my ass! XOXO
@@alexanderdelarosahidalgo3092 Yeah, I think so. The funny thing is, she ended up marrying a dumb jerk who doesn't treat her as well as she thought he would and now she's miserable. For me this one small victory was worth being thrown in the friend zone. Now days I just sit back and laugh... and she knows it haha :)
i wish i could be like that with 2 people in a row last week that wanted to only be friends! that it was like that! XD so i could just forget them and think like you did like the "kiss my ass!!" thing XD
Adam East, sounds like she's just baiting you ,,,ready for the kill ... you'll see how that restraining order works then, stay away ,,,there's three and a half billion women on this planet, they're everywhere move on. That's harsh to put a restraining order on, my neighbor did that to her husband and he wasn't that bad of a guy at all she did it for spite screw them..
I know women who fit everyone of these 20 items you've listed word for word. When I was young & stupid I fell for all of these again & again cause I liked certain girls so much but now at 46 years old I'm like ask her out once, if she says yes, great if not move on to another girl. You don't need to unfriend her off facebook, just unfollow her and quit giving a damn about anything she doe's cause that's how she feels about you...
And two years later when she gets dumped HARD, she'll call you but won't leave a message. That is her way of saying she is interested and now she is available. lol.
Social media and dating apps made men disposable to women. They have hundreds of options. Never spend a lot of $$ on dates until u get intimate. A cup of coffee is most u need to invest on 1st date.
@@SpinDoctor91 Yeh, I had a friend who went to Viet Nam. He said in America, it's always the men chasing women; but, there, it's the opposite: women are always chasing men!
I adapted my motorbike in order to mount a canvas on the back. My paintings sell for good money and it's a muff magnet. Black leathers, motorbike, art. Women are so easy when you have game. But i would never invest. Never.
Sound advice. I found that any ambiguity meant that she wasn’t interested, so if you’re asking yourself if she’s interested or not, she’s not interested. The minute things feel off, move on to the next one. There are plenty of fish in the sea and plenty of down to earth women who won’t mess you about. If you feel slighted, take the hit, your ego will recover, and move on quickly. It’s a sign that pursuit is going to be a waste of time, you wouldn’t stay on a plane at the beginning of a flight if parts of it started falling off, would you? Think long game, there are plenty of good options out there.
Good video. Most people end up becoming pests or creeps to their crushes, because they don't pay attention to what is really going on. If a girl is friendly and polite, it doesn't mean she wants a relationship. Stop bugging her by always being around. You are becoming a draining entity to avoid.
Listening to this is like being in a vice that is slowly clamping down. My young adulthood memories returning. Been with the same person for 30+ years now and you can easily forget how tough it was to be single.
Yup...I’ve experienced them all. Other signs she’s not interested: - She’s not at home after you have driven 25+ miles to pick her up for a date - She never shows up at a place where it was mutually agreed to meet up.
Spudskie "She’s not at home after you have driven 25+ miles to pick her up for a date". Did one of her relatives shout from the other side of the door that she wasn't home ... and the voice sounded suspiciously like her (albeit in a different accent/tone)?
I was in my early 20's hanging with a cute blonde one night and got her number(so I thought), I called her the next day and a guy on the other end answered "Brian's Transmission Shop"...🤣 oh well
For all the times you've talked to her, she has never once addressed you by name. As a loner, this is a tactic I constantly use in a huge workplace. Addressing a person by name breeds familiarity.
22. Automatic destruction of constantly interfering nasty Mother-in-laws...especially my lying manipulative toad of a narc...who once stated I AM NOT INVOLVED IN YOUR DIVORCE..then actively moved house with her beloved boyfriend in order to move everybody in except me and play THE WALTONS...only to lose her boyfriend a week later from a fall from a ladder..total friggin' KARMA.
Is it so hard for people to just be honest and real with each other ? Instead of all the games... Friend zoning a guy is basically leading him on and using him.
I agree. My mom taught me, if it's work it'll only get harder and it won't get any easier. A sincere, honest relationship should not take any effort at all except in hard times. These days, many women are addicted to anger, confusion, and being overly sensitive to everything. Too easily influenced by the media and the internet.
@@veltonmeade1057 I agree. I've had been married to the same woman since the mid 1990s. We have had occasional dust ups, but there is no game playing. We have a simple arrangement, I will take of her, with my $, as long as she takes care of me. No freebies. Apparently, these days when guys ask girls "What do you bring to the table?" A significant number do not understand the question. They think they are royalty, and gracing you with their presence is enough. SMH big time.
Strangely, you just described my ex LoL Guys, avoid any long term relationships with women if you can. The whole list can be summarized in one word: Games. Endless mind games, shit testing and manipulation - this is what awaits men who deal with women.
Just know this men, we live in a time where a lot of these signs will definitely happen at some point. Just don't commit amd be single. If you treat women like celebrities they'll treat you like fans. I'm glad she let us know about these signs though. Just date casually gentlemen. Hypergamy is very very real.
Whoa! “If you treat women like celebrities, they’ll treat you like fans”! Wish I’d said that. Or heard it years ago. What a fantastic way to put it! 👍🏼
@@michaeldominic3183 Well Dominic, I don't disagree per say. I think you should be filled with confidence, but I don't think it's wrong to feel very strongly about someone and think very highly of them. It just means you really like them.
Anna, thanks for helping our brothers. A lot of men do need your advice. I wished I had got this advice, when I needed it many years ago. Now woman have to know, I'm just not into them, once they play games they wonder where I've gone. Anyway Anna, you have a lovely day.
Thank you Anna , you've perfectly described to a T a girl I've been taking to dinner and drinks for a few weeks now, time to cut her loose and move on......
When I find myself in the friend zone, I just lean on my friend for dating advice, sharing screencaps of my interactions with dating prospects, to demonstrate that I'm moving on -- as they evidently would prefer. This strategy is newly-adopted, so its efficacy remains to be determined, but fingers crossed -- if there's any chance -- it will inspire jealousy.
Appreciate the fact that you have understood that how a women should behave, talk and act to stay more attractive. You seem like a strong mind tough lady but adaptating such a soft personality over that is a real success. Wish modern women learn this art but they wont.
Stumbled over this and ended up watching because maybe I can figure out what the guy I like is really thinking; I'll say it's true when we start mentioning another guy that we're interested in, that that's a real clear sign we see you as a friend. Something women are being taught nowadays is "leaning back" and "female energy" so we are so scared of "messing it up/putting the guy off" that we leave our guy to initiate all the conversation and asking out, we suppress our wanting to contact our guy for fear of looking needy. But we do respond if we're interested. Some dating advice says wait at least 4 minutes, some say longer, to avoid looking too eager because that apparently puts men off. Sometimes women don't know what to do either... thanks for hearing me out I know this is a channel for men
Thank you, Thankyou. This was Awesome! 1 year after losing my wife to Cancer, I started seeing one of her good friends who could never find a good relationship with a man. One of my wife's last request was that I would marry her and be happy together with her. I went out with her one or two times and all the signs you mentioned were there. I got smart, and started seeing another women who loved and appreciated me. We married 5 years later and It's been wonderful. I've always felt I never tried hard enough with my late wife's friend, but after this video, I'm now sure I was on a Doomed ship to begin with. Once again...Thankyou
What if she just want to be a friend initially to understand more and then take it to the next level....this is just so common nowadays..... How do we figure this out???? I ignored some like this in the past thinking that they friendzoned me however later came to know that their process of picking the right guy is different.....so you can't ignore every other girl who prefers to be a friend initially 🤪
I would say figure that out by communicating with her. Women that don't rush into relationships and want to have friendships first can be an awesome catch and awesome significant other eventually. I met my wife that way. We started a friendship that lasted about a year before we ever started dating. We didn't see other people either in that time period, but we literally talked to each other everyday or every other day for that entire year just mostly joking, talking about interests, goals, dreams, family, etc. We were both just super busy with work and school and didn't really have time for a relationship, but we kept getting closer and closer and it was like it just became inevitable that we would start dating..
I was seeing a woman n I asked her if she could see herself dating me? She replied with saying your my good friend n no I don’t see you that way, your to valuable to lose. So I thank her for her honesty n said I must then continue my search for that special someone n look into moving away from my city to another city. She text me back saying “dammit see it does change things” I told her for me it changes things but not for you, I can’t be living a lie or think something will happen. She texted me back “ How do you think I feel now” I told her you have no reason to feel sad or hurt, if anyone is sad or hurt it is me n it did sting a little bit hearing the truth but I felt like a weight had been lifted off of me. I had to cut the cord before it got worst then I texted Happy Mother’s Day
I had been in an interesting situation where a girl said she wanted only to be friends but would always talked about me to her exs or current boyfriend at the time. None of her boyfriends liked me. I always heard if girls talk/complain about you to their boyfriends, it's a sign they like you. I asked her out when she was single but she wanted to be friends. She told me I was very cute and all.
I remember over a year ago, I started watching videos. I elaborated on where I was and stuff. A little over a year later, my divorce is pending a hearing, and I went out on my first date since my split. The date was fun and we had a good time, but I got placed in the friendzone. I got told I was a sweet, respectful guy who acted like a gentleman. I was also told she felt no connection with me. But hey, I had the willingness to place my ass out there (a positive). Sometimes gotta screw up to get good at something.
today i ended my friendship with the girl who rejected my once. we became too close to each other and i had hope somethings may change down the road when she gets to know me. but in the end she does not see me in that light so i told her id give up on loving her and i will walk away. i watch this video and you just made me realize that i really didnt have the chance in the first place. thank you mam
@@alexanderdelarosahidalgo3092 i didn't unfriend her on social media but i already unfollowed her. we dont chat anymore. i just want to move on with my life
I prefer the direct approach even though it might hurt at first .... it’s best I never stay friends with someone that has more feelings than friendship be cause it a narcissistic thing to do !treat people the way you want to be treated ... in the long run having someone hanging around for months or years as you bread crumb them along for your own ego isn’t fair ... its a lot worse than just being honest and saying I only am interested in you as a friend.... and NEVER EVER use someone feelings .... taking advantage of someone because your bored ... or need someone to vent to or using someone for money is a very sick narcissistic personality... that is why some people get stalked or worse killed by people they lead on by someone who really was just using them.... it’s bad karma and just not nice or classy to be such a jerk... Don’t use people... be fair be honest be direct!
Cynthia Rothschild, I had a woman do that to me ,acted like she was so into me ...going to her place,, going everywhere together, she was calling me texting me.. all the time,,, told me how much she liked me!!! and then ghosted me out of the blue..... such a let-down found out 5 months later went back to her Ex... the time the effort the money the great times the cooking together being together and just vanished like that ..no explanation gone.. ghosting is like a form of abuse, disrespectful, and a coward.....
When she says "It's not you it's me." You know then and there that it's you. That's when it's time to just walk away. Been there done that. And being called a "Overly Possessive Jerk." Is another reason to walk away "Yep! I know first hand about that,"
George Costanza: "You're giving me the 'it's not you, it's me? I INVENTED 'it's not you, it's me! If it's anybody, it's ME!" "Alright, alright. It's YOU!" :)
I’ve seen plenty of these signs. Whenever I date again, I will be better equipped to see these signs immediately. I won’t stay around too long hoping she will change. I will take her at face value and move on quickly.
Well, I recently was told by a woman that "I'd like to meet you soon---as a friend." It was pretty clear. It's a shame that they don't all it do it like that. Also,annoying are the ones who let you down by saying "I don't it will work between us romanticly, but we can still be friends" when they actually don't want to be friends.
@@cartours5803 Indeed - which is pathetic. A little show of indifference and having a sense of purpose in life, a mission or calling, can work wonders with women.
I've never seen someone say 'she's playing hard to get', myself. The usual logic I see from guys is 'Well, she just wants me to try harder. She wants me to prove myself to her.' Engage simping.
Your list is of very obvious signs when we look back and yet I've repeatedly tried with women who showed many of the signs recently. I guess it takes the type of third party perspective that you've provided for it to really sink in. Thank you.
Keep up the good work, I love that you are doing this for us. You even sound so confident with your content that it could almost be a bible for lost souls.
I was briefly friends with a woman who made it clear from the start she could not marry someone outside her ethno-religious world that her family would object to her marrying anyone else. But despite all this I kept getting mixed signals. She’d text and invite me to hang out with her. We even went to church together. She was fine being seen with me around her friends. She was fine hanging out alone with me. If we went somewhere together she’d take my arm and walk alongside me. We even talked about taking a trip together. But it never went beyond that. I finally felt like I was being strung along because she would reach out to me and want go out somewhere. I ended up distancing myself from her. I couldn’t deal with these constant invitations to hangout and meet up with her friends or just hangout because it wasn’t leading to anything. It was maddening. So Anna, none of these 20 plus signs aligned with this situation. I’d never known or met anyone like this. After all this she had something special that belonged to me and it took forever to get it back. I waited until she returned it and then pulled the plug.
Excellent video Anna !! I have seen all of these signs & yet it takes me so long to clue in . This video is so helpful !! Thanks for your time & insight !!
Thanks Very Much, Anna. You helped me figure something out. I was getting some mixed signals from an Ex. I put my cards on the table and she totally avoided the response. I saw the signs you described so I think I got the picture. I really appreciate all your advice. And your puppy is so cute.
Anna, as usual your discussion points are on the mark. A few observations: 1. most of the indicators are also applicable when we are assessing the level of interest that any person including a potential employer, investor, customer, acquaintance, co-worker, etc. has in taking the relationship any further; 2. the indicators that especially apply to a potential love interest who is avoiding intimacy are: a) she doesn't post pictures of you together on social media; b) she doesn't want to be seen with you in public; and I would add c) she has no interest in showing you off to her friends; 3. agreed that often she is trying to brush you off without hurting your feelings but I would add that often she IS trying to hurt your feelings but without looking like too much of a bitch. She may want to make sure you get the point or she may want to punish you for having the unmitigated chutzpah to keep bothering her when she believes that it is obvious that she is above your class; 4. sometimes especially in light of the contemporary hookup culture, she will do many or all of the negative signs to indicate that she does not want you as a boyfriend, lover, husband because she senses you have serious intentions. BUT she might just want to hook up with you for a no strings attached fling especially if she is holding on to a guy she has long term plans for. Often she is pretty sure the guy will cling to her even if he finds out she cheats on him. This actually happened to me a number of times where a woman I was interested in pushed me away as long as I demonstrated intention for a serious relationship, but when I let go of that, she pursued me to have an affair with. One day I was walking along South St. In Philly an who do I bump into but a chick who had just had a screaming romp at my place a couple of afternoons before. I went right up to her and gave her a big hug before she could take evasive action, made me introduce her to the fiancée, and gave him a firm handshake. You should have seen the look on their faces. Wish I had taken a selfie with the two of them, but there was no Facebook or Instagram back then. Boy was I glad I wasn't in that simps shoes, and he seemed like an otherwise nice guy. Who'd a thunk? By the way, Anna you look particularly alluring in this video.
You’re right, the more keen a guy is for a LTR too soon, the more she’ll question his value. There’s actually a logical reason for this, but I’ll save it for another video. And thanks! :)
Hey there Anna. I can't say for certain but I think some of your positive and sensible advice has helped me realise what I already have . Talking about problems we appear to have and then getting our mortality shoved in our faces has brought out communication empathy and showing of affection I thought was lost. It helps to remind myself that I'm not the only one she loves ... grandkids etc...and that we both are quite similar in many ways. Best Wishes always from Jeff the Stubborn Australian
Thanks Anna. My "friend" stated at one time to me that we should go to dinner and movie together and I obliged at a later time asking her out. She said she had to work which is true and she asked for a rain check. Just 2 weeks ago I asked her if she wants to cash in her rain check and she responded yes but since no movement. I'm not going to chase her again on this, the ball is in her court.
Aussie Taipan dude, the yes was putting the ball back in your court and her wanting you to make a move to actually make it happen! Sounds like the ball was dropped...
I had a female friend who I only thought of as a friend. She's pretty but I never thought of her that way. I went out of state to college occasionally talked to her but about 3 years later she would text and it was always abt relationships. Turns out she thought she had me in the friend zone and thought I would date her when she "was ready" for it. Nope, never did and haven't heard from her since. This was also b4 third wave feminism infested society and was normal to have female friends. Unfortunately now, me just being friendly to women leads to them jumping to the conclusion that I want to get into their pants. Naw, just trying to be nice and polite. I'm sooo sick and tired of being viewed as some type of sexually depressed monster. Plus in order to date these women I would have lower my standards so far that I'd have to get a shovel and dig 15 meters down.
Yeh, it's really a no-win situation. You're nice to them, they think you're trying to get 'em. You keep your distance, you're a stuck up snob, or worse!
I dated a lady who initiated conversation with me and enthusiastically gave all the vibes...on the second over dinner she told me she wasn't ready for a relationship and wanted to hang out...I was taken aback and quickly told her that the friendzone would not work for me, that I have quite enough friends already and wished her well in life at the end of the evening...I think she was a but shocked by my response, but I was annoyed by her mixed messaging and the fact that she assumed that she could have this kind of friendship with me without regard to my wants and needs...anyway her loss...it's always good to keep the power...I can only assume that there are weak men out there who would have acquiesced and therefore give women the impression that it's ok to be so unthinking... cheers
Hi Anna!! Great videos. Whenever I pick up my girlfriend for a date, I always wear speedos. My girlfriend always compliments me on my style; however, after watching your videos I am now beginning to wonder if she is being honest. Lat week, when I picked her up to go to the movies in my best neon speedos, she seemed a bit uncomfortable. While we were waiting on line to purchase our tickets, she kept pretending that we weren't together. Throughout the movie she kept signaling to people that she didn't know me. Anna, do you think she really likes when I wear speedos on our dates or was she just pretending? Please respond immediately as I am going to wear speedos when I meet her family. Before your videos, I was too shy to wear speedos. Your videos have really changed my life.
Hi Anne …. You are pretty much spot on with all that you say; which here and there you nuance nicely. To sum up: if a Wonan wants you, you will find everything you do, say or suggest easy. If a Woman does not want you , you will find everything you do say or suggest subject to varying degrees of difficulty.
Just walk away. Any one of these signs just walk away. If she calls maybe talk with her; you decide. Since you're not a priority she shouldn't be for you.
Allan Santiago: Talk to her like anyone else if you're interested in what she is saying, but if someone is wasting your time where you are an emotional tampon and there is no reciprocation then hang up the phone.
Key thing here is the summatory of points. I can relate to some girls that may have some of this behaviors but they were/are interested in something else.
I'm glad that she's my ex and not just a friend. She claims that she doesn't like me anymore and avoids me in public, but when we are alone she she shows sooo much interest and even blushes and smiles sometimes when i interact with her. She texts me in the middle of the night about 3 times a week and we always talk so long until she falls asleep. The fact that she is my ex proves that i was good enough for her(so good that she said she doesn't deserve me) until the problems appeared (me being to worried, clingy and relationship focused and annoying...) Now i'll do my best to be one she fell in love with in the first place, to win her back.
2:46 correct, this girl as we speak right now is continuing the conversation, throwing in things to keep it going, like 2-3 different topics at a time to HOLD MY INTEREST. Your videos have made me understand her well, i can't get in to details, but she is seriously opening up on personal things about her to me. Without saying too much, like her cycle. last week she said something, now today in a vnote how it ended was clearly that she is on her cycle and what she said last week was the PMS, she even said what she said last week was her PMS. This is after confirming with her this morning the time for the 1-on-1 date in the week that she initiated, which is prior to a outing i initiated which is still 2 weeks away.
I'd NEVER declare my feelings to someone who I didn't KNOW felt, at least partially, the same way about me. That can destroy a friendship, immediately, so Im not sure that "manning-up" is the thing to do.
It isn't. Women like to know because it gives them there and then the power over you. That is the worst advice. If she is playing games just call it quits she isn't worth it.
Ms. Wing, err, no. Ms. Mam, Oh Definitely no! Hey there. :) You are SO singing my song. I spent a very long time going after the ones I was interested in before I figured out that, for whatever reason, I kept trying to get together with girls who were always too busy to see me. Finally I got it through my thick skull this was not a good plan. Now I put the effort into a relationships what women are willing to return. There are the ones who only have time for me as a friend and I treat them the same. There are those who are really into me and I treat them like that in return. Basically I use the MAD option. No not Mutually Assured Destruction. The other one. Mutual Attraction Desired.
Oh boy, I believe I've seen just about all these signs. What a like about your series is that you, a woman, are explaining these things. Its helped me understand a lot.
To answer your first question, "no" but then I am an American. I have a hard and fast rule "never take dating advice from a woman." Women over analyze and overly complicate everything. And I am just here to leave a comment, so maybe another guy will get a "heads up" and do what is right.
Guys, the first time you make a physical move to show your romantic affections and she pulls away, for the sake of your own self-esteem, wrap it all up as quickly as possible and get the hell out of there. . Women use men and feel justified in doing so.
Put it this way: To be completely honest, no woman I've ever been with has been a keeper. At some point, they drop the hint I'm only a friend, so I head back to my second home, the Friend Zone. Funny thing is, I know I'm not attractive. I know that I lack a lot of relationship skills other guys have. And lastly, I know that I lack confidence. Point is, while I'm glad that these videos exist, I can't help but feel slightly depressed, as these videos confirmed what I knew all along: Because I'm not in the top 5% of the dating pool, I'm not wanted. I'm not attractive. Hell, I probably couldn't get a hook-up date if I tried. Yet the irony is, all I hear is, "You're a good man. You're a good guy. There's somebody out there for everybody, you'll find them eventually." Uh huh, sure....yeah, right. And the crappiest part? Living in a small town where all the decent women have been taken and/or married, and all guys like me get left with are the narcissistic, manipulative pyschotic crazy trashy women. Women I wouldn't touch with a 25' pole if I was the last man on Earth. Point is, this video confirms everything I've ever told my mom: Sorry, but you're getting no grandkids from me, because no woman sees the value in me. I already know that I'm going to live my life alone, and that I'm going to die alone. And sure...maybe that's for the best. But at some point, even the unluckiest among us still want to feel we're desired, like we're still wanted. Because we're human too. And because we're human, we like to feel that someone outside of the Friend Zone and the Family Zone actually would like us as much as we might like them. Because it gets damned depressing knowing that you weren't hardly ever successful in dating when things were good, let alone having absolutely 0 success when things turned into utter pig crap. I just fail to understand how the vast majority of women could have turned out to be such crappy people in my lifetime -- and no amount of analysis, no amount of examination, will ever tell me where the hell society went wrong. Because I thought women were smarter people than that. But who knows...maybe the Teacher in Eccliastes was right: That life itself is meaningless. If that's the case, what's the point to making these videos? You might as well make videos trying to prevent suicide.
Sounds like you’ve had a bad experience. That sucks! 😞 Big hug! I think you might benefit from my WakeUP2Luv program... curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
@Isiah Welch Im living something very similar. Thinking about the heartbreak caused by fear of rejection & shyness is still very devistating for me. She is gone 4ever & she will never know. ❤️. The pain never leaves
A great video, Anna of being in the freind zone. I know what it's like to be in the friendly zone, and as you have commented on, 20 reasons why, I had to walk away. I couldn't remain just a friend, I wasn't going to keep hurting myself, now I have got over her, and I stay right away from her. I don't want to be in her presence. It was originally hard, but I feel much so much in making that decision, by moving on. Thankyou another very informative video. David
I usually wait for the woman to make the first move and ask me out. That's why I haven't had a date in 20 years.
...yea THAT'S why=)
Lol
I don't chase either. She just asks me if she can do laundry over at my place.
You did well, trust me.
Lol I had to pause the video to read your comment and personally I can relate.. you have to change your mind set or you will grow old alone my friend. Time does not wait for any one and you have to learn to make the first move or you will lose out on opportunities and then you’ll ask your self “what’s wrong with me, Why can’t I find anyone, Did the good Lord fuck me over in this life.. I am drunk but from personal experience I created my own misery by being shy and hoping one day that one beautiful girl would ask me out but at the age of 29 I now realize I have to go for it or I’ll never have it. It’s true when they say a closed mouth never gets fed.. ps always have good body poster and never show signs of doubt women can see it and since it instantly and then you’re in the friend zone
The only 2 we really need to know..
1: if a woman likes you she will let you know.
2: if she is that interested she won't be that difficult.
Totally
She's not that into me...thank god ...the money I can now save!!!
Halarious man!!! You got that right!
Hahahahahahahaaaa :D :D :D
Reject me please.
I have the same thinking about it to just the amount of money I save by not being with a women, the headaches and migraines I get it's to much to bear it.
ShaveCave: Yes this is the only time when the thrill is in The Chase ...when you decide it's time to stop chasing and chase the next one !
You don'y have to spend a dime.
Biggest friend zone move, they ask you to help them work on their house or car. Always a bad sign, you think your being helpful, in the end your just being used.
Very true statement, almost got caught in that once but a wiseguy filled me in on this/ so true...
Had both from different women. Also about to block the number of one who thinks she's grooming me for a friendzone. Seems to find me useful to drive her to the next town to shop and help her move house. After her first visit to my place, I kissed her for goodbye and she ghosted me for 3 weeks til she had use for me again. 3 big excuses: so tired from work, only 1 day off a week, couldn't answer cos no ph credit. Says she'll visit but don't come- and no message to call off either, just ghosts me. Happened today again so blocking and deleting her number tonight
@starkeymorgan7481 waiting for a text from her.
Been there & done that!
Being single is looking more like a blessing than a curse.
Just wondering how the dynamics of dating will now change in the "Covid-19 Age" we are living in.
MGTOW and Red Pill is the way brotha.
Being single is great because you can talk and firt with other woman
It is
‘Twas never a curse my friend.
I find it extremely offensive that women see "testing you" as a legitimate way of forming relationships... 😒
They want to see if they can bring you around other people and you are not quick to anger or depressed easily.
@@thomasgallegos2832 Thomas, I'm not a dog ... 🙄😂
She won’t shit test Chad or a rich guy, instead will make things very easy for him to bang
@@MrDontfeedthematrix .... exactly ... & that shows the hypocracy of women, these "tests" are to find a malleable & easy-going guy they can exploit... its that simple. 😒
Peter Fitspatrick : It's actually called "shit testing" you. They shit all over you and if you lay there and eat it then she knows you're her mark.
Friendzone equals walk out on her. Ive had girls who wanna talk and want to be an undesired friend. But don't want to date. So....I just quit answering their texts and calls. Screw them. Friendzone is a slap in the face.
Agree!
That’s the trouble they don’t want to be screwed she just wants to screw you over 🤷🏼♂️
Exactly
They do want to be a desired friend, they just don't desire you. If you dont desire her, you have no motivation to be in that friendzone.
Yes
I guess dying alone ain't all that bad after-all.
We all dying alone. Nobody can do this for us
Yeah
replace alone with peacefully
@@sylvesterwoodest5358 Yes finally someone gets it. We come in alone and most of the time we leave alone
This person described here isn’t even a friend
Came to say the same thing... that's just not "friend zone", it's just her being an asshole
women who say they want to be friends have zero intention of actually being friends.
@@swhorne that's the excuse they use to get you to politely go the fk away, they're just making it easy on themselves, like always
Bitches are assholes !
@@swhorne you're absolutely right, when they say we should just be friends, or we should remain just friends , it's just an excuse for them, to explore their other options and date other men .They use you as their male tampon and put us on the back burner, when something breaks we can fix it ,or if they want a meal they have you on their speed dial.. I dated one exactly what she was talkin about all above....
she isnt interested in you? what a relief
More money in your wallet.........
lol,,great comment.
I was dating a girl that defines every sign in this video LOL. Friend Zoned! Once I realized that I was in this position, I just walked away and stopped paying attention to her. After a while she started messaging me again. But now I just stop wasting my time with her. Been stood up one too many times. No more. So, the friend zone has arrived at last...
Well, the friend zone can kiss my ass! XOXO
By walking away she saw you as and alpha male
@@alexanderdelarosahidalgo3092 Yeah, I think so. The funny thing is, she ended up marrying a dumb jerk who doesn't treat her as well as she thought he would and now she's miserable. For me this one small victory was worth being thrown in the friend zone. Now days I just sit back and laugh... and she knows it haha :)
Well done bro, you the man.
i wish i could be like that with 2 people in a row last week that wanted to only be friends! that it was like that! XD so i could just forget them and think like you did like the "kiss my ass!!" thing XD
The restraining order says NO
But the look in her eyes says yes
Adam East, sounds like she's just baiting you ,,,ready for the kill ... you'll see how that restraining order works then, stay away ,,,there's three and a half billion women on this planet, they're everywhere move on. That's harsh to put a restraining order on, my neighbor did that to her husband and he wasn't that bad of a guy at all she did it for spite screw them..
Lmao
Rejection is protection. Learn the move on. Stay positive.
I know women who fit everyone of these 20 items you've listed word for word. When I was young & stupid I fell for all of these again & again cause I liked certain girls so much but now at 46 years old I'm like ask her out once, if she says yes, great if not move on to another girl. You don't need to unfriend her off facebook, just unfollow her and quit giving a damn about anything she doe's cause that's how she feels about you...
best comment here
And two years later when she gets dumped HARD, she'll call you but won't leave a message. That is her way of saying she is interested and now she is available. lol.
@@veltonmeade1057 At 46 you are also at disadvantage compare to younger guys.
__a not really. I seen guys in their 40s pull women like it’s nothing
@@__a6290 not true. At that age you are the prize as you SMV is high. Read the Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi.
Social media and dating apps made men disposable to women. They have hundreds of options. Never spend a lot of $$ on dates until u get intimate. A cup of coffee is most u need to invest on 1st date.
Absolutely true
Don't wast your time being friends with women
100%
@craig lofton This is not true at all. For every 100 girls born, 105 boys are born.
@@byteresistor wrong, they outnumber us by a large percentage.
She needs to prove to me that i need to be interested in her, i am the prize!
If she likes you she will make the effort plain and simple.
Yep
@@SpinDoctor91 Yeh, I had a friend who went to Viet Nam. He said in America, it's always the men chasing women; but, there, it's the opposite: women are always chasing men!
@@phlushphish793 I heard people say it's different overseas then some say it's the same. I'm sure it's probably better in many ways lol
@@SpinDoctor91 O definitely! Today in America women just seem out to entrap men!
Ah! This is SO painful to watch but it is totally the truth. So honest!
Better to know than to hope :( thanks for watching! :)
Amechi Amanugi I'm definately with you on the painful bit. I guess I'm only here cos I thought I might be in pain.
@@YourWingmam love
I adapted my motorbike in order to mount a canvas on the back. My paintings sell for good money and it's a muff magnet. Black leathers, motorbike, art. Women are so easy when you have game. But i would never invest. Never.
@@louisabridge .....The stupid ones are easy. Most are stupid.
Sound advice. I found that any ambiguity meant that she wasn’t interested, so if you’re asking yourself if she’s interested or not, she’s not interested. The minute things feel off, move on to the next one. There are plenty of fish in the sea and plenty of down to earth women who won’t mess you about. If you feel slighted, take the hit, your ego will recover, and move on quickly. It’s a sign that pursuit is going to be a waste of time, you wouldn’t stay on a plane at the beginning of a flight if parts of it started falling off, would you? Think long game, there are plenty of good options out there.
Good video. Most people end up becoming pests or creeps to their crushes, because they don't pay attention to what is really going on. If a girl is friendly and polite, it doesn't mean she wants a relationship. Stop bugging her by always being around. You are becoming a draining entity to avoid.
"If people don't make an effort to be in your life don't try so hard to be in theirs. It's not worth it."
- Quote from Buddha YT video
Listening to this is like being in a vice that is slowly clamping down. My young adulthood memories returning. Been with the same person for 30+ years now and you can easily forget how tough it was to be single.
Dang well said.
Yup...I’ve experienced them all.
Other signs she’s not interested:
- She’s not at home after you have driven 25+ miles to pick her up for a date
- She never shows up at a place where it was mutually agreed to meet up.
That hurts !! Lol !! Yeah if she isn't home !!
Spudskie "She’s not at home after you have driven 25+ miles to pick her up for a date". Did one of her relatives shout from the other side of the door that she wasn't home ... and the voice sounded suspiciously like her (albeit in a different accent/tone)?
I was in my early 20's hanging with a cute blonde one night and got her number(so I thought), I called her the next day and a guy on the other end answered "Brian's Transmission Shop"...🤣 oh well
LMAO.
For all the times you've talked to her, she has never once addressed you by name.
As a loner, this is a tactic I constantly use in a huge workplace. Addressing a person by name breeds familiarity.
If she's not into you move on, or be a simp an be used for financial reasons.
😂😂😂😂😂
When a woman talks about other guys in detail, that's a sure sign you're just their for her benefit. Be somewhere else.
If I'm on a date and the woman starts "talking about other guys in detail", I get up and leave, with her sitting there wondering what happened.
21. Restraining orders.
Lol #truestory ;)
@@YourWingmam You'd be surprised how many guys miss this little hint. 😄
Again, true (slap to forehead)!
Oh man, I burst out laughing when I read your "21".
22. Automatic destruction of constantly interfering nasty Mother-in-laws...especially my lying manipulative toad of a narc...who once stated I AM NOT INVOLVED IN YOUR DIVORCE..then actively moved house with her beloved boyfriend in order to move everybody in except me and play THE WALTONS...only to lose her boyfriend a week later from a fall from a ladder..total friggin' KARMA.
In my single days, this advice would have saved me a lot of grief 🙂 Listen up gentlemen.
....and you will be single again, honey=)
@@roserevancroix2308 :Single to mingle , and hear that cash jingle !
Is it so hard for people to just be honest and real with each other ? Instead of all the games... Friend zoning a guy is basically leading him on and using him.
Honestly it just all sounds like so much work.
Dealing with women is a lot of work.
You're better off staying single.
Life is easier that way.
I agree. My mom taught me, if it's work it'll only get harder and it won't get any easier. A sincere, honest relationship should not take any effort at all except in hard times. These days, many women are addicted to anger, confusion, and being overly sensitive to everything. Too easily influenced by the media and the internet.
@@veltonmeade1057 I agree. I've had been married to the same woman since the mid 1990s. We have had occasional dust ups, but there is no game playing. We have a simple arrangement, I will take of her, with my $, as long as she takes care of me. No freebies. Apparently, these days when guys ask girls "What do you bring to the table?" A significant number do not understand the question. They think they are royalty, and gracing you with their presence is enough. SMH big time.
After the honeymoon is over you will end up just being her friend anyway.
If you're lucky!
That's why you don't have a honeymoon.
According to this I'm the ultimate friend. Yay!
😂😂😂
Strangely, you just described my ex LoL
Guys, avoid any long term relationships with women if you can.
The whole list can be summarized in one word: Games.
Endless mind games, shit testing and manipulation - this is what awaits men who deal with women.
Guess what, guys do exactly same things 😁
@@beautifulstranger5628 No they dont shutup.
Just know this men, we live in a time where a lot of these signs will definitely happen at some point. Just don't commit amd be single. If you treat women like celebrities they'll treat you like fans. I'm glad she let us know about these signs though. Just date casually gentlemen. Hypergamy is very very real.
"If you treat women like celebrities they'll treat you like fans". What an AWEsome statement! There's a mountain of wisdom in this comment. Bravo!
Whoa! “If you treat women like celebrities, they’ll treat you like fans”! Wish I’d said that. Or heard it years ago. What a fantastic way to put it! 👍🏼
@@michaeldominic3183 He took it from Morgan Freeman. I disagree with the statement as well.
@@DominikSobolewski Okay. Why do you disagree with the statement though.
@@michaeldominic3183 Well Dominic, I don't disagree per say. I think you should be filled with confidence, but I don't think it's wrong to feel very strongly about someone and think very highly of them. It just means you really like them.
Apparently I’ve never had a girl Interested in me, this is troubling news. Oh well, back to Hooters...
Hooters is no longer in the city where I live. Then again, with CV-19, who is open?
Get back to that money young buck
Strip club or a broth is better.
Slap on that Hawaiian dress shirt.
Sad to admit it but Anna is spot on. I've also experienced most of these in my last few years of dating. Live and learn, I suppose.
I'm 35... Every woman I've wanted to be with has done this...
Aim lower
that really sucks man
Trust me you are more fortunate then you know.
If it's every woman it's something that you are doing
You will find your type
Anna, thanks for helping our brothers. A lot of men do need your advice. I wished I had got this advice, when I needed it many years ago.
Now woman have to know, I'm just not into them, once they play games they wonder where I've gone.
Anyway Anna, you have a lovely day.
When she's switching her phone off weekends ! That's a massive red flag
Lion 🦁 your mo___ fuc___ right, many of times it was done to me. When i asked some said I was sensitive hah what baloney.
Every woman i've been interested in is all of these..... Oh well. More money in my wallet for my hobbies!!!!!
Thank you Anna , you've perfectly described to a T a girl I've been taking to dinner and drinks for a few weeks now, time to cut her loose and move on......
...a few weeks? =) r u slow?? hehe....boys;)
If she ends a text with “you take care”
It’s more like get outta here !!
When I find myself in the friend zone, I just lean on my friend for dating advice, sharing screencaps of my interactions with dating prospects, to demonstrate that I'm moving on -- as they evidently would prefer.
This strategy is newly-adopted, so its efficacy remains to be determined, but fingers crossed -- if there's any chance -- it will inspire jealousy.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
22 She starts growing a beard.
you described ever women I ever met . INCLUDING MOM
Anna is da bomb.......she tells men the truth which helps to mitigate on disappointments.
Appreciate the fact that you have understood that how a women should behave, talk and act to stay more attractive. You seem like a strong mind tough lady but adaptating such a soft personality over that is a real success. Wish modern women learn this art but they wont.
Thank you, I wish they would too! :)
Stumbled over this and ended up watching because maybe I can figure out what the guy I like is really thinking; I'll say it's true when we start mentioning another guy that we're interested in, that that's a real clear sign we see you as a friend. Something women are being taught nowadays is "leaning back" and "female energy" so we are so scared of "messing it up/putting the guy off" that we leave our guy to initiate all the conversation and asking out, we suppress our wanting to contact our guy for fear of looking needy. But we do respond if we're interested. Some dating advice says wait at least 4 minutes, some say longer, to avoid looking too eager because that apparently puts men off. Sometimes women don't know what to do either... thanks for hearing me out I know this is a channel for men
I wonder if there's two friendzones. One for sibling-like friends. One for possible lovers if they fix some red flags. 🤔
OMG! And I thought chess was complicated!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lmfao
The rules of chess are static and predictable.
Thank you, Thankyou. This was Awesome! 1 year after losing my wife to Cancer, I started seeing one of her good friends who could never find a good relationship with a man. One of my wife's last request was that I would marry her and be happy together with her. I went out with her one or two times and all the signs you mentioned were there. I got smart, and started seeing another women who loved and appreciated me. We married 5 years later and It's been wonderful. I've always felt I never tried hard enough with my late wife's friend, but after this video, I'm now sure I was on a Doomed ship to begin with. Once again...Thankyou
Oh yes … and one other thing I have learned: A relationship is defined by the person who cares the least.
Thank you for sharing your experience! I appreciate that ❤️
Exactly!!!! The less one cares, the more it's one's frame.
1938 Waller's principle of least interest. Sociology has studied this.
George Costanza described it as having "hand' in a relationship. Sadly, he came to need that hand after a while.
What if she just want to be a friend initially to understand more and then take it to the next level....this is just so common nowadays..... How do we figure this out???? I ignored some like this in the past thinking that they friendzoned me however later came to know that their process of picking the right guy is different.....so you can't ignore every other girl who prefers to be a friend initially 🤪
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
I would say figure that out by communicating with her. Women that don't rush into relationships and want to have friendships first can be an awesome catch and awesome significant other eventually. I met my wife that way. We started a friendship that lasted about a year before we ever started dating. We didn't see other people either in that time period, but we literally talked to each other everyday or every other day for that entire year just mostly joking, talking about interests, goals, dreams, family, etc. We were both just super busy with work and school and didn't really have time for a relationship, but we kept getting closer and closer and it was like it just became inevitable that we would start dating..
I was seeing a woman n I asked her if she could see herself dating me? She replied with saying your my good friend n no I don’t see you that way, your to valuable to lose. So I thank her for her honesty n said I must then continue my search for that special someone n look into moving away from my city to another city. She text me back saying “dammit see it does change things”
I told her for me it changes things but not for you, I can’t be living a lie or think something will happen. She texted me back “ How do you think I feel now” I told her you have no reason to feel sad or hurt, if anyone is sad or hurt it is me n it did sting a little bit hearing the truth but I felt like a weight had been lifted off of me. I had to cut the cord before it got worst then I texted Happy Mother’s Day
The comments on this channel are very entertaining lol!
I had been in an interesting situation where a girl said she wanted only to be friends but would always talked about me to her exs or current boyfriend at the time. None of her boyfriends liked me. I always heard if girls talk/complain about you to their boyfriends, it's a sign they like you. I asked her out when she was single but she wanted to be friends. She told me I was very cute and all.
I remember over a year ago, I started watching videos. I elaborated on where I was and stuff. A little over a year later, my divorce is pending a hearing, and I went out on my first date since my split. The date was fun and we had a good time, but I got placed in the friendzone. I got told I was a sweet, respectful guy who acted like a gentleman. I was also told she felt no connection with me. But hey, I had the willingness to place my ass out there (a positive). Sometimes gotta screw up to get good at something.
Maybe you are just a nice guy...
today i ended my friendship with the girl who rejected my once. we became too close to each other and i had hope somethings may change down the road when she gets to know me. but in the end she does not see me in that light so i told her id give up on loving her and i will walk away. i watch this video and you just made me realize that i really didnt have the chance in the first place. thank you mam
Dont call her and unfollow her on social media. And shell see you as and alpha male
@@alexanderdelarosahidalgo3092 i didn't unfriend her on social media but i already unfollowed her. we dont chat anymore. i just want to move on with my life
"My Mother refused to breast feed me as a baby. She said she liked me as far as a friend but that's as far as she was going to go." Rodney Dangerfield
😂
I think it was actually"I was never breast fed because my mother said she just wanted to be friends"...from how I remember..
You too eh Rodney ? RIP
"I was breast fed by my father" .. Rodney Dangerfield
I have watched almost all of your videos and id like to say thank you, ive gained confidence in myself and my future in dating.
Thank you so much! Glad you're here! :))
Me to.
I prefer the direct approach even though it might hurt at first .... it’s best I never stay friends with someone that has more feelings than friendship be cause it a narcissistic thing to do !treat people the way you want to be treated ... in the long run having someone hanging around for months or years as you bread crumb them along for your own ego isn’t fair ... its a lot worse than just being honest and saying I only am interested in you as a friend.... and NEVER EVER use someone feelings .... taking advantage of someone because your bored ... or need someone to vent to or using someone for money is a very sick narcissistic personality... that is why some people get stalked or worse killed by people they lead on by someone who really was just using them.... it’s bad karma and just not nice or classy to be such a jerk... Don’t use people... be fair be honest be direct!
Cynthia Rothschild, I had a woman do that to me ,acted like she was so into me ...going to her place,, going everywhere together, she was calling me texting me.. all the time,,, told me how much she liked me!!! and then ghosted me out of the blue..... such a let-down found out 5 months later went back to her Ex... the time the effort the money the great times the cooking together being together and just vanished like that ..no explanation gone.. ghosting is like a form of abuse, disrespectful, and a coward.....
When she says "It's not you it's me." You know then and there that it's you. That's when it's time to just walk away. Been there done that. And being called a "Overly Possessive Jerk." Is another reason to walk away "Yep! I know first hand about that,"
George Costanza: "You're giving me the 'it's not you, it's me? I INVENTED 'it's not you, it's me! If it's anybody, it's ME!" "Alright, alright. It's YOU!" :)
Thanks for the insight. You forgot to mention that the subtle hint of a restraining order is concrete evidence that she's really not interested. :-)
I’ve seen plenty of these signs. Whenever I date again, I will be better equipped to see these signs immediately. I won’t stay around too long hoping she will change. I will take her at face value and move on quickly.
Good call! :))
WingmamTV you’re doing the Lord’s work! Much appreciated!
Well, I recently was told by a woman that "I'd like to meet you soon---as a friend." It was pretty clear. It's a shame that they don't all it do it like that.
Also,annoying are the ones who let you down by saying "I don't it will work between us romanticly, but we can still be friends" when they actually don't want to be friends.
Opinunate ted it’s a cheap way to let a guy down. Fact is they don’t want to be your friendZ. They don’t want anything to do with you.
Opinunate ted or it’s a shit test
No.4 is absolutely spot on !!!! All of these are also. But no.4 is as honest and true as you can possibly get .
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
@@YourWingmam thank you for all that you do for stupid guys that have no clue.
I can guarantee you that some guys experiencing ALL 20 of these will still bone headedly say; "She's just playing hard to get" !!
Some men will play along with it because they struggle to get attention from women and see this as better than nothing.
@@cartours5803 Indeed - which is pathetic. A little show of indifference and having a sense of purpose in life, a mission or calling, can work wonders with women.
I've never seen someone say 'she's playing hard to get', myself. The usual logic I see from guys is 'Well, she just wants me to try harder. She wants me to prove myself to her.'
Engage simping.
If someone was doing some of these things are they even a friend?
Nope. Means they're a back up plan. Women can never have enough of those.
I used to have a " three strikes" rule! Now, I don't wait that long!! If I hear " friend" or the old , "I'm like a brother", I'm gone!!!
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate that ❤
Your list is of very obvious signs when we look back and yet I've repeatedly tried with women who showed many of the signs recently. I guess it takes the type of third party perspective that you've provided for it to really sink in. Thank you.
Keep up the good work, I love that you are doing this for us. You even sound so confident with your content that it could almost be a bible for lost souls.
I was briefly friends with a woman who made it clear from the start she could not marry someone outside her ethno-religious world that her family would object to her marrying anyone else. But despite all this I kept getting mixed signals. She’d text and invite me to hang out with her. We even went to church together. She was fine being seen with me around her friends. She was fine hanging out alone with me. If we went somewhere together she’d take my arm and walk alongside me. We even talked about taking a trip together. But it never went beyond that. I finally felt like I was being strung along because she would reach out to me and want go out somewhere. I ended up distancing myself from her. I couldn’t deal with these constant invitations to hangout and meet up with her friends or just hangout because it wasn’t leading to anything. It was maddening.
So Anna, none of these 20 plus signs aligned with this situation. I’d never known or met anyone like this. After all this she had something special that belonged to me and it took forever to get it back. I waited until she returned it and then pulled the plug.
Dude.... she made it CLEAR from the start.
Excellent video Anna !! I have seen all of these signs & yet it takes me so long to clue in . This video is so helpful !! Thanks for your time & insight !!
Thank you for this video. This has explained away over four years of abuse and being used.
2.5 years for me. Bad part is that she would have been worth it I think.
Thanks Very Much, Anna. You helped me figure something out. I was getting some mixed signals from an Ex. I put my cards on the table and she totally avoided the response. I saw the signs you described so I think I got the picture. I really appreciate all your advice. And your puppy is so cute.
Sounds like not interested in even being a friend. At least what I think a friend is. Love your content. Thank you
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Anna, as usual your discussion points are on the mark. A few observations: 1. most of the indicators are also applicable when we are assessing the level of interest that any person including a potential employer, investor, customer, acquaintance, co-worker, etc. has in taking the relationship any further; 2. the indicators that especially apply to a potential love interest who is avoiding intimacy are: a) she doesn't post pictures of you together on social media; b) she doesn't want to be seen with you in public; and I would add c) she has no interest in showing you off to her friends; 3. agreed that often she is trying to brush you off without hurting your feelings but I would add that often she IS trying to hurt your feelings but without looking like too much of a bitch. She may want to make sure you get the point or she may want to punish you for having the unmitigated chutzpah to keep bothering her when she believes that it is obvious that she is above your class; 4. sometimes especially in light of the contemporary hookup culture, she will do many or all of the negative signs to indicate that she does not want you as a boyfriend, lover, husband because she senses you have serious intentions. BUT she might just want to hook up with you for a no strings attached fling especially if she is holding on to a guy she has long term plans for. Often she is pretty sure the guy will cling to her even if he finds out she cheats on him. This actually happened to me a number of times where a woman I was interested in pushed me away as long as I demonstrated intention for a serious relationship, but when I let go of that, she pursued me to have an affair with. One day I was walking along South St. In Philly an who do I bump into but a chick who had just had a screaming romp at my place a couple of afternoons before. I went right up to her and gave her a big hug before she could take evasive action, made me introduce her to the fiancée, and gave him a firm handshake. You should have seen the look on their faces. Wish I had taken a selfie with the two of them, but there was no Facebook or Instagram back then. Boy was I glad I wasn't in that simps shoes, and he seemed like an otherwise nice guy. Who'd a thunk? By the way, Anna you look particularly alluring in this video.
You’re right, the more keen a guy is for a LTR too soon, the more she’ll question his value. There’s actually a logical reason for this, but I’ll save it for another video. And thanks! :)
@@YourWingmam this is exactly why i start things casually
She's doing everything you mentioned wow. Dating in the 21st century is a tough cookie. Sending you a 1000 miles to fetch water is so much easier🤦🏾♂️
Hey there Anna. I can't say for certain but I think some of your positive and sensible advice has helped me realise what I already have . Talking about problems we appear to have and then getting our mortality shoved in our faces has brought out communication empathy and showing of affection I thought was lost. It helps to remind myself that I'm not the only one she loves ... grandkids etc...and that we both are quite similar in many ways. Best Wishes always from Jeff the Stubborn Australian
Thanks Anna. My "friend" stated at one time to me that we should go to dinner and movie together and I obliged at a later time asking her out. She said she had to work which is true and she asked for a rain check. Just 2 weeks ago I asked her if she wants to cash in her rain check and she responded yes but since no movement. I'm not going to chase her again on this, the ball is in her court.
Aussie Taipan dude, the yes was putting the ball back in your court and her wanting you to make a move to actually make it happen! Sounds like the ball was dropped...
I had a female friend who I only thought of as a friend. She's pretty but I never thought of her that way. I went out of state to college occasionally talked to her but about 3 years later she would text and it was always abt relationships. Turns out she thought she had me in the friend zone and thought I would date her when she "was ready" for it. Nope, never did and haven't heard from her since. This was also b4 third wave feminism infested society and was normal to have female friends. Unfortunately now, me just being friendly to women leads to them jumping to the conclusion that I want to get into their pants. Naw, just trying to be nice and polite. I'm sooo sick and tired of being viewed as some type of sexually depressed monster. Plus in order to date these women I would have lower my standards so far that I'd have to get a shovel and dig 15 meters down.
Yeh, it's really a no-win situation. You're nice to them, they think you're trying to get 'em. You keep your distance, you're a stuck up snob, or worse!
I dated a lady who initiated conversation with me and enthusiastically gave all the vibes...on the second over dinner she told me she wasn't ready for a relationship and wanted to hang out...I was taken aback and quickly told her that the friendzone would not work for me, that I have quite enough friends already and wished her well in life at the end of the evening...I think she was a but shocked by my response, but I was annoyed by her mixed messaging and the fact that she assumed that she could have this kind of friendship with me without regard to my wants and needs...anyway her loss...it's always good to keep the power...I can only assume that there are weak men out there who would have acquiesced and therefore give women the impression that it's ok to be so unthinking... cheers
Good for you!
Hi Anna!! Great videos. Whenever I pick up my girlfriend for a date, I always wear speedos. My girlfriend always compliments me on my style; however, after watching your videos I am now beginning to wonder if she is being honest. Lat week, when I picked her up to go to the movies in my best neon speedos, she seemed a bit uncomfortable. While we were waiting on line to purchase our tickets, she kept pretending that we weren't together. Throughout the movie she kept signaling to people that she didn't know me. Anna, do you think she really likes when I wear speedos on our dates or was she just pretending? Please respond immediately as I am going to wear speedos when I meet her family. Before your videos, I was too shy to wear speedos. Your videos have really changed my life.
Hi Anne …. You are pretty much spot on with all that you say; which here and there you nuance nicely. To sum up: if a Wonan wants you, you will find everything you do, say or suggest easy. If a Woman does not want you , you will find everything you do say or suggest subject to varying degrees of difficulty.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Just walk away. Any one of these signs just walk away. If she calls maybe talk with her; you decide. Since you're not a priority she shouldn't be for you.
Allan Santiago: Talk to her like anyone else if you're interested in what she is saying, but if someone is wasting your time where you are an emotional tampon and there is no reciprocation then hang up the phone.
Key thing here is the summatory of points. I can relate to some girls that may have some of this behaviors but they were/are interested in something else.
you're awesome Anna, love hearing you dish out advice in the most conventional way
I'm glad that she's my ex and not just a friend. She claims that she doesn't like me anymore and avoids me in public, but when we are alone she she shows sooo much interest and even blushes and smiles sometimes when i interact with her.
She texts me in the middle of the night about 3 times a week and we always talk so long until she falls asleep. The fact that she is my ex proves that i was good enough for her(so good that she said she doesn't deserve me) until the problems appeared (me being to worried, clingy and relationship focused and annoying...)
Now i'll do my best to be one she fell in love with in the first place, to win her back.
"20+ signs that you are married"
Damn, hey
Boomer detected
Depressing as hell lol not getting married
@@ItsMe-jh7fb some things are better left to the imagination
@@YourWingmam Canadian , hey .
2:46 correct, this girl as we speak right now is continuing the conversation, throwing in things to keep it going, like 2-3 different topics at a time to HOLD MY INTEREST. Your videos have made me understand her well, i can't get in to details, but she is seriously opening up on personal things about her to me. Without saying too much, like her cycle. last week she said something, now today in a vnote how it ended was clearly that she is on her cycle and what she said last week was the PMS, she even said what she said last week was her PMS. This is after confirming with her this morning the time for the 1-on-1 date in the week that she initiated, which is prior to a outing i initiated which is still 2 weeks away.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
I'd NEVER declare my feelings to someone who I didn't KNOW felt, at least partially, the same way about me. That can destroy a friendship, immediately, so Im not sure that "manning-up" is the thing to do.
It isn't. Women like to know because it gives them there and then the power over you. That is the worst advice. If she is playing games just call it quits she isn't worth it.
Why do you need so many friends? Relationships are meant to have an expiration date, either it grows into something more or it ends.
@@wshyangify For the same reason I don't need to destroy them.
Returning into dating after like 7 years of walking away, thanks for your videos
I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you 🙏
Ms. Wing, err, no. Ms. Mam, Oh Definitely no! Hey there. :) You are SO singing my song. I spent a very long time going after the ones I was interested in before I figured out that, for whatever reason, I kept trying to get together with girls who were always too busy to see me. Finally I got it through my thick skull this was not a good plan. Now I put the effort into a relationships what women are willing to return. There are the ones who only have time for me as a friend and I treat them the same. There are those who are really into me and I treat them like that in return. Basically I use the MAD option. No not Mutually Assured Destruction. The other one. Mutual Attraction Desired.
Oh boy, I believe I've seen just about all these signs. What a like about your series is that you, a woman, are explaining these things. Its helped me understand a lot.
Knowledge is potential power! Thanks for watching and commenting!
To answer your first question, "no" but then I am an American. I have a hard and fast rule "never take dating advice from a woman." Women over analyze and overly complicate everything. And I am just here to leave a comment, so maybe another guy will get a "heads up" and do what is right.
Guys, the first time you make a physical move to show your romantic affections and she pulls away, for the sake of your own self-esteem, wrap it all up as quickly as possible and get the hell out of there.
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Women use men and feel justified in doing so.
Thank you for sharing 🙏
Put it this way:
To be completely honest, no woman I've ever been with has been a keeper. At some point, they drop the hint I'm only a friend, so I head back to my second home, the Friend Zone.
Funny thing is, I know I'm not attractive. I know that I lack a lot of relationship skills other guys have. And lastly, I know that I lack confidence.
Point is, while I'm glad that these videos exist, I can't help but feel slightly depressed, as these videos confirmed what I knew all along: Because I'm not in the top 5% of the dating pool, I'm not wanted. I'm not attractive. Hell, I probably couldn't get a hook-up date if I tried.
Yet the irony is, all I hear is, "You're a good man. You're a good guy. There's somebody out there for everybody, you'll find them eventually." Uh huh, sure....yeah, right. And the crappiest part? Living in a small town where all the decent women have been taken and/or married, and all guys like me get left with are the narcissistic, manipulative pyschotic crazy trashy women. Women I wouldn't touch with a 25' pole if I was the last man on Earth.
Point is, this video confirms everything I've ever told my mom: Sorry, but you're getting no grandkids from me, because no woman sees the value in me. I already know that I'm going to live my life alone, and that I'm going to die alone.
And sure...maybe that's for the best. But at some point, even the unluckiest among us still want to feel we're desired, like we're still wanted. Because we're human too. And because we're human, we like to feel that someone outside of the Friend Zone and the Family Zone actually would like us as much as we might like them.
Because it gets damned depressing knowing that you weren't hardly ever successful in dating when things were good, let alone having absolutely 0 success when things turned into utter pig crap.
I just fail to understand how the vast majority of women could have turned out to be such crappy people in my lifetime -- and no amount of analysis, no amount of examination, will ever tell me where the hell society went wrong. Because I thought women were smarter people than that. But who knows...maybe the Teacher in Eccliastes was right: That life itself is meaningless. If that's the case, what's the point to making these videos? You might as well make videos trying to prevent suicide.
Sounds like you’ve had a bad experience. That sucks! 😞 Big hug! I think you might benefit from my WakeUP2Luv program... curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
@Isiah Welch Im living something very similar. Thinking about the heartbreak caused by fear of rejection & shyness is still very devistating for me. She is gone 4ever & she will never know. ❤️. The pain never leaves
I thank you for having the courage to put this into words. No one, EVER, does that. But you have. We owe you a great debt.
I started this video, THEN SHE CALLED ME!!
The end conveys something that suggests on an intuitive level you need a hug. Not me, my arms are not long enough, but somone closer for sure.
Mam, You hit the wall!
Who cares?
Everyone hits the wall at some point in their life .
No one escapes the wall !!!!
A great video, Anna of being in the freind zone. I know what it's like to be in the friendly zone, and as you have commented on, 20 reasons why, I had to walk away. I couldn't remain just a friend, I wasn't going to keep hurting myself, now I have got over her, and I stay right away from her. I don't want to be in her presence. It was originally hard, but I feel much so much in making that decision, by moving on.
Thankyou another very informative video. David
Thanks for sharing! I appreciate you being here.