Look, I'm 33 today and from my experience I can say that if you aren't financially stable don't ever think about dating. Its a waste of your time. Try to reach to that level at least where you can actually afford relationship with your opposite sex. Simple.
Our vibe attracts our tribe, for both girls and boys. If you are unhealthy you will attract unhealthy, if you are unambitious you will attract similar people, not just as a partner but as a friend also. Just focus on improving yourself and see what kind of relationships you attract be it love or platonic.
😁😁 focus on improving relationship. Dear sister Is it the thing you should do in your life ? According to me its not worth for the time you invest there. We can spend our time more wisely in some other works as well.
@@Dj-nk7wb accha mere pote. Lol abe chodu divorces are normal in us , even Brad pitt, Tom cruise had divorce so according to your peanut size mind they lack all those 3 things ! 🤣
@Garima Khuteil i can give lectures like chetan all day. I feel sad for people like you who fall prey to people like chetan and get their brainwashed. Chetan is always against dating, enjoyment..all he talks is career , health and money. Tell me one thing, why only those people talk of career who are themseleves a failure and making it by giving lectures to others. Why only those people talk of health who never read any book on medical science and have no knowledge of surgery, medicine, disease and body parts. Lastly, even young healthy people have died from covid at age of 25 , but people like you would never understand how short is life so that so that you can follow stupid chetan and take life for granted.
@@shivammahajan9051 in a nutshell, do you think dating is the only fun thing? How utterly boring your life must be that sex,dating and these childish stuff make up your life. I don't agree with Chentan Bhagat ji on lot of point but ATLEAST He was trying to be practical.
Cyanides r bitter but toxic 😕 Move beyond such fixed concepts, brain in working condition is all u need for best judgements, no rule & law is absolute....no need to mug up things & stereotyping
Perfectly right what you have said ! For girls too : aukaat is very important . To all the girls reading this : 1. Do some physical activity daily whether gym, yoga, cycling or dance . 2. Increase your knowledge through books, videos and podcasts daily . 3. Find a hobby or do something new like painting, calligraphy, travelling or learn public speaking etc . 4. Set Goals and achieve it . You go girl🔥
Sry sir I saw many chamanlal having girl .. girls get married to settled guy bt bf nhi banati. carrier focused guy ko My crush left coz I wasn't giving time to her ... And I said her that we will date after my 1st job ...Bt she still left Bt girl who commented👆Iss type ki girls kam hai... Bt I'm happy here all points are true for at least for some girls....... If such girls exist Then this type of girls are gift to society....
@@aspiranttoofficer9847 Its good to know that some boys are aware of the fact that girls do have their own existence. I just want to say that everybody have their own personality and they are the only person who are responsible for building that whether a girl or a boy . So ,best wishes to everyone from my side.🎉
@@kirtirajpoot2361 yeah ur thought process is 👌👌👌 Not trying to impress u 😅 but I would like to be with girl who have mentality like u.... And all the best to you too..
I had a breakup then I started listening to you sir now im a mbbs student 👨⚕️ because of your motivation and im looking forward in my life love you sir
I'm 20 year 5 month old..... U r really great sir.... I randomly found ur video and watch it...i am preparing for defense examination... Aaj se double hard work krunga and job k bad he dating wating k bare me Sochunga
1) Follow right path 2) Focus on fitness 3) Be a intresting man 4) Have some hobbies 5) Develop personality Improve 1% daily, next year you will be 37% better than today. Last but not least 6) Don't be chomu, Chamanlal 😅😂
Agreed with you sir, don't trapped in dating games.both girl's nad boys should Focus on themselves, their career, health, education , skills.make your personality attractive not for others but for yourself to brighten your life.you get what you deserve so focus on that not dating to this level.
I am Girl,and I agree with you. Don't dating someone without knowing that he has not issue with your awe...kaat😭🧐🥺and it is bitter truth ofcourse 🙏💯🌍💕Keep Smiling 😊
Aukaat badane ke 10 tips- 1. Strong mind, 2. Mind clearity, 3. Present of mind, 4. Though clearity, 5. Strong eyes contact, 6. Strong talking skills, 7. Dearness, 8. Strong temperament, 9. Believe in your dignity, 10. And finally most important Believe in yourself 👍🏻💪🏻👍🏻💪🏻👍🏻🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
You see boys, don't let these opposite sex humans acts as if they are something special!! Become a real man, go to gym, eat healthy, own cars, travel world!!!!
Mr. Chetan, the work you are doing here, is very valuable! Many times, young guys who venture out into the world make mistakes because they have no one to guide them, at the right time. You, who have gone through the rough grind yourself, are the right person to do so now! More power to you and thank you so much!😀👍
I fully agree with you. I broke up with my ex because of the same reason. He didn't want to grow in his life. He had no goals which made me realise that he is not the right person for me. Now I am single but still happy. I am an ambitious girl from childhood and that's why I can't stay with a person who has no ambitions in life.
Aapka ye wala video isiliye baar baar dekhte hai ...taki ek ek word dimag me chap jaye ...kuch faltu kam krne se phle apke words mind me aate hai aur ruk jata hu jisse time nhi waste hota ....thanx sir aise hi real videos banate rahiye ...Bina entertainment ke....apke video dekhkr bhut kuch seekhte hai..
Sir, basically, supply and demand is heavily skewed in Indian dating scene. Guys are like hay in a stack and women are like flowers. What guys fail to understand is that they can choose to be a strong tree rather than hay. And if a girl doesn't choose you? No problem, there are millions of flowers from different gardens to choose ;)
So on point! The problem with youths is that they don't want to listen the reality and instead they'll have a faith in unreal thing and will carry to follow that thing But finally you are telling the bitter better truth in a most respectful manner!👏🏻
Even though I haven't read any of your books sir but I respect the fact you're using your influence in a positive way, talking on topics to guide the youngsters. Much respect sir.
So correct! every girl wants some basic things in a guy: 1. A sense of purpose and goal 2. Discipline to fulfill that purpose and goal 3. A financial stability in life 4. Not so thin and not so fat normal body (muscles and abs are bonus) and dressing sense 5. Basic decency , table manners and chivalry 6. An interesting hobby or passion about which you can talk, at least average communication skills 7. honesty, straightforwardness, respect and understanding 8. This one is subjective but smoking and drinking are anyway bad for your liver and lungs so would be great if you can avoid. I know it's a long list but guys you will get a decent girl only when you yourself are a decent guy. Start working towards each of the point slowly. You'll be happy, fulfilled and content when you'll achieve this. This will even eliminate self doubt, possessiveness and many more negative traits. Any girl will fall in love with you!
I am at a point in my life where I might have achieved these things mentioned above but now since I am close to achieving all these things now I don't feel like dating rather I am always keen to work more and more on myself.
Gd job Tanmay bhai 👏. Keep progressing .and become the best version of urself . there are many exmpl of successful ppl who don't ever run after a girl like ratan tata , modi ji , homi j bhabha , dr abdul kalam . and many more .. . nd u know why Chinese nd Japanese are ahead of indians ? ... They are extremely busy in their life that they Don't have any time to date . they are indulge in innovations nd busy in grinding themselves to reach new heights ......
I can give lectures like chetan all day. I feel sad for people like you who fall prey to people like chetan and get their brainwashed. Chetan is always against dating, enjoyment..all he talks is career , health and money. Tell me one thing, why only those people talk of career who are themseleves a failure and making it by giving lectures to others. Why only those people talk of health who never read any book on medical science and have no knowledge of surgery, medicine, disease and body parts. Lastly, even young healthy people have died from covid at age of 25 , but people like you would never understand how short is life so that so that you can follow stupid chetan and take life for granted.
Even for girls, its very important to be in a good frame of life whether it be career , education or health , totally agree with chetan sir... so firstly be in a stable and happy phase of life and then try to welcome another life 💜
It's always about us, whatever he says is not only about relationship, dating or getting a girl 'aukaat' the word is actually indicating to developing our skills, personality and many things.
Your biggest strength is your simplicity - be it in writing, talking, selection of topics, even your way of life! And this is really great work for today's youngsters!! 👍👍👌👌 Congrats!!
Sir dating is not a problem nowadays, the problem is infidelity in so called relationships, which has become a major blocker in finding suitable and trustworthy partner. Chetan sir if you are reading this comment please make a video on this topic !
Another Great video Chetan Sir!❤️👍 I am 22, and i never approached a girl because i feel uncomfortable to talk to girls sometimes.. I will improve and Will have enough courage to date a girl💙
Listen first if you were watching chetan sir videos it means you know where are you right Now life m ky krna hai goal hai yr we are so blessed we have someone who mentor us. Start wake up early at least 6 am every morning go for run or do some exercise yoga etc read English newspaper set a goal and chase it... Don't chase girl's first career. Trust me it will shape you a better person..
Aukaat…which is very common word we use but many must have understood now the real meaning of it….n content was so nice…really enjoyed the topic sir🔥🙌🏻
Sir I read a book after a very long time. 400 days kept me on the edge throughout the read. I loved the characters and especially the end. Keshav really showed us the art of letting go so beautifully in a way that you feel bittersweet and not resent after reading the last page. This is probably your best book yet.I remember when I was 13 i read 2 states and now at 23 i finished reading 400 days.
Things to do: 1.Get a job that I want and deserve 2.Do HIITS and Running daily 3.Get some hobbies in my life which involves me 'actually' doing something PS: Thank you Chetan Sir for putting me on the right track. There are lot of problems in our lives but we should focus on the solution Edit: I will update you guys after 6-8 months Update September'22: I got a job offer from Deloitte USI. As far as fitness is concerned, I am able to run for 10 km with little breaks, but sadly I haven't worked on any new hobbies yet. Still I feel that I can do better with my life
Cheers to all guys who started working of themselves just because of the breakup like they got to know about their insecurity I'm one of that choomu lal but now good to go ❤️
Aukaat isnt a good word in my opinion. Just be connected to yourself, once you establish that connection with yourself, perfect partner will automatically come to you. As the connection with yourself will build such a positive aura around you that the positive energies will do it for you. 😊
This is real communication. The way you are putting your thoughts in words is simply amazing. I was not searching for any vid about dating and all but just came through it and wanted to see what Mr. Chetan has to say about it. You simply nailed it. I need to watch your all videos and gonna start reading your novels.
@@vaibhavtomar2300 Hi Vaibhav. It's not my real name. I thought to create something with metaverse so just to secure this username I kept it. I'm Software Engineer.
Sir i think you said the right thing today all guys wants power, hierarchy, partner, fame and wealth but they don't do anything to achieve all these attributes. They just want everything but they do nothing
from today, i will work on my AUKAAT. Thank you chetan sir for giving me such a great life advice related to dating and career. i will remember the points which you discussed in this video, i will definitely attain the perspectives given by you in my mind and i am really gonna work on my growth, progress and career. thanking you again for giving me the advice which i really needed at the current scenerio of my life. Thank you chetan sir.
Sir can connect with u, so closely, I practice most of the things u mentioned, Iam preparing for upsc, and ur advices act as fuel in my journey, ur true icon sir!! We love u!! ❤
1.work on career(money making) 2.work on physical aspects (exercise, gym) 3.work on interests (those which are not forced by parents or society) 4. work on effective communication skills.
•I am agree with you chetan sir, •The selection of a topic is best 🙌🔥. •It is true for girls too ... •"If you want the best then; forget about the rest and do your best !! •Increase your worth. •Its one of my resolutions in 2022😘🔥🔥
There a fact I realised by experience - Everyone goes for atleast +1 then who the actually are, be it in any dimension. And chase them hard when they feel that this particular person is a much better person to have on your side throughout life. Hence, be that +1 person (girl or boy) and dating things will fall in place, hopefully you too will have options and be chased by someone. Be the competent, success will have no other option then to follow you. PS: its always easier said then done. Following the above takes alot, but be consistent. Good luck 👍✌
Thank you sir ❤️❤️❤️ I'm 23 I thought I'm too late to do anything good.... But after this lecture it has boosted my energy and thoughts... 🙏🙏 Thankyou soo much sir
You're pretty young brother! I'm 26 ryt now.. last 3 years passed in a wink. Jan 2019 feels like yesterday. Use the next three years of your life very properly. Recognise the asset that your time and youth is. Don't waste your time in RUclips. 5 Imp goals- Education (qualifications/ skills/ good degree from good institute), Career (internships etc), Health/Physique, Personality (means hobbies etc, not looks), and spending some quality time with FAMILY.. these 5 are really things worth focussing on. DO NOT CHASE GIRLS, IF YOU WANT LIFE TO BE REWARDING FOR YOU LATER.
thanks sir, i had first hand experience of "Aukaat" last weekend . I was free so i thought , let's check the dating scene , i went to bumble (since tinder is already overrated) and created account over there . completed my profile , put some good pictures from gallery , answered few questions and then, went on checking out profiles, did left and right swipes onto some profiles , went to bed. checked next day, didn't even got a single match then i realized that my profile wasn't as good as the counterparts i was liking , i understood that this isn't going to work for me. Deleted my account later that evening
woaahh !! what a powerful content..the level of roasting “ earth nahi chahti aisa beej aage badhe” 😂 I envy of those teenagers and 20-25 yr group who get to see this life changing video..i wish i could see this in my teenage..i would be a okat wala person..🙂
Sir..aap gussa to nhi krte h...but sari mn ki bharas iss video ke through nikal hi lete h...that is just like fight with people using calmness....also you are spreading right information to this new generation...thank you so much..
Hello sir, myself Mansingh Yadav. I was student of IIT Delhi. I met you first time in 2019 at IITD campus. I also started my RUclips channel after your motivation. I am getting good response on my channel. Thank you so much for inspiring me. I really want to interact you again, if possible please reply.
MY To DO List for next 4 months :- 1. Will Add activity such as Walking/cycling or exercise atleast on weekend 2. Will Loose 8 kg weight in next 4 months. i.e (88 to 80). 3.Will upgrade my software skill to switch from service based org to product based organization to increase my salary and to change my work environment. 4. Will review this comment after 4 months. Wish me Luck guys ! I think It is realistic and achievable right?
4 month.... My to do list... 1. Study get better college...100% 2. Killer Personality development... 3. Mental toughness... Very strong mind ... Killer ... 4. Take full responsibility of myself...
Haha, sir totally agree with you. We girls obviously can't get impressed with Chamanlal😂😅. Guys must have something interesting in them, fitness is very important . Aukat is equally important for both guys & girls, both must build that to fulfill their dreams & to live the life they want.
Don't get trapped by kind words, live in the reality , everything matters in this era so build your qualities well.everybody needs a good kind person that's one thing but along with some status.love is one thing but not this dating things guys and girls.
Absolutely agreed on ur thought process sir nowadays boys do comments girls post only to impress them but bitter truth is girls didn't even like comments. I think this video helps a lot for Instagram lovers those who only use insta for comments and likes on girls post.. We appreciate ur thoughts.. And definitely some people will follow ur mantra for their successful life..
Amazing advice Sir, Self development is very much important, it helps to build confidence and makes more attractive personality and charming. It's true that everyone knows there Aukaat , and have to work upon it👍💯
Jab aapne kaha 21-30 ke age mei chaman laal bane rahoge toh ho chuka fir haalat kharaab... Mai accept krta hu ke mai wohi chaman laal tha.. Ab 31 ka hu aur aukaat banaane ki raah par hu sir. Dead end job pe hu and switch karne ke liye upskill kar raha hu khud ko.. Interviews b de raha hu.. I believe myself.. Thank you for this video sir..
Look, I'm 33 today and from my experience I can say that if you aren't financially stable don't ever think about dating. Its a waste of your time. Try to reach to that level at least where you can actually afford relationship with your opposite sex. Simple.
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So true Sir
Thank you ❤️
Simon come back , we want you
@luchipartner.9334 agreed girls are distracting
Our vibe attracts our tribe, for both girls and boys. If you are unhealthy you will attract unhealthy, if you are unambitious you will attract similar people, not just as a partner but as a friend also. Just focus on improving yourself and see what kind of relationships you attract be it love or platonic.
you have aukatt which you are looking in boys haaa
😁😁 focus on improving relationship.
Dear sister
Is it the thing you should do in your life ?
According to me its not worth for the time you invest there.
We can spend our time more wisely in some other works as well.
From the title I thought this is about money. And it actually isn't. "Aukaat" here is used for a broad range of qualities. Great video.
True but money is main
@@Dj-nk7wb accha mere pote. Lol abe chodu divorces are normal in us , even Brad pitt, Tom cruise had divorce so according to your peanut size mind they lack all those 3 things ! 🤣
@@amit9838831064 perfect reply boss😂😂
I am a woman but i still love watching your videos because they are based on true facts.
Truth Always Helps
Truth Always Benefits
"Bitter is Always Better"
@Garima Khuteil i can give lectures like chetan all day.
I feel sad for people like you who fall prey to people like chetan and get their brainwashed.
Chetan is always against dating, enjoyment..all he talks is career , health and money.
Tell me one thing, why only those people talk of career who are themseleves a failure and making it by giving lectures to others.
Why only those people talk of health who never read any book on medical science and have no knowledge of surgery, medicine, disease and body parts.
Lastly, even young healthy people have died from covid at age of 25 , but people like you would never understand how short is life so that so that you can follow stupid chetan and take life for granted.
@@shivammahajan9051 in a nutshell, do you think dating is the only fun thing? How utterly boring your life must be that sex,dating and these childish stuff make up your life.
I don't agree with Chentan Bhagat ji on lot of point but ATLEAST
He was trying to be practical.
That's why nowadays I eat more of bitter gourd to get more near to reality
Cyanides r bitter but toxic 😕
Move beyond such fixed concepts, brain in working condition is all u need for best judgements, no rule & law is absolute....no need to mug up things & stereotyping
Perfectly right what you have said !
For girls too : aukaat is very important .
To all the girls reading this :
1. Do some physical activity daily whether gym, yoga, cycling or dance .
2. Increase your knowledge through books, videos and podcasts daily .
3. Find a hobby or do something new like painting, calligraphy, travelling or learn public speaking etc .
4. Set Goals and achieve it .
You go girl🔥
Yes, you are right
Girls ye sab na bhi kare tb bhi usko aasani se boys mil jate hai
Sry sir I saw many chamanlal having girl .. girls get married to settled guy bt bf nhi banati. carrier focused guy ko
My crush left coz I wasn't giving time to her ... And I said her that we will date after my 1st job ...Bt she still left
Bt girl who commented👆Iss type ki girls kam hai...
Bt I'm happy here all points are true for at least for some girls.......
If such girls exist
Then this type of girls are gift to society....
@@aspiranttoofficer9847 Its good to know that some boys are aware of the fact that girls do have their own existence.
I just want to say that everybody have their own personality and they are the only person who are responsible for building that whether a girl or a boy .
So ,best wishes to everyone from my side.🎉
@@kirtirajpoot2361 yeah ur thought process is 👌👌👌
Not trying to impress u 😅 but I would like to be with girl who have mentality like u....
And all the best to you too..
Remember, don't chase girls. Be the best version of yourself, grind hard and achieve whatever you want in life and let girls chase you.
👏👏
Wahh bhai
Sigma male spotted.
Then Reject girls everytime.... that's good revenge 👍👍
Chasing girls is the biggest sign of no ambition. U chase whatever u can't get.
I had a breakup then I started listening to you sir now im a mbbs student 👨⚕️ because of your motivation and im looking forward in my life love you sir
As a mom I watch your videos to make sure my kid is on the right track
Sir honestly.. if someone was there to give us this advice 10 15 years ago... Our lives would have been different... Thank u anyways
You , So my life is different
100% true
true🤩
When you're 18 - I want to have a girlfriend, I am loser for being single.
When you're 30 plus - I miss my single years.
A well groomed, happier and productive boy is what a girl looks for and the same goes for girls.
The best genes matches the best 👌
Pick up lines👌
Kya tum sachai bata sakti he Zara mushkil he?
Kya tum true bata sakti ho?
@@sikandarrinwala3121 stop chasing here, ladkiya jahan comment kar de wahan 1000 ladke aa jaate hai uske comment me reply dene.
Chutia bnana bnd kr
I'm 20 year 5 month old..... U r really great sir.... I randomly found ur video and watch it...i am preparing for defense examination... Aaj se double hard work krunga and job k bad he dating wating k bare me Sochunga
Even girls get rejected by boys who are in their best aukat.Totally agree with you sir... Build your aukat first and then jump into dating business 🙏
1) Follow right path
2) Focus on fitness
3) Be a intresting man
4) Have some hobbies
5) Develop personality
Improve 1% daily, next year you will be 37% better than today.
Last but not least
6) Don't be chomu, Chamanlal 😅😂
Agreed with you sir, don't trapped in dating games.both girl's nad boys should Focus on themselves, their career, health, education , skills.make your personality attractive not for others but for yourself to brighten your life.you get what you deserve so focus on that not dating to this level.
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Readed your line 😊
Totally agreed sir we want this type of bitterness to survive life's competition. It's better than any motivational videos with background music.😇😇😇😇
I am Girl,and I agree with you. Don't dating someone without knowing that he has not issue with your awe...kaat😭🧐🥺and it is bitter truth ofcourse 🙏💯🌍💕Keep Smiling 😊
Aukaat badane ke 10 tips- 1. Strong mind, 2. Mind clearity, 3. Present of mind, 4. Though clearity, 5. Strong eyes contact, 6. Strong talking skills, 7. Dearness, 8. Strong temperament, 9. Believe in your dignity, 10. And finally most important Believe in yourself 👍🏻💪🏻👍🏻💪🏻👍🏻🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
11- Thodi english ki bhi knowledge ho. Kaam aa jati hai kabhi kabhi 😃
Tip 0 acchi english
Bhai thodi angrezi achhi honi chahiye
"औकात" बोलने में ही इतना जोर लगता है, तो इसे बनाने में बेशक जोर लगेगा।। ☠️
I totally agree with it 👍
I am an ias aspirant and try to make myself more productive and professional person.
Being a girl I think whatever he said is 100% true ,that's really what girls look for in a guy !! ❤️
Damn simple right!
you dont have aukatt
@@kaustubhsachan Bro?? Accept the truth otherwise nobody is goona care about you atleast in this world except close ones
@@NormalKid84 yes you are right
You see boys, don't let these opposite sex humans acts as if they are something special!! Become a real man, go to gym, eat healthy, own cars, travel world!!!!
Mr. Chetan, the work you are doing here, is very valuable! Many times, young guys who venture out into the world make mistakes because they have no one to guide them, at the right time. You, who have gone through the rough grind yourself, are the right person to do so now! More power to you and thank you so much!😀👍
Thanks a ton!
@@ChetanBhagat1 chomp
Agree with you You are right . ✌️✌️
@@inderbrar550 thenku thenku
abey nikal..dusron ko lectures dena bhut aasaan hota hai .
I'll follow some simple steps
1.No- junk food, sugar & PMO
2.Finishing off my syllabus within 2.5 months
3.Making Meditation part of my life.
I fully agree with you. I broke up with my ex because of the same reason. He didn't want to grow in his life. He had no goals which made me realise that he is not the right person for me. Now I am single but still happy. I am an ambitious girl from childhood and that's why I can't stay with a person who has no ambitions in life.
Wow 👍
@learn NCERT with me dude in relationship we need some maturity and relationship is also a responsibility .
O grt
@learn NCERT with me NCERT rat vai jaake 😃
@Monika Garg Can we connect?
Aapka ye wala video isiliye baar baar dekhte hai ...taki ek ek word dimag me chap jaye ...kuch faltu kam krne se phle apke words mind me aate hai aur ruk jata hu jisse time nhi waste hota ....thanx sir aise hi real videos banate rahiye ...Bina entertainment ke....apke video dekhkr bhut kuch seekhte hai..
Sir, basically, supply and demand is heavily skewed in Indian dating scene. Guys are like hay in a stack and women are like flowers. What guys fail to understand is that they can choose to be a strong tree rather than hay. And if a girl doesn't choose you? No problem, there are millions of flowers from different gardens to choose ;)
🙏
Make sense
My Advice to People
Padhaai Likhaai Job Business Par Dhyaan Do
Everything Will Fall in Place
Ladhki Ke Peechay Bhaagogey Toh Kuch Nahi Milega
@ sahi baat hai bhai.
Very true 💕💕
So on point!
The problem with youths is that they don't want to listen the reality and instead they'll have a faith in unreal thing and will carry to follow that thing
But finally you are telling the bitter better truth in a most respectful manner!👏🏻
Its time for make "Aukaat "guy's 🔥
Even though I haven't read any of your books sir but I respect the fact you're using your influence in a positive way, talking on topics to guide the youngsters. Much respect sir.
My goodness Chetan Sir 😂
Your storytelling (showing mirror) level OG 🔥
Perfect combination of Realism and Motivation.
So correct!
every girl wants some basic things in a guy:
1. A sense of purpose and goal
2. Discipline to fulfill that purpose and goal
3. A financial stability in life
4. Not so thin and not so fat normal body
(muscles and abs are bonus) and dressing sense
5. Basic decency , table manners and chivalry
6. An interesting hobby or passion about which you can talk, at least average communication skills
7. honesty, straightforwardness, respect and understanding
8. This one is subjective but smoking and drinking are anyway bad for your liver and lungs so would be great if you can avoid.
I know it's a long list but guys you will get a decent girl only when you yourself are a decent guy. Start working towards each of the point slowly. You'll be happy, fulfilled and content when you'll achieve this.
This will even eliminate self doubt, possessiveness and many more negative traits. Any girl will fall in love with you!
I am at a point in my life where I might have achieved these things mentioned above but now since I am close to achieving all these things now I don't feel like dating rather I am always keen to work more and more on myself.
Gd job Tanmay bhai 👏. Keep progressing .and become the best version of urself . there are many exmpl of successful ppl who don't ever run after a girl like ratan tata , modi ji , homi j bhabha , dr abdul kalam . and many more ..
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nd u know why Chinese nd Japanese are ahead of indians ? ... They are extremely busy in their life that they Don't have any time to date . they are indulge in innovations nd busy in grinding themselves to reach new heights ......
I can give lectures like chetan all day.
I feel sad for people like you who fall prey to people like chetan and get their brainwashed.
Chetan is always against dating, enjoyment..all he talks is career , health and money.
Tell me one thing, why only those people talk of career who are themseleves a failure and making it by giving lectures to others.
Why only those people talk of health who never read any book on medical science and have no knowledge of surgery, medicine, disease and body parts.
Lastly, even young healthy people have died from covid at age of 25 , but people like you would never understand how short is life so that so that you can follow stupid chetan and take life for granted.
@@shivammahajan9051 bhai konsa ganja fook te ho??? mujhe bhi chahiya bhai pls contsct me.
@@akshatzz_iitb6052 🤣🤣🤭
Even for girls, its very important to be in a good frame of life whether it be career , education or health , totally agree with chetan sir... so firstly be in a stable and happy phase of life and then try to welcome another life 💜
career* not carrier
carrier to cycle k piche hota h.
@@rishabhsethi29 😂
💜True.
😯😯=_=
😯😯=_=
It's always about us, whatever he says is not only about relationship, dating or getting a girl 'aukaat' the word is actually indicating to developing our skills, personality and many things.
Your biggest strength is your simplicity - be it in writing, talking, selection of topics, even your way of life! And this is really great work for today's youngsters!! 👍👍👌👌 Congrats!!
I am girl, m facing same issue ,bina aukat ke pyar,respect,dost,family nhi.Sab mohmaya he
Its just extra things which we get for free after buying the main product, first focus on buying main product
Superb Sir Jee.
सीधी बात
नो बकवास।
"Bitter" Truth --> "Better" Truth
औकात बनाने मे पिछले कुछ दिनों से लगा हू
Chetan sir apki Wajah se sikha hu aukat banana aur aukat par krna bhi
Thank you so much
Boys , buddha bano , buddhu nahi .....
"A young boy who leaves his wife to be the gautam buddha"
"fight with your emotions before fighting others "
After watching this video , I realised life Mai aukat Bina kuch nehi milega....
Sir dating is not a problem nowadays, the problem is infidelity in so called relationships, which has become a major blocker in finding suitable and trustworthy partner. Chetan sir if you are reading this comment please make a video on this topic !
Another Great video Chetan Sir!❤️👍
I am 22, and i never approached a girl because i feel uncomfortable to talk to girls sometimes.. I will improve and Will have enough courage to date a girl💙
Listen first if you were watching chetan sir videos it means you know where are you right Now life m ky krna hai goal hai yr we are so blessed we have someone who mentor us. Start wake up early at least 6 am every morning go for run or do some exercise yoga etc read English newspaper set a goal and chase it... Don't chase girl's first career. Trust me it will shape you a better person..
If we sum all the words of Chetan sir: Simply it will be “Ladki rahegi tab jab zindagi me aukaat rahegi”
Aukaat…which is very common word we use but many must have understood now the real meaning of it….n content was so nice…really enjoyed the topic sir🔥🙌🏻
Thank you for this reality check. We needed this.
Sir I read a book after a very long time. 400 days kept me on the edge throughout the read. I loved the characters and especially the end. Keshav really showed us the art of letting go so beautifully in a way that you feel bittersweet and not resent after reading the last page. This is probably your best book yet.I remember when I was 13 i read 2 states and now at 23 i finished reading 400 days.
Things to do:
1.Get a job that I want and deserve
2.Do HIITS and Running daily
3.Get some hobbies in my life which involves me 'actually' doing something
PS: Thank you Chetan Sir for putting me on the right track. There are lot of problems in our lives but we should focus on the solution
Edit: I will update you guys after 6-8 months
Update September'22: I got a job offer from Deloitte USI. As far as fitness is concerned, I am able to run for 10 km with little breaks, but sadly I haven't worked on any new hobbies yet.
Still I feel that I can do better with my life
kuch kiya pichle 10 din me ?
Phele do points pe kaam kar rha hu abhi toh
@@RishavRaj-kn8nm running kar rahe ho roz?
@Aaryan abhi toh bas start kiya hai isliye i don't wanna say much. 6-8 months mai update kar dunga
@@RishavRaj-kn8nm 😂😂😂😂😂theek hai vro
Cheers to all guys who started working of themselves just because of the breakup like they got to know about their insecurity I'm one of that choomu lal but now good to go ❤️
I am a 12th passout. Currently in the drop year preparing for JEE and Career is the one thing which will change my aukaat.
best of luck
Same but neet
Very well said ! Applicable for both men and women 😊👌
Aukaat isnt a good word in my opinion. Just be connected to yourself, once you establish that connection with yourself, perfect partner will automatically come to you. As the connection with yourself will build such a positive aura around you that the positive energies will do it for you. 😊
This is real communication. The way you are putting your thoughts in words is simply amazing. I was not searching for any vid about dating and all but just came through it and wanted to see what Mr. Chetan has to say about it. You simply nailed it.
I need to watch your all videos and gonna start reading your novels.
Interesting name though, what do you do ?
@@vaibhavtomar2300 Hi Vaibhav. It's not my real name. I thought to create something with metaverse so just to secure this username I kept it. I'm Software Engineer.
What get from this..
Pehele
1.aukat banao(jamkar paisa kamao)
2. Fitness sath me banaye rakho(mote na ho)
3. Personality improve kro (communication skill intresting rakho)
Thanks Sir...For Sharing
Kindness wali smile to chahiye but basic aukat ke baad
- Chetan Bhagat ✨
I am girl, Mr.bagat is right
Sir i think you said the right thing today all guys wants power, hierarchy, partner, fame and wealth but they don't do anything to achieve all these attributes. They just want everything but they do nothing
most natural way ...to motivate
from today, i will work on my AUKAAT. Thank you chetan sir for giving me such a great life advice related to dating and career. i will remember the points which you discussed in this video, i will definitely attain the perspectives given by you in my mind and i am really gonna work on my growth, progress and career. thanking you again for giving me the advice which i really needed at the current scenerio of my life. Thank you chetan sir.
All the best!
The real truth I ever see
Dil jeet liya meri Jaan
Sir can connect with u, so closely, I practice most of the things u mentioned, Iam preparing for upsc, and ur advices act as fuel in my journey, ur true icon sir!!
We love u!! ❤
I m a girl n whatever u said is so true..... All boys should mark your wrds
I have been listening 👂 you from the very beginning , and i must say sir , what ever you say in each of your videos is 1000% correct
Today's youth In need of this advice...it will help them to prosper in life and achieve great heights...salute u sir
Iske bacche aane chahiye 😂😂damm sir ,you motivate the youth 🙏🙏🙏
1.work on career(money making)
2.work on physical aspects (exercise, gym)
3.work on interests (those which are not forced by parents or society)
4. work on effective communication skills.
•I am agree with you chetan sir,
•The selection of a topic is best 🙌🔥.
•It is true for girls too ...
•"If you want the best then; forget about the rest and do your best !!
•Increase your worth.
•Its one of my resolutions in 2022😘🔥🔥
high value men are the prize not girls.
@@vivekbhange7150 I am agree with your opinion sir.
But don't underestimate girls they are the future high value Elegant Women
@@unity_in_diversity_2323 👏
Hats off to you....Sir......Ye gyan desh ke vele logo ko kaam pe lagayega.....No money( Aukaat ) No honey
10 rs ka coca cola chetan bhaiya aag ka golaa 😂😂...
Very nice video sir, uh r one of the best motivators ... Great job 💕
After reading your 5 books finally i have found you at RUclips, sir.
Love you
There a fact I realised by experience -
Everyone goes for atleast +1 then who the actually are, be it in any dimension. And chase them hard when they feel that this particular person is a much better person to have on your side throughout life.
Hence, be that +1 person (girl or boy) and dating things will fall in place, hopefully you too will have options and be chased by someone.
Be the competent, success will have no other option then to follow you.
PS: its always easier said then done. Following the above takes alot, but be consistent. Good luck 👍✌
bro I am also in +1 and realized a lot facts recently
Truth is hard to digest. But yeah it is good for health🔥👍✨ Love your work..
Thank you sir ❤️❤️❤️
I'm 23 I thought I'm too late to do anything good....
But after this lecture it has boosted my energy and thoughts... 🙏🙏
Thankyou soo much sir
You're pretty young brother! I'm 26 ryt now.. last 3 years passed in a wink. Jan 2019 feels like yesterday. Use the next three years of your life very properly. Recognise the asset that your time and youth is. Don't waste your time in RUclips. 5 Imp goals- Education (qualifications/ skills/ good degree from good institute), Career (internships etc), Health/Physique, Personality (means hobbies etc, not looks), and spending some quality time with FAMILY.. these 5 are really things worth focussing on. DO NOT CHASE GIRLS, IF YOU WANT LIFE TO BE REWARDING FOR YOU LATER.
A 70 year old man with Aukaat dating a lady 45 to 50 year younger to him - ye hai AUKAAT 😉👍🏼
Sir you are one of the best youth icons ever. You are someone who guide us the best. Thank you so much
It's my pleasure
Bitter is always better. You are One of the greatest motivator to guide youngsters 👍.
This video is not giving motivation it's giving awareness to boys✨💙
Each and everything you are saying is the bitter truth of today's generation. Thank you for your advice.
thanks sir, i had first hand experience of "Aukaat" last weekend . I was free so i thought , let's check the dating scene , i went to bumble (since tinder is already overrated) and created account over there . completed my profile , put some good pictures from gallery , answered few questions and then, went on checking out profiles, did left and right swipes onto some profiles , went to bed. checked next day, didn't even got a single match then i realized that my profile wasn't as good as the counterparts i was liking , i understood that this isn't going to work for me. Deleted my account later that evening
Why date anyone, after all they are going to create hurdles in life. 'One person one problem, no person no problem'.
Truly great guidance and direction for young men.
Chetan Sir U rock!💯
I think the best way to connect with a good or right person is by stepping out of the Social Media space and get in touch with real life.
But now a day everyone in social so we have to accept the changes
woaahh !! what a powerful content..the level of roasting “ earth nahi chahti aisa beej aage badhe” 😂
I envy of those teenagers and 20-25 yr group who get to see this life changing video..i wish i could see this in my teenage..i would be a okat wala person..🙂
Sir..aap gussa to nhi krte h...but sari mn ki bharas iss video ke through nikal hi lete h...that is just like fight with people using calmness....also you are spreading right information to this new generation...thank you so much..
A big Thankyouuu to you sir, for choosing such an amazing topic! It is hitting me really hard!
Hey princess , could uhh tell me how to talk with girls 🤣 without hesitating !!
😂😂
"Boys also see aukaat in different way..." Someone atlast revealed this truth!!!✔️🌞
Hello sir, myself Mansingh Yadav. I was student of IIT Delhi.
I met you first time in 2019 at IITD campus. I also started my RUclips channel after your motivation. I am getting good response on my channel. Thank you so much for inspiring me.
I really want to interact you again, if possible please reply.
More power to you sir.Thank you for making relevant content.Atleast someone is addressing the real issues of younger generation.
MY To DO List for next 4 months :-
1. Will Add activity such as Walking/cycling or exercise atleast on weekend
2. Will Loose 8 kg weight in next 4 months. i.e (88 to 80).
3.Will upgrade my software skill to switch from service based org to product based organization to increase my salary and to change my work environment.
4. Will review this comment after 4 months.
Wish me Luck guys !
I think It is realistic and achievable right?
Good luck bro I'm also taking pledge with you . I'll be consistent whatever I'm doing.
Refer me if u get into any PBC
4 month.... My to do list...
1. Study get better college...100%
2. Killer Personality development...
3. Mental toughness... Very strong mind ... Killer ...
4. Take full responsibility of myself...
All the best budy keep grinding
@@tanmaythaker2905 sure tanmay , i will do it
Perfectly said with Aukaat being a good soul is too Important.
Haha, sir totally agree with you. We girls obviously can't get impressed with Chamanlal😂😅. Guys must have something interesting in them, fitness is very important . Aukat is equally important for both guys & girls, both must build that to fulfill their dreams & to live the life they want.
Don't get trapped by kind words, live in the reality , everything matters in this era so build your qualities well.everybody needs a good kind person that's one thing but along with some status.love is one thing but not this dating things guys and girls.
Absolutely agreed on ur thought process sir nowadays boys do comments girls post only to impress them but bitter truth is girls didn't even like comments. I think this video helps a lot for Instagram lovers those who only use insta for comments and likes on girls post.. We appreciate ur thoughts.. And definitely some people will follow ur mantra for their successful life..
Biology video 😂. The way you explain is amazing
Amazing advice Sir, Self development is very much important, it helps to build confidence and makes more attractive personality and charming. It's true that everyone knows there Aukaat , and have to work upon it👍💯
your words can surely change anyone's life sir...🙌🏼
Thanks a lot!
Jab aapne kaha 21-30 ke age mei chaman laal bane rahoge toh ho chuka fir haalat kharaab...
Mai accept krta hu ke mai wohi chaman laal tha..
Ab 31 ka hu aur aukaat banaane ki raah par hu sir.
Dead end job pe hu and switch karne ke liye upskill kar raha hu khud ko..
Interviews b de raha hu..
I believe myself..
Thank you for this video sir..
Girlfriend hai ki nahin?
Kya baat hai Sir...baat baat main aukaat change karene ka formula bata diya...thanks Sir🎉