Only things that help 1) Workout everyday( it releases dopmaine, the only thing that helps) 2) Learn a new language/musical instrument/ any new skill( learning something new releases endorphins, something we need) 3) If you were always lonely like me(with no or very few friends), try solo traveling just once, it'll help you realize most people are lonely and still doing ok. 4) Read philosophy books( specially eastern one and few western ones like Stoicism, Cheerful nihilism) you'll deffo feel better. Please do this and you'll feel better within few months.
@@ankitSharma-uo6zf Bro it is meaningless that's why it is wonderful. I was going through a horrible time when I wrote this now I'm doing okay not completely good but kinda ok. I started training muay thai and I love it. Lol
If you feel depressed because of 2-3 years breakups then remember there are some people who had 20+ years of marriage before divorce and they still move on.
I can relate this to myself as ended up wasting 2.5 years post breakup at a very crutial age while writing CAT. Thankfully, recovered from the loss in time & did MBA from one of the top Institute in India and saved my career. So true, Sir.
@@globe_gossips hnnn to chtya ho isha kriya kro tim hai to dusri dhund lo usse pyaar mt time pass krna khelo khudo kuch intresting sikho paisa kamao bhai
Guys, what sir has said is absolutely correct. Trust me, literally, I am the guy sir is talking about in the video. It's been two years since my break up and fortunately I started doing the same thing sir said and I am far better than before. I watched this video after two years and felt proud that I did the right thing...... Change is massive psychologically and physically......just keep going.....there is light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you sir for this video......I am sure this will save a lot lives. ❤️
Well said Chetan sir! , I think it would be better if someone left you at the right time so that you can avoid wasting more time which could have been wasted. Now once if she has gone ,you can utilise that saved time to make yourself worthy 🙏🏻
@@mdakifsiddiqui4597 true but re read his comments. If suppose she is not gone till 2022 you will be still in dillusion that she is with you. And if its destined for her to leave she will leave in 2023. But imagine she left you in 2020 may be your 1yr will go waste in crying and thinking about past...but atleast 2022 will bring back your Life. This is my condition right now. And this comment made me think alot. She got married last yr and in April 1 yr got completed yet i am thinking about her but this comment really made me think alot about what i am doing emotionally to myself
Sir I work with Deloitte Usi and busy for the whole day. I am 29 and working on marriage prospects( Though not successful yet). I like your mantra of detachment, and focus on my work which really helps me ignore the stuff ( Icing part). Keep making these kind of videos. We guys need it Sir
I can relate to this topic very well. My ex husband decided to divorce me and I wasn’t prepared for it. It came all of a sudden. It was very challenging for me and it took almost 5 years to come out of it. With time your wound heals but scar is still there. Just want to say not men but women also goes through the same way as men do during their break up or divorce.
This video helped me a lot. Thank you, Sir. My ex broke up with me a few months ago, and now she is getting married. It's clear that she moved on very quickly in life. I was stuck emotionally, but finally, I am learning to let go of the situation and focus on myself and my life.
@@gauravvashisth3415 Take as much time as needed. You are going to feel very bad for maybe 2-3 months, and nothing can be done about that. Try to keep yourself distracted as much as possible. You will still remember her, obviously, but that is part of the healing procedure. Don't get into another relationship right away because it may not be worth it, and if possible delete everything like pictures, videos, etc. of hers from your phone. If it is not possible, then save them somewhere you don't access regularly at least and delete them from your phone. If possible, do things that take your mind off the matter, like going to gym...or you can join a club or something, but whatever you do, surround yourself with people - who are not romancing each other. In 2-3 months, you will be in a much better place :) all the best.
Same here she got married after being in 10 yrs of relationship. Its been 1 yr for her marriage i am still into my past and memories also destroyed my career couldn't able yo focus. I know this is wrong i also know she has moved on i also know what i should do for me and my family but yet each and every passing day my emotions are not controlled and it is just destroying my career. I am 30 and still jobless giving govt exams but couldn't focus on studies. Was very close to selection in 2021 but she left and everything goy destroyed. I was working hard from 2016 for govt exams for me my family and both of us and specially for her Father so that due to caste difference he would accept me.. but she left me saying parents are everything for her 26 yrs > 10 yrs. And now i am in paind and grief i was working and wasted my 4-5 teenager time of making career for her and she got married. I also know nothing is left now. She is married. She got physical. Like nothing is left. Yet I don't have any other option now. Due to her my parents too got hurt. They consider her daughter and she committed to marry me but she ran away . My parents are worried about my career. I am 30 yrs with no skills and only option for me is working hard and focusing on my study and take that govt job but really i can't focus on my mind. That intensity is lost. No control on emotions. Uninstalling installing Instagram for lakhs of time yet controlling to not look at the chats and account. Really dont know where my life is going. 2021 was the year i was so close to crack my govt exam but everything got ruined. Yoga meditation prayam did everything... self talking everyday. Yet couldn't forget her. Also seeing couple on Insta make me feel cry. I have stopped travelling too. I live in Pune those memories flashes.. my exams are near i also gave many exams recently yet couldn't clear pre exam where there was a time i used to clear pre exams easily. This is last and final moments for me . My parents are waiting for my success. I know everything. I know being emotionally weak just not gonna work. I also know if i didn't forget the past it will just delay my success. This is my last attempt. I really want this badly. What i started i want to finish it . Not for her not for her dad who said 5 yrs he couldn't clear the exam he will bring you on road . But for me. My self respect. My parents and my future Life. I hope i live my life how i used to live. I hope i can laugh whole heartedly again. I hope i be the idol son for my parents. 14/5/2022 . 3.36PM , Pune
@@vikrant_bhise bhai sab ke saath hota hai,mai bhi abhi aisi condition me hu Bass himmat rakho aur ek baat suno bhai jaane waalo ko sirf ek glti ki talaash rehti hai ya ek bahane ki, wo aapko deserve nhi krti thi kismat aapki nhi uski kharaab hai,aap ab ache se pdho apne maa baap ke liye mehnat karo, i hope aap jaldi theek hojaayege !
Line-" aapko lagta hai ki samne vala aapki value badha rha hai , jo ki sahi nahi hai" sir you just change my thinking ....!! From my heart❣ .. thank you soooo much Sir..!😊🤗
सर आप सब जानते हैं मन की बात ।पता नहीं क्यू आप हर समस्या को बारिकियों के साथ सुलझाने की पूरी कोशिश करते हैं।आप ऐसे ही हमें रास्ता दिखाते रहें । बहुत सारी शुभकामनाएँ 🫂 आपके विचार इस पूँजीवादी प्यार के दौर में फ़िट बैठते हैं।
Just keep in mind that smn one better is coming for you and uss insaan ki aukaat nahi thi aapne pyaar ki It really helps and makes you strong I am a jee aspirant and going through same phase, this feeling motivates me to study more and hard
it's 6 months she left me...was very disturbed for 3 months nd she called nd said she has overcome ... seperation hurts bt the attachment kills...I just blocked her everywhere I can nd trying to move on nd get a fresh start...keep posting such contents ❤️thank you sir ❤️
Sir u r really wrong this time.... I'm a girl n I wasn't able to handle breakup well. I did wasted my 2-3 years. I regret it a lot. My health n studies/ career just went down n down. I got soo stressed out that I got diagnosed with stress related diseases. I can't express that feeling of obsession. It made me exhausted mentally n physically. I was unable to focus. I used to constantly compare myself with others, forcing me to think what's wrong with me. I felt worthless. I doubted myself on everything. Confidence just went down. Wasted a lot of time on social media stalking. I agree with u when u compare death with breakup. After wasting 2-3 years, I'm now in a much better place, more stable. Only thing I'm scared of is that what if I end up wasting more time on this sadness n not letting go of that breakup. U r right. Sometimes there is no reason for a breakup. U just don't feel that way for someone but it's hard to accept that when u get dumped n r feeling horrible. Now for me time is more precious than money. I just don't want to waste my time obsessing over that person anymore n stalking that person on every social media platform available. I don't want that. I want to focus 100% on myself. I'm trying. I'm just scared what if I fall into that black hole again. But I can't be that weak. I won't allow my years of education go waste just bez of someone made my feel worthless n made me feel bad , horrible abt myself. I can't be that weak. I'll be stronger than ever especially in such challenging COVID times. It was a very long comment ;)!! Thank you. These talks helps a lot. I come from a very conservative family. Soo I can never discuss such things with my parents. I can't even imagine how they will react if ever I'll tell them such problems which I will not do obviously. This stunt can me more dangerous than Khatron ke Khiladi. Hence your videos n these heart to heart talks helps. Thanks a lot Chetan.
Distraction is key,, I am not a pro at it but when I feel this I try to distract myself in some other things, And best way to feel better is by helping others and exploring nature
She left me 2 days before... May be it were my mistakes..and she doesn't feels love in me anymore... Now looking forward to recover from it... thankyou sir for guidance 🙌
@@jinfin221 because she wanted a man better than thor richer than tony stark having values like captain america cute like korean attached and simp like k drama boy. Toh uske paas option nahi h kya woh nahi janta kya koi koi kyu uske peechhe attracted hain.
Rona dhona raha alag abhi toh thak gayi wahi bad memories baar baar yaad kar k... Bas ab aur nhiii. Kuch fayda toh hua nhii so it's better to stop as you said thank you sir........ for huge support to handle strong attachment wali feeling.
Heath hedger said in The Dark Knight "Does it depress you? To know just how alone you really are??" .. One must learn to detach from everything whether it be money, person or anything in case if you dont have that in future you dont go into depression :)
Wow sir 🙏 hatsoff much needed video. It's been just a month since I'd my breakup been there done everything you said ruining my health MBA ka 2nd trimester personal contacts for a month. Later I realized ki wth I'm doing with my life for someone who's not here with me anymore. I packed my bag left my hostel where we both stayed together shifted to anew place far from her started a new life new friends started taking care of myself my health and studies and now I can proudly say ki Icing ati jati rehti hai bas Cake achha bake hona chahiye 🤗❤ and sir your words really helped me a lot ek clarity aa gyi ab life kuchh bhi ho jaye ek achha cake bna k hi chhodunga. Thanks a lot sir 🙏🤗❤
Time heals everything.. N you'll come up much much stronger & unshakable! With tym.. With maturity... You'll realize all you need is u.. If its out of ur hands.. it deserves to be out of the mind as well.!
Same here she got married after being in 10 yrs of relationship. Its been 1 yr for her marriage i am still into my past and memories also destroyed my career couldn't able yo focus. I know this is wrong i also know she has moved on i also know what i should do for me and my family but yet each and every passing day my emotions are not controlled and it is just destroying my career. I am 30 and still jobless giving govt exams but couldn't focus on studies. Was very close to selection in 2021 but she left and everything goy destroyed. I was working hard from 2016 for govt exams for me my family and both of us and specially for her Father so that due to caste difference he would accept me.. but she left me saying parents are everything for her 26 yrs > 10 yrs. And now i am in paind and grief i was working and wasted my 4-5 teenager time of making career for her and she got married. I also know nothing is left now. She is married. She got physical. Like nothing is left. Yet I don't have any other option now. Due to her my parents too got hurt. They consider her daughter and she committed to marry me but she ran away . My parents are worried about my career. I am 30 yrs with no skills and only option for me is working hard and focusing on my study and take that govt job but really i can't focus on my mind. That intensity is lost. No control on emotions. Uninstalling installing Instagram for lakhs of time yet controlling to not look at the chats and account. Really dont know where my life is going. 2021 was the year i was so close to crack my govt exam but everything got ruined. Yoga meditation prayam did everything... self talking everyday. Yet couldn't forget her. Also seeing couple on Insta make me feel cry. I have stopped travelling too. I live in Pune those memories flashes.. my exams are near i also gave many exams recently yet couldn't clear pre exam where there was a time i used to clear pre exams easily. This is last and final moments for me . My parents are waiting for my success. I know everything. I know being emotionally weak just not gonna work. I also know if i didn't forget the past it will just delay my success. This is my last attempt. I really want this badly. What i started i want to finish it . Not for her not for her dad who said 5 yrs he couldn't clear the exam he will bring you on road . But for me. My self respect. My parents and my future Life. I hope i live my life how i used to live. I hope i can laugh whole heartedly again. I hope i be the idol son for my parents. 15/5/2022 . 3.36PM , Pune
You will surely do good....meri purri blessings hai apko.bhut jaldi bhut acha hoga apki life m good luck to u😇😇and i will pray fr u...aap bhut aage jaoge...kyunki apki battein padhkr lga aap bhut strong ho😤 Paacha jeetoge aur apni ex se bhi zyda khush rhoge...she did not deserve this gold👌👌
Sir, I think you should cover how Break Up for guys and girls is different. By none of Girl's fault and immense amount of options available to them, I feel they move on much fast
It's because guys invest so much in a relationship! The key is trust your gut, if it says the other person is giving red flags then just see those red flags and back off because eventually things will get worse only.
After my breakup I completed all my pending projects, patented my products and published my pending research papers😂. From this I almost forgot I had a breakup😂😂😂 !! I don't know what happened to her after break up 😂😅 !!
Sometimes i really hate you, but you are narrating the reality of today's male population especially mid-20s thats why i love you very much.. i know it's harsh but that is what reality is and this what we are running away. Kudos to you sir.♥️♥️♥️
Kl he usne bola mujhe uska boyfriend h 3 saal se commited h vo , mujhe bht achi lagti h vo 😞😞❤️❤️I still love her , bht memories h uske saath meri itna pyaar se leti thi naam ❤️🌻
seriously im blessed i got this video. i hv a breakup few days ago... and im literally fcuked up my studies..... i hv my entrance exam in 5-6 mnth....i told her not to do this now but reality is different....but i think i must move on now, should focus on my career bcz at the end money matters at all.
I would like to add something..... When they leave us... specially if you are struggling in life, it's not that you don't have potential to do good in life but your circumstances don't allow you and you are kind of trapped...it may be your health, family issues or anything and at the same time if someone you love and trust so much and you need them the most at this time, they start ghosting you or they just leave...then the pain is even more than the pain of death. Now you may overcome this pain of breakup with time but due to this, you develop trust issues and insecurities which last longer and we use it as a shield that no one should hurt us the way she/he did...but it's not good for your future relationships you need to overcome this too... It can be done only when you believe in yourself and if there is something about you which you should improve then work on it, be better version of yourself it really helps. Still remember the traits of a toxic person and be mindful when choosing someone to be with, and trust but don't trust blindly.
Sir guarantee kisi bhi chiz ya baat kii nhi life me kaun aapke rahega ya chala jayega hume nhi pata bahot koshish k baad bhi koi dur jana chahta hai toh jane do kyunki agar relationship me kisi ko zabardasti phasa diya toh phir woh bandish jaisa ho jata hai phir dono me se kisi ko achha nhi hii lagega aur har side ke aspects k liye ready rehna chahiye life me..👍👍
If someone leaves you whatever for a reason just let them Go first and accept that person isn't made for you..say Ok then Goodbye Once a over it should be OVER!! Chetan sir making the light for us huge respect for you sir🙏
Thanks a lot sir for such a great video❤️🙏. Dosto aukat bnao accept kro or move on kro apni personality improve kro apna better version bno career me achha grow kro apne goal pr focus kro AUKAT BNAO jb success hogi usse better milega sb 100% sahi h ye bat jo b hua achha hua. Success bolti h dost don't be a chhuthiya majnu don't be a looser be a winner❤️best of luck dosto👍
Alfaz nahi hai bolne ke liye , kitna acche se samjhaya hai. Cake ka example is the key word for explaining such a difficult topic.. So much love to you sir ...
Time is the only solution to recover from Break-up. Time always decides it. No matter, how much advice you get from friends or families. The Damage it has caused your mind, Subconscious mind and your psychology totally gets screwed. There is no immediate recovery or remedy. We are humans not machines. As time and days pass by one gets healed by self no matter what. Like a saying “ What you sow is what you reap" Hope we learn from our mistakes!
sir I myself staring crying while seeing this video , it has been more than 2 yrs now and still i'm unable to move on . could you plz make more such videos on this topic and plz include girls as well , they are mature but damn emotional .
Mostly because of family norms we girls have to do the break up.It immensely painful though.But girls know how to handle pressures of society and still smile
Pyaar krne sai phele yeh soch lain agr ldkiyan toh krna hi na pade brkup...family ko toh Bachpan sai jaante hai sab...agr pta h ghrwle strict h ..nhi maange..toh relationship Mai ana hi ni chaiye...anyways sorry agr apko bura laga..but i said general thing..which show be kept in mind ..specially girls
@@singhmohit. its not my age to feel bad at these things.I am 48 yrs old.My children must be facing all these things not me.Magar pyaar kab ho jaata hai yeh kisi ko pata hi nhi chalta aur of course agar woh aapki life ki scheme mein fit nhi baithta hai toh aapko chhodna hi padta hai
Thank u sir 😍 sir 2 saal 2 ho gye Psc paper krle 2 month pehle chor gti thi 🤕and mera paper 1 number se reh gya only Gym gya 4000km running meditation in 5 month Now preparing upsc but still not focus🤕 I also earning money but money n gym not give me i.e much happiness n I have afraid to trust to any girl 🤕 Thank u so much sir everyday I see this 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 Bhot accha lga sunkr dil ko rahat mili
3 Things matters for men Career Career Career (To sudhar jana ladko...koy nahi saath dega aagar career nahi huva to...full practical & experience se bats raha hu,)
I can relate it well sir...years of happiness drown..but now after watching your videos...I am slowly getting my confidence back...thank you chetan sir...
The best way that can help someone to get over a breakup is to first realize that you are already a happy person before actually meeting that person. This itself clarifies the value of that person in your life. Because, if you won't met that person earlier you'll be sad from the time you born till the time you meet this person. which is definitely not the case.
Thank you so much sir, but I'm not able to accept that someone else would date her, get in her personal space and etc. That makeout wala point was so perfect.
5 years raha tha sala smjh nahi aa raha tha abb kuch kuch smjh aa rahi video se smjh aayi k ..koi kaam ki toh hai hi nhi wo aivi time barbaad kar leya woh toh gyi aur Maine 5 saal aise hi kharb kar leye ..thanks for video bro..chod gyi aur aa jayegi🥲🥲 jab jab main kaam main busy rehta hoon utni Der bholta hoon usko replace mai apne kaam se kar skta hoon
You just saved my life .... Your entire video gave me a lil hope.... Now I'm feeling better... Thank you Sir for your kind & generous words that is more relatable and happened with me . Now I can say that I'll do my best for My Mom & Dad ( Carrier too) Thank you again !
The whole matter is of RELEVANCY OF OUR in EACH OTHER LIFE. If we are relevant then everything is good if we lost our RELEVANCY then EVERYTHING IS GONE
am in same situation right now . She left few days back and am that kind of guy you described (devdas) but Its done now , am at very crutial time of my career as my palcements going to begin in 7 month ( I worked really hard to get admitted here) . I needed this to hear from somebody . I wont let this breakup ruin my career . Will be beck here in 7 months with some good news of my placements and health . Thank you .
I like the video. But these pushpa's always return to devdas no matter how boring a Devdas is or was. So its better not to make anyone your pushpa. Just become devdas to your goals and career. Do worry for the person who left you. They will always return. Ro lo Peet lo but do not give up on your goals. Agar tumahare bure waqt mien saath nai use insaan ko Kabhi b tumhaare ache waqt mien saath hone ka haq nai hona chaiye.
Let them Go, noone is permanent , everyone is temporary in life. The one who is yours will never leave YOU🙂
last line is bullshit
Well said.
*These lines are fascinating in Quotes only, But very hard in real life situation*
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Kahana aur bolna aasan hai ese
Only things that help
1) Workout everyday( it releases dopmaine, the only thing that helps)
2) Learn a new language/musical instrument/ any new skill( learning something new releases endorphins, something we need)
3) If you were always lonely like me(with no or very few friends), try solo traveling just once, it'll help you realize most people are lonely and still doing ok.
4) Read philosophy books( specially eastern one and few western ones like Stoicism, Cheerful nihilism) you'll deffo feel better.
Please do this and you'll feel better within few months.
Also, don't watch bollywood movies in which she always comes back in the end lol watch movies like Kabhi haan kabhi na.
Sahi hay vai
don't read pilosophical books ever 😂 everything will seem meaningless after that :(
@@ankitSharma-uo6zf Bro it is meaningless that's why it is wonderful. I was going through a horrible time when I wrote this now I'm doing okay not completely good but kinda ok. I started training muay thai and I love it. Lol
I suppose m older den u... But I wish u were my elder brother... Everything u said works ..
Not the hero we deserved , but the hero we needed
Very nice advice
S Jaishankar sir😅
If you feel depressed because of 2-3 years breakups then remember there are some people who had 20+ years of marriage before divorce and they still move on.
After long time people becomes bored
Your contact number pls, brother.. 🥺
@@avigyangogoi1062yeah so same goes with short time relationships
I am single and have never been in relationship ........ don't know why I am watching😅
Suno Manohar mere paas aa jao
ek bar aakar dekh le Bhai mai us raste se ho kar aaya hoon aur char din ho gaye wapis aaye ek bar chakar laga aa yaar
Us bro us 😂😂
Sabka number ata hai 😊
Bcz u don’t have anything better to do
I can relate this to myself as ended up wasting 2.5 years post breakup at a very crutial age while writing CAT. Thankfully, recovered from the loss in time & did MBA from one of the top Institute in India and saved my career. So true, Sir.
Good brother
Grt, I have wasted almost a year. Nd still going through it.
@@globe_gossips hnnn to chtya ho isha kriya kro tim hai to dusri dhund lo usse pyaar mt time pass krna khelo khudo kuch intresting sikho paisa kamao bhai
@@priyeshchoubey3884 Sahi h Bhai 4 line me life khatm krdi tumne to😂😂😂😂😂
salay yeh MBA walo kay sath e kyu hamesha hota hai
Every new generation kid should listen to all this. This is very crutial and important
2:50 - 3:50 Pain of break-up== Pain of death
Fantastically explained
Mujhe mera pain yaad aa gaya 🫡
Chetan Bhagat सर , इसी तरह जागरूक करते रहिए हम भटके हुए युवकों को, सर आपके इस कार्य के लिए हम आपके सदा आभारी रहेंगे
Guys, what sir has said is absolutely correct. Trust me, literally, I am the guy sir is talking about in the video. It's been two years since my break up and fortunately I started doing the same thing sir said and I am far better than before. I watched this video after two years and felt proud that I did the right thing...... Change is massive psychologically and physically......just keep going.....there is light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you sir for this video......I am sure this will save a lot lives. ❤️
Bhai aap break up me. se kaise baher aaye ho batoge
How you come out of breakup pain ?
Well said Chetan sir! , I think it would be better if someone left you at the right time so that you can avoid wasting more time which could have been wasted.
Now once if she has gone ,you can utilise that saved time to make yourself worthy 🙏🏻
Well said 😯😯 what an intellectual statment 🙏🏻🙏🏻
once she is gone.... u will totally fucked up for 1-2 years
@@mdakifsiddiqui4597 true but re read his comments. If suppose she is not gone till 2022 you will be still in dillusion that she is with you. And if its destined for her to leave she will leave in 2023. But imagine she left you in 2020 may be your 1yr will go waste in crying and thinking about past...but atleast 2022 will bring back your Life.
This is my condition right now. And this comment made me think alot.
She got married last yr and in April 1 yr got completed yet i am thinking about her but this comment really made me think alot about what i am doing emotionally to myself
Just yesterday I was wondering if Chetan sir could make such a video I wanted somebody to push me out of it. Thank you♥️ back to my track again !!
Same here
Sir I work with Deloitte Usi and busy for the whole day. I am 29 and working on marriage prospects( Though not successful yet). I like your mantra of detachment, and focus on my work which really helps me ignore the stuff ( Icing part). Keep making these kind of videos. We guys need it Sir
Push yourself
same here bro .
Chal cheete.. aage badh!! 👊🏼
I can relate to this topic very well. My ex husband decided to divorce me and I wasn’t prepared for it. It came all of a sudden. It was very challenging for me and it took almost 5 years to come out of it. With time your wound heals but scar is still there. Just want to say not men but women also goes through the same way as men do during their break up or divorce.
Mere shaath bhi yahi huwa he bohat pain huwa he ? Abhi kya kar rahe ho
Stay strong that's the only way
Now r u married or not ??
This video helped me a lot. Thank you, Sir. My ex broke up with me a few months ago, and now she is getting married. It's clear that she moved on very quickly in life. I was stuck emotionally, but finally, I am learning to let go of the situation and focus on myself and my life.
How do you manage these things?
@@gauravvashisth3415 Take as much time as needed. You are going to feel very bad for maybe 2-3 months, and nothing can be done about that. Try to keep yourself distracted as much as possible. You will still remember her, obviously, but that is part of the healing procedure. Don't get into another relationship right away because it may not be worth it, and if possible delete everything like pictures, videos, etc. of hers from your phone. If it is not possible, then save them somewhere you don't access regularly at least and delete them from your phone. If possible, do things that take your mind off the matter, like going to gym...or you can join a club or something, but whatever you do, surround yourself with people - who are not romancing each other. In 2-3 months, you will be in a much better place :) all the best.
Same here she got married after being in 10 yrs of relationship. Its been 1 yr for her marriage i am still into my past and memories also destroyed my career couldn't able yo focus. I know this is wrong i also know she has moved on i also know what i should do for me and my family but yet each and every passing day my emotions are not controlled and it is just destroying my career. I am 30 and still jobless giving govt exams but couldn't focus on studies. Was very close to selection in 2021 but she left and everything goy destroyed. I was working hard from 2016 for govt exams for me my family and both of us and specially for her Father so that due to caste difference he would accept me.. but she left me saying parents are everything for her 26 yrs > 10 yrs. And now i am in paind and grief i was working and wasted my 4-5 teenager time of making career for her and she got married. I also know nothing is left now. She is married. She got physical. Like nothing is left. Yet I don't have any other option now. Due to her my parents too got hurt. They consider her daughter and she committed to marry me but she ran away . My parents are worried about my career. I am 30 yrs with no skills and only option for me is working hard and focusing on my study and take that govt job but really i can't focus on my mind. That intensity is lost. No control on emotions. Uninstalling installing Instagram for lakhs of time yet controlling to not look at the chats and account. Really dont know where my life is going. 2021 was the year i was so close to crack my govt exam but everything got ruined. Yoga meditation prayam did everything... self talking everyday. Yet couldn't forget her. Also seeing couple on Insta make me feel cry. I have stopped travelling too. I live in Pune those memories flashes.. my exams are near i also gave many exams recently yet couldn't clear pre exam where there was a time i used to clear pre exams easily. This is last and final moments for me . My parents are waiting for my success. I know everything. I know being emotionally weak just not gonna work. I also know if i didn't forget the past it will just delay my success. This is my last attempt. I really want this badly. What i started i want to finish it . Not for her not for her dad who said 5 yrs he couldn't clear the exam he will bring you on road . But for me. My self respect. My parents and my future Life. I hope i live my life how i used to live. I hope i can laugh whole heartedly again. I hope i be the idol son for my parents.
14/5/2022 . 3.36PM , Pune
@@vikrant_bhise bhai sab ke saath hota hai,mai bhi abhi aisi condition me hu
Bass himmat rakho aur ek baat suno bhai jaane waalo ko sirf ek glti ki talaash rehti hai ya ek bahane ki, wo aapko deserve nhi krti thi kismat aapki nhi uski kharaab hai,aap ab ache se pdho apne maa baap ke liye mehnat karo, i hope aap jaldi theek hojaayege !
@@vikrant_bhise Think about ur future and work hard forget the past it was for good
Not worth wasting ur life
Line-" aapko lagta hai ki samne vala aapki value badha rha hai , jo ki sahi nahi hai"
sir you just change my thinking ....!! From my heart❣ .. thank you soooo much Sir..!😊🤗
🙂Pain is directly proportional to attachment and the Golden precious time one spends with her/him
किताब ऐसी होनी चाहिए
जिसे पढ़कर व्यक्ति की जिंदगी बदल जाएं
और महान बनाने में अहम भूमिका निभाएं... 🤔
सर आप सब जानते हैं मन की बात ।पता नहीं क्यू आप हर समस्या को बारिकियों के साथ सुलझाने की पूरी कोशिश करते हैं।आप ऐसे ही हमें रास्ता दिखाते रहें । बहुत सारी शुभकामनाएँ 🫂 आपके विचार इस पूँजीवादी प्यार के दौर में फ़िट बैठते हैं।
Koi kisi ke liye nahi rukta, Move on because the show must go on 🙂
Sir mene breakup se overcome k liye bhut sare videos dekhe but this video hit my mind
Thanku sir u r great sir 🎉
My pleasure!
Bhai ek baar to career bana... kafi sari acchi ladki mill jayegi... baki 1 week main sab thik ho jata hain...bass subhe thodi runing kar liya Karo
Just keep in mind that smn one better is coming for you and uss insaan ki aukaat nahi thi aapne pyaar ki
It really helps and makes you strong I am a jee aspirant and going through same phase, this feeling motivates me to study more and hard
it's 6 months she left me...was very disturbed for 3 months nd she called nd said she has overcome ... seperation hurts bt the attachment kills...I just blocked her everywhere I can nd trying to move on nd get a fresh start...keep posting such contents ❤️thank you sir ❤️
Sir u r really wrong this time.... I'm a girl n I wasn't able to handle breakup well. I did wasted my 2-3 years. I regret it a lot. My health n studies/ career just went down n down. I got soo stressed out that I got diagnosed with stress related diseases. I can't express that feeling of obsession. It made me exhausted mentally n physically. I was unable to focus. I used to constantly compare myself with others, forcing me to think what's wrong with me. I felt worthless. I doubted myself on everything. Confidence just went down. Wasted a lot of time on social media stalking. I agree with u when u compare death with breakup. After wasting 2-3 years, I'm now in a much better place, more stable. Only thing I'm scared of is that what if I end up wasting more time on this sadness n not letting go of that breakup. U r right. Sometimes there is no reason for a breakup. U just don't feel that way for someone but it's hard to accept that when u get dumped n r feeling horrible. Now for me time is more precious than money. I just don't want to waste my time obsessing over that person anymore n stalking that person on every social media platform available. I don't want that. I want to focus 100% on myself. I'm trying. I'm just scared what if I fall into that black hole again. But I can't be that weak. I won't allow my years of education go waste just bez of someone made my feel worthless n made me feel bad , horrible abt myself. I can't be that weak. I'll be stronger than ever especially in such challenging COVID times. It was a very long comment ;)!! Thank you. These talks helps a lot. I come from a very conservative family. Soo I can never discuss such things with my parents. I can't even imagine how they will react if ever I'll tell them such problems which I will not do obviously. This stunt can me more dangerous than Khatron ke Khiladi. Hence your videos n these heart to heart talks helps. Thanks a lot Chetan.
Distraction is key,, I am not a pro at it but when I feel this I try to distract myself in some other things,
And best way to feel better is by helping others and exploring nature
Dear it happens ...dont loose hope ..u will shine one day
Same thing happening with me , each and every line of yours is same and it feels really bad.
Same here, like you 😔
Thanks to Chetan sir
My all time favourite ❣️❣️
with U...
Respect sir almost it's been 1 year and i felt that is my story and i need to improve myself now
Thank you 💝
More power to you
in my case , it's been 3-4 yrs , and i am still stuck in the past , too hard to move on .
गुरुवर आपकी मधुर वाणी एवं निश्छल भाव से की गई मेहनत बहुत ही सराहनीय है ईश्वर आपको और आपके परिवार को दीर्घ आयु प्रदान ...
She left me 2 days before... May be it were my mistakes..and she doesn't feels love in me anymore... Now looking forward to recover from it... thankyou sir for guidance 🙌
Mai bata nahi sakta sir ki kitna jyaada relate kiya hu aapki baaton se....
Right video at right time of my life 🙂
Don't know about breakup my love is Still One-Sided 🙂 And it is a wonderful feeling ❤️
Why didn't he want you?
Mine too.. its actually a wonderful feelings 😘😘💖💖💖
@@jinfin221 because she wanted a man better than thor richer than tony stark having values like captain america cute like korean attached and simp like k drama boy. Toh uske paas option nahi h kya woh nahi janta kya koi koi kyu uske peechhe attracted hain.
@@justforyou667 lol
You touch really most needed topics..
🔥🔥🙏
Rona dhona raha alag abhi toh thak gayi wahi bad memories baar baar yaad kar k... Bas ab aur nhiii. Kuch fayda toh hua nhii so it's better to stop as you said thank you sir........ for huge support to handle strong attachment wali feeling.
New chij try karna suru kar do akele rehna band karo ye kaam karta hai mai bhi yahi try kar raha hu..... (:
Heath hedger said in The Dark Knight "Does it depress you? To know just how alone you really are??" .. One must learn to detach from everything whether it be money, person or anything in case if you dont have that in future you dont go into depression :)
For singles I guess Beta career ke baad Bandi bnana hai!! Abhi Sirf pehchaan!!! Hai na sir!!
Wow sir 🙏 hatsoff much needed video. It's been just a month since I'd my breakup been there done everything you said ruining my health MBA ka 2nd trimester personal contacts for a month. Later I realized ki wth I'm doing with my life for someone who's not here with me anymore. I packed my bag left my hostel where we both stayed together shifted to anew place far from her started a new life new friends started taking care of myself my health and studies and now I can proudly say ki Icing ati jati rehti hai bas Cake achha bake hona chahiye 🤗❤ and sir your words really helped me a lot ek clarity aa gyi ab life kuchh bhi ho jaye ek achha cake bna k hi chhodunga. Thanks a lot sir 🙏🤗❤
some guys are in imaginary relationship and still can't get over someone :) :)
I can relate 😅
What a great Man😍
Sir I have been passing my days in such stupid things as you mentioned, today I realized.
Thanks legend 😊
Time heals everything.. N you'll come up much much stronger & unshakable!
With tym.. With maturity... You'll realize all you need is u.. If its out of ur hands.. it deserves to be out of the mind as well.!
Same here she got married after being in 10 yrs of relationship. Its been 1 yr for her marriage i am still into my past and memories also destroyed my career couldn't able yo focus. I know this is wrong i also know she has moved on i also know what i should do for me and my family but yet each and every passing day my emotions are not controlled and it is just destroying my career. I am 30 and still jobless giving govt exams but couldn't focus on studies. Was very close to selection in 2021 but she left and everything goy destroyed. I was working hard from 2016 for govt exams for me my family and both of us and specially for her Father so that due to caste difference he would accept me.. but she left me saying parents are everything for her 26 yrs > 10 yrs. And now i am in paind and grief i was working and wasted my 4-5 teenager time of making career for her and she got married. I also know nothing is left now. She is married. She got physical. Like nothing is left. Yet I don't have any other option now. Due to her my parents too got hurt. They consider her daughter and she committed to marry me but she ran away . My parents are worried about my career. I am 30 yrs with no skills and only option for me is working hard and focusing on my study and take that govt job but really i can't focus on my mind. That intensity is lost. No control on emotions. Uninstalling installing Instagram for lakhs of time yet controlling to not look at the chats and account. Really dont know where my life is going. 2021 was the year i was so close to crack my govt exam but everything got ruined. Yoga meditation prayam did everything... self talking everyday. Yet couldn't forget her. Also seeing couple on Insta make me feel cry. I have stopped travelling too. I live in Pune those memories flashes.. my exams are near i also gave many exams recently yet couldn't clear pre exam where there was a time i used to clear pre exams easily. This is last and final moments for me . My parents are waiting for my success. I know everything. I know being emotionally weak just not gonna work. I also know if i didn't forget the past it will just delay my success. This is my last attempt. I really want this badly. What i started i want to finish it . Not for her not for her dad who said 5 yrs he couldn't clear the exam he will bring you on road . But for me. My self respect. My parents and my future Life. I hope i live my life how i used to live. I hope i can laugh whole heartedly again. I hope i be the idol son for my parents.
15/5/2022 . 3.36PM , Pune
You will surely do good....meri purri blessings hai apko.bhut jaldi bhut acha hoga apki life m good luck to u😇😇and i will pray fr u...aap bhut aage jaoge...kyunki apki battein padhkr lga aap bhut strong ho😤
Paacha jeetoge aur apni ex se bhi zyda khush rhoge...she did not deserve this gold👌👌
Don't afraid to learn continuously because Life never stops Teaching ❤️👍
Sir, I think you should cover how Break Up for guys and girls is different. By none of Girl's fault and immense amount of options available to them, I feel they move on much fast
@radhika ofcourse it's true.
Girls are mature and boys cant get over someone easily it's true.boys take more time to get over this breakups and all
It's because guys invest so much in a relationship!
The key is trust your gut, if it says the other person is giving red flags then just see those red flags and back off because eventually things will get worse only.
After my breakup I completed all my pending projects, patented my products and published my pending research papers😂. From this I almost forgot I had a breakup😂😂😂 !!
I don't know what happened to her after break up 😂😅 !!
😂🔥🙌gonna do the same!!!
U were never attached in the 1st place then
@@Aman-nk5uq true
I do believe... Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.... So live happily it's a life .... Let go ...is the super mantra
😂 1 year, 2 years
So true Sir ❤️
Sometimes i really hate you, but you are narrating the reality of today's male population especially mid-20s thats why i love you very much.. i know it's harsh but that is what reality is and this what we are running away.
Kudos to you sir.♥️♥️♥️
Kl he usne bola mujhe uska boyfriend h 3 saal se commited h vo , mujhe bht achi lagti h vo 😞😞❤️❤️I still love her , bht memories h uske saath meri itna pyaar se leti thi naam ❤️🌻
Really appreciated the efforts by Chetan sir. ...he is reading the comment and liking them
The way you narrate the situation, it becomes funny. I was laughing so hard in between. 😁
😂😂😂😂😂same here
Best dialogue of the day. Kya girlfriend hai aapki. Yeh lijiye job
sir aap apni breakup story batao kabhi.....
jo jo chahta h ki sir ki breakup story sab sune to like kare😍
seriously im blessed i got this video. i hv a breakup few days ago... and im literally fcuked up my studies..... i hv my entrance exam in 5-6 mnth....i told her not to do this now but reality is different....but i think i must move on now, should focus on my career bcz at the end money matters at all.
I would like to add something.....
When they leave us... specially if you are struggling in life, it's not that you don't have potential to do good in life but your circumstances don't allow you and you are kind of trapped...it may be your health, family issues or anything and at the same time if someone you love and trust so much and you need them the most at this time, they start ghosting you or they just leave...then the pain is even more than the pain of death.
Now you may overcome this pain of breakup with time but due to this, you develop trust issues and insecurities which last longer and we use it as a shield that no one should hurt us the way she/he did...but it's not good for your future relationships you need to overcome this too...
It can be done only when you believe in yourself and if there is something about you which you should improve then work on it, be better version of yourself it really helps.
Still remember the traits of a toxic person and be mindful when choosing someone to be with, and trust but don't trust blindly.
Sir guarantee kisi bhi chiz ya baat kii nhi life me kaun aapke rahega ya chala jayega hume nhi pata bahot koshish k baad bhi koi dur jana chahta hai toh jane do kyunki agar relationship me kisi ko zabardasti phasa diya toh phir woh bandish jaisa ho jata hai phir dono me se kisi ko achha nhi hii lagega aur har side ke aspects k liye ready rehna chahiye life me..👍👍
If someone leaves you whatever for a reason just let them Go first and accept that person isn't made for you..say Ok then Goodbye
Once a over it should be OVER!!
Chetan sir making the light for us huge respect for you sir🙏
Sir esi video ki series bana do
Aage ki generation ko bahut kaam aayega !
Thanks a lot sir for such a great video❤️🙏. Dosto aukat bnao accept kro or move on kro apni personality improve kro apna better version bno career me achha grow kro apne goal pr focus kro AUKAT BNAO jb success hogi usse better milega sb 100% sahi h ye bat jo b hua achha hua. Success bolti h dost don't be a chhuthiya majnu don't be a looser be a winner❤️best of luck dosto👍
Thanks a lot.... Well said sir.... Plz don't leave or delete your videos
Boring wala jo point uthaya hai sir aapne ... uspe ek solo video banado. Kyuki kabhi kabhi lgta hai I am boring kabhi kabhi lgta hai I am good
Without backup, girls won't break up. Same for boys. Sad but it is reality 🥺
What a timming sir i really need this lect..😍😍
Alfaz nahi hai bolne ke liye , kitna acche se samjhaya hai.
Cake ka example is the key word for explaining such a difficult topic..
So much love to you sir ...
woh din door nhi jab log love ke peeche bhagenge nhi
Iss cheez se mei dur ja chuka hu be aur kuch he chal raha hai life mei better life ko leke 🙏
5 saal pehle jab freindship hui thi toh meri salary jayda thi us se 2021 mein uski salary bd gyi toh yeh bolkr chli gyi
Time is the only solution to recover from Break-up. Time always decides it. No matter, how much advice you get from friends or families. The Damage it has caused your mind, Subconscious mind and your psychology totally gets screwed. There is no immediate recovery or remedy. We are humans not machines. As time and days pass by one gets healed by self no matter what. Like a saying “ What you sow is what you reap" Hope we learn from our mistakes!
Really mujhe 8 months lage us dipression se bahar aane me, but kuch hadd tak mai ab normal hu. I can't forget those moments..😞😞😞
Sir, I think you have a good experience in this field.
sir I myself staring crying while seeing this video , it has been more than 2 yrs now and still i'm unable to move on . could you plz make more such videos on this topic and plz include girls as well , they are mature but damn emotional .
True. I am facing the same situation and i am an extremely sensitive person. I believe girls are very emotional and boys are thick-skinned.
New to this channel .. I have binge watched lot of your videos. Thank you for making them . 😊
The key is in sbse bhar niklne k liy 🙂❤️ apne aap ko busy rkho carrrier m , hobbies m and all stuff ❤️🌻
Yes much needed topic for current relationship thanks alot sir keep it up 💪👌💯
@@yourwellwisher6844 you too take care
Insta break up reels...makes us even more depressed
RUclips breakup videos is to knock sense in us
Mostly because of family norms we girls have to do the break up.It immensely painful though.But girls know how to handle pressures of society and still smile
Pyaar krne sai phele yeh soch lain agr ldkiyan toh krna hi na pade brkup...family ko toh Bachpan sai jaante hai sab...agr pta h ghrwle strict h ..nhi maange..toh relationship Mai ana hi ni chaiye...anyways sorry agr apko bura laga..but i said general thing..which show be kept in mind ..specially girls
@@singhmohit. its not my age to feel bad at these things.I am 48 yrs old.My children must be facing all these things not me.Magar pyaar kab ho jaata hai yeh kisi ko pata hi nhi chalta aur of course agar woh aapki life ki scheme mein fit nhi baithta hai toh aapko chhodna hi padta hai
Doosron ki feelings ko bhi kindness ke saath samajhna chahiye chahe woh humaare bachche hi kyon na ho
Thank u sir 😍 sir 2 saal 2 ho gye
Psc paper krle 2 month pehle chor gti thi 🤕and mera paper 1 number se reh gya only
Gym gya 4000km running meditation in 5 month
Now preparing upsc but still not focus🤕
I also earning money but money n gym not give me i.e much happiness n I have afraid to trust to any girl 🤕
Thank u so much sir everyday I see this 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Bhot accha lga sunkr dil ko rahat mili
Same problem🤯
Just finished off “one arranged murder” it was amazing
Specially the twist at the end
Now starting “the girl in room no 105” sir
❤️
The best thing is try to make yourself busy . It will help a lot
It could be🙏 blessings in disguise
3 Things matters for men
Career Career Career
(To sudhar jana ladko...koy nahi saath dega aagar career nahi huva to...full practical & experience se bats raha hu,)
I can relate it well sir...years of happiness drown..but now after watching your videos...I am slowly getting my confidence back...thank you chetan sir...
Sir aap bilkul bade bhaiya ki tarah salah dete ho...
Ekdum real life baatein bata dete ho aap
A great pathfinder & friend also..
Salute you Chetan sir..👏🏻👏🏻
Sir uske Chorne ke baad hum jyada khush hai vo ab jaha rahe khush rahe aur hum uske bina ekdum prasann hai 🤗🤗🤗🤗
Please make a video on always doubting girlfriend due to her past relationships
The best way that can help someone to get over a breakup is to first realize that you are already a happy person before actually meeting that person. This itself clarifies the value of that person in your life. Because, if you won't met that person earlier you'll be sad from the time you born till the time you meet this person. which is definitely not the case.
Thank you so much sir, but I'm not able to accept that someone else would date her, get in her personal space and etc.
That makeout wala point was so perfect.
Jinka break up hua hai vo sab turant Shrimad Bhagwat Geeta Padhna Shuru kar do guaranteed aap khush rahoge.
5 years raha tha sala smjh nahi aa raha tha abb kuch kuch smjh aa rahi video se smjh aayi k ..koi kaam ki toh hai hi nhi wo aivi time barbaad kar leya woh toh gyi aur Maine 5 saal aise hi kharb kar leye ..thanks for video bro..chod gyi aur aa jayegi🥲🥲 jab jab main kaam main busy rehta hoon utni Der bholta hoon usko replace mai apne kaam se kar skta hoon
Suddenly he changed,then I came to know that I was just ignoring those red flags.
I cannot tell you how it feels
Really sir..... ur words is so impressive and true ....i feel in life.. Do something new.... Thanks a lot sir....
वाह.... मेरे पास शब्द कम पड़ गये कि इस video को कितना तारीफ करु..... 🙏🙏
Great sir👍
Very well said Chetan Sir! Truly Inspiring and this video worth millions of likes ! More power to you 💯
Thanq sir for this video........kyuki m iss pain se gujar rha hu so i really need this
And i think this video help me a lot
You just saved my life .... Your entire video gave me a lil hope.... Now I'm feeling better... Thank you Sir for your kind & generous words that is more relatable and happened with me . Now I can say that I'll do my best for My Mom & Dad ( Carrier too)
Thank you again !
Nice to see this comment brother. Go for it ✨
can i get your contact number pls
Sir career me progress to ho rhi thi us insaan k saath se...mentally happy they hum bohot usk saath..to kaam pe bhi focus achha thaa
The whole matter is of RELEVANCY OF OUR in EACH OTHER LIFE.
If we are relevant then everything is good if we lost our RELEVANCY then EVERYTHING IS GONE
am in same situation right now . She left few days back and am that kind of guy you described (devdas) but Its done now , am at very crutial time of my career as my palcements going to begin in 7 month ( I worked really hard to get admitted here) . I needed this to hear from somebody . I wont let this breakup ruin my career . Will be beck here in 7 months with some good news of my placements and health . Thank you .
How are you man ?
I like the video. But these pushpa's always return to devdas no matter how boring a Devdas is or was. So its better not to make anyone your pushpa. Just become devdas to your goals and career.
Do worry for the person who left you. They will always return.
Ro lo Peet lo but do not give up on your goals.
Agar tumahare bure waqt mien saath nai use insaan ko Kabhi b tumhaare ache waqt mien saath hone ka haq nai hona chaiye.
Sir mujhe lgta h girls jyada emotional hoti h or breakup ka effect bhi un pr jyada hota h .
Once again Thank You Sir😊❤️
Mental peace, Health, making Money ...just chase these things.
Very true