I was in a relationship for 4 years in college and as soon as i shifted to delhi for my upsc preparations he left me in a brutal manner I wasted my entire year thinking about how can he leave me etc etc I was literally begging him to come back , dropping 1000 msgs It was so depressing Sometimes during metro travel i did not realise that i have crossed extra stations It was such a bad time But yet a turning point in my life... I will suggest If someone wants to leave u Let them go Dont force them to stay with u Cry and just let it go but dont give so much time of your life It wont benefit (Everything happens for a reason)
Hlw sis!! My situation is almost similar to yours. I am suffering a lot rn. Can u plz tell me how did you control your emotions, mere se nhi ho rha 😭😭. In between studies also, wo moments flashback krti hain when everything was good and that hurts like hell.
@@rajrahul6662 i understand Ap meditation kia karo Breathing exercise to control your mind Because mind apko baar baar usi ki yaad dilwata rahega jab tak ap use control nahi kroge Mind ka kaam he distract karna hai Maine spirituality ka sahara liya in sab se bahar ane ka Dhere dhere mai spirituality mai aisa kho gai ki mujhe chezen samjh ane lagi ki aisa kyu hua etc etc Time lagega but ap ek din zaroor theek ho jaoge
What a perfect timing of the video. In my college there's a boy and at first he texted me. He was interested and he used to text me often but then I started liking him sooo much. Then as sir said if you give a lot of importance to someone he thinks that he is out of your league. He started ignoring me. I am also the person 'jisko bohot jor ka pyar hota hai'. I now feel very lonely and insecure. As sir said chase your goals,money,status and health not any random boy or girl. Thanks sir❤
Thank you so much for this Chetan! I needed to hear this rn. I'm ultra-sensitive and over-emotional and have been making the same mistake over and over again for past 15 years or so, just because mujhe bhi "bohot zor se aur bohot ganda wala pyaar" hota hai, even when the other person is just using me when they're bored or lonely.
Hey buddy, my name is Aanchal too😅😅😂 I am doing that same shit As I am too sensitive I even love a person when I know he is just using me but not any more🙃
It is obvious if you will care too much for someone his/her value will Increase and your value will be decreased and he/she will run away from low value towards high value. 😄 So always increase your value continuously, become valuable.
I have been doing the same since past 12 years with UNWAVERING DEDICATION without caring a damn for my self-respect. Still failed! So, Chetan Sir is right. NEVER EVER CHASE ANYBODY! Who so ever you put at the pedestal, she will always be out of your reach. So do not put her at the pedestal. Bollywood Movies have brainwashed our youths. There is Nothing called 'True Love'. The mantra of life -- " Nobody Cares" Work upon your "SELF". Impress only your "SELF". That doesn't mean you become Selfish. Have compassion for others, but also love yourself
I can relate to each and every word of your story.... difference is that I experienced this in my college as I started liking a girl and i chased her madly and got attached to her emotionally and after 4 months of spending time with her .. confessed my feelings to her but unfortunately got to know that she was already in a long distance relationship for 2 years and infact in these 4 months she didn't feel that I was having feelings for her. Now everything is fucked up .. after knowing all this she said that we can be good friends as earlier it used to be ....i agreed to do that ....but after 1 month i realised that it's not possible for me to act like a friend.... every time I meet her i put a filter of a friend...and suppress my feelings which is very painful... So ya ..i can say love is something which should not be chased...if it has to happen it will happen and that too mutually....so it will be better to focus on our goals and keep ourselves occupied with our work.. Lastly bs itna kehna hai ki har cheez ka ek waqt hota hai har cheez samay ke sath hoti h...pyaar ka samay aana hoga to aayega but pyar ka peecha mt krna kbhi bhi 🫡
Exactly Chetan.. it's very true. And I guess 98% of the viewers can relate to this. When maturity hits you, every individual says," yaar mein kitna chuttiya tha."😁... BTW Thanks for motivating. God bless 🙏🏻
The best thing about internet is that we can connect to many great minds like you, in a matter of seconds. And I think that’s something to be proud of.
I chased a girl and lost my self respect Then I love myself and get back respect. Nothing is more beautiful like confidence,self respect and self love on a man's face!
Honestly, going through something similar right now. Was in a relationship with this guy, I treasured him, a lot. I would do anything for him. I'd always walk an extra mile if that put a smile on his face. One random day he breaks up with me saying he didn't have "feelings". I was shattered, kept thinking what did I do wrong? I did everything from my part, maybe I wasn't enough, I kept asking him for reasons, begging him to stay. When I couldn't stop being overwhelmed I tried contacting his friends and family about this because that affected my health in many ways, I couldn't eat or sleep. The end result? He trashed me in the worst way possible, saying I'm worthless and clingy and that he didn't even want to see my face, and blocked me from everywhere. I was blank. I thought, I was just doing everything for him to come back to me, what did I do to deserve this treatment from him? Absolutely nothing. It's just that, I tried too hard. Maybe he stopped having feelings because I became pretty ordinary, "foolishly in love" with him. Maybe that's why after he left so suddenly, I felt as if my life has come to a dead end. I felt lost and miserable and humiliated. I kept thinking, why? After everything I did, how could he leave me that easily? Am I that easy to forget? He's so unaffected, smiling and laughing with his friends like we never even happened, while I'm here, crying all day long. I'm still in the denial phase. Even though I know that, what meant the world to me, meant so little to him. But I keep consolidating myself saying he must be guilty too, what if he comes back? Even though I know that I'm being a doormat and treating myself like an option which is always open, I can't stop feeling perplexed and anxious about it. Maybe when I get out of my "denial" phase and finally acknowledge the "acceptance" phase, things would start looking little less gloomy than it does now. ❤️
I can relate u completly as I'm going through exactly same situation not even a bit different...I can feel the pain...it's hell..hope we'll be fine soon❤️
Thank you sir, whenever I chased for my love, my love always move faster than my chase. In this process, I used to spend countless hour for waiting her. Ultimately I didn't get my love and wasted a lots of valuable time of my carrier's. Thank you for motivating us
Sometimes RUclips don't recommend the videos what we want but shows us those videos what we need. Thanks Chetan Ji for your valuable lessons based on real life.🥰🥰
@@ChetanBhagat1 but the sad and funny fact to me is that I didn't chase love, but love chased me. And at last love grabbed me and broke my heart also. Then what should I say?
@@genuine1783 that's what you thought, like chetan sir thought ki "itna baat kar rahi hai", she is liking me. But actually me girls want emotional support, its not like she wanted to impress. She only thinks of you as a friend.
Love isnt always enough.. We need a balance of everything to be content and at peace with our life's. The best kind of love is the one which empowers you to rise above from your failures and short comings❤️ lovely video sir❤️ a big fan of yours ❤️
Now I Am 29yr, Did Engineering at 23yr, Struggling Life Due To Some Lack Of Skills The Failure Realised Me This Great Lesson Then Move Forward, I Am Living A Social+Spiritual Life With The Art Of Living Movement.... 🙌🏻🙏🏻🙂
@@KalpWork Same story as mine. I passed out from NIT jaipur and than didn't get a job for almost 15 months and than finally got a job in Amazon and now it's been 4 years i am working there.
You are genius sir...Your "Daant" series is like medicine to our bakwaas thoughts,ways of living,overthinking and over rating to those things which actually does not even deserve attention.
This is really true sir , the same situation I have faced in last 2 months without reputation, money and status love is not so easy that I think. It is totally waste of time to chase love.
Sir this really cleared my mind that , chasing love and getting rejected is just a small thing and everyone experienced that,it lights the weight in my mind ,really thanku for this video for showing us the right way at right time ❤️❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
दिल से बोलुंगा चेतन सर आप मेरे जिंदगी के रथ के सारथी हो कृष्ण भगवान जैसे जो समय समय पर मार्ग दिखा रहे है. आपके वजेसे बोहोत बदलाव आया है यार मतलब छोटी छोटी चीजे है लेकिन ऐसा लगता है कि इन्हीं चिजो से life मे बोहोत कुछ उखाडुंगा,बोहोत self confidence जो चूर चूर हुवा था वो अब धीरे रास्ते पे आ रहा है. Thank you sir ❤️
I used to be an IDIOT(lived in the fantasy that chasing love is the most important aspect of life or in other words I thought that I am not a worthy person if I can't win the love of a girl) but with the passage of time I came to realize what Sir has shared in this video. Really an eye opening video for the Indian youth. One must instead work on getting well skilled at his/her field of interest and improve the quality of their life rather than wasting time in chasing love(which in most cases is the seeking of validation and acceptance meanwhile who knows the person being chased is also struggling with similar issues.)
I am a good looking girl but I have wasted a lot of time in relationships with wrong people. I wish I had this kind of guidance when I was in school 15 yrs back. You are absolutely right Chetan , you should always work on making money and good health .. rest everything follows
Chetan i m 25 year old. I was in a bad relationship and i was not letting it go , because of you i am now out of it ,you really taught me how to think practically in which i was always chamanlaal ,now whenever i feel miserable i thinks chalo Chetan ko dekhte hai wo kuch btayega ,thanks a lot for being with us .
Haha...i like the way narrated your teenage life. And that is the beauty of life endowed with teenage phase, because whatever we do, 1. we do in full innocency 2. We do with pure heart without any second thought and judge. This tells most of human undergoes through same type of episodes.
Yes sir !!! Experienced such an exact heartbreak this year (2022). Only because I chased love like an IDIOT. Now I think if only I could come across this RUclips video days ago !
Thank you so much sir..I was just like you..chasing love..now I turn back n see what I did..I spoiled my career..my other priorities.....I am big emotional fool ....trying hard to set my goals and accomplishing it..♥️
Had a breakup and now she is with someone else. And even after she came into a relationship with someone else, I always wanted to approach her or wanted to get her back and obviously tried many times. But only got disappointment and some insecurities. Now, I am totally out from all of this and trying to become a better person with some serious goals in life. Thank you so much sir for your all relationship videos, that videos really helped me to get out of all this.
Chetan sir aap jaise bohot hi gine chune log hi hai, jo real life (ground) me hone wale situations ko discuss karte hai, ye bohot jaruri hai, aap log nahi samjhaoge toh kaun samjhayega young generation ko, aapka ye initiative mujhe bohot achha laga, thanks
What a video sir ! I don't know why RUclips recommend this video but its totally matching with my current scenario ! Thanks sir its a grt life lesson. ☺️
So true sir!! I believe this is story of all boy/girls who had one sided love in their life!! This one sided love when happens in teenage is very powerful and waste a lot of time chasing love! When maturity comes, there is no one sided love then, it all mutual
I can't express how much these videos boost my self confidence and give energy to face the problems in my life. Such an inspirational videos these are...
WoW...... i am 28 years old... chasing my career in civil service... many times succeeded many time failed in between... still miles to go ... but i can relate very much with you in terms of the loss i incurred for being a deep lover and a sensitive person in some distant past .. and for that i suffered loss in other aspects... very insightful enlightening podcast... chasing after goal and career requires good deal of determination and perseverence...
Much needed video! By Giving more, you are not going to get more. Today i complimented the person i love that you look good in your picture. And got a reply "Do you stalk me whole day? Don't you have any other work?". Just don't give too much guys. You will end up losing yourself in the process.
Sir kuchh jyda nhi kahuga .....par aapko sun ke lgta h life m jo support chahiye tha vo mil rha h M padai v achchi kr pa rha hu or 1 achcha insaan bn rha hu... Thank You Alot Sir ❤️😊
Thanku sir, I was also doing this stupid thing in my life for last 8 months or more than 2 years, But after listing to you, I have a clear path, which I can see properly 😊
That was a very heartwarming and a beautiful as well as a TRUE message to every unaware person who feels and who thinks that love is considered the most important possession one could have,ignoring every other important aspect of life.Thanks a lot sir for sharing this TRUE message to us.Love from odhisha
I did the same thing few months back now I decided to broke the ties with that girl considering she wasn’t my type and I recalled my self worth as well telling myself repeatedly that work on yourself and choose somebody much better.
Sir i regularly follow your videos but this vide has affected me deeply . I am 20 yo right now and this happened to me a year ago , my heart was shattered but now i am okay i work on myself ,my studies and also starting feeling gratitude to what happened cuz this that incident taught me a lot of things which i feel now was really important for me to understand. Thank You Sir
Thanks for the lesson, it's best for the youth now a days. I wish ki in our time we can get these kind of thought so that we never run behind the girls or boys (for girls) and waste our most valuable time which will never came again 😔😔😔
The fact is that move on is not an easy task for a man really it's just not but it's so easy for girls . It takes me 3 years to get over a girl only when i started watching your video's sir thank you so much...
uncle aapane bahut direct aur Sahi baat bole hai, main bhi yahi feel Karta hoon aur mere friends ko aise hi advice deta hun jab vah ask karte Hain but koi seriously nahin leta. kyunki sabko Gyan Dena hai kisi Ko Gyan Lena nahin hai.Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you so much sir, I hope we'll be able to avoid this mistake, also just one suggestion you can also make mistakes series that you made in your life so that it will help youth like us to avoid those..
आप जबलपुर आये यह सुनकर अच्छा लगा,और सिर्फ आपकी वन साइड लव के लिए यह सुनकर काफी हँसी आई। ऐसे जुनूनपरस्त लोग ही दुनिया बदल सकते है। (यह लाइन आपके लिए नही हम नए लोगो के लिए है) जब मैं जब 2007 में BE 1st Sem में गया था,इंग्लिश में तब जुबान और हाथ दोनों तंग थे(हिंदी मीडियम वालों के नार्मल लक्षणों में से एक यह भी है) तब किसी ने कहा था कि आप चेतन भगत की नोवल पढ़ा करो ,आपकी अंग्रेजी सही हो जाएगी। मतलब आप नॉवलिस्ट से बढ़कर है हम जैसे लोगो के लिए। 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
The actual Funda, of the person generally, who chasing you finds something better in you than what he/she poses so don't focus much on them instead on yourself. Thank you sirrr for meeting up us with the reality . We hairbreadth escaped from ruining our lifes
As you are saying, if we run behind something, those things automatically get out of our antenna. But one thing I would say, which is an exception, is that knowledge is the only thing, that comes to you while chasing.
All of this so much resonate with me..& now after listening to you I feel like this it's not only happened with me every one has gone through these tough times & even after that they have become more successful in life as you sir... thanku from my heart for making these types of video's God bless you always sir...😊
i watched this video in my utmost need, i have completed my college from IIT and currently placed this year in a good MnC. I thought that i haven't explored love in my life so it's good time. So I am currently trying very hard even though some girls doing nothing in my comparison.but getting nothing. in the sense whom I like she friendzone me, the others who likes me i don't like. So i know we won't make but think all time about that girl, even in my office hours, check snap and insta wheather i have received any message and blah blah. But this video made aware me to focus on three things,i will surely do that. sorry for messed up English, just going to 💤 so commented hurrily
Thank you so much Chetan Sir... A much needed video for me..I also become mad in love...but Now I want to focus only on my Career my passion and my health..and I am ready for the hardwork 🔥
RUclips recommend me this video on perfect time , this person always ask me why u always feel like this for me, I m very ordinary ..... Once I was a top performers in my office n now nowhere Thanks you so much
We love your videos Chetan Sir. These are really worthy videos for us. I love when you slap the boys for not changing their lives by chasing Goals and dreams
Seems universe has a msg for me and Sir you are that angel 😇. I am going through the same chase o love nd ldka but that ladka is considering himself kya main itna khas hun jo ye mere peeche pdi hai. Thanks a ton for showing me the right thing to Chase❤
U always make videos which the present generation wants....it happens with me that whenever I am thinking about something u make that video within 3 weeks... thank you sir
Whenever i get derailed from my studies and i think abt my boyfriend way too much i come to ur videos again and restart sir... I think life is like this only we get derailed often and needs someone as a guide to get us back on track and sir u r that teacher/guide for people like me.. Bcoz we here in india don't talk to our parents abt these stuff and u already know y...and relationships sometime takes us into a dark web called "depression" and we don't even know abt it until it gets serious.. So i whole heartedly wanted to THANK YOU SIR..for being there to guide us...
Yes! You are right. The phase come in our life,we can say anything like hormonal factor Or something else. But as a human I think we always need a emotional support, that's what I yearned for. Then I realised this is Not going to work. No One can support everytime. So I started doing meditation And now I can say I also don't need a emotional support. Well! You say that right! And kudos to your work.
Your video is very relatable sir . Your experiences are worth listening to which can save from the pothole ahead in life. Thanks a lot for your words .
I was doing the same 2 months back. Compromising my self respect for one girl. Now realized how stupid I was few months back. Thanks 🙏
The same thing is happening with me right now.
Us moment 😄
But now I am more focused more dedicated
I never done that but I was going to do that
@@nonbiological same here from previous 2years
"Jab hota he ganda wala hojata hey " ~every broken heart have felt that
(Sensitive people)
I was in a relationship for 4 years in college and as soon as i shifted to delhi for my upsc preparations he left me in a brutal manner
I wasted my entire year thinking about how can he leave me etc etc
I was literally begging him to come back , dropping 1000 msgs
It was so depressing
Sometimes during metro travel i did not realise that i have crossed extra stations
It was such a bad time
But yet a turning point in my life...
I will suggest
If someone wants to leave u
Let them go
Dont force them to stay with u
Cry and just let it go but dont give so much time of your life
It wont benefit
(Everything happens for a reason)
Hlw sis!! My situation is almost similar to yours. I am suffering a lot rn. Can u plz tell me how did you control your emotions, mere se nhi ho rha 😭😭. In between studies also, wo moments flashback krti hain when everything was good and that hurts like hell.
@@rajrahul6662 i understand
Ap meditation kia karo
Breathing exercise to control your mind
Because mind apko baar baar usi ki yaad dilwata rahega jab tak ap use control nahi kroge
Mind ka kaam he distract karna hai
Maine spirituality ka sahara liya in sab se bahar ane ka
Dhere dhere mai spirituality mai aisa kho gai ki mujhe chezen samjh ane lagi ki aisa kyu hua etc etc
Time lagega but ap ek din zaroor theek ho jaoge
Upsc ka kya hua ?
@@navritichauhan2020 Thanks a lot 🥰 More power to you ✨
Congo for a new life
What a perfect timing of the video. In my college there's a boy and at first he texted me. He was interested and he used to text me often but then I started liking him sooo much. Then as sir said if you give a lot of importance to someone he thinks that he is out of your league. He started ignoring me. I am also the person 'jisko bohot jor ka pyar hota hai'. I now feel very lonely and insecure.
As sir said chase your goals,money,status and health not any random boy or girl. Thanks sir❤
The same is happening to me nowadays
Should I stop it right now??
@@awesomefacts1347 yes! You definitely should! Focus on your work!
@@IsThatSoNeha Is this just a hormonal factor or love matters
Because sometimes I feel her and
Me be like I can do anything to give a
great perception
@@awesomefacts1347 None of them cuz it's just a mind game. Everything is powerless without your reaction
But yeah, it's easier said than done
chasing love is really such a waste of time. one only realizes this after some level of maturity
"You will not impress her by doing more"
Best line from the video that touches heart
Jab pyar k piche bhagte ho to wo door bhagta hai…. True lines
Thank you so much for this Chetan! I needed to hear this rn. I'm ultra-sensitive and over-emotional and have been making the same mistake over and over again for past 15 years or so, just because mujhe bhi "bohot zor se aur bohot ganda wala pyaar" hota hai, even when the other person is just using me when they're bored or lonely.
Hey buddy, my name is Aanchal too😅😅😂
I am doing that same shit
As I am too sensitive
I even love a person when I know he is just using me but not any more🙃
Aap bilkul sahi keh rhe hi aanchal... Mere sath bhi yahi cheez hui h... Jaha Maine apna self respect khoo dia .. Over emotional... Over sensitive 😑
@@ritikavishwakarma7973 same my situation
@@ritikavishwakarma7973 It's same with all mera bhi same case h yr 😷
same 💔
It is obvious if you will care too much for someone his/her value will Increase and your value will be decreased and he/she will run away from low value towards high value. 😄 So always increase your value continuously, become valuable.
Chasing love gives more clarity to us about ourselves, life and also the experiences are the key changers
Love Is Never Finding A Hand That Perfectly Fits Urs.. It Is Finding The One Who Is Willing To Hold Ur Hands.. No Matter How Unfit It May Be..! ♥️
Wow....Very well said!!
Bhai ye sab sapno ki duniya hai , until you have money nobody will hold your hand....
I have been doing the same since past 12 years with UNWAVERING DEDICATION without caring a damn for my self-respect. Still failed!
So, Chetan Sir is right.
NEVER EVER CHASE ANYBODY!
Who so ever you put at the pedestal, she will always be out of your reach. So do not put her at the pedestal.
Bollywood Movies have brainwashed our youths. There is Nothing called 'True Love'.
The mantra of life -- " Nobody Cares"
Work upon your "SELF". Impress only your "SELF". That doesn't mean you become Selfish. Have compassion for others, but also love yourself
Thanks bhaiya ,learn a lot. Just from your comment
I can relate to each and every word of your story.... difference is that I experienced this in my college as I started liking a girl and i chased her madly and got attached to her emotionally and after 4 months of spending time with her .. confessed my feelings to her but unfortunately got to know that she was already in a long distance relationship for 2 years and infact in these 4 months she didn't feel that I was having feelings for her. Now everything is fucked up .. after knowing all this she said that we can be good friends as earlier it used to be ....i agreed to do that ....but after 1 month i realised that it's not possible for me to act like a friend.... every time I meet her i put a filter of a friend...and suppress my feelings which is very painful...
So ya ..i can say love is something which should not be chased...if it has to happen it will happen and that too mutually....so it will be better to focus on our goals and keep ourselves occupied with our work..
Lastly bs itna kehna hai ki har cheez ka ek waqt hota hai har cheez samay ke sath hoti h...pyaar ka samay aana hoga to aayega but pyar ka peecha mt krna kbhi bhi 🫡
So true. Focus on yourself and you'll attract better!
Exactly the same hitted me hard... And taught me a lot about myself and people around me.
Ya
Yash where u from!
Can I know the name of girl?
Sir mughe believe hi nahi hota ki Aap bhi hum normal ladako jaisa galti kiye h,lekin jab aise topic par bolate h to relate hota.Thanks Sir
Exactly Chetan.. it's very true. And I guess 98% of the viewers can relate to this. When maturity hits you, every individual says," yaar mein kitna chuttiya tha."😁... BTW Thanks for motivating. God bless 🙏🏻
The best thing about internet is that we can connect to many great minds like you, in a matter of seconds. And I think that’s something to be proud of.
I chased a girl and lost my self respect
Then I love myself and get back respect.
Nothing is more beautiful like confidence,self respect and self love on a man's face!
Honestly, going through something similar right now. Was in a relationship with this guy, I treasured him, a lot. I would do anything for him. I'd always walk an extra mile if that put a smile on his face. One random day he breaks up with me saying he didn't have "feelings". I was shattered, kept thinking what did I do wrong? I did everything from my part, maybe I wasn't enough, I kept asking him for reasons, begging him to stay. When I couldn't stop being overwhelmed I tried contacting his friends and family about this because that affected my health in many ways, I couldn't eat or sleep. The end result? He trashed me in the worst way possible, saying I'm worthless and clingy and that he didn't even want to see my face, and blocked me from everywhere. I was blank. I thought, I was just doing everything for him to come back to me, what did I do to deserve this treatment from him? Absolutely nothing. It's just that, I tried too hard. Maybe he stopped having feelings because I became pretty ordinary, "foolishly in love" with him. Maybe that's why after he left so suddenly, I felt as if my life has come to a dead end. I felt lost and miserable and humiliated. I kept thinking, why? After everything I did, how could he leave me that easily? Am I that easy to forget? He's so unaffected, smiling and laughing with his friends like we never even happened, while I'm here, crying all day long.
I'm still in the denial phase. Even though I know that, what meant the world to me, meant so little to him. But I keep consolidating myself saying he must be guilty too, what if he comes back? Even though I know that I'm being a doormat and treating myself like an option which is always open, I can't stop feeling perplexed and anxious about it. Maybe when I get out of my "denial" phase and finally acknowledge the "acceptance" phase, things would start looking little less gloomy than it does now. ❤️
I m almost cried out.. Relate to my story. God bless u. Soon u will find your passion, interest, a good person
I can relate u completly as I'm going through exactly same situation not even a bit different...I can feel the pain...it's hell..hope we'll be fine soon❤️
Don't worry! Things will fall into place eventually. Focus on yourself, your goals and your life and you'll realize that you deserve better!
This is heart breaking 🥺😐Just give yourself some time ..everything will be back to normal. 🤍
@@Chetna03101 mai to matrimonial se pyaar m pad gaya tha 🥲
Thank you sir, whenever I chased for my love, my love always move faster than my chase. In this process, I used to spend countless hour for waiting her. Ultimately I didn't get my love and wasted a lots of valuable time of my carrier's. Thank you for motivating us
How do you feel now 🙂
Last line is 👍 👍 👍 👍 ❤
Sometimes RUclips don't recommend the videos what we want but shows us those videos what we need.
Thanks Chetan Ji for your valuable lessons based on real life.🥰🥰
It's my pleasure!
@@ChetanBhagat1 but the sad and funny fact to me is that I didn't chase love, but love chased me. And at last love grabbed me and broke my heart also. Then what should I say?
@@genuine1783 that's what you thought, like chetan sir thought ki "itna baat kar rahi hai", she is liking me. But actually me girls want emotional support, its not like she wanted to impress. She only thinks of you as a friend.
@@gauravkungwani she engaged with me in a love relationship and told me ' I love you' many times. But then she broke my heart by disconnected with me.
yes sometimes even youtube feels pity about us
इतना अनुभव शायद ही किसी सेलिब्रिटी ने शेयर किया हो। आपका हर अनुभव युवाओं के लिये एक मार्गदर्शन की तरह है।कृपया ऐसे ही युवाओं के बीच आते रहें ❤
Sir
100% Agreed.
Progress should be the utmost importance in life.
Rest things will fall in place gradually when time is right.
Dude molding future of India without self interest and money. Real respect to you Sir. Thanks for all those lessons....
Love isnt always enough.. We need a balance of everything to be content and at peace with our life's. The best kind of love is the one which empowers you to rise above from your failures and short comings❤️ lovely video sir❤️ a big fan of yours ❤️
Thanks a ton!
@@ChetanBhagat1 sir i really like your videos ..everybody is running after money .i want to know what is true happiness
@@ChetanBhagat1 i really love u from my heart
Now I Am 29yr, Did Engineering at 23yr, Struggling Life Due To Some Lack Of Skills The Failure Realised Me This Great Lesson Then Move Forward, I Am Living A Social+Spiritual Life With The Art Of Living Movement.... 🙌🏻🙏🏻🙂
Have married ??? I M 25. And dont earn single rupees till now. Parents ae saying for marrige m very nervous
@@dholakshorts8237 bro what you feed your wife🤔
Family Always Trusts & Supports Me Whatever I Do Right Now With Fully Respect...🤝🏻🙂👍🏻
@@KalpWork Same story as mine. I passed out from NIT jaipur and than didn't get a job for almost 15 months and than finally got a job in Amazon and now it's been 4 years i am working there.
@@kimjongun6295 wife hogi tabhi feed krega apne aap sab ayegi nhi ghar me
100% Agree 🖤 When You Trying To Chase Something It Will Never Come To You..Rather Than Building Yourself it's An Great Idea I Think 🥂
Yeah exactly...❤️
You are genius sir...Your "Daant" series is like medicine to our bakwaas thoughts,ways of living,overthinking and over rating to those things which actually does not even deserve attention.
This is really true sir , the same situation I have faced in last 2 months without reputation, money and status love is not so easy that I think.
It is totally waste of time to chase love.
And this is the video I use to watch whenever I want to move on from my one side love for the last 4 years
Chasing love is the biggest waste in life .. true that 😊
गजब चेतन सर .....आज कल के जमाने मे कौन सिखाता है यार इतना कुछ .... वो भी Real example के साथ
Thank you!
I'm also among "Ganda pyaar hota hai" people...Thank you for this it was needed.
Glad it was helpful!
Sir this really cleared my mind that , chasing love and getting rejected is just a small thing and everyone experienced that,it lights the weight in my mind ,really thanku for this video for showing us the right way at right time ❤️❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
दिल से बोलुंगा चेतन सर आप मेरे जिंदगी के रथ के सारथी हो कृष्ण भगवान जैसे जो समय समय पर मार्ग दिखा रहे है.
आपके वजेसे बोहोत बदलाव आया है यार मतलब छोटी छोटी चीजे है लेकिन ऐसा लगता है कि इन्हीं चिजो से life मे बोहोत कुछ उखाडुंगा,बोहोत self confidence जो चूर चूर हुवा था वो अब धीरे रास्ते पे आ रहा है.
Thank you sir ❤️
I used to be an IDIOT(lived in the fantasy that chasing love is the most important aspect of life or in other words I thought that I am not a worthy person if I can't win the love of a girl) but with the passage of time I came to realize what Sir has shared in this video. Really an eye opening video for the Indian youth. One must instead work on getting well skilled at his/her field of interest and improve the quality of their life rather than wasting time in chasing love(which in most cases is the seeking of validation and acceptance meanwhile who knows the person being chased is also struggling with similar issues.)
क्या जहर तरीका है सर अपने अनुभवों को सहजता से साझा करके लोगों को बेहतर बनाना।
Sir Dil khush ho gya ye video dekh k, ekk ekk shabd 100% sahi hai. Thanks for the motivation. Motivation k liye thank you! Ji
I am a good looking girl but I have wasted a lot of time in relationships with wrong people. I wish I had this kind of guidance when I was in school 15 yrs back. You are absolutely right Chetan , you should always work on making money and good health .. rest everything follows
Ok stacey.. Hit the wall already
😂U r self proclaiming u r good looking
@@coronaman365 Kyu ? Khud ko good looking bolna kab se galat hogaya? To kya dusro se confirm kare wo ?
@@coronaman365 sorry if you felt bad :) but I do love myself and find myself good looking :)
@@Treem8888oh u r narcissistic OK
Chetan i m 25 year old. I was in a bad relationship and i was not letting it go , because of you i am now out of it ,you really taught me how to think practically in which i was always chamanlaal ,now whenever i feel miserable i thinks chalo Chetan ko dekhte hai wo kuch btayega ,thanks a lot for being with us .
Chetan sir*
Bhai thoda respect deke toh baat kar, Chetan sir bolne meh kya ijjat jata hain .
Hi Vishal
@@why_bareilly tum uske ex ho kya
Same bro
Haha...i like the way narrated your teenage life. And that is the beauty of life endowed with teenage phase, because whatever we do, 1. we do in full innocency 2. We do with pure heart without any second thought and judge.
This tells most of human undergoes through same type of episodes.
You absolutely right, and love isn't the whole thing in life like Bollywood shows. Very practical exp you shared sir.
Yes sir !!! Experienced such an exact heartbreak this year (2022). Only because I chased love like an IDIOT. Now I think if only I could come across this RUclips video days ago !
Thank you so much sir..I was just like you..chasing love..now I turn back n see what I did..I spoiled my career..my other priorities.....I am big emotional fool ....trying hard to set my goals and accomplishing it..♥️
Had a breakup and now she is with someone else.
And even after she came into a relationship with someone else, I always wanted to approach her or wanted to get her back and obviously tried many times. But only got disappointment and some insecurities.
Now, I am totally out from all of this and trying to become a better person with some serious goals in life.
Thank you so much sir for your all relationship videos, that videos really helped me to get out of all this.
Glad I could help!
Hey please help me...which things help you to get this totally out from your mind.! Getting same thoughts insecurity jealosy etc
Chetan sir aap jaise bohot hi gine chune log hi hai, jo real life (ground) me hone wale situations ko discuss karte hai, ye bohot jaruri hai, aap log nahi samjhaoge toh kaun samjhayega young generation ko, aapka ye initiative mujhe bohot achha laga, thanks
What a video sir ! I don't know why RUclips recommend this video but its totally matching with my current scenario ! Thanks sir its a grt life lesson. ☺️
So true sir!! I believe this is story of all boy/girls who had one sided love in their life!! This one sided love when happens in teenage is very powerful and waste a lot of time chasing love! When maturity comes, there is no one sided love then, it all mutual
This is the video that I need at this point of time in my life. Thanks :)
Happy to help!
I can't express how much these videos boost my self confidence and give energy to face the problems in my life. Such an inspirational videos these are...
WoW...... i am 28 years old... chasing my career in civil service... many times succeeded many time failed in between... still miles to go ... but i can relate very much with you in terms of the loss i incurred for being a deep lover and a sensitive person in some distant past .. and for that i suffered loss in other aspects... very insightful enlightening podcast... chasing after goal and career requires good deal of determination and perseverence...
heyyy. optional konsa hai aapka?
@@Whitecat2304 Sociology
Goood luck👍 I have special respect for aspirants. :)
Much needed video! By Giving more, you are not going to get more.
Today i complimented the person i love that you look good in your picture. And got a reply "Do you stalk me whole day? Don't you have any other work?".
Just don't give too much guys. You will end up losing yourself in the process.
Giving too much importance is our mistake. I did the same. But let go is hard
Sir kuchh jyda nhi kahuga .....par aapko sun ke lgta h life m jo support chahiye tha vo mil rha h
M padai v achchi kr pa rha hu or 1 achcha insaan bn rha hu... Thank You Alot Sir ❤️😊
So nice of you! Thank you!
Thanku sir, I was also doing this stupid thing in my life for last 8 months or more than 2 years,
But after listing to you, I have a clear path, which I can see properly 😊
That was a very heartwarming and a beautiful as well as a TRUE message to every unaware person who feels and who thinks that love is considered the most important possession one could have,ignoring every other important aspect of life.Thanks a lot sir for sharing this TRUE message to us.Love from odhisha
Thank you so much!
I did the same thing few months back now I decided to broke the ties with that girl considering she wasn’t my type and I recalled my self worth as well telling myself repeatedly that work on yourself and choose somebody much better.
You are always teach people with live examples of your own, thanks sir...
It's so good to see that he talks about muscle although he is not jacked. So it's very important.
10th October today i was heart broken due to a girl who was already in relationship.
I was really low and luckily found this video.
Glad you found it helpful!
Wherever I feel down, I just listen your voice.
I can 100% relate with it,
U r a guiding light of life.
Thnk u so much sir. ❤️😊🙏
I can relate with you sir, knowledge & experience never goes in vain
No doubt!
@@ChetanBhagat1 ❤🙏
So humble😍 and thanks for showing us right way as a elder brother...❤
My pleasure! 😊
Dats was pure love bhai. ❤ Par koi qadar nahi karta sache pyar ki. So self love is important. Everyone gone through this:)
Now I realised that it happens in everyone's life 🙂
Sir i regularly follow your videos but this vide has affected me deeply . I am 20 yo right now and this happened to me a year ago , my heart was shattered but now i am okay i work on myself ,my studies and also starting feeling gratitude to what happened cuz this that incident taught me a lot of things which i feel now was really important for me to understand. Thank You Sir
Thanks for the lesson, it's best for the youth now a days. I wish ki in our time we can get these kind of thought so that we never run behind the girls or boys (for girls) and waste our most valuable time which will never came again 😔😔😔
The fact is that move on is not an easy task for a man really it's just not but it's so easy for girls . It takes me 3 years to get over a girl only when i started watching your video's sir thank you so much...
I’m glad my videos could help. 😊
Thanku sir, I have read your novels three mistakes of my life, Halfgirlfrend,etc I am very impressed by your thoughts regarding love....
uncle aapane bahut direct aur Sahi baat bole hai, main bhi yahi feel Karta hoon aur mere friends ko aise hi advice deta hun jab vah ask karte Hain but koi seriously nahin leta. kyunki sabko Gyan Dena hai kisi Ko Gyan Lena nahin hai.Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you so much sir, I hope we'll be able to avoid this mistake, also just one suggestion you can also make mistakes series that you made in your life so that it will help youth like us to avoid those..
Those 12:27 mins of your video shows the right direction, we "SHOULD NOT CHASE ".Thank you sir.
Thank you sir.. 🔥
Men don't need love.... Men need only SUPPORT... !!
OK. Stand on this word in your entire life.
आप जबलपुर आये यह सुनकर अच्छा लगा,और सिर्फ आपकी वन साइड लव के लिए यह सुनकर काफी हँसी आई। ऐसे जुनूनपरस्त लोग ही दुनिया बदल सकते है। (यह लाइन आपके लिए नही हम नए लोगो के लिए है)
जब मैं जब 2007 में BE 1st Sem में गया था,इंग्लिश में तब जुबान और हाथ दोनों तंग थे(हिंदी मीडियम वालों के नार्मल लक्षणों में से एक यह भी है) तब किसी ने कहा था कि आप चेतन भगत की नोवल पढ़ा करो ,आपकी अंग्रेजी सही हो जाएगी। मतलब आप नॉवलिस्ट से बढ़कर है हम जैसे लोगो के लिए।
🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
The actual Funda, of the person generally, who chasing you finds something better in you than what he/she poses so don't focus much on them instead on yourself. Thank you sirrr for meeting up us with the reality . We hairbreadth escaped from ruining our lifes
As you are saying, if we run behind something, those things automatically get out of our antenna. But one thing I would say, which is an exception, is that knowledge is the only thing, that comes to you while chasing.
Thank you for your advice...much needed at this stage of life.. I am quite sure sufferers will rejoice this piece of advice..😍
All of this so much resonate with me..& now after listening to you I feel like this it's not only happened with me every one has gone through these tough times & even after that they have become more successful in life as you sir... thanku from my heart for making these types of video's God bless you always sir...😊
i watched this video in my utmost need, i have completed my college from IIT and currently placed this year in a good MnC. I thought that i haven't explored love in my life so it's good time. So I am currently trying very hard even though some girls doing nothing in my comparison.but getting nothing. in the sense whom I like she friendzone me, the others who likes me i don't like. So i know we won't make but think all time about that girl, even in my office hours, check snap and insta wheather i have received any message and blah blah.
But this video made aware me to focus on three things,i will surely do that.
sorry for messed up English, just going to 💤 so commented hurrily
It's always nice to focus on your own growth. Chase your goals and work hard to achieve success, the rest will follow!
Sir you always gives us the real fact of life , very very thanks to you.
You are gifted with the power of giving love, it has been manifested in your books, ❤❤
Chetan's so sarcastic in his tone tbh. Loved the story.
Thank you so much Chetan Sir... A much needed video for me..I also become mad in love...but Now I want to focus only on my Career my passion and my health..and I am ready for the hardwork 🔥
Same here
I love u Chetan ...... Keep uploading more like this and continues making this series going on.....
Your experience helps us and the way you tell it. Your words work like medicine having more than 90% bioavailabity.
Thank you it really helps me alot. Grinding for the last 1.5 years every is fine when we have money and status
Thank you sir u are always shown us depth side of human psychology... You're content is great..
Thanks a ton!
RUclips recommend me this video on perfect time , this person always ask me why u always feel like this for me, I m very ordinary .....
Once I was a top performers in my office n now nowhere
Thanks you so much
You opened my eyes sir.Its time to focus on career only.Thank you sir🙏
Thanks for sharing each details of your younger age with honesty. Keep it up sir
How cutely you discussed the sensitive issue..This is true....
We love your videos Chetan Sir. These are really worthy videos for us. I love when you slap the boys for not changing their lives by chasing Goals and dreams
Seems universe has a msg for me and Sir you are that angel 😇. I am going through the same chase o love nd ldka but that ladka is considering himself kya main itna khas hun jo ye mere peeche pdi hai. Thanks a ton for showing me the right thing to Chase❤
U always make videos which the present generation wants....it happens with me that whenever I am thinking about something u make that video within 3 weeks... thank you sir
After watching this i will stop chasing love thank you soo much sir😌 for bringing such a interesting topic ❤️ gratitude for making this 😀
Whenever i get derailed from my studies and i think abt my boyfriend way too much i come to ur videos again and restart sir...
I think life is like this only we get derailed often and needs someone as a guide to get us back on track and sir u r that teacher/guide for people like me..
Bcoz we here in india don't talk to our parents abt these stuff and u already know y...and relationships sometime takes us into a dark web called "depression" and we don't even know abt it until it gets serious..
So i whole heartedly wanted to THANK YOU SIR..for being there to guide us...
Always happy to help!
Your suggestions are very insightful, I am also from one of the IIT like you
thank you for sending these type of message to us
Yes! You are right. The phase come in our life,we can say anything like hormonal factor Or something else. But as a human I think we always need a emotional support, that's what I yearned for. Then I realised this is Not going to work. No One can support everytime. So I started doing meditation And now I can say I also don't need a emotional support.
Well! You say that right! And kudos to your work.
Your video is very relatable sir . Your experiences are worth listening to which can save from the pothole ahead in life. Thanks a lot for your words .
Thank you for your kind words! Keep watching!
Thank you so much for making this video. I am literally ruining my life now doing just this. I should really stop otherwise I'll get nowhere.