I'm Dr. Julie thanks for being here. Subscribe for more videos on mental health and psychology. For more see my international bestselling book - Why has nobody told me this before? 👉 linktr.ee/drjuliesmith
Your book has helped me a lot Dr. Julie. I really wish to have a dr like you to treat my mental health. I would like to thank you very much. I suffer from brain freeze and low mood. It goes extreme.
@drjulie you truly are an person amazing breath of fresh air keep it up I find watching your videos really helpful at understanding my own condition ❤️
Shit. I have been here since the last 2 yrs. This cycle of low mood - self sabotage - morning anxiety/low mood- cancelling plans - stay hidden from the world-stuck Why did nobody tell me before, that it's addictive and will only make my mood worse and I ll stay in the rut
So, it’s been a month, how are you? Did you get out of the cycle or are you improving? If not yet, I believe in you!! I’m no expert, but I know it will get better for you!!❤️
@@doubledingoes1868 hey thankyou ! It's slightly better in a way that I feel more in control of changing things in the present quicker than earlier but not really meeting deadlines yet .
@@dr.sohinimitra2023 oh well it’s great to hear your getting better!! Just focus on yourself and the things that make you happy, and soon you’ll be on track again, I believe in you!❤️❤️❤️
God is offering you the free gift of grace (Romans 3:24) TODAY, that you can receive through faith in Jesus Christ .... (Repent) go to God and admit that your a sinner in need of a savior, if you (Confess) with your mouth that Jesus Christ is Lord (Romans10:9) and (Believe) in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, call upon the name of the lord and you will be saved (Romans 10:13)...Yahshua hamashiach/Jesus Christ is returning soon! Be baptized and filled with the Holy Spirit. Acts 2:38 The gospel of John movie: ruclips.net/video/2mgUPt2KI08/видео.html The gospel of Matthew animation: ruclips.net/video/K0mPIMGjO_w/видео.html
Free yourself from people’s expectations. Free yourself from false desires. Free yourself from mainstream manipulation. Free yourself from seeking acceptance. Find happiness in whatever shape, mood or environment you are drawn to and feed from it.
I wake up every morning and straight come to RUclips to watch videos rather than facing the reality. I think this is an indicator of slight depression. I need your book. 😭
Fr if i dont distract myself somehow i will think bad thoughts and think about everything embarrassing i ever did in my entire life or when someone said sth mean
After my mom died I didn’t leave the house for two months. It was a miracle if I even left my bed for more than a meal and the bathroom. I just stopped going into work, stopping texting people back, etc. after two months I slowly tried to get better. Because I ditched work they were only willing to give me 5 hours a week at the time, which was all I could handle. It’s still tempting sometimes when my tendencies arise to cancel everything, and sometimes I do, but I’m general I try to fight it and 9 times out of 10 that makes me feel a bit better. Depression is so hard because you have to try to push yourself when you have no desire or motivation to. It can be done though and there is hope. Things can get better
I am sorry your mother died. I understand how this feels. I lost my mother 8 years ago and recently a close friend of mine died and I know what you mean about not leaving the house and not having the energy to do anything. I am sorry you lost your mother. I hope you find the support you need.
I really value how gently you explain things like this because I think when people are talking about this kind of self sabotage cycle rather than showing they understand they just end up basically saying that depressed people are lazy. This is such an important point but so often is so poorly explained. Thank you
The fact that this is so true. The other day, I got diagnosed with depression. I didn’t want to do anything except stay in my bed. My mom offered to take me out to get boba. I wasn’t as keen for it, but she arranged for my girlfriend to come with us. We got our boba and I was having a really good time. We then went on a walk and hung out at a park. She then had to go home, but our parents were really good friends and we ended up hanging out at her house until 11. Amazing day and I was so happy
The ruminating in complete isolation for 6 years 18-24 has completely scrambled my mind I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. My mind just obsesses over and over and over about some traumatic events and I can’t think of anything else no matter how hard I squeeze my head or bang it on a wall so I just sit like a statue hours on end trying to completely blank my mind even after a 12 hour shift of manual labor. I have 6 figures in the bank but I don’t have the desire to buy or do anything other than struggle to clear my mind.
It helps me to hold onto the hope that things will get better or that we are possible living through it currently and are blinded to seeing it. We are not alone ❤
Dear Jordan, I'm so sorry to read that, I experienced something similar and EFT has helped me. There are free videos on RUclips explaining how to do it, it looks odd but it has been proven that it really helps. Wishing you all the very best
I agree. I just find I have to know when to stop and get out again. I do think burrowing down for two days sometimes helps with preventing burnout, especially when I also unplug from social media and switch off my phone. But then I also have to know when to stop doing that.
Yes. And I'd like to know how can I tell if I should rest or move. Hard for me to differentiate if I'm tired or burned out or just with a really low mood and sleepy
I had Covid I took a week off work I was the happiest I'd been in years, I sat around all this pain in my back disappeared, I watched cheer on Netflix, I was so inspired by those kids their determination following their dreams, pushing through obstacles in their life, I'm back at work depressed and miserable as b4 seeing everyone at work with a much better life. Having reached goals in their life that I can't possibly reach like simple basic things like partner, friends etc. I hate feeling sorry for myself but when I'm around work colleagues I can't help it. I don't know how to be content, god plz that's all I want.
I get how you’re feeling. I try to celebrate my FB friends’ and coworkers’ successes. Of good things happen for them, they can surely happen for me. I’m grateful to hear about every engagement, child’s milestone, fancy vacation… I try to let it inspire me. Hugs!
Some days when I feel horrible and at my lowest, I just can't get myself to move. I just lay there and try to sleep. I can't get myself to get food, water, or do anything. Most times, sleeping helps me. It resets that mood I was in which was caused by multiple factors. I always tell myself "Tomorrow is another day". Sleeping the day off can be really helpful.
Sleeping and waking up the next day sort of gives you a chance to "start again". Some days when I'm in a really low place or lots of things went "wrong" in the day... I'm like "Okay, I've had enough of this day" and go to sleep really early. Somehow it does help sometimes!
I always find I get out of that when I finally do my chores, with some help, and get on with life, and I go back to being stress free. But I get into that mood in the first place because I’m tired so “I’ll do that tomorrow” then I just keep pushing that back and what is only a small task becomes a big task, and now I need help to get it done so I can move on. I try not to push tasks back because it’s bad for my mental health.
Well shit, now I know why I end up spending 1-2 months ruminating over stressful events didn't know it was addictive, but I procrastinate and self-sabotage all the time anyway
This has been me everyday for the past 4 years. I am aware of it but it is addicting. And i have been stuck in this rut for too long. I have been wanting to make a change and its time. Its not worth it to miss out on life
Done this for years. I know why it happened. I needed support and help, but didn't get it. So now this has become my habitual behaviour, and I'm struggling to break free of it. The fact that I enjoy being on my own, and my own company, means becoming a hermit, falls so easily to me. Bad combo. At least now I aware of it. I really do want to try be apart of the world again. Just coinciding with all this effing world chaos and lockdowns, doesn't make any of it easy to break.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking time out to make these incredible shorts. You don't even realize how immensely it helps me every single day♡
This is why I will be forever grateful to my mom for giving me the right push to go outside when I was struggling with anxiety due to a small burn out. This made me heal quicker.
I fell into this loop all the time during the pandemic. It made me feel like I didn’t exist. Like I wasn’t impacting the world at all because I wasn’t going outside, and that no one knew or cared I was here. Even doing something as simple as going out for a walk or sitting on a park bench with sounds of nature made me feel way better. Like I was connected more to the world by not hiding away.
I'm so glad u found ways to overcome! But I would've known & cared if u were there, if I knew u! I've felt somewhat the same, but just so much more overwhelmed than anything. Still do, & IT SUX. But trying to work toward getting some kind of therapy for my life overall. I could reeeealllyy use it. Therapy for me, not meds. Really glad you're doing better!
If you feel down, you need to do things that will make you feel better! This can be hard. You should eat well, drink water, shower, brush your teeth, go for a walk in nature, maybe work out, maybe talk to a loved one. This will make you feel better than lying in bed all day with netflix and pizza. You should eat junk food, when you are excited and in a good mood, not in a bad mood. This can lead to eating disorders like emotional esting, binging, etc. Take care of yourself!!! ❤️
Thank you for telling and educating people about depression and social anxiety, I used to have bad panic attacks in high-school to the point where I would not even go to school because I had this irrational fear of being rejected, and throughout most of my life I barely talked to people because of that and it makes me very sad because I missed out on so many opportunities and lost so many relationships. Still today I lose people just because in my head I tell myself that they wouldn't ever want to talk to me andI justify it by thinking that I'm the problem. The problem isn't me, it's the anxiety and I hope a lot of people come to understand that those quiet people you meet in high-school are the ones struggling the most. So take care of them and make time for them. They go through a lot everyday.
If I could give you an award for what you've just said, I WOULD! It's like you're leafing through the book of my life and have found the page where I'm currently stuck. I have always been a very private person but the recent events of my life have turned me into a mega introvert. Hiding myself from the world in my cucoon is safe territory for me. But I'm also shying away from things that need to be addressed. I get anxiety attacks by just thinking about going out and dealing with people... Things which used to be a breeze for me. It's not healthy to be in this state for long and heaven knows I want to get out of it soon. May God make it easy for me and all the others struggling out there.
Well fahk me. This is my 3rd year doing exactly this. Some days, I get the courage to get out into the world, but the next day my body just shuts down. And I don't have anyone to talk to either 🥺
And that's why i looked for a job. I realized this the time i had my first job. I don't do hobbies, idk why. Maybe because i had no money? Lol idk. But having a job saves me. It gives me a relief that i'm living for this job, and the money will go to my loved ones, our everyday needs. Including my cats. Motivation it is. Pandemic happened. I was so happy it's a work from home setup. But danggg i think i got burnt out. Then i stopped again. I quit my job for 2 yrs. Then i stayed at home for 6 months and i'm recreating and im feeling the same feeling i had before. So i looked for another job. Idk how long i'll stay it's still a work from home setup but i need to do something so i don't think worse scenarios in my head 😂 ANYWAY, thanks for the tedtalk.
If you feel sick, relax and get well. If you have a temporary low mood, relax and get well. Whatever you do, don't make yourself sicker by watching videos that suggest you should always be 100%
I was in this exact state for the last 3 months, after I resigned from my last job. The scary thing is, I didn't even realize it, because I thought it's probably just procrastination. And it's not like I didn't do anything, I still played games and browsed social media, and I still had fun sometimes. "People had it worse, so I'm fine." Luckily I have a roomate who happens to also be a good friend, and she helped me finally get a job and get back to my feet. Hope you'll have someone like that too. Be brave. Maybe someone out there loves you more than you know.
This woman is amazing at explaining everything and once you have listened its then it dawns on you that you are 1 of the many people suffering from this 😢
Honestly I always wanted to hide away from the world. I was okay. But once quarantine hit, I changed. I realized that the world want this perfect place. It wasn’t this place where you could do everything. Don’t stay on that space for too long. It really takes a mental toll on you. Remember that you matter, the people you love. You matter.❤️
I don't know I'm depressed until one morning I realise I have a sink full of dishes, a full laundry basket, no food in the house... Just bought your book. 🙏
I have done this when I have been super down, it prevents you from getting back in your covers If you truly make your bed hard to get back into it. And another tip is to sit by a window, in a chair and become self aware of when you want to go back in bed. Tackle a small minor task really helps as well💖💖💖
This is me every day at the moment.. I can't get out of the cycle. I am reading your book though, it's the first time I've been able to read a book in a very long time!
i do this and it’s just something that happens but the way i tackle it is by cooking my favorite snack. whether it might be toast and eggs or something a little more complicated, sitting down watching my favorite show gives me relief and the feeling of knowing you ate something today is the best. another thing is calling or hanging out with someone that never lets you down. sometimes it’s hard but i promise if you just ask them nicely and explain they will or maybe even just a short text can go a long way.❤
I’ve never allowed my low tolerance for interaction, socializing, etc., to dictate how my day will go. My daughter is a little different in that she WILL wallow… we all have hard moments, days, weeks, months- etc. If you don’t fight back- you lose. I’m not some eternal optimist.. I’m a realist- a balance of both. If I know I’m losing the battle that day- (typically around mid afternoon) I’ll concede- and relax at home the rest of the day.. but I NEVER give up without at least a decent fight, and neither should you.
Df Julie.this video is really relatable to me my depression courses very low mood and not eating properly feeling tired all the time sleeping a lot not going out or spending much time with my family 😢
I’ve done that when the weekend ends and you are really helping me find out I might be having anxiety and tiny depression I’m not sure I know I need to find out. I’m doing good though.
Thank you for making such good videos with simple and yet effective ways to deal with depression, low mood and self doubt. More importantly, you have been able to use such as simple example to explain different type of low mood and mental health issues. Thank you just watching your video makes me feel better! I remembered your domino effect video today, and stoped myself from feeling bad because of just one bad event. 😊 thank you
Need a balance though. Sometimes its a good idea to not do things (without making it a habit), and allow the feelings to be there without the ruminating. I find this really works and i wake up the next day feling way better and more functional. Forcing yourself to just get on with things all the tim e can be a form of suppression based on fear
I learned something similar from a Pete Walker book. The Tao of Fully Feeling Harvesting Forgiveness Through Blame. I try to just allow myself to feel my feelings. I will cry A LOT sometimes and usually there's a point that you just feel relief, catharsis and no longer feel the need for it. It passes so much more quickly when I don't shame myself for feeling depressed and stop trying to logic my way out of it in a sense. That's where the ruminating starts I think. Trying to logic our way out or trying to figure out why we're feeling the way we are instead of just feeling.
Our brains are problem solving machines which is part of why people ruminate, once you start ruminating it's a cycle. Trying not to judge the feeling and just feel it helps. I also learned a great deal of helpful information from the channel OCD & Anxiety. Rumination can be a part of OCD, though the advice I think is helpful for more than just people with OCD. Hoping this helps anyone who reads it.
I really relate to this. Its so hard to get up and do what you need to when your really low. But getting up and just making a start is better than nothing and just maybe it will be enough to bring you up little by little
My best friend committed suicide this summer partially because of his grandmothers death. Two month later my grandpa died in september. Have been doing this for months or even years or so.
🙏 & hugs & love..stay strong and dare to feel so that we can unstuck ourselves and heal…the broken pieces of our broken 💔’s, to create a beautiful mosaic of every living breath we take. Courage my friend. (63 years of stuck, learning how to fly again…🤗)
Some days I feel the urge to just stay in bed, I've struggled with lack of sleep due to sleep apnea and it's got to me so much I've realised how much I have become depressed feeling like I can't do anything with my life on top of other health issues. Yesterday I thought I'm going to get up, make a cup of tea and take my meds I usually take and sit downstairs with my mum and watch some TV and I did feel better for it. Not just that but I've realised how important keeping a routine is for me and how much I've missed having at least something of a routine to focus on, nothing massive, just little things to work on
I’ve been talking to a psychiatrist for years,he’s never said any of the things you have. I haven’t left my house for years unless being hospitalized and a few hours last Christmas! I’ve begged the Dr for help. He ta
Plus, because they are short, I can replay them & get the information into my brain & ruminate over it...but only a few times, until I have processed it & understood it. Many thanks, Dr. Julie and I am waiting for your book.
I'm having a big exam and I'm diagnosed with depression 9 months ago. I'm having a lot of pressure and can't be positive for most of the time, knowing that I could fail. I'm thinking to just sit the exam regardless of the results. Regardless of how of a failure I would think of myself, I think I will just get through with it. Wish me luck. I honestly couldn't stop crying everytime I start to open my book, then ruminating that I couldn't do it. It took a lot of effort to even believe myself.
You can do it friend!!! Don’t let the negative thoughts dictate your life because remember you are better than them. You are capable of accomplishing things. Just take it one step at a time, and don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s an accomplishment in and of itself if you do the things that are difficult but good for you. God bless you, and know that Jesus is there for you. He loves you so much and He gives life and saves from death as you go to Him. ~ Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you ~ 1 Peter 5:7
A Student's Prayer Creator of all things, true source of Light and Wisdom, lofty source of all Being. graciously let a ray of Your Brilliance penetrate into the darkness of my understanding and take from me the double darkness in which I have been bom, sin and ignorance. Give me a sharp sense of understanding. a retentive memory. and the ability to grasp things correctly and fundamentally. Grant me the talent of being exact in my explanations, and the ability to express myself with thoroughness and charm. Point out the beginning. direct the progress, help in the completion. THROUGH CHRIST, OUR LORD Saint Thomas Aquinas
Wow.. So true.. I'm lying on the couch, thinking I can't be bothered to do anything...start scrolling.. And then this pops up 😮... Guess it's time to get up
I’ve always known this, which has always been the driving factor that pushes me to go out. I know 1 of 2 things could happen. Either putting on a smile for people helps me forget about my problems and enjoy myself, or I still feel horrible, but it's way worse because I have to fake a smile for people, and it's harder to do when you feel low, and then you feel trapped in the situation. It’s often worth the risk because it at least keeps you from staying inside ruminating, and the ruminating combined with the guilt of not going isn’t worth it.
Omgggg I never heard someone explain it like this and your spot on! It took me a good 4/5 yrs but I’m FINALLY starting to feel “ME” again… it’s still very early so I’m afraid it’s to good to be true and I’m gonna slip back into a deep depression but I keep tellin my self I haven’t felt like this is so long that’s how I know it’s real
I've only just started watching, and it's given me a different outlook on how I view myself. It's a long road, but hopefully I can change my perspective on the world. I've ordered your book today ❤
I was just thinking about this today maybe if I force myself to do stuff that brings me joy, even if I don’t feel I even have the energy maybe it will suck me out of the funk!
I missed school today for that very reason and watching this. Feeling like this will last a while, like seasons and i would just wait it off. But thanks for explaining, it makes much more sense now.
I believe this. I'm not a morning person but I find that starting my day quickly, having breakfast and then giving myself time to go for a walk makes me have a completely different day. But I had to convince myself that I was doing myself a favour for this to have any benefit. When I told myself I had to get up, I hated it.
> "that feeling of relief, of "whew, I don't have to face the world today" is addicting and becomes a cycle" Annnd this is why I started taking those days to do stupid projects for my cat. Things she doesn't NEED, but maybe she gets a kick out of, or will kick if it's a toy (she loves kicking things, it's adorable). It's just a whole serotonin boost and makes NOT staying inside the next day easier. She likes costumes, so long as I include her in the making process and it doesn't cover her head :) And I sometimes make her little soft toys to bat around or stomp if we have an excess of catnip. She has a shoebin of silly projects I've done for her, with varying success :)
Spent months if not years of my life in my 20s doing this. Withdrew from a semester in uni, spent years unemployed living at home burdened by mental health issues. Avoiding doesn't solve your problems. You just get older and further behind in whatever it is you were putting off. Now my debts have compounded interest growing. Now I'm 31yo in an entry level career starting over. But I guess that's all part of living and learning. Just gotta try to learn more and do better
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Your book has helped me a lot Dr. Julie. I really wish to have a dr like you to treat my mental health. I would like to thank you very much.
I suffer from brain freeze and low mood. It goes extreme.
@drjulie you truly are an person amazing breath of fresh air keep it up I find watching your videos really helpful at understanding my own condition ❤️
Why I am always shaking my legs ..always think about something. ..Feel lonely ? Plz help me
How do you know when you need to hide away and when you need to get out?
Greetings 😊 does your book offer solutions to these issues you describe in your shorts?
The fact I've been doing this every day without realising.
69th like ;)))) lmao
Literally :(
So sad that I have gotten so pathetic
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Describe yourself in good words, stranger. Now that you know this, you can work on trying to get out of it.🌻
Hugs
@@sherueatyourbestfriend6791 hugs, I've been there
I’m proud of myself I went out today for the first time in a long time
u should be and im also proud of you
Well done! Do you see? You can do it!! Keep going 💪🏻
I'm proud of you. You sharing that motivates others too. Thank you for sharing with us. Let each day be a great day 🥰
As you should be!🎉:)
Me too
Shit. I have been here since the last 2 yrs.
This cycle of low mood - self sabotage - morning anxiety/low mood- cancelling plans - stay hidden from the world-stuck
Why did nobody tell me before, that it's addictive and will only make my mood worse and I ll stay in the rut
So, it’s been a month, how are you? Did you get out of the cycle or are you improving?
If not yet, I believe in you!! I’m no expert, but I know it will get better for you!!❤️
@@doubledingoes1868 hey thankyou !
It's slightly better in a way that I feel more in control of changing things in the present quicker than earlier but not really meeting deadlines yet .
@@dr.sohinimitra2023 oh well it’s great to hear your getting better!! Just focus on yourself and the things that make you happy, and soon you’ll be on track again, I believe in you!❤️❤️❤️
Other people feel this way too???
God is offering you the free gift of grace (Romans 3:24) TODAY, that you can receive through faith in Jesus Christ .... (Repent) go to God and admit that your a sinner in need of a savior, if you (Confess) with your mouth that Jesus Christ is Lord (Romans10:9) and (Believe) in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, call upon the name of the lord and you will be saved (Romans 10:13)...Yahshua hamashiach/Jesus Christ is returning soon!
Be baptized and filled with the Holy Spirit. Acts 2:38
The gospel of John movie:
ruclips.net/video/2mgUPt2KI08/видео.html
The gospel of Matthew animation:
ruclips.net/video/K0mPIMGjO_w/видео.html
Free yourself from people’s expectations.
Free yourself from false desires.
Free yourself from mainstream manipulation.
Free yourself from seeking acceptance.
Find happiness in whatever shape, mood or environment you are drawn to and feed from it.
I wake up every morning and straight come to RUclips to watch videos rather than facing the reality. I think this is an indicator of slight depression. I need your book. 😭
Fr if i dont distract myself somehow i will think bad thoughts and think about everything embarrassing i ever did in my entire life or when someone said sth mean
Her book is excellent
Same me too
Same here
Same 😢
After my mom died I didn’t leave the house for two months. It was a miracle if I even left my bed for more than a meal and the bathroom. I just stopped going into work, stopping texting people back, etc. after two months I slowly tried to get better. Because I ditched work they were only willing to give me 5 hours a week at the time, which was all I could handle. It’s still tempting sometimes when my tendencies arise to cancel everything, and sometimes I do, but I’m general I try to fight it and 9 times out of 10 that makes me feel a bit better. Depression is so hard because you have to try to push yourself when you have no desire or motivation to. It can be done though and there is hope. Things can get better
Rip to your mom ♥️
I am sorry your mother died. I understand how this feels. I lost my mother 8 years ago and recently a close friend of mine died and I know what you mean about not leaving the house and not having the energy to do anything. I am sorry you lost your mother. I hope you find the support you need.
I’m so sorry that your mom died ❤
This looks like me a few years ago, now it subsides a little bit 😭
I'm so sorry for both of you losing your moms and friend. It's very sad. I hope you're both starting to find some joy in the little things in life. ❤
I really value how gently you explain things like this because I think when people are talking about this kind of self sabotage cycle rather than showing they understand they just end up basically saying that depressed people are lazy. This is such an important point but so often is so poorly explained. Thank you
Thank GOD AMERICA IS RUN BY BI POLAR POLITICIANS 😊
Since I have lost my mother, I spend time over and over again looking for someone's wise word to comfort me....
The fact that this is so true. The other day, I got diagnosed with depression. I didn’t want to do anything except stay in my bed. My mom offered to take me out to get boba. I wasn’t as keen for it, but she arranged for my girlfriend to come with us. We got our boba and I was having a really good time. We then went on a walk and hung out at a park. She then had to go home, but our parents were really good friends and we ended up hanging out at her house until 11. Amazing day and I was so happy
I hope you get well soon... Stay strong! I got over depression 4 years ago, you can too!
Aw your mums so sweet so good you had a good time.
that makes me happy, there's always hope!
That’s really wholesome
i love these stories of happiness
The ruminating in complete isolation for 6 years 18-24 has completely scrambled my mind I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. My mind just obsesses over and over and over about some traumatic events and I can’t think of anything else no matter how hard I squeeze my head or bang it on a wall so I just sit like a statue hours on end trying to completely blank my mind even after a 12 hour shift of manual labor. I have 6 figures in the bank but I don’t have the desire to buy or do anything other than struggle to clear my mind.
It helps me to hold onto the hope that things will get better or that we are possible living through it currently and are blinded to seeing it. We are not alone ❤
Dear Jordan, I'm so sorry to read that, I experienced something similar and EFT has helped me. There are free videos on RUclips explaining how to do it, it looks odd but it has been proven that it really helps. Wishing you all the very best
And sometimes being alone is AMAZING and HELPFUL. Maybe you can talk about that sometimes too.
I agree. I just find I have to know when to stop and get out again. I do think burrowing down for two days sometimes helps with preventing burnout, especially when I also unplug from social media and switch off my phone. But then I also have to know when to stop doing that.
Yes. And I'd like to know how can I tell if I should rest or move. Hard for me to differentiate if I'm tired or burned out or just with a really low mood and sleepy
How do you know when you need to hide away and be alone and when you need to get out? Just curious I don't understand
@@NashleyismI have the same question
I had Covid I took a week off work I was the happiest I'd been in years, I sat around all this pain in my back disappeared, I watched cheer on Netflix, I was so inspired by those kids their determination following their dreams, pushing through obstacles in their life, I'm back at work depressed and miserable as b4 seeing everyone at work with a much better life. Having reached goals in their life that I can't possibly reach like simple basic things like partner, friends etc. I hate feeling sorry for myself but when I'm around work colleagues I can't help it. I don't know how to be content, god plz that's all I want.
IM SORRY U FEEL THAT WAY ,,,,I WISH CONTENTMENT FOR U ALSO.....IM SENDING U CONTENMENT ENGERY AT 12 : 20 AM DEC 12
@@redinabloogs8477 thank you
I get how you’re feeling. I try to celebrate my FB friends’ and coworkers’ successes. Of good things happen for them, they can surely happen for me. I’m grateful to hear about every engagement, child’s milestone, fancy vacation… I try to let it inspire me. Hugs!
Try therapy it may give you a fresh perspective on your situation
@@doinglifewithgod thank you yes I've never tried therapy and I should try everything
Some days when I feel horrible and at my lowest, I just can't get myself to move. I just lay there and try to sleep. I can't get myself to get food, water, or do anything. Most times, sleeping helps me. It resets that mood I was in which was caused by multiple factors.
I always tell myself "Tomorrow is another day". Sleeping the day off can be really helpful.
Sleeping and waking up the next day sort of gives you a chance to "start again". Some days when I'm in a really low place or lots of things went "wrong" in the day... I'm like "Okay, I've had enough of this day" and go to sleep really early. Somehow it does help sometimes!
I always find I get out of that when I finally do my chores, with some help, and get on with life, and I go back to being stress free. But I get into that mood in the first place because I’m tired so “I’ll do that tomorrow” then I just keep pushing that back and what is only a small task becomes a big task, and now I need help to get it done so I can move on. I try not to push tasks back because it’s bad for my mental health.
This is “ law “ 👏🏻👏🏻☺️☺️☺️me too !!
There are so many of us suffering. Thank you for giving us some tactical skills to deal and wake up to another day.
Well shit, now I know why I end up spending 1-2 months ruminating over stressful events
didn't know it was addictive, but I procrastinate and self-sabotage all the time anyway
This has been me everyday for the past 4 years. I am aware of it but it is addicting. And i have been stuck in this rut for too long. I have been wanting to make a change and its time. Its not worth it to miss out on life
Done this for years. I know why it happened. I needed support and help, but didn't get it. So now this has become my habitual behaviour, and I'm struggling to break free of it. The fact that I enjoy being on my own, and my own company, means becoming a hermit, falls so easily to me. Bad combo.
At least now I aware of it. I really do want to try be apart of the world again. Just coinciding with all this effing world chaos and lockdowns, doesn't make any of it easy to break.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking time out to make these incredible shorts. You don't even realize how immensely it helps me every single day♡
She is doing it for money
@@behindmyblueeyes99- everybody needs money to live. And she is helping people too!
This is why I will be forever grateful to my mom for giving me the right push to go outside when I was struggling with anxiety due to a small burn out. This made me heal quicker.
I have been doing a lot of ruminating with negative self talk since a close friend died. Thank you 💖 for your wonderful videos. They give me comfort.
I fell into this loop all the time during the pandemic. It made me feel like I didn’t exist. Like I wasn’t impacting the world at all because I wasn’t going outside, and that no one knew or cared I was here. Even doing something as simple as going out for a walk or sitting on a park bench with sounds of nature made me feel way better. Like I was connected more to the world by not hiding away.
I'm so glad u found ways to overcome! But I would've known & cared if u were there, if I knew u! I've felt somewhat the same, but just so much more overwhelmed than anything. Still do, & IT SUX. But trying to work toward getting some kind of therapy for my life overall. I could reeeealllyy use it. Therapy for me, not meds. Really glad you're doing better!
If you feel down, you need to do things that will make you feel better! This can be hard. You should eat well, drink water, shower, brush your teeth, go for a walk in nature, maybe work out, maybe talk to a loved one. This will make you feel better than lying in bed all day with netflix and pizza. You should eat junk food, when you are excited and in a good mood, not in a bad mood. This can lead to eating disorders like emotional esting, binging, etc. Take care of yourself!!! ❤️
That makes 100% sense. And the more often you do that, worse you feel about yourself. It’s a vicious cycle.
Thank you for telling and educating people about depression and social anxiety, I used to have bad panic attacks in high-school to the point where I would not even go to school because I had this irrational fear of being rejected, and throughout most of my life I barely talked to people because of that and it makes me very sad because I missed out on so many opportunities and lost so many relationships. Still today I lose people just because in my head I tell myself that they wouldn't ever want to talk to me andI justify it by thinking that I'm the problem. The problem isn't me, it's the anxiety and I hope a lot of people come to understand that those quiet people you meet in high-school are the ones struggling the most. So take care of them and make time for them. They go through a lot everyday.
If I could give you an award for what you've just said, I WOULD! It's like you're leafing through the book of my life and have found the page where I'm currently stuck. I have always been a very private person but the recent events of my life have turned me into a mega introvert. Hiding myself from the world in my cucoon is safe territory for me. But I'm also shying away from things that need to be addressed. I get anxiety attacks by just thinking about going out and dealing with people... Things which used to be a breeze for me. It's not healthy to be in this state for long and heaven knows I want to get out of it soon. May God make it easy for me and all the others struggling out there.
It’s not addictive for her- but thank you for helping others 💗💗💗💗👏👏👏
Well fahk me. This is my 3rd year doing exactly this. Some days, I get the courage to get out into the world, but the next day my body just shuts down. And I don't have anyone to talk to either 🥺
How are you now? 😊
And that's why i looked for a job. I realized this the time i had my first job. I don't do hobbies, idk why. Maybe because i had no money? Lol idk. But having a job saves me. It gives me a relief that i'm living for this job, and the money will go to my loved ones, our everyday needs. Including my cats. Motivation it is.
Pandemic happened. I was so happy it's a work from home setup. But danggg i think i got burnt out.
Then i stopped again. I quit my job for 2 yrs. Then i stayed at home for 6 months and i'm recreating and im feeling the same feeling i had before. So i looked for another job. Idk how long i'll stay it's still a work from home setup but i need to do something so i don't think worse scenarios in my head 😂
ANYWAY, thanks for the tedtalk.
@himitsurinchan what kind of remote work??
If you feel sick, relax and get well. If you have a temporary low mood, relax and get well. Whatever you do, don't make yourself sicker by watching videos that suggest you should always be 100%
I was in this exact state for the last 3 months, after I resigned from my last job. The scary thing is, I didn't even realize it, because I thought it's probably just procrastination. And it's not like I didn't do anything, I still played games and browsed social media, and I still had fun sometimes.
"People had it worse, so I'm fine."
Luckily I have a roomate who happens to also be a good friend, and she helped me finally get a job and get back to my feet.
Hope you'll have someone like that too. Be brave. Maybe someone out there loves you more than you know.
You're helping us so much, God bless
I'm so glad!
This woman is amazing at explaining everything and once you have listened its then it dawns on you that you are 1 of the many people suffering from this 😢
Hi, what you are saying is what I am going through every day X
Our emotions speak to every cell in our body and tell it how to behave based on what you're feeling.
Honestly I always wanted to hide away from the world. I was okay. But once quarantine hit, I changed. I realized that the world want this perfect place. It wasn’t this place where you could do everything.
Don’t stay on that space for too long. It really takes a mental toll on you. Remember that you matter, the people you love. You matter.❤️
I don't know I'm depressed until one morning I realise I have a sink full of dishes, a full laundry basket, no food in the house... Just bought your book. 🙏
Thank you 🥲😔☹️😢😞
"If you want to change the world, make your bed". Think about this.
So true... that first step gets you moving 🤗
I have done this when I have been super down, it prevents you from getting back in your covers If you truly make your bed hard to get back into it. And another tip is to sit by a window, in a chair and become self aware of when you want to go back in bed. Tackle a small minor task really helps as well💖💖💖
I literally am this today, I called out of work and everything and am just sitting in bed. Honestly opened my eyes a bit
I hope you're okay. I feel this way too. I hope things get better for you 💜💜💜
I hope things get better soon 💗
Maybe you needed it this time. Take care 🤗
This is me every day at the moment.. I can't get out of the cycle. I am reading your book though, it's the first time I've been able to read a book in a very long time!
Thank you. I've been feeling this for almost a month but just realized it today. Big thanks
I know it's content, yet I feel like you care. I'm really sad and all alone
Hey man! How come you feel all alone? I have a feeling that that might just be all in your head!
i do this and it’s just something that happens but the way i tackle it is by cooking my favorite snack. whether it might be toast and eggs or something a little more complicated, sitting down watching my favorite show gives me relief and the feeling of knowing you ate something today is the best. another thing is calling or hanging out with someone that never lets you down. sometimes it’s hard but i promise if you just ask them nicely and explain they will or maybe even just a short text can go a long way.❤
This is a great book with so many tips. Every teenager should have a copy of this book.
I’ve never allowed my low tolerance for interaction, socializing, etc., to dictate how my day will go. My daughter is a little different in that she WILL wallow… we all have hard moments, days, weeks, months- etc.
If you don’t fight back- you lose. I’m not some eternal optimist.. I’m a realist- a balance of both. If I know I’m losing the battle that day- (typically around mid afternoon) I’ll concede- and relax at home the rest of the day.. but I NEVER give up without at least a decent fight, and neither should you.
I went and bought this on Audible! Here's to baby steps of progress! ❤
Df Julie.this video is really relatable to me my depression courses very low mood and not eating properly feeling tired all the time sleeping a lot not going out or spending much time with my family 😢
Thank you. this makes alot if sense. I can't wait to read your book! God bless you and everyone who sees this❤
I laughed at the book plug. Changed my mood immediately. Thanks doc😅.
Thankyou. You're my favourite go-to person ☺️💞
Because what you say , works for me.
And that doesn't happen with everyone I know.
I’ve done that when the weekend ends and you are really helping me find out I might be having anxiety and tiny depression I’m not sure I know I need to find out. I’m doing good though.
the pandemic has forced me into this habit so now even if i Could get out there im isolating myself further
Me TOOO 😭😭😭🥺🥺
It truly is addicting
Can you please do longer RUclips videos with tips on these subjects
Thank you for making such good videos with simple and yet effective ways to deal with depression, low mood and self doubt. More importantly, you have been able to use such as simple example to explain different type of low mood and mental health issues. Thank you just watching your video makes me feel better! I remembered your domino effect video today, and stoped myself from feeling bad because of just one bad event. 😊 thank you
I really appreciate your work Dr. Julie,,, love and support your work...
Have a long and beautiful time everyday,,, 💓💓
Need a balance though. Sometimes its a good idea to not do things (without making it a habit), and allow the feelings to be there without the ruminating.
I find this really works and i wake up the next day feling way better and more functional.
Forcing yourself to just get on with things all the tim e can be a form of suppression based on fear
I learned something similar from a Pete Walker book. The Tao of Fully Feeling Harvesting Forgiveness Through Blame. I try to just allow myself to feel my feelings. I will cry A LOT sometimes and usually there's a point that you just feel relief, catharsis and no longer feel the need for it. It passes so much more quickly when I don't shame myself for feeling depressed and stop trying to logic my way out of it in a sense. That's where the ruminating starts I think. Trying to logic our way out or trying to figure out why we're feeling the way we are instead of just feeling.
Our brains are problem solving machines which is part of why people ruminate, once you start ruminating it's a cycle. Trying not to judge the feeling and just feel it helps. I also learned a great deal of helpful information from the channel OCD & Anxiety. Rumination can be a part of OCD, though the advice I think is helpful for more than just people with OCD. Hoping this helps anyone who reads it.
Small goals consistently. Do what you enjoy when you can.
I really relate to this. Its so hard to get up and do what you need to when your really low. But getting up and just making a start is better than nothing and just maybe it will be enough to bring you up little by little
If you are ruminating, meditate! Look at your thoughts with attention, watch what is in your mind and see what happens.
i think that's why i feel the way i do because i need to go out, and i need something else very important x
Dr Julie is the best!
One therapy session with her can heal me completely
True! I love ❤️ your book 📖 its my favourite so far! There is a magic thing about it… the book knows how i feel on every new chapter!
My best friend committed suicide this summer partially because of his grandmothers death. Two month later my grandpa died in september. Have been doing this for months or even years or so.
🙏 & hugs & love..stay strong and dare to feel so that we can unstuck ourselves and heal…the broken pieces of our broken 💔’s, to create a beautiful mosaic of every living breath we take. Courage my friend.
(63 years of stuck, learning how to fly again…🤗)
@@Paristova thank you very much, hope you’re doing good!
Some days I feel the urge to just stay in bed, I've struggled with lack of sleep due to sleep apnea and it's got to me so much I've realised how much I have become depressed feeling like I can't do anything with my life on top of other health issues. Yesterday I thought I'm going to get up, make a cup of tea and take my meds I usually take and sit downstairs with my mum and watch some TV and I did feel better for it. Not just that but I've realised how important keeping a routine is for me and how much I've missed having at least something of a routine to focus on, nothing massive, just little things to work on
This book is a gift! Thank you😊
Been stuck for over a decade now. Talking to a therapist next week, finally.
This book is a really helpful one. Thanks for writing it Dr. Julie ✨
I’ve been talking to a psychiatrist for years,he’s never said any of the things you have. I haven’t left my house for years unless being hospitalized and a few hours last Christmas! I’ve begged the Dr for help. He ta
Thank you, Dr Julie for sharing your knowledge in such simple way possible, and for free. You really help understand what's going on. Big thank you!
I 10/10 recommend this book! It has helped me so much!
Just realised I bought this book 2 years ago!!! Then couldn’t be bothered reading it… Seriously, don’t know whether to laugh or cry 😮
This is so true. Giving myself permission to hide is very addictive, and then the ruminating starts. Thank you for discussing this subject.❤
I got this book 2 days ago! I'm loving it!
I love your videos. They help me a lot(: They are very insightful and everyone needs to know facts like this!
Plus, because they are short, I can replay them & get the information into my brain & ruminate over it...but only a few times, until I have processed it & understood it. Many thanks, Dr. Julie and I am waiting for your book.
I'm having a big exam and I'm diagnosed with depression 9 months ago. I'm having a lot of pressure and can't be positive for most of the time, knowing that I could fail.
I'm thinking to just sit the exam regardless of the results. Regardless of how of a failure I would think of myself, I think I will just get through with it.
Wish me luck. I honestly couldn't stop crying everytime I start to open my book, then ruminating that I couldn't do it. It took a lot of effort to even believe myself.
You can do it friend!!! Don’t let the negative thoughts dictate your life because remember you are better than them. You are capable of accomplishing things. Just take it one step at a time, and don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s an accomplishment in and of itself if you do the things that are difficult but good for you. God bless you, and know that Jesus is there for you. He loves you so much and He gives life and saves from death as you go to Him.
~ Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you ~
1 Peter 5:7
A Student's Prayer
Creator of all things, true source of Light and Wisdom, lofty source of all Being. graciously let a ray of Your Brilliance penetrate into the darkness of my understanding and take from me the double darkness in which I have been bom, sin and ignorance. Give me a sharp sense of understanding. a retentive memory. and the ability to grasp things correctly and fundamentally.
Grant me the talent of being exact in my explanations, and the ability to express myself with thoroughness and charm.
Point out the beginning. direct the progress, help in the completion.
THROUGH CHRIST, OUR LORD
Saint Thomas Aquinas
Thankyou Dr julie
Exactly YOUR SO RIGHT! thanks i feel like am not the only one who doing this and ill make my self better
My sister just gave me your book! I'm reading 📚 it right now. Thank you so much 💓
Wow.. So true.. I'm lying on the couch, thinking I can't be bothered to do anything...start scrolling.. And then this pops up 😮... Guess it's time to get up
Thank you for all the work you put into your videos. They're really helpful.
I’ve always known this, which has always been the driving factor that pushes me to go out. I know 1 of 2 things could happen. Either putting on a smile for people helps me forget about my problems and enjoy myself, or I still feel horrible, but it's way worse because I have to fake a smile for people, and it's harder to do when you feel low, and then you feel trapped in the situation. It’s often worth the risk because it at least keeps you from staying inside ruminating, and the ruminating combined with the guilt of not going isn’t worth it.
Omgggg I never heard someone explain it like this and your spot on! It took me a good 4/5 yrs but I’m FINALLY starting to feel “ME” again… it’s still very early so I’m afraid it’s to good to be true and I’m gonna slip back into a deep depression but I keep tellin my self I haven’t felt like this is so long that’s how I know it’s real
I really enjoy how you presents things.. It makes Me realize.. I can get things done.. Thank you for your positive sweet
Energy.. It’s soothing ☮️
SO ADDICTIVE
I've only just started watching, and it's given me a different outlook on how I view myself. It's a long road, but hopefully I can change my perspective on the world. I've ordered your book today ❤
Literally saw this video and bought the book 😂…. Really need to break this cycle
thank you dr Julie
I have your book! Just now realizing this! You’re amazing! Thank you.
I was just thinking about this today maybe if I force myself to do stuff that brings me joy, even if I don’t feel I even have the energy maybe it will suck me out of the funk!
I missed school today for that very reason and watching this. Feeling like this will last a while, like seasons and i would just wait it off. But thanks for explaining, it makes much more sense now.
I'm doing the same what helped?
Experience has taught me to just grit and bear it rather than hide from it. Shifting my perspective makes the biggest difference
It's amazing how this video popped up in my feed just as I needed it most. Thank you, Dr Julie and YT algorithm.
I believe this. I'm not a morning person but I find that starting my day quickly, having breakfast and then giving myself time to go for a walk makes me have a completely different day.
But I had to convince myself that I was doing myself a favour for this to have any benefit. When I told myself I had to get up, I hated it.
> "that feeling of relief, of "whew, I don't have to face the world today" is addicting and becomes a cycle"
Annnd this is why I started taking those days to do stupid projects for my cat. Things she doesn't NEED, but maybe she gets a kick out of, or will kick if it's a toy (she loves kicking things, it's adorable). It's just a whole serotonin boost and makes NOT staying inside the next day easier.
She likes costumes, so long as I include her in the making process and it doesn't cover her head :)
And I sometimes make her little soft toys to bat around or stomp if we have an excess of catnip.
She has a shoebin of silly projects I've done for her, with varying success :)
Thank you. You made my life better and now I’m happy and healthy again where I can feel positive about myself again and be open/free to who I am
Spent months if not years of my life in my 20s doing this. Withdrew from a semester in uni, spent years unemployed living at home burdened by mental health issues.
Avoiding doesn't solve your problems. You just get older and further behind in whatever it is you were putting off.
Now my debts have compounded interest growing. Now I'm 31yo in an entry level career starting over.
But I guess that's all part of living and learning. Just gotta try to learn more and do better