8:21 Although a nice perspective, I've always ignored anyone that said "oh there's 7 billion people, you'll find someone (be that friends or a partner)". But in reality you'll probably only meet between 300-1500 people in your life depending on your lifestyle
Same. Even though there's 8 billion people, the people you meet are determined by your country, city, culture and social circle. So in reality, the number of people you can meet variates greatly between people and their origins. You could also introduce the concept of "changing over time". People can change and that's an issue for long term relationships, which are very difficult to have in the first place based on what I have said earlier. That's kind of a doomer thing but it really brings meaning into the relationship we have with people because if they are here they are very special.
@@LeFrenchDude Things change much less later in life though. Lke yeah, at 15-20, you're still young and naive, but later on at 25-30 and above, people change less and less. There may be smaller changes, but nothing too drastic that would lead to a breakup. I feel like If that happens, that's just undeveloped character/lack of personality.
300-1500 people is still a lot to me, it feels a lot less for my case But yea we have internet now, if you don't mind finding friends & potential date online who are possibly overseas, then definitely you can meet more people. Though gotta make sure to get the basics of bonding down - don't assess a person just from their bio & photos. Gotta actually spend time with them whether on vc, in game, just something. Mutual hobby/interest/activity helps.
This has been one of my favorite channels to watch as of recent, coming from a youtuber pretty much everything you say about being one is true. Even if it's the only job I think I can do well atm I wouldn't really recommend it for most other people
I love this. The current demographic majority here seems to be very young men still in Highschool. I tell you now, all the young men here are most definitely going to over think life at such a young age. I know I did. The best thing you can understand to essentially answer a lot of the questions asked is understand that everything takes time, and it should take time. You will see rich 22 year olds or maybe younger and you will believe that you can do it. Though it may be possible it isn’t likely. Money isn’t all that and a bag of chips. Slow down, don’t overthink the picture and understand you need to keep yourself busy and take things slow. You have that unicorn blood at a young age, use it. And when it comes to women, if you care that much about the ladies then you’re caring too much about the wrong thing. You will find a partner one day, but if it comes fast then it’s not gonna be good. The realistic demographic is if she’s the same age as you she more than likely wants a guy older, I’ve seen 18yr girls who were dating 30yr old dudes. You think that’s weird when you’re an 18yr dude, but when you’re 30 that will change. Girls just generally go for older guys and they should because those guys have experience, they’ve found who they are and they are more than likely ready to start a family. Girls have a biological clock and the good ones recognize that and will chase the older gents. She wants an adult, not someone who hasn’t understood what it is to be one yet. When texting them if they don’t respond then you don’t respond, and don’t be stupid and ask why she didn’t. If she didn’t then she’s not interested my guy, she saw your text she’s not oblivious. What she is, is over stimulated with male attention. She’s got 30 texts from 30 dudes. If she hasn’t recognized you as different from the rest then she’s not interested and that is okay. There’s more females in the world move on. Accept and enjoy rejection, be a wanderer and be charismatic. Don’t linger. A 30 second witty and cute conversation will be more memorable to her then trying to force a 30 min conversation in the bar for instance where she struggles to hear you anyway. Be quick be witty and move to the next. Build a little jealousy and play the game she likes to see you play. She has enough fanboys, she wants the quick witty gentleman who’s talking all the other girls up and not making her feel special. The chase is fun and she loves to chase. It’s a constant tug and pull. So take it slow and have fun with it and enjoy life, don’t overthink it or take it too seriously. Better to live a short and fun life than to live a life where they’d blend together.
First off: The "get a scale" shit got me dying lmao Second: Yeah I get the want for a girlfriend. Eats at me too, but you gotta realize that the girl or woman you want should incite a side of you that you're too insecure or anxious to let out. Like for me, there's this girl that is challenging me to be more creative. I've had these wonderous ideas that I think would be neat, but never had an outlet or success in doing them. When I hang out with her and see that she does these arts & crafts that actually look cool, it makes me think that "hey, this is something that I share with her." It isn't exactly the same, but the concept is similar. So, I try to be creative in my own way to try to extend that connection that we have. Not to sound corny, but it's a beautiful thing to share a connection through hobbies, even if it's things that are mundane.
Hi i feel the struggle man, i get older and older, already in my 20s and still no girlfriend. Nothing, not even a kiss. I tried several dating apps and I got matches and even a few dates. But when I had dates they were mentally ill or the conversations were just not flowing. Also the reality is as a man you get ghosted by women 90%+ times on dating apps. Its a game you barely can win. And if not dating apps, what else? Having reallife connections would be great but not everyone is blessed with good friends or a community where you can meet women And something else, don't just wait for love, DO something. For women it works, they can wait, but not for men
eh. as a bi woman i’ve also been ghosted plenty-a-time on dating apps. it’s really just a personality thing imo. society is more self-centered these days as an inherent result of the way it operates. luckily i eventually found the most amazing selfless person with the best character you’ll ever see but it’s hard to find people, men or women, that are truly like that nowadays.
i love the concept of awnsering questions about problems people have. I learn allot because of your video's, i try to upgrade myself constantly and your realy helping me with that. No screams, loud music and busy gameplay is also something i love about your vids so thank you. Greetings from the Netherlands
Hello niko, started watching your content alot and it has been resourceful! I'm not gonna lie I am starting to feel like i'm chronically online these past years and I don't know how to get out of the bubble. I feel like the classic advice of "just go out and meet people" is out of place for me. I have met many cool people in video games tournaments, and I still talk to them, but I want to expand my reach other than just one web of interest. This video improved my perspective in the pursuit of romantic relationships, and now I feel like I have a better understanding on this topic, but I still feel incomplete socially and romantically speaking.
I love your channel man! 💯🔥 Not many RUclipsrs are as open, genuine, honest, and real as you. You're underrated as hell! 💯 (Keep up the amazing vids man! Never change, at least for the bad y'know lol)
Question 1: You're young still, work on your confidence in the meantime, the ladies will come to you eventually. And have a lady that cares deeply about you, don't get those ladies that just want you for your middle part and for your deep pockets and looks. There are women interested in that stuff only, they'll ruin you. Find a lady that's being sent by the angels, not by the devils. Women sent by the devils will ruin you as this is the 2nd time I am mentioning women ruining you. My sister not long ago told me that if I were blue eye'd, I'm black haired, she wouldn't let any lady get close to me. Also, communication is important. Don't be a creep during communication, but do be outgoing in conversations. Initiate it. I'm an introvert, and I just can't bring myself to initiate conversations unless I'm forced to, but even then, that's a rare sight to see from me. I mainly talk about stuff I'm interested in, and only focus on those. I'm still young myself, I'm not working to find a girl I want to love, I'll let her come to me. I'll just work on myself in the meantime.
Is it weird that I’m 22 and still live with my parents and don’t want to move out? Seeing other people moving out at 18 and 20 years old, it feels weird to me and I just don’t get it.
I'm 23 and had been single my whole life.I hit the gym,play sport,go to many social event and graduate college.Yet I wasn't able to find not even one girl who willing to date me.
I'm currently 19, and will be turning 20 this November. After a ending my relationship with my ex-girlfriend in september last year, I just seem to struggle to move on from it. The relationship itself was the most beautiful thing I had and it lasted for over 2 years. In the end of the relationship, it felt like we were slowly losing contact and she wanted to stop talking about many things that would've helped to keep the relationship going. I struggle a lot to realize that there were a lot of red flags like this and that it's better for me to be without her in my life, but I can't forget all the beautiful moments I had with her, be it the cuddle sessions at 2 am after having a deep conversation with her or the awesome dates we had at the beach. Ever since the relationship ended, I struggle with self-doubt because everything that lead to the end of the relationship has to do with me not being enough for her, making it hard for me to love myself and the stuff I do. Since I can't seem to get over the relationship, I'm not able to start a new one. Do you think that starting a new relationship at this point even makes sense?
i’ve been in basically that exact same boat (high school relationship ending freshman year of college. same timeline and ages too) and yeah, pursuing a relationship right now would not be in your best interest. it sounds cheesy as hell but genuinely i learned it’s best to learn to love yourself first. be patient with yourself. understand that you’re enough for yourself and any person worth your time will see your value. this doesn’t mean be stuck up or selfish; on the contrary humility is necessary too. but don’t solely derive your opinions on yourself from other people, make judgements of yourself and understand where they’re coming from and if they’re helpful. no one is perfect and you may have areas you genuinely want to improve in; those are the only critical judgements you should accept, and still remain loving and patient and kind towards yourself in that process.
@@jazzylev Thanks a lot for your advice. Self-improvement and trying to focus more on myself and what I want in life has been my goal in the past 1-2 months. I struggle a lot and get thrown back to where I was quite often, but I truly believe it's the best way to get over this situation. I hope you are surrounded by a lot of good friends that support you in these tough times, just like my friends have and still do. In the end, no matter how hard it's going to be to get through this, if we try hard enough, it's going to work out in the end. :)
@@BaumBapfel thank you so much! yes, i am so lucky to have supportive friends and family and i don't know where i would be without them. and i have the same experience, my progress never feels linear and it feels like i take steps backward often. but there is still valuable progress being made and i believe as long as we don't give up we'll end up in a good place where we can be at peace with ourselves. i hope everything goes well for you, friend, you've got this :)
Hi niko! I’m 20, My question is, how do I deal with my best friends having girlfriends? One is 26 and the other is 34, and this year they both gotten new girlfriends and I’m happy for them but I feel like they dont have any time for me like they once did. I’m struggling to accept all of this and it’s been making me upset, they’re both aware of it and one is trying to give me his time but the other isn’t really giving me his time. The 34 year old is closer with the 26 year old than me. Do you have any advice with this? Thanks
Hopefully you ever talk about it in the next video or you do of these but how do I not blur the line between liking someone vs liking the idea of someone? Been an internal struggle I dealt with since trying to maintain platonic relationships and not just go in head first with said relationship being romantic
Hi Niko, from the young age I have really great relations with women, but I really can't push these relationships further. My female friends say that I'm very good friend. I don't know if it is rejection, it's like I can't be anything more. I don't consider myself unatractive but still I'm scared of asking out for a date and getting rejected. What would you recomend for me? Going for it? I'm scared that rejection in this situation can destroy our friendship. Sorry for bad english and have a great day.
Since you already know them personally as friends for a while, I'd talk to them about it rather than the usual "asking them out." Tell them you have developed feelings for them and that you wanted to ask how they felt about it. Just be honest how you feel in a casual conversation with them. Then you can just take action based on how they respond to that. If it turns out to be a definite no, you can decide afterward if you still want to keep that friendship, knowing you'll never be with her. If she says yes or suggests that she's open to it, then go ahead. Keep in mind that there's always the possibility that she won't want to be friends anymore if they feel uncomfortable being friends with a guy they know likes them. But if you realize you're mostly in the friendship with the hopes of becoming something more, then just go for it and stop making yourself suffer. Hope this helps.
Hey Niko or anyone who reads this, my friend says that he wants to work part time as a highschooler, and I personally support him, heck I might even try it myself but I don't really know much about work, neither does he. Our parents don't remember how they felt entering the working industry so we don't have anyone to give us advice. I've seen your other video where someone asked about a similar question but I feel like we're in different situations where he's entering full time while we're only students right now. What are the benefits of working as a student? Is it worth it? Will we get treated differently? How should I pick where I want to work? Too many questions and I really don't know where to begin. I'd really appreciate any advice.
Hey, I'm a bit of a determinist. I came to this conclusion from studies, not a baseless belief. I think there are biological and enviornmental factors that set someone up for either sucess of failure. I wanted to ask, do you genuinely believe in the things you say? That pursuing your passion will lead you to success? That anyone can "make it"? I love your videos, and I don't mean to come off as accusatory. But are these things really that realistic?
hey niko, wanted to start off by saying i love the way you love to give advice. i live for that. but i wanted to ask about if i should worry about my life after school. ive been pulled out of school countless times to do homeschool, and then i always get put back into school, and then its a repeat. and ive just never seemed to do good in school with any of the schools ive been to, and even my homeschool life. ive learned basically nothing in the past 7 years and i dont think ill graduate. the only reasons ive passed my grades is because i end the year off in homeschool. do you think ill go homeless because i wont get a diploma?
Don't worry too much. I was homeschooled my entire life, you can just get a homeschooler's diploma. I did and I am just now finishing up EMT (ambulance medic) school with great grades... even though I got almost no biology/medical education from homeschool. And even if worst comes to worst and you're unable to get into school for anything (that 99% won't happen), you could join the military (would only recommend if you live in a western country). My point is that you probably don't have too much to worry about, I made it so you should too.
In America, school has almost nothing to do with the real-world. They teach you nothing you need to know. Nothing about taxes, relationships, jobs, and rarely interviews. School mainly shows your quick ability to be a memory sponge that can regurgitate it on the test. Barely teaches you how to actually learn a skill with experience. You have to learn all the real life stuff on your own or through mentors. As long as you don't have a lot of people to support with your income and can get and keep a job, you won't be homeless. If you move out on your own with minimum wage, I won't lie, it'll be hard. Rent and housing prices are crazy today. But if you can live with parents till you find a little better job you'll be fine as long as you know how to not waste your money. I'd recommend looking for a trade job. Just have to go to a trade school for a short while. Usually not even close to a year's worth. Most those jobs pay well. But if you're diligent you'll find something.
hi niko, I recently discovered your channel and it is like finding out you have a little fortune in your cellar. days finally don't feel like mindless wandering through time and space because there is some place I view as a safe space, that being your youtube channel. i wanted to ask if you could do an episode about friendships. i am at a new school and being an overthinker it was pretty rough handling friendships. primarly because my friends and i just don't have the same thoughts and opinions which pisses me off but if i wouldn't talk to them i would have noone to talk to. i know this is long and probably won't get the same attention as another comments but still I hope you read this.
Hi Niko, I feel like I spend my days doing nothing inside playing video games watching as life goes past me, part of me feels like I'm wasting my life, but the other part feels comfortable and happy in this state. I guess my question is, should I be ok with being blissfully detached from reality if it brings me joy?
I'm not Niko, but yes it's OK to enjoy it. You may feel bad because you feel guilty for enjoying it since you think you should be doing something more productive. However , I highly recommend experiencing what life has to offer. Having some form of a purpose brings meaning to your life. Being involved with other humans can also be very satisfying. A likely reason staying inside feels comfortable is because "the devil you know is better than the devil you don't." It's more comfortable to keep doing something you already know than risking ruining what you already have by trying something you don't know about. But trust me, from my own experience, being able to go through something you've never experienced that was hard feels exciting at the end. I'll give one of my experiences as example: There is a girl I liked for many years but have barely said a word to. She was like a faraway idea that I could never actually achieve. I got to a point where I was getting closer to actually trying. One day my parents encouraged me to do it so I sent a DM on Instagram. Now there are a lot of missing details of what happened I'll leave out because it would be pretty long but I'll try to get a quick gist of it. She responded a few times but then stopped. I decided that I had to talk to her in person. She didn't show up at our church for a few days while I tried to do it. I was physically sick for weeks because of this whole thing. I'd never gone out of my comfort zone to this extent. Finally when I actually saw her she was walking around with another guy holding her arm (I knew they might be dating, or at least considering it, but this was the first time it was really obvious. I turned, got in my car, and drove home. It definitely hurt. But I went all this way just to not even get an answer. I at least needed my answer from her. I messaged her again and told her that I didn't really care what the answer was but I just wanted to know if she was interested or not. She said that she didn't even know that's what it was, but the answer is no. It hurt in the end, but I realized that after it was over, while it felt horrible, part of me liked it. I felt a thrill that made me feel alive. That feeling still pushes me to this day to keep pushing for the next thing. To feel that thrill of actually trying something I've always wanted to do. Getting adventure out of life even when it can hurt. I now realize it was all worth it anyway. So I really recommend going out and trying something new that you've always wanted. You can just start small. Don't feel bad when you huddle away and relax to some games. It isn't wrong to enjoy that. But you could be fulfilling so much more of all the other things you've ever wanted. Most people regret the things they don't do over the things they shouldn't have done. I hope this at least helps a little. Sorry for it being so long 😅 I just really felt to share this for some reason.
Hey man been watching you since pre 1000 subs. I am dealing with motivation issues at the moment. I have a lot good in life but know I can do better things but never want to do it. What advice do you have with this
My advice to you is, don’t rely on motivation for anything. Life isn’t about motivation, it’s abut discipline, it’s about doing things even when you don’t feel like it, which is about 80% of the time.
What I find weird is that I looked like 14-15 when I was 18 and now I'm 20 and girls start smiling at me at age ~17-19 ... I'm not that tall, just 5'6 so looking not your age plus not having the height guarantees a delay in relationships...
saying something like "The worse thing they can do is say no" is just wrong, i'm not going to explain why but I am positive some of you would agree with me on this.
Hey niko! A few months ago my best friend and I had a falling out, we haven't talked since and likely never will. The friendship ended because I became a toxic friend without realizing it and started depending emotionally on this person way too much. I was wondering how you would deal with feelings of guilt and regret and trying to accept being completely in the wrong in a relationship.
hey niko, i found this channel recently and been enjoying the content. im 18 right now and i feel as if im running away from something only to lead me into something new. im finishing up high school and im honestly scared for what the future has in store for me but i want to feel confident about it. what is something that you do that keeps your confidence on a high?
TIL I'm older than Mr. niko. Phuck. Where my life gone, when all content creators I follow are younger than me. Anyway, thanks for the videos, sir, they are quite thought provoking.
Hey there niko! Love your content. I started RUclips in late 2020 and in 2024, I haven’t been growing all that much, I do enjoy the process and started uploading more consistently but I’m not getting to where I want to be with RUclips. Basically another income stream and since I enjoyed it, I will try and continue making content on RUclips.
i hate it in my country, in our culture there's no dating only marriage and the parents have to pick your partner for you, it just sucks im so jealous of you 1st world countries
I dunno if it helps but, when you get married, try to get along well with your partner alright? I think it's better to live with someone you at least tolerate
@@i_h8_losers i mean they are shifting towards more into dating and getting to know each other before marriage but still there are some people here like you mentioned
Hey Niko, I noticed you said that you believe it's just lights out when we die. May i ask your history with Christianity? It's changed my life. So I encourage you, can you give Christianity a try for me. And I understand your doubts, I may be young but I was unsure about Christianity for a time in my life. So, could you give it a try for me? And don't be afraid to ask questions. Ask those questions, its worth it. I love your content btw, it's very insightful. Thanks for reading, hope you have a good day!
Question time! I've always been a very curious person. I've always found it interesting to delve into a plethora of topics which are foreign to me. However nice that might sound, I actually feel that it is stopping me from truly investing myself into one of them and finding "my thing". Have you been in that situation before and if yes how do you recommend getting out of it and settling down for a "home-base" topic/activity. Keep up the great work!
niko im a failing freshman in highschool and i dont know if i want to go to college or not. a lot of adults have told me that i should go to college and get a degree so i can have a comfortable life. I find it difficult to accept this as i have always dreamed of being a lot more wealthier and I currently want to make a living from stocks. I don't know if im saying this just because im really lazy or i actually want to be more successful in life. What should i do?
hey niko, I am 16 getting over a breakup recently. Anymore things you can talk about in a different video? Like your journey of moving on and learning how to live life as someone outside of a relationship again? Also what your thoughts about being "just friends" with your ex again is.
If you got dumped, being just friends with your ex is hard, but if you can imagine her and see her with another guy doing everything you wanted to do with her and not feel pain then you probably can be friends. still I do not recommend - talking from experience
Hi nico as a 18 year old going to 19 i been thinking since im mainly a car guy i wasnt sure what i wanted to do im overall a indecisive person when it comes to simple things but when it came to what i wanted to purse it was either i wanted to work at Toyota industries or become a race car driver and have that feeling of focus and driving style i would love to have some advice on what i should do because at least im aware that both sides has its down sides and ups especially when it comes to romance (ps i had a gf once but dumped her)
Shadow people with those jobs. The only way you'll know you like it is if you see it or try it in person. Find a way to get some kind of insight or experience before dedicating to it.
Hey Niko, I'm currently 15 and have a girlfriend, our relationship is going semi-okay but I'm always screwing things up. Idk what causes me to say the things I say but it's starting to get in the way of everything. I'm scared of breaking up with her. I truly love her at the bottom of my heart but Idk how to deal with myself. Do you have any advice for me?
Hey nico, I'm currently 16 about to turn 17 i have been going through a whole lot of medical problems which has put a lot on my mind. ive forgotten almost everything i have learned in school as of now im probably at a grade 5 level of academic learning. i know i need to do school but i lose all motivation as soon as i try and sit down to do it. do you have any advice? im home schooled btw
hey Niko, im 14 and im falling behind a lot in school im from Australia and already 30 days behind i find it so hard to find the confidence to go to school and talk to people i hate the learning and people and im just lost could you give me some advice?
You were born into a crumbling country that is busy producing a generation of psychological casualties. I could say let everyone know and tell it straight, take up home school and lift weights or go to tafe where the environment is usually a lot calmer, but ultimately there are no less than fifty thousand Australians in your position. Either way take it as easy as possible and don't worry about the expectations and bullshit. Not your fault at 14, it's their problem.
Hey Niko I’m trying to figure out what to do. I recently graduated from high school and I’m currrently talking to a girl I could see myself with long term. The feeling seems mutual and our colleges will only be 30 minutes away but I’m having a hard time coming to a conclusion on whether or not to pursue this. Any words would help a lot thanks.
"yo i can't find girlfriend" guy here are some videos and titles for you from the same guy that you are typing to: nobody cares. thumbnail stop complaining dating won't solve your problems thumbnail don't get girlfreind find a real person to help you instead of this crap
i just wait for the oppertunity to come for me instead of trying to actively find out, im a patient creature. or i guess i could just be gay, its that simple.
Yo Niko, I hate highschool. Im always made fun of for NOT having a girlfriend. It destroyed my self esteem. The thing is, mostly all the girls in my Year Group are entitled brats. And when i do find a nice girl, without my knowledge, someone already asked her out. Its like boom, they're here, and then boom, they're taken. within the blink of an eye. There is this one really nice girl, we know each other quite well, we are close friends, i could see something happening, BUT MY FRIEND HAD TO HAVE ALREADY ASKED HER OUT THE C*NT. Hes a great person, but i hold a grudge against him because of that. They've been dating for over a year now, they seem all lovey dubby and its pissing me off. Its not f*cking fair, and i hate my school life because im lonely and picked on for being lonely. I need advice.
Dude im right there with you man, I left my school and do everything online now and my shit is so fucked I get so upset when I hear about people going to dances and shit and having fun with their people and im here all lonely and shit.
im 18 and i look like a 16 year old i wear eyesight glasses and i have kind of beaver teeth gap issue where my teeth are bad but not rotten bad i get called ugly but im a nice honest kind person good at heart im close to 6 ft at age 18 around 5,8
Woahhh, what terrible advice at the end. This is what I heard: C: "Hey, I found this hobby that brings me joy but I struggle to fit it into my schedule. Advice?" N: "Just give up, it sucks. Yes, I'm continuing to do it voluntarily but it brings me so little joy that I just can't seem to stop." You can engage in a hobby that is highly demanding of your time and stay sane. I learned French (and, to a much less fluent extent, Spanish and Japanese) by immersing myself in the language and studying intensively for years. To say it was hard would be a comical understatement, and sometimes I questioned if I should keep going. Glad I never quit now that I've had the experiences I've had, and met so many great French folk. I would NEVER tell an aspiring language-learner "nahh, just don't. You'll spend so many hours bent over conjugation tables full of nearly identical verbs, or explanations for all of the fourteen cases and all of their noun declensions, or strange characters from foreign writing systems, and you won't ever speak exactly like a native anyway. You'll also have to spend several hours each day listening to things you only partially understand at best over a long period of time, and you'll need to make several adjustments to some of your habits in daily life to really achieve fluency. Just a waste of time. Oh, me? Yeah I learned like 3 languages and continue to do it. What hypocrite?" I could instead tell them all of the great things to be had. I perceive language in a completely new way, for one. I have so much data on other languages stored in my head that I can break down and understand sentences even of the highest lexical and syntactical complexity in my native language. I understand with utter ease the vast majority of fancy, academic-sounding English words that I wouldn't otherwise understand had I not learned French. Do you see what I mean? Yeah, it was a "waste of time." But no, actually, it really wasn't. I get it-you want to be realistic. But you can be realistic while also giving non-soul-crushing advice. Well, you didn't really give any advice to that guy since you didn't really answer his question at all. Whatever, I hope his channel explodes just to humble you.
Okay for the record I love content creation, otherwise I wouldn't be doing it. Also I hope this person succeeds in their content creating endeavors. As for giving "non-soul-crushing" adivce, I'm not in the business of bullshiting people. The world has enough people telling them and showing them the good parts of content creation. In fact you see it daily with the status creators have, the money and influence they have over people. I don't need to be the 1123123th person telling anyone about that. What we need is to show people the other side of it, the mountain that lies behind every creator that "made it." That's why when people ask me about content creation in any capacity, (such as the one in this video) I give them very harsh answers, because that's what they need. It's what they need to test and build their mental strength in the matter and to really question if this is what they want to spend so much time of their life on. You can disagree with my method and that's fine, but I stand by what I said.
@@nikoyaps All good! Yeah, I sometimes leave comments like this disagreeing with videos I watch on YT, and I'm glad you didn't construe it as hate or anything. And I didn't expect to change your mind, either lol but I think I understand at least where you're coming from a little better now, though I still wouldn't go about it that way personally.
Bro really thinks he's LowkeyMartin 😂😂 Edit: After further analysis, I see that you've seen and taken an opportunity. While I do not appreciate the complete ripoff, I respect the hustle, and we all have to escape the rat race somehow. Keep on the youtube grind
I am currently 17 (turning 18 in a month) and I feel that my youth is taken away from me. I wasn't able to enjoy my childhood and high school days because of the hundreds of responsibilities placed on me. My dad left me in a very young age and I have to work a lot to support my family and ourselves. Currently struggling to find genuine happiness outside of helping others. It feels like I missed out on so much in my early days that I will never get to experience again. I don't know what to do but to keep grinding working hard and trying my best to actively become better everyday. Life for me is just struggles and constant hardships and I am hoping to find true happiness one day. Just asking for advice on what I can actually do (would mean a lot) 🙏
@@slenshye9876 cant find happiness at age 18 im not that good looking from serbia age 18 kind honest good nice person in general an amazing person to be friends with or more
yo, i just finished high school and even took an extra year, im 19.5 years old and never had a girlfriend and i feel like ive failed at life and missed out on everything good about highschool. did i really fail as hard as i think i did? it seems like everyone is in relationships but me, and i can't be happy with myself because of this.
I'm 17 and never had a girlfriend, too. I know how you feel, because usually the folks with my age already kiss someone and stuffs like these. But that's something that I have zero experience in my life. Actually, I never had a friendship with a girl. I guess we need just ignore it and try become a better person, but don't feel sad bro! (Sorry for any mistakes, I've been learning English but I'm not good at it yet.)
That doesn’t mean you failed at life, it just means you haven’t found someone for you yet I quit my gf almost 2 months ago now and it was the first relationship I’ve ever had but I can tell you that you shouldn’t really care about that, it’s better to wait for the right person than to be unhappy with someone who isn’t for you So yeah dw and good luck man 👍
I'm 19 too and get what ya mean, I ain't in a relationship either but there's more to life than relationships, it's just the media is pushing it onto people making us think it's as important and as fun as they say, ya not missin out on anything, you'll find it more enjoyable if ya let it happen naturally instead of rushing the process
Fellas am I cooked? I have a crush on this girl hard, I hungout with her and she left me on sent for weeks and I saw her with some other dude. I may never find someone like her and am fucking lost.
@@rigbonet4272 Bro, you'll get over it. Trust me. I know the initial pain is tough, and you probably hate yourself to an extent, because "Why did she pick him and not you?" Trust me, it ain't worth it. Don't compare yourself to others and don't dwell too much on the fact that she couldn't be bothered to reply to a simple message. Just remember that overtime you'll change and one day you'll forget about her and be so drastically different that you'll think "Hey, I just remembered that one girl, what was her name? Why did I even have a crush on that thing, like dear god, was I a stupid kid." or something similar. I know you wanted her, but you can't have her. And that's okayx not your loss, really, it just makes you stronger. Focus on working on yourself for now, so that you may one day have another one, better, and the one that was meant for you. Like truly meant for you, rather than just someone who you wanted but they didn't appreciate you. I'm saying this as an adult. Trust me, you're not cooked. Just take a deep breath, and go one day at a time. Everything's gonna be alright.
is it weird to say slay extremely excessively ? 🤯 edit: wow you cannot stop speaking facts niko woaah, why are u literally able to speak exactly to how i feel on everything
I don't want to seem like an Incel but it genuinely seems like in today's society that a majority of women are changing for the worst, I think I'm losing more and more hope the more I see modern woman's perception on men as a whole, makes me not even want to approach a girl at all, and also makes me feel like I'll most likely just remain alone for the rest of my life. I'm 22 years old and have experienced far less than most that are my age, so I don't really know if I should be talking.
as a woman that’s into women: i think overall i’ve noticed people are more self centered in general. like you say that about women but also the friends that i have who date men have struggled with self-centered men too. i think overall our world of hyper-individualism and social media lends itself to encouraging and highlighting people’s narcissistic tendencies. so i think overall it’s just harder for good selfless people to find each other because it’s growing to be so few and far between regardless of gender.
Hi I’m a lesbian who also just got my heart gutted and destroyed by a woman. Here’s some advice: Both women and men suck. There are a lot of shallow women out there who expect men to pay for everything and treat them like wallets. There are a lot of crappy men out there who expect women to “put out” for them without respecting their wishes. The reason you only hear about the bad women/good men is because (I would assume) a lot of the people you’re close with or look up to are men. They’re telling stories about the bad women them and their friends have dated as well as the good things they’ve done. This is true of most women as well. Most of the people we are close to/respect are women and therefore we hear a lot about the good women/bad men. We’re not hearing each other’s stories. Because of this, we understand our perspectives and when someone of the opposite gender (speaking strictly in binaries) mentions something bad, we say “well have you considered this?” If you want proof, this actually happened to me as I was watching the above video. I disagreed with something Niko said and thought “well, have you considered the social implications of xyz?” Anyways tldr: dating sucks. Dating men and women brings different struggles. I won’t say which is easier because I haven’t experienced both, but I will wish you luck my friend.
@@eatthis8924 I think an important distinction to make is that the way "women act nowadays" is 99% coming from red-pill rage-bait videos, and really only exists online or for a very privileged type of woman. If you just practice having normal conversations with women you will quickly realize that they don't all act the way alpha male podcasters make you think they do.
Hey, i'm a 17 year old homeschooler and i feel like i have failed at life as a teen. I'm extremely far back in school, I've never been to a party or get together, And I've never had a girlfriend let alone someone I can call a friend in my entire life. The only way of social interaction i get is going to church and practicing taekwondo. My dream job is to become a 3D animator and i'm trying my best with animation on RUclips at the moment but i know thats just a dream because I'll never have the skill to achieve what other animators can. I'm trying to learn a trade like welding at the moment because i know i won't be able to get into college with my current state of education but i don't know if I'm making the right decisions with trying to learn a trade just because it pays a lot. Thanks for reading this. love your videos and have a great day.
Im not Niko but here's my advice dude Firstly, nothing is really a failure if you can learn something from it, you can't change the past but you can build the future. Secondly, you don't need school to be a 3D animater on youtube, you could take courses or learn online. Next, if you wanna get invited to parties or get togethers then you gotta make friends but party's are overhyped tbh. Next, if you want more "social interactions" and chances to make friends then try to join more clubs and make an effort to talk to everyone you see even just saying "hi" to people as you pass them on the street, practice makes better. Next, being a 3D animater is only "just a dream" if you decide that it is, your probably comparing yourself to people with alot more experience than you, you will get alot better if you keep at it. And finally, I don't think you should do welding just because of the pay, but of course you gotta eat so you could do welding part time while you work on achieving your real goals. Hope it helps Let me know if you have any questions or if my advice sucks
You could try making friends at church and see if they want to hang out. My situation was pretty similar to yours. I decided that I was tired of it and just started going up to a church friend group and talking with them. It felt weird and I thought I looked like a needy person or something but I just needed to learn and know that I could do it. After that I stopped talking to them cause they aren't the kind of people I'd like to hang out with. But now I know what I'm capable of. So ultimately it's really not that hard in a physical sense. It's other things in your mind that make it hard. If you can get yourself to actually experience it you'll get it. Just learn to be OK with being looked at negatively from others. If you can handle that you're set. But if you can't yet just do your best until you can. I really do recommend slowly building a social life. It will boost the rest of your life as well. Doesn't have to be the romanticized version in your head to be good though 😉
considering how bad western women have become, it's quite a waste of time pursuing them (unless you want to end up having your stuff taken and having to pay alimony later on).
@@SvengelskaBlondie the search for a partner is the highest stimulus for the brain, stronger than the search for food, which is why people continue to be driven by this reason
@@SvengelskaBlondie I wish my dad told me, "Let me tell you what puberty is. An influx of millions of hormones which you have absolutely no control over force you to be extremely attracted to the opposite gender to the point where you slave away and grind your life out literally because of the prospect of attracting them. They can cut your heart to bits, scrap your self esteem, trash you, over and over, yet you are still forced to be attracted to them. There is nothing you can do to stop it for decades until slowly the desire fizzles out. You are to suffer immensely for this, and waste your youth trying to impress them, because your brain was wired this way."
0:50 this is the most genius movement niko throughout the history of Minecraft
ALRIGHT BUDDY
At least it’s wood
wooden iron pickaxe
bro was tryna make a thiccaxe
😂
All I'm going to say is "Beautiful things don't ask for attention"
U cooked with that one
Love this 💗💯
secret life of walter mitty is such an amazing movie bro
@@lucasneedham5630 real
Hollon... let em cook!
did i just see you craft an iron pickaxe with planks..?
0:50
ALRIGHT PAL
I also noticed, his advice is good but the gameplay mid
@@nikoyaps Thanks for the reply bro
@@David-ty6my why do minecraft players get so butthurt over someone not playing the way its "supposed" to be played
@@zzzzz6922 probably because I watched all Dream videos and I'm the Dream of my friend Group. Someone's gotta be able to craft a boat in mid air.
8:21 Although a nice perspective, I've always ignored anyone that said "oh there's 7 billion people, you'll find someone (be that friends or a partner)". But in reality you'll probably only meet between 300-1500 people in your life depending on your lifestyle
Same. Even though there's 8 billion people, the people you meet are determined by your country, city, culture and social circle. So in reality, the number of people you can meet variates greatly between people and their origins. You could also introduce the concept of "changing over time". People can change and that's an issue for long term relationships, which are very difficult to have in the first place based on what I have said earlier.
That's kind of a doomer thing but it really brings meaning into the relationship we have with people because if they are here they are very special.
@@LeFrenchDude Things change much less later in life though. Lke yeah, at 15-20, you're still young and naive, but later on at 25-30 and above, people change less and less. There may be smaller changes, but nothing too drastic that would lead to a breakup. I feel like If that happens, that's just undeveloped character/lack of personality.
300-1500 people is still a lot to me, it feels a lot less for my case
But yea we have internet now, if you don't mind finding friends & potential date online who are possibly overseas, then definitely you can meet more people. Though gotta make sure to get the basics of bonding down - don't assess a person just from their bio & photos. Gotta actually spend time with them whether on vc, in game, just something. Mutual hobby/interest/activity helps.
I need this video im really struggeling with life rn
i believe in you
This has been one of my favorite channels to watch as of recent, coming from a youtuber pretty much everything you say about being one is true. Even if it's the only job I think I can do well atm I wouldn't really recommend it for most other people
@MatMart I love your videos
its the geometry dash guy
imagine struggling to get the attention of a single woman when you can have thousands of FBI agents watching your every move
I love this. The current demographic majority here seems to be very young men still in Highschool. I tell you now, all the young men here are most definitely going to over think life at such a young age. I know I did. The best thing you can understand to essentially answer a lot of the questions asked is understand that everything takes time, and it should take time. You will see rich 22 year olds or maybe younger and you will believe that you can do it. Though it may be possible it isn’t likely. Money isn’t all that and a bag of chips. Slow down, don’t overthink the picture and understand you need to keep yourself busy and take things slow. You have that unicorn blood at a young age, use it. And when it comes to women, if you care that much about the ladies then you’re caring too much about the wrong thing. You will find a partner one day, but if it comes fast then it’s not gonna be good. The realistic demographic is if she’s the same age as you she more than likely wants a guy older, I’ve seen 18yr girls who were dating 30yr old dudes. You think that’s weird when you’re an 18yr dude, but when you’re 30 that will change. Girls just generally go for older guys and they should because those guys have experience, they’ve found who they are and they are more than likely ready to start a family. Girls have a biological clock and the good ones recognize that and will chase the older gents. She wants an adult, not someone who hasn’t understood what it is to be one yet. When texting them if they don’t respond then you don’t respond, and don’t be stupid and ask why she didn’t. If she didn’t then she’s not interested my guy, she saw your text she’s not oblivious. What she is, is over stimulated with male attention. She’s got 30 texts from 30 dudes. If she hasn’t recognized you as different from the rest then she’s not interested and that is okay. There’s more females in the world move on. Accept and enjoy rejection, be a wanderer and be charismatic. Don’t linger. A 30 second witty and cute conversation will be more memorable to her then trying to force a 30 min conversation in the bar for instance where she struggles to hear you anyway. Be quick be witty and move to the next. Build a little jealousy and play the game she likes to see you play. She has enough fanboys, she wants the quick witty gentleman who’s talking all the other girls up and not making her feel special. The chase is fun and she loves to chase. It’s a constant tug and pull. So take it slow and have fun with it and enjoy life, don’t overthink it or take it too seriously. Better to live a short and fun life than to live a life where they’d blend together.
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Good read, but learn to space out your sentences next time.
good lord dude that’s a lot of
Good advice.
First off: The "get a scale" shit got me dying lmao
Second: Yeah I get the want for a girlfriend. Eats at me too, but you gotta realize that the girl or woman you want should incite a side of you that you're too insecure or anxious to let out. Like for me, there's this girl that is challenging me to be more creative. I've had these wonderous ideas that I think would be neat, but never had an outlet or success in doing them. When I hang out with her and see that she does these arts & crafts that actually look cool, it makes me think that "hey, this is something that I share with her." It isn't exactly the same, but the concept is similar. So, I try to be creative in my own way to try to extend that connection that we have. Not to sound corny, but it's a beautiful thing to share a connection through hobbies, even if it's things that are mundane.
Rookie mistake. Find a boyfriend instead.
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Idk that's kinda guy isn't it?
@@David-ty6mythat is guy, you are correct.
@@coulsonknight I swear I typed gay and it autocorrected
@@David-ty6my No, no, pretend it was the intended way.
Bro is saying "im only 5'7" bro im 5'4 what im i supposed to do 💀
do you want a blackpill answer?
@@iiCounted-op5jxYea
8:09 I never realized how much you say "Okay", and, not to be that guy, but there're 8 billion now.
W advice though, seriously.
Hi i feel the struggle man, i get older and older, already in my 20s and still no girlfriend. Nothing, not even a kiss. I tried several dating apps and I got matches and even a few dates. But when I had dates they were mentally ill or the conversations were just not flowing. Also the reality is as a man you get ghosted by women 90%+ times on dating apps. Its a game you barely can win. And if not dating apps, what else? Having reallife connections would be great but not everyone is blessed with good friends or a community where you can meet women
And something else, don't just wait for love, DO something. For women it works, they can wait, but not for men
eh. as a bi woman i’ve also been ghosted plenty-a-time on dating apps. it’s really just a personality thing imo. society is more self-centered these days as an inherent result of the way it operates. luckily i eventually found the most amazing selfless person with the best character you’ll ever see but it’s hard to find people, men or women, that are truly like that nowadays.
I'm 18 and I don't think it's even worth trying, I accept single life
i love the concept of awnsering questions about problems people have. I learn allot because of your video's, i try to upgrade myself constantly and your realy helping me with that. No screams, loud music and busy gameplay is also something i love about your vids so thank you. Greetings from the Netherlands
Hello niko, started watching your content alot and it has been resourceful!
I'm not gonna lie I am starting to feel like i'm chronically online these past years and I don't know how to get out of the bubble. I feel like the classic advice of "just go out and meet people" is out of place for me. I have met many cool people in video games tournaments, and I still talk to them, but I want to expand my reach other than just one web of interest. This video improved my perspective in the pursuit of romantic relationships, and now I feel like I have a better understanding on this topic, but I still feel incomplete socially and romantically speaking.
11:03 "More than be scared to die you should be scared to not live" ~ Someone idk
you should do a video about "Moving on" whether it be grief or a break up
I love your channel man! 💯🔥 Not many RUclipsrs are as open, genuine, honest, and real as you. You're underrated as hell! 💯 (Keep up the amazing vids man! Never change, at least for the bad y'know lol)
Question 1: You're young still, work on your confidence in the meantime, the ladies will come to you eventually. And have a lady that cares deeply about you, don't get those ladies that just want you for your middle part and for your deep pockets and looks. There are women interested in that stuff only, they'll ruin you. Find a lady that's being sent by the angels, not by the devils. Women sent by the devils will ruin you as this is the 2nd time I am mentioning women ruining you. My sister not long ago told me that if I were blue eye'd, I'm black haired, she wouldn't let any lady get close to me. Also, communication is important. Don't be a creep during communication, but do be outgoing in conversations. Initiate it. I'm an introvert, and I just can't bring myself to initiate conversations unless I'm forced to, but even then, that's a rare sight to see from me. I mainly talk about stuff I'm interested in, and only focus on those. I'm still young myself, I'm not working to find a girl I want to love, I'll let her come to me. I'll just work on myself in the meantime.
Is it weird that I’m 22 and still live with my parents and don’t want to move out? Seeing other people moving out at 18 and 20 years old, it feels weird to me and I just don’t get it.
I'm 23 and had been single my whole life.I hit the gym,play sport,go to many social event and graduate college.Yet I wasn't able to find not even one girl who willing to date me.
I'm currently 19, and will be turning 20 this November. After a ending my relationship with my ex-girlfriend in september last year, I just seem to struggle to move on from it. The relationship itself was the most beautiful thing I had and it lasted for over 2 years. In the end of the relationship, it felt like we were slowly losing contact and she wanted to stop talking about many things that would've helped to keep the relationship going. I struggle a lot to realize that there were a lot of red flags like this and that it's better for me to be without her in my life, but I can't forget all the beautiful moments I had with her, be it the cuddle sessions at 2 am after having a deep conversation with her or the awesome dates we had at the beach.
Ever since the relationship ended, I struggle with self-doubt because everything that lead to the end of the relationship has to do with me not being enough for her, making it hard for me to love myself and the stuff I do. Since I can't seem to get over the relationship, I'm not able to start a new one. Do you think that starting a new relationship at this point even makes sense?
i’ve been in basically that exact same boat (high school relationship ending freshman year of college. same timeline and ages too) and yeah, pursuing a relationship right now would not be in your best interest. it sounds cheesy as hell but genuinely i learned it’s best to learn to love yourself first. be patient with yourself. understand that you’re enough for yourself and any person worth your time will see your value. this doesn’t mean be stuck up or selfish; on the contrary humility is necessary too. but don’t solely derive your opinions on yourself from other people, make judgements of yourself and understand where they’re coming from and if they’re helpful. no one is perfect and you may have areas you genuinely want to improve in; those are the only critical judgements you should accept, and still remain loving and patient and kind towards yourself in that process.
@@jazzylev Thanks a lot for your advice. Self-improvement and trying to focus more on myself and what I want in life has been my goal in the past 1-2 months. I struggle a lot and get thrown back to where I was quite often, but I truly believe it's the best way to get over this situation. I hope you are surrounded by a lot of good friends that support you in these tough times, just like my friends have and still do. In the end, no matter how hard it's going to be to get through this, if we try hard enough, it's going to work out in the end. :)
@@BaumBapfel thank you so much! yes, i am so lucky to have supportive friends and family and i don't know where i would be without them. and i have the same experience, my progress never feels linear and it feels like i take steps backward often. but there is still valuable progress being made and i believe as long as we don't give up we'll end up in a good place where we can be at peace with ourselves. i hope everything goes well for you, friend, you've got this :)
In the start we all ask "What is love?"
In the end we say "Baby don't hurt me, no more"
Hi niko! I’m 20, My question is, how do I deal with my best friends having girlfriends? One is 26 and the other is 34, and this year they both gotten new girlfriends and I’m happy for them but I feel like they dont have any time for me like they once did. I’m struggling to accept all of this and it’s been making me upset, they’re both aware of it and one is trying to give me his time but the other isn’t really giving me his time. The 34 year old is closer with the 26 year old than me. Do you have any advice with this?
Thanks
Hopefully you ever talk about it in the next video or you do of these but how do I not blur the line between liking someone vs liking the idea of someone? Been an internal struggle I dealt with since trying to maintain platonic relationships and not just go in head first with said relationship being romantic
Hi Niko, from the young age I have really great relations with women, but I really can't push these relationships further. My female friends say that I'm very good friend. I don't know if it is rejection, it's like I can't be anything more. I don't consider myself unatractive but still I'm scared of asking out for a date and getting rejected. What would you recomend for me? Going for it? I'm scared that rejection in this situation can destroy our friendship. Sorry for bad english and have a great day.
Since you already know them personally as friends for a while, I'd talk to them about it rather than the usual "asking them out." Tell them you have developed feelings for them and that you wanted to ask how they felt about it. Just be honest how you feel in a casual conversation with them. Then you can just take action based on how they respond to that. If it turns out to be a definite no, you can decide afterward if you still want to keep that friendship, knowing you'll never be with her. If she says yes or suggests that she's open to it, then go ahead.
Keep in mind that there's always the possibility that she won't want to be friends anymore if they feel uncomfortable being friends with a guy they know likes them. But if you realize you're mostly in the friendship with the hopes of becoming something more, then just go for it and stop making yourself suffer. Hope this helps.
Hey Niko or anyone who reads this, my friend says that he wants to work part time as a highschooler, and I personally support him, heck I might even try it myself but I don't really know much about work, neither does he. Our parents don't remember how they felt entering the working industry so we don't have anyone to give us advice. I've seen your other video where someone asked about a similar question but I feel like we're in different situations where he's entering full time while we're only students right now. What are the benefits of working as a student? Is it worth it? Will we get treated differently? How should I pick where I want to work? Too many questions and I really don't know where to begin. I'd really appreciate any advice.
Great Video. Really cleared things up. Thanks Niko 😊
Hey, I'm a bit of a determinist. I came to this conclusion from studies, not a baseless belief. I think there are biological and enviornmental factors that set someone up for either sucess of failure. I wanted to ask, do you genuinely believe in the things you say? That pursuing your passion will lead you to success? That anyone can "make it"? I love your videos, and I don't mean to come off as accusatory. But are these things really that realistic?
ngl youtube revealed a hidden gem to me randomly,your content is fun to listen to.
hey niko, i have a simple question for you do you recommend socializing on discord ?
hey niko, wanted to start off by saying i love the way you love to give advice. i live for that. but i wanted to ask about if i should worry about my life after school. ive been pulled out of school countless times to do homeschool, and then i always get put back into school, and then its a repeat. and ive just never seemed to do good in school with any of the schools ive been to, and even my homeschool life. ive learned basically nothing in the past 7 years and i dont think ill graduate. the only reasons ive passed my grades is because i end the year off in homeschool. do you think ill go homeless because i wont get a diploma?
probably will tbh
Don't worry too much. I was homeschooled my entire life, you can just get a homeschooler's diploma. I did and I am just now finishing up EMT (ambulance medic) school with great grades... even though I got almost no biology/medical education from homeschool. And even if worst comes to worst and you're unable to get into school for anything (that 99% won't happen), you could join the military (would only recommend if you live in a western country). My point is that you probably don't have too much to worry about, I made it so you should too.
In America, school has almost nothing to do with the real-world. They teach you nothing you need to know. Nothing about taxes, relationships, jobs, and rarely interviews. School mainly shows your quick ability to be a memory sponge that can regurgitate it on the test. Barely teaches you how to actually learn a skill with experience. You have to learn all the real life stuff on your own or through mentors.
As long as you don't have a lot of people to support with your income and can get and keep a job, you won't be homeless. If you move out on your own with minimum wage, I won't lie, it'll be hard. Rent and housing prices are crazy today. But if you can live with parents till you find a little better job you'll be fine as long as you know how to not waste your money.
I'd recommend looking for a trade job. Just have to go to a trade school for a short while. Usually not even close to a year's worth. Most those jobs pay well. But if you're diligent you'll find something.
man your videos deserve more views, actual life tips
3:20 "spawned in" 😂
hi niko, I recently discovered your channel and it is like finding out you have a little fortune in your cellar. days finally don't feel like mindless wandering through time and space because there is some place I view as a safe space, that being your youtube channel.
i wanted to ask if you could do an episode about friendships. i am at a new school and being an overthinker it was pretty rough handling friendships. primarly because my friends and i just don't have the same thoughts and opinions which pisses me off but if i wouldn't talk to them i would have noone to talk to. i know this is long and probably won't get the same attention as another comments but still I hope you read this.
Hi Niko, I feel like I spend my days doing nothing inside playing video games watching as life goes past me, part of me feels like I'm wasting my life, but the other part feels comfortable and happy in this state. I guess my question is, should I be ok with being blissfully detached from reality if it brings me joy?
I'm not Niko, but yes it's OK to enjoy it. You may feel bad because you feel guilty for enjoying it since you think you should be doing something more productive.
However , I highly recommend experiencing what life has to offer. Having some form of a purpose brings meaning to your life. Being involved with other humans can also be very satisfying. A likely reason staying inside feels comfortable is because "the devil you know is better than the devil you don't." It's more comfortable to keep doing something you already know than risking ruining what you already have by trying something you don't know about. But trust me, from my own experience, being able to go through something you've never experienced that was hard feels exciting at the end.
I'll give one of my experiences as example: There is a girl I liked for many years but have barely said a word to. She was like a faraway idea that I could never actually achieve. I got to a point where I was getting closer to actually trying. One day my parents encouraged me to do it so I sent a DM on Instagram. Now there are a lot of missing details of what happened I'll leave out because it would be pretty long but I'll try to get a quick gist of it.
She responded a few times but then stopped. I decided that I had to talk to her in person. She didn't show up at our church for a few days while I tried to do it. I was physically sick for weeks because of this whole thing. I'd never gone out of my comfort zone to this extent. Finally when I actually saw her she was walking around with another guy holding her arm (I knew they might be dating, or at least considering it, but this was the first time it was really obvious. I turned, got in my car, and drove home. It definitely hurt. But I went all this way just to not even get an answer. I at least needed my answer from her.
I messaged her again and told her that I didn't really care what the answer was but I just wanted to know if she was interested or not. She said that she didn't even know that's what it was, but the answer is no. It hurt in the end, but I realized that after it was over, while it felt horrible, part of me liked it. I felt a thrill that made me feel alive. That feeling still pushes me to this day to keep pushing for the next thing. To feel that thrill of actually trying something I've always wanted to do. Getting adventure out of life even when it can hurt. I now realize it was all worth it anyway.
So I really recommend going out and trying something new that you've always wanted. You can just start small. Don't feel bad when you huddle away and relax to some games. It isn't wrong to enjoy that. But you could be fulfilling so much more of all the other things you've ever wanted. Most people regret the things they don't do over the things they shouldn't have done. I hope this at least helps a little. Sorry for it being so long 😅 I just really felt to share this for some reason.
Hey man been watching you since pre 1000 subs. I am dealing with motivation issues at the moment. I have a lot good in life but know I can do better things but never want to do it. What advice do you have with this
My advice to you is, don’t rely on motivation for anything. Life isn’t about motivation, it’s abut discipline, it’s about doing things even when you don’t feel like it, which is about 80% of the time.
What I find weird is that I looked like 14-15 when I was 18 and now I'm 20 and girls start smiling at me at age ~17-19 ...
I'm not that tall, just 5'6 so looking not your age plus not having the height guarantees a delay in relationships...
saying something like "The worse thing they can do is say no" is just wrong, i'm not going to explain why but I am positive some of you would agree with me on this.
Correct, you can get arrested for just saying "hi" to a girl now. (unless you're super attractive, of course)
@@dusanstojsin4938 lmao, but i do have an actual reason for saying this
Hey niko!
A few months ago my best friend and I had a falling out, we haven't talked since and likely never will. The friendship ended because I became a toxic friend without realizing it and started depending emotionally on this person way too much. I was wondering how you would deal with feelings of guilt and regret and trying to accept being completely in the wrong in a relationship.
hey niko, i found this channel recently and been enjoying the content.
im 18 right now and i feel as if im running away from something only to lead me into something new. im finishing up high school and im honestly scared for what the future has in store for me but i want to feel confident about it. what is something that you do that keeps your confidence on a high?
Just came home from a really great workout, thanks for this video bro, made my day even better!
I have the same problem so im trying to talk to people more.
TIL I'm older than Mr. niko. Phuck. Where my life gone, when all content creators I follow are younger than me.
Anyway, thanks for the videos, sir, they are quite thought provoking.
Hey there niko! Love your content. I started RUclips in late 2020 and in 2024, I haven’t been growing all that much, I do enjoy the process and started uploading more consistently but I’m not getting to where I want to be with RUclips. Basically another income stream and since I enjoyed it, I will try and continue making content on RUclips.
i hate it in my country, in our culture there's no dating only marriage and the parents have to pick your partner for you, it just sucks im so jealous of you 1st world countries
I dunno if it helps but, when you get married, try to get along well with your partner alright? I think it's better to live with someone you at least tolerate
@@RenatoRevisadas yeah ik, all i can do is hope she's my type
india?
@@joel-jp2zg No, india is like that too? i thought they were way smarter
@@i_h8_losers i mean they are shifting towards more into dating and getting to know each other before marriage but still there are some people here like you mentioned
Hey Niko, I noticed you said that you believe it's just lights out when we die. May i ask your history with Christianity? It's changed my life. So I encourage you, can you give Christianity a try for me. And I understand your doubts, I may be young but I was unsure about Christianity for a time in my life. So, could you give it a try for me? And don't be afraid to ask questions. Ask those questions, its worth it. I love your content btw, it's very insightful. Thanks for reading, hope you have a good day!
Question time!
I've always been a very curious person. I've always found it interesting to delve into a plethora of topics which are foreign to me. However nice that might sound, I actually feel that it is stopping me from truly investing myself into one of them and finding "my thing". Have you been in that situation before and if yes how do you recommend getting out of it and settling down for a "home-base" topic/activity. Keep up the great work!
Mabey learning is "your thing"? What kinds of topics do you like researching?
niko im a failing freshman in highschool and i dont know if i want to go to college or not. a lot of adults have told me that i should go to college and get a degree so i can have a comfortable life. I find it difficult to accept this as i have always dreamed of being a lot more wealthier and I currently want to make a living from stocks. I don't know if im saying this just because im really lazy or i actually want to be more successful in life. What should i do?
hey niko, I am 16 getting over a breakup recently. Anymore things you can talk about in a different video? Like your journey of moving on and learning how to live life as someone outside of a relationship again? Also what your thoughts about being "just friends" with your ex again is.
If you got dumped, being just friends with your ex is hard, but if you can imagine her and see her with another guy doing everything you wanted to do with her and not feel pain then you probably can be friends. still I do not recommend - talking from experience
@@reflex3569appreciate the insight good sir.
Hi nico as a 18 year old going to 19 i been thinking since im mainly a car guy i wasnt sure what i wanted to do im overall a indecisive person when it comes to simple things but when it came to what i wanted to purse it was either i wanted to work at Toyota industries or become a race car driver and have that feeling of focus and driving style i would love to have some advice on what i should do because at least im aware that both sides has its down sides and ups especially when it comes to romance (ps i had a gf once but dumped her)
Shadow people with those jobs. The only way you'll know you like it is if you see it or try it in person. Find a way to get some kind of insight or experience before dedicating to it.
@@christiannoriega428 thanks
want to speak about falling in love with life?
Ask your bro out its 2024 trust
Hey Niko, I'm currently 15 and have a girlfriend, our relationship is going semi-okay but I'm always screwing things up. Idk what causes me to say the things I say but it's starting to get in the way of everything. I'm scared of breaking up with her. I truly love her at the bottom of my heart but Idk how to deal with myself. Do you have any advice for me?
Hey nico, I'm currently 16 about to turn 17 i have been going through a whole lot of medical problems which has put a lot on my mind. ive forgotten almost everything i have learned in school as of now im probably at a grade 5 level of academic learning. i know i need to do school but i lose all motivation as soon as i try and sit down to do it. do you have any advice? im home schooled btw
hey Niko, im 14 and im falling behind a lot in school im from Australia and already 30 days behind i find it so hard to find the confidence to go to school and talk to people i hate the learning and people and im just lost could you give me some advice?
You were born into a crumbling country that is busy producing a generation of psychological casualties. I could say let everyone know and tell it straight, take up home school and lift weights or go to tafe where the environment is usually a lot calmer, but ultimately there are no less than fifty thousand Australians in your position. Either way take it as easy as possible and don't worry about the expectations and bullshit. Not your fault at 14, it's their problem.
love this new format niko :)
10:31 no way niko got destroyed.
Weekly slap of reality,love this.
Hey Niko I’m trying to figure out what to do. I recently graduated from high school and I’m currrently talking to a girl I could see myself with long term. The feeling seems mutual and our colleges will only be 30 minutes away but I’m having a hard time coming to a conclusion on whether or not to pursue this. Any words would help a lot thanks.
Im 16 and i clicked this video out of sheer boredom and im suprised that not everybody knows this, i mean its just logic
"yo i can't find girlfriend" guy here are some videos and titles for you from the same guy that you are typing to:
nobody cares. thumbnail stop complaining
dating won't solve your problems thumbnail don't get girlfreind
find a real person to help you instead of this crap
The video that I needed. Keep the great videos Niko!
let bro cook fr
off topic but do u use a controller in mc java cuz head movement seems controller like
Ive just accepted im gonna die alone it is what it is for me but I hope yall find the love you deserve
Advice seems Aight but I wouldn’t fish for compliments maybe just talk about things of interest and how are ya or small talk
i just wait for the oppertunity to come for me instead of trying to actively find out, im a patient creature.
or i guess i could just be gay, its that simple.
why do u say goodnight and good luck, i just finished dying light recently so im js now noticing u say that
love your videos niko
Yo Niko, I hate highschool. Im always made fun of for NOT having a girlfriend. It destroyed my self esteem.
The thing is, mostly all the girls in my Year Group are entitled brats. And when i do find a nice girl, without my knowledge, someone already asked her out. Its like boom, they're here, and then boom, they're taken. within the blink of an eye.
There is this one really nice girl, we know each other quite well, we are close friends, i could see something happening, BUT MY FRIEND HAD TO HAVE ALREADY ASKED HER OUT THE C*NT. Hes a great person, but i hold a grudge against him because of that.
They've been dating for over a year now, they seem all lovey dubby and its pissing me off.
Its not f*cking fair, and i hate my school life because im lonely and picked on for being lonely.
I need advice.
Dude im right there with you man, I left my school and do everything online now and my shit is so fucked I get so upset when I hear about people going to dances and shit and having fun with their people and im here all lonely and shit.
im 18 and i look like a 16 year old i wear eyesight glasses and i have kind of beaver teeth gap issue where my teeth are bad but not rotten bad i get called ugly but im a nice honest kind person good at heart im close to 6 ft at age 18 around 5,8
8:21 --- There is actually 8 billion people now!
Woahhh, what terrible advice at the end. This is what I heard:
C: "Hey, I found this hobby that brings me joy but I struggle to fit it into my schedule. Advice?"
N: "Just give up, it sucks. Yes, I'm continuing to do it voluntarily but it brings me so little joy that I just can't seem to stop."
You can engage in a hobby that is highly demanding of your time and stay sane. I learned French (and, to a much less fluent extent, Spanish and Japanese) by immersing myself in the language and studying intensively for years. To say it was hard would be a comical understatement, and sometimes I questioned if I should keep going. Glad I never quit now that I've had the experiences I've had, and met so many great French folk. I would NEVER tell an aspiring language-learner "nahh, just don't. You'll spend so many hours bent over conjugation tables full of nearly identical verbs, or explanations for all of the fourteen cases and all of their noun declensions, or strange characters from foreign writing systems, and you won't ever speak exactly like a native anyway. You'll also have to spend several hours each day listening to things you only partially understand at best over a long period of time, and you'll need to make several adjustments to some of your habits in daily life to really achieve fluency. Just a waste of time. Oh, me? Yeah I learned like 3 languages and continue to do it. What hypocrite?"
I could instead tell them all of the great things to be had. I perceive language in a completely new way, for one. I have so much data on other languages stored in my head that I can break down and understand sentences even of the highest lexical and syntactical complexity in my native language. I understand with utter ease the vast majority of fancy, academic-sounding English words that I wouldn't otherwise understand had I not learned French. Do you see what I mean? Yeah, it was a "waste of time." But no, actually, it really wasn't.
I get it-you want to be realistic. But you can be realistic while also giving non-soul-crushing advice. Well, you didn't really give any advice to that guy since you didn't really answer his question at all. Whatever, I hope his channel explodes just to humble you.
Okay for the record I love content creation, otherwise I wouldn't be doing it. Also I hope this person succeeds in their content creating endeavors.
As for giving "non-soul-crushing" adivce, I'm not in the business of bullshiting people. The world has enough people telling them and showing them the good parts of content creation. In fact you see it daily with the status creators have, the money and influence they have over people. I don't need to be the 1123123th person telling anyone about that.
What we need is to show people the other side of it, the mountain that lies behind every creator that "made it." That's why when people ask me about content creation in any capacity, (such as the one in this video) I give them very harsh answers, because that's what they need. It's what they need to test and build their mental strength in the matter and to really question if this is what they want to spend so much time of their life on. You can disagree with my method and that's fine, but I stand by what I said.
@@nikoyaps All good! Yeah, I sometimes leave comments like this disagreeing with videos I watch on YT, and I'm glad you didn't construe it as hate or anything. And I didn't expect to change your mind, either lol but I think I understand at least where you're coming from a little better now, though I still wouldn't go about it that way personally.
@@Isaiah_Rude0925 Fair fair, I appreciate the feedback regardless!
Can you help me pls, I always get rejected and ignored just because of my ethnicity
Love is everywhere but not with you
Love your videos bro
I'm 5'8 420 inches tall and I have a beautiful wife I met at sixteen who I's 5'3 some girls just want you to be taller than them not super tall
having a relationship is overrated. idk why people are so obsessed with having someone
And girls only like guys for their looks
It is in our biology to wants to have someone near us
@@Phoenix_is_god yeah I know, humans are social creatures, but I seem to be different haha
ai girfriends are a thing...
"choose men instead"
Thanks dude!
Thx Niko
Niko there are 8 billiob people on earth not 7
Bro really thinks he's LowkeyMartin 😂😂
Edit: After further analysis, I see that you've seen and taken an opportunity. While I do not appreciate the complete ripoff, I respect the hustle, and we all have to escape the rat race somehow. Keep on the youtube grind
yeah do me a favor go check when I posted my first video and then check when he posted his, you'll find quite the opposite is true
Very Interesting woohoo ❤
yo!
Jus be gay
pin me or else
you are gay
in my opinion, after death we go to hell/purgatory/heaven and we are judged by God but thats my point of view
I am currently 17 (turning 18 in a month) and I feel that my youth is taken away from me. I wasn't able to enjoy my childhood and high school days because of the hundreds of responsibilities placed on me. My dad left me in a very young age and I have to work a lot to support my family and ourselves.
Currently struggling to find genuine happiness outside of helping others. It feels like I missed out on so much in my early days that I will never get to experience again. I don't know what to do but to keep grinding working hard and trying my best to actively become better everyday. Life for me is just struggles and constant hardships and I am hoping to find true happiness one day. Just asking for advice on what I can actually do (would mean a lot) 🙏
if i forget happy bday already bro
happpppppy earllllllly birthday
Skill issue+womp womp+Ratio+L+idc ( this is a joke )
@@slenshye9876 cant find happiness at age 18 im not that good looking from serbia age 18 kind honest good nice person in general an amazing person to be friends with or more
brutal, I feel like I missed out on my youth too
yo, i just finished high school and even took an extra year, im 19.5 years old and never had a girlfriend and i feel like ive failed at life and missed out on everything good about highschool. did i really fail as hard as i think i did? it seems like everyone is in relationships but me, and i can't be happy with myself because of this.
I'm 17 and never had a girlfriend, too. I know how you feel, because usually the folks with my age already kiss someone and stuffs like these. But that's something that I have zero experience in my life. Actually, I never had a friendship with a girl. I guess we need just ignore it and try become a better person, but don't feel sad bro!
(Sorry for any mistakes, I've been learning English but I'm not good at it yet.)
That doesn’t mean you failed at life, it just means you haven’t found someone for you yet
I quit my gf almost 2 months ago now and it was the first relationship I’ve ever had but I can tell you that you shouldn’t really care about that, it’s better to wait for the right person than to be unhappy with someone who isn’t for you
So yeah dw and good luck man 👍
I'm 19 too and get what ya mean, I ain't in a relationship either but there's more to life than relationships, it's just the media is pushing it onto people making us think it's as important and as fun as they say, ya not missin out on anything, you'll find it more enjoyable if ya let it happen naturally instead of rushing the process
Fellas am I cooked? I have a crush on this girl hard, I hungout with her and she left me on sent for weeks and I saw her with some other dude. I may never find someone like her and am fucking lost.
@@rigbonet4272 Bro, you'll get over it. Trust me. I know the initial pain is tough, and you probably hate yourself to an extent, because "Why did she pick him and not you?" Trust me, it ain't worth it. Don't compare yourself to others and don't dwell too much on the fact that she couldn't be bothered to reply to a simple message.
Just remember that overtime you'll change and one day you'll forget about her and be so drastically different that you'll think "Hey, I just remembered that one girl, what was her name? Why did I even have a crush on that thing, like dear god, was I a stupid kid." or something similar.
I know you wanted her, but you can't have her. And that's okayx not your loss, really, it just makes you stronger. Focus on working on yourself for now, so that you may one day have another one, better, and the one that was meant for you. Like truly meant for you, rather than just someone who you wanted but they didn't appreciate you.
I'm saying this as an adult. Trust me, you're not cooked. Just take a deep breath, and go one day at a time. Everything's gonna be alright.
is it weird to say slay extremely excessively ? 🤯
edit: wow you cannot stop speaking facts niko woaah, why are u literally able to speak exactly to how i feel on everything
yes
yes
no, slay queen
@@FreezeMango-BlazeLychee SLAAAY GIRLLLL
it is a rule of life, that when you stop looking for something, it appears soon after, this applies for relationships as well
This applies to relationships, but only for women. For men, if we 'stop looking' we will end up alone for life. Please dont tell men this
@@bro918 im a guy and everytime I have stopped looking for a relationship one came around, so I don't know about that
@@Snippyyy Right, congrats on being attractive enough to have women come to you. Most guys dont have that, so they must approach first
@@bro918 I'm below average in looks, wealth, all I got is people seem to find me funny, maybe I'm just lucky, I don't know, but for me it's worked out
This is completely false man.
Don't get a gf, a lot of them are self-centered and only want the best for themselves - some past experience.
I don't want to seem like an Incel but it genuinely seems like in today's society that a majority of women are changing for the worst, I think I'm losing more and more hope the more I see modern woman's perception on men as a whole, makes me not even want to approach a girl at all, and also makes me feel like I'll most likely just remain alone for the rest of my life. I'm 22 years old and have experienced far less than most that are my age, so I don't really know if I should be talking.
as a woman that’s into women: i think overall i’ve noticed people are more self centered in general. like you say that about women but also the friends that i have who date men have struggled with self-centered men too. i think overall our world of hyper-individualism and social media lends itself to encouraging and highlighting people’s narcissistic tendencies. so i think overall it’s just harder for good selfless people to find each other because it’s growing to be so few and far between regardless of gender.
Hi I’m a lesbian who also just got my heart gutted and destroyed by a woman. Here’s some advice:
Both women and men suck. There are a lot of shallow women out there who expect men to pay for everything and treat them like wallets. There are a lot of crappy men out there who expect women to “put out” for them without respecting their wishes. The reason you only hear about the bad women/good men is because (I would assume) a lot of the people you’re close with or look up to are men. They’re telling stories about the bad women them and their friends have dated as well as the good things they’ve done. This is true of most women as well. Most of the people we are close to/respect are women and therefore we hear a lot about the good women/bad men. We’re not hearing each other’s stories. Because of this, we understand our perspectives and when someone of the opposite gender (speaking strictly in binaries) mentions something bad, we say “well have you considered this?” If you want proof, this actually happened to me as I was watching the above video. I disagreed with something Niko said and thought “well, have you considered the social implications of xyz?”
Anyways tldr: dating sucks. Dating men and women brings different struggles. I won’t say which is easier because I haven’t experienced both, but I will wish you luck my friend.
trauma must be treated
@@eatthis8924 I think an important distinction to make is that the way "women act nowadays" is 99% coming from red-pill rage-bait videos, and really only exists online or for a very privileged type of woman. If you just practice having normal conversations with women you will quickly realize that they don't all act the way alpha male podcasters make you think they do.
Hey, i'm a 17 year old homeschooler and i feel like i have failed at life as a teen.
I'm extremely far back in school,
I've never been to a party or get together,
And I've never had a girlfriend let alone someone I can call a friend in my entire life.
The only way of social interaction i get is going to church and practicing taekwondo.
My dream job is to become a 3D animator and i'm trying my best with animation on RUclips at the moment
but i know thats just a dream because I'll never have the skill to achieve what other animators can.
I'm trying to learn a trade like welding at the moment because i know i won't be able to get into college with my current state of education but i don't know if I'm making the right decisions with trying to learn a trade just because it pays a lot.
Thanks for reading this. love your videos and have a great day.
Im not Niko but here's my advice dude
Firstly, nothing is really a failure if you can learn something from it, you can't change the past but you can build the future.
Secondly, you don't need school to be a 3D animater on youtube, you could take courses or learn online.
Next, if you wanna get invited to parties or get togethers then you gotta make friends but party's are overhyped tbh.
Next, if you want more "social interactions" and chances to make friends then try to join more clubs and make an effort to talk to everyone you see even just saying "hi" to people as you pass them on the street, practice makes better.
Next, being a 3D animater is only "just a dream" if you decide that it is, your probably comparing yourself to people with alot more experience than you, you will get alot better if you keep at it.
And finally, I don't think you should do welding just because of the pay, but of course you gotta eat so you could do welding part time while you work on achieving your real goals.
Hope it helps
Let me know if you have any questions or if my advice sucks
@@NETHER_NINJA thanks I’m glad someone is finally listening to my question
@@BLOCK_MASTER Np, let me know if you have any questions
You could try making friends at church and see if they want to hang out. My situation was pretty similar to yours. I decided that I was tired of it and just started going up to a church friend group and talking with them. It felt weird and I thought I looked like a needy person or something but I just needed to learn and know that I could do it. After that I stopped talking to them cause they aren't the kind of people I'd like to hang out with. But now I know what I'm capable of.
So ultimately it's really not that hard in a physical sense. It's other things in your mind that make it hard. If you can get yourself to actually experience it you'll get it. Just learn to be OK with being looked at negatively from others. If you can handle that you're set. But if you can't yet just do your best until you can.
I really do recommend slowly building a social life. It will boost the rest of your life as well. Doesn't have to be the romanticized version in your head to be good though 😉
Could've used this 4 days ago
imagine going to the gym + box + football because of woman
considering how bad western women have become, it's quite a waste of time pursuing them (unless you want to end up having your stuff taken and having to pay alimony later on).
@@SvengelskaBlondie the search for a partner is the highest stimulus for the brain, stronger than the search for food, which is why people continue to be driven by this reason
@@SvengelskaBlondie I wish my dad told me, "Let me tell you what puberty is. An influx of millions of hormones which you have absolutely no control over force you to be extremely attracted to the opposite gender to the point where you slave away and grind your life out literally because of the prospect of attracting them. They can cut your heart to bits, scrap your self esteem, trash you, over and over, yet you are still forced to be attracted to them. There is nothing you can do to stop it for decades until slowly the desire fizzles out. You are to suffer immensely for this, and waste your youth trying to impress them, because your brain was wired this way."
What you chase, will go away.
Or turn around and mess you up 🤣
Love the new thumbnail style!