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Thailand is a wonderful country but only in moderation. You have a lot of temptation especially for single men. The bars, the parties, ladies, vacation mode. I had my share of that in my 20's. I don't judge people for it because I did it as well. But now in my 40's and married I goto Thailand to relax, the food and most people are very friendly. You have seen the differences Ben. As I have said numerous times. Thailand is for vacation and Malaysia is for living. Some will disagree and that is okay based on what one wants. I am not Muslim. I am Taoist and have never been discriminated against in Malaysia. I adhere to the social norms and I live and let live. Every country has pros and cons. It's up to you to decide what you can accept.
Hey fellow malaysian! 👋 Nicely put. We should try our best to continue to live alongside one another without too much of antagonism, provocations and off-placed judgments. May we continuosly live harmoniously as wonderful malaysians 👍 Anyhow, I just wanna ask, for knowledge purpose direct from the horse's mouth, does taoism have the concept of afterlife like muslims and christians do? From my limited understanding you probably don't, instead you believe in reincarnation, and idk if it was just fictions in movies etc but such reincarnations can take the forms of other beings too as in not necessarily one gets reincarnated as a human? I'm sorry if I have misunderstood or have been given the wrong idea all this while but tbh mostly I got this from keenly watching kungfu movies in the past 😂 And to others reading my question I want to stress again this is purely for learning intention, and never ever either to ridicule or pass judgment, or for imposing my own views onto others
@@jonmath4182 In short some Taoists believe one will be reborn into another life form based on the previous life. Some believe it will be human form and some believe that it could be another form of life like an animal or even a plant or tree. So life is eternal where the afterlife is another phase of life. There are different sects of what is Daoism or religious Daoism. Not all believe in the same. Some believe in reincarnation and others don't. We try to live a simple life, treat people kindly and stay within the middle line not swaying to either one extreme or the other. To be one with nature or the way. Death is seen as another phase of life instead of the end. So trying to achieve spiritual immortality through internal and external alchemy. In Buddhism they call it enlightenment. I could go on but I hope this helps a little. I am a convert so I could be wrong on some things and some will disagree on some points but this is my basic understanding. I just try to keep learning and enjoying. 🙂
Thailand is not just meant for party, Thailand is much more than that you people don't know anything about these countries, and y'all have foot on ground and not experiencing shit🤔.
@@90taetaeya Malaysia is not THAT bad; it's still currently ranked higher in Freedom Index than China (by far), Thailand, Singapore, Morocco, Maldives, Turkey, Bosnia, etc
Hi Ben. You found what the best for yourself. And its time for you to learn deeper abt Malaysia and Malaysian. In term of religion, yes, Malaysia domination by Muslim but Malaysian are respected towards others religion and races. Not only because of religion (especially Muslim), make less destruction in Malaysia but because of respectful behaviour and politeness of Malaysian. Every races in Malaysia teaching self values. This make Malaysia so valuable.
Yes, Islam means peace as well as submission to God. So for Muslims, following its rules will surely lead to peace because God knows His creation best.
keep it hidden. for our child also. its ok for other to come and they need to find it. so thank u for come and we malaysia always keep to make all safe and remind our friend with malay, chinese, indian and all other to keep our country safe and harmony.
I'm Thai, and I think you are more suited to Malaysia than Thailand, ever since I watched the first videos of you visiting Malaysia. It might be because of the peaceful and beautiful places combined with the artistic atmosphere. I have been to Malaysia about 2-3 times. It is quite nice.
Okay, Ben. Since you asked, Islam is a religion that essentially protects life. It protects your health, your mind, your spirit, your family (wife, kids, parents etc.). It also protects your money and society. Whatever that God has decreed, it is always for the good of the people. Since Earth is God's creation and we live on it, we need to thank God and show our appreciation for Him in the form of prayers, remembrance of Him and other forms of worship. We are also supposed to donate a certain part of our money to charity in the form of Zakat and donations to help the poor, sick and unprivileged. Shariah is basically Islamic principles in the form of law. We have Shariah ingrained in our minds so we don't do anything that goes against what God has deemed evil like drinking alcohol, doing drugs, oppressing people, stealing their property and murder. This is why you don't see practising Muslims committing all these acts of evil, since we know that we will be accountable for all our actions in front of God. There are other things to write about, but you can also do your own research on them. I'm sure others will also be happy to answer your questions on Islam.
Exactly Ben. Many years ago Malaysia felt like home, and I felt happy and secure there. Thailand was much more progressive and fun, but you have to be pretty well centered and go there for the right reasons. A friend from South Africa who had lived and worked all around the world and who spent years in Thailand said "Old Siam is a fool's paradise that destroys fools.
Yes it’s true. There’s a certain comfort to Malaysia that makes it very livable, and nice to come back to. After leaving and coming back several times I’ve learned to appreciate the place even more.
KL is great! get a nice condo with gym and infinity pool, not far from the centre, great food, great shopping, you can work without distractions, and getting tempted by substances, its less chaotic than many SE asian cities. Quality for less money, than we pay in the west.
Just found your channel not long ago as I am contemplating on the two cities KL/BKK. I spent time in them earlier in the year and I definitely relate to this video. I don't drink much at all these days (in my 30s living in Oz), but when I was in BKK it was so easy to have nights out. Its also one of the easiest/best ways to meet people too. I know there are other activities that you can do to meet people, gym etc, but I found it was hard to shake the holiday mode off. I didn't spend as much time in KL but I did find it kind of boring.. albeit I think I relate to you saying it would be a better place if you want to get shit done. Im due to head back to SE Asia in a month and I think I'll need to consider options again. Thanks again, look forward to seeing your channel grow
Ben, loving your vlogs, its getting better n better, those cutscenes with the scenery and music is really nice, it gives us viewers a moment to absorb what u say and enjoy the view. Good stuff Ben, keep it up.
Thank you for your astute observations Ben, trust your heart and gut : ) The greatest triumph is to resist against one's primal desires -and only then can you experience freedom to truly live life's purpose. Thanks for reminding us why we are so blessed to call this land our home..
Absolutely a wonderful video. It's really good to know from your perspective that Malaysia is a better for you in comparison with living in Thailand when it comes to a decision to stay and live on a long term basis. Too much distractions and too much temptations could only lead you to astray, and losing focus in life. It's good place to stay in KL, Malaysia, that can contribute a conducive environment to be productive all year long. The affordable cost of living could also be a predominant role and a contributory factor when it comes to making a decision.
Start planning to find the most affordable, suitable good place to stay on a medium term basis, ie, like for 90 days each time you come back to KL. There are many places around KL that could provide the right solution, to live and stay, and commute to the city centre, whenever you need to run errands and roam around the city centre.
I'm been Thailand so many times... But I choice Malaysia for living and good health care too and this is so important the best city and more happiness and more beautiful culture and many race too and of course the beauty of kind people there and easy to live and many beautiful places to visit and food is ausome and people are sweet and friendly to everyone...and I'm living for 20 years now in Malaysia KL and just dream for us and my children are so happy and I'm of course...so you take good choice if you want choice Malaysia to live Ben, better good place to live ..here is Safe every where you go and easy to go visit green parc and beautiful river parc Forrest parc and even for Young kids... hospital is the best ..and most of city is so clean everywhere and more supermarket and more pretty Mall... Malaysia is so modern country and I'm thankful live here ...and is cheaper too ..got more choice here and ..not sure others country like Malaysia ...I have many people are from other countries who live here ...they are all happy and easy to talk ...most are Malaysia people speak English... and near go to go other city visit other beautiful city too call Kuching Sarawak Borneo...there beautiful place and for hiking or for rain forest more delicious food and people speak English too ...and go to waterfront or eat laksa or Kolo mee ...and is near from KL to Kuching..by plane ....im often go there for our weekend and stay 4 or a week.. always beautiful and enjoy food and people are friendly...so thanks 🙏 you Ben ..and keep going...make sure you make good choice .. continue make good contant about malaysia ....we so proud of you...i keep going and i like also other you tubeer call Solo and i saw both ❤️ of you in video...is Ausome 💞...is will be great 👍 if you guys make good choice and good 👍 video too ..I like it and always enjoy whaching your video both Solo travail and you of course Ben .. thank you sharing good experience with us ..and we are all appreciated 👍 it so much... Malaysia is the best place..so good luck and I love Malaysia too ❤
Great video, Ben. Thank you for your insightful points. As a Malaysian, my bias might be evident, but I believe Malaysia offers a compelling case for long-term living. Each person’s priorities and circumstances will shape their decision, and both Malaysia and Thailand have their unique charms. Ultimately, it's vital to ensure that your choice is well-considered and aligns with your personal needs and aspirations. Follow your heart and choose what truly feels right for you.
@@byteme9718 Thank you for sharing your perspective. Ben's nomadic lifestyle means he explores various places rather than settling in one spot for long. It's important to appreciate the diverse ways people choose to live their lives. Let's continue to support each other in making informed and thoughtful choices 🙌🌿🌷
Hey Ben, I've been following you on YT for months, from the earlier time you first arrived in KL, went to Bangkok and now come back to Malaysia. I wish you welcome back home. I wish you have a good health; mentally and physically well. Make friends with locals, be it Malay, Indian, Chinese, Iban, Kadazan, all.. you know that Malaysian are approachable. Coz being alone is sometimes sickening. Again, have a great days ahead. Take good care Ben! your viewers love you ❤❤
At 20:00 Ben, as you ask, I'd suggest you take a serious look into the running to distraction thought. Weed, women, party life, drinking are all huge distractions. A good friend and former employer who wrote 14 books on "Surviving the Comfort Zone" (Fatal distractions), and spent over 60 years helping people escape the escape into the comfort zone, summed up what you may be experiencing by saying: "After delving deep enough into distraction, many come to the realization of what they are distracting themselves from (running from pain rather than towards it). Other's who can't face the pain (typically trauma and false guilt), and who continue to delve deeper and deeper into distraction until it becomes an addiction, often end up in an endless loop of distraction, for the alcoholic it becomes drinking to forget the guilt of drinking, to forget the guilt of drinking..." Now that in America the distraction has become Fentanyl, a short loop to the end for many I see the fatal loop of distraction more clearly than ever, and now that you point it out Ben, perhaps Malaysia, a place with lessor fatal distractions is the place to escape the distraction loop, heal and become a real self free from distraction away from pain and guilt. That's what Malaysia and Japan were for me, and which I am very grateful for, and why both places hold a special place in my heart. Thanks Ben for bringing things to light, and here's to a life free of negative distractions! BTW, I just found the intro to on of my late friend's books about the 'Comfort Zone' that may be of interest to those considering "Malaysia or Thailand?" 'Surviving the Comfort Zone' - Forward: "Once you escape into the "zone," you may become lost there forever. What is the "zone"? It is a state of mind, body, and soul that we all run to when we find ourselves unable to deal properly with the pressures of the world. The doorway into the "zone" is a false need for comfort: when fulfilled, it causes more hunger. In moments of confusion, anger, and fear, everyone experiences this primal need to "escape." The comfort we seek seems like an oasis in the desert, the answer to our anguish. But by escaping into a comfort zone, we actually make ourselves vulnerable to all kinds of misery, suffering, and addiction. Almost everyone is addicted to something. To the alcoholic its liquor; to the drug addict its some mind-altering substance; to the 'people-pleaser' it may simply be a kind word or a pat on the back. Even such simple acts as knitting, stamp collecting, or goal-forming can serve essentially the same purpose as a drink to the alcoholic. The first step in breaking free lies in becoming aware of how our "escape routes" have transformed into prison chains which dominate our lives. Only then will we be in a position to choose between our old enslavements and a new opportunity for freedom."
Thanks for the comment, this is good stuff. I do think there is some value in those distractions, pleasures, etc. but it can also be a problem. I’ve always been seeking the right balance with everything. I think removing all of those things from life completely is a bit much, but also the only option for some. It does feel like I’ve struck a nice balance for myself by spending 90% of my time in Malaysia, and allowing myself the other 10% to go enjoy the distractions. Even if it becomes a loop of leaving Malaysia to have fun once a month, I believe this may work quite well for me! It’s also much easier for me to say all of this given that I don’t have much money. In the past when I’ve had large amount of money it definitely requires far more restraint. Being allergic to alcohol is also a bit of a blessing.
Everything is a distraction. Even trying to remove distractions is a distraction. The key is to first find distractions that are not harmful and then work to developing distractions that are beneficial.
It's risky to talk about Islam in the open (here in the comments), chances it will get heated 😁. Basically there's Islam and there's Muslim(the people) which is a mixed bag, like anything else. I have travelled extensively in SEAsia via motorcycle road trips, from villages to big cities, from Myanmar to Laos. One thing is prevalent, poverty and alcoholism... something you don't find very much in Muslim areas in Malaysia (I'm not saying there's aren't other problems here), but it's one less problem.
There's sense of magic here. I have never been to that many countries, maybe 5 or so but many Malaysian when they were abroad even if there are hiccups here and there, they still have sense of longing for something I don't know what. Therefore I am grateful for being here for my entire life.
Hi Ben, glad to see you again in Malaysia.. Something extra about Malaysia is the diversity.. Malaysia has a rich culture and heritages. It's a melting pot of eastern and western food, cuisines and cultures. Islam means peace, it's the way of life so that's why Malaysia has to be a decent, peaceful and a harmony place for all multiracial people to settle down here(even though Islam is an official religion the non Muslims have freedom of choice how to live with a decent way.. There's no compulsion in Islam).. There are a few differences with Islamic Laws in Malaysia compared to some other countries' Islamic Laws - especially in the middle east..you will notice them if you stay longer to see and learn about it.. Malaysia is truly Asia 🇲🇾👍
@@byteme9718yes but this goes for anywhere with diversity. For the most part it’s going to be separated by neighborhood. NYC is extremely diverse, but each neighborhood is usually still specific to a nationality and/or race.
@@benfisherminlive separately but go to school together and work together. In most workplace all races are there as colleagues. Society still functioning well
@@globalisitenope... We hire foreign workers from Indonesia or Bangladesh and they do really good job. Malaysians hate the sun, that's why we got ton of malls lol.
@@globalisitemost company that provide contract jobs (ie grass cutter, janitor, house helper) they hire foreign workers because of lower salary, more strict contract condition and also for safety purpose (for the company). The workers are bounded by a contract so they can't just run away. This is business, man.
Like I mentioned before in your previous vlog. Kuala Lumpur Malaysia is organised chaos, whereas our neighbours up north are just plain chaotic!Lol😅😂✌️
Chaotic, because it's common when a country is highly populated, congested & polluted with even more vehicles. It would be unsmart , especially Westerners (coming from a developed country) chosen to go to these places for retirement - join the chaos & kinda downgraded their quality of life. They should go for quality & affordable, yet luxurious living. And, Malaysia could offer that. 😎
Ya Bro...mereka adalah buruh dari luar Malaysia...ramai pekerja luar berkerja d sini...mereka dari Indonesia,Pakistan,Bangladesh,Vietnam,Kemboja,Nepal,India,Thailand,Filipina n etc,Malaysia sentiasa mengalir alukan semua ...kami gembira menerima semua dan berterima kasih pada Tuhan@Allah kerana kemajmukan dan rezeki yang boleh d kongsi bersama semua❤🤝😃👍✌️❤️🤲🙏
Hi, Ben. Just a quick note. You have been to a mosque in JayaPutra. You can walk into any mosque anywhere in the world, and they will welcome you. Ask for a copy of the Quran with an English translation. This is a simple and easy read, but the message is so powerful, that Islam today is growing exponentially. It is growing in Western Countries for exactly the reason you stated, too much alcohol, drugs, debauchery. The result is depression, suicide.
Well you’ll only see that stuff in Thailand if you choose to stay in a red light district, otherwise you’ll never once see a bar girl or anything like this. I do agree the food in Malaysia is incredible and I feel very welcomed
Yeah Islam is a huge part of it thats why some Chinese and Indian in Malaysia thinking about migrating but refusing for this particular reason, fornification in other parts of the world is rampant in Malaysia you can raise your children healtier, safer and out of wokeness of the outside world. Muslim and the Malay also accomondating people. It part of culture here for centuries, because of geographical situation, warmness people and humbleness of the Malays people. That how you see how Malaysia today.
Ben, maybe you could talk about ways to remain in Malaysia as dong a visa run frequently always runs the risk of being rejected. Of course, there is the MM2H immigration scheme but you need some deposit and also you must buy property within 12 months. Sarawak and Sabah have launched their own MM2H scheme but still need some deposit, I believe Sarawak no need to buy property. Digital Nomad I believe you need to be employed by someone outside Malaysia. But it would be good to learn about any other options for long term residence.
I think the desire to keep moving around stems from either having perpetual curiosity for the "new" or you're still searching for the right place to be your base for the long term (while still doing occasional travel)....because I think that's an inherent thing we do, find a place to be our home. Where that place is ultimately depends on where you are in life and what your priorities are. If you're a single man (or woman) who is just dating, then mixing in a social setting in places like Thailand or the Philippines might be your thing. If you've settled into a healthy long term commitment and getting out to socialize/mingle no longer interests you, then a place like Malaysia could be a more cohesive fit. No place is wrong per se, its finding what's the right fit for you.
@@byteme9718 So the same as in many countries. But hey I was born in Los Angeles. In 20 years going to Malaysia and living most of the year there now it's very safe.
@@byteme9718 It's fine if you have self awareness and an ability to defend yourself like anywhere else. When you grow up in a place that is truly dangerous, places like Malaysia are nothing. It's safer then any major city in America. I lived in Mexico for 5 years and then Colombia when I was working for Merck and that is dangerous.
During early 90's KL also have many night parties, drugs, night girls, prostitutions, etc. But then, it's led to gangsterism, smuggling, human trafficking/slavery, high crime rates, etc. It's took a lot of efforts & years to counter those problems. That's why Malaysia is not for people to enjoy parties, girls, etc compared to Thailand
@@byteme9718 Most people are their biggest enemy/threat. Ones mind and discontent in life will eat you up. That is not a Malay problem, It's a human problem.
Yes, its good for u n other westerners to try visiting the whole south east asia countries n feel which one suits u.Generally asean people are the same even they are very diverse in culture n religion.They are very helpful n kind.Differrnt people has different taste of life😊
Cambodia is worth a look as well. Easiest retirement visa and can also get 10 year visa and citizenship after 5 years with property purchase. Sure Cambodia is a bit more raw and earthier than Thailand or Malaysia but it's still worth a good look.
What I Think: People are different, some have strong desires for one thing, some not. Some know themselves. Some are strangers to themselves. Best not to compare oneself with others. Desire and do that which is right and good. Find inner peace. Enjoy what you do. That's what I think.
Hey brother. It's funny how a RUclips vid can sway massive life decisions one way or the other. This one here may be one of those ones. I've been living in Chiang Mai for 9 months, and was nodding when you spoke about the temptations/distractions. For example, having ThaiFriendly on your phone as a farang can be a nightmare versus your purpose. I'm currently at a cross roads. When my VISA expires in March, either moving to Bangkok (with a friend), or taking the leap to Malaysia (On my own). I'm leaning towards the latter after discovering your channel... Yours sincerely, Fellow excessive partier that no longer wants to do that
Nice I’m glad you can relate. Malaysia could be a good move if you’re making your money online. It’s so easy to travel in and out of Thailand from here so I think the trade off is worth it!
Another good thing About Malaysia is its not crowded . KL is not as crowded as any other capitals loke bangkok manila sg hcm jkt . Another thing most travellers over look is the suburbs of KL is well maintained, even offer cheaper accomodation , just as good as living in KL downtown . You could try Petaling jaya , Subang jaya , shah alam , Puchong , bukit jalil , Cyberjaya .
I've lived years in Bangkok off and on. I've worked in KL, Malaysia and lived there for 2 years, I also lived in Vietnam. It really depends on where you live and what you want. You need to see the smaller cities in Thailand. I'm a fitness guy so in bed by 10 and up at 5:30 am-6 am. I say it this way Thailand is Heaven or Hell, if you are weak it will eat you alive. Honestly that's only Bangkok, Pattaya, and the Islands. Malaysia has a more stable government situation. Vietnam was also great. There really needs to be a SWOT analysis of what you want out of each place. In Thailand Hua Hin was my happy place, slow and easy very little nonsense. In Vietnam it was Nha Trang. I've not found anywhere in Malaysia that is as nice as those two options.
@@byteme9718 nobody cared about malaysian politics as u mentioned all this, even its all falsely intrepreted by you 😅, but you have to remember that malaysia is a constitutional monarchy and no party is above the monarchy.. the king could appoints any party to merge and become the next govt
The opposition & government keep changing in Malaysia previously. But it's still under controlled due to monarchy/constitution based, besides parliament democracy. Majority political parties have experience peoples for governance
I definitely need to visit Hua Hin, I plan to on my next trip to Thailand actually. I’m curious about Nha Trang too in Vietnam. Hanoi looks awesome too.
It really depends on what you want personally Ben. You cannot say much or decide for other people There are a lot of swingers indulging themselves nightlife in Thailand There are a lot of folks who like moderate & peaceful living in Malaysia In the end of the day, if you feel bore, you can chill a bit in Thailand beach for a week or two... This is what life is all about
@@AfiqahKhalid-k3o takpe...same here...cuma tau sikit 😁 Utk kedudukan, tarikh kan selalu ikut mcm kat bwh: 1st - first, so kalau twenty-first dan lain-lain, jadi la 21st (st sempena dua huruf terakhir pkataan first) 2nd - second, so kalau thirty-second, jadi la 32nd (nd sempena dua huruf terakhir nd 3rd - third, cth 23rd 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, 9th, 10th - so 4th sampai 10th (fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth, ninth, tenth), so letak th je la utk nombor 4 sampai 10 dan lain lain lagi. Cth 14th, 24th, 35th, 46th, 80th ....and so on
Ben, Malaysia is english speaking esp in city areas, maybe no so in Siam. we look for english content, not sure in Thailand, they have in Thai. try Philippines Ben, english speaking country too. You might love it there Ben. Boleh lah Ben.
Bro, deep down inside you know you're a wholesome person. A little bit of a wild side every now and then but still an anchored person. Malaysia helps you to balance them.
You know when you read those 400 pages books and conclude that it should have been edited and reduced to 150 pages? That’s how I felt after watching this video. Too much fluff and too little meat.
Malaysia gives europeans / american s90 days Free visa stay . From KL you can make it your base to neighbouring countries by flights ( cheaper than other countries )
@hplagt6880. Exactly, and maybe in their world people just look at each other in passing, and in their world no one says anything to anyone in passing, no 'hello', nothing.
I am a long time Thailand expat. I have to say that I truly enjoyed my drinking mongering years here. I eventually got got tired of it and decided to settle down. I eventually found a suitable older lady and married her. That was 20 years ago and we are still together. Life is good for me.
Im Malaysian. I've read one comment that suggested you going to the Phillipines and try living there. Have you ever considered it? Maybe you can share your opinions.
Philippines is nice but it also has many of the things and traps that Thailand has. Still a nice country to visit. Especially the many islands to explore.
Which park you were recording the video? At first I thought you were in Perdana Botanical Garden which is accessible from Muzium Negara area (opposite to KL Sentral and Nu Sentral). By the middle of the video, I can see that you were not there as there is no cemetery near Perdana Botanical Garden. Anyway, I condone your view in the video.
Hi ben, _selamat kembali_ welcome back to malaysia, and _terima kasih_ for putting up this video and opening up on your own choice and reasoning. Just to touch a bit on your question without the intention of imposing my own belief onto you, after all you did ask anyway, the core reason is Islamic faith stresses on the basic facts that we are merely creations of God, that God is All Powerful, that we are ordered by God Almighty to obey his rules, that this world is nothing but fleeting, that there is permanent life after death (after the day of judgement), and that there is heaven in the afterlife for people obedient to God on this temporary world just as there is hell for disobedient lot. So, firstly, God-fearing muslims would not want to incur the wrath of God by drinking liquor, gambling, etc which have been specifically prohibited by God because doing so would throw a person into hellfire for eternity or for a time that would feel like eternity. Secondly, faithful muslims believe that this world is nothing but a huge test by God, be it in the forms of those distractions or temptations, or even in the forms of successes, victories, possessions, good health etc, and be as good and as fun those distractions appear to be, there will be fun a gazillion time better in heaven. One of the reasons God ordered muslims to do the 5 compulsory daily prayers is to bring back the persons to constantly remember that God is always here, that God is always watching, that this life is temporary, and that God has promised that being good will only be rewarded with much much better, for eternity. Therefore muslims have no need for those distractions now. This concept would then give rise to a different lifestyle than say, a faith that believes in the concept of reincarnation. Probably there are different types of reincarnation concepts out there, idk, but if we consider only a straightforward type of reincarnation ie. a person dies then gets reincarnated as a different person with different traits, then probably it's okay for them to have any sort of fun, probably as long as it doesn't involve murder, rape, robbery, etc, because later they will still get reincarnated and have another chance at everything all over again. Perhaps. I only have limited knowledge about the reincarnation concept, I apologise if I have had it wrong. Peace! ✌️
22:52 - Actually... you could go the National Mosque if you are interested to ask/learn something about Islam here in Malaysia. They have visiting hours and guides that can help you there learn. I think I saw some videos of some other American RUclipsrs visiting the Mosque.
Good choice of words calling it a "*predominately* Muslim country". I made a similar video where I mistakenly called it a "Muslim country" (trying to make the point that it's the predominant religion, compared to Buddhism in Thailand) and got absolutely roasted in the comments by angry Malaysians.
Sorry that you got roasted. It's all semantics 😁. But it is stated in the article 3 constitution of Malaysia that the official religion is islam, and other faiths are free to practice. But some don't like the sound 'malaysia is a Muslim country' as only limited shariah are enforced here.
what i understand from all your talks and thought, you are seeking for peace and calmness in your life. But in the same times, you want to fullfill your lust and temptation on...lets get it straight to the point... Sex, women, booze party-life, weeds... Of course you can find here in Malaysia, bcoz evil is everywhere man...but not like in Bangkok, Pattaya. Its so common over there. If you really want a peaceful life, get away from the place that full of party-life. Go get close to the positive and clean way of life.
Definitely no booze for me, but weed I love yes. And being able to go on dates with women is a huge plus as well. I have a different view on things though because I don’t see weed or sex-positive living as evil. It’s a nice balance to live in Malaysia and visit Thailand!
I'm a digital nomad of 5 years. It's nothing new and there's nothing mysterious about it. My grandparents were the digital nomad of their age, simply put: those with wanderlust then would become missionaries. They were even clever enough to get others to foot the bill. Churches have a special collection to fund a "mission family" here and there. My dad kinda resented his parents, he felt entitled to live in the United States. He lived very stable, only moving 3 times in his later adult life all in the same state. I guess I got the wanderlust genes. I don't feel any need to explain it, so it was funny to me that you mentioned the topic. Prior to just now, it never occured to me I should think it through and justify it in any way. For the portion of us born this way, it would have been HELL ON EARTH to live in the era of lets say 1940 - 2015. To have a good paying quality job with opportunities for advancement, you needed to stay in a office in the same place and work for decades in each role (to not look flaky on your resume). Now that's no longer the case, our liberation day came. For me it was 2013, the first job I took with no office on offer.
Ben, if peace & tranquility in live is what you seek, the only place I can think of is Katmandu, Tibet. Maybe you should do an exploratory trip there because as far as I know, booze, sex & drugs are totally absent but be prepared, you could end up becoming a Monk!!
You should go tp China to try out...City life or Rural life...my God beautiful scenery. Clean and safe. Those China people are Park people...They loved to hang around the parks. The parks are beautiful. Now Visa free, should go and check out .who knows it might fit you. Its affordable to travel around and the food amazing.
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Thailand is a wonderful country but only in moderation. You have a lot of temptation especially for single men. The bars, the parties, ladies, vacation mode. I had my share of that in my 20's. I don't judge people for it because I did it as well. But now in my 40's and married I goto Thailand to relax, the food and most people are very friendly. You have seen the differences Ben. As I have said numerous times. Thailand is for vacation and Malaysia is for living. Some will disagree and that is okay based on what one wants. I am not Muslim. I am Taoist and have never been discriminated against in Malaysia. I adhere to the social norms and I live and let live. Every country has pros and cons. It's up to you to decide what you can accept.
Agreed 🙌
Hey fellow malaysian! 👋 Nicely put. We should try our best to continue to live alongside one another without too much of antagonism, provocations and off-placed judgments. May we continuosly live harmoniously as wonderful malaysians 👍 Anyhow, I just wanna ask, for knowledge purpose direct from the horse's mouth, does taoism have the concept of afterlife like muslims and christians do? From my limited understanding you probably don't, instead you believe in reincarnation, and idk if it was just fictions in movies etc but such reincarnations can take the forms of other beings too as in not necessarily one gets reincarnated as a human? I'm sorry if I have misunderstood or have been given the wrong idea all this while but tbh mostly I got this from keenly watching kungfu movies in the past 😂 And to others reading my question I want to stress again this is purely for learning intention, and never ever either to ridicule or pass judgment, or for imposing my own views onto others
@@jonmath4182 In short some Taoists believe one will be reborn into another life form based on the previous life. Some believe it will be human form and some believe that it could be another form of life like an animal or even a plant or tree. So life is eternal where the afterlife is another phase of life. There are different sects of what is Daoism or religious Daoism. Not all believe in the same. Some believe in reincarnation and others don't. We try to live a simple life, treat people kindly and stay within the middle line not swaying to either one extreme or the other. To be one with nature or the way. Death is seen as another phase of life instead of the end. So trying to achieve spiritual immortality through internal and external alchemy. In Buddhism they call it enlightenment. I could go on but I hope this helps a little. I am a convert so I could be wrong on some things and some will disagree on some points but this is my basic understanding. I just try to keep learning and enjoying. 🙂
Sorry I disagree with you
@@DamienYuen7718
What a joke how can you live without a proper visa? Dtv beats mm2h by a country mile. And if you are retired Thailand is better still
People used to say that you work in Singapore , live in Malaysia and party in Thailand.
Love it 😁😁
Thailand is not just meant for party, Thailand is much more than that you people don't know anything about these countries, and y'all have foot on ground and not experiencing shit🤔.
@@jamalgreen3056don’t kid us, it’s known for recreational drugs and illicit activities for a reason
But malaysia has no freedom n human rights. Will be suffocating to live in.
@@90taetaeya Malaysia is not THAT bad; it's still currently ranked higher in Freedom Index than China (by far), Thailand, Singapore, Morocco, Maldives, Turkey, Bosnia, etc
Hi Ben. You found what the best for yourself. And its time for you to learn deeper abt Malaysia and Malaysian. In term of religion, yes, Malaysia domination by Muslim but Malaysian are respected towards others religion and races. Not only because of religion (especially Muslim), make less destruction in Malaysia but because of respectful behaviour and politeness of Malaysian. Every races in Malaysia teaching self values. This make Malaysia so valuable.
Thanks for the comment 🙌
Yes, Islam means peace as well as submission to God. So for Muslims, following its rules will surely lead to peace because God knows His creation best.
lol
That makes sense
peace my as$
Muslims are at the root of almost every war in the whole world🙄
As we grow older, our priorities in live changes. I understand what you mean. Good to see you back in Malaysia.👍🏻👍🏻
Yep it’s true. Thanks
'life'
Malaysia is a hidden gems.
keep it hidden. for our child also. its ok for other to come and they need to find it. so thank u for come and we malaysia always keep to make all safe and remind our friend with malay, chinese, indian and all other to keep our country safe and harmony.
Very much so!
I'm Thai, and I think you are more suited to Malaysia than Thailand, ever since I watched the first videos of you visiting Malaysia. It might be because of the peaceful and beautiful places combined with the artistic atmosphere. I have been to Malaysia about 2-3 times. It is quite nice.
Okay, Ben. Since you asked, Islam is a religion that essentially protects life. It protects your health, your mind, your spirit, your family (wife, kids, parents etc.). It also protects your money and society. Whatever that God has decreed, it is always for the good of the people. Since Earth is God's creation and we live on it, we need to thank God and show our appreciation for Him in the form of prayers, remembrance of Him and other forms of worship. We are also supposed to donate a certain part of our money to charity in the form of Zakat and donations to help the poor, sick and unprivileged. Shariah is basically Islamic principles in the form of law. We have Shariah ingrained in our minds so we don't do anything that goes against what God has deemed evil like drinking alcohol, doing drugs, oppressing people, stealing their property and murder. This is why you don't see practising Muslims committing all these acts of evil, since we know that we will be accountable for all our actions in front of God. There are other things to write about, but you can also do your own research on them. I'm sure others will also be happy to answer your questions on Islam.
Thanks a lot this is very good info for me!
Fyi Singapore, Indonesia and Malaysia are celebrating Independence Day soon, good for you channel
Awesome thx for the heads up 🙌
Exactly Ben. Many years ago Malaysia felt like home, and I felt happy and secure there. Thailand was much more progressive and fun, but you have to be pretty well centered and go there for the right reasons. A friend from South Africa who had lived and worked all around the world and who spent years in Thailand said "Old Siam is a fool's paradise that destroys fools.
Great words from Mufasa 😁😁😁
Yes it’s true. There’s a certain comfort to
Malaysia that makes it very livable, and nice to come back to. After leaving and coming back several times I’ve learned to appreciate the place even more.
@@benfishermin That's how it was for me, in Japan too, and a little bit in China.
I Feel You... Currently I am working in Singapore.. Happily Settle Down in Malaysia for Good....
Nice, it seems like a lot of Singaporeans even want to move to Malaysia at some point
KL is great! get a nice condo with gym and infinity pool, not far from the centre, great food, great shopping, you can work without distractions, and getting tempted by substances, its less chaotic than many SE asian cities. Quality for less money, than we pay in the west.
100% right, it’s an extremely livable place and fits me well as a base
Spent a weekend in Bangkok - went back to KL it felt like home. The energy is more grounded in KL.
Just found your channel not long ago as I am contemplating on the two cities KL/BKK. I spent time in them earlier in the year and I definitely relate to this video. I don't drink much at all these days (in my 30s living in Oz), but when I was in BKK it was so easy to have nights out. Its also one of the easiest/best ways to meet people too. I know there are other activities that you can do to meet people, gym etc, but I found it was hard to shake the holiday mode off. I didn't spend as much time in KL but I did find it kind of boring.. albeit I think I relate to you saying it would be a better place if you want to get shit done.
Im due to head back to SE Asia in a month and I think I'll need to consider options again.
Thanks again, look forward to seeing your channel grow
Good. You have been in Malaysia long enough that you can differentiate Malaysian and migrant workers.
Yes for sure!
Next greeny visit, You can avoid from mosquito bite if you apply baby ailment oil which has lemongrass smell on your skin.. its soothing as well
Great tip thank you 🙏
Ben, loving your vlogs, its getting better n better, those cutscenes with the scenery and music is really nice, it gives us viewers a moment to absorb what u say and enjoy the view. Good stuff Ben, keep it up.
That’s great feedback I appreciate it 🙏🙏
Thank you for your astute observations Ben, trust your heart and gut : ) The greatest triumph is to resist against one's primal desires -and only then can you experience freedom to truly live life's purpose. Thanks for reminding us why we are so blessed to call this land our home..
Thanks a lot for the donation! I'm glad you enjoyed the video 🙂🙂
Malaysia has made you into a deep thinker Ben. Your observation is on point. 😇
Nice to hear that thank you
If you find yourself getting bored in Malaysia, journey out of the cities into the jungle and find some adventure.
I need to try this, thanks
Depends to what your desire is... Comfort and calm is the most people are looking for
Comfort is #1
Absolutely a wonderful video. It's really good to know from your perspective that Malaysia is a better for you in comparison with living in Thailand when it comes to a decision to stay and live on a long term basis. Too much distractions and too much temptations could only lead you to astray, and losing focus in life. It's good place to stay in KL, Malaysia, that can contribute a conducive environment to be productive all year long. The affordable cost of living could also be a predominant role and a contributory factor when it comes to making a decision.
Start planning to find the most affordable, suitable good place to stay on a medium term basis, ie, like for 90 days each time you come back to KL. There are many places around KL that could provide the right solution, to live and stay, and commute to the city centre, whenever you need to run errands and roam around the city centre.
Yep spot on, staying focused is extremely important. Since that’s my priority at the moment, Malaysia is really the right fit
@@benfishermin That's wonderful. Who needs too much distractions, making we loose focus on reality. 😀
I think what you really need now is a life partner.....get a wife and start a family ..😊😊😊
relationships are hard work..,so not for this generation...
Easier said than done
Too expensive
Some day yes, but now is not the time for me 😀
I'm been Thailand so many times... But I choice Malaysia for living and good health care too and this is so important the best city and more happiness and more beautiful culture and many race too and of course the beauty of kind people there and easy to live and many beautiful places to visit and food is ausome and people are sweet and friendly to everyone...and I'm living for 20 years now in Malaysia KL and just dream for us and my children are so happy and I'm of course...so you take good choice if you want choice Malaysia to live Ben, better good place to live ..here is Safe every where you go and easy to go visit green parc and beautiful river parc Forrest parc and even for Young kids... hospital is the best ..and most of city is so clean everywhere and more supermarket and more pretty Mall... Malaysia is so modern country and I'm thankful live here ...and is cheaper too ..got more choice here and ..not sure others country like Malaysia ...I have many people are from other countries who live here ...they are all happy and easy to talk ...most are Malaysia people speak English... and near go to go other city visit other beautiful city too call Kuching Sarawak Borneo...there beautiful place and for hiking or for rain forest more delicious food and people speak English too ...and go to waterfront or eat laksa or Kolo mee ...and is near from KL to Kuching..by plane ....im often go there for our weekend and stay 4 or a week.. always beautiful and enjoy food and people are friendly...so thanks 🙏 you Ben ..and keep going...make sure you make good choice .. continue make good contant about malaysia ....we so proud of you...i keep going and i like also other you tubeer call Solo and i saw both ❤️ of you in video...is Ausome 💞...is will be great 👍 if you guys make good choice and good 👍 video too ..I like it and always enjoy whaching your video both Solo travail and you of course Ben .. thank you sharing good experience with us ..and we are all appreciated 👍 it so much... Malaysia is the best place..so good luck and I love Malaysia too ❤
Great video, Ben. Thank you for your insightful points. As a Malaysian, my bias might be evident, but I believe Malaysia offers a compelling case for long-term living. Each person’s priorities and circumstances will shape their decision, and both Malaysia and Thailand have their unique charms. Ultimately, it's vital to ensure that your choice is well-considered and aligns with your personal needs and aspirations. Follow your heart and choose what truly feels right for you.
@@byteme9718 Thank you for sharing your perspective. Ben's nomadic lifestyle means he explores various places rather than settling in one spot for long. It's important to appreciate the diverse ways people choose to live their lives. Let's continue to support each other in making informed and thoughtful choices 🙌🌿🌷
Thanks for the nice comment 😁
@byteme9718 you’re in the top 10 most hours watched and most comments on my channel, thanks mate
Hey Ben, I've been following you on YT for months, from the earlier time you first arrived in KL, went to Bangkok and now come back to Malaysia. I wish you welcome back home. I wish you have a good health; mentally and physically well. Make friends with locals, be it Malay, Indian, Chinese, Iban, Kadazan, all.. you know that Malaysian are approachable. Coz being alone is sometimes sickening. Again, have a great days ahead. Take good care Ben! your viewers love you ❤❤
At 20:00 Ben, as you ask, I'd suggest you take a serious look into the running to distraction thought. Weed, women, party life, drinking are all huge distractions.
A good friend and former employer who wrote 14 books on "Surviving the Comfort Zone" (Fatal distractions), and spent over 60 years helping people escape the escape into the comfort zone, summed up what you may be experiencing by saying: "After delving deep enough into distraction, many come to the realization of what they are distracting themselves from (running from pain rather than towards it). Other's who can't face the pain (typically trauma and false guilt), and who continue to delve deeper and deeper into distraction until it becomes an addiction, often end up in an endless loop of distraction, for the alcoholic it becomes drinking to forget the guilt of drinking, to forget the guilt of drinking..."
Now that in America the distraction has become Fentanyl, a short loop to the end for many I see the fatal loop of distraction more clearly than ever, and now that you point it out Ben, perhaps Malaysia, a place with lessor fatal distractions is the place to escape the distraction loop, heal and become a real self free from distraction away from pain and guilt. That's what Malaysia and Japan were for me, and which I am very grateful for, and why both places hold a special place in my heart.
Thanks Ben for bringing things to light, and here's to a life free of negative distractions!
BTW, I just found the intro to on of my late friend's books about the 'Comfort Zone' that may be of interest to those considering "Malaysia or Thailand?"
'Surviving the Comfort Zone' - Forward:
"Once you escape into the "zone," you may become lost there forever. What is the "zone"?
It is a state of mind, body, and soul that we all run to when we find ourselves unable to deal properly with the pressures of the world. The doorway into the "zone" is a false need for comfort: when fulfilled, it causes more hunger.
In moments of confusion, anger, and fear, everyone experiences this primal need to "escape." The comfort we seek seems like an oasis in the desert, the answer to our anguish. But by escaping into a comfort zone, we actually make ourselves vulnerable to all kinds of misery, suffering, and addiction.
Almost everyone is addicted to something. To the alcoholic its liquor; to the drug addict its some mind-altering substance; to the 'people-pleaser' it may simply be a kind word or a pat on the back. Even such simple acts as knitting, stamp collecting, or goal-forming can serve essentially the same purpose as a drink to the alcoholic.
The first step in breaking free lies in becoming aware of how our "escape routes" have transformed into prison chains which dominate our lives. Only then will we be in a position to choose between our old enslavements and a new opportunity for freedom."
Thanks for the comment, this is good stuff. I do think there is some value in those distractions, pleasures, etc. but it can also be a problem. I’ve always been seeking the right balance with everything. I think removing all of those things from life completely is a bit much, but also the only option for some. It does feel like I’ve struck a nice balance for myself by spending 90% of my time in Malaysia, and allowing myself the other 10% to go enjoy the distractions. Even if it becomes a loop of leaving Malaysia to have fun once a month, I believe this may work quite well for me! It’s also much easier for me to say all of this given that I don’t have much money. In the past when I’ve had large amount of money it definitely requires far more restraint. Being allergic to alcohol is also a bit of a blessing.
Everything is a distraction. Even trying to remove distractions is a distraction. The key is to first find distractions that are not harmful and then work to developing distractions that are beneficial.
It's risky to talk about Islam in the open (here in the comments), chances it will get heated 😁. Basically there's Islam and there's Muslim(the people) which is a mixed bag, like anything else. I have travelled extensively in SEAsia via motorcycle road trips, from villages to big cities, from Myanmar to Laos. One thing is prevalent, poverty and alcoholism... something you don't find very much in Muslim areas in Malaysia (I'm not saying there's aren't other problems here), but it's one less problem.
Cigarette addictions and drug abuses are still rampant though.
The alcoholism in Southeast Asia is definitely real, maybe even across all of Asia
8:45 bro, they dont say ho to you back may be they are wearing ears plug under their hood. they are cutting grass handling the noise carefully
Yes that’s true, didn’t think of this
There's sense of magic here. I have never been to that many countries, maybe 5 or so but many Malaysian when they were abroad even if there are hiccups here and there, they still have sense of longing for something I don't know what. Therefore I am grateful for being here for my entire life.
Every time I leave for a bit I’m very happy to be coming back
Hi Ben, glad to see you again in Malaysia..
Something extra about Malaysia is the diversity.. Malaysia has a rich culture and heritages. It's a melting pot of eastern and western food, cuisines and cultures.
Islam means peace, it's the way of life so that's why Malaysia has to be a decent, peaceful and a harmony place for all multiracial people to settle down here(even though Islam is an official religion the non Muslims have freedom of choice how to live with a decent way.. There's no compulsion in Islam).. There are a few differences with Islamic Laws in Malaysia compared to some other countries' Islamic Laws - especially in the middle east..you will notice them if you stay longer to see and learn about it..
Malaysia is truly Asia 🇲🇾👍
Yea I enjoy the diversity here, it was one of the first things I noticed when I first arrived to Malaysia. 🙌🙌
@@byteme9718yes but this goes for anywhere with diversity. For the most part it’s going to be separated by neighborhood. NYC is extremely diverse, but each neighborhood is usually still specific to a nationality and/or race.
@@benfisherminlive separately but go to school together and work together. In most workplace all races are there as colleagues. Society still functioning well
The grass cutters are mainly from Bangladesh & they can speak Malay very well.😄
Is cutting grass not what Malaysians do?
I think it mostly from Pakistan.
@@globalisite malaysians cut their own grass in their own yards, if they don't hire others to do it for them
@@globalisitenope... We hire foreign workers from Indonesia or Bangladesh and they do really good job. Malaysians hate the sun, that's why we got ton of malls lol.
@@globalisitemost company that provide contract jobs (ie grass cutter, janitor, house helper) they hire foreign workers because of lower salary, more strict contract condition and also for safety purpose (for the company). The workers are bounded by a contract so they can't just run away. This is business, man.
Like I mentioned before in your previous vlog. Kuala Lumpur Malaysia is organised chaos, whereas our neighbours up north are just plain chaotic!Lol😅😂✌️
Chaotic, because it's common when a country is highly populated, congested & polluted with even more vehicles.
It would be unsmart , especially Westerners (coming from a developed country) chosen to go to these places for retirement - join the chaos & kinda downgraded their quality of life. They should go for quality & affordable, yet luxurious living. And, Malaysia could offer that. 😎
Yes Bangkok is pure chaos 😂
@@benfishermin
Anyway, the latest Biesinger FIRE Journey vid says it all about BKK.
Get into it ❤. Nice love the introduction narration- next level.
Thanks a lot 🤩😁
Ya Bro...mereka adalah buruh dari luar Malaysia...ramai pekerja luar berkerja d sini...mereka dari Indonesia,Pakistan,Bangladesh,Vietnam,Kemboja,Nepal,India,Thailand,Filipina n etc,Malaysia sentiasa mengalir alukan semua ...kami gembira menerima semua dan berterima kasih pada Tuhan@Allah kerana kemajmukan dan rezeki yang boleh d kongsi bersama semua❤🤝😃👍✌️❤️🤲🙏
🙏🙏🙏
Hi Ben..can totally relate to you about Thailand and Malaysia..like youbsaid really depends what you need and want at this point in your life.
It’s true!
Kuala Lumpur is quiet and peaceful compared with other metropolises in Southeast even maybe whole Asia
Another super interesting Ben , thanks !
Thanks 🙏🙏
Nice subtle leveling up of production values.
Yes I noticed this. It's a good positive way forward. Like the music interspersed within the video.
Thanks I’m glad you like the new video style
Hi, Ben. Just a quick note. You have been to a mosque in JayaPutra. You can walk into any mosque anywhere in the world, and they will welcome you. Ask for a copy of the Quran with an English translation. This is a simple and easy read, but the message is so powerful, that Islam today is growing exponentially. It is growing in Western Countries for exactly the reason you stated, too much alcohol, drugs, debauchery. The result is depression, suicide.
Maybe some day I will give it a read, I’m not much of a reader 😩
Selamat Pagi saudaraku Ban...gembira melihat saudara sihat dan ceria..semoga gembira di bumi bertuah ini..❤️✌️🤝😃👍🇲🇾
Thanks for the nice words, have a great day
Wow , thank u for ur react ... Kuala lumpur is nice city
No problem, thx for your comment
Much prefer Malaysia, I find it more welcoming and love the food. Sex tourism and excessive drinking is too much for long term living in Thailand.
There are other places than Pattaya and Nana Plaza. I don't drink I don't go to those places. Still prefer Thailand to any country on the planet.
@@slumberinc Everyone is different.
Well you’ll only see that stuff in Thailand if you choose to stay in a red light district, otherwise you’ll never once see a bar girl or anything like this. I do agree the food in Malaysia is incredible and I feel very welcomed
Yeah Islam is a huge part of it thats why some Chinese and Indian in Malaysia thinking about migrating but refusing for this particular reason, fornification in other parts of the world is rampant in Malaysia you can raise your children healtier, safer and out of wokeness of the outside world. Muslim and the Malay also accomondating people. It part of culture here for centuries, because of geographical situation, warmness people and humbleness of the Malays people. That how you see how Malaysia today.
Thanks for the comment
Ben, maybe you could talk about ways to remain in Malaysia as dong a visa run frequently always runs the risk of being rejected. Of course, there is the MM2H immigration scheme but you need some deposit and also you must buy property within 12 months. Sarawak and Sabah have launched their own MM2H scheme but still need some deposit, I believe Sarawak no need to buy property. Digital Nomad I believe you need to be employed by someone outside Malaysia. But it would be good to learn about any other options for long term residence.
Yea it’s unfortunate that these are the only options honestly. My next video I talk about visas!
Love the change up in the intro
Thanks, good to hear it
I think the desire to keep moving around stems from either having perpetual curiosity for the "new" or you're still searching for the right place to be your base for the long term (while still doing occasional travel)....because I think that's an inherent thing we do, find a place to be our home. Where that place is ultimately depends on where you are in life and what your priorities are. If you're a single man (or woman) who is just dating, then mixing in a social setting in places like Thailand or the Philippines might be your thing. If you've settled into a healthy long term commitment and getting out to socialize/mingle no longer interests you, then a place like Malaysia could be a more cohesive fit. No place is wrong per se, its finding what's the right fit for you.
This is 100% true
No Gun, No Drugs, less Partying and No Drunk, this is called 🇲🇾🇲🇾🇲🇾 😂😂😂
@@byteme9718 So the same as in many countries. But hey I was born in Los Angeles. In 20 years going to Malaysia and living most of the year there now it's very safe.
@@byteme9718 It's fine if you have self awareness and an ability to defend yourself like anywhere else. When you grow up in a place that is truly dangerous, places like Malaysia are nothing. It's safer then any major city in America. I lived in Mexico for 5 years and then Colombia when I was working for Merck and that is dangerous.
During early 90's KL also have many night parties, drugs, night girls, prostitutions, etc. But then, it's led to gangsterism, smuggling, human trafficking/slavery, high crime rates, etc. It's took a lot of efforts & years to counter those problems. That's why Malaysia is not for people to enjoy parties, girls, etc compared to Thailand
@@byteme9718 Most people are their biggest enemy/threat. Ones mind and discontent in life will eat you up. That is not a Malay problem, It's a human problem.
No its not, its very rare drugs used by malays
Yes, its good for u n other westerners to try visiting the whole south east asia countries n feel which one suits u.Generally asean people are the same even they are very diverse in culture n religion.They are very helpful n kind.Differrnt people has different taste of life😊
Yes it’s true, thanks for the comment
Cambodia is worth a look as well. Easiest retirement visa and can also get 10 year visa and citizenship after 5 years with property purchase. Sure Cambodia is a bit more raw and earthier than Thailand or Malaysia but it's still worth a good look.
Nice I still need to pay Cambodia a visit
Again, enjoyed your vlog. The park is beautiful. You are right, you don’t come to Malaysia to party.
Thanks!
Great video thanks for sharing have a fantastic weekend
Thanks a lot, you too
Malaysia a rehab centre.
We heal. ❤
Much better to be getting rehab than getting swept under the carpet
Haha, spot on
This man gets it 👏
Thanks 😀😀
What I Think:
People are different, some have strong desires for one thing, some not.
Some know themselves.
Some are strangers to themselves.
Best not to compare oneself with others.
Desire and do that which is right and good.
Find inner peace.
Enjoy what you do.
That's what I think.
Yes true, those desires mostly come from our upbringing which is why everyone is so different. Inner peace is important
Yes, the teaching of Islam suggested it’s people to live in balance life and moderate or not excessive in doing things🤍
Smart
Hey brother. It's funny how a RUclips vid can sway massive life decisions one way or the other. This one here may be one of those ones.
I've been living in Chiang Mai for 9 months, and was nodding when you spoke about the temptations/distractions. For example, having ThaiFriendly on your phone as a farang can be a nightmare versus your purpose.
I'm currently at a cross roads. When my VISA expires in March, either moving to Bangkok (with a friend), or taking the leap to Malaysia (On my own).
I'm leaning towards the latter after discovering your channel...
Yours sincerely,
Fellow excessive partier that no longer wants to do that
Nice I’m glad you can relate. Malaysia could be a good move if you’re making your money online. It’s so easy to travel in and out of Thailand from here so I think the trade off is worth it!
Another good thing About Malaysia is its not crowded . KL is not as crowded as any other capitals loke bangkok manila sg hcm jkt . Another thing most travellers over look is the suburbs of KL is well maintained, even offer cheaper accomodation , just as good as living in KL downtown . You could try Petaling jaya , Subang jaya , shah alam , Puchong , bukit jalil , Cyberjaya .
Ben, I strongly believe that the one reason you prefer living in Malaysia must certainly be 'nasi kandar' . Am I right or am I right.
Really? I thought it was the durians! They are in season now!
Haha this is a big reason yep. But now I’m cooking all of my food, no more Kandar for now!
I've lived years in Bangkok off and on. I've worked in KL, Malaysia and lived there for 2 years, I also lived in Vietnam. It really depends on where you live and what you want. You need to see the smaller cities in Thailand. I'm a fitness guy so in bed by 10 and up at 5:30 am-6 am. I say it this way Thailand is Heaven or Hell, if you are weak it will eat you alive. Honestly that's only Bangkok, Pattaya, and the Islands. Malaysia has a more stable government situation. Vietnam was also great. There really needs to be a SWOT analysis of what you want out of each place. In Thailand Hua Hin was my happy place, slow and easy very little nonsense. In Vietnam it was Nha Trang. I've not found anywhere in Malaysia that is as nice as those two options.
@@byteme9718that is stable enough when there are less opposition within the politics, the policy just wouldn't change thats stable as you get
@@byteme9718 nobody cared about malaysian politics as u mentioned all this, even its all falsely intrepreted by you 😅, but you have to remember that malaysia is a constitutional monarchy and no party is above the monarchy.. the king could appoints any party to merge and become the next govt
The opposition & government keep changing in Malaysia previously. But it's still under controlled due to monarchy/constitution based, besides parliament democracy. Majority political parties have experience peoples for governance
Not apple to apple compared to Brunei
I definitely need to visit Hua Hin, I plan to on my next trip to Thailand actually. I’m curious about Nha Trang too in Vietnam. Hanoi looks awesome too.
It really depends on what you want personally Ben.
You cannot say much or decide for other people
There are a lot of swingers indulging themselves nightlife in Thailand
There are a lot of folks who like moderate & peaceful living in Malaysia
In the end of the day, if you feel bore, you can chill a bit in Thailand beach for a week or two...
This is what life is all about
Yes good call
Good choice, Malaysia is the one, Bro
100% 😀
I’m glad you’re back in KL.
Bro.... August is a month of Hari Merdeka..... enjoy and minggle around with us all during this celebration 🎉🎉
Nice! Thx
Wherever you go, pls be aware of your surrounding...just to be on the safe side...
Thanks
Thanks!
You rock, thanks a lot for your donation!! 😃😃
Just fyi, we are having independence day on 31th Aug in Putrajaya.
Hi bro/sis.
31st August.
@@soar_higher sorry bad English. 🤣😂
@@AfiqahKhalid-k3o takpe...same here...cuma tau sikit 😁
Utk kedudukan, tarikh kan selalu ikut mcm kat bwh:
1st - first, so kalau twenty-first dan lain-lain, jadi la 21st (st sempena dua huruf terakhir pkataan first)
2nd - second, so kalau thirty-second, jadi la 32nd (nd sempena dua huruf terakhir nd
3rd - third, cth 23rd
4th, 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, 9th, 10th - so 4th sampai 10th (fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth, ninth, tenth), so letak th je la utk nombor 4 sampai 10 dan lain lain lagi. Cth 14th, 24th, 35th, 46th, 80th ....and so on
@@soar_higher slalu pakai auto correct, inilah masalahnya. Hahahahaa.
Good tip, thank you
If u got a drink problem DNT go Thailand
Yea true, thankfully I don’t drink 😄
Love your honesty about living in Malaysia, are there tours to take that are organized???
From what I hear there are many organized tour options, but I don’t have any experience personally
I think anything excessive is not good. Even religion. You just need to be wise.
Yes very true
Ben, Malaysia is english speaking esp in city areas, maybe no so in Siam. we look for english content, not sure in Thailand, they have in Thai. try Philippines Ben, english speaking country too. You might love it there Ben. Boleh lah Ben.
Thanks, hopefully I can visit the Philippines soon!
I just hope that Malaysia strike the right balance moving forward.
Me too 😀😀
Bro, deep down inside you know you're a wholesome person. A little bit of a wild side every now and then but still an anchored person. Malaysia helps you to balance them.
Yes it’s true! 😀
Thumbs up 👍 Ben
You know when you read those 400 pages books and conclude that it should have been edited and reduced to 150 pages?
That’s how I felt after watching this video. Too much fluff and too little meat.
BKK and Bali, has always been ASEAN entertainment capital
Bali is no way in BKK's league. Bali is nice but no way its an entertainment capital.
BKK for sure. Bali has gone downhill but I do have good memories of the place from the past
Malaysia gives europeans / american s90 days Free visa stay . From KL you can make it your base to neighbouring countries by flights ( cheaper than other countries )
Don't worry about those migrant workers' stare, just ignore them. Maybe, to them its weird to see someone talking to the camera walking around.
@hplagt6880. Exactly, and maybe in their world people just look at each other in passing, and in their world no one says anything to anyone in passing, no 'hello', nothing.
I’m so used to people staring when I film, they looked like they saw a ghost though I thought it was funny 😅
While it is fun in thailand, there is a need on higher dosage of self-control "shot" to make it there (esp for non-local or u r all alone there).
Yes a lot more will power and self control is necessary in Thailand!
cool .. nice Malaysia video
I am a long time Thailand expat. I have to say that I truly enjoyed my drinking mongering years here. I eventually got got tired of it and decided to settle down. I eventually found a suitable older lady and married her. That was 20 years ago and we are still together. Life is good for me.
Im Malaysian. I've read one comment that suggested you going to the Phillipines and try living there. Have you ever considered it? Maybe you can share your opinions.
Philippines is nice but it also has many of the things and traps that Thailand has. Still a nice country to visit. Especially the many islands to explore.
I’m hoping to visit within the next few months!
My opinion...you are supercool & ageing and adventure.
Hope & finally you find out what you look in yr life..😊
Thank you 😀😀
Long Term For Malaysia 🎉
Which SE Asian country has the best air quality in your opinion?
What's the name of this park ? Looks like a nice place !
Which park you were recording the video? At first I thought you were in Perdana Botanical Garden which is accessible from Muzium Negara area (opposite to KL Sentral and Nu Sentral).
By the middle of the video, I can see that you were not there as there is no cemetery near Perdana Botanical Garden.
Anyway, I condone your view in the video.
Hi ben, _selamat kembali_ welcome back to malaysia, and _terima kasih_ for putting up this video and opening up on your own choice and reasoning.
Just to touch a bit on your question without the intention of imposing my own belief onto you, after all you did ask anyway, the core reason is Islamic faith stresses on the basic facts that we are merely creations of God, that God is All Powerful, that we are ordered by God Almighty to obey his rules, that this world is nothing but fleeting, that there is permanent life after death (after the day of judgement), and that there is heaven in the afterlife for people obedient to God on this temporary world just as there is hell for disobedient lot.
So, firstly, God-fearing muslims would not want to incur the wrath of God by drinking liquor, gambling, etc which have been specifically prohibited by God because doing so would throw a person into hellfire for eternity or for a time that would feel like eternity.
Secondly, faithful muslims believe that this world is nothing but a huge test by God, be it in the forms of those distractions or temptations, or even in the forms of successes, victories, possessions, good health etc, and be as good and as fun those distractions appear to be, there will be fun a gazillion time better in heaven. One of the reasons God ordered muslims to do the 5 compulsory daily prayers is to bring back the persons to constantly remember that God is always here, that God is always watching, that this life is temporary, and that God has promised that being good will only be rewarded with much much better, for eternity.
Therefore muslims have no need for those distractions now.
This concept would then give rise to a different lifestyle than say, a faith that believes in the concept of reincarnation. Probably there are different types of reincarnation concepts out there, idk, but if we consider only a straightforward type of reincarnation ie. a person dies then gets reincarnated as a different person with different traits, then probably it's okay for them to have any sort of fun, probably as long as it doesn't involve murder, rape, robbery, etc, because later they will still get reincarnated and have another chance at everything all over again. Perhaps. I only have limited knowledge about the reincarnation concept, I apologise if I have had it wrong. Peace! ✌️
22:52 - Actually... you could go the National Mosque if you are interested to ask/learn something about Islam here in Malaysia. They have visiting hours and guides that can help you there learn. I think I saw some videos of some other American RUclipsrs visiting the Mosque.
Good idea thanks!
Good choice of words calling it a "*predominately* Muslim country".
I made a similar video where I mistakenly called it a "Muslim country" (trying to make the point that it's the predominant religion, compared to Buddhism in Thailand) and got absolutely roasted in the comments by angry Malaysians.
Sorry that you got roasted. It's all semantics 😁. But it is stated in the article 3 constitution of Malaysia that the official religion is islam, and other faiths are free to practice. But some don't like the sound 'malaysia is a Muslim country' as only limited shariah are enforced here.
You better believe I only did that because I already made that same mistake as you and been roasted in the past 😂 live & learn
When your constitution stated it's official religion, that's it. Nothing more to discuss... Islam is the official religion of the federation. Period!
You may try to visit Sabah & Sarawak next time
what i understand from all your talks and thought, you are seeking for peace and calmness in your life. But in the same times, you want to fullfill your lust and temptation on...lets get it straight to the point... Sex, women, booze party-life, weeds... Of course you can find here in Malaysia, bcoz evil is everywhere man...but not like in Bangkok, Pattaya. Its so common over there. If you really want a peaceful life, get away from the place that full of party-life. Go get close to the positive and clean way of life.
Definitely no booze for me, but weed I love yes. And being able to go on dates with women is a huge plus as well. I have a different view on things though because I don’t see weed or sex-positive living as evil. It’s a nice balance to live in Malaysia and visit Thailand!
I'm a digital nomad of 5 years. It's nothing new and there's nothing mysterious about it. My grandparents were the digital nomad of their age, simply put: those with wanderlust then would become missionaries. They were even clever enough to get others to foot the bill. Churches have a special collection to fund a "mission family" here and there. My dad kinda resented his parents, he felt entitled to live in the United States. He lived very stable, only moving 3 times in his later adult life all in the same state. I guess I got the wanderlust genes. I don't feel any need to explain it, so it was funny to me that you mentioned the topic. Prior to just now, it never occured to me I should think it through and justify it in any way. For the portion of us born this way, it would have been HELL ON EARTH to live in the era of lets say 1940 - 2015. To have a good paying quality job with opportunities for advancement, you needed to stay in a office in the same place and work for decades in each role (to not look flaky on your resume). Now that's no longer the case, our liberation day came. For me it was 2013, the first job I took with no office on offer.
Hey, One of the first here. Hi Ben.
Hey 👋 😁
Ben, if peace & tranquility in live is what you seek, the only place I can think of is Katmandu, Tibet. Maybe you should do an exploratory trip there because as far as I know, booze, sex & drugs are totally absent but be prepared, you could end up becoming a Monk!!
Those workers are mostly foreign workers. Many of them are still learning national language for communication. They are ok. Don’t worry.
You should go tp China to try out...City life or Rural life...my God beautiful scenery. Clean and safe. Those China people are Park people...They loved to hang around the parks. The parks are beautiful.
Now Visa free, should go and check out .who knows it might fit you. Its affordable to travel around and the food amazing.
Great insights by🎉
What kind of VISA to stay long term/ permanently in MY?
I only stay on a tourist visa but mm2h is the next option
Malaysia for quality of life but Thailand for entertainment and parties.
True, but I do think quality of life is very high in Thailand as well!