Waking Up after Botched Trans Vaginoplasty: Instant Regret and Horror
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- Alexander Linkowski detransitioned after going through with "bottom surgery" (trans vaginoplasty, otherwise known as penile inversion) and years of taking estrogen. He describes his feelings of instant regret after the surgery, during which his rectum was cut, causing excruciating and lasting pain. He also discusses the complications he has dealt with as a result of medical transition, what it was like growing up as a gay boy in conservative Poland, his reasons for transitioning, and his take on gender dysphoria and transition in general.
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That's what I thought was happening...
I would love it if you could ask Alexander to identify just what aspects of Catholicism caused him shame? Catholicism says to *ALL* people that sodomy is a sin - heterosexual or homosexual. Why? It's because it threatened the healthy procreation of our race (a short bit of a much bigger explanation). They say marriage is between a man and a woman as modeled by the Father, Son & Holy Spirit, because the healthy, long term survival of the human race depends upon stable marriages, natural procreating and raising children in stable homes. Look at what's happened in China & India after decades of interfering with natural procreation.
So, I'm no longer tolerant of someone carelessly throwing out irresponsible statements blaming anything on just, *"Catholic Guilt."*
Alexander's condition seems MUCH more heavily affected by social pressure, low self-esteem and lack of family support. His 11-hour a day obsession with masturbation is blatantly a mental and physical problem that required medical intervention that it appears he never got.
Alexander also seems to mask basic insecurity within lofty, philosophical concepts. It's not a complex, nuanced difficult issue. Had Alexander felt confident in who he was, he would not have had to stay, "in the closet" and he would have been able to speak with the people who could've helped him. It's not how his brain works - it's how HE works.
Unfortunately, if Alexander hadn't had the financial ability to move about different countries and especially pay for whatever surgeries,l he wanted, I'm willing to bet he would've *OUTGROWN* his confused feelings and landed on his feet as secure man, attracted to whomever he was attracted, WITHOUT guilt.
I will pray for Alexander that he finds peace and happiness in his life. I hope he helps many others facing similar gender confusion and considering such barbaric surgeries. But please stop blaming Catholicism. God loves us all, EXACTLY how He made us. Sure, there will always be weak or corrupt individuals in ANY organization, religious or otherwise, that will make some people feel shame or unwelcome . . . *BUT* the MAJORITY are not that way. They will love and support and welcome those who simply want to love God. Remember too that satan is FERVENTLY attacking the Catholic Church, doing his hardest to spread hate and prejudice against Catholicism BECAUSE the Catholic are the one, true Church for EVERYBODY that was started by the Apostles of Jesus Himself! That is why you hear so much propaganda against Catholicism. Don't be a stooge for satan!
God bless Alexander and yourself.
To be honest you just can’t change your gender no matter how much surgery you can have and hormones it can’t happen because we are either born male or female and if a person feels that they are the opposite gender but they are say female or male feelings don’t change biology
Amazing job!
Thank you for opening our eyes
We will look back at this time like we look back on lobotomy and blood letting
Exactly 💯
Our state leader just apologised in parliament for laws that sent gays to behind bars up until 1984. Meanwhile, 2 months earlier, he passed laws and made it illegal to do anything other than affirm child & adolescent tra ns it on. What a joke. The politicians just do whatever the man ip u la tors in the rich, powerful upper class want them to do. So that they can be rich, etc, too.
At one time - late 1800’s - women who experienced anxiety were treated by doctors removing their ovaries. This was a time when women didn’t have the vote, rarely were able to work outside the home. Rather than broadening their opportunities in the world, they sterilized them, eliminating all hormones. (Dr. Bucke, a friend of gay poet Walt Whitman, did this regularly - including to his own wife.)
No ones touching my nine-incher
Well we've had 70 years, hasn't happened.
A good therapist is what these people need.
As for changing one’s sex he says “we are not there yet” but that day will come. I admire him for sharing his story so publicly, but I disagree that there will come a time when a person’s sex can actually be changed. Surgeries will probably be improved, but chromosome will still define a person’s true sex.
Amen.
So true! And not only chromosomes but all organs, skeleton, heart, brain is not changeable.
Determine. chromosomes determine ones sex, in mammals xx/xy, in birds a different system, in other species a different mechanism. Defined is sex by the gametes ones body is organized around to produce (functional or non functional) - in all sexual procreating species, no matter which system/mechanism determined their sex. Just an (important) detail, but yes, in general you're right.
When I was younger I imagined that sex change surgeries would involve transplanting the genitals of organ donors onto the patient.
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“Bottom surgery” should be banned. Any doctor who performs these surgeries should be in prison. Absolutely grotesque Frankenstein stuff of nightmares.
It would still occur illegally, but at least society would be sending a clear message that it's dangerous and put more "gates" in the way.
I think banning it isn't a solution. I would suggest rather putting more gatekeeping in place because trans surgeries do actually help some trans people to live their life but there are too many detransitioners to keep this policy as is. Going from one "Let's give everyone surgery who think they are trans" to "Let's ban trans surgeries all together" is not a solution and it certainly doesn't help people with real dysphoria. But first and foremost; psychotherapy must be more available for people to try to come to terms with their sex.
Also sex education should focus more to the fact that we are all individuals and there are all sorts of men and women between masculinity and femininity and those traits don't mean you are something else than you were born as. There are too many transitioners who are just feminine men or masculine women and/or even gays and lesbians and later regret ever going to treatment thus deciding to detransition or desist.
@@ojololo I think if they just went back to insurance not covering elective surgeries like this, the problem would mostly take care of itself. People would be forced to think very carefully about all this as they save up for their surgeries, as in the past, when you also had to usually travel overseas. The whole reason they always claim that people will kill themselves if they don't get these surgeries is so they can get past the insurance, which doesn't pay for these kinds of surgeries unless necessary to save somebody's life.
I will never forget being woken after surgery, to be advised that the "bottom op" had been successful. That feeling of peace (for the first time in my life) was worth the years of struggle and has lasted for the forty subsequent years. Perhaps the gatekeepers of the 1980's were on to something, as opposed to the affirmative model of modern gender medicine.
@@LadyIarConnacht absolutely not. This is live saving care for many of us, it literally makes living life bearable, many of us (myself included) would be on the streets turning tricks for surgery, like the old days. I have a good life, I good job, I don’t drink or so drugs , I have a loving partner but many moons ago you might’ve seen me slurring my words at the Hilton lobby asking to extend one more day.
The world needs Alexander L. to inform everyone. I'm grateful for his boldness.
You have such insight. Many thanks for your input❤
it is a predatory industry, and its global.
Why not use a sausage?
It's about $$$$, and nothing ethical.
no. There just are trans people and this care helps most who take it according to those people.
@@normanicole4714baloney.
@@normanicole4714 it’s because we must be more accepting of differences rather than resorting to dangerous surgeries which big health cost. We also need a responsibility in the healthcare system These hormones effect your health should be last resort
Thanks for having me on, Sasha.
Thank you for sharing your experience and insights.
Twoja historia mnie poruszyła. Ciężko jest być nastolatkiem, w tym okresie robimy wiele głupich rzeczy i jesteśmy zagubieni. Życzę Ci wszystkiego dobrego, Aleksander!
In a video with Ari, he said.
"If I had, you know words of wisdom from person at the right time, you know everything could have changed."
That says it all.
people who have the wisdom and knowledge are obviously missing.
❤
I had someone who had that ability.
Experience plays an important role.
Wish you well.
Thanks for telling your story. Keep sharing, people need to hear this. Hug xxx
I am surprised how strong you come over after what you have been through. Respect.
Any young person reading this and feeling disphoria please don't hurt yourselves as this young person has been hurt. Disphoria is just a thought - impermanent and ephemeral. Don't act on a mere thought. Just watch the thought and attached feelings and hold them compassionately. They will pass.
Turn to Jesus he can help you
@@erikavohlken4364no
I have a 15 year old granddaughter and she wants to be a man. 😢 I'm hoping and praying that she won't harm herself.
@@user-bk6oh2jy4ctell her it isn't possible. She's delusional. She should stop the nonsense.
Jesus is dead and we killed him
As an older man who went through an undetermined phase during adolescence (spontaneous growth of tits and delusional ideas about my gender) I can tell you what's different Between the1970s and now is
1) boys were educated in the idea that one should master his body and impulses by his intellect. If you play with your noodle 12/24 it's not a urges issues. It's a self control issue. All adolescent boys would gladly spend the day pleasing themselves.
2) there were no confusion concerning what was possible and what was delusional. You can't change your gender, it's purely esthetical. There is no functionality after those surgeries. Fake boobs don't produce milk. Fake bags are not reproductive and do not even function like the read dead for pleasure.
Those interventions were depicted as what they are : cas_tra_tion
3) instinct of self preservation has disappeared. That's not just a genders issue. Tattoos, travels in dangerous parts of the world, extreme sports, acceptance of experimental mRNA treatments, self driving cars, people struggle to evaluate risks those days.
If you don't behave like there is no tomorrow you are uncool.
This all points to endoctrination and political correctness. When you don't develop self awareness but rather try to conform to social pressure you end up depriving yourself from the correct tools to assess situations.
As an older person (woman) who fell for a lot of the social feminist pressures of the 1970s, I agree. We should start raising kids that broader society, and most individuals don't give "two cents" about you as an individual. Close family are the most likely to care about you long term. And maybe a few close friends you make. Having made divorce so 'easy' society discourages commitment for life to a 'life partner' and eroded the concept of life friendships. All for power, control, and wealth (more dollars) for those in the upper "class".
You are spot-on with your observation about the disappearance of the instinct of self-preservation. The clamoring for the disarmament of the general public, displaying only sadness when somebody is murdered, not anger, all the things you mentioned - it goes on and on. I believe those "in charge" of our world want a domesticated species of human that will tolerate any indignity. To have armies of sexless drones would be their ideal, and they are propagandizing our youth to accept this future. It's sickening.
Well said
Well said! Bring back critical thinking skills, something the education system and society has been systematically destroying.
Well said‼️
As a tomboy all my life (I am 47 now), I am so glad this crap didn't exist and my mind wasn't I'd with by predators. Up to the age of 16, I would've chosen to be a boy in a heartbeat. Today, I am a powerful, strong, balanced woman, although I still don't wear dresses or anything pink.
Old tomboy here. Wanted to be a boy until I was 12. I still only wear boyish type clothes, well a little girly but not much. I sometimes wonder what is wrong with me but nothing is. I think I have more testosterone that most females. I too would have transitioned most likely then regretted it.
I also wanted to be a boy, wore boys/men's clothes, even into adulthood. But, I was a girl, and I too am so thankful I grew up when I did, otherwise maybe I would've transgendered.
Red-blooded male here.
Tomboys are the best.
Daisy Duke, Ellie May Clampet, Sarah Connor, Ellen Ripley.
I didn't want to be a woman at 15yo bc the main women in my life were boring, had no hobbies except gossiping & jealousy.
I couldn't relate to them. It wasnt until I left home that I saw that not all women are like that. I am very feminine and also capable, with many interests.
I avoid women as friends that show any of those negative qualities now. It was the environment that made me feel the way I did, nothing internal. I have never been attracted to women.
Bless his heart, my heart breaks to hear him say a part of him died after this surgery! This is so sad !
Sasha, You are an exceptionally gifted interviewer for sensitive people and issues like this. Thank you.
MASCULINITY AND FEMININITY ARE FEELINGS. MALE AND FEMALE IS BIOLOGICAL
I don’t know if you’d ever be interested in covering a story like mine… but I was r@ped by a trans’woman’ in 2017 & was cancelled by my community and even my family when I came out to honestly tell my experience. I was intimidated and run out of town and became gender critical after that.
please interview this person, this sounds like a story the world needs to hear.
My goodness. I am so sorry you had to live through that.
Trans-widow community try to make awarness of how dangerous trans men are compared to normal men. Risk of being violent and even rape your partner is higher when man start to get transition.
Where's the news report??
@@TJ-um8ce Same place as your manners.
How do you only have less than 5k subscribers? I recently subscribed and these stories are amazing, informational, tragic and so much more and you do a great job interviewing these guests!
I really appreciate that. I hope these stories reach more people, they are so important
Just subscribed.❤
I was like duh just watching and you reminded me! Just subscribed!
The self rejection and self hatred reminds me of the same way that one can suffer with anorexia.
and isn't that some shit. if you say youre anorexic , they put you into a treatment center and dont let you starve, but say your hink youre the opposite gender and they help you butcher your body.
Yes! The reasoning could be if I cut my head off, which weighs quite a lot…I’ll weigh less…
Hi Sasha, I believe the medical community is responsible; the language they chose to identify this surgery is misleading - No matter how many hours or money you spend in surgery - the best they can do is turn body parts inside out - who or why they combined vagino & plasty together to describe these surgeries is perplexing & extremely tragic & thanks for this video...
Yep. The surgeons create an expectation that they can create a vagina, and turn the patient into a woman. Both are total lies and mask the gruesome and tragic reality
@@SashaWhiteInterviews keep up with the channel, very valuable testimonies, I can see in your face you also empathize deeply.
As a medical transcriptionist this is what upsets me the most! Most procedures and surgeries have scary, intimidating names but the medical establishment calls these "top surgery" and "bottom surgery" which is oversimplified and meant to appeal to young, naive, confused people.
@@SashaWhiteInterviews Is that you real name or a play on Sasha Grey and possibly also Lord of the Rings one?
@@markshepperson3603 are you ok?
Saying prayers for you. So glad you have survived and begun to thrive. We’ll never be there yet, you can never change your sex. Ever. Thank you for saying never to get this ‘surgery’.
Puberty is a right of passage into adulthood, not a medical condition to $in on.
Alexander, you should consider saying your history in Polish for Polish audience! There's now a lot of push to affirm children's transition (social at the very least), and many people are _clueless_ about the harm it can do.
I agree. There’s almost nothing about detransitioners on polish RUclips.
In English, we say "telling your story" - kind correction
@@melitajay Thanks 👍
Just found out a lot of American tax dollars going to Europe to sell them on it. Gotta make pharmaceutical more money and the plastic surgeon association.
This entire video can be transcribed to polish .. right? With the permission right?
I hope the universe has a way to balance the pain and hardship this incredible person went through. This is an amazing interview that shows the perseverance of the human condition.
I think this man is more brave than what he thinks, respect
Brave young man for exposing this craziness happening. It's devastating to have his body permanently damaged, especially at his age. Hopefully, his courage will prevent others from going down this path.
Adults need to remember that everyone is uncomfortable in their bodies during puberty.
The interviewer is so sensitive and skilled.
This is unbelievably sad and it makes me so mad at the entire medical industry! The counselors, and especially the surgeons who took a sacred vow to “do no harm” and then they do this horrible mutilation that was totally unnecessary. The poor victim will suffer from this for the rest of his life while the greedy surgeon enjoys the filthy lucre obtained from the dastardly deed. I am angry at the people pushing this insane ideology on mentally unstable people instead of giving honest compassionate care.
A very sad and evil world.
I like the interviewers style. She quietly listens and doesn't interrupt. She waits appropriately to ask a relevant question. Subscriber to your channel. I find topics just as this not only fascinating, but incredibly concerning and sad.
This man Is gorgeous And a good person With a very authentic personality. It is very sad That youth Is brainwashed Into such horrific consequences I’m so sorry that he has to Live with And repeatedly Deal with choices that he made that were a result Of adults abusing their power, Brainwashing Children And young adults - knowingly. He’s a brave man, And I’ve seen quite a few Incredibly brave Young people who Regret And are speaking out Regarding these horrific surgeries, and being brainwashed, Not informed, And taking advantage of. God bless these people for speaking, heal them , Strengthen them And comfort them.
Wow, it's so wild to me that you would come across my feed Alexander as i met you on twitter when you shared your story there. I am so grateful you are willing to do this. I pray for you daily.
Mad RESPECT for coming on here and revealing all... Stay up, it gets better!!!
As someone who's had 6 surgeries, "I don't want to be here" is the absolute last thing you want to be thinking on the OR table before being put under anesthesia, especially for a non-emergency procedure. It would have been nice if the doctors picked up on this and paused at this moment.
Should they read minds now??
@@TJ-um8ce yes.
@@TJ-um8ce Clinton Baptiste, I'm getting the name JOHN!
People cannot read minds. Especially those under heavy intoxication
@@dr-ozone That's ridiculous.
Yes, there is a deeper issue going on, but the internet is absolutely affirming these destructive thoughts. By the time your parents took your access away, the mindset was already deeply embedded within you. It’s like turning off a horror flick after you’ve already watched the murder scene- you can’t magically turn back time; the imagery stays with you.
It also doesn’t help that society is pushing this message that attempting to change your biology is “courageous” rather than a well established form of self-harm. We have outlawed the medical profession’s ability to tell a patient that their desire to do so is indicative of a mental illness and that this destructive thought pattern needs to be properly addressed before lobbing off healthy body parts. Afterall, you said yourself, your thinking was hurting you. That is the very definition of poor mental health, no matter how we may frame that desire today; and yet, we are not “allowed” to talk about it anymore. It’s not surprise that with these limitations on speaking truth, the age-old “grass is greener on the other side” delusion convinced you that what you wanted could actually come to be, and that all your dreams would magically come true.
If I haven’t been clear enough, let me say that, unequivocally, I despise what the doctors did to you. They sold you an impossible dream, and then blamed you when their conveniently profitable “solution” did not work. But I also fear that you are still living in the dream world by telling yourself that one day this will be possible. Said with all the love in the world: No, it will not. The same way we can not “create” a bird, or a fish, or a moon rock, we can not “create” human beings of any kind or inclinations. Learning to accept this truth is a step toward complete and genuine freedom. Like the alcoholic mantra, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference;” - true peace starts with accepting our place in the cosmos and accede to our own limitations, even if the truth is not what we wish it to be. We must have faith that the builder knew exactly what he was creating and for what purpose, even when we don’t fully understand why.
The medical professionals are failing their patients. This is right in your face and they should be in prison for the irreparable harm they are causing. People especially underage people should sue these doctors. It's the only way to stop them at this point in time 🇨🇦🕊️😊
As a person interviewed in this video, I have to disagree with you on one thing regarding whether this will be a possibility one day. I find it surprising how many people say with certainty that something that is technologically plausible will never be possible. It's like someone 300 years ago saying it will never be possible to travel from Europe to east Asia in 10 hours. We have no epistemic access to the future but considering the growing acceleration of technological and medical progress, it seems strange to me to be 100% certain that we can never achieve this.
I have an impression that a lot of people here believe that I'm saying this because that is something I would like to go through or dream about it. No, I'm happy being a man. I think that's the moral of the story here. My interest in this comes only from the perspective of someone who works with philosophy of technology.
Good interview. Sasha, you hold a really safe space for your guests. Alexander was wonderfully frank and forthright.
This is heartbreaking I hope he will recover from this physical and emotional trauma. Everyone who facilitated what happened to him should be jailed.
😢😢The thoughts that “It’s better to be a heterosexual woman than a gay man “ are so sad.
Not to mention it just twists thinking & blames other people.
The medical transitioning of minors is a direct attack on the homosexual community.
The Saudi method.
Homophobia, I hear that a lot when I hear the stories of detransitioners.
It's time to become really progressive and accepting.
Lord yes…so sad…
Man playing God never works out.
THIS will hopefully wake our youth up before making such a tragic decision with no way out.
I'm barely past 14:00 and I already know one thing for sure: Alexander is not only incredibly intelligent, but also extremely thoughtful because there's always a pause before he replies as he gathers his thoughts to respond to the young woman who's conducting the interview. She's also turning out to be his perfect counterpart in the interview process. I'm really grateful that this upload showed up in my feed this morning. It's a top notch video from Real Stories who always brings the thunder. Thanks RS!
I respectfully disagree…his thinking doesn’t appear to be well rounded. If he was so intelligent, he would have come to his conclusion before surgery.
I knew that relationship he mentioned would not last long. I wish he loved himself enough to realize that someone that cares about you could never give you such an ultimatum like. To think that that relationship could have influenced his decision to get tht botched surgery is *mindboggling and says ALOT*
I agree. If your partner demands sex from you, and especially sex only on their terms, it's a super toxic relationship.
Thank you for this interview. Wishing all the best to Alexander.
Once again higlighting the wisdom of having proper psychological assessment prior to having irreversible surgery. Then again, with the whole problem of societal conditioning that changing gender presentation is the answer to your problems, I'm not sure this is even possible.
This is why what you are doing is so important.
Blessed be
Alexander, I'm SO, SO sorry that all this happened to you ! 😢
You are so brave to share your story, including such personal details. I admire your courage so much !
I am 57 years old, and parents need to pay MORE attention to their children today.I am a parent of teenager, and I have a realationship my daughter that she can come to me with any issue.
Which is the acid that actually make you fly ?me mate Dave said he took this type and he flew all around the room and his mum told him to get some ciggies from the shop, and he flew there down Egham street and flew back and he was back in five seconds or whatever but he'd forgotten the ciggies
To trans women who say they "feel" like a woman, I'll tell you how it feels, to me, a cis woman. If feels like I'm kinda crazy. There are four weeks in a month, one of those weeks are spent having a period. The week before that is spent building up to getting the period, so I'm emotional, cranky, weepy and unstable. Then the remaining two weeks of the month, I'm feeling okay and just the normal levels of emotional. This happens every month starting at (for me) eleven years old and continuing for forty years or more. I wonder what it feels like to be a man?!
AGPs find your post arousing, that's just the sad / creepy fact of the matter.
@@L_Martin and that should be clue on their part that they don’t feel like women at all. All she did was speak was truth. No man has EVER felt like a women; just like no woman has ever truly “felt” like a man.
Which brings us to menopause…more fun
And around 14 days from start of the period, as a woman, I had to avoid having sax if I didn't want to get preggers. The only time of the month I really wanted that act was the few days around ovulation. And I got preggers then as easy as falling off a log. But once preg, body was on a new track - birth risks, b feeding, etc. Nobody mentions that for women. Now, we're available for sax whenever the others want it, apparently.
This is so on point for me. The emotional instability with my hormonal/menstrual cycle is wild.
But that's not to say some men aren't very emotional too just in different ways
Your work is so important Sasha. Heartfelt thanks to Alexander for his raw sharing and immense courage and integrity and how he is bringing truth where there is so much manipulation of young people who are vulnerable and in psychologucal pain. Immense respect and gratitude.
Hi guys let’s get Sasha to 5k❤ This channel is important
I'm so very sorry to see Alexander's tragic & painful-physical, emotional & mental health.
Thank you for being so open & honest. You will help 1000s of ppl.
Much love
Nicky, UK ❤️🩹
Where did all the money come from? How could a 21 year old afford all this? How could he afford the pain of going to the bathroom for 2 years and function at a job? He didn't say what happened after he stopped dilating?
1. School loan and stipend + my boyfriend at the time paid for the rest. 2. I wasn't functioning much at all after the surgery. I didn't start working until 1 and half a year after the surgery. 3. After i stopped dilating I lost both depth and width. It's pretty much unaccesible now but I'm fine.
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Wow. This guy is telling the truth. Thank you for your honesty, it can't be easy❤
What an incredibly intelligent, articulate person. Great interview
Alexander, I want to make a comment that is a bit off topic but hope you will receive it anyway, your English is absolutely admirable. You speak as well as a native speaker. So, it appears you speak at least three languages, Polish, Norwegian and English. That is quite an accomplishment.
In europe it's standart to learn (british) english. But yeah he's speaking very well.
I’ve suspected for some time now that much of the trans phenomenon, in addition to involving social contagion, involves a deeper contempt for, disgust with, etc human, biological limitations in general, including mortality. When humans don’t have healthy ways of coming to terms with these limitations, whether that’s with religious and spiritual belief and practice or even secular, cultural methods of recognizing them and integrating and accepting them, they may start to drive people crazy. He touches on this first thing in this interview, that a general, persistent dissatisfaction and disgust with his own biology and being bound to and limited by biology preceded a more specific gender/sex dysphoria. At the risk of sounding like a committed Jungian (which I’m not necessarily), there may really be something to the idea that transcendence of the sex binary is associated in the psychology of humans with transcending human limitation and becoming more godlike.
Edit:
And in the comments I see that the guest is calling himself a “radical transhumanist”, which checks out.
I akin it more to, someone willing to do this to people are on par with those facinated with human suffering.
Mhm, he says he essentially was disgusted with his male libido, and disgusted that he's no longer a kid, I know women in my life who became trans because they were disgusted with periods, having breasts, and being sexualized, they wanted to become a man just to escape it, one friend was sexually assaulted so she thought becoming a man would keep her safe, needed therapy instead
Not so long back we had the hardly anyone detransitioned but there sure to be a lot more brave enough to speak up now.
TY to you both for this interview. Great interviewer - saying the minimal needed.
Great interviewed - open brutually honest and incredibly articulate.
No joke. A year ago, searching for regret stories resulted in almost none. This year, a search generates alot more.
As a gay man I can relate to the feeling that you'd rather be anything but gay. I personally grew up in a small town, and I had such a hard time just accepting myself as gay that I didn't even confront it until my mid 20s. Back then the trans thing wasn't even a thing, but had it been, it would have made things even more confusing. Luckily when I came out no one cared, but even with the support I still feel myself sometimes feeling bad about being myself (though a lot less than before).
That is not a gay problem it is a human problem. We all feel bad about ourselves. We all wish our body was different at times. There are no quick fixes. Life is suffering. None of us escape. The best you can do is find meaning. A reason for the struggle.
I wish Alexander all the best for the future and I hope he finds some peace xx
Great interview and important information to get out to the public. Thank you, Alexander, for sharing your story.
You can live as the opposite sex in society without the bottom surgery. That's what I am planning to do. I am a transman, but I don't want bottom surgery because it is too risky.
So a woman pretending to be a man.
You are wise
Then you are a transvestite. No problem but let's be honest.
One can't live as the opposite sex. You are not a Trans man...just a "masculine" woman. That's perfectly fine.
@@Vanessa-pe2xs can’t identify as a trans man without being a woman. 🤷♀️ biology isn’t transphobic.
@TheSashaWhite I am also a post surgical detransitioner. Male to female back to male. I would love the opportunity to tell my story on your channel!
Great, can you leave me a twitter comment so I can message you? That’s the best way to get in touch with me :)
Did you medicalize or have surgery?
@@VioletFemme810 Me? Yes I had my penis converted into a surgical reprisentation of a vagina and yes I took female hormones for 7 years.
It would be very interesting to hear form your wife ..we have never heard from the families of men who have put their families through the hell of transitioning then detransitioning ...how is it for the wives when husbands start wearing womans CLOTHING..is there manipulation? Coercive behaviour? Abuse? What are these women going through?.... I AM HOPING @SAshaWhite interviews BRAVE family members who are living with these men....I know what I have been through so hearing from others would be AMAZING....ITS ALWAYS ABOUT THE MEN AND WHST THEY HAVE BEEN THROUGH...BUT THE TRUTH ABOUT HOW MUCH MONEY ,TIME, FOCUS, EVERYTHING REVOLVES AROUND THAT ONE MAN IN THE FAMILY... EVERYTHING
@@KCtheKat101 my wife and I made a little video together talking about her experiences and she was interviewed with me on Stephanie Winn’s You Must Be some kind of therapist podcast and RUclips channel which is going to be up in a couple weeks. We have been trying to get her side of the story heard because you are right, the partners of the trans individuals are put through hell all in the name of the happiness of the self centered trans person. It happened to my wife, and we are seeing the tragedy occurring to so many other spouses and partners. We are actually creating a program right now to support the partners of trans individuals because she and I have experienced this in such a way that we see a huge need to support those who feel forgotten as their partners are going through their identity crisis. ❤️❤️❤️
This is medical and professional abuse. He had a life-changing, non-essential, and irreversible operation, where he lost essential body parts. This should be a crime.
I feel horrible for anyone who is going through this or who has gone through this. Teens today have so many resources to get help more than we ever did when I was growing up yet they are more lost than ever? I pray anyone going through this finds peace.
You should see and hear some of this help but not all. It takes awhile sometimes to find good help.folks some don't know that and trust first wack job that smiles at them
It is odd to me how jazz’s mom went along with jazz wanting to be a girl young making her life carefree yet after jazz got bottom surgery she turned into a bossy monster if she wasn’t one already. All of a sudden she’s getting “tough love”. This is all a really tough subject. The medical field struggles to navigate this in a way that helps people.
individuals can grow to be the unique men and women without the medical intervention.
I remember a time when guys would cringe just at the thought of getting kicked on the balls. What the fk happened?
I really like how well you know when to ask the questions and when to just listen and allow the person you are interviewing to just speak. You manage to find some very well spoken people, and people who just went through some utter horror in life, who by all means should not need to explain themselves to anyone who likely would never appear on other channels who do similar interviews. And you speak to these people in such an easy and understanding way. No overbearing loud voice, no trying to force any topics for any reason, and being truly respectful to the emotions, feelings and experiences of the people who are finally willing to actually speak about these things to a large audience. That takes some real courage from these people to do. Keep doing these interviews Sasha. And if I ever hear another person online trying to call you a 'transphobe' or 'homophobe' I will be sure to put them in their place and point out their hypocrisy.
This is so sweet, thank you. 🙏🥰 I appreciate it, and I’m glad you’re here
The surgeons are not allowed to question the “realness” of transgender thoughts and feelings. It is a crime to suggest that a persons trans feeling are a mental health condition. The surgeons are being forced by trans activists lawyers to do what the patient asks of them. Who are they to question your feelings? They are no longer allowed to say “No” to a request for surgery as far as they see it. They dont want the patient to feel “unheard”. perhaps patients need to be less judgmental, and kinder to those surgeons who are simply doing what you ask of them. Try being less judgmental.
The surgeons are responsible for what they do.
If they are being told by their profession that they must act immorally, they need to question their profession or they are complicit.
No, surgeons specialise. Nobody is forced to perform this kind of mutilation.
Doctors should not do only what you ask them to, they should be objective. Healthy organs should not be destroyed because of feelings. And the fact that some countries push doctors to do these despicable procedures is a testimony to their distorted political regime, which is by no means democratic, but even Nazi soldiers couldn't absolve themselves of responsibility using that exact excuse during the Nürnberg trials.
won't somebody help the poor surgeons!
@@dragonmummy1 Yep. People seem to forget that surgeon is right up there with most popular and suitable jobs for those with pschopathic/sociopathic pesonalities. Lack of empathy and willingness to harm others, especially for profit, goes hand in hand with those traits. Those poor surgeons are not the real victims in this scenario!
Thank you for sharing your experience, Alexander. So we can learn from that. May you always be healthy and happy. Thank you also, Sasha, for having him in your podcast.
Thank you Alexander for so honestly talking about this very painful experience of your life!!
Its such an important conversation to share with the world, as people are mostly discouraged from asking questions, and just told to accept. Dialog is crucially important as you point out to us. Thank you! You are providing a Massive worldwide ministry by sharing your experience, and Surely, you are helpimg Countless others! God Bless you ❤
"We are able to manipulate that...".(1:03:30)... Yes, but we shouldn't. All the best to you, Alexander! Thanks so much for your sincerity.
I had a conservative Catholic up bringing. Starting over 60 years ago. Not once have i ever thought of changing my sex. I am still Catholic and conservative. Your problem is deeper inside you. Being bullied is horrible. It changes the life of a child in the worst way possible. They were terrible to you. Teachers should of stood up for you. I hope you find acceptance Best of luck to you. It is better for a parent to pull the child out of the school and go to a new school.
It was the children your age that caused you such pain. You needed a hero. Im sorry you didn't have one.
That smile @4:55
And great vid. I think it's important to remember that even when they seem totally convinced, some really need a level-headed ear to listen and let them process. Alexander talks about not wanting to do it and I wonder if there were people that could have helped him. Sometimes we're so worried about how it will look to change our opinion. Heartbreaking.
I admire Alexander for the honesty and insight. The part about not liking your body and the last bit about being suicidal vs just getting your brain to shutdown resonated with me so much of what I went through in my teens. I hope you continue to be a voice for others. ❤
My heart is breaking listening to this beautifull young man’s horrifying story😥… all the people who assisted in this absolute horrendous surgery, from referral to surgeon must be brought to account!!! He was failed at every turn…
Such courage and honesty ….. this will definitely make a difference to others who are even contemplating this irreversible life changing horror…. Thank you Alexander , you are amazing….
A person talking to young people and children about gender and sexuality only has nefarious intentions towards young people and children. Doctors should go through the surgeries first .
This is so horrible. I'm so sorry this was allowed to happen to him. 😢
Yet again…we find absent, silent parents. There are so many indications of confusion in his thought process, his parents would have noticed and tried to help. It sounds like he was alone from 13 on.
What happened to "First do no harm"
Good questions. Thank you for this thoughtful insight and frank honesty.
I had no idea it was so hard to get mental health treatment in Norway. It's supposed to be the perfect advanced country, and everyone is supposed to follow their model. I find that really scary.
In every system, there will unfortunately be people left behind.
What a shame that this young man was not happy with himself and put himself through such torture
He doesn't look or sound too effeminate Infact he is very attractive
Body parts are there for a reason and the body a complex and amazing system which should not be messed with
Definately there should be more councelling and exposure to case studies such as his to make these drastic alternatives less attractive and the possible negative repercussions known before it is irreversible
There is a lot to be said about being healthy and functional None of us I am sure are completely happy with what we are dealt but the old sayings be careful what you wish for and things could be a lot worse come to mind
1:25:04
Imagine the horror of looking at fake v....
Butchery is what it is! The fake P is something else also 😢
Praying for everyone caught up in this. 😢 Terrifying.
Thanks to both of you for the interviews.
After all that trauma he still ends with the delusion that a day could come when people can change sex!?!
Disregarding the future progress in medicine and technology is the sign of limitations of our times. As a transhumanist i like to think ahead. Trauma has nothing to do with that.
@alexanderl9721
This, too, is delusional thinking. You have to change a person’s chromosomes/dna in order to change their gender. Changing chromosomes/dna would make you an entirely different person. It’s not possible to remain you. YOU would seize to exist. A new person would REPLACE you. Remember, you would have to get the opposite chromosomes/dna from somewhere. They won’t come from you, they’ll be donor. But, they won’t be you at that point.
You cannot change a fish into a bird. Only God can do that and you are a humanist. Therefore, not possible. Not even in the future.
@@elizabethtovar3603There is no concluding evidence that the continuity of one's conscious identity is tied to one's DNA. It is a phenomenal process kickstarted once the brain starts to produce the electromagnetic discharge current. Post-natal changes on a chromosomal level won't necessarily disrupt the conscious experience. We are more than our DNA. Besides, post-natal gene therapy is already happening. We are able to replace parts of our dna without damaging the whole structure. If everyone thought "only god can do this" no progress would ever be made. A more interesting question to ask is whether chromosomal changes would in any way relieve the patient from the dysphoria. Hardly anyone feels dysphoria towards their chromosomes since we are so removed from them on a personal level.
@@alexanderl9721 you are seeking to be your own God, but you only will find yourself sorely disappointed. We will never be able to create, all we can do is mimic; and we don’t even do that well. If you truly love science, you first have to respect its limitations; and being intellectually honest with our place in the cosmos is where you must start.
@@chilltartsExactly. And I'd add that people are seeking to fill a God-sized hole in their soul. Jesus is the deepest longest of every human heart, whether they've come to realize it or not. And Jesus is a person, not a religion. He loves us.
Such an important interview and very important not to leave out all the details like going poop and pee because we all do it and you don’t want to mess with it or your hormones unless you are in a life or death situation. This young man is a bright light and I really liked him and pray the best for his bright future. I pray he gives his life to Jesus because as Christians we all get a new body in Heaven as they all wear out anyway. Read your Bible and know God❤
Biologically impossible
I am sorry about Alexander's experience; much of it was self-imduced as he was persistent in his belief in front if evert practitioner he met; he didn't listen to his own intuitive self-talk, if he had he would have been truthful and disclosed his inner turmoil, hesitency, and significant self-doubt. Agsin, I am very sorry, especially regarding the psychological outcome and that of the surgery.
To always jump at opportunity to blame the practitioner is deceptive, as choice is the option allowed to client
To say that money is always at the root of this is not entirely tru, if it was the therapists and Psychologists would have convinced him to continue therapy for as long as possible; they don't make money on clients they no longer have. With the amount of information available and the ease in which research will provide answers these days, makes it almost an assumption, that people are well informed, especially in relation to something so serioue as altering one's body.
It was fairly difficult to find honest research and outcome testimonies in the 1990's and early to late 2000's when I transitioned, but not impossible.
I too had surgery done in Bangkok, probably the same place? It doesn't sound like it though from his story. Where I went the nursing staff were outstanding in their care and compassion, the surgeon too extended that same ethos; the hospital experience was professional, and I was not discharged before I could prove my bladder-urinary tract functioned normally; I was, per facility recommendation, there for one month so as to allow for regular checkups. Post-Surgery, for me, was uncomplicated and with marginal, non-critical pain.
I just want you audience to know, Alexander's story is not everyone's story. I benefitted, Alexander didn't; but that was evident at nearly the beginning of his journey, as he admits now, and very late. His is a valuable lesson for those who are thinking, of a certainty, that they are suffering from Gender Dysphoria rather than Gender Dysmorphia and maybe some degree of Autogynophelia.
This is a very worthwhile interview, but again, I hope you and your audience don't think that all transitions are equal and that some actually benefit, psychologically, from the transition. Is it an absolute cure? No. But it is another step in one's life toward self-improvement, for a very small number of people.
Thank You Both
First and foremost, I'm happy to hear he's doing well but I'm a little disturbed at his thought that penetration is overrated. I realize the pain and suffering he's been through and like he has said in the video he doesn't like to be touched down there so I can understand his thoughts on that subject. But, with that said his partners may not agree with a non-penetrating lifestyle as he may be experiencing with that pushback. It's going to take years of healing emotionally and physically from what he's been through, and I wish him all the best.
Hi. Yeah, you're right. Partners will not always agree with that lifestyle. The key is finding someone who is ok with that (not everyone likes or saves penetrative, whether giving or reciving) or even better, finding someone who's OK with getting their intimate needs met elsewhere. I'm not monogamous so it's not an issue to me.
Well, he's a gay man, only one needs to do penetrating and it doesn't have to be him, pretty sure he's saying that he's the one who prefers to not do the penetrating anyways, but would anyways be on the receiving end
thanks for being so vulnerable
Wow, he looks young. Lucky him fr. Anyway, I really hope you will have a very happy and long life
@Alexanderl9721 deepest thanks and respect for sharing your story. Sunk cost as a motivator for surgery is my biggest fear for my son. He is very efficient and doesn't want to make mistakes, he doesn't want 'do-overs' and he absolutely doesn't want his parents to know he changed course. I'm coming to grips with the fact that he could be on a train that will not stop until it gets to the surgery station. My only hope now is that Canadian doctors are listening to international gender news - Cass is certainly not being covered in Canada.
@TheSashaWhite, I don't know what it is about your demeanour and interview style, but I feel calm when you're at the helm. Thanks for another good installment.
Thank you so much. and I hope your son can see a different perspective. That sounds so stressful, I’m so sorry you are going through that 💔
@@SashaWhiteInterviews Thank you - I appreciate your comment!
Send this interview's link to him 🙏
This is so sad! But how brave of him for being so open with his story
Bottom surgery doesn't always work. So, why endure it in the first place?
It's only cosmetic surgery. Noone who has Transgender Surgery can have normal Sex. It makes them all Sexually Dysfunctional. Noone can orgasm and it also Sterilizes all of them and makes them so they can never ever have their own biological Children. It's the worst thing they can do to anyone. Take away their Sex life and take away their ability to have Children. It's cosmetic deformation Surgery.
More cases like this should come out.
Doctors and so are selling this idea to young people to make money. You are brave, please keep telling your experience.
Polish society tends to hold conservative views about issues dealing with LGBT rights. A majority of the Polish population is affiliated with the Catholic Church, and as such, public perception and acceptance of the LGBT community are strongly influenced by Catholic moral doctrine.
If Alexander had had the chance to live as a supported gay man he wouldn't have had to live through this nightmare..
His story breaks my heart 😢
That's a huge leap. He turned trans in his own country, Poland, with others' professional and financial help. And his thinking and behavior doesn't follow. He masturbated 12hrs a day, yet he claims he was influenced by Catholicism (rather than porn?), you claim everyone I'm Poland is homophobic, yet he gets money for these procedures and dates men up until he comes to Norway. He claims Poland made him trans, but they were against gays. Ridiculous.
@@bornbranded29I wasn't influenced by porn at all. I didn't watch it or like it. Catholicism insyilled guilt towards myself and sexuality. I didn't date men when i lived in Poland. Dating was never on my mind back then.
I hate bullies, they are the reason why I’m dealing with dysphoria now.
So tragic
His choice.
As soon as medical transitions starts, the money stays pouring in, often for decades. How is it possible none of these patients have realized WHY they are pushed so hard to transition by the medical establishment? Hospitals are a BUSINESS. They are ran by administrators, not doctors.
A typical bottom surgery for female to male costs 500K plus, due to all of the complications post surgery. It’s not uncommon for one phalloplasty to bring in 1 million dollars in the 3 years post surgery.
The surgeons are getting PAID. They are buying yachts by sterilizing you for life. Elective surgery is the best surgery. Everyone gets rich. The money is astronomical.
The biggest pushers for these medical interventions are large corporate hospital administrators. That alone should be a red flag.
The entire system is taking advantage of vulnerable young people with obvious mental health issues, and using politics as a means of avoiding responsibility or repercussions for their evil.
The social contagion part IS important. Even though he had dysphoria the internet absolutely plays a role in encouragement and the idea of acceptance. The need to accept his own self instead of erase himself to become something else needed to be discussed with a therapist (not an affirming one) and he already admits he had made up his mind and didnt want his mind to be changed despite it being very detrimental. I do agree itnisnt ONLY the internet of course, I dont agree that it isnt a factor for the many who weren't gender dysphoric before they determined they want to be called *trans*...really interesting experience to hear, thank you for speaking about it.
You are an excellent interviewer, you were actually listening, and didnt interrupt. Excellent interviewee, as well, they were able to explain their thoughts and feelings very clearly in a way that was easy to explain. All the best to you both.
Going to the emergency room in Norway is a two step process, you usually have to go to two places, and it's a nightmare that takes hours, even if you are really sick. I don't blame him, on top of all the other issues he stated.
Same in Australia. The wait time is six hours. If you're dying or seriously injured, you get prioritised but when I broke my ankle, I had to wait six hours to be seen by a doctor. I then was sent to X-ray and waited another hour and then was sent to get a cast and that took another hour and a half. It was a long and painful day. But it was all free.
@@TopHatNatI fell and broke my humerus a few months ago in the US. I was in too much pain to get to the car so my husband called an ambulance. It was a 7 minute ambulance ride and I declined meds so basically they chatted with me on the drive. My portion of the ambulance bill after insurance was $1,000 USD. Spent 9 hours in the ER too.
@@TopHatNat That's not great, but it'll do. I mean in Norway you have to go to the Legevakt, then you go to the hospital, and they're usually on opposite sides of town.
I have watched A LOT of detransioner videos - I beg to differ when it comes to the internet. I'd say that 99% of them said that social media and assorted websites led them down the surgical path.