They Almost always come back, but when that happens you almost always don't want them anymore. Here's what I've learned from lived experience and you should adopt this into your recovery if you want to heal and improve. If you're not comfortable and secure being single, you will never be comfortable and secure in a relationship. Work on that and the right person will just come.
My breakup was was a long term marriage. He went back to his ex-wife, the one he has kids with. It all happened so fast, abruptly for me. I’m still in shock, but this time we’ve been no contact; I understand that this on his side was a process. He had been planning this months ahead. And he quickly did all the process of divorce. We are officially divorced now and he is with his ex wife again. Now, I’m the ex. I don’t understand how because she was that one that treated him the worst. Over the phone she would always humiliate him, cuss him out, and even left him as a single dad with two little girls for another man. And now they are back together? Yes, we had issues, especially because of his first wife, but we were in process to become a better couple. 7 year itch. Like you said, that’s out of my control and maybe this is a gift. 😌
It’s a reflection of him, not you. If he’s prepared to go back to a toxic ex, what does that say about him? What if this was a gift it leads you to a man way better than he was?
I asked him a question. Are you playing around? He siad, I'll keep quiet on this question because if I say NO so you want to be with me again & if I say "YES" so you'll ask me questions and I don't want that to be happen again.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick yes I know I suffered terribly for 3.5 months gave her the breakup no begging no pleading and absolutely zero contact and because of that i realized that I don't want her back and its best to leave that relationship in the past and move forward with only gratitude towards her and best wishes
Nick....one question please: She tells me that we are over. She breaks up. But she wants to leave a bunch of pillows and blankets and shit of hers in my house. Why /??
Hey Nick just wanted to say I really appreciate you. This helps so much. I was wondering if you wouldn't mind clarifying something I'm confused about. In the process of divorce and my ex wife and I hadn't talked in about 7 months. She recently reached out to my Aunt wondering how I was doing and that she worries about me and our kids miss me. A couple days after she asked my Aunt if we could agree on a court date for the divorce I'm assuming. What do you think? This behavior is confusing.
I’m sorry to hear you’re going through a rough time buddy. I try not to encourage mind reading in breakups, but to validate you a little, it probably means she’s a little curious and is concerned about your well being. I don’t want you to assign any meaning to it. She’s probably just being a good person. Unless they reach out asking to reconcile, always assume anything less means nothing. I hope you feel better buddy.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks brotha I appreciate it. I can't help but get my hopes high sometimes when it means nothing. Especially given the fact that our split was horrible and she took things the worst route possible. I feel like she still cares and I hope that's enough to get her back. Thank you again.
Look at it this way. Would you take her back if she doesn’t do the work on herself? Let’s say she comes back and she’s done zero improvement, would you want to go back to that?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick that's a good point. Honestly probably not but I've made a lot of mistakes and have been improving myself to show I've changed since I was technically the one who ruined it. Hopefully she has been doing the work too. I haven't really had a problem letting go of an ex but for some reason I can't seem to shake her. Having children involved makes it harder I guess.
Improving yourself is a great start, but the intention must be that you’re doing it for yourself, not to get an ex back. It’s okay to feel how you feel buddy. Try and to embrace it. What if this was a gift? What if this was the best thing that ever happened that leads to an even better woman?
You asked the same question on a different video. My advice is to no worry about what your ex is doing. I know thats all you can focus on and thats okay, but my friend it will keep you stuck for a very long time.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick crazy how a human you care about so much can make you behave so irrational and make you behave as am I; I try not to blame myself after 11 years of being together as it’s only natural to feel such an intense loss. I would say I’m in a far better place than the start and I understand it only goes this direction but one can’t stop deep down hoping their person will return
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They Almost always come back, but when that happens you almost always don't want them anymore. Here's what I've learned from lived experience and you should adopt this into your recovery if you want to heal and improve.
If you're not comfortable and secure being single, you will never be comfortable and secure in a relationship. Work on that and the right person will just come.
My breakup was was a long term marriage. He went back to his ex-wife, the one he has kids with. It all happened so fast, abruptly for me. I’m still in shock, but this time we’ve been no contact; I understand that this on his side was a process. He had been planning this months ahead. And he quickly did all the process of divorce. We are officially divorced now and he is with his ex wife again. Now, I’m the ex.
I don’t understand how because she was that one that treated him the worst. Over the phone she would always humiliate him, cuss him out, and even left him as a single dad with two little girls for another man. And now they are back together?
Yes, we had issues, especially because of his first wife, but we were in process to become a better couple. 7 year itch. Like you said, that’s out of my control and maybe this is a gift. 😌
It’s a reflection of him, not you. If he’s prepared to go back to a toxic ex, what does that say about him?
What if this was a gift it leads you to a man way better than he was?
Tnx nick, your videos help me to get through the day, the roller coaster emotions is killing me. I hope it get better soon,.
I am sorry to hear you’re in pain Hanabi. I promise it gets better over time. Use this time to get you back.
Nick I really do love your videos and they really do help me and others . Be blessed and safe . Miss . Linda ❤😊❤
Appreciate it Linda, I hope you’re well. 😊
I asked him a question. Are you playing around? He siad, I'll keep quiet on this question because if I say NO so you want to be with me again & if I say "YES" so you'll ask me questions and I don't want that to be happen again.
You must ignore him and focus on yourself!
Thanks, Nick. Out of curiosity, do you know anything about your ex? where is she at? did she 'level up'?
No idea. I focussed on me. It’s a selfish process 😊
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Leave them in the past
Agreed but easier said than done for most people.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick yes I know I suffered terribly for 3.5 months gave her the breakup no begging no pleading and absolutely zero contact and because of that i realized that I don't want her back and its best to leave that relationship in the past and move forward with only gratitude towards her and best wishes
If she called right now to reconcile, what would you say?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I'd politely decline
Nick....one question please: She tells me that we are over. She breaks up. But she wants to leave a bunch of pillows and blankets and shit of hers in my house. Why /??
No idea buddy. Guilt, maybe?
Have you asked her why? Only she will know the answer.
Either way, the answer is no to her leaving stuff at your place.
I blew it...he won't come back
I’m sorry to hear that, Elizabeth. I hope you’re feeling better today.
Hey Nick just wanted to say I really appreciate you. This helps so much. I was wondering if you wouldn't mind clarifying something I'm confused about. In the process of divorce and my ex wife and I hadn't talked in about 7 months. She recently reached out to my Aunt wondering how I was doing and that she worries about me and our kids miss me. A couple days after she asked my Aunt if we could agree on a court date for the divorce I'm assuming. What do you think? This behavior is confusing.
I’m sorry to hear you’re going through a rough time buddy.
I try not to encourage mind reading in breakups, but to validate you a little, it probably means she’s a little curious and is concerned about your well being.
I don’t want you to assign any meaning to it. She’s probably just being a good person.
Unless they reach out asking to reconcile, always assume anything less means nothing.
I hope you feel better buddy.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks brotha I appreciate it. I can't help but get my hopes high sometimes when it means nothing. Especially given the fact that our split was horrible and she took things the worst route possible. I feel like she still cares and I hope that's enough to get her back. Thank you again.
Look at it this way. Would you take her back if she doesn’t do the work on herself?
Let’s say she comes back and she’s done zero improvement, would you want to go back to that?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick that's a good point. Honestly probably not but I've made a lot of mistakes and have been improving myself to show I've changed since I was technically the one who ruined it. Hopefully she has been doing the work too. I haven't really had a problem letting go of an ex but for some reason I can't seem to shake her. Having children involved makes it harder I guess.
Improving yourself is a great start, but the intention must be that you’re doing it for yourself, not to get an ex back.
It’s okay to feel how you feel buddy. Try and to embrace it.
What if this was a gift? What if this was the best thing that ever happened that leads to an even better woman?
Does this count if she’s blocked me ??
You asked the same question on a different video. My advice is to no worry about what your ex is doing. I know thats all you can focus on and thats okay, but my friend it will keep you stuck for a very long time.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick crazy how a human you care about so much can make you behave so irrational and make you behave as am I; I try not to blame myself after 11 years of being together as it’s only natural to feel such an intense loss. I would say I’m in a far better place than the start and I understand it only goes this direction but one can’t stop deep down hoping their person will return
No one can make you behave in any way of way, buddy. You’re in control over how you respond to a situation. Don’t waste that power, harness it.