These videos will always be needed. Don't care how many times we've read the book, every so often it's good to have the reminders and the reality checks.
Yeah, the emotional attachment and bond that we had with the ex can really fuck up our rational judgement and remembering the problems that were there before the break up. It actually makes us very insecure and doesn't serve us anymore, if it ever did.
Really sad life has to be like this. As a man I just want a ride or die woman by my side and a family. I’m at an all time low right now because of a breakup who I thought was my soul mate. I can’t even tell you the pain I’m in right now. It’s like someone very very close to me died and I want to do the same. I get blacked out drunk to numb the pain and it makes my life even worse. Wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.
Been separated from my ex for 3 months now, no contact , I miss her and think about her everyday , but she showed me the type of person she really is and its the complete opposite of the woman I fell in love with 8 years ago. She chose to end the relationship cause she "lost her feelings for me" , the old me of 2 years ago would of begged and pleaded for her to take me back but not now, she used me for my money and resources and that's emotional theft as far as I'm concerned, you need to rid yourself of toxic poisonous people from your life and move on and concentrate on improving yourself and making bank, everything else will fall into place
Hang in there. I was right where you are. I promise you it gets better and you can hold me to that promise. So many blessings are going to come out of this. Just know it's a natural reaction and you aren't lost or done for. It feels far off but chances are your best days are still ahead of you. Yes, even better than with her. You've got this.
Don't try and run away from the pain. Face the pain and feel it, relax and even enjoy it. You will be stunned by what happens if you do this. Trust me on this
I went through a similar thing. I needed to go through the experience in order to become a real man and get rid of my neediness. Everything happens for a reason. This pain is good for you
Corey must be a wizard, been thinking of my ex lately even though we broke up a year ago. Enjoy the good memories and keep moving forward on to better things!
Ex broke up with me because I communicated my need/boundary of fair treatment. At that moment I was a student for a few years and was living a life my childhood self dreamed of so I can say I definitely knew what I was both capable of and worth. She responded by acting much worse until one day she was "unsure" about us. She was unsure about me. Being the man I am due to Corey's work and how it led me to show up as a partner I let her walk. What I told her was 'If you're unsure about me after everything I've done then unfortunately I have nothing else for you to see accept the door" Life has been even more amazing from then because her being gone gave me that much more energy to focus on my dreams, my passions and my happiness. How much more amazing you may ask? I just completed my first solo vacation to Chicago, met amazing new people, got promoted in Jujitsu and have an appointment for headshots as I'm getting into the Freelance market and pursuing my dream of being a standup comedian
I've been here for two years now. Corey has helped me tremendously. The biggest thing I've learned? Always work on your own self. You will develop a higher level of self value, higher self esteem, and your productivity will 10X. You will attract higher value people into your life. When the old ex comes back around, trust me, you'll see her with a different perspective. Alpha men don't "need" a woman. We'd like to choose a great one to compliment our lives. When you value yourself as the prize, you will not tolerate BS in any form.
was in awe of this girl (before I read 3% man) and when things fell apart from me over pursuing I started to level up. Just last week, after 3 months no contact she messaged me to ask if we could meet up and was thinking about giving us another go. During the 3 months i realised how not into her I was and the new found energy and focus in my life led me to tell her I'd prefer if we just stayed distant friends. Felt incredibly weird that not long ago I would've done anything to see her/impress her/validate her. Mindset is key to all of this
You want someone who's excited to be with you. Not someone who needs 3 months to decide if maaaaybe she'll give it a go. If we're going to commit ourselves to any one person, it makes sense if you're self-respecting to pick someone who recognizes your value and doesn't put your in the maybe category. Good call.
Good for you man, it's a shame some people really don't recognize what they have until it's gone. I've had exs reach out to me after weeks, months and even years. Take your situation as a huge compliment.
I have a very clear policy with exes. Once she’s an ex, she stops existing in my life. I cut off any means of communication etc b/c you can’t carry that baggage into your next relationship. Never ever taken an ex back. Sure, I’m not as trusting of women as I used to be, but I have way better relationships by keeping exes completely out of the picture.
Same, just the inverse (I'm a woman). I'm not chasing after any man. I got my own life to live and goals/dreams, friends, family, etc independent of any relationship that I'll happily focus on instead.
Don't break it. Ever. Trust me.. trust me. You'll thank yourself later when you've shed the desperation and you're back to focusing on yourself that you didn't break and lower your value. Just know if she doesn't come back around to you there is 100% better out there. You don't need closure from them. It's a trick of your mind, because the ego fights to resist change so it makes up this excuse to go back. But nothing they'll say will fill that "need". It never goes the way you imagine in your mind. You won't be welcomed back and they won't be warm or kind. Grant it to yourself. Become the person they'll kick themselves that they gave up on. That's the best "revenge", always.
It’s incredible how you stop caring, once you learn how to live without someone certain. Like all the ‘principles of getting an ex back’ come naturally.
8:30 - 8:50 this is something every man needs to hear but most importantly understand. many guys (myself included) will question why a woman comes back for a brief moment then drifts away again & they can’t help but think they’ve done something again to turn her off
It starts with a "toe dip" out of curiosity. If you don't jump their bones and play it cool then they'll come around with progressively stronger initiations. The problem is most guys don't have the patience to let that take its natural course and will puke their residual desire all over the woman. And whoosh, she vanishes after getting that ego stroke. If she knows she can have you at the drop of a hat after a period of time away it makes her feel assured, but not want you.
If a woman breaks up with you and you meet her sometime later on her terms, it communicates a lot about you as a man in her eyes. Like the Coach says here, if she wants to meet post breakup, it should be on your terms in your own place. No coffee dates, no lunch, no taking her out, etc. Besides, if you meet her on her terms, she’ll probably bring one of her knucklehead friends with her. That will just frustrate you.
haha fucking knucklehead batting eye azz friend who will have the attitude of "when are we leaving" "can we go soon" ...they dont value shit & get there friend to leave sooner.
Well said and true. Had a girl who was planning to come over to my place, she was late and ended up calling me to say she was on her way and also that she was now bringing her sister and little nephew along. go figure.
Very true, I remember i was been in a committed relationship for 5 years , towards the end of our relationship she didnt make any effort to see me , she always has an excuse not to see me , but she was whiling to have a week off from work to spend a time with her new guy ! When i found out It was painful.
I have a couple people I dated formerly that continue to follow me pretty religiously. They don't reach out but they keep tabs. Women don't do that for no reason. They want to see how you're advancing in life & with other women and if you'll return the favour still. I don't hang my hopes on them and I don't reach out for any reason still. If their current guys slip up and they want to come back around it has to be their choice. And they have to initiate, at least to start. I'm glad I learned that lesson. Younger me would jump at their likes or views and take it as a "sign". Nope. Move on and let them make amends for taking off before. Always. And that means if they ask about your cat/dog/family with an innocuous approach you don't jump straight to I miss yous and let's get back together. Compose yourself with dignity and self respect.
Corey Wayne is one of the best in this space. 3% MAN changed my life. Read it over 15 times. We are a constant project and should be. Keep bettering yourself and being the MAN you were born to be!
I had this problem In a past relationship I was too attached when I finally left I I started with my mission and purpose first that’s how I got over her
So get this, I am 46-year-old man and my ex-girlfriend was 19 years old, when we first started dating, I was not serious, thinking this will never work out so I’m just going to milk it for as long as I can however, I ended up falling in love with her, and I believe God was messing with me when he just gave me this (what i would believe to be) the perfect woman With everything I’ve ever dreamed of or imagine to have except the fact that she was 27 years younger than me and a horrible person. But now that we’ve been apart for nearly 6 weeks I miss her like crazy and I cannot stop thinking about her. Im infatuated. I know everything is wrong about this, I know we will never get back together, I know this will never work, but still doesn’t stop me from missing her and thinking about her nonstop. I am fairly wealthy and I have offered this woman everything and she turned it all down. 😢
Min 8:50 - 9:45 sounds corny but encouraging that the Coach is letting us know this type of thing happens. Not saying they deserve to be rejected or anything but just that they always remember you.
Man that's a fucking long time max 6 months and the feelings should fade. You must stop stalking her Instagram and whom she hangs out with. Or it could be your whole life
@@CstWstFllwer Man I am not trying to be rude I know sometimes heart break hurts real bad but dwelling on things not under our control is sure shot way of miserable life. 6 years is too much time waste
@@gagadonim3354 i agree 6yrs a long time to wain over something no longer there, but 6months u cant get over it. its too fresh. im going on about 2yrs since ive seen my ex and im still upset and like not believing i could get into something like the way that made me initially feel in the beginning again. i was a young man of 32 when i met her she was 39 now im about 37 and shes 44. she was a sexy grown ass woman and i thought it was so hot a woman her age would call me baby and say i love u, it made me feel like a real man, but she was also full of manipulation, deceit, drug use and pulling my heart out after i invested my emotions in her for what i thought was the real deal. its hard to get over and onward. Not every1 has an upstanding career to woon these women with there money and i know its all about who u are in your heart & mind but women are not simple creature's and not easy to please. with the economic opportunity being a small window i feel it create's a small window of opportunity with quality women and thats upsetting. so i stay blowing kush when i can
Totally agree. My story is I made all efforts to reach out to a girl. She didn’t reciprocate. She texted me, but that’s it. We met online. Eventually we flirted for a long time. I offered to visit her. I did. She was hot and cold, more cold that hot jajaja. Anyway, when I opened myself and told her I was interested in something serious with her. She went - I sometimes forget how I can influence other people. Nothing else. I made very clear why I liked her. After that, we had an argument, nothing serious. Haven’t talk since then. I have to accept she is not interested, although in this case I assume she is a player.
They don’t believe they are worthy. Therefore they chase those who don’t reciprocate. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy. People act consistent with how they view themselves to be, it doesn’t matter if the view is accurate or not.
@@CoachCoreyWayne True. I've read your book 28 times already and applied and still do apply to things that you teach. I date here and there because I'm a very busy person with my business but now I know what to do and how to do it... thanks to your book and you're great advice
Thanks Corey. I wish I found this video earlier.I was confused about what no contact meant if I happened to run into my ex. I talked to her in public and she was cold to me. Next time I see her I will ignore her. I wish I found this earlier so I could preserve my dignity. You are the best, thanks for all the work.
Man, I really wish I would have read your book and seen this video three years ago - i made ALL the mistakes. I simply didn't know. I am no longer the boy I used to be, and that's a good thing.
I’m 6 years sober and in deep love with a woman who is an alcoholic and has mental illness. I have seen the beautiful side of her, but the grasp of addiction and all the behaviors that come along with that have robbed me of her. It’s so painful to see alcohol destroying the life of someone you love. The mental health issues and her trauma can’t be addressed until she gets sober. It hurts so bad but I have to let her go
trust me my ex that left me in 2020 was/is a meth addict. i saw the beautiful side of her too, but it was alot more ugly but i held onto the great times we had in my head so my falling in love aspect about us is still inside me & I havent seen this woman since 2020 and she was abusive. I bet people wouldn't believe what she did to me if i told them but yet i guess i tried to forgive her time & time again which enabled her & taught her to keep treading on me. Its a fine line with these women. "real men dont leave there woman's side", but yet "you know when you need to get out". If you forgive the woman for her continuous faults like i said it teaches them that you will keep taking it & they can walk on you but again "a real man doesnt leave his woman's side" so its this sick revolving door of getting fucked over & putting up with it until she finally pulls a stint so wild u are an hour late to work when she wants u to get mcdonalds at 8:30am when u have a double shift that day and have to be at work 30mins away to start at 11am and still havent shit or showered, brushed your teeth or done anything. Trust me i know. She was 42 when i last saw her & i had just turned 35 a few months earlier
After 5 years of not hearing my ex she wrote me after she broke up, provided her emotional support for a week than she disappeared again after I said I had intentions of working on rebuilding a relationship with her, old memories hit me hard this time around
@@Jerizon1481 I moved on in the sense I had other relationships, took care of my body the whole pack, but my thoughts often went back there and I don’t know why, thanks for the tough love tho
How reverent. I am mentally stuck too. We don't touch each other. We are roommates. She's a narcissist. I have done so much research on this. Why am I trying to please someone I can't for 14 years. I am the sick one
Hey Corey can you do something on covert narcissist women? I was involved with someone like that for 2.5 years and a lot of what you talk about in your book helped but it also left me blind to these women in combo with my codependent ways made it a disaster. Some of these women will keep coming back. Not sure if this one will after calling her out though.
Hi coach, so long story short we broke up about a month and a half ago after I called her names and made her feel bad for something. I was toxic and controlling for 4 long years and she had enough Did no contact for about three weeks and after we started connecting again, we started talking daily on social media, obviously, she is distant with me at times but sometimes she is okay. We also hang up a couple times and things looked like we could've made it work again, or we could've tried something else together and see where it can lead to. I've changed a lot and worked on myself and my attachment style and I've told her that a couple times and how much things will be different. I've begged and pleaded a couple times but I've calmed down a bit. A few days ago we hung out again and things were looking really good, she was really opening up to me, showing me her new friends and telling me she is still here and listening to me what I have to say but then a few days later she started being really distant again. Obviously by seeing that I started to be pushier and asked her about when can we see each other more often and why is she distant now. Because of me pushing her and trying too much she started to get angry and told me that she really does not want to get back together now, and maybe never, she told me that she knew nothing will happen and that is too bad we keep reaching out and talking every day because we are hurting each other in this way, she told me that I'm losing my time and that she needs to focus and work on herself and she needs to heal and she will only do that by being alone. She told me I haven't actually changed and only my words have changed but my intention is the same. She said that she is feeling she is getting back to the same vicious circle even if we are going to be something no label for now and she is not okay with this. She said that she was doing great and she was going in the right direction before we started talking again and now of course she got attached by talking on a daily basis. She said that she does not trust me and that she doesn't want to open her heart again to anyone and to stop trying with her. She said that she is hurting me as well because sometimes I will get some hopes and it's obvious that I will feel bad when she is distant. Eventually, she said she doesn't see any more hopes, not in the near future, not at all. We've also talked about it with a phone call after and she kind of said the same things. But we still talk on social, she still reaches out so that means we are still both emotionally attached. Today I told her I'm not pushing anything anymore and not forcing anything and if it's meant to be it will be, I also told her that I know I was a bit pushy lately, and maybe that's why she reacted like that the other night and that I hope she doesn't actually mean that. I told her I will give her space and time when she needs it and that I'm okay with how things are at the moment. And she told me okay that's good. So somehow I still have hope, but somehow she told me she doesn't want to get attached anymore, she kind of resents me, she didn't let go of the negative thoughts from the relationship yet and she is avoiding making plans or time for me to hang out with her and I think she will start to be really distant again until I will realize there's no hope and leave her alone. I don't want that, and going no contact again out of a sudden right now might not be a good thing. Some other coaches said that it's a good thing to be friends because I can connect with her more, I can focus on building that excitement and connection with her until she starts feeling okay around me and starts trusting me again. I'm kind of stuck because It's really critical this time and I don't know what to do. I want to make sure I'm choosing the right plan of action and work my way up one step at a time. I'm also not financially okay right now to go full-on buying skypes and phone calls with the coaches from here or anywhere else. I'm following you for a long time and I would really love some advice on this situation if possible. I will also start manifesting and using the law of attraction
You're bending over backwards for someone who doesn't want to share your program right now. She's still mopping up your attention, whilst giving you ZERO in return. Four years later she knows you're clearly still crazy about her so doesn't have to bother. Why would she? You're making yourself so available for her it's not a challenge (and I know that's tough to hear). Stop treating this girl like some sort of special princess. If I were you I'd cut her off indefinitely just so I could think straight and clear my head. That means on everything; calls, text and social media. Turn your attention elsewhere and she'll soon notice your absence. Give yourself a chance to heal from the things that hurt YOU in your relationship, cos I'll bet there's another side to the story. Stay strong chief
Thanks for sharing your experience mate! I think you did good, allowing her some space and showing you're strong enough to not display neediness is the best way to get her back in the long run, even if us as men we have very low patience... How have things evolved for the last 4 months? Hope everything is okay for you 🙏
Why is making dinner better than going out to grab a bite? Is it because you’re not public, is it because you’re not spending extra money, because making dinner takes effort too so not sure why dinner at home is better. The question directed at Corey but I doubt he’ll answer or see this so maybe the other guys can
I am in a very similar situation, with the exception that I took her for granted and broke up with her first. But when I tried to remedy things she would not take me back due to lack of trust. I have given her space for a couple months now, in my case, would it be my responsibility to reach out again or would it have to be her choice since in the end she made the decision not to continue? That is my big predicament at the moment.
Something similar happened to me. You must remind yourself of those feelings of complacency you had leading up to you breaking up with her. This shows that the reality is that you were not that into her. If you get her back you may have a honeymoon period but you will very soon go back into those feelings of complacency and being bored of her and taking her for granted. Something was missing in the relationship, otherwise you wouldn't have wanted to get rid of her in the first place. We tend to look at our exes that we are still missing with rose-coloured glasses, because we are craving that intimate bond we had with them, which makes sense, but it really distorts our ability to see the relationship objectively.
There's a woman who most likely friend zoned me and after she reached back after I did no contact, she flaked (I still hope reason was genuine) when I asked her out. Now, told to go no contact until she reached back and asks me out herself. Please tell me how can I convince her that I'm not here to be a friend? I'm having images of her where I'm in nasty situations in my sleep, thus, tearing me apart and making me jolt out of bed. We just went out on 2 dates and we've known each other for about a month
Do not try to convince or prove. Carry yourself like a person with options. Does James Bond try to convince women he's not just a friend? Be laid back. Let her initiate 100% of the time and follow what's in the book. Evening dates only. Don't act like her therapist. Be decisive and confident. Be humorous and light hearted. Dont bend your opinion to align with hers. Etc, etc.
@@davidj5425 thank you so much for this. I hear you, but, still trying to get over such massive emotional hurdle. It’s just that I’m 37 years old, never been married and don’t want to be alone any longer (of course, I still want to be with someone who I find attractive both inside and out).
@@JungleAl I feel u my friend. im in the same boat. im 36 about to be 37, '85 baby here. I know the feeling. Im there with u. keep the faith man. you'll probably have a better chance then i do because you probably come from a more simplified lifestyle. Im obsessed with impulsive shopping for streetwear and keep buying, but ill change my ways soon enough. I think u being a normal man on the basis that u dont spend all your money on dumb shit like i do probably has a better chance of welcoming a woman. Once I adjust my own life ill give chance to a better opportunity myself. I actually have this thought of not giving a shit anymore and whatever comes comes. I used to be on dating website's years ago before my ex and i met in 2018, but I havent been on since. I may consider again, but for now im still buying :) anyways best of luck, much love.
@@CstWstFllwer thank you so much for reaching out. Actually, I’m not in a great financial place either, but, even though I’m a sneaker head, I’m now in more control of my expenditures. Wish you all the best and pls reach out whenever you need to. Tc, Ala
Bro said don’t date structured woman cuz they are not authentic then read my book 15 times and follow all the rules to the T or no women will like you? Is this a contradiction or I’m blind
Morning coach I'm with complicated for 6yrs and now she says little over a year she wants to hangout and sex then after a awhile out of know where we gotta stop dragging it out and shes the one that comes back after a week or a month or 3 idk why and I can't tell if I'm amenabling her bad behavior right I'm just sticking around for sex until something better comes along
These videos will always be needed. Don't care how many times we've read the book, every so often it's good to have the reminders and the reality checks.
I agree!
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Yeah, the emotional attachment and bond that we had with the ex can really fuck up our rational judgement and remembering the problems that were there before the break up. It actually makes us very insecure and doesn't serve us anymore, if it ever did.
Really sad life has to be like this. As a man I just want a ride or die woman by my side and a family. I’m at an all time low right now because of a breakup who I thought was my soul mate. I can’t even tell you the pain I’m in right now. It’s like someone very very close to me died and I want to do the same. I get blacked out drunk to numb the pain and it makes my life even worse. Wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.
It will get better. Keep moving forward. We all go through this. Best of luck to you
Been separated from my ex for 3 months now, no contact , I miss her and think about her everyday , but she showed me the type of person she really is and its the complete opposite of the woman I fell in love with 8 years ago. She chose to end the relationship cause she "lost her feelings for me" , the old me of 2 years ago would of begged and pleaded for her to take me back but not now, she used me for my money and resources and that's emotional theft as far as I'm concerned, you need to rid yourself of toxic poisonous people from your life and move on and concentrate on improving yourself and making bank, everything else will fall into place
Hang in there. I was right where you are. I promise you it gets better and you can hold me to that promise. So many blessings are going to come out of this. Just know it's a natural reaction and you aren't lost or done for. It feels far off but chances are your best days are still ahead of you. Yes, even better than with her. You've got this.
Don't try and run away from the pain. Face the pain and feel it, relax and even enjoy it. You will be stunned by what happens if you do this. Trust me on this
I went through a similar thing. I needed to go through the experience in order to become a real man and get rid of my neediness. Everything happens for a reason. This pain is good for you
Corey must be a wizard, been thinking of my ex lately even though we broke up a year ago. Enjoy the good memories and keep moving forward on to better things!
Same here!! I've been smirking the whole video because I was seeing myself, lol.
I was thinking that to my self .. I wanted to watch the video to refresh and see how I react now that I love my self again .. it’s way different
Yeah been 7months with one girl and she just ghosted me after Christmas .
+1 thinking 'bout ex
if you don't mind me asking - why'd you break up and what have you learned since?
Ex broke up with me because I communicated my need/boundary of fair treatment. At that moment I was a student for a few years and was living a life my childhood self dreamed of so I can say I definitely knew what I was both capable of and worth. She responded by acting much worse until one day she was "unsure" about us. She was unsure about me. Being the man I am due to Corey's work and how it led me to show up as a partner I let her walk. What I told her was 'If you're unsure about me after everything I've done then unfortunately I have nothing else for you to see accept the door"
Life has been even more amazing from then because her being gone gave me that much more energy to focus on my dreams, my passions and my happiness. How much more amazing you may ask? I just completed my first solo vacation to Chicago, met amazing new people, got promoted in Jujitsu and have an appointment for headshots as I'm getting into the Freelance market and pursuing my dream of being a standup comedian
See ya at the Tempe Improv. Go for it. Bill Burr and Jimmy Dore.
Use your suffering for bringing down the house
thts wassup, bruh. keep pushin toward success. I'm proud of you 😎
I've been here for two years now. Corey has helped me tremendously. The biggest thing I've learned? Always work on your own self. You will develop a higher level of self value, higher self esteem, and your productivity will 10X. You will attract higher value people into your life. When the old ex comes back around, trust me, you'll see her with a different perspective. Alpha men don't "need" a woman. We'd like to choose a great one to compliment our lives. When you value yourself as the prize, you will not tolerate BS in any form.
was in awe of this girl (before I read 3% man) and when things fell apart from me over pursuing I started to level up. Just last week, after 3 months no contact she messaged me to ask if we could meet up and was thinking about giving us another go. During the 3 months i realised how not into her I was and the new found energy and focus in my life led me to tell her I'd prefer if we just stayed distant friends. Felt incredibly weird that not long ago I would've done anything to see her/impress her/validate her. Mindset is key to all of this
You want someone who's excited to be with you. Not someone who needs 3 months to decide if maaaaybe she'll give it a go. If we're going to commit ourselves to any one person, it makes sense if you're self-respecting to pick someone who recognizes your value and doesn't put your in the maybe category. Good call.
Proud of you man, know your worth!
Good for you man, it's a shame some people really don't recognize what they have until it's gone. I've had exs reach out to me after weeks, months and even years. Take your situation as a huge compliment.
John 9.25 ''whereas I was blind, now I can see.''
@@davidj5425 U A G FOR THIS coMMent & the original commenter is a G for his self truth
I have a very clear policy with exes. Once she’s an ex, she stops existing in my life. I cut off any means of communication etc b/c you can’t carry that baggage into your next relationship. Never ever taken an ex back. Sure, I’m not as trusting of women as I used to be, but I have way better relationships by keeping exes completely out of the picture.
Same, just the inverse (I'm a woman). I'm not chasing after any man. I got my own life to live and goals/dreams, friends, family, etc independent of any relationship that I'll happily focus on instead.
A guy I dated went back to his ex once she started taking her life "seriously." When she wasn't doing shit, he didn't want her.
Just what I needed -- I was on the verge of giving in to the temptation to break no-contact!
Stay strong brother!!
Don't break it. Ever. Trust me.. trust me. You'll thank yourself later when you've shed the desperation and you're back to focusing on yourself that you didn't break and lower your value. Just know if she doesn't come back around to you there is 100% better out there. You don't need closure from them. It's a trick of your mind, because the ego fights to resist change so it makes up this excuse to go back. But nothing they'll say will fill that "need". It never goes the way you imagine in your mind. You won't be welcomed back and they won't be warm or kind. Grant it to yourself. Become the person they'll kick themselves that they gave up on. That's the best "revenge", always.
@@davidj5425 She'll be back!
She back?
@@mustafuryal_jubair9821 Yep!
It’s incredible how you stop caring, once you learn how to live without someone certain. Like all the ‘principles of getting an ex back’ come naturally.
8:30 - 8:50 this is something every man needs to hear but most importantly understand. many guys (myself included) will question why a woman comes back for a brief moment then drifts away again & they can’t help but think they’ve done something again to turn her off
It starts with a "toe dip" out of curiosity. If you don't jump their bones and play it cool then they'll come around with progressively stronger initiations. The problem is most guys don't have the patience to let that take its natural course and will puke their residual desire all over the woman. And whoosh, she vanishes after getting that ego stroke. If she knows she can have you at the drop of a hat after a period of time away it makes her feel assured, but not want you.
Gym gym and gym , and date girls 20 years younger or 15 ! Hang out have fun hook up life is this simple
If a woman breaks up with you and you meet her sometime later on her terms, it communicates a lot about you as a man in her eyes. Like the Coach says here, if she wants to meet post breakup, it should be on your terms in your own place. No coffee dates, no lunch, no taking her out, etc.
Besides, if you meet her on her terms, she’ll probably bring one of her knucklehead friends with her. That will just frustrate you.
haha fucking knucklehead batting eye azz friend who will have the attitude of "when are we leaving" "can we go soon" ...they dont value shit & get there friend to leave sooner.
Well said and true. Had a girl who was planning to come over to my place, she was late and ended up calling me to say she was on her way and also that she was now bringing her sister and little nephew along. go figure.
I have actually held off on serious dating while I’ve been building my business. I still flirt, approach women and test my skills.
This is what I'm doing currently.
Very true, I remember i was been in a committed relationship for 5 years , towards the end of our relationship she didnt make any effort to see me , she always has an excuse not to see me , but she was whiling to have a week off from work to spend a time with her new guy ! When i found out It was painful.
Sorry bro.
I have a couple people I dated formerly that continue to follow me pretty religiously. They don't reach out but they keep tabs. Women don't do that for no reason. They want to see how you're advancing in life & with other women and if you'll return the favour still. I don't hang my hopes on them and I don't reach out for any reason still. If their current guys slip up and they want to come back around it has to be their choice. And they have to initiate, at least to start. I'm glad I learned that lesson. Younger me would jump at their likes or views and take it as a "sign". Nope. Move on and let them make amends for taking off before. Always. And that means if they ask about your cat/dog/family with an innocuous approach you don't jump straight to I miss yous and let's get back together. Compose yourself with dignity and self respect.
@@blair5475 they could have blocked you and then unblocked you on Instagram or something. Then you know something might be up
Underrated comment
These videos are always uploaded at the right time!
Read the book 10-15 times
Corey Wayne is one of the best in this space. 3% MAN changed my life. Read it over 15 times. We are a constant project and should be. Keep bettering yourself and being the MAN you were born to be!
I had this problem In a past relationship I was too attached when I finally left I I started with my mission and purpose first that’s how I got over her
After two and a half years she bounced and started dating an Instagram fitness coach two weeks later lol.
We've all been there. It's just something that youll get through over time.
Women should never be a priority. Secondary or tertiary consideration only. It is good to have multiple options.
the guy shouldn't be scared to go to social events alone. shit you might meet someone there. it happens when you least expect it
Right!
So get this, I am 46-year-old man and my ex-girlfriend was 19 years old, when we first started dating, I was not serious, thinking this will never work out so I’m just going to milk it for as long as I can however, I ended up falling in love with her, and I believe God was messing with me when he just gave me this (what i would believe to be) the perfect woman With everything I’ve ever dreamed of or imagine to have except the fact that she was 27 years younger than me and a horrible person. But now that we’ve been apart for nearly 6 weeks I miss her like crazy and I cannot stop thinking about her. Im infatuated. I know everything is wrong about this, I know we will never get back together, I know this will never work, but still doesn’t stop me from missing her and thinking about her nonstop. I am fairly wealthy and I have offered this woman everything and she turned it all down. 😢
Stay strong brothers.
I was fine and happy till I screwed up with a girl I really wanted, now broken and depressed.
Min 8:50 - 9:45 sounds corny but encouraging that the Coach is letting us know this type of thing happens. Not saying they deserve to be rejected or anything but just that they always remember you.
It's been 6 years Coach Corey Wayne. I still can't get over her... God help me.
Man that's a fucking long time max 6 months and the feelings should fade. You must stop stalking her Instagram and whom she hangs out with. Or it could be your whole life
Delete all pics, chats and remover her from social media so that there is no trace else u will always be reminded and never get over it
@@gagadonim3354 not 6 months man, be sensitive to this persons situation
@@CstWstFllwer Man I am not trying to be rude I know sometimes heart break hurts real bad but dwelling on things not under our control is sure shot way of miserable life. 6 years is too much time waste
@@gagadonim3354 i agree 6yrs a long time to wain over something no longer there, but 6months u cant get over it. its too fresh. im going on about 2yrs since ive seen my ex and im still upset and like not believing i could get into something like the way that made me initially feel in the beginning again. i was a young man of 32 when i met her she was 39 now im about 37 and shes 44. she was a sexy grown ass woman and i thought it was so hot a woman her age would call me baby and say i love u, it made me feel like a real man, but she was also full of manipulation, deceit, drug use and pulling my heart out after i invested my emotions in her for what i thought was the real deal. its hard to get over and onward. Not every1 has an upstanding career to woon these women with there money and i know its all about who u are in your heart & mind but women are not simple creature's and not easy to please. with the economic opportunity being a small window i feel it create's a small window of opportunity with quality women and thats upsetting. so i stay blowing kush when i can
Totally agree. My story is I made all efforts to reach out to a girl. She didn’t reciprocate. She texted me, but that’s it. We met online. Eventually we flirted for a long time. I offered to visit her. I did. She was hot and cold, more cold that hot jajaja. Anyway, when I opened myself and told her I was interested in something serious with her. She went - I sometimes forget how I can influence other people. Nothing else. I made very clear why I liked her. After that, we had an argument, nothing serious. Haven’t talk since then. I have to accept she is not interested, although in this case I assume she is a player.
Don't understand why people chase others who don't reciprocate back.
They don’t believe they are worthy. Therefore they chase those who don’t reciprocate. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy. People act consistent with how they view themselves to be, it doesn’t matter if the view is accurate or not.
@@CoachCoreyWayne True. I've read your book 28 times already and applied and still do apply to things that you teach. I date here and there because I'm a very busy person with my business but now I know what to do and how to do it... thanks to your book and you're great advice
Perfect timing for this video and topic! Thanks Coach!!
Thanks Corey. I wish I found this video earlier.I was confused about what no contact meant if I happened to run into my ex. I talked to her in public and she was cold to me. Next time I see her I will ignore her. I wish I found this earlier so I could preserve my dignity. You are the best, thanks for all the work.
Man, I really wish I would have read your book and seen this video three years ago - i made ALL the mistakes. I simply didn't know. I am no longer the boy I used to be, and that's a good thing.
Exactly(!) my situation since several months. Thx coach
I’m 6 years sober and in deep love with a woman who is an alcoholic and has mental illness. I have seen the beautiful side of her, but the grasp of addiction and all the behaviors that come along with that have robbed me of her. It’s so painful to see alcohol destroying the life of someone you love. The mental health issues and her trauma can’t be addressed until she gets sober. It hurts so bad but I have to let her go
Yes, I see that as the right choice, as sad as it sounds. Best of luck
Run!!
Don't save her, Let her save herself!
Yeah its not your job. She has to love herself and want to get better
trust me my ex that left me in 2020 was/is a meth addict. i saw the beautiful side of her too, but it was alot more ugly but i held onto the great times we had in my head so my falling in love aspect about us is still inside me & I havent seen this woman since 2020 and she was abusive. I bet people wouldn't believe what she did to me if i told them but yet i guess i tried to forgive her time & time again which enabled her & taught her to keep treading on me. Its a fine line with these women. "real men dont leave there woman's side", but yet "you know when you need to get out". If you forgive the woman for her continuous faults like i said it teaches them that you will keep taking it & they can walk on you but again "a real man doesnt leave his woman's side" so its this sick revolving door of getting fucked over & putting up with it until she finally pulls a stint so wild u are an hour late to work when she wants u to get mcdonalds at 8:30am when u have a double shift that day and have to be at work 30mins away to start at 11am and still havent shit or showered, brushed your teeth or done anything. Trust me i know. She was 42 when i last saw her & i had just turned 35 a few months earlier
Going through hell over a woman right now.
Move on bro. It's not worth it...
Don’t chase,replace
This was the need of the hour coach. God bless you
Are you spying on my thoughts, Coach? I literally just hit this wall last night. Thank you 🙏🏼
Just got the book
The best way to get over one is to get another one.
Timeless wisdoms.
Its best to keep the beta people around as motivation to change. They show me how I dont want to be
Good morning coach!
You're first, Stephen
Good evening from Germany 😅
This was my past 8 months.
I dated a woman who was living with her ex boyfriend the entire time we were together. CMON MAN!
You were in an open relationship, but didn’t get the memo from her.
Nah this 🤬weird… EVERY DAMN time the video is there when the situation is present!!
I love u book i got the audible and have listen 2 1/2 times i love it and its a big pill to swallow of all the ways i mest up 😂
Im bald cuz I shave my head and I look younger with a shaved head vs my hair coming in patches, here and there 🤣😂
Lol holds up the book and points out “women of your dreams” love it
😂”Fruit Loop” lol aren’t they all!
I’d like more from coach on boundaries and when to walk
Man this is gold!
👍Thanks brother. You’re helping guys say in and day out navigate the BS of all of it
New fave video of his
After 5 years of not hearing my ex she wrote me after she broke up, provided her emotional support for a week than she disappeared again after I said I had intentions of working on rebuilding a relationship with her, old memories hit me hard this time around
@@Jerizon1481 I moved on in the sense I had other relationships, took care of my body the whole pack, but my thoughts often went back there and I don’t know why, thanks for the tough love tho
She came back to zap your energy then left…. Bitch
Her cousin always makes me feel better.
Just what I needed!
I love you coach
How reverent. I am mentally stuck too. We don't touch each other.
We are roommates. She's a narcissist. I have done so much research on this. Why am I trying to please someone I can't for 14 years. I am the sick one
Would love to see a live Q&A Corey!
I live the "not going to expend any calories walking over to you" line haha
I was an essential employee. I most certainly did not get Richer. I had to work while making less money than some of the people who got laid off
This is so helpful. I am not over it after this. But thanks. I am drunk so sorry for spelling mistakes
Love you man
Hey Corey can you do something on covert narcissist women? I was involved with someone like that for 2.5 years and a lot of what you talk about in your book helped but it also left me blind to these women in combo with my codependent ways made it a disaster. Some of these women will keep coming back. Not sure if this one will after calling her out though.
Really good question. I'm in the same situation with my wife. Over 10 years of manipulation and narcissism behavior.
Been two years still she is here ❤
Hi coach, so long story short we broke up about a month and a half ago after I called her names and made her feel bad for something. I was toxic and controlling for 4 long years and she had enough
Did no contact for about three weeks and after we started connecting again, we started talking daily on social media, obviously, she is distant with me at times but sometimes she is okay. We also hang up a couple times and things looked like we could've made it work again, or we could've tried something else together and see where it can lead to.
I've changed a lot and worked on myself and my attachment style and I've told her that a couple times and how much things will be different. I've begged and pleaded a couple times but I've calmed down a bit.
A few days ago we hung out again and things were looking really good, she was really opening up to me, showing me her new friends and telling me she is still here and listening to me what I have to say but then a few days later she started being really distant again. Obviously by seeing that I started to be pushier and asked her about when can we see each other more often and why is she distant now.
Because of me pushing her and trying too much she started to get angry and told me that she really does not want to get back together now, and maybe never, she told me that she knew nothing will happen and that is too bad we keep reaching out and talking every day because we are hurting each other in this way, she told me that I'm losing my time and that she needs to focus and work on herself and she needs to heal and she will only do that by being alone. She told me I haven't actually changed and only my words have changed but my intention is the same. She said that she is feeling she is getting back to the same vicious circle even if we are going to be something no label for now and she is not okay with this.
She said that she was doing great and she was going in the right direction before we started talking again and now of course she got attached by talking on a daily basis. She said that she does not trust me and that she doesn't want to open her heart again to anyone and to stop trying with her. She said that she is hurting me as well because sometimes I will get some hopes and it's obvious that I will feel bad when she is distant. Eventually, she said she doesn't see any more hopes, not in the near future, not at all.
We've also talked about it with a phone call after and she kind of said the same things.
But we still talk on social, she still reaches out so that means we are still both emotionally attached. Today I told her I'm not pushing anything anymore and not forcing anything and if it's meant to be it will be, I also told her that I know I was a bit pushy lately, and maybe that's why she reacted like that the other night and that I hope she doesn't actually mean that.
I told her I will give her space and time when she needs it and that I'm okay with how things are at the moment. And she told me okay that's good.
So somehow I still have hope, but somehow she told me she doesn't want to get attached anymore, she kind of resents me, she didn't let go of the negative thoughts from the relationship yet and she is avoiding making plans or time for me to hang out with her and I think she will start to be really distant again until I will realize there's no hope and leave her alone.
I don't want that, and going no contact again out of a sudden right now might not be a good thing. Some other coaches said that it's a good thing to be friends because I can connect with her more, I can focus on building that excitement and connection with her until she starts feeling okay around me and starts trusting me again. I'm kind of stuck because It's really critical this time and I don't know what to do. I want to make sure I'm choosing the right plan of action and work my way up one step at a time.
I'm also not financially okay right now to go full-on buying skypes and phone calls with the coaches from here or anywhere else.
I'm following you for a long time and I would really love some advice on this situation if possible.
I will also start manifesting and using the law of attraction
You're bending over backwards for someone who doesn't want to share your program right now. She's still mopping up your attention, whilst giving you ZERO in return. Four years later she knows you're clearly still crazy about her so doesn't have to bother. Why would she? You're making yourself so available for her it's not a challenge (and I know that's tough to hear). Stop treating this girl like some sort of special princess. If I were you I'd cut her off indefinitely just so I could think straight and clear my head. That means on everything; calls, text and social media. Turn your attention elsewhere and she'll soon notice your absence. Give yourself a chance to heal from the things that hurt YOU in your relationship, cos I'll bet there's another side to the story. Stay strong chief
Thanks for sharing your experience mate! I think you did good, allowing her some space and showing you're strong enough to not display neediness is the best way to get her back in the long run, even if us as men we have very low patience... How have things evolved for the last 4 months? Hope everything is okay for you 🙏
thank u . sir .
Why is making dinner better than going out to grab a bite? Is it because you’re not public, is it because you’re not spending extra money, because making dinner takes effort too so not sure why dinner at home is better. The question directed at Corey but I doubt he’ll answer or see this so maybe the other guys can
Dinner means desert after
I am in a very similar situation, with the exception that I took her for granted and broke up with her first. But when I tried to remedy things she would not take me back due to lack of trust. I have given her space for a couple months now, in my case, would it be my responsibility to reach out again or would it have to be her choice since in the end she made the decision not to continue? That is my big predicament at the moment.
The book says you can try, once. If she says no, you move on and say “call me if you change your mind.” The end.
Something similar happened to me. You must remind yourself of those feelings of complacency you had leading up to you breaking up with her. This shows that the reality is that you were not that into her. If you get her back you may have a honeymoon period but you will very soon go back into those feelings of complacency and being bored of her and taking her for granted. Something was missing in the relationship, otherwise you wouldn't have wanted to get rid of her in the first place. We tend to look at our exes that we are still missing with rose-coloured glasses, because we are craving that intimate bond we had with them, which makes sense, but it really distorts our ability to see the relationship objectively.
11 months later since this comment, I hope you are doing a lot better.
A fruitloop🤣🤣🤣
9:00 Corey Wayne life story spoiler
It gets a little challenging when the girl in question is your WIFE and she's left you while she's pregnant and took your 6yr old with her.
Holy s..t. this is why i suck with women 😅 I'm behind in life
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I block her an changed my number an I had other girls in my sacks after 3years
Whats contact info. Email? Is that the best way to communicate with questions.
There's a woman who most likely friend zoned me and after she reached back after I did no contact, she flaked (I still hope reason was genuine) when I asked her out. Now, told to go no contact until she reached back and asks me out herself. Please tell me how can I convince her that I'm not here to be a friend? I'm having images of her where I'm in nasty situations in my sleep, thus, tearing me apart and making me jolt out of bed. We just went out on 2 dates and we've known each other for about a month
Do not try to convince or prove. Carry yourself like a person with options. Does James Bond try to convince women he's not just a friend? Be laid back. Let her initiate 100% of the time and follow what's in the book. Evening dates only. Don't act like her therapist. Be decisive and confident. Be humorous and light hearted. Dont bend your opinion to align with hers. Etc, etc.
@@davidj5425 thank you so much for this. I hear you, but, still trying to get over such massive emotional hurdle. It’s just that I’m 37 years old, never been married and don’t want to be alone any longer (of course, I still want to be with someone who I find attractive both inside and out).
@@JungleAl I feel u my friend. im in the same boat. im 36 about to be 37, '85 baby here. I know the feeling. Im there with u. keep the faith man. you'll probably have a better chance then i do because you probably come from a more simplified lifestyle. Im obsessed with impulsive shopping for streetwear and keep buying, but ill change my ways soon enough. I think u being a normal man on the basis that u dont spend all your money on dumb shit like i do probably has a better chance of welcoming a woman. Once I adjust my own life ill give chance to a better opportunity myself. I actually have this thought of not giving a shit anymore and whatever comes comes. I used to be on dating website's years ago before my ex and i met in 2018, but I havent been on since. I may consider again, but for now im still buying :) anyways best of luck, much love.
@@CstWstFllwer thank you so much for reaching out. Actually, I’m not in a great financial place either, but, even though I’m a sneaker head, I’m now in more control of my expenditures. Wish you all the best and pls reach out whenever you need to. Tc, Ala
You can't control bald though lol
@@MikeG82 good to know.Im confident enough without it
Bro said don’t date structured woman cuz they are not authentic then read my book 15 times and follow all the rules to the T or no women will like you? Is this a contradiction or I’m blind
Morning coach I'm with complicated for 6yrs and now she says little over a year she wants to hangout and sex then after a awhile out of know where we gotta stop dragging it out and shes the one that comes back after a week or a month or 3 idk why and I can't tell if I'm amenabling her bad behavior right I'm just sticking around for sex until something better comes along