An Autistic Teenager (Self-Proclaimed "Aspie")
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- Опубликовано: 23 май 2018
- Garrett is autistic and hopes that others will see him as normal. He just wants to fit in.
Garrett's Channel: / @mrpickpax6593
SBSK Insta: / specialbooksbyspecialkids
Twitter: / chrisulmer
Facebook: / specialbooksbyspecialkids
I’m autistic and I see how much he’s holding back. The calculated hesitant movements and the purposeful eye contact. I wish I could tell him it’s ok to stim, it’s ok to speak with a non normal rhythm. I used to be like him, calculating every move and response, but ever since letting myself go free I’ve gotten reprieve from a lifetime of depression. Sure people are weirded out by me. I’ve had people act like I can’t understand them, but then I open my mouth and they are flabbergasted 🤣. Anyways I’m rambling! I hope he learns to accept himself and love his autism as I have.
My boyfriend has autism and although he's lower on the spectrum and doesn't have as much of a hard time communicating and doesn't need as much support it's definitely still something he has and I imagine struggles with sometimes. I do wonder just how much he masks with me though, it doesn't seem like a lot but I think that can be deceiving since it literally is a mask but he feels comfortable stimming in front of me and making noises or fidgeting when he needs to and holds eye contact very comfortably and tries new things and experiences with me which I appreciate very much. I don't know exactly what my point was writing back but you mentioning Garrett holding back makes me wonder if my boyfriend Rick does too. What is an acceptable and respectful way to ask about that and show him if he is holding back at all that it's okay for him to be completely himself in front of me? Also I hope you meet someone someday (if that's what you want) that will accept you as you are as I have with my boyfriend
@@moonchild_778 Hi! my sister also has a low percentage of autism but still even though she talks perfectly fine with us she can't do it with other people, I feel you should just tell your boyfriend that he can always be him in front of you, that you will always love him, let him know that you love him and also love the real him, not necessarily ask him directly, just let him know that he can always be the same because you will love him that way :)
Me thinks we need to consider how we discuss Autism, as a spectrum of functioning in the social world... I am considered 'high functioning' or I guess what you guys call low percentage of Autism... I might only be speaking for myself, but I view myself as an Autistic that has good masking skills... that is high functioning, but moving on from that, some people to presents with traits, but the way our minds seem to process and make sense of life is similar... co morbid diagnosis can come with Autism, and so we move around on a spectrum of high funtioning and low functioning according to the social scales, but to me it just means to mask more, and share less authenticity... or I am have an anxiety or sensory trigger activated, and become what is considered 'low functioning'. Anyhow, we will figure each other out.
@@aike4911 I have told him before he can be himself completely with me and that I love him for him so I do feel that's why he is more comfortable with me and it does seem like he doesn't have to mask at all because we can both be goofy together and I'm not necessarily neurodivergent so I think that helps a lot. I know he struggles with other people that aren't his family or me so it's comforting to know he feels he can be more open with me, he's said other than his mom I'm the only other one he's comfortable just saying whatever to too
I have autism it, is hard to communicate with people sometimes
He’s adorable and has a very calming demeanor
Agreed
I agree
He is a sweet young man ..good parents
My grandson is 12 and he has it..
Vaccinations..right after
Hospitalized..could not find cause..until his development
His sister is more adorable
Yeaaaaa
I really enjoyed how he articulated what his sister meant to him. His eyes softened, he instantly became a little more comfortable. He knows her love is unconditional and he doesn't have anything to fear. That was so powerful.
Oh my gosh- he's just incredible!!! Don't try to "fit in"- you just be YOU because you're delightful!
i want to be best friends with this guy he seems like such a cool person to be around
I know right. I would love to be his friend.
I was thinking the same.
I completely agree!
mostly because he's very good looking😉
love him.
Really charming boy. He has a nice way to see life.
He's a deep person.
This World needs more people like him.
Yes, I agree.
Charming kid.😄 Hope you and your family are doing well.
@@lungelopilson6024 ?!
@@leafyclass 🤔my bad, must been a typing, error... Omg I remember watching this video but I don't remember leaving a comment. It was an honest mistake, thanks for tagging me I'll remove it right away
"He loves puns.. To the point it's painful" lmaoo! I can relate soo hard 💕 He's awesome and admirable!!
I'm surprised he's not English...
That was actually funny to like dam
I love puns, to the point where I became an English teacher. 😂😍
I tell puns at work all the time. They gave me a rating scale; I was so proud when I reached -10,000.
@@breakfastattiffanys741 why is that?
I would feel so lucky to have him as a friend! He's a handsome, smart and hilarious young man. He needs to know that normal is just a setting on a dryer! I see great things for his future. 99% of "normys" wouldn't have the guts to do an Interview like this. He handled it like a straight boss💪👍. Good job broski!
Sim inteligente dimais
He's special
@@EscapeRunningHead that’s rude
>99% of "normys" wouldn't have the guts to do an Interview like this.
Why do you need to bring other people down?
@@Kronkoft he’s an aspie too probably
Dont ever change bud. You're perfect just the way you are and this world needs more kind souls like you in it. God bless you and your friends and family.
What a charming and intelligent young man!! I am so proud of him for discussing this openly. He has so much courage. I wish him all the best! He deserves it.
I just realized that I have lived the last 50 years with it. I had the signs as a kid. Didn’t want to be held, speech problems, played alone and social issues with other kids. Today, I’m an Air Force vet, college graduate, husband and father.
I have always wondered if I was that to,but 5 psyciatrics evaluations have just revealed ADHD. All my sons acted the same as me and my youngest got severe autism. It’s genetic on him.
I can't look people in the eye, my communication stops but when I saw this I feel like I can take that step, I admire you and thank you for making me feel good.
Ahhhh ahhh gowowifufjwkshvjtotj ahhh ahh you have autism ahhh ahh
I would feel horribly uncomfortable speaking while looking at eachother's eyes like that 😂😂
🤣same
but that guy did a great job making eye contact with chris! I'd have freaked out
Especially while talking about eye contact 🤣🤣🤣🤣 chris is a hero though.
@@weebywo6501 he got some pretty eyes
Same I have trouble looking people in the eyes i dont know if I have a disability or anything but ive always struggled with it
😆😆 he looks like an character from some kind of series, he's so nice!! I love silly jokes too LOL, he laughing at his own joke was so iconic. 😂
Do you mean atypical?
@@AdriaNa-ym7ueHmm... Nah, they are very different.
He could play in stranger things
God of War!!!
I thought the same, he's amazing hahahh
Garrett has the most soul-piercing eyes.
He's an old Soul.
I wish I'll go to my grave knowing I've done something as good for humanity as you have done with these videos! Thank you
well people are just dying to go there after all
So he got ABA and now he suppresses his real feelings. That's super sad. As someone with autism he looks like he's in a lot of pain to be forced not to stim or look someone in the eye.
Yeah I thought that too. I’m undiagnosed but I’m sure I have aspergers. I’m 16 and I can relate a lot to him ❤️
My thoughts exactly
What is ABA?
@@SeansModelBuilds imagine conversion therapy for the gays but ABA is that for people with special needs
Yeah i think we should teach other people to be more understanding and not neuro diverse people on how to act. Education on why they me be percieved a certain why is important however
Only 4/3 puns a day, that sounds like a PUNishment
He’s handsome & smart. I wish he’d never feel uncomfortable. He is perfect!
He was very articulate in his speach and spoke very intelligently. Very nice young man!!!
Little do some know, people with special needs are very intelligent in that their words are articulate, meaning the way they express themselves is far greater than how others express themselves! Love these videos! They are a constant reminder that whatever problems we may feel we have, these bright and loving children may have bigger struggles yet, they are doing just fine and it shows! It teaches us about our OWN struggles and how to properly deal with them!
This kid is hilarious
Those puns were pretty good 😅😅
“Thank you for coming over to my house” talk about a humble individual. What a kind hearted soul. People like him should be given more love and shown this level of understanding and kindness more often. thank SBSK for allowing this incredible human a platform to speak their truth!
What a unique and beautiful young man! I hope he continues to reach his goals.
YES
He’s unique and really smart. Love this kid.
My heart 🥺❤️ It almost made me cry 😭 He’s such an amazing young man 💜💛 I hope that he reaches his goals he has. He’s very special and unique ❣️
I totally agree with you
"Sometimes I wish I was neurotypical". I'm so glad that he's found out he's an Aspie at a younger age, instead of finding out at the age of 40, like me. I'm also glad that he has supporting, and validating parents. He seems like a wonderful dad. What a lucky Aspie!
No matter what he'll always be different; he'll always be a neurodiverse individual. He has to unconditionally accept himself, his strengths and weaknesses. And he mustn't forget that humanity needs us, civilisation needs us. Temple Grandin says:
"Who do you think made the first stone spear? That wasn't the yakkity yaks sitting around the campfire. It was some Asperger sitting in the back of a cave figuring out how to chip rocks into spearheads." 🤣
Peace you yakkity yaks ✌️
ASPIE is a social self-help and motivation group for adults with Asperger syndrome. ASPIE provides an environment where Asperger adults (and partners/parents/friends) can meet, and feel welcome and accepted, encouraging each other to re-engage and join in various discussions and activities.
Hey, I would appreciate if you could give me your opinion about something, I'm trying to learn from people who experience this things.
You said in your comment that you would've wanted to know about your diagnosis earlier; do you feel your childhood or your teenager years would've been easier if you knew it back then?
Do you think that you could've understood yourself better? I know it is hard to feel that something is wrong with oneself, and it is even more difficult if you have no clue why is it.
I ask you this because I have a teenager brother who has asperger; he did therapy when he was very young, he doesn't anymore. The matter is that no one ever told him the truth about it. He has and always have had a really hard time socializing, doing work at school etc. He feels that he's different, and he's very conscious about how people judge him, but he has no clue about what asperger syndrome even is.
My family was told by a professional to just treat him as any other kid, and to not tell him a word about asperger.
From the outside I think that he should know about it, he's almost 17. I believe that he knowing it is the fundamental for everything, how can he get to really know himself then.
I really will appreciate if I could know about your opinion or experience.
Dante Sobrero I’m not the original poster but I am autistic and I’d like to share my opinion and experience. From what I’ve seen undiagnosed/unacknowledged autism tends to lead to mental health issues like depression and anxiety as well as low self esteem, it’s hard thinking that your normal but failing at life or feeling like something’s wrong with you and not knowing what. I’m so glad I knew that I had autism, adhd, and other things from a young age and that my parents understood and accommodated my life accordingly. Because of that I’ve learned so much about myself at a young age, and I’m able to improve myself without having to figure out what’s “wrong” with me first. Now I can’t say whether you should tell your brother or convince your family to tell him, but I will say that I would strongly discourage someone keeping that a secret from their child or treating it as something shameful that should be hidden. Hope this helps, feel free to ask me any more questions. Best wishes to you and your family. 😊❤️ ( apologies for any spelling/grammar mistakes I’m dyslexic as well )
@@delphinasartstudio6933 so well said. That's exactly what I've had to do: to figure out what's "wrong with me". The process of discovery was extremely painful, but absolutely necessary.
On another note, I never would've guessed you were dyslexic.
TheGadfly Thank you. 😊 Of course this isn’t everyone’s who’s discovered they’re autistic later in life, but that seems to be a near universal experience. Usually I don’t come off a dyslexic because I use predictive text and dictation when needed, but typing takes awhile because it’s trial and error. I’m just self conscious of typing the wrong word and not noticing, and giving my sentence a completely different meaning, if that makes sense. I’m also a perfectionist/or it’s my ocd, so everything has to be spelled correctly even when I’m writing for myself. My grammar’s understandable but I get perfectionist about it. Anyway sorry for the ramble, have a nice day. ❤️
What an intelligent boy, he has a look that reflects peace and tranquility, you can see it in his eyes. You can see that he works very hard at social interaction, but he is comfortable working at it, and he is doing very well.
His parents will be very proud of him.
I wish him the best in the world.
As a fellow Aspie (high functioning), I empathize with Garrett.
It ain't an easy life but it's an interesting one!! We really deal a lot with anxiety and insecurity....just keep moving forward! You can do it!
It's n to from being yourself is it? It's more about NTs reactions. I'm ND and Autistic. Late diagnosed. Now I know what's happening it's made a huge difference to me. I enjoy the company of other NDs in Autism and am meeting more people thank fully. FInd your people, that appreciate your take on communication.
please reconsider using the term "high functioning" it's incredibly offensive to those who require more help on the spectrum.
@@Mo_9816 Telling someone how to label themselves is ableist. High functioning and low functioning are accepted medical terms. By trying to be more inclusive, you are actually being *less* inclusive by disregarding labels, and are being ableist.
@@daniel_kale the word r*tard was used to describe disabled people before, and has since been outdated because it's offensive. The use of outdated words are considered outdated because of history and intent. Telling someone that I'm offended by the terminology used to describe someone is far from ableist.
@@Mo_9816You sure , Man (or Ma’am)?
The most handsome and truthful young man. I think he’s amazingly smart. And I love how he loves his little sister.❤
OMG I could see how tense Garrett was, and I just wanted to tell him he is fine and he is doing such a great job. Now just try and relax. You dont have to prove anything to anyone. Everyone loved you and were so impressed at how articulate you are, and how well you answered all the questions.
Garrett, you are an amazing young man, and it was an honor to meet you and hear a bit about your life.
I bet if you had your own RUclips channel, it would do so well.
As an autistic teen I felt like I fit in until 10 years old. People socially developed faster than me and I was depressed because I couldn't fit in. I got several years of Therapy because of how it affected me.
The problem is teaching Autistic to be too normal, it’s Overwhelming and exhausting for us to be normal all the time. I’d rather to think in the Spoons theory. We face a big problem in acceptance of ourselves. We are able to do what normal people do but it takes us 3000 times mental resources to do it in a “normal” way. That’s the reason for Autistic meltdowns, burnouts, shutdowns.
It’s something that I didn’t want to accept at his age
He said he wants to interact with people and not seem strange. But I don’t think he’s strange at all. I’m old enough to be his grandmother, and I think he’s precious and perfect just the way he is.
The way he loves his sister, omg my heart is bursting, it's so sweet. 💖
I waited a year to be diagnosed with a sub-type of ASD called PDD-NOS. Then my brain was telling me because I had done so much research on autism (over a year) while waiting to be assessed that maybe the doctor was just being nice to me. The thing that helps me accept my diagnosis is listening to people on the spectrum talk. I relate to them so much. Their facial movements/lack of, their bluntness, their worries and fears etc. I relate so much.
I wish I had a bit of the control he has over his body language, and I think his spoken language skills are pretty good in terms of vocabulary and grammar. A true inspiration.
You go, Garrett!!
This bro and his puns coming out strong slay me. I Love it. I mad respect anyone with a great pun game.
Your sense of humor had me in stitches! Very much like my husband, who is also an Aspie.
He reminds me very much of myself, as I have been through out my life and now. I myself was only just diagnosed very recently at age 38. I am glad to have found this video.
I was diagnosed within the last year also and I'm sixty five. It;s amazing how it changes your perspective. U can now identify things that were a blind spot or a major source of stressful confusion and negative self image. Healing winds to you and all of us on the spectrum. Be youreself has never been a phrase that's has meant as much to me as it does now. I would never change being Autistic. I would change how society views us dramatically though. Important difference.
he deserves so many hugs!!
Looking into another person's eyes is something I just started getting comfortable with about two years ago... and I'm in my late 60's. When one gets older, it seems that people expect less out of you, which makes a lot of things easier.
He sounds very mature even for his age.
Aweeeee my heart. My teenage son has autism and my heart is just yearning to have others be understanding and compassionate to people with neurodiversity. You are so incredibly awesome sweetheart and I hope that you have all your dreams come true. I pulled my son out of public school because of the bullying he faced and it hurts to see, but my son loves video games also and he is so incredibly intelligent in that, so much that it goes above my head. I am also not neurotypical……..I have ADHD and I am proud of being neurodiverse
I can relate. Human interaction is painful at times. It feels crushing at times.
This kid is amazing, his emotional intelligence, the way he responds to the questions, his eloquence... so special and nice... and the way he treats his little sister... beyond beautiful. God bless him ❤️
He is such an amazing and smart guy, I can’t believe people would think him strange. He’s sweet and perfect the way as he is.
He's so well spoken and calm. He seems like a really cool, fun and smart young man. I'd be glad to be his friend.
I don't get how people can be so mean. Kids need to be taugh more about kindness and empathy.
I 100% understand this man, I have Asperger's too. I know I wasn't the only one, but you don't see it in your every day life. Nice to know others out there feel and experience similar things as me ☺️
I hope and do really feel that it is getting easier for us all to find one another. I recently was diagnosed and found other women to talk with who are also ND and Autistic. It was a day and night experience. Together we don't have to agree, we can be ourselves and there just is not the same kind of reaction. Much more positive and relaxed. Also great conversations. NO chit chat for which I am truly grateful.
he’s adorable! i hope he is accomplishing his goals. i hope he feels included and like he fits in now, opposed to when this was released. we all enjoy him here :( ❤️
Gosh, Chris you are educating us and demystifying so many things no one talks about! From watching your videos I see a common trend about how people with disabilities long to be seen and talk to as normal and you're so good at doing it and model it to us. Beautiful work you do. God bless you always.
Thank you Garrett. Not only are you (obviously) part of all of us: your viewpoint as an Aspie is valuable in and of itself to us non-Aspies, who miss a lot of what you see. I hope you continue to live well and prosper.
Lunch is on me if you're ever out this way. Cheers from warm Vienna, Scott.
Garrett is so intelligent and very good at expressing himself! I imagine he is helping many many people in understanding autism in themselves or in others. I’m so impressed with him and this channel for addressing and discussing these topics. ❤
I'm an aspie and I'm proud to be one 🥰
Me too. 🥰
@@natasha.r.m Me too
Well me too
Me too
Me too 😊🥰
You can tell he feels deeply, he really makes a conscious effort to be " normal" I think he is great just the way he is. I really enjoyed watching. I agree with Chris. Unique in the best way ....
You seem like a long time viewer? Is this gentleman in the video a psychiatrist or possible a md in psychology? He seems very clean cut and straight edge almost like he seems like an angel or maybe a good deity maybe I’m just gassed but man that dude is such a nice guy for how handsome he is lol
He is so handsome ❤️❤️
HE REALLY IS
He is doing a great job expressing his goals and what he wants for his future. My step son on the other hand is almost 18 and expresses very little emotions.
maybe he doesnt trust you, seeing his body language and trying to understand him and then listening to him are great things to do in that kind of problem
@@gericko4931 I met my step son when he was 6... Hes now 17. I never push him to express his feelings or pressure him to anything he doesnt want to do or else he shuts down and becomes a rock... And I mean a rock. It's not because he diesnt trust me. Thays what people dont get about autism, some kids are just not that expressive and I respect his space. When he does come to me, I feel happy because it's very rare when he does. Even to his dad (my husband), he acts this way.
I have a very hard time expressing emtions as well (aspie mslf) but i feel a lot of them inside. I just don't understand them, so I'm unable to express them
@@leanderdato4764 I'm the same way. Since I couldn't express myself, I would do things for others. Unfortunately, I was taken advantage of by most everybody because of this - which made me withdraw into myself even more. Luckily, I discovered nine years ago that I have a singing voice which people love, so that's how I get my feelings out. Many, upon hearing me, start to cry, and for the first time in my long life, I finally feel understood. Very emotional for me!
That's the cutest intro I have ever seen! Bless him.
Tengo un hijo con 28 años que es Asperger. Y a conseguido lo que yo nunca había soñado. Hoy en día tiene su trabajo y su coche y le encanta socializar. Es muy importante apoyo de especialistas y de la familia. Ha tenido dificultades de bullying en el colegio, pero consiguió terminar estudios superiores y hoy es feliz en la medida que podemos ser cualquier ser humano.
As another Garrett, I'm glad this kid was confident enough to talk! This show has helped me to understand those around me better and I have built great friendships because of it! Glad to see it!
Dude is not letting up that eye contact.
the joy in his eyes after he told the graveyard joke 😊
🥴😂too cute!
He is a very nice intelligent boy. As someone else mentioned here, I’d also love to see a follow up done on him ❤️
Check out his RUclips account
@@dancescaespino429 thank you 😊
Now that's an proud handsome aspie...and those piercing eyes bruhhh
He's a very nice young man. Thank you SBSK for sharing their stories!
He is so handsome, so intelligent, a brilliant kid!
Garrett you keep doing what you do best you are a great young man...
He has more kindness and common sense in his lil pinky than others🥰
Yes, and many Autistic people do. We are not given credit for our compassion and empathy as we should. The definition of empathy used in ASD diagnosis is quite stunted.
@@JamieHumeCreativeyk what is worse? the amount of ignorance this comments section have saying that everything is fine and being positive.
This young man is awesome. He describes his diagnosis so perfectly. Also what he says about people worrying about outward appearance and not the inner beauty. I have a child with mild autism. Great video. Thank you!
He made ma cry 🥺 he’s such a beautiful person 😭 I wish we had more of him in this world
Garrett, you are awesome! I enjoyed getting to know more about you and how you feel. I work with all kinds of unique people all day and I love it. My son is autistic and he s very unique as well but that makes our bind special. Always stay proud of who you are because you seem more normal to me than many people I know. Thank you for sharing who you are because you are one cool dude. Tim
The love for her sister. Both are so lucky to have each other. Great interview, lightened up my day!
He is beautiful inside and out. Any parent would be very proud of him.
I just love him, he has such soft soulful eyes, I would love to be his friend, everything he says is interesting and full of thought.❤
You bring such a kindness to the world. Thank you for sharing all the wonderful guests each time. This is an awesome opportunity to help us all understand!
Garrett is totaly adorable and doing so well. I wish him all the best
That Graveyard joke caught me off guard 🤣🤣😂😂😂❤❤❤
The end of this video got me in tears! Thank you SO MUCH for doing this! And much bless for all who reading this!
This young boy reminds me SO much of my son, he's just been diagnosed as having Level 2 ASD, and if he grew up with even an gram of your confidence young man, I'd be happy!! Very charming, and I think you are a great young man.
Please be careful with ABA
Fantastic interview! I was diagnosed with autism last year. I don't view it as a disease or disorder, just a difference in the way I think. By the way, Garrett has a great sense of humour - I love puns too, the more eye-roll inducing the better in my opinion haha
How can you limit puns! They are incredible! Keep on being awesome, my friend!
What a wonderful young man. He is absolutely brilliant and open and honest. You just want to listen to him because he is without any falseness and very honest and open. Also very intelligent. A pleasure to listen to. I wanted the interview to keep going, so refreshing to listen to someone just being so natural and bright.
I did not see that joke coming 🤣 that is lit 🔥😊 They're awesome in their own ways...Hope the best for him and his fam💓
When he said “like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders” I felt so happy for him ❤❤❤
I can’t believe how he answers questions. I would be like yes, no I don’t know
I hope Garrett is doing great!! 😁💖 he seems like a super nice young man!
My nephew is an Aspie and this young man reminds me so much of him, even down to how he talks
Hey there, I'm sure you meant no harm at all but the term aspergers is actually rooted in anti semetism and the new term since 2013 is asd or autism now
man is about to be the best coder the world has ever seen
Remember seeing this vid when it first came out 3 years ago. Hope ma boy Garrett doing well!!!!!
This video made me cry and taught me a lot about my 14 year old son and the world he lives in thank you ❤
Beautiful boyyyyyyyyyyyyy ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
Thank you Garrett,you really made my day and now I can feel more at ease with myself,for now...
He's a nice kid and I believe he has a good future
Such insight and deep understanding. As for learning eye contact and social skills, yes it may seem a little awkward and forced, however as he moves into adulthood, it will become a useful tool.
He's a wonderful young man. Thank you for sharing your inner thoughts with us all.
This is magnificent I truly appreciate you for these shows sir ....they help others that aren't aware !!!! Keep going sir thanks
Kids like him are so adorable!!!
Thank you for this video 😢😢😭 it gave me so much hope for my son's future ❤💙 tears of joy
Bro you don't want to be like everyone else. I'm nearly 40 and never got a diagnosis i had to force myself to make eye contact. Sometimes it takes me a while to get sarcasm directed at me and i have social anxiety. My doc told me to stop chasing a diagnosis but i think hes wrong because I don't think I'm getting the help i need.😢