SURPRISING German Culture Shocks as Americans 🇩🇪 They're Not What You've Heard Before!

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  • @CHarlotte-ro4yi
    @CHarlotte-ro4yi 3 года назад +307

    Don’t be so hard on yourselves. I wouldn’t call the hat wearing cultural appropriation because you weren’t mocking the culture intentionally. It’s just that Germans especially non-Bavarians are tired of the rest of the world thinking Bavarian culture is German and Bavarians themselves are tired of being seen as these backwards-looking overly traditional people only (which is a stereotype that I even come across within Germany). So you basically manoeuvred yourself into a field of tension you don’t want to be in yet Germans (Bavarians and non-Bavarians) tend to make more of a fuss about it than is necessary 😅😉

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +24

      Yes! We have felt this tension so many times in the comments. People commenting that Bavaria isn’t part of Germany and things like that. We are like, hey, this is the part of Germany where Kevin got a job. 🤣 That’s all! We aren’t trying to ever say that Bavaria is better or anything like that.

    • @Ginkoman2
      @Ginkoman2 3 года назад +21

      tbh i dont think it is actually that big of a deal. its just that after ww2 bavaria and baden wurttemberg were under US control and therefore american soldiers were stationed there and that region was their expression of germany.
      its not something that is intentionally done.
      people should stop being so overly strict with these things. Let people have fun.

    • @ClaudiaG.1979
      @ClaudiaG.1979 3 года назад +17

      @@MyMerryMessyGermanLife lets just say, bavaria is to germany what texas is to the states.. Things are different, we are very traditional and old fashioned...

    • @ClaudiaG.1979
      @ClaudiaG.1979 3 года назад +4

      at least the south part of bavaria is more cultural and old fashioned.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +3

      @@Ginkoman2 yes that’s very true. There are more than 10 American military bases in Baden-Württemberg and 3 in Bavaria, so yes, that’s how Americans have begun to view Germany as what happens in the south.

  • @31337flamer
    @31337flamer 3 года назад +29

    "Fenster auf und Heizung an?" >:O whenever my dad came home and saw an open window in one of our kids rooms but we forgot to turn down the heating he shouted angry through the whole house :D he always saw his money diffuse out the window :D

  • @missk.8899
    @missk.8899 3 года назад +3

    Germans love their bicycle!! 😅🚴🚴🚴🚴
    It's like this everywhere. Actually, especially in the flatter parts in Germany they do use the bike even more (North). 😉

  • @danilopapais1464
    @danilopapais1464 3 года назад +2

    Well, I live in Hamburg and except my mother I know no one who uses Hausschuhe any more, however among the people I know some require you to take off your shoes while entering their home and a couple (very few) do not. Socks are among all of them enough. So might think "yeah, maybe among the younger generations" but I am 46 years old and most of the people I know are not that far off, so that is not it. In the beginning of the video I thought most of the things seemed really regional. I love how you handling everything around you, I guess you both having been in Europe before has helped you immensely. In regards to the videos of other people living in Germany, I have seen a couple of your comments in them and I loved it. I think your kids are really awesome and seeing Ella around the vegetables and picking up what seemed to be carrots was delightful. Keep doing what you are doing, I always look forward to watch your videos.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад

      Oh wow! You don’t know anyone that even uses Hausschuhe anymore in Hamburg? Do they still take their shoes off at the door?

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад

      And thank you for the compliments on our kids! Yeah they do eat lots of fruits and veggies. We have been very intentional to buy healthy foods their whole lives. It’s so important!

  • @gunternoleke4770
    @gunternoleke4770 2 года назад

    Dear Sarah and Kevin,youre a very charming couple.Your video is a very good remember by my self. I work from 1986-1990 in the States.The best time in my life.

  • @barbiebunnybakery1896
    @barbiebunnybakery1896 2 года назад

    Regarding the ,Hausschuhe’ , there are actually sets including different sizes especially for guests.

  • @peterjaro6804
    @peterjaro6804 2 года назад

    I remember a note on a habedashery (Sybehor affar) door in Mora in Sweden. It was Wednesday or Thursday and it didn't just say it was closed, but came with a full explenation as, if and why. Yes really! I didn't have a mobile phone at that time (thats how old I am) to take a photo, but it said something like (in Swedish) : 'The owner Martin and his wife Carolina has gone to their nephew's graduation in Sveg and will not be back until Saturday, unless the 19:47 train is late, and then they might be back late on Friday.
    ...also, note that it is written in third person!

  • @berndkielmann7790
    @berndkielmann7790 3 года назад

    Ladenschlusszeiten - Nicht nur sonntags ist geschlossen!: close a day in the week. That exist only in the little villages. In the normal cities from mon to sat the shops are open during the day. Normal between 7 and 22 h (supermarkets) and othe shop between 9 and 20 (18) h. On sunday it isn´t permited by the Bundesverfassungsgericht (federal constitution courte ). Diferent in the vacation areas. They can open during the season.

  • @expatexpat6531
    @expatexpat6531 3 года назад +1

    Cycling: German really does have excellent cycle paths in the countryside (and also cycle lanes in urban areas). There are tarmaced cycle paths along all the main rivers and a lot of the smaller ones. These are usually well signposted and documented in cycle maps and online. You will usually also find tarmaced paths through vineyards and agricultural areas, which are used by farmers' vehicles. In short, Germany is a cyclist's paradise.

  • @domif.b.7657
    @domif.b.7657 2 года назад

    I am watching this from my current home in Italy: my father was from Stuttgart, his parents from the Lake Constance/Austria, my mother half Italian and Belgian but grew up in France. I, myself lived an went to school in Germany, France, Italy and Australia. I often smile when I hear about other people's experiences in my 'home-countries' as I've englobed a bit of all of those national customs. I admire your efforts in getting the family accustomed to the new environment. Germans are quite helpful people, so don't hesistate to ask strangers for a quick translation at the shops or similar: most know some English. Also, don't be too hard on yourselves for not knowing all the cultural/local details: there are many people out there who have preconceptions about the US that stem back from the 40s/50s...just saying. I hope that the people around you and your family are showing some genuine interest in your culture too (maybe the schools?) and that you don't feel 'homeless' in the sense of feeling that you can't be an American in Germany. Take care.

  • @lrobbins2
    @lrobbins2 3 года назад +1

    OMG. Quiet trains! My wife and I attended a Stuttgart Reds game. Fearing English/Italian style rowdiness, we left the game early. Unfortunately we were the first to the train platform when the mass of people surged towards the platform. Instead of being thrown onto the rails, everyone stopped, lined up, and was silent. When the train arrived there was no pushing or shoving. Boarding was easy and orderly. Once on the train, we were offered seats because of our age and the ride was dead quiet all the way to the central Bahnhof. The shock Germans experience visiting NYC must be otherworldly.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад

      Wow, yeah, that’s quite a difference after a sporting event compared to the UK or USA!

    • @tmarxde
      @tmarxde 3 года назад

      Try a soccer game or the subway in Berlin and you'll change your opinion pretty quickly... ;)

    • @tmarxde
      @tmarxde 3 года назад

      Just a few examples ;) ruclips.net/video/NTdk_bERZXk/видео.html

  • @lichterin143
    @lichterin143 3 года назад

    Our family doesn't make anyone wear Hausschuhe, but you do have to take off your outside shoes. We have extra pairs of Hausschuhe though if you want them. And actually, my parents would like me to wear Hausschuhe sometimes but I don't like them lol

  • @emiliajojo5703
    @emiliajojo5703 3 года назад +2

    Don't be so harsh to yourself!totally fine to wear a dirndl!😚but Weizen belongs in a Weizenglas .🤗

  • @itsmebatman
    @itsmebatman 3 года назад

    Don't beat yourselves up too much about the Trachten. If you're not from Bavaria, like most Germans, it's just a funny and/or fashion thing. Over the years you'll notice Bayern München winning championships in football regularly. And when they do their official celebration things they often wear Trachten-like clothings too. Most of them aren't Bavarian. And nobody really cares.
    Anyways, it's nice to see how excited you guys are about all the new experiences. Enjoy the ride and hopefully you'll stay here and call it your home much like we do. :)

  • @tillappelhans4985
    @tillappelhans4985 2 года назад

    I don't agree to the restrooms. Almost every supermarket will have a restroom for customers, but I am not sure, if you really find a public restrooms just somewhere in the countryside in the US. You'll find public restrooms, in city centers, Truck stops, supermarket and every other place where people are gathering like tourist attractions....at least it should be.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  2 года назад

      Yeah for Americans it is a big change to come to Europe because nearly every business has public toilettes you can use for free. Only nightclubs charge for the toilets. So what we should have made more clear in the video is that many toilettes in Germany and Europe require payment.

  • @fonkbadonk5370
    @fonkbadonk5370 3 года назад

    I don't see house shoes for guests often here. I have one friend that has them, but specifically for guests that want to go onto their patio and not get their feet cold/dirty in socks, because they took their street shoes off in the foyer. The latter however is something I percieve as completely normal. I'm a socks dude anyways, and even always take my shoes off in any private dwelling even if not specifically asked to. I see this as a common courtesy.
    It is a bit different when you are somewhere in a professional capacity or are a stranger. I feel like taking off your shoes signals a slight familiarity or closeness, as in "I trust I won't get anything nasty through my socks onto my now barely protected feet in here". But if asked to, I comply without question.
    As for house shoes in school: This is entirely foreign to me. I have always worn my street shoes in any school I visited, as did everyone else. (Well, aside from PE of course.) I suppose this is more a thing in primary schools, but I don't think all of them do this either. Maybe it is a concept to make the kids feel more comfy and at home at school. Doesn't sound too bad, but I myself probably wouldn't have wanted this to continue beyond 4th grade.

  • @SemperFiParatio
    @SemperFiParatio 3 года назад +51

    Native Bavarian here, please do not think too much about "cultural appropriation" while you are in Germany and especially in Bavaria, we do not care too much about that thankfully and do not have a lot of the discussions you have in the US. So if you would like to wear Tracht please do it, just make sure that you go in a specialised shop for that ;) . Regarding the hat and everything, honestly who cares. A lot of foreigners even in the farest corner of the world, everybody at least knows one German word and that´s "Oktoberfest" so German culture and Bavarian culture are mixed up everytime and will forever be, is it correct, No, but it´s not a big deal either. Most of the times there is no ill will behind it, so enjoy your time and don´t worry about stepping on anybodys toes with such things.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +7

      Ah great to hear from a Bavarian! So the people who got the most upset about our hat were Germans who aren’t Bavarians - they thought we were just feeding into the stereotype that Bavarian culture is German culture.

    • @michischaeffler
      @michischaeffler 2 года назад +8

      @@MyMerryMessyGermanLife As you know: native Bavarian here too, and when I saw the video with the hat, I just laughed out loud. I never felt offended. To be honest, I thought, you're a fun family, not taking yourself too serious.

    • @FlubberFrosch
      @FlubberFrosch Год назад +6

      @@MyMerryMessyGermanLife In most of the cases discussed, “cultural appropriation” is nonsense. The real problem is mainly the narrower sense, the external commercialisation. In the broader sense, it is thoughtless identity politics that prevents important contact through cultural exchange.
      Much discussed in this context are dreadlocks, even though they already existed in many different cultures at many different times and thus do not belong to any culture in particular.
      What is more important is to engage with what you use in general. In southern Germany, for example, one should rather get/wear a felt hat of the respective local traditional garb (Tracht) instead of a cheap costume hat.

    • @embivi77
      @embivi77 Год назад +10

      Everyone who gets upset at „foreigners“ wearing Tracht or kids running around in cowboy gear - nobody does that to discriminate against anyone. Usually you do it because you like the style, want to be a cowboy (especially the kids), enjoy the area and just want to show it. And not to mock anyone. All this cultural appropriation talk comes from people who are way too much stuck in politics and politically correct behavior.

    • @DieBlutigeLynn
      @DieBlutigeLynn Год назад +4

      I totally agree, "cultural appropriation" is not a problem in Germany. 😃 I ever only read that mentioned in RUclips comments written by US-American people. 😃
      The only improvement I see is it should maybe be a less fake looking Bavarian hat, so that it would look much better/better quality. 😃
      If you know German Carnival (more in the West of Germany), German people love to dress up.
      Btw, to my knowledge, _Trachten_ also exist in Baden-Wuerttemberg, not only in Bavaria, especially in Baden and the Black Forest. German people know those from _Heimatfilme_ (sentimental films in idealized regional settings), like the _Bollenhut_ (trademark woman's costume hat of the Black Forest area).

  • @peterparker219
    @peterparker219 3 года назад +209

    Hi from Berlin, I love your videos and I must say that I really appreciate your respectful approach to german habits and culture.
    Not every immigrant does it with the seriousness you're showing, so I absolutely cherish your efforts. Great to have you here.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +9

      Thank you so much! ❤️🙏🏻

    • @caleidoscopepatchamamalove3082
      @caleidoscopepatchamamalove3082 3 года назад +9

      Absolutley! 😍😘

    • @vahidintube9593
      @vahidintube9593 3 года назад +4

      True words.

    • @claudiag.6273
      @claudiag.6273 2 года назад +4

      To find all these hidden rules - it is hard hard work. You do more then well, don't be too strict with yourself (even if others do, don't worry. You have good intentions, thats all you need to be respected).
      For me it is very funny and interesting to see, what you find out - because i even dont recognise it, it is just too normal to think about. But so i can get a feeling, which topics are handeled different in your original culture.
      Sometimes i think, every german could answer you your question...but the problem is, to find out, that there actually IS a question :-)))
      What you didnt mention in culture shocks is the direct way to speak, which we are used to. Maybe you can do a Video about that some day.

  • @azMD108
    @azMD108 3 года назад +196

    Cycling is very important everywhere in Germany. In my region (lowlands), children in primary school have to get a kind of driving license for cycling. On this day the police monitor the streets around the school and every child has to take an exam to prove that they know and comply with the (basic) rules of road traffic.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +35

      Yes! So cool. Our second eldest son took that bicycle course just a few months ago and it was so helpful.

    • @pinkhope84
      @pinkhope84 3 года назад +27

      I remember taking this test in der Grundschule. I was so nervous 😅

    • @loulynn6106
      @loulynn6106 3 года назад +5

      I remember preparing for this test and getting super excited for it ans then I broke my wrist three days before it took place. I never got my "driving license".
      Although thinking of it, I think we did something similar in 5th or 6th grade again and I did take part in that. But I don't remember if we got a license then.

    • @peterrabbitn787
      @peterrabbitn787 3 года назад +1

      @@pinkhope84 me too. Especially I could not ride my bike with a hand off the handle which you had to do and I was too embarrassed to practice in front of my friends. So I learned it on a small road away from my friends

    • @mulraf
      @mulraf 3 года назад +2

      oof. fellow people without a bike drivers license. honestly i didn't have the proudest childhood and would oftenly not care too much about the rules. made me be the only one who failed the test in my class at that time. definitely did make me feel a bit bad about it though and at least in the back of my mind helped to mind the rules a little bit more 😅

  • @linajurgensen4698
    @linajurgensen4698 2 года назад +97

    5:55 yes that is true in many households. But here in Northern Germany it’s often enough to just put your shoes off and go in with socks, also bicycle culture is even bigger up here than in southern Germany😄. I love how much effort you make to integrate… you’re not ignorant!❤️

    • @edelweiss2971
      @edelweiss2971 2 года назад +4

      I would say, most Europeans takes off their shoes when entering someones home. Am I wrong?

    • @linajurgensen4698
      @linajurgensen4698 2 года назад +2

      @@edelweiss2971 You’re right, but this video is specifically about Germany.

    • @edelweiss2971
      @edelweiss2971 2 года назад

      @@linajurgensen4698 I just wanted to confirm that Germany is not surrounded by people who wear outdoor shoes at home. It's good to know these days.

    • @linajurgensen4698
      @linajurgensen4698 2 года назад

      @@edelweiss2971 true lol.

    • @angelaburrow8114
      @angelaburrow8114 2 года назад +1

      @@edelweiss2971 We do in the UK, it's only good manners.

  • @cptjfk
    @cptjfk 3 года назад +126

    Question: Moving to a foreign country and being surrounded by unknown products, wouldn't it be far easier to ask some locals for help? Germans seem rough around the edges, but they looove being asked for help. And they do it willingly and thoroughly. (And they have Handy tips and hints, too, f. e. similar but cheaper versions of products or how to find things more easily when walking around town). You don't have to be foreign to do so. There's a lot of young people lost in aisles of detergent looking for shampoo or asking what a Kohlrabi is and what it's used for... No joke.

    • @NixWiwWeg
      @NixWiwWeg 3 года назад +10

      What is a Kohlrabi and what is it for... Reminds my of this one time, there I was asked at the checkout in a supermarket, what type of fruit I was buying. It was Stachelbeeren (Gooseberries).

    • @cptjfk
      @cptjfk 3 года назад +3

      @@NixWiwWeg 😄 exactly. But I have to admit, some things like dragonfruit or cumquat need a little research beforehand...

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +17

      Yes that’s a good idea! But to be honest, I didn’t know enough German to ask for much help. I couldn’t asked in English, but I was didn’t want to be rude asking in English when I’m in a country that’s not English speaking. I was probably was over thinking it!

    • @siggilinde5623
      @siggilinde5623 3 года назад +30

      @@MyMerryMessyGermanLife That's so sweet :) but please don't hesitate to ask in English. I worked in a supermarket when I was student and every Saturday an American lady came by. I loved to have a chat with her. She helped me with my English and I translated the hole fruit and vegetables aisle into German, we helped each other.
      Some older people might not be well versed in English but try younger people :)
      And if someone has a problem with you asking in English and react rude: in Bavaria, such people we call “Depp“ or “blödes Rindvieh“ (both singular) ;)

    • @mulraf
      @mulraf 3 года назад +8

      agreed. don't worry too much about that. staff in stores should know basic engish and be willing to help. other than that i'd tend to ask younger people because chances are they speak english to some degree thanks to learning it in school. older people might not nessercarily be too good at it but doesn't mean you can't try.

  • @johannessugito1686
    @johannessugito1686 3 года назад +59

    Bavaria does not represents Germany. I noticed that in many vlogs of Americans living in Europe, they always refer to "the US". But aren't there differences between states, the Northern and Southern states, West coast and East Coast? Something strange for someone from Florida might be normal for someone from Washington.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +7

      Yeah totally, Bavaria is only one part! Just one state. Yes there are regional differences in the US for sure. If we discussed all of the differences in any country our videos would be an hour long! So we do generalize some of it.

    • @mikaelbiilmann6826
      @mikaelbiilmann6826 3 года назад

      The US is still plural: States. Not the United State. 😁

    • @slidenapps
      @slidenapps 2 года назад

      Exactly!

    • @susanneschluterwilmsen4371
      @susanneschluterwilmsen4371 2 года назад +1

      Hey, we live in urban area called Ruhrgebiet in the west of Germany. We also have the same list for Kids in school. They are hard!

    • @mikaelbiilmann6826
      @mikaelbiilmann6826 2 года назад +1

      @@susanneschluterwilmsen4371 "I know a little German. He's sitting over there. "
      -Hillary, (Which means "She, Whose Bossom Defies Gravity), Top Secret, 1984

  • @avs200619
    @avs200619 3 года назад +18

    In Canada we take our shoes off when going into someone’s house. There aren’t shoes, slippers etc left out for you. You just walk in with your socks on or bare feet if you’re wearing sandals

  • @Osmone_Everony
    @Osmone_Everony 3 года назад +21

    About the bicycle culture: I can tell from my own experiences it (logically) seems to depend on the topography. I lived in the "Oberbergisches Land" (near Cologne) for over 40 years. It has hills after hills (top elevation 512 meters) and cyclists were a rare view. Then in 2005 I moved to a very flat area of Germany and it's totally different here, with bicylces galore.

  • @Rainerjgs
    @Rainerjgs 3 года назад +21

    Danke für Euere große Sorgfalt gegenüber den deutschen Traditionen! Das macht Euch sehr sympathisch und bringt Euch sicherlich viele Freundschaften ein!
    Mit Euerer so herrlich guten Laune und Euerem so frohen Lachen seid Ihr ein gutes Vorbild für viele Deutsche, die oft viel zu ernst zu verbiestert sind!

  • @michaelstaadt8012
    @michaelstaadt8012 3 года назад +28

    Hy, welcome to Germany. This might be a somewhat belated welcome, since I've been watching (and enjoying) quite a few of your videos since you started putting them on You Tube, but a hearty welcome non the less.
    I was born in 1959, so I grew up in a time when Germany wasn't exactly popular around the world (little surprise here) and it always baffles me to see Americans speak so favourably of my country. To see a place you've grown accustomed to, to the point where you don't even realize it anymore, through somebody else's eyes, is always an interesting experience.
    I was surprised to find how serious you are about the 'cultural appropriation' thing. To be honest, I had never given it much thought, apart from being slightly miffed about the heated discussion about whether or not it was to be considered cultural appropriation for kids to dress up as Cowboys and Indians at Fasching here in Germany. Your comment about German 'Tracht', however, made me think again.
    The German word 'Tracht' derives from the verb 'tragen' ( to wear, or to carry) and literally meant 'that what is worn'. For the correct pronouciation you will have to drop the 'k' and use the sound the Scots use in Loch (Ness).
    Bavaria seems to have stuck to wearing Tracht for longer than most other federal countries, but that was not always so. Germany used to have a wide variety of regional dress and in addition to this, the Tracht of a region would, within itself, have variations, most notably in the female Tracht. Young girls would wear a different outfit than married women, and the widow's Tracht would, again, be different. When I was a kid, in Hessen, where I come from, you could still see a lot of Tracht wearing in small villages. Since it was for the most part older women wearing it, the widow's varity was prevalent. It was subdued in colour, mostly black, but could still be rather ornate for Sundays and festive occasions.
    Hope you didn't mind my ramblings. All the very best for the lot of you ( including the cat), enjoy your time here in Germany.

    • @kevinmcfall5285
      @kevinmcfall5285 3 года назад +1

      Thanks for your comment! We really learn so much from reading about all of your experiences.

  • @isoldedumas8726
    @isoldedumas8726 3 года назад +67

    Growing up in Germany, I don’t remember that wearing house shoes was such a big deal. It was just normal that when you were at home you took your street shoes off. It also had to do with comfort. But I don’t remember that we made our visitors take their shoes off and put on house shoes. Love your videos. Enjoy your stay. Wish I was living back home. I’m in Missouri now.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +3

      Oh cool, we’ve switched places! You in America, and we, in Germany.

    • @nicoleroth3127
      @nicoleroth3127 3 года назад +9

      Guess it depends on the family. Personally, I (German, obviously) don't have any friends (also German) who mind people coming into their houses wearing their regular shoes. I don't mind either, even though I've got a set of guest slippers. But usually it's just when shoes are muddy or wet, that you take them off out of politeness.
      As said, I've got a set of guest slippers, and you can actually buy them in a set of different sizes. They are usually pretty cheap, and admittedly, the slippers aren't exactly comfy, but they do their job.

    • @finele1366
      @finele1366 2 года назад +2

      I never heard of having house shoes fit guests. I'm from the south west of Germany. Here the guests just take off their shoes automatically and if not we ask them to or they ask. The floor in our house is really cold so we usually tell our guests to better bring some warm socks or house shoes with them themselves. But some spare socks we always have for them to wear above their socks

    • @sonjagatto9981
      @sonjagatto9981 2 года назад +2

      We did the same thing. At school we did not have to wear house shoes either.
      I also wish I would be back home in Bavaria. Liebe Gruesse Isolde aus Canada.
      🍁

    • @sebastianmatz2828
      @sebastianmatz2828 2 года назад +1

      Time for outing? Für mich hat es rein pragmatische Gründe. Als ich klein war (zw. 5-6 Jahre) bin ich durch die Wohnung gerannt. Wir hatten damals braune, mit Cord bezogene Sessel. Diese standen auf vier runden Füßen, so dass die Unterkante des Sessels ein paar Zentimeter über dem Boden war.
      Irgendwann bin ich dann mit dem kleinen Zeh an dieser Kante hängengeblieben und dabei hat sich der Nagel vom Nagelbett abgelöst. -Seitdem trage ich Hausschuhe.. 😎

  • @kerstinklenovsky239
    @kerstinklenovsky239 2 года назад +11

    There is a lot of space in our German hearts for people like you, who so happily go along with all our crazy rules and traditions. ♥️♥️♥️
    Thank you for coming here.
    Not only are you some brilliant ambassadors for your home country, but you have also become some fantastic ambassadors for Germany. 🤗

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  2 года назад +1

      That’s the nicest comment we could possibly get! Thank you. ❤️❤️

  • @winterschmied4583
    @winterschmied4583 3 года назад +52

    The video you released today is very intersting. As a native German most of the things you mentioned I don't even think about.
    Today is normally a holyday, called "Tag der deutschen Einheit". It remembers the day when both German countries (FRG and GDR or in German BRD and DDR) signed the reunion document in 1990 to become one country again. So normally at this day the Stores would be closed too and Kevin had an additional free day payed by his employer.

  • @MissLouiful
    @MissLouiful 3 года назад +5

    In Münster cycling is not only for fun, it is also the main means of transport for many people, we even have something called the "Promenade" which is a bike path which surrounds the inner city center and allows you to get everywhere really fast (and avoid cobble stones), almost like a "Fahrradautobahn". "Lastenfahrräder" are also very popular and we have special parking spots for those. Additionally, we have special traffic lights for cyclists (Fahrradampeln).

    • @beadus3512
      @beadus3512 3 года назад +1

      In fact, cyclists rule in Münster 😆

  • @dirkschwartz1689
    @dirkschwartz1689 3 года назад +76

    Dear Sarah and Kevin, I really appreciate the positivity and enthusiam with which you tackle the numerous adjustments to life in Germany! :) This is certainly something us Germans can learn from Americans like yourselves. We sometimes can take ourselves a bit too seriously and forget enjoying our lives when we see someone doing something "not quite the right way". Keep on, and all the best to you, your kids and - the cat :)

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +3

      Thank you so much! ❤️❤️

    • @imkepena8777
      @imkepena8777 3 года назад +7

      Yes, Dirk, that is right! We Germans Are sometimes so negative and we can definitively be so negative and narrow-minded. Keep up your positive attitude and I look forward to more videos!

    • @paulohagan3309
      @paulohagan3309 2 года назад +1

      Here in Ireland we get quite a lot of German tourists [in normal times}. They like getting the British stuff without uh, the corresponding attitudes. They also like our generally easy-going attitudes and not having to adhere to so many rules...

  • @michaelcomerford7034
    @michaelcomerford7034 3 года назад +16

    Welcome to Bayern. We moved here from Ireland 10 years ang and live in a town south east of München. There lots of surprises still in store for you, most of them good. Amtdeutsch and dealing with the Beamten will be some of the more challenging ones. With such an open attitude and young children you should have no problem integrating. Enjoy the experience. I'm not surprised that some of the locals picked up on your son's bicycle, as that setup was dangerous.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад

      Ah cool! Ireland! We’ve traveled all over Europe but sadly haven’t made it to Ireland yet. We are excited to go there one day. We are also southeast of München!

  • @winterschmied4583
    @winterschmied4583 3 года назад +36

    You mentioned Hausschuhe, that's, I think, an old tradition here when having carpets in the house. I know that you can buy all size slippers made from Felt that you can pull over your shoes. So you won't dirty the carpets in the living room.
    But today most houses are having Laminate, Wood or Tile Flooring, that you can easily clean, so not everyone suggests to have your shoes removed when visiting. You'll do it if it's raining or snowing and I know a lot of people that bring their own Hausschuhe to a visit. That's a sign of respect.

    • @wendyw.2778
      @wendyw.2778 3 года назад +6

      Don t worry, german parents have problems too with school supplies. I worked at Woolworth and each year desperate parents came with list with requirements they had no idea about. Regarding houseshoes: i never had spare for guests, it is up to them if they want to leave their shoes in or not. If somebody has could feet I offer warm knitted socks. But if you want to offer houseshoes, there are sets for sale which looks like a overdimensonal houseshoe and include a set of 4 pair felted shoes in different sizes.

    • @insideAdirtyMind
      @insideAdirtyMind 3 года назад +4

      It is very disrespectful to go into someones home with your street shoes on, where you just walked through dirt of the street and bring it into the house. Someone has to clean this up. If I would go into my parents house with my street shoes on, my father would make me leave the house immediatly and change my shoes and then clean up the floor.

    • @oliverferriere4782
      @oliverferriere4782 3 года назад +2

      but it is new (even to me) that kids wear them in school. We didn't wear them 30 years ago ... ;) today our kids do so

    • @LeChuck1717
      @LeChuck1717 3 года назад +1

      why would anyone need Hausschuhe. Are you guys really suffering when walking in socks? Thats what socks are for...

    • @winterschmied4583
      @winterschmied4583 3 года назад +1

      @@LeChuck1717
      Hmm, first let's say it's a tradition not something we have to do. Second here in Germany the climate is a bit to the colder side. And if you have warm feet you'll feel better in all.
      You don't have to waer shoes you'll often war thicker knitted socks. But Shoes do have another charming favour, If children run around in the house they can't slip that easily and get hurt.
      But not everyone Here is wearing Hausschuhe. Our family doesn't because we have an underfloor Heating and so warm feet aren't an issue, at least to us.

  • @JakobFischer60
    @JakobFischer60 3 года назад +37

    In our south german region a unknown guest will ask whether he should put his shoes off, and you tell him, that he can keep his shoes on. Only if a familiar guest will come and stay longer he will decide to put shoes off. As a guest, I always decline to use house shoes, I don't like wearing others peoples shoes.

    • @Serenity_yt
      @Serenity_yt 3 года назад +9

      Huh in my region of northern bavaria it is actually the polite thing to insist that its no problem to take your shoes of if you plan on being there longer than a few minutes. Familiarity doesnt matter. We do have a few pairs of slippers as well if guests want them but most just go either barefoot in summer or on socks in winter.

    • @musashi28
      @musashi28 3 года назад +5

      As a native German I would insist on all my guest to take off their shoes, this is a matter of good education from your parents or do you want to have all the dirt and gems in your house? I always couldn't understand cultures where this is not a thing, but I never experienced that in Germany, all people here in the south are taking their shoes off when entering a house as a guest.

    • @PeterAuto1
      @PeterAuto1 3 года назад

      I take my shoes off if I want to get comfortable, or if the host asks me to.

    • @claudiag.6273
      @claudiag.6273 2 года назад

      We are from northeast: shoes are taken off, normally. If hierachical higher person (doctor, boss) would come, i would insist to let their shoes on (if they are nice, they would take them of anyway) . But all the rest please takes their shoes off... must be funny for you.
      But i wonder how you do in the states: do you hoover and wipe with water after every visotor? Or you just stay with the (potential) dirt inside?

  • @philippwattenberg4533
    @philippwattenberg4533 2 года назад +8

    Please, don't be ridiculous, every sane person would be happy if you would try to fit in their culture even if it's not 100 % accurate. Feel free to do so and every german will be happy to see you guys. Need more people like you here

  • @Joy-zp5lv
    @Joy-zp5lv 3 года назад +14

    Oh wow - ihr zwei seid wahnsinnig sympathisch! Is likeable the word? I love how you adopted to Germany and our way to do things! To me these videos are so interesting - so thank you! Grüße vom Bodensee! ♥

  • @tottix1225
    @tottix1225 3 года назад +45

    My Father is Dachdecker and Energieberater. He told me that when you put the windows on "tilt", like the smaller option to open the window, then you let humidity into your house all day long. Ofc only when you leave it on tilt the whole day. What you should do is: Stoßlüften. Means that you open your windows and doors all the way up for like 5-10min and then you shut them. Tilt option is not as great for the humidity in your house as we might think. Just do stoßlüften 2 times a day and you´re good. :) I like your channel. Keep it up !

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +6

      Great advice! That’s exactly what worked for us but you described it better than we did. 🤣

    • @berndhoffmann7703
      @berndhoffmann7703 3 года назад +1

      We all know it, but anyway the majority is behaving differently :)

    • @niwa_s
      @niwa_s 3 года назад +1

      You only let humidity in if the outside air is actually more humid.

    • @Aine197
      @Aine197 3 года назад

      @@niwa_s It almost always is.

    • @mrs.bluesky7398
      @mrs.bluesky7398 3 года назад +9

      If you keep the windows on tilt in winter, the walls inside around the window get really cold and the humidity from the warm air inside condensates on the walls. The wall will get damp and mouldy.

  • @TypeAshton
    @TypeAshton 3 года назад +16

    Bike culture is amazing isn't it? It's one of the things we love so much about Germany. You guys are looking very prepared with the Fahrradanhänger too. 👍

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +2

      Yeah, you guys are the bike experts! So cool!

    • @heidiaufderalm2131
      @heidiaufderalm2131 2 года назад

      To be honest, Our family uses the bike only for short distances. For long distances we prefer "something motorized". We live in a mountaneous area and also it is a matter of time. Perhaps, we will buy E-bikes at a later stage. So far they are too expensive to us... Enjoy Bavaria (we live in BaWü)

  • @audreydakin8130
    @audreydakin8130 3 года назад +18

    I love the idea of kids being quiet on trains, in public. I love windows open and airing out the house. Growing up in small town Ontario, our stores were closed on Wednesdays. Somehow, we managed. Lol 🇨🇦

    • @Sonnenanbeterin1991
      @Sonnenanbeterin1991 2 года назад +3

      German kids are quite on trains? Me as a german was a little confused at the beginning

    • @susannabonke8552
      @susannabonke8552 2 года назад

      Love your humour. "We couldn't Shop 24/7". How did you SURVIVE? 2 weeks ago Facebook didn't work for a day and the boomers were so stressed: 😂😁😁😂

    • @susannabonke8552
      @susannabonke8552 2 года назад

      @@Sonnenanbeterin1991 did you ever hear some American dudes in the train? You hear before you see 'em..No offense. It's their Style.

  • @gluteusmaximus1657
    @gluteusmaximus1657 3 года назад +13

    Both of you look pretty relaxed. Just stay like that and everything will be fine. About the traditional bavarian Tracht. Even though, there are differences from village to village, you can wear Dirndl or other "Bavarian Style" garments as you like. Just that green hat with the german flag is a no-no. Germans wear those on Fasching/Karneval! Closing the shop during the week is up to the shop owners. Strolling through Reykjavík/Iceland, i spotted a sign that said : " closed, because of the nice weather"! Wouldn you do that - if you could? All the best to you.

    • @kevinmcfall5285
      @kevinmcfall5285 3 года назад +6

      Love it! Closed due to nice weather!

    • @gluteusmaximus1657
      @gluteusmaximus1657 3 года назад +3

      @@kevinmcfall5285 I was impressed. That person taught me quite something.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +2

      Ah I love it! “Closed because of the nice weather.” Yes, that’s the way to live.

  • @roamingcurious6730
    @roamingcurious6730 3 года назад +21

    I used to have a girlfriend that enjoyed knitting and she always had several pairs of thick socks that she had knitted in the cupboard for guests. Maybe you have an Oma somewhere that can make you some?

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +1

      What a good idea!

    • @Miristzuheiss
      @Miristzuheiss 3 года назад +11

      At december in little towns are often private Christmas Bazars, selling all they had done thereself in the year.
      Like Marmelade, birdshomes, Adventskranz 🤔, wooden toys, honeywax candles, herbal oil, vinegar and socks

    • @stefanhennig
      @stefanhennig 3 года назад +1

      @@Miristzuheiss I second that. to turn around a cliché, I usually ask for socks as a Christmas present, if they are thick and wooly.

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    @michaelharris6765 3 года назад +22

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      @louissandra1975 3 года назад

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      @robertmichael7009 3 года назад

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  • @thegreatxcelerator4224
    @thegreatxcelerator4224 3 года назад +11

    A tip concerning houseshoes for guests: I always take those throwaway houseshoes some hotels provide to their guests with me when I am traveling. They are usually one-size-fits-all and are okay to be worn several times provided your guests at home leave their socks on.

  • @christiankastorf1427
    @christiankastorf1427 3 года назад +9

    Do not get ill on Wednesdays either. The docs are on the golfcourse then after lunchtime.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +1

      🤣🤣🤣⛳️⛳️

    • @m.l.9385
      @m.l.9385 3 года назад +2

      @@MyMerryMessyGermanLife Well this ain't as funny as it sounds - as a docotro in a hospital - I can tell you Wednesdays after 13:00 the rush to the ER starts as most doctor's offices close at 12:00 - same on Fridays past 14:00....:-(

  • @ckb411
    @ckb411 3 года назад +30

    I would say 95% have no Hausschuhe for their guests.

    • @insideAdirtyMind
      @insideAdirtyMind 3 года назад +2

      This is strange, because how would the "Gästepantoffel-Set" sell then? I know a lot of people who have these at home.

    • @LeChuck1717
      @LeChuck1717 3 года назад +5

      true. Socks are perfect for every house

    • @TheKitaroHouse
      @TheKitaroHouse 3 года назад +4

      Yes, from my experience this is not very typical (and I grew up in Germany). We have one neighbour, she has a collection of different houseshoes for guests. But she is the only one I know who is doing that.
      All others: shoes off and using your socks.

  • @jomaclkego6381
    @jomaclkego6381 3 года назад +6

    I was born in 1958 in NRW. Hausschuhe only were worn in Kindergarten, not in school. My family used Hausschuhe at home. Visitors kept their shoes on. They only put shoes of, when they were real dirty. .And when family or friends visited us for birthday or a holiday, they put on good clothes and matching shoes. And the hosts would were good shoes too,, especially the ladies, matching with the clothes. Men wore mostly black leather shoes. When visitors came zu us for a birthday-celebration, I had to put on my "good shoes. I remember putting the "good shoes" in a bag, wearing other ones for snow, or mud and than changing in the good ones, when we arrived. When I came to Saxonia in 1992 I was puzzled, that everyone took of their shoes and a lot of friends would even bring houseshoes with them. I remember the irritating view of people in fine suits and dresses wearing houseshoes or socks. I never had horseshoes for guests. Persons who wanted to take of their shoes walked on socks.. We have some cheap house shoes for people with really dirty shoes and vor those who want to change.

  • @Kantonelli
    @Kantonelli 3 года назад +3

    Be yourself and do not try to become more German as some Germans try to tell you. I like your way to integrate and "smell" the regional life - but hey- you are also American. I had cultural shocks too as I had to move from Bavaria to Northern Germany as well as coming back from the US (California) to Baden-Württemberg /Switzerland. Try to not run into discussion about south - middle - north Germans about the better - best etc. In Switzerland they have a nice phrase for "over correct people or someone knowing anything better" . They call them "Düpflischisser"

    • @Ejonie
      @Ejonie 3 года назад

      in German its "Korinthenkacker", korinthen are a little form raisins, for the people which are over correct, and "klugscheisser" for people who know anything better. klug=smart
      I think German language like scheißen ;-)

  • @arnomrnym6329
    @arnomrnym6329 3 года назад +13

    Ich hatte für meine Gäste immer Schlosspantoffeln (Filzpantoffeln) parat. Die sind recht preisgünstig und die Größe muss nicht immer korrekt sein. Oder Noppen-Socken (Anti-slip-socks).
    Am 11. November ist Martinstag (Sankt Martin) mit Laternenumzügen für die Kinder. Das wird bestimmt ein Heidenspaß für eure Racker, Laternen zu basteln. 😁

  • @wneramt
    @wneramt 3 года назад +4

    Meine Eltern und meine Oma haben Hausschuhe für Gäste. Aber das sind solche Schuhe aus Filz, deshalb ist die Größe ziemlich egal..

  • @Opa_Andre
    @Opa_Andre 3 года назад +16

    First things first: I loved that rainy autumn intro part of the video. Calm down after a hot summer, peaceful, refreshing...
    I got somewhat surprised about the Hausschuhe in school. We didn't have such in my school and also my kids or my granddaughter didn't have those. Probably really depending on the school itself. The only extra shoes we had, were some kind of indoor slippers for the gym (Turnhalle) in school. Also in regards of using Hausschuhe it's really depending on the place / family you're visiting. From my personal experience, its not that common. If I'm going to visit others, yes - I'd check. Only one or two families / friends that I've been visiting do have those Gästehausschuhe. So mostly while your visiting, you're either running on your socks indoor or you are even requested to keep your shoes on. And personally, if I become aware that my visitors are about to pull their shoes off, I'm telling them to keep them on.
    Your mistake about using dishwashing tablets in the laundry made me laugh at first but on a second thought I understand this can become challenging. I still remember when I was living in the US for some time and tried to wash my clothings in a washing machine. Sorted them to colors and temperature as I was used to and when I went to the washing machine there was only a "cold / warm / hot" setting without further explanation. So I was really wondering about what does for example "warm" mean? How warm is "warm"? 😲

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +7

      Yes there ya go! It can be very challenging to use appliances and products in a foreign country. It’s hard at first and then it makes for a funny story later on! 🤣

    • @LythaWausW
      @LythaWausW 3 года назад +1

      @@MyMerryMessyGermanLife Thanks for the beautiful fall shots. I am ecstatic that Summer is over, I cannot handle German summers anymore. Also I'm from Seattle so the sound of the rain is meditative for me. There are RUclips channels that play nonstop rain sounds, did ya know?

    • @Opa_Andre
      @Opa_Andre 3 года назад +1

      @@LythaWausW Awww, Lytha - Greetings to Seattle. Been there several times. So many good memories.💖

  • @wolfgangk4952
    @wolfgangk4952 3 года назад +3

    One of the hardest Culture shock`s for Foreigner`s you forgot to mention are the " Opening Hours for Glass containers. 🤣🤣

  • @Stoffmonster467
    @Stoffmonster467 3 года назад +5

    The closing hours of shops are because the tiny shops often are family businesses, so they don't have the staff for continuous opening. And the upholstery or TV shop for example installs curtains or TVs on the closed wednesday.

  • @LerneDeutsch
    @LerneDeutsch 2 года назад +1

    I just found your channel! It's so good! 😍

  • @jpdj2715
    @jpdj2715 3 года назад +8

    9:20 - your child has its saddle too low from bio-physics and energy-efficiency point of view. If you want to optimize these factors, then the leg should stretch completely when a pedal is at the lowest point, plus a bit, so you also stretch your foot a bit. This puts much less strain on the joints, the connective tissue around these and the tendons. And loads the muscles less so you do not become as fatigued as fast and are better able to make the 30km (almost 20 miles) tour. In bicycle racing for minors they used to leave gear sets out, had fixed transmission ratios, to force the children to learn making RPM rather than overloading their growing tissues. And, higher rpm also gets you up a slope more easily in that 30km ride in Bavaria.
    There is a safety aspect though, in the sense that the child's feet cannot reach the ground when the saddle is this high and they need to be comfortable with that (grow into that). And this has a corollary for boys when their family jewels have descended. Slip off the pedals and fall on the horizontal upper tube of a "masculine" bike and that fall could this easily tear one or both these jewels off of their connecting ducts and arteries. So here is an argument to have a small bike frame with a tall saddle adjustment tube, rather than an oversized frame with the saddle at the lowest point. And that smaller frame is more rigid.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +1

      Yes you’re right! We do need to raise his seat up quite a bit. He actually has a new bicycle that’s bigger but doesn’t want to ride it!

  • @millionsparks96
    @millionsparks96 3 года назад +6

    I live in NRW and we definitely do cycle a lot. When I was young, our parents and their friends (who all had kids the same ages) would always plan bike rides on the weekends. Usually about 30 km too. The parents would pack snacks, we'd stop at playgrounds and then meet at one of the families' garden to have a barbecue. I also regularly rode my bike to school and I also do now that I study in University. Not many college aged kids have their own car, so bikes are elemental, especially when you live in the countryside and can't rely on public transport, or use it to get to the closest public transport stop. My boyfriend and I also often go on bike rides on the weekends now, just for fun and leisure

  • @77flojoe77
    @77flojoe77 3 года назад +2

    Great Video! You will definitely make you way in Germany :-) As well as anywhere else ;-)

  •  3 года назад +5

    Great to see your enthusiasm and easiness about all the differences. Please keep that up. It looks like approaching all the German rules and manners with a light heart, picking it up step by step, is quite the right attitude. :)
    You don't have to have Hausschuhe for guests, but if you want to be a good host, and it's reasonable to have (for example not as much if you are living in a tiny apartment). Several couples, different sizes or rather to big than too small. There are cheap general Hausschuhe which are fine.
    But just in general, it's German to be thoughtful and prepared. Plan ahead. If you notice, that a scenario would be better if you had a tool, and you expect it to happen again, think about if it's reasonable to acquire and bring that tool with you next time. No matter if you go walk, go on a hike, go shopping, go on a bike walk ... it's a lifestyle to look at problems in life, think about how to improve it, and take action (and then evaluate if that worked or what else you can do). I guess that's where the reputation of Made in Germany comes from. :D
    Regarding the quiteness of kids: don't take it too serious. It's good to teach what is expected of them. But if they are more outspoken and run around, even if people give you looks, remember kids are kids, and they need some space to go wild. There's also some leeway parents should get with their parents, based on their age, of course, but there are morons who want to scold anyone for having a little fun. It's a shame. Cudos for being such great parents. :)

  • @swanpride
    @swanpride 3 года назад +8

    The Hausschuhe thing is VERY regional, so you won't be able to get a clear answer to that one. The area in which I am is very situational. Like, you yourself don't wear shoes in the house, but when you get guests, well, they are either allowed to keep their shoes on (especially if you get multiple guests at once and the party happens half outside), or they get rid of them and walk around in socks. I think especially in the rural areas the Hausschuhe are more common, because of all the dirt which is carried in otherwise.

    • @byemyself3166
      @byemyself3166 3 года назад +1

      I don't think it's necessary rural, it's rather personal. I live in the center of Germany's second-largest city and I urge everyone - even handymen - to take their shoes off. I find the idea gross that they were walking on whatever and spread it on my floor. Only if there is a party, people can keep their shoes on - then the floor gets a thorough extra-cleaning the following day. Come to think of it, I believe everyone I know asks visitors to take their shoes off.

    • @swanpride
      @swanpride 3 года назад +4

      @@byemyself3166 I would NEVER ask a handymen to take their shoes off. They are part of their protective gear. I wouldn't want to be responsible for them getting injured just because a little bit of dirt.

  • @a.b.4317
    @a.b.4317 3 года назад +2

    Don't over-estimate the "Hausschuh" thing. Some people demand guests to pull off their shoes at home, but it is by far not the majority...

  • @danielw.2442
    @danielw.2442 3 года назад +13

    Don't stress yourself to much about it, socks are always an appropriate "Hausschuh" too. 😉

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +2

      Okay, good! Our German friends haven’t seemed upset about it, but they’re also so nice 😄.

    • @katiepalmer3639
      @katiepalmer3639 3 года назад +1

      Totally! Don't tell my grandma though 😆

    • @christineseling4013
      @christineseling4013 3 года назад +3

      You can also acquire some “one size fits all “ Filzpantoffeln (felt slippers similar to hotel slippers) to hand out to guests

  • @d.7416
    @d.7416 3 года назад +17

    Regarding the Hausschuhe: the US is pretty much the only country where people would wear streetshoes in the house. Here it is considered not sanitary. So yes, we often have a set of guestshoes: you can get packages with different sizes in shops or amazon. But usually you can also just wear socks when you visit someone.
    Generally we make a strong difference between outside/ inside. Not only shoes but for example the first thing we do when we get home is wash our hands (also in restaurants for example).
    To the cultures in Germany: Germany is a country that came out of many countries. Basically you had a whole lot of german speaking tribes: allemans, bavarians, frisians, saxons etc that sometimes were also ethnic groups and were culturally different, then these tribes were followed by kingdoms, then empires (prussia etc) and finally some of these kingdoms/ countries became what today is Germany. So the cultures and food is still very different, even religions and like you mentioned, the traditional clothes. You can even see the different ethnical backrounds sometimes: for example the people with saxon and frisian ancestors live in northern Germany, are often blond or gingers, tall etc. You can look that up with maps where red heads live in Germany for example. Of course it's not as strong as it used to be but these tendencies are still there.

    • @alexanderlindner5808
      @alexanderlindner5808 3 года назад +3

      "the US is pretty much the only country where people would wear streetshoes in the house" -- I lived in Belgium, France, Netherlands, and Spain. In none of these countries, Hausschuhe are asked for when visiting people.

    • @d.7416
      @d.7416 3 года назад +5

      @@alexanderlindner5808 i wrote about street shoes in the house, not Hausschuhe in that sentence and i visited those countries too and never wore my streetshoes inside, nor was it socially acceptable, besides France, where it depends on where in France you are

    • @alexanderlindner5808
      @alexanderlindner5808 3 года назад +2

      @@d.7416 I lived in all of those places. I am an expat since 30 years. Never ever have I been asked to put off my street shoes. Never.

  • @ProCorona
    @ProCorona 3 года назад +9

    Another perfect video and starting with such beautiful images, very enjoyable to watch guys, have a great funny Sunday 😃🤙🏻🤙🏻

  • @Krokostad
    @Krokostad 3 года назад +22

    Now I am completely surprised: I knew that kids in the US don't learn cursive and don't use a fountain pen, but I didn't know that they don't have to write in lines or use a ruler....
    So I would be interested in the American way: Don't they have a Federmäppchen and coloured pencils in the US? Do they just need one pencil/ pen?

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +20

      We are going to do a school update video soon, so this would be a good thing to add! Kids do need a lot of school supplies in the US, too. And they do also need colored pencils usually. But only for the younger grades.

    • @Krokostad
      @Krokostad 3 года назад +1

      @@MyMerryMessyGermanLife Oh thank you! That would be great! 👍

    • @LythaWausW
      @LythaWausW 3 года назад

      I'm American and I had to learn both "block print" and cursive, which was enforced by lines & dotted lines on paper we had to conform to. We never used fountain pens, in fact we mostly used pencils. Federmappen do not exist in America. I had a kind of ziplock that attached to my 3-ring binder full of pencils. The erasers were on the ends of the pencils, it wasn't critical to have a separate eraser. We did not need colored pencils but in college we use highlighers of various shades. Also, the pencils must be #2! : )

    • @kevinmcfall5285
      @kevinmcfall5285 3 года назад +3

      Yeah usually just a pencil. Coloring is considered something just for little kids like in kindergarten. I have been impressed here where school assignments often use color pedagogically and to be fun.

    • @karinland8533
      @karinland8533 3 года назад +4

      Oh, I‘d love a school update 💕!

  • @kleinerwiesenknopf6330
    @kleinerwiesenknopf6330 2 года назад +5

    In my family, the Hausschuh culture is celebrated up until now as described in your video :D
    Sometimes guests bring their own Hausschuhe and I'm taking mine with me when visiting friends or family for a few days. My parents have an over life-sized Hausschuh inhabiting slippers in different sizes and colours. Of course those are simple and quiet cheap, but they always have to offer something to those who get cold feet quickly walking on the floor with nothing but their socks on.
    Cycling really is a big thing- not only in Bavaria. I grew up in Mecklenburg-Vorpommern, where cycling tourism is that popular special touring cyclist hotels and cycle tracks exist in beautiful protected landscapes you could not reach with a car. My parents took me and my siblings on long hikes and extended biking tours as you've mentioned and I still enjoy having an active and fun time with my family.
    About airing too long while not turning the heating down: my dad used to say "Wir heizen doch nicht für draußen!". The key is Stoßlüften, which means to open up all windows at the same time and let the fresh air circulate into the house for 15-20 minutes and then close the windows.
    I think Germans really appreciate your thoughtful, positive and curious approach to their culture. Keep up that contagious delighted spirit

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  2 года назад

      Thank you! Sounds like we’ve got to visit Mecklenburg and do a bike tour!

    • @antjestr1047
      @antjestr1047 2 года назад

      I'm from Mecklenburg too and my family ALSO has this gigantic slipper (on the wall) in which all these guest-slippers in different sizes are stored :'D

    • @29duygu24
      @29duygu24 2 года назад

      Super interesting, we don’t have this culture in the west

  • @Rainerjgs
    @Rainerjgs Год назад +2

    Thank you for your great Care towards the German Traditions! This makes you very likeable and will certainly bring you many Friendships! - With your wonderfully good Mood and your so happy Laugh you are a good Role-Model for many Germans, who are often much too serious and petulant!

  • @tanjasolerti4403
    @tanjasolerti4403 3 года назад +8

    Just wanted to say that Dirndl and Tracht are not the same things.
    A Dirndl can have any colour and pattern that you like. There are many different kinds of Dirndl depending on fashion.
    A Tracht is something like the patterns on Scottish kilts. It shows to which part of the country you belong. And it is not necessarily a Dirndl.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +1

      Okay so I thought Tracht covers any type of traditional German clothing, is that not correct? From the Black Forest to Hamburg and everything in between.

    • @j.a.1721
      @j.a.1721 3 года назад

      @@MyMerryMessyGermanLife I would say you are right. This is how I would have defi ed Tracht as well.

    • @Sabsemade
      @Sabsemade 3 года назад

      @@MyMerryMessyGermanLife A Dirndl can be a kind of Tracht, but it doesn't have to be. Nowadays, when you think about a Dirndl, there's some kind of vleavage involved, whereas in a Trachtenkleid, there doesn't have to be. Patterns and colours are specific to the area they're from, and some are buttoned up to your neck. It really depends on where and when they're from.

  • @147Heart
    @147Heart 3 года назад +15

    about the Hausschuh-question: at my parent's place everyone was allowed in with their shoes, so we never had Hausschuhe for guests, and i do it the same way now that i am moved out and married myself. but i do have a lot of friends that take care of their floors a looot and they ask me to wear their guest-Hausschuhe when i am there.
    i think if you want your guests to take their shoes off, then it's nice to offer them Hausschuhe. especially for all the ladies with chronic cold feet 😅🤣

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +1

      Okay this is so good to know! Maybe we will get a set for our guests.

    • @schnaeutz4546
      @schnaeutz4546 3 года назад +1

      Normalerweise lasse ich die Straßenschuhe an. Nur wenn es draußen regnet, bringe ich meine eigenen Hausschuhe mit oder gehe auf Strümpfen. (I usually keep my street shoes on. Only when it rains outside do I bring my own slippers or wear stockings. )

    • @LeChuck1717
      @LeChuck1717 3 года назад +1

      socks are good enough. Hausschuhe have literally no purpose

    • @147Heart
      @147Heart 3 года назад

      @@LeChuck1717 well i think they do, because there a lots of people like me that get cold easily when they only have socks on their feet

    • @richard--s
      @richard--s 3 года назад

      I wrote a longer comment with "Gästehausschuhe" as a tip but it got deleted. Nevertheless try a slection of the cheaper ones. Many companies make them, so it really is no advertising for any company.

  • @beadus3512
    @beadus3512 3 года назад +6

    Almost 20,000 subscribers 👍
    You deserve 200,000 - at least! 🥰

  • @littlebarbie6400
    @littlebarbie6400 3 года назад +5

    First of all thank you for the videos. I really enjoy them.
    I was surprised when you mentioned qiuetness as an important factor in public transportation because i never thought it was. As I write this comment I realize it is... a little. But I would not stress out to much about it. Usually people won't expect four young children to stay perfectly quiet. Running around is mainly frowned upon because children might fall when the train has to make a sudden stop. There are great games for trains like >who stole the cookies from the cookie jari spy with my little eye

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +1

      German words are the best - Stoppersocken! They’re always so logical. I love it! Yeah that’s a good point about keeping the kids quiet - Germans do seem to really understand children and don’t get upset when they are being themselves.

  • @KlausZanetti
    @KlausZanetti 3 года назад +19

    There`s no need for more words than: YOU ARE GREAT !
    And that`s, why I love you and your videos !

  • @ginger8900
    @ginger8900 3 года назад +3

    On the Hausschuh-culture: You asked how it works to provide Hausschuhe for your guests... 😅 other people in the comments already talked about the felt slippers.
    It is also common to lend your guests Hausschuhe that you do not use. I don't know why, but in some families there are multiple Hausschuhe. That's just the way it is. 😅
    As a child I was often offered warm socks instead of Hausschuhe. That is also an opportunity. The main intention is that nobody has cold feet. 😊
    So: Yes it is true that Hausschuhe for guests are a common thing. But don't worry about it too much. It is absolutely okay if you don't have Hausschuhe for your guests! ❤

  • @marrykurie48
    @marrykurie48 3 года назад +7

    When I have been 8 and my brother had been 6 years old, we rode as a whole family of four from Salzgitter to Lübeck in a few days by traveling form one youth hostel to the next. One time we did camping at the Tankumsee, but the rest of the tour was in youth hostels.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +1

      So cool! One of our friends just did this with his son, too. We would really like to try this sometime.

  • @Baccatube79
    @Baccatube79 3 года назад +10

    "die Tracht" is pronounced with a long "a" as in "are" and the "ch" as in Scottish "loch". The word is related to the verb "tragen" (to bear/carry/wear depending on context)

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад

      Good to know, thank you

    • @gluteusmaximus1657
      @gluteusmaximus1657 3 года назад +2

      Could you please explain how the term "Tracht Prügel" is developed from the verb "tragen"?

    • @merla9743
      @merla9743 3 года назад

      @@gluteusmaximus1657 Hope that I can explain it in underdtandable English:

    • @merla9743
      @merla9743 3 года назад +12

      Ethymoligically, the Tracht refers to what one can wear at once. What bees bring back from flight is also the Tracht. And pregnant (animals) also refers to what is practically worn/ carryed once: trächtig. So a Tracht Prügel is what you can bear all at once.

    • @trueamnisias
      @trueamnisias 3 года назад

      @@merla9743 Wow - I really learnt something new today. So Tracht is a bit like Fracht, just for living beeings?

  • @jeannettewilke205
    @jeannettewilke205 3 года назад +3

    Things have changed in Germany over the years. When I was at Grundschule we never had to wear house shoes. Schools used to be not as comfortable and home like as they are today. We never had hot meals at school either. When my kids entered school it was all different and much nicer then it was one generation before.

  • @madmike2498
    @madmike2498 3 года назад +8

    When i was young and on vacation in Übersee, my family usually planned a day trip cycling around the Chiemsee, which is about 60 km long. And that was no problem for us as Kids.

    • @JohnHazelwood58
      @JohnHazelwood58 3 года назад +1

      I drove around the Chiemsee, too! Amazing place to stay for a long weekend! :)

    • @viomouse
      @viomouse 3 года назад +1

      when I was around 8 and older, my dad and I would ride 28 km one way, so 56 km total, to a lake, have a swim there, eat lunch and ride back :-) we rode bikes a lot though, so I was really fit to do that.

  • @53kama
    @53kama 3 года назад +2

    "Unsere vier Kinder in der Öffentlichkeit ruhiger halten." Das hört sich ja so an als ob alle Kinder in Deutschland in der Öffentlichkeit ruhig sein müssen. In Deutschland hat das höchste Gericht festgelegt, dass Kinderlärm kein Krach sein kann und man es deshalb ertragen muss. Das gilt überall! Das hat nichts mit der Rücksicht, die Ihr im Zug auf Andere nehmt. Da freu ich mich auch wenns so ist. Wenn nicht, habe ich immer einen Gehörschutz mit. 😎

    • @tokarukoro8196
      @tokarukoro8196 3 года назад

      Es gibt verschiedene Härtegrade von Kinderlärm. Ich bin mir sicher, dass es auch Zustände gibt, die ein Gericht nicht für okay befinden würde, auch wenn der Lärm von Kindern kommt, nämlich dann, wenn der Lärm absichtlich produziert wird oder weit über normale Zustände hinausgeht.

    • @53kama
      @53kama 3 года назад

      @@tokarukoro8196 …. weil Kinderlärm laut Gesetz grundsätzlich hinzunehmen ist, wie der Bundesgerichtshof (BGH) in einem am Mittwoch verkündeten Urteil entschied. (Az. VIII ZR 197/14). Schau da ruhig mal nach.

  • @tokarukoro8196
    @tokarukoro8196 3 года назад +20

    About Hausschuhe: Yes. We have them in different sizes for guests, but you do not HAVE to have them.
    About Cultural Appropriation: I never actually met a Bavarian or Austrian person who was seriously angry about visitors who wear a Tracht or a traditional hat. The worst thing I ever experienced (or did myself ;-) was laughing about people who bought themselves traditional dresses and tried to look "native" while having no idea about it.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +1

      Okay that’s good to know. I guess they were more laughing at us than upset about Cultural Appropriation!

    • @BZFFirst
      @BZFFirst 3 года назад +1

      ​@@MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      I think this is highly dependent on the region.
      Abolutly nobody in our wider Friend circle has guest shoes.
      When we visit family we just take them off.
      If we visit friend it is dependent on the friend and weather if you take the shoes off or not.
      But no houseshoes for us.
      Region "around" Stuttgart

    • @andreaweber8059
      @andreaweber8059 3 года назад

      @@MyMerryMessyGermanLife I guess it all depends on context. A friend of meine is from India. Now, she does not speak German, so there is no way to mistake her for a Bavarian. When she visited Bavaria she made some pictures of herself in traditional Bavarian clothing. People would not mind - and as this was around the time of the Octoberfest, it was probably even encouraged (Bavaria does make some money through tourists).
      Then again, if she has European friends over, they like to try out Indian dresses (and they need help - with a Sari I guess you should know what you are doing), and she is happy about it! It is just friends having fun!

  • @mirka
    @mirka 3 года назад +6

    Like your clips very much. I'm Polish living in California, most of the peculiarities you mention are familiar to me, turns out Poles and Germans have quite a lot in common, after all.
    For example house shoes are quite common in Poland. I guess they keep the house floors clean, especially when it's raining/ snowing outside (more then half of the year).,

    • @gerhardadler3418
      @gerhardadler3418 3 года назад +3

      I think you are right on that. I know quite some people from poland here in germany and they usually fit in very easily whereever they live in germany. I think the general mindset is pretty similiar.

    • @mirka
      @mirka 3 года назад +1

      @@gerhardadler3418 after all we often had same kings, and part of Poland was Prussia once.
      Every time I land in Frankfurt, and smell wurst + sauerkraut, I feel home 🏡

    • @petermages9482
      @petermages9482 3 года назад

      95% of all Polish have German ancestors.

    • @mirka
      @mirka 3 года назад

      @@petermages9482 definitely not.
      I did DNA heritage test, I'm 99% Easter European.
      We are a separate race, just absorbing some life habits of our West/ East neighbors.

    • @petermages9482
      @petermages9482 3 года назад

      @@mirka Yes I heard that before. That is what they said when Poland exterminated tens of Millions of people to get their land.

  • @HS-wp5vb
    @HS-wp5vb Год назад +1

    How much things changed since when I was a kid in the 1970s and '80s. You came with what you had. Water-repellened clothes were basically not yet invented except for the Friesennerz (I leave you guessing what that is). When it rained, you got wet. Our Tornister was filled-up with books much too heavy for children. And the Federmäppchen was called Etui. In many ways, it was a simpler, easier time than today.

  • @wolfgang8418
    @wolfgang8418 3 года назад +13

    I wouldn‘t call it „culture shock“ ;
    a „Schock“ is negative .
    I suggest, calling this „cultural differences“

  • @cailwi9
    @cailwi9 3 года назад +1

    I think you are way too hard on yourself. That is what moving to a different culture is all about, that you challenge yourself to see the world differently or live around people who see it differently. Of course, that means that preconceived ideas about what the other culture is like, get challenged or outright thrown out the window. Germans wear Trachtenhut with about the same regularity with which 'Americans wear cowboy boots, etc. Now you actually moved to the very area of Germany, where the traditional Tracht can still be seen, especially for special events, but in the rest of the country, you will find it less or not at all, the further you move away from your home location.
    By the way, little hint or mini-German lesson here: Time to learn how to say the German 'A' = like open mouth at the dentist. And it comes in two forms, short and long. Same sound though. it always amazes me how different in English the short vowel sounds are from the long ones, quite confusing. Not so in German, mostly they are the same, especially the 'A'. It sounds kind of like in 'father', just that the shorter 'A' is shorter (more like English 'bus' or 'but'), and the longer 'A; is longer and even more open than in 'father'. The English word 'father' is kind of in the middle, as far as the length of the 'A' is concerned. Tracht is short, because more that one consonant follows the 'a', so are words like 'kann', man (this is an exception, because man = Mann in pronunciation), dann, hast, ....Examples for long 'A' would be: Bahn, Tag, tragen, Damen, haben....If you put these words into Google translate and hit the loudspeaker, you can make it say things like: Die Damen tragen Tracht. In der Nacht darf die Bahn da nicht fahren. Der Tag ist anders als die Nacht. and so forth, to get that 'A' sound. The only time the 'A' goes into 'short e' territory, is when there are two dots on top, but other than that, it is open mouth 'A'. It will help both your comprehension and speech once you have that one down, but I know it is a mind shift, if you come from English to get that mindset shift accomplished. Enough of this...
    I think you are doing mighty fine adapting to this culture that tends to be so much more regulated, at least in the small stuff, than for example the US. Germany is a very free country when it comes to the bigger things in life, but the small stuff? We Germans don't even have an expression like 'don't sweat the small stuff', because that's what we do. Believe me, it is often quite annoying for us too, Germans will also have kids who do not have their 'Federtasche' properly packed, believe me, and they will complain about those riggors of life, but in school, the teacher will ask things to be done their way, til about 7th grade, then this all starts falling apart. But you have not reached that one yet. Have fun, and hope you all stay well (or get there).

  • @KitsuneHB
    @KitsuneHB 3 года назад +3

    Hausschuhe at school? Cool! :D When I was in school (Lower Saxony and when I was older in Bremerhaven) we were wearing street shoes but during a long school day Hausschuhe would have be fine. For guests I've bought a set of different sizes of Hausschuhe but most people like to wear just their socks. But I'm a bit surprised about the Regenhose or the belt of a backpack. :D Okay, I was born in 1975 - a different time and I have no kids. So I never realised what changes happend for Kindergartenkids etc. I just had a rain jacket when I was in Kindergarten and just a little bag for my snacks. But Kindergarten ended at lunch time, my mum picked me up and I had lunch at some, so their was no need for a bigger bag.
    Of course we do a LOT OF bicycling here in the north of Germany. :D I live in Bremen and was raised in Lower Saxony. We have a flat landscape so bicycling is easy. Bremen tries to change their city and build "Fahrrad Premium Routen" - some kind of "Autobahn for bicylces", but smaller. Oldenburg, a city near Bremen, is also well-known for their bicylce-culture. No wonder - the netherlands, the number one bicycle land in Europe, is not far away.
    Cultural Approbiation - don't be afraid. Germans are a bit more laid back than americans I guess. :D If you want to wear a Dirndl or Lederhosen - do it. But please don't say "That's german!" Germany is diverse and here is an example for the Tracht in Bremen: klausrosnau.de/tracht1.htm Or have a look on the photos on this site de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bremer_Tracht_(19._Jahrhundert)

  • @markneis9610
    @markneis9610 2 года назад +1

    You mentioned 'Hausschuhe"... I grew up in the Saarland. There and also in Köln, Wuppertal or Mannheim (the places I used to live and work)
    , I had never even heard about this custom until I moved to Saxony - where this is common.

  • @chrissiesbuchcocktail
    @chrissiesbuchcocktail 3 года назад +14

    The "Hausschuh" thing is no issue in my family and with my friends. Nobody makes visitors to get out of their shoes or has extra "Hausschuhe" for guests. If the weather is bad and the shoes are wet or dirty I leave them outside or in the hallway when I visit someone of course but other than that everybody wears them in the homes of family and friends. Also I've never gone to a school that wanted pupils to wear them. That was back in the 70s and 80s and in larger cities though. I think if I ever come to a home where the host makes me get out of my shoes I would actually have a culture shock lol.

    • @carinab.1923
      @carinab.1923 3 года назад

      Agree 100%, that's how I know it. I don't wear shoes in my home and I would never make a guest do that. But I have also seen people getting these sets of felt-shoes for guests... idk...

    • @claudiakarl7888
      @claudiakarl7888 3 года назад

      I have some friends that expect you to bring your house shoes, otherwise you‘ll get some woolen socks to wear

    • @millionsparks96
      @millionsparks96 3 года назад +1

      I don't think the Hausschuhe in school is an 80s thing. My local primary school made children wear Hausschuhe about 10 years ago, so actually a rather recent phenomenon. Also, in Kindergarten it has always been standard, hasn't it?

    • @carinab.1923
      @carinab.1923 3 года назад +1

      @@millionsparks96 In Kindergarten yes, but never in school 🤔

    • @millionsparks96
      @millionsparks96 3 года назад +1

      @@carinab.1923 in the primary schools in my area it is very normal now, but like I said, actually a rather recent phenomenon

  • @IronFreee
    @IronFreee Год назад +1

    There's no such thing as "cultural appropriation" (that's just a pretext for some people to be intolerant). Cultures have always been appropriated and digested, that's how humanity has progressed. And wearing a costume for fun isn't even part of that.
    But you'll always find some people who are very passionate about their culture. Unless you are really doing something offensive, you can ignore them :D

  • @christiankolinski1563
    @christiankolinski1563 3 года назад +4

    Having an additional day off in the week is common for smaller shops, it's kind of a compensation for opening Saturday so they can manage with a 5 day week for their employees. Some shops around here don't close the whole day but only Wednesday afternoon, and close noon on Saturday, so over all it's 5 days. Same with closing from 12:30 or 13:00 to 14:30, so at a whole they go to about 8 to 9h / day so they don't need two shifts. Often employees do a bit of time shifting within those hours, so some come early to prepare shop and the others stay after closing to clean up.
    On the "Tracht".. I think that's a subject that might be worth a deep dive ;). Here in the Black Forrest, the Tracht - well at least the "Festtagstracht" for Sunday and Holidays - varies substantially from town to town (only about three cities actually use the "Bollenhut" that's often shown on marketing material for the Black Forrest region). One point that's a surprise for tourists visiting is that the Tracht for married and unmarried women is different (in case of the Bollenhut: unmarried red, married black), in my hometown unmarried women wear a quite elaborate "Schäppel" with pearls and silver, while married women wear an embroidered cap/hood. Color of skirt changes too, so getting married would have meant a complete change of wardrobe.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад

      Ah this is so cool! I actually learned more about this in a video from Kirsten and Joerg, and they explained the Bollenhut and the differences for married and unmarried women.

  • @amyloriley
    @amyloriley 3 года назад +1

    From what I gather, cultural appropriation is an almost strictly American thing. Reminds me of the story of an American girl who wore a kimono in Japan. All Americans were like "You can't wear that, you're not Japanese. You're insulting Japanese culture," while all Japanese were like "oh cool, you wear some of our clothes. It would be awesome if Japanese clothing would be more widespread in America."

  • @expatexpat6531
    @expatexpat6531 3 года назад +3

    S(t)ore hours: Not too long ago shops in Germany shut at around one 13:00 or 14:00 on a Saturday in urban areas. Imagine what a hassle that was after a Friday night out.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +1

      Yeah true! You’d have to make sure you do your shopping before you hit the clubs and bars on Friday nights.

    • @elisabethlemoigne5710
      @elisabethlemoigne5710 3 года назад

      Or get up very early on Saturday

  • @lofiloop9124
    @lofiloop9124 2 года назад +1

    Don't mind the so-called 'cultural appropriation' as a bad thing, as it is in fact not. Quite the opposite. It is the way human societies and cultures evolve, by borrowing habits, symbols, etc. from others. It's almost exclusively a sign of admiration. Unless your intent is to redicule the other culture, don't let yourself be bothered by people who clearly don't understand how the world works but find it cool to throw trendy accusations at other people's heads, just because it seems the policitcal correct thing to do at the moment.
    The same people who accuse you of cultural appropriation for wearing a silly hat would probably also be the first to ask you to learn German in the first place if you have the audacity to move here. And they won't even see the irony in that.
    Don't listen to them! Keep being open minded and enjoy your time here.

  • @rosiekoenig8468
    @rosiekoenig8468 2 года назад +4

    I absolutely love hearing about other nationalies living in Germany and their experiences. As a German National I find it interesting and of course amusing at times. I nearly cried when you mentioned using dishwasher tablets instead of laundry deterrent. 😅 . I moved from Germany to England 27 years ago and let's just just say there were a lot of differences to get used to there as well. Good luck with making many more interesting experiences in Germany 🇩🇪.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  2 года назад

      Love your comment! Yes you totally understand as someone who has also been a foreigner in a new country. It’s a whole other world! So much to learn!

  • @carinapusteblume9039
    @carinapusteblume9039 3 года назад +1

    cultural appropriation isn't a thing in Germany. We don't care if you wear a Dirndl. You can wear Tracht in Germany to be part of the community, you can wear it just because you like the look and you can wear it as a costume. We honestly don't care as long as you have fun. The only thing we highly advise is to not see Bavarian culture as German culture in general. There have been petitions to remove Bavaria from the BRD for a reason lol

  • @Paul_C
    @Paul_C 3 года назад +4

    There is this mindset, particularly in the USA, everything is interchangeable. Part of the reason, at least for me, America in essence lost they footing by migrating to the USA. What most Europeans dislike about 'Americans' they tend to disregard the history of the places they visit. They tend to see their values as the end of it all. The other thing, each and every region has their own customs. That throws a spanner in the works when moving to another region, even were you to move from Bavaria to Hessen. Same country but the little things are absolutely NOT the same.
    Sure, you try your best but there is learning curve that can last for years. As an example from my country, within our borders there are 200+ dialects spoken. And that might seem a lot to you as is. But the country I hail from is the Netherlands with just 17.5 million inhabitants. My parents were born in Tilburg, I was born in Eindhoven. We, in our family of 4, have different dialects. Yes we understand each other but the speech patterns are wildly different. That doesn't compute in the American mindset.

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад +6

      Totally agree with you about the American mindset. They want to travel Europe but often don’t understand or appreciate the history and the cultural difference while traveling. They want to see a few pretty buildings and move on! It’s a very American approach, and it’s disrespectful and arrogant. And wow - I didn’t know there were so many dialects in the Netherlands! Wow, so cool.

    • @Paul_C
      @Paul_C 3 года назад +1

      @@MyMerryMessyGermanLife When my parents moved from Tilburg to Eindhoven they had to relearn their own language, Grandmother was a local butcher and spoke in the dialect spoken there, as did her children. Fast forward when they got married and moved to Eindhoven my mother had trouble understanding the local dialect. Dad did better but had trouble too. That meant for me I can understand Dutch but I could not understand what they said in their Tilburg dialect. They had to speak in a Eindhoven dialect or a mishmash of that. And that distance between those places was just 30km. Ah well, it probably helped me identifying at least where in the greater region a certain dialect was spoken. It is exactly that what irks most of 'us' about 'Americans', not considering those regional differences.

    • @magmalin
      @magmalin 3 года назад +1

      @@Paul_C That's really interesting. I didn't know that there are so many dialects in the Netherlands that not everyone understands. I don't know what it was like in Germany ages ago, if people from different dialectal regions understood it each other. My parents, WWII fugitives from Selesia and Moravia didn't seem to have too many problems understanding Bavarians when they came here. But I do very well remember, as a small child in Kindergarten, that a lot of words and expressions for certain things I used which were normal in my family surroundings were not understood by the Kindergarten teachers or my friends. And I didn't understand some of their Suabian words or expressions.

    • @Paul_C
      @Paul_C 3 года назад +1

      @@magmalin In today's world only those who never left their native area speak in dialect only. But my mother had a hard time getting used to the dialect spoken in the Eindhoven area. The consequence for me, as her son born in '58, speak neither the Eindhoven dialect fluently not the Tilburg one. That was the bad thing of it all. That said, I know the difference between various dialects spoken in Noord Brabant, just haven't the vocabularies of them. I speak Dutch but with a distinct accent, more akin to the German spoken around the Viersen area. And not like the ultra Amsterdam hard G.

    • @KaiHenningsen
      @KaiHenningsen 3 года назад

      @@Paul_C I remember once, on vacation in Austria, there were two local women (I believe it was in some restaurant) and a German tourist, trying to talk to each other and failing badly, he in fairly normal standard German, they in a very thick local dialect. After he left, one of the women actually asked the other if the guy couldn't speak German? I wanted to scream "he could, but not you!".

  • @filipegrieb-dunlap5625
    @filipegrieb-dunlap5625 3 года назад +1

    Trachten are very different all over Germany. Even within Bavaria there is a huge difference between between north and south. So for e.g. if you Google Ochsenfurter Tracht you will notice that the men look more like American Colonials. Just an fyi

  • @marjanpel1563
    @marjanpel1563 3 года назад +3

    Interessantes Video. Ich glaube, es hat viel damit zu tun, dass ihr in Bayern wohnt. Dort ist alles viel reglementierter und strikter an den Schulen als z.B. in Hamburg, wo ich als Lehrerin unterrichte. In der Regel ist es mir egal, welche Klamotten die Schüler:innen tragen oder welche Materialien sie dabei haben. Hauptsache sie haben einen Bleistift und einen Stift zum Schreiben, ein Füller ist bei mir in Klasse 5 jetzt nicht mehr so wichtig. Auch die Farben der Umschläge für die Hefte sind mir egal. Ich unterrichte viele Kinder, die von H4 leben, da kann man leider nicht voraussetzen, dass sie alles haben. Zur Not habe ich genug Scheren, Klebestifte, Radiergummis, Geo-Dreiecke etc. in der Klasse, kein Kind muss sich schämen, keine Materialien dabei zu haben. ;) Ich sehe es, wie gesagt etwas lockerer und meine Kolleg:innen zum Glück auch. Daher wohne ich ja auch nicht in Bayern, sondern im Norden Deutschlands. Ich komme ursprünglich aus Karlsruhe und habe auch dort studiert, ich kenne also den Unterschied. Das bayerische Schulsystem wäre für mich persönlich als Lehrerin der Untergang. ;)

    • @magmalin
      @magmalin 3 года назад

      Na ja, so schlimm ist es in Bayern wirklich nicht. Mir ist es auch egal, welche Klamotten meine Schülerinnen und Schüler tragen. In meinem Englisch- und Französischunterricht braucht es auch keine besonderen Materialien außer dem Lehrbuch, das von der Schule gestellt wird sowie Papier und Schreibutensilien. Außerdem verfügen die Klassenzimmer auch über WLan, Whiteboards und von der Schule gestellten iPads - sehr nützlich für kreativen Sprachunterricht. Wenn ich Kunst und Werken unterrichte, sind alle Materialien und Werkzeuge in den Fachräumen vorhanden, Kein-e SchülerIn muss selbst etwas mitbringen. Alles in allem, kann man als Lehrkraft in Bayern ziemlich frei und eigenständig agieren, sofern man die üble Referendarzeit durchsteht und eine Planstelle bekommt. Ich habe zuerst in Berlin studiert, wäre ich dort geblieben, wäre das mein Untergang gewesen, so sehr ich auch den "Schwarzen" und der dümmlichen "mir san mir - Kultur" in Bayern absolut nichts abgewinnen kann.

  • @yessicaw.4215
    @yessicaw.4215 3 года назад +3

    Just buy these and you have every size you need 😂So YES it’s true we have Hausschuhe even for our guests

  • @michaelkloters3454
    @michaelkloters3454 3 года назад +1

    cycling for fun is normal all over germany.in the north ( where Germany is flat !) it is more usual using a bike. probably because there are no mountains to fight against Bikers enemy there is the Wind

  • @c.s.9389
    @c.s.9389 3 года назад +19

    We have just moved back to Germany after living 9 years in the US, the last 4 in Atlanta. Even though I am german I share many of your Kulturschocks. I was completely overwhelmed by the school supplies list at the beginning, being used to just order it online and have it send directly to school and it took me quite a while to have all their books wrapped.
    I got a lot of weird looks from moms on the playground who had their kids securely wrapped in Regenhose, Regenjacke and Gummistiefel, while my kids abandoned their flip-flops right away, running through wet sand and light rain in short pans. Trying to order dinner on a Sunday evening has been challenging since the only place that delivers food is closed on Sunday's. And one of my favorite shops in town has a little sign in the window saying they close at "12 or sooner". 😂 But I guess that is part of living in a small town, in the cites it is different.
    My son is getting a bike riding safety class at school now and soon there will be swimming classes, what I think is great.
    I think all germans love to ride theirs bikes. To university, to work, or for a Familienausflug at the weekend.

    • @nicoleroth3127
      @nicoleroth3127 3 года назад +4

      While I've lived in England, I moved back to Germany before I got married and had my son, and even though he's always gone to school here in Germany, after six years I'm still overwhelmed by the supply list. My special pet peeve is, that every year even though I've bought everything on that list, some teachers decide, seemingly on a whim, that suddenly they want something that wasn't on it and then you start running around for a certain type of note book or pencil or whatever. Last year, I ordered a set of folders online (COVID, and all that) with what I thought were all the colours I would need, BUT the colours varied slightly, meaning I didn't have a black one. Massive problem! Anyway, I took the turquoise one I had no use for and wrote 'Black' on it... Take that!
      So yes, school supplies are a pain in the back and can cost you an arm and a leg. At least we weren't told what type of backpack we had to purchase, but were told, that we're not supposed to pack certain kinds of food for their packed lunches, like white bread, sweet pastries and the like. All nice and well and I sure get the reason behind it, until that one morning you oversleep, or the whole grain bread that was perfectly fine the evening before has started to go mouldy (usually on a Monday, of course). Thankfully, that's no longer an issue at my son's new school. He still gets his healthy lunch, but at least we no longer need to worry in case something goes tits up for whatever reason.

    • @haukepowers8491
      @haukepowers8491 3 года назад +1

      As a German immigrant..1961...I remember covering my school books in America when kids did not do it !!! Standing up in a room when a elder walked in and when they left the room....and so many other small surprises...violent cartoons...wow !!!

    • @kevinmcfall5285
      @kevinmcfall5285 3 года назад +1

      Seems like we are having a lot of the same experiences!

    • @kevinmcfall5285
      @kevinmcfall5285 3 года назад +2

      @@nicoleroth3127 Ha! I can relate. On the first week of school I went to the store literally every day to buy something new the kids said they needed. The shop owner chuckled every time I showed up...

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  3 года назад

      Oh wow, so cool that you’re German but lived in Atlanta! Yeah so if you had never lived in Germany with children before, I can see how you’d have some culture shocks. It was so overwhelming for us at first! It’s much better now.

  • @elisabethlemoigne5710
    @elisabethlemoigne5710 3 года назад +4

    Another great video! 🙂👍 What I really enjoy is that you have lots of video content, and not you just sitting in front of the camera talking, which is the case with too many other bloggers.
    Thank you Kevin, I have finally learned the American word for "Geodreieck", a compass
    When I was a teacher in the US, students loved the tiny pencil parcel sharpener I had in my very German pencil case. They thought it was so cool, having one yourself instead of the big one on the wall.
    My students here keep asking me, if they can use a biro or another pen instead of the Füller, and I usually tell them I don't care what pen they use, because American students mostly use pencils and the US has become a world power without the use of fountain pens.
    But the fountain pen refills have little balls at the end and you can use them for all kind of things 😁, like building obstacle courses with your pens and other school supplies, and then manœuvre the little balls between them, a bit like minigolf. 😛
    Regarding appropriate clothing for school: all those requests stop in Gymnasium. I have had 5th grade parents complain about the lack of Hausschuhe, but as of 7th grade most kids only wear what seems cool to them, namely sneakers.
    The Regenjacke und -hose probablyhas to do with the fact that Germans want to send their children outside in all kinds of weather. The older kids resist that more than the younger ones. You probably won't even be able to buy them in bigger sizes.
    Regarding opening times: in two weeks' time there is Kirchweih, which is only celebrated in areas south of Munich, at the foot of the Alps, when stores are closed on Monday afternoon, too; no classes/school activities in the afternoon, the kids might even be let out early. The local specialty to eat then is roast duck. On the Sunday before people put on Tracht and go "Kirtahutschen", which means sitting on a swinging beam which enables you to get really close to someone, if you so wish. 😁
    Before about the late 90s, stores in your area, even the bigger ones, had to close at 14:00 on Saturday, and at 19:00 during the week, so at least it is a lot better now.
    Silence on trains? That made me laugh, because I used to be a Fahrschüler, like your older children are now, and there was no silence on the train, as everyone, after literally storming the train to get a seat, tried to do last minute homework. That might have improved as there are fewer students now, I'd be curious to know.
    After next week's dreary weather I'll look forward to your next video.

    • @dschoas
      @dschoas 3 года назад

      Yes! I totally forgot the ink ball thing. We had a teacher encouraging us to collect these during the school year, and the one with most ink balls at the end of the year got a present from her. It encouraged us to write more and being more expressive in the homework, just to use up more ink. I guess she played a psychological trick on us ;-)

    • @dolphycj
      @dolphycj 2 года назад +1

      Actually looking at it, a Gedreick is a protractor. A tool for measuring angles. A compass is the two hinged arms with a pencil and spike on each arm for drawing arcs.

  • @gudrunsykes486
    @gudrunsykes486 2 года назад +2

    I’m from Germany and I enjoy watching you. You are so cute !

  • @HS-wp5vb
    @HS-wp5vb 2 года назад +3

    I always love this culture shock videos. Not only do I learn about our German peculiarities that I take for granted. The biggest fun are always those shocks I personally find shocking myself, learning that certain things seem terribly important in some parts of Germany whilst being basically unheard of in other parts. Most of these videos are shot in Bavaria and I always find it so peculiar to think, oh gosh, these Bavarians, such a funny tribe!

    • @MyMerryMessyGermanLife
      @MyMerryMessyGermanLife  2 года назад

      Yeah they’re so fun! I like watching them for all kinds of cultures. We can all learn so much from each other.