Sorry about that. It’s been happening quite a bit when Jared exports from his computer, I’ll flag it for him. The link to the word cloud is in the info box or checkout afrosexology_ on IG
"I wanna feel like im for the streets" I SCREAMED LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO y'all are hilarious and I consistently learn so much from you guys. I really strive to have a future partner who is open to these convos with honesty and playful communication.
As hilarious as this is, I find this so mature and healthy! I really want to bring this to my next partner. I feel like this is such amazing information to have in my holster when I break my celibacy
as a guy I 100% get what Jared was saying about the whole "slutty" label. I've had partners who were into verbal degradation and had similar conversations because I needed them to outline what terms were cool to use because, as a man, I feel like words like slut are kind of... charged? They can be hot buttons, not slur level but I'm definitely not just letting them rip to a friend, girlfriend, lover, etc.
@Mark G bro what? ion' like calling people out their name in the first place much less words that can be derogatory. y'all don't know what "simp" means anymore, the internet got it twisted. I'm just someone raised to treat others with respect.
@TMG_sav • How is it “beta” to establish boundaries with a person? And what else you said doesn’t apply here at all, because that’s not what the OP claimed.
I LOVE when you show us how to have these sometimes awkward and honest conversations!!! Love it. I love to see how both of you react to ambiguity and not knowing what's next sort of. Thank you :)
I have a video request if possible Shannon. Can you give us a tour of life for you for a week? How you stay so productive, how you maintain discipline to do you bulk shooting/writing papers. Do you ever feel like you wasted a day lost on social media or, before having a baby, just lying in bed watching tv? I know that’s not as possible anymore with a baby, but just want to know how you maintain such a strong work ethic when your baby, partner, friends, etc all pull for your attention.. how you draw boundaries, etc. Your work ethic is admirable!
I love how both of you are out are open about your relationship. I think it really helps and it’s cool to see the differences or disagreements. I think ppl forget it’s ok to have those.
Hmm Sarah m playing on radio in room as I watch this ang anywya I hope for the came perhaps with my spouse and I or to eventually get there its good to be curious and think and talk
Loved this talk! I have the luck to be in a pretty healthy relationship and we both are gradually opening up to our sexual preferences (the less common kinds) but sometimes i still feel it gets hard to communicate clearly on both parts. Seeing you two being so at ease with the conversation was really inspiring
i’m just going through all of your videos and i just want to say i absolutely love you guys’ healthy conversations about sex, it’s very refreshing and springs a lot of curiosity within me.
I'm totally with Jared on this one. I don't want to narrate, nor plan out and step by step vocalize each moment. That's too much fantasy and not enough reality for me.
My wife and I are finally at a place where we are healthy mentally and emotionally. We’re about to take these quizzes so we can learn about each other and ourselves. Thank you for this because I personally wouldn’t know where to begin!
This is a really great one!! 7:37 I love this conversation bc I have been thinking I do get excited by the idea of teasing and feeling slutty leading upto or during the encounter. However, if I'm dating someone or simply talking to a guy and him saying 'she was a slut' in reference to some other girl for watever reason I wouldn't like his language and in fact that would be a major turn off. I also hope guys watching this video recognize the theme that we all don't have the same turn on triggers nd just bc 'slut or slutty' was an exciting term for an ex doesn't mean the current one will be approving of or comfortable with that. I was getting a little confused with my relation with the word 'slut' so thank you Shan for the clarity!
Can y'all say more about the "both being showered" for sex? This is something that I also really prefer but most partners I've been with could care less. How do I get people to be interested in showering before sex?!
Thank you for this, I'm going to do the quizzes with my bf asap! Hey I loved your guys honesty,so refreshing !As far as the streets phrase goes,same girl!! I think the female energy makes us pleasers, which in turn makes us up for the streets, even if most don't act on it. But I appreciated Jarred 's opinion on it, he makes you feel accepted no matter what ❤
Jared you are fine. Definitely my type!!! Lol. Shan I love your confidence, honesty, and intellect. I can definitively understand how the two of you have made your relationship a successful and fulfilling one. A lot of food for thought…
The BDSM checklist made me realize how many sexual activities you can do with a partner. So, never say you were bored in the bedroom so that is way it did not work out for you in a long term relationship !
ok the fact that I'm supposed to be studying and I haven't done anything at all just explains how connected she and her husband are. I so want this in my next partner. Its so amazing and beautiful. she's so wild like me and I just love how open. allows her to be without any judgement. Great work couple,
I love your videos and when your husband reminded us all that you are not for the streets that part was so cute i love how raw you guys are and honest keep up all the hard work you are doing great things 🥂🖤💙
Yeah, I get what he's saying though - and respect him for it. I don't know if it's how he was raised or if being respectful was just always in his nature but he sure seems like a good one.
Treated from the streets....when you've had some guys treat you like that in the past, it's not a good thing to do....I'd rather have someone respect me and be romantic and loving!
I've definitely gotten bored having sex with someone I wasn't living with lol. Mainly because they always wanted to have sex in the same position, which happened to be my least favourite. Blegh.
I"m not sure if there is any research on this, but are you two examples of common preferences between men and women? I ask because I (and a lot of my girlfriends) share Shan's turn-on trigger and word cloud choices, but our guys tend to be reflective of Jared. Is that a thing? Are these choices common for men and women, or do I just have a lot friends like Shan and know a lot of men like Jared? 🤣 Either way, LOVED this episode! Thanks!
I feel everything that Shane is saying, definitely want to feel like I’m for the streets but I guess I give off safe cautious vibes and he’s just so “polite” disrespectful me. During sex only tho. 😇
hey shan! im a sexual assault survivor and i find that I get very "control freak" in the bedroom because of this... my partner does his best to help me ease into whatever we want to do at the moment but I still find it hard to overcome the subconscious mental barrier that my trauma built. do you have any tips?
@@daenerysmax6267 actually there is if the partner is uncomfortable with it. from what she's saying it seems that he is trying to cope with it rather than accepting it
It’s not that it’s Boring or stale we haven’t had sex in almost 2 years and now we don’t see each other “that way” anymore can you make a series on that??? F29, and M35
In terms of the word slut I feel like when it’s genuinely shared between two partners and they understand the definition between it and between each other then you have the right to describe the situation as that, even on this somewhat public platform. Especially because you guys share so much with us and we are kind of in-tune with the relationship you guys have, we know you guys kind of have this sort of dominate submissive thing. It seems like she really likes to be dominated in a way so I don’t really think it’s wrong, especially when she’s your wife and you’re just expressing what you know she wants, these kind of somewhat degrading words are good. And I don’t mean in a negative sense. It’s not like you’re just trying to hurt her feelings, you’re using it to liberate her and describe the levels that you guys like to reach. And plus we are literally here to learn about sexual connection and desire, we expect it to get a little spicy sometimes whether it’s with words or actions.
What advice can you tell to a couple whose been married for over 25 yrs?? I'm dyyyying for a young person like you to answer this question for someone like my husband and I. I find all this cute and fun advice for young people, but it will NOT help couples in my situation.
Shan I literally feel like I’m very similar to you in terms of what we like sexually and my boyfriend is very much like Jared in the bedroom. This was a great video, thank you!
The word cloud didn't work, it says media offline. At first i thought that was the actual exercise🤣
Sorry about that. It’s been happening quite a bit when Jared exports from his computer, I’ll flag it for him. The link to the word cloud is in the info box or checkout afrosexology_ on IG
I laughed so hard at that part. lmfaooo.
I thought that was on purpose! Like what language you wanna feel like
“I want to feel like I’m for the streets 😏” took me out 🤣 Shannnn 😭😭
I came here to say this 😭😈🖤
😂😂😂😂 forreal so left field
Yooo this SENT me😂😂😂😂😂
Hey I loved the honesty! I think the female energy makes us pleasers, which in turn makes us up for the streets, even if most don't act on it.
@@angelsmokee oh I loved the response! I also love that Shan is bold enough to say what most of us won’t
"I wanna feel like im for the streets" I SCREAMED LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO y'all are hilarious and I consistently learn so much from you guys. I really strive to have a future partner who is open to these convos with honesty and playful communication.
“I want to feel like I’m for the streets.” 👏🏾
I thought I was the only one. 😂
Omg I love how Jared said it was not his place to call his wife “slutty” that was so cute and genuine. Something my husband would say too.
I love how straightforward and honest you two are lool it’s refreshing
Such a good reminder to check in with your partner! Love you both!
As hilarious as this is, I find this so mature and healthy! I really want to bring this to my next partner. I feel like this is such amazing information to have in my holster when I break my celibacy
“I wanna feel like I’m for the streets” a vibe, words to live by 🤣🤣🤣🤣
P.s. just did the quiz and I’m basically Jared and Max is you 🤣 🙌🏾✨
as a guy I 100% get what Jared was saying about the whole "slutty" label. I've had partners who were into verbal degradation and had similar conversations because I needed them to outline what terms were cool to use because, as a man, I feel like words like slut are kind of... charged? They can be hot buttons, not slur level but I'm definitely not just letting them rip to a friend, girlfriend, lover, etc.
@Mark G bro what? ion' like calling people out their name in the first place much less words that can be derogatory. y'all don't know what "simp" means anymore, the internet got it twisted. I'm just someone raised to treat others with respect.
@@ky... excellent reply, but please pay him no mind. The people with sense understand u entirely
I like how you put this and it makes perfect sense
Beta male💔 listen if you don’t wanna do it someone else will trust me bro
@TMG_sav • How is it “beta” to establish boundaries with a person? And what else you said doesn’t apply here at all, because that’s not what the OP claimed.
It's Shannon's mischievous smile after Jared says something enticing to her for me😂🖤
He loves and respects her. So he’s uncomfortable with certain phrases and terms. Sweet 💕
Can't believe that they still rediscover each other even now. Love it
My single ass is learning a lot about myself and to be better for my next relationship. I’m so grateful I came across you & Jared 🙌🏾🙌🏾
I love that they first asked each other before they continued talking about it. I love their energy😍
I LOVE when you show us how to have these sometimes awkward and honest conversations!!! Love it. I love to see how both of you react to ambiguity and not knowing what's next sort of. Thank you :)
Poor Jared, he is so cute and uncomfortable... but yall love each other and seem Transparent, you can see it.I 💕✌🏾
I’m
I’m ewwwww e
@@carlandjysaintfleur1308 ewwwwe?
I have a video request if possible Shannon.
Can you give us a tour of life for you for a week? How you stay so productive, how you maintain discipline to do you bulk shooting/writing papers. Do you ever feel like you wasted a day lost on social media or, before having a baby, just lying in bed watching tv? I know that’s not as possible anymore with a baby, but just want to know how you maintain such a strong work ethic when your baby, partner, friends, etc all pull for your attention.. how you draw boundaries, etc. Your work ethic is admirable!
Shannon you’re so eloquent... Any time, any topic 🤚🏼 can’t handle
Talk about authenticity! The raw honesty of your interaction is remarkable and so friggin' funny. Keep on keepin' on.
Aww Jared wanting to feel treasured is so cute.
i love Jared's vibe, comments and view points. what a gem.
Shan: "I'm for the streets"
Jared: "I didn't marry the streets"
@Relaxosopher he's bi ?
@Relaxosopher ...... when did Jared ever say hes bi??????🙄🙄🙄🙄
I love how both of you are out are open about your relationship. I think it really helps and it’s cool to see the differences or disagreements. I think ppl forget it’s ok to have those.
"Why is it slutty thou"😂😂😂😂. This is a great one guys!
I love watching these videos with my boyfriend! We've only been together 6 months and we really get to have good conversations after watching.
Hmm Sarah m playing on radio in room as I watch this ang anywya I hope for the came perhaps with my spouse and I or to eventually get there its good to be curious and think and talk
I love Shan !! Her energy is everything , so open and honest !
Dear god, this is one of the most healthy conversations about sex I’ve ever heard. This was dope and refreshing.
Loved this talk! I have the luck to be in a pretty healthy relationship and we both are gradually opening up to our sexual preferences (the less common kinds) but sometimes i still feel it gets hard to communicate clearly on both parts.
Seeing you two being so at ease with the conversation was really inspiring
I loved this one, Shan
🍿 I love when y'all record together 💪🏽
i’m just going through all of your videos and i just want to say i absolutely love you guys’ healthy conversations about sex, it’s very refreshing and springs a lot of curiosity within me.
"I want to feel like I'm from the streets!" YESSSS GURL YES!
I'm totally with Jared on this one. I don't want to narrate, nor plan out and step by step vocalize each moment.
That's too much fantasy and not enough reality for me.
My wife and I are finally at a place where we are healthy mentally and emotionally. We’re about to take these quizzes so we can learn about each other and ourselves. Thank you for this because I personally wouldn’t know where to begin!
I really enjoy listening to Jared's professional advice & seeing him grow in confidence & style yet remaining humble.
Shannon: "I want to feel like I'm for the streets" 🤣😂 Loving this new content so much.
This conversation is so open /uncomfortable. But oddly entertaining....kudos to Jared. Shan is a whole case and a half.
That square space segue was too perfect. 😂
Sidenote: this is how 'segue' is spelt, I always thought its 'segway'. 😂😂
I love this girl sooooo much!!!!!!! Being this open to your partner is hard to find! I wish I could have that! Because I’m very open.
"At work we were watching porn"
Shan literally has the coolest job ever 😂
Lol, that threw me off for a second.
15:21 look at that HUGE smile on shan’s face🤣 you know she got all hot and bothered
CTFU!!! she's like yasssssss
😂😂
omg SHAAAAN! You killing me every time! i'm the same way, that sexual direct language just get's me on FAST!
So vulnerable both of you guys. Thank you for being authentic and honest. This is my first time watching one of your videos.
Y’all are extremely healthy
Ya’ll are really helping people for real
“I want to feel like I’m for the streets.” 🤣🤣🤣
This is a really great one!! 7:37 I love this conversation bc I have been thinking I do get excited by the idea of teasing and feeling slutty leading upto or during the encounter. However, if I'm dating someone or simply talking to a guy and him saying 'she was a slut' in reference to some other girl for watever reason I wouldn't like his language and in fact that would be a major turn off. I also hope guys watching this video recognize the theme that we all don't have the same turn on triggers nd just bc 'slut or slutty' was an exciting term for an ex doesn't mean the current one will be approving of or comfortable with that. I was getting a little confused with my relation with the word 'slut' so thank you Shan for the clarity!
I just love these two!! I'm at work laughing my head off!! lots of Love from London (UK)
This conversation is everything 👌🏾.
You are both so emotionally intelligent... I love it!
Can y'all say more about the "both being showered" for sex? This is something that I also really prefer but most partners I've been with could care less. How do I get people to be interested in showering before sex?!
Make it part of foreplay, you have to get out to continue if you dont want a high water bill
SAME!
Say so
Sammmmmmeeeee. I don't even understand how people have a problem with this 😕 clean is part of the foreplay
Same! I feel more comfortable & sexy if im freshly showered but my husband could care less lol
Thank you for this, I'm going to do the quizzes with my bf asap! Hey I loved your guys honesty,so refreshing !As far as the streets phrase goes,same girl!! I think the female energy makes us pleasers, which in turn makes us up for the streets, even if most don't act on it. But I appreciated Jarred 's opinion on it, he makes you feel accepted no matter what ❤
Wow! I didn’t know there was a word for what I do. Environmental! This is why I love me some Shan!!! Thanks, sis.
You two are awesome! It’s adorable. I definitely enjoy both perspectives on topics. I love the videos when both of you speak on the topic.
I really enjoyed this video. It was really nice to hear open and honest conversation between two people.
Jared you are fine. Definitely my type!!! Lol. Shan I love your confidence, honesty, and intellect. I can definitively understand how the two of you have made your relationship a successful and fulfilling one. A lot of food for thought…
Love this video! Such a great modeling of how to check in with our partners through healthy and fun dialogue!
The BDSM checklist made me realize how many sexual activities you can do with a partner. So, never say you were bored in the bedroom so that is way it did not work out for you in a long term relationship !
You guys are beyond adorable. Very Owl and the Pussycat vibe. Love it.
I love how you two are open. I try to do this in the beginning(dating phase)and forget to bring it up after becoming a couple.
ok the fact that I'm supposed to be studying and I haven't done anything at all just explains how connected she and her husband are. I so want this in my next partner. Its so amazing and beautiful. she's so wild like me and I just love how open. allows her to be without any judgement. Great work couple,
I really enjoyed this! I'm like Jared, treasure me baby! This ain't for the streets, it's exclusive! LOL!
She said “what we’re aRRReady doing” and the Canadian roots jumped out 🤣 love y’all! Good stuff.
Currently watching but I just had to say...SHAN YOU LOOK AMAZINGGGGGGGGG!
I love your videos and when your husband reminded us all that you are not for the streets that part was so cute i love how raw you guys are and honest keep up all the hard work you are doing great things 🥂🖤💙
I fell out @ “I wanna I feel like I’m for the streets” 😂
This was a good conversation. I like how open it was. I'll try it with my partner. Thanks.
SUCH a good episode. I thoroughly enjoyed it and will be using your tips, thank you Shan 💗💐
I love how open you guys are 💖💖
This is such a good conversation!
You guys make the best videos hands down
Shellby thank you what a sweet thing to say
It’s so cute Jared doesn’t wanna use the word slutty towards his wife awww 😄
I know he so sweet. She wants the opposite she wanna feel like she for the streets
Yeah, I get what he's saying though - and respect him for it. I don't know if it's how he was raised or if being respectful was just always in his nature but he sure seems like a good one.
Took the quiz and got desire, its so true
"Now what...go to square space"
Treated from the streets....when you've had some guys treat you like that in the past, it's not a good thing to do....I'd rather have someone respect me and be romantic and loving!
Shannons eyes are sooooo pretty.
When you don't live together sex never gets boring. Cohabitation is what causes fights and boring sex.
I've definitely gotten bored having sex with someone I wasn't living with lol. Mainly because they always wanted to have sex in the same position, which happened to be my least favourite. Blegh.
@@Ilikefrogs.. omg that's hilarious 😂
That’s absolutely not true tho🤷♀️.
Shan: “Not by two people at this time” 😎
‘... at this moment’ 😏🙃
You guys are such a beautiful couple! Thank you for the awesome video, subscribed 💗
😂 this convo is hilarious and relatable, I love it
I"m not sure if there is any research on this, but are you two examples of common preferences between men and women? I ask because I (and a lot of my girlfriends) share Shan's turn-on trigger and word cloud choices, but our guys tend to be reflective of Jared.
Is that a thing? Are these choices common for men and women, or do I just have a lot friends like Shan and know a lot of men like Jared? 🤣
Either way, LOVED this episode! Thanks!
Ofc its common!
Shan do you still use your colour/clothing chart? Love your outfits always!
Jared! Just be the pizza delivery man 😂
You two are just the cutest. Love you💕🙏🏽
Keep up the great work
I believe with most men it’s action. They want direct action
"Media Offline" really gets my blood pumping
"I wanna feel like treasure " ! Wow! for a man to say that i wouldsay that! Again he is so sweet!
I love how open you guys are in your communication. ❤ #RelationshipThoughtStarters
I feel everything that Shane is saying, definitely want to feel like I’m for the streets but I guess I give off safe cautious vibes and he’s just so “polite” disrespectful me. During sex only tho. 😇
Fuuuuuuuckin love you guys. Thank you for this!
hey shan! im a sexual assault survivor and i find that I get very "control freak" in the bedroom because of this... my partner does his best to help me ease into whatever we want to do at the moment but I still find it hard to overcome the subconscious mental barrier that my trauma built. do you have any tips?
There is nothing wrong with being the one in control or the dominant one, so why even try to "work on it"?
Go to therapy or see a sex therapist
@@daenerysmax6267 actually there is if the partner is uncomfortable with it. from what she's saying it seems that he is trying to cope with it rather than accepting it
It’s not that it’s Boring or stale we haven’t had sex in almost 2 years and now we don’t see each other “that way” anymore can you make a series on that??? F29, and M35
Dead bedroom?
Why has it been so long?
What happened that made you guys remove sex out of the relationship?
Y’all buggin 2 years? Explain
2 years..what happened? A new child? Thats a long time..
‘I’ll be Mr. Brady’ haha
This was so great and funny 🤣❤️
Mee too I'm all action..no words!!!!! Yessss 👏 💜
In terms of the word slut I feel like when it’s genuinely shared between two partners and they understand the definition between it and between each other then you have the right to describe the situation as that, even on this somewhat public platform. Especially because you guys share so much with us and we are kind of in-tune with the relationship you guys have, we know you guys kind of have this sort of dominate submissive thing. It seems like she really likes to be dominated in a way so I don’t really think it’s wrong, especially when she’s your wife and you’re just expressing what you know she wants, these kind of somewhat degrading words are good. And I don’t mean in a negative sense. It’s not like you’re just trying to hurt her feelings, you’re using it to liberate her and describe the levels that you guys like to reach. And plus we are literally here to learn about sexual connection and desire, we expect it to get a little spicy sometimes whether it’s with words or actions.
What advice can you tell to a couple whose been married for over 25 yrs?? I'm dyyyying for a young person like you to answer this question for someone like my husband and I. I find all this cute and fun advice for young people, but it will NOT help couples in my situation.
Shan I literally feel like I’m very similar to you in terms of what we like sexually and my boyfriend is very much like Jared in the bedroom. This was a great video, thank you!
Hello twin 💐
15:21 Shan was BEAMING 😂😂😂