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FightMediocrity I have read a really good book on this subject its called "to love is to be happy with" by Nail Kaufman, if you didnt read it I really recommend it, I found it on the street and its the book that had the most impact on my life.
instead of watching people’s heads get cut off every morning, watch videos of people who have less and can’t live in a stable home but are still happy. watching these will make you more grateful about everything you have in life
My dad had me reading these books at sixteen. I thank God for him. I used to think daddy was just evil for not allowing us to have cable and making me read and study incessantly. We're so blessed. Thanks for giving so much wisdom. God bless you!!!
when I worry I remember four things: 1-My thoughts can't predict what's really going to happen, so just wait and see how things will turn out 2-most of the time the thing you're worried about does not happen 3-all problems are temporary, and all the things you worried about before are gone 4-worrying does not change anything
Bro, You don't know... how your comment just changed my mind! Thanks a million, nice comment in this entire comment section, really glad to find it, most needed it...Really, thanks most satisfying comment!
It sounds cruel, but this outlook is from a specific perspective. People (the general public) can be empathetic, but have their own problems. They are usually grateful that they don’t have your problems or figuring out how to avoid your problems.
One small change in perspective can change everything. A few+ years ago when I was in college, there was this guy in one of my classes. He was a few years older than the rest of us and he would come to class happy and always seemed calm. After I got to know him I found out he was a decorated combat vet with not one but many tours under his belt. He told me once "stress is what you make it" he went on to explain that things happen in life that can not be controlled, it's how you deal with them that count...and to put things in perspective. He said "take being here at school....what a privilege. To be able to spend time here learning and working on ourselves. You get a bad grade, it's all fixable." It changed my whole perspective on school and my work load. I'll still think about this and use it today in life in general. Take stock in your life and be grateful for the good you have in it, don't focus on the bad.
Some of my favourite quotes by Dale are: • It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about. • Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get • Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success. Lastly, my favourite & one of things i personally stand by - • Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.
The thing is I don’t worry about mundane stuff but about death and disaster. I’m terrified of harm befalling my family, it gives me terrible anxiety. So asking myself “what’s the worst that can happen?” only sends me into a state of panic
@@kattregn Exactly. That was entirely his point, you don't just think what's the worst that can happen. You think what is the worst thing to happen and you retrack and think is that actually going to happen
I think my biggest problem right now is that I feel I need to tell people all my problems and look for attention. I'm hoping I can learn to stop caring what I and other people think and have a solution to every problem. I also want to stop worrying about myself and my past. I found this video inspirational, thank you!
If you watch a video of someone getting their heads chopped off everyday, this is going to start a whole set of issues and hidden trauma. Dumb suggestion and hope no one uses it.
Very true.. I watched crime documentaries every day all day for years. I recently stopped it because my anxiety and depression was getting out of control. My husband always suspected that me watching those shows that much can’t do me any good but I never listened to him. However, once I cut them out completely along with unfollowing negative people and all news channels on FB, I feel so much better
@@ameenaah12 Damn I bet you could solve a hell of a crime now, my dad used to watch those shows when I was little and I used to find them really interesting but always felt a negative energy after watching and I would have nightmares
When I was going through my grief journey of having lost all my family members, I would watch holocaust movies. It was my own way of treating myself to not feel sorry for myself. Granted, grief is real, and it hurts on all levels, physical emotional mental and spiritual, but if you do not have a good support system, which I did not, then taking charge and empowering yourself with how you can help yourself is the most empowering thing you can do so that you can get on with life.
found your channel when i needed it most, i am feeling so down and depressed right now and watching your videos has helped me to look at the problem in a different light. I am grateful..
It's like, "oh I'm sorry your dad died today, but there's no reason to feel bad because there's probably someone who's dad *and* their mom died today!" It's dismissive of pain, which shouldn't be dismissed. Pain should be contemplated more appropriately, regardless of the severity, your station in life, or otherwise.
I started using RUclips in 2013. Its 2017. Im 17. And I feel the online journey from the last 4 yrs has finally resulted into this Life Changing Experience (Fight Mediocrity). This is probably the best channel known. This the Ultimate Hack that Internet is capable of giving you!!!
I was meditating while listening to your video and when I got to the head being chopped off part I had to turn it off. I get what you're trying to say, and I get that you're highlighting an extreme situation in order to get viewers to associate pain with worry, but I've found that simply earth gazing can do this! I watch The Overview Effect (my favourite documentary) and it reminds me how insignificant and small my problems truly are in relation to the Universe we live in. I think that's better than watching someone's head being chopped off this early in the morning :) Keep up the great work with your videos, they're inspiring and I appreciate all the hard work and thought that go into creating them.
I just watched the Overview Effect after reading this comment. And after watching it I've had this profound shift in perspective that I feel like I haven't felt before. We're essentially living on this floating paradise in this cosmic ocean of infinity. That fact itself is totally mind-blowing, and I just can't help but feel enlightened with this realisation. I've recently been interested in the thought that people can be resources towards helping yourself out in numerous different ways, and I'm thankful that I found this comment and used it as a resource into discovering the Overview Effect.
This is a great book. So much advice. That's why Dale Carnegie is my favorite self-improvement author. He makes every page count. He doesn't spend a hundred Pages telling you one idea. By the way this book is online for free. I would leave a length I don't want them taking it down
Thank you so much, my life is really painful, I think about my future all the time, 24/7 my mind tells me that if my future is secured only then I will be happy
I loved and enjoyed this book. I have something to add from an a Genuine Connemara Marble Worry Stone my Irish cousin gave me: Why Worry? The are only 2 things to worry about: either your are well or you are sick, If you are well then there's nothing to worry about. If you are sick: there are 2 things to worry about: Either you will get well or you will die. If you get well then there's nothing to worry about. If you die there are 2 things to worry about: Either you go up or down. If you go up, then there's nothing to worry about. But if you go down you will be busy shaking hands with old friends you won't have time to worry.
I worry about things so much that my heart will start to beat so fast that I'll have to sit down and drop everything I'm doing. I hope this video will inspire me.
Stupid.. Now you got that image for life. I would never watch anything like it, because i remember stuff, and he put out an example, even if it was a bit strong, but it was his personal example. Not what the book says.. Read the book instead.
If you vomited, that is all the more reason for you to keep watching it. There was a time I deliberately forced myself to watch such videos. It made my guts harder, if you get what I mean.
+FightMediocrity I didn't really take you for the liberal MSNBC type. Guess these books are fiction to you and you read them instead of live them. If you lived them then you'd know open/unregulated borders have never worked out well for any nation-state in world history. Go back home if you don't like a US that focuses on its citizens first.
I saw a video in college of someone holding up another person's head victoriously to his friends. I will never forget that image, yet it didn't cure me of my anxiety or panic attacks, it temporarily made it worse, and I didn't want to deal with the world at all.
It's Christmastime and I'm obsessing over the house, gifts, parties, clothes, menu plzns, decorations, time.... I SO NEEDED THIS. Because, at least for me, it's about why I'm blessed to be able to celebrate Christmas and living in a country in which I can do so. While Christ - followers around the world are being martyed for their faith and worshipping undergrround, I'm worrying about relatively insignificant things I'll get done anyway. I'm grateful that I can once again say, " Merry Christmas " without people looking at me like I said something totally not pc. Thanks and God bless!
In that book Dale goes around interviewing alot of people about how they stopped worrying. There was one man who was in a submarine and was caught by the enemy, the submarine was bombarded for 24 hours straight. The person being interviewed who was in that submarine promised himself that he would never worry again because when he was about to die he realized they really amounted to nothing. Fortunately he survived, one of my fav stories. Really good book, A+ on the video ! I just wanted a review and you did an amazing job!
I’ll just imagine the worst conditions other people live in instead of watching heads getting chopped off and I think I’ll still appreciate my circumstances enough to not worry
Today I've completed reading this book and frankly it has made me a different person and I've learned the art to overcome worry and fatigue. Now I am living a happy and thankful life.
Thank you. I needed this...My luck is been really down lately. I didn't achieve my degree (despite being in my final year) and as a result I dropped out of university after facing years of problems relating to my lecturers and the management which I had tolerated till the point of breakdown. My anxiety and skin problems has worsen and my medication + doctors visit increased; which means my medical bill is twice the amount. I've been given another chance at a different university to redo my course. I'm terrified that I will fuck it up and fail, despite never failing a single class at my previous university. I'm starting to be at peace with myself everyday now.
Thanks man, my problem is my wife of 6 years told me she was a virgin when we met, not that I cared or am 1 of those 'no sex before marriage' freaks. A week ago I found out she wasn't, I took it like she cheated on me, but at the end of the day that shit happened before she met me, her body in those terms is not what I care about its her and our marriage was very happy before I got that information
Hey, hope you dont mind me replying. I really think you should be asking yourself a couple of questions like has she been faithful to you in the past 6 years and also if she has been a great wife throughout and never shown to you that she was extremely unhappy with you. What i'm trying to say is that maybe when she met she did not want to lose you over a weak moment she might have had. Maybe she was unsure that how might react to her not being a virgin. I reckon you have ull right to be annoyed and upset about knowing it now but ask yourself that is he really worth losing your marriage over something that does not exist between the two of you now. Hope you don't mind my reply. Just hoping this might help a bit. Thanks
Yash 2.0 Hi mate, thanks for your reply, well its a long story Ill try to cut short, my wife never actually lied to me in the end, she was in highschool in Vietnam and her ex bf tried to have sex with her but she felt uncomfortable and told him to stop, the problem was she went home and told her cousin without enough detail to it that it wasnt even sex then few weeks ago her cousin looked surprised when I mentioned I was her 1st and spilled the beans in the wrong way without my wife there. My wife when eventually came clean told me 'look that wasnt even sex' and told me what happened, at 1st I thought she is just sugar coating the story to make me feel better, I even said that to her, but really I have to believe her. HOWEVER weather or not they had sex its irrelevant! We've known each other nearly 7 years and we lite up everyday when we see each other. Her cousin to be honest is abit jealous and wants my D
Rishabh Singh Sorry mate but i totally disagree with your comment. How can you say that truth, honesty are only masculine concepts. Anyone whether male or female can and will chat if they want to. it is an individual trait. In this scenario, their relationship is absolutely fine but just something from the past is troubling which can easily be avoided by some sensibility and allowing trust to crawl back slowly. Please don't confuse people by your toilet psychology! Makes no sense whatsoever
I'm sorry but the "problems" you stated are a cake walk to get over, most people who really struggle with worry have actual reasons. Also, watching someone head being cut off will not "cure" a worrier, in fact, it could very well intensify the problem.
WRONG! MOST things people worry about NEVER happen. This is proven fact, so go fuck yourself you moron !!! Just kidding ....... Actually, I'm not kidding
@@ClassicRock1973 I'm worrying about things that will NEVER happen but it's because it is an (unhealthy) coping mechanism. Some baaaad shit happened to me and now I'm overthinking everything I do or say. Advice in the vid is good, but it's not explored too deeply. Because if that if you don't already have the knowledge of how to cope in a healthier way *the vudei probably won't help* that much
WOW! I read the title and I thought "it seems like some self-help bs but what I can lose? Ten minutes? It's worth the risk for what it promises" and actually is really good! Thanks!
Thank you man, this is really talking to me been worrying about shit, when my girlfriend is not answering my calls or responding my messages I freak out for no reason. Thank you I am now a changed man.
Thank you so much for this video. I stress and worry all the time. I need to watch this a few times everyday. Everything you said made so much sense. This will definitely stay on my play list.
Thanks, it helped but still can't stop worrying can't sleep it's getting late I love how you help people all the time you are a really good person have a good life
This creator has a very valid process to better yourself. He’s probably very successful life wise... but is also shows how damaged he also is. I’m still very happy for him that he has the ability to be productive regardless of his childhood traumas. Good for you!
I felt it got slightly too simplistic in this video. This is a 22yo's perspective. I'm in my late 30s and am a single parent. Every decision I make will impact another human being and potentially the rest of his life. If I'm not worrying about something, I'm in trouble. I think you need to inject a lot more perspective into your videos than just your own, dude. I appreciate the knowledge you're trying to spread, but it can seem like it's coming off just your world view. That's dangerous.
runninginsept its a review from a book of Dale Carnegie. In the Bible, not to worry was mentioned a lot so maybe there's something into that. Im a single parent but no what when I'm tempted am to worry, I always think about how God solved all my problems. Really! I rather be positive than focusing to worry. Worry can make you to a lot of trouble!!!
With much respect dont come to these videos looking for answers. When in reality as you said, everything being mentioned is just a point of view by some individual person. You could adopt the point of view or just grab what you need. We worry to much I've seen it first hand with my self. Have faith things will go well you have the answers
If possible, could you please explain a concrete example of how every decision you make will impact another human being? Does the human being stand for your child only (since you state you're a single parent) or other people as well (your neighbor, your co-worker)? How is not worrying could cause your trouble? Would appreciate if you could explain your own perspective as well.
runninginsept every decision every one makes and doesn't make will influence your and everyone else's kids..so it's not like it matters all thaaaat much..we are influence (and the lack of) :p
Anyone watching this in 2017 like me??? Whatever..... never thought in the way, in which u illustrated the idea of the price of our legs and get contented .... one of the most amazing youtube videos I have ever come across...
I have read more than a thousand books and this is my favorite by far. Its title makes a lot of people feel that they dont need to read it, but its basically how to think about life and other events. a title like that would make a lot more people read it.
I love these videos so much that I started sharing them with my 12 year old son! You quickly break down the books in a fun and powerful way that quickly captures our attention and makes it easy for us to learn. Thank you so very much for taking the time to create them and sharing your wisdom. With gratitude, BarbieTheWelder
While I agree and find inspiration with your concepts, it is easier said than done depending on your situation and phases in your life. A man who loves and lives with his wife and three+ kids and in-laws has much more to manage than a single guy with a girlfriend who has much more time to go to the gym and read a book a day. To the single guy, these sound like excuses until they live in the same shoes...
1⃣ Ask yourself: What's the worst thing that can happen? (0:00) When faced with worries and anxieties, ask yourself what the worst-case scenario is. Often, we realize that the worst outcome is not as terrible as we imagine, which helps to reduce worry. 2⃣ Recognize the absurdity of everyday worries. (5:36) We often worry about trivial things and lose perspective on how absurd these concerns can be. By thinking about extreme situations and comparing them to our daily worries, we can realize how irrelevant they truly are. 3⃣ Stay busy with activities you love to ward off negative thoughts. (8:28) When we engage in enjoyable and meaningful activities, our brains don't have the capacity to dwell on negative thoughts and worries. Find hobbies, exercise, read, or work on projects that bring you joy and fully engage your mind. 4⃣ Value what you already have and stop worrying about insignificant things. (10:41) Instead of worrying about small everyday matters, appreciate what you already have. Often, we give excessive importance to material things or fleeting worries, while overlooking the true value of things we already possess, such as health, relationships, and happiness. EM PT: 1⃣ Pergunte a si mesmo: qual é a pior coisa que pode acontecer? (0:00) Ao se deparar com preocupações e ansiedades, pergunte-se qual é o pior cenário possível. Muitas vezes, percebemos que o pior não é tão terrível quanto imaginávamos, o que nos ajuda a diminuir a preocupação. 2⃣ Reconheça a absurdidade das preocupações cotidianas. (5:36) Muitas vezes, nos preocupamos com coisas insignificantes e perdemos perspectiva sobre o quão absurdas essas preocupações podem ser. Pensar em situações extremas e compará-las com nossas preocupações diárias nos ajuda a perceber o quão irrelevantes elas realmente são. 3⃣ Mantenha-se ocupado com atividades que você ama para afastar os pensamentos negativos. (8:28) Quando nos ocupamos com atividades prazerosas e significativas, nossa mente não tem espaço para pensamentos negativos e preocupações. Encontre hobbies, exercícios físicos, leituras ou projetos que te deixem feliz e engajado. 4⃣ Valorize o que você já tem e pare de se preocupar com coisas insignificantes. (10:41) Em vez de se preocupar com pequenas coisas do dia a dia, valorize o que você já tem. Muitas vezes, damos muito mais importância a coisas materiais ou preocupações passageiras, ignorando o verdadeiro valor das coisas que já possuímos, como saúde, relacionamentos e felicidade.
Always ask yourself : ''What's the worst thing that could happen?!'' Always push through your comfort zone, it will eventually become your normal! I used to be shy and got bullied, to the point where I wanted to end my life. Here is what I did to change. #1 I started to ask time to random people on the street. #2 I started a conversation with them. #3 I started to talk to everyone. #4 I started attending networking events. #5 I did 4 or 5 networking events/week. #6 Once that became easy, I decided my comfort zone would be to speak on stage, so I got a coach. #7 I want to share my love for Philanthropy with the world and we are organizing our first seminar on February 2nd 2019!! You can accomplish anything you set your mind to do! Take a step in the dark, and as Sir Richard Branson says, ''Screw it, let's do it!''
Summary of wise things people have told me over the years: Negative thoughts feed negative thoughts, but positive thoughts feed positive thoughts! So acknowledge the thought, challenge what needs to be challenged, and then tell yourself a more realistic affirmation of what’s going to happen or what the situation means and focus your energy on something that actually serves and fulfils you (Trying to do this myself lol, so much easier said than done but just gotta practice)
I like that billions worth of our legs ... I have started sumie since the pandemic. The Japanese teacher taught me to appreciate the brush and stuff before even starting painting. Nothing last forever, if we remind us to be grateful for everything we have owned or gotta to enjoy, we will be happy and blessed
I think you underestimate the amount of people that worry about legit stuff.... kids over-dosing, marriages breaking up, a family members alcoholism, paying taxes, paying bills, your sister committing suicide... I understand most stuff is just noise, but this sort of flip justification for "tricking" yourself out of an emotion is reductionist and demeaning to people that have real life problems... that are out of your control... there are many of us.
Damian Hanley Inc yo I think the video is more about people who constantly worry about the smaller issues in life, and most of the time it's for no reason at all
I agree that distracting yourself does nothing, and this is why you should try to dig and find the actual causes of the problem so you can solve it. I know the underlying causes and will tell you which they are. You see yourself as a victim and incapable of dealing with things. All these problems are actually within your control, to some extent. A marriage breaking up, if yours, see a professional and work on yourself and your marriage. You and your spouse are the only ones responsible for it, and nobody else. If not yours, it is not your problem, if you can give a constructive advice good, if not, you shouldn't feel guilty about it, let adults take responsibility too and too become active about their own lives. A person with any addiction deeply believes they are not good enough to be loved and make their internal critical voice to finally shut up by substances that numb the brain - show them unconditional love, offer a good therapist, study psychology of addiction and support them in becoming a better person. Money also comes down to developing yourself and being active, not reactive about it, change your belief about money, you deserve them and you are capable of getting them, I am 100% sure. People wanting to commit suicide also deeply believe they are not good enough to the point they want to delete themselves from the world, so they don't burden the people around, by taking their life away. Check out Marisa Peers', best psychologist in England, videos and explanations. You can help make a change, but only once this change has already started within you and you have developed enough capacity. Like teachers first study for many years, develop a capacity and only then support their students in their development. You got this, you are good enough and can deal with life's challenges! God loves you and has given you many opportunities to grow and develop. Believe than you can and that you deserve to be active about your life and own it!
I read the book before watching this video and I think the review is utter BS! The review only mentions poor examples of how and why HE thinks you should stop worrying and not what the author teaches us about the subject. This book is one of the best things that ever happened to me and the review does no justice to such a phenomenal piece of literature and research! Very disappointed!
The less I worry the more I accomplished. The more confident that I am, the better my day goes. Worry for not solve your problems. I say believe you will be okay.
FBIRyan Haha, yeah, I know a lot of people didn't like that. I remember a few months ago, I was trying to record a voiceover and I think I spilled some water. So I cleaned it up, went back in to record, and my battery was dead. I came out to look for a new battery and I was out of batteries. I was so pissed off I just started yelling. I got on my computer and they had just released the footage of the Jordanian pilot being burned alive. I started watching it and I couldn't believe how stupid I was. The only reason I'm not being burned alive or chopped up is purely out of luck. I wasn't born in certain place at an unfortunate time. That's it. I remember I put my microphone away and took the entire day off and went to the park. I just walked around and breathed fresh air. Probably the best day of my life. I had been getting good about not worrying, but that was a huge paradigm shift for me. I don't think I've really worried about anything after seeing the pilot's face right before the fire got to him.
Just a dumb metaphor. Feeding your mind (on a daily basis) with images of gore and cruelty can simply not be good for you, he just happened to have it work for him in that moment, but that doesn't mean it is something that should be done under a normal circumstance. Appreciation for life should also not come from someone else's suffering in my opinion, so respectless.
ok so you've told us to stop worrying about bs that won't even matter in the long run now what about things that do matter like possibly being homeless or possibly losing a loved one
Dude..I actually think this video is going to change my life..I am a huge worrier and overthink way WAY too much and it has destroyed my mental and physical health...over the years of course. Nothing in this video does NOT make sense. If the entire world watched and applied this video... Danggg!! This would be one awesome world to be in.. Thanks ;)
to be fair I don't worry at all and ended up loosing allot of ground in my education and life. i almost wish that I would have worried and cared far more than i did.
i am a born worrier and i think the idea of thinking whats the worst will happen is brilliant. i start the morning looking at bbc news about the people dying of covid, i think thats a nicer thing to look at than heads being cut off, but it makes me feel so lucky that i don't live in england now. sorta works
The chopped off head thing was a bit much, but I see where you're coming from. I'm going to try asking myself that question though. Also, there's another way to help fear and that's to change from fear to being excited. It's that "5 second rule" thing that Mel robbins created. It works so well. Whenever you fear or worry about something, count down from 5 and think of ways that you're excited about the situation. Like, I had to take this test and I was having panic attacks all of the time, getting depressed, and the negative thoughts were so overwhelming. It was miserable. But, I told myself that I could do this. I told myself reasons why I was excited for it and I got through it just fine. The thing is that fear and excitement are the same feeling, but the only difference is what your brain calls it. You can trick your brain into thinking that the reason why your body is freaking out is because you're excited. All's i'm saying is that you can change your mindset and trick your brain into positivity.
What you are doing is profound! You are making ideas normally inaccessible to the average person, available to almost everyone. This is the kind of knowledge that can create a new Renaissance for our civilization. AMAZING WORK!
If I see someone's head chopped off or anything violent or tragic like that it makes me view the world as a horrible place and perceive humans as cruel, and it basically drags my state down and makes me very negative. It plays on my mind for a long time and causes me to worry that this could happen to me or my loved ones. Absolutely awful advice that veers way off the book!!!!
Good God. Can't wait for this era of "I can be a motivational speaker (business guru, etc.) by rehashing others' ideas and adding my own 2 cents (or less)" is over.
There's beauty everywhere around you. You just need to open your eyes again unafraid of the light. How long have you imposed darkness onto yourself? There's beauty in all. And im glad i have been in peace with the universe unbeknownst to my stubborn ego. I have been in peace. All the chaos i thought i had were mere passing thoughts. And i shall not resent my mistakes including this one for i know its the way of nature i am born with flaws, with numerous blind spots, destined to face difficulties and a lot more blessings and opportunities too . For i know i am becoming a better man each passing moment.
Climbers call worrying "making snakes out of rope." Sometimes you see something or think about something and you make them worse than they actually are. Don't worry about anything. Worrying doesn't help in the least. An old Chinese proverb says "There are 2 things in life that you should never worry about. They are the things you can change. And the things you can't do anything about." That covers everything in my opinion. God bless and keep your head up. Don't look back. You're not going that way.
It was amazing that the universe brought me to this video. I am having a lot of trouble with anxiety and worrying. These tend to manifest as anger and hatred resentment and bitterness for me. It’s turning me into a person that I do not like. I’ve read one of Dale Carnegie‘s books before and really enjoyed it so I think I’m going to try reading “ how to stop worrying and start living today. I’m also interested in the suggestion of watching someone’s head getting chopped off. I’m really desperate and I will try anything right about now… But I got onto the Internet and couldn’t find any videos? Maybe that’s a good thing, it sounds pretty traumatic. I just know that I need to do something now and I am willing to take action! Does anybody have any suggestions for me of what else I could do.
I managed my anxiety by meditation, exercise, deep breathing ( 4 seconds in, 4 seconds out), simply finding things to be grateful for, and CBD gummies ( I take those to lower blood pressure but it helps with anxiety too).
Dude, listen... I love you man. You have no idea how much this is helping me and will help me. Wish I could buy you a beer and tell you this in person. I'm going to try and read those 2 books you mentioned too. Thanks brotha! May you have all the joy and happiness in life. Cheers!
Well those who got their heads chopped are mainly Muslims too, Syrians are super majority of Muslims and they are the most victims of Daesh and the funded terror! Those in your area are immigrants who FLED THE WAR to not get their heads chopped too! What is your IQ level?!! Jeezez!
It isn't that simple. Few truisms that maybe works for few days. If you have real problems, you need to find a resolution. Problems doesn't disapear when you thinking about something else. It will come back with double power if you don't fix it. Maybe I'm too mature for this video but i find it so naive...
You can still do something about these problems without worrying. Nowhere does he say you should ignore your problems and let them be, the point is that you don't need to worry about it and everything will be better
What's the definition of "real problem" to you? This video is saying that you shouldn't be wasting time worrying about shit that's not worth worrying about and move on to better things. Not you have a "real problem" and leave it be. Also to point out finding a solution to a problem does not equal worrying about it all day. It's only gonna slow you down.
I was on board until you mentioned watching people get their heads chopped off lol... just because someone has it worse doesnt mean your life isnt bad, as selfish as that sounds. I agree with the rest though.
After watching your video, I will try and stop worrying about my problems especially my future and Math. I have always been worrying Math and my future every single day. But I will try improve my Math
True. But even best and worst case scenarios are perceptions that are controlled by one's mind. A bad situation for someone might work out to be the best scenario for yourself. The trick is keeping an open mind and not undermining yourself in any way.
The Power of Now is a life-changer💎 Never read this one tho, allthough been meaning to. Many thanks for making these summarys (not to forget the great amount of work put into them) - what you do have great impact! Making these books available to everyone is a gift youre giving the world. Keep up the good work, and lots of gratefulness all the way from Norway💎
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FightMediocrity This was awesome!
Strength And Philosophy Thank you! :)
FightMediocrity I have read a really good book on this subject its called "to love is to be happy with" by Nail Kaufman, if you didnt read it I really recommend it, I found it on the street and its the book that had the most impact on my life.
Livi Tubo Post-communist country that uses russian products (detergents) =/= Russia. Trust me, countries like that do exist.
Livi Tubo Russia is not the only former-USSR member. This guy is from Georgia, where Stalin is from.
instead of watching people’s heads get cut off every morning, watch videos of people who have less and can’t live in a stable home but are still happy. watching these will make you more grateful about everything you have in life
Excellent comment!!
My dad had me reading these books at sixteen. I thank God for him. I used to think daddy was just evil for not allowing us to have cable and making me read and study incessantly. We're so blessed.
Thanks for giving so much wisdom. God bless you!!!
when I worry I remember four things:
1-My thoughts can't predict what's really going to happen, so just wait and see how things will turn out
2-most of the time the thing you're worried about does not happen
3-all problems are temporary, and all the things you worried about before are gone
4-worrying does not change anything
Great
@@ehab5986 see my biggest fear of death I worry about it every still minute of the day but I can’t stop it and I’m the same way to yk
Bro, You don't know... how your comment just changed my mind!
Thanks a million, nice comment in this entire comment section, really glad to find it, most needed it...Really, thanks most satisfying comment!
@@debang28 your welcome! I'm glad to hear that I made you feel better and I wish you a peaceful life :)
@Dijon Boil yeah but personally I’m religious and believe in a higher being and more than this but if that’s true I guess that’s true
Never complain. Don't tell your problems to people: eighty percent don't care; and the other twenty percent are glad you have them. - Lou Holtz
That 20% consists of Shrinks and Exes.
Wait, so the people that care about your problems-- and by proxy, *You* --don't exist?
I actually care... I just like listening to people worries.
Its the other way around 80% want you to die and 20% don’t care
It sounds cruel, but this outlook is from a specific perspective. People (the general public) can be empathetic, but have their own problems. They are usually grateful that they don’t have your problems or figuring out how to avoid your problems.
One small change in perspective can change everything.
A few+ years ago when I was in college, there was this guy in one of my classes. He was a few years older than the rest of us and he would come to class happy and always seemed calm.
After I got to know him I found out he was a decorated combat vet with not one but many tours under his belt. He told me once "stress is what you make it" he went on to explain that things happen in life that can not be controlled, it's how you deal with them that count...and to put things in perspective.
He said "take being here at school....what a privilege. To be able to spend time here learning and working on ourselves. You get a bad grade, it's all fixable." It changed my whole perspective on school and my work load. I'll still think about this and use it today in life in general. Take stock in your life and be grateful for the good you have in it, don't focus on the bad.
Some of my favourite quotes by Dale are:
• It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.
• Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get
• Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.
Lastly, my favourite & one of things i personally stand by -
• Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.
“I’ve had many many problem in my life, most of which have never happened”
😂😂😂
Truth!
The thing is I don’t worry about mundane stuff but about death and disaster. I’m terrified of harm befalling my family, it gives me terrible anxiety. So asking myself “what’s the worst that can happen?” only sends me into a state of panic
I am the same
Me too ! When he asked "what's the worst can happen" I instantly thought the worst thing can and is going to happen so doesn't help one bit.
Yes same. I worry about my toddler putting things in his mouth and choking, getting hit by a car etc and I couldn’t handle the worst that could happen
Yes me too, but how likely is that thing to happen? That’s the next thought.
@@kattregn Exactly. That was entirely his point, you don't just think what's the worst that can happen. You think what is the worst thing to happen and you retrack and think is that actually going to happen
"Let's not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember "Life is too short to be little"."
- Dale Carnegie
I think my biggest problem right now is that I feel I need to tell people all my problems and look for attention. I'm hoping I can learn to stop caring what I and other people think and have a solution to every problem. I also want to stop worrying about myself and my past. I found this video inspirational, thank you!
This video just helped me to climb out of my anxiety and start doing things! Thanks for the good work!
So you actually watch people's head getting cut off?
Fppd47 😂😳.....
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I feel better too! And no, I didn't. Watch people get their heads cut off, it's a medafore guys. Lol
I’m so happy for you!!!
i wish this was a subject at schools. all stress in the world wouldn't exist anymore.
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great idea.
true :)
yes I believe a meditation class would be a good way to get it started
dahay6 I agree, but I think someone else should be the teacher. telling a kid to watch a person's head get chopped off every morning seems a bit harsh
If you watch a video of someone getting their heads chopped off everyday, this is going to start a whole set of issues and hidden trauma. Dumb suggestion and hope no one uses it.
Very true.. I watched crime documentaries every day all day for years. I recently stopped it because my anxiety and depression was getting out of control. My husband always suspected that me watching those shows that much can’t do me any good but I never listened to him. However, once I cut them out completely along with unfollowing negative people and all news channels on FB, I feel so much better
Same, all what he said was great except of this
@@ameenaah12 Damn I bet you could solve a hell of a crime now, my dad used to watch those shows when I was little and I used to find them really interesting but always felt a negative energy after watching and I would have nightmares
also could get you in deep shit.. might be a snuff vid.
Amazing how so many people missed the point.
When I was going through my grief journey of having lost all my family members, I would watch holocaust movies. It was my own way of treating myself to not feel sorry for myself. Granted, grief is real, and it hurts on all levels, physical emotional mental and spiritual, but if you do not have a good support system, which I did not, then taking charge and empowering yourself with how you can help yourself is the most empowering thing you can do so that you can get on with life.
I'm so very sorry you losing your family. Grief is the worst of worst. 🤗
found your channel when i needed it most, i am feeling so down and depressed right now and watching your videos has helped me to look at the problem in a different light. I am grateful..
Arline Exconde Raijmakers I'm so happy to hear that! :)
Check out noah elkrief. he is great too
How to stop worrying. 1. Be grateful that you're still alive at the present
how can I continue watching this when everybody is talking about people's heads being but off 🚶
exactly! gosh
🤣
why did you start doing it ?
He only meant it metaphorically.
“Watch someone’s head get cut off” Comparing your fortunes to others misfortunes isn’t good.
May i ask, why is that not good?
No, but you'll be grateful your head isn't chopped off
It's like, "oh I'm sorry your dad died today, but there's no reason to feel bad because there's probably someone who's dad *and* their mom died today!"
It's dismissive of pain, which shouldn't be dismissed. Pain should be contemplated more appropriately, regardless of the severity, your station in life, or otherwise.
I started using RUclips in 2013. Its 2017. Im 17. And I feel the online journey from the last 4 yrs has finally resulted into this Life Changing Experience (Fight Mediocrity). This is probably the best channel known. This the Ultimate Hack that Internet is capable of giving you!!!
I was meditating while listening to your video and when I got to the head being chopped off part I had to turn it off. I get what you're trying to say, and I get that you're highlighting an extreme situation in order to get viewers to associate pain with worry, but I've found that simply earth gazing can do this! I watch The Overview Effect (my favourite documentary) and it reminds me how insignificant and small my problems truly are in relation to the Universe we live in. I think that's better than watching someone's head being chopped off this early in the morning :) Keep up the great work with your videos, they're inspiring and I appreciate all the hard work and thought that go into creating them.
I just watched the Overview Effect after reading this comment. And after watching it I've had this profound shift in perspective that I feel like I haven't felt before. We're essentially living on this floating paradise in this cosmic ocean of infinity. That fact itself is totally mind-blowing, and I just can't help but feel enlightened with this realisation. I've recently been interested in the thought that people can be resources towards helping yourself out in numerous different ways, and I'm thankful that I found this comment and used it as a resource into discovering the Overview Effect.
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhaha
im with u
+Kieren hmm havent watched it yet as im at work, but I think I might
airborne486 Yesss I definitely encourage you to check it out
Thank you for recommending such a beautiful documentary
This is a great book. So much advice. That's why Dale Carnegie is my favorite self-improvement author. He makes every page count. He doesn't spend a hundred Pages telling you one idea.
By the way this book is online for free. I would leave a length I don't want them taking it down
Thank you so much, my life is really painful, I think about my future all the time, 24/7 my mind tells me that if my future is secured only then I will be happy
I loved and enjoyed this book. I have something to add from an a Genuine Connemara Marble Worry Stone my Irish cousin gave me:
Why Worry?
The are only 2 things to worry about: either your are well or you are sick, If you are well then there's nothing to worry about. If you are sick: there are 2 things to worry about: Either you will get well or you will die. If you get well then there's nothing to worry about. If you die there are 2 things to worry about: Either you go up or down. If you go up, then there's nothing to worry about. But if you go down you will be busy shaking hands with old friends you won't have time to worry.
I worry about things so much that my heart will start to beat so fast that I'll have to sit down and drop everything I'm doing. I hope this video will inspire me.
Same
Don't look at people's head took off: I nearly vomited, and it solved nothing.
Holy Fuck , dont Do that . I'm sorry u watched something like that :/
Stupid.. Now you got that image for life. I would never watch anything like it, because i remember stuff, and he put out an example, even if it was a bit strong, but it was his personal example. Not what the book says.. Read the book instead.
If you vomited, that is all the more reason for you to keep watching it.
There was a time I deliberately forced myself to watch such videos. It made my guts harder, if you get what I mean.
you gotta watch the ones with the dull knives where they struggle to cut, but eventually get it done
@@blackpearl2307 blasphemy
Dude you're pretty much the coolest for this video. I love this. Just truth vomit all over. Great job
Nicholas Varner Haha, thanks Nicholas!
+FightMediocrity enjoying n loving your videos.. awesome stuff
+FightMediocrity I didn't really take you for the liberal MSNBC type. Guess these books are fiction to you and you read them instead of live them. If you lived them then you'd know open/unregulated borders have never worked out well for any nation-state in world history. Go back home if you don't like a US that focuses on its citizens first.
+YourAnus MyPee What is your comment?? So out of place…
great video
Man! Your channel rocks! Greetings from Brazil.
+Tiago Mota Miranda Thanks Tiago! Greetings from USA! :)
+Tiago Mota Miranda great to see people around here tuned into this kind of stuff. Spread good ideas, cause we need this shit!
+FightMediocrity All kindz a gainz yeaah
greetings from Brazil.
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I saw a video in college of someone holding up another person's head victoriously to his friends. I will never forget that image, yet it didn't cure me of my anxiety or panic attacks, it temporarily made it worse, and I didn't want to deal with the world at all.
It's Christmastime and I'm obsessing over the house, gifts, parties, clothes, menu plzns, decorations, time.... I SO NEEDED THIS. Because, at least for me, it's about why I'm blessed to be able to celebrate Christmas and living in a country in which I can do so. While Christ - followers around the world are being martyed for their faith and worshipping undergrround, I'm worrying about relatively insignificant things I'll get done anyway. I'm grateful that I can once again say, " Merry Christmas " without people looking at me like I said something totally not pc. Thanks and God bless!
In that book Dale goes around interviewing alot of people about how they stopped worrying. There was one man who was in a submarine and was caught by the enemy, the submarine was bombarded for 24 hours straight. The person being interviewed who was in that submarine promised himself that he would never worry again because when he was about to die he realized they really amounted to nothing. Fortunately he survived, one of my fav stories. Really good book, A+ on the video ! I just wanted a review and you did an amazing job!
I’ll just imagine the worst conditions other people live in instead of watching heads getting chopped off and I think I’ll still appreciate my circumstances enough to not worry
Today I've completed reading this book and frankly it has made me a different person and I've learned the art to overcome worry and fatigue. Now I am living a happy and thankful life.
Thank you. I needed this...My luck is been really down lately.
I didn't achieve my degree (despite being in my final year) and as a result I dropped out of university after facing years of problems relating to my lecturers and the management which I had tolerated till the point of breakdown.
My anxiety and skin problems has worsen and my medication + doctors visit increased; which means my medical bill is twice the amount.
I've been given another chance at a different university to redo my course. I'm terrified that I will fuck it up and fail, despite never failing a single class at my previous university. I'm starting to be at peace with myself everyday now.
Thanks man, my problem is my wife of 6 years told me she was a virgin when we met, not that I cared or am 1 of those 'no sex before marriage' freaks. A week ago I found out she wasn't, I took it like she cheated on me, but at the end of the day that shit happened before she met me, her body in those terms is not what I care about its her and our marriage was very happy before I got that information
Hey, hope you dont mind me replying. I really think you should be asking yourself a couple of questions like has she been faithful to you in the past 6 years and also if she has been a great wife throughout and never shown to you that she was extremely unhappy with you. What i'm trying to say is that maybe when she met she did not want to lose you over a weak moment she might have had. Maybe she was unsure that how might react to her not being a virgin. I reckon you have ull right to be annoyed and upset about knowing it now but ask yourself that is he really worth losing your marriage over something that does not exist between the two of you now. Hope you don't mind my reply. Just hoping this might help a bit. Thanks
Yash 2.0 Hi mate, thanks for your reply, well its a long story Ill try to cut short, my wife never actually lied to me in the end, she was in highschool in Vietnam and her ex bf tried to have sex with her but she felt uncomfortable and told him to stop, the problem was she went home and told her cousin without enough detail to it that it wasnt even sex then few weeks ago her cousin looked surprised when I mentioned I was her 1st and spilled the beans in the wrong way without my wife there. My wife when eventually came clean told me 'look that wasnt even sex' and told me what happened, at 1st I thought she is just sugar coating the story to make me feel better, I even said that to her, but really I have to believe her. HOWEVER weather or not they had sex its irrelevant! We've known each other nearly 7 years and we lite up everyday when we see each other. Her cousin to be honest is abit jealous and wants my D
Rishabh Singh Sorry mate but i totally disagree with your comment. How can you say that truth, honesty are only masculine concepts. Anyone whether male or female can and will chat if they want to. it is an individual trait. In this scenario, their relationship is absolutely fine but just something from the past is troubling which can easily be avoided by some sensibility and allowing trust to crawl back slowly. Please don't confuse people by your toilet psychology! Makes no sense whatsoever
Poon Handler how she could/ would do this 😯???
I'm sorry but the "problems" you stated are a cake walk to get over, most people who really struggle with worry have actual reasons. Also, watching someone head being cut off will not "cure" a worrier, in fact, it could very well intensify the problem.
WRONG! MOST things people worry about NEVER happen. This is proven fact, so go fuck yourself you moron !!! Just kidding ....... Actually, I'm not kidding
Alan Lloyd how to self fuck? WHY DONT U TEACH HER?
@@ClassicRock1973 I'm worrying about things that will NEVER happen but it's because it is an (unhealthy) coping mechanism. Some baaaad shit happened to me and now I'm overthinking everything I do or say. Advice in the vid is good, but it's not explored too deeply. Because if that if you don't already have the knowledge of how to cope in a healthier way *the vudei probably won't help* that much
Deep - can't believe this guy is 20 something . Amazing videos man . Thank you
I can.
WOW! I read the title and I thought "it seems like some self-help bs but what I can lose? Ten minutes? It's worth the risk for what it promises" and actually is really good! Thanks!
Thank you man, this is really talking to me been worrying about shit, when my girlfriend is not answering my calls or responding my messages I freak out for no reason. Thank you I am now a changed man.
I think realizing what you have and being grateful would suffice, don't think it's necessary to watch something so gruesome to grow in life.
I worry a lot. It's an awful habit. Now I'm worrying if I'm worrying way too much. Lolo
Same
Thank you so much for this video. I stress and worry all the time. I need to watch this a few times everyday. Everything you said made so much sense. This will definitely stay on my play list.
Thanks, it helped but still can't stop worrying can't sleep it's getting late I love how you help people all the time you are a really good person have a good life
This creator has a very valid process to better yourself. He’s probably very successful life wise... but is also shows how damaged he also is. I’m still very happy for him that he has the ability to be productive regardless of his childhood traumas. Good for you!
this video literally changed my life
With the energy you spend worrying,
you could be actionably doing incredible things
:)
Hi, how come u stopped making videos ?
Like watching people's head get cut off.
I felt it got slightly too simplistic in this video. This is a 22yo's perspective. I'm in my late 30s and am a single parent. Every decision I make will impact another human being and potentially the rest of his life. If I'm not worrying about something, I'm in trouble.
I think you need to inject a lot more perspective into your videos than just your own, dude. I appreciate the knowledge you're trying to spread, but it can seem like it's coming off just your world view. That's dangerous.
runninginsept its a review from a book of Dale Carnegie. In the Bible, not to worry was mentioned a lot so maybe there's something into that. Im a single parent but no what when I'm tempted am to worry, I always think about how God solved all my problems. Really! I rather be positive than focusing to worry. Worry can make you to a lot of trouble!!!
Xo Ox Lol... Everybody's life is fucked up because of "own habits". Has absolutely zero bearing on this video's faults.
With much respect dont come to these videos looking for answers. When in reality as you said, everything being mentioned is just a point of view by some individual person. You could adopt the point of view or just grab what you need. We worry to much I've seen it first hand with my self. Have faith things will go well you have the answers
If possible, could you please explain a concrete example of how every decision you make will impact another human being? Does the human being stand for your child only (since you state you're a single parent) or other people as well (your neighbor, your co-worker)? How is not worrying could cause your trouble? Would appreciate if you could explain your own perspective as well.
runninginsept every decision every one makes and doesn't make will influence your and everyone else's kids..so it's not like it matters all thaaaat much..we are influence (and the lack of) :p
Anyone watching this in 2017 like me??? Whatever..... never thought in the way, in which u illustrated the idea of the price of our legs and get contented .... one of the most amazing youtube videos I have ever come across...
I have read more than a thousand books and this is my favorite by far. Its title makes a lot of people feel that they dont need to read it, but its basically how to think about life and other events. a title like that would make a lot more people read it.
I love these videos so much that I started sharing them with my 12 year old son! You quickly break down the books in a fun and powerful way that quickly captures our attention and makes it easy for us to learn. Thank you so very much for taking the time to create them and sharing your wisdom. With gratitude, BarbieTheWelder
While I agree and find inspiration with your concepts, it is easier said than done depending on your situation and phases in your life. A man who loves and lives with his wife and three+ kids and in-laws has much more to manage than a single guy with a girlfriend who has much more time to go to the gym and read a book a day. To the single guy, these sound like excuses until they live in the same shoes...
1⃣ Ask yourself: What's the worst thing that can happen? (0:00)
When faced with worries and anxieties, ask yourself what the worst-case scenario is. Often, we realize that the worst outcome is not as terrible as we imagine, which helps to reduce worry.
2⃣ Recognize the absurdity of everyday worries. (5:36)
We often worry about trivial things and lose perspective on how absurd these concerns can be. By thinking about extreme situations and comparing them to our daily worries, we can realize how irrelevant they truly are.
3⃣ Stay busy with activities you love to ward off negative thoughts. (8:28)
When we engage in enjoyable and meaningful activities, our brains don't have the capacity to dwell on negative thoughts and worries. Find hobbies, exercise, read, or work on projects that bring you joy and fully engage your mind.
4⃣ Value what you already have and stop worrying about insignificant things. (10:41)
Instead of worrying about small everyday matters, appreciate what you already have. Often, we give excessive importance to material things or fleeting worries, while overlooking the true value of things we already possess, such as health, relationships, and happiness.
EM PT:
1⃣ Pergunte a si mesmo: qual é a pior coisa que pode acontecer? (0:00)
Ao se deparar com preocupações e ansiedades, pergunte-se qual é o pior cenário possível. Muitas vezes, percebemos que o pior não é tão terrível quanto imaginávamos, o que nos ajuda a diminuir a preocupação.
2⃣ Reconheça a absurdidade das preocupações cotidianas. (5:36)
Muitas vezes, nos preocupamos com coisas insignificantes e perdemos perspectiva sobre o quão absurdas essas preocupações podem ser. Pensar em situações extremas e compará-las com nossas preocupações diárias nos ajuda a perceber o quão irrelevantes elas realmente são.
3⃣ Mantenha-se ocupado com atividades que você ama para afastar os pensamentos negativos. (8:28)
Quando nos ocupamos com atividades prazerosas e significativas, nossa mente não tem espaço para pensamentos negativos e preocupações. Encontre hobbies, exercícios físicos, leituras ou projetos que te deixem feliz e engajado.
4⃣ Valorize o que você já tem e pare de se preocupar com coisas insignificantes. (10:41)
Em vez de se preocupar com pequenas coisas do dia a dia, valorize o que você já tem. Muitas vezes, damos muito mais importância a coisas materiais ou preocupações passageiras, ignorando o verdadeiro valor das coisas que já possuímos, como saúde, relacionamentos e felicidade.
If you want to be happy, do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present. Thanks you for this video🙌👌👌
Always ask yourself : ''What's the worst thing that could happen?!'' Always push through your comfort zone, it will eventually become your normal! I used to be shy and got bullied, to the point where I wanted to end my life. Here is what I did to change. #1 I started to ask time to random people on the street. #2 I started a conversation with them. #3 I started to talk to everyone. #4 I started attending networking events. #5 I did 4 or 5 networking events/week. #6 Once that became easy, I decided my comfort zone would be to speak on stage, so I got a coach. #7 I want to share my love for Philanthropy with the world and we are organizing our first seminar on February 2nd 2019!!
You can accomplish anything you set your mind to do! Take a step in the dark, and as Sir Richard Branson says, ''Screw it, let's do it!''
Great stuff by the way, your videos are motivating.
Jeno Sanchez Thank you :)
Just found your channel today. Love ur videos and your approach. This one made me laugh (at myself) a couple times.
JUST_ME_LE hi
Holy shit - this is one of the best videos ever made
Summary of wise things people have told me over the years:
Negative thoughts feed negative thoughts, but positive thoughts feed positive thoughts! So acknowledge the thought, challenge what needs to be challenged, and then tell yourself a more realistic affirmation of what’s going to happen or what the situation means and focus your energy on something that actually serves and fulfils you
(Trying to do this myself lol, so much easier said than done but just gotta practice)
I like that billions worth of our legs ... I have started sumie since the pandemic. The Japanese teacher taught me to appreciate the brush and stuff before even starting painting. Nothing last forever, if we remind us to be grateful for everything we have owned or gotta to enjoy, we will be happy and blessed
I think you underestimate the amount of people that worry about legit stuff.... kids over-dosing, marriages breaking up, a family members alcoholism, paying taxes, paying bills, your sister committing suicide... I understand most stuff is just noise, but this sort of flip justification for "tricking" yourself out of an emotion is reductionist and demeaning to people that have real life problems... that are out of your control... there are many of us.
Damian Hanley Inc yo I think the video is more about people who constantly worry about the smaller issues in life, and most of the time it's for no reason at all
I agree that distracting yourself does nothing, and this is why you should try to dig and find the actual causes of the problem so you can solve it. I know the underlying causes and will tell you which they are. You see yourself as a victim and incapable of dealing with things. All these problems are actually within your control, to some extent. A marriage breaking up, if yours, see a professional and work on yourself and your marriage. You and your spouse are the only ones responsible for it, and nobody else. If not yours, it is not your problem, if you can give a constructive advice good, if not, you shouldn't feel guilty about it, let adults take responsibility too and too become active about their own lives. A person with any addiction deeply believes they are not good enough to be loved and make their internal critical voice to finally shut up by substances that numb the brain - show them unconditional love, offer a good therapist, study psychology of addiction and support them in becoming a better person. Money also comes down to developing yourself and being active, not reactive about it, change your belief about money, you deserve them and you are capable of getting them, I am 100% sure. People wanting to commit suicide also deeply believe they are not good enough to the point they want to delete themselves from the world, so they don't burden the people around, by taking their life away. Check out Marisa Peers', best psychologist in England, videos and explanations. You can help make a change, but only once this change has already started within you and you have developed enough capacity. Like teachers first study for many years, develop a capacity and only then support their students in their development. You got this, you are good enough and can deal with life's challenges! God loves you and has given you many opportunities to grow and develop. Believe than you can and that you deserve to be active about your life and own it!
Seriously...Watching someone having there head chopped off definitely not my idea of a positive start to the day!
Joanne Phelan You are Beautiful. (I skipped a heartbeat)
Joanne Phelan America's isis propaganda was a burden back then
Its a metafor
I read the book before watching this video and I think the review is utter BS!
The review only mentions poor examples of how and why HE thinks you should stop worrying and not what the author teaches us about the subject.
This book is one of the best things that ever happened to me and the review does no justice to such a phenomenal piece of literature and research!
Very disappointed!
Thanks for saying this!
I’ve read his book How to Win Friends and Influence People
He’s a great writer.
The less I worry the more I accomplished. The more confident that I am, the better my day goes. Worry for not solve your problems. I say believe you will be okay.
Thank you for this video. I start my day with meditation and calmly visualizing my head get chopped off. Now nothing bothers me.
Another awesome vid. Good perspective!
FRUIT4 JAM Thanks! :)
Never thought I'd hear someone recommend watching somebody's head get chopped off every morning. Props for giving the controversial advice.
FBIRyan Haha, yeah, I know a lot of people didn't like that.
I remember a few months ago, I was trying to record a voiceover and I think I spilled some water. So I cleaned it up, went back in to record, and my battery was dead. I came out to look for a new battery and I was out of batteries. I was so pissed off I just started yelling.
I got on my computer and they had just released the footage of the Jordanian pilot being burned alive. I started watching it and I couldn't believe how stupid I was. The only reason I'm not being burned alive or chopped up is purely out of luck. I wasn't born in certain place at an unfortunate time. That's it.
I remember I put my microphone away and took the entire day off and went to the park. I just walked around and breathed fresh air. Probably the best day of my life. I had been getting good about not worrying, but that was a huge paradigm shift for me. I don't think I've really worried about anything after seeing the pilot's face right before the fire got to him.
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No, I don't.
Just a dumb metaphor. Feeding your mind (on a daily basis) with images of gore and cruelty can simply not be good for you, he just happened to have it work for him in that moment, but that doesn't mean it is something that should be done under a normal circumstance.
Appreciation for life should also not come from someone else's suffering in my opinion, so respectless.
FBIRyan It's amazing what a demagogue can do huh?
MrDrummergeorge
It's amazing what anyone can do.
ok so you've told us to stop worrying about bs that won't even matter in the long run now what about things that do matter like possibly being homeless or possibly losing a loved one
Dude..I actually think this video is going to change my life..I am a huge worrier and overthink way WAY too much and it has destroyed my mental and physical health...over the years of course. Nothing in this video does NOT make sense. If the entire world watched and applied this video... Danggg!! This would be one awesome world to be in.. Thanks ;)
Carnegie is such a genius and your videos are the absolute best in this genre.
okaaaaay
any links to head chopping videos ?
Chill
yea I was looking for the same videos
which head getting chopped?
Plenty on LiveLeak, just start looking.
to be fair I don't worry at all and ended up loosing allot of ground in my education and life. i almost wish that I would have worried and cared far more than i did.
"Hey honey, what are you watching?"
"Someone's head getting chopped off"
i am a born worrier and i think the idea of thinking whats the worst will happen is brilliant. i start the morning looking at bbc news about the people dying of covid, i think thats a nicer thing to look at than heads being cut off, but it makes me feel so lucky that i don't live in england now. sorta works
I noticed that when I saw dying cancer patients give their dying words and what ultimately mattered to them put things into perspective for me.
I was into the video until you started telling me to watch decapitation videos to feel good about life. Thanks but no thanks.
This is my problem! Plus, negative people doubting me ☹️
Why to worry? You are a human surrounded by atoms, particules and cells.
The chopped off head thing was a bit much, but I see where you're coming from. I'm going to try asking myself that question though. Also, there's another way to help fear and that's to change from fear to being excited. It's that "5 second rule" thing that Mel robbins created. It works so well. Whenever you fear or worry about something, count down from 5 and think of ways that you're excited about the situation. Like, I had to take this test and I was having panic attacks all of the time, getting depressed, and the negative thoughts were so overwhelming. It was miserable. But, I told myself that I could do this. I told myself reasons why I was excited for it and I got through it just fine. The thing is that fear and excitement are the same feeling, but the only difference is what your brain calls it. You can trick your brain into thinking that the reason why your body is freaking out is because you're excited. All's i'm saying is that you can change your mindset and trick your brain into positivity.
What you are doing is profound! You are making ideas normally inaccessible to the average person, available to almost everyone. This is the kind of knowledge that can create a new Renaissance for our civilization. AMAZING WORK!
If I see someone's head chopped off or anything violent or tragic like that it makes me view the world as a horrible place and perceive humans as cruel, and it basically drags my state down and makes me very negative. It plays on my mind for a long time and causes me to worry that this could happen to me or my loved ones.
Absolutely awful advice that veers way off the book!!!!
Good God. Can't wait for this era of "I can be a motivational speaker (business guru, etc.) by rehashing others' ideas and adding my own 2 cents (or less)" is over.
I dunno man, a billion dollar is a lot of currency.
+C. Lincoln i could go with out legs and use 1million for fake legs. Then live rich.
Laugh Out Loud!
P.s. i didn't actually laugh i just made a smile and a tiny bit of sound but it's okay because i hardly laugh anyway...
There's beauty everywhere around you. You just need to open your eyes again unafraid of the light. How long have you imposed darkness onto yourself? There's beauty in all. And im glad i have been in peace with the universe unbeknownst to my stubborn ego. I have been in peace. All the chaos i thought i had were mere passing thoughts. And i shall not resent my mistakes including this one for i know its the way of nature i am born with flaws, with numerous blind spots, destined to face difficulties and a lot more blessings and opportunities too . For i know i am becoming a better man each passing moment.
Climbers call worrying "making snakes out of rope." Sometimes you see something or think about something and you make them worse than they actually are. Don't worry about anything. Worrying doesn't help in the least. An old Chinese proverb says "There are 2 things in life that you should never worry about. They are the things you can change. And the things you can't do anything about." That covers everything in my opinion. God bless and keep your head up. Don't look back. You're not going that way.
2 awesome questions to ask yourself:
1. Whats the worst that can happen?
2. Now what needs to get done?
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This is amazing stuff. You rock.
"go to the gym with my girlfriend" ... Casually sneaking that in I see you
It was amazing that the universe brought me to this video.
I am having a lot of trouble with anxiety and worrying. These tend to manifest as anger and hatred resentment and bitterness for me.
It’s turning me into a person that I do not like.
I’ve read one of Dale Carnegie‘s books before and really enjoyed it so I think I’m going to try reading “ how to stop worrying and start living today.
I’m also interested in the suggestion of watching someone’s head getting chopped off.
I’m really desperate and I will try anything right about now…
But I got onto the Internet and couldn’t find any videos?
Maybe that’s a good thing, it sounds pretty traumatic.
I just know that I need to do something now and I am willing to take action!
Does anybody have any suggestions for me of what else I could do.
I managed my anxiety by meditation, exercise, deep breathing ( 4 seconds in, 4 seconds out), simply finding things to be grateful for, and CBD gummies ( I take those to lower blood pressure but it helps with anxiety too).
Dude, listen... I love you man. You have no idea how much this is helping me and will help me. Wish I could buy you a beer and tell you this in person.
I'm going to try and read those 2 books you mentioned too. Thanks brotha!
May you have all the joy and happiness in life. Cheers!
I watched video of heads chopped off in Syria......now I'm worried every-time I catch the train as I live in high Muslim area.....thanks dude.
Rabi Jassi ان شاء الله حياتك كلها خايف يا نذل
maya ju هههههه ليك مين عم يحكي
Well those who got their heads chopped are mainly Muslims too, Syrians are super majority of Muslims and they are the most victims of Daesh and the funded terror! Those in your area are immigrants who FLED THE WAR to not get their heads chopped too! What is your IQ level?!! Jeezez!
It isn't that simple. Few truisms that maybe works for few days. If you have real problems, you need to find a resolution. Problems doesn't disapear when you thinking about something else. It will come back with double power if you don't fix it. Maybe I'm too mature for this video but i find it so naive...
You can still do something about these problems without worrying. Nowhere does he say you should ignore your problems and let them be, the point is that you don't need to worry about it and everything will be better
If you don't worry problems are easier to solve actually
What's the definition of "real problem" to you? This video is saying that you shouldn't be wasting time worrying about shit that's not worth worrying about and move on to better things. Not you have a "real problem" and leave it be.
Also to point out finding a solution to a problem does not equal worrying about it all day. It's only gonna slow you down.
agreed. pretty silly. kids are starving in africa but im still a selfish fuck. i think beheading videos will just give me more problems
You can find a solution to problems, and stop worrying about them also. Not mutually exclusive.
I was on board until you mentioned watching people get their heads chopped off lol... just because someone has it worse doesnt mean your life isnt bad, as selfish as that sounds. I agree with the rest though.
After watching your video, I will try and stop worrying about my problems especially my future and Math. I have always been worrying Math and my future every single day. But I will try improve my Math
BEST thing you can do is play my QTV playlist , new one each week. this will lift your spirits. :) EACH FRIDAY
damn im a billionaire didnt even know it
u r so cute
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I think we should think about worst and best case both.. It may be possible best happen to us..
True. But even best and worst case scenarios are perceptions that are controlled by one's mind. A bad situation for someone might work out to be the best scenario for yourself. The trick is keeping an open mind and not undermining yourself in any way.
some guys feeling awkward about head chopping.
just Google Burma situation and see its happening and no one cares
Anjali Sharma I found a similar content very well sxripted in Urdu/Hindi. ruclips.net/video/K-xfKgKH6WE/видео.html I hope you would appreciate.
All kinds of gainz!! That made me lol
The Power of Now is a life-changer💎 Never read this one tho, allthough been meaning to. Many thanks for making these summarys (not to forget the great amount of work put into them) - what you do have great impact! Making these books available to everyone is a gift youre giving the world. Keep up the good work, and lots of gratefulness all the way from Norway💎
I don’t know what happen but after watching this video i feel relaxed worrying free.
Thanks
I'm worried that I'm not going to find a video with a head being chopped off!
Best gore has enough of those video's
Thanks!
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