The daughter is hurt but she has to understand that some of the questions she's asking she'll never get an answer to. She needs therapy. She has ever right to be angry, but TO BE IGNORANT ABOUT IT. YOU call me & cuss me out. I WOULDN'T CALL ANYMORE EITHER.
Yes yes. I’ve been in plenty of situations where the silence has had to be my closure. Gotta get help so you can let it hurt, feel your feelings and move on to happier, healthier experiences.
She has every right to feel, act, speak however she feels. The judgement on here for the daughter is callous to say the least. The mother is responsible for all 18 ..18 smdh children she never mothered. Period
I'm curious about her adopted family. She says she had a good childhoood and was treated nice, but she seems cold towards them. She refers to them as "the lady" and "them people".
It might be for their privacy. You see other talk shows not use kids names for their privacy. This could be like that. I noticed no one is saying their names.
I think that was to protect their identities. Her mother did the sane thing and the father did too. He said they said "they" was taking her to the store to buy clothes. Emphasis on THEY! I could be either way. But she said her immediate family loved her, their real family was the ones that made her feel a type of way. So that's double abandonment. 😢
Good evening. I came from a broken background and my mother was on hard core drugs and she left behind 6 children and for years we all blame her due to abandonment my mother will pop out kid after kid and all of us would actually do everything to not face us. None of us know fathers that’s the part hurts the most and I understand those drugs had the best of her, after a while we all tried our best to love her as time grew over the yrs. Today she is actually clean after 27yrs she is a great mother and grandmother to my children and her younger sister children kids ;she is 72 years old. This story sort of hit home and it brought tears to my eyes because I truly wish she never touched drugs. I suffer from abandonment and trust issues behind it all. God plays a huge role in my life ❤. God bless all of you on this show!!❤❤
May Gods love and mercy envelop you and your family. You are strong. So sorry you never got to know your other parent. Every child deserves to know who they are and where they come from. I have never touched drugs or alcohol, it’s not apart of my culture and so it’s such an eye opener to see how drugs destroys families emotionally, physically and robs mothers/fathers from their children. Thank God you got your mother back, and got to experience a relationship with her. And congrats to your mother for winning the battle with addiction. God is great.
To a certain extent, I understand the fathers frustration. If every time I try to call you, you cussed me out for absolutely nothing multiple times I’m going to stop calling.
It’s not absolutely nothing when you abandon your responsibility to your child. A child comes into the world with a natural desire and longing to connect with their parents. The only thing that changes that is the parent. Folks don’t raise their child, don’t disturb a healthy relationship, and are then surprised when their biological child doesn’t respect them.
@@pamelastates5600so you're telling me if you abandoned your child and they're deeply traumatized by it and they are upset with you you would just abandon them again???
This is so scandalous it dont help that media comapnies are profiting on this. I dont agree with bernie sanders communists but they have a point: the money game has to stop its not worth your soul
Instead of this girl being happy for having a good adoptive parent she saying she wanted to grow up close in a dysfunctional environment 🤦♀️ she can't even see the blessing.
This lady admitted to being very lost out on drugs hard, but she knew who her daughter father is. Most drug addicts are clueless. Glad she received closure today.
She DOES! But she has so much pain from being abandoned! You can be grateful and STILL have deep hurt. It’s the HURT she has that runs so deep. When you say she should be grateful to God-it actually makes her feel MORE PAIN.
She is grateful! How do you know she's not! She said she had a good life! But she also said she would have traded it to have her imperfect real parents!
I sure as hell would i had a terrible childhood and parents but i learned on my own good and i thank god, my true parent , for giving me those important lessons and things and even getting baptized at 13 believe it or not
While I would never pretend to understand and 100% sympathize with her, I personally feel she should be grateful that she was placed with a family that she says loved her and gave her a beautiful life!!! I guarantee you, if she asked her other siblings they would change places with the life she had in a heartbeat!!!!
Yes, the previous episode I heard a glimpse of the sisters story and I lived the same life… Let me tell you, kids like us only hoped to be loved and well taken care of without having our parents.
GIIIIIRRRRRLLLL Lex... you gotta let it go. The people who brought you into this world did not have the tools necessary to be your parents. You can't keep asking for what they don't have. They can't fill that role for you. The ✌🏾 dad✌🏾 wasn't even there to step up. He was there to be proven right
so why bring them into the world? +15?? they didn’t have the tools cause they didn’t want the tools. she’s was a dope head worried about how she was going to get her next fix and he was a dirty boy in and out of jail chasing tail! no excuses! can’t just let stuff like that go
Lex keeps saying she wanted what her sister had even though it was bad. I don't believe her she would just have that to complain about. How far does Lex think she's going to get by cussing everyone out that she meets. Lex get therapy and move on because you have to be the best mom to your children.
Lex needs therapy. I was raised by my grandma and I now consider it a blessing and apart of my story that I was spared and raised up right and not dragged from crack house to crack house and probably being abused etc. she needs to get therapy and stop playing victim, be grateful for the life she does have because the life she wanted is a fantasy. No matter how she spins it her parents will NEVER be who they needed her to be. I learned you gotta except the apology you’ll never receive.
It may be a fantasy and she was better off where she was taken but she has her right to feel that way! She would rather be with her parents then with others and that’s valid for her to feel that way not everyone has to feel the way you do!
Yes she needs therapy but she's not playing the victim,she's just so hurt! I really think a lot of people forget what the "crack epidemic" did to so many Black families in the 80's. Whether it affected/devastated those who used it, sold it & or the children who were born into it! Facts are it literally plagued us as a community, shoot it's 2023 & it still continues to play a big part in generational curses. I wasn't even born until after the 80's & I know that. I just really need her parents to NOW DO THE WORK!
@jesslivinlife: You are absolutely correct. You see, because time is so very short, we do not have the ability to go back in time and fix untoward issues. Therefore, to begin the attempt to heal, we must take steps to refuse to remain the "victim." So long as your past has presence in your current life, you will have unending toxicity in the days ahead. IT WILL TAKE PRAYER AND DILIGENT WORK ON THE "VICTIM'S PART TO HEAL AND NEVER LOOK BACK AT WHAT WAS! We all must remember that we have the power to choose our continued course in life: happiness or misery, to love or to hate, etc.
This girl cussing out her father it’s gonna come right back to her. She is very disrespectful and full of anger. she not even need counseling she need Jesus
She said that she would rather be with her mother than having a good childhood. It’s giving ungrateful. I understand that family comes first but she has no idea what life is like living with parents on drugs and in and out of jail. “Them people” took good care of her and she had a good life compared to her sister who went from home to home.
Lex is too much. She had a proper family. Now knowing that her mom was on drugs she as a parent, should understand that no matter what, you are going to do the best for your seeds no matter what! Now she keep going on and on....baby you either want them in your life or not but if nothing else, you are creating a hard space for your kids with the grief and trauma. Stop blaming them and start the hell over
The dad didn’t really try.. I can tell Also, Lex needs to understand her parents were immature, has no guidance, on substances and more. The reason they made these choices will never make sense
Ummmm he tried for over a year and as she proudly admitted she cursed him out/disrespected him each time he reached out so he backed off. She needs to stop with the disrespect
@@vazyvas4712 she said he was calling her for over A year and she cursed him out every time. Then he stopped calling. She didn’t give him the opportunity.
@@vazyvas4712 16:17 A person is only going to take so much. He tried for a year and whatever he did wasn’t working. At that point it was in her hands. Her mother did the conniving act of giving(or selling 😒) her to the adoptive parents while putting the other child with his mother. She didn’t tell him what she was doing and she admittedly withheld information.
This really breaks my heart i felt like at a young age my mom did not love me but when i see these stories i am heartbroken to the extreme because i can imagine how they feel: they had it worse than me
Kara I this show is everything! This episodes touched on some very real issues that people deal with when it comes to substance abuse and how it affects the children, who are caught in the balance of all of it. Hope the family gets all the healing they need to move forward.
Stop cussing people out…your not going to ever have the relationship you desire until you heal yourself… do that for you and your kids… not your parents.
She’s 27 ffs why do you and him need to be getting together to co parent? Bit late for that nonsense no? She’s no 10 yr old and I’m with the father. I wouldn’t be having any child of mine talking to me like that, don’t care how hurt they are.
can’t expect respect when you’ve been a stranger, point blank period! he couldn’t respect her feelings enough to just listen and understand her feelings/emotions so why expect respect from her?? parents expect so much and feel so entitled when all they do is hurt their kids smh, but need them when they get old and frail can barely feed themselves! nah, keep feeling entitled! respect is earned, i don’t care who you are or how old you are.
This young lady needs Therapy. She has had a traumatic childhood. It’s gonna take time to heal all these wounds, it will be an emotional roller coaster for her but she needs to heal from this trauma to be better. ❤❤
4:23 6:35 6:49 7:30 8:30 12:40-now she admitted that he was there after claiming earlier that he wasn’t. Yeah the Mother contradicted herself and showed that she was the problem. She did what a lot of bitter women did and used the child as a weapon to hurt him because he didn’t want her anymore. Him being young, not knowing how, not having the proper guidance and in and put off jail made it easy for Alexis to get lost. I Believe the Mother did sell her daughter to the adoptive family. That’s why she put one child with his family and the other with the adoptive family. The father is not lying.
Alex mother trying to make the father look bad she has 15 kids the addiction is life changing my prayer is that the whole family heals together and mom make meeting and surrender to this new way of life and jersey has good recovery I know
1) you had two teenagers had a baby who themselves lost without guidance 2)A mother influenced by drugs and poor environment made a decision she thought was best because she already displaced a child with the father. 3)Lexi needing the void filled of knowing someone wanted her and that she is not rejected. Rejection is one of the mental phase every human being seek to avoid and find themselves adapting and adopting towards places, things, environments and people to be accepted and be approved. A small percentage will not seek such. Lexi will have to acknowledge her pain of what happen and make a decision doe she desire to help from the situation and move forward to healing and step to have a relationship. Just as a person goes through grieving stages this has stages and should be allowed to go through the process. One thing people have to get out of is pointing the finger and acknowledge her pain as Kamaro said.
Let me say this I've been there like lex but I never had a attitude with my mom cause I was in a safe place instead of being in a crack house or anything instwad of being angry give her a chance . As I got older my mom explained her situation to me where's I could understand her .
Sounds to me she was the lucky one out the 16. Atleast you had a great childhood. I wouldn't advise you to be upset because you weren't able to struggle with the rest of your family. Cause ive seen plenty of ppl come on this show resenting their mothers for not raising them correctly. So i believe even if she stayed with hey mom she still was going to feel negative about hey because she still wasn't fit to be the mom to have or raise her children correctly.
A lot of her anger comes from not being able to accept the past and what she didn’t have. And also being grateful for the little blessings she did or does have now. Being thankful that it was not worse even though she had it rough. It will help her let go of that anger. As well as having another coping mechanism, being vulnerable which isn’t easy. That anger will eats her up.
I’m happy she has some kind of closure at least she knows who her biological parents are. Now it’s time to heal and release the anger and trauma. I wish them all well.
The way Alexis is talking to Chris is unacceptable even if he wasn't her dad that makes him not want to apologize to where she's talking to him, these young adults are so disrespectful
If a parent doesn’t foster a healthy relationship with their children they foster the environment of disrespect. How can you expect respect when you don’t honor your responsibilities to your child?
No the parents are selfish and disrespectful. They didn't bother with a whole child. A whole human being, so they could take drugs, argue, move on, abandon children. What do the kids need to be respectful for. Please. They should be begging Lex for forgiveness for their disrespectful ways and causing their child trauma. SMDH. We need to break this generational BS
Lex needs therapy. Period. You’re not going to get the answers you’re looking for dear. Ever. Drugs ain’t gonna ever make sense. Starting over with prayer is necessary.
So mom interrupts "NO NO", just to say exactly what he said 🤔. That's the sign of an unreasonable person. Dad deserved a moment on stage to himself. Mom keeps interrupting and is way too angry for a reason. I dont think the child is his. They not being fair to this man. Even Karamo stopped being fair. Im sorry. Someone curses me out daily for a month, well on day 31, they may no longer hear from me.
I feel like Alexis wants to go through something when she has a family that loves her I totally understand the thing about finding your biological family but sometimes it’s best to move on and not go through that
I’m sorry but them speaking on cursing their parents out like it’s normal and acceptable is throwing me off. She said he tried for a whole year and she cursed him out every time but now she’s crying because he stopped trying after being disrespected every-time he tried 16:16. No ma’am if you want the relationship stop with the disrespect. The Mother is also throwing me off. She made decisions for him based off her own personal feelings. I wonder why she chose to keep one child with his family but sent the other away?
Karmano got on my last nerve like shut tf up so the man can answer the damn question! I would’ve been annoyed and frustrated too! He sitting there repeating the same ish over n over not letting the man get a word out! Whew that really had me heated! He does that a lot when he has his mind made up about someone! Smfh
Lex just wanted someone to chase her. She was young and sought out the facts and just wanted to know someone wanted to know where she was. She was angry and hurt, which pushed him away. It’s not right and what she needed was someone to take her for all the hurt and pain she has inside. On the other hand she has to learn that she cannot expect to cuss and push ppl away and expect that they will chase her. But now she’s older, she’s ready to accept them in, i hope everything works for her
Hell she's getting on my nerves with her bad attitude, I understand she was mad about her mom giving her up, But cussing someone out every month, please nobody kiss her ass, I'll move on as well until she's ready, change your negative attitude young lady, Healing can probably start, 🙏🏾
Hey, can you make sure all the same as get together and finally meet you inside of one house Airbnb is something I feel these young ladies need to see their brothers and sisters and one household
I don’t do the abandoned stuff but like he said it’s hard to connect or get someone to listen when they are hurting angry I wouldn’t tolerate that either call it what you want but no
I understand she is hurting and wanted to be with her parents it’s a way to talk to people nobody wants to deal with a person who has attitude and no respect she definitely has a right to feel however she likes but the attitude will push people away
This is my problem with my sister. She presents her aggressive & disrespectful pain and I shut down. No.. I wont hug her. No I won’t lean in. I don’t want to! She will feel rejected every time bc I feel attacked. And the cycle continues….
I wonder if the people she was sent with did something to her because if they gave her a good child hood why do she keep referring to them as them people weird to me
This girl has some serious problems thats bigger than Karamo. To say I would give up a good childhood to be with her parents who lived there lives in chaos is bananas to me. I question wat kind of life u are living now. How good of a mother are u to yo kids. If u were in the same situation as yo mom would u might would allow yo kids to live an unhealthy life instead of giving them to someone that could provide for them better.
They should be more respectful too! I do t condone no child disrespecting their parents! But yall acting like yall didn't hear the trauma, hurt, pain, it's not about yall feeli gs but hers! She the child! When you disrespect someone sometimes they disrespect you back, no matter the title! Right is right and wrong is wrong.
Lex better than me lol i feel like i wouildve still been cursing them out but at the end of the day that doesnt really get u no where it just drives u more insane so i hope that she is able to finally heal and just let it go as much as possible... it may sound insensitive but sometimes just letting go is the best thing for u to do in these situations and also just learn how to treat them accordingly and dont expect too much from them because they already showed u that they are incapable of giving u the proper love u needed as a child so def dont expect it as an adult
You can’t change the past only the present and the future. You have to let go. Discussion of the past sometimes comes across as justifying decisions that were made. We all change due to circumstances. Live and appreciate the moment.
Why does that lady look like she has two huge tarantula spiders on her eyes some of these lashes are just ridiculous I swear ,I refuse to wear fake lashes the drag queens were the ones that wore them at one time now everyone and they mammie wearing them some don't look so bad but most of them be so long if they blink fast enough they can fly frfr
All of them (except the other daughter) are gaslighting this man as though he is the sole cause of this when the mother is the one who's abandoned, not one but, 16 children. The daughter is hostile, disrespectful, verbally and mentally abusive towards him. The mother refuses to fully admit to the damage she's caused. She (hesitantly) admits to her actions but not to the wreakage she's caused in her children's lives. The man just aplogized but she rejected it. She can't be pleased and, ironically, she allows the mother who abandoned her to be in her ear against her father. Chris, stay far away from this woman. You don't need to have any dealings with her to build a relationship with your now grown daughter.
15 years ago you cussed your father and 15 years later you and a talk show host insist that the man apologize??? And he did!! What's your satisfaction?
Doesn’t matter- she was 15. He was the adult. Sit there with your child’s anger learn to regulate your own emotions and be there for your kid. End of story.
The dad have to stop playing the victim! Maybe he didn't know information in the beginning. But after that do the research, seek out answers and try to find your baby!!! You saw her in a store and didn't approach her. You not the victim here. She needed her parents to fight for her!
He is very mean and nasty. He is deflecting and pointing the finger by saying she gave her up for crack. Saying that only adds more hurt. My mom was on drugs for most of my life. We are in a better place now. Now my father is totally different. He has never been a father, however, I was raised by his family which wasn’t the greatest. Life be Lifing!!
Girl you better thank God they gave you away!!! Look how rough these people look if he was in and out of jail no grandmother should be forced to take kids in after they have raised there they might be to old or sickly
The mom need to just shut up now she trying to point the finger at this 1 father when she have 15 more fathers come on now! It’s both of y’all not just him!
I honestly feel that the father didn’t have a fair chance and I love karamo but I do notice that sometimes he talks over a person without allowing them to speak or answer the questions to certain degree and then other people cut other people off as well as karamo and that’ll piss anyone off frl I just don’t think the father was given a fair chance
So how much cussing u expect to keep doing and how much you think he wants to hear of you cussing him out. He backed away and shut it down. I will to. I shut my son out at one time for being disrespctful. He may not even be your dad.
Am in SA🇿🇦🇿🇦and my baby daddy abandoned my son now he has mixed emotions as his bio dad friends feed him with wrong information.he started to treat me and my fiance bad wish he can find closure 🙏🙏🙏🙏☀️☀️☀️
The daughters attitude is very cold ,,,I get it you're hurt,,,but u want him to be more involved ,,,, but you pushed him away...he seems to be an ok guy...😎
This so called mother, a dead beat mother talks /over talk every one . Trying to make the dad look bad . Hey lady when u point a finger REMEMBER THERE ARE ALWAYS 3 POINTING BACK AT YOU!! 🫵🏾 sending Love&Prayers to this yg lady . ❤️🙏🏽🇨🇦
I came on here just to make sure my feelings were valid. It’s almost like Lex is trying to make drama out of her situation. I understand her feelings and they are 100% valid, but she’s digging for answers that aren’t there. She needs something deeper than answers. She needs help. Her mom is TRYING to answer her to satisfy her pain, but she doesn’t have answers.
She is very rude and disrespectful to both parents the mother is trying her best to make up for her mistake but daughter is treating thrm like dirt and been jealous of the 1 daughter that was just moving from house to house family to family she should be more angry atleast lex had a stable that loves snd cared for her come girl be grateful
Lex stated, she was treated well by the family who raised her. The problem came when she met family outside the household. Remember, it wasn't an official adoption. Adult thoughts in hindsight is different as a child. 16 children and how many fathers? At what age did Kristy give birth to Lex? Kristy is trying to tell Chris what he should had done when she didn't do shit. Tired of Chrissy thinking she's the only victim, when she got the issues started. Both Chris & Chrissy were young.
I really believe dad is going to show up for Alexis. He really seemed to listen to Karamo with open ears and heart when it came to how he should listen and respond to his daughter when her moments of anger arise. I hope Alexis gets the therapy needed to heal so she doesn't continue to be angry because at some point that will push the people she so desperately wants love from away. I wish the mother would've kept her judgment of the father to herself. She really had no room to judge him when she was an absent parent as well. To say what he should've done could be deflected right back to what she should've done. In those moments all I could think was the nerve of this woman to point out his mistakes before looking in the mirror at her own. l hope she stays clean and stays in her daughters life like she said she would, but for some reason I don't believe she will as much as I feel the father will.
The daughter is hurt but she has to understand that some of the questions she's asking she'll never get an answer to. She needs therapy. She has ever right to be angry, but TO BE IGNORANT ABOUT IT. YOU call me & cuss me out. I WOULDN'T CALL ANYMORE EITHER.
Yes yes. I’ve been in plenty of situations where the silence has had to be my closure. Gotta get help so you can let it hurt, feel your feelings and move on to happier, healthier experiences.
I said the same. She's calling and cussing everyone out. That's too much uncontrolled anger. How is that manifesting in HER parenting?
She has every right to feel, act, speak however she feels. The judgement on here for the daughter is callous to say the least. The mother is responsible for all 18 ..18 smdh children she never mothered. Period
What is cursing them out going to get her? Just asking for a friend?
I'm curious about her adopted family. She says she had a good childhoood and was treated nice, but she seems cold towards them. She refers to them as "the lady" and "them people".
Yeah I notice that too, I’m not sure if that is just the way she talks or if it’s an estranged relationship with the family that raised her
It might be for their privacy. You see other talk shows not use kids names for their privacy. This could be like that. I noticed no one is saying their names.
I thought it was just me!!!!
I think that was to protect their identities. Her mother did the sane thing and the father did too. He said they said "they" was taking her to the store to buy clothes. Emphasis on THEY! I could be either way. But she said her immediate family loved her, their real family was the ones that made her feel a type of way. So that's double abandonment. 😢
I think this statement is very accurate
Good evening. I came from a broken background and my mother was on hard core drugs and she left behind 6 children and for years we all blame her due to abandonment my mother will pop out kid after kid and all of us would actually do everything to not face us. None of us know fathers that’s the part hurts the most and I understand those drugs had the best of her, after a while we all tried our best to love her as time grew over the yrs.
Today she is actually clean after 27yrs she is a great mother and grandmother to my children and her younger sister children kids ;she is 72 years old.
This story sort of hit home and it brought tears to my eyes because I truly wish she never touched drugs. I suffer from abandonment and trust issues behind it all. God plays a huge role in my life ❤.
God bless all of you on this show!!❤❤
May Gods love and mercy envelop you and your family. You are strong. So sorry you never got to know your other parent. Every child deserves to know who they are and where they come from. I have never touched drugs or alcohol, it’s not apart of my culture and so it’s such an eye opener to see how drugs destroys families emotionally, physically and robs mothers/fathers from their children. Thank God you got your mother back, and got to experience a relationship with her. And congrats to your mother for winning the battle with addiction. God is great.
To a certain extent, I understand the fathers frustration. If every time I try to call you, you cussed me out for absolutely nothing multiple times I’m going to stop calling.
It’s not absolutely nothing when you abandon your responsibility to your child. A child comes into the world with a natural desire and longing to connect with their parents. The only thing that changes that is the parent. Folks don’t raise their child, don’t disturb a healthy relationship, and are then surprised when their biological child doesn’t respect them.
I agree totally. If my child or grand cuss me out. I’ m out.
Yes I agree I think I would too as a mother . If my kids did that I might do the same . He is only human !!! ❤️🙏🏽🇨🇦
@@pamelastates5600so you're telling me if you abandoned your child and they're deeply traumatized by it and they are upset with you you would just abandon them again???
@@oceanbellaexactly! parents expect respect, but don’t want to give it.
Lex is so full of anger and hurt still. She needs therapy to help her with this situation.
This is so scandalous it dont help that media comapnies are profiting on this. I dont agree with bernie sanders communists but they have a point: the money game has to stop its not worth your soul
Instead of this girl being happy for having a good adoptive parent she saying she wanted to grow up close in a dysfunctional environment 🤦♀️ she can't even see the blessing.
And guess what? She’s still have the same anger and blame her mom for that too. She would’ve reacted this way regardless
She wanted her Parents. She wanted to be raised with her bioligical sisters and brothers.
I mean yeah u can’t see it cause u haven’t been there
This lady admitted to being very lost out on drugs hard, but she knew who her daughter father is. Most drug addicts are clueless. Glad she received closure today.
Awesome episode. Happy that the family is getting closure. This is living proof of the emotional damage to families when drug addiction is involved.
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Lex should really appreciate God for having a good and happy childhood
She DOES! But she has so much pain from being abandoned! You can be grateful and STILL have deep hurt. It’s the HURT she has that runs so deep. When you say she should be grateful to God-it actually makes her feel MORE PAIN.
She is still hurting. I'm sure she realizes she was blessed, but that hurt from being abandoned is still there.
She is grateful! How do you know she's not! She said she had a good life! But she also said she would have traded it to have her imperfect real parents!
I agree
I sure as hell would i had a terrible childhood and parents but i learned on my own good and i thank god, my true parent , for giving me those important lessons and things and even getting baptized at 13 believe it or not
While I would never pretend to understand and 100% sympathize with her, I personally feel she should be grateful that she was placed with a family that she says loved her and gave her a beautiful life!!! I guarantee you, if she asked her other siblings they would change places with the life she had in a heartbeat!!!!
Yes, the previous episode I heard a glimpse of the sisters story and I lived the same life… Let me tell you, kids like us only hoped to be loved and well taken care of without having our parents.
Exactly 💯
She is grateful 🙏🏾 and she deserves to feel the way she feels and deserves GRACE to heal!
Praying for healing of family
yes! she's so consumed by her grief and pain she can't realistically process the alternatives.
She is so hurt because she feels like she was left out of the circle of family.
GIIIIIRRRRRLLLL Lex... you gotta let it go. The people who brought you into this world did not have the tools necessary to be your parents. You can't keep asking for what they don't have. They can't fill that role for you. The ✌🏾 dad✌🏾 wasn't even there to step up. He was there to be proven right
so why bring them into the world? +15?? they didn’t have the tools cause they didn’t want the tools. she’s was a dope head worried about how she was going to get her next fix and he was a dirty boy in and out of jail chasing tail! no excuses! can’t just let stuff like that go
I know you should let it go i have no mom no dad i let it go
@@noobplebfunnehthen you know it’s not as simple as just “letting go”
My favorite new saying is "Oh, ya'll gon be alright!" LOL I love Karamo!
Lex keeps saying she wanted what her sister had even though it was bad. I don't believe her she would just have that to complain about. How far does Lex think she's going to get by cussing everyone out that she meets. Lex get therapy and move on because you have to be the best mom to your children.
Lex needs therapy. I was raised by my grandma and I now consider it a blessing and apart of my story that I was spared and raised up right and not dragged from crack house to crack house and probably being abused etc. she needs to get therapy and stop playing victim, be grateful for the life she does have because the life she wanted is a fantasy. No matter how she spins it her parents will NEVER be who they needed her to be. I learned you gotta except the apology you’ll never receive.
It may be a fantasy and she was better off where she was taken but she has her right to feel that way! She would rather be with her parents then with others and that’s valid for her to feel that way not everyone has to feel the way you do!
I agree, well said
Yes she needs therapy but she's not playing the victim,she's just so hurt! I really think a lot of people forget what the "crack epidemic" did to so many Black families in the 80's. Whether it affected/devastated those who used it, sold it & or the children who were born into it! Facts are it literally plagued us as a community, shoot it's 2023 & it still continues to play a big part in generational curses. I wasn't even born until after the 80's & I know that. I just really need her parents to NOW DO THE WORK!
She was a victim!!! She doesn't have to play something She was!!!
@jesslivinlife: You are absolutely correct. You see, because time is so very short, we do not have the ability to go back in time and fix untoward issues. Therefore, to begin the attempt to heal, we must take steps to refuse to remain the "victim." So long as your past has presence in your current life, you will have unending toxicity in the days ahead. IT WILL TAKE PRAYER AND DILIGENT WORK ON THE "VICTIM'S PART TO HEAL AND NEVER LOOK BACK AT WHAT WAS!
We all must remember that we have the power to choose our continued course in life: happiness or misery, to love or to hate, etc.
Therapy is definitely needed. Lex is too angry.
This girl cussing out her father it’s gonna come right back to her. She is very disrespectful and full of anger. she not even need counseling she need Jesus
She said that she would rather be with her mother than having a good childhood. It’s giving ungrateful. I understand that family comes first but she has no idea what life is like living with parents on drugs and in and out of jail. “Them people” took good care of her and she had a good life compared to her sister who went from home to home.
Lex is too much. She had a proper family. Now knowing that her mom was on drugs she as a parent, should understand that no matter what, you are going to do the best for your seeds no matter what! Now she keep going on and on....baby you either want them in your life or not but if nothing else, you are creating a hard space for your kids with the grief and trauma. Stop blaming them and start the hell over
The dad didn’t really try.. I can tell
Also, Lex needs to understand her parents were immature, has no guidance, on substances and more. The reason they made these choices will never make sense
Ummmm he tried for over a year and as she proudly admitted she cursed him out/disrespected him each time he reached out so he backed off. She needs to stop with the disrespect
@@rubyjaezI feel exactly the same way..🤷🏾♀️
@@vazyvas4712 she said he was calling her for over A year and she cursed him out every time. Then he stopped calling. She didn’t give him the opportunity.
@@rubyjaezthe circumstances should have been enough for him to keep trying. Instead, he abandoned her again.
@@vazyvas4712 16:17 A person is only going to take so much. He tried for a year and whatever he did wasn’t working. At that point it was in her hands. Her mother did the conniving act of giving(or selling 😒) her to the adoptive parents while putting the other child with his mother. She didn’t tell him what she was doing and she admittedly withheld information.
The mama trying to throw shade on the father but SHE dead ass wrong too.
It’s crazy someone can be against abortions but not against sleeping around ?? I’d rather had been aborted if you getting pregnant left and right
This really breaks my heart i felt like at a young age my mom did not love me but when i see these stories i am heartbroken to the extreme because i can imagine how they feel: they had it worse than me
Kara I this show is everything! This episodes touched on some very real issues that people deal with when it comes to substance abuse and how it affects the children, who are caught in the balance of all of it. Hope the family gets all the healing they need to move forward.
She wasn't adopted legally. She was given away.
@@inglewoodhoneyhoney321 right poor young lady.
Stop cussing people out…your not going to ever have the relationship you desire until you heal yourself… do that for you and your kids… not your parents.
She’s 27 ffs why do you and him need to be getting together to co parent? Bit late for that nonsense no? She’s no 10 yr old and I’m with the father. I wouldn’t be having any child of mine talking to me like that, don’t care how hurt they are.
Absolutely.
can’t expect respect when you’ve been a stranger, point blank period! he couldn’t respect her feelings enough to just listen and understand her feelings/emotions so why expect respect from her?? parents expect so much and feel so entitled when all they do is hurt their kids smh, but need them when they get old and frail can barely feed themselves! nah, keep feeling entitled! respect is earned, i don’t care who you are or how old you are.
This young lady needs Therapy. She has had a traumatic childhood. It’s gonna take time to heal all these wounds, it will be an emotional roller coaster for her but she needs to heal from this trauma to be better. ❤❤
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Yeah the Mother contradicted herself and showed that she was the problem. She did what a lot of bitter women did and used the child as a weapon to hurt him because he didn’t want her anymore. Him being young, not knowing how, not having the proper guidance and in and put off jail made it easy for Alexis to get lost. I Believe the Mother did sell her daughter to the adoptive family. That’s why she put one child with his family and the other with the adoptive family. The father is not lying.
Alex mother trying to make the father look bad she has 15 kids the addiction is life changing my prayer is that the whole family heals together and mom make meeting and surrender to this new way of life and jersey has good recovery I know
Mother painting the dad to be a horrible person to deflect the anger and hatred from her🙄😏
I was thinking the same thing.
1) you had two teenagers had a baby who themselves lost without guidance
2)A mother influenced by drugs and poor environment made a decision she thought was best because she already displaced a child with the father.
3)Lexi needing the void filled of knowing someone wanted her and that she is not rejected.
Rejection is one of the mental phase every human being seek to avoid and find themselves adapting and adopting towards places, things, environments and people to be accepted and be approved. A small percentage will not seek such.
Lexi will have to acknowledge her pain of what happen and make a decision doe she desire to help from the situation and move forward to healing and step to have a relationship. Just as a person goes through grieving stages this has stages and should be allowed to go through the process.
One thing people have to get out of is pointing the finger and acknowledge her pain as Kamaro said.
Let me say this I've been there like lex but I never had a attitude with my mom cause I was in a safe place instead of being in a crack house or anything instwad of being angry give her a chance . As I got older my mom explained her situation to me where's I could understand her .
Dad is no angel, he was a kid and didn’t want responsibility you can tell he was partying and not ready to be a dad.
Sounds to me she was the lucky one out the 16. Atleast you had a great childhood. I wouldn't advise you to be upset because you weren't able to struggle with the rest of your family. Cause ive seen plenty of ppl come on this show resenting their mothers for not raising them correctly. So i believe even if she stayed with hey mom she still was going to feel negative about hey because she still wasn't fit to be the mom to have or raise her children correctly.
Exactly! I would kill to have been raised by parents who loved me without the abuse
A lot of her anger comes from not being able to accept the past and what she didn’t have. And also being grateful for the little blessings she did or does have now. Being thankful that it was not worse even though she had it rough. It will help her let go of that anger. As well as having another coping mechanism, being vulnerable which isn’t easy. That anger will eats her up.
I am glad that you had a Great childhood!! Shout out to the Real parents that took her in
I am proud of that mama
Cursed out the father for over a year and Lex is mad he doesn’t want to be disrespected that’s crazy
I’m happy she has some kind of closure at least she knows who her biological parents are. Now it’s time to heal and release the anger and trauma. I wish them all well.
The way Alexis is talking to Chris is unacceptable even if he wasn't her dad that makes him not want to apologize to where she's talking to him, these young adults are so disrespectful
If a parent doesn’t foster a healthy relationship with their children they foster the environment of disrespect. How can you expect respect when you don’t honor your responsibilities to your child?
No the parents are selfish and disrespectful. They didn't bother with a whole child. A whole human being, so they could take drugs, argue, move on, abandon children. What do the kids need to be respectful for. Please. They should be begging Lex for forgiveness for their disrespectful ways and causing their child trauma. SMDH.
We need to break this generational BS
Lex needs therapy. Period. You’re not going to get the answers you’re looking for dear. Ever. Drugs ain’t gonna ever make sense. Starting over with prayer is necessary.
How old is this mum recovering from drugs? i feel so sorry for her
Thank god for a happy ending. This family needs therapy.
So mom interrupts "NO NO", just to say exactly what he said 🤔. That's the sign of an unreasonable person. Dad deserved a moment on stage to himself. Mom keeps interrupting and is way too angry for a reason. I dont think the child is his. They not being fair to this man. Even Karamo stopped being fair. Im sorry. Someone curses me out daily for a month, well on day 31, they may no longer hear from me.
He is the father so why didn’t her mother give lex to her grandmother like she did with the other baby before her?
I feel like Alexis wants to go through something when she has a family that loves her I totally understand the thing about finding your biological family but sometimes it’s best to move on and not go through that
Lex doesn’t want answers. Alexis wants a do over. That can't happen. Life moves forward. I like her mother. A lot.
I’m sorry but them speaking on cursing their parents out like it’s normal and acceptable is throwing me off. She said he tried for a whole year and she cursed him out every time but now she’s crying because he stopped trying after being disrespected every-time he tried 16:16. No ma’am if you want the relationship stop with the disrespect.
The Mother is also throwing me off. She made decisions for him based off her own personal feelings. I wonder why she chose to keep one child with his family but sent the other away?
Karmano got on my last nerve like shut tf up so the man can answer the damn question! I would’ve been annoyed and frustrated too! He sitting there repeating the same ish over n over not letting the man get a word out! Whew that really had me heated! He does that a lot when he has his mind made up about someone! Smfh
I agree!
Talk shows are good but nobody can help this situation. This child needs real counseling. She needs to talk to someone way professional.
Lex just wanted someone to chase her. She was young and sought out the facts and just wanted to know someone wanted to know where she was. She was angry and hurt, which pushed him away. It’s not right and what she needed was someone to take her for all the hurt and pain she has inside. On the other hand she has to learn that she cannot expect to cuss and push ppl away and expect that they will chase her. But now she’s older, she’s ready to accept them in, i hope everything works for her
Hell she's getting on my nerves with her bad attitude, I understand she was mad about her mom giving her up, But cussing someone out every month, please nobody kiss her ass, I'll move on as well until she's ready, change your negative attitude young lady, Healing can probably start, 🙏🏾
"Pleez be a man of your word"
Mam, you have 0ZEROooo000000000
Room to talk🙄
Hey, can you make sure all the same as get together and finally meet you inside of one house Airbnb is something I feel these young ladies need to see their brothers and sisters and one household
I don’t do the abandoned stuff but like he said it’s hard to connect or get someone to listen when they are hurting angry I wouldn’t tolerate that either call it what you want but no
Her mom saying be a man of his word she need to be a woman of her word lol. They both done messed her up
People needs to stop having a lot of kids and can't take care of them kids and give them away SMH
And they are using kids like objects that they can give away!!
You can't tell people what to have what God gave them
Drugs! Worst thing in the world .
Karamo, you're so Healing ❤ Thank you so much for all that you do & just for being You❤️ Much Love 4rm Dallas, TX ❤️
I'm almost half way through this mess and I hope he isn't her father...
Congratulations, I just don't think he's good for her....
I understand she is hurting and wanted to be with her parents it’s a way to talk to people nobody wants to deal with a person who has attitude and no respect she definitely has a right to feel however she likes but the attitude will push people away
This is my problem with my sister. She presents her aggressive & disrespectful pain and I shut down. No.. I wont hug her. No I won’t lean in. I don’t want to! She will feel rejected every time bc I feel attacked. And the cycle continues….
The mom looks like Frankie number 2
I wonder if the people she was sent with did something to her because if they gave her a good child hood why do she keep referring to them as them people weird to me
Okay so lets talk about how absolutely gorgeous lex is.... Her eyes are so naturally beautiful and her skin tone is so radiant..... Girl go get it!!
I understand that Lex is hurt, but she is too rude and disrespectful.
This girl has some serious problems thats bigger than Karamo. To say I would give up a good childhood to be with her parents who lived there lives in chaos is bananas to me. I question wat kind of life u are living now. How good of a mother are u to yo kids. If u were in the same situation as yo mom would u might would allow yo kids to live an unhealthy life instead of giving them to someone that could provide for them better.
Her mom is most improved on the show. 🔥
Lex should be more respectful to her BAD parents. So that they can understand what they LOST
Yess she should be more respectful
They should be more respectful too! I do t condone no child disrespecting their parents! But yall acting like yall didn't hear the trauma, hurt, pain, it's not about yall feeli gs but hers! She the child! When you disrespect someone sometimes they disrespect you back, no matter the title! Right is right and wrong is wrong.
I so wish there was a follow up on her..i pray she is healing
Lex better than me lol i feel like i wouildve still been cursing them out but at the end of the day that doesnt really get u no where it just drives u more insane so i hope that she is able to finally heal and just let it go as much as possible... it may sound insensitive but sometimes just letting go is the best thing for u to do in these situations and also just learn how to treat them accordingly and dont expect too much from them because they already showed u that they are incapable of giving u the proper love u needed as a child so def dont expect it as an adult
You can’t change the past only the present and the future. You have to let go. Discussion of the past sometimes comes across as justifying decisions that were made. We all change due to circumstances. Live and appreciate the moment.
Why does that lady look like she has two huge tarantula spiders on her eyes some of these lashes are just ridiculous I swear ,I refuse to wear fake lashes the drag queens were the ones that wore them at one time now everyone and they mammie wearing them some don't look so bad but most of them be so long if they blink fast enough they can fly frfr
All of them (except the other daughter) are gaslighting this man as though he is the sole cause of this when the mother is the one who's abandoned, not one but, 16 children. The daughter is hostile, disrespectful, verbally and mentally abusive towards him. The mother refuses to fully admit to the damage she's caused. She (hesitantly) admits to her actions but not to the wreakage she's caused in her children's lives. The man just aplogized but she rejected it. She can't be pleased and, ironically, she allows the mother who abandoned her to be in her ear against her father. Chris, stay far away from this woman. You don't need to have any dealings with her to build a relationship with your now grown daughter.
Lex needs therapy. She’s so angry at everyone.
The full truth will help her heal. THE FULL TRUTH
😮😮😮Wait!!!! Did the mother just have the nerve to tell Lex's dad, you have to be a man of your word???? 😂😂😂 Smh
Lex and Dad look just alike 💯❤️💯🌹🙏🏽🌹🙏🏽
❤ yeah they do 🙏🏽🫂 both girls are Beautiful 😍 cherry on top would be if they smiled more, I hope that day will come for these girls. 🌹💯💕
15 years ago you cussed your father and 15 years later you and a talk show host insist that the man apologize??? And he did!! What's your satisfaction?
accountability
Personally, I felt for the dad. Like stfu and listen to him.
Doesn’t matter- she was 15. He was the adult. Sit there with your child’s anger learn to regulate your own emotions and be there for your kid. End of story.
Dad isn’t innocent, but mom doing a lot of deflecting and lying
The dad have to stop playing the victim! Maybe he didn't know information in the beginning. But after that do the research, seek out answers and try to find your baby!!! You saw her in a store and didn't approach her. You not the victim here. She needed her parents to fight for her!
He is very mean and nasty. He is deflecting and pointing the finger by saying she gave her up for crack. Saying that only adds more hurt. My mom was on drugs for most of my life. We are in a better place now. Now my father is totally different. He has never been a father, however, I was raised by his family which wasn’t the greatest. Life be Lifing!!
Girl you better thank God they gave you away!!! Look how rough these people look if he was in and out of jail no grandmother should be forced to take kids in after they have raised there they might be to old or sickly
The mom need to just shut up now she trying to point the finger at this 1 father when she have 15 more fathers come on now! It’s both of y’all not just him!
This is sad😢😢😢
I honestly feel that the father didn’t have a fair chance and I love karamo but I do notice that sometimes he talks over a person without allowing them to speak or answer the questions to certain degree and then other people cut other people off as well as karamo and that’ll piss anyone off frl I just don’t think the father was given a fair chance
So how much cussing u expect to keep doing and how much you think he wants to hear of you cussing him out. He backed away and shut it down. I will to. I shut my son out at one time for being disrespctful. He may not even be your dad.
parents expect respect, but are you giving it? parents hurt their kids then expect them to respect them lol nahhh get on with all that!
Great work Karamo I hope Lex has a beautiful, healthy, and stable future ahead of her! Aloha from Hawaii...
Am in SA🇿🇦🇿🇦and my baby daddy abandoned my son now he has mixed emotions as his bio dad friends feed him with wrong information.he started to treat me and my fiance bad wish he can find closure 🙏🙏🙏🙏☀️☀️☀️
She kept cussing him and disrespecting him
Say you’re sorry…. I’m sorry….. but do you mean that🙄
The daughters attitude is very cold ,,,I get it you're hurt,,,but u want him to be more involved ,,,, but you pushed him away...he seems to be an ok guy...😎
This so called mother, a dead beat mother talks /over talk every one . Trying to make the dad look bad . Hey lady when u point a finger REMEMBER THERE ARE ALWAYS 3 POINTING BACK AT YOU!! 🫵🏾 sending Love&Prayers to this yg lady . ❤️🙏🏽🇨🇦
My goodness will someone tell her not to never put those lashes on again.😒😒
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Facts 😂
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Keep talking and growing ❤... #strength tears❤
I came on here just to make sure my feelings were valid. It’s almost like Lex is trying to make drama out of her situation. I understand her feelings and they are 100% valid, but she’s digging for answers that aren’t there. She needs something deeper than answers. She needs help. Her mom is TRYING
to answer her to satisfy her pain, but she doesn’t have answers.
She is very rude and disrespectful to both parents the mother is trying her best to make up for her mistake but daughter is treating thrm like dirt and been jealous of the 1 daughter that was just moving from house to house family to family she should be more angry atleast lex had a stable that loves snd cared for her come girl be grateful
This is a MESS 😮and so SAD... Everybody needs HELP.
Idk if she’s dense, but why act shady towards the people who raised her
Lex stated, she was treated well by the family who raised her. The problem came when she met family outside the household. Remember, it wasn't an official adoption. Adult thoughts in hindsight is different as a child.
16 children and how many fathers? At what age did Kristy give birth to Lex? Kristy is trying to tell Chris what he should had done when she didn't do shit. Tired of Chrissy thinking she's the only victim, when she got the issues started. Both Chris & Chrissy were young.
I really believe dad is going to show up for Alexis. He really seemed to listen to Karamo with open ears and heart when it came to how he should listen and respond to his daughter when her moments of anger arise. I hope Alexis gets the therapy needed to heal so she doesn't continue to be angry because at some point that will push the people she so desperately wants love from away. I wish the mother would've kept her judgment of the father to herself. She really had no room to judge him when she was an absent parent as well. To say what he should've done could be deflected right back to what she should've done. In those moments all I could think was the nerve of this woman to point out his mistakes before looking in the mirror at her own. l hope she stays clean and stays in her daughters life like she said she would, but for some reason I don't believe she will as much as I feel the father will.
That was a low blow, saying her mom tried to sell Lex for drugs, Please, everyone needs to go to therapy!!!