Children of addiction look for a sober answer. It's understandable, but an addictive parent can't give you that. I pray she stays sober and this family can heal
Yes, And I think Lex needs counseling on what addiction is about. That way she can accept things and go forward and be so thankful for the selfless woman that pulled her out of the fire.
The mother was a drug addiction, she was just doing her thing and kept having babies, those drugs had her. She didn't care about those babies ,she was trying to get back to her drugs ,but JESUS says to Forgive ,and you can with His Help!❤❤❤❤
I don’t feel the adoptive family gave her love. Because she is extremely upset for a reason. I may be wrong because I don’t know this lady but the way it seems she is hurt. If she came from a loving family she would not be so emotional.
I commend the mother for taking accountability for her actions. This is not easy being a recovering addict and and focusing on the mistakes of your past all at once.
Mom did what she had the capacity to do and it’s so unfair to beat her up for what she suffered with. She gave you up because she couldn’t do it and gave her to someone who could. We need to make a safe place for parents who know that they can’t “parent” and choose the alternative. It’s not right but it’s okay
Just because it was within their capacity doesnt mean that it wasn't harmful and taking responsibility for the harm you did is still important. The person who was harmed is not responsible for creating a safe space for the person who harmed them at all.
She is judging her mother as if she was a rationale adult. She was young, alone and on drugs. She did what she thought was best. This woman had 16 kids. There is no way she could have taken care of all of them.
I’m saddened that this happened so much in the 70’s, 80’s, and 90’s. I know the mom was young but she had 16 babies I’m sure all were addicted to something if she was on it her daughter who’s complaining lucked out! She didn’t get put in a group home! Or trafficked but the mom does need to have more accountability than this.
While I will never even pretend to act like I know what Lex is going through, I personally think she should be thanking God that she had her mom's friend to take her in and give her the wonderful life she had.
You're excluding how she feels, she said she was raised good, still don't excuse how she feels. People are so fkn horrible when they didn't walk those same shoes. Got advice, but don't know how it feels. Sometimes human beings are fkn blind to stuff they don't experience. So many grown children feel the same way as this young lady. Gtfoh, talking about " she should be grateful"🤬 pathetic!!
Where are y’all getting that she wasn’t thankful ? Y’all do realize people can feel more than one emotion at once right ? Almost like she can be grateful for her adoptive family and still feel abandoned by her biological one.. man y’all are dense
@sharonharper6244 Oh yes! 100% this beautiful young woman has to give thanks for the woman that saved her. The mom accepting accountability is very commendable and is vital to sobriety. I hope Lex can put this sadness behind her and go straight forward.
I feel bad for Lex but she not ready to heal. She is still very angry and that will block your growth. She mad at her siblings…why? Honestly she should thank her mother for giving her to people who can care for her. No telling where she’d be if she kept her or gave her to someone just because they were are relative. Time to grow up and either move on with them or without them.
Agree 💯 she's not ready to accept her Mother reasons and she will always throw it up in her face, cussing everybody out ,she said she was raised with good parents, the other sister had it bad but she move on ,
I don’t think she is really mad at her siblings. She probably envious the relationship they were able to have with their mother that she never got a chance to have. She also may also in an unjust way hold them responsible for knowing that their mother is not sober, thinking they should have pushed more for information if they knew about her. only God knows the real truth
@@melmal8278it’s easy to say move on. Abandonment syndrome is real. Unless you were rejected you would not know how she feels. You can’t say when a person should move on.
I have a brother whom my mother was made to give up because she was a teen. My brother went into a foster home, he knew my mom growing up. My brother had a better life but he didn’t have his mother and didn’t know his father. My brother always felt rejection, seeing us his three siblings being raised by our mother and my siblings and I father. My mother had no say so in the matter of giving up her child. My mother is ninety three, she has never talked to him about it to at least give him an explanation. I understand this young ladies pain. It’s time for some parents to explain the truth to their children.
Yhhhhh I would be in BITS honestly. Knowing that I took you I'm as my own fed and clothed you with no additional income ect. It's just sad all around 😢
It’s like yall don’t understand she doesn’t not love her for that it’s just she’s explaining her pain! Obviously the tears are real, she’s very hurt and you can’t take that away from her. They’re all in the right, the mom made her commends she’s trying to better her self and relationship with her. She’s doing amazing and I just pray they both can work on their relationship more! She might be selfish but that’s her emotion and she’s valid for it.
I feel like giving a child up for adoption is a kind and selfless thing to do when you don't think you can do it yourself. The girl is lucky she had a loving family. She's so angry and focused on what she doesn't have,not on the good she has already.
I think it’s because she felt lied to. Someone you trust is manipulating your reality and has been doing so since the beginning. This is why she is so traumatized and angry. The relationship turned when she found out the truth. Probably felt alone and even more abandoned.
Thank you so much for saying this🩷🙏🏽. It's a brave act, and one that should be commended and supported. Even outside of drugs/addiction, giving up a child for financial/mental health/economic reasons is selfless. It's not easy, but sometimes it's the only way for folks. It's too easy to shame people. Compassion and understanding is a process 🩷🙏🏽.
She is not open to receive the forgiveness from her mother, she is still angry and is chasing answers that she probably will never get. She needs more time
Why her mom was on drugs she could not take care of herself she gave her child to a good friend of hers the daughter need to stfu and be happy the mother came to see her and did not say fuck her the mom love her more then the drugs she made sure she was safe
My parents didn’t raise me but I always say at least I was loved and treated with love and I wasn’t in the system and I always Thank God it wasn’t worse cause my mom was on drugs too. None of us were in the system and we all were with family who truly loved us
She was on drugs!! They don’t love or care about anything or anyone but that drug. Forgive and get some counseling or you are going to be bitter for the rest of your life.
I feel bad for Lex adoptive mom, imagine a child feeling this amount of hurt for being in a stable environment free from being sold, traffiked, homeless, hungry . This crazy . Hope adoptive mom is healing from this
Imagine being a kidlonging for the love of your biological family and knowing that your siblings were all accounted for in one way or another. That's painful. There's no amount of love that ppl can give you if they aren't your ppl ppl. Im sure Lex is appreciative for that family. But seeing your biological family and never having answers or access is painful.
I really wanted to hear some of the sisters stories because I can tell she carries a lot of pain as well. I pray they are great sisters moving forward.
She didn’t know where the other Children were either. You can’t hold someone else accountable. Only yourself! If She thinks it’s okay to disrespect Her Mom , She should just move around. Her Mother is in recovery, She may or may not relapse. That’s Her reality! It is what it is!
She needs a counselor and not this dysfunction in her life. She needs to know her biological morher is still the age in her thinking, she was when she started doing drugs. Go back and apologize to the mother that raised you...before it is too late and thank God she rescued you from this dysfunction.
She should be grateful she had a good life as she said......sometimes people can have it worst staying with their birth family.....,, she need to heal and forgive because it's not that she was not good enough she was good that's why her mom gave her to a good friend who took good care of her.
This girl is so damn disrespectful and selfish. (1) Why is she crying? She just said that she was raised with great parents who was good to her. She was not abused. She had everything she needed and wanted in life. Her biological mother is telling her that she was young and on drugs and this girl still proceed to cry and ask the same questions. She says she cusses everybody out as if she's wearing a badge of honor. This girl is selfish and disrespectful to her adoptive family by calling them strangers after what they've done for her. She should just be grateful that she had a wonderful life and thankful to her PARENTS that raised her. She is so, so selfish and ungrateful. She is 27. Be grateful and thankful and get over it!
As a person in the same position as the girl , it’s not easy . Yes they are strangers that we got to know , but they are still strangers . All she wanted was her biological mom not a adoptive one . she didn’t care about the life she would have had as long as it was w her Real mom. people that aren’t in that situation won’t see it the same way as people that are .
@@sydneym.3691 Soooo, Miss Sydney, would it have been better if her mother would have dumped her ass in the nearest trash bin? I don't feel sorry for her. She's looking for an excuse, any excuse to go off along with sympathy and Karamo is giving it to her. Her birth mother told her why over and over again and she's still asking the same questions. AND, WHAT IS THE AUDIENCE CLAPPING FOR? I'm over it! 🙄
@@sydneym.3691 Soooo, Miss Sydney, would it have been better if her birth mother would have dumped her azz in the nearest trash bin? She keep asking the same questions and her birth mother keep telling her over and over again why she did what she did. She's looking for an excuse to go off at this point along with SYMPATHY and Karamo is giving it to her. I don't feel sorry for her. AND WHY IS THE AUDIENCE CLAPPING? I'm over it! 🙄
This poor baby. Not excusing Mom's behavior but I think Mom really believed she was doing the right thing. Children in the system sometimes don't do so well. Maybe Mom thought she would be better off than the children in the system. In my opinion, her mother spared her.
Girl, I feel you! All these years they still never even looked for you. They never cared, period! Her sister cannot and will never understand what that feels like. After all she is mom’s favourite.
I understand how the daughter must have felt. But i think those people who cared for you are very special. I think they did a great job. I think they should be appreciated. That state your mom was in , i think you were better off with those people who raised you.
This grown woman has every right to say her opinions. She had allot to deal with..most of my life i felt abandoned, oh until family needed me to ..babysitting, take care of my mom after dad passed, take care of my sister with cancer, it goes on and on. Now I stick with my 2 children and grand child.
she gave her to someone that she trusted. she talking about she wasn't good enough to even go to the system... do you know what happens to those kids sometimes? she said that her biological mother was around the family, so she kept her eyes on you. she didnt say she was your mother as not to confuse you, but she doesn't sound like someone who just left. she was 18 with multiple children at that time. someone gave her advice that should've helped, but it backfired and the system just doesn't love black women. You cant expect her to know right from wrong. I think the daughter has a right to have emotion about it, but all that she's saying isn't fair to her.
So it seems like the mom came around when she became sober. Sometimes that's best for the child. It's sad but sometimes being the best parent you can means not being present. My daughter's dad suffers from drug addiction and Id rather him keep his lifestyle away from our innocent daughter because I know what his other children have endured.
@@UglyBrownGirlDiaryWhat is the real family to you? Family is where people love you and care for you. I understand the void, but it is important to be grateful for what you got
I don’t mean too sound insensitive but she’s doing waaaay too much soooo stuck on her feelings SHES not at all looking at the bigger picture she has jealousy in her which at some point we all do but she’s 1 of 16 & she was given too a family who gave her a good life do u know wat happens when kids go in the system
From someone who has adopted one child and will be adopting another one soon. To here one of my babies refer to someone else as their real mom would be heart breaking. If the person who was there for everything is not your real Mother than who is she.
Yeah but her biological mom was abusive. The mom is gonna have to earn her daughters respect. She abused her child so she doesn't get automatic respect.
@@mygeishaclarksonit really breaks my heart to hear her downplay her adoptive mother. The real mother is not the owner of the egg but the person who nursed you, loved you, comforted you, taught you etc…..
Real parents are the people that love you and raise you with love and light. They raise you with joy and an abundance of life skills that you need to survive in this world. You don't have to be blood to be family. I hope all of them can work through everything. ❤😢
I don’t understand how, she acknowledged she was wrong, she agreed with everything her daughter said and validated her feelings. It’s just tragic but true that no answer is going to be satisfying to someone going through this pain. It doesn’t make this okay but it’s a process and they’re at the start of their healing journey
Never know what both parties have experienced. Parents have a huge story! The children of those parents/ we have novels that burst the eye ball out of sockets
I don’t think it’s fair she still made everything about her after her sister expressed how she lived home to home. How the mother was in and out of her life and how the homes she was treated bad just because she wasn’t really wanted there just tolerated. That should’ve gave her some sympathy because she had a life of trauma. Although she was given up she had a great childhood and her sister had a terrible one.
She needs some real therapy. Her mother gave her to who she felt could raise her best. I’m not saying get over it. But allow yourself to move forward. Stop hovering over the negative past you can’t change it
What the mom did was wrong to Abandon her daughter but at the Same time she had no family Members to help her with her Drug problem. Time 4:00PM Tues 2/7/23
Lex is never going to get the answer she wants to hear. She’s going to have to let things go and be grateful for the beginning she had. Her mother was not capable of giving her what she wants from her. This is a very difficult situation. They need prayers.
Lex is getting on my nerves because one minute she wants her biological mother in her life and next she's pushing her away. She's acting like her adoptive mother meant nothing to her and Lex acting this way no one is going to want deal with her. Lex should be happy she was given to a loving family that cared for her and loved her.
If you were in the same situation, and you get on the show, people can say the same thing about you. Be kind, obviously there's a lot of mix emotions from the past, till now, process of healing in the present so it could be better in the future. Remember she just met them!
@robintaylor2212 how do you know I wasn't in the same situation? Her being rude, nasty and cussing everyone out isn't going to get her anywhere and it won't change the past. I'm all for being understanding I'm saying she's going about it the wrong way.
@@brendataylor1361 you are now saying "...she's going about it the wrong way." Was not your first comment. "... she's getting on my nerves...." Hmmm that's not the same response. If you were in her situation, I, just hope no one states you are getting on their nerves because of mix emotions while dealing with the hurtful inner childhood while being an adult.
@robintaylor2212 Yes I did say she was getting on my nerves because all she was doing was unnecessary and not getting her anywhere. Her cussing everyone out and loud talking wasn't helping her at all. If she pushes everyone away she still won't get the answers she's looking for.
Lex needs to be able to understand her momma. Bio mom gave her the best life. It’s 16 of them and she only been in touch with two of them and you really don’t want that life of your sister.
The irony is this episode came on after an episode of Pink Book Lessons. In that episode, a Bronx mother of 3 had abused one of her kids, and she transitioned. The other 2 kids had marks, and there was no food in the house. That little girl would have loved to be adopted into a loving home.
I felt this so much. I related to this story more that I’d like to and it gives me some type of relief that I wasn’t the only one and my reaction might not have been right but not uncommon. Finding out I was adopted me definitely changed me and my parents and meeting my mom for the first time went a lot like hers. My relationships went just like hers I’m just blown how much someone out there I can relate to with my situation
Lex, your mother is/was addicted to drugs. SHE COULD NOT TAKE CARE OF YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!! You did not need to be with her!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do you understand that?!!!!! Damn. She did the best that she knew how to do!!!!!!!!!! Damn.
She acts like her Mother and other 15 Siblings were one big happy 😁 family, close and she was the only one left out. She is delusional 🙄 and is making things up that aren't true.
I'm a full grown adult still struggling with the things I was subjected to because of my mother's addictions. I was abandoned for days at a time with no food. Abused in so many ways I'm sick of rehashing the pain. She stopped the drugs, picked up religion and continued the abusive behavior and found a way to make me feel both guilty and ashamed.
Lex doesn't realize that there really isn't any easy answer! We all hold on to these fantasies that if we were with our mom everything would have been okay, but it not so. My mother gave me away to my paternal grandmother, I was molested by one of my aunt's boyfriend. I asked my mother in 2013 why she gave me away, she said because she didn't have anywhere to keep me, but I know it was because I was a girl. I'm 59 years old now, never had a trusting relationship with any man. It ruins you for life! My mother had 4 kids for four different men, I feel thst having a man in her life was more important to her than her kids. She only raised one of us, and that was only because she couldn't find someone to take him & he committed suicide in 2013. Parents do a lot if damage to their kids, that's just the way it is. My mother is still alive today, she has all her faculties, but she's never apologized for anything!
I believe the mom, the hurt in both of their faces is love because I feel their pain. Mom please don't let her down. An apology is all a person needs sometime. may these relationships flourish in love.
The daughter expectations of how a drug addicted should’ve acted is crazy. I think her being off drugs and trying now is great. But somehow not good enough for the daughter she wants to shame her mom.
Whenever I feel unappreciated by my kids I’m going to pull up this video my kids may not been raised with a silver spoon in they mouths I did the best I could do an went above and beyond for them
Lex doesn’t understand how lucky she was to have a family who loved her, I grew up in foster homes that treated me worse than an animal. Never got new clothes, I was never treated like their kid and I was never loved. The fact that her mom gave her to a family and she was loved and had clothes she’ll never understand what that’s like not to have that. To double down her mom showed up! I found my mom and she only takes care of her children not me. I’m the only one with a black father. She’s white and all her other kids were white…Lex don’t know how lucky she is
The girl who brought her mother to the show is a mess. Those other 15 kids might not have had a stable upbringing, and she's jealous of the struggle life. She wants to know WHYYYYYYY girl your mother was a junky she ain't have a why. Strung out is strung out! This whole situation baffles me.
I feel her pain from the depth of my soul. I was taken away from my mother by my father and given to another women, while she was on drugs. I reunited with her again when I was 18years old and she was still behind bars. Im 47 now and it still hurts. I don't think I will ever have a real relationship with my bio mother. I will admit that I haven't forgiven her for giving me away cause I just don't understand how a mom could do it.
Ungrateful for the adopted parents who loved her SMH She's definitely hurt but don't take it out on your adopted parents!! Your mom did the best in her circumstances
I wish she wouldn’t let her anger cloud her reality so much! or being able to wrap her mind around, shawty you wasn’t the only one. I completely understand her pov. but it’s like damn, you won’t even let anyone in
This girl is making no sense. She DOES NOT know the situation so she doesn't know what was possible for her mom. I understand that she has pain, but I don't think she going to be satisfied with any answer set gets. I hope she getting some healing I really do.
Not gonna lie she’s coming off ungrateful you had a great childhood and I get it my mom left when I was 2 I didn’t speak to my mom until 16 still haven’t met her yet and I’m 22 now (thank God I had a great father). Her sister basically said she has been ripped from her mother repeatedly as a child and essentially re traumatized every time she was taken, maybe if you were left with family you would have possibly been mistreated SMH just sad “kept you close” she wants to sit in her “trauma”.
Having watched Karamo I've seen kids that were kept and raised by mothers with addiction and seeing her being raised by a good family is interesting to watch. The ones that stayed had extreme stories such as neglect and grape. She was given a good chance but her anger will remain justified. She just needs to understand addiction is addiction. It runs your body, mind, and soul. And we see people with addiction everyday. They're soulless when they're on drugs. She was given a chance in life and she will realise it once she deals with the anger.
At the end of the day i can understand her frustration but girl stfu like if she knew the lady then she didn't give you to a stranger, then you keep asking why no reason she gives you will be good enough you want to hold on to hurt cause it gives you a story.
Literally, she had a far better childhood her sister just said she was being ripped from her mother constantly she was living in trauma. Between her moms addiction having all those kids back to back and juggling with CPS and all their demands she probably couldn’t even put looking for her at the forefront of her mind🤦🏾♀️ she knew the lady she knows she’s taken care off she needs understanding.
“You didn’t have to do me like that Ma” 😮💨🥺 that ripped the scab off a wound I thought had healed. My mom gave me away when I was 8, only me and I lived a childhood of hell with my adoptive parents.
If I am not mistaken I heard Lex mentioned she has kids . Is that the way a mother would behave on tv for her kids and her associates to see/hear her behavior? She is old enough to have read or see how drugs can create havoc on your brain. I would have thanked my birth mom for being selfless by giving me to a caring and loving mother (adoptive) . To the adoptive mother please don't let the way you are being disrespected keep you from helping others . God is seeing and hearing it all. I send you many blessing.
Lex...when you started you said that no one knew where you were but then you said that both your dad and your mom knew where you were. I don't see this alot on this show but this woman, your mom, is humble and apologetic and remorseful and needs your forgiveness. She knew where you were and didn't come around because she cared, I can see that. She was a drug addict. She thought that you were better off where you were than being with her. And unless your adoptive mom was horrible and abusive then she would be miles better than a CPS situation trust hun. I'm sorry for your pain and I hope that you are able to see the forest instead of the trees one day.
Yes i don't think those people who raised her feel good hearing her said , why did u give me to them . It kinda sound a way being that they were so loving and caring to her.
I grew up with a former addict for a "mother," that type of abandonment and hurt changes you. Especially knowing your "parent" can't get clean enough to get you, but is capable of having more children. It doesn't matter if you had stability, when you're not being raised by your parent, but who wants to feel unwanted. That level of emotional trauma causes internal issues.
This made my chest heavy… so many moving parts. The mom put her older kids in foster care and probably thought giving lex away to a friend would’ve been better than putting her in the system vs carrying her around. She sees her placement as she was different in a negative light… but it’s interesting that she hasn’t orocesssd that maybe her difference is a good thing. She got to taste and see what security and consistency looked like. She was the only one saved from that addictive life. But she can’t see past her abandonment issues. But I get it , when a child feels like they have to chase their parents , she just wanted someone to make her a priority and chase her
You know what I'm not saying her mother did right she did not but the fact is that young lady is an adult now if she wants a family that she should have a little respect and get to know them if she doesn't like them she's back where she was
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This whole situation is just so very sad and I could feel her deep pain. I just wanted to hug her and tell her that her mother did abandon her because of her drug addiction but the Lord will never leave you and has always been there trust in God.
Children of addiction look for a sober answer. It's understandable, but an addictive parent can't give you that. I pray she stays sober and this family can heal
Agree Amen 🙏 🙌 👏 ❤️
Yes, And I think Lex needs counseling on what addiction is about. That way she can accept things and go forward and be so thankful for the selfless woman that pulled her out of the fire.
Absolutely agree. That's why Lex kept on asking the same questions, but her mum just did what she could at the time and Lex can't understand that yet.
No truer statement on the internet
Yup. Parents were like this. Inly difference is I understood adoptions was a better life
Her saying “I woulda wanted what you had even if it was bad” but she got adopted by a family that loved her and cared for her gave her a childhood.
She was bless that lady take her up forgive her pick up the broken pieces and love her back as God forgive us
It will never be enough to fill tht void that’s the sad part
The mother was a drug addiction, she was just doing her thing and kept having babies, those drugs had her. She didn't care about those babies ,she was trying to get back to her drugs ,but JESUS says to Forgive ,and you can with His Help!❤❤❤❤
But what you are not getting is this her the woman go gave birth to her?!?
I don’t feel the adoptive family gave her love. Because she is extremely upset for a reason. I may be wrong because I don’t know this lady but the way it seems she is hurt. If she came from a loving family she would not be so emotional.
Lex doesn’t understand that not going into the system was a better option than going into it. She’s very hurt right now.
Absolutely unfortunately
Yea she doesn’t
I commend the mother for taking accountability for her actions. This is not easy being a recovering addict and and focusing on the mistakes of your past all at once.
Commend for what❓️ 16 kids and how many years later she's finally clean for the 1st time❓️9mos clean = a few more setbacks
In spite of everything, she was raised with a beautiful lady,
I think she should forgive her mom.
I raised in five different homes
Mom did what she had the capacity to do and it’s so unfair to beat her up for what she suffered with. She gave you up because she couldn’t do it and gave her to someone who could. We need to make a safe place for parents who know that they can’t “parent” and choose the alternative. It’s not right but it’s okay
Just because it was within their capacity doesnt mean that it wasn't harmful and taking responsibility for the harm you did is still important. The person who was harmed is not responsible for creating a safe space for the person who harmed them at all.
Abortion. Tubal Ligation.
Drugs just destroys everything
I agree .
She is judging her mother as if she was a rationale adult. She was young, alone and on drugs. She did what she thought was best. This woman had 16 kids. There is no way she could have taken care of all of them.
I’m saddened that this happened so much in the 70’s, 80’s, and 90’s. I know the mom was young but she had 16 babies I’m sure all were addicted to something if she was on it her daughter who’s complaining lucked out! She didn’t get put in a group home! Or trafficked but the mom does need to have more accountability than this.
While I will never even pretend to act like I know what Lex is going through, I personally think she should be thanking God that she had her mom's friend to take her in and give her the wonderful life she had.
With time and maturity I think she will get there. As a child, no matter the ago, we all want our mothers.
You're excluding how she feels, she said she was raised good, still don't excuse how she feels. People are so fkn horrible when they didn't walk those same shoes. Got advice, but don't know how it feels. Sometimes human beings are fkn blind to stuff they don't experience. So many grown children feel the same way as this young lady. Gtfoh, talking about " she should be grateful"🤬 pathetic!!
Where are y’all getting that she wasn’t thankful ? Y’all do realize people can feel more than one emotion at once right ? Almost like she can be grateful for her adoptive family and still feel abandoned by her biological one.. man y’all are dense
@sharonharper6244 Oh yes! 100% this beautiful young woman has to give thanks for the woman that saved her. The mom accepting accountability is very commendable and is vital to sobriety. I hope Lex can put this sadness behind her and go straight forward.
God placed you with a good family ' be thankful
I feel bad for Lex but she not ready to heal. She is still very angry and that will block your growth. She mad at her siblings…why? Honestly she should thank her mother for giving her to people who can care for her. No telling where she’d be if she kept her or gave her to someone just because they were are relative. Time to grow up and either move on with them or without them.
Agree 💯 she's not ready to accept her Mother reasons and she will always throw it up in her face, cussing everybody out ,she said she was raised with good parents, the other sister had it bad but she move on ,
This was the comment I was looking for well said
I don’t think she is really mad at her siblings. She probably envious the relationship they were able to have with their mother that she never got a chance to have. She also may also in an unjust way hold them responsible for knowing that their mother is not sober, thinking they should have pushed more for information if they knew about her. only God knows the real truth
@@melmal8278it’s easy to say move on. Abandonment syndrome is real.
Unless you were rejected you would not know how she feels. You can’t say when a person should move on.
I have a brother whom my mother was made to give up because she was a teen. My brother went into a foster home, he knew my mom growing up. My brother had a better life but he didn’t have his mother and didn’t know his father. My brother always felt rejection, seeing us his three siblings being raised by our mother and my siblings and I father. My mother had no say so in the matter of giving up her child. My mother is ninety three, she has never talked to him about it to at least give him an explanation.
I understand this young ladies pain. It’s time for some parents to explain the truth to their children.
Can’t imagine how the adoptive mother feels every time the child she loved and raised as her own say “a stranger” “hand me down” ❤️🩹
Right, I was thinking the same thing.
Yhhhhh I would be in BITS honestly. Knowing that I took you I'm as my own fed and clothed you with no additional income ect.
It's just sad all around 😢
@awhynn8270 the level of ungrateful that it shows from her is CRAZY
@@PresshureDavenport right!
It’s like yall don’t understand she doesn’t not love her for that it’s just she’s explaining her pain! Obviously the tears are real, she’s very hurt and you can’t take that away from her. They’re all in the right, the mom made her commends she’s trying to better her self and relationship with her. She’s doing amazing and I just pray they both can work on their relationship more! She might be selfish but that’s her emotion and she’s valid for it.
I feel like giving a child up for adoption is a kind and selfless thing to do when you don't think you can do it yourself. The girl is lucky she had a loving family. She's so angry and focused on what she doesn't have,not on the good she has already.
I think it’s because she felt lied to. Someone you trust is manipulating your reality and has been doing so since the beginning. This is why she is so traumatized and angry. The relationship turned when she found out the truth. Probably felt alone and even more abandoned.
Thank you so much for saying this🩷🙏🏽. It's a brave act, and one that should be commended and supported. Even outside of drugs/addiction, giving up a child for financial/mental health/economic reasons is selfless. It's not easy, but sometimes it's the only way for folks. It's too easy to shame people. Compassion and understanding is a process 🩷🙏🏽.
She is not open to receive the forgiveness from her mother, she is still angry and is chasing answers that she probably will never get. She needs more time
She don't owe her mother a damn thing!!! I'd be angry as he'll, too!@@😢
Why her mom was on drugs she could not take care of herself she gave her child to a good friend of hers the daughter need to stfu and be happy the mother came to see her and did not say fuck her the mom love her more then the drugs she made sure she was safe
@@pamwhite5183you sound dumbfounded
My parents didn’t raise me but I always say at least I was loved and treated with love and I wasn’t in the system and I always Thank God it wasn’t worse cause my mom was on drugs too. None of us were in the system and we all were with family who truly loved us
God bless you
She was on drugs!! They don’t love or care about anything or anyone but that drug. Forgive and get some counseling or you are going to be bitter for the rest of your life.
X16 tho……dayummmmm
PERIOD!!!
I’m so glad Lex can verbally express she’s angry 😢😢 I pray she somehow fines peace and happiness
Being angry and disrespectful will get Her no where. She wouldn’t be in my space disrespecting me. I don’t care how angry She is.
I feel bad for Lex adoptive mom, imagine a child feeling this amount of hurt for being in a stable environment free from being sold, traffiked, homeless, hungry . This crazy . Hope adoptive mom is healing from this
It's a given that most adoptive kids want an answer to who they are, even if it's bad.
Imagine being a kidlonging for the love of your biological family and knowing that your siblings were all accounted for in one way or another. That's painful. There's no amount of love that ppl can give you if they aren't your ppl ppl. Im sure Lex is appreciative for that family. But seeing your biological family and never having answers or access is painful.
Everyone want to belong to her or his biological parents and siblings. No matter how much you are loved by strangers.
@@shavonnamcqueen8605they should have let her on the street
@@pinkyzwane9033the bio family doesn't want you
I really wanted to hear some of the sisters stories because I can tell she carries a lot of pain as well. I pray they are great sisters moving forward.
She didn’t know where the other Children were either. You can’t hold someone else accountable. Only yourself! If She thinks it’s okay to disrespect Her Mom , She should just move around. Her Mother is in recovery, She may or may not relapse. That’s Her reality! It is what it is!
She isn't ready to receive the truth at this time of the taping. Wish her true healing.
She had the best life her mother gave her a better life then the rest I bet,
She needs a counselor and not this dysfunction in her life. She needs to know her biological morher is still the age in her thinking, she was when she started doing drugs. Go back and apologize to the mother that raised you...before it is too late and thank God she rescued you from this dysfunction.
She should be grateful she had a good life as she said......sometimes people can have it worst staying with their birth family.....,, she need to heal and forgive because it's not that she was not good enough she was good that's why her mom gave her to a good friend who took good care of her.
Who said she wasn’t grateful she didn’t say she wasn’t grateful!!! Her hurt is for her biological mother and she just wants answers!!!
This girl is so damn disrespectful and selfish. (1) Why is she crying? She just said that she was raised with great parents who was good to her. She was not abused. She had everything she needed and wanted in life. Her biological mother is telling her that she was young and on drugs and this girl still proceed to cry and ask the same questions. She says she cusses everybody out as if she's wearing a badge of honor. This girl is selfish and disrespectful to her adoptive family by calling them strangers after what they've done for her. She should just be grateful that she had a wonderful life and thankful to her PARENTS that raised her. She is so, so selfish and ungrateful. She is 27. Be grateful and thankful and get over it!
I agree
Well said
As a person in the same position as the girl , it’s not easy . Yes they are strangers that we got to know , but they are still strangers . All
she wanted was her biological mom not a adoptive one . she didn’t care about the life she would have had as long as it was w her Real mom. people that aren’t in that situation won’t see it the same way as people that are .
@@sydneym.3691
Soooo, Miss Sydney, would it have been better if her mother would have dumped her ass in the nearest trash bin? I don't feel sorry for her. She's looking for an excuse, any excuse to go off along with sympathy and Karamo is giving it to her. Her birth mother told her why over and over again and she's still asking the same questions. AND, WHAT IS THE AUDIENCE CLAPPING FOR? I'm over it! 🙄
@@sydneym.3691
Soooo, Miss Sydney, would it have been better if her birth mother would have dumped her azz in the nearest trash bin? She keep asking the same questions and her birth mother keep telling her over and over again why she did what she did. She's looking for an excuse to go off at this point along with SYMPATHY and Karamo is giving it to her. I don't feel sorry for her. AND WHY IS THE AUDIENCE CLAPPING? I'm over it! 🙄
This poor baby. Not excusing Mom's behavior but I think Mom really believed she was doing the right thing. Children in the system sometimes don't do so well. Maybe Mom thought she would be better off than the children in the system. In my opinion, her mother spared her.
Girl, I feel you! All these years they still never even looked for you. They never cared, period! Her sister cannot and will never understand what that feels like. After all she is mom’s favourite.
U are so right!
I understand how the daughter must have felt.
But i think those people who cared for you are very special.
I think they did a great job.
I think they should be appreciated.
That state your mom was in , i think you were better off with those people who raised you.
This grown woman has every right to say her opinions. She had allot to deal with..most of my life i felt abandoned, oh until family needed me to ..babysitting, take care of my mom after dad passed, take care of my sister with cancer, it goes on and on. Now I stick with my 2 children and grand child.
she gave her to someone that she trusted. she talking about she wasn't good enough to even go to the system... do you know what happens to those kids sometimes? she said that her biological mother was around the family, so she kept her eyes on you. she didnt say she was your mother as not to confuse you, but she doesn't sound like someone who just left. she was 18 with multiple children at that time. someone gave her advice that should've helped, but it backfired and the system just doesn't love black women. You cant expect her to know right from wrong. I think the daughter has a right to have emotion about it, but all that she's saying isn't fair to her.
So it seems like the mom came around when she became sober. Sometimes that's best for the child. It's sad but sometimes being the best parent you can means not being present. My daughter's dad suffers from drug addiction and Id rather him keep his lifestyle away from our innocent daughter because I know what his other children have endured.
It's sad she can't see how God looked out for her by placing her with good people. But to God be the glory any how.
It’s not about that. That’s not her REAL family so her feelings are valid!
@@UglyBrownGirlDiaryWhat is the real family to you? Family is where people love you and care for you. I understand the void, but it is important to be grateful for what you got
@@carolemafotsing9987who says she isn’t grateful though ? in the beginning she literally said she had everything she ever wanted and she was loved
I don’t mean too sound insensitive but she’s doing waaaay too much soooo stuck on her feelings SHES not at all looking at the bigger picture she has jealousy in her which at some point we all do but she’s 1 of 16 & she was given too a family who gave her a good life do u know wat happens when kids go in the system
It's crazy to me that she keeps saying why I was different when allllll the others were given away. It makes no sense. She's being too self-centred.
They need iyanla cause it’s 16 kids she gotta deal with the trauma she created
REALLY 16 KIDS WOW AMAGINE PREGNANT THST MANY TIMES
You look good for your age
16!!! 😢😢😢😢
I like how she said she doesnt believe in abortion but she does believe in child abuse apparently
Saying “real mom” is so disrespectful to your adoptive mom. She’s your real mom, she was there. A better definition is “biological mom”.
It is her real mom, but not the mom who loved and raised her.
I feel her real mom is the adoptive mom.
From someone who has adopted one child and will be adopting another one soon. To here one of my babies refer to someone else as their real mom would be heart breaking. If the person who was there for everything is not your real Mother than who is she.
Yeah but her biological mom was abusive. The mom is gonna have to earn her daughters respect. She abused her child so she doesn't get automatic respect.
@@mygeishaclarksonit really breaks my heart to hear her downplay her adoptive mother. The real mother is not the owner of the egg but the person who nursed you, loved you, comforted you, taught you etc…..
So much time has passed I've always learned that a person's past you cannot fix you can only work on the point that you're in and forward
Real parents are the people that love you and raise you with love and light. They raise you with joy and an abundance of life skills that you need to survive in this world. You don't have to be blood to be family. I hope all of them can work through everything. ❤😢
Mom has excuse for everything. I pray this young lady and her siblings can unite at least. Hope mom can keep her sobriety. Sad.
To much excuse. What if the person hurt her daughter? Oh lord
It weren’t excuses it was the result of addiction. There isn’t any rhyme or reason. 9 mths clean isn’t a long time, she has so much work to do yet
@@nick74195we
She was a drug addict. You can’t expect much from a drug addict. She told Her why and She can’t accept the answer. That’s on Her.
I don’t understand how, she acknowledged she was wrong, she agreed with everything her daughter said and validated her feelings. It’s just tragic but true that no answer is going to be satisfying to someone going through this pain. It doesn’t make this okay but it’s a process and they’re at the start of their healing journey
Never know what both parties have experienced. Parents have a huge story! The children of those parents/ we have novels that burst the eye ball out of sockets
Lex is very hurt but also very ungrateful! Her mother isn’t perfect
I don’t think it’s fair she still made everything about her after her sister expressed how she lived home to home. How the mother was in and out of her life and how the homes she was treated bad just because she wasn’t really wanted there just tolerated. That should’ve gave her some sympathy because she had a life of trauma. Although she was given up she had a great childhood and her sister had a terrible one.
Lex you wasn’t the only one they didn’t have it any better Lex you had it better than they did
This made me cry i felt pain for the whole family love is the key but it has to be work on i send them God peace love and light
Karamo all of your shows made me cry 😊
She needs some real therapy. Her mother gave her to who she felt could raise her best. I’m not saying get over it. But allow yourself to move forward. Stop hovering over the negative past you can’t change it
What the mom did was wrong to
Abandon her daughter but at the
Same time she had no family
Members to help her with her
Drug problem.
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My heart goes out to this young lady she has questions that she wants answered she deserves answers.
Lex is never going to get the answer she wants to hear. She’s going to have to let things go and be grateful for the beginning she had. Her mother was not capable of giving her what she wants from her. This is a very difficult situation. They need prayers.
Your story brother tears to my eyes. But i'm so glad to hear you say that " you were well loved growing up". Bless you dearly ❤️.
Lex needs to speak to someone she is hurting but I don’t think the anger should go to her siblings
Mom has given her the why. But she is so angry she not listening to the why.
Lex is getting on my nerves because one minute she wants her biological mother in her life and next she's pushing her away. She's acting like her adoptive mother meant nothing to her and Lex acting this way no one is going to want deal with her. Lex should be happy she was given to a loving family that cared for her and loved her.
If you were in the same situation, and you get on the show, people can say the same thing about you. Be kind, obviously there's a lot of mix emotions from the past, till now, process of healing in the present so it could be better in the future. Remember she just met them!
@robintaylor2212 how do you know I wasn't in the same situation? Her being rude, nasty and cussing everyone out isn't going to get her anywhere and it won't change the past. I'm all for being understanding I'm saying she's going about it the wrong way.
@@brendataylor1361 you are now saying "...she's going about it the wrong way." Was not your first comment. "... she's getting on my nerves...." Hmmm that's not the same response. If you were in her situation, I, just hope no one states you are getting on their nerves because of mix emotions while dealing with the hurtful inner childhood while being an adult.
@robintaylor2212 Yes I did say she was getting on my nerves because all she was doing was unnecessary and not getting her anywhere. Her cussing everyone out and loud talking wasn't helping her at all. If she pushes everyone away she still won't get the answers she's looking for.
Shame on you. Correct your nerves
Lex needs to be able to understand her momma. Bio mom gave her the best life. It’s 16 of them and she only been in touch with two of them and you really don’t want that life of your sister.
Lex is acting like a person addicted to drugs can think logically. She should be thankful that her mom put her someone who was able to care for her
The irony is this episode came on after an episode of Pink Book Lessons. In that episode, a Bronx mother of 3 had abused one of her kids, and she transitioned. The other 2 kids had marks, and there was no food in the house. That little girl would have loved to be adopted into a loving home.
I felt this so much. I related to this story more that I’d like to and it gives me some type of relief that I wasn’t the only one and my reaction might not have been right but not uncommon. Finding out I was adopted me definitely changed me and my parents and meeting my mom for the first time went a lot like hers. My relationships went just like hers I’m just blown how much someone out there I can relate to with my situation
She's going to push her back on drugs. The mother has no business on this show she only has 9 months clean. She should be getting to know who she is
Lex, your mother is/was addicted to drugs. SHE COULD NOT TAKE CARE OF YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!! You did not need to be with her!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do you understand that?!!!!! Damn. She did the best that she knew how to do!!!!!!!!!! Damn.
Daughter is sabotaging her own life at this point...she wants a victim story sometimes kids who have lots of love be like that
Hun she did the best thing for you. She put you in the best position. The system is trash and no place for kids
Lex you got to be RESPECTFUL
She definitely did down play her other siblings because she had a mother that gave her a life that her siblings wanted also she doesn’t make sense !!🙄
She acts like her Mother and other 15 Siblings were one big happy 😁 family, close and she was the only one left out. She is delusional 🙄 and is making things up that aren't true.
This has me cryin so much. Prayin for yall 🥺🥺🥺
I hope you don't mind I'm lifting your relationship with your siblings up in prayer.
Also, you should know your sister has your back.
I'm a full grown adult still struggling with the things I was subjected to because of my mother's addictions. I was abandoned for days at a time with no food. Abused in so many ways I'm sick of rehashing the pain. She stopped the drugs, picked up religion and continued the abusive behavior and found a way to make me feel both guilty and ashamed.
She should forgive her and thank her at the same time cause she probably had a better life than them all. The lady was on drugs
Lex doesn't realize that there really isn't any easy answer! We all hold on to these fantasies that if we were with our mom everything would have been okay, but it not so. My mother gave me away to my paternal grandmother, I was molested by one of my aunt's boyfriend. I asked my mother in 2013 why she gave me away, she said because she didn't have anywhere to keep me, but I know it was because I was a girl. I'm 59 years old now, never had a trusting relationship with any man. It ruins you for life! My mother had 4 kids for four different men, I feel thst having a man in her life was more important to her than her kids. She only raised one of us, and that was only because she couldn't find someone to take him & he committed suicide in 2013. Parents do a lot if damage to their kids, that's just the way it is. My mother is still alive today, she has all her faculties, but she's never apologized for anything!
She’s in the whoa is me stage…can’t see the good because she wants to feel pity for herself
I believe the mom, the hurt in both of their faces is love because I feel their pain. Mom please don't let her down. An apology is all a person needs sometime. may these relationships flourish in love.
The daughter expectations of how a drug addicted should’ve acted is crazy. I think her being off drugs and trying now is great. But somehow not good enough for the daughter she wants to shame her mom.
Karamo should STOP giving people advise and telling them what they should do. 30 to 60 minutes just WONT CUT IT BRO!!
It's sad that nothing her mom can say will make it better. I believe shes taking accountability and really trying to do better, don't give up auntie!!
Whenever I feel unappreciated by my kids I’m going to pull up this video my kids may not been raised with a silver spoon in they mouths I did the best I could do an went above and beyond for them
Lex doesn’t understand how lucky she was to have a family who loved her, I grew up in foster homes that treated me worse than an animal. Never got new clothes, I was never treated like their kid and I was never loved.
The fact that her mom gave her to a family and she was loved and had clothes she’ll never understand what that’s like not to have that.
To double down her mom showed up! I found my mom and she only takes care of her children not me. I’m the only one with a black father. She’s white and all her other kids were white…Lex don’t know how lucky she is
Peace is found in forgiveness.
This girl is unbelievable.....had a great life and still playing victim.....worse coulda happen to her. IMO
The girl who brought her mother to the show is a mess. Those other 15 kids might not have had a stable upbringing, and she's jealous of the struggle life.
She wants to know WHYYYYYYY girl your mother was a junky she ain't have a why. Strung out is strung out!
This whole situation baffles me.
I feel her pain from the depth of my soul. I was taken away from my mother by my father and given to another women, while she was on drugs. I reunited with her again when I was 18years old and she was still behind bars. Im 47 now and it still hurts. I don't think I will ever have a real relationship with my bio mother. I will admit that I haven't forgiven her for giving me away cause I just don't understand how a mom could do it.
Praying for your healing ❤
Adopted mom gotta feel bad but please don’t bc lex has confirmed she wanted for absolutely nothing.. this is what makes ppl not want to adopt..
Ungrateful for the adopted parents who loved her SMH
She's definitely hurt but don't take it out on your adopted parents!!
Your mom did the best in her circumstances
I wish she wouldn’t let her anger cloud her reality so much! or being able to wrap her mind around, shawty you wasn’t the only one. I completely understand her pov. but it’s like damn, you won’t even let anyone in
This girl is making no sense. She DOES NOT know the situation so she doesn't know what was possible for her mom. I understand that she has pain, but I don't think she going to be satisfied with any answer set gets. I hope she getting some healing I really do.
Not gonna lie she’s coming off ungrateful you had a great childhood and I get it my mom left when I was 2 I didn’t speak to my mom until 16 still haven’t met her yet and I’m 22 now (thank God I had a great father). Her sister basically said she has been ripped from her mother repeatedly as a child and essentially re traumatized every time she was taken, maybe if you were left with family you would have possibly been mistreated SMH just sad “kept you close” she wants to sit in her “trauma”.
No she was adopted and that's painful
She just wants to cry and throw a pity party
This is heartbreaking. But i feel for the mom. And the daughter had the best life out of most of them.
Having watched Karamo I've seen kids that were kept and raised by mothers with addiction and seeing her being raised by a good family is interesting to watch. The ones that stayed had extreme stories such as neglect and grape. She was given a good chance but her anger will remain justified. She just needs to understand addiction is addiction. It runs your body, mind, and soul. And we see people with addiction everyday. They're soulless when they're on drugs. She was given a chance in life and she will realise it once she deals with the anger.
At the end of the day i can understand her frustration but girl stfu like if she knew the lady then she didn't give you to a stranger, then you keep asking why no reason she gives you will be good enough you want to hold on to hurt cause it gives you a story.
Literally, she had a far better childhood her sister just said she was being ripped from her mother constantly she was living in trauma. Between her moms addiction having all those kids back to back and juggling with CPS and all their demands she probably couldn’t even put looking for her at the forefront of her mind🤦🏾♀️ she knew the lady she knows she’s taken care off she needs understanding.
Why even come to get answers to not want them? You gotta be open and give some grace
“You didn’t have to do me like that Ma” 😮💨🥺 that ripped the scab off a wound I thought had healed. My mom gave me away when I was 8, only me and I lived a childhood of hell with my adoptive parents.
this gurl is very disrespectful let it go
Someone needs to educate lex on drug addiction
If I am not mistaken I heard Lex mentioned she has kids . Is that the way a mother would behave on tv for her kids and her associates to see/hear her behavior? She is old enough to have read or see how drugs can create havoc on your brain. I would have thanked my birth mom for being selfless by giving me to a caring and loving mother (adoptive) . To the adoptive mother please don't let the way you are being disrespected keep you from helping others . God is seeing and hearing it all. I send you many blessing.
Mother you need to make it right!! Hear the cry of your child you are good enough Beautiful!!
She need to respect her mom she gave her to a lovely family but she still talking shit
Lex...when you started you said that no one knew where you were but then you said that both your dad and your mom knew where you were. I don't see this alot on this show but this woman, your mom, is humble and apologetic and remorseful and needs your forgiveness. She knew where you were and didn't come around because she cared, I can see that. She was a drug addict. She thought that you were better off where you were than being with her. And unless your adoptive mom was horrible and abusive then she would be miles better than a CPS situation trust hun. I'm sorry for your pain and I hope that you are able to see the forest instead of the trees one day.
Yes i don't think those people who raised her feel good hearing her said , why did u give me to them .
It kinda sound a way being that they were so loving and caring to her.
Her mother is trying to tell her she was sick but Lex is not listening. Lex needs help before she can have a real relationship with her mom.
I grew up with a former addict for a "mother," that type of abandonment and hurt changes you. Especially knowing your "parent" can't get clean enough to get you, but is capable of having more children. It doesn't matter if you had stability, when you're not being raised by your parent, but who wants to feel unwanted. That level of emotional trauma causes internal issues.
This made my chest heavy… so many moving parts. The mom put her older kids in foster care and probably thought giving lex away to a friend would’ve been better than putting her in the system vs carrying her around. She sees her placement as she was different in a negative light… but it’s interesting that she hasn’t orocesssd that maybe her difference is a good thing. She got to taste and see what security and consistency looked like. She was the only one saved from that addictive life. But she can’t see past her abandonment issues. But I get it , when a child feels like they have to chase their parents , she just wanted someone to make her a priority and chase her
You know what I'm not saying her mother did right she did not but the fact is that young lady is an adult now if she wants a family that she should have a little respect and get to know them if she doesn't like them she's back where she was
I too like rain to moisturize my hair and wind to blow dry thru it. During mild stormy days, if Im out on foot, someone offers me a scarf or hat to wear. "Thanks much, but its naturally natural so I enjoy and allow nature to style it for me", is my usual response. 😊❤😊
This whole situation is just so very sad and I could feel her deep pain. I just wanted to hug her and tell her that her mother did abandon her because of her drug addiction but the Lord will never leave you and has always been there trust in God.
Lawd this was a lot to process