It should never be embarrassing if you get rejected. You should always walk away with your pride that you had the guts/bravery to be a man & make that first move. Her saying “No” doesn’t define anything about you. It’s just her opinion. Nothing to be ashamed of.
No, not at all. But where I live it is common for women to try to get men to ask them out just so they can feel attractive. That gets really old fast. Don't act interested when you are not. A girl I know from childhood will post pictures of a beautiful woman on the beach in a bikini and a caption making no mention she is rather heavy set. She does this to get attention. And she does. Things like this get old with the dating game.
Smile says it all. It says that I like you, I want you, and so on. Also wanting to come close to you means alot. Someone who doesn't want you will not want to come close to you.
May I just also add that rejection and embarrassment are part of the course of dating, and it's also how you learn. We don't need to view rejection as a bad thing; it's all about how we frame it. When we treat rejection with curiosity rather than shame, and use it as a tool for growth, we are on the path to realising that we are fundamentally loveable. To become impervious to rejection is to be 100% confident in who you are. Your worth has NOTHING to do with what a woman (or anyone!) thinks of you!
Honestly, I think some women give off signals in the hope of being approached so they can get validation. Sometimes I will look at women as though I like them. I see it as a form of compliment because I can see she feels flattered. I wait for multiple signs over time
Had to drop in and share a nugget. Men need to stop chasing women and start chasing your purpose and focus on kingdom and nation building. Women are human beings, they have mouths, they know how to talk. If she can't tell you she's interested in you and would like to meet up for a drink or invite you somewhere public on the weekend, then stop trying to read and figure and Rubik cube her thoughts. She's not a dog, she's not a cat. They are human beings. THEY need to learn to ask for what they want...y'all go into a relationship with a woman trying to read her mind, she's going to expect you to do that every time, every day, in every way. LET...WOMEN...CONVEY...WHAT...WHO...THEY...WANT! It's a new age!
"A lot of women give off flirtatious energy but it's really not that deep". Well, that's part of the issue right there. Women repeatedly send out mixed signals. I think they do it for attention whether it's to boost their ego or they get a kick out of rejecting guys, I think most single women out there give mixed signals on purpose. I know a lot of women who love to stay in that gray area with their male friends as if it's a chance. I don't play those games. (and as a consequence, a lot of women get big mad with me, lol)
I have a female friend that gives this energy. The thing that acctually happens is that they are just really comfy with the people they are friends with amd get touchy. You should be fine if you see if what she's doing with you is doing it only with you or with everyone.
When they giving off mixed signals and they are fluctuating in cold and warm, u are being placed under her test, they explore your insecurity.. how more u displaying insecurities how harder these tests become.. and how "bi tchie" she will become..
I think approaching a woman, and asking her out,directly is better than texting!! Rejection is part of life. But,one thing I learned is that conversation rules the nation!! Look at her,directly in her eyes,be confident, ask her,to tell you about her self. Listen and keep eye contact, make her feel,acknowledged. Then question her, about something she,has shared about herself. So that she knows that you are paying attention.
I had a coworker do all of these things. Finally one day we smoked a joint together after work and that broke the ice. Ended up dating for 3 years and no one at the office knew. Lol.
They knew but decided to be qiuet about it. Its impossible to keep a relationship underwrap for 3 years in a closed space like a work place and ladies tend not to keep qiuet when in a relationship for long.
Hey Jessica. Thanks for all the great tips. My wife and I watched this video together, but one sign caught us. Sign #6 was opposite for her. She prayed and fasted for us to be married. Whenever I texted her a paragraph, her response was one word or two with little or no indication she wanted to know what was going on around me. She told me she downloaded my social media photos, and just fantasized about us. I almost didn't pursue, but the Lion in me knew it was her, and what she did or didn't do was not going to change the fact that she will be mine. Now, we both thank The Almighty God every second for the fact that I did go after what my soul recognized in her. "Connection" is key for those who are looking for something more.
You are lucky that you married an innocent woman. That is why she probably didn't respond to your text messages. She was not used to flirting online. If you come across a woman who flirts a lot with you, it could be a bad thing. She is probably flirting with anyone who talks to her.
@@Droolbaby I think it's not on purpose. I don't think women know what they want really. (I'm sure us men are the same in a different way honestly.) They have an idea of the perfect guy. But that guy would never do it for them in real life.
Sexual attraction is low on the intimacy scale, It’s at the bottom actually. Levels of intimacy, sexual aka physical, than emotional, then intellectual and finally spiritual. If physical attraction is all that you have, you are in for a world of hurt.
The best advice for men is to start eating healthy, get into the gym to get ripped and muscular, dress with good fitting clothes, work on your social skills, work on improving yourself to get more money. The woman should be dead last because most women nowadays want top tier men.
Get your Passport and stop trying to date Ran Through, Gold Diggers that will use you for food dates then go to Pookie or Rayray's momma house and get her back blowed clean out. It's a waste of your time guys,
I would say take care of yourself first. Do the things that you enjoy doing with friends or alone. Never buy a car or anything to impress the girl but by the car and things that you like. When you use outside appearance to attract the woman you will have to keep using it to keep her
Step 1 be in shape. Be sexually attractive. Step 2 failing step 1 pursue someone also not traditionally sexually attractive. Now theres a thousand more rules that will help but I find the average person can’t wrap themselves around steps 1 and 2.
This doesn’t make any sense. You don’t have to be in shape to be sexually attractive 😂. Pull chicks all the time and I’m not in shape and I’ve never had to come out of my pockets. No tricking over here. It’s all about how you carry yourself with confidence.
Make money. Focus on your goals. Smash your goals. Invest your money, build your own kingdom because you are a king. A king must not even test the waters to find out if some girl likes him. It's too exhausting. Let the peasants test the waters and let the king chill. Jessica OS: Good Speaking Skills!
Funny thing. Most times when I say hello or hi to a woman many hear something completely different. I been in many situations where I had to explain the fact that I was not interested in them and it just meant hello or I was just trying to be nice or polite. It is actually quite comicalto me but what is more funny is the lack of them not wanting to believe the truth that is coming out of my mouth versus what they think. lol
I never show embarrassment from rejection if any at all. Instead I make a joke of it so that it doesn't make the moment awkward after a failed attempt. Showing that it damages you is a complete show stopper and can ruin a good night out for friends and or friends of friends.
Building up the sexual tension not putting yourself out there. I love it, I've been dealing with this a lot lately thinking I'm reading too much into it. Beating myself up for not rushing in. Thank you for making this video I feel relieved for following my instincts.
Once had a female manager ask me to accompany her to do her nightly rounds. She was unusually talkative. At the very end, she confessed to having been flirting with me and was in shock after finding out I was married. Although she's very attractive, it felt more like a friendly conversation between two adults. Some have been forthcoming with their intentions, and I think that's a much better approach. Flirting just seems like a waste of time and energy.
It appears the female of the human species is very complicated. According to this video, it seems alot of courting involves a male having to analyze, interpret or guess. Sounds exhausting just to get some sugar.
The "Getting to know you" phase is very exhausting for me. Having to do all that work just to understand a new person, is something I really don't like.
It's too much work🚮! I prefer letting a woman know that I don't intend to waste my time and resources and not even hers. I state my intentions and ask for a straight answer. Simple! Life is too short to be interpreting and deciphering some useless cues
The information provided is helpful. Been married over twenty years now and relationships are work no matter how long you’ve been together. This just helps keep you on your toes and make sure you’re not slipping. Helps keep your situation fresh. Good work.
The 7 signs....... 1) She is at your place 2) She asks you to the bedroom 3) She slowly takes off her clothes 4) She slowly takes off your clothes 5) She starts to touch herself 6) She starts to touch you 7) She wakes you in the morning to repeat steps 5 & 6
Jess you hit the nail with this one as well.... she had always been touchy feely but i didnt want to seem forward but today i took the opportunity and bam we in there Jess, man's winning 😊😊.. thank you for the confidence booster!!
@@JessicaOS The only thing I agree with is the proximity bit and that needs caution. That is when a woman or a girl will do when there has been no introduction took place. The rest of the stuff mentioned is after there has already been a close connection and so it is pretty clear. I gave this video a thumbs down.
Congratulation sister Jessica for passing the half a million mark. That is a clear indication that what you are doing has a gigantic followers. Keep on keeping on.
Man! Whatever happened to “I like you,do you like me “. When I was growing up dating someone was simple. You either like them or you don’t. I feel sorry for this era of dating. It use to be you like each other, you ask a woman out and that was it. Now you have to be a mind reader. And you you do end up with her and for some reason it doesn’t work. She’s taking all your stuff on the way out the door. Women back in day would just leave if things didn’t work out. Now it’s like dealing with satan himself lol 😂
You don't have to be a mind reader. You just have to be more careful. Women are trained now a days to accuse anyone they don't like of sexual harassment. So you have to be more subtle. If a woman comes up to you to say hi, if she touches your arm, or if she laughs at all your jokes, then she is interested.
Interesting video...I'm a guy that Women have naturally gravitated towards(it's wild)and a lot of what she's shared here is true...in fact,this video caused me to realize that when I saw an ex coworker recently,who was always very friendly,she automatically held my hand in an intimate way,which I didn't even remember at first!
It's simple for me. Ask her name, where she from, then if she has a boyfriend. If she says she does, I keep it moving. If not, I keep conversing. Most of the time, if she don't like you, she'll just say he has a man or sometimes they really do. The best thing to do is just be honest and straightforward and you should get an honest answer. It's that simple.
@@bigmacdaddy1234 I'm not about that life. Secondly, I wouldn't want to do to a man that I wouldn't want to happen to me. People have came up murdered behind cheating. It's not worth the drama or losing your life. Plus that's not what God wants for us my brother
Truth be told... Jessy is the G.O.A.T in dating relationship coaching... I would literally get stuck listening to her from start to finish... Thank you Jessy, your contents make dating simple and exciting...
Thanks for allowing me to be a part of your podcast. It's great to hear from a woman about ways. I'll be stopping by from time to time to catch up on great topics. Again thanks for having me. Talking later by for now
You're very right with everything, Great video... But for my fellow guys, pls appreciate more women who openly vocally speak their minds to you. We deserve to be openly wanted too, so that a girl never later tells you, I never actually asked you out. Again Jessica, Great Video. And I watch all the ads too ✌️
Queen J!!!💕 YOU ARE NOW MY NEW #1... LOVE the accent, and the way you express yourself, exude intelligence and sensuality at the same time.... I appreciate the wealth of information that you are. thank you ... I'm hooked 🤗😻😁💜
Sister Jessica, I really observed that this topic was a little bit heavy to discuss, but well it was a good one. Thank you for this great tip and waiting for more.
Just came off a 8 yr relationship... I'm looking around but too many females out there already have shown their body to the world so it's very hard to be attracted to someone emotionally.. I'm 36 now. It has always been very important for me to be able to find a respectable woman. The internet has gotten the best of them 😢
I've always had a policy of requiring 3 signs before assuming a woman is attracted to me. Any one sign can be anything from me misunderstanding something to her actually giving me a sign but when there are 3 or more it is itself another sign imho. For example, if there are plenty of seating options yet she always sits next to me, she constantly touches me and is smiling a lot. If she does all of that and I'm wrong then I'm just wrong and she is suuuuper flirty.
You don't need many signs. If you have ever seen a woman look at you with lust, you will recognize that same look in other women. If a woman touches your arm and laughs at your jokes, then she likes you. Add her on facebook or instagram and strike up a conversation. Chat with her for a few days, then ask her out.
@@nerychristian I find it hard to listen to "yous" or people who use "you" repeatedly. Maybe next time try to use "we", "us", "our", or even first person like "me" or "I". Using "you" like that seems preachy and condescending.
I really learn a lot of phrases from Jessica aside the lessons in her videos, i wonder if she majored in English language in the University. Very smooth flow of English words.
Sign 1 so true I was chatting with a guy at a bar and his girl was lowkey hyping me up about my teeth I didn’t even realize she was paying attention to our conversation. Not saying she wanted me ofc but it was flattering she noticed and felt compelled to compliment them
I'm absolutely terrible at reading the signals from women! I'm also very shy makes it that much harder because the only times I have had relationships is when they literally had to walk up and make the first move cause I had no idea they had any interest in me.
I met a woman at a weekly function and we would sit and talk each week. When it was time to go home, we'd say "See you next week". Then one week, she bid me goodbye by touching my knee. I started to wonder if she was interested. But the next week she ignored me and continued to ignore me until eventually, she stopped coming at all. I still haven't figured out how I should have reacted.
She has given you the opportunity but you fail take up on it. She realized that you are not showing any interest in her so that's the reason she moves away. From a womans perspective, I would do the same.thing by pulling away. You need to have a last meeting up with her and let her knows how you feels towards her. You may never know she might change her mind.
It's J; Hi Jess, Thanks again for giving clarity to some situations that had me kind of perplexed. I put the thought out of my mind because she was a married woman. But it turns out that just made her more bolder! I'm going to view your video on what women do for the men they love! Chow1
@@apgrandreserve145 lol. Gotta tell her what you want. 😆 all this: you may make a mistake is hilarious. She’s not a religious figure. Just some chick you want. Get that bird.
Hello Jessica, great videos! I find them to be helpful in the relationship that I am in currently. I am over here in the USA. I live in Virginia, and find your insights very helpful in understanding myself better, as well as my lady. Honesty with oneself is dynamically important in having a healthy relationship with anyone else. You speak very well, and have a lovely voice for speaking! Well done on your channel, and have a wonderful day!
I sometimes get no signs, and when she's sitting across the couch asks me "are you attracted to me?" due to my inaction, I'm thrown off. Some girls are afraid to show signs... this is where it's tricky.
I had a girl give me the “take me now” sign and I didn’t know it at the time. When it dawned on me much later, I think I facepalmed really hard. I was in love with her too.
or u can't read the proper signs... a woman their attraction grow thru their ears (fun, tease, humor) and the moment u are not talking with the girl... Attraction lowers when u are exploring insecurity, neediness, no leading, no mission, no dating, no fun, to serious on her... etc..
Yeah she has been giving these signs for the past 6 months. I knew but never gave her a chance. But now I started giving her some small chances, what she does nowadays is mind blowing 😊😊😊. Thanks for throwing more light
@@JessicaOS I’ll keep it real sis, because most commenters are just thirsty/ not analyzing the info. If the objective is to get $, ignore me.. if the objective is to help men, hear me out. 1.) Certain advice is nullified when you say things like “if she’s staring at your lips she’s into you, but make sure she’s into so you don’t harass her..” That’s unclear to most men. 2.) A lot of these tips are rather obvious, such as excessive touching, smiling, sexy pics, heavy flirting etc. 3.) If the objective is to assist men, you gotta expose the psyche of women. You will have to hurt these mens feelings and create haters. The truth hurts, and only a few can endure the pain. Other than that, very good production quality.. 8-15 min videos are perfect.. soothing speaking voice.. keep up the good work 👍🏾
@@JessicaOS can we short guys get some dating advice on how we could fight through our struggles with women not wanting us because of something we can’t control ?
My respect to you, it's great when I come across a beautiful woman who is intelligent and wise too. Would you believe that today is the first time I've watched your videos on RUclips. I felt my self aggreing with the majority of your views on different topics that you explored. Some of your comments were witty and funny and cracked me up when I compared them to my personal adventures. Let me tell you that I'm 64 yrs old and I thank God that I'm still sexually active. Keep up the good work and God bless you.
I've seen a lot of not so good looking men over the years pull some good looking women .most of those guys used their charm to get them. Women can sense confidence
@@amck72 What do you mean by confidence? I hear people throw that word around a lot but that’s such a broad word to use. Confidence in what specifically? Do you mean confident in social interactions?
@@keltecdan If I have to explain that to you, then you`re already lost. Not all women gravitate towards a man who`s in shape or requires him to be tall. Get your charm game up and maybe you will reap some results. 🤣
@Pastor Craig take the title of “Pastor” away. You’re no Pastor, you’re a deceiver. I’m a Christian, a follower of Jesus. Asking people for money for “advice” is not what Jesus would want. Be gone clown
@@blksheepramirez it was a joke dude, chill out. A true Christian would not get so upset or be into a lot of beautiful women as you said you were. Hypocrisy is running wild
@@craigward8886 a true Christian wouldn’t get upset? Do you forget we are all human? Didn’t Jesus create a whip for three days to beat people with? Nothing wrong with liking beautiful women, it’s only natural. I’m no hypocrite, I’m a realist. If you don’t like it I don’t know what to tell you Edit: I’m not going to go back and forth with you. Take it or leave it my guy, good day
@@blksheepramirez Jesus used the whip to clear the temple of thieves. He did NOT get upset over a joke. Chill out dude. Be the Christian you claim to be. May the grace of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ be with you now and abide with you always
Hi Jessica, it's my first time watching your videos, i'm on my third one now because from the moment I heard your voice i'm just stuck. There's something about your voice.... it's like a mind therapy. It's mental healing listening to you. You use and express your words so well, I can literally feel my heart tickle as you speak, lady you're in your zone.
Hi Jessica, you are the most talented, pretty, and have wisdoms of empowering. I watched your videos all the time and I have learnt a lot out of the vibe videos. Thanks for your advises, you are wonderful ❤
Wow! I didn’t know people took rejection hard! I remember my youth going out to a club, and I just kept it moving when I was rejected! If you keep it moving, you’ll find an attractive one to dance and have a drink with you! The rest will be what comes out of your mouth during the initial conversation. If she’s attracted to you, she’ll let you know with her body language, or she’ll tell you. I guess single life got complicated for this young generation! It wasn’t intimidating for my age group, because we didn’t have cell phones and social media!
SIGNS THAT A MAN IS ATTRACTED TO YOU:
1. He asks you out.
2. He tells you he's attracted to you 🤣
💀 and yes I'm a male. 💀, I can't breathe, I'm dying hahaha
😂😂😂😂😂
And don't let that go over your head😄😆🤣😅😂
How about a girl? If she ask me out it's mean she attracted to me?
Before that, men stare continuously to get the woman's attention.
It should never be embarrassing if you get rejected. You should always walk away with your pride that you had the guts/bravery to be a man & make that first move. Her saying “No” doesn’t define anything about you. It’s just her opinion. Nothing to be ashamed of.
Dam i needed this your absolutely right
No, not at all. But where I live it is common for women to try to get men to ask them out just so they can feel attractive. That gets really old fast. Don't act interested when you are not. A girl I know from childhood will post pictures of a beautiful woman on the beach in a bikini and a caption making no mention she is rather heavy set. She does this to get attention. And she does. Things like this get old with the dating game.
Yeah, that takes a long time to learn, though. It's true and great advice. But harder to put into action than in words. ;)
Your destiny is not tied to the person who left.
The pain of regret is greater than the pain of disappointment.
Smile says it all. It says that I like you, I want you, and so on.
Also wanting to come close to you means alot. Someone who doesn't want you will not want to come close to you.
do you think if she smiles at me when I'm blowing her back out that she likes me?
Usually women's give the WORST dating advices. But this lady's advices are accurate 👌👌
period
May I just also add that rejection and embarrassment are part of the course of dating, and it's also how you learn. We don't need to view rejection as a bad thing; it's all about how we frame it. When we treat rejection with curiosity rather than shame, and use it as a tool for growth, we are on the path to realising that we are fundamentally loveable. To become impervious to rejection is to be 100% confident in who you are. Your worth has NOTHING to do with what a woman (or anyone!) thinks of you!
I totally agree with you!
Honestly, I think some women give off signals in the hope of being approached so they can get validation. Sometimes I will look at women as though I like them. I see it as a form of compliment because I can see she feels flattered. I wait for multiple signs over time
Hey Jesus Christ loves u acts 238 and upci church locator for a church type that on the Internet
Very powerful 🥰🥰🥰
I watched the whole video. Good video
Had to drop in and share a nugget.
Men need to stop chasing women and start chasing your purpose and focus on kingdom and nation building. Women are human beings, they have mouths, they know how to talk. If she can't tell you she's interested in you and would like to meet up for a drink or invite you somewhere public on the weekend, then stop trying to read and figure and Rubik cube her thoughts. She's not a dog, she's not a cat. They are human beings. THEY need to learn to ask for what they want...y'all go into a relationship with a woman trying to read her mind, she's going to expect you to do that every time, every day, in every way.
LET...WOMEN...CONVEY...WHAT...WHO...THEY...WANT!
It's a new age!
This is the truth I wish men would stop simping for these women further proofing they live off of validation from these men
Real talk dawg 💯
I'll tell you what women want. They want a tall, rich, big dick, charming man. Boom, mystery solved.
@@willldo4 yup
Hopefully it will happen someday. For now they just want you to read their minds and its damn boring.
The smile is the greatest sign, when a woman likes you her eyes light up when she looks and smiles at you.
Your comment represents a fine hint. It is not a guess.🙂
Not always.
Light up paa 😉
@@TuneinR exactly at least u know
True but a shy woman won’t do that
"A lot of women give off flirtatious energy but it's really not that deep". Well, that's part of the issue right there. Women repeatedly send out mixed signals. I think they do it for attention whether it's to boost their ego or they get a kick out of rejecting guys, I think most single women out there give mixed signals on purpose. I know a lot of women who love to stay in that gray area with their male friends as if it's a chance. I don't play those games. (and as a consequence, a lot of women get big mad with me, lol)
I have a female friend that gives this energy. The thing that acctually happens is that they are just really comfy with the people they are friends with amd get touchy. You should be fine if you see if what she's doing with you is doing it only with you or with everyone.
When they giving off mixed signals and they are fluctuating in cold and warm, u are being placed under her test, they explore your insecurity.. how more u displaying insecurities how harder these tests become.. and how "bi tchie" she will become..
"Don't try to understand women, women understand women, and they hate each other." -Al Bundy
Just because we are smiling doesn't mean we want a man to follow us.
@@santiagobalda35812 years later…have you nice guyed your way out of the friendzone yet 😂
I think approaching a woman, and asking her out,directly is better than texting!! Rejection is part of life. But,one thing I learned is that conversation rules the nation!! Look at her,directly in her eyes,be confident, ask her,to tell you about her self. Listen and keep eye contact, make her feel,acknowledged. Then question her, about something she,has shared about herself. So that she knows that you are paying attention.
I had a coworker do all of these things. Finally one day we smoked a joint together after work and that broke the ice. Ended up dating for 3 years and no one at the office knew. Lol.
How did you keep it concealed from other co-workers?
They knew but decided to be qiuet about it. Its impossible to keep a relationship underwrap for 3 years in a closed space like a work place and ladies tend not to keep qiuet when in a relationship for long.
@@abuommo7839goofy you literally said no one new 🤣
Sad that there was dangerous drug use. Ugh.
@@tripjet999 dangerous? If you never used it, you're talking out of ignorance.
Hey Jessica. Thanks for all the great tips. My wife and I watched this video together, but one sign caught us. Sign #6 was opposite for her. She prayed and fasted for us to be married. Whenever I texted her a paragraph, her response was one word or two with little or no indication she wanted to know what was going on around me. She told me she downloaded my social media photos, and just fantasized about us. I almost didn't pursue, but the Lion in me knew it was her, and what she did or didn't do was not going to change the fact that she will be mine. Now, we both thank The Almighty God every second for the fact that I did go after what my soul recognized in her. "Connection" is key for those who are looking for something more.
This is amazing
@mw
You are lucky that you married an innocent woman. That is why she probably didn't respond to your text messages. She was not used to flirting online. If you come across a woman who flirts a lot with you, it could be a bad thing. She is probably flirting with anyone who talks to her.
@@Droolbaby I think it's not on purpose. I don't think women know what they want really. (I'm sure us men are the same in a different way honestly.) They have an idea of the perfect guy. But that guy would never do it for them in real life.
@@JG-id5vi Same for me, I'm going to go further next time we meet to be sure of the signs that I think there are. How was your experience?
Number one rule as a man… don’t fear rejection.
Absolutely
Facts ..men should be happy with rejection
Exactly
You can't win them all
Same goes for women, infact they need this advice more, they wanna talk to us but they over fear rejection
Better yet, learn to handle rejection with maturity and class.
Sexual attraction is low on the intimacy scale, It’s at the bottom actually. Levels of intimacy, sexual aka physical, than emotional, then intellectual and finally spiritual. If physical attraction is all that you have, you are in for a world of hurt.
Indeed.
Then you'll keep on by yourself.
No women reach that phase.
Unless that’s what u want from them
But it's the WOMEN that don't want intimacy...
The best advice for men is to start eating healthy, get into the gym to get ripped and muscular, dress with good fitting clothes, work on your social skills, work on improving yourself to get more money. The woman should be dead last because most women nowadays want top tier men.
Right... Ripped body... Big money... tied for first... actually I think money has the slight edge...
Get your Passport and stop trying to date Ran Through, Gold Diggers that will use you for food dates then go to Pookie or Rayray's momma house and get her back blowed clean out. It's a waste of your time guys,
Thanks I needed some advice.
I would say take care of yourself first. Do the things that you enjoy doing with friends or alone. Never buy a car or anything to impress the girl but by the car and things that you like. When you use outside appearance to attract the woman you will have to keep using it to keep her
by then i would be enjoying the "fruits of my labour"....having a relationship would be a bit risky 🤷♂️...NO!?? am using escorts by that timw 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
I'll like to pass a complement here. Jessica! You are just too good at this. A true broadcaster indeed. Keep it up girl!
Step 1 be in shape. Be sexually attractive.
Step 2 failing step 1 pursue someone also not traditionally sexually attractive.
Now theres a thousand more rules that will help but I find the average person can’t wrap themselves around steps 1 and 2.
Bullshit. You need to get out more
This doesn’t make any sense. You don’t have to be in shape to be sexually attractive 😂. Pull chicks all the time and I’m not in shape and I’ve never had to come out of my pockets. No tricking over here. It’s all about how you carry yourself with confidence.
@@BluStrikr What do mean by pulling. Do they agree to fuck with you despite not being lean enough?
Make money. Focus on your goals. Smash your goals. Invest your money, build your own kingdom because you are a king. A king must not even test the waters to find out if some girl likes him. It's too exhausting. Let the peasants test the waters and let the king chill. Jessica OS: Good Speaking Skills!
Very powerful and Underated statement, Your exactly correct
Correct let them come to you
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@@geethamadhuri4.033 India don't burn dead body not allowed
@@douglassantet647India don't burn dead body not allowed
Respect to you and all the women who follow this channel in agreement.
You are profoundly honest and truthful. Rare these days
Yasss 😛
Funny thing. Most times when I say hello or hi to a woman many hear something completely different. I been in many situations where I had to explain the fact that I was not interested in them and it just meant hello or I was just trying to be nice or polite. It is actually quite comicalto me but what is more funny is the lack of them not wanting to believe the truth that is coming out of my mouth versus what they think. lol
Q: "So, how do you know when a woman is attracted to you, sexually?"
A: I don't care. I prefer being alone. The peace and quiet is addictive.
Facts
💯
Too much of anything isn’t good, it wouldn’t be a bad thing to have the one that’s just right though..
Don't worry, tech can provide emotional and sexual companion.
That's why are you watching this. 😂😂
I really admire the fluency you have when I listen to your lyrics. It's so amazing
Thank you! 😃
I never show embarrassment from rejection if any at all. Instead I make a joke of it so that it doesn't make the moment awkward after a failed attempt. Showing that it damages you is a complete show stopper and can ruin a good night out for friends and or friends of friends.
Building up the sexual tension not putting yourself out there. I love it, I've been dealing with this a lot lately thinking I'm reading too much into it. Beating myself up for not rushing in. Thank you for making this video I feel relieved for following my instincts.
Once had a female manager ask me to accompany her to do her nightly rounds. She was unusually talkative. At the very end, she confessed to having been flirting with me and was in shock after finding out I was married. Although she's very attractive, it felt more like a friendly conversation between two adults. Some have been forthcoming with their intentions, and I think that's a much better approach. Flirting just seems like a waste of time and energy.
Wow you are faithful Man. Blessings.☮️
@@divine8021 Yeah, unfortunately my wife didn't think so.
Cheater
@@HoodHelper Go back to your basement
Ur correct, from a man that knows. Repulsion or attraction will be clearly apparent once u learn women's language.
The only times I've had women do any of these things were when I was in a strip club lol.
They want your money and know what to do!😂😂😂😂
@@christiankalala840 Yep 👍
😂😂😂
Until the wallets empty lol
Yoooooooo 🤣
It appears the female of the human species is very complicated. According to this video, it seems alot of courting involves a male having to analyze, interpret or guess. Sounds exhausting just to get some sugar.
Yes seems like a lot of work
Sometimes the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
@@georgeparsard1197 😅
The "Getting to know you" phase is very exhausting for me. Having to do all that work just to understand a new person, is something I really don't like.
It's too much work🚮! I prefer letting a woman know that I don't intend to waste my time and resources and not even hers. I state my intentions and ask for a straight answer. Simple! Life is too short to be interpreting and deciphering some useless cues
The information provided is helpful. Been married over twenty years now and relationships are work no matter how long you’ve been together. This just helps keep you on your toes and make sure you’re not slipping. Helps keep your situation fresh. Good work.
Rejection makes you learn and helps you to become better on your selection
At 6:16-6:18...that pause.... Lol
Beautiful emphatic gesture.
Spoke volumes in one motion. Kudos, mum.
The 7 signs....... 1) She is at your place 2) She asks you to the bedroom 3) She slowly takes off her clothes 4) She slowly takes off your clothes 5) She starts to touch herself 6) She starts to touch you 7) She wakes you in the morning to repeat steps 5 & 6
Laughing my butt off. That's hilarious !!!
@@babatundeekunsumi2920 : Well, I think that's a sign she is attracted to you....... or maybe just really desperate. :)
@@MNDrummersuicide not allowed
@@babatundeekunsumi2920suicide not allowed
Suicide not allowed
Jess you hit the nail with this one as well.... she had always been touchy feely but i didnt want to seem forward but today i took the opportunity and bam we in there Jess, man's winning 😊😊.. thank you for the confidence booster!!
Lol! Happy for you
@@JessicaOS i find older females like jessica sexual attractive
😂😂😂 good on you mate
@@JessicaOS The only thing I agree with is the proximity bit and that needs caution. That is when a woman or a girl will do when there has been no introduction took place. The rest of the stuff mentioned is after there has already been a close connection and so it is pretty clear. I gave this video a thumbs down.
“We in there”, what do you mean? Where are you?
You are like the magician that reveals all the tricks - Thank you for providing insights and tools to decode women properly.
The main thing to know is that she is NOT attracted to you. No use thinking about it too hard because that's the bottom line.
Congratulation sister Jessica for passing the half a million mark.
That is a clear indication that what you are doing has a gigantic followers.
Keep on keeping on.
If you looking for a woman to teach you how to be a REAL MAN, you the simp nigga😂😂
she isn't ugly either(easy on the eyes) r and so pleasant to listen too
Man! Whatever happened to “I like you,do you like me “. When I was growing up dating someone was simple. You either like them or you don’t. I feel sorry for this era of dating. It use to be you like each other, you ask a woman out and that was it. Now you have to be a mind reader. And you you do end up with her and for some reason it doesn’t work. She’s taking all your stuff on the way out the door. Women back in day would just leave if things didn’t work out. Now it’s like dealing with satan himself lol 😂
You don't have to be a mind reader. You just have to be more careful. Women are trained now a days to accuse anyone they don't like of sexual harassment. So you have to be more subtle. If a woman comes up to you to say hi, if she touches your arm, or if she laughs at all your jokes, then she is interested.
I'll tell you what happened, it was that dam Sasquatch.
Really tho. I'm this era and it's annoying as fuu
Girls got worse, they got more selfish, they no longer wanna say anything to the guy, it's now all about them.
A classical and indefatigable Jessica. WTG this community is growing and expanding every single day. I hope we are all doing fantabulous?
Very true Jessica thanks
Fantabulous indeed. I am glad to for being part of this awesome community.
“crazy loves got a mind of its own. you cant stop it once it starts , and you cant help it if it dont”
Interesting video...I'm a guy that Women have naturally gravitated towards(it's wild)and a lot of what she's shared here is true...in fact,this video caused me to realize that when I saw an ex coworker recently,who was always very friendly,she automatically held my hand in an intimate way,which I didn't even remember at first!
It's simple for me. Ask her name, where she from, then if she has a boyfriend. If she says she does, I keep it moving. If not, I keep conversing. Most of the time, if she don't like you, she'll just say he has a man or sometimes they really do. The best thing to do is just be honest and straightforward and you should get an honest answer. It's that simple.
I'll do you one better just keep moving!
Why "keep it moving" if she has a boyfriend? Half the women I banged had a boyfriend. They want a side piece too you know.
@@bigmacdaddy1234 I'm not about that life. Secondly, I wouldn't want to do to a man that I wouldn't want to happen to me. People have came up murdered behind cheating. It's not worth the drama or losing your life. Plus that's not what God wants for us my brother
@@kerryrivers9869 Which God are you referring to?
@@bigmacdaddy1234 GOD. Our Father. Not the God of this earth
Getting rejected isn't embarrassing its reassuring. This is the ocean and I'm a fisherman ❤❤😂😂😅😅
as a married man, I find your videos very helpful.
Truth be told... Jessy is the G.O.A.T in dating relationship coaching... I would literally get stuck listening to her from start to finish... Thank you Jessy, your contents make dating simple and exciting...
yeah she is
She knows something frfr
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Thanks for allowing me to be a part of your podcast. It's great to hear from a woman about ways. I'll be stopping by from time to time to catch up on great topics. Again thanks for having me. Talking later by for now
Sadly, a lotta women are hardly honest on how they feel 🚶🤦
Body says A and lips dey talk B 😏
So true bro
😂😂😂😂😂🎯
Damaged souls
Most women are scared shitless. Won't admit it though.
Absolutely bro…very hard to tell if they find a guy attractive
Thank you Jessica for another great job!
Your content is always well done and very helpful! 📝📝📝💯👏👏👏
Congratulations on passing 500k subs!
You're very right with everything, Great video...
But for my fellow guys, pls appreciate more women who openly vocally speak their minds to you. We deserve to be openly wanted too, so that a girl never later tells you, I never actually asked you out.
Again Jessica, Great Video. And I watch all the ads too ✌️
Nobody in india talks and explains about female nature like you do … not a single RUclipsr in india talks like that..
Cheers from india
Bro, these things probably won't work on our Indian girls... Societal norms are different everywhere...
Queen J!!!💕 YOU ARE NOW MY NEW #1... LOVE the accent, and the way you express yourself, exude intelligence and sensuality at the same time.... I appreciate the wealth of information that you are. thank you ... I'm hooked 🤗😻😁💜
Sister Jessica, I really observed that this topic was a little bit heavy to discuss, but well it was a good one.
Thank you for this great tip and waiting for more.
That's right Jess. That's why we have to talk to them and, more. Otherwise we may no get it right.
So eloquent!
Great time listening to you always
As a woman, I would say this is pretty accurate.
Just came off a 8 yr relationship... I'm looking around but too many females out there already have shown their body to the world so it's very hard to be attracted to someone emotionally..
I'm 36 now. It has always been very important for me to be able to find a respectable woman. The internet has gotten the best of them 😢
I strongly partially agree.....but I'm older. Good luck brother
She’s not yours bro it’s just your turn, this isn’t Disney. You’re not going to find a virgin. Lol
No, the internet got the worst of them.
W me it's, they're all MARRIED
Road to 1M subs begins now 🥳
I love your videos ❤️
I've always had a policy of requiring 3 signs before assuming a woman is attracted to me. Any one sign can be anything from me misunderstanding something to her actually giving me a sign but when there are 3 or more it is itself another sign imho. For example, if there are plenty of seating options yet she always sits next to me, she constantly touches me and is smiling a lot. If she does all of that and I'm wrong then I'm just wrong and she is suuuuper flirty.
You don't need many signs. If you have ever seen a woman look at you with lust, you will recognize that same look in other women. If a woman touches your arm and laughs at your jokes, then she likes you. Add her on facebook or instagram and strike up a conversation. Chat with her for a few days, then ask her out.
@@nerychristian I find it hard to listen to "yous" or people who use "you" repeatedly. Maybe next time try to use "we", "us", "our", or even first person like "me" or "I". Using "you" like that seems preachy and condescending.
I really learn a lot of phrases from Jessica aside the lessons in her videos, i wonder if she majored in English language in the University. Very smooth flow of English words.
she could be doing voiceovers..
Rejection builds character, people shouldn't be afraid to lose
Only if you get some acceptance amongst the rejections
Sign 1 so true I was chatting with a guy at a bar and his girl was lowkey hyping me up about my teeth I didn’t even realize she was paying attention to our conversation. Not saying she wanted me ofc but it was flattering she noticed and felt compelled to compliment them
I love her voice if I met her in person I would just listen to her voice!!!
I'm absolutely terrible at reading the signals from women! I'm also very shy makes it that much harder because the only times I have had relationships is when they literally had to walk up and make the first move cause I had no idea they had any interest in me.
@@anonymous-vb2hj when it comes to picking up signs I’m absolutely horrible. So you are not alone lol
I absolutely love your presentation and personality... Wonderful wisdom from a wise black queen 🙏🏿
I more and more get the impression that women like to be in love with 'being in love', rather than being in love with a person.
Thank you and that’s it and that’s all. In love 🥰 with the idea of being love.
Rejection is part of finding happiness. Remember you miss 100 percent of the chances you don't take
I met a woman at a weekly function and we would sit and talk each week. When it was time to go home, we'd say "See you next week". Then one week, she bid me goodbye by touching my knee. I started to wonder if she was interested. But the next week she ignored me and continued to ignore me until eventually, she stopped coming at all. I still haven't figured out how I should have reacted.
You reacted the right way…by doing nothing and letting that one go.
She has given you the opportunity but you fail take up on it. She realized that you are not showing any interest in her so that's the reason she moves away. From a womans perspective, I would do the same.thing by pulling away.
You need to have a last meeting up with her and let her knows how you feels towards her. You may never know she might change her mind.
Thank you Jessica.
I'm really happy to have gotten to your channel..
It's so relieving watching your videos
It's J;
Hi Jess, Thanks again for giving clarity to some situations that had me kind of perplexed. I put the thought out of my mind because she was a married woman. But it turns out that just made her more bolder! I'm going to view your video on what women do for the men they love! Chow1
Jessica thanks for helping me out 90% . Of the signs you spoke about I witnessed in a woman I really like. Thanks Jessica you save the day. ❤
I can confirm all these things, good points for the young men to know.
NEVER ASK A WOMAN FOR ADVICE ON GETTING WITH WOMEN IT MAKES NO SENSE....
YOU'VE BEEN WARNED
Lol
what? asking women this is the reason ive been starting to get better at getting with women.
I found a Chad in the group finally at least u know that is truly a death wish they won't tell you the truth
😂😂😂😂😂
Would a fish teach you to fish?
Just tell her: I likes you and I want chu. We can do this the easy way or we can do it the hard way, the choice is yours.
#bootybandit
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 booty warrior vibes
@@apgrandreserve145 lol. Gotta tell her what you want. 😆 all this: you may make a mistake is hilarious. She’s not a religious figure. Just some chick you want. Get that bird.
Im going to have to use this
😂😂😂
Damn this woman can really hold her own.
Best You Tube Channel ❤️
Hello Jessica, great videos! I find them to be helpful in the relationship that I am in currently. I am over here in the USA. I live in Virginia, and find your insights very helpful in understanding myself better, as well as my lady. Honesty with oneself is dynamically important in having a healthy relationship with anyone else. You speak very well, and have a lovely voice for speaking! Well done on your channel, and have a wonderful day!
Always putting us to the right points 😊
True
It’s interesting how you are getting everything right on this one? Damn! This is a must-watch! 👌
I sometimes get no signs, and when she's sitting across the couch asks me "are you attracted to me?" due to my inaction, I'm thrown off. Some girls are afraid to show signs... this is where it's tricky.
If a woman makes time to be around you or go out with you, most likely she likes you.
I had a girl give me the “take me now” sign and I didn’t know it at the time. When it dawned on me much later, I think I facepalmed really hard. I was in love with her too.
or u can't read the proper signs... a woman their attraction grow thru their ears (fun, tease, humor) and the moment u are not talking with the girl... Attraction lowers when u are exploring insecurity, neediness, no leading, no mission, no dating, no fun, to serious on her... etc..
Women say I am too intimidating & look mean so I never had these things happen
Yeah she has been giving these signs for the past 6 months. I knew but never gave her a chance. But now I started giving her some small chances, what she does nowadays is mind blowing 😊😊😊. Thanks for throwing more light
Very well done....with intelligence, caveats and sensibility. A pleasure to listen.
Thanks Jessica...you help so many of us out here..😁😁....they will never admit....when you say ...My guy...it hits differently
hahahah
Unachoma!
These videos are the highlight of my week. Great job, Jessica.
Glad you like them!
@@JessicaOS I’ll keep it real sis, because most commenters are just thirsty/ not analyzing the info. If the objective is to get $, ignore me.. if the objective is to help men, hear me out.
1.) Certain advice is nullified when you say things like “if she’s staring at your lips she’s into you, but make sure she’s into so you don’t harass her..” That’s unclear to most men.
2.) A lot of these tips are rather obvious, such as excessive touching, smiling, sexy pics, heavy flirting etc.
3.) If the objective is to assist men, you gotta expose the psyche of women. You will have to hurt these mens feelings and create haters. The truth hurts, and only a few can endure the pain.
Other than that, very good production quality.. 8-15 min videos are perfect.. soothing speaking voice.. keep up the good work 👍🏾
@@PrinceInawRakah well noted.
@@JessicaOS can we short guys get some dating advice on how we could fight through our struggles with women not wanting us because of something we can’t control ?
In my opinion u r the most reliable coach for men out there. Came from woman's perspective
My respect to you, it's great when I come across a beautiful woman who is intelligent and wise too. Would you believe that today is the first time I've watched your videos on RUclips. I felt my self aggreing with the majority of your views on different topics that you explored. Some of your comments were witty and funny and cracked me up when I compared them to my personal adventures. Let me tell you that I'm 64 yrs old and I thank God that I'm still sexually active. Keep up the good work and God bless you.
If you’re not tall in shape and good looking then you can forget about most girls finding you sexually attractive. It’s just the way it is.
It's okay short guys, sex can wait- MASTERBATE!
At that point, just embrace the black pill and move on.
I've seen a lot of not so good looking men over the years pull some good looking women .most of those guys used their charm to get them. Women can sense confidence
@@amck72 What do you mean by confidence? I hear people throw that word around a lot but that’s such a broad word to use. Confidence in what specifically? Do you mean confident in social interactions?
@@keltecdan If I have to explain that to you, then you`re already lost. Not all women gravitate towards a man who`s in shape or requires him to be tall. Get your charm game up and maybe you will reap some results. 🤣
I’ve gotten rejected many times but I’ve also gotten many yes with beautiful women. You never know unless you try
@Pastor Craig nah, I’m good
@Pastor Craig take the title of “Pastor” away. You’re no Pastor, you’re a deceiver. I’m a Christian, a follower of Jesus. Asking people for money for “advice” is not what Jesus would want. Be gone clown
@@blksheepramirez it was a joke dude, chill out. A true Christian would not get so upset or be into a lot of beautiful women as you said you were. Hypocrisy is running wild
@@craigward8886 a true Christian wouldn’t get upset? Do you forget we are all human? Didn’t Jesus create a whip for three days to beat people with? Nothing wrong with liking beautiful women, it’s only natural. I’m no hypocrite, I’m a realist. If you don’t like it I don’t know what to tell you
Edit: I’m not going to go back and forth with you. Take it or leave it my guy, good day
@@blksheepramirez Jesus used the whip to clear the temple of thieves. He did NOT get upset over a joke. Chill out dude. Be the Christian you claim to be. May the grace of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ be with you now and abide with you always
I just love this lady’s presentations and the English is superb. Thank you Jessica.
this lady is a big help to us 🙏💯
Hi Jessica, it's my first time watching your videos, i'm on my third one now because from the moment I heard
your voice i'm just stuck. There's something about your voice.... it's like a mind therapy.
It's mental healing listening to you. You use and express your words so well, I can literally feel my heart
tickle as you speak, lady you're in your zone.
😊 thanks and welcome
@@JessicaOS I appreciate your response.
Some RUclipsrs never reply to the people who's supporting them.
Thank you very much with these 7 signs
I admire your wisdom madam.....love your advices....wow...be blessed for such educative sentiments
Hi Jessica, you are the most talented, pretty, and have wisdoms of empowering. I watched your videos all the time and I have learnt a lot out of the vibe videos. Thanks for your advises, you are wonderful ❤
Glad i found your channel I’m learning so much from the videos and didn’t realize until now i was simping all these years 🤦♂️
I got this video on watch later for 3 months on repeat and usually let it play while I fall asleep and I believe this came to reality.
I like the part where she said "you already know the deal" 😂😂😂😂
'MY GUY'. Straight from the trenches word. Got me rolling 😂😂
Honestly😂😂
Wow!
I didn’t know people took rejection hard! I remember my youth going out to a club, and I just kept it moving when I was rejected! If you keep it moving, you’ll find an attractive one to dance and have a drink with you! The rest will be what comes out of your mouth during the initial conversation. If she’s attracted to you, she’ll let you know with her body language, or she’ll tell you.
I guess single life got complicated for this young generation! It wasn’t intimidating for my age group, because we didn’t have cell phones and social media!
Don't
ASSUME. And misread. Patience can be cool !!
She said "Robert"" is amazing 👍🏽😁