NO ONE is ever too busy to text someone they're interested in. If she's too busy to text, she probably isn't interested at all. Flee my brother. Trust me, someone who is interested in you will have to create time amidst their busy schedules.
@@enterte It happened to me. There was a time I was completely busy to a point I would only have 2 hours of sleep and I didn't get time to touch my phone unless I'm receiving calls. But weirdly, I would find time to send even just one text to someone I was interested in a text to just let her know that I was thinking about her. And that simple text went a long way and ignited what it is right now ☺️
@@Sunshine-nj8cd I guess you're shining in that person life....if that person can't take 10 seconds to respond to you even before they go to sleep it means they aren't interested...the same way as you..
Exactly. If she likes you,she never sleep without you crossing her mind ,she would mostly definitely find a time within her 24-hr time frame to reach out to you
People make time for what they want. If she don’t make time for you, she don’t want you, and you shouldn’t want her. Move on and focus on yourself and your goals.
You cannot assume things so fast. A bond between two persons, needs reciprocal trust and faith to grow fond, as well as a flower requires warm and light to bloom. In the end, you get what you give.
For a long, I fell in love with a sweet nice girl who had been at first glance the love of my life, we got on a date for one year and a half, but unfortunately, she broke up with me, and I was desolated. But I still love her, and we still talk sometimes, but I cannot forget her. So what can I do to overcome this situation... Any help, please!!!
She's not invested like you, grow spine and move on. She's not the only woman who will make you happy, whatever happiness means to you. Great job Jessica ❤️
I was raised/taught if a guy is interested he will pursue you.. so i could really like a guy but until I feel safe w/him I won’t reach out/text or call first. So guys for some women this is the case. They may really care and be interested but need time or need assurance that you’re genuinely interested. Also if you want her to reach out more TELL HER! Have the conversation and let her know that you’d like her to reach out more then go from there.
pfft this is so honest but it doesn't work sadly. Women want to feel special like everyone else but Women take things a step further by stringing guys along until they feel "safe".
@@ivanmalau4945 good point but keep in mind not all women are the same:) women who string guys along, in some cases, have been hurt before and have yet to heal or may have traumas from younger years and have yet to heal their inner child.. they’re also men who need to do their inner work as well.. I just think it’s important to communicate.. its scary at times but you’d be surprised, with the right person a simple, honest conversation can go a long way..
@@moneymagnet743 true but that conversation never happend and ig ot does then its always misinterpreted. Your comment is very ideal that how it should be but very rarely you have tgis conversation and things become clear like that. Either (A) woman makes an i have a boyfriend move, (B) guy starts to lose interest because nothing is happening. (C) Girl or guy overthinks things and nothing happens. Or (D) Girl or guys just strings you along irregardless. Point is you are right but my stance would be everyone has (baggage) history/experience. No one is a blank slate when you meet them therefore we should take our time to understand ourselves before jumping into a serious relationship. Some people make the mistake of thinking that some people can fill voids in their lives and thats simply not true. If you empty you need more time ro figure out why. No one can fill your broken pieces. No amount of sex/money will do that.
Sometimes you just pass through your youtube home feed looking for a football highlight and then boom you see the title and its something thats relating to your relationship and then end up watching the episode and actually learn... 👏 amazing
“Only women, children, and dogs are cherished by society. A man is only valued based on what he can provide. It’s amazing how women don’t have to actually better themselves to be valued, pursued, or admired.. it takes blood, sweat and tears to build a man. Always remember Men have to “BECOME”. Women just “ARE”.
It's fairly easy for me. I only put in the same amount of effort that I am receiving. If I texted the last message, then it is their turn. If the message is short, my message will be short. I consider messaging to be the same as a conversation. My turn, your turn. You made a very fine point at the end, you need to know your friends personality type. I am introverted, but, I have time for those who are my friends. A good rule that I keep in mind is, you must value yourself as much as the other person. No matter how busy a person is, if they truly value you, they will find time for you. As I said, earlier, I put in the same effort that I receive. I think it's only fair. And, I treat messaging as a conversation, when we can't actually talk in person. Just my thoughts. Great video, with a lot of valid points.
If she doesn't reciprocate the energy and i'm ALWAYS texting first. I move on. It's a waste of energy, time and emotions. I prefer to find someone who's willing to put 100% in just as I am.
THIS. Is a healthy relationship. Don´t play any games with women. We dont need to conquer them we dont live in 1920. A healthy relationship is 50 / 50 effort period.
*Some women prefer a more reserved approach to avoid coming across as desperate. If she’s responsive, it shows there’s still potential, but it’s important not to over-pursue.*
@@ModernDatingMastery this is honestly my reason for not texting first. I honestly have been rejected and dumped that many times and now I used this approach to protect myself.
To put it bluntly guys. If she never texts you first, you are not her 1st option. Anything else is just a bunch of excuses.If you are important enough for her, she will take those 5 minutes from her whole day to text you first. You might be her 2nd, 3rd, 4th or even 5th choice. You are a backup. Or not even that. You need to realize she's not texting only with you but at least a few other men. And you should do the same, text other girls and not get hang up on one girl thinking its "the one". Texting first shows interest. If she never does it, she's NOT interested, you need to accept that and walk away. Don't waste your valuable time in this short life on women, who use you as a filler for their boredrom, ego lift or as emotinal "best friend" tampon.
I agree. I always text first but after a while I realize I've texted first most of the time, I'll stop and give her a week to text first then if she doesn't then it either bye bye or I be short with her. I'll move on to someone who can treat me equally. I always get the whole blah blah like I'm a bad person. Again like what you said....it's excuses and move on.
Thank you Jessica, this really helps me! For me, in my situation it’s definitely #1 and #2. Time really answers everything but meeting people on social media is NOT reliable.
The funny part is, after ignoring a dude, then you stop texting her, and she see you with another female, she look surprise and be mad. What I known for sure is, if a woman want you, she would create time.
love the video.. but it saddens me that this is the type of things i have to deal with waddling in the dating pool… i just like honesty and would respect a woman more who doesn’t play mind games.. I’d rather her tell me upfront if she’s not liking me or feeling me and would rather just be cool acquaintances as opposed having me wasted my time trying to build with something that isn’t there and will not be.
Just don't take it personal...if you are a nice guy and did nothing wrong,just move on,it's not your fault... Find a woman that like's you for you,not for what she can gain from you...
Your English is fluent and clear to understand, and even explanation is quite clear, you are really doing well in helping us, thanks for your kind efforts
hence the reason we should jus focus on ourselves n keep becoming the best version of ourselves focus on your health,money,go to the gym.these women out here arent worth the chase.
I met this girl, we hung out several times, and even hooked up. Everything was going well, we would text almost everyday and all of a sudden she would take more than 5-8 hours to reply back or even days to reply back. I would be the one to initiate the texting from the get go. I started pulling back and have completely stop chasing her. It’s so strange because when we did hang out everything went well we would both have a good time. But, as soon as it comes to connecting through texting she is a completely different person almost uninterested. Anyway, as soon as I started pulling back she would text me back and would say if I was not interested in her that it was okay and that she would stop bothering me. WTF I don’t get her and quite honestly I was tired of playing games so I just stopped engaging with her.
Girls do this I have experienced and would never commit they did it. They would put the blame on you instead. They will say that you are cheap or you are making it a issue without any reason or you are over thinking. This is just a shit hole until unless girl is attracted towards the boy. More we dive in, more shit we receive
Lol. Went through the same thing about 2 weeks ago! I stopped reaching out to her and been in No Contact mode ever since. Her birthday was Monday and she never got that "Happy Birthday" text. I don't plan on pursuing her ever again.
Me knowing that you are alive and well is enough for me to relax and know she's trying to make the world a better place With all her essence through her work. Thanks you Jessica Everytime. Nice to see you again🌞🧘.Stay safe.🦋
I stopped chasing girls and its quite fun to be alone and keeps you mind and heart at ease since you won’t experience rejection or someone losing interest in you ☮️
Relationship nowadays is headache Jesse! The only lady I wanted to settle with is not giving me attention 😡 I've tried for almost three good years now but same stories, the worst part of it all is that I love her naturally and I'm finding it difficult to let her go!
I am a woman, if I don't text you back or don't text you at all, it means there is no connection. However if I like you a lot but noticed you stopped chasing or texting as before I will stop texting and guard my heart so I don't get hurt. I think many women do that.
@@Gigachad-mc5qz I understand, this can be based on positive energy they receive or negative energy. Also physical appearance matters a lot. This also applies for the other way round. If a girl has bad energy you can feel it or if she is not just appealing to you.
Thats quite a selfish thing to do @Miracle Unique. The reason you don't like to text back if you don't like the guy is because you selfishly want the attention and are to scared to say to him you don't feel the same way because he may look elsewhere. So I feel, you seek affirmation from men. And, if you like a man a he always texts you an when he doesn't once you move on. Then your the type of woman men should stay away from.. meaning you thrive on attention frm men, have many options and you don't reciprocate what you get in a relationship (Selfish and self entitlement). Reality check my dear, no man wants this type of woman
If she don’t take time to text you first you not the only one she has, and take note the only time she might text you first is either she wanted to make a request, no matter what you do you won’t still get the attention you needed.
I’ve done this, not because I want to necessarily be chased but because if you make my position in your life confusing or unclear I don’t feel the need to give my all.
I used to text him first and got tired of being the first one to always make contact first just to be ghosted by him, I have better things to do than chase him. There's actually people that like me enough to text me back.
I am evaluating your wisdom, you are both highly intelligent and thoughtful. No sentence is being contradictory, no concept is an actual fluke. Hence the reason of why, you have won my subscription lady.
@@JessicaOS keep spreading your enlightment to the world, but do it softly girl; like to walking on a cloud. The same message will be both received and perceived better.
I was initially a little unsure if Jessica's observations would be applicable for American women. Her insights are really good and it seems like guys from all cultures and countries are pretty much dealing with the same issues. I love this channel
You don’t matter to her. If you were a priority in her life, she would reach out to you. If you REALLY had something going, you’d be important to her. If she’s not reaching out, you don’t matter in her life.
If she is interested, she will make time to send a message. Dont waste your time chasing someone who doesn't want to be chased move on and stop boosting her ego!
I luv this one.. right here, you covered all the mental that I go thru with every conversation with every woman, i listen close to her wording and then I go thru your same 12 step rule... this is priceless for anyone that pays attention to what comes out of a woman's mouth...
Thank you for the topic Sister Jessica such circumstances do occur and tend to be emotionally constraining and being a waste of time. The advice I would then give to my brothers is never waste time chasing her if the process is one sided, cause what you're doing you're simply relinquishing your voice, power and dignity to her an act you will hate going forward. So be cool work on yourself untill you get that lady who will put effort to reciprocate to the energy you give. Thank you....
Personally, after a few attempts at texting a girl first and she never texts me first, I automatically lose interest in her. What I've learned so far is that when a woman really likes you, she will not play any games with you, she won't be too busy to text you first, and she will do it without any hesitation. I'm currently dating someone who does text first and I do the same thing for her. It's so refreshing. Hopefully it stays that way.
I simply cut off women who do that. Winning a woman's heart is thee most useless endeavor a man can undertake. If a woman doesn't want to be with you just accept it and move on. If your actions and efforts are the only ones keeping the relationship alive I suggest you deaden the entire thing because no one can keep that up long term. A relationship needs two people to sustain if you the only one calling, visiting or making an effort to build then you should reshuffle your priorities.
It’s a red flag to move on period. Seek a partner with a high probability of long term success. Meaning a woman who really is in to you big time. You can’t connect unless she wants to take the time to explore who you are.
Great video! The woman I am dating now is exactly this. She very rarely texts first. When together we are super intimate. Her work hours are crazy busy but when always I mention to meet her she will reschedule her hours of work to meet. If there is intimacy when together and if she replies even if she don't reply first, then relax and go with the flow :)
You are blessed my guy if she reschedules her hours just for you that’s means she really likes you where in my situation I was ghosted. But she always responds but I never brought up a second date because I feel like she would just run me off.
All sumarizes in 2 words, “ burning desire”. Believe me. Recently widowed and back to the dating arena. Already dated around 15-20 girls. When she is interested you will not need this video. Its basically effortless regarding texting or setting up a simple date. Responses will be on time for the most part. Just be yourself, that its way she choosed you
If you have to ask yourself whether she likes you or not. She doesnt. Shes likely using you. When a girl really likes you, shell find a way to make sure you know. Anything less is a finesse. Dont get finesse'd, boys.
@@JustMalcolm914 sure, bud. That's why every dude has 100 chicks in his Dm's right now. All these guys out here complaining that they have WAY TOO MANY women hitting them up. Lmao, you live in delusion. You ever hear a girl be shy about telling people how much she's into drake? Or, you think she's play hard to get with him? Hahahaha
Personally I like to spend most of my time by myself, I love been alone. Family and friends tend to not understand that, which I understand but sometimes I feel like when I'm not alone I will miss out on things I can discover when I'm alone. Idk if anyone else relates tho🤔
It's all good to want to spend time by your self, I enjoy my own company but in a relationship you can't do what you feel like when you feel like it's not only about you...a beautiful woman told me those words if you want to discover yourself don't be in a relationship be in a relationship after you discover who you are and where you want to be she said this is how I makes her feel... I'm home alone again and you're out with yourself So you say Somehow I know it's Not quite that way it's getting pretty late and you haven't checked on me all day When I called you didn't answer Now I feel like you're ignoring me I wish. I could go back to the day before we met and skip my regret Why you wanna hurt me so bad? I believe in you that's why I'm so mad Now I'm drowning in disappointment and it's hard for me to even look at you You said you care about me but from what I see I ain't feeling all that so I disagree gave you all my love and understanding yet you treat me like the enemy so leave me alone... Don't want nothing from ya Just go back where you came from.. This house is no longer your HOME... and with that it was over... spending time with yourself is fine but always keep the lines of communication open...call...and return calls in a timely manner or...you will be alone...
I like your videos. The first question is why she gave me her number in the first place if she has to sometime forget to reply my messages? It's very simple. She doesn't want a Man. If she doesn't have time or she is busy with a schedule then, there is a chance she won't have time if you get together. Successful men don't have all the time in the word to chase a lady who is not available. When a woman wants something, she will do everything to get your attention and keep you coming toward her. That's a gift women have. Play hard to get is one thing . But trying too hard to get by sometime ignoring my messages and expecting me to keep begging for a conversation is totally unthinkable from the point of Vue of a level headed guy. There are too many girls out there. Only men with no balls do that.
She’s never too busy. It takes only a few seconds to ask “how are you?” or “have a good day!”. You just don’t matter to her. She does not care about you. She isn’t interested. Just move on.
I'm really thankful if a girl just ghost me, so that I know straight up she's not interested. I can't really tell how she feels if she just so passive with the texting
no. 11: She may not like you. please don't forget this no. prioritize your mental health and move brother. the ones that don't like you can create a tunnel vision on you.
Do not chase such women....they r confuse, uncertain, unclear....if she likes she will make it easy....cut her off completely....ghost her after 2-3 months...take revenge so that u will feel better& she learn a lesson & will never waste time of men....
For me it is quite easy. If i am the one always starting the text message or never getting an answer back, i just regard it as: “i am not into you”. I delete her and move on.
@Sociopath The Serial Killer I agree. You have a valid point, but i guess by meeting other women you gradually erase her from your mind. But deleting her, you are not putting her on a pedestal. THATS THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO!!!!
It always boils down to interest. If she's interested in you, she will text you first at some point. I was lucky with my wife. She never played these dumb games.
Hours ago i was searching for this answers.. like why am I the only one that Tex first. But i finally got the reasons now .. just wanna say Thank you Jessica 🙏🏾
Not all women are like that David..I have this man right now in my life that I am so interested in to be my husband..I always have a crush on him since I was a teenager..I still feels the same about him..He's a older man for me, but he's not showing me absolutely no interest
You should not have to constantly ask her multiple times to hang out. If you ask 2 or more times and she blows you off. Do yourself a favour and stop chasing or pursuing ❤
Fellas stay on your purpose and focus on building yourself and life. She's not yours it's just your turn
Point 100
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Haha, Darius !
Facts!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣 just say you are scared of women
NO ONE is ever too busy to text someone they're interested in. If she's too busy to text, she probably isn't interested at all. Flee my brother.
Trust me, someone who is interested in you will have to create time amidst their busy schedules.
I have a friend in another country I'll text him and he will take hours or days to text me back so I leave him text me first
I know you have had stories, of such but trust me someone can be really busy, And they not just ignoring ya
@@enterte It happened to me. There was a time I was completely busy to a point I would only have 2 hours of sleep and I didn't get time to touch my phone unless I'm receiving calls. But weirdly, I would find time to send even just one text to someone I was interested in a text to just let her know that I was thinking about her. And that simple text went a long way and ignited what it is right now ☺️
@@Sunshine-nj8cd I guess you're shining in that person life....if that person can't take 10 seconds to respond to you even before they go to sleep it means they aren't interested...the same way as you..
@@adrianwalton4489 Very true
It’s No Such Thing As “Too Busy”. People Make Time To Speak To Those Who They Wanna Talk To Trust Me.
Facts
Exactly. If she likes you,she never sleep without you crossing her mind ,she would mostly definitely find a time within her 24-hr time frame to reach out to you
People make time for what they want. If she don’t make time for you, she don’t want you, and you shouldn’t want her. Move on and focus on yourself and your goals.
PRECISELY!👏YOUR STATEMENTS SAYS IT ALL😏
You cannot assume things so fast. A bond between two persons, needs reciprocal trust and faith to grow fond, as well as a flower requires warm and light to bloom. In the end, you get what you give.
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Moral of the story. Women play alot of childish games and want a man to chase them. It's a waste of time. Fellas stay on ur purpose and get money.
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I've been loving your tips about this complicated matter which love is... Being sincere it has been so helpful to me.
For a long, I fell in love with a sweet nice girl who had been at first glance the love of my life, we got on a date for one year and a half, but unfortunately, she broke up with me, and I was desolated. But I still love her, and we still talk sometimes, but I cannot forget her. So what can I do to overcome this situation... Any help, please!!!
@@bonifaciomuanda4497 let her go bro
Which is true
She's not invested like you, grow spine and move on. She's not the only woman who will make you happy, whatever happiness means to you.
Great job Jessica ❤️
I was raised/taught if a guy is interested he will pursue you.. so i could really like a guy but until I feel safe w/him I won’t reach out/text or call first. So guys for some women this is the case. They may really care and be interested but need time or need assurance that you’re genuinely interested. Also if you want her to reach out more TELL HER! Have the conversation and let her know that you’d like her to reach out more then go from there.
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pfft this is so honest but it doesn't work sadly. Women want to feel special like everyone else but Women take things a step further by stringing guys along until they feel "safe".
@@ivanmalau4945 good point but keep in mind not all women are the same:) women who string guys along, in some cases, have been hurt before and have yet to heal or may have traumas from younger years and have yet to heal their inner child.. they’re also men who need to do their inner work as well.. I just think it’s important to communicate.. its scary at times but you’d be surprised, with the right person a simple, honest conversation can go a long way..
@@moneymagnet743 true but that conversation never happend and ig ot does then its always misinterpreted. Your comment is very ideal that how it should be but very rarely you have tgis conversation and things become clear like that. Either (A) woman makes an i have a boyfriend move, (B) guy starts to lose interest because nothing is happening. (C) Girl or guy overthinks things and nothing happens. Or (D) Girl or guys just strings you along irregardless. Point is you are right but my stance would be everyone has (baggage) history/experience. No one is a blank slate when you meet them therefore we should take our time to understand ourselves before jumping into a serious relationship. Some people make the mistake of thinking that some people can fill voids in their lives and thats simply not true. If you empty you need more time ro figure out why. No one can fill your broken pieces. No amount of sex/money will do that.
Has a woman I agree,we wanna know if his genuine
Sometimes you just pass through your youtube home feed looking for a football highlight and then boom you see the title and its something thats relating to your relationship and then end up watching the episode and actually learn... 👏 amazing
Women do the devils work.
Everyone is ever busy but what matters who needs him or her. You can't be busy for some one you love
Great saying. Thanks
Only time a woman will text you first is if she’s looking for you to give her money or if she needs you to pay one of her bill(s)
U ain't lien
Everything this woman is saying is the main reason why so many women are single.
Agreed!
“Only women, children, and dogs are cherished by society. A man is only valued based on what he can provide. It’s amazing how women don’t have to actually better themselves to be valued, pursued, or admired.. it takes blood, sweat and tears to build a man. Always remember Men have to “BECOME”. Women just “ARE”.
Well scripted, well said!
It's fairly easy for me. I only put in the same amount of effort that I am receiving. If I texted the last message, then it is their turn. If the message is short, my message will be short. I consider messaging to be the same as a conversation. My turn, your turn. You made a very fine point at the end, you need to know your friends personality type. I am introverted, but, I have time for those who are my friends. A good rule that I keep in mind is, you must value yourself as much as the other person. No matter how busy a person is, if they truly value you, they will find time for you. As I said, earlier, I put in the same effort that I receive. I think it's only fair. And, I treat messaging as a conversation, when we can't actually talk in person. Just my thoughts. Great video, with a lot of valid points.
The fact that you just went straight to the point is what I love most
If she doesn't reciprocate the energy and i'm ALWAYS texting first. I move on. It's a waste of energy, time and emotions. I prefer to find someone who's willing to put 100% in just as I am.
I learned that lesson the hard way and will follow it from now on.
Same here. Just blocked a girl yesterday coz her mind games and disinterest
THIS. Is a healthy relationship. Don´t play any games with women. We dont need to conquer them we dont live in 1920. A healthy relationship is 50 / 50 effort period.
*Some women prefer a more reserved approach to avoid coming across as desperate. If she’s responsive, it shows there’s still potential, but it’s important not to over-pursue.*
@@ModernDatingMastery this is honestly my reason for not texting first. I honestly have been rejected and dumped that many times and now I used this approach to protect myself.
Sometimes it comes off as desperate move but if you know the person loves you y not
Gentleman. If she never texts you back, or checks back on you then it’s not worth it.
I’ve had bad experiences with relationships in the past too and it’s hard for me to feel confident and give people time sometimes
To put it bluntly guys. If she never texts you first, you are not her 1st option. Anything else is just a bunch of excuses.If you are important enough for her, she will take those 5 minutes from her whole day to text you first. You might be her 2nd, 3rd, 4th or even 5th choice. You are a backup. Or not even that. You need to realize she's not texting only with you but at least a few other men. And you should do the same, text other girls and not get hang up on one girl thinking its "the one". Texting first shows interest. If she never does it, she's NOT interested, you need to accept that and walk away. Don't waste your valuable time in this short life on women, who use you as a filler for their boredrom, ego lift or as emotinal "best friend" tampon.
...and fir gods sake don't be a Simp.
Wonderfully articulated 100%
Facts! Men stop simping!
I agree. I always text first but after a while I realize I've texted first most of the time, I'll stop and give her a week to text first then if she doesn't then it either bye bye or I be short with her.
I'll move on to someone who can treat me equally. I always get the whole blah blah like I'm a bad person. Again like what you said....it's excuses and move on.
Thank you Jessica, this really helps me! For me, in my situation it’s definitely #1 and #2. Time really answers everything but meeting people on social media is NOT reliable.
Probably one of the only respected female youtubers.
The funny part is, after ignoring a dude, then you stop texting her, and she see you with another female, she look surprise and be mad. What I known for sure is, if a woman want you, she would create time.
love the video.. but it saddens me that this is the type of things i have to deal with waddling in the dating pool… i just like honesty and would respect a woman more who doesn’t play mind games.. I’d rather her tell me upfront if she’s not liking me or feeling me and would rather just be cool acquaintances as opposed having me wasted my time trying to build with something that isn’t there and will not be.
Sure
Same tbh
Just love the confidence jessyca has while explaining concepts
Spot on Jessica, you steered me clear of embarrassment and humiliation. Thank you
She doesn't like you 🤣🤣😜😜... Facts!
If a girl likes you, she'll find time to message you.
Facts
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Jess silence is the best medicine.
Chasing on women is the worst thing a man would do
Even the Ego makes them Ignore
Just don't take it personal...if you are a nice guy and did nothing wrong,just move on,it's not your fault...
Find a woman that like's you for you,not for what she can gain from you...
Your English is fluent and clear to understand, and even explanation is quite clear, you are really doing well in helping us, thanks for your kind efforts
hence the reason we should jus focus on ourselves n keep becoming the best version of ourselves focus on your health,money,go to the gym.these women out here arent worth the chase.
I met this girl, we hung out several times, and even hooked up. Everything was going well, we would text almost everyday and all of a sudden she would take more than 5-8 hours to reply back or even days to reply back. I would be the one to initiate the texting from the get go. I started pulling back and have completely stop chasing her. It’s so strange because when we did hang out everything went well we would both have a good time. But, as soon as it comes to connecting through texting she is a completely different person almost uninterested. Anyway, as soon as I started pulling back she would text me back and would say if I was not interested in her that it was okay and that she would stop bothering me. WTF I don’t get her and quite honestly I was tired of playing games so I just stopped engaging with her.
I reckon that was probably the right decision.
Girls do this I have experienced and would never commit they did it. They would put the blame on you instead. They will say that you are cheap or you are making it a issue without any reason or you are over thinking. This is just a shit hole until unless girl is attracted towards the boy. More we dive in, more shit we receive
Good move.. You don't wasted your energy and time for somebody who are not interested with you
Lol. Went through the same thing about 2 weeks ago! I stopped reaching out to her and been in No Contact mode ever since. Her birthday was Monday and she never got that "Happy Birthday" text. I don't plan on pursuing her ever again.
I text once.
No reply after 24 hours?
I delete her number!
It's not rocket science!
Lol, the fragility of the male ego 🤣 😂
Lolll that's immatured
Bingo! An even don't sit around waiting for her response either.
@@RachelLondonyeah he should just keep texting into the void
That will show his self value !
@@RachelLondon imagine a guy didn't text you after 24hrs. How'd you feel?
Me knowing that you are alive and well is enough for me to relax and know she's trying to make the world a better place With all her essence through her work. Thanks you Jessica Everytime. Nice to see you again🌞🧘.Stay safe.🦋
Who created this intelligent woman . Ain't gonna lie jessica you are the best . You're saving and clarifying alots of relationships
I stopped chasing girls and its quite fun to be alone and keeps you mind and heart at ease since you won’t experience rejection or someone losing interest in you ☮️
Relationship nowadays is headache Jesse! The only lady I wanted to settle with is not giving me attention 😡 I've tried for almost three good years now but same stories, the worst part of it all is that I love her naturally and I'm finding it difficult to let her go!
"You only know your lover when you let her GOooOOOo"
thats why she will continue to push you away. you need to let her go. if she misses you. she will holla you.
Same here🤔🤔
Same with me
She knows she got you in her purse already, if she doesn’t find anyone else with more of what she wants she may start giving you attention.
When I feel she isn't interested, she isn't.
I am a woman, if I don't text you back or don't text you at all, it means there is no connection. However if I like you a lot but noticed you stopped chasing or texting as before I will stop texting and guard my heart so I don't get hurt.
I think many women do that.
Well i dont get how they know that theres no connection after i said hi
@@Gigachad-mc5qz I understand, this can be based on positive energy they receive or negative energy. Also physical appearance matters a lot. This also applies for the other way round. If a girl has bad energy you can feel it or if she is not just appealing to you.
Thats quite a selfish thing to do @Miracle Unique. The reason you don't like to text back if you don't like the guy is because you selfishly want the attention and are to scared to say to him you don't feel the same way because he may look elsewhere. So I feel, you seek affirmation from men. And, if you like a man a he always texts you an when he doesn't once you move on. Then your the type of woman men should stay away from.. meaning you thrive on attention frm men, have many options and you don't reciprocate what you get in a relationship (Selfish and self entitlement). Reality check my dear, no man wants this type of woman
All men should know, that never commit to the relationship until u notice the passion of your girlfriend
No one is too busy to text one he or she wants.the person would make the time for the person he wants or she wants.
If she don’t take time to text you first you not the only one she has, and take note the only time she might text you first is either she wanted to make a request, no matter what you do you won’t still get the attention you needed.
I’ve done this, not because I want to necessarily be chased but because if you make my position in your life confusing or unclear I don’t feel the need to give my all.
Oh and I’m an introvert
@@ThePreciousRoyalty your eyes almost look like Scorpios
@@lL-js2hg but im a Taurus
@@lL-js2hg the eyes you see are contacts. Also seriously bro? Eyes make people look like a sign from the universe?
Why lead him on. Just…never mind. Fellas, get your passports
I used to text him first and got tired of being the first one to always make contact first just to be ghosted by him, I have better things to do than chase him. There's actually people that like me enough to text me back.
True used to do the same now I stopped & he's complaining
I am evaluating your wisdom, you are both highly intelligent and thoughtful. No sentence is being contradictory, no concept is an actual fluke. Hence the reason of why, you have won my subscription lady.
Appreciate the sub. Truly.
@@JessicaOS keep spreading your enlightment to the world, but do it softly girl; like to walking on a cloud. The same message will be both received and perceived better.
I was initially a little unsure if Jessica's observations would be applicable for American women. Her insights are really good and it seems like guys from all cultures and countries are pretty much dealing with the same issues. I love this channel
Best way to deal with that issue. Don’t care pay her no attention. Investing to much time into something that doesn’t Matter.
You don’t matter to her. If you were a priority in her life, she would reach out to you.
If you REALLY had something going, you’d be important to her. If she’s not reaching out, you don’t matter in her life.
If she is interested, she will make time to send a message. Dont waste your time chasing someone who doesn't want to be chased move on and stop boosting her ego!
Exactly
I luv this one.. right here, you covered all the mental that I go thru with every conversation with every woman, i listen close to her wording and then I go thru your same 12 step rule... this is priceless for anyone that pays attention to what comes out of a woman's mouth...
Thank you for the topic Sister Jessica such circumstances do occur and tend to be emotionally constraining and being a waste of time. The advice I would then give to my brothers is never waste time chasing her if the process is one sided, cause what you're doing you're simply relinquishing your voice, power and dignity to her an act you will hate going forward. So be cool work on yourself untill you get that lady who will put effort to reciprocate to the energy you give. Thank you....
this lady is an alpha female. Her confidence, hair, voice tone and accent are epic. To the future generations, dont let these videos die
Nah!
No woman is busy for a man who she loves
Long distance relationships sucks. Takes a lot of patience and trust and it's not even close to being easy.
my goodness, what a beautiful voice and accent!!!! respect and admiration from Brazil
One thing I like about this channel, ur title defines the contents
Personally, after a few attempts at texting a girl first and she never texts me first, I automatically lose interest in her. What I've learned so far is that when a woman really likes you, she will not play any games with you, she won't be too busy to text you first, and she will do it without any hesitation. I'm currently dating someone who does text first and I do the same thing for her. It's so refreshing. Hopefully it stays that way.
Sum it up shes playing with you just focus on yourself attract don’t chase
I simply cut off women who do that. Winning a woman's heart is thee most useless endeavor a man can undertake. If a woman doesn't want to be with you just accept it and move on. If your actions and efforts are the only ones keeping the relationship alive I suggest you deaden the entire thing because no one can keep that up long term. A relationship needs two people to sustain if you the only one calling, visiting or making an effort to build then you should reshuffle your priorities.
Facts.
“ Be Yourself Everybody else is taken “
Girl..Ur voice is so confident
It’s a red flag to move on period. Seek a partner with a high probability of long term success. Meaning a woman who really is in to you big time. You can’t connect unless she wants to take the time to explore who you are.
If she can't text me even a single day, that's a clear indication that she is not interested in me
If she was interested she most definitely would be texting first
Am always tuned and glued to this channel coz it always give me good times to keep my relationships moving smooth
Great video! The woman I am dating now is exactly this. She very rarely texts first. When together we are super intimate. Her work hours are crazy busy but when always I mention to meet her she will reschedule her hours of work to meet.
If there is intimacy when together and if she replies even if she don't reply first, then relax and go with the flow :)
You are blessed my guy if she reschedules her hours just for you that’s means she really likes you where in my situation I was ghosted. But she always responds but I never brought up a second date because I feel like she would just run me off.
Whenever she's too busy then she is stringing u along fellas
I am a soldier and I've killed over 165 people throughout my career. I am from Chad and I have been fighting boko-haram since 2015.
All sumarizes in 2 words, “ burning desire”. Believe me. Recently widowed and back to the dating arena. Already dated around 15-20 girls. When she is interested you will not need this video. Its basically effortless regarding texting or setting up a simple date. Responses will be on time for the most part. Just be yourself, that its way she choosed you
If she knows that you have a lot of money you will see how fast she test you first everyday
There you go. My cousin just broke up with his girl. He text her and she was going with someone else while he was texting her.
Lol women and money so predictable 😂
Profound analysis, specially the point that "She might not like you"
Thanks so much for the education. Was struggling to know why she was like that.
If you have to ask yourself whether she likes you or not. She doesnt. Shes likely using you. When a girl really likes you, shell find a way to make sure you know. Anything less is a finesse. Dont get finesse'd, boys.
Lol i thought that way too until i realized its a lie
@@JustMalcolm914 sure, bud. That's why every dude has 100 chicks in his Dm's right now. All these guys out here complaining that they have WAY TOO MANY women hitting them up. Lmao, you live in delusion. You ever hear a girl be shy about telling people how much she's into drake? Or, you think she's play hard to get with him? Hahahaha
@@peterharrell7305i hope you learn to heal. Its heartbreaking to see someone so hurt😢
This should be called 12 reasons why she is not that into you. Is she never texts first she isn't that into you. No excuses, men keep it pushing.
Personally I like to spend most of my time by myself, I love been alone. Family and friends tend to not understand that, which I understand but sometimes I feel like when I'm not alone I will miss out on things I can discover when I'm alone. Idk if anyone else relates tho🤔
Hahaha! I can so relate
I can relate lol
I fit in there...
Introverted people are always alone and happy. Trust me I understand.
It's all good to want to spend time by your self, I enjoy my own company but in a relationship you can't do what you feel like when you feel like it's not only about you...a beautiful woman told me those words if you want to discover yourself don't be in a relationship be in a relationship after you discover who you are and where you want to be she said this is how I makes her feel...
I'm home alone again
and you're out with yourself
So you say
Somehow I know it's
Not quite that way it's getting pretty late and you haven't checked on me all day
When I called you didn't answer
Now I feel like you're ignoring me
I wish. I could go back
to the day before we met
and skip my regret
Why you wanna hurt me so bad?
I believe in you that's why
I'm so mad
Now I'm drowning in disappointment
and it's hard for me to even look at you
You said you care about me but
from what I see
I ain't feeling all that so I disagree
gave you all my love and understanding
yet you treat me like the enemy so leave me alone...
Don't want nothing from ya
Just go back where you came from..
This house is no longer your HOME...
and with that it was over...
spending time with yourself is fine but always keep the lines of communication open...call...and return calls in a timely manner or...you will be alone...
I wish I seen your channel a lot early, your truly helping me move forward. Thank you!!
This session has been fun n satisfying for me. U have answered almost all Questions i hv always bn asking My inner self. Thx
To all the fellow guys This Is why you focus on yourself, if she wanted to speak she'd make time no if ands or buts
Keep the purpose the main thing and everything else will fall in place
I don't care how busy a woman get if she like you she going to reach out
Yea ooo bro,because we also have something to do,yet we find time always to reach out to them 👽😺
No cap bro
True. Phone are women’s priority, believe me, they always see your text messages. She’s not into you if she never reach you back
@@miguell9421 Right!!
Moral of the story is that dating is a stressful, shady guessing game.
Yep because what works with one girl might not work on the other just be you n you’ll attract who’s attracted to you
Jessica you too great I’m overwhelmed. Ghana 🇬🇭 is blessed . Wow 🤩
Everything you said, makes alot of sense why this girl never takes me first and thanks for educating us 👍👍💯
Focus on yourself king 👑
I like your videos. The first question is why she gave me her number in the first place if she has to sometime forget to reply my messages? It's very simple. She doesn't want a Man. If she doesn't have time or she is busy with a schedule then, there is a chance she won't have time if you get together. Successful men don't have all the time in the word to chase a lady who is not available. When a woman wants something, she will do everything to get your attention and keep you coming toward her. That's a gift women have. Play hard to get is one thing . But trying too hard to get by sometime ignoring my messages and expecting me to keep begging for a conversation is totally unthinkable from the point of Vue of a level headed guy. There are too many girls out there. Only men with no balls do that.
She’s never too busy. It takes only a few seconds to ask “how are you?” or “have a good day!”.
You just don’t matter to her. She does not care about you. She isn’t interested. Just move on.
I'm really thankful if a girl just ghost me, so that I know straight up she's not interested. I can't really tell how she feels if she just so passive with the texting
JESSICA IS GENIUS, this is what am going through now!!!!
no. 11: She may not like you. please don't forget this no. prioritize your mental health and move brother. the ones that don't like you can create a tunnel vision on you.
Shud be no1
Do not chase such women....they r confuse, uncertain, unclear....if she likes she will make it easy....cut her off completely....ghost her after 2-3 months...take revenge so that u will feel better& she learn a lesson & will never waste time of men....
I agree with you
Exactly kumar
Sahi babu Kumar..
This is murder
For me it is quite easy. If i am the one always starting the text message or never getting an answer back, i just regard it as: “i am not into you”. I delete her and move on.
@Sociopath The Serial Killer I agree. You have a valid point, but i guess by meeting other women you gradually erase her from your mind. But deleting her, you are not putting her on a pedestal. THATS THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO!!!!
Thanks for sharing your input on this subject and thanks for not charging us.
You are just too intelligent Jessica, how do you even know all these wisdoms 😊
It always boils down to interest. If she's interested in you, she will text you first at some point. I was lucky with my wife. She never played these dumb games.
Sml
Just when she needs a favor, i don't even bother to respond
As a man: This happens to me all the time & this is why I prefer face to face conversations over texting. It also feels more natural to be honest.
I agree, my texting game is boring. I'm better in person.
If she for you she will make effort but it works both ways … It’s all about how you pick them
Hours ago i was searching for this answers.. like why am I the only one that Tex first. But i finally got the reasons now .. just wanna say Thank you Jessica 🙏🏾
She doesn't text first because she's not interested in you and has her eyes on someone else so don't waste your time and money on her.
Not all women are like that David..I have this man right now in my life that I am so interested in to be my husband..I always have a crush on him since I was a teenager..I still feels the same about him..He's a older man for me, but he's not showing me absolutely no interest
David Smith you're absolutely correct.
not the message I deserved, but the message I needed .
@@1963luv The NOT ALL are the most dangerous ones of all i cant trust such a statement of Not ALL
@@iandiru6433 what's your point?
"Not all"
You should not have to constantly ask her multiple times to hang out. If you ask 2 or more times and she blows you off. Do yourself a favour and stop chasing or pursuing ❤
It's simple, she doesn't like you. Move on
😅😅😅😅
Lol i love the point " she may not like u" 😂😂 so bluntly said
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I enjoyed the voice over part. Reminded me of a similar experience I had and the damage control I had to do. It turned out that the client loved it.😄