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"Why it's ok Nobody can escape catastrophy" ? Warum es in Ordnung ist, dass niemand vor Katastrophen gefeit ist / niemand Katastrophen entkommen kann. would be better then...
I watched this four years ago. As a well-respected professional who has an active physical and social life, I pondered how unpredictable life is and, at the same time, am grateful for what I have now. Two years later, I was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, and life has flipped upside down. It is incredible how accurate the video is, and learning to take it one baby step at a time, forcing myself to be still grateful as I was. Each of us is fighting our own battle no matter how big or small. But life is never simple, and always will move forward.
Halfway through this video I was already feeling better about life. There's just something immensely consoling about hearing the truth like this. Thank you!
You know what is the saddest part about watching your videos and committing to learn and apply these principles? I feel very alone. People around me are not living life as deliberately and passionately, and it’s gotten more difficult for me to connect with them on a philosophical and spiritual level. If you happen to stumble upon this comment, please consider creating a video or a discussion to help alleviate this issue of mine. Cheers and thank you!
Hey Paul! I might as well tell you my thoughts and ideas of this topic. I too am surrounded by friends who take everything for granted and don't live life like everyday is a gift. I have a lot of pessimistic friends as well, but with this being said, you can always openly talk about your ideas with them and if that doesn't help, realize that it doesn't matter. You're living your best life. You were born into this world as an independent minded being and you will go like that too. So treat yourself well and love everyday given to you. I stay happy because I know I'm lucky for many things in my life even if I'm poor and don't have much. Your mind is your world. Reality is based on what you believe and the same goes for emotions and feelings. Be happy that you can recognize this gift of life, and try to influence others. People won't always change and sometimes you have to change the people you want around you. Youre in control, always remember that! Cheers !
@@zachstaples Zachary, appreciate your input! I didn't get a notif for your comment, but I am very stoked to see someone else share the same sentiment. I live in praise of a quiet, busy life and I can't get to influence others, esp my family, with the example of what I do or think on the daily basis. Not a lot of people I know appreciate, let alone practice, introspection, and their engagement in this thing called life is sort of fragmented and inconsistent based on what comes up in the day. That said, I concur that life is a gift for my own and I am in full control of it. Hopefully I can get to connect with someone on such an emotional/passionate level. Cheers and hope life is treating you well.
So simple and so to the point. People have expectations. Life is great in the "worst" way, you want to have expectations because you want to be like others, here you go and suffer. You have a life not an ego-boosting time lapse.
Wrong these cathostrophe dont just happen ,there is a. Specific reason behind them so stop bitching .i keep my expectations always high and live my like that . i live fast to die slow .
it is a pretty package, a lot of work has been put into making it so. Though the message is normal and obvious, its nothing profound here, its just life..
Calamities can also give you perspective. I had a severe, horrific calamity happen to me a few years ago that I thought might destroy me, but after an extremely difficult period, I finally came out of it much stronger and wiser. Then a couple of months ago I had another “calamity” that most people would consider pretty bad, but because of what happened a few years ago, I wasn’t nearly as upset as I would have been otherwise. I thought, “I’ve been through MUCH worse and I survived. I will get through this too.” And I did.
I think it’s more that every message they send is universally applicable to us all, all the time, so there never could be a wrong time to receive these bits of wisdom.
I'm sorry to reply to your comment 5 years later.. but I think helping people become better adjusted for this chaos is probably one of the most net positive things I can think of.
Im in a situation where the outcome might either work or ruin my life. I'm watching this so I can prepare myself. I know I've suffered worse but im just so tired of everything
I was the luckiest man on earth - until I wasn’t. I’m crippled in essentially every way. Despite the inescapable, chronic pains, and the injustice and isolation, I am calmer and happier than ever.
This is so relatable. My life was going as per script for the most part and I had some minor problems here and there (overcoming them at the time looked major victories). Then one day suddenly the most loved and cherished person of my life, my father, got sick and died a month later! It brought my world crashing down and I finally realized what 'real' problems are and what suffering is! So, yes, things do go horribly wrong, but understanding of this truth makes us appreciate life more when things are going well and also perhaps prepare us for eventual off script events!
The problem is that we have illness, accidents and injuries happen all the time, but decide to label them as being catastrophic when those things lead to death... even though in reality that is where all paths ultimately lead... look a cute puppy 🐶!
A painful life event doesn’t need to lead to death to be catastrophic. Furthermore “catastrophic” isn’t an arbitrary label: there are events in most (all?) people’s lives that are objectively awful, that are understandably & devastatingly painful, that undermine their stability, that irrevocably alter their lives for the worse, and that leave deep scars or burdens that must be borne in one way or another for the decades of their lives that remain until death.
Ashamed to admit that at 33 years old, I’m only just learning my “life script” was naive at best. This video helps me understand why I’m drawn to darker art at times - it’s the universal truths I’ve been repressing, that the toxic positivity of our culture hasn’t encouraged us to explore or prepare for. Thank you for making this. Kudos to the animator.
No shame at all my friend. Most people usually don’t enter true adulthood until their 30’s or a little before. For men especially, we tend to be man-children until our late 20’s, early 30’s. Then either parenthood or some sort of “close call” wakes us up and makes us realize that we are not guaranteed to be here forever.
Aaaand that's why I live with anxiety every day... My brain is really thinking about the worst case scenarios many times. My biggest fears are: that someone I care about dies; that I accidentally hurt or kill another person by my professional mistakes or driving; that I don't have money anymore and that I will become ill or crazy so I can't work. There it is.
Hello Andrea, I am very sorry to hear that. But meditation really, really helps in that case. I used to wake up every morning with all sorts of anxieties and fears. I meditate every day and I feel better now. I have posted a comment under this video. I copy paste here the part about meditation. Sorry it is a bit long. But just take a look if you wish: 1. MEDITATION I have mentioned this in many comments. But here I will repeat myself. You can start meditating today! You only need to take two steps: -First you can watch this lecture by Yale University where an excellent teacher gives you a very helpful overview in only 20 minutes. To find the lecture search for this on youtube: " Yale Courses, Mindfulness, Human Emotion" - The professor on that lecture recommends these guided meditation podcasts that I am using since 5 years now and they helped me enormously. To find them search in Itunes for: " UCLA Hammer Meditation": So the second step would be to sit down and do what the teacher says in this episode: " Using meditation anchor" You can use the same episode everyday, but you can also download other episodes , like: Back to Basics Deepen your concentration Working with thinking Working with pain Working with obsessive thoughts etc. etc.. Those guided meditation podcasts basically offer you all sorts of tools to deal with all sorts of sorrow, pain and trouble. Just download one of these and start now! The only thing you have to know is this: Your mind will wander over and over again. It is NORMAL. The purpose is NOT " stopping your thoughts". You will be lost in thoughts most of the time. But what matters is, when you see that you were lost, turning back to your breath over and over again, without getting angry at yourself. The moment you realise that you were lost in thoughts is a moment of mindfulness and that's what strengthens the neuronal connections. The more you practise, the more of those moments you will have. "
+Gesink68 +Andreea Good morning! I forgot to tell you one more thing: you probably think that you are having those thoughts because you have a dark side or even because you are a bad person. But turns out that it is the opposite. People who care the most are those who suffer from those thoughts the most. If you wish, you should listen to this podcast episode. They give very good examples, like this guy who is afraid of killing his wife, even though he loves her a lot. Then they talk with psychologists too. Very interesting and enlightening: www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/375927143/the-secret-history-of-thoughts . Best wishes:- )
Stay in the present moment and less in the future. My anxiety is high as well and as a reminder to myself, I tell myself what I'm doing and engage in the activity whole heartedly. Such as: I'm washing the dishes. The plate feels heavy in my hand, the water feels warm on my skin. As for people, we have no control on their lives if they die or not. We need to let them go so they can be free to live their path and us to our own. Worrying is praying for things you don't want. Hope this helps.
This is so true. Thank you for posting this video. I once had such a limited worldview and rigid way of doing things and expecting things, it wasn't until my life when horribly off-script I truly lived, and had a chance to truly discover myself. I had once left high school doing nothing but maths and science subjects, but due to a bout of low mental health I was put onto a new path of artistic exploration, into the fields of stand up comedy, acting, drawing, writing, and even stripping. I now am studying film and television and after some initial instability I have stabilised into a new life balance and am appreciating how each and every day makes sense, and I feel supported in my current place in the world. Whereas before I felt like I was treading on water. One day, as I'm sure, I will be treading water again and feeling lost, but for now, I'm just glad I have a reprieve in the midst of beauty.
The first time I litteraly laughed out loud at one of these videos. At the start, when the plan of our life was explained I reflected on the most horrible events of my life, and could only laugh at our collective naivity. Great video!
Definitely agree, something bad will happen at some point in our lives, but always being prepared and looking out of when this will happen can ruin a lot of amazing moments we could enjoy in. Living one day at the time and not trying to avoid every situation that might bring us suffering is crucial to a fulfilling life. And when the catastrophe does hit, we have amazing memories to look back on that will maybe offer us at least a little bit of consolation.
I like this. As someone who suffered considerable catastrophe and darkness early in life, I'm all set with "planning" for the next one..having said that, this video wasn't meant for me.blablabla. I think it's also worth pointing out that a significant number of people have relatively crisis-free lives, and good for them! this video was a bit pessimistic, imho.
It's always been a blessing. Every moment of our life is an opportunity to create different avenues of reality. I no longer afraid or concerned of what tomorrow's events might bring. All I know is in this moment, in the NOW, I do what I could possibly do to bring the best in me, to enjoy this moment no matter what the circumstance is.There are times when I might be bored or tired in the now, however I appreciate it. I ask myself constantly, how is this thought serving me? what can I learn from this? I watch and observe my thoughts and in the process I am loving myself even more.
For me, this is your best video so far. Thanks for this. "Life is what happens to us while we're busy making other plans." - John Lennon (paraphrased to make it personal.)
If life were possessed of any positive intrinsic value, there would be no such thing as boredom at all: mere existence would satisfy us in itself, and we should want for nothing. Life has no genuine intrinsic positive value, but is kept in motion merely by want and illusion. As soon as this comes to a standstill, the utter barrenness and emptiness of existence becomes apparent. ― Arthur Schopenhauer, The Vanity of Existence
'... Those quiet days in which nothing much has yet gone very wrong ... " It's hard, living in the trenches, waiting for the next shoe to drop. It's been that way since my mother and sister died ten days apart, 7 years ago. It blew my life apart, and nothing has ever been the same.
I must say that this video came just in time. Expecting everything to go as planned, started making me anxious. I started blaming myself for everything that happens to me. It got hard to swallow the fact that in life not everything is under control. That I will be facing daily battle to surrvive. That no matter how much I grow or gain experience there will always be moments when I feel humiliated or embarrased. I fear never having enough courage to face it all again and again. I get scared of bring noticed as a weak person or someone who can not handle anything. Thank you for the video! Your channel is always one of my favourites ♡
Hey, your admission is very inspiring to me. I started blaming myself for my past relationship, but there is nothing I can do anymore. I felt she was the one who got away. Do you have any advice for me to get through this?
"Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm." Ephesians 6:13 ESV This lines up with what I read in the Word of God. Thank you for posting your own sobering reminder.
What beautiful animation! Fit this video very well. I love the fact that you guys don't stick to a specific style of animation, but give different artists opportunity to show their work. We are all to gain. I find that this channel sticks to what it preaches, it's great to see. Again, really beautiful animation on this one.
Ive been going through a lot lately and ive been on youtube trying to gather all the wisdom and knowledge that wasn’t available to me at youth. Yea it sucks when you are only 22 and your life is in shambles but, i feel alive. At the end of the day when im in bed I realized that throughout the day I realized that im the only one that can bear the burdens reality has burdened me with. Thank you for so many wonderful lessons
My life indeed went wrong. Difficult youth. A screwed up love life. No contact with family. More depressions than friends. Loneliness. But then I had enough of working for depts. So I stopped working. I went in retreat. A year later I got homeless. I went to travel to France on a bike. Slept in a tent in the freezing winter. But it was the most liberating thing ever because I prepared. Went back to my own country. Remained homeless for a year and 3 months. I got help with my depts. Now I've found a new place, with a garden where I can grow old and actually start a family. I've been living here for almost 2 years and I've never been happier. The meaning of this story is, before it gets better, it gets worse. You have to go through it.
I couldn't handle,.. I totally lost it. I suffer with depression, and it's destroyed my mental and physical health. There is nothing I can do about it. 😢
yep, got diagnosed with an auto immune disease last summer. sucked for the first months, but it really taught me how to be more grateful for what i have right now, and not for i might (never) get in life.
You know what you did? You shook us with this presentation of yours. We all somehow aware of life is not going to go straight and all, but this is just awesome.
4 months+ in AA now! I've made I through and keep at it! Glad I found this video at the right time to keep me going! It's all normal and part of a great story.
Yes. We live. We learn. We develop. We thrive. Then we die. However what happens in between such events is what makes your character and expresses what your life was like. Such a great video and well explained here
This was an amazing video. The hope is that a parent or some mentor will teach you these words of wisdom but no one ever will in such an clear and beautifully visual format that you will always remember. Without exception, bad events, to an extreme level or a moderate degree, will definitely happen to all us. The question is how we 1. Frame the event? Are we devastated, angry, just give up at the outset or do we obtain the optimism/confidence that you will resolve the issue. 2. How do we handle the event? Do we take the necessary actions each day to recover and correct the situation? 3. Remember the event? Are we psychologically damaged or do we learn from the event to become wiser and better?
As I reach 60... I admit that you are painfully correct... I am grateful for this general relativity of human experience... enjoy your travels through time, when you can... it's going to be alright...
I cried at the end of this, what a heart-rending little video and lesson. Kudos to the artist who created the visuals for this one, absolutely beautiful.
Love These Kinds Of Videos. We Can Often Get So Wrapped Up In Life That We Can Start Losing That Foresight To Anticipate And Prepare For Our Possibly Imminent Coming Big Failures, Even If It's Something As Small As Prepping For The Rainy Day That You Heard Was Coming Tomorrow 🌧 Preparation Is Very Key! Love These Videos And I LOVE This Community. If We Were The Majority Of Humans And Not The Minority, We'd Grow Up In Much Better And Much More Emotionally-Balanced And Beneficial Times And Places 💚
Love the video. I would like to see one on having inappropriate emotional reactions to major life events (eg. not crying or feeling sad at all even when someone close to you dies). Thank you!
True! My mum just received a cancer diagnosis. The last few years I tried to prepare myself for an event I knew would come my way in one way or another. Still, there is only so much one can do to prepare oneself for such an event. What I try to do is to feel my emotions and reach out for help when I feel overwhelmed. That seems to help. I also try to enjoy the time we have - because no matter the outcome and one point our paths will part - at least in the way we know them now - which obviously is true for all of our relations. Someone recently told me that they say each night to their loved ones: Thank you for being on loan to me for one more day. I like that. :)
Thankyou... when everything around looks perfect in social media, nobody is ready to admit that they are even little bit out if script. They are adamanent to show they are in perfect scripts. It feels lonely to be in a normal script and not in a perfect one. Thankyou for reminding me its normal 😊
This is so important. Thank you very much. I've long harbored in my mind the thought that education should first and foremost be oriented by catastrophe. Not in the sense that we should be scared for doomsday all the time (as most religions or autocratic regimes or paternalistic parents might force us to for different reasons) but in order to be prepared in mind and heart to be resilient enough in the face of catastrophe. Some people are born more resilient than others but even more so should it be the task of good parents (grandparents, teachers, etc.) then to make people more apt in dealing with such events. Small deaths or grand deaths. To let them become grounded, authentic beings who can withstand a catastrophe by having learned the path (back) to love and forgiveness. Love and forgiveness for who- or whatever caused the catastrophe. A personal flaw, another human being or "fate" (that is, life or the world at large). For only then can we grow and move on and find new love and forgiveness... acceptance, ourselves. Education not for the purpose of molding young people into the ideals of their parents; nor to make them the best beast in the brutal battles of our societal sphere (markets, politics, relationships); but to make them a grounded human being with an own will and a sense of purpose and belonging, the two core ingredients in resilience.
The thought put into these videos is outstanding. The expectation of disaster in life reduces anxiety as long as it’s balanced an enduring optimism of the will or specifically to quote Antonio Gransci “I’m a pessimist because of intelligence, but an optimist because of will.”😊
Perfectly normal. Try to understand your fears. Ask the question "why" over and over and over again. There is always another and another answer behind. You need to be ready to answer yourself with deeper and purer truths for your world for that to work though.
Thanks for posting. I'm sure there are people whose life works out perfectly, but they would be an extreme small percentage. Yes my life has gone horribly wrong, but I was never told that the pre-planned narrative would go awry, and I'm old. I don't see relief coming until I carry out self deliverance, which will hopefully be quick, and painless. ⚰️
Please seek help, Bobby. Nobody knows what the future holds. Personally, I delight in even the so called simplest things. To be a witness of nature I find is a priceless position. I don't compete with or abide by other people's measures of success for fear of ending up like them.
I'm in this same situation. I'm old, lost everything and everybody.... then my job I loved. .. I made a foolish mistake. So now I feel so guilty and upset,... I lost it. I went down with depression. I just suffer. Don't know when, but this is unbearable 😫
I’ve found that many people in our society will abandon you once something catastrophic has happened. People are so allergic to even mild feelings of discomfort created by any significant ‘shadow,’ that the majority of ‘friends’ i had before are now nowhere to be found. But who is still here, is the people i already knew were my true family. And for that i am grateful.
I've known this for a very long time and it's the root of my anxiety. If my life is relatively stable I'm in a constant state of awaiting a catastrophe. I contemplate whether I should make plans if I might die unexpectedly in a month. But most of all I'm afraid of my own body. It can turn against you in the blink of an eye. Truth is it's no way to live.
Very few come to this realization, and even fewer fold early just to not give true tragedy a chance to happen. There's nothing about life that's made of "party material". Every part of our biology we try to sap ecstasy from, can also cause an inconceivable agony. And we are just an expendable vessels created by DNA, inside a universe that has no concern for our protection and is going to take us out... there is no truth that supersedes this. Some of us can feel the truth of catastrophe creeping every day. But the only mission of this idiotic species is to get away from this prime truth for awhile... sports, politics, "education"... the whole thing is nothing but irrelevant drama and trivia. Stitched together, trying not to look the prime truth in the eye. The human condition is kind of like a little psychological game of peek-a-boo little primates are playing with the universe: not realizing this universe is something that should never be played with
@hark - "But most of all I'm afraid of my own body. It can turn against you in the blink of an eye." - I can relate. you feel helpless against your body. wanting to control something beyond your control causes anxiety and feeling of helplessness. more thought has to be given as to why we feel such a strong urge to control everything. in my case i felt it was to protect my mind from experiencing "emotional pain" - like feeling helpless. simple things like over plannig a trip is my way to avoid emotional pain of frustrations and delays. but you have so little control over anything really. So, i figure it would be a better solution to strengthen my mind to handle inevitable pain than to frantically plan and control things around me to make my life "pain proof" so to say. one way to do it is to make yourself bear with the pain. dont rush to comfort yourself. be aware that we will die one day in a way we dont prefer, at a time we are unprepared - and live with that fact, be okay with it , live inspite of it.
@@persianpoison thank you for your reply!! i'm exactly the same way. i always over plan and make sure i'm prepared as well. i feel like we can control the "little speed bumps", but we have no control over the big disastrous events. if we are going somewhere with friends and family, the place might get bombed or shot up, there might be an accident on the way there, someone might have a stroke... the only comfort is that it happens to us all regardless of class or race. i like your name btw, i'm persian too!
@@ololusername - Thank you ! but i am not persian :) Its just a name i picked up because i liked the ring of it :D Understanding our problem is one thing and implementing a solution is another. like in your example, you should not feel "responsible" for averting a disaster because it is truely out of your hands. but the anxiety stems from a feeling that somehow you need to "do something about it". In my case i am at a stage where i undrstand my wrong behaviour/thought patterns but i am not yet very successful at avoiding them. something like worrying if i will get some terminal disease. checking symptoms on google. i understand the futility of it but i feel the compulsive need to "find out the answer". and there is never a definitive answer out there. so i am working on curbing the urges and living with "not knowing for sure". not there yet, but hope to be some point in future. Wishing you all the best on your path of life as well :) Dont let your mind bully you and take you life hostage. thoughts are just thoughts, not facts.
@@carpettwizzler9432 While I can see your point I think it’s sad to live thinking like that. I think we should try our best to add meaning to life because your already alive, might as well use the time to experience great things.
I learned, as I stumbled through life, that moments would come when life was so frightening and perilous that It felt like I had to physically reach into my body and pull out whatever it was going to take to get through. The upshot was that I learned in those moments that there was something there to pull out, and every such event became easier and easier to bear. Maybe that is what we call wisdom. I might add that with each event I remembered my parents with greater kindness.
For real. There are times I sit and be content with the loss of someone or somethings, so that I'm prepared. And when I still have them, I feel so grateful, but I'm still prepared. However, I don't doing it for everything - like planning my days and home life, etc, out of fear, but I want to do that, prepare for the worst and the best of/for all times. I have the mental capacity to now that modern times are easier.
This is surely wise advice, and even if life seems all going to plan, nobody has invented a pill against death yet. However, I have met quite a few people with the opposite preoccupation: That everything must go wrong, and often it actually will, just as a result of their expectation.
This video is a perfect summation of the bits and pieces I've begun to unravel myself over the last year. I kind of broached a dark place for the first time in my life back then. Looking back, I realize it was a childish reaction to things not going exactly the way I had planned. I busted my ass and delivered value at work - why wasn't I promoted? Why did my loving Mom turn into an angry bitter recluse?.... Woe is me! I found acceptance in the fact that at the core of life is suffering. And true contentment in life comes from acknowledging and accepting that suffering. I welcome whatever mood greets me for the day, and I love exploring those thoughts while they're with me. Essentially, I accept more, and I care less. And I've never been happier as an adult!
This is all on point but I feel like I had all that shit happen before I was 7 years old. It hasn’t been easy to look at it as a blessing the way you seem to indicate.
Until ten years ago, when the phone rang at odd hours my first reaction was excitement and expectation. Now at fifty something, I've come to dread those unexpected calls since it usually means bad news: accidents, sickness and death. I know it's normal and one day, they'll make that phone call for me. Until then, happiness can be simply eating cold leftovers and looking out the window... Food and shelter.
I wish I had seen this 20 years ago ...before my life and family completely fell apart because my mother fell ill with incurable debilitating schizophrenia, psychosis, paranoia. She has not been able to live a normal life but is living in a psychiatric ward completely under the spell of her hallucinations. This also had huge and hard financial implications and broke our family. I felt like I had no solid ground under my feet for a long time. These 20 years have been very hard to whitness. I was not aware that life could have these disastrous surprises in store. I thought I was the only person on earth that had these hard things happen. I felt ashamed for this thing. I was angry that it had happened to ME. I had ......without knowing it.......totally believed in the ABSURD fairy tale that the video depicted. Looking back I feel really stupid. I knew nothing about life and had to learn the hard way. One thing is for sure......I learned to appreciate the small things even more than I did before......but I am also left with a constant expectation that the NEXT big hit from life is only a second away. I expect other horrible things to happen to me........and that made me very fearful negative pessimistic and I lost my joy. It is hard work to get trust in life, joy and serenity back.....but I am working on it.
I haven't been able to recover from personal tragedy. I got SO stressed, caused anxiety and insomnia..... which made decision making impossible!,.. I lost everything,..including my career job I loved. It devastated me. Now I have depression . Im unable to leave the apt,.. and my mental and physical health are declining. 😫
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Amazing !!! 👍
The video alone was a work of art.
Simply beautiful.
School of Life like a little ray of sunshine on a gloomy day ❤
The School of Life play this one in schools, kids need this.
Unfortunately I can't see the original title any more, only the translation. Please text me the original title here...
"Why it's ok Nobody can escape catastrophy" ? Warum es in Ordnung ist, dass niemand vor Katastrophen gefeit ist / niemand Katastrophen entkommen kann. would be better then...
Applaud the animator to help the visual aspect of these idea!
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(Compliance AND my resume)
It's the same style they used for "The 7 Sins God Hates' video. Just a BTW.
I watched this four years ago. As a well-respected professional who has an active physical and social life, I pondered how unpredictable life is and, at the same time, am grateful for what I have now. Two years later, I was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, and life has flipped upside down. It is incredible how accurate the video is, and learning to take it one baby step at a time, forcing myself to be still grateful as I was. Each of us is fighting our own battle no matter how big or small. But life is never simple, and always will move forward.
I wish you will get better! Dont lose hope!♥️
Wish you a quick recovery!
I wish you a speedy recovery
Courage to you and your strength, fighting this terrible disease. You will get through, chin up ❤️
Sending you love… you are not alone
Halfway through this video I was already feeling better about life. There's just something immensely consoling about hearing the truth like this. Thank you!
You know what is the saddest part about watching your videos and committing to learn and apply these principles? I feel very alone. People around me are not living life as deliberately and passionately, and it’s gotten more difficult for me to connect with them on a philosophical and spiritual level. If you happen to stumble upon this comment, please consider creating a video or a discussion to help alleviate this issue of mine. Cheers and thank you!
Hey Paul! I might as well tell you my thoughts and ideas of this topic. I too am surrounded by friends who take everything for granted and don't live life like everyday is a gift. I have a lot of pessimistic friends as well, but with this being said, you can always openly talk about your ideas with them and if that doesn't help, realize that it doesn't matter. You're living your best life. You were born into this world as an independent minded being and you will go like that too. So treat yourself well and love everyday given to you. I stay happy because I know I'm lucky for many things in my life even if I'm poor and don't have much. Your mind is your world. Reality is based on what you believe and the same goes for emotions and feelings. Be happy that you can recognize this gift of life, and try to influence others. People won't always change and sometimes you have to change the people you want around you. Youre in control, always remember that! Cheers !
Just want to let you know that the SoL has an app where you can meet fellow like-minded individuals. It’s fun!
@@zachstaples Zachary, appreciate your input! I didn't get a notif for your comment, but I am very stoked to see someone else share the same sentiment. I live in praise of a quiet, busy life and I can't get to influence others, esp my family, with the example of what I do or think on the daily basis. Not a lot of people I know appreciate, let alone practice, introspection, and their engagement in this thing called life is sort of fragmented and inconsistent based on what comes up in the day. That said, I concur that life is a gift for my own and I am in full control of it. Hopefully I can get to connect with someone on such an emotional/passionate level. Cheers and hope life is treating you well.
@@avery-brown Good stuff - thanks for letting me know!
@@zachstaples This comment has made my day. Thanks a lot mate ❤
Chuck Palahniuk - 'What makes earth feel like hell is our expectation that it should feel like heaven.'
Just the right quote, thank you
So simple and so to the point. People have expectations. Life is great in the "worst" way, you want to have expectations because you want to be like others, here you go and suffer. You have a life not an ego-boosting time lapse.
An unrealistic, contra-indicated expectation, to boot.
Maybe that's my problem, I have high expectations for the way i feel life should be..
Wrong these cathostrophe dont just happen ,there is a. Specific reason behind them so stop bitching .i keep my expectations always high and live my like that . i live fast to die slow .
My lord, this is beautiful. It should be mandatory for every human being on the planet to see this.
it is a pretty package, a lot of work has been put into making it so. Though the message is normal and obvious, its nothing profound here, its just life..
Agree
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Calamities can also give you perspective. I had a severe, horrific calamity happen to me a few years ago that I thought might destroy me, but after an extremely difficult period, I finally came out of it much stronger and wiser. Then a couple of months ago I had another “calamity” that most people would consider pretty bad, but because of what happened a few years ago, I wasn’t nearly as upset as I would have been otherwise. I thought, “I’ve been through MUCH worse and I survived. I will get through this too.” And I did.
After being diagnosed with brain cancer at 30, I can sure attest to the points made in this video being all fact. Once accepted, life is easier 🙂
I'm so glad you survived your terrible experience. I hope the remainder of your life is rich and beautiful.
how old are you now? Are you cured?
So sorry to hear that man
It never ceases to amaze me that the school of life always uploads exactly what I need when I need it.
Alexis Knight ME TOO 😭 from breakups to losing a job...they're always right on time. sometimes the same day
Same, I literally got this video recommended on my feed while I’m currently going through the most difficult time of my life.
Yes :)
I think it’s more that every message they send is universally applicable to us all, all the time, so there never could be a wrong time to receive these bits of wisdom.
Exactly, it's simply amazing that it happens that way
I love how you guys are not affected by the trending 'live positively'
I'm sorry to reply to your comment 5 years later.. but I think helping people become better adjusted for this chaos is probably one of the most net positive things I can think of.
Im in a situation where the outcome might either work or ruin my life. I'm watching this so I can prepare myself. I know I've suffered worse but im just so tired of everything
I was the luckiest man on earth - until I wasn’t. I’m crippled in essentially every way. Despite the inescapable, chronic pains, and the injustice and isolation, I am calmer and happier than ever.
wow, how do you do it?
This is so relatable. My life was going as per script for the most part and I had some minor problems here and there (overcoming them at the time looked major victories). Then one day suddenly the most loved and cherished person of my life, my father, got sick and died a month later! It brought my world crashing down and I finally realized what 'real' problems are and what suffering is! So, yes, things do go horribly wrong, but understanding of this truth makes us appreciate life more when things are going well and also perhaps prepare us for eventual off script events!
Probably the best episode!
Content is full of wisdom and graphics simple yet well adjusted to the content.
Once again excellent episode!
This made me cry. Such a simple yet neglected reality of our existence. Thank you, professor.
This is off the charts helpful
The problem is that we have illness, accidents and injuries happen all the time, but decide to label them as being catastrophic when those things lead to death... even though in reality that is where all paths ultimately lead... look a cute puppy 🐶!
living in chronic pain/illness or losing a loved one, (especially a child) is more than just a catastrophe, it's devastation..
A painful life event doesn’t need to lead to death to be catastrophic. Furthermore “catastrophic” isn’t an arbitrary label: there are events in most (all?) people’s lives that are objectively awful, that are understandably & devastatingly painful, that undermine their stability, that irrevocably alter their lives for the worse, and that leave deep scars or burdens that must be borne in one way or another for the decades of their lives that remain until death.
I c u in the comments!
@@daisygirl1217 I'm so sorry to think you may be going through a very difficult time.
@@daisygirl1217 very well said, thank you, and only those who know.. know
This is so liberating. Somehow knowing something will go wrong and that uncertainty is the only certainty makes me calmer.
I shed a tear watching this. I found your video to show compassion for humanity’s misfortunes, personally touched me. Thank you.
Ashamed to admit that at 33 years old, I’m only just learning my “life script” was naive at best. This video helps me understand why I’m drawn to darker art at times - it’s the universal truths I’ve been repressing, that the toxic positivity of our culture hasn’t encouraged us to explore or prepare for. Thank you for making this. Kudos to the animator.
Dont be ashamed it happens to us all.
You’ve already beaten most people realizing this
@@prettypuff1 thank you for your kindness 🙏🏼
This is life and loved to hear that you shared your thoughts❣❣
No shame at all my friend. Most people usually don’t enter true adulthood until their 30’s or a little before. For men especially, we tend to be man-children until our late 20’s, early 30’s. Then either parenthood or some sort of “close call” wakes us up and makes us realize that we are not guaranteed to be here forever.
Wow.. i am 33 yo too.. when is your bday girl 😀
Aaaand that's why I live with anxiety every day... My brain is really thinking about the worst case scenarios many times. My biggest fears are: that someone I care about dies; that I accidentally hurt or kill another person by my professional mistakes or driving; that I don't have money anymore and that I will become ill or crazy so I can't work. There it is.
Hello Andrea, I am very sorry to hear that. But meditation really, really helps in that case. I used to wake up every morning with all sorts of anxieties and fears. I meditate every day and I feel better now. I have posted a comment under this video. I copy paste here the part about meditation. Sorry it is a bit long. But just take a look if you wish:
1. MEDITATION
I have mentioned this in many comments. But here I will repeat myself. You can start meditating today! You only need to take two steps:
-First you can watch this lecture by Yale University where an excellent teacher gives you a very helpful overview in only 20 minutes. To find the lecture search for this on youtube:
" Yale Courses, Mindfulness, Human Emotion"
- The professor on that lecture recommends these guided meditation podcasts that I am using since 5 years now and they helped me enormously. To find them search in Itunes for:
" UCLA Hammer Meditation":
So the second step would be to sit down and do what the teacher says in this episode:
" Using meditation anchor"
You can use the same episode everyday, but you can also download other episodes , like:
Back to Basics
Deepen your concentration
Working with thinking
Working with pain
Working with obsessive thoughts etc. etc..
Those guided meditation podcasts basically offer you all sorts of tools to deal with all sorts of sorrow, pain and trouble.
Just download one of these and start now! The only thing you have to know is this:
Your mind will wander over and over again. It is NORMAL. The purpose is NOT " stopping your thoughts". You will be lost in thoughts most of the time. But what matters is, when you see that you were lost, turning back to your breath over and over again, without getting angry at yourself. The moment you realise that you were lost in thoughts is a moment of mindfulness and that's what strengthens the neuronal connections. The more you practise, the more of those moments you will have. "
me too , gotta break the cycle and live in the here and now
+Gesink68
+Andreea
Good morning! I forgot to tell you one more thing: you probably think that you are having those thoughts because you have a dark side or even because you are a bad person. But turns out that it is the opposite. People who care the most are those who suffer from those thoughts the most. If you wish, you should listen to this podcast episode. They give very good examples, like this guy who is afraid of killing his wife, even though he loves her a lot. Then they talk with psychologists too. Very interesting and enlightening: www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/375927143/the-secret-history-of-thoughts .
Best wishes:- )
Stay in the present moment and less in the future. My anxiety is high as well and as a reminder to myself, I tell myself what I'm doing and engage in the activity whole heartedly. Such as: I'm washing the dishes. The plate feels heavy in my hand, the water feels warm on my skin. As for people, we have no control on their lives if they die or not. We need to let them go so they can be free to live their path and us to our own. Worrying is praying for things you don't want. Hope this helps.
@@kristasingh3703 wow..that is some awesome thinking. Yes, I find that focusing on present activities helps.
This deserves attention, it’s brilliant!
This is so true. Thank you for posting this video. I once had such a limited worldview and rigid way of doing things and expecting things, it wasn't until my life when horribly off-script I truly lived, and had a chance to truly discover myself. I had once left high school doing nothing but maths and science subjects, but due to a bout of low mental health I was put onto a new path of artistic exploration, into the fields of stand up comedy, acting, drawing, writing, and even stripping. I now am studying film and television and after some initial instability I have stabilised into a new life balance and am appreciating how each and every day makes sense, and I feel supported in my current place in the world. Whereas before I felt like I was treading on water. One day, as I'm sure, I will be treading water again and feeling lost, but for now, I'm just glad I have a reprieve in the midst of beauty.
congrats on your prices to stability! I'm currently getting myself up and out of the trenches.🫂
Well done! Be proud of yourself.
The first time I litteraly laughed out loud at one of these videos. At the start, when the plan of our life was explained I reflected on the most horrible events of my life, and could only laugh at our collective naivity. Great video!
I can't be more in love with the poetic animation for such a dramatic truth about our lives. Applauds! 👏
Definitely agree, something bad will happen at some point in our lives, but always being prepared and looking out of when this will happen can ruin a lot of amazing moments we could enjoy in. Living one day at the time and not trying to avoid every situation that might bring us suffering is crucial to a fulfilling life. And when the catastrophe does hit, we have amazing memories to look back on that will maybe offer us at least a little bit of consolation.
I agree with this point of view.. I rather enjoy life than being afraid or even "ready" for potential catastrophes
Quick Fix - Thought Provoking Videos It’s not about sacrificing anything it’s about not acting like these things can’t happen , or worse, wont happen.
I like this. As someone who suffered considerable catastrophe and darkness early in life, I'm all set with "planning" for the next one..having said that, this video wasn't meant for me.blablabla. I think it's also worth pointing out that a significant number of people have relatively crisis-free lives, and good for them! this video was a bit pessimistic, imho.
It's always been a blessing. Every moment of our life is an opportunity to create different avenues of reality. I no longer afraid or concerned of what tomorrow's events might bring. All I know is in this moment, in the NOW, I do what I could possibly do to bring the best in me, to enjoy this moment no matter what the circumstance is.There are times when I might be bored or tired in the now, however I appreciate it. I ask myself constantly, how is this thought serving me? what can I learn from this? I watch and observe my thoughts and in the process I am loving myself even more.
creativmindplay maybe you’re pessimistic
For me, this is your best video so far. Thanks for this. "Life is what happens to us while we're busy making other plans." - John Lennon (paraphrased to make it personal.)
School of life, can u please do more videos about depression, suicide, or loneliness. I really need them and your videos are always spot on🙏🏻
“ Man's mind is his blessing , and his curse “ Shopenhauer
True!
_"Ignorance is bliss"_ - Anon
If life were possessed of any positive intrinsic value, there would be no such thing as boredom at all: mere existence would satisfy us in itself, and we should want for nothing.
Life has no genuine intrinsic positive value, but is kept in motion merely by want and illusion. As soon as this comes to a standstill, the utter barrenness and emptiness of existence becomes apparent.
― Arthur Schopenhauer, The Vanity of Existence
'... Those quiet days in which nothing much has yet gone very wrong ... "
It's hard, living in the trenches, waiting for the next shoe to drop. It's been that way since my mother and sister died ten days apart, 7 years ago. It blew my life apart, and nothing has ever been the same.
This is one of the best videos on the nature of suffering in life and the unrealistic expectation(s) created by escapism.
I’m gonna be honest - at first glance, I thought the title was, “Why none of us can escape apostrophes,” and I thought to myself - “it’s so true.”
I must say that this video came just in time. Expecting everything to go as planned, started making me anxious. I started blaming myself for everything that happens to me. It got hard to swallow the fact that in life not everything is under control. That I will be facing daily battle to surrvive. That no matter how much I grow or gain experience there will always be moments when I feel humiliated or embarrased. I fear never having enough courage to face it all again and again. I get scared of bring noticed as a weak person or someone who can not handle anything. Thank you for the video! Your channel is always one of my favourites ♡
Hey, your admission is very inspiring to me. I started blaming myself for my past relationship, but there is nothing I can do anymore. I felt she was the one who got away. Do you have any advice for me to get through this?
"Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm."
Ephesians 6:13 ESV
This lines up with what I read in the Word of God. Thank you for posting your own sobering reminder.
What beautiful animation! Fit this video very well.
I love the fact that you guys don't stick to a specific style of animation, but give different artists opportunity to show their work. We are all to gain.
I find that this channel sticks to what it preaches, it's great to see.
Again, really beautiful animation on this one.
The script and the animation, pure genius.
Ive been going through a lot lately and ive been on youtube trying to gather all the wisdom and knowledge that wasn’t available to me at youth. Yea it sucks when you are only 22 and your life is in shambles but, i feel alive. At the end of the day when im in bed I realized that throughout the day I realized that im the only one that can bear the burdens reality has burdened me with. Thank you for so many wonderful lessons
I have to say this one and along with why nice people finish last are my favorite from The School of Life.
My life indeed went wrong. Difficult youth. A screwed up love life. No contact with family. More depressions than friends. Loneliness. But then I had enough of working for depts. So I stopped working. I went in retreat. A year later I got homeless. I went to travel to France on a bike. Slept in a tent in the freezing winter. But it was the most liberating thing ever because I prepared. Went back to my own country. Remained homeless for a year and 3 months. I got help with my depts. Now I've found a new place, with a garden where I can grow old and actually start a family. I've been living here for almost 2 years and I've never been happier.
The meaning of this story is, before it gets better, it gets worse. You have to go through it.
Thank you
Whenever a Catastrophe takes place Remember You will get Blame Rightly or Wrongly! There is Nothing You can do about it!
I couldn't handle,.. I totally lost it. I suffer with depression, and it's destroyed my mental and physical health.
There is nothing I can do about it. 😢
“we will not exit this life without a calamity” ☝🏼
yep, got diagnosed with an auto immune disease last summer. sucked for the first months, but it really taught me how to be more grateful for what i have right now, and not for i might (never) get in life.
My life was perfectly on-script until my gf suddenly died 3 months ago, after 14 years of relationship. She was 38 and I was 35. Thanks for the video.
You know what you did? You shook us with this presentation of yours. We all somehow aware of life is not going to go straight and all, but this is just awesome.
4 months+ in AA now! I've made I through and keep at it! Glad I found this video at the right time to keep me going! It's all normal and part of a great story.
Keep going 🙋
🌏
AA?
@@mukta4689
Me? No,but i know all about it.
Stay strong ,you can do this. A better life is coming. 🙋🙋♀️
If you can try rapid eye movement therapy to help with the underlying reason for drinking, helped me
@@mariettestabel275 No I mean AA means?
I have had some difficulties in life. I am not so sure watching this cute animation makes me suddenly understand everything now.
It really sucks though when all of those things have actually happened, and there's no one to pull you out of the hole.
Yes. We live. We learn. We develop. We thrive. Then we die.
However what happens in between such events is what makes your character and expresses what your life was like. Such a great video and well explained here
This video should be depressing as hell but is actually uplifting and inspiring.
Might be my favorite School of Life video and I LOVE almost ALL the School of Life videos. Thank you for your work
This was an amazing video. The hope is that a parent or some mentor will teach you these words of wisdom but no one ever will in such an clear and beautifully visual format that you will always remember. Without exception, bad events, to an extreme level or a moderate degree, will definitely happen to all us. The question is how we
1. Frame the event? Are we devastated, angry, just give up at the outset or do we obtain the optimism/confidence that you will resolve the issue.
2. How do we handle the event? Do we take the necessary actions each day to recover and correct the situation?
3. Remember the event? Are we psychologically damaged or do we learn from the event to become wiser and better?
As I reach 60... I admit that you are painfully correct... I am grateful for this general relativity of human experience... enjoy your travels through time, when you can... it's going to be alright...
And
"What does not kill you makes you -stronger- strange".
I cried at the end of this, what a heart-rending little video and lesson. Kudos to the artist who created the visuals for this one, absolutely beautiful.
Oh My God!! I have never cried from a video, but i needed to see this.
Very thought-provoking and relatable. I’m a philosophy major and currently going through shit right now that I realized will be endless.
How are you doing now?
@@gamerrex5940 Also curious.
Love These Kinds Of Videos. We Can Often Get So Wrapped Up In Life That We Can Start Losing That Foresight To Anticipate And Prepare For Our Possibly Imminent Coming Big Failures, Even If It's Something As Small As Prepping For The Rainy Day That You Heard Was Coming Tomorrow 🌧 Preparation Is Very Key!
Love These Videos And I LOVE This Community. If We Were The Majority Of Humans And Not The Minority, We'd Grow Up In Much Better And Much More Emotionally-Balanced And Beneficial Times And Places 💚
Love the video. I would like to see one on having inappropriate emotional reactions to major life events (eg. not crying or feeling sad at all even when someone close to you dies). Thank you!
Meaning of life is to struggle and finding the way to pursue of aim. Life has no meaning itself but we the human,living being gave the meaning.
Well said👏🏼
True! My mum just received a cancer diagnosis. The last few years I tried to prepare myself for an event I knew would come my way in one way or another. Still, there is only so much one can do to prepare oneself for such an event. What I try to do is to feel my emotions and reach out for help when I feel overwhelmed. That seems to help. I also try to enjoy the time we have - because no matter the outcome and one point our paths will part - at least in the way we know them now - which obviously is true for all of our relations. Someone recently told me that they say each night to their loved ones: Thank you for being on loan to me for one more day. I like that. :)
Thankyou... when everything around looks perfect in social media, nobody is ready to admit that they are even little bit out if script.
They are adamanent to show they are in perfect scripts.
It feels lonely to be in a normal script and not in a perfect one. Thankyou for reminding me its normal 😊
A message we can perhaps only fully understand after the event. The animation is wonderful.
And only then, when we know that the messenger was right.😉
This is so important. Thank you very much. I've long harbored in my mind the thought that education should first and foremost be oriented by catastrophe. Not in the sense that we should be scared for doomsday all the time (as most religions or autocratic regimes or paternalistic parents might force us to for different reasons) but in order to be prepared in mind and heart to be resilient enough in the face of catastrophe. Some people are born more resilient than others but even more so should it be the task of good parents (grandparents, teachers, etc.) then to make people more apt in dealing with such events. Small deaths or grand deaths. To let them become grounded, authentic beings who can withstand a catastrophe by having learned the path (back) to love and forgiveness. Love and forgiveness for who- or whatever caused the catastrophe. A personal flaw, another human being or "fate" (that is, life or the world at large). For only then can we grow and move on and find new love and forgiveness... acceptance, ourselves. Education not for the purpose of molding young people into the ideals of their parents; nor to make them the best beast in the brutal battles of our societal sphere (markets, politics, relationships); but to make them a grounded human being with an own will and a sense of purpose and belonging, the two core ingredients in resilience.
Beautiful. Thanks 😊
The thought put into these videos is outstanding. The expectation of disaster in life reduces anxiety as long as it’s balanced an enduring optimism of the will or specifically to quote Antonio Gransci “I’m a pessimist because of intelligence, but an optimist because of will.”😊
Brilliant. Bravo Andrew Benincasa.
This was posted 4 years ago but it found its way to me today just when I need it most. Thank you.
Is it weird to be more afraid of life than death?!
Matthew Harris death is the only thing that’s certain, that you can count on. Life just does whatever it seems. So no, I’d say that’s justified
No. Life is a dreadful imposition, and death (can sometimes be) a respite from it. Read up on Antinatalism. And give thanks for small mercies!
Perfectly normal. Try to understand your fears. Ask the question "why" over and over and over again. There is always another and another answer behind. You need to be ready to answer yourself with deeper and purer truths for your world for that to work though.
That ending animation of the heads going into eachother is superb
what a wonderful sentiment. i have had a number of these 'catastrophic events' - it is relieving to reframe them into this perspective. thank you.
So awesome ..so true...all our mistakes lead to more beautiful things and makes us appreciate the simple things in life
Impressive animation! What a gem of a video.
Thanks for posting. I'm sure there are people whose life works out perfectly, but they would be an extreme small percentage. Yes my life has gone horribly wrong, but I was never told that the pre-planned narrative would go awry, and I'm old. I don't see relief coming until I carry out self deliverance, which will hopefully be quick, and painless. ⚰️
Please seek help, Bobby. Nobody knows what the future holds. Personally, I delight in even the so called simplest things. To be a witness of nature I find is a priceless position. I don't compete with or abide by other people's measures of success for fear of ending up like them.
@@johnanthonyp I've had my fill of the Human experience thanks.
I'm in this same situation. I'm old, lost everything and everybody.... then my job I loved. .. I made a foolish mistake. So now I feel so guilty and upset,... I lost it. I went down with depression. I just suffer. Don't know when, but this is unbearable 😫
The animator did a great job at this!
I am amazed that all videos on this channel are so full of wisdom and are so well designed and animated. You guys are leonardo da vinci of this age
Something somewhere is going to go catastrophically wrong
Love that ❤️
This is not entirely true for everyone
this video has now officially become one of my fav videos by the school of life.
I’ve found that many people in our society will abandon you once something catastrophic has happened. People are so allergic to even mild feelings of discomfort created by any significant ‘shadow,’ that the majority of ‘friends’ i had before are now nowhere to be found. But who is still here, is the people i already knew were my true family. And for that i am grateful.
I've known this for a very long time and it's the root of my anxiety. If my life is relatively stable I'm in a constant state of awaiting a catastrophe. I contemplate whether I should make plans if I might die unexpectedly in a month. But most of all I'm afraid of my own body. It can turn against you in the blink of an eye. Truth is it's no way to live.
Very few come to this realization, and even fewer fold early just to not give true tragedy a chance to happen. There's nothing about life that's made of "party material". Every part of our biology we try to sap ecstasy from, can also cause an inconceivable agony. And we are just an expendable vessels created by DNA, inside a universe that has no concern for our protection and is going to take us out... there is no truth that supersedes this. Some of us can feel the truth of catastrophe creeping every day. But the only mission of this idiotic species is to get away from this prime truth for awhile... sports, politics, "education"... the whole thing is nothing but irrelevant drama and trivia. Stitched together, trying not to look the prime truth in the eye. The human condition is kind of like a little psychological game of peek-a-boo little primates are playing with the universe: not realizing this universe is something that should never be played with
@hark - "But most of all I'm afraid of my own body. It can turn against you in the blink of an eye." - I can relate. you feel helpless against your body. wanting to control something beyond your control causes anxiety and feeling of helplessness. more thought has to be given as to why we feel such a strong urge to control everything. in my case i felt it was to protect my mind from experiencing "emotional pain" - like feeling helpless. simple things like over plannig a trip is my way to avoid emotional pain of frustrations and delays. but you have so little control over anything really. So, i figure it would be a better solution to strengthen my mind to handle inevitable pain than to frantically plan and control things around me to make my life "pain proof" so to say. one way to do it is to make yourself bear with the pain. dont rush to comfort yourself. be aware that we will die one day in a way we dont prefer, at a time we are unprepared - and live with that fact, be okay with it , live inspite of it.
@@persianpoison thank you for your reply!! i'm exactly the same way. i always over plan and make sure i'm prepared as well. i feel like we can control the "little speed bumps", but we have no control over the big disastrous events. if we are going somewhere with friends and family, the place might get bombed or shot up, there might be an accident on the way there, someone might have a stroke... the only comfort is that it happens to us all regardless of class or race. i like your name btw, i'm persian too!
@@ololusername - Thank you ! but i am not persian :) Its just a name i picked up because i liked the ring of it :D Understanding our problem is one thing and implementing a solution is another. like in your example, you should not feel "responsible" for averting a disaster because it is truely out of your hands. but the anxiety stems from a feeling that somehow you need to "do something about it". In my case i am at a stage where i undrstand my wrong behaviour/thought patterns but i am not yet very successful at avoiding them. something like worrying if i will get some terminal disease. checking symptoms on google. i understand the futility of it but i feel the compulsive need to "find out the answer". and there is never a definitive answer out there. so i am working on curbing the urges and living with "not knowing for sure". not there yet, but hope to be some point in future. Wishing you all the best on your path of life as well :) Dont let your mind bully you and take you life hostage. thoughts are just thoughts, not facts.
@@carpettwizzler9432 While I can see your point I think it’s sad to live thinking like that. I think we should try our best to add meaning to life because your already alive, might as well use the time to experience great things.
Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think.
I learned, as I stumbled through life, that moments would come when life was so frightening and perilous that It felt like I had to physically reach into my body and pull out whatever it was going to take to get through. The upshot was that I learned in those moments that there was something there to pull out, and every such event became easier and easier to bear. Maybe that is what we call wisdom.
I might add that with each event I remembered my parents with greater kindness.
I LOVE YOUUUUU, THANKS
How this got very little views, its the best thing said about life.
For real. There are times I sit and be content with the loss of someone or somethings, so that I'm prepared. And when I still have them, I feel so grateful, but I'm still prepared. However, I don't doing it for everything - like planning my days and home life, etc, out of fear, but I want to do that, prepare for the worst and the best of/for all times. I have the mental capacity to now that modern times are easier.
Lovely to hear your voice, Mr. De Botton.
This is surely wise advice, and even if life seems all going to plan, nobody has invented a pill against death yet. However, I have met quite a few people with the opposite preoccupation: That everything must go wrong, and often it actually will, just as a result of their expectation.
This video is a perfect summation of the bits and pieces I've begun to unravel myself over the last year. I kind of broached a dark place for the first time in my life back then. Looking back, I realize it was a childish reaction to things not going exactly the way I had planned. I busted my ass and delivered value at work - why wasn't I promoted? Why did my loving Mom turn into an angry bitter recluse?.... Woe is me! I found acceptance in the fact that at the core of life is suffering. And true contentment in life comes from acknowledging and accepting that suffering. I welcome whatever mood greets me for the day, and I love exploring those thoughts while they're with me. Essentially, I accept more, and I care less. And I've never been happier as an adult!
This is all on point but I feel like I had all that shit happen before I was 7 years old.
It hasn’t been easy to look at it as a blessing the way you seem to indicate.
At you hit lowest point, you are open to the greatest change
I really needed this one today! I am glad it appeared on my main page!
This is very well done, thanks so much for posting it.
Until ten years ago, when the phone rang at odd hours my first reaction was excitement and expectation. Now at fifty something, I've come to dread those unexpected calls since it usually means bad news: accidents, sickness and death. I know it's normal and one day, they'll make that phone call for me. Until then, happiness can be simply eating cold leftovers and looking out the window... Food and shelter.
Two of my main joys as well, though I prefer my leftovers microwaved haha
melkerart
Well said, thank you!
I wish I had seen this 20 years ago ...before my life and family completely fell apart because my mother fell ill with incurable debilitating schizophrenia, psychosis, paranoia.
She has not been able to live a normal life but is living in a psychiatric ward completely under the spell of her hallucinations.
This also had huge and hard financial implications and broke our family. I felt like I had no solid ground under my feet for a long time.
These 20 years have been very hard to whitness.
I was not aware that life could have these disastrous surprises in store.
I thought I was the only person on earth that had these hard things happen.
I felt ashamed for this thing. I was angry that it had happened to ME.
I had ......without knowing it.......totally believed in the ABSURD fairy tale that the video depicted.
Looking back I feel really stupid. I knew nothing about life and had to learn the hard way.
One thing is for sure......I learned to appreciate the small things even more than I did before......but I am also left with a constant expectation that the NEXT big hit from life is only a second away. I expect other horrible things to happen to me........and that made me very fearful negative pessimistic and I lost my joy. It is hard work to get trust in life, joy and serenity back.....but I am working on it.
I haven't been able to recover from personal tragedy. I got SO stressed, caused anxiety and insomnia..... which made decision making impossible!,.. I lost everything,..including my career job I loved. It devastated me. Now I have depression . Im unable to leave the apt,.. and my mental and physical health are declining. 😫
You guys are really teachers of school of life. Stay blessed
I feel like your Channel is always
here when I need it. Thank you :)
It's very relatable and relevent.
I’m here 4 years later and this is on point.
Insanity runs in my family. The results were catastrophic.
Thank you. I needed this right now in this moment. 💔
This reminds me of the essays of Michel de Montaigne. Especially the near death experience that changed his views of life.