@Jc Gaming Its not just waste of time. Almost, but pretty much all you do after the 7th grade is just random shit that you don't need in life that's why school is a problem and increases the suicide rate every year.
I have that hanging in my history classroom. Whenever the school feels a little too "constrictive" and I can feel it wearing on my students, I point it out and remind them not to despair and remember that experiencing thoughts that result from learning is amazing.
be self taught, never institutionalized, i learned more studying what i wanted than i ever did in actual classes, i studied for 17 years, none of the things i learned was from a classroom
In math class we learn something for a week. We then have to do a test on that crap. Then we move on to a different topic that’s completely different. So we basically forget everything.
They got me into expected straight a's ppl ignoring the fact that last year my results arent good at all and EXPECTING ME TO SCORE straight a's for the upcoming national exam Man im speechless and idk i hope i got covid and dead already lol this is too funnyithinknowicangetcancernowido idonthavespacebarnowcuzcancerdont askmewhythisisjustsomerantscoming fromsomestupidbeechthatmaybealready dedidkfckme
"school don't give you enough time to absorb all the information" It's true. Everytime I want to understand a thing, there is a new study material comes
absolutely. they want us to have a long time retention rate so we can use what we’ve learned for the next grade, but don’t give us enough time to retain. it just sits in your conscious mind instead of your subconscious (where its “learned”)
Totally agree with this!! In high school I took precalculus and didn't understand a lot of it. I passed the class but I especially struggled with simplifying radicals and other things. When I went to college, I took precalc again by mistake, and I was reintroduced to the stuff I was troubled with previously.. and finally understood! I was really happy haha. It's been 5 years since I took any math, but I still understand. I knew I hadn't memorized it, I truly understood, and it made me so proud of myself. I wish school gave everyone more time to feel as proud of themselves as I was
I totally agree with you. With every subject I know exactly what type of quesions they will ask. I know what they want you to learn, but I only learn what I know is gonna be the most helpful on the test. I procrastinate a lot and work my ass of the day before I have a test or have to finish an assignment. If learing was like a game then learing random interesting things from youtube or books or other random sources would be an open world game, and school would be a linear repetitive game. School feels like an endless repetitive stressfull forced competition. I usually score really good, but since januari I just lost the motivation. I have a hell alot of assignments that should have been finished days ago and I have just become a mess. It's not just school tho. I feel like social media and school have made me this fucked up being. I'm way to worried about prestations and what people think about me that I have just become this messed up piece of shit. (I got a little carried away with this sorry lol)
@@Clouded_Mind that’s harsh, especially since most of the doctors, nurses, and scientists who have put endless work in their careers to get where they are at are literally the ones exhausting themselves in a 24 hour shift to save people right now. So, we’re they also brainwashed by the system too? No, obviously not, they cared about creating a change whether it was small or big and in my opinion, if I live a life of anger towards school then in the end, it’s I who will suffer not the education system. Does the education system suck and needs to change? Absolutely, but to just say to “throw it all away,” is completely wrong since generations of folks have fought for their rights to be able to afford and attend a school. (Don’t mean any harm and this is just my opinion, so please don’t think that I am trying to attack you for yours! 😅)
After a lot of self-talk, I realized that I actually love studying. The act of studying itself gave me a sense of fulfillment, of, being able to immerse in the vast pool of knowledge, full of stuff I have never known of, which I found so novel and so incredible. But I'm still a student and recently I have been asking myself that question, whether if grades really matter. Yes, high grades make me feel better and approved, but no, cause when i got bad grades, I started to hate myself and hate studying, which is so horrifying.
I think a lot of ppl share your sentiments. I love learning out of my own volition, reading voluntarily. But when I have to worry about being graded for it, the enjoyment vanishes. I think it’s why there are ppl who try to find the little things that they enjoy, are passionate enough about that they can focus on and forget that they’re even being graded.
I hate studying, but whenever I don't study, I feel like I'm doing something wrong. Even though I don't get much sleep because of it, and my mental health is down the drain, I am pulled towards studying. I don't know if it's because I've been taught that 'study good, bad grades bad', or it's just because I feel worthless if I can't do everything right, even if it's a tiny detail that's not even significant. Even though I'm good at my classes, I feel terrible that I wasn't the best, that I was worthless. So I'm in an endless cycle of studying because I'm worthless, getting less sleep, and getting anxious, and being in a shitty mood most of the time, putting up a front so nobody worries about me (I hate bothering other people, and confrontation), and even though I'm in the top of the class, I feel like I'm still a piece of shit. So I study to get better, and the cycle repeats itself. I know it's probably not a good idea to vent on the internet about how I feel, but if I talk to anyone about not getting good grades, I feel like they'd treat me like I'm subhuman, just because I can't get good grades all the time, while sacrificing my mental health. I think I have something wrong with me, I shouldn't be stressing about keeping up with the scores I get, but here I am. TLDR: I have a hate relationship with studying, but my thoughts keep me from living how I want, forcing me to study.
My dad took a calculus test in the 80's and got a 100% on it.. Now we found the same paper test a few days ago and looking at it again, he's forgotten everything on the paper. He doesn't remember any of it. :/
@@____3243 that's the point, it doesnt matter. In my opinion i think people who say that school subjects are dumb together i disagree with, i do think kids should be educated, but i think the system is just terrible. In the real world you get things done through connections, cooperation and hard work as opposed to cramming a bunch of things to memorize and forget and never be of use
@Commenter Dude OP never bothered to excel in courses where leadership counts. Higher education provides plenty of opportunities to lead... Group projects, research projects, clubs and extracurriculars...
@@갱갱항상 Yes, because that’s how the world works. No matter your ideas, it’s not going to change the fact that majority of people just care about degrees and how long you’ve stayed in school. don’t mind me, i’m just spouting my thoughts
The reason why I hate school is because I don’t find the topics interesting, and I just don’t wanna spend my time and effort on learning something I don’t love or won’t use.
@@lixkook9668 nobody here cares about your freakin bts, some people here are saying their sad stories and by saying this kind of things you only make people like me only convince more that k pop fans are too overwhelming
I learned English when I was 5. my mother language is Albanian and I lived in Slovenia. I learned English thru the internet by watching cartoon videos faster then learning Slovenian by going to school. After I was finally able to actually talk to someone without sounding stupid my Slovenian was still bad. After 1year of watching English cartoons I was better at English then Slovenian. (Cartoon network for life btw) Now I live in Austria and after 4months I have forgotten the language. I studied it for 4years just to forget it in 4months.
Yep it was either cartoons or videos who helped me, but I didn't learn much with the apostrophe's and such. Which ended up me being way ahead in my English class :V
@@randomperson1714 I think he meant "immature" when he said "kid" . I don't think that they will accept him to do a Ted talk because school isn't an education center, it's a business and businesses care about their reputation
as a highschool student, I don't feel like I've earned the right to say a single thing about grades. Nonetheless, I agree with this. I've found nothing but stress, pain, and sleep deprivation in my schooling. It slows down my writing, cuts into my daily life, and causes me breakdowns in the middle of enjoying a nice and fun video game with my friends. Sure, a student's purpose is to learn. But what exactly am I learning? Is my constant cheating through tests learning? Is my panic cramming for a test just to forget it all afterwards learning? If anything, I'm learning that one of the biggest flaws of humanity is its inability to change. Our school systems in America have remained the same ever since they came into being, which was centuries ago. Over my life, I've dropped art, dropped guitar, dropped piano, and even dropped friendships, all for what? A number to appease my parents? A number that will supposedly lead me towards a better life? Well if this number is so powerful, then why can't it give me something that I wished for? Why can't I catch a break after I receive that report card? I'm given the results of my previous hardship, just to be thrown into another. All of this, and I secure nothing. Even if I get full marks on everything, I am guaranteed nothing, I am ensured nothing, and I have gained nothing. I do not come out of each year smarter, I do not come out of each year brighter, and I do not come out of each year more creative. As the years go by, my smarts, my sanity, and my creativity goes with them. Thank you for reading my rant. I'll go back to stressing out now.
I hate when teacher be like “we are here for you” but end up giving 3-4 hours of homework, tests every week, projects every week and constant stress. School ruins everything. If you want to play a game you cant cause you got work for every class. But fun fact that homework spelled backwards in latin means child abuse 😂.
@@Anxmaly666 Even when you got a good point they still wont listen, I try really hard to just grow some balls and tell it to them, but ik that would just lead to more chaos
Same. I’m at a 78 in math, which makes me nervous about my parents reaction. It isn’t even that bad, since it’s still passing but i’m stress because finals and official report cards are going out.
“School is a safe, fun place for you to learn, and prepare you for your life” No. It’s a place that causes depression, stress, and an unrealistic standard that a small amount of people can reach. We go to school to “learn”, but in the end, your success is based off of how well you remember this pointless stuff. Most math that’s more difficult than simple addition, multiplication, subtraction, and division, will *never* be used. We won’t need to understand the whole human anatomy to get a job. We won’t need to know advanced physics to succeed. They waste our time with this stuff, when they could at least be teaching us how to manage money, how to pay taxes, how to raise a child. They tell you that everyone has flaws, it’s okay, but when you show one you’re treated like a screw up? In the end, it doesn’t even matter if you get a high mark on a paper. On a different note, thanks for the support on this comment. This had 5 likes a few days after I checked it, and it’s randomly blown up. This is the most supported comment i’ve ever had
High school needs to have mandatory classes on what you just stated. We cannot learn how to pay taxes, manage loans, raise a family, or hell even car insurance information, just by sitting in class learning about how long it takes a damn door to close (yes I learned that in physics). This irrelevant shit gets you nowhere, like ah yes, I know terminal velocity and can calculate projectile velocity, but in the end it's just irrelevant garbage. I can't think of any place that you'd need to know that (maybe NASA but).
@@Pokémon-b8c Well, I personally think that it can change in our lifetimes. The generations coming up has finally realized that this system is not ok, so once we are adults, we are able to someday chance this stupid education system and replace it with something that matters. If the older generations isn’t willing to fix this matter and cause students learn such stupid things, then we have to. So many students realize that this is a problem so maybe those same students will take the initiative and make the education system better.
@@Beelsoranges yeah , but that’s like saying there won’t be any values passed down from their generation to ours. Believe me, not everyone likes change, even if it’s reasonable.
Most teachers especially the ones I had always wanted to teach more and didn’t want to teach the lesson that they were given but since that’s the the district gave them they have no other choice but one of my old teachers usually says fuck it n make us have free time until it’s actually important to get work done for the finals lol
Knowledge that doesn't intrigue and resonate with you is knowledge unlearned. When learning becomes a checklist item to mark off, then the objective doesn't become about the learning anymore, but just about passing. Like an obstacle. That's no way to learn at all.
Oh you're here. Love your work HFP and you're absolutely right too. Learning should be intriguing, inspiring, and interesting, but instead school made it a chore, back when we are still kids and just starting school, we came in with curiosity and intrigued to learn, but school just takes that away, now we walk into school just to wait for it to end
Yep being in school right now school is just getting in the way of the things I want to do in life. You want to work a job where you get actual benefits and insurance and make a living wage? Guess you have to sell your soul to school and pay the colleges to put you in debt. I don’t even know what is better for my future be enslaved to debt or risk working a job where I won’t even be able to pay rent.
I think I'm in love with you. I once asked my teacher why she had to grade her students instead of simply teaching for enjoyment. She solemnly replied, "No one would take my class seriously without an evaluation." School for me is a house of learning and I hate how petty things like grades burn parts of it down.
True...and this is because we aren't here anymore to learn but to get a high paying degree, because the society has intellectualized itself. It became mechanical, corporate, money-based... capitalistic. No wonder plenty of people are depressed, society just sucks all life out of it.
@@crowmaster9652 no I’m talking about high school not college, for college you payed for it so you prob should try to get somewhat decent grade, still, this system is messed up
@Thot Patrol USA no its actually kids this day cause before 2000 when theres no computers every son and daughter is so good at learning now every kids focus on games and not education so thats why youre statement is wrong im sorry for my bad english
@@captainzyte4476 Excuse me? XD Parents literally pressure their kids to get really high grades - for what? To go off to some fancy college? Get some "high paying" job? Learn what makes up a potato? Really? To me it just all seems like some big scam
My teachers are always asking me, “why don’t you try to get better grades? You’re naturally so talented and intelligent.” And I always have to reply with, “because grades are below me.”
@@damonnugent1993 Let me help you there. I get assigned an essay. There is set criteria for a topic of exploration relating to a book we’ve studied. I begin writing... Next moment, I’ve written an essay with vocab so beautiful and alliterative-ly poetic it could make Shakespeare commit a tragedy. I’ve expanded on the topic into the external world, forgetting the book entirely. I’ve applied every bit of complex philosophical, existential and psychological concept and metalanguage I could fathom from the pages of my weekend’s extra reading. And to top it all off, I manage to connect the essay prompt, of how an author uses literary features to display grief, into an existential question so deep you could probably fit the Mariana Trench in there. See what I mean?
School is in fact more of a student selection than a place to learn, the only one picked are those who are able to overcome stressful situations while doing random and stupid stuff such as learning useless knowledge by hearth without asking themselves why, calling us stupid, not because we are, but because they want others student to believe that we are wrong in the way we think, while grade are just a carrot on a stick for all of those too dumb to understand the situation in which they are.
This is a compliment because I’m the quiet kid, like when I say quiet I mean social anxiety quiet because I love talking to people but people at my school are just rude. Anyways I feel very strongly how this world is so fucked up and how the top 1% have made school and 9-5 jobs to make us slaves and robots for their benefit: money and control
The last year of middle school was the last year that I felt genuinly happy. The moment I stepped into High School my whole mental state flipped. I feel like I am a lot more of a mentally changed person now with all the shit that Ive gone through with High School. High School made me experience my first wave of depression. It made me experience anxiety. And all this negative shit. Before High School for me it would be, moments of anger, and then back to happiness. Idk if its just me, but I feel like that had totally flipped. It feels like now there are Moments of happiness and then just anger. I worry about so much fucking shit. My Future, how Im going to support myself, etc. It is really fucking tough growing up.
Yup. That’s why i was disheartened when I realized most of my classmates only cared about the grade and not the actual material/information and how it was connected.
I only care about the grade too because they put too much pressure on me and report cards for me to actually care about what I’m learning, especially in online school.
@@jagshe1829 Yeah its understandable. That was my way of thinking towards the middle of high school. I was just looking at percentages and how certain assignments effected my grade. Thinking about what i could miss and what i couldnt. At the same time I was dishearten by it.
I gotta admit that I'm one of those kids who barely focused on my work, I barely found anything that interested me unless it was science, history, or just psychology.
@@Blackcrow48 For me at least, you did have to understand concepts and ideas to pass tests rather than just memorization. It really depends on the teacher you get. A teacher from a rich school decided to teach at my poorer school and they teach so good AND FUN! I didn't even read the book, got a B just from class notes and it was a freaking Chemistry class. They weren't just a good teacher. They were a life coach and football coach.
The one thing I hate is when teachers decide to shame a student for asking a question. We’re here to learn, not get embarrassed in front of our peers. And their top priority should be helping us pass their class anyways..😬
Like “dumb question” or not, they should be guiding people to passing their class, not beating their mentality because they don’t know how to solve a problem & want help.
Yep, my old history teacher did that. Our classes ended up being her asking a question, no one answering because if they get it wrong she'll give you a blunt put-down and humiliate you for getting it wrong (it didn't even have to be 'wrong' either, she would do that if it wasn't the answer she wanted), then the same 2 pupils would always answer the questions and my teacher would be actually confused as to why no one wanted to speak out, despite several people telling her bluntly that she was rude. Even me, someone who has extreme anxiety speaking in public, would try answering the questions eventually because we'd sit there for genuinely 10-15 mins in silence most lessons waiting for someone to answer and it was painful. Keep in mind that this was my A-level class meaning we were 17-18 years old, not children (Not that it's okay to behave like that with children either). Absolutely kills the subject of history when you don't feel able to discuss a topic and give your own views on things, they just want you to regurgitate arguments, no room for individuality. There are better teachers out there, but it's a shame that education doesn't reward them, and it incentivises the behaviour of teachers like my old one.
I know, I relate. I've stopped asking questions because the way they tell me it's wrong in front of everyone embarrasses me. I try even though i'm always wrong. But I also make myself look more stupid if I don't answer the question so what do I even do lol
I had a chemistry teacher last year, and I'm pretty sure she's been fired. She was always saying that we were "stupid" for not understanding what she was explaining, yet everyone always failed in her classes, like 27 out of 30 students in all of the 3 classes she was teaching (in mine 16 out of 21, me included). She was always, ALWAYS yelling and humiliating everyone. We were all scared to ask questions for that. And also because, for example, this one time, when a girl said "excuse me, I didn't understand the last sentence you said, could you please explain that again?" And screaming the teacher said NO! NO! NO! *YOU* DIDN'T UNDERSTAND BECAUSE YOU WEREN'T PAYING ATTENTION!!! YOU ALL NEVER PAY ATTENTION, I'M TRYING TO DO MY FUCKING JOB HERE! and she gave the girl a 5 because of that, ruining her grades. She also did that a lot, I even have some of the screeming sections recorded if things got out of hand. When she got fired, everyone pitied the sub teacher, because he had a lot of work to do, everyone was failing in chemistry, but the good thing is that he is a big sweetheart, and is much easier now.
This is so accurate. When you say “I don’t care about my grades” people assume that you don’t want to be successful, or have a life. No, i’m just more AWARE than the actual ADULTS in my life, that grades do not MATTER. They are marks on paper, an endless competition and pressure to stuff as much information as we can and spit it all back out, to never remember again. If you don’t stuff in all that knowledge and spit it out? You fail. You are shunned by the system. You have to suffer through more of it during summer, which is supposed to be your break. You are forced to “relearn” it. You are forced to repeat the year. You have to stay up through endless nights and stress, only for it to amount to nothing. You’ve learned nothing at the end of the day. The math we learn does not *matter* if we do not want to be scientist or architects. But we are treated as if each and every one of us like we have to become the smartest people in the universe. We become burnt out, we are bullied, shouted at, threatened- if we do not pass. There is so much in the world we are missing, because we are forced to sit in a school, or behind a screen, the schools controlling every aspect of our lives. -They control our free time by assigning us hours of homework -They control our sleep by having us stay up with hours of studying -They control what we wear with uniform, or dress codes -They control our day, forcing us to sit down and just listen to someone talk for hours and hours on end, often giving minimal actual interaction -They control what we eat, everyday in the cafeteria, unless we provide our own food -They control our mental health, our stress, they control almost every aspect of our lives, because they want us to get good marks. Adults will say “Well that’s just how to system is, deal with it”. We have a *CHOICE* to *NOT* deal with it. But we are constantly forced into picking school over our real lives. The idea *drilled* into our heads that if we don’t get a good mark on a piece of paper, we will fail, and become useless. This is why i no longer care about my grades. Thanks for coming to my TED Talk
Shit man I have two years left and I fail almost every class but I want to succeed and get my degree but I don't know shit, I really don't want to do this shit anymore.
@@Ramparafo I’m trying to study because I’m afraid for my future and getting yelled at But on the other hand... I’m having difficulty studying BECAUSE I worry about my future and getting yelled at We don’t wanna be looked as failures :,( Idk when I look at my grades it kinda makes my soul leave Fuck this shit idc anymore
People say that we only learn things at school but in reality we never stop learning until we die. Learning is not constricted to schools, it is everything we do in life
As a “good” student at my school I just wanted to say something, last year I started at a new school and I wanted to be on top of my class so I studied, I studied every day which led to me having an eating disorder, I wanted to have more time to study and thats why I didn’t eat much I also got very antisocial and stressed and a because of grades, even now I study for like 4 houra just because I think I won’t pass and it really stresses me out, i love learing but I just learn to pass and that just isn’t good
same:( I want to not care, but I can't stop caring. So I decided to make at least an hour everyday to learn or read or do things I want to do and quarantine really helped me do that so all is not lost.
Um I used to be the “good student” until this year because I got so frustrated with the amount of assignments that I just gave up on trying it and I think my grades are gonna drop alot
holy shit same..! i suffer from depression and anxiety and my depression had came back bc of some family shit like 2 months ago, but it’s still here because a month of when i was depressed i stopped doing ALL of my work and was ill. so when i finally thought i was getting better i felt worse because i was left with stacked assignments.. then i checked my weight and i lost 14 pounds and i’ve always been pretty skinny (5’0 113 lbs). but now i’m 95-98! i’ve been crying and suffering with the struggle of my grades and trying to keep up with my mental health and it’s just tearing me down so fucking much bruh. and what’s crazy is i’m supposed to be having a christmas break, A CHRISTMAS BREAK for my school! but nah they gave us 2 packets and i have to do a 3 paper project and 7 assignments in different other classes.. this shit is killing me and i’m about to email i need a damn break for fucks sake.
for my Q1 i have honor roll and all (4.0 mostly A’s and 2 B’s), but this second quarter is going to be hell of a mystery for me. currently i have 2 B’s, C’s, and A’s. so i’m pretty on edge 💀😂..
I dislike people that say that. An honest job is worth having as long as it puts food on the table. Everyone can't become a doctor because if everybody is a doctor, who's going to be the patient?
I am a consistent A+ student but then COVID 19 taught me something... having straight A’s doesn’t mean I am “smart” at all. I could have 100’s in my grades but at the end of the day, im not a streetmart person. The world is literally dying and I cannot afford crying over a 94 that i recieved in my test paper. School destroyed my self worth and mental health. It sucks but I measure my worth and my happiness depending on my grades. It really sucks. My parents get stressed out on my depression too... and it hurts me. I have lived to this lifestyle that “failure” is a big NO. But u know what, I decided to destroy my perfectionism by just not caring at all (even though its a HUGE painful process). In this way, i will be able to accept failure and when I do, I will be able to conquer anything that’s on my path because i really have big dreams. The bigger the dreams, the bigger the risk. That’s why i am training myself to chill tf out because I can’t afford acting as if everything in life is gonna be the way I want it to be.
hmmm, you know I feel like I wanna make a groupchat with people in it and you know do our own independent studying on things and bring our ideas into the real world.
I'm a high school junior. I've got all Fs and I've failed this semester. I've slowly been tuning out of school, mostly learning things out of the curious spirit I've possessed since I was a child off of the internet. I'm content with failing because I simply do not care anymore. It's a rinse and repeat with content, content that maybe I'd like to enjoy but it's brought up so often and only for the purpose of adding onto it for an exam/quiz/test. Actually, I can't enjoy almost any type of content in school because of this system of forced memorization and well, other things in this school system. The system is particularly ableist too as I'm neurodivergent and tasks are much harder when my brain is different than my neurotypical peers. I've just noticed that this system keeps me in a constant state of stress, it puts more strain on me, worsens my health, and drives me crazier than I already am. The pandemic really just enabled me to stop caring, to stop stressing myself out, and putting more focus on my health as well as a lot of other things. I'm already battling mental illness, not caring alleviates some stress. I'm ranting but it just isn't a good place for me to learn. The only thing I've taken from school is how to increase my social skills. Not that I was ever bad at socializing but it has somewhat taught me how to assimilate in society (and interesting field trips - i.e. gold panning) I can't take anything else good from school. I could drop out now but something keeps me from doing it and I've gotten this far. I'll finish it off. Might I even backtrack again but maybe I've been set up from the start to end up with this type of burnout and exhaustion. I had very high scores early on and after the end of elementary is where I see my decline. I blame the situation at the time of my dip but also myself for losing my steam. I shouldn't be so hard on myself but it's difficult and school sucks the whole purpose of learning. I'm ranting again but I hate school because it's made me hate what I've always done: ask too many damn questions and curiosity to learn about the unknown.
Honestly we're in the same boat.. Only thing is that I'm a Senior. I can't believe how much similar our stories are.. Once you turn 18 immediately apply for SSI if you live in America. That's what we did. Might take a couple of months or a year but it's worth it in the end. We waited a couple of months to almost a year and just recently got accepted. Hang on you can do this!
Not sure if this is useful, but I'm neurodivergent, and having a passion helped me more than public education ever has- work on a portfolio of something you like, it will be useful in the future
@@crowmaster9652 Becauss you have a purpose in life. Thats why your here. Even if you were an accident or was on purpose you still have a purpose. Never forget that
It's also about raising your hand and participating. I mean I get it, in group work you should try to socialize but when it comes to answering a teachers question why make it a big deal if a student barley raises their hand. It just stresses out the student as now they are forced to contribute to the whole class convo instead of it being optional. Also just because a student always raises their hand doesn't mean they understand what's happening or is an A student. Majority of the time those who raise their hands are failing the class (in my experience, obviously some are grade A's). Also there's nothing wrong in failing a class. If you have trouble with a subject it helps you pin point what you struggle with and that's human. Also it's crazy how some teachers will be straight up honest and say the topic there teaching will only benefit those who need it (ex: Geometry and Construction). I feel the school system should allow kids to choose the classes they want that will help then for the career they want to pursue, at least for high school and maybe middle school or at least for the students who know there passion. Also with college, why should we pay for an education we struggled to gained. I mean college is where students are fully allowed to pursue their passion yet many can't because college is expensive and trying to gain a scholarship is crazy and then when a student doesn't want to go to college there looked down upon and I understand why someone would not want to go to college. I'm just one of the lucky kids who somewhat likes learning and is excited for college.l but I am also part of the many who is stressed by my ap classes and honor society responsibilities to try to impress as many colleges as possible. Granted this is all me, my family is luckily very supportive and are honest that if I don't want to go to college, it's okay and they will support me fully. Now personally the reason why I'm working so hard is because of what I want to pursue which is in the medical field so granted I have alot to put in but that's not everyone's case. All in all school should be about what the kid wants to learn and what they feel will suit them up for their future not what the board wants the kids to learn. (Sorry I went on a tangent it's just that the school system really needs to be improved to better kid's futures while also motivating them to push through to their dreams and for the love of God, they need to make college free or at least less expensive and hard to get into. It's crazy how much work students have to put in just for a piece of paper that says "hey I'm qualified through knowing math yet I have no idea how to cook but I hope you as a restaurant business hire me!").
@@NWolf17 About school being about participating in lessons, my spanish teacher literally said in the last week before Christmas that I must be the hardest working student in the class but I'm really not, I'm just good at remembering things I guess. It's similar for most other subjects as well and then everyone is so surprised when they see that I get mediocre grades.
@@NWolf17 i once failed a class because I didn't raise my hand enough. I have bad social anxiety so this is very difficult for me. Schools should be teaching mental health instead of useless advanced math that only stresses me out to tears
Its sad that school only ever cares about how well a person can memorize rather than developing an understanding and appreciation for that information. I believe that to some extent its why loads of people hate math and subjects similar to it. Everyone is made to memorize stuff within it but never truly understand why or how it works. Personally the idea of trying to understand the way our surroundings and everything in this universe works is what drives me to learn physics, but i’ve lost a good portion of that passion and interest due to how schools simply care about how well one can memorize and spit the same crap out onto paper and it makes me wonder how many more people suffer in silence due to the way education is in the modern day.
We should take mostly open book tests/quizzes so that we can actually absorb the info and it teaches us to actually think, not just be patient and be able to sit for hours writing stuff on paper and memorizing it
@Tall Jakee i see your point and in fact i do on my own try to develop an understanding on subjects, especially math and physics. I quite enjoy these subjects which are reliant on logic and understanding. However, in my school its always been about memorizing things, in case of math the formulas related to it. This does not mean by any chance that i encourage or indulge it, rather i follow my own path and strive to learn about my favorite topics in as great depth as possible. I simply wish education where i live wasnt made solely for the purpose of trying to make a person get good grades as opposed to understanding a topic truly and how it affects the real world. I try my best to never memorize and to understand whatever it is i learn with extra effort daily.
@Tall Jakee well yes we do get such problem but my teachers here solve em for us and show us how its done ig. Honestly the education i have here is supposed to be high quality but its just standard stuff disguised as an international school. India is just jank so im moving to the US next year for higher education but like i really do enjoy learning stuff in depth and mostly i dont rely on my school and like to explore quite a bit. I really love it when i get a nice challenging math problem that really gets me to think.
School teached me: Depression, heart breaks, Loneliness, fake friends, stabbed in the back, getting beat for bad grades, crying because how stressing it is to be in school, give less of a fuck about school and my grades.
@@0mgstorytimes1234 Its good bro it's kinda normal now.. And i wasn't really tryna get attention but you seem nice, so i hope the best for you and your family I hope you are blessed for all the meals and fun things u do especially with your family, I hope that you dont go through the pain i am in to so u don't have to be in my situation. Please do Good and keep up with your grades, the last thing i want is for people to have bad grades so please do me a favor and do that. And most importantly God loves you and so Do I 🙏
My parents expect me to get straight A's, study all day, do chores, stay at a healthy weight, be nice and respectful, have friends to their likings, get up and go to bed on time, study my ass off, never have time for fun, and *_still_* be mentally sane. I cannot do that okay bye.
I could’ve done that without complaining if only I didn’t get people’s perspectives. For example: “Oh my god the kid screaming is so annoying” and then I respond with “really? I wasn’t even paying attention to him screaming.” And then a week later I start complaining. There is so many things I could’ve done only if I didn’t understand people, yet people don’t understand me nor do I understand them, everybody just criticizes me for not understanding them but yet when I have a huge problem; nobody is there for me and then the only advice I get is “get over it stupid kid.” I hope I can just ignore it and move on; I hate to get stuck on something and always think about it.
Lol I already completed high school back in my home country. But, I had to repeat all the grades again when I came to the United States . I honestly don’t know how I haven’t gone insane
I got a 9/20 in my physics quiz today and I felt soooo fucking depressed and suicidal. I fucking hate school I really wish I was born in Finland, their education system is waaaay better fr😓
@@moatasemkassab4517 it's alright bro I dont like school but no matter what we say school wont change so we just got to study this might be cringe but heres your virtual hug 🤷♂️
You're so smart my dear...I agree with everything you said Our education system is so limited and focused on unnecessary details It's more like we're learning things we won't need in the daily life just for the sake of getting a degree "True knowledge shouldn't make you feel small " getting bad marks makes us feel less than those who got better marks That's only giving us anxiety and stress by the end.
Thank you... This is a important issue that requires a unique solution. Not to rebel against the system per se, but to structurally change students' attitude towards learning over time. Change education from the ground up, instead of from the up down. Then again thank you for the comment :)
my mind just clicked. YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. i had this mindset of not caring about my grades throughout highschool but my grades were superb. i also participated in astronomy olympiad and passed to national level. i didn't care about the prestige, all i wanted is acquiring new knowledge from my mentors/teachers. now i'm in engineering college and i have this mental voice that i have to be a straight A or else my whole life going to be suck. now i'm just a regular B/C student. a very stressful student.
Girl this is currently me right now too. The less I cared about my grades when I was younger, the better I performed. Now caring about grades in engineering school has led to many panic attacks and a lot of stress.
Now i think about it i actually relate i was in the debating team. But since i focussed on getting good grades i also have been getting worse grades and a lot of panic attacks. And the only subjects where i don’t have this problem are subjects where i get my best grades.
Yes when we are innocent, we ponder everything and learn things so even though we performed well in our tests the grades didn't matter to us . But once we become aware of our society , we get confused we get depressed , our grades go down , we become a loser and get treated like the worst .
One of the most frustrating things is when you know something right off the top of your head and the teacher says "show your work" but you don't know how to explain it and the teacher thinks you cheated and you have no way to defend yourself because your parents take the teachers side smh
"Show your work" is such a useless phrase. Sometimes you didn't do any work that you noticed. That's a different problem to not understanding. If you can answer correctly but can't explain why, the teacher should teach you how to explain yourself. But instead they just assume you cheated or don't understand if you don't instinctively know what they want to see.
after i got into middle school, i went from a straight A student to an average C student. i was looked up to in elementary school for being one of the smartest and then it all crumbled. i went from learning at the same pace as everyone else to being in the highest classes. it put a huge strain on my mental health bc i still had to maintain that same "better than everyone else" mentality because that's how the adults in my life portrayed me in my younger years. i couldn't maintain those same good grades and it led me into a deep depression. i struggled with my depression for two years before finally starting therapy to help with my problems. all of my problems were based on the fact i wasn't as good as i thought. grades were all i cared about and now that i couldn't maintain them, i basically didn't do any school work. it stressed me out so much that i couldn't do it anymore. once i met my bf i finally felt the motivation to do good in school again. i still fall off the wagon sometimes but i think when you have someone to support you it can get better. i still just care way too much about making my parents happy about my grades instead of making myself happy. it sucks
This is facts. Im 18, a senior in high school, going to college, with no major in mind to pursue, because i was worried i would fail school after all the “stuff” my parents taught me. Im the eldest of my brothers, this “asian mentality” is straining me from the moment ive reached middle school and high school. I used to be a failing student in a private/elementary school, swore to myself i had to earn good grades in middle and high just to be “successfull”. The only thing i got from these are anxiety, depression, stress and being antisocial.
yea mate I feel you I was always an A/High B student in elementary school and even through most of middle school, but after having online school happen in 8th grade, I absolutely give 0 shits about school. I’m an A/B/C/Sometimes D student now. My parents are now having unrealistic expectations of me keeping my A/B average or else they’ll just take away something thinking it’ll help me, but really, I have no support system. I’m one of the most introverted students in my school, because most of my school is hella athletic or really care about just sports, which I’m not into, so it’s hard to connect to people there. So by taking away a hobby of mine, it just drives me to be less motivated than before, because what’s the point of doing homework and chores then having nothing else to do lmfao. Also, I took pre-algebra in 7th grade and now I’m in algebra in 8th grade, so woohoo more stupid fucking grades to worry about. In short, school sucks, fuck school, they need to fix their ways.
Happiness over Grades. I want to pursue my hobbies. It's easy to get decent grades. I'm content with C' s. I pursue my own acadamia. Stuff that actually matter, not the useless material these institution the government created to control our minds at a young age and force Capitalism and low-wage slavery. We are the future, it's time we take back what is ours. Like our happiness.
Take a break from school (mentally) Talk to yourself and ask yourself what it is you want in life and how you’re going to get there. Don't let the school system hold you back or make you feel unmotivated. This is YOUR Life ! You must grab life with both hands and say "I'm in control !" You have 1 life remember that. It goes by quick too ! So live a life you wanna remember not a life where told how to live. Stay strong brother and believe in the process :)
Take this from a graduated highschool student from the class of 2020, grades aren't everything in life and are not as important as happiness and fulfillment in life.
@@innovert99 if that was a choice I would take it too, but usually the metaphor is more of like once you get rich and have everything theres nothing new to life with causes depression, but I wouldnt know im poor af
The issue is when there are career paths that require one to care about grades -- like getting accepted to med school. It's lame that certain paths depend on an arbitrary system of measurement, but it's still a reality.
@@arthurgross6269 I was more talking about qualifying for med school from undergrad. Even then, you have to do well in a bunch of classes with material that you won't ever use again just to get into med school. Furthermore, a student with great grades can still know material less well than someone with worse grades.
@@dayru_ru i’m in med school and i agree i think the biggest problem nowadays is that this retarded system is just forcing short-term memory and my system is too crule like we are asked basically every week u don’t have time to have any bad day in whole smestar bcs it can fuck up your score bcs u just have to be prepared everyday always so well prepared ,it’s good that it is forcing us to study literally everyday but yeah .. u just can’t study after exams the same way u could before them u need a rest ..
We are trained in public school to become employees, work for others. Cause there's lots of smart rich people they need employees. But in private school they became boss and higher rank later in future. This world is under money's control ;-; sad (not all people will become employees)
This is where my school mentality is at. Who cares about how others do. As long as *I* pass this course, then I got nothing school-related to worry about.
Same man, i dont give 3 fucks anymore, i just come to pass my time, pretend to be doing my work, while in reality i dont even know the name of the lesson we're studying, wait for it to end, then come back home
It’s not really the teachers; it’s more of the DOE and school board. Teachers honestly deserve recognition for what they do. There are teachers out there who actually care about their jobs; they’re not above the hierarchy. Same with principals. They all answer to the DOE and School Board. The DOE and School Board is responsible for all this. Overall, it’s the Education System.
@Jaster oh no lol. I meant working like robots but not physically like them but to be trained to work long hours with little breaks, cannot question authority, everyone is the same etc
I had a history teacher in my first high school year who didn't care about grades nor tests . We used to learn and discuss and we didn't have any tests.
@jamerson kento I would agree with u. But, the problem I run into with hw is that some teachers make it so ur homework is practice for that “upcoming assessment or essay”.
What he is saying... just opened my eyes. When I'm at school, my brain is all fogged and I just want to take a nap. But when I'm at home. I try to form theories about space or create plans to make our country better. No one knows this.. because I dont have time in school to ask my teachers about it.
Yup.and school just takes that all away bc if I get something lower than what people expect me to I start to feel like dog 💩 bc it makes get anxiety and depression thinking I failed my class
What school has givin me: Anxiety Becoming more insecure I know how to hide things I know how to hide my feelings I know how to "suck it up" My parents dont trust me I'm afraid to ask questions Adding Subtracting Multiplying Long division How to right an essay How to forge a signature 🙂
School gave me Stunted social skills Massive disregard of peers' opinions Distrust of authority Depression Suicidal tendencies the bare minimum of knowledge How to lie A good pain tolerance And a lazy attitude
@@ghuttsmckenzie4269 Feel ya. I've hated so many people and became angry but just kept it in. The teachers... were the same. I even felt terrified to go back every day.
@@T_E_G I am glad I'm out of that hell, couldn't have left soon enough and I don't think I'll ever miss it, maybe the friends but everything else was not worth it.
“Schools don’t give you enough time to absorb the information” I agree.. I really do want to learn the material but they go to fast and I learn differently than some of the other kids in my class. It helps me more when they teach me directly so I can really ask questions and they can see what I’m doing and correct me better. We don’t have tutoring though because of the pandemic and the way my teacher explains things is complicated, he can’t teach well. He knows the material but he just can’t teach it to others.. I cheat in math because it’s easier. I try to learn it at home but I feel so rushed and then I get behind everyone else. I don’t want to cheat, it makes me feel stupid and I’m not learning anything, but I can’t afford my grades dropping because my mom expects a lot from me. I don’t want to listen to her yelling at me lol. It’s so hard to get motivated. I wish I had a small group where we taught each other and were supportive. I struggle with motivation and ego. I think badly of myself but I also think I’m better than everyone else? My school sucks too, the staff act like the kids and the teachers can’t teach, some don’t even understand the material that they teach! They are inconsistent, they don’t correct kids and they wonder why the school is so bad. Don’t remember where I saw this but it said something like school is just testing your memory, it’s not helping you truly learn.
I agree and disagree. I don't understand my math teacher at all she wastes too much time on unnecessary steps and it makes me very confused so I just give up and zone out for the rest of the class. I feel like if the teachers were more to the point it would be easier to understand what they are trying to teach. This proved to be true for me because I was going to take my midterm and I was worried because I didnt get anything so far. But just a day or two of studying and i got almost everything at a basic level enough to pass the test. While i studied to pass the test a began to realize that once you get it, it actually becomes fun to learn but teachers just make everything so complicated and unclear.
@@sofiamartinez6710 Okay, this is very crucial. You unveiled the literal secret deep inside. That actually struck me because you are absolutely right... :) The thing is, lots of things can be fun to learn. Anything can be a fun thing to learn. This is also why math (a good example for what I'm trying to say) can be super fun if you understand it and can do the problems. At the same time, it can feel like the most terrible thing in the universe if you don't know how to do it. It's just all about having to find out about what you find fun about it. I personally don't like Social Studies. Oops. That was an understatement. Let me rephrase that. I HATE HATE HATE HATE HATEEEEEE Social Studies more than anything. But who knows? If they taught this subject in a different way, who knows how much I would've fallen in love with it? I might've just been able to find my new favorite subject and something new that I never EVER thought I'd be passionate about. The problem is, with the way the school system was built, that's never going to happen. Information cramming and regurgitation just doesn't change anything...
@@theelectronomer2319 I agree with the fact that you could have fallen in love with history/Social Studies if it was taught different. I always struggled with the question "what is your favorite subject?" because one year I could love the subject and the next I could absolutely despise it. I realized that the subject I enjoyed the most always depended on the teacher and how they taught that subject.
@@sofiamartinez6710 That's exactly the case for me too! I really wish that social studies was a subject I enjoyed because I might actually tell you that it isn't all bad sometimes... Some topics are very interesting and I really can get into it. I also absolutely agree with when you said that one year, you could love a subject but then hate it the other. I remember grade 8... man. How I loved science more than anything. Don't get me wrong. I still do. I am in love with science. The thing is, I love to be that enthusiastic student who really dives into the subject or perhaps even enjoys being with his teacher. I would spend (caps lock off) 30 minutes after school just talking to my teacher about science... then I would say "sorry for talking to you for so long... I ask too many questions too." He really was different. With that said, I feel like I didn't at all enjoy science in grade 9 the way that I wanted to (which could also be explained by good old Covid-19, but that's a different subject). I'm in science right now and I'm having a pretty good time and I have a good teacher, but my "grades" are suffering from a few "assessments". I hate having to feel pressure on even the subject I love. Why does school try to take away your dreams? It's a question I have yet to answer than any other question that you would see on a test/exam...
@@theelectronomer2319 I also hate the pressure that the school system gives you to get good grades. It almost makes it impossible to enjoy anything. For example I'm in 8th grade now and this has been an emotionally exhausting year. Last year the subjects were pretty easy to understand even if I did not enjoy learning them because of the way they were taught. But this year I'm in biology and geometry and I dont understand a thing until I actually teach it to myself. It is such a shame that we waste 7 or more hours of our life on topics we dont understand when we can teach them to ourselves in less than 5 hours.
I don’t care either. All they are is knowing and memorizing material. All I see school for is honestly for a way to develop your Brain. Literally that’s what it’s for.
I hate to say that everytime my mom or dad asks me about school or how my perfomance is going, I immediately tense up and get filled with dread. It's like everytime we talk about school, I just hate it. It's as if I get scared or uncomfortable just hearing about school. I dunno how to explain it, but that's just how it is for me. edit: hello. same op here, three something years later. i'm sure no one likely really cares for an update but i've come back to say that i'm doing better than i did during the pandemic. i'm doing better at school and i'm striving hard to reach honors as it is my final year of high school. the pandemic and the quarantine was a really awful time for me mentally. doing anything that is related to academics was really tough. i just didn't have it in myself to do those during that time so i was really held back and i didn't benefit in studying at all at that time. however, as things are somewhat back to normal now (such that, i can finally go back to school face to face), i'm really proud of my progress in that i can finally do my academics without really feeling bad about any incomplete works. i hope that this can inspire some people, even if a little.
ikr. i immediately get frustrated/annoyed and my mood worsens drastically. i don’t know why, but hearing about school is just .... dreadful. i hate school and i hate talking about it, haha.
You just hit me bad, my whole life im always pressured to get 100% on everything to always strive for perfection Im used and always afraid what people will say when they see my grades cuz im never satisfied with myself anymore, i always feel im the dumbest and the worst My best isnt acknowledge and appreciated..
Im sorry you feel that way, im the exact same way too, i get so caught up with grades to the point i feel afraid if i mess up once and the motivation isnt there anymore.
Do what you like, I'm at philology-english and I try to recreate a tesla motor in my backyard. It affects my grades as my homework and learning time affects my life out of school. A fair deal for happiness.
This is a really interesting and important message, but I initially misread the title into "Why I Don't Care About Grandmas Anymore" and I can't stop thinking about it
Last year, i was trying to maintain my grades as much as possible while suffering from depression and anxiety and led me to have an eating disorder. My hair fell out, I passed out at school a couple times, and I was always dizzy and tired. Please take care of yourselves before your grades guys. They aren’t as important as you
Man i can agree, entering high school and seeing my grades im starting to lose hope and by that means on that time i was suffering with mental health, i pulled my hair out alot, get anxious alot and getting ptsd from my pass. I also started to pass out at school alot and it really sucked me
@@cityyeee1532 it really sucks how much school can stress out kids and teens. i hope you are feeling better now and taking care of yourself. I do not have good grades anymore for my classes but I feel way better than how I was feeling last school year.
I hope your doing well and to others in this comment section. I was so excited to enter high school but ever since covid and personal things, everything went downhill for me. I lost hope and motivation. I went through so much stress that my hair also started falling off.. everyone stay safe and take care of yourselves 💜
12/10/2020: I’m a high school sophomore. I’m smart got straight A’s for five quarters in a row. With ap’s. and advanced courses. Few days ago I realized I actually learn way more by self teaching myself stuff that I’m interested in. I basically will now only spend time on math and computer science. For me, this is way better and will fast track me to a job.
If you're anything like me, you'll come to appreciate the other subjects as you get older. I thought I would be a math and computers guy, but I ended up changing majors to psychology.
i am also a sophomore, i had great grades at the beginning of the year, passing through spendings HOURS in studying and wasting so much time thinking about how i can improve my grades. recently my grades started falling and i try so hard they don't go up. this caused me so much stressed.
@@lyn8981 heh i never tried from the very start of highschool, I've always been very interested in subjects like art, and philosophy instead. Let's see where this takes us.
@@conviction_amp i always thought of studying the same way, but my parents pressured me so much. they pushed me on to subjects i don't have any interest in. i really just wished i didn't listen to them but i still have a couple years left in highschool i can change it.
I'm sophomore (I'm supposed to be Junior, but I got held back in 3rd grade) as well, but at this point I've completely given up. I have no friends, I'm not smart, I waste all of my time watching porn, youtube, and playing videogames. Nothing I do will ever amount to anything. I turn 17 next year, and I'm not excited. My adulthood will be even more miserable. I honestly plan on ending it all before that point
Hey, grades arn't nothing to stress about, you are you, you dont need to be a letter or a number. Just let the world and let life carry you dispite its hardships. School is stupid, school cannot do a single thing right, if the school system was truly graded than it would fail, so please stop caring if it stresses you out to much. Dont stop trying, never stop trying, just do the best you can and that is okay. What im trying to say is that school is absured in the end its the schools fault for not being able to care about the things you wanna care about.
I agree with the first part and I disagree with the rest, genius means remarkable , unusual brilliance, I argue that with enough effort , anyone can become a genius. the biggest example is albert einstein himself. smart in school but not profound like other "geniuses". studied for 10 hours a day six days a week. to the point which that he had permanent changes in his brain. genius is not only raw ability , but also perseverance and profound drive. do not let scientific research and professors discourage you. because we don't know a damn thing about intellect in the scientific field. it's just all assumptions and patterns that we take off the general population , genius takes time to nurture , months of hard work , years. not a few days or weeks. you want to be exceptional? do exceptional hard work that the normal person will never be able to do, abandon things that the normal person will never be able to abandon.
I agree, after reading pages and pages and pages and PAGES of articles to just to answer 5 questions that you then have to write intricate essays for, you really stop caring
Every kid once they get into high school: Jokes aside, hes right, schools arent helping you at all, you getting A's means nothing, and if you get F's it does not mean you're dumb.
I ve lost my passion for learning and was struggling with university exam studies. I realised that recently I started to feel and also act like a robot and now you reminded me how much I love learning,searching,wondering and eventually thriving to a more human like human being.
Exactly, I hate being graded in classes like PE, art and music class. Not everyone can do these, this is something you have to want to do. Being graded on something you simply can’t do and aren’t good in doesn’t make any sense.
@@Emilia-hz8fe everyone can do pe art and music class unless they have a physical/neurological disorder that prevents them to. You may not be good at it when you start it, but why should that prevent you from learning to get better at it. Quitting something just cause you’re not good at it when you start is a weak mindset
@@ok-sn1uw I definitely get what you mean by this, And yes I think you still have to try your best even if you’re not good at it, that’s out of question. What I mean is that some people just naturally have more interest, and passion for these types of things wich makes them better at it. For example, an amazing athlete can’t compete with an extremely talented artist. Even if they both tried as hard as they could they couldn’t be as good as each other in those things. ..but even if you have the talent some people just don’t train it, this “talent” is just something that makes it easier and more natural so a person who doesn’t have that per se can still achieve as much if they have the will power and passion to do this. So like if I have more interest in art, I couldn’t force myself to be as good in PE or music class, even if I tried hard enough. Sometimes giving your all doesn’t mean you’ll perform “good” or get graded better. I say this because most of the time it’s not about the effort, the teacher most of the time doesn’t care about how hard you tried. They’ll give you a bad grade if you did “bad” and not as good as the rest, and vice versa. If a person didn’t try and just performed good they’ll get the better grade.
“Sometimes it’s better to bunk a class and enjoy with friends, because today when I look back, marks never make me laugh, but memories do” - a very smart man
"School doesn't give you the time to marvel at it" This sentence. I felt that. I hated math at school but after finishing A levels (and hating it), I started to love it during my gap year
I feel like the only reason I'm trying to get good grades is because I wanna impress my parents and be just like my brother, there are so many things that school has done to me it gave me so many negative things to worry about, now I'm just tired of learning things that I'm going to forget, now I don't care anymore, I have so many things that I have learned in life/on the internet, I have so much time in my hands in such a young age why don't I use it? to be honest we learned so much things that are useless the only things that aren't being taught to us are the things that are meant to be important in our lives.
I could not relate to this comment more than ever, my brother picked such a smart and well career and I see all the time my dad look impressed and always telling me “see, your bother knows what he wants to do and picked a good career” (he knew what he wanted to do when he was like in middle school) and it hurts me that I get compared to him, I’m so not as smart as him, can’t remember stuff from school, my dad doesn’t like the idea of me being an author or writer “it doesn’t pay the bills” so what? I don’t care about the bills, stop comparing me to my brother, and let me be happy and do something I wanna do *for the rest of my life.* I’m already in such a bad state as it is, at this point I have not gained anything since the first day of school online and it just tells me “yeah, u aren’t going anywhere lol” I just wanna write a book or series during hs and see where it goes, college... I’m not even sure but definitely won’t get supported with a artistic school that I dreamed of. I lack motivation into even writing idea for my book right now, y can’t I get my life together? School. The thought of my grades going low. 24/7 on my mind.
@@paradiselustforlifedition I can kind of relate to this my mother compares me to people my age,I still don't know what to do with my life I'm just gonna live it and see where it takes me I'm just having fun and trying to be responsible at the same time,I understand how you feel,just keep doing what you're doing and make sure you're happy on what you're doing don't listen to other people
I'm literally in the exact same situation what the fuck?? // Ranting Worse part is I only want to pursue my career in art, even if there's a chance I didn't get it I probably only want basic knowledge like languages and history and writing, yet my parents still insist and want me to get STEM subjects so badly /: not only I didn't get to reach my family's standard, it's literally SO obvious that I want to get into art. I start buying sketchbook since 12, decide to practise traditional painting 2 years ago, 90% of my online friends and mutuals draw and that still didn't came to my parents mind that "oh I should encourage my child more to get into her dream carrier!!" until I told them last year that I take art subject, yet they still want me to reach my brothers' high ass standard. Everyday since my big exam gets closer and closer my mental health is getting worse and I can't help crying whenever I think about how useless all these physics, chemistry, biology and addmath subjects will be useless to me in near future, yet my mom still acknowledge that I may want to take animation course but didn't bother to say a thing One of my brother is even worse. Even tho he knew I obviously didn't want to get into big courses like engineer and architecture he still expect me to reach his level /: and then act mad whenever I made the same mistake on questions several times and took too long to answer all of them I want to improve my art so badly, I wish there's more thing I could improve because for someone who want to pursue carrier in drawing, I'm still super mediocre in art for my age (I'm 17). If anything if I ever have a chance to experience in sculpture, music and better writing I'd rather take that. Yet I barely made significant improvement on my drawings jusy because I don't want to disappoint my parents I'm sorry for anyone reading this long ass ramble, it's just so tiring. I hardly get the chance to confess it anywhere because some people I know personally followed my social medias /:
My mom even agrees that the education system is crap. She doesn't use any of the things she learned in school in her day to day life. We shouldn't learn how many candy bars Jared has, but how to do real life things like pay the bills. I've learned ten times the amount of what to do when I move out of my house on youtube and various websites than school could've ever taught me.
That's because the job of a school is to make you employable so that you can afford that house to move to. It's a shame that schools don't teach life skills, but then, to some extent, that's what life is for - it gets you life experience. How we define "employable" is where the debate should be, but, for now, grades are still very important for the majority of us.
@@jarbincks6715 I don’t think that’s true at all - literacy rates in fifth grade are still very low, and schools play a part in raising those across the board. To say it’s useless beyond then is just a ridiculous statement to make, and only makes you sound like an angry kid who didn’t like school. If it wasn’t for schools beyond fifth grade, there’d be millions more illiterate adults / weak readers who find that limits their prospects.
And those are just some parents who don't want to change and just believe that their kids need to suffer in school just the way that they did... pretty pathetic actually.
Im literally a “golden child.” I have all honors and I enjoy reading. These days highest grades are Ds when my lowest grades use to be Bs. Im on my phone all day. Knowing I have potential and knowing im able to do my work yet not doing it just- WHY CAN’T I JUST DO IT? im always procrastinating and its just so hard to stop. I’ve tried- oh god i’ve tried- to get my grades up. Ive pulled all nighters without finishing a single assignment. IM LITERALLY A GOLDEN CHILD WHY CAN’T I JUST FINISH THE FREAKING ASSIGNMENT? Ive been wondering if I have adhd or add, and I tell myself its only because I want an excuse for being a stupid lazy procrastinator. I hate myself.
You have no idea how much I relate. I've always prided myself on my intelligence and love for knowledge, yet cant learns to give a shit about the due date for my chemistry lab. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was in third grade after my school made my parents get me assessed by a psychologist. They did nothing about it, I'm not in Cognitive therapy or being pumped full of Adderal like half of my school. Sometimes I want to get help or medication to make things easier, but then I laugh at myself for looking for a million excuses. i want to go far, I want to study something I love like engineering. hell, currently I've been thinking about being an astronaut, but its not so easy when you're constantly being told that will never happen if you cant get into a good college because your grades suck. I spend 3 hours stressing out over an assignment only to have an anxiety attack that leads to me skipping school for 2 days. its a never ending cycle.
I even love school sometimes. I love to read and then spend an entire English class sitting in a circle and discussing the book. But I have an f in English because I cant push myself to fill out the nightly graded notes on the book.
@@sophiarenx7032 EXACTLY 😩 even if I had an assignment due in 10 minutes id still tell myself “ill do it later” or “I have time.” Then 1 minute before its due I just cry over that same assignment. Plus im super good at making things up for my bad grades. I have the ability to sleep through 40 missing assignments and im not proud of it. I just don’t give a fuck anymore. Im so sorry about what you have to go through- I wish there was a way I could help. Some medication sounds like it would be really useful. Im just glad im not the only one. We both in trouble lmao
@@patasmaranas9711 don’t worry one day we’ll be on top changing the world and our teachers will see us on the news and think “wow, I guess grades don’t matter”
Holy shit I am in the same spot. My lowest grades used to be a B, but ever since online school came. I started failing hard. My highest grade is still an A+ however that's only because a teacher actually knows how to teach his students during these hard times. I failed 2 of my classes with an F, I used to be failing 4 or 5 classes at the beginning. At the last week before break, I gained a spark of motivation and spent two whole days on my grades. I can't figure out why I'm not motivated at all. I just couldn't sit down to work for hours straight even though I know I had potential. You're not the only one going through this.
It's a lot more torture when your in quarantine having no motivation to do online classes and yet the teachers give us 100 assignments expecting us to wake up 5:00 am to get ready for school when quarantine just tires you out because we have no human contact but people online and the people that live in your house. In the end, online school makes me suffer more than normal school.
They should just remove the grade system as a whole, so people like me don’t end up getting stressed about them, and end up feeling forced to do their work just for the letter A so they don’t get their ass beaten.
Mentally sane, great sleep, healthy diet but bad grades = Brat.
Daily breakdowns, three hours of sleep, lives on ramen but perfect grades = Good boy.
why is this so true
This is sooooo accurate :,)
Amen to that.
I'm almost the second one (I get A but not A+),so I'm still a brat
second one is me, throw in fuck ton of trauma and you've got a recipe for disaster.
It's me.
I'm the disaster.
I have learned more on the internet than I ever did in school.
Relatable
totally relatable.
Yes
So true, I totally agree on this!
Damn right
I'm not dumb. School suffocates me. It gives me anxiety.
@Jc Gaming Its not just waste of time. Almost, but pretty much all you do after the 7th grade is just random shit that you don't need in life that's why school is a problem and increases the suicide rate every year.
but as much as possible, try to enjoy it I mean; you're spending years of your life stressing instead of having fun
Me too
I’m dumb lol
samee
"Don't let school get in the way of your education"
-Mark Twain
السلام علیکم
I have that hanging in my history classroom. Whenever the school feels a little too "constrictive" and I can feel it wearing on my students, I point it out and remind them not to despair and remember that experiencing thoughts that result from learning is amazing.
be self taught, never institutionalized, i learned more studying what i wanted than i ever did in actual classes, i studied for 17 years, none of the things i learned was from a classroom
I love that one.
The only thing school has taught me is, is how to remember things for a short period of time just to forget it the second I'm done using that knowlage
After the test we forget the shit
EXACTLY
@@potatoyoutube9225
or the stress of passing the test makes your forget the shit DURING it.
Yup, this is literally me.
In math class we learn something for a week. We then have to do a test on that crap. Then we move on to a different topic that’s completely different. So we basically forget everything.
It's just horrible how schools crushes people's dreams when they are supposed to help you achieve them.
That's what teachers believe. The government and those who plan the curriculum know exactly what school is for: making factory workers.
You can't always get what you want
but if you try sometimes you may find what you need
That isn’t true my brothers high school teacher made him a recommendation for his dream collage and he got in on that recommendations
@@4chan425 That's the exception, not the norm, sadly.
They got me into expected straight a's ppl ignoring the fact that last year my results arent good at all and EXPECTING ME TO SCORE straight a's for the upcoming national exam
Man im speechless and idk i hope i got covid and dead already lol this is too funnyithinknowicangetcancernowido
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askmewhythisisjustsomerantscoming
fromsomestupidbeechthatmaybealready
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"school don't give you enough time to absorb all the information"
It's true. Everytime I want to understand a thing, there is a new study material comes
absolutely. they want us to have a long time retention rate so we can use what we’ve learned for the next grade, but don’t give us enough time to retain. it just sits in your conscious mind instead of your subconscious (where its “learned”)
@@bigbando9437 exactly, one day we start a project the next day there’s a new one and the yesterday one is forgotten
Totally agree with this!! In high school I took precalculus and didn't understand a lot of it. I passed the class but I especially struggled with simplifying radicals and other things. When I went to college, I took precalc again by mistake, and I was reintroduced to the stuff I was troubled with previously.. and finally understood! I was really happy haha. It's been 5 years since I took any math, but I still understand. I knew I hadn't memorized it, I truly understood, and it made me so proud of myself.
I wish school gave everyone more time to feel as proud of themselves as I was
Agreed
TRUE
Straight A students aren’t usually people who genuinely have the drive to learn, they just know how to play school.
Yes, know/bothers how to play with it
Explains how my ex played me so well
I totally agree with you. With every subject I know exactly what type of quesions they will ask. I know what they want you to learn, but I only learn what I know is gonna be the most helpful on the test. I procrastinate a lot and work my ass of the day before I have a test or have to finish an assignment. If learing was like a game then learing random interesting things from youtube or books or other random sources would be an open world game, and school would be a linear repetitive game. School feels like an endless repetitive stressfull forced competition.
I usually score really good, but since januari I just lost the motivation. I have a hell alot of assignments that should have been finished days ago and I have just become a mess. It's not just school tho. I feel like social media and school have made me this fucked up being. I'm way to worried about prestations and what people think about me that I have just become this messed up piece of shit. (I got a little carried away with this sorry lol)
That’s because they are brainwashed and think this is the only path
@@Clouded_Mind that’s harsh, especially since most of the doctors, nurses, and scientists who have put endless work in their careers to get where they are at are literally the ones exhausting themselves in a 24 hour shift to save people right now. So, we’re they also brainwashed by the system too? No, obviously not, they cared about creating a change whether it was small or big and in my opinion, if I live a life of anger towards school then in the end, it’s I who will suffer not the education system. Does the education system suck and needs to change? Absolutely, but to just say to “throw it all away,” is completely wrong since generations of folks have fought for their rights to be able to afford and attend a school. (Don’t mean any harm and this is just my opinion, so please don’t think that I am trying to attack you for yours! 😅)
“If you judge a fish based on its ability to climb a tree, it will go its whole life believing it is stupid”
-Albert Einstein
“If you put random things in quotes, everyone will believe it was made by some famous person”
- Albert Einstein
@@CyanPlushCaptain it really was a quote from Albert Einstein lol
@@CyanPlushCaptain it is its actually a real quote
@@altazel8702 okay then
@@Sinistersouls grand bruh momento
Gen Zs and Millennials this is our future we should have a say in it.
gen alpha?
@@placeholder3863 it's not their time yet
@@MaxMarais #schoolisoverparty jk lol
@@MaxMarais hope we do. No one deserves to be called dumb just because they got low, bad grades. Grades dont describe who we are.
@Deborah Tunis gen alpha 2010-2024
its 2020
After a lot of self-talk, I realized that I actually love studying. The act of studying itself gave me a sense of fulfillment, of, being able to immerse in the vast pool of knowledge, full of stuff I have never known of, which I found so novel and so incredible. But I'm still a student and recently I have been asking myself that question, whether if grades really matter. Yes, high grades make me feel better and approved, but no, cause when i got bad grades, I started to hate myself and hate studying, which is so horrifying.
I think a lot of ppl share your sentiments. I love learning out of my own volition, reading voluntarily. But when I have to worry about being graded for it, the enjoyment vanishes. I think it’s why there are ppl who try to find the little things that they enjoy, are passionate enough about that they can focus on and forget that they’re even being graded.
Same, at school i hate languages (i get really bad grades) but i still kind of want to learn new languages.
ME OMGG LITERALLY ME
@@runway5338 u summed up my thoughts perfectly
I hate studying, but whenever I don't study, I feel like I'm doing something wrong. Even though I don't get much sleep because of it, and my mental health is down the drain, I am pulled towards studying. I don't know if it's because I've been taught that 'study good, bad grades bad', or it's just because I feel worthless if I can't do everything right, even if it's a tiny detail that's not even significant. Even though I'm good at my classes, I feel terrible that I wasn't the best, that I was worthless. So I'm in an endless cycle of studying because I'm worthless, getting less sleep, and getting anxious, and being in a shitty mood most of the time, putting up a front so nobody worries about me (I hate bothering other people, and confrontation), and even though I'm in the top of the class, I feel like I'm still a piece of shit. So I study to get better, and the cycle repeats itself. I know it's probably not a good idea to vent on the internet about how I feel, but if I talk to anyone about not getting good grades, I feel like they'd treat me like I'm subhuman, just because I can't get good grades all the time, while sacrificing my mental health. I think I have something wrong with me, I shouldn't be stressing about keeping up with the scores I get, but here I am.
TLDR: I have a hate relationship with studying, but my thoughts keep me from living how I want, forcing me to study.
“I want to be a human being not a human doing.”
-Scatman John
That hit hards nowadays
Wow that's beautiful
you can misread it for something else
@@yourmothergaming384 are you 12 years old or something lol
barsssss
My dad took a calculus test in the 80's and got a 100% on it.. Now we found the same paper test a few days ago and looking at it again, he's forgotten everything on the paper. He doesn't remember any of it. :/
Well for 40 years, of course he’ll forget. Did he major in maths?
Repetition and throw it up on the test
@@____3243 That is exactly this persons point.
@@____3243 that's the point, it doesnt matter. In my opinion i think people who say that school subjects are dumb together i disagree with, i do think kids should be educated, but i think the system is just terrible. In the real world you get things done through connections, cooperation and hard work as opposed to cramming a bunch of things to memorize and forget and never be of use
My Grandmother says remember math.
*uses calculator*
Grades are created to make employees, not learners or leaders.
Beautifully put into words
No, you just can't handle higher education...
Exactly
@Commenter Dude OP never bothered to excel in courses where leadership counts. Higher education provides plenty of opportunities to lead... Group projects, research projects, clubs and extracurriculars...
@@Irisicaaa Which OP? The comment or the person who made the video.
“I think college is basically for fun and to prove that you can do your chores, but they're not for learning”
- Elon Musk
Yet the man doesn’t hire anyone without a degree
@@갱갱항상 Yes, because that’s how the world works. No matter your ideas, it’s not going to change the fact that majority of people just care about degrees and how long you’ve stayed in school.
don’t mind me, i’m just spouting my thoughts
@@soapcon agreed
Hey a degree gets those employers attention tho
@@갱갱항상 I swear he said in a video that he doesn’t care if you have a college degree or not
“If you treat a kid like an idiot for a low grade, you’re more of an idiot yourself”
-Me
I'll get that framed.
Ima write that in my diary
I’m saving this
I love this , you made my day ❤
well said 🙌🏻
The reason why I hate school is because I don’t find the topics interesting, and I just don’t wanna spend my time and effort on learning something I don’t love or won’t use.
Goddamn same
That’s very accurate
Ikr
School needs to burn in hell, I learn more off of RUclips then school
@@Original_Qksks so this explains why your grammar is terrible
Quite ironic that school really takes the beauty out of learning
fr
Ikr
Exactly
@@osher7265 no u ruined the bts / taehyung row 😭😭 jkjk
@@lixkook9668 nobody here cares about your freakin bts, some people here are saying their sad stories and by saying this kind of things you only make people like me only convince more that k pop fans are too overwhelming
I learned English faster on the internet than in school, i’m sure everyone here can relate
edit: and you know that English teacher always brag
I learned English when I was 5. my mother language is Albanian and I lived in Slovenia. I learned English thru the internet by watching cartoon videos faster then learning Slovenian by going to school. After I was finally able to actually talk to someone without sounding stupid my Slovenian was still bad. After 1year of watching English cartoons I was better at English then Slovenian. (Cartoon network for life btw) Now I live in Austria and after 4months I have forgotten the language. I studied it for 4years just to forget it in 4months.
Yep it was either cartoons or videos who helped me, but I didn't learn much with the apostrophe's and such. Which ended up me being way ahead in my English class :V
Annndd I know more about english than Tagalog (my native language) :> what the hell
@@thegodoffacts2448 xD I grew up with Cartoon Network, Nickelodeon, and Nick Jr. Tho
I learned more english reading fucking captain underpants than books with 100000 pages on them
school just screams “pass for your future!” and not “learn for the future”
Yes
This is great ad for schools😅😍
Yep.
i'll agree you need to pass high school to get a job, i'll disagree you need a college degree to do degree jobs
He doesn't need school, school needs him
Sounds like a meme but is actually true
That is correct, a school isn’t a school without students like us, even if you aren’t a student, I assume you started as one
literally
yEss
@@rhi9639 mhm
Please get into a Ted talk. This is honestly astonishing to listen too.
Frr
@@frskngd There are kids who have ted talks.
@@randomperson1714 I think he meant "immature" when he said "kid" . I don't think that they will accept him to do a Ted talk because school isn't an education center, it's a business and businesses care about their reputation
Please do not?
Ted talks is just trash now
as a highschool student, I don't feel like I've earned the right to say a single thing about grades. Nonetheless, I agree with this. I've found nothing but stress, pain, and sleep deprivation in my schooling. It slows down my writing, cuts into my daily life, and causes me breakdowns in the middle of enjoying a nice and fun video game with my friends. Sure, a student's purpose is to learn. But what exactly am I learning? Is my constant cheating through tests learning? Is my panic cramming for a test just to forget it all afterwards learning? If anything, I'm learning that one of the biggest flaws of humanity is its inability to change. Our school systems in America have remained the same ever since they came into being, which was centuries ago. Over my life, I've dropped art, dropped guitar, dropped piano, and even dropped friendships, all for what? A number to appease my parents? A number that will supposedly lead me towards a better life? Well if this number is so powerful, then why can't it give me something that I wished for? Why can't I catch a break after I receive that report card? I'm given the results of my previous hardship, just to be thrown into another. All of this, and I secure nothing. Even if I get full marks on everything, I am guaranteed nothing, I am ensured nothing, and I have gained nothing. I do not come out of each year smarter, I do not come out of each year brighter, and I do not come out of each year more creative. As the years go by, my smarts, my sanity, and my creativity goes with them.
Thank you for reading my rant. I'll go back to stressing out now.
Bro your words are a rant but they are also poetry!!
@@boopboop9356 thank you! it's always nice to have people like what I type out.
i second this. wouldn't change a word.
This is just sad
@@DrMan-nh3bg in a feelsbad way or in a "you a snowflake" way
I hate when teacher be like “we are here for you” but end up giving 3-4 hours of homework, tests every week, projects every week and constant stress. School ruins everything. If you want to play a game you cant cause you got work for every class. But fun fact that homework spelled backwards in latin means child abuse 😂.
I checked and it does say child abuse lmao
but it's their job? i blame the people that created this system and the people higher up that don't try to change it
not the teachers
It's their job lmao. They don't want to lose their job. You know they aren't actually in charge of all the work you need to learn ?
fr. im having sm stress rn
I still play games fuck hw
The only thing that makes me scared of failing grades are my parents.
my parents are the only reason i’m even paying attention to my grades rn
I hate being bothered about my grades, it puts so much stress on me and i want to say why i don't care but my response gets rejected anyway 😔
@@Anxmaly666 Even when you got a good point they still wont listen, I try really hard to just grow some balls and tell it to them, but ik that would just lead to more chaos
Same. I’m at a 78 in math, which makes me nervous about my parents reaction. It isn’t even that bad, since it’s still passing but i’m stress because finals and official report cards are going out.
So accurate omg
“School is a safe, fun place for you to learn, and prepare you for your life”
No. It’s a place that causes depression, stress, and an unrealistic standard that a small amount of people can reach. We go to school to “learn”, but in the end, your success is based off of how well you remember this pointless stuff. Most math that’s more difficult than simple addition, multiplication, subtraction, and division, will *never* be used. We won’t need to understand the whole human anatomy to get a job. We won’t need to know advanced physics to succeed. They waste our time with this stuff, when they could at least be teaching us how to manage money, how to pay taxes, how to raise a child. They tell you that everyone has flaws, it’s okay, but when you show one you’re treated like a screw up? In the end, it doesn’t even matter if you get a high mark on a paper.
On a different note, thanks for the support on this comment. This had 5 likes a few days after I checked it, and it’s randomly blown up. This is the most supported comment i’ve ever had
High school needs to have mandatory classes on what you just stated. We cannot learn how to pay taxes, manage loans, raise a family, or hell even car insurance information, just by sitting in class learning about how long it takes a damn door to close (yes I learned that in physics). This irrelevant shit gets you nowhere, like ah yes, I know terminal velocity and can calculate projectile velocity, but in the end it's just irrelevant garbage. I can't think of any place that you'd need to know that (maybe NASA but).
Lol, like the education system will ever change in our lifetimes
@@Pokémon-b8c Well, I personally think that it can change in our lifetimes. The generations coming up has finally realized that this system is not ok, so once we are adults, we are able to someday chance this stupid education system and replace it with something that matters. If the older generations isn’t willing to fix this matter and cause students learn such stupid things, then we have to. So many students realize that this is a problem so maybe those same students will take the initiative and make the education system better.
@@Beelsoranges yeah , but that’s like saying there won’t be any values passed down from their generation to ours. Believe me, not everyone likes change, even if it’s reasonable.
@@Pokémon-b8c I know not everyone likes chance but we should at least try to make it better if we ever have the power to do so.
EDIT: I fixed a typo.
For teachers, it’s about the pay. For students, it’s about the grade.
Most teachers especially the ones I had always wanted to teach more and didn’t want to teach the lesson that they were given but since that’s the the district gave them they have no other choice but one of my old teachers usually says fuck it n make us have free time until it’s actually important to get work done for the finals lol
@@parrisagustd9891 blame the snowflakes of society that created a legal paradox that prevents schools from being efficient
@@crowmaster9652 yeah both grade school and even in some cases college now a days feels like a waste
@@ctg5679 it gets to the point where there is more money working up the career ladder
Nah they want to actually teach but the amount of standardization doesn't let them do their job, LOL
Knowledge that doesn't intrigue and resonate with you is knowledge unlearned. When learning becomes a checklist item to mark off, then the objective doesn't become about the learning anymore, but just about passing. Like an obstacle. That's no way to learn at all.
:(
Oh you're here. Love your work HFP and you're absolutely right too. Learning should be intriguing, inspiring, and interesting, but instead school made it a chore, back when we are still kids and just starting school, we came in with curiosity and intrigued to learn, but school just takes that away, now we walk into school just to wait for it to end
Yep being in school right now school is just getting in the way of the things I want to do in life. You want to work a job where you get actual benefits and insurance and make a living wage? Guess you have to sell your soul to school and pay the colleges to put you in debt. I don’t even know what is better for my future be enslaved to debt or risk working a job where I won’t even be able to pay rent.
I'll say it's like someone is burning your ass and telling you to go over the obstacle, because there's a little treat at the end.
School isn’t about learning, it’s just about passing and competing.
The competition is WAY too much. Seriously.
@@KoiDwae ikr and I learn stupid stuff, like why do I need to learn about history when once I get a job I won’t think about it for like 50+ years
We are always competing with schools, no one truly wants to do that.
@@KoiDwae yes it’s sad and boring
How tf will learning about mitochondria let me be an animator and graphic designer which is my deep passion? Like wtf is wrong with school.
I think I'm in love with you. I once asked my teacher why she had to grade her students instead of simply teaching for enjoyment. She solemnly replied, "No one would take my class seriously without an evaluation." School for me is a house of learning and I hate how petty things like grades burn parts of it down.
True...and this is because we aren't here anymore to learn but to get a high paying degree, because the society has intellectualized itself. It became mechanical, corporate, money-based... capitalistic. No wonder plenty of people are depressed, society just sucks all life out of it.
@@planetary-rendez-vous Then do something about it
@@averiWonBTW But what can we all do when no one wants to listen?
@@khoiphan2990 There is one way that is proven to work...
@@averiWonBTW oh god oh no
This guy: Saying the most true words in my entire life
Parents: He’s just faking
I mean at the end of the day the money speaks louder than failing the class.
@@crowmaster9652 no I’m talking about high school not college, for college you payed for it so you prob should try to get somewhat decent grade, still, this system is messed up
@Thot Patrol USA no its actually kids this day cause before 2000 when theres no computers every son and daughter is so good at learning now every kids focus on games and not education so thats why youre statement is wrong im sorry for my bad english
School system and Media: “imma just pretend I didn’t see that”
@@captainzyte4476 Excuse me? XD
Parents literally pressure their kids to get really high grades - for what? To go off to some fancy college? Get some "high paying" job? Learn what makes up a potato? Really? To me it just all seems like some big scam
The sad thing is, its not like we could tell our parents.
we're "talking back" at this point but isn't it how a conversation works...
@@vladaling219 and when you stay quiet they get upset 😐
@@tooth3547 like EXACTLY, they get mad out of everything we do :/
i try but they dont even listen lmao
Fr bro I tell my mom and all she does is yell at me like bruh
My teachers are always asking me, “why don’t you try to get better grades? You’re naturally so talented and intelligent.”
And I always have to reply with, “because grades are below me.”
this comment almost made me cry idk why
@@almaerica563 Whoops. Sorry
i like that
Naturally talented and intelligent, bad grades. Makes sense....
@@damonnugent1993 Let me help you there. I get assigned an essay. There is set criteria for a topic of exploration relating to a book we’ve studied. I begin writing...
Next moment, I’ve written an essay with vocab so beautiful and alliterative-ly poetic it could make Shakespeare commit a tragedy.
I’ve expanded on the topic into the external world, forgetting the book entirely.
I’ve applied every bit of complex philosophical, existential and psychological concept and metalanguage I could fathom from the pages of my weekend’s extra reading.
And to top it all off, I manage to connect the essay prompt, of how an author uses literary features to display grief, into an existential question so deep you could probably fit the Mariana Trench in there.
See what I mean?
grades feels like a form of slavery
Ya goddamn right
School is in fact more of a student selection than a place to learn, the only one picked are those who are able to overcome stressful situations while doing random and stupid stuff such as learning useless knowledge by hearth without asking themselves why, calling us stupid, not because we are, but because they want others student to believe that we are wrong in the way we think, while grade are just a carrot on a stick for all of those too dumb to understand the situation in which they are.
Only two adds :):
It is technically schools make more money the higher the students perform. You can do the math i assume
@@_x.xxten.ta_cion539 yeah the fact that school is like this is more a consequence of our entire system than really a cause
*Alright boys, we've found the best quiet kid.*
Post Lelouch
cringe
@@xrerxsm8035 no
pp
This is a compliment because I’m the quiet kid, like when I say quiet I mean social anxiety quiet because I love talking to people but people at my school are just rude. Anyways I feel very strongly how this world is so fucked up and how the top 1% have made school and 9-5 jobs to make us slaves and robots for their benefit: money and control
pretty crazy how a letter on a paper “defines” you as being intelligent or dumb and even more crazy how a letter on a paper can “justify” your future
In the past people will go to war to get what they want now a piece of paper controls you life
thats how absurd this reality is
And that's why you decided to make people demons?
It doesn't
@vanr.8284 it doesn't
School is the only source of stress in my life as a teenager
same tho tbh
Pretty much I just started high school and I count the minutes until the next miserable day
@@lukeberko701 my English class made me feel like dropping out because of the useless work
The last year of middle school was the last year that I felt genuinly happy. The moment I stepped into High School my whole mental state flipped. I feel like I am a lot more of a mentally changed person now with all the shit that Ive gone through with High School. High School made me experience my first wave of depression. It made me experience anxiety. And all this negative shit. Before High School for me it would be, moments of anger, and then back to happiness. Idk if its just me, but I feel like that had totally flipped. It feels like now there are Moments of happiness and then just anger. I worry about so much fucking shit. My Future, how Im going to support myself, etc. It is really fucking tough growing up.
I honestly hate my life rn.
Yup. That’s why i was disheartened when I realized most of my classmates only cared about the grade and not the actual material/information and how it was connected.
I only care about the grade too because they put too much pressure on me and report cards for me to actually care about what I’m learning, especially in online school.
@@jagshe1829 Yeah its understandable. That was my way of thinking towards the middle of high school. I was just looking at percentages and how certain assignments effected my grade. Thinking about what i could miss and what i couldnt. At the same time I was dishearten by it.
I gotta admit that I'm one of those kids who barely focused on my work, I barely found anything that interested me unless it was science, history, or just psychology.
Yeah uh idgaf about mats
@@Blackcrow48 For me at least, you did have to understand concepts and ideas to pass tests rather than just memorization. It really depends on the teacher you get. A teacher from a rich school decided to teach at my poorer school and they teach so good AND FUN! I didn't even read the book, got a B just from class notes and it was a freaking Chemistry class. They weren't just a good teacher. They were a life coach and football coach.
Why do humans create such limiting systems...Why make life so hard
Well, School was created in the Industrial Revolution, always had that system. Atm it’s outdated, it’s just outdated.
Because it’s all related to jobs, it’s easier to take one look at someone gpa and see something about their “work ethic”
@@boopboop9356 my man 🤝
Cuz they don't think
Cause humans and life sucks. They destroy everything from dreams to resources.
The one thing I hate is when teachers decide to shame a student for asking a question. We’re here to learn, not get embarrassed in front of our peers. And their top priority should be helping us pass their class anyways..😬
Like “dumb question” or not, they should be guiding people to passing their class, not beating their mentality because they don’t know how to solve a problem & want help.
"You've already learned this!"
Yep, my old history teacher did that. Our classes ended up being her asking a question, no one answering because if they get it wrong she'll give you a blunt put-down and humiliate you for getting it wrong (it didn't even have to be 'wrong' either, she would do that if it wasn't the answer she wanted), then the same 2 pupils would always answer the questions and my teacher would be actually confused as to why no one wanted to speak out, despite several people telling her bluntly that she was rude. Even me, someone who has extreme anxiety speaking in public, would try answering the questions eventually because we'd sit there for genuinely 10-15 mins in silence most lessons waiting for someone to answer and it was painful. Keep in mind that this was my A-level class meaning we were 17-18 years old, not children (Not that it's okay to behave like that with children either). Absolutely kills the subject of history when you don't feel able to discuss a topic and give your own views on things, they just want you to regurgitate arguments, no room for individuality. There are better teachers out there, but it's a shame that education doesn't reward them, and it incentivises the behaviour of teachers like my old one.
I know, I relate. I've stopped asking questions because the way they tell me it's wrong in front of everyone embarrasses me. I try even though i'm always wrong. But I also make myself look more stupid if I don't answer the question so what do I even do lol
I had a chemistry teacher last year, and I'm pretty sure she's been fired. She was always saying that we were "stupid" for not understanding what she was explaining, yet everyone always failed in her classes, like 27 out of 30 students in all of the 3 classes she was teaching (in mine 16 out of 21, me included). She was always, ALWAYS yelling and humiliating everyone. We were all scared to ask questions for that. And also because, for example, this one time, when a girl said "excuse me, I didn't understand the last sentence you said, could you please explain that again?" And screaming the teacher said NO! NO! NO! *YOU* DIDN'T UNDERSTAND BECAUSE YOU WEREN'T PAYING ATTENTION!!! YOU ALL NEVER PAY ATTENTION, I'M TRYING TO DO MY FUCKING JOB HERE! and she gave the girl a 5 because of that, ruining her grades. She also did that a lot, I even have some of the screeming sections recorded if things got out of hand. When she got fired, everyone pitied the sub teacher, because he had a lot of work to do, everyone was failing in chemistry, but the good thing is that he is a big sweetheart, and is much easier now.
“Don’t let schooling interfere with your education”
-Mark Twain
This is so accurate. When you say “I don’t care about my grades” people assume that you don’t want to be successful, or have a life. No, i’m just more AWARE than the actual ADULTS in my life, that grades do not MATTER. They are marks on paper, an endless competition and pressure to stuff as much information as we can and spit it all back out, to never remember again. If you don’t stuff in all that knowledge and spit it out? You fail. You are shunned by the system. You have to suffer through more of it during summer, which is supposed to be your break. You are forced to “relearn” it. You are forced to repeat the year. You have to stay up through endless nights and stress, only for it to amount to nothing. You’ve learned nothing at the end of the day. The math we learn does not *matter* if we do not want to be scientist or architects. But we are treated as if each and every one of us like we have to become the smartest people in the universe. We become burnt out, we are bullied, shouted at, threatened- if we do not pass. There is so much in the world we are missing, because we are forced to sit in a school, or behind a screen, the schools controlling every aspect of our lives.
-They control our free time by assigning us hours of homework
-They control our sleep by having us stay up with hours of studying
-They control what we wear with uniform, or dress codes
-They control our day, forcing us to sit down and just listen to someone talk for hours and hours on end, often giving minimal actual interaction
-They control what we eat, everyday in the cafeteria, unless we provide our own food
-They control our mental health, our stress,
they control almost every aspect of our lives, because they want us to get good marks.
Adults will say “Well that’s just how to system is, deal with it”.
We have a *CHOICE* to *NOT* deal with it. But we are constantly forced into picking school over our real lives. The idea *drilled* into our heads that if we don’t get a good mark on a piece of paper, we will fail, and become useless.
This is why i no longer care about my grades.
Thanks for coming to my TED Talk
Dang very long comment
@@Truly.H1ni oops ;-; sorry
i can relate
Shit man I have two years left and I fail almost every class but I want to succeed and get my degree but I don't know shit, I really don't want to do this shit anymore.
@@maynorb21 Literally a Junior student here. It’s tough,but I’m sure we’ll pull through.
If I say this to my mother.. she will say: tHeN dOn't sTuDy aNyMore aNd hAve a sHiT fUtUre.
Well I mean, she's not entirely wrong, but like I don't think that guarantees you a crap future
@@Ramparafo I’m trying to study because I’m afraid for my future and getting yelled at
But on the other hand...
I’m having difficulty studying BECAUSE I worry about my future and getting yelled at
We don’t wanna be looked as failures :,(
Idk when I look at my grades it kinda makes my soul leave
Fuck this shit idc anymore
@@l4r1n3 Same fck man
It’s because she probably was forced into the same mentality as you
Gladly, I’m going to join the military soon
(No offense enlisted members and all)
People say that we only learn things at school but in reality we never stop learning until we die. Learning is not constricted to schools, it is everything we do in life
Students wouldn't cheat if grades were made to be the only thing that matters in school.
facts.
True
facts
pretty accurate ngl
As a “good” student at my school I just wanted to say something, last year I started at a new school and I wanted to be on top of my class so I studied, I studied every day which led to me having an eating disorder, I wanted to have more time to study and thats why I didn’t eat much I also got very antisocial and stressed and a because of grades, even now I study for like 4 houra just because I think I won’t pass and it really stresses me out, i love learing but I just learn to pass and that just isn’t good
same:( I want to not care, but I can't stop caring. So I decided to make at least an hour everyday to learn or read or do things I want to do and quarantine really helped me do that so all is not lost.
If being on top of your class comes at the cost of a eating disorder, its not worth it
Um I used to be the “good student” until this year because I got so frustrated with the amount of assignments that I just gave up on trying it and I think my grades are gonna drop alot
holy shit same..! i suffer from depression and anxiety and my depression had came back bc of some family shit like 2 months ago, but it’s still here because a month of when i was depressed i stopped doing ALL of my work and was ill. so when i finally thought i was getting better i felt worse because i was left with stacked assignments.. then i checked my weight and i lost 14 pounds and i’ve always been pretty skinny (5’0 113 lbs). but now i’m 95-98! i’ve been crying and suffering with the struggle of my grades and trying to keep up with my mental health and it’s just tearing me down so fucking much bruh. and what’s crazy is i’m supposed to be having a christmas break, A CHRISTMAS BREAK for my school! but nah they gave us 2 packets and i have to do a 3 paper project and 7 assignments in different other classes.. this shit is killing me and i’m about to email i need a damn break for fucks sake.
for my Q1 i have honor roll and all (4.0 mostly A’s and 2 B’s), but this second quarter is going to be hell of a mystery for me. currently i have 2 B’s, C’s, and A’s. so i’m pretty on edge 💀😂..
Every teacher ever: “Don’t end up like the garbage man! “ **who makes triple what I make**
I dislike people that say that. An honest job is worth having as long as it puts food on the table. Everyone can't become a doctor because if everybody is a doctor, who's going to be the patient?
@@FJB_USA_1ST you...can be both, dude
@@AshTheGamerIsAwesome Nah. EvErYbodY KnoWs DoCtors ArE InVinCiBle
@@uwupowice2535 oh nvm u right lmao
Facts
I am a consistent A+ student but then COVID 19 taught me something... having straight A’s doesn’t mean I am “smart” at all. I could have 100’s in my grades but at the end of the day, im not a streetmart person. The world is literally dying and I cannot afford crying over a 94 that i recieved in my test paper. School destroyed my self worth and mental health. It sucks but I measure my worth and my happiness depending on my grades. It really sucks. My parents get stressed out on my depression too... and it hurts me. I have lived to this lifestyle that “failure” is a big NO. But u know what, I decided to destroy my perfectionism by just not caring at all (even though its a HUGE painful process). In this way, i will be able to accept failure and when I do, I will be able to conquer anything that’s on my path because i really have big dreams. The bigger the dreams, the bigger the risk. That’s why i am training myself to chill tf out because I can’t afford acting as if everything in life is gonna be the way I want it to be.
hmmm, you know I feel like I wanna make a groupchat with people in it and you know do our own independent studying on things and bring our ideas into the real world.
Bro same.
Wow! It's like we're the same person..
me too
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I'm a high school junior. I've got all Fs and I've failed this semester. I've slowly been tuning out of school, mostly learning things out of the curious spirit I've possessed since I was a child off of the internet. I'm content with failing because I simply do not care anymore. It's a rinse and repeat with content, content that maybe I'd like to enjoy but it's brought up so often and only for the purpose of adding onto it for an exam/quiz/test. Actually, I can't enjoy almost any type of content in school because of this system of forced memorization and well, other things in this school system. The system is particularly ableist too as I'm neurodivergent and tasks are much harder when my brain is different than my neurotypical peers. I've just noticed that this system keeps me in a constant state of stress, it puts more strain on me, worsens my health, and drives me crazier than I already am. The pandemic really just enabled me to stop caring, to stop stressing myself out, and putting more focus on my health as well as a lot of other things. I'm already battling mental illness, not caring alleviates some stress. I'm ranting but it just isn't a good place for me to learn. The only thing I've taken from school is how to increase my social skills. Not that I was ever bad at socializing but it has somewhat taught me how to assimilate in society (and interesting field trips - i.e. gold panning) I can't take anything else good from school. I could drop out now but something keeps me from doing it and I've gotten this far. I'll finish it off. Might I even backtrack again but maybe I've been set up from the start to end up with this type of burnout and exhaustion. I had very high scores early on and after the end of elementary is where I see my decline. I blame the situation at the time of my dip but also myself for losing my steam. I shouldn't be so hard on myself but it's difficult and school sucks the whole purpose of learning. I'm ranting again but I hate school because it's made me hate what I've always done: ask too many damn questions and curiosity to learn about the unknown.
@@ra_in900
I mean I have ADHD but still managed to pass.
@@ra_in900 Yeah, like how you failed and I passed.
@@ra_in900
You see, that’s your problem. You’re using ADHD as a crutch. You should learn to correct your mistakes and not be a bitch about it.
Honestly we're in the same boat.. Only thing is that I'm a Senior. I can't believe how much similar our stories are.. Once you turn 18 immediately apply for SSI if you live in America. That's what we did. Might take a couple of months or a year but it's worth it in the end. We waited a couple of months to almost a year and just recently got accepted. Hang on you can do this!
Not sure if this is useful, but I'm neurodivergent, and having a passion helped me more than public education ever has- work on a portfolio of something you like, it will be useful in the future
The fact that I’m being pressured because of school is giving me more anxiety about my grades. :(
My parents add on to this mess
@@l4r1n3 Why did those fucks bring me into this hell?
@@l4r1n3 Fr
@@crowmaster9652 Becauss you have a purpose in life. Thats why your here. Even if you were an accident or was on purpose you still have a purpose. Never forget that
@@ThinkLuckyThink lmfao my parents brought a future murderer into society 🕺💃🕺💃
I only go to school because if I argue back I'll be homeless.
Me too kid
Ouch
Yuh..
Either sleepin outside on survival or sleepin inside dealing with the insane bullshit
which is worse?
Theres so much more to life than school, stay strong!
"tests might be 70% of your grades, but 0% of your future."
In today's messed up society, grades = 100% of the future for 99.99% of the population.
@@turtlefeesh I can know the secret to curing cancer, but if I have an F, I guess no one will know besides me
I would give a like but ur at 69. Dont wanna be the guy to ruin that
Here in the uk gsces = your future
you can still succeed even if you failed school
school isnt even about knowledge its about your memory now
It's also about raising your hand and participating. I mean I get it, in group work you should try to socialize but when it comes to answering a teachers question why make it a big deal if a student barley raises their hand. It just stresses out the student as now they are forced to contribute to the whole class convo instead of it being optional. Also just because a student always raises their hand doesn't mean they understand what's happening or is an A student. Majority of the time those who raise their hands are failing the class (in my experience, obviously some are grade A's). Also there's nothing wrong in failing a class. If you have trouble with a subject it helps you pin point what you struggle with and that's human. Also it's crazy how some teachers will be straight up honest and say the topic there teaching will only benefit those who need it (ex: Geometry and Construction). I feel the school system should allow kids to choose the classes they want that will help then for the career they want to pursue, at least for high school and maybe middle school or at least for the students who know there passion. Also with college, why should we pay for an education we struggled to gained. I mean college is where students are fully allowed to pursue their passion yet many can't because college is expensive and trying to gain a scholarship is crazy and then when a student doesn't want to go to college there looked down upon and I understand why someone would not want to go to college. I'm just one of the lucky kids who somewhat likes learning and is excited for college.l but I am also part of the many who is stressed by my ap classes and honor society responsibilities to try to impress as many colleges as possible. Granted this is all me, my family is luckily very supportive and are honest that if I don't want to go to college, it's okay and they will support me fully. Now personally the reason why I'm working so hard is because of what I want to pursue which is in the medical field so granted I have alot to put in but that's not everyone's case. All in all school should be about what the kid wants to learn and what they feel will suit them up for their future not what the board wants the kids to learn. (Sorry I went on a tangent it's just that the school system really needs to be improved to better kid's futures while also motivating them to push through to their dreams and for the love of God, they need to make college free or at least less expensive and hard to get into. It's crazy how much work students have to put in just for a piece of paper that says "hey I'm qualified through knowing math yet I have no idea how to cook but I hope you as a restaurant business hire me!").
Geez i just realized I typed out a whole paragraph sorry about that 😅
@@NWolf17 About school being about participating in lessons, my spanish teacher literally said in the last week before Christmas that I must be the hardest working student in the class but I'm really not, I'm just good at remembering things I guess. It's similar for most other subjects as well and then everyone is so surprised when they see that I get mediocre grades.
@@NWolf17 i once failed a class because I didn't raise my hand enough.
I have bad social anxiety so this is very difficult for me. Schools should be teaching mental health instead of useless advanced math that only stresses me out to tears
@@moonhall yes, i absolutely agree with you.
Its sad that school only ever cares about how well a person can memorize rather than developing an understanding and appreciation for that information. I believe that to some extent its why loads of people hate math and subjects similar to it. Everyone is made to memorize stuff within it but never truly understand why or how it works. Personally the idea of trying to understand the way our surroundings and everything in this universe works is what drives me to learn physics, but i’ve lost a good portion of that passion and interest due to how schools simply care about how well one can memorize and spit the same crap out onto paper and it makes me wonder how many more people suffer in silence due to the way education is in the modern day.
We should take mostly open book tests/quizzes so that we can actually absorb the info and it teaches us to actually think, not just be patient and be able to sit for hours writing stuff on paper and memorizing it
@Tall Jakee i see your point and in fact i do on my own try to develop an understanding on subjects, especially math and physics. I quite enjoy these subjects which are reliant on logic and understanding. However, in my school its always been about memorizing things, in case of math the formulas related to it. This does not mean by any chance that i encourage or indulge it, rather i follow my own path and strive to learn about my favorite topics in as great depth as possible. I simply wish education where i live wasnt made solely for the purpose of trying to make a person get good grades as opposed to understanding a topic truly and how it affects the real world. I try my best to never memorize and to understand whatever it is i learn with extra effort daily.
@Tall Jakee well yes we do get such problem but my teachers here solve em for us and show us how its done ig. Honestly the education i have here is supposed to be high quality but its just standard stuff disguised as an international school. India is just jank so im moving to the US next year for higher education but like i really do enjoy learning stuff in depth and mostly i dont rely on my school and like to explore quite a bit. I really love it when i get a nice challenging math problem that really gets me to think.
@Tall Jakee im sorry if my comment came off as rude initially and ignorant but for me thats just the way its been so far.
@Tall Jakee yea its sad but in india a good portion of the crap really do be like that
School teached me: Depression, heart breaks, Loneliness, fake friends, stabbed in the back, getting beat for bad grades, crying because how stressing it is to be in school, give less of a fuck about school and my grades.
im sorry you had to go through all of that :(
@@0mgstorytimes1234 Its good bro it's kinda normal now.. And i wasn't really tryna get attention but you seem nice, so i hope the best for you and your family I hope you are blessed for all the meals and fun things u do especially with your family, I hope that you dont go through the pain i am in to so u don't have to be in my situation. Please do Good and keep up with your grades, the last thing i want is for people to have bad grades so please do me a favor and do that. And most importantly God loves you and so Do I 🙏
Remeber GRADES DON'T DEFINE YOU . God loves you and so do I .
I can relate
And bullying
My parents expect me to get straight A's, study all day, do chores, stay at a healthy weight, be nice and respectful, have friends to their likings, get up and go to bed on time, study my ass off, never have time for fun, and *_still_* be mentally sane.
I cannot do that okay bye.
I can definitely do that. Just know by the end of the week my suicide note is under my pillow
I dont care much about school, I just try gaining knowledge on stocks and code
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I could’ve done that without complaining if only I didn’t get people’s perspectives. For example: “Oh my god the kid screaming is so annoying” and then I respond with “really? I wasn’t even paying attention to him screaming.” And then a week later I start complaining. There is so many things I could’ve done only if I didn’t understand people, yet people don’t understand me nor do I understand them, everybody just criticizes me for not understanding them but yet when I have a huge problem; nobody is there for me and then the only advice I get is “get over it stupid kid.” I hope I can just ignore it and move on; I hate to get stuck on something and always think about it.
Lol I already completed high school back in my home country. But, I had to repeat all the grades again when I came to the United States . I honestly don’t know how I haven’t gone insane
Us showing on parents how school is legit making us depressed ect:
Parents: 👩🦯
Just tell your parents about the trusty Indian dude that makes learning fun.
I got a 9/20 in my physics quiz today and I felt soooo fucking depressed and suicidal. I fucking hate school I really wish I was born in Finland, their education system is waaaay better fr😓
@@moatasemkassab4517 it's alright bro I dont like school but no matter what we say school wont change so we just got to study this might be cringe but heres your virtual hug
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@GrenHoho :D yes, im not joking or making a meme refrence, the indian dude on YT makes learning fun.
@@bug3779 Its so true but we cant change this shitty culture
You're so smart my dear...I agree with everything you said
Our education system is so limited and focused on unnecessary details
It's more like we're learning things we won't need in the daily life just for the sake of getting a degree
"True knowledge shouldn't make you feel small " getting bad marks makes us feel less than those who got better marks
That's only giving us anxiety and stress by the end.
Thank you... This is a important issue that requires a unique solution. Not to rebel against the system per se, but to structurally change students' attitude towards learning over time. Change education from the ground up, instead of from the up down. Then again thank you for the comment :)
@@RCWaldun remember when school wasn't about grades? Compare it to today, school is just about grades now
@@joshfilms4088 it's not only about grades my man. There are way more problems than only grades
my mind just clicked. YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. i had this mindset of not caring about my grades throughout highschool but my grades were superb. i also participated in astronomy olympiad and passed to national level. i didn't care about the prestige, all i wanted is acquiring new knowledge from my mentors/teachers.
now i'm in engineering college and i have this mental voice that i have to be a straight A or else my whole life going to be suck. now i'm just a regular B/C student. a very stressful student.
Girl this is currently me right now too. The less I cared about my grades when I was younger, the better I performed. Now caring about grades in engineering school has led to many panic attacks and a lot of stress.
@@AtypicalAiza we're all in the same boat . a 1st year in engineering and everything in my life is a mess
Now i think about it i actually relate i was in the debating team. But since i focussed on getting good grades i also have been getting worse grades and a lot of panic attacks. And the only subjects where i don’t have this problem are subjects where i get my best grades.
even im a C+/D+ student and i feel stressed sometimes 😂
Yes when we are innocent, we ponder everything and learn things so even though we performed well in our tests the grades didn't matter to us . But once we become aware of our society , we get confused we get depressed , our grades go down , we become a loser and get treated like the worst .
One of the most frustrating things is when you know something right off the top of your head and the teacher says "show your work" but you don't know how to explain it and the teacher thinks you cheated and you have no way to defend yourself because your parents take the teachers side smh
are you spying on me or something tf
"Show your work" is such a useless phrase. Sometimes you didn't do any work that you noticed. That's a different problem to not understanding. If you can answer correctly but can't explain why, the teacher should teach you how to explain yourself. But instead they just assume you cheated or don't understand if you don't instinctively know what they want to see.
after i got into middle school, i went from a straight A student to an average C student. i was looked up to in elementary school for being one of the smartest and then it all crumbled. i went from learning at the same pace as everyone else to being in the highest classes. it put a huge strain on my mental health bc i still had to maintain that same "better than everyone else" mentality because that's how the adults in my life portrayed me in my younger years. i couldn't maintain those same good grades and it led me into a deep depression. i struggled with my depression for two years before finally starting therapy to help with my problems. all of my problems were based on the fact i wasn't as good as i thought. grades were all i cared about and now that i couldn't maintain them, i basically didn't do any school work. it stressed me out so much that i couldn't do it anymore. once i met my bf i finally felt the motivation to do good in school again. i still fall off the wagon sometimes but i think when you have someone to support you it can get better. i still just care way too much about making my parents happy about my grades instead of making myself happy. it sucks
This is literally me omg
This is facts. Im 18, a senior in high school, going to college, with no major in mind to pursue, because i was worried i would fail school after all the “stuff” my parents taught me. Im the eldest of my brothers, this “asian mentality” is straining me from the moment ive reached middle school and high school. I used to be a failing student in a private/elementary school, swore to myself i had to earn good grades in middle and high just to be “successfull”. The only thing i got from these are anxiety, depression, stress and being antisocial.
yea mate I feel you I was always an A/High B student in elementary school and even through most of middle school, but after having online school happen in 8th grade, I absolutely give 0 shits about school. I’m an A/B/C/Sometimes D student now. My parents are now having unrealistic expectations of me keeping my A/B average or else they’ll just take away something thinking it’ll help me, but really, I have no support system. I’m one of the most introverted students in my school, because most of my school is hella athletic or really care about just sports, which I’m not into, so it’s hard to connect to people there. So by taking away a hobby of mine, it just drives me to be less motivated than before, because what’s the point of doing homework and chores then having nothing else to do lmfao. Also, I took pre-algebra in 7th grade and now I’m in algebra in 8th grade, so woohoo more stupid fucking grades to worry about. In short, school sucks, fuck school, they need to fix their ways.
Me too. Maintaining an image that doesn’t fucking matter anyways...why is everything so confusing??
Same here now I’m a C student .
I just failed highschool, perfect timing youtube recommendation
Can I have a cookie too
@@nova_kaiser 😤🤝
same. i’m barely in junior year in high school and i just stopped caring. i realized that i’m not learning from these bs teachers.
POGGGG
@Sir Remy I'll remember you when I get to the top
Yt recommended me this coz I'm now failing grades and I'm kind of loss the motivation to study with this pandemic happening
Happiness over Grades. I want to pursue my hobbies. It's easy to get decent grades. I'm content with C' s. I pursue my own acadamia. Stuff that actually matter, not the useless material these institution the government created to control our minds at a young age and force Capitalism and low-wage slavery. We are the future, it's time we take back what is ours. Like our happiness.
Same lost my motivation to do basically anything
AYYYY SAME HERE BROTHER
Take a break from school (mentally) Talk to yourself and ask yourself what it is you want in life and how you’re going to get there. Don't let the school system hold you back or make you feel unmotivated. This is YOUR Life ! You must grab life with both hands and say "I'm in control !" You have 1 life remember that. It goes by quick too ! So live a life you wanna remember not a life where told how to live. Stay strong brother and believe in the process :)
Take this from a graduated highschool student from the class of 2020, grades aren't everything in life and are not as important as happiness and fulfillment in life.
"I'd rather die happy and poor, than bad and rich" don't know where it came from but I live by it
I totally agree!
The only problem I have with that statement is why you can't be good/happy AND rich? I know it doesn't apply to everyone but you get what I mean haha
nah id rather cry in a mansion than be content on the streets fuck that
@@innovert99 if that was a choice I would take it too, but usually the metaphor is more of like once you get rich and have everything theres nothing new to life with causes depression, but I wouldnt know im poor af
if only that could happen of course I'll choose to die happy and poor. but the problem is poor always related to unhappiness.
Exactly
Exactly
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What are with these 100K or more youtubers going on videos and saying like 4 words lol
@@payne5173 Exactly
The issue is when there are career paths that require one to care about grades -- like getting accepted to med school. It's lame that certain paths depend on an arbitrary system of measurement, but it's still a reality.
Well thank god med school has a grading system... You wouldn't like what would come out of it if it didn't.
@@arthurgross6269 I was more talking about qualifying for med school from undergrad. Even then, you have to do well in a bunch of classes with material that you won't ever use again just to get into med school. Furthermore, a student with great grades can still know material less well than someone with worse grades.
@@dayru_ru i’m in med school and i agree i think the biggest problem nowadays is that this retarded system is just forcing short-term memory and my system is too crule like we are asked basically every week u don’t have time to have any bad day in whole smestar bcs it can fuck up your score bcs u just have to be prepared everyday always so well prepared ,it’s good that it is forcing us to study literally everyday but yeah .. u just can’t study after exams the same way u could before them u need a rest ..
@@dayru_ru Med School requires you to store more information than a 2TB SSD.
We are trained in public school to become employees, work for others. Cause there's lots of smart rich people they need employees. But in private school they became boss and higher rank later in future. This world is under money's control ;-; sad (not all people will become employees)
Like Rick Sanchez said: "School is not place for smart people"
Haha really?
He knew
Still, you're gonna need it
@@BitchChill depends what you wanna be when you grow up, but most fields can be self taught for free
@@rameztwal8424 Like what?
@@BitchChill literally almost EVERY subject unless u wanna learn how to model or dance or something.
I don’t really care about grades anymore as much as I did as a kid. Now I mostly just come to school to pass.
Same
This is where my school mentality is at. Who cares about how others do. As long as *I* pass this course, then I got nothing school-related to worry about.
Same man, i dont give 3 fucks anymore, i just come to pass my time, pretend to be doing my work, while in reality i dont even know the name of the lesson we're studying, wait for it to end, then come back home
teachers need to understand we're human too; we're just adults in training.
It’s not really the teachers; it’s more of the DOE and school board. Teachers honestly deserve recognition for what they do. There are teachers out there who actually care about their jobs; they’re not above the hierarchy. Same with principals. They all answer to the DOE and School Board. The DOE and School Board is responsible for all this.
Overall, it’s the Education System.
Yeah the American school system is fucked and it’s not the teachers faults usually
@Jaster the system was designed to get us close to robots as possible without people realising it
@Jaster literally. I’m not joking here. ie one of the Rockefeller’s: ‘’I want a generation of workers not thinkers’’
@Jaster oh no lol. I meant working like robots but not physically like them but to be trained to work long hours with little breaks, cannot question authority, everyone is the same etc
I had a history teacher in my first high school year who didn't care about grades nor tests . We used to learn and discuss and we didn't have any tests.
There's also this teacher on the news who explained why students shouldn't have homework. What a lucky school.. :(
Legend...
@jamerson kento No
@jamerson kento I would agree with u. But, the problem I run into with hw is that some teachers make it so ur homework is practice for that “upcoming assessment or essay”.
We Need More Teachers Like those Instead of doing the Work why not Discuss it 🤷♂️.
What he is saying... just opened my eyes. When I'm at school, my brain is all fogged and I just want to take a nap. But when I'm at home. I try to form theories about space or create plans to make our country better. No one knows this.. because I dont have time in school to ask my teachers about it.
Yup.and school just takes that all away bc if I get something lower than what people expect me to I start to feel like dog 💩 bc it makes get anxiety and depression thinking I failed my class
U just described me-
@@ascendedentity2162 same here
“Do you want your grades or do you want to be human ?” Sheeeeeeesh that slapped me across the face
What school has givin me:
Anxiety
Becoming more insecure
I know how to hide things
I know how to hide my feelings
I know how to "suck it up"
My parents dont trust me
I'm afraid to ask questions
Adding
Subtracting
Multiplying
Long division
How to right an essay
How to forge a signature
🙂
School gave me
Stunted social skills
Massive disregard of peers' opinions
Distrust of authority
Depression
Suicidal tendencies
the bare minimum of knowledge
How to lie
A good pain tolerance
And a lazy attitude
I mean you gonna use math to pay bills and manage your money buddy soo yeah
@@ghuttsmckenzie4269
Feel ya.
I've hated so many people and became angry but just kept it in. The teachers... were the same. I even felt terrified to go back every day.
@@T_E_G I am glad I'm out of that hell, couldn't have left soon enough and I don't think I'll ever miss it, maybe the friends but everything else was not worth it.
@@skitless4537 at least Maths teaches me to count how many years I got
“Schools don’t give you enough time to absorb the information” I agree.. I really do want to learn the material but they go to fast and I learn differently than some of the other kids in my class. It helps me more when they teach me directly so I can really ask questions and they can see what I’m doing and correct me better. We don’t have tutoring though because of the pandemic and the way my teacher explains things is complicated, he can’t teach well. He knows the material but he just can’t teach it to others..
I cheat in math because it’s easier. I try to learn it at home but I feel so rushed and then I get behind everyone else. I don’t want to cheat, it makes me feel stupid and I’m not learning anything, but I can’t afford my grades dropping because my mom expects a lot from me. I don’t want to listen to her yelling at me lol. It’s so hard to get motivated. I wish I had a small group where we taught each other and were supportive. I struggle with motivation and ego. I think badly of myself but I also think I’m better than everyone else?
My school sucks too, the staff act like the kids and the teachers can’t teach, some don’t even understand the material that they teach! They are inconsistent, they don’t correct kids and they wonder why the school is so bad.
Don’t remember where I saw this but it said something like school is just testing your memory, it’s not helping you truly learn.
I agree and disagree. I don't understand my math teacher at all she wastes too much time on unnecessary steps and it makes me very confused so I just give up and zone out for the rest of the class. I feel like if the teachers were more to the point it would be easier to understand what they are trying to teach. This proved to be true for me because I was going to take my midterm and I was worried because I didnt get anything so far. But just a day or two of studying and i got almost everything at a basic level enough to pass the test. While i studied to pass the test a began to realize that once you get it, it actually becomes fun to learn but teachers just make everything so complicated and unclear.
@@sofiamartinez6710 Okay, this is very crucial. You unveiled the literal secret deep inside. That actually struck me because you are absolutely right... :)
The thing is, lots of things can be fun to learn. Anything can be a fun thing to learn. This is also why math (a good example for what I'm trying to say) can be super fun if you understand it and can do the problems. At the same time, it can feel like the most terrible thing in the universe if you don't know how to do it. It's just all about having to find out about what you find fun about it.
I personally don't like Social Studies. Oops. That was an understatement. Let me rephrase that. I HATE HATE HATE HATE HATEEEEEE Social Studies more than anything. But who knows? If they taught this subject in a different way, who knows how much I would've fallen in love with it? I might've just been able to find my new favorite subject and something new that I never EVER thought I'd be passionate about. The problem is, with the way the school system was built, that's never going to happen. Information cramming and regurgitation just doesn't change anything...
@@theelectronomer2319 I agree with the fact that you could have fallen in love with history/Social Studies if it was taught different. I always struggled with the question "what is your favorite subject?" because one year I could love the subject and the next I could absolutely despise it. I realized that the subject I enjoyed the most always depended on the teacher and how they taught that subject.
@@sofiamartinez6710 That's exactly the case for me too! I really wish that social studies was a subject I enjoyed because I might actually tell you that it isn't all bad sometimes... Some topics are very interesting and I really can get into it. I also absolutely agree with when you said that one year, you could love a subject but then hate it the other. I remember grade 8... man. How I loved science more than anything. Don't get me wrong. I still do. I am in love with science.
The thing is, I love to be that enthusiastic student who really dives into the subject or perhaps even enjoys being with his teacher. I would spend (caps lock off) 30 minutes after school just talking to my teacher about science... then I would say "sorry for talking to you for so long... I ask too many questions too." He really was different.
With that said, I feel like I didn't at all enjoy science in grade 9 the way that I wanted to (which could also be explained by good old Covid-19, but that's a different subject). I'm in science right now and I'm having a pretty good time and I have a good teacher, but my "grades" are suffering from a few "assessments".
I hate having to feel pressure on even the subject I love. Why does school try to take away your dreams? It's a question I have yet to answer than any other question that you would see on a test/exam...
@@theelectronomer2319 I also hate the pressure that the school system gives you to get good grades. It almost makes it impossible to enjoy anything. For example I'm in 8th grade now and this has been an emotionally exhausting year. Last year the subjects were pretty easy to understand even if I did not enjoy learning them because of the way they were taught. But this year I'm in biology and geometry and I dont understand a thing until I actually teach it to myself. It is such a shame that we waste 7 or more hours of our life on topics we dont understand when we can teach them to ourselves in less than 5 hours.
I don’t care either. All they are is knowing and memorizing material. All I see school for is honestly for a way to develop your Brain. Literally that’s what it’s for.
That's too bad because they don't even let you develop it as you want to, or with the materials you like. You can't enjoy unless you want it.
Also most of the stuff is just memorizing stuff, it’s not even really developing our brains
it’s more like setting you up as a factory worker to only follow directions, no freedom. No creativity
I think the biggest lesson you learn in school is how to endure
@@quinndeery890 this lmao endurance is imo also a very imprortant part which might get neglected sometimes.
I hate to say that everytime my mom or dad asks me about school or how my perfomance is going, I immediately tense up and get filled with dread. It's like everytime we talk about school, I just hate it. It's as if I get scared or uncomfortable just hearing about school. I dunno how to explain it, but that's just how it is for me.
edit: hello. same op here, three something years later. i'm sure no one likely really cares for an update but i've come back to say that i'm doing better than i did during the pandemic. i'm doing better at school and i'm striving hard to reach honors as it is my final year of high school. the pandemic and the quarantine was a really awful time for me mentally. doing anything that is related to academics was really tough. i just didn't have it in myself to do those during that time so i was really held back and i didn't benefit in studying at all at that time. however, as things are somewhat back to normal now (such that, i can finally go back to school face to face), i'm really proud of my progress in that i can finally do my academics without really feeling bad about any incomplete works. i hope that this can inspire some people, even if a little.
ikr. i immediately get frustrated/annoyed and my mood worsens drastically. i don’t know why, but hearing about school is just .... dreadful. i hate school and i hate talking about it, haha.
same😢
Me too
You speak the truths
IKR SAME LIKE I'M FEELING ANXIOUS WHEN I HEAR THE "HOW'S AT SCHOOL?" FROM MY RELATIVES 😭
You just hit me bad, my whole life im always pressured to get 100% on everything to always strive for perfection
Im used and always afraid what people will say when they see my grades cuz im never satisfied with myself anymore, i always feel im the dumbest and the worst
My best isnt acknowledge and appreciated..
Im sorry you feel that way, im the exact same way too, i get so caught up with grades to the point i feel afraid if i mess up once and the motivation isnt there anymore.
THANK YOU OMG ME TOO
Do what you like, I'm at philology-english and I try to recreate a tesla motor in my backyard. It affects my grades as my homework and learning time affects my life out of school. A fair deal for happiness.
Same with me
I'm sorry.
it's the fact that i literally sweat during tests.
My palms sweat a lot 😖
fr i once got a stress nosebleeds
@@sri-6374 my hands, my armpits it's like a nightmare
This is a really interesting and important message, but I initially misread the title into "Why I Don't Care About Grandmas Anymore" and I can't stop thinking about it
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*oh No !!*
*meemaw* 😲
You learn more living your everyday life, than you learn in school for years.
That’s very true.
Last year, i was trying to maintain my grades as much as possible while suffering from depression and anxiety and led me to have an eating disorder. My hair fell out, I passed out at school a couple times, and I was always dizzy and tired. Please take care of yourselves before your grades guys. They aren’t as important as you
Same except I didn't lose hair
Man i can agree, entering high school and seeing my grades im starting to lose hope and by that means on that time i was suffering with mental health, i pulled my hair out alot, get anxious alot and getting ptsd from my pass. I also started to pass out at school alot and it really sucked me
@@cityyeee1532 it really sucks how much school can stress out kids and teens. i hope you are feeling better now and taking care of yourself. I do not have good grades anymore for my classes but I feel way better than how I was feeling last school year.
just be a thug like me straight fs in 9th grade
I hope your doing well and to others in this comment section. I was so excited to enter high school but ever since covid and personal things, everything went downhill for me. I lost hope and motivation. I went through so much stress that my hair also started falling off.. everyone stay safe and take care of yourselves 💜
12/10/2020:
I’m a high school sophomore. I’m smart got straight A’s for five quarters in a row. With ap’s. and advanced courses. Few days ago I realized I actually learn way more by self teaching myself stuff that I’m interested in. I basically will now only spend time on math and computer science. For me, this is way better and will fast track me to a job.
If you're anything like me, you'll come to appreciate the other subjects as you get older.
I thought I would be a math and computers guy, but I ended up changing majors to psychology.
i am also a sophomore, i had great grades at the beginning of the year, passing through spendings HOURS in studying and wasting so much time thinking about how i can improve my grades. recently my grades started falling and i try so hard they don't go up. this caused me so much stressed.
@@lyn8981 heh i never tried from the very start of highschool, I've always been very interested in subjects like art, and philosophy instead. Let's see where this takes us.
@@conviction_amp i always thought of studying the same way, but my parents pressured me so much. they pushed me on to subjects i don't have any interest in. i really just wished i didn't listen to them but i still have a couple years left in highschool i can change it.
I'm sophomore (I'm supposed to be Junior, but I got held back in 3rd grade) as well, but at this point I've completely given up. I have no friends, I'm not smart, I waste all of my time watching porn, youtube, and playing videogames. Nothing I do will ever amount to anything. I turn 17 next year, and I'm not excited. My adulthood will be even more miserable. I honestly plan on ending it all before that point
I wish I didn’t care as much. I get really stressed ab school(grades)😩
Hey, grades arn't nothing to stress about, you are you, you dont need to be a letter or a number. Just let the world and let life carry you dispite its hardships. School is stupid, school cannot do a single thing right, if the school system was truly graded than it would fail, so please stop caring if it stresses you out to much. Dont stop trying, never stop trying, just do the best you can and that is okay. What im trying to say is that school is absured in the end its the schools fault for not being able to care about the things you wanna care about.
Tucker A. Hawkins Thank you..
"I have to do it" "No you dont have to do it, no, you just get easily stressed and think you have to do it"
-neon genesis evangelion
Grades are fake, they dont make you smart and once you're out of school they will not matter at all
@@tucker_last_name they are if you want to go to grad school or med school.
Honestly,,, school isn't even about learning anymore.
it's a prison yard now
It’s sad how our intelligence is based on a piece of paper when we live in a world where everybody is a genius in their own way
Incorrect. Why? I exist.
truee, one of the straight a girls at my school doesn't know what's a jew 😭
I agree with the first part and I disagree with the rest, genius means remarkable , unusual brilliance, I argue that with enough effort , anyone can become a genius. the biggest example is albert einstein himself. smart in school but not profound like other "geniuses". studied for 10 hours a day six days a week. to the point which that he had permanent changes in his brain. genius is not only raw ability , but also perseverance and profound drive. do not let scientific research and professors discourage you. because we don't know a damn thing about intellect in the scientific field. it's just all assumptions and patterns that we take off the general population , genius takes time to nurture , months of hard work , years. not a few days or weeks. you want to be exceptional? do exceptional hard work that the normal person will never be able to do, abandon things that the normal person will never be able to abandon.
I agree, after reading pages and pages and pages and PAGES of articles to just to answer 5 questions that you then have to write intricate essays for, you really stop caring
Every kid once they get into high school:
Jokes aside, hes right, schools arent helping you at all, you getting A's means nothing, and if you get F's it does not mean you're dumb.
Dude I got 3 f’s I could destroy those subjects with only 0.001% of my power but I don’t want too it’s not worth my time
@@V8ZN exactly, most shit they teach is useless for the real life world, its unnecessary
@@joanofarc6052 thank god my parents actually understand what I’m going through
@@bird_gang_az9598 lucky, some of us arent as lucky
@@joanofarc6052 thats me...
I ve lost my passion for learning and was struggling with university exam studies. I realised that recently I started to feel and also act like a robot and now you reminded me how much I love learning,searching,wondering and eventually thriving to a more human like human being.
The thing is about school is...
They force you to do things that you don't wanna do
Exactly, I hate being graded in classes like PE, art and music class.
Not everyone can do these, this is something you have to want to do.
Being graded on something you simply can’t do and aren’t good in doesn’t make any sense.
@@Emilia-hz8fe everyone can do pe art and music class unless they have a physical/neurological disorder that prevents them to. You may not be good at it when you start it, but why should that prevent you from learning to get better at it. Quitting something just cause you’re not good at it when you start is a weak mindset
@@ok-sn1uw I definitely get what you mean by this,
And yes I think you still have to try your best even if you’re not good at it, that’s out of question.
What I mean is that some people just naturally have more interest, and passion for these types of things wich makes them better at it.
For example, an amazing athlete can’t compete with an extremely talented artist.
Even if they both tried as hard as they could they couldn’t be as good as each other in those things.
..but even if you have the talent some people just don’t train it, this “talent” is just something that makes it easier and more natural so a person who doesn’t have that per se can still achieve as much if they have the will power and passion to do this.
So like if I have more interest in art, I couldn’t force myself to be as good in PE or music class, even if I tried hard enough.
Sometimes giving your all doesn’t mean you’ll perform “good” or get graded better.
I say this because most of the time it’s not about the effort, the teacher most of the time doesn’t care about how hard you tried.
They’ll give you a bad grade if you did “bad” and not as good as the rest, and vice versa.
If a person didn’t try and just performed good they’ll get the better grade.
That’s just life, even after school you are going to have do things you don’t want to do
Exactly, I'd rather do something that I love rather than doing something i dont
I needed a reality check like this today.
Same
Same
Same
"No such thing as a bad student, only bad teacher."
- Mr. Miyagi
bad teacher*
*bad school system
bad country's education system*
If that’s true then I’ll eat my own shit. You must live under a rock to think has students don’t exist.
I would expand it wider.
“No such thing as a bad student, only bad systems”
“Sometimes it’s better to bunk a class and enjoy with friends, because today when I look back, marks never make me laugh, but memories do”
- a very smart man
Don't know why this made me sad
and they punish you for talking in class
you look like a Spiderman's roommate from the "Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse"
He looks like ganke from spider man miles morales ps5
@@izzyytofficial He almost sounds like him too
@@izzyytofficial That's exactly what I was thinking when this popped up in my recommended.
oh shit he does
@@thesymbiotee that was Ganke too in Spider-Man into The Spider-Verse we will get to no more about him in the sequel
"School doesn't give you the time to marvel at it"
This sentence. I felt that. I hated math at school but after finishing A levels (and hating it), I started to love it during my gap year
I feel like the only reason I'm trying to get good grades is because I wanna impress my parents and be just like my brother, there are so many things that school has done to me it gave me so many negative things to worry about, now I'm just tired of learning things that I'm going to forget, now I don't care anymore, I have so many things that I have learned in life/on the internet, I have so much time in my hands in such a young age why don't I use it? to be honest we learned so much things that are useless the only things that aren't being taught to us are the things that are meant to be important in our lives.
The way the school system get their kids to behave is entirely fear based
I could not relate to this comment more than ever, my brother picked such a smart and well career and I see all the time my dad look impressed and always telling me “see, your bother knows what he wants to do and picked a good career” (he knew what he wanted to do when he was like in middle school) and it hurts me that I get compared to him, I’m so not as smart as him, can’t remember stuff from school, my dad doesn’t like the idea of me being an author or writer “it doesn’t pay the bills” so what? I don’t care about the bills, stop comparing me to my brother, and let me be happy and do something I wanna do *for the rest of my life.* I’m already in such a bad state as it is, at this point I have not gained anything since the first day of school online and it just tells me “yeah, u aren’t going anywhere lol” I just wanna write a book or series during hs and see where it goes, college... I’m not even sure but definitely won’t get supported with a artistic school that I dreamed of. I lack motivation into even writing idea for my book right now, y can’t I get my life together? School. The thought of my grades going low. 24/7 on my mind.
@@paradiselustforlifedition I can kind of relate to this my mother compares me to people my age,I still don't know what to do with my life I'm just gonna live it and see where it takes me I'm just having fun and trying to be responsible at the same time,I understand how you feel,just keep doing what you're doing and make sure you're happy on what you're doing don't listen to other people
@Bluemock Sure I'm down xD
I'm literally in the exact same situation what the fuck??
// Ranting
Worse part is I only want to pursue my career in art, even if there's a chance I didn't get it I probably only want basic knowledge like languages and history and writing, yet my parents still insist and want me to get STEM subjects so badly /: not only I didn't get to reach my family's standard, it's literally SO obvious that I want to get into art. I start buying sketchbook since 12, decide to practise traditional painting 2 years ago, 90% of my online friends and mutuals draw and that still didn't came to my parents mind that "oh I should encourage my child more to get into her dream carrier!!" until I told them last year that I take art subject, yet they still want me to reach my brothers' high ass standard. Everyday since my big exam gets closer and closer my mental health is getting worse and I can't help crying whenever I think about how useless all these physics, chemistry, biology and addmath subjects will be useless to me in near future, yet my mom still acknowledge that I may want to take animation course but didn't bother to say a thing
One of my brother is even worse. Even tho he knew I obviously didn't want to get into big courses like engineer and architecture he still expect me to reach his level /: and then act mad whenever I made the same mistake on questions several times and took too long to answer all of them
I want to improve my art so badly, I wish there's more thing I could improve because for someone who want to pursue carrier in drawing, I'm still super mediocre in art for my age (I'm 17). If anything if I ever have a chance to experience in sculpture, music and better writing I'd rather take that. Yet I barely made significant improvement on my drawings jusy because I don't want to disappoint my parents
I'm sorry for anyone reading this long ass ramble, it's just so tiring. I hardly get the chance to confess it anywhere because some people I know personally followed my social medias /:
My mom even agrees that the education system is crap. She doesn't use any of the things she learned in school in her day to day life. We shouldn't learn how many candy bars Jared has, but how to do real life things like pay the bills. I've learned ten times the amount of what to do when I move out of my house on youtube and various websites than school could've ever taught me.
That's because the job of a school is to make you employable so that you can afford that house to move to. It's a shame that schools don't teach life skills, but then, to some extent, that's what life is for - it gets you life experience.
How we define "employable" is where the debate should be, but, for now, grades are still very important for the majority of us.
The candy bar thing isn’t necessarily true though. That’s just to teach kids how to do addition and subtraction.
@@alpertroncp2198 school becomes extremely useless after 5th grade
@@jarbincks6715 I don’t think that’s true at all - literacy rates in fifth grade are still very low, and schools play a part in raising those across the board. To say it’s useless beyond then is just a ridiculous statement to make, and only makes you sound like an angry kid who didn’t like school. If it wasn’t for schools beyond fifth grade, there’d be millions more illiterate adults / weak readers who find that limits their prospects.
School sets you up to die before you can even retire or die right after you retire.
“Why I don’t care about getting hit with the belt anymore”
Edit: Meant to be a joke
basically
edit: i don’t get beat that bad but when i do it really doesn’t phase me if i get hit or something
Who hits you with a belt?!
@@armyshope parents
@@deemvn1050 :(
I have never been hit with a belt
And those are just some parents who don't want to change and just believe that their kids need to suffer in school just the way that they did... pretty pathetic actually.
Im literally a “golden child.” I have all honors and I enjoy reading. These days highest grades are Ds when my lowest grades use to be Bs. Im on my phone all day. Knowing I have potential and knowing im able to do my work yet not doing it just- WHY CAN’T I JUST DO IT? im always procrastinating and its just so hard to stop. I’ve tried- oh god i’ve tried- to get my grades up. Ive pulled all nighters without finishing a single assignment. IM LITERALLY A GOLDEN CHILD WHY CAN’T I JUST FINISH THE FREAKING ASSIGNMENT? Ive been wondering if I have adhd or add, and I tell myself its only because I want an excuse for being a stupid lazy procrastinator. I hate myself.
You have no idea how much I relate. I've always prided myself on my intelligence and love for knowledge, yet cant learns to give a shit about the due date for my chemistry lab. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was in third grade after my school made my parents get me assessed by a psychologist. They did nothing about it, I'm not in Cognitive therapy or being pumped full of Adderal like half of my school. Sometimes I want to get help or medication to make things easier, but then I laugh at myself for looking for a million excuses. i want to go far, I want to study something I love like engineering. hell, currently I've been thinking about being an astronaut, but its not so easy when you're constantly being told that will never happen if you cant get into a good college because your grades suck. I spend 3 hours stressing out over an assignment only to have an anxiety attack that leads to me skipping school for 2 days. its a never ending cycle.
I even love school sometimes. I love to read and then spend an entire English class sitting in a circle and discussing the book. But I have an f in English because I cant push myself to fill out the nightly graded notes on the book.
@@sophiarenx7032 EXACTLY 😩 even if I had an assignment due in 10 minutes id still tell myself “ill do it later” or “I have time.” Then 1 minute before its due I just cry over that same assignment. Plus im super good at making things up for my bad grades. I have the ability to sleep through 40 missing assignments and im not proud of it. I just don’t give a fuck anymore. Im so sorry about what you have to go through- I wish there was a way I could help. Some medication sounds like it would be really useful. Im just glad im not the only one. We both in trouble lmao
@@patasmaranas9711 don’t worry one day we’ll be on top changing the world and our teachers will see us on the news and think “wow, I guess grades don’t matter”
Holy shit I am in the same spot. My lowest grades used to be a B, but ever since online school came. I started failing hard. My highest grade is still an A+ however that's only because a teacher actually knows how to teach his students during these hard times. I failed 2 of my classes with an F, I used to be failing 4 or 5 classes at the beginning. At the last week before break, I gained a spark of motivation and spent two whole days on my grades. I can't figure out why I'm not motivated at all. I just couldn't sit down to work for hours straight even though I know I had potential.
You're not the only one going through this.
It's a lot more torture when your in quarantine having no motivation to do online classes and yet the teachers give us 100 assignments expecting us to wake up 5:00 am to get ready for school when quarantine just tires you out because we have no human contact but people online and the people that live in your house. In the end, online school makes me suffer more than normal school.
I still manage to get A’s even though I don’t understand what’s happening in school I don’t understand anything.
It really is bad
Some schools still let you go in person but that's a risk to take I suppose.
yeah
i am failing online school too
They should just remove the grade system as a whole, so people like me don’t end up getting stressed about them, and end up feeling forced to do their work just for the letter A so they don’t get their ass beaten.
May God forgive you for your sins. Jesus is King. Orthodox Christianity is the Truth. God bless.
@@africankaleab360 stfu
Fr it’s do stressing and I see why people commit suicide
@@brownsugar9629 Yeah. But Christ make it easier.
when that happens students will get lazy especially kids. it will bring them to their adulthood