Transform Your Life with www.blueprintreloaded.com/ Charleston was really beautiful - hope you enjoyed it. Most people are delusional and self-sabotaging, so when you present the value that you have to offer them, you have to do so in an intelligent way. That means "meeting them where they are at. Let me know how you've handled this, and what you learned. -Tyler
Tyler, I have a great IDEA! Have your cameraman, put a small bike mirror on the camera, or headband mirror) so he can watch behind him as he walks! Great videos also, thank you!
30:24 - "By being lazy and not crossing your ts and dotting your is and just putting it out there, that's not you being authentic. That's you being lazy and depriving the person you want to connect with the chance to really meet you". Word. Really great video!
I don’t know where to start thanking you for this. You’re a role model and life guide man. This shift in RSD is like getting the mindset and social skills stuff out of the fringe seedy pickup. This is so much broader and essential. Pickup which I don’t judge or hate but it’s just not something I could get fully on board with and have it help shape my identity and path in life.
My ex started dating a college football quarterback and I’ve been feeling shitty but your video got me feeling better and focused on my self and improving myself again thank you Tyler
I was by myself for a really long time - i lived in copenhagen and was really depressed then i came across your stuff and i wanted better days for myself. i started reading, going for long ass walks, taking vitamins(ultramind solution by mark hyman) then i came across from one of your talks that concluded with something along the lines of "you may not be the most high-status person, you may not be the center of the party, but you just want the vibe to be good. In any social situation, you ask yourself how would I want others to feel around me. What energy can I put out to heighten the vibe." It forever changed how I viewed social interaction, it ended this pity party in me to stop feeling sorry for myself, just looking for people to be nice to me because im "being me." The other day I was walking through shopping mall and I saw a girl turning the heads of every guy and guy friend groups. Right before I walked up to her, I looked up at all the bright christmas lights that the mall had put up, I looked at the smiling children. I took a few deep breaths and was just grateful for the moment I was in. I felt this warm buzzing circulating through my body like when you listen to a really uplifting song. Within thirty seconds of me introducing myself to her (I tongue in cheek asked her if she agreed that Toronto is a socially closed off city that is hard to meet new people) she turned to me and asked if I wanted to find somewhere to sit down and talk. We ended up having a 4 hour conversation that felt like this weird beautiful energy vacuum that lasted maybe 10 minutes to me. It was just so easy, it was like the less I "did" the more she wanted to dive into me. It was like just two humanoid dorks enjoying each others company. At the end she asked for my instagram and number. I came across you since 2012. Seven years later, my past three amazing girlfriends and friends have been a result of walking up to them blank slate in public settings. You taught me the ultimate core power one can discover of drawing state from within yourself in synergistic combination with having understanding of other peoples' reality. I write this post to express my gratitude that you exist and to also say that I feel you are on an entirely new level right now. Nothing but love, internetvitamins.
Hey I really enjoyed reading how you were able to turn around your life. I was unhappy for years but have been slowly turning things around for the better. However my social life definitely needs a lot of work still...it hasn't really changed. You mentioned you've had three amazing girlfriends in the past few years; why do you think the relationships ended? Were you not able to meet their needs or were they just too much to deal with?
@@solace_1337 yeah just the sparks werent flying anymore i lost interest. i ran into bad addiction to chase / validation. but im working on self-love right now
I can’t believe you made this video for free. If people were smart, they would take notes on this and play it through a couple times. I’ve seen almost all your videos, and to me, this is the peak of all your free works. I’ve gotten more out of this than a lot of the books I’ve read. I self sabatoge by listening to disempowering emo rap music. And also I have often gave people everything during social interactions and chased validation to hard. I like to give people a lot of information rather than make it a fun game. I give opinions and knowledge when it is unsolicited.
It's my biggest sticking point as well bro. It means you're a good person who likes to offer value. But what you learn is.... you can offer even MORE value, by considering how you are doling it out. Taking the time to consider where people are coming from and "meeting them where they are at" -Tyler
Love how you can come back to these videos and pick out more and more that you may not have picked up on the first watch through. Biggest key I took away from this is that "value = perception and perception is subjective. "
This comes to me at a great time. I work with people who are addicted to alcohol and drugs, and have been frustrated lately and asking myself "why are they not getting it, i have been sober and clean for a while and give my experience as an example and they dont get it" blah, blah, blah. You said "Meet them where they are at". Thanks for the progressive nature of the content .
Dad lol! Thanks for breaking this down into segments! I finally get it! I used to be like huh? What's the next step? But when you do it like this in these segments I see that I already have most of this shit. I just had to compartmentalize everything and have a structure for it. My brain needs structure or it just shuts down. I love how you have spread these topics out over several videos. They get more and more epic every time! These self help vids are wayyyy better than the pick up vids. Those were fuckin EPIC as well and I'm so glad I caught the last era of true hard core pimpin but THIS SHIT is a gift from God! Thanks pops! 🙆🏽♂️🙏🏾‼️
Wow, look at the way Owen sheds light to behaviors we never take the time to break down. It almost feels like i could have come up with these explanations myself, but i dont, i always look selfishly to my own ideas and think that other people will get them instantly. Thats what i am doing right now by the way...
Just paused before the part 7 and want to say that we are getting serious stuff gentlemen.İT'S REALLY SERİOUS because realizing the fact that people nowadays CANT SEE AND BE GREATFUL for smth valueble(VALUE) as that is, but instead they have to "WORK FOR IT"( overcome the challenge) to start valueing it. İt is like more about WAKING UP, I guess. Also want to add that for me it is like a "gaming" a person in good way, taking them by the hand and helping to see the beauty of yourself and the world around them. THANKS A LOT,OWEN. THANKS A LOT!!!
@@tanerkaraaslan6216 Yes. İ recommend you the Transformation Mastery by Julien, and the "Alabaster girl" by Zan Parrion. Remember it's always simple, it's mostly about stripping away of the things(in your mind) that are holding you back. And also don't always try to "self-develop" yourself, trying to be perfect, don't forget that the bottom line of this all to live the life,and not trying to prepare yourself for it. 😘🔥✊🏻
This one is very useful for me. It’s been a disappointing pattern for me that people seem to assume that I’m someone not worth paying attention to, listening to, or investing any energy into interacting with. In fact I have a lot of education, I’ve done all kinds of things, I’ve been to many places, and I can speak meaningfully about quite a few subjects. People seem to assume I’m just a simple, ignorant, boring guy who has no value to them. I try to talk to people about things that are relevant or interesting, and they just don’t care. It’s been getting worse. It feels as if I’m turning into a ghost, just becoming irrelevant to all humans other than myself. It seems regrettable that people assume this way about people whom they don’t know, instead of either assuming better of people or just being interested and respectful. The lesson that my experiences seem to be giving me is: leave people alone, they don’t care. I’ll be thinking about what I can do to express myself better to others, to overcome this misperception.
I’ve identified this problem as a pattern recognition issue. Lots of people’s social issues boil down to confusion of what to say, how to say it because there’s so much advice out there but no context. If we start at the very base and learn the fundamentals , we may have a chance. Recognize the patterns for yourself and become a social master. Hope it helps
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Just had this happen to me with someone, and just met someone new that I was about to repeat the behavior with because I didn’t realize it. Thanks man.
10:43 For the exact same reasons you used to fail I failed to sign up at the outset, taking 72 hours to sign up all my excuses leading to my personal fears I conquered myself to get through to me and to you. You were on my mind everyday and it was positive energy you were feeding me the strongest part of me came humbled from shame at the 72 hour mark when I saw your minute frustration.
Owen what you just said it's worth more than a Million Dollars. and Yes I watched the entire video. You guys changed my perception of life so much. Everything boils down to understand in what situation and and what people are going thru in their lives to meet them in the sweet spot. Man I love you.
Tyler I just want to take to time and say thanks.. because with this program and really finding myself I would've killed myself ..but so thankful I didnt take that road..I can actually reach for want I want.. nomore reacting to this cruel world we live in but Shine my light upon it..much respect my guy
Cognitive biases (e.g. the halo effect) are impending one's logical reasoning, leading one's decision process through a foggy path of confusion. Whoever holds the lead can guide one to a better or worse place, depending on the leader's predisposition. I applaud exploiting cognitive biases as a means to reach Truth (since our community is far from it), but let's not forget it's an exploit of our inate mechanical faults. Thumbs up for another excellent video. Thanks for taking the time to create this. Hope to eventually see you in a London event.
If you make it a bit difficult, and they are willing to go through that process it makes them able to appreciate what you have. That really is the secret to social success.
29:25 The "immediately obvious" abs/good looks remark is spot-on. Because the original research on the Halo Effect actually focused on the influence of good looks on your perception of other non-visible qualities (kindness, humor, honesty etc...). Really cool vid. Reminded me of how important it is to stay on top of your game and it made me view my recent painful breakup through a different lens (aka I clearly lost my halo effect towards the end of the relationship = she couldn't see my other positive qualities anymore). Thanks a lot man
This was such a good video, thank you. Found myself listening closely to what you said and taking notes. I realized, I only started doing that after buying your programs, haha. Literally, rewinding what you said, replaying, jotting down, rewinding, listening closely again. Lol. Edit: FYI, posted this comment at around 41:35.
CAMERAMAN: Tyler, I have a great IDEA:! Have your cameraman, put a small bike mirror on the camera, or headband mirror) so he can watch behind him as he walks! Great videos also, thank you!
Alright Owen... you finally sold me on the social media aspect here. I always tended to pull away every time you mention curating a social media profile. I’ve basically been boycotting social media as much as possible. Haven’t made a post on anything in over 5 years. Didn’t plan on changing that. But I guess when I view it through the lens of meeting people where they’re at in their life, in their journeys, that makes sense. I don’t have to be a big fan of social media to use it to my advantage. Most people are on there and like using it and it’s basically free marketing for myself. This was really the only topic in your vids that I’ve been struggling with. I had a big mental BLOCK right there. But this helped me have a breakthrough! Thanks again for everything you do, Owen! Appreciate the work you put into this!!!
Tyler is back! i know its a cringe thing to say, but since the relocation from pickup this like inspiring. i remember when i just used to listen to Tyler 30 minutes before going out and then slaying.is the last few videos same vibe. On top of the world. Best speaker and coach in the world.
His style of shooting videos is so epic, part of the reason why I've been following him for so long... Very grounded, nd shooting wherever the fuck he pleases while people look at him like some crazy man lol.. Luv it!
Loved the video Tyler and just want to thank you for all that you do. I follow you for two years now and it was quite a journey haha. I rarely comment and just want to say that you helped me tremendously with game and life in general. I still got a long road ahead of me bc i came from a bad place mentally but i'm making great progress and see the light at the end of the tunnel. Really need to attend an event in the future and meet you in person. Greetings from Germany ✌️
I find it amazing how you go through those quite nooks of Charleston residential area and have to lower your voice to meet it where it's at. Perfectly illustrates the content
Brothaaaa u re so awesome...I consume ur content since 2012 and even today in a era of people polluting their vieos with so many annoying ads that makes simply unbearable to watch, worse than open tv network.... u SIMPLY MAKE THIS AMAZING QUALITY VIDS IN SO MANY LEVELS, CONTENT, GEAR, VID AND SPETACULAR AUDIO (WHICH IS HIGHLY UNDERSTIMATED BY RUclipsRS) AND THERE´S NO ONE SINGLE AD IN THE MIDDLE OF IT !!!!!!!!! HOLY CALL!!! AMAZIG BRO!!! U ARE DIFFERENT ! DOWN TO EARTH ENLIGHTMENT FOR THE LACK OF BETTER TERM! LUV U SO MUCH FOR SHARING SUCH VALUE! THAT ´S WHY U BECAME WHAT U BECAME AND UR BUSINESS TOOK OFF TO THE MOON!!!!!! KUDOS TO U IS THE LOWEST I COULD SHOUT OUT TO U!
When you realize that this video teaches you one of the most important skills you could ever bring into your life. The stuff tyler shows in these free videos allowed me to help dozens of friends to overcome trauma. Tyler: just thank you!
I used to watch a lot of your content and then at some point I stopped because for me the content was sidetracking way too much. Now lately I've been watching few of these videos about sosial proof and value and have to that there is a lot of truth here. A lot to learn. Thank you.
Save yourself from social conditioning. Owen is only showing you the landscape of society with all of their pitfalls. You have to do the work and unshackle yourself.
Your angry/frustrated voice is hilarious! I fucking LOVE you, Owen!! Thank you for all of the free content. May you continue to be BLESSED. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!
@@OwenCookSelfHelp Thank you for the gold nugget there. Dude, let me be the Mexican in your group! I noticed you don't have one yet. Could help diversify and reach a broader audience.
That was intense dude....watched the whole thing. I seriously need to start reading and meditating. You are the real deal....shit just flows outta ya !
Thank you Owen! Out of all the videos on the subjuct of the importance of value you put out lately, this one really hit the spot for me! My greatest holdback that I have no wish of letting go of is the moral prespective on things and the true(to my heart's desire) wish to act authenticly. in the past few years you helped me alot with integrating healthy behaviours into my life, and as time goes by your materials does that more and more effectively! You are a true insperation. On a personal note, I was exposed to the pick up industry long time ago(today I'm 35) and it created a huge conflict and disconnection from my fellow human beings. It also gave me amazing tools and options. Most of all it put me on a path of self development, and for that I'm super grateful. Nevertheless, the conflicts created by using techniques and the judgement of other people as "responding to technique" and not to "truth", created huge resistance within me that I completely stopped with consuming PU material, and slowly started getting into classic self help. In classic self help I also felt something was missing, a thing that I found in RSD in the past few years and especially the last two. Thank you, you truly created something magnificent.
Thank you man! And remember, it's always a balance between "authenticity VS relatability" -- you've got to be authentic, but still relate to the person's state of consciousness (which TBH may be limited and respond more to being stimulus-seeking and validation-seeking). Be authentic and yourself, but be aware that you have to RELATE. -Tyler
@@OwenCookSelfHelp It's a huge challange for me. Used to be one because I felt Relating to someone's state of consciousness was a form of judging them. Today I'm aware you can just be present to the reality of sensing others, "feeling" Somone without moral judgement. The hard part for me is to let go of that judgement and the contempt for certain qualitys, and this video also gave me some nice insight into dealing with that.
This is the exact video that i need! Thanks bro, judgement is something I struggle with. A lot of the times it is truly hard for me to relate to people.
Tyler, i feel like the only problem with these inspirational videos, is that you present us a problem and how its devastating our social life but offer no solution in the videos. Like how exactly do we become present? How do we self amuse when we go out and how do we get out of our heads. So many problems you show us but I don’t know how to change
Tyler, something I've noticed about RSD is that it is often assumed that the viewer is low value. I know that these videos are very thought out but I cant help but think that this might not be the best model. By no means am I perfect, but I have spent loads of time working on myself and while I wasn't before, now I am present, I am calibrated and self aware. It feels a bit alienating and degrading when it is assumed that we're low value. Obviously we love your content. I really appreciate it. See you soon. -Cam
@@Nick-kq8pg when did I say I was enlightened? I've made progress. I've spent years learning from Tyler. My point was that its alienating people who've been in this for a bit.
@@increase8849 Never take anything personally. Even if it's from RUclips video aimed towards a broad audience. Just cus you already understand this doesn't mean it's degrading lol
This was great, Owen, thank you for providing this premium content. There's a video online somewhere that talks about "venue theory", where a world class violinist, who normally performs at Carnegie Hall, was playing in Grand Central Station for free. Of course, no one stopped to listen to the amazing music she was playing because she was just a violinist playing for free in Grand Central Station. I love how you teach us to apply these concepts to our own lives, our relationships, and our social interactions with others. Bravo! :)
I understand this video as losing the ego and becoming enlightened but still chosing on terms of others. Thats brilliant man its actually exactly where iam at. After duality theres still choice and taking action. And this is an example of how to act. Bring fun to people and meet them where they are at. One thing though. Have you also made a video about the other side of this coin? Because when you meet people where they are at ( lower your vibration to meet them on their level) you basically have nothing to give them anymore. We are supposed to be as high as possible and be ourselves period. Thats the most valuable thing radiating out high vibrations. The right people will come ro resonate with it. I get your point. Just consider this. And also look. You wouldnt make a video about pua anymore becausenit doesnt resonate with your being anymore right. But many people might be there. But your true self doesnt care. So we will naturally gravitate to putting out our highest vibration. Actually farting in peoples faces might be working quite good narcississts are fuckin popular these days so... Maybe theres still mind which is in fear of being alone. We are headed into a beautiful future tyler. These topics are amazing. Thank you you are brilliant. Big things to come in 2020
I’ve been watching Owen for probably >10 years now and he’s right on the money with every word he speaks. If I had the big money I would be his client in a second but since I’m so screwed up it would take him years of hands on training to reprogram me and that’s with me never doing any drugs or drinking. He would differently be entitled to the noble peace prize if he could. I wonder sometimes If Owen was still sitting on a crate box teaching pick up today how hard would it be for Tony Robbins to fix him. He probably couldn’t because he would be too far gone down the rabbit hole or just maybe it was one small thing holding him back but he was completely unaware of it. I think for Owen it was something in his past that gave him the mental strength to accomplish what he has done with his life today and still drives him along his path along with ADHD maybe some Asperger's or a little Savant he’s no mere mortal. i can promise you this much, you can watch his videos as long as you want and your life is never going to change on any level until you get the experience and live that type of life style he’s living or you envision and unless you can see some success some type of results to push you forward to the next level or you’re not going anywhere you will be stuck in a loop all your programmed bad habits.
My 2 cents (just because I can haha) - for anyone who doesn't think that his content is insightful, deep, and true for the most part are ignorant or just plain oblivious. I want to highlight: "for the most part" because some of RSD's stuff is on the thin line between nonsense and advice. I'm sure other intelligent viewers would agree with this, but would also agree that in a more general sense his concepts are quite brilliant. I can honestly say I've never really come across self-help content the way he conveys it. I'm not a fan of the philosophies towards women, but you can't win over everyone so I have respect. Keep it up man.
Thanks!!! Appreciate it. The previous dating content was tested for decades, and trust me, I was the MOST annoyed by it of anyone lol. But had to share what we empirically tested over and over. Regardless, there's SO much great stuff coming, I think you'll be psyched -Tyler
Hey Owen! I love that you covered this topic. I wish it offered a little more of a formula for change. I think you did a good job describing it. I don't really feel like I left with a solid plan for how to re-theorize and make an actionable change
Amazing meta-understandings and explanations for how peoples perceptions are formed - personally the most helpful video I have ever watched in the self development space. Thank you very much Tyler : )
Just rewatching this vid and like you said in ur reply to my comment when i watched it first" this video is trule especiqlly for me and i now fully get it. The more connected i feel to people the more i drop the halo effect and it is nonsense you are so freakin right. Thank you owen thank you so so so much
Another example for the Halo Effect in Music is Frank Ocean. When you think about it "White Ferrari" or "Seigfried" are quite slow moving songs. Without any context you might actually think they are quite boring. But through the social proof (e.g Frank's Status as a litteral god among his fans and blonde being revered as one of the best albums of the decade), the exclusivity of him dropping only 2 Full Albums throughout his carrer, waiting 4 years inbetween and giving no interviews at all and his personal branding as this vulnarable but strong guy that a lot of people relate to you are able to see his songs as the masterpieces the are🙏
Thank you so much for this content man. Just finished the first half and the concept you discussed (conscientiously maintaining the halo effect you create) is brilliant. Really helped shed light on some of the higher level intricacies of social dynamics for me. Such subtle truths are scarcely told, so thank you again for sharing
Thanks for the insight! On my last night out, when I approached 4 girls, I found a way to connect with them by asking a fun question. Naturally, they were able to find that I'm a Metallica fan that enjoys impersonating famous people. That was definitely a once-in-a-blue-moon connective experience for me. I'm currently studying for my exam on Thursday, but I'm going to resume going out afterwards! Cheers, -Rick Ford
Your very wise, Thank you for message it all make sense now. When it come to impresse pepole im the last one and i dont find pleaser in it but you have changed my way of thinking. You have presente your self in such way that is acceptble for pepoles. Thanks again, I always learne new things with your videos
Thank you so much for all the amazing value and effort you put in these videos! Really appreciate them and implement them in my life and social skill development journey.
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Charleston was really beautiful - hope you enjoyed it. Most people are delusional and self-sabotaging, so when you present the value that you have to offer them, you have to do so in an intelligent way. That means "meeting them where they are at. Let me know how you've handled this, and what you learned. -Tyler
FUCK. I live an hour from Charleston
Looking forward to the new platform
Thank you for visiting our city!!! You're my hero!!
Tyler, I have a great IDEA! Have your cameraman, put a small bike mirror on the camera, or headband mirror) so he can watch behind him as he walks! Great videos also, thank you!
Thank you so much for the continuous insight out of the matrix you have dedicated to your followers.
This man has a recording man recording the man recording him
Walking backwards over cobblestones - that's talent
recordingception
😂
Multiple vantage points working in our favor. Let that sink in 😂
Dominus Mundi ...who's recording him, man
30:24 - "By being lazy and not crossing your ts and dotting your is and just putting it out there, that's not you being authentic. That's you being lazy and depriving the person you want to connect with the chance to really meet you".
Word. Really great video!
Gold stuff Tyler never forget we appreciate you man
@Hg Tudor f u
@@Ateszika did you watch the video?
I came here from AMS is this guy legit
Such a beautiful video, man! EXTREMELY IMPORTANT CONCEPT AS WELL!!!
I would show this to an alien, if i wanted it to succeed with women and networking lol
Tnx bro let's get out some more collars! -Tyler
Julian was that you recording the video? 🎅🤶
I don’t know where to start thanking you for this. You’re a role model and life guide man. This shift in RSD is like getting the mindset and social skills stuff out of the fringe seedy pickup. This is so much broader and essential.
Pickup which I don’t judge or hate but it’s just not something I could get fully on board with and have it help shape my identity and path in life.
Tyler is aging like a fine wine 🍷 just keeps getting better with age
we will clean him up in 20y using SENS
he's SO HOT omg
Billy Buttlord he’s hotter in person let me tell you ,, he knows how to light up a room
My ex started dating a college football quarterback and I’ve been feeling shitty but your video got me feeling better and focused on my self and improving myself again thank you Tyler
Just a football player brother. Don't get down by that. You can be the all-seeing Oracle of the universe!!! Let go...😎🤣🚀
Joe Cassius dude you are amazing you are right
Lets go bro lets level up 😎
bro... let it go. as a man you go through this to be stronger. the next woman you lose it’d be like nothing cuz u went thru this. let it be, breathe
.. you will look at yourself and go up the food chain just like tyler did after losing the pita pit girlfriend.
Yeah baby gimme that juicy 1hr Tyler vid yeeahh ohh ahh
Hg Tudor ???
Hg Tudor you good fam?
Hg Tudor no!!!! Give me value first!!!!!! I did not understand the video !!! Give value then tell us to go petition !!!!
Rip juice wrld
@Garvin Ferrer one of those moments ull never forget lol
This is so key, very often I have students that feel entitled to be grumpy and self centered. 🙏🙏🙏
I was by myself for a really long time - i lived in copenhagen and was really depressed then i came across your stuff and i wanted better days for myself. i started reading, going for long ass walks, taking vitamins(ultramind solution by mark hyman) then i came across from one of your talks that concluded with something along the lines of "you may not be the most high-status person, you may not be the center of the party, but you just want the vibe to be good. In any social situation, you ask yourself how would I want others to feel around me. What energy can I put out to heighten the vibe." It forever changed how I viewed social interaction, it ended this pity party in me to stop feeling sorry for myself, just looking for people to be nice to me because im "being me." The other day I was walking through shopping mall and I saw a girl turning the heads of every guy and guy friend groups. Right before I walked up to her, I looked up at all the bright christmas lights that the mall had put up, I looked at the smiling children. I took a few deep breaths and was just grateful for the moment I was in. I felt this warm buzzing circulating through my body like when you listen to a really uplifting song. Within thirty seconds of me introducing myself to her (I tongue in cheek asked her if she agreed that Toronto is a socially closed off city that is hard to meet new people) she turned to me and asked if I wanted to find somewhere to sit down and talk. We ended up having a 4 hour conversation that felt like this weird beautiful energy vacuum that lasted maybe 10 minutes to me. It was just so easy, it was like the less I "did" the more she wanted to dive into me. It was like just two humanoid dorks enjoying each others company. At the end she asked for my instagram and number. I came across you since 2012. Seven years later, my past three amazing girlfriends and friends have been a result of walking up to them blank slate in public settings. You taught me the ultimate core power one can discover of drawing state from within yourself in synergistic combination with having understanding of other peoples' reality. I write this post to express my gratitude that you exist and to also say that I feel you are on an entirely new level right now. Nothing but love, internetvitamins.
Thank you so much! That sounds amazing! -Tyler
Hey I really enjoyed reading how you were able to turn around your life. I was unhappy for years but have been slowly turning things around for the better. However my social life definitely needs a lot of work still...it hasn't really changed. You mentioned you've had three amazing girlfriends in the past few years; why do you think the relationships ended? Were you not able to meet their needs or were they just too much to deal with?
@@solace_1337 yeah just the sparks werent flying anymore i lost interest. i ran into bad addiction to chase / validation. but im working on self-love right now
I can’t believe you made this video for free. If people were smart, they would take notes on this and play it through a couple times. I’ve seen almost all your videos, and to me, this is the peak of all your free works. I’ve gotten more out of this than a lot of the books I’ve read.
I self sabatoge by listening to disempowering emo rap music. And also I have often gave people everything during social interactions and chased validation to hard. I like to give people a lot of information rather than make it a fun game. I give opinions and knowledge when it is unsolicited.
It's my biggest sticking point as well bro. It means you're a good person who likes to offer value. But what you learn is.... you can offer even MORE value, by considering how you are doling it out. Taking the time to consider where people are coming from and "meeting them where they are at" -Tyler
Amazing video quality - whole new level. I’m starting to get why Owen is so passionate about editing videos etc👍🏼
Pure gold for the people who are patient enough to drink it all in. Thank you Owen.
Love how you can come back to these videos and pick out more and more that you may not have picked up on the first watch through.
Biggest key I took away from this is that "value = perception and perception is subjective. "
There is actually so much fucking value in this video. It’s unreal... and it’s free. Most people aren’t even aware of it.
This comes to me at a great time. I work with people who are addicted to alcohol and drugs, and have been frustrated lately and asking myself "why are they not getting it, i have been sober and clean for a while and give my experience as an example and they dont get it" blah, blah, blah. You said "Meet them where they are at". Thanks for the progressive nature of the content .
Dad lol! Thanks for breaking this down into segments! I finally get it! I used to be like huh? What's the next step? But when you do it like this in these segments I see that I already have most of this shit. I just had to compartmentalize everything and have a structure for it. My brain needs structure or it just shuts down. I love how you have spread these topics out over several videos. They get more and more epic every time! These self help vids are wayyyy better than the pick up vids. Those were fuckin EPIC as well and I'm so glad I caught the last era of true hard core pimpin but THIS SHIT is a gift from God! Thanks pops! 🙆🏽♂️🙏🏾‼️
Wow, look at the way Owen sheds light to behaviors we never take the time to break down. It almost feels like i could have come up with these explanations myself, but i dont, i always look selfishly to my own ideas and think that other people will get them instantly. Thats what i am doing right now by the way...
Its fucking amazing that I am laying in bed and be able to watch Tyler speaking to me across the world. Tyler is spitting fire... Love it
Just paused before the part 7 and want to say that we are getting serious stuff gentlemen.İT'S REALLY SERİOUS because realizing the fact that people nowadays CANT SEE AND BE GREATFUL for smth valueble(VALUE) as that is, but instead they have to "WORK FOR IT"( overcome the challenge) to start valueing it. İt is like more about WAKING UP, I guess. Also want to add that for me it is like a "gaming" a person in good way, taking them by the hand and helping to see the beauty of yourself and the world around them. THANKS A LOT,OWEN. THANKS A LOT!!!
@@tanerkaraaslan6216 Yes. İ recommend you the Transformation Mastery by Julien, and the "Alabaster girl" by Zan Parrion. Remember it's always simple, it's mostly about stripping away of the things(in your mind) that are holding you back. And also don't always try to "self-develop" yourself, trying to be perfect, don't forget that the bottom line of this all to live the life,and not trying to prepare yourself for it. 😘🔥✊🏻
This one is very useful for me. It’s been a disappointing pattern for me that people seem to assume that I’m someone not worth paying attention to, listening to, or investing any energy into interacting with. In fact I have a lot of education, I’ve done all kinds of things, I’ve been to many places, and I can speak meaningfully about quite a few subjects. People seem to assume I’m just a simple, ignorant, boring guy who has no value to them. I try to talk to people about things that are relevant or interesting, and they just don’t care.
It’s been getting worse. It feels as if I’m turning into a ghost, just becoming irrelevant to all humans other than myself.
It seems regrettable that people assume this way about people whom they don’t know, instead of either assuming better of people or just being interested and respectful.
The lesson that my experiences seem to be giving me is: leave people alone, they don’t care.
I’ll be thinking about what I can do to express myself better to others, to overcome this misperception.
I’ve identified this problem as a pattern recognition issue.
Lots of people’s social issues boil down to confusion of what to say, how to say it because there’s so much advice out there but no context.
If we start at the very base and learn the fundamentals , we may have a chance.
Recognize the patterns for yourself and become a social master.
Hope it helps
Probably spent around 2 and a half hours watching this and writing notes, trying to get every single nugget of value! Love the video.
This guy is on another level. We’re not talking about getting a nice car and house. This is honing in on self-actualization.
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Just had this happen to me with someone, and just met someone new that I was about to repeat the behavior with because I didn’t realize it. Thanks man.
You have such a wonderful way of expressing how you get your point across. It's hysterical and it's deeply engaging. Thanks!
10:43 For the exact same reasons you used to fail I failed to sign up at the outset, taking 72 hours to sign up all my excuses leading to my personal fears I conquered myself to get through to me and to you. You were on my mind everyday and it was positive energy you were feeding me the strongest part of me came humbled from shame at the 72 hour mark when I saw your minute frustration.
Rsd content is always pure gold...this one's a diamond...a real keeper I will always refer to.
Owen what you just said it's worth more than a Million Dollars. and Yes I watched the entire video. You guys changed my perception of life so much. Everything boils down to understand in what situation and and what people are going thru in their lives to meet them in the sweet spot. Man I love you.
Tyler I just want to take to time and say thanks.. because with this program and really finding myself I would've killed myself ..but so thankful I didnt take that road..I can actually reach for want I want.. nomore reacting to this cruel world we live in but Shine my light upon it..much respect my guy
Appreciate it! And tons more help coming. Glad you pushed through! I was the same -Tyler
Cognitive biases (e.g. the halo effect) are impending one's logical reasoning, leading one's decision process through a foggy path of confusion. Whoever holds the lead can guide one to a better or worse place, depending on the leader's predisposition.
I applaud exploiting cognitive biases as a means to reach Truth (since our community is far from it), but let's not forget it's an exploit of our inate mechanical faults.
Thumbs up for another excellent video. Thanks for taking the time to create this. Hope to eventually see you in a London event.
If you make it a bit difficult, and they are willing to go through that process it makes them able to appreciate what you have. That really is the secret to social success.
29:25 The "immediately obvious" abs/good looks remark is spot-on. Because the original research on the Halo Effect actually focused on the influence of good looks on your perception of other non-visible qualities (kindness, humor, honesty etc...). Really cool vid. Reminded me of how important it is to stay on top of your game and it made me view my recent painful breakup through a different lens (aka I clearly lost my halo effect towards the end of the relationship = she couldn't see my other positive qualities anymore). Thanks a lot man
This was such a good video, thank you. Found myself listening closely to what you said and taking notes. I realized, I only started doing that after buying your programs, haha. Literally, rewinding what you said, replaying, jotting down, rewinding, listening closely again. Lol.
Edit: FYI, posted this comment at around 41:35.
GREAT! Thanks for letting it land -Tyler
If you’re reading this, I love you ! ❤️
Love you too! -Tyler
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i just watched the full video and kept my attention i think i'm one of the 1% that did this. I learned a lot Owen Thank you. Even though its free.
CAMERAMAN: Tyler, I have a great IDEA:! Have your cameraman, put a small bike mirror on the camera, or headband mirror) so he can watch behind him as he walks! Great videos also, thank you!
Good idea lol -Tyler
Tyler I know huh! lol. Happy you find it a helpful idea. Feels good to possibly contribute to your awesome PROduction and gift you give! Bless
Alright Owen... you finally sold me on the social media aspect here. I always tended to pull away every time you mention curating a social media profile. I’ve basically been boycotting social media as much as possible. Haven’t made a post on anything in over 5 years. Didn’t plan on changing that.
But I guess when I view it through the lens of meeting people where they’re at in their life, in their journeys, that makes sense. I don’t have to be a big fan of social media to use it to my advantage. Most people are on there and like using it and it’s basically free marketing for myself. This was really the only topic in your vids that I’ve been struggling with. I had a big mental BLOCK right there. But this helped me have a breakthrough! Thanks again for everything you do, Owen! Appreciate the work you put into this!!!
Nice ya I had a TON of hesitance as well, that's why I made the video! -Owen
The last 10min. Nailed it. You have really mastered the delivery
Tyler is back! i know its a cringe thing to say, but since the relocation from pickup this like inspiring. i remember when i just used to listen to Tyler 30 minutes before going out and then slaying.is the last few videos same vibe. On top of the world. Best speaker and coach in the world.
His style of shooting videos is so epic, part of the reason why I've been following him for so long... Very grounded, nd shooting wherever the fuck he pleases while people look at him like some crazy man lol.. Luv it!
Mona Lisa is not displayed in italy, but in Paris. Thats what my RAS focused on lol
Loved the video Tyler and just want to thank you for all that you do. I follow you for two years now and it was quite a journey haha. I rarely comment and just want to say that you helped me tremendously with game and life in general. I still got a long road ahead of me bc i came from a bad place mentally but i'm making great progress and see the light at the end of the tunnel. Really need to attend an event in the future and meet you in person. Greetings from Germany ✌️
I find it amazing how you go through those quite nooks of Charleston residential area and have to lower your voice to meet it where it's at. Perfectly illustrates the content
Brothaaaa u re so awesome...I consume ur content since 2012 and even today in a era of people polluting their vieos with so many annoying ads that makes simply unbearable to watch, worse than open tv network.... u SIMPLY MAKE THIS AMAZING QUALITY VIDS IN SO MANY LEVELS, CONTENT, GEAR, VID AND SPETACULAR AUDIO (WHICH IS HIGHLY UNDERSTIMATED BY RUclipsRS) AND THERE´S NO ONE SINGLE AD IN THE MIDDLE OF IT !!!!!!!!! HOLY CALL!!! AMAZIG BRO!!! U ARE DIFFERENT ! DOWN TO EARTH ENLIGHTMENT FOR THE LACK OF BETTER TERM! LUV U SO MUCH FOR SHARING SUCH VALUE! THAT ´S WHY U BECAME WHAT U BECAME AND UR BUSINESS TOOK OFF TO THE MOON!!!!!! KUDOS TO U IS THE LOWEST I COULD SHOUT OUT TO U!
When you realize that this video teaches you one of the most important skills you could ever bring into your life.
The stuff tyler shows in these free videos allowed me to help dozens of friends to overcome trauma.
Tyler: just thank you!
Sometimes you make videos about what I'm dealing with right now. That's amazin'! Great vid bro.
Most eye opening video I’ve ever watched truly.
I used to watch a lot of your content and then at some point I stopped because for me the content was sidetracking way too much. Now lately I've been watching few of these videos about sosial proof and value and have to that there is a lot of truth here. A lot to learn. Thank you.
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Good god.
Every ounce of this hit me hard.
Thanks Tyler for another classic.
Save us from the social conditioning!
Hg Tudor no , u didn’t meet me halfway !!
save yourself with the help of others who are saving themselves as well with the help of others
Save yourself from social conditioning. Owen is only showing you the landscape of society with all of their pitfalls. You have to do the work and unshackle yourself.
@T E I like Alex but he is conditioned himself.
Your angry/frustrated voice is hilarious! I fucking LOVE you, Owen!! Thank you for all of the free content. May you continue to be BLESSED. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!
Lol yes I try to be theatrical to hold attention for the camera. It's a lot of info to absorb gotta make it entertaining -Tyler
@@OwenCookSelfHelp Thank you for the gold nugget there. Dude, let me be the Mexican in your group! I noticed you don't have one yet. Could help diversify and reach a broader audience.
@@OwenCookSelfHelp By the way, PLEASE come to Houston, Texas!
That was intense dude....watched the whole thing.
I seriously need to start reading and meditating.
You are the real deal....shit just flows outta ya !
Epic! -Tyler
Thank you Owen! Out of all the videos on the subjuct of the importance of value you put out lately, this one really hit the spot for me!
My greatest holdback that I have no wish of letting go of is the moral prespective on things and the true(to my heart's desire) wish to act authenticly.
in the past few years you helped me alot with integrating healthy behaviours into my life, and as time goes by your materials does that more and more effectively! You are a true insperation.
On a personal note, I was exposed to the pick up industry long time ago(today I'm 35) and it created a huge conflict and disconnection from my fellow human beings. It also gave me amazing tools and options. Most of all it put me on a path of self development, and for that I'm super grateful.
Nevertheless, the conflicts created by using techniques and the judgement of other people as "responding to technique" and not to "truth", created huge resistance within me that I completely stopped with consuming PU material, and slowly started getting into classic self help.
In classic self help I also felt something was missing, a thing that I found in RSD in the past few years and especially the last two.
Thank you, you truly created something magnificent.
Thank you man! And remember, it's always a balance between "authenticity VS relatability" -- you've got to be authentic, but still relate to the person's state of consciousness (which TBH may be limited and respond more to being stimulus-seeking and validation-seeking). Be authentic and yourself, but be aware that you have to RELATE. -Tyler
@@OwenCookSelfHelp It's a huge challange for me.
Used to be one because I felt Relating to someone's state of consciousness was a form of judging them.
Today I'm aware you can just be present to the reality of sensing others, "feeling" Somone without moral judgement.
The hard part for me is to let go of that judgement and the contempt for certain qualitys, and this video also gave me some nice insight into dealing with that.
I watched this video all the way through, and rewatched a few parts. This is very helpful to me. Thank you for making this content.
As you already mentioned, CLASSIC TYLER video! 😉
You are an incredible human being and spirit, I respect you so much, thank you for what you do 🙏
Wow another Classic video Tyler, love it.
This is the exact video that i need! Thanks bro, judgement is something I struggle with. A lot of the times it is truly hard for me to relate to people.
Tyler, i feel like the only problem with these inspirational videos, is that you present us a problem and how its devastating our social life but offer no solution in the videos. Like how exactly do we become present? How do we self amuse when we go out and how do we get out of our heads. So many problems you show us but I don’t know how to change
Tyler, something I've noticed about RSD is that it is often assumed that the viewer is low value. I know that these videos are very thought out but I cant help but think that this might not be the best model. By no means am I perfect, but I have spent loads of time working on myself and while I wasn't before, now I am present, I am calibrated and self aware. It feels a bit alienating and degrading when it is assumed that we're low value. Obviously we love your content. I really appreciate it. See you soon.
-Cam
You are compared to him.
@@victorenock duh, that's why I learn from him
You just went on an ego trip in that comment about how "enlightened" you are. Looks like you still have a lot to learn. Stay humble.
@@Nick-kq8pg when did I say I was enlightened? I've made progress. I've spent years learning from Tyler. My point was that its alienating people who've been in this for a bit.
@@increase8849 Never take anything personally. Even if it's from RUclips video aimed towards a broad audience. Just cus you already understand this doesn't mean it's degrading lol
Halo effect: When rappers die their music blows up
scarcity
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If I spent $10k for that, I'd feel like it was a steal !!
Great content, Owen !!
.. I appreciate & have been familiar with your work for years.
This was great, Owen, thank you for providing this premium content. There's a video online somewhere that talks about "venue theory", where a world class violinist, who normally performs at Carnegie Hall, was playing in Grand Central Station for free. Of course, no one stopped to listen to the amazing music she was playing because she was just a violinist playing for free in Grand Central Station. I love how you teach us to apply these concepts to our own lives, our relationships, and our social interactions with others. Bravo! :)
This is such gold. I’m so glad I discovered you.
I understand this video as losing the ego and becoming enlightened but still chosing on terms of others. Thats brilliant man its actually exactly where iam at. After duality theres still choice and taking action. And this is an example of how to act. Bring fun to people and meet them where they are at. One thing though. Have you also made a video about the other side of this coin? Because when you meet people where they are at ( lower your vibration to meet them on their level) you basically have nothing to give them anymore. We are supposed to be as high as possible and be ourselves period. Thats the most valuable thing radiating out high vibrations. The right people will come ro resonate with it. I get your point. Just consider this. And also look. You wouldnt make a video about pua anymore becausenit doesnt resonate with your being anymore right. But many people might be there. But your true self doesnt care. So we will naturally gravitate to putting out our highest vibration. Actually farting in peoples faces might be working quite good narcississts are fuckin popular these days so... Maybe theres still mind which is in fear of being alone. We are headed into a beautiful future tyler. These topics are amazing. Thank you you are brilliant. Big things to come in 2020
I watched it all the way through Tyler.I also appreciate this video...
ive been a total sperg in this regard so thanks for putting it out there consciously
I’ve been watching Owen for probably >10 years now and he’s right on the money with every word he speaks. If I had the big money I would be his client in a second but since I’m so screwed up it would take him years of hands on training to reprogram me and that’s with me never doing any drugs or drinking. He would differently be entitled to the noble peace prize if he could. I wonder sometimes If Owen was still sitting on a crate box teaching pick up today how hard would it be for Tony Robbins to fix him. He probably couldn’t because he would be too far gone down the rabbit hole or just maybe it was one small thing holding him back but he was completely unaware of it. I think for Owen it was something in his past that gave him the mental strength to accomplish what he has done with his life today and still drives him along his path along with ADHD maybe some Asperger's or a little Savant he’s no mere mortal. i can promise you this much, you can watch his videos as long as you want and your life is never going to change on any level until you get the experience and live that type of life style he’s living or you envision and unless you can see some success some type of results to push you forward to the next level or you’re not going anywhere you will be stuck in a loop all your programmed bad habits.
My 2 cents (just because I can haha) - for anyone who doesn't think that his content is insightful, deep, and true for the most part are ignorant or just plain oblivious. I want to highlight: "for the most part" because some of RSD's stuff is on the thin line between nonsense and advice. I'm sure other intelligent viewers would agree with this, but would also agree that in a more general sense his concepts are quite brilliant.
I can honestly say I've never really come across self-help content the way he conveys it.
I'm not a fan of the philosophies towards women, but you can't win over everyone so I have respect.
Keep it up man.
Thanks!!! Appreciate it. The previous dating content was tested for decades, and trust me, I was the MOST annoyed by it of anyone lol. But had to share what we empirically tested over and over. Regardless, there's SO much great stuff coming, I think you'll be psyched -Tyler
Thanks Tyler really appreciate your content! Have been following you for years and you really changed my life for the better :)
Hey Owen! I love that you covered this topic. I wish it offered a little more of a formula for change. I think you did a good job describing it. I don't really feel like I left with a solid plan for how to re-theorize and make an actionable change
I found tremendous value and revelations in this video. Sending some gratitude and appreciation from far away
6:56 This is [1 of the reasons] why you make me well up and ball. [the micro verbal journey building up to this point of your communication]
It takes a few listens of this to really get it!
Sign of aaa good video bro
Amazing meta-understandings and explanations for how peoples perceptions are formed - personally the most helpful video I have ever watched in the self development space. Thank you very much Tyler : )
How is it you allways come out with a vid that fits what's going on. Keep it up, I do appreciate and learn from your free content.
Epic! -Tyler
Takes a certain kind of person to pull this off.well done
Thanks Owen. This is a great video, one of your very best, and I've seen really quite a few.
Thank you for these insights Owen, these are very helpful
Thanks Owen for this great video and the deep content. All the depts of social dynamics in a nutshell. Love it!
Just rewatching this vid and like you said in ur reply to my comment when i watched it first" this video is trule especiqlly for me and i now fully get it. The more connected i feel to people the more i drop the halo effect and it is nonsense you are so freakin right. Thank you owen thank you so so so much
Another example for the Halo Effect in Music is Frank Ocean. When you think about it "White Ferrari" or "Seigfried" are quite slow moving songs. Without any context you might actually think they are quite boring. But through the social proof (e.g Frank's Status as a litteral god among his fans and blonde being revered as one of the best albums of the decade), the exclusivity of him dropping only 2 Full Albums throughout his carrer, waiting 4 years inbetween and giving no interviews at all and his personal branding as this vulnarable but strong guy that a lot of people relate to you are able to see his songs as the masterpieces the are🙏
Thank you so much for this content man. Just finished the first half and the concept you discussed (conscientiously maintaining the halo effect you create) is brilliant. Really helped shed light on some of the higher level intricacies of social dynamics for me.
Such subtle truths are scarcely told, so thank you again for sharing
Epic! Ands ya, tons of more subtle truths coming -Tyler
owen amazing video bro! your content is so helpful and quality! i appreciate the hard work you put in.
You can hear the South Carolina staple straight piped civic in the back ground. I was dying.
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Amazing thank you owen and rsd crew
Thanks! -Tyler
I don't where else you can find content like this, solid!
Great video Tyler!!! This video is full of awesome content man
Ya doing my best! -Tyler
Wow, what a beautiful video. You are a genius at explaining nuanced concepts
Awesome video, such great & in-depth content, thank you for sharing
Replay and take notes 🙌 thanks Owen
Thanks for the insight! On my last night out, when I approached 4 girls, I found a way to connect with them by asking a fun question. Naturally, they were able to find that I'm a Metallica fan that enjoys impersonating famous people. That was definitely a once-in-a-blue-moon connective experience for me. I'm currently studying for my exam on Thursday, but I'm going to resume going out afterwards! Cheers, -Rick Ford
Karma level: 10,000. Goddamnit Owen. Words cannot even describe what you do here.
One of my favourite videos, thanks Tyler x
Your very wise, Thank you for message it all make sense now. When it come to impresse pepole im the last one and i dont find pleaser in it but you have changed my way of thinking. You have presente your self in such way that is acceptble for pepoles. Thanks again, I always learne new things with your videos
Thank you so much for all the amazing value and effort you put in these videos! Really appreciate them and implement them in my life and social skill development journey.
Thank you for everything you do for us! Love you man!
Really enjoyed this. As always amazing stuff. thanks Owen
Thank you, Tyler. Have just finished watching it