The Halo Effect - How To Treat Fickle High Value People VS Your "Real" Friends (And Know Who Is Who)

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  • Опубликовано: 16 ноя 2024

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  • @OwenCookSelfHelp
    @OwenCookSelfHelp  2 года назад

    Transform Your Life with www.blueprintreloaded.com/

  • @sunilthapa4521
    @sunilthapa4521 4 года назад +136

    Tyler, we're really grateful to have you in this world because you really throw off your high vibration and authenticity to the table which is very rare these days.

    • @abelmank
      @abelmank 4 года назад +1

      HAHA you know what's funny, i read the main comment as soon as 27:48 came on!

    • @DoUnNinja
      @DoUnNinja 4 года назад

      ^^

    • @centanhotbox84
      @centanhotbox84 4 года назад

      yet rsdn forums is shut down with no explanation and u act like nothing happened

  • @JulienHimself
    @JulienHimself 4 года назад +114

    Such a KEY video! Definitely the most in-depth video on this topic! 👊

    • @spol
      @spol 4 года назад +3

      JulienHimself yep very underrated content.

    • @Steallio
      @Steallio 4 года назад +12

      Julien providing that social proof Halo effect

    • @WORKHARDATPRAYER
      @WORKHARDATPRAYER 4 года назад +3

      Hey man, could I work for you guys. Ran into RSD max in the hall way after a free tour. Didnt follow through on reaching out to the guy on Facebook.

    • @BasicLearnings
      @BasicLearnings 4 года назад

      Where is RSD brand?

  • @Alice02211
    @Alice02211 4 года назад +95

    Owen is very wise; and a genuinely, beautiful human being. His ability to articulate the essence of social dynamics is just brilliant

    • @upasutra3758
      @upasutra3758 4 года назад +9

      it's his halo effect on you

    • @Alice02211
      @Alice02211 4 года назад +3

      @@upasutra3758 🤣

  • @davidbakino617
    @davidbakino617 4 года назад +6

    Owen "what winds up happening" Cook

  • @davidospina674
    @davidospina674 4 года назад +8

    Owen. You are hitting it HARD with all this free content. Keep it up and THANK YOU🔥

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +6

      This will be the biggest month of releases! -Tyler

  • @flygirl2172
    @flygirl2172 4 года назад +4

    The music at 13:01 is hauntingly beautiful. Kudos to whoever, edited the film and put this music in.

  • @theminhspecial
    @theminhspecial 4 года назад +11

    Owen, this is definitely one of the most valuable messages I have ever received from you. It helped me make logical sense of things I’ve already had a sense for.

  • @RocketMan12260
    @RocketMan12260 4 года назад +14

    I love how you talk about this in a non-judgemental way

  • @vincentd333
    @vincentd333 4 года назад +15

    There's perveived value and actual value. Perceived value comes first.

  • @MGajesh
    @MGajesh 4 года назад +34

    Tyler I saw you filming here at the river like 3 weeks ago lmao wish I came up to meet you but you were filming

    • @Egyfitness
      @Egyfitness 4 года назад +4

      I'd have waited all day to meet him man, wtf...

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +41

      Bro ... it's easy to bump into me and talk, come to a Free Tour lol :). The next one is February 5th in Chicago! -Tyler

    • @MGajesh
      @MGajesh 4 года назад +2

      I'll have to do that 🙂

    • @huntingandfishing3090
      @huntingandfishing3090 4 года назад +1

      @@OwenCookSelfHelp When next you in UK/Ireland?

    • @jeffreycollins7297
      @jeffreycollins7297 3 года назад

      If it happens again, just hang off to the side and when he gets done, he'll notice, or he'd probably notice while you are waiting. Cheers.

  • @OwenCookSelfHelp
    @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +53

    Headed BACK to CHICAGO for Free Tour on February 5th! www.rsdfreetour.com - totally free event. I'll also be running a four full day premium event which is absolutely life changing, which you can find at www.4dayselfhelp.com (recommended if you want to fly into Chicago - spend the most time with me). This is a topic that has caused me tremendous grief in my life, and hopefully the distinctions here will serve you well. RIP to my hero Kobe Bryant, I commented on his passing on my instagram, and may comment further on RUclips. Tons more videos coming this month, let me know what you think of this one! Appreciate your viewership. -Tyler

    • @قناتك-ق4ح
      @قناتك-ق4ح 4 года назад +1

      Love you man
      .....27 broke man from syria 😅💚

    • @compookiie
      @compookiie 4 года назад

      COVER YOUR CHEST HOMIE IT'S COLD 🥶 jk thanks for the vid 👌

    • @Artjoms_BLACKW00D
      @Artjoms_BLACKW00D 4 года назад +1

      Great Video, but Tyler bro do a video on Kobe Bryant and what he meant to you and what you learened from him and how we can take the same lessons please, really want to hear this from you.

    • @paradigmarson9586
      @paradigmarson9586 4 года назад +1

      I do appreciate your beautiful locations. Especially those marble things with that Trajan font. I mean I consciously use it as a benchmark of whether or not you're a loser. It was helpful social signalling and it helps me pay attention because it gives me a sense of luxury. I mean it even raises my self-esteem because it makes me feel clever to have found someone who shoots such beautiful films. I feel like if there was someone else in the room, I'd feel comfortable with them knowing I was listening to you and I could sell RSD to them as a business. It feels like having a high-status friend.

    • @joshyarjoshyar5492
      @joshyarjoshyar5492 4 года назад

      No1 has better hallo effect than this guy has ! ruclips.net/channel/UCs_6DXZROU29pLvgQdCx4Ww

  • @AdelleRamcharan
    @AdelleRamcharan 4 года назад +4

    Hehe! INFPs are always so passionate about defining friendship and all the different categories and levels and meanings of it. Have been following you for a very long time and love what you're doing. You are really coming with the power as of late. ❤️

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +2

      Thanks Adelle, I know the platform is a mess right now, but would be super excited to see you doing videos again! -Tyler

    • @AdelleRamcharan
      @AdelleRamcharan 4 года назад +2

      @@OwenCookSelfHelp ​Thank you so much!! I had to take a lot of time away to get my mind right but I most certainly will be back- soon. YT is indeed a mess right now, but I get to reach people all around the world in their homes, on their phones around the world, for free? To get PAID to do it? I have zero complaints, just constant gratitude. Thank you for the energy you bring to what you do. Much respect :)

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +1

      @@AdelleRamcharan Of course, and looking forward to it !! -Tyler

  • @drewingrande1048
    @drewingrande1048 4 года назад +1

    Tyler i gamed Hard for 2 years because of you. Found self help because books you recommended. Lost 130lbs in 10 months Figured out quickly the gaming tho fun as fuck was just something I needed to get over. Wasnt a productive lifestyle for my business goals. Opened three businesses. Learned the deepest love for myself ever. I'm lucky now to have the most amazing partner. She loves herself as much I love myself (shes addicted to your videos too) and we have a truly energetic connection you can feel. We never seek the finality of love because it is abundant and can be shared. Thank you for providing me with tools throughout my whole self discovery process. Now you are giving me tools to be an even better partner. Thank you for changing my life. In 3 years time i went from the depths of self hatred to walking in the NOW. I have soo much gratitude for you.

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +1

      AMAZING success story, thanks for letting me know -Tyler

  • @sunnc
    @sunnc 3 года назад +2

    32:00 Yeah I get the “real” thing I used to feel like that but man in this world you gotta play along. Know who you “yuck yuck”friends are & know who you’re exchanging value with. Got it

  • @AKMautla
    @AKMautla 4 года назад +9

    this man exposes the system and 37 people still dislike it?? damn.😂😂

  • @junior5146
    @junior5146 4 года назад +1

    So much better when you are standing and talk rather then walking. Good content 👍

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад

      Ya I think it's easier to follow, but then walking separates it from the vibe of the Free Tour channel -Tyler

  • @RayRay3818
    @RayRay3818 4 года назад +1

    Been learning this lately!! When in love you want to give the best not understanding that giving everything without the halo effect destroys relationships this is to the point!! Ended up being disrespected and everything!! Thanks for the info!!

  • @Mistaman11
    @Mistaman11 4 года назад +1

    Tyler...I’ve been following you for a while, and I’ve got to say that your content lately has been straight fire! At an all time peak. Keep killing it brother, I’ll see you when you come to Houston!
    Much Love,
    Eric

  • @youllmakeit
    @youllmakeit 4 года назад +3

    Came back from a hard night of approaches, made a mistake with the individual s friend who I getting very close with so blew it but hey I had a great night met great people loved it! What else, opportunity cost, and now watching this wooohooo!!! Love it!! Thank you Owen! Now into the video! Love you buddy!

  • @botekate
    @botekate 2 года назад

    One of your best videos ever. Insane information that you just can’t get anywhere else.

  • @dr1nkm1lk
    @dr1nkm1lk 4 года назад +1

    loving the content, great synchronicity with the halo effect topic for me right now as well.
    also, yesterday at a local spiritual presentation/meeting, the discussion came up if there are any authentic spiritual people on youtube who radiate something more, and thats you. thanks for being part of our/my journey

    • @OwenCookFreeTour
      @OwenCookFreeTour 4 года назад

      Thanks for thinking of me -Tyler

    • @dr1nkm1lk
      @dr1nkm1lk 4 года назад

      @@OwenCookFreeTour Thanks for everything

  • @paultimmer106
    @paultimmer106 Год назад

    Sometimes I need too watch your videos at least 3 times too really understand things on a deep level ❤😂

  • @sergiong7523
    @sergiong7523 4 года назад +3

    Great video Tyler! Thank you, I’ll see you in the next 4 day self help event 💯👍🏻

  • @thatguyheis
    @thatguyheis 4 года назад +1

    Watched your other video the other day. Dying to consommé the rest of your videos. Great job spreading the word!

  • @davidcort4202
    @davidcort4202 3 года назад

    Thanks for having our back Owen 🙏

  • @deathbybears
    @deathbybears 2 года назад

    This video is so valuable, I'm shocked it has less than four hundred comments. I wonder how many people watched this in its entirety and realized that not to embody the message here would be not only moronic, but even immoral.

  • @dendenbruh
    @dendenbruh 4 года назад +1

    that Halo effect reset in relationships you talked about is 100% true. definitely happens in all kinds of relationships

  • @Black7Bluebird
    @Black7Bluebird 4 года назад +1

    Tyler, great video. Looks like a good strategy. I would love to see another one were you go deep down tactical on how to achieve the Halo Effect. Thanks!!!❤️

  • @goldernie
    @goldernie 4 года назад +1

    I would never have thought of these shots in a million years. What an incredible talent in your 'guerilia' type of filming!! I can tell it wasn't easy to get some of these shots

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +1

      Thanks for noticing, I love doing it this way to show the environment since very few camera people do that -Tyler

  • @Music-ho8ob
    @Music-ho8ob 4 года назад +1

    Multiple encores and each one as valuable. Thank you!!!

  • @ivan_k_art
    @ivan_k_art 4 года назад +1

    Some powerful eye-opening stuff. Thank you very much!
    At this point you could write a book on RAS. I'm pretty sure it would be the best one on the subject matter.
    Looking forward to "RAS Decoded":) Much love 💕

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +1

      Haha, ya it's just something to continually be aware of in peak performance and transformation -Tyler

    • @colnohman5255
      @colnohman5255 4 года назад

      True. Think my RAS was clouded before by Survival mechanisms..and flouride.

  • @dalhoumijasser8182
    @dalhoumijasser8182 4 года назад +2

    Great video, most of this comes automatically if you are present/healed your childhood trauma.

  • @InuminaSagashi
    @InuminaSagashi 4 года назад +1

    15:20 I literally did this for teaching tennis. I signed up for one of your four day workshops and I'm extremely excited to meet you. I'm a private tennis coach and I created an extremely deliberate system - I could teach it to you on the spot. Just hearing you talk about your clients being able to replicate your same results - that vibe hit me hard.

  • @DuckODuckProductions
    @DuckODuckProductions 4 года назад

    Ohhhh baby you really killed it at the last part there! Good stuff! Loved the distinction

  • @ZanicaKnight
    @ZanicaKnight 4 года назад

    Thanks so much Owen for putting in the work to shoot this impactful video. It touched me and I’m SURE resonated with thousands of others ❤️✊🏼

  • @YoungChewieSk
    @YoungChewieSk 4 года назад +1

    I just came from watching the Black Mirror episode "Nosedive" and it immediately reminded me of this video. Being honest "yuck yuck" is cool with buddies/family. But people still no matter what will see you thru the biological drive filter to recognize "Alpha traits". Meaning the things like "complaining, bad body language, being in reaction, not being sure of oneself, not having it "together" being overly emotional.. will still have an effect on the way one is perceived in the social world.

  • @carlosescobar7298
    @carlosescobar7298 4 года назад +2

    You articulated this concept at another level. Thank you! 🙏🏽

  • @dashmakota5582
    @dashmakota5582 16 дней назад

    Watching this is 2024 and this video is still as relevant as when it was first released.

  • @fabricio_santana
    @fabricio_santana 4 года назад

    Holy fuck, Tyler. Yet another gigantic, dense, almost unwieldy ball of wisdom. Thank you, brother.

  • @Antonio_NF
    @Antonio_NF Год назад

    Thanks owen, i was suffering with this problem like you

  • @vladimirsamygin500
    @vladimirsamygin500 4 года назад +1

    Thanks Owen, this really explains in depth other pickup and business concepts and how they work in synergy with the halo effect

  • @spencercharlotte297
    @spencercharlotte297 4 года назад +14

    Counting down the days until I'm in Chocago next week seeing you live! Let's go!!!

  • @Pohema.
    @Pohema. 4 года назад +1

    I love how you can create a bridge between these seemingly contradicting mentalities of AUTHENTICITY and APPARENT VALUE.

  • @ryanmotivates
    @ryanmotivates 4 года назад

    Excellent video !! Ive been watching for about 2 years now and you have helped change my life my man 🙏

  • @InsideTheJoshMind
    @InsideTheJoshMind 4 года назад

    Fucking incredible. If only the rest of the world could gain such a desire to grow and become monuments of maturity such as you man.

  • @clayandputtyvideos1647
    @clayandputtyvideos1647 4 года назад

    You have the funnest clothes in the world I absolutely love your couture. The jacket is stellar. (My halo effect hasn't been created yet I'm bombarding you with comments haha but I do have a blue halo I am not kidding.)

  • @dizzyh
    @dizzyh 4 года назад

    Thanks Tyler so much ! Gutted that some of the RSD vids have been taken down but appreciate you so much man :)

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +1

      Tnx! Had no choice, but appreciate the love! Cool that we can keep sharing info here. -Tyler

  • @pikeygeorge
    @pikeygeorge 4 года назад

    thank you tyler! yet again dude. its been a while since i caught up with what your sharing. but you nailed it! needed to hear this right now! its perfect. cheers man👊👊

  • @lior06
    @lior06 4 года назад

    Thanks you so much for everything you do and for your love, it is appreciated immensly

  • @deandreharrisonatalltimes5413
    @deandreharrisonatalltimes5413 4 года назад +2

    Thanks for all you have done

  • @cocktailbarbelltender8067
    @cocktailbarbelltender8067 4 года назад

    This is an incredibly valuable video. I'm sure that just about everybody can relate to the messages/lessons that you're teaching here! Amazing.

  • @stefanpeev7308
    @stefanpeev7308 4 года назад

    Lol, just getting in back on your content.. dude, youve started speaking on such in-depth stuff :D its basically occult knowledge, magick, and samadhi, but you're delivering it in such a relatable way. GJ.

  • @rafaelteixeira6084
    @rafaelteixeira6084 4 года назад

    Great food for though all those videos from the past weeks Master Tyler. This one specially connected with me. Thanks for everything

  • @Rus1anHuseynov
    @Rus1anHuseynov 4 года назад

    So, first of all THANK YOU to trive with so much energy and WILLINGNESS to teach us! And as i understood it's always about the middle ground! So there is a REAL VALUE and our TRUE SELF(inside) on one hand, and THE TOOLS that show others parts of our personality! These tools as our looks,eye contact, voice(anything external) create an image of ours in mind of others(which is in other words HALO EFFCET). SO, the main point here is that the mistake that most people do, is thinking " WHY DON'T THEY SEE MY TRUE SELF AND WHY DO I HAVE TO LEARN ALL THESE TECHIQUES " The truth is PEOPLE CAN'T and PROBABLY NOT SUPPOSED TO! So, it is awlays working on both ways ( inner and outter) Also, HALO EFFECT is not about putting up a mask and "using techniques", it is about the SKILLS.
    And want to say that, when it comes other people seeing and loving you for your true value, it is an indicator for you also, which show THEIR ABILITY TO BE ABLE TO SEE, that speaks a lot about them and so, YOU can DIFFER them from others and be more GREATFUL FOR THEM(part 7). Thank you!!!

  • @vixenxiiiv
    @vixenxiiiv 4 года назад +16

    Would you mind elaborating on the “even greater halo effect”? My boyfriend and I broke up because we started taking each other for granted and ironically both of our ex’s came back around at this time which caused our RAS flips even more. It’s been 3 months and we had lunch a week ago and the way he was staring at me was like he was piercing my soul because we are both empathic/ recovering codependents and found healing through each other. It’s as if this halo reset is happening right now but on a deeper level

    • @Sealwithwificonnection
      @Sealwithwificonnection 4 года назад +12

      Wow, a woman aware of what an RAS flip is... Miracles do happen, I guess

    • @colnohman5255
      @colnohman5255 4 года назад

      Hm..usually co dep's repel eachother🤔..Are you Absolutely SURE that he, or one of you is not Narcissistic?

    • @vixenxiiiv
      @vixenxiiiv 4 года назад +3

      Col Nohman trust me I thought the same thing and have dissected both of our pasts, every human has some narcissistic traits but it’s a matter of whether they turn completely pathological or not & him and I were both with very selfish narcissists for 5 years in our 20’s and had our hearts ripped out and walked on but we both had enough dignity to walk away in the end. The damage caused from those relationships is still obvious to this day, we found more of a friendship which led to romance in the end. Granted his relationship ended in 2014 and so did mine so we’re talking 4-5 years of us post narcissistic abuse. I was repelled at first but I think over time our hearts softened and we started to heal through our friendship. It’s actually quite a beautiful story

  • @dannyjonze
    @dannyjonze 4 года назад

    i like the shooting of this video and the depth and how it was split into parts, it maade it easier to take breaks in concentration. and i like that denim jacket, the warmest denim jacket ive evet seen.

  • @ChessMasteryOfficial
    @ChessMasteryOfficial 4 года назад +52

    You are my real and only friend Tyler.

    • @vtense6039
      @vtense6039 4 года назад +2

      Discover Your Awesomeness sorry for your loss

    • @paradigmarson9586
      @paradigmarson9586 4 года назад

      I love you too!

    • @BigBlackSea
      @BigBlackSea 4 года назад

      That's hella depressing and unhealthy. Codependency incarnate.

    • @bitmapog335
      @bitmapog335 4 года назад

      DAD*

    • @vsslsmchlks
      @vsslsmchlks 4 года назад +1

      Flickering electronics on your screen are not likely to satisfy social needs.

  • @davidbakino617
    @davidbakino617 4 года назад +1

    JUST the title made me drop a like. SO KEY in life. Thank you Tyler for putting emphasis on the things that REALLY matter in life in the end. Most people out there, out of ignorance or lack of experience focus MOST of their time on surface level stuff IN COMPARISON (money, muscle, pussy)

  • @N8teyrve
    @N8teyrve 4 года назад

    Owen is awesome he is truely a person who is riding above all the regular gurus to be someone who will go down in history as a true social changer. Thanks Owen. You leave tony robbins and eckhart tolle for dead

  • @flamingjob2
    @flamingjob2 4 года назад +1

    this is a fucking beautiful video , fucking golden advice , about sales , branding relationships all in one. you sir rock. people do listen to this video without any distractions. it made me reflect on my sales project in my job . awesome . will make changes and to dating beautiful women

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +1

      Thanks for noticing everything we put into it! -Tyler

  • @GummyJeff
    @GummyJeff 4 года назад

    I respect the clairvoyance you showed in the video about this topic, I think that fundamentally your advice is not healthy for most people. Rather than developing the skill to summon the halo effect, I think it's better to shift the focus onto the other person and think about how we can better their lives.
    Sure, you could make the argument that by summoning the halo effect, it makes them more engaged and overall improves their lives... but wouldn't it be simpler to just be interested in them? "Be interested, not interesting" -- that's a phrase I learned from a business coach.
    Although there will be a handful of guys and girls who will think less of you because you're interested in them, and they're looking for someone with a halo effect to adore, my opinion is that people who are in the mode of "I only give my RAS to halo people" aren't moving in the healthy direction. And feeding into that model by BEING that halo effect is only pushing them further down that path...
    If instead you are interested in who they are, it communicates that they don't need a halo effect to hold your attention. You just like them for who they are. And even though that may not make you lots of money or physical success, I think it's really quite a wonderful thing to give someone.

    • @OwenCookFreeTour
      @OwenCookFreeTour 4 года назад

      I teach all that as well, probably more than anyone on RUclips. Watch the vids! It's a balance tho. You must meet people where they are at. -Tyler

    • @GummyJeff
      @GummyJeff 4 года назад

      @@OwenCookFreeTour
      Thanks for replying! I agree that it's important to have a balance of control and letting go. I prefer to learn "control" techniques only for defense though, so that's why I wish your video didn't teach people how to use it offensively.
      Especially considering how "control" heavy most of your audience already is. Transformation mastery by julien for example was a really good thing for this particular community.

  • @odinnleemoriarty3333
    @odinnleemoriarty3333 4 года назад +1

    It's difficult to not feel a bit bitter about needing to play diligent puppet master through the duration of a relationship.

  • @rajeshwaran108
    @rajeshwaran108 4 года назад +1

    Next level stuff right here Tyler

  • @moscoenterprise8586
    @moscoenterprise8586 4 года назад

    One of my fav videos in the last while from the team💪🏼

  • @igorous3818
    @igorous3818 4 года назад

    You have to write a book and spread your knowledge to the world... Amazing stuff man.

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +1

      At some point, it's an issue of hours in a day -Tyler

  • @dameanvil
    @dameanvil 9 месяцев назад +1

    00:13 🌐 The speaker reflects on accepting the halo effect, emphasizing the need for authenticity within the context of creating a halo effect, especially in situations involving an exchange of value.
    01:48 🔄 Understanding the challenge of distinguishing between relationships with unconditional acceptance (e.g., family) and those involving an exchange of value (e.g., romantic or business partners).
    02:31 🤝 Feeling closer to romantic partners, business associates, and fans due to the exchange of value, leading to an illusion of deeper connection compared to "yuck yuck" friends.
    03:52 🌟 Definition of the halo effect as a deliberate creation of a larger-than-life persona that attracts attention and admiration, particularly from those who gain value from the individual.
    05:12 🔄 The speaker encourages a shift in perspective, viewing the halo effect as a responsibility rather than a burden, emphasizing its importance in human interactions.
    06:44 💄 Examples of everyday actions, like wearing makeup or choosing specific outfits, as instances of individuals creating a halo effect to present a more appealing version of themselves.
    08:20 🌐 Nightclubs actively create a halo effect by controlling entry, using lines, and limiting space, illustrating the importance of perception for attracting desired clientele.
    10:40 🚫 The distinction between relationships with "yuck yuck" friends (casual, no exchange of value) and those requiring a halo effect due to an intentional investment of time, resources, and commitment.
    12:18 🔄 The key audit question: Are you asking the other person to give up options or resources for a relationship? If yes, recognizing the need for a halo effect becomes crucial.
    14:18 🤔 Debunking the myth that being a nice person is enough for others to recognize one's value; the speaker argues for the necessity of actively creating a halo effect in various aspects of life.
    16:41 💡 Demonstrating the speaker's dedication to his coaching product, emphasizing the extensive effort, time, and real-world testing invested beyond just content creation.
    17:51 💰 Highlighting the example of Anthony Robbins as a master at creating a halo effect, showcasing the perceived value attached to his courses compared to other experts in the field.
    18:19 📽 Creating a "halo effect" is essential for effective communication. It involves presenting oneself in a way that emphasizes importance, urgency, and global recognition.
    19:30 🌐 The halo effect enhances the chances of engaging the audience, gaining clients, and having viewers value the content. It involves capturing and maintaining attention in a world full of competing stimuli.
    20:54 🎤 The halo effect can be manufactured artificially, as seen in the entertainment industry, but creating a genuine halo effect with real value contributes to long-term success and career longevity.
    23:11 🚶‍♂ Building the halo effect involves mastering basic social dynamics, including vocal tonality, body language, and self-amusement, to captivate and maintain attention effectively.
    25:44 ⚡ Electric energy and self-amusement contribute to a magnetic presence, influencing how others perceive qualities. The reticular activation system determines what aspects individuals focus on in social interactions.
    26:25 💔 Losing the halo effect in a long-term relationship can lead to an "RAS flip," where negative qualities become more noticeable, potentially causing the partner to take the person for granted.
    29:03 💡 Recognizing the halo effect's impact is crucial in various aspects of life, from business and sales to personal relationships. Failure to create and maintain it may result in missed opportunities and unappreciated efforts.
    30:51 💸 In sales, attention is crucial, and interrupting the focus, even as a friend, can negatively impact the halo effect, potentially leading to missed opportunities or wasted efforts.
    35:26 🔄 The extent of the halo effect determines the potential for a synergistic relationship. Allowing the halo effect to dissolve may lead to significant challenges in the relationship. Understanding and respecting this dynamic is crucial.
    36:36 🤝 Desperation to work together can lead to higher value creation in collaborations, fostering respect, synergy, and efficient leadership.
    38:29 💔 The "halo effect" in relationships may fade over time, leading to a decline in intimacy and excitement. Sometimes, a break or reset is needed to rekindle the halo effect.
    39:25 🔄 Maintaining the halo effect is crucial, but there should be a transition to appreciating and valuing each other on a deeper, more authentic level for sustained, meaningful relationships.
    41:16 🤹‍♂ Balancing the halo effect and authenticity is essential. While the halo effect is useful, having friends or partners who appreciate your true value is equally important.
    43:08 🎥 Understanding what goes on "behind the scenes" in relationships or accomplishments can enhance appreciation, even if it initially diminishes the halo effect.
    45:28 🌐 Surrounding yourself with high-quality people who understand and appreciate the real you can reduce the need for an exaggerated halo effect, fostering genuine connections.
    46:39 🤔 Acknowledging the categories of relationships - "yuck yuck friends," regular halo effect relationships, and tight inner circle relationships based on true value - helps navigate social dynamics.

  • @sergiolara1217
    @sergiolara1217 4 года назад

    Never have seen personal development videos like these, Tyler is a beast, in the good way🤓

  • @theskender
    @theskender 4 года назад

    Thank you for the content man, you’re a huge inspiration for me and you continue to teach me through each stage of life! Much love and btw cool jacket!

  • @juanmanuelpena9676
    @juanmanuelpena9676 4 года назад

    Amazing content I am really enjoying going deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +1

      Good and we are going WAY deeper the next few months -Tyler

  • @wesleyzhoffical
    @wesleyzhoffical 4 года назад

    This is the kind of video I'm looking for. I always wanna understand this but I don't know how to explain. Thanks for explaining n clarify this👍 keep it up!!👊👊

  • @inderpreetsingh1063
    @inderpreetsingh1063 4 года назад

    Thank you for another deep wisdom, experienced from higher conciousness.
    Thank you owen and keep it up.

  • @silas1424
    @silas1424 4 года назад +1

    Wow. Needed this 5 years ago. Thanks Owen.

  • @danieldelgadovaz
    @danieldelgadovaz 4 года назад

    again, amazing content! Thank u so much uncle Owen

  • @samekid273
    @samekid273 4 года назад +1

    Rest In Peace Kobe I hope you’re doing alright Owen

  • @Rogerkonijntje
    @Rogerkonijntje 4 года назад

    great stuff man, well delivered good content and nxt level post production (y)

  • @diosn6909
    @diosn6909 4 года назад

    Very good content, authentic Tyler! Thanks!

  • @ProfessorBorax
    @ProfessorBorax 2 года назад

    So good thanks bro :) hope we will meet someday that would be so awesome 😄

  • @Pohema.
    @Pohema. 4 года назад

    That last message was heartwarming

  • @hopeonthego4273
    @hopeonthego4273 4 года назад

    What i really like what you said (my short interpretation)" the halo effect is a part of human interaction and you have a responsibility to maintain it" goddamn.... knowledge bombs💣💣💣

  • @kneelesh48
    @kneelesh48 4 года назад

    This video concludes the discussion of looks matter or not. They do matter, but is important only in the initial part of the relationship.

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +4

      What you don't understand brother, and it's so sad how no one seems to get this, is that many people are simply unable to even mentally process dating someone who is good looking. Many of the most beautiful people in the world believe they are ugly. Many were abandoned by their fathers or mothers, and will only date older people who appear like the person who abandoned them - so no, it is not needed to be good looking to date someone who is good looking. At all. It is simply an excuse for losers who lack charisma and the courage to put themselves out there. -Tyler

  • @SuperChaser2
    @SuperChaser2 4 года назад +1

    Halfway thru.. going to finish but wanna say Damn, That’s a bold thing to digest.. Knowing that you have something to offer for EVERYONE, but also knowing that you’re unable to selectively operate on everyone at once. Like.. It’s ironic that you can be at a party and just be yourself; not have a need for instructing people and just be open and free.. and in concordance of that state being able to receive anyone and have that one on one exchange with virtually any human being, Owen. YET, for an actual discourse/transmission of love and imparting knowledge into others, and give even more to people, well that particular didactic FORCES you to HAVE to make sacrifices..
    The concept is hard for me to accept..
    It makes me think about the other great teachers throughout our history: The Buddha, Socrates, etc.. I would think that they were the type of people who could be taking a shit in front of you and still would not shift the “R.A.S” of their thousands or millions of followers.. and the fact that even they had to be aware of that social/interpersonal sacrifice...
    Socrates and/or Buddha might have been so “woke” that they might have seen it like it was OUR problem if we didn’t get them (you know, Circa 2,000+ years ago) But that kind of leads me to the next question: If you’re a teacher, which act is more compassionate? Vigilantly moving to change other people or waiting for them to be ready and coming to you even though you have the best marketing and ads to change them from any point? Does having a “Halo effect” imply action by way of exploiting R.A.S for an ultimate good? Or is it more like just being able to mingle, integrate, and interact more homogeneously as just a person, and not some sort of deity?

    • @patrickjade9349
      @patrickjade9349 4 года назад

      Means dont justify the ends and the ends dont justify the means.
      I say this to your questions of r.a.s. exploitation.
      R.a.s. in my opinion is more about a description of what is happening when value attracts value and like attracts like.
      Sacrificing to learn what other people need is what is compassionate. One needs silence... or patience from you. Another needs inspiration. These are colder leads. Maybe warm leads. Addressing their needs is what brings the heat. Recognizing where the heat is needed is the work of mastery.
      At a high level, it's about leading and promoting through attraction rather than promotion. None of this is of control. But the attraction can get really strong, believe me. You can't even pull your eyes away from people that have mastered this shit

    • @patrickjade9349
      @patrickjade9349 4 года назад

      I actually really appreciate this comment though. It makes me think about the value of social proof with these processes from an evolutionary standpoint. It's like an instinctual call for unity. I think this is what the great leaders have awakened. Like moths to a light, and the benefit for all.

    • @SuperChaser2
      @SuperChaser2 4 года назад +1

      Patrick Hohenshilt awesome 😎 thank you. Yeah, I finished viewing the other half of the vid.. 🤣I was way off and didn’t really understand or have the concept down. I didn’t realize how fundamentally ingrained this is at even the most basic human behavior with or without interactions..
      What you say : properly “Conveying” your self rather than trying to “convince” others for their selfs etc.. is definitely something I’m getting on board with and wanting to continue to refine myself towards.
      Thank you very much! 🙏🏼🌈🌈

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад

      Great you're really taking it in and pondering it! -Tyler

  • @heavyequipment1930
    @heavyequipment1930 4 года назад +3

    Yuk yuk friends 😂😂 going to start using that one

  • @bramnl23
    @bramnl23 4 года назад +1

    So accurate, thanks alot for sharing this content 🙏🏻

  • @paradigmarson9586
    @paradigmarson9586 4 года назад

    You've passed the 'bleh bleh' test. Even when I imitate you and replace every one of your words with 'bleh', you still sound cool.

  • @Zargogo
    @Zargogo 4 года назад

    When Tyler said "SOMber" at 0:04 , it sounded like the start to All Star by Smash Mouth 😂

  • @JMW_JMW_JMW
    @JMW_JMW_JMW 4 года назад

    Yuk Yuk friends sounds Canadian as fuck lol ...can't hide the roots, Tyler. Thanks for the dope content.

  • @SuperFez87
    @SuperFez87 4 года назад +1

    The face in the background is the ultimate troll

  • @paradigmarson9586
    @paradigmarson9586 4 года назад

    Indeed, it took till the third watch for me to notice the ice skaters. RAS lactation works! What's next, gorilla costumes?

  • @dragonflyself3137
    @dragonflyself3137 4 года назад +1

    2020 - RAS year - actually not bad idea Owen, keeping going ;) just remember less marketing more teaching - thanks

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +1

      I should probably do more marketing actually! Haven't done ANY this year. Just video after video like this -Tyler

  • @SantaBarbaraBiking
    @SantaBarbaraBiking 4 года назад

    I appreciate all of the years gaming to teach me what you have learned. 👍

  • @TheBanterCity
    @TheBanterCity 4 года назад +1

    Thank you Mr. Durden.

  • @Snow_Pulse
    @Snow_Pulse 4 года назад +1

    You are the one and only
    My man 🙌🏼

  • @patrickjade9349
    @patrickjade9349 4 года назад

    Haven't read any books on human magnetism... that being said, I dont know if it's something I'm going to need to after this. Who knows, maybe my thoughts will change.
    I got my brother to buy me an NLP book for Christmas. I've been sold on the idea of "evidence based practice" since I'm a counselor, might have to reconsider since an artform such as NLP and magnetism is used by such influential people.
    There's a difference between warm and hot leads I've seen in practice. I had a doctor (dentist) that threw herself whole heartedly into treatment and it was almost as if I was controlling her. (Gestalt therapy is one of the schools influencing NLP) the magnetism was at a HIGH level. But I was so caught off by it that I kind of shook myself out of it. She then wanted a more experienced therapist. Definitely a good learning experience though. Sometimes I think it says more about the audience member than the value giver as to what value they can let in to appreciate.
    As to cultivating it and being less dependent on the other? Glad for videos like this. Love to see you film an RSD movie that would be so freaking cool

    • @spol
      @spol 4 года назад

      With all due respect, I think you could benefit greatly from a writing class. You’re very hard to follow.

    • @patrickjade9349
      @patrickjade9349 4 года назад

      @@spol thanks bud! I'll consider it!

  • @tristandavis1629
    @tristandavis1629 4 года назад +2

    Tyler we are Alive!❤

  • @brooklynlevo
    @brooklynlevo 4 года назад

    Tyler with the D2-I wouldn’t have expected anything less

  • @No-ol4hv
    @No-ol4hv 4 года назад

    Thank you for doing what you do, much love

  • @LK0408
    @LK0408 4 года назад

    Sometimes I am postponing watching your videos because I know it will mess up my life and I would not be able to sleep that day because of thinking...

  • @TheGabe473
    @TheGabe473 4 года назад +2

    Everytime Owen says halo take a ginger shot

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 года назад +1

      Lol perhaps I'll start recommending that, since I take ginger shots daily. I think it could go overboard tho -Tyler

  • @alejoml5913
    @alejoml5913 4 года назад

    Nice video, a lot to reflexionate about thanks