Hi Mark and Melissa, thank you guys for your honesty, I have learned so much and grown so much. I thank God for you, all my friends are now listening to you and being blessed beyond measure.
It took a long time for me to finally 'see' that changing my appearance (losing weight etc) or being more productive or a better 'this or that' was not going to change how I felt about my self. I'd lose the weight & look great & yet still feel 'less than' & boy when that happened I really felt hopeless. Yes I was a Christian but at some level back then I believed that I was supposed to 'automatically' be confident & comfortable with who I am. So I felt God had let me down & I turned to eating to comfort my 'pain'. I'd gain the weight back & then try again telling myself that THIS time losing weight/looking better would make a difference.... Strangely enough I was never that overweight & truth is I looked fine but I chose to believe I needed to look even better to feel confident/worthy. This cycle repeated itself over & over & not just with weightloss. I'm a fairly intelligent person & was aware of what I was doing but I was in so much 'pain' & didn't know what to do with all the fears & insecurities so I chose to 'forget' the uselessness of what I was attempting to do because I needed hope. Now I'm older & see clearly that there's nothing I can change about my looks or actions that is ever going to give me confidence & acceptance of who I am.... Only through renewal of my mind & knowing who I am & more importantly WHOSE I am will I ever be fully free of feeling inferior & that I don't quite measure up somehow. I can look around & see that I have no 'reason' to feel this way - yet I STILL do. I have come a long long way from where I use to be. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever be free of this. I know as long as I'm here on Earth I will never be 💯 percent free of it but I just want to be able to be 'okay' being me without worrying what others think. I can logically think 'what the heck does it even really matter what so & so thinks'. Yet I am aware that the real issue isn't about me worrying what 'they' think, it's that I'm feeling 'trapped' in my own view of myself. If I can ever get to the place where I love & accept myself REGARDLESS what anyone else may think of me, then I will be free to just be myself & be comfortable in my own skin. God is the only hope I have... If I can just get a revelation of His unconditional love for me, then I will be free to fully receive & give love not only to Him & others but to myself. I still feel a little like it's wrong to aim to love yourself. Yet I understand we are not capable of truly loving others if we cannot accept & love ourselves. I am SO tired of dealing with all this. I'm 58 & sometimes it feels I'm NEVER going to 'get there'. Yet part of me senses I'm VERY close. Maybe that's why I'm so tempted to park where I am now & just accept this is who I am & it is what it is... That some people are just born with a self acceptance & some are not... I know everyone deals with insecurities but not at the samr level. Some seem to be able to freely be themselves at a much higher level than I can. Even my own sister. Yes she has insecurities but she can interact with others & freely be herself without getting choked up in fear of rejection. You know I think part of me is angry with God thinking He could have created me differently & them I wouldn't have 'wasted' most of my life waiting to be 'good enough' to live my life instead of hiding, disconnecting & checking out until I find a way to be 'acceptable / comfortable enough to just start living. I feel bad even saying this... How can I stop blaming God for my insecurities & fears? I'm just thankful He loves me even when I say things like this. I could ignore these thoughts/lies I believe but I know I'll never heal unless I face the truth of what's in my heart & soul. I also believe that God will somehow get me to the place where I see the truth. This is so CrAZY. It's like part of me knows the truth. I know God is not the one to be angry at & yet I know a part of me believes that He is. This is not something I am 'conscious'of believing most of the time. It's a deeper 'unconscious' level & it just surfaced while typing this. Sorry if this is too long or too much to say here. If you have any advice where to go from here, please feel free to give it. Otherwise I'm just gonna keep on keeping on& looking to God for healing & freedom - some how some way.... Either He is God & can transform me or He's not... And I say He IS & that He is able & willing... I know this in my head, Lord help me know it in my heart.
Donna I love reading your comments!!! When you said parts of you know the truth. I am the same, there are parts of me that know God loves me but rooted in my subconscious there is dirt/lies/debris that I’m working to come out of agreement with. There’s still seeds of comparison that I have on people who I perceive on the outside since that’s all I can see that are like the total Christian package. Then I look at myself and see only flaws and man I guess if I’m honest when I think about myself it’s 90% unkind things least that’s where my mind goes first. I don’t really even know how to be kind to myself. Such a deep journey uprooting all these things. I just thank God for meeting me where I’m at. Yesterday I cried to the Lord because I told him I don’t know how to rest in you and trust you and I need help. In my logical mind that’s a silly request when I have seen the Lord do great things in my life but in this season where I’m at today that was my truth. Even with all that I thank Him for walking with me through this....just gotta trust the process even with just my mustard seed of Faith that one day I’ll see the other side of this.
@_heyimbritt Thank you. We sound a lot alike. Keep moving forward in receiving God's love & letting His love be the source for loving yourself, Him & others. That's what I'm learning to do. I never realized how much self hate & shame I carried. Mark DeJesus has been an absolute God-send. His books, along with the teachings on here have been a big part of my healing journey. I will keep you in my prayers Britt. This is not always an easy journey especially lately with the COVID-19 factor but I keep reminding myself God is bigger. Hugs
Another amazing video. These videos are helping me so much get out of the anxiety and depression that I’ve had since I was a child. After becoming a Christian, I felt amazing, then depression and anxiety crept back into my life. 10 years later, I feel like I’m finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Its the first time my thoughts aren’t running wild and I feel like Im beginning to function properly as a human being. From reading my bible and praying non stop, nothing sunk in because of my performance based Christianity and struggle to be still and receive God’s love. I have a lot of unlearning to do... I relate to so much of what you and Melissa have experienced, it’s crazy. All these years of being a Christian and it’s the first time I really relate to someone and feel like someone understands exactly what I go through. Thanks so much Mark and Melissa for your work. Keep doing what your doing 🙏🏻 God bless!
I commented below before listening to this. You guys are so great at speaking the truth & I can relate SO much to what you're saying. Thank you for sharing all this. I'm having my own personal therapy session through these recordings. Thank you! And praise to God for this. 🙌🙏
This video series is amazing. Mental health, WITH the bible! There's a HUGE HUGE gap between the two. So many church's and Christians completely disregard mental health. This mindset of "I have Christ, he alone is my mental health!!" Not even considering it. Like what you were saying a couple videos ago. "I'm just waiting on God and trusting Him..." without actually doing anything. I love myself. That sentence is hard to believe. Being raised in a very fundamental and self denying church, that sentence is hard to comprehend. The fact that I CAN love myself. Wow. I can love myself, AND love Christ!! Thank you, Mark and Melissa! ❤
Thank you so much for all this teaching. I love it and need it. I'm so thankful for both of you. I'm going to be sharing these video's with others in order for us to move and lean into wholeness with Jesus.
Thank you so much insecurity and emotional healing needed to bring into the light. Been double-minded and fear has robbed me. Bless you both for this amazing ministry
Sometimes the problem is dealing with stuff and still dealing with life. It’s not like you can deal with all your stuff and then go out there. You have to do it all at the same time.
Mark. Men in my church are so insecure. I am single. Decent looking. I am really a nice person. The pastor and deacons are so insecure. They basically shun me. Insecure pastors really don’t want other males who they feel threaten their territory. Huge problem that I believe is really common.
Hey mark, can you further explain “the subject is not the issue”. I saw it in another video of yours but thought I’d just ask here on the one I’m watching :)
Confidence is working through your insecurities. Very great, profound comment to wrap up this episode. Very good. Thank you!
Awesome! Thanks C.J.!
Hi Mark and Melissa, thank you guys for your honesty, I have learned so much and grown so much. I thank God for you, all my friends are now listening to you and being blessed beyond measure.
Thank you for your honesty & views of the process of healing
Thank you so much. Appreciate that.
It took a long time for me to finally 'see' that changing my appearance (losing weight etc) or being more productive or a better 'this or that' was not going to change how I felt about my self. I'd lose the weight & look great & yet still feel 'less than' & boy when that happened I really felt hopeless. Yes I was a Christian but at some level back then I believed that I was supposed to 'automatically' be confident & comfortable with who I am. So I felt God had let me down & I turned to eating to comfort my 'pain'. I'd gain the weight back & then try again telling myself that THIS time losing weight/looking better would make a difference.... Strangely enough I was never that overweight & truth is I looked fine but I chose to believe I needed to look even better to feel confident/worthy. This cycle repeated itself over & over & not just with weightloss. I'm a fairly intelligent person & was aware of what I was doing but I was in so much 'pain' & didn't know what to do with all the fears & insecurities so I chose to 'forget' the uselessness of what I was attempting to do because I needed hope. Now I'm older & see clearly that there's nothing I can change about my looks or actions that is ever going to give me confidence & acceptance of who I am.... Only through renewal of my mind & knowing who I am & more importantly WHOSE I am will I ever be fully free of feeling inferior & that I don't quite measure up somehow. I can look around & see that I have no 'reason' to feel this way - yet I STILL do. I have come a long long way from where I use to be. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever be free of this. I know as long as I'm here on Earth I will never be 💯 percent free of it but I just want to be able to be 'okay' being me without worrying what others think. I can logically think 'what the heck does it even really matter what so & so thinks'. Yet I am aware that the real issue isn't about me worrying what 'they' think, it's that I'm feeling 'trapped' in my own view of myself. If I can ever get to the place where I love & accept myself REGARDLESS what anyone else may think of me, then I will be free to just be myself & be comfortable in my own skin. God is the only hope I have... If I can just get a revelation of His unconditional love for me, then I will be free to fully receive & give love not only to Him & others but to myself. I still feel a little like it's wrong to aim to love yourself. Yet I understand we are not capable of truly loving others if we cannot accept & love ourselves. I am SO tired of dealing with all this. I'm 58 & sometimes it feels I'm NEVER going to 'get there'. Yet part of me senses I'm VERY close. Maybe that's why I'm so tempted to park where I am now & just accept this is who I am & it is what it is... That some people are just born with a self acceptance & some are not... I know everyone deals with insecurities but not at the samr level. Some seem to be able to freely be themselves at a much higher level than I can. Even my own sister. Yes she has insecurities but she can interact with others & freely be herself without getting choked up in fear of rejection. You know I think part of me is angry with God thinking He could have created me differently & them I wouldn't have 'wasted' most of my life waiting to be 'good enough' to live my life instead of hiding, disconnecting & checking out until I find a way to be 'acceptable / comfortable enough to just start living. I feel bad even saying this... How can I stop blaming God for my insecurities & fears? I'm just thankful He loves me even when I say things like this. I could ignore these thoughts/lies I believe but I know I'll never heal unless I face the truth of what's in my heart & soul. I also believe that God will somehow get me to the place where I see the truth. This is so CrAZY. It's like part of me knows the truth. I know God is not the one to be angry at & yet I know a part of me believes that He is. This is not something I am 'conscious'of believing most of the time. It's a deeper 'unconscious' level & it just surfaced while typing this. Sorry if this is too long or too much to say here. If you have any advice where to go from here, please feel free to give it. Otherwise I'm just gonna keep on keeping on& looking to God for healing & freedom - some how some way.... Either He is God & can transform me or He's not... And I say He IS & that He is able & willing... I know this in my head, Lord help me know it in my heart.
Donna I love reading your comments!!! When you said parts of you know the truth. I am the same, there are parts of me that know God loves me but rooted in my subconscious there is dirt/lies/debris that I’m working to come out of agreement with. There’s still seeds of comparison that I have on people who I perceive on the outside since that’s all I can see that are like the total Christian package. Then I look at myself and see only flaws and man I guess if I’m honest when I think about myself it’s 90% unkind things least that’s where my mind goes first. I don’t really even know how to be kind to myself. Such a deep journey uprooting all these things. I just thank God for meeting me where I’m at. Yesterday I cried to the Lord because I told him I don’t know how to rest in you and trust you and I need help. In my logical mind that’s a silly request when I have seen the Lord do great things in my life but in this season where I’m at today that was my truth. Even with all that I thank Him for walking with me through this....just gotta trust the process even with just my mustard seed of Faith that one day I’ll see the other side of this.
@_heyimbritt Thank you. We sound a lot alike. Keep moving forward in receiving God's love & letting His love be the source for loving yourself, Him & others. That's what I'm learning to do. I never realized how much self hate & shame I carried. Mark DeJesus has been an absolute God-send. His books, along with the teachings on here have been a big part of my healing journey. I will keep you in my prayers Britt. This is not always an easy journey especially lately with the COVID-19 factor but I keep reminding myself God is bigger. Hugs
Donna Thank you Donna!! Prayers up for you and your continued walk with the Lord! So grateful for even these small conversations with you 🙏🏾💕
I believe in you sister. Believe the thoughts God has toward you as His beloved, beautiful daughter ❤😊
God bless you!😊❤
So good sharing from the heart,so much insight
So great! Thank you
Another amazing video. These videos are helping me so much get out of the anxiety and depression that I’ve had since I was a child. After becoming a Christian, I felt amazing, then depression and anxiety crept back into my life. 10 years later, I feel like I’m finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Its the first time my thoughts aren’t running wild and I feel like Im beginning to function properly as a human being. From reading my bible and praying non stop, nothing sunk in because of my performance based Christianity and struggle to be still and receive God’s love. I have a lot of unlearning to do... I relate to so much of what you and Melissa have experienced, it’s crazy. All these years of being a Christian and it’s the first time I really relate to someone and feel like someone understands exactly what I go through. Thanks so much Mark and Melissa for your work. Keep doing what your doing 🙏🏻 God bless!
I commented below before listening to this. You guys are so great at speaking the truth & I can relate SO much to what you're saying. Thank you for sharing all this. I'm having my own personal therapy session through these recordings. Thank you! And praise to God for this. 🙌🙏
That is so wonderful that we can facilitate a helpful process for you! This is great!
This video series is amazing. Mental health, WITH the bible! There's a HUGE HUGE gap between the two. So many church's and Christians completely disregard mental health. This mindset of "I have Christ, he alone is my mental health!!" Not even considering it. Like what you were saying a couple videos ago. "I'm just waiting on God and trusting Him..." without actually doing anything.
I love myself. That sentence is hard to believe. Being raised in a very fundamental and self denying church, that sentence is hard to comprehend. The fact that I CAN love myself. Wow. I can love myself, AND love Christ!!
Thank you, Mark and Melissa! ❤
Thank you so much for all this teaching. I love it and need it. I'm so thankful for both of you. I'm going to be sharing these video's with others in order for us to move and lean into wholeness with Jesus.
Thank You. I learned so much. Great team too!
Thanks so much Ingrid!
Thank you so much insecurity and emotional healing needed to bring into the light. Been double-minded and fear has robbed me.
Bless you both for this amazing ministry
Sometimes the problem is dealing with stuff and still dealing with life. It’s not like you can deal with all your stuff and then go out there. You have to do it all at the same time.
Thank you for sharing about your insecurities as a woman. 🙏
Wow! Good video Mr. DeJesus! I was actually thinking about asking you to do a video like this :D
glad to know this! thanks!
@@marktdejesus You're welcome keep it up! You're making a positive difference!
You to are such a blessing to me. Thank you 😊 you are saving my life ❤
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Mark. Men in my church are so insecure. I am single. Decent looking. I am really a nice person. The pastor and deacons are so insecure. They basically shun me. Insecure pastors really don’t want other males who they feel threaten their territory. Huge problem that I believe is really common.
I've observed a lot of that myself too. Lots of recognition for healing is needed. It's why I do what I do.
Thank you
Vulnerability.....I have got some stuff. Yes!
Thank you so much!
Just bought your book
I once had a "friend" who kept cancelling on me. It to a point I felt that she didn't respect my time at all and treated me that dirt.
Wouldn’t the goal be to learn to walk by Faith? Bearing the Fruit of the Spirit? We’re flawed but healing insecurity when we walk by Faith ?
Hey mark, can you further explain “the subject is not the issue”. I saw it in another video of yours but thought I’d just ask here on the one I’m watching :)
How about when we put childish things, we actually put away the emotions because we felt that they were our weakness. Or it was just me.
It’s the one that takes the longest to cook