Sometimes, people might enter relationships believing they can change their partner or fix their problems, which can lead to attraction to the wrong person.
I learned to say what I need and feel. Men leave or get angry and stop contacting me. I'm happy about this. Those aren't the people I need for the rest of my life.
Needed to hear this while for the first time ever in life of 42 years set boundaries for myself and coming out of an emotionally abusive relationship. It’s hard but I hope I have decided to chose myself over toxic people and patterns this time.
Matthew is doing an incredible thing- he is just listening to Lewis open up. Very hard for a person to keep their mouth shut and just listen. Well done!
What i find so disturbing is the huge lack of awareness of how to truly heal these wounds. It's taken me such a long time and deep constant work on myself to figure it out. 😢😢 most counselors and psychologists have zero clue. Intellectual understanding won't ever heal anything.
100% in support of what you say. The insight is hard enough - but comparatively easy to get to. The path is insanely long and painful. Yet worth every step.
Absolutely. I keep on affirming the same thing. Been in therapy all my life with practitioners who knew nothing of narc abuse. I could have recovered much sooner.
@@rudolfredpelt1484Yes, that's why it hurts when you finally start understanding at an older age despite having been in therapy since your teens. Spent tons on therapy with no results till I found a practitioner expert in narc abuse
The Celebrate Recovery Step Study group at my church has been amazingly helpful. You should look it up- it’s like free group therapy and weekly journaling for all kinds of underlying issues. Commitment is two hours with the group each week plus the time for your personal journaling, about six months in length. It’s super-powerful and I highly suggest it for personal transformation and growth 💕
What I find disturbing is how many people in this society play victim and classify things as “wounds” and “abuse” that aren’t. Everyone has a sad story to tell and it seems as if people are in competition to tell the most sad stories about their life.
So well said, you two. Can 💯 relate to what Lewis shared - and am also encouraged. If we all keep doing the work and stepping into hard conversations - perhaps more of our paths will cross with each other in the future (healthy relationships). 🙏
I disagree. We are not attracting or attracted to the wrong people. It's the majority of the people we are giving a chance to prove they are wrong for us and we are in scarcity of finding our people.
Sometimes, people might enter relationships believing they can change their partner or fix their problems, which can lead to attraction to the wrong person.
I learned to say what I need and feel. Men leave or get angry and stop contacting me. I'm happy about this. Those aren't the people I need for the rest of my life.
LEWIS ❤
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing exactly what you did 😢😊
Needed to hear this while for the first time ever in life of 42 years set boundaries for myself and coming out of an emotionally abusive relationship. It’s hard but I hope I have decided to chose myself over toxic people and patterns this time.
Matthew is doing an incredible thing- he is just listening to Lewis open up. Very hard for a person to keep their mouth shut and just listen. Well done!
Appreciate you for watching!
What i find so disturbing is the huge lack of awareness of how to truly heal these wounds. It's taken me such a long time and deep constant work on myself to figure it out. 😢😢 most counselors and psychologists have zero clue. Intellectual understanding won't ever heal anything.
100% in support of what you say. The insight is hard enough - but comparatively easy to get to. The path is insanely long and painful. Yet worth every step.
Absolutely. I keep on affirming the same thing. Been in therapy all my life with practitioners who knew nothing of narc abuse. I could have recovered much sooner.
@@rudolfredpelt1484Yes, that's why it hurts when you finally start understanding at an older age despite having been in therapy since your teens. Spent tons on therapy with no results till I found a practitioner expert in narc abuse
The Celebrate Recovery Step Study group at my church has been amazingly helpful. You should look it up- it’s like free group therapy and weekly journaling for all kinds of underlying issues. Commitment is two hours with the group each week plus the time for your personal journaling, about six months in length. It’s super-powerful and I highly suggest it for personal transformation and growth 💕
What I find disturbing is how many people in this society play victim and classify things as “wounds” and “abuse” that aren’t. Everyone has a sad story to tell and it seems as if people are in competition to tell the most sad stories about their life.
This does resonate. We are in survival mode when we are a child. The same thing becomes an issue when you are an adult.
Honestly and truly, hard conversations mold and deepen the relationship, do not shy away from them 5:55
So well said, you two. Can 💯 relate to what Lewis shared - and am also encouraged. If we all keep doing the work and stepping into hard conversations - perhaps more of our paths will cross with each other in the future (healthy relationships). 🙏
Thanks for watching!
I disagree. We are not attracting or attracted to the wrong people. It's the majority of the people we are giving a chance to prove they are wrong for us and we are in scarcity of finding our people.
Wow this is spot on
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Beautful ♥️ where can you watch the full version of this episode?
I chose the wrong husband because of my Fear 😊❤
its never too late Kathleen! you are worthy of real love
Me too😂
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Some Hard Lessons! May God Bless Us!