Unplugged. Definitely unplugged. I’m not spending ~$4,000 between photography and videography for your devices to ruin my shots. Someone I know recently FB LIVE STREAMED at the wedding reception. At least it wasn’t the ceremony, but seriously, put. down. the. phone.
Lauren Christina While I agree that I’m fortunate that my fiancé and I make good enough money to where we can spend that on photography and videography, it’s all about what’s important to you. We have the option to have that unplugged ceremony and not everyone will, but because I can, I’m going too. I think we can both agree that NO ONE should facebook live the reception though.😂
Maybe also consider that your photographers pictures will be the only pictures of the wedding so if he isn't honest he gains a lot of power through that. I've heard of a couple that had an unplugged ceremony where the photographer just ran away with all of the pictures and they had almost No Pictures in the end. So maybe make sure that you have strong contract penaltys in your contract If you're going for that option and that everything is negotiated and written down before the event. And in my honest opinion a photographer worth 4000$+ should be able to work around a few people takeing cellphone pictures
PinkTrash Unicorn We did vast research and I have complete faith in my photographer. We’ve already worked with her multiple times- for a “just dating” session and she captured our proposal as well. We are paying $2,500 for our photographer, and are spending $1,000 for our videographer. I’m not concerned about my photographer - I’m concerned about my guests. I just want them there to soak in the love and live in the moment and enjoy themselves. How many times do you go to a concert and watch people viewing the whole concert through their phone screen instead of just watching what’s happening? Mainly just trying to avoid that and having them watch the day through the screen instead of just being present.
PinkTrash Unicorn i mean that just sounds like a thief. You can make that argument about anybody providing a service/ product. I don’t mind a few phones but wouldn’t want the phones in the pictures that the photographer takes...
Sincerely Eccentric TOTALLY agree with this! I think it’s rude to post before the couple gets a chance too. But, people get excited for you and probably don’t realize what they are doing!
I totally agree. My boyfriend is not on social media at all, and I've always asked him before I posted anything with him in it because he has no control of what I portray of him and it gives him control, so we don't want any photos of any part of our wedding on social media. I cannot imagine our own families understanding that posting photos without our permission is disrespecting our privacy, but that bridge will be crossed when we get there. Also, my wedding will not be a ploy for you to get more likes.
My girlfriend daughter said no pictures no body take pictures of them My girlfriend family bussness is the reason why. Bride and groom collected phones and cameras. Some family member had camera the guards stopped by them and escorted them out.NO one was allow to take pictures. If you knew the family bussness. You would understand.
Sooo it may be wrong but I am telling my photographer to practically put the fear of God in them if they try to pull out a giant camera during the ceremony....no shame🤷♀️🤦♀️
Hey Jamie, I was wondering if you could do a video on how to do a bilingual wedding? My fiance is from china and we have numerous guests coming over that do not know any English, so any help would be wonderful! :)
Yessssss! I plan on having an English/Spanish ceramony, my partner's father is a Pastor who's first language is Spanish. I was thinking having a hired English Pastor and FFIL standing in on the Spanish side.
When I coordinated my friend's wedding (I'm a professional event planner), she had a big sign posted at the ceremony entrance. Plus, I made an announcement when everyone was seated before the ceremony started. There were two people who took out their cameras. Another guest alerted me to a guest during the processional. I whispered to her that it was an unplugged ceremony. She quickly put her camera away, so she may have not heard the announcement. The second was during the recessional by the woman who I later found out that she made the groom's suit. I kindly asked her to put away her phone and she replied that she knew the groom. I then firmly informed her that the couple gave me the authority to enforce their wishes. After seeing I meant business, she put it away.
TBH a lot of them don't think its rude. They think they are helping the couple or they are so caught up in the moment they don't stop to think about it.
Hannah Hinrichs I understand during the reception and everything but during the ceremony? That’s NOT how I was raised.. that’s a special moment and everyone shouldn’t be glued to their phones. I miss the times where phones weren’t an important role in people’s lives
@@annies7 I should say that I agree with you, no one should be taking photos at that kind of intimate event. I wrote my comment because my mom is the aunt who gives unsolicited "help" to the couple/family with photos - not just at weddings- and she doesn't see a problem with it when I call her out.
So here for this video. I'm planning on an unplugged just so people aren't in the photog's way. I also hate the current social media addiction, so maybe im a little biased
Completely unplugged. Photography is expensive and guests really need to respect that. We already have had a few family members kicking up dust. But we simply say we will send you pictures after the wedding. As always Miss J you are amazing!
I'm having the same issue! Even the grooms party is cracking the shits. And ofcourse certain family members think that they are above the rule :/ its driving me crazy!
Friends don't let friends take photos with iPads!! When I do get married one day, I fully intend to have an unplugged ceremony. I'm spending way too much money for you not to be present. -Akeiva
The Bemused: Making Sense of Money 💰 I couldnt care less if they are paying attention, just don’t ruin my ceremony with flash, phone ringing off the hook, and ruining professional photos.
i LOVED the last idea there of it becoming a sweet little joke and saying "hey guys get out your phones, let's do it again!" Sounds perfect for my situation thank you for sharing a perfect in between point.
The whole "there will be a moment at the end where you can take your photos," is such an EXCELLENT idea! I never thought of that, but if people know there will be photo op times, they will be more likely to put their phones away
We're definitely doing an unplugged ceremony. We want everyone to be present in our moment and I know that in today's social-media-obsessed world people want to capture and post every moment as it happens, but I can guarantee that iPhone photos ain't gonna be better than our professional photographer.
I was recently at a wedding where the bride's family spent pretty much the whole ceremony staring at their phones and messing around with the camera settings. They were so focused on taking the perfect picture that they paid no attention to the wedding going on in front of them. After seeing that I'm definitely option for an unplugged ceremony for my own wedding!
100% unplugged! I know my family is deeply into Facebook and gossiping and I know unless clearly conveyed, phones of everyone 45 and older will be everywhere This was a great video and I was thinking maybe you could do a guest etiquette video- attire, behavior and whatnot!
I have noticed it that it is the older generation with the phones out the most lately. Whenever I get together with my family they talk about what they have seen on Facebook. So annoying!
I am very pro unplugged! After all I have a very strict budget and I'm spending a huge chunk on the photographer I want. If I want cell phone pictures I would not be paying that much!
Jamie! Something big that I recently noticed in my wedding contract: I noticed that wedding planners are actually NOT permitted on site for the venue we chose. It's no issue because they literally stand in place of a wedding planner, but I think it's super important for couples to know before they hire one and then suddenly can't use them. Thought this might be helpful for you or for future brides! Love your videos ❤❤❤
I know my family is going to be mad that we’re not allowing photos, and some will probably still take them... but we will have two videographers and two photographers. I want them to be able to do their jobs to the best of their ability. This is one of my new soap boxes since wedding planning haha.
There's a difference between being there in the moment vs being there via cellphone. It feels more detached and away from what is happening. Actually having a memory of it and talking about it later makes a better moment for yourself personally than taking the picture and eventually deleting it for space on your phone. Story telling about the event made it more lively than a phone ever did.
I'm absolutely going for unplugged, but I like the idea of giving the guests a cue to take pictures at some point. I'm also doing a photo challenge for the reception.
Unplugged! I really love the idea of telling guests there will be a photo opp at the end of the ceremony and "re-doing" the kiss! I am totally going to do that! :)
I had an unplugged ceremony and I’m so glad I did. I had a sign, it was printed on the programs, and the officiant made an announcement prior to the ceremony. I just got my wedding video back today of my whole ceremony and it was gorgeous. Not a single phone in sight and everyone appeared to be in the moment with us during our big day. I’m so excited to get pictures back!
Heather, my ceremony is not until Nov so I have a bit of time but the 2nd kiss sounds like an interesting compromise. In this case everyone will still have their phones out for the exit. We're your pics compromised?
Been to both. Cousin's wedding had all the gadgets. I had to stand on a chair to see my cousin and her husband say their vows. It was a circus. Ugh. Fast forward several years later, my fiance's aunt has an unplugged ceremony. It's a quiet, beautiful thing. In both weddings we had decent photos, but I really preferred the second for solemnity's sake
Never would've thought of the tip of having a small moment in the ceremony allowing people to bring out their phones. I'm sure we wouldn't mind doing the kiss twice lol
I have 2 favorite inspo photos for my photographer, specifically me walking down the aisle with my dad and my husband and I kissing in the middle of the aisle when we're finished. I also plan to have guestpix or something similar for my guest photos. I'm planning to have my officiant just say camera's off limits (in a nice way) during these 2 very special moments. That way, phones aren't blocking those shots and I still get a bunch of guest photos for the other parts.
Good information Jamie! We're having a unplugged wedding. I think we might take your idea of having our guests take pictures at the end of our ceremony. Thanks for that idea!!!
I did not restrict phones in my ceremony or reception. It did not affect my photos and videos. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. One less thing to try to control and worry about.
I've found that unplugged ceremonies are in photographers contracts. it's been quite useful in our planning process because we have had conversations and have something to back us up. "hey we have signed a contract soo... please don't take photos."
We are having an inside wedding, so the space is small, we really want our guest to put away their cameras so our photographer can snap the moment. I love the ideas you shared, we will deff be using a couple.
Thanks for the tips! We did the second kiss as you suggested! Our guests really appreciated that it was unplugged and felt the ceremony was much more intimate!
I did an unplugged ceremony and it was perfect for us. We had a chalkboard sign at the entrance and our officiant made an announcement before I walked entered. Instead of seeing phones, I saw people smiling and waving. I was grinning ear to ear because it was so peaceful and joyful. Wouldn't have done it any other way!
I'm definitely unplugging my wedding day. I recently attended my cousins wedding and everyone had their phones in the air. It made her day less intimate. It also seemed to have taken away the beauty of her walking down the aisle.
I'm getting married in fall of 2020. We are definitely having an unplugged ceremony! My sister got married a couple years ago and our aunt took pictures of EVERYTHING before the bride saw it all set up (reception area, cake, church) and posted all the pictures on social media. I love the idea of doing the kiss 2 times and giving people a chance to take pictures! ❤ I like the compromise and I would never have thought about it.
Team plugged! Getting married in December- we couldn’t care less if people take pictures or post on social media to be honest. We have an insta hashtag & Facebook wedding page. We look forward to seeing everyone’s pics. I’ve been to lots of unplugged weddings & there’s never any candid shots of the wedding...anywhere, ever which is great if that’s your thing, but it isn’t for us.
I love how helpful your videos are but I thought you would like to know that you look absolutely gorgeous in this video!!! Love the shirt and earrings and your skin! Beautiful!
misssecondstar The last wedding I went to, both the bride and groom professional photographers. The bride actually prioritizes weddings. I expected it to be unplugged. Not only was it not, they used an app called “the guest” which encouraged us to take and share photos/videos. At the wedding I was able to see angles of the first dance I missed because of it. I thought it was cool if you’re concerned talk with your photographer and coordinator. Express what you like. There’s always a solution.
I used google translate to translate an unplugged ceremony sign into Spanish, not sure if the grammar is correct but if anyone needs somewhere to start with an unplugged sign in Spanish here it is... ceremonia desconectada te invitamos a estar totalmente presente durante nuestra ceremonia apague sus teléfonos y cámaras y disfrute este momento con nosotros
Love the idea of having an unplugged wedding, but giving the guests one moment during the ceremony to take photos. Also love the suggestion of making that moment the kiss. Thank you for sharing!
I love that compromise at the end. In my high school band concerts we'd pretend to play for a minute after the show so all the parents could actually stand up and get close to take good photos of us.
In high school but I still seriously LOVE your videos!! I’ve always loved the idea of an unplugged ceremony! I’m a very old soul (and barely text my friends and boyfriend as it is now. I’d rather talk with them in person through and through) so I barely use social media and I barely use my phone. I’d rather be very present, and if I were getting married tomorrow, I’d rather my guests be present as well! Phones are such a distraction and a waste of space in an environment like that!❤️
Hi Jamie!!! I love watching all of your videos. I just recently got married on 9/14/19 I wish we knew about you before when we started planing our wedding. Our wedding was amazing but we opted not to get a wedding coordinator which is a regret of mines but going through all your videos we definitely did 95% lol of all your advice some DIY elements but our venue was all inclusive so we had the staff and open bar cost wise we definitely went over due to the venue (which my wife fall in love with). The timing for pictures are so very important while we had amazing two photographers we did feel rushed because it rained and we wanted certain pictures we didn’t get as many family pictures as we would’ve liked. But I love your videos thank you so much for them. We also did an unplugged wedding ... sorts lol if everyone listened but we used our wedding programs for that.
I am a professional wedding photographer/videographer myself and for our wedding with how much I am paying others for professional photo & video UNPLUGGEEDDDDD! Do not ruin their shots people hahaha
Cavin's videos on the topic actually convinced me to go unplugged! At first I wanted all of the photos from everyone but after hearing her talk about it, I made the decision to make my ceremony unplugged. And then my photographer asked me if I would make the ceremony unplugged and I was relieved because I didn't have to make that decision again. I do like the idea of giving photo opportunities! That might be something to talk about because I feel like it could make the ceremony more fun and goofy and less traditional, because we are definitely not traditional and I think doing that would just be another way to keep with our non-traditional wedding!
Jamie, can you do a video about having a wedding where the bride and groom are from two different states? I am from Missouri and my fiancé is from Texas and we decided to have it in Texas and it is causing a huge struggle for my family to get on board and be happy about my wedding. So far everyone is just bitter. THANK YOU!!!
I love the idea of unplugged BUT my parents couldn't afford a photographer so they went to Costco and bought 20 Kodak disposal cameras and put one on each table. It made for amazing shots in a controlled environment. So definitely a good option for those on a budget + a lot of fun for guests.
I honestly had never thought of putting it on the wedding website or program. Love that idea so much more than a sign that people will ignore and will definitely be doing!!!
If I'll ever get married I will definitely do the unplugged ceremony. My top priority will be having a great photographer who's going to take the most amazing pics ever, so no phones in the way of the Pro's camera, thank you very much. Could you talk about destination weddings please? Love you! ❤
Getting married May2020 and without a doubt having it be an unplugged ceremony! It's just the way to go!! Lol my day of coordinator recently also asked if we wanted ppl to remain seated or stand for my walk down the aisle.. didn't think of that as a distraction in photos but I said remain seated! 🤗🥰
I never understood an unplugged ceremony even when I went to a friend's wedding, but I do now!! Definitely leanings towards it! See what the fiance thinks. He probs won't care either way :) You along with people in the comments made really good points!
I've heard a suggestion before where the officiant gave everyone one last chance to take a selfie to share with the bride and groom before putting thier phones away for the unplugged ceremony to begin! It gives you some pictures, the guests feel included and then encourages them to respect your wishes of having that unplugged ceremony.
As always, your videos are amazing! I'm getting married in 2 months and my fiance and I made the decision to go unplugged. My thought on it was because I wanted everyone to be present and engaged in what was happening in front of them.
Hey Jamie we got married on the 6th Aug and I want to thank you for all your tips and tricks and advice!! It was invaluable!! Best wishes from the UK and good luck with the career 😍
Last wedding I went to, not only did I see several random people "discreetly" photographing the bride, the altar, etc, but someone took photos of the couple playing violins together (this was a surprise that even the parents didn't know about) AND posted them way before the couple or close family could Sigh
We're not having an unplugged ceremony, but the layout of our ceremony space will make it super easy for our photographer to get great shots without any guests in the way, and if someone manages to bug our photographer I won't mind asking them to move over or have my mum do it.
I LOL'd at sooo much of this video! Having an unplugged ceremony is soo important to me because our marriage ceremony is going to be in our church and it is supposed to be the time where everyone comes together to witness our marriage, not capture it. We're paying tons of money for photography for a reason and I promise everyoneeeee will get the pictures through a link as soon as I do! I also worry about shutter sounds, noises, the possibility of phones ringing if they're not turned off. I've told my photog she can tell anyone to back it upppppp if necessary! She's v excited!!!
OH I forgot this but we're also having videography and so much more is captured on film than photo and I really don't want to see a ton of phones tackying up my video that I'll pass down for generations LOL
Can you do a video on the pros & cons of all inclusive venues? Is the amount of money and stress you save doing an all inclusive venue worth the lack of options for vendors/having to use in house vendors only?
Yes! My fiance and I decided to have an unplugged wedding. We're getting married in February. I made a sign to put at the entrance of the aisle for when guests are finding their seats. But I will definitely ask my Officiant to make a quick announcement before the ceremony officially begins. Great advice, as always!
Unplugged my photographer and videographer are costing us 5k combined we have 2 photographers and 1 videographer we literally don’t need anyone to take any photos. My family can be very ridiculous with the photos
We’re having the officiant and later on the dj give a “gentle” reminder. I was going to do a sign but I don’t want to be super annoying to my guests. It’s one area that I had to step back from and personally not take control of so we’ll see 😊
We were doing an unplugged ceremony. My sister-in-law was the only one who didn't listen. I reiterated it to her that morning, and when I looked up from our first kiss that evening I saw her phone sticking up. We're praying to God that her phone wasn't in the pictures. We'll be getting them back soon.
I am 10000% camp unplugged. Hell even at other people’s weddings I subscribe to the unplugged message. When my bf and I went to his sister’s wedding (she didn’t have an unplugged ceremony) I saw him reaching for his phone and immediately I was like “she paid for a photographer put your phone away dork” lol. He didn’t even realize that it would be rude to take photos during the ceremony.
I'm a fan of living in the moment so the Ceremony will 100% be unplugged. There will be a large nicely worded and decorated sign eye level right when you walk into the ceremony space, and an announcement in both English and Spanish. But I will def encourage photos during cocktail hour and the reception, some of those photos come out the best! I took one at my aunt's wedding during her first dance with the sunset behind her on my Galaxy s9 and she actually printed the photo and has it on her work desk!
Love love love this video! My fiance and I debated for a while if we wanted to do an unplugged wedding, but ultimately have settled for unplugged. We're only having one photographer and I want to make sure she has every clear opportunity for photos. I'm already working out that the officiant will announce the "unplugged rule" and I'll likely add it to the website. But THANK YOU for adding the little tip at the end! I definitely want to implement time at the end when guests can whip out their cell phones and take photos. We're also working out a hashtag that can go with our theme for guests to go wild with. Such great content, and I can't wait to see what you talk about next
I planned to go unplugged but changed my mind at the last minute. I’m glad that I did because there was a mix up and the video snippets from cell phones ended up being the only video that I had from the big day🙄
Love unplugged ceremonies! My mom is definitely the one to pull out the DSLR at wedding and it drives me nuts! I would so disappointed if my wedding photos were filled with phone screens. Love the 2nd first kiss idea! Might use that ❤️
I love the idea of doing it again to give ppl the opportunity to get their photos. And if someone Facebook lived my wedding.,, I would be so livid. No social media until we post pictures first!! That’s apparently a big issue I’m having so the doing it again just might be the compromise we need to not have any drama.
Cab u please make a video about weddings that had the guest and warm atmosphere as top priority and how they made it happen.. I mean some creative ideas (more than flowers and all that) love your videos. thank u 💕
We arent having a photographer, just because we have too many in the family already :D Something I do want to consider though is a social media rule where we ask our guest not to post online until we have made our own post. I'm not sure. Would love a pros and cons on this!
I'm 100% on the unplugged train. My wedding is in September and I already made a welcome sign that clearly says not to take pictures and am planning on having the officiant announce it at well. I'm paying so much money for professional photographs and I don't want someone ruining them, even if it's accidental or with the best intentions. I also attended a wedding a couple of weeks ago and an older family member in front of me blocked my view for most of the ceremony because she kept holding her giant phone up above everyone's head trying to get a photo. It wasn't even my wedding but I was so offended by it, and annoyed that I wasn't able to be in the moment with the couple.
I love the idea of unplugged. We are getting married in a church and plan to have a sign and have it in the programs. However, how do you make it clear that it's ok to for guests to use their devices during the reception?!
My friend had a plugged ceremony however most of the guest did not take pictures or upload them to social with the hashtag besides the bride's mother-in-law. The ceremony was so beautiful and intimate that thought of taking out the phone just seemed disrespectful. The guest got an email with all the professional pictures it was great. Another wedding I went to were my partner was in the wedding party it was an unplugged wedding intentionally they did not upload any of the professional photos on social media nor did they email guest with the professional photos. When we visited after the wedding we found out that they had printed the photos at home and decided not to share them unless asked which was not ideal.
If you’re setting up a Facebook event for your wedding, you can post something about your ceremony being an unplugged one and can warn your guests plenty of time in advance.
Unplugged. Definitely unplugged. I’m not spending ~$4,000 between photography and videography for your devices to ruin my shots. Someone I know recently FB LIVE STREAMED at the wedding reception. At least it wasn’t the ceremony, but seriously, put. down. the. phone.
Lisa Polzin my entire wedding budget is 5k so the more pictures people take, the better 🤷🏻♀️ to each their own. Some aren't as privileged as others.
Lauren Christina While I agree that I’m fortunate that my fiancé and I make good enough money to where we can spend that on photography and videography, it’s all about what’s important to you. We have the option to have that unplugged ceremony and not everyone will, but because I can, I’m going too. I think we can both agree that NO ONE should facebook live the reception though.😂
Maybe also consider that your photographers pictures will be the only pictures of the wedding so if he isn't honest he gains a lot of power through that. I've heard of a couple that had an unplugged ceremony where the photographer just ran away with all of the pictures and they had almost No Pictures in the end. So maybe make sure that you have strong contract penaltys in your contract If you're going for that option and that everything is negotiated and written down before the event. And in my honest opinion a photographer worth 4000$+ should be able to work around a few people takeing cellphone pictures
PinkTrash Unicorn We did vast research and I have complete faith in my photographer. We’ve already worked with her multiple times- for a “just dating” session and she captured our proposal as well. We are paying $2,500 for our photographer, and are spending $1,000 for our videographer. I’m not concerned about my photographer - I’m concerned about my guests. I just want them there to soak in the love and live in the moment and enjoy themselves. How many times do you go to a concert and watch people viewing the whole concert through their phone screen instead of just watching what’s happening? Mainly just trying to avoid that and having them watch the day through the screen instead of just being present.
PinkTrash Unicorn i mean that just sounds like a thief. You can make that argument about anybody providing a service/ product. I don’t mind a few phones but wouldn’t want the phones in the pictures that the photographer takes...
Ive also heard of the courtesy of not posting photos of the couple on social media, until the couple posts their photos.
Sincerely Eccentric TOTALLY agree with this! I think it’s rude to post before the couple gets a chance too. But, people get excited for you and probably don’t realize what they are doing!
I hope people follow this rule, but knowing my family I highly doubt it 🙄
Ugh yes it's their special day not some rando's chance to get likes!
Becca G LOL I love this!!
I totally agree. My boyfriend is not on social media at all, and I've always asked him before I posted anything with him in it because he has no control of what I portray of him and it gives him control, so we don't want any photos of any part of our wedding on social media. I cannot imagine our own families understanding that posting photos without our permission is disrespecting our privacy, but that bridge will be crossed when we get there. Also, my wedding will not be a ploy for you to get more likes.
Having an unplugged ceremony, you realize how many people DON’T LISTEN. I’ve seen Aunts that say “oh the bride won’t care, I’m her aunt” Ma’am!
My girlfriend daughter said no pictures no body take pictures of them
My girlfriend family bussness is the reason why. Bride and groom collected phones and cameras. Some family member had camera the guards stopped by them and escorted them out.NO one was allow to take pictures. If you knew the family bussness. You would understand.
Omg I can totally see my mom doing this and I don't know what I'm going to say!
My cousin is trying this right now. And I don’t look forward to that conversation 😂
Sincerely Eccentric right! Like clearly the bride cares cause they took the time to make/buy a sign and make it known its unplugged!
I think it’ll be a good idea to put it in the invitation as well. Might be a little tacky? But might be worth it! Lol
Life hack: wear a dress with pockets and steal the phones as you walk down the aisle. 😂
Cindy Heitz 😂
I would totally do that!! 😂
This made me giggle lol
Yesssss
According to my fiance, having a dress with pockets is always a life hack
Sooo it may be wrong but I am telling my photographer to practically put the fear of God in them if they try to pull out a giant camera during the ceremony....no shame🤷♀️🤦♀️
Lol😂
Anjanae Capri i like your attitude
I might just tell mine to do the same lol
Fear of God 😂😂I chuckled quite a bit
It’s not really up to your photographer to police the guests though, right?
Hey Jamie, I was wondering if you could do a video on how to do a bilingual wedding? My fiance is from china and we have numerous guests coming over that do not know any English, so any help would be wonderful! :)
Kristi Johnson love this idea I am planning on having a wedding in English and Spanish
Yessssss! I plan on having an English/Spanish ceramony, my partner's father is a Pastor who's first language is Spanish. I was thinking having a hired English Pastor and FFIL standing in on the Spanish side.
My brother and his wife did this for their wedding, it was so beautiful with the two cultures coming together. I would watch this video 🙌
Kristi Johnson yes please !!
My fiance's family also only speaks Chinese and I was thinking that all through the video. I'd love to see her thoughts
When I coordinated my friend's wedding (I'm a professional event planner), she had a big sign posted at the ceremony entrance. Plus, I made an announcement when everyone was seated before the ceremony started. There were two people who took out their cameras. Another guest alerted me to a guest during the processional. I whispered to her that it was an unplugged ceremony. She quickly put her camera away, so she may have not heard the announcement. The second was during the recessional by the woman who I later found out that she made the groom's suit. I kindly asked her to put away her phone and she replied that she knew the groom. I then firmly informed her that the couple gave me the authority to enforce their wishes. After seeing I meant business, she put it away.
The thing is, EVERYONE knows the bride and the groom. Otherwise they wouldn’t be in attendance 🤦🏾♀️
@@blipstercravings Right? Like you're obviously at the wedding because you know at least one of the two people getting married.
I’m doing an unplugged ceremony. It’s rude to have your phone out during a wedding anyways.
TBH a lot of them don't think its rude. They think they are helping the couple or they are so caught up in the moment they don't stop to think about it.
Hannah Hinrichs I understand during the reception and everything but during the ceremony? That’s NOT how I was raised.. that’s a special moment and everyone shouldn’t be glued to their phones. I miss the times where phones weren’t an important role in people’s lives
@@annies7 I should say that I agree with you, no one should be taking photos at that kind of intimate event.
I wrote my comment because my mom is the aunt who gives unsolicited "help" to the couple/family with photos - not just at weddings- and she doesn't see a problem with it when I call her out.
Right??????
honestly I don't think anyone from my family would take out their phones but I'm having the sign anyway for my friends and fiancee's family to know!
So here for this video. I'm planning on an unplugged just so people aren't in the photog's way. I also hate the current social media addiction, so maybe im a little biased
Same! What did people do only a few years ago?! Before the world of social media addiction and Mobil phones?!
Completely unplugged. Photography is expensive and guests really need to respect that. We already have had a few family members kicking up dust. But we simply say we will send you pictures after the wedding.
As always Miss J you are amazing!
I'm having the same issue! Even the grooms party is cracking the shits. And ofcourse certain family members think that they are above the rule :/ its driving me crazy!
Friends don't let friends take photos with iPads!!
When I do get married one day, I fully intend to have an unplugged ceremony. I'm spending way too much money for you not to be present. -Akeiva
The Bemused: Making Sense of Money 💰 I couldnt care less if they are paying attention, just don’t ruin my ceremony with flash, phone ringing off the hook, and ruining professional photos.
i LOVED the last idea there of it becoming a sweet little joke and saying "hey guys get out your phones, let's do it again!" Sounds perfect for my situation thank you for sharing a perfect in between point.
Unrelated but you look gorgeous! That is totally your color!
So true! She also looks great with her hair up like that ❤
I thought exactly the same!!
The whole "there will be a moment at the end where you can take your photos," is such an EXCELLENT idea! I never thought of that, but if people know there will be photo op times, they will be more likely to put their phones away
We're definitely doing an unplugged ceremony. We want everyone to be present in our moment and I know that in today's social-media-obsessed world people want to capture and post every moment as it happens, but I can guarantee that iPhone photos ain't gonna be better than our professional photographer.
I was recently at a wedding where the bride's family spent pretty much the whole ceremony staring at their phones and messing around with the camera settings. They were so focused on taking the perfect picture that they paid no attention to the wedding going on in front of them. After seeing that I'm definitely option for an unplugged ceremony for my own wedding!
100% unplugged! I know my family is deeply into Facebook and gossiping and I know unless clearly conveyed, phones of everyone 45 and older will be everywhere
This was a great video and I was thinking maybe you could do a guest etiquette video- attire, behavior and whatnot!
That is such a good idea! I’m 25 and the first of my friends to get married but with other wedding coming up I kind of feel out of touch!
I have noticed it that it is the older generation with the phones out the most lately. Whenever I get together with my family they talk about what they have seen on Facebook. So annoying!
I am very pro unplugged! After all I have a very strict budget and I'm spending a huge chunk on the photographer I want. If I want cell phone pictures I would not be paying that much!
Ditto!
Jamie! Something big that I recently noticed in my wedding contract: I noticed that wedding planners are actually NOT permitted on site for the venue we chose. It's no issue because they literally stand in place of a wedding planner, but I think it's super important for couples to know before they hire one and then suddenly can't use them. Thought this might be helpful for you or for future brides! Love your videos ❤❤❤
Does your venue provide one?
I know my family is going to be mad that we’re not allowing photos, and some will probably still take them... but we will have two videographers and two photographers. I want them to be able to do their jobs to the best of their ability. This is one of my new soap boxes since wedding planning haha.
There's a difference between being there in the moment vs being there via cellphone. It feels more detached and away from what is happening. Actually having a memory of it and talking about it later makes a better moment for yourself personally than taking the picture and eventually deleting it for space on your phone. Story telling about the event made it more lively than a phone ever did.
100% unplugged, making a sign and our officiant will be making an announcement!
Alexandria Boddy good plan, I’m going to do the same as well
Alexandria Boddy make sure the announcement is made when they have everyone’s attention
Good luck! I'm doing the same ans EVERYONE is pissy about it!
I'm absolutely going for unplugged, but I like the idea of giving the guests a cue to take pictures at some point. I'm also doing a photo challenge for the reception.
Unplugged! I really love the idea of telling guests there will be a photo opp at the end of the ceremony and "re-doing" the kiss! I am totally going to do that! :)
I had an unplugged ceremony and I’m so glad I did. I had a sign, it was printed on the programs, and the officiant made an announcement prior to the ceremony. I just got my wedding video back today of my whole ceremony and it was gorgeous. Not a single phone in sight and everyone appeared to be in the moment with us during our big day. I’m so excited to get pictures back!
Heather Faust so relieved to hear that! My worry is people not listening. I’ve been preaching it to anyone who asks me how he planning is going lol
@@ashleyweaver7976 That's why I had it in 3 different places to drill in the fact that I MEAN IT lol
Heather, my ceremony is not until Nov so I have a bit of time but the 2nd kiss sounds like an interesting compromise. In this case everyone will still have their phones out for the exit. We're your pics compromised?
@@JSadiya not a single one 😊everyone kept their phones/personal cameras out of sight until after the exit
Been to both. Cousin's wedding had all the gadgets. I had to stand on a chair to see my cousin and her husband say their vows. It was a circus. Ugh.
Fast forward several years later, my fiance's aunt has an unplugged ceremony. It's a quiet, beautiful thing.
In both weddings we had decent photos, but I really preferred the second for solemnity's sake
Never would've thought of the tip of having a small moment in the ceremony allowing people to bring out their phones. I'm sure we wouldn't mind doing the kiss twice lol
I have 2 favorite inspo photos for my photographer, specifically me walking down the aisle with my dad and my husband and I kissing in the middle of the aisle when we're finished. I also plan to have guestpix or something similar for my guest photos. I'm planning to have my officiant just say camera's off limits (in a nice way) during these 2 very special moments. That way, phones aren't blocking those shots and I still get a bunch of guest photos for the other parts.
Good information Jamie!
We're having a unplugged wedding. I think we might take your idea of having our guests take pictures at the end of our ceremony. Thanks for that idea!!!
I did not restrict phones in my ceremony or reception. It did not affect my photos and videos. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. One less thing to try to control and worry about.
Great video. I am favouring an unplugged ceremony until after the vows. (iPads🤣)
Request: please do a video on outdoor/tented weddings.
Thanks
I've found that unplugged ceremonies are in photographers contracts. it's been quite useful in our planning process because we have had conversations and have something to back us up. "hey we have signed a contract soo... please don't take photos."
We are having an inside wedding, so the space is small, we really want our guest to put away their cameras so our photographer can snap the moment. I love the ideas you shared, we will deff be using a couple.
I'm having the whole day unplugged. I'm spending the most money on photography and I want people to be present on the day x
Thanks for the tips! We did the second kiss as you suggested! Our guests really appreciated that it was unplugged and felt the ceremony was much more intimate!
I did an unplugged ceremony and it was perfect for us. We had a chalkboard sign at the entrance and our officiant made an announcement before I walked entered. Instead of seeing phones, I saw people smiling and waving. I was grinning ear to ear because it was so peaceful and joyful. Wouldn't have done it any other way!
I'm definitely unplugging my wedding day. I recently attended my cousins wedding and everyone had their phones in the air. It made her day less intimate. It also seemed to have taken away the beauty of her walking down the aisle.
I'm getting married in fall of 2020. We are definitely having an unplugged ceremony! My sister got married a couple years ago and our aunt took pictures of EVERYTHING before the bride saw it all set up (reception area, cake, church) and posted all the pictures on social media.
I love the idea of doing the kiss 2 times and giving people a chance to take pictures! ❤ I like the compromise and I would never have thought about it.
As a photographer... TOTALLY love this. Love your channel too!
Team plugged! Getting married in December- we couldn’t care less if people take pictures or post on social media to be honest. We have an insta hashtag & Facebook wedding page. We look forward to seeing everyone’s pics. I’ve been to lots of unplugged weddings & there’s never any candid shots of the wedding...anywhere, ever which is great if that’s your thing, but it isn’t for us.
I love how helpful your videos are but I thought you would like to know that you look absolutely gorgeous in this video!!! Love the shirt and earrings and your skin! Beautiful!
Love the idea of plugged actually. I’ve never been to an unplugged wedding and the pictures are still amazing. I don’t want to miss a moment of my own
Thanks for writing this. I'm getting married on Saturday and am team plugged but she made me nervous about all the devices in photos.
misssecondstar The last wedding I went to, both the bride and groom professional photographers. The bride actually prioritizes weddings. I expected it to be unplugged. Not only was it not, they used an app called “the guest” which encouraged us to take and share photos/videos. At the wedding I was able to see angles of the first dance I missed because of it. I thought it was cool if you’re concerned talk with your photographer and coordinator. Express what you like. There’s always a solution.
Totally planning to announce the ceremony being unplugged during our bridal shower! This is really the only thing I care about
Yes I'm the first ❤️. I love your channel, my wedding is in 4 weeks... I'm so excited and stressed at the same time
Congratulations you will be fine it's going be beautiful ❤
What is your day I am 30 days out today so September 6th
I used google translate to translate an unplugged ceremony sign into Spanish, not sure if the grammar is correct but if anyone needs somewhere to start with an unplugged sign in Spanish here it is...
ceremonia desconectada
te invitamos a estar totalmente presente durante nuestra ceremonia
apague sus teléfonos y cámaras y disfrute este momento con nosotros
aorellana628 thanks my daughter fiancé is Latino and ceremony is going to be bilingual English and Spanish
Perfecto gracias!!!
Love the idea of having an unplugged wedding, but giving the guests one moment during the ceremony to take photos. Also love the suggestion of making that moment the kiss. Thank you for sharing!
I love that compromise at the end. In my high school band concerts we'd pretend to play for a minute after the show so all the parents could actually stand up and get close to take good photos of us.
Thanks for this Jamie! Can you please do a video on buffet style dinner vs plater dinner? Thanks! Love you + your content
kloujiko she’s done a few on that already, they are SO helpful! check through her vids
In high school but I still seriously LOVE your videos!! I’ve always loved the idea of an unplugged ceremony! I’m a very old soul (and barely text my friends and boyfriend as it is now. I’d rather talk with them in person through and through) so I barely use social media and I barely use my phone. I’d rather be very present, and if I were getting married tomorrow, I’d rather my guests be present as well! Phones are such a distraction and a waste of space in an environment like that!❤️
I agree with the unplugged ceremony but love the idea to give the guests the opportunity at the end to get photos!! I definitely want to do this
Hi Jamie!!! I love watching all of your videos. I just recently got married on 9/14/19 I wish we knew about you before when we started planing our wedding. Our wedding was amazing but we opted not to get a wedding coordinator which is a regret of mines but going through all your videos we definitely did 95% lol of all your advice some DIY elements but our venue was all inclusive so we had the staff and open bar cost wise we definitely went over due to the venue (which my wife fall in love with). The timing for pictures are so very important while we had amazing two photographers we did feel rushed because it rained and we wanted certain pictures we didn’t get as many family pictures as we would’ve liked. But I love your videos thank you so much for them. We also did an unplugged wedding ... sorts lol if everyone listened but we used our wedding programs for that.
I am a professional wedding photographer/videographer myself and for our wedding with how much I am paying others for professional photo & video UNPLUGGEEDDDDD! Do not ruin their shots people hahaha
Cavin's videos on the topic actually convinced me to go unplugged! At first I wanted all of the photos from everyone but after hearing her talk about it, I made the decision to make my ceremony unplugged. And then my photographer asked me if I would make the ceremony unplugged and I was relieved because I didn't have to make that decision again. I do like the idea of giving photo opportunities! That might be something to talk about because I feel like it could make the ceremony more fun and goofy and less traditional, because we are definitely not traditional and I think doing that would just be another way to keep with our non-traditional wedding!
We're planning to do an 'Unplugged Ceremony' for my upcoming wedding on January 2020. This video really helps. 😊😍💕
I love love love the 'kiss again' idea! Thank you!
Jamie, can you do a video about having a wedding where the bride and groom are from two different states? I am from Missouri and my fiancé is from Texas and we decided to have it in Texas and it is causing a huge struggle for my family to get on board and be happy about my wedding. So far everyone is just bitter. THANK YOU!!!
I love the idea of unplugged BUT my parents couldn't afford a photographer so they went to Costco and bought 20 Kodak disposal cameras and put one on each table. It made for amazing shots in a controlled environment.
So definitely a good option for those on a budget + a lot of fun for guests.
Loved this! Could you do a video on choosing an officiant like what questions you should ask and all that! Love your videos!
I honestly had never thought of putting it on the wedding website or program. Love that idea so much more than a sign that people will ignore and will definitely be doing!!!
If I'll ever get married I will definitely do the unplugged ceremony. My top priority will be having a great photographer who's going to take the most amazing pics ever, so no phones in the way of the Pro's camera, thank you very much.
Could you talk about destination weddings please?
Love you! ❤
Getting married May2020 and without a doubt having it be an unplugged ceremony! It's just the way to go!! Lol my day of coordinator recently also asked if we wanted ppl to remain seated or stand for my walk down the aisle.. didn't think of that as a distraction in photos but I said remain seated! 🤗🥰
Great idea for unplugged with a photo op at the end!
Love the idea of a second kiss with pics!
I never understood an unplugged ceremony even when I went to a friend's wedding, but I do now!! Definitely leanings towards it! See what the fiance thinks. He probs won't care either way :)
You along with people in the comments made really good points!
absolutely doing an unplugged ceremony but love the idea of a second first kiss for pics
I've heard a suggestion before where the officiant gave everyone one last chance to take a selfie to share with the bride and groom before putting thier phones away for the unplugged ceremony to begin! It gives you some pictures, the guests feel included and then encourages them to respect your wishes of having that unplugged ceremony.
As always, your videos are amazing! I'm getting married in 2 months and my fiance and I made the decision to go unplugged. My thought on it was because I wanted everyone to be present and engaged in what was happening in front of them.
Hey Jamie we got married on the 6th Aug and I want to thank you for all your tips and tricks and advice!! It was invaluable!! Best wishes from the UK and good luck with the career 😍
Last wedding I went to, not only did I see several random people "discreetly" photographing the bride, the altar, etc, but someone took photos of the couple playing violins together (this was a surprise that even the parents didn't know about) AND posted them way before the couple or close family could
Sigh
Becca G this makes me so sad. I don’t understand how people can feel so entitled 😔
We're using a photo sharing app to try to avoid that.
We're not having an unplugged ceremony, but the layout of our ceremony space will make it super easy for our photographer to get great shots without any guests in the way, and if someone manages to bug our photographer I won't mind asking them to move over or have my mum do it.
I LOL'd at sooo much of this video! Having an unplugged ceremony is soo important to me because our marriage ceremony is going to be in our church and it is supposed to be the time where everyone comes together to witness our marriage, not capture it. We're paying tons of money for photography for a reason and I promise everyoneeeee will get the pictures through a link as soon as I do! I also worry about shutter sounds, noises, the possibility of phones ringing if they're not turned off. I've told my photog she can tell anyone to back it upppppp if necessary! She's v excited!!!
OH I forgot this but we're also having videography and so much more is captured on film than photo and I really don't want to see a ton of phones tackying up my video that I'll pass down for generations LOL
Not even engaged 😭
Still loving your videos 💕♥️
Can you do a video on the pros & cons of all inclusive venues? Is the amount of money and stress you save doing an all inclusive venue worth the lack of options for vendors/having to use in house vendors only?
Yes! My fiance and I decided to have an unplugged wedding. We're getting married in February. I made a sign to put at the entrance of the aisle for when guests are finding their seats. But I will definitely ask my Officiant to make a quick announcement before the ceremony officially begins. Great advice, as always!
Unplugged my photographer and videographer are costing us 5k combined we have 2 photographers and 1 videographer we literally don’t need anyone to take any photos.
My family can be very ridiculous with the photos
We’re having the officiant and later on the dj give a “gentle” reminder. I was going to do a sign but I don’t want to be super annoying to my guests. It’s one area that I had to step back from and personally not take control of so we’ll see 😊
We were doing an unplugged ceremony. My sister-in-law was the only one who didn't listen. I reiterated it to her that morning, and when I looked up from our first kiss that evening I saw her phone sticking up. We're praying to God that her phone wasn't in the pictures. We'll be getting them back soon.
I am 10000% camp unplugged. Hell even at other people’s weddings I subscribe to the unplugged message. When my bf and I went to his sister’s wedding (she didn’t have an unplugged ceremony) I saw him reaching for his phone and immediately I was like “she paid for a photographer put your phone away dork” lol. He didn’t even realize that it would be rude to take photos during the ceremony.
I'm a fan of living in the moment so the Ceremony will 100% be unplugged. There will be a large nicely worded and decorated sign eye level right when you walk into the ceremony space, and an announcement in both English and Spanish. But I will def encourage photos during cocktail hour and the reception, some of those photos come out the best! I took one at my aunt's wedding during her first dance with the sunset behind her on my Galaxy s9 and she actually printed the photo and has it on her work desk!
Whew I needed this video!! I didn’t know how to tell people no phones
Love love love this video!
My fiance and I debated for a while if we wanted to do an unplugged wedding, but ultimately have settled for unplugged. We're only having one photographer and I want to make sure she has every clear opportunity for photos. I'm already working out that the officiant will announce the "unplugged rule" and I'll likely add it to the website. But THANK YOU for adding the little tip at the end! I definitely want to implement time at the end when guests can whip out their cell phones and take photos. We're also working out a hashtag that can go with our theme for guests to go wild with. Such great content, and I can't wait to see what you talk about next
Mann I wish I could be this confident an personalble sharing information! Especially talking to a camera
I planned to go unplugged but changed my mind at the last minute. I’m glad that I did because there was a mix up and the video snippets from cell phones ended up being the only video that I had from the big day🙄
Love unplugged ceremonies! My mom is definitely the one to pull out the DSLR at wedding and it drives me nuts! I would so disappointed if my wedding photos were filled with phone screens. Love the 2nd first kiss idea! Might use that ❤️
I def want a unplugged ceremony
I love the idea of doing it again to give ppl the opportunity to get their photos. And if someone Facebook lived my wedding.,, I would be so livid. No social media until we post pictures first!! That’s apparently a big issue I’m having so the doing it again just might be the compromise we need to not have any drama.
Cab u please make a video about weddings that had the guest and warm atmosphere as top priority and how they made it happen.. I mean some creative ideas (more than flowers and all that) love your videos. thank u 💕
We arent having a photographer, just because we have too many in the family already :D Something I do want to consider though is a social media rule where we ask our guest not to post online until we have made our own post. I'm not sure. Would love a pros and cons on this!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!!! .... how to in a way make everyone happy!!! Ideas of how to make that day amazing for everyone!!! xoxo
Unplugged all the way!!
I'm 100% on the unplugged train. My wedding is in September and I already made a welcome sign that clearly says not to take pictures and am planning on having the officiant announce it at well. I'm paying so much money for professional photographs and I don't want someone ruining them, even if it's accidental or with the best intentions.
I also attended a wedding a couple of weeks ago and an older family member in front of me blocked my view for most of the ceremony because she kept holding her giant phone up above everyone's head trying to get a photo. It wasn't even my wedding but I was so offended by it, and annoyed that I wasn't able to be in the moment with the couple.
I love the idea of unplugged, during the ceremony and reception. I do think that a photo session would be nice in between.
I love the idea of unplugged. We are getting married in a church and plan to have a sign and have it in the programs. However, how do you make it clear that it's ok to for guests to use their devices during the reception?!
have the DJ announce it
We just had an unplugged ceremony. It was heavenly!!!
My friend had a plugged ceremony however most of the guest did not take pictures or upload them to social with the hashtag besides the bride's mother-in-law. The ceremony was so beautiful and intimate that thought of taking out the phone just seemed disrespectful. The guest got an email with all the professional pictures it was great. Another wedding I went to were my partner was in the wedding party it was an unplugged wedding intentionally they did not upload any of the professional photos on social media nor did they email guest with the professional photos. When we visited after the wedding we found out that they had printed the photos at home and decided not to share them unless asked which was not ideal.
Yes! I am definitely camp unplugged!
If you’re setting up a Facebook event for your wedding, you can post something about your ceremony being an unplugged one and can warn your guests plenty of time in advance.
Jamie...Can you please do a video of renting plates, utencils, linens, and everything related to wedding tablescapes?? PLEASE!!
Definitely unplugged 100% for my January wedding!
I'm getting married 7/24/2022 & I really wanna do an unplugged ceremony. Thanks for sharing
I love unplugged weddings!