It's the truth . It's about health all I can say is that I wish that had done it sooner. You have to take care of yourself first and foremost how can say something to someone else and your not taking care of business at the home front
Not only that, if women want men who are providers, protectors, and not masculine, then he needs an equal prize. Men aren't going to work hard for years to get a woman who is average as a prize. He'll rent her but he won't buy her.
Chantel A they do. But let’s not act like attraction isn’t a big part of it. I want a good quality car. But I’m not gonna buy a good quality car that looks like crap lol.
And it's all by design the chemicals in America food is despicable & it's aim mostly in black/mexican communities mostly ingredients the body can't digest so more knowledge on food choices & what foods are being put in one's community is Key✨
@@divine9100 By design? Then perhaps blacks and Mexicans and whomever should stop designing these types of foods in their neighborhoods, and stop eating it.
As a black women it is an issue. I notice how many other black women are more overweight than not. I recognize that I am overweight and I’m working out and eating better.
@@ImprovementisGrowth Start intermittent fasting (only eating between 11am and 8pm), get you some apple cider vinegar pills (take daily), give up soda, juice, wine, alcohol and drink only water, give up pastas, Chinese food, and other foods that you notice to cause you to feel bloated, give up sweets during the week (save for the weekend if you must eat them), start running (treadmill, elliptical, outdoors, stairs), and do some planks, jumping jacks, burpees, situps and high jumps. And most importantly keep track of your calories. And always remember your body has to burn more calories than you put in to lose weight.
Me being a thin black female I feel black culture glorifies obesity. If you are thin , you get criticize immensely. However, if you start gaining weight , it is praised. I don't care what anyone saids. I'm sorry , but I rather be fit and thin, then overweight.
Same. I'm 137 lbs and people I know take shots at my size. I was previously overweight and was mocked or ignored then! Nah, screw that I'm staying in shape.
And let’s talk about the real life systems in effect in the Blackcommunity that contribute GREATLY to what’s going on with Blackpeople. Everyone loves to point the finger and bash Blackpeople without discussing all the factors Blackpeople deal with. He lightly touched on the trauma issue but there’s real, deep, generational trauma and real, actual daily pain in dealing with life in this country... pain that’s being numbed with food (particularly by Black women. Blackpeople who are overweight are the same as other people ...eating their emotions because it’s more socially acceptable to hurt yourself and your own body and become “invisible” or push people away and become “undesirable” just like you told yourself rather than to work through the STUFF and deal with that new reality and see how much you can do without excuses, a shield or a wall.
Also .. and I can’t say this enough .. as of 2016 nearly 21% of white Americans were in antidepressants www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/one-6-americans-take-antidepressants-other-psychiatric-drugs-n695141 and since we can look around and see people haven’t gotten “happier” in the past 4 years, we can assume this number is higher now. It’s easy to look at Black people and see the weight and see the depression but there’s a whole big segment of America that’s on pills for theirs and we don’t see it. Just saying, there are a number of different ways America is “coping”.. food, big pharma, weed, alcohol, porn etc
And speaking of national emergencies in the Black community, Blackwomen make 62c for every dollar paid to a white man. Dollar for dollar, pay Blackpeople equally .. not last hired/first fired/not promoted/no raise given .. but pay dollar for dollar and see if “Black diets” don’t get better, not to mention a whole lot of other things lol
I haven't drank soda in a decade, no dairy, I eat 2 cups of a random vegetable raw and ppl look at me crazy. It's not that hard but, when you are slim the black community does not praise you, I was bullied for being slim bc everyone else is "thick". I was even told (by another black woman) that no black man would want me bc I wasn't "thick", forget my other attributes.
Go up in your Black circles. People keep equating Black with poor but the higher you go in the Blackcommunity. the more physically in shape you’ll find Blackpeople
Same, 44 married 18 years. Walking 60-90 mins with my Hubby every morning and take care of myself. A lot of women are in denial and we can’t tell them anything. I let them be. My SIL tried to tell me that 5’3” at 200 lbs is thick. She got upset when I told her that was actually obese. So, whatever! Keep denying and being miserable. Not my life. Not my problem.
@@tippytoe1250 you’re right. That’s obese. I’m 98lbs and a tad shorter than her. If I was 150 that’s even too heavy. You did right by speaking truth. 💜
Black love is fake. Black men hate black women. Including their own mothers.We get it. Do you have anything else to do/showcase with your time. It's just remedial & sad at this point. 😖😩🥱
Women have NO problem coldly telling a Man that he’s too short and not good enough for her. I have no problem telling a woman what she lacks or has too much of.
Same! I have one cousin that is the only person besides my mom that check me and tells me when i'm fat and when i'm skinny. Sometimes the hardest critic is the one critic that matters.
Why do someone else have to tell you, you're fat? She is not going to be around forever. Kevin Samuels speaks on getting mental help. Your statment is a reason why he says it. Not to knock you or anything.We as a people have been through so much and having a sit down with a professional is a good thing.
As a fat guy who's currently loosing weight, I hope that the trends change. Being fat is unattractive, unhealthy, and mentally/physically taxing. I'd never wish it on anyone.
@@deesus1085 agree and disagree at the same time. Sometimes people were raised with poor eating habits and a lack of exercise which makes it harder for them. I’m glad I was raised with a healthy lifestyle
@Sign O the Times exactly. Many brothers are single and childless and it's just few brothers and having lots of kids and not taking care of them. But they're out here stereotyping black men as deadbeat and out here having kids with women and not taking care of them. Not true at all.
If you ever want to be shocked Google Blacks in the 70s photos. Everyone was skinny. It’s sad the standard today has slipped so badly. That was just 50 years ago.
For years I've been telling everyone I have this type of conversation with to do the same thing. For example, take the WATTSTAX concert. It was a highly publicized event with lots of video footage. Note as the camera pans the crowd you'll quickly note how rare it is to see a +sized black person. Big was the exception and not the rule. ruclips.net/video/QSxyU-AbF6M/видео.html
Chrissie has been telling black women this from the very beginning. She's BEEN saying that physically fit women of all races are more desired than overweight ones.
Not with these black men in Detroit, MI they like big girls! Hell I thought about running off with a white man in my twenties because I know most of them like slim women and those dusty black men always take about my weight now I’m fat thanks!
Something for ladies to consider is don’t just stress about losing weight. Try to build some muscle mass also. Become firm and strong, you are not below that. What has kept me loyal to fitness is the joy I get from being a strong human being. Has little to do with getting a man, that’s just a benefit. If you’re trying to lose weight to get pretty, it’s going to be a lot harder than if you’re trying to lost weight to build your body up to do the things you want. You want to dance, climb, play sports, keep up with your kids, hike to the top of a mountain, anything, you can. Do it for you and men are the cherry on top. Fitness is joy.
i agree with Kevin. I started out at 222 pounds. I still got attention from guys because I had a shape, but I am currently 130 pounds and I have definitely noticed the difference. I know you don't think its a issue ladies, but seriously if you lose the weight I promise more guys will try to approach you.
@@KC-4u2c no i mean guys would come up and try and talk to me, but because I live in reality I already knew the game. I think its up to me as a woman to use my judgement correct?
I know what one of the problems is, I'm a white guy, and I have several black friends and all 3 of them say they want a woman that is very"thick" and upon further query of what they meant, they meant an OBESE woman. I think a lot of black women are being encouraged by black men to be very overweight
Thick does not mean fat. In the white community, you call it being voluptuous. Serena Williams is thick, but she is not fat. White guys seem to prefer women like Melania Trump, a tall skinny woman with a flat butt. Look at what you call supermodels, a woman who is so skinny that it looks like she might faint at any moment. Many African, I refuse to let you Europeans reduce us to a color, women who are overweight become that way from eating what is known as soul food, which is loaded with fat, sugar, and dairy. Ribs, pork chops, potato salad, oxtail, food seasoned with bacon, pork, butter, and deserts with lots of sugar. Kool-Aid and lots of biscuits are a favorite also. I am 79 years old, I am 5'11" tall, and weigh 174 lbs, I was down to 167 lbs before the pandemic hit. I live in Texas, the badonkadonk capital of the world, and the diet of the African population here is loaded with artery-clogging fats. Many African women will not exercise because sweating will mess up their hairdos, and they will not go swimming for the same reason. Hollywood is pushing obesity, LBGT, vulgarity, and violence. Now young people are being fed images of fat women wallowing around on the stage in g-strings on TV and in movies. Oh, excuse me, I forgot, I am now supposed to refer to fat people as being plus size. The majority of the people who succumbed to the virus were overweight.
I agree with Kevin on this, it's time for us to stop glorifying fat, I've lost A LOT of weight, most of us were raised on poverty food and carried that poverty mindset into adulthood, I'd never go back, it's not cute, it causes issues etc etc. I notice women are the only ones cheering for "BBW'S". Likewise our men are having a hard time financially because many men were raised by single struggling mother's on welfare, that poverty mindset carried over to a lot of black adult men, our ppl have PTSD, many of us only seen struggle love and toxicity, this is reality, truth needs to be told. Our community needs to start healing.
Look how much they glorified Lizzo. Look at the old photos of Harlem from the 40's, 50's and 60's almost no fat woman. No matter the race being fat is not healthy. The medical complications are much greater for overweight people, fat, morbidly obese people.
Real talk...fitness is important. Bad bodies are a manifestation of bad thought processes and low self esteem. As a fit man I desire a fit woman because I realize that fitness translates into us having a functional ( as opposed to dysfunctional ) relationship because we feel good about who we are as people and when we feel good about ourselves as people we can bring that love and high vibration to our partners.
At least u have hope, its those that are obese and have let it come out of hand that live in grand delusion then ask for HVM then if it doesn't go their way will blame colorism or the man being stuck up...
@@Loverlovelife hey I'm not necessarily looking for high value I'm looking for a decent man who will treat me well and having yourself together counts. Thanks for the luck.
@anelle Wiley vague random comments shows u stay losing... Nobody is checking for people with your mindset, Its attitude and fitness that keeps broads single... Dating n fielding interest from bums in IG got many your heads inflated.
RIP Mr. Samuels. I've listened to many of his interviews. He's been labeled as "controversial," but oftentimes he was just telling the truth and a lot of folks can't bear to hear it.
Years ago back in the 90s there was this term “thick” that described a women with hips and a booty with a D-Cup. 5’4 “ and weighed between 140 to 150 pounds with no gut. Think Serena williams. I’ll take that all day. Then the term crept into the social lexicon and got morphed .....all of a sudden fat women jumped on that bandwagon.
Very true. Sadly there are a lot of overweight women out here. I love my women of color. I am a man of color myself. But I have to call it like I see it. Many men have lied to these women and called them thick. But it’s a lie. They are overweight. I don’t like to use the word fat. Overweight is less offensive. And these women wear these provocative clothes to get a mans attention. What they don’t know is that we look at those women for one thing and that is it. Health is important
I went out with a 5'2" almost 200 woman, I'm 6'2" 245 blue collar build , and she actually said she couldn't go out with fat guy and she talked about men's weight like she was 120lbs. She even had the post pregnancy pouch she tucked in her jeans. I couldn't believe how her mind worked.
That always seems to confuse me.also if they are not attractive to overweight men why do men have to overlook it when it comes to them..its really confusing
@@hakimcoggins6746 I couldn't understand how she, a medically obese woman, who was very insecure about her own body, could put down guys who were in all reality less overweight than her. I even called her out a few times about it and she just made different excuse after different excuse. I'm confused on how a person can be so warped in their thinking. She obviously had a lot of different issues and thankfully I was able to cut the relationship off without a lot of drama but it's crazy how some women think that them being obese is "better" than a man being just overweight, meaning "less" obese. Maybe society has put it in their brains, I don't know
I come back to this all the time. Both my grandmothers have diabetes and high blood pressure and my grandfather died from heart disease. I have an aunt whose diabetic as well and my cousins dad lost both his feet because of diabetes. We gotta get this weight thing under control not just to look good but cause it’s killing our families.
No matter how hard Losing Weight can get, never lose the sight of your goals, keep your eyes focused on what you want, never forget where you started from. You’re doing great if you already took the first step, take a deep breath and keep going because myself I struggled for years to lose weight from 264lbs now I’m 163lbs in 6 Months 🔥🔥🔥
I am overweight and was frustrated. I started going back to boxing and the coach put me back on myfitnesspal. I am appalled at how much I was eating and drinking....no excuses
I also think being over weight is in the Hispanic community as well. I literally let myself during covid. Last March I weighed 139 , and now I’m 160 I’m very short , 4”11 and I worked hard to keep the weight off , and now it’s back. I decided to go back to my goals and start working out again. Just from working out this week , I lost 4 pounds. Now I weigh 156 woohooo . I always say start little by little. I have to thank my trainer for this one ☝️. She literally calls me at 4:00 am to wake me up. Sometimes I’m already awake starring at the phone , hoping she doesn’t call so I have an excuse. 😂 No excuses, as she tells me.
Very true ma'am. I'm Hispanic, 5'11", 165lbs, fit. I see many, many, MANY Hispanic men overweight. I try to lead by example. It doesn't work. People love to eat rather than love their health. A dammm shame. BTW I'm 54 and healthier than most 20 somethings.
Why so many ppl thought the pandemic was a green light to sit at home and stuff their face is beyond me. I worked from home the entire time and cooked my own healthy food, drank lots of water, and use the hour in the morning I would normally be commuting to go out and run.
Yea I feel you. Back when I lived home it was so hard not to eat a tortilla with every damn meal. It’s our culture, then all the sweets and stuff in the house didn’t help haha
@Jermaine Burgess It’s not an excuse. There are some people simply happy with being fat! But there are soooooo many people overweight due to struggles with mental health and trauma. That excess weight is a mask for deeper unaddressed issues.
Down 100lbs in 2 years but I couldn't lose weight until I lost the excuses that kept me fat. Eat a calorie deficit, strength train, be diligent. It's that simple. Your body is not immune to the laws of thermodynamics.
I was just having this conversation at work the other night. I walk on my breaks at work and everybody has something to say. Because I’m not overweight. So I said...it’s easier to maintain your weight than try to lose 100lbs, you should try it. Now both the men and women have started walking on their breaks. And they’re all at least 150lbs overweight.
This! I'm tall, slender, have always exercised and heard, "Why are you working out? You're not fat!" Um, because I'm not trying to be? Like, look up the word, preventative 🤦🏾♀️
I'm surprised to see the number of women in these comments who are self aware and working on themselves. Gives me hope. Keep it up, because that is one of the biggest things I like in women.
An old friend of mine who has never had a boyfriend had a ridiculous list of things she NEEDS in her ideal man. It was like he had to make a certain amount annually, he has to be a certain height, darkskin, has to be African and she for some reason threw in that he has to have a following on instagram, kmt. and my response her was ....you know if you meet this man ever he is going to have his own high expectations of a woman and it might not be what you think. Because she is a smart woman but she will most likely need to cater to physical appearance in ways she might not have thought. (being more physically fit and appearance wise just putting in the effort there as well). Woman dont like being told to look pretty and carry yourself well for a man but expect a lot from men. goes both ways hunnay !
You are a good friend for keeping it real with her. True friends can be honest and stay friends, hopefully she keeps working on things and is happy with her lifestyle.
Large portions mean 2-3 meals but without self control or concerns about health all is left is greed and using food to comfort whatever that may be....
The big portion thing is done so restaurants can set a certain price point and pay for their staff. They have to charge $12.99 for a burger meal to cover all expenses and the only way to do that is to make that meal really large because they know they can’t charge $7.99 a meal and get by.
Okay, so what’s the solution ? Make matters worse by remaining objectively undesirable? Or try to be on your best not just for anybody but also for you I tell people all the time, being in the best shape possible gives you a better chance of meeting and keeping a partner not a guarantee that you will. (There are NO GUARANTEES) Also, Physical attraction is just one of the criteria for someone to “want” you and it could NEVER hurt your chances to be more desirable. Hope this meets you well.
@@dantan1249 Why is that?? They say water seeks it's own level, that's a bunch of bull. Fat women are attracted to me and i'm not overweight one bit. They will come up to me & all. I don't get it
The "Body Positivity" movement is damaging the psyche of women. It's basically saying, eat all you want, gain all the weight you want, and you can still get your dream man and he has to accept you. That's not how reality works. Fat is the new thick. Men should have standards. We are people too.
And, more importantly then getting a man of their dreams.. The body positivity movement Claims 'Health at Every size' These people literally claim that you can be 5'2 and weight 300 lbs and still be healthy....
I think that coupled with the whole idea of sexual liberation have really done some damage. I'm not here to shame anyone but together I think the two ideas pitch a narrative to women that no matter how much you weigh or how promiscuous you may be you DESERVE the BEST men. I'm not suggesting women should be mannequins or have to be completely celibate but there is a clear difference between a little bit and excessive. Together a portion of the opposite gender then literally believe they are entitled to the best men simply by existing devoid of putting in any form of effort or cultivating morality or...willpower. The irony is so much of what these women lack is all men truly desire (loyalty, cooperation, discipline, wholesome companionship just to name a few) and they are all fairly free to obtain; problem is those things requires some kind of effort and holding themselves accountable, Whoops.
@@UzitheSaint the way you kids want to gloss over so many other things. Women take birth control pills, the correlation between the hormones playing up and causing overweight issues isn't even thought of. To address this it's too simplistic to stop at, women don't wanna hear Da truth, a lot tried not understanding why they can't lose the weight.
It’s harder to maintain the discipline and stay on track. Also you have to keep evolving. Change things up here and there with your work outs and what you eat but you can not go back to eating garbage food and habits. It’s hard alright. But the reward is worth it!
I like that Kevin touches on everything, from physical weight and fitness, to character being cooperative, to mental stability dealing with personal issues. It shows his sincerity to truly help people.
Black love is fake. Black men hate black women. Including their own mothers.We get it. Do you have anything else to do/showcase with your time. It's just remedial & sad at this point. 😖😩🥱
Just as an aside, I'm a white guy. In the 1900's to 1960's every man was dressing in suits like Kevin Samuels. I hope this way of dressing comes back. All he needs is a nice hat and he looks like he can take over the world. Nice job Kevin.
I think most Black men have a physical preference for Black women. They're the most attractive women. The problem is, that there is a lot of masculine energy in Black female culture, that plays into the image of the angry/independent black woman, "who don't need a man". Added to that many BW give their best years and sometimes their Womb to Bad Boys and over look the smart, hard working black man (who isn't as exciting as the wannabe 2pac). Those smart black boys get into their 30s and start to earn good money, go to the gym and get picked up by white girls. I know this doesn't apply to every situation, but Black women can sometimes be their own worst enemy.
@Melody Coates If a woman presents herself in a feminine and attractive way, it's very unlikely she will be overlooked. Perhaps a lot of those nerdy girls you're describing don't put themselves out there. Men are hunters, if it's there, we will find it.
My husband and I been together for 16 years and been a size 12 the entire time. I hit the gym 4 days a week and I do crossfit, so I have muscle mass. Going to the gym is a lifestyle for me.
Weight is a great way to keep people from you. Maybe besides solely blaming black women how about we protect our children . A lot of this excess weight we are seeing is a way to protect a body that wasn’t protected during childhood. And for the all the women who are ready to release the weight: therapy, intermittent fasting, and keto with ALOT OF GREENS & LOW CARB VEGGIES. The weight will slide off and you insulin resistance will heal. Also, take a kick boxing class and defense class - if anyone tries to harm you AGAIN you’ll be ready.
Absolutely true! I felt protected by my weight for many years as a result of a toxic childhood I never learned my value because it was stripped away before I could embrace it..but im aware im awakened now im healing loving on myself it changed my mindset and the need and desire to regain my true self is like second nature now...fasting, keto, fitness feels wonderful 👏 💪 🙌 😄 😊looks fabulous
I’m glad you posted this comment because people are looking at the weight and treating the symptom and not the root issue. It shows how little they care about the person inside the weight which exacerbates the problem.
It's true. Most BW who have gain weight over the yrs were mainly due to molestation of some sort as a child. So they gained weight purposely to take attention away from them. They don't wanna be seen. When ppl talk about stuff like this, they should consider ALL aspects and reasonings. A lot of it is misjudged as someone jst being lazy. You don't know their story.... I agree with you
Pinkylih I’m a black woman, and my weight gain in adulthood was due to other life stressors. I was never molested, but I agree that you can’t know someone else’s life.
He can blame women whom are morbidly obese for being hypocritical to judge others n not herself while also saying they want HV men without blinking, that weight was solely her doing not anybody else's... Just like we can blame dusty ray rays running around knocking people up without care then claim system made them do that...
So nobody laughed when he said « You’re the size of a middle linebacker, and I pulled up a picture of Lawrence Taylor » He said it with a serious face too 🤣 🤣 🤣
A friend of mine said he used to date fat women but he realised they would go and brag behind his back to their friends that they didn’t need to workout to bag an athletic guy
Kevin is not my fave but he has 3 solid points here: 1. Working on the weight issues and find out why the weight gain has happened and how to become much more healthy and get to a weight that is healthy for their height. 2. Going to counseling to deal with the emotional trauma women and men are experiencing. Mental healthy gets ignored in the black community and its killing us slowly and needs to be addressed head on with action and that involves therapy. 3. Women becoming more curious about men and what they need as human beings. A relationship should be about learning how to relate to one another and how to becoming much more open to discovering how to be better partners. Increasing emotional intelligence as well is a major key in becoming more curious.
I didn’t watch the whole video and maybe he addressed it fully there but here he does not address the WHY. In far too many Black communities there is zero access to supermarkets. There are food deserts and public transportation and the family is buying their “meals” at a corner store/mom and pop market that sells processed food, no vegetables, junk, soft drinks and chips. Meanwhile the other communities will have three supermarkets within 2 and 3 miles. This also leads to children who aren’t fed nutrional, balanced meals and they don’t learn to eat well and since their eating patterns and palates aren’t established early, they grow up craving this Standard American Diet with flavorants, chemical additives and GMOs. It’s far deeper than just being “lazy” or “unaware.”
@@noble604 But we find access to buy gucci, fendi and prada, living in squalor. And somehow we have enough money to go to Thailand and Bali. This was caused by the system but its our responsibility to fix ourselves. No one owes us a damn thing, like Kevin said. I grew up poor in the hood but my parents are educated and well informed. We didnt have the best but they knew sacrifices where it counted and that was nutrition and education. Now, there is definitely no excuse because of social media. How many healthy accounts on Facebook, instagram and hell, on youtube. It is being lazy and narrow minded.
No one buys Gucci and Prada on a daily basis. We’re talking about getting your daily bread in the hood with zero choices other than fast food, bodegas, mini marts and mom and pop stores with no meats, fish, vegs or frozen foods. There are bad choices there yes. We’re talking about having no choice.
@@noble604 where is there no choice tho? There's always a choice. More excuses. And of course no one buys gucci, Fendi and Prada on a daily basis because their paychecks are depleted by then and they have to buy McDonald's because that's all they can afford. Again, it's their decisions. You dont have to shop at whole foods and organic stores. The bodgeas have apples, and bananas, oatmeal and eggs. And Water, they always have water. Again, tell me where there is no choice but to eat trash?
Most men aren't Michael B Jordans though: •The overwhelming majority of Black men aren't walking around with 6 pack abs and muscular arms. •Almost none of the Black Male community can offer the financial security and stability that MBJ can offer. (Just look at the rates of average White male earnings and average Black male earnings). •Quite a few Black men can't offer a relationship that doesnt come with out of wedlock children. Even if you meet a skinny, slim, slim thick or whatever build of woman as your dream woman, the majority of Black men cant offer what Michael B Jordan, or even a regular White man, can offer.
@@TomikaKelly - That goes both ways. We all should know the history of this country. If all the women go to the "best provider" and all the men went to the "most feminine" there would be no black couples left, we'd all be swirling because the country is built for whites and they have the most resources and grow up in the most comfortable homes. We need to concentrate on breaking that cycle versus running to the ops.
Oh man, this one hits HARD. My store manager in the past, who happened to be a black woman, always described herself as "curvy", but she weighed more than 230 lbs at 5'6"! She weighed MORE THAN ME, a 6'1" 220 lbs guy in the military! When I asked her whether she did anything for fitness or diet she deflected. She's 35 or so, and I worry that a lot of women with the same problem will barely make it to 60. It's the same crazy movement about "body positivity", and I get that different people will be different in size, but when someone is morbidly obese, people need to realize there is a problem. Men who fetishize women who are obese are not helping either. You should care about your and your partner's health.
This is all facts, I’m 6’1” 225 and yet if I say I don’t want to date a woman heavier than me, I’m called all kinds of names under the sun. Funniest thing is weight is a physical trait you CAN change unlike something like height which women are so particular over that a man cannot change. Ladies you think if a man could become 6’4” just by going to the gym how many men would be there every single day!
I used to be the woman who said accept me the way I am or leave. But then I had a wake up call with my health and understood where my bf was coming from but yeah I’m 41 I was at 250 now I’m at 198 still working on it. Now I can see things better from a man’s point of view and also I’ve realized that my relationship is really important and I value him as he is. So basically I’m working out for both me and him and I want to be healthy as well.
No lies here. I actually talked about this with my boyfriend the other day, just the importance of staying healthy and in shape for both black men and women. I see nothing wrong with a man wanting this from his woman. If we as woman can demand a man to provide financially, which I absolutely agree with, we definitely gotta keep ourselves up in the physical. One of the few things we can control as people is what we put in our body, so we gotta be more mindful. Once you start living a healthy lifestyles, it transforms your mental health and confidence so much.
Go travel to other countries, in South America and Asia. Those people are not overweight. It is an epidemic across cultures and races in the US. It has gotten so bad I fear this is now normal and is ingrained.
Losing weight is a person’s choice imo. I’d never require it of someone. I’m losing weight because I WANT TO not because I have to or I’m a moral failure of sorts. I do want to feel beautiful to me and be more confident. That’s more for me than a partner though. Personally, I have started thinking I want to be with someone who will understand being overweight/obese. If say they are or were overweight/obese or they’re just tolerant for some other reason. To be okay if that’s how I am because I am pretty obese actually. 30lbs smaller, but still pretty obese. Though at the same time, I want to be with someone who will also want to lose weight or encourage me to do so. Encourage not force or expect me to be a tiny girl when and if I do not wish to be a tiny girl. I was as a child, but even if I continue to lose the weight, I’m not sure I’ll be able to get back to that tiny girl. I was actually a little too tiny (underweight) back then too. I want to have similar interests basically and right now one of my interests is weight-loss. I want to be healthy and I do not want to watch a partner die from preventable health issues. So overweight is okay in a partner imo, but being past a certain weight is not. The weight being so bad the relationship would be more caretaker than wife (if I get married). I may not wish to be married. That’s when I’d say it goes too far. I don’t want to play nanny/nurse to someone who is meant to be my life partner.
He’s completely right , I was most healthy at a size 4 . My sugar was down and I felt great and looked good 😌. I’m working on myself at the moment... ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love hearing him speak. Every time I mention being fat, changing my diet, etc. there is such a strong reaction. "Oh no you're beautiful blah blah blah" and I respond with uhhhhh I never said I think I'm ugly, YOU equated fat as ugly and had a strong response. I have a very pretty face and I'm also overweight. They shut down when I word it that way. People are just very sensitive and it is how I ended up on KS's channel in the first place.
Loving yourself 1st sis! Lots of physically fit woman out here who are not “healthy” health is global. Lose weight and do what you do for YOU and no one else.
Yesss. Oh my goodness. I get the same reaction. I want to lose about 40 to 50 pounds to be within my healthy weight range. And the predictable reactions from family and friends ensue "That chart is for white people" and "You won't look right if you too skinny." I swear, only black people think that being a 140 pounds at 5 foot 3 inches is too skinny. 🤦♀️
It's because they are insecure about themselves and their weight so they assume you have the same insecurity but they just ignore how true that is and say you shouldn't worry about it. Toxic behaviour and is what led me to being 250lbs, never again
We have to encourage our sisters to lose weight and be healthier by raising ourselves, becoming AMAZING men. Hard working, providers, honest, loyal, healthy, masculine, protective and leaders of families. This is on us brothers: Greatness seeks its own level and we must meet our greatness within ourselves first.
Encourage our sisters to lose weight presumes they will listen. Even an AMAZING man doing & being all those things will get much pushback from our sisters. They say "love & accept her as she is". I quoted Eph 5 to a sister who subsequently divorced, she said " I got a problem with that". They very word submit causes sisters grief!!. As others here have posted, we have a culture that now embraces "thick" regardless if men like it or not.
I'm a woman (but not black)... encouragement is good for women who are already on this transformation path, you see that she's making efforts and a healthy environment (provided by you and with your help) will keep her focused. But you can't make someone who's unhealthy AND unwilling to do anything to keep track with you. You'll hear all kind of excuses: I've tried everything, I have hormonal issues (right... I also have them but jogging 5 times a week solved them like a charm lol), I'm "built" like this,etc. Your life will turn into a living hell. You look like a good man, I hope you'll find (or you're already with a good woman) someone who'll appreciate your efforts and blossom thanks to your caring and manly self.
Both sides hsve issues here. All men are not select. In fact I'd say that most on here complaining are not. Just like physical beauty isn't necessarily all that it takes for a woman to be wifey material. Looks, money, and status isnt necessarily an indicator of a good husband/father. The average person of both genders need to relax their superficial standards, humble themselves, and do the work necessary to make themselves happy, whole and complete. As men and leaders, we really have stop putting so much emphasis on sex and our notch count. Think about it, Its like we want a wholesome woman (at least with a limited sexual history) for marriage.... But we will still damn near require any woman we want to date to have sex with us fairly quickly. If she doesn't, then we will find those who will. 🤔imagine if every guy ....select or non select did thst? Wait...we do. And now look at the catch22 we create not just for them, but us as well. If we aren't planning on marrying her, thrn we shouldn't be having sex with her....we're messing it up for thr next man who might actually be interested in raising a family with her.
🙏 Amen We as women and men have the ability to influence in such a positive way but unless we evolve its just finger pointing and most acting like their dunk dont stink in one form or another..character and integrity compassion what is that? I believe love conquers all things with patience and understanding ✨ ❤
@@RealLadi228 its true but much easier said than done. The reason why the average woman is so easily dissatisfied with the average man is because of the illusion of too many options. Too many men will say/do/tell a woman anything (including lie) to get her into bed.....even if his only intention is to have sex with her. And many women believe them. But we as men cannot call these men out....and even if we do it doesnt matter.....she's gonna do what she wants anyway. I csnt blame women exclusively because if the roles were reversed where it was much easier for the average male to get laid than the average woman..... we'd probably put unrealistic expectations on them as well even though we ourselves weren't really much of a catch..... Wait.....we already do that🤦🏿♂️ No point in complaining tho. K.s. makes a lot of sense.....but i do think that he is speaking from the worldview of a 'select male' with gsme. He is in a small minority and most of the men are here comment CAPPING....LOL A lot of thirsty men are out here are still simping so post wall women with kids will still get chosen.
@@Mental_Alchemist I agree..I dont appreciate the double standards Men should keep their male anatomy zipped up they use women for sexual purposes and then dismiss them once they find their preferred egotistical option even leaving sons and daughters in the wind knowing biologically women equate sex with love..women should also keep their legs closed to men that obviously aren't trying to commit to anything but sex..im curious does hvm come a dime a dozen?..it certainly seems to be put out there like they are... I do believe we should become that which we desire but more importantly do it for yourself not to bag or keep any man on any level...Being honest with yourself and staying in your own lane.
Actually the late 2000s early 10s when illegal injections. Wanting the bottom huge allowed for all of the weight to get out of hand. Also some men view a woman’s fitness as a threat that she’s seeking another man not true.
tia84ification I was just going to say this!!! The injections have taken it way over the top. And people forget that the women getting these injections are 90 pounds soaking wet- so it’s not like they lost weight in the right places. Most black women have the natural shape that these women are paying for, unfortunately it’s under a bunch of fat
"We should have declared a national emergency on weight in the black community two decades ago." The problem is we are too busy focused on race to address the real issues.
These brothers have to lead in this area. Most men are in no position to confront their woman about weight. They are obese themselves and don’t have any interest in being healthy. Men have to understand that our influence on our women is powerful. But we must be leaders in all areas of life first. If the majority of African American men were healthy the women would get on board. I see it all the time with my clients. When the man gets in shape the spouse will soon follow because no woman wants to look “out of place” her man or feel left behind. 💯
Black males have the 2nd lowest obesity rates behind Asian men and Black woman have the highest of all women. It’s not a black male problem. I see plenty of black males at the gym and those who take care of their health, why aren’t black woman doing the same? The individual has to want to change and educate themselves on diet and health.
@@BlackMarq20 this is facts. I always see atleast 6-10 black dudes at my gym, sometimes more. We as niggas know we cannot be physically unfit and hope to pull beautiful women.
@@BlackMarq20 while technically true, black mens rates of obesity are still closer to white and Hispanic men than Asian. It’s closer to 50% than the approx 20% of Asian men. If it was closer to Asian men, then the black community wouldn’t have the highest obesity rate. Either way it’s still a big problem.
I’m a black woman married to a black man. I needed to lose weight so he encouraged me. I’ve tried so many times...I would lose weight then gain it back. Now my husband and I work out together, we eat healthy together. I now lose weight without even trying. Intermittent fasting and low carbs have changed our lives. We need to start building each other up as a community. A little motivation and encouragement instead of judgement goes a long way. Good day my people ❤️
Question. How in the world do you have a discussion about obesity WITHOUT addressing monsanto/"food deserts" in the hoods/ and the lack of quality health care? How do you ignore the fact that America, as a nation, has gotten fatter? 😲
that's a bigger issue, at the end of the day though..you control what goes inside your mouth as an adult. You know what's healthy from what's not healthy. You have to be accountable for your own waist line lol
@@mctreasure The point...you missed it. But if you hurry you can still catch it. 🙄 Your access and resources are part of the realm of your control. I can afford to not live in a food dessert, shop at Whole Foods, buy organic, get a gym membership, and pay for perks like a FitBit. Many of those who aren't as privileged as I am cannot do that. When you look at health and weight across socioeconomic backgrounds REGARDLESS OF RACE the wealthier tends to fare better in ALL races. My individual access to resources has allowed me to have an accountability for my waistline that those who don't share my background dont have. (P.S. I do this for a living so don't even THINK about trying to debate me. You're not qualified to speak on this and I dont want to embarrass you. 😏)
Im a petite black woman & I get bashed alot for being slim all the while they love to praise heavy/thick black women now..Being big is the "thing" now they glorify this.
Black love is fake & superficial. Black men hate black women. Including their own mothers & children. We get it. Do you have anything else to do/showcase with your time. It's just remedial & sad at this point. 😖😩🥱
I'm studying medicine, and when we learnt what obesity rlly does, I was actually terrified, bc my mom is overweight so I put her straight on a diet and daily walks. When we practise in hospital, most of the patients are fat, literally 9/10. And not even that old, 40+ has still much to live. This is such an issue, and it should be one's priority to be healthy. I see often times women online being like I'm fat but I'm good, I'm healthy. No you're not, no way. The symptoms just haven't shown yet. There's interesting rule our teacher told us: if u look down standing , and you see your belly, you have insulin resistance. That's pretty much cause of most of today's health troubles.
It’s so bad that nurses are getting injured from turning the patients! At UCLA the nurses are no longer allowed to turn patients. They have a “lift team” of two orderlies who go all around the hospital. If the nurse is busy and doesn’t catch the lift team, the patient is SOL until they come around again in 2 hours! Your loved one may be thin, but they suffer because the world is compensating for the obese.
I work at a hospital too. We have xxl wheelchairs. I have seen patients with BMI of 60 and only 50 years old with shortness of breath. The diaphragm has been weakened because it’s surrounded by visceral fat.
I have worked in healthcare and many of the nurses are overweight as well. And some of the doctors and PT personnel. How can you give advice to a patient when you are overweight and do not set a healthy example ?
I use to be lazy, gave up on diets, and stopped working out. I reached my breaking point when I felt my heaviest and started working out everyday and going back to my diet and ended up losing a lot of weight to where I’m average. There is no excuses, just do it.
This is the most sensible, professional, platform I've ever seen him. You can be honest and direct without scolding and putting ppl down. He spoke much truth.
You've never been in a West Indian household they are always brutally honest about weight. Too skinny too fat the aunties and other family members will let you know. LMAO.
not true with all west Indian parents. but i guess it's because my mother has assimilated with black American culture too much, she just watched me gain weight and never said anything. got slightly offended when telling her i wanted to drop the extra weight (not big, but if I didn't stop my habits I'd be that already)
180 to 200lbs has been the new norm for a while now. Doesnt matter what their height is. They have been making the men get use to it by calling it "thick"
It’s does matter by height. 5’10 200+ women that gain weight in there thighs, butt, and hips tend to be more desirable. If your 200 pounds and 5’10 your going to look average( because the average women gains weight everywhere. Between skinny and fat) Weight distribution is very important.
My mom always bullied me so hard about my weight when I was younger but I’m so glad cause when I went through my breakup I was able to lose 15 pounds to get to my desired weight easy
I gained 40 pounds during the pandemic. I couldn't work out effectively, because my gym closed April 2020 and is still closed. My lover was so grossed out, (Black man raised in Compton, CA) that he dumped me for a white woman, and pulled me by my hair and threw me into the Los Angeles freeway. He called me all kinds of names, and yelled no one wants you! He drove off leaving me stranded in the middle of the freeway. I will never be in the company of another man, after that. I will however, start working out again as I have relocated to Switzerland where the gyms are open. I have started with ginger and tumeric tea and exercise.
Damn, being overweight is a bad thing, but potentially murdering you is some next level violation. Someone who abandons you without remorse shouldn't be your partner
There is some validity in this discussion. However, I was a single mom - size 10 to 12 depending on the day. I dated many good, successful, handsome men. I ended up marrying a hero that loves me and my (our) son w/o question. There is a beauty in blended families. There is work, but it's beautiful. Just saying for any woman out there that feels like she has a scarlet letter because you have a child or children out of wedlock - God's grace is bigger. You can have the relationship you desire.
@Health-nerd_ROM you are not reading her messages correctly. She is saying whom ever is a single mom already it is hope for them. Heal first mind, body, and spirit. Then get out there in find true love.She is not giving advice about being loose with every man you see
She basically saying after letting pookie and ray ray pound her she was finally ready to marry a good man. Imagine this foo living with her and all them dudes that she let hit are still living in her head and for free, rip to your man.
I awakened to this fact years ago and I constantly place effort in helping my female friends become health conscious and actively pursue an exercise regiment but unfortunately, they begin but after a month or two, resort back to their previous habits. It’s frustrating because I desire to see my sisters fulfilled in every sense of the word. The narrative has to change because for too long, being overweight has been an acceptable way of living.
It definitely comes after being awakened spiritually then there is much work with healing from any emotional or physical trauma in childhood or as a adult..most are sleep walking unconsciously, its really about self love first instead of seeking love outside of yourself instead of putting in that work..the work plus healing changes the mindset to learn your value and worth without it these expectations of some bw are delusional. 🙃
Kevin was a Legend among mere mortals. I am asian and I can tell you all that I have seen and been to at least 10 Kevin Samuel functions in NYC and LA. These are sessions where men who earn 500k+ attend because they cant find a quality woman and have little clue on finding one. Many have been burnt and used for their money. I have also met this man several times in ATL and he has helped me and other men be smarter and stay away from bad women. His loss was so profound, I had men who were making over a million a year to Linebackers in college call and cry to me about how they missed him. People just dont know how massive this dude was
I disagree black men come to black women with a whole host of issues. Unattractive, overweight, too many children, too many women, broke , not spiritual,unambitious. Even plus size women have more going for themselves than that. Sorry fellas but most not all black men have too many drawbacks, however we don't dismiss you all for it. We deal with it. Instead of putting us in a short term relationship work with us like we work with you. The reciprocation is not there.
Mr. Samuels stated that 64% of Black men are middle class or better, and an AEI report (2018) confirms that as fact. Those men are the available pool - broke men with no ambition aren't on the radar. With attraction... "water seeks its own level."
@@cincybest The ethnicity/nationality of the 64% middle class Black men is unimportant - the simple fact is that these men are available to Black women. If Black women are WORTHY, they should have no problem getting these men to marry them.
Women began prioritizing gaining weight and “getting thick” when I was coming up in high school. Rappers began glorifying it … the weight got out of control 💁🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
The first mistake was looking at what rappers saw as the ideal woman. I listened to hip hop my whole life, hell I LIVE the culture but I never looked to no MC to tell me what an ideal woman is. If women went that route because of what some rapper wanted, then that is either a clear lack of understanding the real world or a deficiency in parenting. Or both
This hits on a lot of things I’ve been working on. Health and fitness, physical appearance, and being softer and more agreeable. It’s not easy, that’s why a lot of ladies can’t, won’t, or don’t know how. Even slight adjustments will get noticeable results!
@@motupamakgai3659 the delusion that ALL females need is wraped up in spending their lives focused on being whatever a man desires are with every changing season. narcissitic and self absorbed.....just like your answer....smh. ..
No one is saying that, but this channel is focused on relationships. there are other channels with numerous topics perhaps you should visit those?🤷♂️with that being said finding a suitable mate to procreate with is an important aspect of life so there's no need to pretend it's not. Not most important, but quite important.
@@aaronbrutus2654 thank you so much for making this very clear to her. Maybe we just at different standards of understanding life in general and most women they demand rights without responsibilities.
An African friend told me that "black Americans are more concerned about getting their bodies in shape instead of getting their minds in shape." Weight and looks are fleeting. Character is not.
Honestly staying in shape is keeping the fire and fun in my relationship when I was getting out of control my man was critical but it was only because he loves me and wants me to stay healthy!
I’m putting myself back on my healthy eating and exercise program starting now. I’m blessed to have a fiancé who loves and encourages me, despite the few extra pounds I’m carrying around. It works because he encourages me and never puts me down. He makes me want to be a better me, because he’s a better he. He has a rock solid perfect body and I am gonna have the same for him before our wedding day.
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It's the truth . It's about health all I can say is that I wish that had done it sooner. You have to take care of yourself first and foremost how can say something to someone else and your not taking care of business at the home front
Women do know this..$6,000 BBL and now your physical high value..check
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@*kyla* strawberry you on the RIGHT side of town now. stay away from that toxic swirl ''ish''.
*women look like NFL linebackers now, but I need a Wide Receiver tho*
This is very true and it’s fair. If women want men who are physically fit and attractive, I think it’s only fair that men desire the same.
Not only that, if women want men who are providers, protectors, and not masculine, then he needs an equal prize. Men aren't going to work hard for years to get a woman who is average as a prize. He'll rent her but he won't buy her.
Of course
Yesss!
Chantel A they do. But let’s not act like attraction isn’t a big part of it. I want a good quality car. But I’m not gonna buy a good quality car that looks like crap lol.
@@Ulzannghome figure of speech. Meaning did he marry her or just having fun with her with no intention of anything longterm.
Obesity is a huge problem in the black community, forget about dating, just general health and staying alive.
True, Blacks and Mexicans have the worst diet. We need to make a change, period!
And it's all by design the chemicals in America food is despicable & it's aim mostly in black/mexican communities mostly ingredients the body can't digest so more knowledge on food choices & what foods are being put in one's community is Key✨
its a huge problem in every community. White, black or other. Its the food we eat and the general modern lifestyle.
Yep. Many annual deaths in the USA are related to weight (heart disease and diabetes).
@@divine9100 By design? Then perhaps blacks and Mexicans and whomever should stop designing these types of foods in their neighborhoods, and stop eating it.
As a black women it is an issue. I notice how many other black women are more overweight than not. I recognize that I am overweight and I’m working out and eating better.
A queen, you're taking your own weight into account and looking to fix it for you. Respect!
Good for you Sis 💯
Walter Harris Thanks. Obesity is a big problem in our community and especially with the women.
AboutMillions Thanks. I’m doing my best.
@@ImprovementisGrowth Start intermittent fasting (only eating between 11am and 8pm), get you some apple cider vinegar pills (take daily), give up soda, juice, wine, alcohol and drink only water, give up pastas, Chinese food, and other foods that you notice to cause you to feel bloated, give up sweets during the week (save for the weekend if you must eat them), start running (treadmill, elliptical, outdoors, stairs), and do some planks, jumping jacks, burpees, situps and high jumps. And most importantly keep track of your calories. And always remember your body has to burn more calories than you put in to lose weight.
Being fat is difficult, getting fit is difficult... pick WHICH difficult you want to deal with.
Being fat is actually easy, dealing with being fat is hard.
@@deesus1085 GETTING fat is easy. BEING fat is NOT. Especially when you start having health problems. That’s obviously what he meant/said.
@@Dee-cb3rh I’m glad you understand what I was saying. 👍🏻
What a great morsel of meditation 🥖🙌🏽💥😃!
Get fat is very easy 😆😆 lose fat is very different.
Me being a thin black female I feel black culture glorifies obesity. If you are thin , you get criticize immensely. However, if you start gaining weight , it is praised. I don't care what anyone saids. I'm sorry , but I rather be fit and thin, then overweight.
Same. I'm 137 lbs and people I know take shots at my size. I was previously overweight and was mocked or ignored then! Nah, screw that I'm staying in shape.
@Teddy James Yeah that is not tall for a woman these days. Tall for a woman now is 5'8" and up
@SpiteHook That's crazy
No but there definitely is a to skinny for women lmao
@@trueylord2x810 Just like there's a too skinny for men.
“We should have declared a national emergency on weight in the black community two decades ago” ... Wooooaaahhhh Let talk about it!
And let’s talk about the real life systems in effect in the Blackcommunity that contribute GREATLY to what’s going on with Blackpeople. Everyone loves to point the finger and bash Blackpeople without discussing all the factors Blackpeople deal with.
He lightly touched on the trauma issue but there’s real, deep, generational trauma and real, actual daily pain in dealing with life in this country... pain that’s being numbed with food (particularly by Black women. Blackpeople who are overweight are the same as other people ...eating their emotions because it’s more socially acceptable to hurt yourself and your own body and become “invisible” or push people away and become “undesirable” just like you told yourself rather than to work through the STUFF and deal with that new reality and see how much you can do without excuses, a shield or a wall.
Also .. and I can’t say this enough .. as of 2016 nearly 21% of white Americans were in antidepressants www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/one-6-americans-take-antidepressants-other-psychiatric-drugs-n695141 and since we can look around and see people haven’t gotten “happier” in the past 4 years, we can assume this number is higher now.
It’s easy to look at Black people and see the weight and see the depression but there’s a whole big segment of America that’s on pills for theirs and we don’t see it. Just saying, there are a number of different ways America is “coping”.. food, big pharma, weed, alcohol, porn etc
And speaking of national emergencies in the Black community, Blackwomen make 62c for every dollar paid to a white man. Dollar for dollar, pay Blackpeople equally .. not last hired/first fired/not promoted/no raise given .. but pay dollar for dollar and see if “Black diets” don’t get better, not to mention a whole lot of other things lol
Facts!
Personal accountability is more important than these lesser systematic issues for weight. No one forces you to overeat calories
I haven't drank soda in a decade, no dairy, I eat 2 cups of a random vegetable raw and ppl look at me crazy. It's not that hard but, when you are slim the black community does not praise you, I was bullied for being slim bc everyone else is "thick". I was even told (by another black woman) that no black man would want me bc I wasn't "thick", forget my other attributes.
Stay true to yourself Claire, your inner health and appearance will always thank you...
Go up in your Black circles.
People keep equating Black with poor but the higher you go in the Blackcommunity. the more physically in shape you’ll find Blackpeople
Its true skinny is not praised until people are at that age where everybody is fat....... thennnn they like it
I get no soda, but no dairy, so yogurt makes you fat ? Cuz it’s seems pretty healthy to me
Steph Curry hi Steph I’m lactose intolerant but, Greek yogurt is really good for you .
I’m 39 married to my hubby for 17 years. I still work out, watch my diet, and dress nicely. It’s a blessing for me. I feel good and hubby likes it.
Same here, 46, married 19 years. I work out everyday as well. Feels good when hubby calls me ‘Sexy’
Same, 44 married 18 years. Walking 60-90 mins with my Hubby every morning and take care of myself. A lot of women are in denial and we can’t tell them anything. I let them be. My SIL tried to tell me that 5’3” at 200 lbs is thick. She got upset when I told her that was actually obese. So, whatever! Keep denying and being miserable. Not my life. Not my problem.
@@tippytoe1250 you’re right. That’s obese. I’m 98lbs and a tad shorter than her. If I was 150 that’s even too heavy. You did right by speaking truth. 💜
Black love is fake. Black men hate black women. Including their own mothers.We get it. Do you have anything else to do/showcase with your time. It's just remedial & sad at this point. 😖😩🥱
@@emmaswan5306 Well date another race or date another black woman. Do what you feel is best and stfu forever.
Women have NO problem coldly telling a Man that he’s too short and not good enough for her. I have no problem telling a woman what she lacks or has too much of.
Exactly. They love rejecting men all the time but once you reject them, suddenly all hell broke loose. Hypocrites..
So true
Amethyst Emerald that’s great but the other 99% sees it as an important attribute.
Balla Jallow Yeah most women don’t take rejection well, I know I’ve rejected many because of my high standards. I rarely settle but have.
Feminism era says women cant be critiqued
When my weight gets out of hand, my mother is the first to tell me. I appreciate her for that 💙
Thats awesome!
@@myrao819 its painful at times... lol but helpful
Same! I have one cousin that is the only person besides my mom that check me and tells me when i'm fat and when i'm skinny. Sometimes the hardest critic is the one critic that matters.
Why do someone else have to tell you, you're fat? She is not going to be around forever. Kevin Samuels speaks on getting mental help. Your statment is a reason why he says it. Not to knock you or anything.We as a people have been through so much and having a sit down with a professional is a good thing.
What are you going to do when when mother isn’t around
As a fat guy who's currently loosing weight, I hope that the trends change. Being fat is unattractive, unhealthy, and mentally/physically taxing. I'd never wish it on anyone.
@@deesus1085 agree and disagree at the same time. Sometimes people were raised with poor eating habits and a lack of exercise which makes it harder for them. I’m glad I was raised with a healthy lifestyle
I was overweight too in my twenties. I am about to be 40 and I'm so happy I've lost weight.
Keep going bro!!!!! Self love!!!
Keep at it hard. You can lose the weight.
yes it is. keep pushing though
Nothing tastes as good as healthy feels.
Oof. I remember that from my hardcore eating disordered days. "Nothing tastes as good as thin feels."
Skinny* lol not healthy, you dillweed
@@CurlyFries120 you mad?
@@henryf6539 she probably blames her metabolism for being 100 pounds overweight lmfao
@u don't know me at all lol plenty?!? Gurl whet? We have an obesity problem in our community, not anorexia!
I was over 300lb and now I weight 230lb and these videos are actually helping me to reach my goal
You go girl!
Youre on the right path.
Good for you
It's been a year, where are you on your goal now
Great job
It's beginning. Men were bound to push back. This is the pushback
For sure, the strong will always overcome. They just had us on the ropes for a few decades lol.
@Sign O the Times exactly. Many brothers are single and childless and it's just few brothers and having lots of kids and not taking care of them. But they're out here stereotyping black men as deadbeat and out here having kids with women and not taking care of them. Not true at all.
Y'all made a great point
It's been brewing for decades.
@@nellynel6141 Just the dumb one's
If you ever want to be shocked Google Blacks in the 70s photos. Everyone was skinny. It’s sad the standard today has slipped so badly. That was just 50 years ago.
I agree 100%. Look at Soul Train from the 70s-90s. All the dancers were thin, men & women.
For years I've been telling everyone I have this type of conversation with to do the same thing. For example, take the WATTSTAX concert. It was a highly publicized event with lots of video footage. Note as the camera pans the crowd you'll quickly note how rare it is to see a +sized black person. Big was the exception and not the rule.
ruclips.net/video/QSxyU-AbF6M/видео.html
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Fast food restaurants exploded since the 70's. Black people need to stop frequenting these fast food spots.
@@markcarter3653 dancers are usually thin anyway lol
Chrissie has been telling black women this from the very beginning. She's BEEN saying that physically fit women of all races are more desired than overweight ones.
Yep. That’s honestly a lot of level up women say this.
Not in the black community
Not with these black men in Detroit, MI they like big girls! Hell I thought about running off with a white man in my twenties because I know most of them like slim women and those dusty black men always take about my weight now I’m fat thanks!
Something for ladies to consider is don’t just stress about losing weight. Try to build some muscle mass also. Become firm and strong, you are not below that. What has kept me loyal to fitness is the joy I get from being a strong human being. Has little to do with getting a man, that’s just a benefit. If you’re trying to lose weight to get pretty, it’s going to be a lot harder than if you’re trying to lost weight to build your body up to do the things you want. You want to dance, climb, play sports, keep up with your kids, hike to the top of a mountain, anything, you can. Do it for you and men are the cherry on top. Fitness is joy.
Exactly
1000
Thanks!
Hear, hear. Exercise 🏊 prepares you for each decade of life. Exercise slows down the aging process.
Thanks Em!! This helped me!!
"If you want the best, you should be the best." Well said Kevin. Great line.
Exactly. He's absolutely right about that.
i agree with Kevin. I started out at 222 pounds. I still got attention from guys because I had a shape, but I am currently 130 pounds and I have definitely noticed the difference. I know you don't think its a issue ladies, but seriously if you lose the weight I promise more guys will try to approach you.
Go get'em girl!!!!!... lol
@@KC-4u2c no i mean guys would come up and try and talk to me, but because I live in reality I already knew the game. I think its up to me as a woman to use my judgement correct?
Oooh what was key to ur weight loss ??
@@Chazcott eating healthy and drinking water
@@Amberkai674 the obvious
I know what one of the problems is, I'm a white guy, and I have several black friends and all 3 of them say they want a woman that is very"thick" and upon further query of what they meant, they meant an OBESE woman. I think a lot of black women are being encouraged by black men to be very overweight
BINGO. What is considered thick in the black community is considered obese in all other communities. That’s crazy.
Black men will date all the fat white chicks they can find.
Black men love fat
Thick does not mean fat. In the white community, you call it being voluptuous. Serena Williams is thick, but she is not fat. White guys seem to prefer women like Melania Trump, a tall skinny woman with a flat butt. Look at what you call supermodels, a woman who is so skinny that it looks like she might faint at any moment. Many African, I refuse to let you Europeans reduce us to a color, women who are overweight become that way from eating what is known as soul food, which is loaded with fat, sugar, and dairy. Ribs, pork chops, potato salad, oxtail, food seasoned with bacon, pork, butter, and deserts with lots of sugar. Kool-Aid and lots of biscuits are a favorite also. I am 79 years old, I am 5'11" tall, and weigh 174 lbs, I was down to 167 lbs before the pandemic hit. I live in Texas, the badonkadonk capital of the world, and the diet of the African population here is loaded with artery-clogging fats. Many African women will not exercise because sweating will mess up their hairdos, and they will not go swimming for the same reason. Hollywood is pushing obesity, LBGT, vulgarity, and violence. Now young people are being fed images of fat women wallowing around on the stage in g-strings on TV and in movies. Oh, excuse me, I forgot, I am now supposed to refer to fat people as being plus size. The majority of the people who succumbed to the virus were overweight.
No lmao
I agree with Kevin on this, it's time for us to stop glorifying fat, I've lost A LOT of weight, most of us were raised on poverty food and carried that poverty mindset into adulthood, I'd never go back, it's not cute, it causes issues etc etc. I notice women are the only ones cheering for "BBW'S". Likewise our men are having a hard time financially because many men were raised by single struggling mother's on welfare, that poverty mindset carried over to a lot of black adult men, our ppl have PTSD, many of us only seen struggle love and toxicity, this is reality, truth needs to be told. Our community needs to start healing.
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That's what i been saying. Women want a provider but men are being raised by single mom's.
Yes we need to heal but we need to learn investing and saving. We must look past the end of our noses and make better choices for the future too.
Look how much they glorified Lizzo. Look at the old photos of Harlem from the 40's, 50's and 60's almost no fat woman. No matter the race being fat is not healthy. The medical complications are much greater for overweight people, fat, morbidly obese people.
Good stuff sis, lead by example. Dont know man want no fat wife
Real talk...fitness is important. Bad bodies are a manifestation of bad thought processes and low self esteem. As a fit man I desire a fit woman because I realize that fitness translates into us having a functional ( as opposed to dysfunctional ) relationship because we feel good about who we are as people and when we feel good about ourselves as people we can bring that love and high vibration to our partners.
@anelle Wiley yes they do lol
@anelle Wiley yes I agree, skinny women can have low self esteem, but fat people in general tend to have low self esteem
I love the way you worded this. Losing weight is so much more mental than anything. You hit the nail with the “low self esteem” part. 💯
@@bungeespeaks6081 it’s unfortunately true. I was/still that person. It’s a tough road mentally but it can be done
Well said, Melvin.
I called him because I needed advice. Im 5'4", 160lbs. He told me to lose 20lbs. Didn't feel offended at all. Thanks Kevin🙌
At least u have hope, its those that are obese and have let it come out of hand that live in grand delusion then ask for HVM then if it doesn't go their way will blame colorism or the man being stuck up...
Hope you get your high value black man 😂 😂😂😂 good luck
@@Loverlovelife hey I'm not necessarily looking for high value I'm looking for a decent man who will treat me well and having yourself together counts. Thanks for the luck.
@anelle Wiley vague random comments shows u stay losing... Nobody is checking for people with your mindset, Its attitude and fitness that keeps broads single... Dating n fielding interest from bums in IG got many your heads inflated.
Date a white man
RIP Mr. Samuels. I've listened to many of his interviews. He's been labeled as "controversial," but oftentimes he was just telling the truth and a lot of folks can't bear to hear it.
And yet he was caught with big Shirley
@@NarutoUzumaki-ky5jn No - woman is beautiful.
Faxs I dnt see what all the slander was about I can’t find one video of him attacking a person first
Years ago back in the 90s there was this term “thick” that described a women with hips and a booty with a D-Cup. 5’4 “ and weighed between 140 to 150 pounds with no gut. Think Serena williams. I’ll take that all day. Then the term crept into the social lexicon and got morphed .....all of a sudden fat women jumped on that bandwagon.
Yeah spot on!
Very true. Sadly there are a lot of overweight women out here. I love my women of color. I am a man of color myself. But I have to call it like I see it. Many men have lied to these women and called them thick. But it’s a lie. They are overweight. I don’t like to use the word fat. Overweight is less offensive. And these women wear these provocative clothes to get a mans attention. What they don’t know is that we look at those women for one thing and that is it. Health is important
enabling culture has its consequences
Yea. They've replaced fat with thick and curvy
Clothing brands too. America has bigger than average side ranges. Smalls are mediums in England an Africa
I went out with a 5'2" almost 200 woman, I'm 6'2" 245 blue collar build , and she actually said she couldn't go out with fat guy and she talked about men's weight like she was 120lbs. She even had the post pregnancy pouch she tucked in her jeans. I couldn't believe how her mind worked.
I Believe it because you guys put them on a pedestal
@@supersaiyanslice "you guys" put them on a pedestal? I told you about 1 gf. Your trying to be KS Jr, I get it. Won't work
That's how it is these days bro, it's crazy.
That always seems to confuse me.also if they are not attractive to overweight men why do men have to overlook it when it comes to them..its really confusing
@@hakimcoggins6746 I couldn't understand how she, a medically obese woman, who was very insecure about her own body, could put down guys who were in all reality less overweight than her. I even called her out a few times about it and she just made different excuse after different excuse. I'm confused on how a person can be so warped in their thinking. She obviously had a lot of different issues and thankfully I was able to cut the relationship off without a lot of drama but it's crazy how some women think that them being obese is "better" than a man being just overweight, meaning "less" obese. Maybe society has put it in their brains, I don't know
“I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me.” - Jim Rohn
I come back to this all the time. Both my grandmothers have diabetes and high blood pressure and my grandfather died from heart disease. I have an aunt whose diabetic as well and my cousins dad lost both his feet because of diabetes. We gotta get this weight thing under control not just to look good but cause it’s killing our families.
I agree 100 on that facts
No matter how hard Losing Weight can get, never lose the sight of your goals, keep your eyes focused on what you want, never forget where you started from. You’re doing great if you already took the first step, take a deep breath and keep going because myself I struggled for years to lose weight from 264lbs now I’m 163lbs in 6 Months 🔥🔥🔥
Congratulations on your weight loss. 101 pounds wow 👏
Thanks for this! I'm trying! Started with what I eat.
Doing great
Thanks for the inspiration, I just subscribed
Balla Jallow thank you
I am overweight and was frustrated. I started going back to boxing and the coach put me back on myfitnesspal. I am appalled at how much I was eating and drinking....no excuses
Keep grinding.
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Good luck.
You can put yourself back on MyFitnessPal.
keep going! great job
I also think being over weight is in the Hispanic community as well. I literally let myself during covid. Last March I weighed 139 , and now I’m 160 I’m very short , 4”11 and I worked hard to keep the weight off , and now it’s back. I decided to go back to my goals and start working out again. Just from working out this week , I lost 4 pounds. Now I weigh 156 woohooo . I always say start little by little. I have to thank my trainer for this one ☝️. She literally calls me at 4:00 am to wake me up. Sometimes I’m already awake starring at the phone , hoping she doesn’t call so I have an excuse. 😂 No excuses, as she tells me.
LMFAO. Starring at the phone hoping she doesn't call. I'm 💀💀💀😂😂😂
Very true ma'am. I'm Hispanic, 5'11", 165lbs, fit. I see many, many, MANY Hispanic men overweight. I try to lead by example. It doesn't work. People love to eat rather than love their health. A dammm shame. BTW I'm 54 and healthier than most 20 somethings.
Why so many ppl thought the pandemic was a green light to sit at home and stuff their face is beyond me. I worked from home the entire time and cooked my own healthy food, drank lots of water, and use the hour in the morning I would normally be commuting to go out and run.
Yea I feel you. Back when I lived home it was so hard not to eat a tortilla with every damn meal. It’s our culture, then all the sweets and stuff in the house didn’t help haha
@@oscartorralba14 bruhh tortillas I swear every meal could go with tortillas but im trying not to 🤣
I agree with KS, we as a people should've declared war on OBESITY in our community long time ago
Depression🙏 and Mental Health🙏 plays a Major Role in Obesity 🙏
1-800-656-hope
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@Jermaine Burgess It’s not an excuse. There are some people simply happy with being fat! But there are soooooo many people overweight due to struggles with mental health and trauma. That excess weight is a mask for deeper unaddressed issues.
No it's not, it is lack of exercise and eating poor quality foods/drinks
If you’re depressed; work out. .
Down 100lbs in 2 years but I couldn't lose weight until I lost the excuses that kept me fat.
Eat a calorie deficit, strength train, be diligent. It's that simple. Your body is not immune to the laws of thermodynamics.
GREAT COMMENT !!!!!
@William Schlass Being fat is worse.
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Congrats
Very true!!!
I was just having this conversation at work the other night. I walk on my breaks at work and everybody has something to say. Because I’m not overweight. So I said...it’s easier to maintain your weight than try to lose 100lbs, you should try it. Now both the men and women have started walking on their breaks. And they’re all at least 150lbs overweight.
This! I'm tall, slender, have always exercised and heard, "Why are you working out? You're not fat!" Um, because I'm not trying to be? Like, look up the word, preventative 🤦🏾♀️
@SARA Right?! Stay fat and miserable but don't be mad that I have standards, common sense and don't care to join you 💅🏾
@@mahoganybrown9366 And you have discipline and self-respect.
Walking. The best.
150 lbs overweight!!!
Damn where you work?🤣
I'm surprised to see the number of women in these comments who are self aware and working on themselves. Gives me hope. Keep it up, because that is one of the biggest things I like in women.
An old friend of mine who has never had a boyfriend had a ridiculous list of things she NEEDS in her ideal man. It was like he had to make a certain amount annually, he has to be a certain height, darkskin, has to be African and she for some reason threw in that he has to have a following on instagram, kmt. and my response her was ....you know if you meet this man ever he is going to have his own high expectations of a woman and it might not be what you think. Because she is a smart woman but she will most likely need to cater to physical appearance in ways she might not have thought. (being more physically fit and appearance wise just putting in the effort there as well). Woman dont like being told to look pretty and carry yourself well for a man but expect a lot from men. goes both ways hunnay !
preach! too many deluded women who have lost touch with reality. completely clueless about their own attractiveness level too.
You say your friend never had a boyfriend? But I bet she was getting her insides pushed in lol🤣 from time to time
@@jarvisaddison8560 she's actually a virgin lol
@@kendalblake ok I hear you!
You are a good friend for keeping it real with her. True friends can be honest and stay friends, hopefully she keeps working on things and is happy with her lifestyle.
Too many fast-food joints in the US. And portion sizes are also too big.
I love big portions I cannot lie
Yup..they put cheese an bacon on everything an wonder why most people in the US are so obese smh
Soul food and soda's
Large portions mean 2-3 meals but without self control or concerns about health all is left is greed and using food to comfort whatever that may be....
The big portion thing is done so restaurants can set a certain price point and pay for their staff. They have to charge $12.99 for a burger meal to cover all expenses and the only way to do that is to make that meal really large because they know they can’t charge $7.99 a meal and get by.
No matter what you do or how you look....if a man doesn't want you, he doesn't want you.
There's a reason why
Okay, so what’s the solution ?
Make matters worse by remaining objectively undesirable? Or try to be on your best not just for anybody but also for you
I tell people all the time, being in the best shape possible gives you a better chance of meeting and keeping a partner not a guarantee that you will.
(There are NO GUARANTEES)
Also, Physical attraction is just one of the criteria for someone to “want” you and it could NEVER hurt your chances to be more desirable.
Hope this meets you well.
This is true, but will you be a high value woman for other men to consider, why would it matter?
@Hazel E idk. I don’t want a fat woman but fat women are always bood up by my observation.
@@dantan1249 Why is that?? They say water seeks it's own level, that's a bunch of bull. Fat women are attracted to me and i'm not overweight one bit. They will come up to me & all. I don't get it
No to mention big women take out their insecurities & speak so badly of smaller fit women. I've deal with this in my life in the Black community.
They just try bringing you down to their level
Smdh
I agree girl
So true.
They absolutely do and it's very rude.
The "Body Positivity" movement is damaging the psyche of women. It's basically saying, eat all you want, gain all the weight you want, and you can still get your dream man and he has to accept you. That's not how reality works. Fat is the new thick. Men should have standards. We are people too.
And, more importantly then getting a man of their dreams.. The body positivity movement Claims 'Health at Every size'
These people literally claim that you can be 5'2 and weight 300 lbs and still be healthy....
I think that coupled with the whole idea of sexual liberation have really done some damage. I'm not here to shame anyone but together I think the two ideas pitch a narrative to women that no matter how much you weigh or how promiscuous you may be you DESERVE the BEST men. I'm not suggesting women should be mannequins or have to be completely celibate but there is a clear difference between a little bit and excessive. Together a portion of the opposite gender then literally believe they are entitled to the best men simply by existing devoid of putting in any form of effort or cultivating morality or...willpower. The irony is so much of what these women lack is all men truly desire (loyalty, cooperation, discipline, wholesome companionship just to name a few) and they are all fairly free to obtain; problem is those things requires some kind of effort and holding themselves accountable, Whoops.
They absolve themselves of accountability to make themselves feel good, or in control/empowered/brave
How there was a force to have plus sized models is still beyond me smdh
Panafrocanam and there’s no fat or short guys being held up as sex symbols or leading men.
The truth is often uncomfortable for women that's why they often avoid it..
But you really don't think the truth is uncomfortable for men?!?! Boy sit down
Often avoid it? 😂 Women almost always avoid the truth.
75% of women are overweight in contrast to 25% of men, not tryna say one side is better or anything but this is kinda telling
@@UzitheSaint the way you kids want to gloss over so many other things. Women take birth control pills, the correlation between the hormones playing up and causing overweight issues isn't even thought of. To address this it's too simplistic to stop at, women don't wanna hear Da truth, a lot tried not understanding why they can't lose the weight.
Peaches Kong not glossing over calm down, matter fact take it how u want too not my problem
Its so easy to gain weight. It’s so damn hard to lose the fat
So true, but stay positive... I try to do 30 mins a day.
I had to eat like 3k+ calories on a bulk to gain weight.. it wasn't easy for me but shit trying to drop weight.... Damn near impossible
literally switch your diet...drink ONLY water and eat lots of vegetables and grilled foods. No FAST FOOD OR SNACKS
No it really isnt actually
It’s harder to maintain the discipline and stay on track. Also you have to keep evolving. Change things up here and there with your work outs and what you eat but you can not go back to eating garbage food and habits. It’s hard alright. But the reward is worth it!
I like that Kevin touches on everything, from physical weight and fitness, to character being cooperative, to mental stability dealing with personal issues.
It shows his sincerity to truly help people.
They confuse Sexual attention and long term commitment attention 😬
That's a word
Yeap because a dude will blow the back out doesn't mean he wants to be seen with you
Black love is fake. Black men hate black women. Including their own mothers.We get it. Do you have anything else to do/showcase with your time. It's just remedial & sad at this point. 😖😩🥱
@@emmaswan5306 who hurt you? 😂😂 this black man here loves black women and loves his mother. I just don’t like black feminist.
@@emmaswan5306 sounds like you are confusing hate with constructive criticism.
Just as an aside, I'm a white guy. In the 1900's to 1960's every man was dressing in suits like Kevin Samuels. I hope this way of dressing comes back. All he needs is a nice hat and he looks like he can take over the world. Nice job Kevin.
so true. seeing a man with a nice suit on is so attractive
A man doesn't necessarily have to wear a suit but at least dress nice and keep up their personal hygiene
I think most Black men have a physical preference for Black women. They're the most attractive women. The problem is, that there is a lot of masculine energy in Black female culture, that plays into the image of the angry/independent black woman, "who don't need a man". Added to that many BW give their best years and sometimes their Womb to Bad Boys and over look the smart, hard working black man (who isn't as exciting as the wannabe 2pac). Those smart black boys get into their 30s and start to earn good money, go to the gym and get picked up by white girls. I know this doesn't apply to every situation, but Black women can sometimes be their own worst enemy.
Exactly... perfectly put
@J P who are the most attractive women in the world?
@Melody Coates If a woman presents herself in a feminine and attractive way, it's very unlikely she will be overlooked. Perhaps a lot of those nerdy girls you're describing don't put themselves out there. Men are hunters, if it's there, we will find it.
@@definitelydee4454 Thanks brother
@J P Maybe you just have bad taste
My husband and I been together for 16 years and been a size 12 the entire time. I hit the gym 4 days a week and I do crossfit, so I have muscle mass. Going to the gym is a lifestyle for me.
Weight is a great way to keep people from you. Maybe besides solely blaming black women how about we protect our children . A lot of this excess weight we are seeing is a way to protect a body that wasn’t protected during childhood.
And for the all the women who are ready to release the weight: therapy, intermittent fasting, and keto with ALOT OF GREENS & LOW CARB VEGGIES. The weight will slide off and you insulin resistance will heal. Also, take a kick boxing class and defense class - if anyone tries to harm you AGAIN you’ll be ready.
Absolutely true!
I felt protected by my weight for many years as a result of a toxic childhood I never learned my value because it was stripped away before I could embrace it..but im aware im awakened now im healing loving on myself it changed my mindset and the need and desire to regain my true self is like second nature now...fasting, keto, fitness feels wonderful 👏 💪 🙌 😄 😊looks fabulous
I’m glad you posted this comment because people are looking at the weight and treating the symptom and not the root issue. It shows how little they care about the person inside the weight which exacerbates the problem.
It's true. Most BW who have gain weight over the yrs were mainly due to molestation of some sort as a child. So they gained weight purposely to take attention away from them. They don't wanna be seen. When ppl talk about stuff like this, they should consider ALL aspects and reasonings. A lot of it is misjudged as someone jst being lazy. You don't know their story.... I agree with you
Pinkylih I’m a black woman, and my weight gain in adulthood was due to other life stressors. I was never molested, but I agree that you can’t know someone else’s life.
He can blame women whom are morbidly obese for being hypocritical to judge others n not herself while also saying they want HV men without blinking, that weight was solely her doing not anybody else's... Just like we can blame dusty ray rays running around knocking people up without care then claim system made them do that...
This Man's Barber deserves Props!! 💪🏾🙌🏾🔥🔥 The fade is Fresh!!!
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plot twist ... he did it himself lol
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Bashaya ama-freshcut. Kuyashisa lapha!
BIGEN
So nobody laughed when he said « You’re the size of a middle linebacker, and I pulled up a picture of Lawrence Taylor » He said it with a serious face too 🤣 🤣 🤣
I bust out laughing n pulled up his picture too. 😂😂
I did 🤣🤣🤣
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Yes spit my water out laughing! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yo he told a chick last week she was the same size as Emmitt Smith and Barry sanders. Then said she could run power I. I had to log off 💀.
A friend of mine said he used to date fat women but he realised they would go and brag behind his back to their friends that they didn’t need to workout to bag an athletic guy
Kevin is not my fave but he has 3 solid points here: 1. Working on the weight issues and find out why the weight gain has happened and how to become much more healthy and get to a weight that is healthy for their height. 2. Going to counseling to deal with the emotional trauma women and men are experiencing. Mental healthy gets ignored in the black community and its killing us slowly and needs to be addressed head on with action and that involves therapy. 3. Women becoming more curious about men and what they need as human beings. A relationship should be about learning how to relate to one another and how to becoming much more open to discovering how to be better partners. Increasing emotional intelligence as well is a major key in becoming more curious.
I didn’t watch the whole video and maybe he addressed it fully there but here he does not address the WHY. In far too many Black communities there is zero access to supermarkets. There are food deserts and public transportation and the family is buying their “meals” at a corner store/mom and pop market that sells processed food, no vegetables, junk, soft drinks and chips. Meanwhile the other communities will have three supermarkets within 2 and 3 miles.
This also leads to children who aren’t fed nutrional, balanced meals and they don’t learn to eat well and since their eating patterns and palates aren’t established early, they grow up craving this Standard American Diet with flavorants, chemical additives and GMOs. It’s far deeper than just being “lazy” or “unaware.”
I hate him but this is good advice I know women r getting BBL and then taxing men.
@@noble604 But we find access to buy gucci, fendi and prada, living in squalor. And somehow we have enough money to go to Thailand and Bali. This was caused by the system but its our responsibility to fix ourselves. No one owes us a damn thing, like Kevin said. I grew up poor in the hood but my parents are educated and well informed. We didnt have the best but they knew sacrifices where it counted and that was nutrition and education.
Now, there is definitely no excuse because of social media. How many healthy accounts on Facebook, instagram and hell, on youtube. It is being lazy and narrow minded.
No one buys Gucci and Prada on a daily basis. We’re talking about getting your daily bread in the hood with zero choices other than fast food, bodegas, mini marts and mom and pop stores with no meats, fish, vegs or frozen foods. There are bad choices there yes. We’re talking about having no choice.
@@noble604 where is there no choice tho? There's always a choice. More excuses.
And of course no one buys gucci, Fendi and Prada on a daily basis because their paychecks are depleted by then and they have to buy McDonald's because that's all they can afford. Again, it's their decisions. You dont have to shop at whole foods and organic stores. The bodgeas have apples, and bananas, oatmeal and eggs. And Water, they always have water. Again, tell me where there is no choice but to eat trash?
Most women don't want to put the same work as a Micheal B Jordan but want a Micheal B Jordan ...naw it don't work like that .
Lol truth
He’s ugly though?
Harmony Lowell to you but the way women fawn over him he must be attractive to many .
Most men aren't Michael B Jordans though:
•The overwhelming majority of Black men aren't walking around with 6 pack abs and muscular arms.
•Almost none of the Black Male community can offer the financial security and stability that MBJ can offer. (Just look at the rates of average White male earnings and average Black male earnings).
•Quite a few Black men can't offer a relationship that doesnt come with out of wedlock children.
Even if you meet a skinny, slim, slim thick or whatever build of woman as your dream woman, the majority of Black men cant offer what Michael B Jordan, or even a regular White man, can offer.
@@TomikaKelly - That goes both ways. We all should know the history of this country. If all the women go to the "best provider" and all the men went to the "most feminine" there would be no black couples left, we'd all be swirling because the country is built for whites and they have the most resources and grow up in the most comfortable homes. We need to concentrate on breaking that cycle versus running to the ops.
Oh man, this one hits HARD. My store manager in the past, who happened to be a black woman, always described herself as "curvy", but she weighed more than 230 lbs at 5'6"! She weighed MORE THAN ME, a 6'1" 220 lbs guy in the military! When I asked her whether she did anything for fitness or diet she deflected. She's 35 or so, and I worry that a lot of women with the same problem will barely make it to 60. It's the same crazy movement about "body positivity", and I get that different people will be different in size, but when someone is morbidly obese, people need to realize there is a problem.
Men who fetishize women who are obese are not helping either. You should care about your and your partner's health.
This is all facts, I’m 6’1” 225 and yet if I say I don’t want to date a woman heavier than me, I’m called all kinds of names under the sun. Funniest thing is weight is a physical trait you CAN change unlike something like height which women are so particular over that a man cannot change. Ladies you think if a man could become 6’4” just by going to the gym how many men would be there every single day!
That’s the thing- many men in the black community do fetishize obesity in women.
@@tfromcali89 You’re speaking for yourself. Not every black man- and trust me- there is a common stereotype of black men with obese white women.
I used to be the woman who said accept me the way I am or leave. But then I had a wake up call with my health and understood where my bf was coming from but yeah I’m 41 I was at 250 now I’m at 198 still working on it. Now I can see things better from a man’s point of view and also I’ve realized that my relationship is really important and I value him as he is. So basically I’m working out for both me and him and I want to be healthy as well.
I’m 5’4”, 137 pounds and I’m an aberration walking around. It’s sad to see my sisters so overweight and unhealthy.
Drake confused them all with that BBW garbage🙎🏾♀️
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You need to lose 15-20 lbs Girl.
Very good and truthful content. Ladies, we need to heed this guidance.
A woman who has reason, logic, and sensibility...very rare.
Yep we getting BBL and taxing these men.PERIOD
@@nellynel6141 absolutely not rare. Millions of women from around the world would also agree.
@@nellynel6141 Sadly, your analysis describes more BM than BW.
LEE I actually, although sadly, agree with you Lee.
No lies here. I actually talked about this with my boyfriend the other day, just the importance of staying healthy and in shape for both black men and women. I see nothing wrong with a man wanting this from his woman. If we as woman can demand a man to provide financially, which I absolutely agree with, we definitely gotta keep ourselves up in the physical. One of the few things we can control as people is what we put in our body, so we gotta be more mindful. Once you start living a healthy lifestyles, it transforms your mental health and confidence so much.
Go travel to other countries, in South America and Asia. Those people are not overweight. It is an epidemic across cultures and races in the US. It has gotten so bad I fear this is now normal and is ingrained.
Losing weight is a person’s choice imo. I’d never require it of someone. I’m losing weight because I WANT TO not because I have to or I’m a moral failure of sorts. I do want to feel beautiful to me and be more confident. That’s more for me than a partner though.
Personally, I have started thinking I want to be with someone who will understand being overweight/obese. If say they are or were overweight/obese or they’re just tolerant for some other reason. To be okay if that’s how I am because I am pretty obese actually. 30lbs smaller, but still pretty obese. Though at the same time, I want to be with someone who will also want to lose weight or encourage me to do so. Encourage not force or expect me to be a tiny girl when and if I do not wish to be a tiny girl. I was as a child, but even if I continue to lose the weight, I’m not sure I’ll be able to get back to that tiny girl. I was actually a little too tiny (underweight) back then too.
I want to have similar interests basically and right now one of my interests is weight-loss. I want to be healthy and I do not want to watch a partner die from preventable health issues. So overweight is okay in a partner imo, but being past a certain weight is not. The weight being so bad the relationship would be more caretaker than wife (if I get married). I may not wish to be married. That’s when I’d say it goes too far. I don’t want to play nanny/nurse to someone who is meant to be my life partner.
He’s completely right , I was most healthy at a size 4 . My sugar was down and I felt great and looked good 😌. I’m working on myself at the moment... ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love hearing him speak. Every time I mention being fat, changing my diet, etc. there is such a strong reaction. "Oh no you're beautiful blah blah blah" and I respond with uhhhhh I never said I think I'm ugly, YOU equated fat as ugly and had a strong response. I have a very pretty face and I'm also overweight. They shut down when I word it that way. People are just very sensitive and it is how I ended up on KS's channel in the first place.
Loving yourself 1st sis! Lots of physically fit woman out here who are not “healthy” health is global. Lose weight and do what you do for YOU and no one else.
@@tinacloke2821 your making a excuses for being fat …
Love the response. I'm using it. 😉😊
Yesss. Oh my goodness. I get the same reaction. I want to lose about 40 to 50 pounds to be within my healthy weight range. And the predictable reactions from family and friends ensue "That chart is for white people" and "You won't look right if you too skinny." I swear, only black people think that being a 140 pounds at 5 foot 3 inches is too skinny. 🤦♀️
It's because they are insecure about themselves and their weight so they assume you have the same insecurity but they just ignore how true that is and say you shouldn't worry about it. Toxic behaviour and is what led me to being 250lbs, never again
We have to encourage our sisters to lose weight and be healthier by raising ourselves, becoming AMAZING men. Hard working, providers, honest, loyal, healthy, masculine, protective and leaders of families. This is on us brothers: Greatness seeks its own level and we must meet our greatness within ourselves first.
Encourage our sisters to lose weight presumes they will listen. Even an AMAZING man doing & being all those things will get much pushback from our sisters. They say "love & accept her as she is". I quoted Eph 5 to a sister who subsequently divorced, she said " I got a problem with that". They very word submit causes sisters grief!!. As others here have posted, we have a culture that now embraces "thick" regardless if men like it or not.
@Jermaine Burgess You might be onto something
@@antoniotula262 Very fucking true. Then we gotta reject women who don't meet that criteria and seek thr healthy ones
No its not on us. They have to take responsibilities for themselves.
I'm a woman (but not black)... encouragement is good for women who are already on this transformation path, you see that she's making efforts and a healthy environment (provided by you and with your help) will keep her focused. But you can't make someone who's unhealthy AND unwilling to do anything to keep track with you. You'll hear all kind of excuses: I've tried everything, I have hormonal issues (right... I also have them but jogging 5 times a week solved them like a charm lol), I'm "built" like this,etc. Your life will turn into a living hell. You look like a good man, I hope you'll find (or you're already with a good woman) someone who'll appreciate your efforts and blossom thanks to your caring and manly self.
Both sides hsve issues here. All men are not select. In fact I'd say that most on here complaining are not.
Just like physical beauty isn't necessarily all that it takes for a woman to be wifey material. Looks, money, and status isnt necessarily an indicator of a good husband/father.
The average person of both genders need to relax their superficial standards, humble themselves, and do the work necessary to make themselves happy, whole and complete.
As men and leaders, we really have stop putting so much emphasis on sex and our notch count.
Think about it, Its like we want a wholesome woman (at least with a limited sexual history) for marriage....
But we will still damn near require any woman we want to date to have sex with us fairly quickly. If she doesn't, then we will find those who will.
🤔imagine if every guy ....select or non select did thst? Wait...we do. And now look at the catch22 we create not just for them, but us as well.
If we aren't planning on marrying her, thrn we shouldn't be having sex with her....we're messing it up for thr next man who might actually be interested in raising a family with her.
🙏 Amen
We as women and men have the ability to influence in such a positive way but unless we evolve its just finger pointing and most acting like their dunk dont stink in one form or another..character and integrity compassion what is that?
I believe love conquers all things with patience and understanding ✨ ❤
Dont expect too many likes on your post
This is too real..not for the carnally minded still stuck mentally in the matrix.
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@@RealLadi228 its true but much easier said than done. The reason why the average woman is so easily dissatisfied with the average man is because of the illusion of too many options.
Too many men will say/do/tell a woman anything (including lie) to get her into bed.....even if his only intention is to have sex with her. And many women believe them.
But we as men cannot call these men out....and even if we do it doesnt matter.....she's gonna do what she wants anyway.
I csnt blame women exclusively because if the roles were reversed where it was much easier for the average male to get laid than the average woman..... we'd probably put unrealistic expectations on them as well even though we ourselves weren't really much of a catch.....
Wait.....we already do that🤦🏿♂️
No point in complaining tho. K.s. makes a lot of sense.....but i do think that he is speaking from the worldview of a 'select male' with gsme. He is in a small minority and most of the men are here comment CAPPING....LOL
A lot of thirsty men are out here are still simping so post wall women with kids will still get chosen.
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I agree..I dont appreciate the double standards
Men should keep their male anatomy zipped up they use women for sexual purposes and then dismiss them once they find their preferred egotistical option even leaving sons and daughters in the wind knowing biologically women equate sex with love..women should also keep their legs closed to men that obviously aren't trying to commit to anything but sex..im curious does hvm come a dime a dozen?..it certainly seems to be put out there like they are...
I do believe we should become that which we desire but more importantly do it for yourself not to bag or keep any man on any level...Being honest with yourself and staying in your own lane.
As a 35 year old man I still lift and eat right . I told a lady I work with I track my calories and she told me I had a eating disorder 😑
Do you use an app to track calories? Or just take mental notes?
"Thick" took on a new meaning in the late 90s early 2000s when the South got heavy in the game..
Actually the late 2000s early 10s when illegal injections. Wanting the bottom huge allowed for all of the weight to get out of hand. Also some men view a woman’s fitness as a threat that she’s seeking another man not true.
tia84ification I was just going to say this!!! The injections have taken it way over the top. And people forget that the women getting these injections are 90 pounds soaking wet- so it’s not like they lost weight in the right places. Most black women have the natural shape that these women are paying for, unfortunately it’s under a bunch of fat
This deserves 5000000000 likes, my brotha, I have said this for years.
Lets face it, thick is used by lot of simps whom feel they're lucky to get what they have esp if they're dusty... Dont get me started on instagtam era
Lol "when the south got heavy in the game." That made me laugh
"We should have declared a national emergency on weight in the black community two decades ago." The problem is we are too busy focused on race to address the real issues.
I agree. The inter-racial issues are a major distraction and are not the most important at the moment
Nottt! To busy focus on weaves and nails...
These brothers have to lead in this area. Most men are in no position to confront their woman about weight. They are obese themselves and don’t have any interest in being healthy. Men have to understand that our influence on our women is powerful. But we must be leaders in all areas of life first. If the majority of African American men were healthy the women would get on board. I see it all the time with my clients. When the man gets in shape the spouse will soon follow because no woman wants to look “out of place” her man or feel left behind. 💯
Black males have the 2nd lowest obesity rates behind Asian men and Black woman have the highest of all women. It’s not a black male problem. I see plenty of black males at the gym and those who take care of their health, why aren’t black woman doing the same? The individual has to want to change and educate themselves on diet and health.
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@@BlackMarq20 this is facts. I always see atleast 6-10 black dudes at my gym, sometimes more.
We as niggas know we cannot be physically unfit and hope to pull beautiful women.
@@BlackMarq20 while technically true, black mens rates of obesity are still closer to white and Hispanic men than Asian. It’s closer to 50% than the approx 20% of Asian men. If it was closer to Asian men, then the black community wouldn’t have the highest obesity rate. Either way it’s still a big problem.
"Men are the consumers, and men aren't buying it"
What a legend. RIP.
I'm glad you have faith in us Kevin. You can do it ladies...let's improve for the better!
I’m a black woman married to a black man. I needed to lose weight so he encouraged me. I’ve tried so many times...I would lose weight then gain it back. Now my husband and I work out together, we eat healthy together. I now lose weight without even trying. Intermittent fasting and low carbs have changed our lives. We need to start building each other up as a community. A little motivation and encouragement instead of judgement goes a long way. Good day my people ❤️
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Question. How in the world do you have a discussion about obesity WITHOUT addressing monsanto/"food deserts" in the hoods/ and the lack of quality health care? How do you ignore the fact that
America, as a nation, has gotten fatter? 😲
that's a bigger issue, at the end of the day though..you control what goes inside your mouth as an adult. You know what's healthy from what's not healthy. You have to be accountable for your own waist line lol
@@mctreasure You missed the point. 😐
@@LUX_8 elaborate, what was your point?
mctreasure wooow.
@@mctreasure The point...you missed it. But if you hurry you can still catch it. 🙄
Your access and resources are part of the realm of your control. I can afford to not live in a food dessert, shop at Whole Foods, buy organic, get a gym membership, and pay for perks like a FitBit. Many of those who aren't as privileged as I am cannot do that. When you look at health and weight across socioeconomic backgrounds REGARDLESS OF RACE the wealthier tends to fare better in ALL races. My individual access to resources has allowed me to have an accountability for my waistline that those who don't share my background dont have.
(P.S. I do this for a living so don't even THINK about trying to debate me. You're not qualified to speak on this and I dont want to embarrass you. 😏)
Im a petite black woman & I get bashed alot for being slim all the while they love to praise heavy/thick black women now..Being big is the "thing" now they glorify this.
Where do you live, I'm guessing the south.
It’s an agenda . That’s why they market people like lizzo. Anytime they wanna push a movement (mostly negative) they use the celebrities
Black love is fake & superficial. Black men hate black women. Including their own mothers & children. We get it. Do you have anything else to do/showcase with your time. It's just remedial & sad at this point. 😖😩🥱
Smh...2024 and nothing has changed
I'm studying medicine, and when we learnt what obesity rlly does, I was actually terrified, bc my mom is overweight so I put her straight on a diet and daily walks. When we practise in hospital, most of the patients are fat, literally 9/10. And not even that old, 40+ has still much to live. This is such an issue, and it should be one's priority to be healthy. I see often times women online being like I'm fat but I'm good, I'm healthy. No you're not, no way. The symptoms just haven't shown yet. There's interesting rule our teacher told us: if u look down standing , and you see your belly, you have insulin resistance. That's pretty much cause of most of today's health troubles.
It’s so bad that nurses are getting injured from turning the patients! At UCLA the nurses are no longer allowed to turn patients. They have a “lift team” of two orderlies who go all around the hospital. If the nurse is busy and doesn’t catch the lift team, the patient is SOL until they come around again in 2 hours! Your loved one may be thin, but they suffer because the world is compensating for the obese.
I work at a hospital too. We have xxl wheelchairs. I have seen patients with BMI of 60 and only 50 years old with shortness of breath. The diaphragm has been weakened because it’s surrounded by visceral fat.
I have worked in healthcare and many of the nurses are overweight as well. And some of the doctors and PT personnel. How can you give advice to a patient when you are overweight and do not set a healthy example ?
How do you get rid of the insulin resistance 👀
@@naturalbeauty4892 Dr Eric Berg here on RUclips can help you with that.
I use to be lazy, gave up on diets, and stopped working out. I reached my breaking point when I felt my heaviest and started working out everyday and going back to my diet and ended up losing a lot of weight to where I’m average. There is no excuses, just do it.
This is the most sensible, professional, platform I've ever seen him. You can be honest and direct without scolding and putting ppl down. He spoke much truth.
I never look at weight as an issue until I started having problems. I was 199 5’4. I cut off all my bad eating fast forward I’m 147
Congratulations for doing the work! You must feel so much better now
Thank you for this powerful eye-opening message. I am black and overweight. My goal is to work on my Body Mind and Soul. A little bit each day. 🙏💪✌️
Pleas sis work on all that for YOU.... not some dude.
You've never been in a West Indian household they are always brutally honest about weight. Too skinny too fat the aunties and other family members will let you know. LMAO.
I agree! Meaghan Markle was an example.
not true with all west Indian parents. but i guess it's because my mother has assimilated with black American culture too much, she just watched me gain weight and never said anything. got slightly offended when telling her i wanted to drop the extra weight (not big, but if I didn't stop my habits I'd be that already)
@TheOne111 my mother wasn’t raised here, she came while she was a young adult
Yes! I have West Indian parents! And yes, they are brutally honest! I completely agree!
Yep!! Lol. And then watch the West Indian parents interact with your North American wife from the culture that gets offended by everything lol.
Stop eating meat... Especially that damn pork. Men & Women !
Guilty only bacon is my guilty pleasure
What should we eat instead?
Alex Zoldyck vegetables
Alex Zoldyck Check out Ras Kitchen channel
It's not the meat. It's the carbs.
180 to 200lbs has been the new norm for a while now. Doesnt matter what their height is. They have been making the men get use to it by calling it "thick"
It’s does matter by height. 5’10 200+ women that gain weight in there thighs, butt, and hips tend to be more desirable. If your 200 pounds and 5’10 your going to look average( because the average women gains weight everywhere. Between skinny and fat) Weight distribution is very important.
My mom always bullied me so hard about my weight when I was younger but I’m so glad cause when I went through my breakup I was able to lose 15 pounds to get to my desired weight easy
I was telling my brother this the other day, whether it be physical or mental we don’t take out health seriously
I gained 40 pounds during the pandemic. I couldn't work out effectively, because my gym closed April 2020 and is still closed. My lover was so grossed out, (Black man raised in Compton, CA) that he dumped me for a white woman, and pulled me by my hair and threw me into the Los Angeles freeway. He called me all kinds of names, and yelled no one wants you! He drove off leaving me stranded in the middle of the freeway. I will never be in the company of another man, after that. I will however, start working out again as I have relocated to Switzerland where the gyms are open. I have started with ginger and tumeric tea and exercise.
I am so sorry that low class man treated you like that. But don't give up on love.
That was not a man and you dodgef a bullet.
That guy is a nut... good riddance!
😒😒😶😲☹😟...
Damn, being overweight is a bad thing, but potentially murdering you is some next level violation. Someone who abandons you without remorse shouldn't be your partner
As a black woman I get "skinny" shamed by my own people.
There is some validity in this discussion. However, I was a single mom - size 10 to 12 depending on the day. I dated many good, successful, handsome men. I ended up marrying a hero that loves me and my (our) son w/o question. There is a beauty in blended families. There is work, but it's beautiful. Just saying for any woman out there that feels like she has a scarlet letter because you have a child or children out of wedlock - God's grace is bigger. You can have the relationship you desire.
@Health-nerd_ROM you are not reading her messages correctly. She is saying whom ever is a single mom already it is hope for them. Heal first mind, body, and spirit. Then get out there in find true love.She is not giving advice about being loose with every man you see
You’re missing the point! Lol
Sounds like a Captain Save a Ho.
She basically saying after letting pookie and ray ray pound her she was finally ready to marry a good man. Imagine this foo living with her and all them dudes that she let hit are still living in her head and for free, rip to your man.
@@luckymetal13 y'all incels are so weird. Are women the only ones who have children out of wedlock. A lot of men come with kids
I awakened to this fact years ago and I constantly place effort in helping my female friends become health conscious and actively pursue an exercise regiment but unfortunately, they begin but after a month or two, resort back to their previous habits. It’s frustrating because I desire to see my sisters fulfilled in every sense of the word. The narrative has to change because for too long, being overweight has been an acceptable way of living.
Awesome.
Tender Agression 😁 great point
It definitely comes after being awakened spiritually then there is much work with healing from any emotional or physical trauma in childhood or as a adult..most are sleep walking unconsciously, its really about self love first instead of seeking love outside of yourself instead of putting in that work..the work plus healing changes the mindset to learn your value and worth without it these expectations of some bw are delusional. 🙃
@@RealLadi228 💯.
Realladi 228 I could have not said it better 👍🏼
Kevin was a Legend among mere mortals. I am asian and I can tell you all that I have seen and been to at least 10 Kevin Samuel functions in NYC and LA. These are sessions where men who earn 500k+ attend because they cant find a quality woman and have little clue on finding one. Many have been burnt and used for their money. I have also met this man several times in ATL and he has helped me and other men be smarter and stay away from bad women. His loss was so profound, I had men who were making over a million a year to Linebackers in college call and cry to me about how they missed him. People just dont know how massive this dude was
I disagree black men come to black women with a whole host of issues. Unattractive, overweight, too many children, too many women, broke , not spiritual,unambitious. Even plus size women have more going for themselves than that. Sorry fellas but most not all black men have too many drawbacks, however we don't dismiss you all for it. We deal with it. Instead of putting us in a short term relationship work with us like we work with you. The reciprocation is not there.
Yes u do
Mr. Samuels stated that 64% of Black men are middle class or better, and an AEI report (2018) confirms that as fact. Those men are the available pool - broke men with no ambition aren't on the radar. With attraction... "water seeks its own level."
@@kevinc3342 I wonder what the ethnic/ nationality breakdown of those numbers are , i.e African, Caribbean, British or American ?
@@cincybest The ethnicity/nationality of the 64% middle class Black men is unimportant - the simple fact is that these men are available to Black women. If Black women are WORTHY, they should have no problem getting these men to marry them.
You left out the big A!!! Attitude! The masculine TUDE! Get it right!
They should want to do it for themselves! It’s so uncomfortable being overweight, and I think truly loving yourself comes from wanting to improve💕
@anelle Wiley you can't love yourself and choose to live an unhealthy lifestyle.
Women began prioritizing gaining weight and “getting thick” when I was coming up in high school. Rappers began glorifying it … the weight got out of control 💁🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Sure did.
The deadly culture.
The first mistake was looking at what rappers saw as the ideal woman. I listened to hip hop my whole life, hell I LIVE the culture but I never looked to no MC to tell me what an ideal woman is. If women went that route because of what some rapper wanted, then that is either a clear lack of understanding the real world or a deficiency in parenting. Or both
It goes further back then that,the lack of physical activity died when soul train died.After the 80s black women stop being active 💃🕺👍👍
I wish ks was still here I use to watch his videos this year I’ve lost 70lbs and I wish I could tell him how he helped me.
This hits on a lot of things I’ve been working on. Health and fitness, physical appearance, and being softer and more agreeable. It’s not easy, that’s why a lot of ladies can’t, won’t, or don’t know how. Even slight adjustments will get noticeable results!
anelle Wiley you ok?
having a man as the ultimate goal in life does not equate to happinesss...good god
Is this your way of justifying why we should let our sisters be fat.
@@motupamakgai3659 the delusion that ALL females need is wraped up in spending their lives focused on being whatever a man desires are with every changing season. narcissitic and self absorbed.....just like your answer....smh. ..
No one is saying that, but this channel is focused on relationships. there are other channels with numerous topics perhaps you should visit those?🤷♂️with that being said finding a suitable mate to procreate with is an important aspect of life so there's no need to pretend it's not. Not most important, but quite important.
@@aaronbrutus2654 thank you so much for making this very clear to her. Maybe we just at different standards of understanding life in general and most women they demand rights without responsibilities.
Say it again
"Don't confuse short term access with long term commitment" K.S👍
I needed to hear that
An African friend told me that "black Americans are more concerned about getting their bodies in shape instead of getting their minds in shape." Weight and looks are fleeting. Character is not.
Honestly staying in shape is keeping the fire and fun in my relationship when I was getting out of control my man was critical but it was only because he loves me and wants me to stay healthy!
I’m putting myself back on my healthy eating and exercise program starting now. I’m blessed to have a fiancé who loves and encourages me, despite the few extra pounds I’m carrying around. It works because he encourages me and never puts me down. He makes me want to be a better me, because he’s a better he. He has a rock solid perfect body and I am gonna have the same for him before our wedding day.
I’m happy that Black community are striving to make a difference and are making changes. 👏🏾
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When I met her she was 130 lbs. She was 230 when the baby came along. The weight really bothered me and I handled it all wrong, but I was, so young.
What did you do? I had an ex check me about my weight once and it wasn’t nice.