Why Are Older Men Staying Single?
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Great video. I’m 66 and recently a widower. I was married for 46 years to a wonderful woman. We grew up together during our marriage. The loneliness is devastating. I’m continuing to work part time just to stay in the social scene. Plus, social security doesn’t cover my bills. I do like some of the freedoms you commented on. I’m trying to stay fit but I still find myself a homebody sometimes. Your video was very inspirational to me. Thanks
Stay strong!
Congrats on the 46 years, sorry for yr loss, be well.
I'm glad your out there working....it really does keep you moving and social. Volunteering or senior centers that have live music and functions help too! Keep smiling everyday because it helps heal you 😁😃🙂
I just turned 64 and I lost my wonderful wife last year in our 40th year of a very happy marriage. After having the best, I have no desire to date or marry again. I see my adult sons every week and I now have a cat to keep me company. My wife loved cats and dogs.
@@ronlapham5508 you are one of the few lucky ones that were able to find a good woman
24 years I've been single. Now I'm 64 and still living in peace. There is nothing like peace.
A marriage made in heaven, peace will never divorce or desert you!
53 and been single 17 years and will die SINGLE!
@@markdrake2715 ..... and, as the statical data shows, one partner is rewarded for breaking that contract with the legal system rushing to cuddle her all the way through her drama that is after all, her prerogative.
@@taras3702 ...for some guys, loneliness won't desert you either.
I’m 24 years single at 72 in good health and loving it.
A comment I read once somewhere else and stuck with me was
" It's better to come home to an empty house than to come home to someone you wish wasn't there "
You got that right! That, my friend, is pure hell!
@Gordon_L There are women who have certain issues and baggage, that only become apparent after the years have piled on. It's emotionally exhausting !!
The reverse is true also.
Better to be alone than wish you were.
Tru dat 💯!!
Every morning that I wake up in bed alone, I think, “Things could be worse. I could be married.”
Yes sir 😅🤠
I love waking up sober and alone in the morning.
🎯 🤺. . . .🥳
Yup. No thanks!
😂😂😂😂
A many years single friend said- "It's so nice not being told I'm doing everything wrong all the time".
Ouch! Brings back some bad memories!
And nice to have the freedom to do what I want or spend on what I want.
Never underestimate the value of living a peaceful life
Exactly! The drama woman bring to your life is not worth some pussy and a blow job and you don't even get that if you let them live with you. They are giving that to someone out on the street.
peacefulness and contentment.
@jimbobaggans1564 -- You got that right!
I have married friends who are in it for the long haul, no matter how much their self esteem gets shattered, no matter how much control they give up, its not enough. The woman needs control and will get it, as she slowly puffs up to the size of a walrus on the beach. She hates herself, only married to have kids, now she plays the game of thrash the husband.
Out of boredom.
Its non PC to say this, I know. I sure see it happen though. Men can be the worst a-hole also, stick it out for a life time though?
As a woman, I totally agree, peace is bliss
I'm 63, divorced for several years. The divorce was costly and took many years to be where I am today.. I'm totally self sufficient and very content being single. I see most women as huge liabilities.. I say most, I'm sure there are good women out there, but risks are way too high. I was lucky, I was younger, for older men, rebuilding wealth may not be an option. Stay single!
@@seanmccann2790 yes, this is my thoughts as well
After 50? 60?
To completely start over financially can be impossible
It can end up as homelessness
Not worth the risk
ALL women are a huge liability, they only want you for your resources!
most females will lie to get what they want (and call it being emotional) and trust is an important issue. Accountabilty and logic are foriegn to most females but to guys it's very important...
🙂 just hire a housekeeper or a nurse to come by every once in a while, you can also lease or rent a girl friend, you never have to cohabitate with anyone, when you cohabitate thats when the problems start
@@MrSamadolfo Yes, by all means, set yourself up for failure. Those "rentals" will eventually cost you as well. They aren't safe, especially if their pimp decides they want what you have. It also perpetuates the actual problem, making it take longer for the correction to occur, and all because you can't control yourself for 20 minutes.
Stay single and enjoy life.
👍👍
I am comfortable in my paid off home, but its lonely when you get older. My kids never had any interest, so its just me. My wiener quit working recently so my need for sex is diminished.
@@gymshoe8862come to the Philippines
no no don’t give up your winer get help nutrition good food and it works again!😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤
I have a neighbor who lives down the street. He comes once in a great while but only for sex. We satisfy each other but we are not of the same class.
62. Married 24 years. Been divorced 13 years. My dogs are all I need: UNCONDITIONAL love.
And them dogs WON'T "drain" your entire bank acct either !!!
😅😅lol
Just me and my dog here too
Same. Happy too
My two dogs are all the company i need.
After a lifetime of being with ppl (parents/univ. roomies/girlfriends/wife (34 ys), kids) after my divorce 8 yrs ago I discovered the absolute contentment in living alone. I date...but I will never co-habitate again. I love having my own drama-free space making ALL of my own decisions. Life is good.
it's great -- enjoy your stress free life
Good for you. As long as you're happy that's all that matters
I'm with you!!
😏 LOL, i agree 100%, everyone is gone now and I inherited the Family Estate, its nice to have the whole estate to myself, i don't plan on moving anyone in, not now not ever. As far as companionship what I do is hire a housekeeper and a nurse to come by every now and then to help me with the property, to cook and clean, and for companionship. And for GFs my cousins usually can find me someone to rent or lease, she might stay overnight or for the weekend, but so far nobody has asked me to move in, most people got their own lives to live anyways, but yeah its really nice to have the whole propery to myself, its a beautiful thing, i got all my hobbies and projects all laid out across all the rooms, the attic, the garage, the backyard 😅
I envy you. Enjoy buddy
I'm 66, if I found myself single or widowed no way in hell I would ever get married again. Not going to happen, no way. Screw that program.
They’re smart staying single but I’ve notice most men they don’t like living alone not like some of. the women stay single forever
Bingo.
So you're married ..... 😂
@@69spook Yes, but I would never do it again.
I actively talk people out of relationships... 1 in 1000 work out, sh1t odds... DONT DO IT.. have many girlfriends, some boom boom, some friends only. Learn to be comfortable being alone... It's not that hard and it's very rewarding.... Take care all
I am staying single in the Philippines. Don't need to raise a single mom's kid from another man, Don't need to rescue a filipina from being poor, Don't need to care for her family. That's why
🙂 i agree 100%, no matter what country you end up living out your Senior Years there is no reason why you 'must' cohabitate with anyone, if you want a GF just see them during the day or during the weekends, they can come over every once in a while, BUT never ever move anyone in. DO NOT COHABITATE. PERIOD.
@@MrSamadolfo some say never bring one home, only meet elsewhere. Hotel, her place...
@@JayDee-x2b 🙂 I feel safer in my own home, I also have security from dusk to dawn, I make sure he's here whenever I have company
Good decision sir..
Just go to Bangkok
The same reason why older women aren’t getting remarried too.
Absolutely…..wonderful husband of 46 years died 3 years ago. No one could EVER replace him!!!
No need for you to remarry, you probably already robbed some guy in a divorce.
@@carolblair2845 Same. Wonderful husband of 57 years,, died 2 weeks ago. He's priceless, irreplaceable!!
Never getting married again. I will be just a friend but nothing more. Was married to the love of my life for 40 years. He passed in 21. He was in care 5 years before he died. Been without a man for nine yrs. Yes I'm lonely but I do fine.
@@Leslie-es5ij Won't bother with widows, won't bother with divorcee's (gold digger), won't bother with spinsters (what's wrong with them that no one wanted them). yah.....that leaves you .......with.......a cat.
When you're single and someone gets on your nerves, you can just smile and walk away. Nobody owns you.
yup, you don't have to walk on eggshells either 😎
Yes! No explanation, no hurtful discussions, no risk of being trapped in a violent encounter. I like to use the "I feel called to a more spiritual life" reason for not seeing someone anymore. They really cannot argue with God, and they are not insulted, either.
Women with tattoos don't do it for me. Even just one tattoo is a turn off.
They are the worst...
Agree 100% !
Tatts are trashy AF
Me too tattoos suck
I agree it’s not nice looking like smooth clean skin . Looks dirty and unhealthy to me .
I’m a woman and I don’t blame men for staying single.
I worked at a place that had a lot of women come and go and I'd say 1 in 30 are marriage material
@@iviekicklighte673 I'll bet 30 out of 30 think they are.
Its that attitude men are looking for☺️
It's sad when women attack other women. Who are you...a fashion model??? If not, then who are you to say? And yes, I'm a woman too, and there are plenty of nice women with pleasant personalities who aren't models but are 20 lbs. instead of 40 lbs. overweight and don't wear sweat pants or have tattoos, and who are engaging, would love to keep a man company and do his dishes & clean & do laundry and take care of him, in the U.S.A. It has to work both ways, though, too.
@@joaquimioakim229 Women are expert manipulators! A lot of men know this, but when the manipulation shows its true ugly face , men still go "YES DEAR"!
My wife is very smart and tactfull with a good sense of humour. Makes a huge difference when you live in a trustfull enviroment. I've been married 56 years to the same women , but can honestly say, stand up for yourself or there will be no right side just hers. It's all up to you as a man to make it so!
I am a nurse with a purse and happily single. Never took a dime from a man. It was Dutch treat all the way. For those of us of a certain age, men and women, who are single, it is kind of natural. No reason to sign a contract and live together. I ended up single through my own actions and choices. Own your choices and destination; understand how you got there and be okay with it. No need to blame anyone. We are the captains of our own boats. Aloha from Maui 🌸
Thank you, Well Said!
Miss Walsh, if I ask you for dinner I expect to pick up the tag. I guess it's how I was raised.
@@daveberry8562 I agree with you, Dave. That was a poor choice on my part!
The first 50 years were a blur, now I’m comfortable in my peace and quiet.🙏
Why turn my life upside down for nothing!!!? They just are not worth it!!!
☺ yeah its weird, theres days when i recall my whole life, the nostalgia is strong
At 73 life speeds by so fast it feels like when I just get up the sun is already going down
@@rogergardner7740 😏 Broh, your in a Time Warp 🌀
Why Are Older Men Staying Single?
WOMEN!!!!
I agree besides beibg controlling and domineering, Im not going to be controlled so I want to remain free.😂
Tired of the BS!
Woke feminism and the law
It’s a two way street . …..lucky to have the perfect partner.
There are a lot of elderly damaged goods on the loose. I have encountered a few.
Nothing better in life than taking a nap mid day in a quiet peaceful house
Or whenever u want to.
Nothing more horrifying than being forced awake by someone barging into the room with nothing but questions, demands or more tasks for you to do
Love me a good nap.
YES.!!!!!!!!
Totally agree, that’s what I am doing
Older women too. No more relationships. No nursmaid life for me! I am fit and happy and successful. My being single is a GIFT from God.
@@notw333 I’m right there with ya, Sis!
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@notw333 another woman enjoying being single
Trying to love 2 women is like a ball and chain------------most women are crazy, stay single boys
Being alone is not scary for people that are alone but aren't lonely.
True. I lived alone for many years. I was comfortable and at peace.
Research : "THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF
SOLITUDE"
I’m alone for 24 years after my divorce but never lonely.
My upbringin with moving around a lot helped wire me to feel comfortable being alone. By the time I was in first grade, I had lived in Montana, Seattle, and had visited much of the east coast of the U.S. In fact buying my current and only house 20 years ago was hard because I do not like the idea of being tied down, but it was necessary. Now that apartments are upward of $2,000 a month, so glad I kept it.
What does loneliness feel like I really don't know what it feels like .
Married 47 years, then she told me it was all fake, and she had never loved me even before we married. She was also having dozens of affairs. Finally as I turn 70, she steals the car and embezzles $40,00 out of our mortgage credit, and has the bank lock me out of our joint account. She got half my pensions. No remorse, no apologies, no warnings.. a pyscopath wh...re. Now 82, 13 years later, I am bankrupt and living in a tiny RV, and loving it. You hit most of the main points.
You're a man that cannot be beaten. Even the Devil would give up.
I'm sorry that happened to you.
OWch.
Yeah. Remember the song..."Where is the love?". Rare these days with women who mostly just want a man that can be a cash cow. And have assets to try and get. There are exceptions, but those exceptions will wonder about life on the other side too.
OJ Simpson killed his wife and got away with it in full view. Is that happiness? DON'T THANK SO!
I've dated many younger women in the US. The problem is that it can be a lot of work. I would rather do my hobbies.
Dating should occupy a smaller compartment of a mans life.
Fire is good for cooking things but it's not wise to risk burning the house down playing with it.
Ditto!!!!👍👍
they have their place if they are available and are not mooching off of you, just keep it casual
I’m 54 and just got out of a 9 month relationship. I feel like a kid on summer break. I don’t have to take her to ikea, fix her car, or unclog her drains, etc and etc.
Like a European colleague once said to me "American Women think very highly of themselves".....sorry to say but true.
I was married for 34 years. I did my time.
Are you single now
I divorced my wife at 59, a 40 year relationship
I lost half of everything but didn't even try for more, I was just glad to be rid of her.
But I look around and I don't find many women within my age range to be attractive physically. Add to that many women are either unpleasant or dangerous in terms of mental health, financials, kids, ex partners, "issues".
@@jeffkline9191Probably the menopause, I’ve been going through it now for ten years and you can’t tell from one minute to the next how she will be which is awful to live with. Still , I am assured it lasts no longer than 15 years , so I’m two thirds of the way to freedom and getting back the woman I married. I have read history a lot and many women of late 40s to 60s age were often sent to the mental hospital in the past by their husbands and I think I know why .
Basically.
Need to be flexible. Men are át ur age has issue too!
So true
I think it's genderless now. I've had some good relationships but ultimately it's very difficult to find unity overall. People are very disjointed now!
Technology and narcissist
72 & single here…married twice….Happy life without a wife!
You are right, I am a single female your age, living in a beautiful house , have good income, why do I need an older man living in a small apartment with no security…. To take care of him? If he needs a companion let him Hire one- $3-4 k per month room and board. You can find a woman Your age, status but you have to Offer her something. That is the reason why you men are single- you want who you Can not afford. Good luck
Good for you! I believe the single life is great for both male and female. We don't need anyone. We both have everything we need without all the drama! It's totally awesome!!
@@Умничка51 No, the notion that women have that they must be as you alluded to "afforded" is far more to the reason of why men are choosing to be single.
amen 2 dat !
Snap kiddo...72 too and content the way it went.
Hey **we're both poets**😄
I asked my mate why he never got married.
He said " because i never found anyone better than myself" Laughed my head off at the perfect answer
Yep - I never found a wan who was close to being my equal!
U r why women r alone. U r not special
He is right
@@thehowlingmisogynist9871 yup they must have all been better
@@WoutervanTiel - Men and hypergamy, eh?
Just scrolling and found your video. Straight facts and to the point. I appreciate that. I'm a woman in my early 60's living in a small town but not terribly small, divorced for years, and the dating pool here is not good for me, never has been as a black person. Lots of factors involved but my area is quite beautiful and I choose to stay here for family and affordability. I dont need to get married again but sometimes miss an engaging dinner companion or just someone to hang out with for an outdoor concert. Anyway, men and women are in the same boat. We do need each other but not to our detriment.
Well said.
@Back-handedLuck-ul7ms Thank you
In my 50s my divorce recently wiped me out Lost my house,car and savings for the most part.Cant imagine dating let alone marrying again.The financial aspect gives me no choice but to remain on my own.No friends and all my family is dead.Didnt think I would be struggling like this.Wish I never invested in my dead marriage, I would be in a much to better Women will try take you for your last penny while swearing they care about you,complete fabrication.
sorry for your loss, its just not right, its happening all over the country, something like 300,000 Divorces per year, thats alot of guys getting cleaned out, in only three years that more than 1million guys that got cleaned out, its a huge wealth transfer scam
Sorry for your loss! At the age of 60,my wife of 23 yrs cheated and took me to the cleaners. I’m from Canada and met a lady 10 yrs my younger in Thailand. She is here now and we have been married for 3 yrs. Never been happier… I spend winters in Thailand with my wife. Don’t let a past relationship ruin your future.
@@brentfroese218 Yeah, but there's another bloody Mother-in-Law hiding somewhere....
I thought it was difficult finding compatible women in my early 40s - I can’t imagine being a guy in his 40s or 50s and trying to date again. Good lord lol
@@moonraker124🤣😂🤣😂🤣
My response to women: "So you're saying the benefit for me to being in a relationship with you is that I can slice out a large part of my day doing crap I don't want to do, pay for stuff I have no interest in having, and hanging with your family and friends who don't interest me? Hmmm...nah, I'll pass."
Wow!!😂
You hit that one, on the nail...
Us healthy, active older women feel the same way.
@@kamaboko1 exactly…. 💯
As a near, life long, bachelor, that's something I noticed with married couples. It's difficult to spend time my married male friends because they're always drug to doing things with the wife's family and friends. They don't lead their household, the wife does. It's an Isaiah 5:20 backwardness.
@@linhaton4957 Nice to hear a woman agree with a man.
Most older men have been taken to the cleaners by their ex-wives - in some cases been married multiple times, they are sick and tired of being sick and tired of dealing with the drama, plain worn out, and discovering peace and tranquillity for the first time in their lives..
😒 i did it four times during my lifetime, ive had enough, from here on out its just girlfriends every now and then, no cohabitation, your not moving into any of my properties
2 more then me holy moly @MrSamadolfo
Never married. Bachelor life is be$t … 🎉
Never again
you know what charlie harper said about marriage " why would i want to give away half of my stuff '?? amen 2 that
Preach it, my brother! It was nice to hear a man around my age (55) say all the truthful things that most people don't say because it's "taboo" to talk about it. I've been a widower for 5 years after 19 years of marriage. Even though I was madly in love with my wife/best friend, it has gotten easier and easier to accept and enjoy my current life as a single man. Thanks for being so honest and speaking the truth about what older men are dealing with and why it makes sense for us to remain single.
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment 😀
I became widowed at age 57, now 80, I live with my two dogs and never been happier.😊
dogs are better than people
Im a female, and I'm so happy with my 4 dogs. It may get a little lonely sometimes, but coming home to a bunch of wagging booties really makes my day.
That's cool.
@@montanagal6958 1000% My dogs greet me after work with unconditional love, cant beat that!
Dogs really cannot love people You are delusional.
Single men have PEACE. Nothing is better.
@@poollife777 Why are you even commenting (assuming you are a real person)? You hate peace? I suspect that if you're real, you're full of delusions and headed for a divorce.
@@poollife777 "your guy" can't speak for himself? You are the reason men want to be single.
Single woman are better of
@@dianekeller7534 🤷♂️ Nobody's forcing you into anything. Enjoy!
why didnt I get single sooner!! Nothing has been better for my life than to not have a girl or woman in my site every day
I wouldn't get married again in the west because you find out its really a contract with the State during divorce. That cost me 1/2 of everything including my 401K, loss of majority custody of kids plus about 30% of my income for the next decade all because she was "unhappy" living in a 3,800 sq ft home with 3 car garage on a golf course. Not going to happen again!!
omg
Unbelievable to me that a woman can decide to leave a man and take half of his assets etc. I could see getting something if she raised kids and worked hard and then he cheated or something. So sorry but hope it gets better for you soon. Hope you like quiet, I sure do.
@@lifeonamarble961 It happens everyday in the West. They write all the legislation around Dead Beat Dads but it completely allows them to take someone with a good job and a 401K to the cleaners.
@franciscoaguilar123 In EVERY SINGLE CONTRACT that is entered into the party that breaks said contract is liable for damages in a court of law...ALL contracts with ONE exception...The Marriage Contract...Whereby a woman can break it (along with her marriage vows) for no reason at all and reap great rewards for doing so...And women file for divorce 80% of the time (or thereabouts depending on whose statistics you're reading)...Until there is a fundamental sea-change in the laws and the "court of public opinion/perception/reality) marriage should be AVOIDED AT ALL COST in my humble opinion...It's like playing Russian Roulette with 4 slugs in the chamber...Good luck to all...
Jordan Peterson say a divorce will cost you $250,000 and ten years of your life. This is spot on. And your ex will be thrilled to tear down everything you built up, house, retirement, savings, cause it makes her feel powerful and gets you back for everything you did wrong. She, of course, did nothing wrong.
Divorce means starting over at 40-something building up a house and retirement.
I'm 65 and single for the last 20 years ! And love it.
Being alone is when you truly find peace and happiness. Truth
You can also find your clothes, your shoes, your watch, etc. exactly where you last put them 😁😆🤣
27 years on my own and love it ❤ I'm financially OK divorced twice didn't want a penny from either them ,just glad off the peace and quite and don't have to run a though past anyone,hey I fancy a new couch ,just go and buy one 😂😂😂when I see a drunk man ,I think thank god that's not coming home to me tonight .all joking aside I like being alone ,never lonely. There's a great sense off peace ,you get to know yourself worth I think.
@@junemcquaide9726 absolutely 🎉🎉🎉
If it flies, floats, or fornicates, it's cheaper to rent than to buy.
Sound Wisdom 👍
“Small town in Indiana “. Ouch
@@MrFranman01 I was from a Small town in Indiana (South Bend 106K people) and today I live in Valencia a suburb of Dumaguete (106k people) and am 1000X Happier then i was 2 1/2 years ago when i started my journey and you can always get a prenuptial agreement, a fidelity clause and even add in a "Intimacy clause" where you have relations a specified amount of times per week or month. P.S. Ladies of the night here are in ALL the big and small cities and cost allot less if that is then Anywhere in US as $1000 to $3000 peso ($20-60) gets you a stunning Beauty for the night if you only want transactional fun.
Good one!😂
Well said!
Why would a mature man want to play a traditional role in a relationship when it took them a lifetime to gather what they had to have half of it ripped away by a woman who spent her life with other men?
This boils it down really well. It is just that simple!!! Well said.
Bingo
Because we marry people we love and who love us.
@narendra7817 Trying to explain love to some people is like trying to explain purple to a blind man. Just because you are unlucky enough to have never experienced love does not mean it does not exist.
🎯👌👏
This is kind of refreshing. Glad to hear it’s not just us feeling this way.
Thank you for watching. It's nice to hear a woman's opinion.
Never sign a contract with someone who benefits by breaking that contract. (Marriage)
Yup. Find a woman who hates you and buy her a house!
I've always wondered...
If a man speaks in the forest, and there's no woman there to hear him, is he still wrong?
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🤣😂🤣
Hell yeah and it's gonna bite you in the ass too !
Yes, of course he is. Why are you even asking? You need to find some random woman and apologize.
No he's not wrong for take a hard look at when Adam told Eve not to adhere to any of the serpents(Lucifer 's) advice and low and behold hardheaded as Eve was went on and partook of the Devil's fruit tree and well the rest is history as to why women are the weaker of the two sexes and she'll drag a man down just about every time !!! So if man can find peace and harmony without the aid of a woman then it's not wrong to have that peace of mind and tranquility in life !!! For woman was created to be a helpmate for man and we see all too clearly that the devil screwed that all up I'm sad to say !!!
"Intimidated" is not the word I would use; "repulsed" is more like it.
Goes both ways, you know.
I was married at a point in time. When I would stand up, she would ask me, “what are you doing?” I would explain, “I am going to the bathroom.” Just one of the many reasons I enjoy being single now.😎
That's the reason? Yes stay single...
@@VendieSolde Just one reason…I do what I want, when I want. Without explaining anything.
Risk/benefit analysis: High risk with low yield
Your hat says it all. “Freedom.”
How is that freedom?
@@sylvia2222 wonderful so far.
It's not just the woman. It's their kids, messed up family, their debt and mega drama! Stay single and date.
When you marry a woman, you marry EVERYTHING about her.
See. It's like: "Hey you're great. I had a great time tonight. Can we pull your credit report?" LOL
Oh and the family and/or kids if applicable. Gets real complicated real fast.
The kids always pick up the tab. And it has a negative impact on them every time!
Why even date. All it takes is one psycho... All I did was help a friend with her email and she became my stalker. Took me a few months to realize not a day passed without her attempting contact. Then there were the gifts left on the porch. It got creepy real fast.
@@davidcattin7006 On the other hand, it's amazing to me how many women I've known who have been stalked by men.
You nailed it. I agree with everything you've said. Companionship and a partner to help you with things around the house would be nice, but I've come to an age where I'm content and comfortable with living alone. I've dated lots of women, and lived with several women over the years, but I prefer to live life on my own and do everything I want to do on my terms. I think it's fantastic if couples are happy living with each other, but it just isn't for me. It's okay to be single. In fact, it's a pretty good thing to be on your own and independent!
I'm 61 now, I been divorced since 2017 after a 29 year marriage and knew her for 31 years. Had two kids that she has poisoned them against me. I ask myself what was it all for. Women do not love, they look at men as walking ATM's, period. I do not believe that true love exisist's. I gave my whole heart to her and she basically threw it out like yesterdays trash. I will never, ever trust another woman as long as I live. I have gone through a lot of therapy and figured out how to forgive my ex wife and my childeren and most imortantly I have forgiven myself. In all of that I have found true happiness and it exsists because I recognise my accountability and found a way to forgive. I will never give my heart to anyone again, and I'm ok with that. True happiness is real and no one has the power to give that to you, but only yourself.
You are not alone my friend what you have gone through is exactly the same scenario with the exception i was not married( defacto) and i had a stepson (.raised him from when he was two to 13 when we separated) loved and adored him as if he was my own ' well he was as far as i was concerened. Only to be told at the end i am never to contact him again in any shape or form. The biggest mistake i made was placing my self worth and happiness in my ex and her family's hands.I feel exactly as you do.This is my take , As Gordon Gecko said in Wall Street ........the oldest myth in the world .....Love. Love if it all exists has now morphed into a New name Business! In this modern world being a nice guy, caring , considerate , nutruring is simply not enough , not enough to sustain a modern day version on its own! I actually have been told this by two exes.I as you no longer have the capacity to love again.As well with you i am ok with that too.A great line from a Howard Jones song goes like this
Why look for the key in another?
The answer lay in his own heart
Won't find yourself in some other
It always was there right at the start
Good words to live by i say
You can lie to everyone but your own kids.
They see and they're not daft .
It took me to be an adult to understand my mother's struggles and the grace she had.
Amen I'm 62 my situation is about exactly the same just me and my dogs now 🎉
Me too...me dog is me bud....till death do us part
Good for you brother. Your story sounds exactly like mine.
Most older men have already been through the completely unbalanced hell called marriage, and the meat grinder of divorce.
Now a good beer, a good dog, and a small easily handled fishing boat is ALL you need.
I’ll drink to that!!!!!
And a motorcycle !!!
Amen to that 🤠
It is so crazy to me that women say the exact same thing! I am curious about how marriage objectively really is. I don't want to know enough to get married though. Lol!
I’ve got a small boat. 😊
“My Dog is all the company I need” , brilliant!
Just getting my next best friend too 🐕
@@chippychick6261 Looking for mine now also!
My dog makes better conversation than my ex!
@@mitchellglaser WOOF !!!
Getting a dog is the best thing you can do. Unconditional love.
Accidently found your channel. I subscribed immediately when the video on wh7y men stay single was done. You presented a very lucid and well thought out argument for stay ing single in the US. Well done sir.
Like my dear departed grandmother told me when she was in her late 80s....."you know Hollywood as men get older they just get tired of women's crap"...
Thanks grandma ❤
When I was married I lived paycheck to paycheck and sometimes had to get payday loans. 17 years after divorce, I’m a millionaire. Marriage is not in my future without a prenup.
Me too....but no need for prenuptial cause I won't ever remarry. Not looking to support someone or them to support me. I did my financial homework long ago.
And some judges will not honor prenups. Their excuse is they're doing "what's best for the family".
"There isn't a pre-nup that I can't break" ~ Arnie Becker
Payday loans? Wow! Even at our lowest financially we finally figured it out.
@@KathyTinclerAnd here we have Exhibit "A" why men are now preferring to remain single.
I'm 78 and was married once with one daughter. I was divorced at age 30 after catching my wife with her first husband. She was married 5 times before she died a long and painful death. I now have wonderful times with my daughter, her husband and grandkids. Life is fantastic.
I’m guessing she was beautiful
After two divorces in the USA I met a beautiful Latina online and moved to Mexico twelve years ago. She is a great wife companion and lover. Living my best life here.
Glad to hear one good positive story mine's really bad single now for 22 years and don't want to get taken to the cleaners again LoL I'm happy for you
@@Longj1918 well my second wife got part of my pension so there’s that
I live in Mexico too. I'm turned off by all the tattoos on the women here, the immodest clothing, plus the huge feminist riots every March 8th where they go through the historic district vandalizing everything. And I supposedly live in a conservative city.
Most of the men I see around me here seem simpy and submissive to their women.
I am also very happy with my Mexican wife!
@@banyanstone8480 Latinas are the best
70 here, and very happily married for over 30 years. If something happened to my lovely wife I wouldn’t date, much less marry again. I don’t want to start over again with someone new. If I get to the point where I need help, I’ll hire someone. If I get lonely I’ll get a dog.
@andrewheffel3565 You have been very lucky to have found your soulmate. Cherish that and have a happy life. I was not so fortunate, sadly.
@@roydavis5613 Same here brother!
For 20 years I was told we were soulmates. That was bs too. Soulmate is just a word.
As you get older your companion will become more likely a dog or cat. And there are reasons for that.
You don't pay a prostitute for sex. You pay a prostitute to go away.
Once upon a time a guy asked a girl to marry him. She said "No". From then on, he ate what he wanted when he wanted, he drank what he wanted when he wanted, and he did what he wanted when he wanted, and he lived happily ever after. The end.
Mine said Yes and you know the rest.
@@soma4u289😅
I like that story! Will keep reading it when I get lonely. Thank you for sharing.
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No one should make that decision after 60 years old. Being alone is AWESOME!
The reason Mayberry was so peaceful and quiet was because no one was married. Andy, Aunt B, Barney, Floyd, Howard, Goober, Gomer, Sam, Ernest T. Bass, Helen, Thelma Lou, Clara, and of course Opie were all single. The only married person was Otis and he stayed drunk.
😂😂😂😅
You got me laughing!
I will always love my dearest late husband lost him more than 3 years now and I'm 65 now and will stay as a widow I can't replace him he was very kind, thoughtful, honest and faithful nothing to say a bad word about him.
Lost my wife 3 years ago, married 53 years. Have no desire to be with another lady.
OH MAM IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU THAT YOU HAD A GREAT MAN !!!!
Thank you@@Rusty-Brown_
@@Rusty-Brown_Almost every woman can get a good man if she's able to choose wiseley.
yup, my mom became a widow too, we spent the next 20 years together, I was her caretaker driver housekeeper and nurse. She eventually passed away as well. They are both buried next to each other at a local cemetary. I recently went this Labor Weekend to check up on them. 😇🙏
Life is to short to spend it doing what somebody else wants you to do
😒 exactly, dont be anybodys b
OMG you have hit the nail on the head; I did that and will never do it again... the very thought sends shivers down my spine... from Ivan in NZ
I agree 100%. After 10 years of marriage, moving cross-country and leaving my career 3 times so my husband's career could grow, I discovered I had 1% of the vote when we were deciding important decisions, such as whether I should continue pumping my body full of hormones and poison to prevent pregnancy. I filed for divorce and became free again at 36. Everyone tells women they will never find a man after that age, but this is not true. I had a dating circle of men 15 years younger to 20 years older, and most proposed marriage within 4 dates. But I didn't want to make the same mistake twice, I knew I needed to prioritize my career again and re-build my finances. I decided I would live where I wanted and do what I wanted. My only obligations have been to my parents. At 68 years of age, retired with time to exercise/swim, enjoy my friends, travel, read, cook, everyday feels like Saturday!
Classic! 👍 ...would look good on a T-shirt! 😂
Freedom 55 and single...
Door swings both ways. Widow here, lost the love of my life 15 years ago. Happy to be alone. Freedom!
Have a grown son, career Military and 1 granddaughter. Don't blame these men at all from a lady that is average weight, no tats, and financially independent.
I'm 59 and love being single. I've had long term relationships. I like going out but honestly the guys my age are sharing houses or renting rooms. Have no bank acct, no credit card and owns a vehicle. I want a man who meets me atleast half way. I'm not here to pay someone's way. Even if the guy swears he's the best thing since slice bread....I've paid attention to them in many ways to know...Nope. I have no tats or a women's beer gut that hangs over sweats 😂
Ditto. I’m 70 and a recent widow and still feel married though my husband is dead. After 42 years with one man the only relationship I want is with myself and my dog. Even platonic relationships don’t interest. Processing grief is a full time commitment to oneself.
He left you financially comfortable I take it. Men are often the best investment a woman can make.
Lol, I almost always made far more than him. I am happily divorced, and feel exactly the kind of relief expressed here. Have 2 dogs who are really good companions.
@greatmusicfan57 : God bless you ma'am.
Well said. I'm in that category. I'm just enjoying the rest of my life being single. Thank God for MLB!
Because they are smart. When you are taken advantage of over and over again, you get smart.
Look at the worlds richest man,Musk. He is a marrying fool! 😂
@@MeTreesndirt He can afford it we can`t
The last Woman Ill ever Love died in my arms February 15,2024, Im staying single until I die,Im 60 years old,I know who I am.
God bless you 🙏
God Bless u
Sorry for your loss!😢
Be careful what you wish for. Boys don't get to choose who they fall in love with - - it just happens.
Yep golddiggers especially prey on those who have lost the love of their life. Stay single.
When you’re older and have a few millions to lose, dating is the best approach. It’s cheaper in the long term.
Beware of changing laws , Canada and the UK now have PALOMONEY !!! no cohabitation, no long term relationshit , but you pay her FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE !
amen to that
This was really eye opening for me. Thank you for your candor and sharing how these guys are surviving in their old age. I'm single, older, with a nice group of single lady friends and this is a great video to share so they understand the male perspective.
My wife passed away after 58 years of marriage. I now have freedom to do what I want when I want . It took time to adjust but now I am free. Praise the Lord.
God bless you sir. To a large extent, I get it.
God bless u
58 years is too long for anything.
Praise the Lord for taking her?
@@TurboMountTV I am thankful for such a long good marriage. But now after caring for her at home when she had cancer I am free from worry.
This was a very realistic appraisal of the exact issues older men face. Gonna check out your other vids. Thanks!
Glad you enjoyed it 😊 Thank you for watching
What’s the point? Nothing but risk with little benefits.
Lost my wife of 35 years last October. I am 65 years old and totally agree with this guy. Life can get lonely but because of this video, I recognize I am not alone in this!
56, been widowed since 2012, horrible experience considering it was my second marriage and her kids tried ruining me. Ive went out a handful of times since then but really am content single. I exercise daily so I’m in pretty good shape for any age and the women my age typically aren’t or have a circus from their previous relationships and I have no desire to go to the circus anymore. I do what I want when I want and have absolutely no drama in my life. As I told one attractive woman I was dating a few years back, that thing between her legs doesn’t hold the magical powers it did when I was sixteen.
Facts
😂😅😂 "circus" love that analogy!
I’m sure she thought that the “thing between your legs” didn’t do much for her either. If you look at a person as a body part not a whole human being, you end up deserving a lousy relationship.
@@sw6118 Ok Karen, just stating the fact men change with age just as women do. Sorry I triggered you.
@@samuelfink4799 okay chad. Don’t bother to apologize when you don’t mean it.
Good points you spoke a lot of truth there. I am single, 58, and what you just laid out there resonates. Looking forward to visiting and learning more.
Keep an Open mind, travel to several places and islands and choose a "home base" and date several women and maybe you'll be the "New Expat" living here as i am amazed and Thankful I listened to my buddy in States married to a Filipina as Now I live here
Life is so much more relaxing as an older man when you’re single and alone. Peaceful!
Same for an older woman. :)
@@susanspencer1267 Glad to hear it!
So many valid points. Not worth the headaches.
There's a lot worse things than being alone.
And that's not being lonely as in a relationship that's is more lime a business transaction.
I'm 72 and alone all the time. Not lonely, just alone. I love it.
From early on I watched my parents always fighting and living in misery with each other. Literally, they were bound together until "death do you part". One of them had to die so the other one could be free. Imagine wasting 25 years of your life like that.
@@jabberwocky8021 Same. 100 %
I like being living alone. I have mexican house maid service. I go two to three times a month to the chinese massage palor. I have a dog and walk everyday. My dog goes for rides and errans with me.
I was married for 42 years and when she passed away I wasn’t ready for another wife at first but soon realized I didn’t like being alone. So after two years of being single I prayed that I would meet a woman that was willing to put up with the likes of me and have pleasant and spiritual qualities and within a couple of weeks there she was we hit it off immediately and after five months of long distance relationship phone calls and texting we decided to jump the broom and got married on the beach in Waikiki. Now 8 years later it has been incredible. I was blessed with the love of my life. I didn’t know that life could be so wonderful. So with the help of our creator in answering my heartfelt prayer my wife and I are enjoying ourselves at 75 and 80 we feel like teenagers except for the gray hair sore joints it’s been incredible.
You sound like a good man.
You're one of the lucky ones. Godspeed to you both. I also have a lady friend but we'll stay unmarried due to certain laws such as if she accrues medical debt then they become my debts as well.
So beautiful
You lucky dog!
Praise God
Been there, done that, learned the hard way. A rich friend told me once...if it files floats or f**** it is cheaper to rent. Truer words were never spoken.
I'm single because i'm un-datable. 50yo and never married. As soon as i would tell dates iv never been married, you could see the switch instantly switch to not interested and they would run for the hills. Now i don't even pay them any attention.
They realize instantly that you cannot be lied to. Same here, I love it!
☺ im undateable too, i simply Rent or Lease every now and then
I would think you were a target as no one has taken half your assets yet.
@@andrewlayton9760 Technically Predators don't care if your married or divorced or single or anything like that, they simply want what you have
Same boat. They can see immediately that you cannot be tamed, shamed, abused and financially gutted. That repulses vampires, eh?
Three times I owned a home prior to marriage, and all three times, the woman cheated. I lost all three homes. I cannot afford to lose this one! That means dating is out.
How did that happen?
@@csfan65 It's california. Men walk into divorce court and the Judge listens to the woman explain what was wrong with the husband. Then they ask the husband what he makes. That is how it works. I passed a three hour polygraph and my wife got a six page psych report: I still had to pay over $48,000 for half custody. Judge made me sell my home and the attorneys split the profit from it.
I remember years ago when my mom said to me that she wanted to see me "happily married", telling me it was "lovely". 🤣 I said I was worried about the consequences of a divorce, while my dad was right there biting his tongue. Without missing a beat, mom piped right up saying, "then the wife would be entitled to half". I said something to the effect that mom was doing a terrific job of convincing me to stay a bachelor. 🤣
I`m on my 3rd camaro no one gets this one till I`m dead
@@csfan65 California divorce court. I got custody of my kids, but lost my home(s).
“If you stay single you’ll end up in your 80s, 90s, totally alone.” True! But if you get in a relationship, there’s nothing stopping your partner from dying at some point. In every relationship, one ends up alone. That’s why you need friends, and interests.
🙂 yes thats a very good point
True
Exactly just dive into one's hobbies and stay fit and have peace and tranquility and live our days out !!!
One of u will be there for the ill one and that is often rhe man.
@@tubulardude44 I think if you live long enough you die alone anyways unless perhaps you have kids and they give a crap.
"Regard the society of women as a necessary unpleasantness of social life and avoid it as much as possible"
Tolstoy 👍
Married and divorced twice - first one 18 years and 3 children, and second one 25 years and 2 children - don't need another one! If a beauty fell into my lap, I would be happy to share my life with someone, but divorced is not desparate!
☺ rent or lease
Same!
I just returned from the PI for a short get together with my ldr. Prior to my arrival and staying with her, we talked big plans but then as the time goes, Ive soured in the relationship due to excessive baggage she has and realized that Im not ready to share my space and relinquish my independence. So I just returned home and after deep thoughts of the relationship, Im not ready to commit. Im happy to be back and reunited with my pooch. I think Im just goung to pursue my interest travelling within the US on my travel trailer and boating and fishing. If I return to PI , I doubt if I want to be in a relationship again as I want to see more of the Philippines alone with no baggage.
Good for you. Enjoy your golden years. Sounds fun
😏👍 Congrats, you Leveled Up, dont be anybodys little B, i love sailboats and yachts too ⛵
Sounds like you wizened up. You saw the baggage and kept moving forward until you finally woke up and saw that baggage is a huge red flag.
The younger the better, and fewer hangups? What country produces free, happy women to marry so you deal with fewer of their hang ups?
A 60-something friend of my dad's became single and said that women in his dating age range were usually physical disasters, had enough baggage to go live on Mars for a year, wanted to get married (quickly), and often dropped hints about $ support, so he just said screw it!
have enough baggage to go and live on Mars for a year.....😆😆😆
I have said to women when dating, "when you unpack your package, give me a call"
If he can manage to stay single for a year or two there`s a good chance he`ll change his mind.
Liked your video,thought you nailed it quite well without really putting anyone down.I believe it's a situation that's really on the rise in North America and perhaps the rest of the world.Happy for you.
Thank you so much for watching and your kind words. I like many of the men commenting never in a thousand years though I would ever get married again. Let along have another child. But I have never been happier
Your life is what you make it, One's mindset and attitude will manifest the life you chose!!!
☺ Freewill is an Illusion
@@MrSamadolfo A happy marriage is the illusion.
Stay single my friends. The other side of the coin is a saying amongst older single women is men are looking for “a nurse and a purse”.
Exactly!
So tell me do you love being single 😏
@@MelissaElliott-u8f Yes. When you are older, you realize that you don't have time to recover from a financial disaster from a bad partner. To be single, you don't have to worry about your partner having a double life with another person, or signing away your property so that you will be homeless in your elder years.
@@GnomeInPlaid Are you on zangi huh?
@@MelissaElliott-u8f What are you inferring?
If you are alone and miserable, it is far better being miserable on your own terms than someone else's.
I agree that most modern women complain about being housewives, caregivers, etc. while they're younger, what makes a man think she'll even be capable of it in her older years when she's physically in worse shape and that's if she's even around and as flaky as many are I wouldn't count on that either.
I agree with your statement Paul... 👀
Excellent!
Good one. You can work on extracting yourself from your misery, but with someone there always taking away the football ... Bam! You be Charlie Brown.
“To everything, turn” -The Byrds. There’s a time to bond, and trust, and cherish moments with our ladies. There’s also a time to heal and grow and strengthen sans women. I’ve been happily single for (a bit too long now)….
It’s great to see a channel THAT IS A VOICE FOR US GUYS. That said, reminder to always love, always be ready to heal and trust, and allow those gals back in.
My story re women is a bit of a heartbreaker, but one must keep seeing that part of the glass that’s half-full.
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I really like your comment. Well thought out. Thank you so much for watching.
As an older man, I dont think with my penis. Since I have switched to using my brain, being single is the only option.
Yeah, just had the clutch done on mine...
@@moonraker124😅😂
Funniest comment I’ve seen!
@@moonraker124I almost pissed my pants laughing at your comment. 😂😂😂
U guys have the emotional depth of a kumquat! There are wonderful, selfless devoted warm sweet women out there and here u r preferring your clod self! What the hell is wrong with u?;
As a married man of over 40 years to the same wife I am happy. If something happened to my wife I would definitely stay single.
Well,one for our side .❤
Absolutely!
One Life, One Wife.
God Bless u and your wife.
Totally agree, anything else would be a backward step.
I am a happily married man., 62 years with the same gal. Now 85 and prefer the philosophy of 762foryou...One Life, One Wife. If she ever sadly passes, I will get a dog and just date quality women and treat them with compassion and kindness.
I have gone through two divorces and I’m not miserable anymore! I’m fine with my life without a woman nowadays! My independence feels wonderful!
It’s taken three years after two marriages and divorced both times (35 years total) but I finally feel settled…accepting that most women in my age group really don’t want a relationship. Maybe they say they do, but actually committing scares them. . And I’ve finally accepted that, and I agree with their reasoning. That being said I’m focused on living my life on my terms. Finally. I appreciate the saying I e heard from ladies a couple times…not willing to settle….for the wrong relationship. I’m not bitter anymore, not so lonely anymore. Just enjoying the ride in this final chapter of life doing bucket list items and things that make me feel good. Even the weird, quirky OCD things that a tinkering mindset enjoys! No one can complain about what I do! Thanks for the posting video!
As an older man I grew wiser .
You hit on all the reasons why staying single is often the best way. Thanks for the video.
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment.
When ur hair is grey or ur pocket is empty ur luck with women always thin.
grey hair means the hair is there many a man will take that offer. pocket empty a tough sell any age or hair amount except HS or 1 -2 years college..
Talk is cheap but it is what women want. Learn.
When I was 31 my hair bailed out, I noticed girls didnt buy me drinks any more, They`re as phoney as men! it doesnt matter what personality ya got it`s how good you look! My brother in law was a pretty boy,` those dumb girls would stand in line for months just to get their eyes blackened by him. He looked like a cross between Don Johnson and Brad Pitt, The girls would throw themselves at him.even after seeing what he did, That in itself convinced me girls where no better than us horrible males
My first job in a restaurant. The cook gave me some wise advise. He said stay single and raise your kids the same way. 40 years later i got it.
I’m in my 70s and widowed. I was at a loss when my wife passed but I found a that most single/widowed women near me was over men or just looking for someone to support them. I discovered dating apps and after wading thru a bunch of women, I had just about given up. Then someone hit me up and I responded and that turned out to be the best decision I ever made! I have found THE woman I want to be with but we’re not married and live near each other. We can enjoy being with each other and then go about our business on other days. It’s great!