She Hit the Nail on the HEAD!! Yes, We as women Need to stop playing Victim!! We Are the Problem TOO!!!!!❤ When I saw I was the problem as well, I healed and my marriage Healed! And admitting this is the ONLY way to fix the Black Family!! Love Her!!
I admire this woman! Her advice is spot on! In marriage, it’s all about selflessness and grace towards your spouse, not selfishness. This is the path to not only personal growth but flourishing as one! 🙏🏾🕊️
Kittie is so well-rounded. I love how she consistently balances the scales. I appreciate this platform for their ability to juggle the good, the bad, the ugly, the downright disgraceful, and still manage to lighten the atmosphere with humor and sprinkles of mischief. I'm about sick of the gender war. shenanigans. It's toxic and destructive to an already out of sort community. Please keep up the good works. Then you all messed around and put Stephan on the panel...it just keeps getting better ♥️🔥💯🙏🏾
She said something that is missed in a lot of marriages. Focusing too much on self and not enough each other. The moment your marriage becomes about your own happiness only, that marriage is set to fail. You will only see your partners' shortcomings, and they will never be able to do enough to please you because you're only focused on the things that make you unhappy and not their good qualities. This is the biggest reason why the divorce rate is so high.
The divorce rate is so high because husbands don’t shoulder their portion of the unpaid labor in the household while they cause emotional, financial, mental, physical havoc on the wives. Women value reciprocity. If there is none it’s very easy to put personal happiness first because suffering with no benefit is nonsensical to women.
Relationships period, imo. There is no relationship that will work if the focus is only on "self". Not romantic, platonic, familial, professional, friendship. It just won't work. Marriage is a partnership at the end of day and too many folks want a partner but don't know to be a partner. 🤷🏾♀️
In the course of my 34 year marriage to my w8fe and especially so, for the past 14 to 15 years of it, I've worked exceptionally hard at making feel safe for her to speak her mind regarding my bad attitude and all the while listen to her advice without taking offense to the best of my ability.
I commend you. My husband is on the same journey. He said it made him feel free to be able to hear my concerns and not feel like he'll fall apart because I told him something about himself he didn't like. He is actively working harder to try and right his wrongs and heal our marriage.
@@realashandaatlarge I have and still do go to the extent of carrying my wife's purse 👛 without shame when we are out in public settings where her attention is not 100% and her hands need to be free. Why is that important because MY life is attached what's inside and dammit I'm not letting go of it in spite of what the naysayers say!
I don't tune into this podcast personally because I find it too vulgar and crude, but I stumbled upon her on a RUclips short a few weeks back and was truly amazed. She’s a lady who gracefully articulates things in such profound and inspiring ways. 🌸
She truly gets it. I am glad she corrected the simp before he put his foot in his mouth. It takes two to make it work. The man is always at fault, but we need our partners to take some responsibility. The key word she used is compromise, we all have to compromise to make it work. Well said my sister. You are a true treasure to the relationship community.
Can someone please give this internally & extetnally beautiful woman hella props! I have to click the play button every time i see her. She's has & shares so much knowledge & wisdom effortlessly in these topics. I aint got no man yet, nor married. However im taking pointers sister. Thank you bein a solid one 💯👑🌹💆🏽💕 May you and yours continue to receive authentic love, excellent health, financial, spiritual, mental & emotional abundance. Peace
Yall want a better relationship here's what both parties need to do: 1. Learn who The Most High is! 2. Learn who you are as race(Hint any Decendant of the Transatlantic Slaves ain't racially an African nor a Indian). 3. Learn your history here in America as a Black Man or Black Woman. 4. Never forget where yall came from. 5. Know who the Devil is & his tactics used to divide & conquer you & your people. 6. Get with like-minded folks of your race who Love yall People & figure out how to combat the Real enemy: The Devil, His Laws, His Economy, His way of living(go agaisnt the devils grain). 7. Get educated in Law, STEMs, & Finance. 8. Plan the take over. 9. Implement the Plan. 10. Do all thee above while at the same time Focusing on exponentially growing your bank account, Health & Wellness & strengthen relationship with your family & your tribe. Everything else really don't matter!!!! Oh lastly: keep your business to yourself & within your family & Laugh a lot more, decided to be happy & quiet!!!
What's the plan 4 when society collapses because if u know the Most High u know that's gonna happen. In a Mad Max style world that type of education won't matter. Hunting,farming and blue collar skills are needed as well.
Yesssss, it's just not about her! The man is not even there to speak for himself. Two people are in the relationship. I am sure the guy doesn't feel comfortable or safe, but he probably doesn't have the space to talk about it. If she the wife feels un-safe, then the two need to sit down and talk about how can they both feel safe. They have to do it as a team or one will suffer in the marriage.
Straight facts! And I love that she truly knows something……she’s going to let it be known. And when she does, it hits. A relationship is about “us”. My ex(s) never understood that. And where I failed at is not being able to express that in a way that they could understand that perspective.
Exactly let’s not put everything on the men as women sometimes we need to step back and be accountable for the part we played. Marriage is not a I thing.
You have to put your spouse before yourself. When u feel like giving up. Give more and see how fast things change. Keep giving. Never give up. You got the rest of yalls lives to find a solution and a compromise
Let me get this straight possibly…Ace asked her “but do you feel safe?” So she has to feel safe to talk to her man who feels he can’t feel safe to be emotional about things that’s gonna deam him weak in her eyes? It’s seems to always be a tit for tat and if women knew the power that they uphold in relationships then they would act accordingly. 85% of women leave and call it quits on the guy statistically….85%?….he has a right to be emotional. Most cases we are not your enemy and we are on your team. Just venting from experience
Full committed RELATIONSHIPS are the building blocks to a MARRIAGE .. if you and your partner haven’t created the safe space when y’all were just boyfriend/girlfriend .. it’s just going to be a bigger issue as husband/wife 🤷🏾♂️
Yes, she nailed it. The man and the woman dropped the ball and they both NEED to work on it TOGETHER as a UNIT. Don't put the blame on the other person. U-N-I-T-Y. We're so much stronger together than apart.
Even if you're not married, you should still consider her advice if you want to move towards marriage. The objective is to achieve marriage with sincerity.
Within her passion of being in that same situation, she nailed it with every emotion that brought back her memories of turning her leaf to becoming a more self-aware Companion. Honestly I thought she was about to cry within her explanation. She knew that this was her "home-run play". I felt that. Even though, I will say unbiasedly, every solution to relationship issues are not the same, but the "BIG" picture is typically very relative due to humans having shared emotions. And sometimes its hard to explain your deepest thoughts withiin the 1st explanation. But she recovered and drove deep into her response by relating to her personal personality achievement.. If that isn't "every" relationship solution it damn sure is "one" of 'em. To me, Well said Kittie...👏
When "you" find "YOU" enough to care to understand "Someone Else" within relationship and/or marriage, it's the best feeling in the world, but it's one of the hardest things to do in the world . 🖤✌️
She speaks facts. In a marriage its not one person sits in the center while the other stands guard on the outside. Its soldiers back to back. You got my back and i got yours and we both feel safe. I have experienced this where i told me partner several times they made it hard for me to make them feel comfortable because i was not made to feel safe. Now we are separate and the family is destroyed. They only cared about themselves the entire time.
I tried with 2 different women. One cheated and the other didn't like that I saved most of my money for the future. Meaning she wanted the trips and shopping and all that. Both wore masks and lead me to believe they were different people with different values. Both revealed themselves AFTER I moved them in. This proves to me that neither of them wanted me in the first place. So, how do you talk and try to see where shit went wrong with a mf that dont want you? To me, it's not worth it to trust anything a woman says. Too much risk for too little reward. As it stands now, I'm perfectly happy to remain single with my peace of mind intact for the rest of my life. That might change later, but I'm doubting it.
It's true...someone has to give 1st, n to be honest we women are extremely selfish these days. We want it all. It doesn't work like that. We must start with being able to look at ourselves critically.
Just being a good person is focusing on the needs of others. Not justvin marriage, but in life. If you libe with someone, show appreciation and HELP with the chores, or ne generous with your money to HELP support the house. If you see someone needing assistance around you HELP open the door, or give them your seat, or speak up for them. If they need to talk and vent HELP by listening and trying to understand their situation. If someone asks for HELP, help in what you can. But who am I but a 304 meant for the streets. 😂😂😂😂✌️😘
We need more women like kittie rose who is honest and admits? That is not just the man, it's both parties plus Simp metaphor needs to live a woman speak for herself.
U can tell she started hurting, she really does car about her man more than anything. Sometimes when having these conversations you then realize that the problem is not the outside world, it's you.
I don't like what she said because to be complete whole within thy self first is the only way coming into a marriage should be. Don't come broken expecting the other to fix you... I'm tispy. Did I even make sense... bye yall😂😂😂😂
Do I believe you should inquire on if you're providing safety from your partner's standards and adjust if the answer is no? Absolutely. Do I also believe you can also be asking for safety according to your own standards and not receiving it how you need? Absolutely. I love the wisdom and transparency here but I don't resonate on putting your own experiences onto someone else. She has an emotional connection to this topic enough to nearly start crying. While what she's saying might contextually be true, that might not be the situation the inquirer is in. It's only a possibility, which is why I find it odd that Kitty was so adamant about dismissing Ace asking if she felt safe, when that may have been the entire point of speaking in the first place. I need more information bc I'm all for giving applicable advice but framing something in the wrong context while giving a truth that is usable in a different scenario but invalidates the experience you're talking about bc someone is projecting? Nope.
My belief is that the "I", "My", "Mines" should stop if "We" make a home together, "We" discussions start " We" tackling " our" " us" places, people or things together. You are a " Wife" and I am a " Husband" already, you are my "W" and I am your "H" when you have my last name. Adam and Eve were made for one another, no rings, no trips, steak dinners, paying rents, car notes. And they had no last name. If a man is providing and protecting and a woman nurturing that and multiplying the love then "I" is " We" now. Act accordingly!
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She Hit the Nail on the HEAD!!
Yes, We as women Need to stop playing Victim!!
We Are the Problem TOO!!!!!❤
When I saw I was the problem as well, I healed and my marriage Healed!
And admitting this is the ONLY way to fix the Black Family!!
Love Her!!
Yes! I like Kitty as well. She is always on point.
Two things that will kill a marriage faster than anything; selfishness and double-standards.
And lack of communication
& unrealistic expectations
Facts!!!!!
Once you married, it’s no longer “I”
There IS an “I” in marriage.
🙄@@hereforit2347
Once you are married you become a We
@@hereforit2347omg
Need more married couples rather than singles on the stage
I admire this woman! Her advice is spot on! In marriage, it’s all about selflessness and grace towards your spouse, not selfishness. This is the path to not only personal growth but flourishing as one! 🙏🏾🕊️
Kittie is so well-rounded. I love how she consistently balances the scales. I appreciate this platform for their ability to juggle the good, the bad, the ugly, the downright disgraceful, and still manage to lighten the atmosphere with humor and sprinkles of mischief. I'm about sick of the gender war. shenanigans. It's toxic and destructive to an already out of sort community. Please keep up the good works. Then you all messed around and put Stephan on the panel...it just keeps getting better ♥️🔥💯🙏🏾
She said something that is missed in a lot of marriages. Focusing too much on self and not enough each other. The moment your marriage becomes about your own happiness only, that marriage is set to fail. You will only see your partners' shortcomings, and they will never be able to do enough to please you because you're only focused on the things that make you unhappy and not their good qualities. This is the biggest reason why the divorce rate is so high.
I agree
Right!!
The divorce rate is so high because husbands don’t shoulder their portion of the unpaid labor in the household while they cause emotional, financial, mental, physical havoc on the wives. Women value reciprocity. If there is none it’s very easy to put personal happiness first because suffering with no benefit is nonsensical to women.
Relationships period, imo. There is no relationship that will work if the focus is only on "self". Not romantic, platonic, familial, professional, friendship. It just won't work. Marriage is a partnership at the end of day and too many folks want a partner but don't know to be a partner. 🤷🏾♀️
Your right
Yes great advice. I love the fact that she spoke from experience.
I like how she came from experience and not from hurt
In the course of my 34 year marriage to my w8fe and especially so, for the past 14 to 15 years of it, I've worked exceptionally hard at making feel safe for her to speak her mind regarding my bad attitude and all the while listen to her advice without taking offense to the best of my ability.
❤
I commend you. My husband is on the same journey. He said it made him feel free to be able to hear my concerns and not feel like he'll fall apart because I told him something about himself he didn't like. He is actively working harder to try and right his wrongs and heal our marriage.
@@realashandaatlarge I have and still do go to the extent of carrying my wife's purse 👛 without shame when we are out in public settings where her attention is not 100% and her hands need to be free.
Why is that important because MY life is attached what's inside and dammit I'm not letting go of it in spite of what the naysayers say!
Finally, a woman on this podcast, has made some sense. Shout out to you sista!!
She's the only sister that makes sense!
I don't tune into this podcast personally because I find it too vulgar and crude, but I stumbled upon her on a RUclips short a few weeks back and was truly amazed. She’s a lady who gracefully articulates things in such profound and inspiring ways. 🌸
She and a very skinny light skin woman make sense often but yeah most time the other ladies don't
She truly gets it. I am glad she corrected the simp before he put his foot in his mouth. It takes two to make it work. The man is always at fault, but we need our partners to take some responsibility. The key word she used is compromise, we all have to compromise to make it work. Well said my sister. You are a true treasure to the relationship community.
When experience talks, we ought to listen
Takes two people to tango
Dang Ace, you don’t even pretend to conceal the cape. The men didn’t get 10 seconds before you start applying pink polish to her toes. Cut The Games!
Facts 💯 he’s was about too before she made her point he’s always 🧢🧢🧢🧢
His cape was flapping in the wind before the show even started. Super Simp to the rescue.
😂
Can someone please give this internally & extetnally beautiful woman hella props! I have to click the play button every time i see her. She's has & shares so much knowledge & wisdom effortlessly in these topics. I aint got no man yet, nor married. However im taking pointers sister. Thank you bein a solid one 💯👑🌹💆🏽💕
May you and yours continue to receive authentic love, excellent health, financial, spiritual, mental & emotional abundance.
Peace
Finally!!! A woman who understands!!!🙏🏽
Yall want a better relationship here's what both parties need to do:
1. Learn who The Most High is!
2. Learn who you are as race(Hint any Decendant of the Transatlantic Slaves ain't racially an African nor a Indian).
3. Learn your history here in America as a Black Man or Black Woman.
4. Never forget where yall came from.
5. Know who the Devil is & his tactics used to divide & conquer you & your people.
6. Get with like-minded folks of your race who Love yall People & figure out how to combat the Real enemy: The Devil, His Laws, His Economy, His way of living(go agaisnt the devils grain).
7. Get educated in Law, STEMs, & Finance.
8. Plan the take over.
9. Implement the Plan.
10. Do all thee above while at the same time Focusing on exponentially growing your bank account, Health & Wellness & strengthen relationship with your family & your tribe.
Everything else really don't matter!!!!
Oh lastly: keep your business to yourself & within your family & Laugh a lot more, decided to be happy & quiet!!!
♥️♥️💯
You put this perfect ❤
What's the plan 4 when society collapses because if u know the Most High u know that's gonna happen. In a Mad Max style world that type of education won't matter. Hunting,farming and blue collar skills are needed as well.
@@ThaMidwestBrutha 🫡🫡🫡
Yesssss, it's just not about her! The man is not even there to speak for himself. Two people are in the relationship. I am sure the guy doesn't feel comfortable or safe, but he probably doesn't have the space to talk about it. If she the wife feels un-safe, then the two need to sit down and talk about how can they both feel safe. They have to do it as a team or one will suffer in the marriage.
Facts I am so glad she play into detail with that conversation
Straight facts! And I love that she truly knows something……she’s going to let it be known. And when she does, it hits. A relationship is about “us”. My ex(s) never understood that. And where I failed at is not being able to express that in a way that they could understand that perspective.
She is absolutly Correct
I love her she nailed it
Yes ma'am indeed you are preaching 😊
Exactly let’s not put everything on the men as women sometimes we need to step back and be accountable for the part we played. Marriage is not a I thing.
She said a whole word 😩💪🏿
Absolutely...! ❤
This woman is speaking pure facts. An I know she has been in that space. Because her words an emotions come threw 200% pure.
So true, Mrs. Kittie! Love you!❤️
I agree 👌🏾
Truth and Wisdom❤❤❤❤❤
Where are all the woos and yeses and claps when she tells women they have to be responsible also
You know they only do that when men are being bashed.
You could hear a pin drop.
@@davidfouse1820 you could hear a mouse peeing on cotton
Ppl don't like the truth
I think a quote that resonates with a lot of men is, "My wife would rather see my die on my white horse than to fall off it."
I believe you mean white horse.
Real talk. It takes two to make it work.
You have to put your spouse before yourself. When u feel like giving up. Give more and see how fast things change. Keep giving. Never give up. You got the rest of yalls lives to find a solution and a compromise
Now she done told it!!
Often when protecting our own heart we ignore the other's heart.
Well said Queen. I'm learning how to compromise at 47, due to a toxic relationship 👑👑👑👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
She’s a gem and she’s needed in this space she doesn’t pander
And that's how marriage fails when we focus too much on self. Boy.. she was speaking from experience
Women need to take accountability, on how we are treating our men. Men need to feel loved, respected valued and feel wanted.
thank you queen 💯💯❤
Facts Sis!
I totally agree. Relationships only work due to the two people involved❤❤❤❤
Powerful ❤
PREACH!!!
Amen my sister ❤
I love her. Everything she said is on point
Let me get this straight possibly…Ace asked her “but do you feel safe?” So she has to feel safe to talk to her man who feels he can’t feel safe to be emotional about things that’s gonna deam him weak in her eyes? It’s seems to always be a tit for tat and if women knew the power that they uphold in relationships then they would act accordingly. 85% of women leave and call it quits on the guy statistically….85%?….he has a right to be emotional. Most cases we are not your enemy and we are on your team. Just venting from experience
She and Trip drop the mic EVERY TIME!
Full committed RELATIONSHIPS are the building blocks to a MARRIAGE .. if you and your partner haven’t created the safe space when y’all were just boyfriend/girlfriend .. it’s just going to be a bigger issue as husband/wife 🤷🏾♂️
She spoke the truth because this is something I was going through with my marriage
Now that was full! I've got to reflect on this one.
Drop that (KNOW)-Ledge Queen.....!!!!
Facts 👌🏾
PREACHHHHHH SISTER GIRL FACTS ❤💯🌹🌹🙏
This message tho ..... a whole ass word !!
FACTS! Bw should listen. And bm should provide safety, too
SPIT THAT TRUTH KITTIE!!
Yes, she nailed it. The man and the woman dropped the ball and they both NEED to work on it TOGETHER as a UNIT. Don't put the blame on the other person. U-N-I-T-Y. We're so much stronger together than apart.
Damn...... that was beautiful! 👏
Factz🗣️🗣️🗣️💯💯💯
Even if you're not married, you should still consider her advice if you want to move towards marriage. The objective is to achieve marriage with sincerity.
That Kitty Rose I tell ya! The only female on that panel I pay attention to. She always on point.
Within her passion of being in that same situation, she nailed it with every emotion that brought back her memories of turning her leaf to becoming a more self-aware Companion. Honestly I thought she was about to cry within her explanation. She knew that this was her "home-run play". I felt that.
Even though, I will say unbiasedly, every solution to relationship issues are not the same, but the "BIG" picture is typically very relative due to humans having shared emotions.
And sometimes its hard to explain your deepest thoughts withiin the 1st explanation. But she recovered and drove deep into her response by relating to her personal personality achievement..
If that isn't "every" relationship solution it damn sure is "one" of 'em.
To me, Well said Kittie...👏
When "you" find "YOU" enough to care to understand "Someone Else" within relationship and/or marriage, it's the best feeling in the world, but it's one of the hardest things to do in the world . 🖤✌️
She speaks facts. In a marriage its not one person sits in the center while the other stands guard on the outside. Its soldiers back to back. You got my back and i got yours and we both feel safe. I have experienced this where i told me partner several times they made it hard for me to make them feel comfortable because i was not made to feel safe. Now we are separate and the family is destroyed. They only cared about themselves the entire time.
Accountability is vital in a relationship. This is your partner for life.
If its about self, don't get married. Let that sink in.😉
You might as well say; you are too selfish to get married.🤷🤔👈😕
Ace was about to pander, im glad she stopped him this guy man😅😅
😂😂😂
And that's why she's married.
I tried with 2 different women. One cheated and the other didn't like that I saved most of my money for the future. Meaning she wanted the trips and shopping and all that. Both wore masks and lead me to believe they were different people with different values. Both revealed themselves AFTER I moved them in. This proves to me that neither of them wanted me in the first place. So, how do you talk and try to see where shit went wrong with a mf that dont want you? To me, it's not worth it to trust anything a woman says. Too much risk for too little reward. As it stands now, I'm perfectly happy to remain single with my peace of mind intact for the rest of my life. That might change later, but I'm doubting it.
Preach
The number one reason why relationships of any kind fail is due to the rights of one being violated and/or disregarded by the other.
I don’t have time for all this it’s easier to be alone and make sure I can afford the life I want to live
Love me some her Kitty be on point 24/7
I love that married woman!!
Doing this saved my marriage. Well,
saved my relationship. Then got us married.
Facts
Wise woman
It's true...someone has to give 1st, n to be honest we women are extremely selfish these days. We want it all. It doesn't work like that. We must start with being able to look at ourselves critically.
She right
Just being a good person is focusing on the needs of others. Not justvin marriage, but in life. If you libe with someone, show appreciation and HELP with the chores, or ne generous with your money to HELP support the house. If you see someone needing assistance around you HELP open the door, or give them your seat, or speak up for them. If they need to talk and vent HELP by listening and trying to understand their situation. If someone asks for HELP, help in what you can. But who am I but a 304 meant for the streets. 😂😂😂😂✌️😘
She said absolutely nothing wrong!
We need more women like kittie rose who is honest and admits? That is not just the man, it's both parties plus Simp metaphor needs to live a woman speak for herself.
U can tell she started hurting, she really does car about her man more than anything. Sometimes when having these conversations you then realize that the problem is not the outside world, it's you.
Amen
Bars!
These women are hungry hyenas
As a Minister please don't put me in front of your husband. Then wonder why no men in the church. I have to do.... for my Pastor, My man of GOD.
She’s right
Ace instead of trying to pander really try to help both sides . Food for thought for once
I feel that wow the may me believe a little bit.
If it's only about you and your safety, then stay safe without me.
I don't like what she said because to be complete whole within thy self first is the only way coming into a marriage should be. Don't come broken expecting the other to fix you... I'm tispy. Did I even make sense... bye yall😂😂😂😂
She was cooking then and she is still cooking now.
Once you're married, there is no i. it's us how ,does we feel about this scenario
👏👏👏👏👏
Do I believe you should inquire on if you're providing safety from your partner's standards and adjust if the answer is no? Absolutely. Do I also believe you can also be asking for safety according to your own standards and not receiving it how you need? Absolutely.
I love the wisdom and transparency here but I don't resonate on putting your own experiences onto someone else. She has an emotional connection to this topic enough to nearly start crying. While what she's saying might contextually be true, that might not be the situation the inquirer is in. It's only a possibility, which is why I find it odd that Kitty was so adamant about dismissing Ace asking if she felt safe, when that may have been the entire point of speaking in the first place.
I need more information bc I'm all for giving applicable advice but framing something in the wrong context while giving a truth that is usable in a different scenario but invalidates the experience you're talking about bc someone is projecting? Nope.
My belief is that the "I", "My", "Mines" should stop if "We" make a home together, "We" discussions start " We" tackling " our" " us" places, people or things together. You are a " Wife" and I am a " Husband" already, you are my "W" and I am your "H" when you have my last name. Adam and Eve were made for one another, no rings, no trips, steak dinners, paying rents, car notes. And they had no last name. If a man is providing and protecting and a woman nurturing that and multiplying the love then "I" is " We" now. Act accordingly!
“MINE”, not “mines”. 😂
Where is the danger?
This one was a tear jerker bruh…She hit the nail on the head…Beautifully Stated