Giving yourself up for someone who's only interest is what they can take from you is crazy. I've spent 15 years building the wrong man. Now I'm the one that's devastated behind the ending of our marriage and he's living like it never happened. Life is so fucked sometimes 😢
Yes, I most definitely went through this. Trying to change myself for a man who never wanted me. The healing process was hard, but definitely worth it. Thank God for his grace and mercy!
Yes. I started healing. Then I reached out figuring that we could be friends. It doesn't work. We were never friends. We jumped into it prematurely and never build a solid foundation. It didn't work because the initial work was never put in. Trying to be friends after a breakup will never work when there was deep pain, betrayal, and confusion. You are lying to yourself. Please fast, pray, and love on you. It is not easy...but I promise it will be worth it. Give yourself about a year or so to build yourself physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and financially. ❤
Many of us experience this effect from our fathers first. We are broken because our dads resembled the same behavior. We lost ourselves before we even dated the first man. My dad is 70 and still doing this towards me even now. He has 3 daughters, 2 sons, and the way he treats his daughters is not healthy. From a father/daughter perspective, he didn’t teach me proper treatment. I’m in the process of separating myself from that because every man I’ve dated up to now has only deepen the self hate, the conflict, confusion, and lack of confidence embedded by my fathers actions first. I am a woman worth better, but I couldn’t see it myself. Breaks are good even with fathers, brothers, and/or uncles that display no respect or honor to us. This will for sure shift future courting hopefully.
I've read a little, (at least a little bit) about how the relationship between a dad & his daughter/s DOES AFFECT what kinds of guys she chooses as she "matures or, after she matures meaning, going into womanhood, of course" &, in (my opinion, MY OPINION), how, HOW are these guys STILL CONSIDERED MEN MENTALLY & EMOTIONALLY when they say all the sh!! that they say & do, HOW?????????????????? I DON'T MEAN PHYSICALLY, I mean (mentally & emotionally), how the he!! & WHY are they still "considered to be a man, this man said this &/or, did that!?", what the..............& why, why!!!?????????????🙄🙄🙄🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🙏🙏🙏
I think you have a valid question. I’d love to hear the answer to it as well, but I would say they are only considered “men” because of the gender they were born in only. Not by emotional, spiritual, mental, societal, and sometimes physical as well. I think the immature men have a mental block from traumatic experiences they’ve had in they’re in their life. They wear an invisible mask that’s hard to see without spiritual discernment and discipline. It’s hard work to get back to discipline and discernment if ever the ball is dropped, but it’s possible I believe.
Glad I never let it get to marriage....damn...dealing with children is already enough....like as black people we really got ourselves and each other to do better in creating a brighter future for the kids cos they will just continue the bs as well.
I needed to listen to this and im glad i did. I cant fix no man but i can remove myself when i know he devalues my worth. Ladies know you deserve better when shit is not right in your relationship 💯
This is definitely true especially when dealing with a narcissist. Healing is a battle although there is growth & blessings on the other side especially when you are a genuine soul 🙏🩷🙏
Ace is in the place!!! “Dangers of loving the wrong person.” Let it Go!! Stop continuing to face the same consequences over and over again..Acknowledge and accept the hurt/pain that was given to you and move forward..In due time you shall find when love is Genuine it will be Patient and Kind….
This is so on point!!! I was just in a similar situation. BUT I HAD TO MAKE A DECISION TO WALK AWAY. I knew I was in a bad situation and I excused myself from it. Didn’t waste any time explaining anything. Just blocked him and deleted him from everything. I feel so much better. It was taking a lot out of me. I know I deserve better and took my power back.!!
Me too. The situation was toxic AF. He was a covert narc. I still have to deal with him, albeit with a limit, because we have to co-parent. He knows where I live for emergency purposes, but he's not allowed over, nor has he ever been over. Doesn't stop him from trying though. I mostly communicate with him via text. When he tries to get me to do wifey things, I remind him that we are divorced and I'm not doing it. When he tries to put his feelers out or call/text me at night, I just don't respond. I pretend that he doesn't exist. If I don't stand firm on my boundaries, he will take advantage. I'm not making s**t up, it's a fact. My peace is too important and must be protected.
@@shanellem6310 I know what you mean. I wasn’t married but he was someone from my past. He was taking me back to a place that I had prayed my way out of. I refused to let someone treat me like nothing. I learned to love myself and I will continue to do that. I’m proud of myself for real. Nobody really knows my story.
I tried ending my life a couple days ago because of him but by Gods grace I overcame it, after a couple of days, I see that he went ahead and followed back the same girl I asked him multiple times to cut ties with her while we were together. I couldn’t believe it… May God be with me through the rest of my healing journey.
@@luniaetienne thank you. I just really can’t believe after everything, he manages to continue to hurt… I will never understand. Do you think I’m wrong for feeling the way I’m feeling after seeing that he followed her back right after the breakup? What would that mean to you ?
@@antoinettemulenga no you’re not wrong for feeling the way you’re feeling because he basically betrayed you… I know the feeling. I believe he was already messing with her and as soon as y’all broke up he felt free to do what he really wanted to do all along…
Facts!!! Isolation from everyone to heal and come out a better, non bitter person 💪 is amazing!!! No victim here! Took control finally of all of what happened. I love me now ❤❤❤❤
I love how you speak the truth, and sometimes the truth hurts. Some of us have to possess the courage to look ourselves in the mirror and be honest about our relationship with Self. YOU are Worthy! You are ENOUGH.❤
I'm glad Ive come to the realization on two things. Don't nobody owe you nothing especially consistency and loyalty unless they are married to you. If you're single you can do whatever you want, with whomever you want to for as long as you want to as long as it's legal. Just because you spend time with someone no matter how many years have gone by and you've allowed yourself to develop feelings and trust, it don't matter. They don't belong to you. The other thing is that people have limits to their emotional capabilities. And once they reach that limit everybody else is temporary and secondary and will be used. For example if a man has a mama, sisters, kids an ex they were with for a long time? And he's talking to you, involved with you? You playing yourself and he's playing you because his emotional cup is full already with his mama, his family, his kids, his "boys". Don't like what I said? That's fine. Keep breaking your own heart. I've chosen not to!
This video resonated with me the most while I’m currently grieving this split from someone who didn’t have the capacity to see my worth, I tried with the push/ pull daily never knowing what type of person I would get. It’s insane not knowing when a person could switch back and forth from respectful to disrespect and all you want them to do is keep peace and accept you cause things “were” going good.TheShit feels fake like your minds actually playing tricks on you but it’s reality & in the end he made it seem like he never liked me or cared for me and I was the problem. It hurts but it’s done! when you gotta open your eyes WIDE and step away don’t get scared, it’s the better thing to do.
Take as much time as you need to heal from the last relationship. Heal until you are whole! Then, if you choose to do so begin to look for an equal, not a project. You're looking for someone who takes care of themselves and has the capacity to take care of you too. Someone on your level that you can respect and vice versa. Don't fall in love with potential. My table is SET and yours should be as well. You got to bring something to my table besides a fork and knife! When you are confident in what you bring to the table, you don't have to beg and chase anyone to sit down and eat! What category do they belong in? Partner, project, parasite or pond? Putting people in the wrong category will mess your life up! Pain prevention is tied to people being properly placed in your life y'all!! A tolerable level of permanent unhappiness just won't work!!
You were speaking directly to me and it’s so crazy definitely not that person but now but as soon as I applied this to my life baby my life is unfolding before my very eyes 😢
When you stay wit a person that your changing yourself for you take away from who you are messing up your selfworth setting yourself up for failure for years i was in a relationship trying to be the good woman he wanted n it kept back firing cause he was unappreciative n selfish everything was about him n what he wanted
@queenb31100 Same with my husband..Everything I did was never good enough, he complained about everything.. He couldn’t stand that I was stealing his spotlight everyone kept asking “How’s your wife?” He was constantly dimming my light..Darling we are worth it!!🎉
Sir I have recently found your channel. I totally agree with you. What's missing is to have us women to see their traumas that made us believe we are unworthy. We must heal ourselves as well from our reasons we were never taught how to court a man. How to pick a man not only from attraction.
Holy shit ACE! Do not ever apologise for speaking your truth! We ladies are here, to hear you tell us the things we need to know, we need these motherfucking ahhhh haaaaa moments! And if people unfollow you because you said what they weren't ready to hear! Then BYE BYE 👋 Sometimes, the reality of the harsh truth is exactly what I want to hear! I love love love the way you get your point across! YOU have helped me see the light and made me feel so much more worthy and strong in myself. I now am armed with my sword and shield 🛡 so that I can stop laying soft arse boundaries down for a mofo to walk all over. Don't change the way YOU DO WHAT YOU DO. I, for one, am grateful. PEACE ✌️ ❤😊
Whooooaaaa..Ace you might as well have jumped out of my phone and slapped me yourself😂 this one hit me hard today like damn ..I needed that shit and I love the way you talk your stern but not harsh, and your REAL but not shaming or judging..you not trying to make anyone feel bad, bc we trying to see good in someone that's just plain bad and you preach that shit so good it gave me goosebumps❤❤ thank you man, you are def doing what God called you to do cause you really just lit a fire under my ass that I'm gonna put to good use😊🎉
Yes same here!!!! We making it now, I'm so glad I have me back....I know how to move better next time....NOT IN NO FUCKING RUSH! Hahahhaaha know the important shit and move accordingly simple. I love you....hope to meet you someday! Happy beautiful life changing days to us all making better decisions for ourselves ❤
They love the idea of changing you into someone who benefits them. You make them shine while they spit poison into your spirit, telling you that you are not good enough! Stop helping these individuals & start helping yourself. Itcould look like not accepting back seat driving, criticism or insults. It could look like spending the day by yourself. Moving out, breaking up, choosing yourself. Staying abstinent from sex.
Truth 😢, needed to hear this. You just tell it like it is and I certainly needed a wake up call. I’m so proud of myself for letting go of toxicity and bullshit.
Absolutely Ace I didn't that too for 7 years I been for 3 years now I'm waiting patiently for God to send me my person nor husband Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙏❤❤
This video was literally made for ME and is sadly everything iv been going through. I'm SOO greatful for Ace's videos to help me have clarity, to help me gain strength and to help me to remember... I'm valuable and I DO have standards... when I feel weak and sad about the shit iv been allowing myself to be put through I really watch Ace's videos I LOVE how FUNNY he is and speaks honestly and does not sugar coat shit! That's what ALL us women NEED!!! When it has to deal with out heart and feelings... we can't hear advice sugar coated... we NEED the plain blunt truth... no matter how hard it is to hear! Please make more videos like this.. iv watched it soooo many times already and will keep watching more because you make me laugh when I want to cry and ALL the words you say in this video, all the advice your giving is like you REALLY made this video for ME and what I'm going through... sadly to admit...but I'm sooooo grateful for this video and you!!! Know you are helping people keep their head up high, laugh and remember their value.... you are helping me make it through my day! Thankyou so so much!!! I'm sooooo sad I missed you in Seattle I pray you come back soon!! ❤ Mallory
I’m huge fan Ace, but I always hear you talk about women who get mistreated by men BUT their are women who mistreat good men and don’t see the value in these good men
Preach! 👏🏾😭 Speak the truth, don’t sugar coat nothing! I finally realized my worth… He’s gone, now he’s hoovering me! I’ll do this, I’ll do that, I’m going to church… 😒🤦🏾♀️ Now you can do all that?! 😒✌🏾
You don’t know how much it takes for people to just KEEP GOING despite what they are facing. Be gracious to people and what you possibly don’t know about them.
You speak the truth 😢 Thank you. I appreciate your advice. You should have a retreat for men and boys. They need to be in your classroom learning how to be men with good intentions to teach their children to have good intentions to treat women the way they would like their daughters to be treated in a society ,relationships I was married to a taker for 30 years. I give and give and give. I’m happy with myself. I’m a beautiful strong independent woman and blessed. It’s just seems so impossible to find someone who is really good with good intentions. Most just want to take and take. Thank you so much. 😂love listening to you with a cupa tea. Thank you 😊 Blessings to you ❤
Aceeeee! You have a killer sense of humour but be kind to the ladies who’re hurting I had the time of my life learning valuable perspective and cracking the fuck up at all the many mysterious jokes but I’d be feeling a bit different if I’d come to actually get some advice/ solution .. I mean I absolutely love what you’re saying and advising but just a bit gently pleaaaase 🙏🏾🤍 I’ve watched 2 of your videos and loved it so far .. keep thriving 🧿⚡️ #sunscribed🫶🏾
You are all in my s***I promise you all that stuff you just said I've been saying the same thing he keep treating me like that cuz I keep allowing him to treat me like that cuz I keep staying not after the day thank you for the courage and the wise words to make me make this big move
And, yes, loving a hard person DOES change the spirit. I am sad about this but at same time the darker spirits that come in will never kill the pure spirits of light ❤❤
This sounds a lot like Narcissistic people. My ex was. Covert Narc he could not accept who I was and that I shined brighter than him , he was painfully insecure and kept trying to belittle me and control me. Abusive behaviour! I slammed the door in his face and he is blocked everywhere. ❤
Speaking MAJOR Facts‼️ I’m soooo glad I woke up and permanently removed myself from this foolery yearrrrrrrrrs ago!!! Selflove ❤ Amen 🙏🏽
“Sometimes a breakup is just a MAKE-UP with yourself!” 👌💯🙌🏽
Exactly! 🗣💯🙌🏾🎯🫶🏽👑
Bingo!
Facts 🙏🏾🙌🏾💯
Giving yourself up for someone who's only interest is what they can take from you is crazy. I've spent 15 years building the wrong man. Now I'm the one that's devastated behind the ending of our marriage and he's living like it never happened. Life is so fucked sometimes 😢
I'm sorry to hear that. You live and learn. Next time, build yourself, and allow only someone ready to build you up.❤
It's ok 👑 snatch your power back🥰
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I feel you. 😢
Sorry this happened to you dear!
That happened to me. I prayed to God. He helped me move on and put myself first.
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Facts, I’ve been through this. They try to play victim likes it’s you. It’s them with their narcissistic behavior
They like to sit in the damn victim chair…
Amen sis @bdoe3591 , you got that right , socialpaths & disassocial attitudes too & that's not good , stuck in they past bad childhood life
@user-gj6yq5qy8b yes yes that's right...👏🏽
Yes, I most definitely went through this. Trying to change myself for a man who never wanted me. The healing process was hard, but definitely worth it. Thank God for his grace and mercy!
That’s what kept me God’s grace…
Im. Glad giving me my piece by. At 53 of. Age. Tired. Of. Bullshit. At. This. Age.
@@LamarVivian Damn right .. Soon I will be 51 years young…I dated a dude 10 years older than me and it was a disaster.. He wasn’t financially stable..
You can’t Change people , But you can change People, ya feel me❤ Preach Ace🎉
I am literally, balling in my car, driving down the road! Smh when you haven’t loved yourself, the way you thought you loved yourself 🤦🏾♀️🥲🥲
I swear this channel is the reason why I am sane again. God bless you !
I swear we break our own hearts💔 and we be knowing and fall for it and ugh this the last cycle, im out 🙌 ty Ace, much ❤ for this one👊🫶
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Hurt people, do hurt people. Youre so correct.
Hurt people CHOOSE to hurt people. I’ve been hurt but I do the work so I don’t hurt anyone else. That’s an excuse to be a horrible person.
You need to write a book because you tell the truth and be on point. You get straight to it. No sugar coating.
Yep , bro ain't never lied
Yes. I started healing. Then I reached out figuring that we could be friends. It doesn't work. We were never friends. We jumped into it prematurely and never build a solid foundation. It didn't work because the initial work was never put in. Trying to be friends after a breakup will never work when there was deep pain, betrayal, and confusion. You are lying to yourself. Please fast, pray, and love on you. It is not easy...but I promise it will be worth it. Give yourself about a year or so to build yourself physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and financially. ❤
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Falling for the wrong person can be detrimental for ur health
I truly got sick behind this bullshit
I did too…
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Many of us experience this effect from our fathers first. We are broken because our dads resembled the same behavior. We lost ourselves before we even dated the first man. My dad is 70 and still doing this towards me even now. He has 3 daughters, 2 sons, and the way he treats his daughters is not healthy. From a father/daughter perspective, he didn’t teach me proper treatment. I’m in the process of separating myself from that because every man I’ve dated up to now has only deepen the self hate, the conflict, confusion, and lack of confidence embedded by my fathers actions first. I am a woman worth better, but I couldn’t see it myself. Breaks are good even with fathers, brothers, and/or uncles that display no respect or honor to us. This will for sure shift future courting hopefully.
I've read a little, (at least a little bit) about how the relationship between a dad & his daughter/s DOES AFFECT what kinds of guys she chooses as she "matures or, after she matures meaning, going into womanhood, of course" &, in (my opinion, MY OPINION), how, HOW are these guys STILL CONSIDERED MEN MENTALLY & EMOTIONALLY when they say all the sh!! that they say & do, HOW?????????????????? I DON'T MEAN PHYSICALLY, I mean (mentally & emotionally), how the he!! & WHY are they still "considered to be a man, this man said this &/or, did that!?", what the..............& why, why!!!?????????????🙄🙄🙄🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🙏🙏🙏
I think you have a valid question. I’d love to hear the answer to it as well, but I would say they are only considered “men” because of the gender they were born in only. Not by emotional, spiritual, mental, societal, and sometimes physical as well. I think the immature men have a mental block from traumatic experiences they’ve had in they’re in their life. They wear an invisible mask that’s hard to see without spiritual discernment and discipline.
It’s hard work to get back to discipline and discernment if ever the ball is dropped, but it’s possible I believe.
We have the same story. So sorry we had to live through this but, thx to our power within we are still moving forward today. Much love to you!❤
This right here^^^^!
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A ring doesn’t make him change his behavior. Sometimes it’s to lock you down to tolerate his mess, real talk.
Exactly, it's better for us to not be desperate and be honest and say "I really don't like this person"....
In some cases, so true
Glad I never let it get to marriage....damn...dealing with children is already enough....like as black people we really got ourselves and each other to do better in creating a brighter future for the kids cos they will just continue the bs as well.
" Falling in love with the wrong person just means that they targeted you , to use you for a come up"
True…. true…true…..
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@marilynw1266 Happy Birthday Beloved!!! Sending you love and blessings on your special day… Many more birthdays to come… 🎉😊🤩🌟
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I needed to listen to this and im glad i did. I cant fix no man but i can remove myself when i know he devalues my worth. Ladies know you deserve better when shit is not right in your relationship 💯
This is definitely true especially when dealing with a narcissist. Healing is a battle although there is growth & blessings on the other side especially when you are a genuine soul 🙏🩷🙏
You’re correct.. I dealt with a Narcissist for 20 years…When he started the Gaslighting I learned to simply walk away from him..
No, we appreciate you. Keep doing your thing I love your show.
I appreciate hearing this from a man who can recognize the nuances of emotional labor in a relationship. As women, we fumble us before he can. 😒
Ace is in the place!!! “Dangers of loving the wrong person.” Let it Go!! Stop continuing to face the same consequences over and over again..Acknowledge and accept the hurt/pain that was given to you and move forward..In due time you shall find when love is Genuine it will be Patient and Kind….
This is so on point!!! I was just in a similar situation. BUT I HAD TO MAKE A DECISION TO WALK AWAY. I knew I was in a bad situation and I excused myself from it. Didn’t waste any time explaining anything. Just blocked him and deleted him from everything. I feel so much better. It was taking a lot out of me. I know I deserve better and took my power back.!!
Me too. The situation was toxic AF. He was a covert narc. I still have to deal with him, albeit with a limit, because we have to co-parent. He knows where I live for emergency purposes, but he's not allowed over, nor has he ever been over. Doesn't stop him from trying though. I mostly communicate with him via text. When he tries to get me to do wifey things, I remind him that we are divorced and I'm not doing it. When he tries to put his feelers out or call/text me at night, I just don't respond. I pretend that he doesn't exist. If I don't stand firm on my boundaries, he will take advantage. I'm not making s**t up, it's a fact. My peace is too important and must be protected.
@@shanellem6310 I know what you mean. I wasn’t married but he was someone from my past. He was taking me back to a place that I had prayed my way out of. I refused to let someone treat me like nothing. I learned to love myself and I will continue to do that. I’m proud of myself for real. Nobody really knows my story.
I had to do the same thing, but deep down I still have feelings. But u can love and pray from a distance.
ALRIGHT NOW!!!😅 SOMEONE WHO GETS IT😅 MOVE FORWARD WITH CONFIDENCE, KNOWING THAT THE BEST IS YET TO COME.😊
I tried ending my life a couple days ago because of him but by Gods grace I overcame it, after a couple of days, I see that he went ahead and followed back the same girl I asked him multiple times to cut ties with her while we were together. I couldn’t believe it… May God be with me through the rest of my healing journey.
You’re beautiful and deserve better. It gets better🥺🥺🥺
@@luniaetienne thank you. I just really can’t believe after everything, he manages to continue to hurt… I will never understand. Do you think I’m wrong for feeling the way I’m feeling after seeing that he followed her back right after the breakup? What would that mean to you ?
@@antoinettemulenga no you’re not wrong for feeling the way you’re feeling because he basically betrayed you… I know the feeling. I believe he was already messing with her and as soon as y’all broke up he felt free to do what he really wanted to do all along…
It’s gonna get better though just be patient… it may takes a while but the feeling will go away eventually… listen to motivational podcasts.
And don’t ever speak to him again.
Man after 4 yrs.. yeah you feel like .. what was it about me.. then I had to realize.. I’m the prize.. his loss..
Facts!!! Isolation from everyone to heal and come out a better, non bitter person 💪 is amazing!!! No victim here! Took control finally of all of what happened. I love me now ❤❤❤❤
This a REAL SERMON RIGHT HERE. AMEN
🙏 AMEN. I appreciate your advice because it gives me the strength to do better with relationships.
Yesssssssssss 👏🏽👏🏽 you are the only one can stop 🛑 it
This …… My god I needed this. That harsh talk. Straight talk. He told no lies.
I love how you speak the truth, and sometimes the truth hurts. Some of us have to possess the courage to look ourselves in the mirror and be honest about our relationship with Self. YOU are Worthy! You are ENOUGH.❤
I love the way you speak, cursing and all. If someone can’t handle it they are not ready to hear the truth.
Ace done told me!!!!!!! He done put me in my place!!!! And I thank him❤❤❤❤❤❤
I have learned not to disappear on myself.
Thank you Ace
Thanks for reading me my rights.❤❤❤❤❤
I'm glad Ive come to the realization on two things. Don't nobody owe you nothing especially consistency and loyalty unless they are married to you. If you're single you can do whatever you want, with whomever you want to for as long as you want to as long as it's legal. Just because you spend time with someone no matter how many years have gone by and you've allowed yourself to develop feelings and trust, it don't matter. They don't belong to you.
The other thing is that people have limits to their emotional capabilities. And once they reach that limit everybody else is temporary and secondary and will be used. For example if a man has a mama, sisters, kids an ex they were with for a long time? And he's talking to you, involved with you? You playing yourself and he's playing you because his emotional cup is full already with his mama, his family, his kids, his "boys". Don't like what I said? That's fine. Keep breaking your own heart. I've chosen not to!
If single ppl don’t show loyalty then we won’t ever get married
@shaylanesefamilytv1987 you play yourself when you show loyalty people don't deserve
Thanks for your blunt delivery
If I could give this a thumbs up 1000 times I would.
this is the real deal - thanks for sharing this. - nice to get the confirmation and clarity
Real talk and took me 4 years too long to learn.. I learned tho but now I'm a better me for it
Ace went in….im laughing cause the shit ain’t rocket science. 😂 and I normally don’t even comment but had to let you know. ❤
Wow it’s like you been right here witnessing all the shit! I’m playing
this everyday till I’m healed! No joke this is very much needed daily.
Yes and the way he articulated everything....I love him...I need a husband like him or him! ❤
I absolutely love this man, he tells it like it is. I love to hear the truth.❤
Ace is very hard to replace…… 👍🏽💖👍🏽🌟
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This video resonated with me the most while I’m currently grieving this split from someone who didn’t have the capacity to see my worth, I tried with the push/ pull daily never knowing what type of person I would get. It’s insane not knowing when a person could switch back and forth from respectful to disrespect and all you want them to do is keep peace and accept you cause things “were” going good.TheShit feels fake like your minds actually playing tricks on you but it’s reality & in the end he made it seem like he never liked me or cared for me and I was the problem. It hurts but it’s done! when you gotta open your eyes WIDE and step away don’t get scared, it’s the better thing to do.
Omg, you’re speaking so many facts. I wish I had a man in my life at a young age, a teenager, and again as an adult just to remind me. Good job!
That's so true! That playing in your face is crazy and if US women don't keep us 1st they will always keep playing. Zero tolerance over here.
Thank u so much for u platform. I appreciate your advice and help. GOD BLESS YOU ❤
Take as much time as you need to heal from the last relationship. Heal until you are whole! Then, if you choose to do so begin to
look for an equal, not a project. You're looking for someone who takes care of themselves and has the capacity to take care of you too. Someone on your level that you can respect and vice versa. Don't fall in love with potential.
My table is SET and yours should be as well. You got to bring something to my table besides a fork and knife!
When you are confident in what you bring to the table, you don't have to beg and chase anyone to sit down and eat!
What category do they belong in? Partner, project, parasite or pond? Putting people in the wrong category will mess your life up! Pain prevention is tied to people being properly placed in your life y'all!! A tolerable level of permanent unhappiness just won't work!!
You were speaking directly to me and it’s so crazy definitely not that person but now but as soon as I applied this to my life baby my life is unfolding before my very eyes 😢
When you stay wit a person that your changing yourself for you take away from who you are messing up your selfworth setting yourself up for failure for years i was in a relationship trying to be the good woman he wanted n it kept back firing cause he was unappreciative n selfish everything was about him n what he wanted
@queenb31100 Same with my husband..Everything I did was never good enough, he complained about everything.. He couldn’t stand that I was stealing his spotlight everyone kept asking “How’s your wife?” He was constantly dimming my light..Darling we are worth it!!🎉
Sir I have recently found your channel. I totally agree with you. What's missing is to have us women to see their traumas that made us believe we are unworthy. We must heal ourselves as well from our reasons we were never taught how to court a man. How to pick a man not only from attraction.
You are so accurate 👏👏👏👏👏👏
From 🇿🇦 i started loving myself and he left! I was able to let go. I know better now! Thank you Ace....i wish to work with you someday!
Holy shit ACE! Do not ever apologise for speaking your truth! We ladies are here, to hear you tell us the things we need to know, we need these motherfucking ahhhh haaaaa moments! And if people unfollow you because you said what they weren't ready to hear! Then BYE BYE 👋 Sometimes, the reality of the harsh truth is exactly what I want to hear! I love love love the way you get your point across! YOU have helped me see the light and made me feel so much more worthy and strong in myself. I now am armed with my sword and shield 🛡 so that I can stop laying soft arse boundaries down for a mofo to walk all over. Don't change the way YOU DO WHAT YOU DO. I, for one, am grateful. PEACE ✌️ ❤😊
You’re right….
I need you to have a Sunday service whew!! Preach🙌🏽
Appreciate the Raw honesty some of us WISHED we heard this years ago!! ME 😮😮😮😮
Whooooaaaa..Ace you might as well have jumped out of my phone and slapped me yourself😂 this one hit me hard today like damn ..I needed that shit and I love the way you talk your stern but not harsh, and your REAL but not shaming or judging..you not trying to make anyone feel bad, bc we trying to see good in someone that's just plain bad and you preach that shit so good it gave me goosebumps❤❤ thank you man, you are def doing what God called you to do cause you really just lit a fire under my ass that I'm gonna put to good use😊🎉
Yes same here!!!! We making it now, I'm so glad I have me back....I know how to move better next time....NOT IN NO FUCKING RUSH! Hahahhaaha know the important shit and move accordingly simple. I love you....hope to meet you someday! Happy beautiful life changing days to us all making better decisions for ourselves ❤
They love the idea of changing you into someone who benefits them. You make them shine while they spit poison into your spirit, telling you that you are not good enough! Stop helping these individuals & start helping yourself. Itcould look like not accepting back seat driving, criticism or insults. It could look like spending the day by yourself. Moving out, breaking up, choosing yourself. Staying abstinent from sex.
Thank you, Ace! 🙏❤️ Everything you said was 100% true! 💯💯💯 Bless you for reminding us all those important things that some of us ignore!
Amen sometimes we do ignore the important things because we have our blinders on.. “I was blind but, now I see.”
Thank you!!! 💯
It takes a high self worth to stand up for yourself. I know what that is like to have low self worth.
You giving straight facts us as women is too easy and don’t stop it when man behave and act out
Haven’t had a dad in my life since a kid so I really gotta chose better. Thanks for the understanding got to heal.
L needed to hear this, thank you so much ❤
Thank you for this highly appreciated this message needed to run into this
Thank you for coming for me. This is eye opening
Truth 😢, needed to hear this. You just tell it like it is and I certainly needed a wake up call. I’m so proud of myself for letting go of toxicity and bullshit.
Absolutely Ace I didn't that too for 7 years I been for 3 years now I'm waiting patiently for God to send me my person nor husband Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙏❤❤
Your passionate, fervent speaking shows that you really care for women in these situations 😊
This video was literally made for ME and is sadly everything iv been going through. I'm SOO greatful for Ace's videos to help me have clarity, to help me gain strength and to help me to remember... I'm valuable and I DO have standards... when I feel weak and sad about the shit iv been allowing myself to be put through I really watch Ace's videos I LOVE how FUNNY he is and speaks honestly and does not sugar coat shit! That's what ALL us women NEED!!! When it has to deal with out heart and feelings... we can't hear advice sugar coated... we NEED the plain blunt truth... no matter how hard it is to hear!
Please make more videos like this.. iv watched it soooo many times already and will keep watching more because you make me laugh when I want to cry and ALL the words you say in this video, all the advice your giving is like you REALLY made this video for ME and what I'm going through... sadly to admit...but I'm sooooo grateful for this video and you!!!
Know you are helping people keep their head up high, laugh and remember their value.... you are helping me make it through my day!
Thankyou so so much!!!
I'm sooooo sad I missed you in Seattle I pray you come back soon!!
❤ Mallory
Keep speaking TRUTH.
The only way to change the man is to CHANGE 🔁 the man❤
Such stupid relationships will make you a shadow of yourself. Leave. You first.
You betta preach!
We good I appreciate how you are putting it some of us including myself need hard core advice God bless you!!
I’m huge fan Ace, but I always hear you talk about women who get mistreated by men BUT their are women who mistreat good men and don’t see the value in these good men
Preach! 👏🏾😭 Speak the truth, don’t sugar coat nothing! I finally realized my worth… He’s gone, now he’s hoovering me! I’ll do this, I’ll do that, I’m going to church… 😒🤦🏾♀️ Now you can do all that?! 😒✌🏾
I will do this and I will do that believe me it won’t last…I’m glad you realized your worth… Always remember you are worth more than enough….
AMAZING LESSONS being taught... thank you ❤❤❤
This the first video of yours I could completely agree with and watch all the way through
The truth is the truth Ace and if they allow it to, It will set them free
You're telling the truth ❤
Everytime he says dusty i just laugh 😂😂😂
Hell Yeah back in the day we used to call them “Dust Ass.”😂😂😂
Ace you to Real and I love yo cursing because you stand on business and telling the truth 😘😘
Ace...you just became my best friend🙏
It needed to be said so say it !!! We need the hard core truth sometimes its the only way a person will move
Killed it💯 Yes, Ace Metaphor👏🏾
I'm a man who is going through this now, but in reverse. This is happening to me!!
Your right for all ladies so thank you. I'm need better understanding. That's why I'm by myself
Thanks Ace! 😊
You don’t know how much it takes for people to just KEEP GOING despite what they are facing. Be gracious to people and what you possibly don’t know about them.
Unpopular opinion. Your husband/ significant other doesn't get to do this bulls$t either.
Oh, my God Thank you for this I I appreciate you this is for me on point 😢❤
You speak the truth 😢
Thank you. I appreciate your advice.
You should have a retreat for men and boys.
They need to be in your classroom learning how to be men with good intentions to teach their children to have good intentions to treat women the way they would like their daughters to be treated in a society ,relationships
I was married to a taker for 30 years. I give and give and give. I’m happy with myself. I’m a beautiful strong independent woman and blessed. It’s just seems so impossible to find someone who is really good with good intentions. Most just want to take and take.
Thank you so much. 😂love listening to you with a cupa tea. Thank you 😊
Blessings to you ❤
Keep it funky wit us !! Ace, we need to hear jt. I just found a man my ears are open to. 💯
Aceeeee! You have a killer sense of humour but be kind to the ladies who’re hurting
I had the time of my life learning valuable perspective and cracking the fuck up at all the many mysterious jokes but I’d be feeling a bit different if I’d come to actually get some advice/ solution ..
I mean I absolutely love what you’re saying and advising but just a bit gently pleaaaase 🙏🏾🤍
I’ve watched 2 of your videos and loved it so far .. keep thriving 🧿⚡️
#sunscribed🫶🏾
💯% on point. Love from 🇬🇧🙌🏾
You are all in my s***I promise you all that stuff you just said I've been saying the same thing he keep treating me like that cuz I keep allowing him to treat me like that cuz I keep staying not after the day thank you for the courage and the wise words to make me make this big move
I’m grateful for each and every one of your pod casts and shorts! GRATEFUL! #FuqShyt
And, yes, loving a hard person DOES change the spirit. I am sad about this but at same time the darker spirits that come in will never kill the pure spirits of light ❤❤
This sounds a lot like Narcissistic people. My ex was. Covert Narc he could not accept who I was and that I shined brighter than him , he was painfully insecure and kept trying to belittle me and control me. Abusive behaviour! I slammed the door in his face and he is blocked everywhere. ❤