I went from being an introvert to being a professional flirt in a span of two decades, and I'm 34 now. It's ridiculous to the point women think I actually have second intentions with them constantly and sometimes it actually gets in my way. All you need is just to have confidence and learn to compliment people. People love being complimented. The more you do, the more they love, the better you get. Just be honest and truthful.
I act as if I have loads of confidence. I’m 44 been on six combat deployments in spec war live at the beach and currently attending a military school. I am miserable and depressed with ideation. I generally suck at life, despite being tall fit and intelligent. I am awkward weirdly kind and incompetent. And people see it and I ache deeply inside all the time. I and currently reserve/guard status and lost my full time job as a firefighter (through the guard… weird situation). I exude both stress and personal unearned confidence according to my peer evaluation. It’s true and I don’t know how to fix it.
@@chucksolutions4579 I generally sucked at life during those two decades I just mentioned, but worked hard in order to change it. Do you think is there anything you can work on to feel competent again?
It was the same with me, was bullied a bit, never really noticed by women and after years I only dealt with this topic because it was my biggest goal to get a woman, and today and for a few years now I am self-confident and flirt like a professional, although I am rarely self-confident, but I studied psychology virtually privately and I have an insanely good knowledge of human nature since I was little and today I know I how I sell myself and all that Together is a miracle weapon❤
I'm a straight dude and I've legit used some of his techniques to "flirt" with a lot of my MALE bosses. If you notice someone has a great looking tie or watch or pair of shoes that you actually like, take a moment randomly to really make eye contact with them and compliment them on it, then just move on. They'll be thinking about you all day 😂 Edit: It's crucial to do it properly! You compliment the item AND THEN give a quick reason why you like it. "Great shoes; love the colour." "Nice tie; looks good with the shirt." "Cool watch; what company is it?"
@@TheDylls Who doesn't love a sincere compliment? The impact is even greater when unexpected and without ulterior motive. Recently, out of the blue, I complimented a much younger woman (in a Meetup group), someone I barely know, on her new profile pic. I called it "fabulous" (in Spanish, her native language). My primary motivation was to brighten her day, make her feel good about her choice. I've got no interest in dating her, but the positive energy you establish when engaging in this behavior has a ripple effect on those you associate with ... and, more importantly, on YOU!
@@srbaruchi I love this whole story, and especially love the very last line. Seinfeld may have been correct when they said "There's no such thing as a selfless good deed, because it makes YOU feel good" but I'm VERY ok with that! Win-win (-win)!
@@TheDylls Seinfeld is right, I believe. Pure altruism in humans doesn't exist, because, as he says, part of it is making yourself feel good. When I was in college, I looked out my window, saw a homeless guy sleeping on the cold ground (it was winter) in front of my apartment building. On impulse, I walked down with an extra blanket, laid it by him, and returned. He was gone in the morning, and so was the blanket. 43 years later I still feel great about such a relatively simple gesture of kindness. (I'm sure many people have such stories.) And thank you for your appreciation of my profile-pic story. You just practiced what you preach!
Craig Ferguson is a master. This is the woman’s perspective on why he’s successful. 1. He’s confident in his own skin, but not cocky. He’s self deprecating and funny and doesn’t take himself too seriously. 2. He creates a safe place for women to be heard and appreciated. 3. He compliments them genuinely, often as if he’s their gay best friend. This isn’t to mock gay men, it’s to show genuine appreciation for what they’re wearing or how good they look. Women are so used to straight men complimenting them just to get laid… that compliments loose their meaning. By being a bit camp, he’s saying “you look good girl” in a non threatening way that has no sexual energy attached. 4. Then he fully listens to them. Eye-contact, listening, engaging, staying present, and when appropriate he makes them laugh. 5. But he’s not trying to steal the spotlight or play a game or be “hilarious”. He doesn’t have pick me energy. He’s just being himself. If there’s a funny joke available, he tries it. And if it doesn’t land, he makes fun of himself. 6. Then, he might allude to the fact that it’s their beauty that is making him off his game tonight. But again, in a shy, cute, NON threatening way. 7. Then he might make a sexual innuendo…. Teasing and letting them lean into their own sexuality, testing if they want play back on their own. This lets him know if it’s an avenue they’re comfortable with, with him. If they don’t lean in, he backs up. 8. If they do, he usually says something in his deep masculine voice, reminding them that he is a straight man and all jokes aside… he thinks they are sexy AF. something like “you’re goddamn right” or “oh you bet I would” etc. it’s a small harmless phrase, but the intention is “you are desirable and I’m containing myself”… that’s so hot to a woman. it says he’s interested, he thinks I’m sexy, he has self control, and he’s giving me the power over him. we love that.
I mean, part of the reason they flirt with Craig is because it’s a bit. When the show first started, it became one of the things fans liked the most. So before people go on the show, it’s discussed that they should flirt with Craig. Not saying Craig isn’t hilarious, or that he isn’t charismatic - but it’s mostly a bit, and some of the girls were better at playing along. Conan’s bit is sarcasm and self deprecation, Jimmy Fallon is the friendly guy, and Craig’s the “late late night” flirt.
Cheeky, witty, child-like, banter, and authenticity. No magic. No gimmick. No tricks. It's easy when you can be confidently yourself like that. It makes no difference if youre rich or poor or who you are.
Also making women feel “safe” around you like Craig does is one of the most important factors because all those other guys that failed giving off the creep factor may as well be the “grape” factor.
Craig creates a safe space for his guests to be flirty or suggestive. These women would not be playful if they thought it would be taken the wrong way. With his interactions with past guests, He's made it very clear that he's never going to take advantage, no matter how suggestive things get. That's why women are relaxed joking about with gay men because they know nothing is going to happen. In other words, don't give off rapey vibes.
The dichotomy of not being too serious + find the best words the best vibe while knowing there are some many tasks to do at work or to be in time in appointments just to pay the bills in the end of the month and be able to have peace with her while many times she isn't satisfied or seems like it will never be enough
This was aVERY valuable analysis! Thank you! To be clear, I'm into men and definitely not women. I have been watching dating coaches that coach men to reverse engineer and have a list I can fact check against instead of going on assumptions. It is true about what you say. They guy dies not have to be a Greek god or have a lot of money because the value of a man is reflected with what comes out of his mouth from his mind and heart. Just FIY... Craig is Scottish not Irish. His Scottish heritage leands to his charm and smoothness. They are just naturally like that. 😊
Sean Connery did pretty well too. This video doesn't bring up how many Scottish men can be extremely charming to anyone, especially when they are a foreigner.
« I’m surprised you chose to wear a hat, because you’re famous for your head! » 😂😂😂😂 Hahahah really genius, definitely using a similar line on a future date when all goes well 😂
I honestly believe either you have an natural ability to attract the opposite sex with a certain type of charisma and relaxed attitude that makes the other person very comfortable with you, it's not as much about looks, looks obviously are important but being open and easy going and the ability to make others laugh is equally important as looks
I see the process as a kind of loop. The more you develop your social skills, the more you develop a positive personality. The more positive you are about yourself and life, the stronger your social skills become. Being naturally funny is an asset. But so also is an appreciation for the commonalities we have with others.
Bro happily You are wrong. Charisma is a skill a every skill can be Master (Read the Charisma Myth) and attitude is not stactic by definition finally being relax in yourself come with self KNOLEDGE and also having Freedom for problems from accomplishment of purpose and the acceptance of pain. With all love don't be a bitch a dare to be great the world need great men not bitches.
My guess is because he's hilarious but he's also not an actor. Craig just acted like himself and it was awesome and women loved that about him. Plus he was always open about his marriage and that it was all in good fun. The women could've just been acting, but I'd say being cool as fuck but unattainable just made him more desirable
If his point is that flirting and attraction aren't *algorithmic*, then that's certainly true. But neither is logic. Both flirting and logic require judgment, weighing of context, and adaptation to new information. Both are skills you can improve with practice. Both aim to achieve something specific: Logic seeks the identification of facts and the integration of knowledge into a non-contradictory whole. Flirting seeks connection, emotional engagement, and value exploration with another person. Logic is a method of thinking according to certain rules. Flirting is a method of communicating values according to certain rules. The choice to adhere to logic or not redounds into the things you go after in life, the things you view as worth pursuing, even your psychology as a whole. Which of course has implications for your emotions and the way you communicate with people (opposite sex or otherwise). Being fertile in your thinking redounds to being fertile in your communication. Flirting is playful, creative communication conveying attraction to another person. True, attraction isn't a conscious choice. True, emotions are not algorithmic. But nor are attraction and emotion causeless or random. They are both responses to value-judgments that you've subconsciously made automatic by prior thinking (or non-thinking). They're the result of the sum of your subconscious premises, which are shaped by conceptual evaluations you've made across the whole of your life. Emotions are the "currency" of flirting. When you flirt, emotions are sparked and exchanged, and the implicit judgments underlying those emotions (whether formed logically or not) can be subtly engaged with. It's a way of testing and exploring whether the values of the person you're flirting with mesh or complement your own. Which requires logic to identify. Logic is the method of aligning your mind with reality, and flirting is no exception.
I remember when I was a little creepy intense guy and Couldn't for the life of me pick up any girl. The greatest lesson I learned came when a girl I was trying to be with rejected me and I got sad and started rambling about how nobody liked me (I might add people consistently tell me I'm good looking since I was a kid so it was even more frustrating). She just kissed me and told me to stop whining, that it was that easy, just do it and expect nothing. And boy was she right. Flirting became so easy when I got in mind that there was rarely any bad consequence for failing that it freed me from a lot of weight. And yes, you eventually become good at complimenting people (both men and women) for the pleasure of being nice to people
I see a lot more he is always in a happy state and him being really interested in these lady he is fearless out going his laugh carries him to victory with the ladies he sees them the right way that’s why in some segments you see him protecting them he is really a ladies man but the kind of man never looks back he keeps going forward asome reminds me of me as a teenager and marriage has totally changed me I long for those young boy days but can go back
Bro, it's a night talk show, of course the guest is cooperative to make the show more entertaining. Plus she knows the guy , she knows she's safe etc... so she's playful and enjoys the night. And yes he's also somewhat handsome.
Because it leans so much on Ferguson, the advice given here is that one only needs to follows these steps to be highly attractive to hot women seem plausable. First, Ferguson has specific personality traits that only a few people have, which includes his charm. No amount of practice can so change these traits for would-be seducers. Second, he is a skilled comedian and fast with the quips. Very few people are this skill at humor. Also, he is an actor who plays a flirty character and the hot guests are cued to play along. They know his flirts are harmless from the start, which puts them at ease. The seven steps may be good tactics, but cannot provide the advantages mentioned above. Being flirty without being creepy is difficult to learn and very risky to practice. Maybe after you somehow become playful, charismatic and funny, then consider these 7 steps.
Honestly, as a 5’2 man I need Craig’s skills but if I’m not naturally as gifted as him I don’t know how to get there lol. Although your video breaks it down nicely, practically implementing it in the moment is a whole other ballgame
I'm not saying there's no tips you could learn from him, but it's worth remembering that he interviewed celebrities (many actors that are capable of you guessed it - acting!) on a show. It could get extremely flirtatious and that doesn't mean there is an ounce of genuine connection or attraction between them, it also doesn't mean that anything happened after the interview either!
missing a key point. furguson has the odd quality that every one feels safe around. sometimes they tend to feel safe to be bad. thats a big part of it. the rest is learned. initially he probable didn't realize this initially
You can practice with a coach, a mirror, a friend, or go to a place where you can cold approach where no one knows you. At some point you have to take some action, with action comes risk/reward. Then Build a feedback loop you can improve on.
I think one ingredient is that Craig hasn't a special intention in these moments. He simply wanna have fun also for the girls. Sexualizing a talk is great but he didn't expect any outcome than flirt and fun. Imagine you joking around with your boys, it's not so hard. Be tasteful but cheeky 😉 I learn it by simply talking to random strangers... the old lady in the elevator.. the cashier in the supermarket.... only to make a conversation, a bit joking and lighten up their day. Even you feel way better. And with the time you can also do it with beautiful girls.
Damn can’t imagine how tough it can be to date him lol. I bet any girlfriend / wife dating him would be scared of the massive number of women flirting with him.
Uhhhhh the answers are simple: 1. He’s super rich 2. He’s decent looking for his age and way better looking than all the other male talk show hosts 3. He’s charismatic and good at conversation/has an accent 4. Look at number one again, because it drives everything, otherwise they wouldn’t be as interested.
Although it might be hard to believe, money and looks aren't on the same level of perceived attractiveness for women when compared to personality, charisma, and knowing how to flirt. If you don't have the latter, you'll just be a good-looking person with money. I think understanding the meta also means accepting that all those things works, or else you're doomed to fail without even trying. You can see this for yourself by simply observing couples on the street-many times, the guys with the most attractive women aren't necessarily as good-looking. You can call them blinds or whatever, but the fact remains that women often value other qualities more
1. You just need to be self sufficient. Some people like money most are neutral. 2. There is no excuse for being out of shape. You don't need the perfect weight or be fully functional but you do need to be effective with what you have and not whine about it. 3. Being okay with yourself and your surroundings is 80%. Charisma counts for the other 20%. Be vulnerable and honest. Find the perfect balance between safe and spicy. 4. Sad boy who believes progress is out of reach will never get there. Improve a little each day, week, month and you'll be happy with your acomplishments in 2 years.
Most guys have the same flirting skills as Craig. They just choose to be in their heads and over think. Whereas Craig is just having fun and self amusing.
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This is a show, a show to entertain the audience. See those people as actors, including Ferguson. In no way he could go so far in real life.
Asian guy - I will scientifically analyze Ferguson and emulate this… Craig - stop that. Asian guy - what? Craig - that. that nerdy crap. Asian guy - that’s me. Craig - yes, stop that.
I gotta disagree here on one point. Maybe it's about timing. And then online dating. I was chatting up a lady, or so I thought a lady, and in the first convo she made a sexual innuendo. Huge turn off. American ladies do that. Foreign women don't, Russian girls anyway. I guess they think American men expect that? I don't know. To me it is a red flag
Mostly, but there are exceptions. My former colleague was a zero in the looks department, but he could charm the pants off women. Physically, he was Bozo the Clown without the makeup -- & married to boot -- but he was constantly having affairs with really hot women. He was adept at many of the skills/techniques discussed here. Having personality to chat up the chicks makes sense. But what I still can't understand is why they'd go on to sleep with him.
Come on,it's clear that it's all staged. And have you ever seen any audience? Do you think these famous women just somehow get there and are all one like the other just dripping wet because of him talking about his tea cup and shit? It has the vibes of flirting, but come on...
I think your analysis is pretty perfect👍🏻 Conan and Lenno are really creepy 😂 not only slightly. Even to watch it as a man is more than cringy🙄 and their faces are creepy without sound.! To be seriously Conan even looks creepy when he does nothing😂😂😂😂 also his voice. First of all: be confident, tasteful and witty and stand to your male sight, don't apologize for it. But don't compliment bodyparts🥱 Conan talks to entertain the crowd like a clown... Craig connects really to the women it's a one to one👌🏼 he speaks with them not to them + audience. He wants to enlighten their day and mind with fun AND women are much more calibrated than men. They get it when your joking around even if it's hard stuff. Craig has charme the others not.... you feel the difference. If Craig says "i love you" with a smile in his eyes, he talks only with the women..... when Conan does this it's for the crowd... he tries to simply copy words of Craig👎🏻 In comparison he's a real jerk. If i was the boss i would fire him........ and search someone charming
You could also see it as all the women who believe they wanna be with him are idiots. They think he is the one they want just because he is good at complimenting or whatever but seeing that he has been divorced 3 times makes you wonder if he is a person you would want to live with. So the question is if you should choose a woman like that even if you had the choice. Just saying this to make people feel less worthless.
Not saying Craig doesn't have flirting skills and he is very likeable guy but both he and his guests have usually had a few drinks before the interviews. Maybe not all but most and he certainly does. It helps to lower inhibition so the guests can be more comfortable talking about such topics as sex. That's why thry call alcohol liquid courage
@@Colin-Fenix well even so most of his guests do and that definitely makes a difference. Also he has made a name for himself so word gets around that he's a flirt. It comes pretty easy when you already have a reputation for it. Regardless of whether or not he's buzzed or not doesn't negate what I said previously.
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This is the one thing I was gonna comment on. I'm glad you caught it.😅
Yeah this is also why I came the comment section
*glaswegian accent
I was gonna say bro, I've watched Craig for years, how DARE you!! Late late show could never recover from his loss.
nice video bro, i'll use it to make my game better ;)
I went from being an introvert to being a professional flirt in a span of two decades, and I'm 34 now. It's ridiculous to the point women think I actually have second intentions with them constantly and sometimes it actually gets in my way. All you need is just to have confidence and learn to compliment people. People love being complimented. The more you do, the more they love, the better you get. Just be honest and truthful.
I act as if I have loads of confidence. I’m 44 been on six combat deployments in spec war live at the beach and currently attending a military school. I am miserable and depressed with ideation. I generally suck at life, despite being tall fit and intelligent. I am awkward weirdly kind and incompetent. And people see it and I ache deeply inside all the time. I and currently reserve/guard status and lost my full time job as a firefighter (through the guard… weird situation). I exude both stress and personal unearned confidence according to my peer evaluation.
It’s true and I don’t know how to fix it.
@@chucksolutions4579 I generally sucked at life during those two decades I just mentioned, but worked hard in order to change it. Do you think is there anything you can work on to feel competent again?
Did the confidence come as an effect of the response after complimemting people?
@@snorttroll4379 was this to me?
It was the same with me, was bullied a bit, never really noticed by women and after years I only dealt with this topic because it was my biggest goal to get a woman, and today and for a few years now I am self-confident and flirt like a professional, although I am rarely self-confident, but I studied psychology virtually privately and I have an insanely good knowledge of human nature since I was little and today I know I how I sell myself and all that Together is a miracle weapon❤
He' s not taking himself too seriously.
You could not have picked a better example than Craig Ferguson. He is truly a Master!!
And ya can’t tell what even embed doing literally just joking and talking and not acting too interested
I think I learned more about flirting and building rapport watching Craig's interviews than with all my male friends.
(* He's Scottish, not Irish)
I'm a straight dude and I've legit used some of his techniques to "flirt" with a lot of my MALE bosses.
If you notice someone has a great looking tie or watch or pair of shoes that you actually like, take a moment randomly to really make eye contact with them and compliment them on it, then just move on. They'll be thinking about you all day 😂
Edit: It's crucial to do it properly! You compliment the item AND THEN give a quick reason why you like it.
"Great shoes; love the colour."
"Nice tie; looks good with the shirt."
"Cool watch; what company is it?"
@@TheDyllsgood point
@@TheDylls Who doesn't love a sincere compliment? The impact is even greater when unexpected and without ulterior motive. Recently, out of the blue, I complimented a much younger woman (in a Meetup group), someone I barely know, on her new profile pic. I called it "fabulous" (in Spanish, her native language). My primary motivation was to brighten her day, make her feel good about her choice. I've got no interest in dating her, but the positive energy you establish when engaging in this behavior has a ripple effect on those you associate with ... and, more importantly, on YOU!
@@srbaruchi I love this whole story, and especially love the very last line.
Seinfeld may have been correct when they said "There's no such thing as a selfless good deed, because it makes YOU feel good" but I'm VERY ok with that!
Win-win (-win)!
@@TheDylls Seinfeld is right, I believe. Pure altruism in humans doesn't exist, because, as he says, part of it is making yourself feel good.
When I was in college, I looked out my window, saw a homeless guy sleeping on the cold ground (it was winter) in front of my apartment building. On impulse, I walked down with an extra blanket, laid it by him, and returned. He was gone in the morning, and so was the blanket. 43 years later I still feel great about such a relatively simple gesture of kindness. (I'm sure many people have such stories.)
And thank you for your appreciation of my profile-pic story. You just practiced what you preach!
Craig Ferguson is a master. This is the woman’s perspective on why he’s successful.
1. He’s confident in his own skin, but not cocky. He’s self deprecating and funny and doesn’t take himself too seriously.
2. He creates a safe place for women to be heard and appreciated.
3. He compliments them genuinely, often as if he’s their gay best friend. This isn’t to mock gay men, it’s to show genuine appreciation for what they’re wearing or how good they look. Women are so used to straight men complimenting them just to get laid… that compliments loose their meaning. By being a bit camp, he’s saying “you look good girl” in a non threatening way that has no sexual energy attached.
4. Then he fully listens to them. Eye-contact, listening, engaging, staying present, and when appropriate he makes them laugh.
5. But he’s not trying to steal the spotlight or play a game or be “hilarious”. He doesn’t have pick me energy. He’s just being himself. If there’s a funny joke available, he tries it. And if it doesn’t land, he makes fun of himself.
6. Then, he might allude to the fact that it’s their beauty that is making him off his game tonight. But again, in a shy, cute, NON threatening way.
7. Then he might make a sexual innuendo…. Teasing and letting them lean into their own sexuality, testing if they want play back on their own. This lets him know if it’s an avenue they’re comfortable with, with him. If they don’t lean in, he backs up.
8. If they do, he usually says something in his deep masculine voice, reminding them that he is a straight man and all jokes aside… he thinks they are sexy AF. something like “you’re goddamn right” or “oh you bet I would” etc. it’s a small harmless phrase, but the intention is “you are desirable and I’m containing myself”… that’s so hot to a woman. it says he’s interested, he thinks I’m sexy, he has self control, and he’s giving me the power over him. we love that.
nice summary!
Thank you, we need more feedback from women. All this dating advice from men to men, but where’s the women’s perspective in that..
@@thegirlwholovesmusic awesome summation 👌
I mean, part of the reason they flirt with Craig is because it’s a bit. When the show first started, it became one of the things fans liked the most. So before people go on the show, it’s discussed that they should flirt with Craig. Not saying Craig isn’t hilarious, or that he isn’t charismatic - but it’s mostly a bit, and some of the girls were better at playing along.
Conan’s bit is sarcasm and self deprecation, Jimmy Fallon is the friendly guy, and Craig’s the “late late night” flirt.
I don't think Craig was scripted at all, maybe to start up things with a guest but most comes natural. A living legend
Cheeky, witty, child-like, banter, and authenticity. No magic. No gimmick. No tricks. It's easy when you can be confidently yourself like that. It makes no difference if youre rich or poor or who you are.
Also making women feel “safe” around you like Craig does is one of the most important factors because all those other guys that failed giving off the creep factor may as well be the “grape” factor.
@@silentalliance3269 who says grape?
The dude rolled 3 sixes in charisma.
Craig creates a safe space for his guests to be flirty or suggestive. These women would not be playful if they thought it would be taken the wrong way. With his interactions with past guests, He's made it very clear that he's never going to take advantage, no matter how suggestive things get. That's why women are relaxed joking about with gay men because they know nothing is going to happen. In other words, don't give off rapey vibes.
So your advice is to act like a gay man and never make a move. Got it.
Oh, how simple life would be if guys who struggle with women understood what "rapey vibes" means. 🙈
@@frankenviews4069 or creepy vibes.
I'm terrible at flirting because when it actually works, I start falling in love, so it isn't really flirting at all.
Flirt with all the ugly girls. That will fix that
@@ericksonjustinAK that's just you wanting to fk her....your in "like"
The dichotomy of not being too serious + find the best words the best vibe while knowing there are some many tasks to do at work or to be in time in appointments just to pay the bills in the end of the month and be able to have peace with her while many times she isn't satisfied or seems like it will never be enough
On charisma and best talk show ever, Craig Ferguson.
“I’m surprised you wore a hat because you’re famous for your head” - write that down!
Excellent analysis 💯
This was aVERY valuable analysis! Thank you! To be clear, I'm into men and definitely not women. I have been watching dating coaches that coach men to reverse engineer and have a list I can fact check against instead of going on assumptions. It is true about what you say. They guy dies not have to be a Greek god or have a lot of money because the value of a man is reflected with what comes out of his mouth from his mind and heart. Just FIY... Craig is Scottish not Irish. His Scottish heritage leands to his charm and smoothness. They are just naturally like that. 😊
Oh my God, see this thing is a masterpiece holy schnike
I like the way you did this video, clips plus narrative... some ppl talk too much and not enough clips of what they're talking about
That Scottish accent doesn’t hurt
Such a great analysis man. Thank you so much
This was a really solid charm and Craig Ferguson breakdown...good stuff.
thank you for this information sir. learn a lot
tons of value in this video. appreciation from austin, texas
maybe the best youtube video ever
Sean Connery did pretty well too. This video doesn't bring up how many Scottish men can be extremely charming to anyone, especially when they are a foreigner.
« I’m surprised you chose to wear a hat, because you’re famous for your head! » 😂😂😂😂
Hahahah really genius, definitely using a similar line on a future date when all goes well 😂
I didnt quite understand that one
"Incredible dress... that you've been dipped into" hahahaha that cracked me up
Fantastic breakdown. More pls.
This was an enlightening revision and one of the best videos on the subject. Especially the examples of how people get wrong. Thank you.
This is awesome!!
Logistic, practical and passionate
Love it \m/
Thank u
Glad you like it!
Top tip: Become the star of a celebrity talk show
He literally covers why that doesn't matter at the very beginning of the video
Scottish accent, not Irish accent.
They all sound the same
@@dannnsss8034 similar yes, but I can tell the difference in their dialects pretty easily.
Completely different
I honestly believe either you have an natural ability to attract the opposite sex with a certain type of charisma and relaxed attitude that makes the other person very comfortable with you, it's not as much about looks, looks obviously are important but being open and easy going and the ability to make others laugh is equally important as looks
I think there are "naturals" and "synthetics" (AKA me). It's learn-able but it's easier if you're born with it, or pick it up earlier when young
I see the process as a kind of loop. The more you develop your social skills, the more you develop a positive personality. The more positive you are about yourself and life, the stronger your social skills become. Being naturally funny is an asset. But so also is an appreciation for the commonalities we have with others.
Bro happily You are wrong. Charisma is a skill a every skill can be Master (Read the Charisma Myth) and attitude is not stactic by definition finally being relax in yourself come with self KNOLEDGE and also having Freedom for problems from accomplishment of purpose and the acceptance of pain. With all love don't be a bitch a dare to be great the world need great men not bitches.
He was a great talk show host. Greatly missed
Well it helps to have a successful talk show.
He's the alpha of the show...accent...clever with his words...just a natural honestly
That “alpha” stuff is all nonsense
There is no "naturals" in social skills, everybody need to do work to get there
Said the beta in indignation.
My guess is because he's hilarious but he's also not an actor. Craig just acted like himself and it was awesome and women loved that about him. Plus he was always open about his marriage and that it was all in good fun. The women could've just been acting, but I'd say being cool as fuck but unattainable just made him more desirable
You should make a vidwo about when it did not work for him and try to understand why. Even at the top of his game it can flop.
I don't think you can learn this ... But getting better is a good thing
If his point is that flirting and attraction aren't *algorithmic*, then that's certainly true. But neither is logic. Both flirting and logic require judgment, weighing of context, and adaptation to new information. Both are skills you can improve with practice.
Both aim to achieve something specific:
Logic seeks the identification of facts and the integration of knowledge into a non-contradictory whole.
Flirting seeks connection, emotional engagement, and value exploration with another person.
Logic is a method of thinking according to certain rules.
Flirting is a method of communicating values according to certain rules.
The choice to adhere to logic or not redounds into the things you go after in life, the things you view as worth pursuing, even your psychology as a whole. Which of course has implications for your emotions and the way you communicate with people (opposite sex or otherwise).
Being fertile in your thinking redounds to being fertile in your communication. Flirting is playful, creative communication conveying attraction to another person.
True, attraction isn't a conscious choice. True, emotions are not algorithmic. But nor are attraction and emotion causeless or random. They are both responses to value-judgments that you've subconsciously made automatic by prior thinking (or non-thinking). They're the result of the sum of your subconscious premises, which are shaped by conceptual evaluations you've made across the whole of your life.
Emotions are the "currency" of flirting. When you flirt, emotions are sparked and exchanged, and the implicit judgments underlying those emotions (whether formed logically or not) can be subtly engaged with. It's a way of testing and exploring whether the values of the person you're flirting with mesh or complement your own. Which requires logic to identify. Logic is the method of aligning your mind with reality, and flirting is no exception.
I remember when I was a little creepy intense guy and Couldn't for the life of me pick up any girl. The greatest lesson I learned came when a girl I was trying to be with rejected me and I got sad and started rambling about how nobody liked me (I might add people consistently tell me I'm good looking since I was a kid so it was even more frustrating). She just kissed me and told me to stop whining, that it was that easy, just do it and expect nothing. And boy was she right.
Flirting became so easy when I got in mind that there was rarely any bad consequence for failing that it freed me from a lot of weight.
And yes, you eventually become good at complimenting people (both men and women) for the pleasure of being nice to people
I definitely opt for the Conan flirting method 😂
I see a lot more he is always in a happy state and him being really interested in these lady he is fearless out going his laugh carries him to victory with the ladies he sees them the right way that’s why in some segments you see him protecting them he is really a ladies man but the kind of man never looks back he keeps going forward asome reminds me of me as a teenager and marriage has totally changed me I long for those young boy days but can go back
It’s probably because he is 6’7” 😂
Craig's 6 ft 2
Bro, it's a night talk show, of course the guest is cooperative to make the show more entertaining. Plus she knows the guy , she knows she's safe etc... so she's playful and enjoys the night. And yes he's also somewhat handsome.
To break it down into a few words. Embrace your inner cheeky young teen self.
Awesome video. Thanks for that. BTW, he's Scottish, not Irish.
Because it leans so much on Ferguson, the advice given here is that one only needs to follows these steps to be highly attractive to hot women seem plausable. First, Ferguson has specific personality traits that only a few people have, which includes his charm. No amount of practice can so change these traits for would-be seducers. Second, he is a skilled comedian and fast with the quips. Very few people are this skill at humor. Also, he is an actor who plays a flirty character and the hot guests are cued to play along. They know his flirts are harmless from the start, which puts them at ease. The seven steps may be good tactics, but cannot provide the advantages mentioned above. Being flirty without being creepy is difficult to learn and very risky to practice. Maybe after you somehow become playful, charismatic and funny, then consider these 7 steps.
Definitely need strong fundamentals to pull off some of this stuff!
3. Calibration
Honestly, as a 5’2 man I need Craig’s skills but if I’m not naturally as gifted as him I don’t know how to get there lol. Although your video breaks it down nicely, practically implementing it in the moment is a whole other ballgame
I'm not saying there's no tips you could learn from him, but it's worth remembering that he interviewed celebrities (many actors that are capable of you guessed it - acting!) on a show. It could get extremely flirtatious and that doesn't mean there is an ounce of genuine connection or attraction between them, it also doesn't mean that anything happened after the interview either!
Craig has a hot wife in real life.
If you think those women are acting, you have very low emotional and perception skills.
Never really thought about it much always passed it off as a schtick.
Scottish not Irish accent ;) good vid
I feel privileged to subscribe ur channel lol. Like nobody knows, but i know kinda feeling
Craig,,,,just has it,,..
FYI. He’s Scottish not Irish.
Great vid
17:01 any one knows who is the actress?
@@Nikkoloko86 Hayley Atwell
missing a key point. furguson has the odd quality that every one feels safe around. sometimes they tend to feel safe to be bad.
thats a big part of it. the rest is learned. initially he probable didn't realize this initially
This is definitely something you can learn. I believe it's the most important one.
all i want to know is, at 17:06 , how? just how? can someone exaplin to me?
Okay so I just need to get taller more handsome and have a Scottish accent and do some improv courses. On it.
How do you avoid creepiness while practicing these concepts? Edit: Can't see the response.
You can practice with a coach, a mirror, a friend, or go to a place where you can cold approach where no one knows you. At some point you have to take some action, with action comes risk/reward. Then Build a feedback loop you can improve on.
I think one ingredient is that Craig hasn't a special intention in these moments. He simply wanna have fun also for the girls.
Sexualizing a talk is great but he didn't expect any outcome than flirt and fun.
Imagine you joking around with your boys, it's not so hard. Be tasteful but cheeky 😉
I learn it by simply talking to random strangers... the old lady in the elevator.. the cashier in the supermarket.... only to make a conversation, a bit joking and lighten up their day. Even you feel way better.
And with the time you can also do it with beautiful girls.
The accent helps I know cause I have an accent
So you teach us not how to attract but how to manipulate I don’t know if I want to be like that
now I know that I am a woman who flirts like a Scottish man.
18:04 is just gold
Looking like an older James Bond man helps a lot hahaha
Great Video just need to add an edit he is actually Scottish not Irish my friend, All the best
Aye my lad :)
My guy he has help from the audience with laughter so the guest understands that was an innuendo or a joke whatever
Did you say Irish accent?
Cant spell Leno without an L 😂😂😂😂
Damn can’t imagine how tough it can be to date him lol. I bet any girlfriend / wife dating him would be scared of the massive number of women flirting with him.
who is the woman in the thumbnail?
Carrie Keagan
*Scotish accent. Craig’s from Scotland. 🏴
Irish accent? 😎
Tl;Dr be confident
Uhhhhh the answers are simple: 1. He’s super rich
2. He’s decent looking for his age and way better looking than all the other male talk show hosts
3. He’s charismatic and good at conversation/has an accent
4. Look at number one again, because it drives everything, otherwise they wouldn’t be as interested.
Although it might be hard to believe, money and looks aren't on the same level of perceived attractiveness for women when compared to personality, charisma, and knowing how to flirt. If you don't have the latter, you'll just be a good-looking person with money.
I think understanding the meta also means accepting that all those things works, or else you're doomed to fail without even trying. You can see this for yourself by simply observing couples on the street-many times, the guys with the most attractive women aren't necessarily as good-looking. You can call them blinds or whatever, but the fact remains that women often value other qualities more
@@Wallbreaker8There's no such thing as an ugly or unattractive millionaire. Being a good-looking but broke chad won't be your to your advantage.
1. You just need to be self sufficient. Some people like money most are neutral.
2. There is no excuse for being out of shape. You don't need the perfect weight or be fully functional but you do need to be effective with what you have and not whine about it.
3. Being okay with yourself and your surroundings is 80%. Charisma counts for the other 20%. Be vulnerable and honest. Find the perfect balance between safe and spicy.
4. Sad boy who believes progress is out of reach will never get there. Improve a little each day, week, month and you'll be happy with your acomplishments in 2 years.
I liked the video but what is "attrashin?" 😂
Someone actually studied his rizz. Damn.
Most guys have the same flirting skills as Craig. They just choose to be in their heads and over think. Whereas Craig is just having fun and self amusing.
This is a show, a show to entertain the audience. See those people as actors, including Ferguson. In no way he could go so far in real life.
He sits so close he's already breeched their personal space the minute they sit down. BTW, he's Scots, not Irish.
“Worst she can say is no” aight bet -hey there, can I have your number? -*pukes*
21:26 andddddd THERE IT IS
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This guy is funny
Racially divided?
Asian guy - I will scientifically analyze Ferguson and emulate this…
Craig - stop that.
Asian guy - what?
Craig - that. that nerdy crap.
Asian guy - that’s me.
Craig - yes, stop that.
SCOTTISH !
I gotta disagree here on one point. Maybe it's about timing. And then online dating. I was chatting up a lady, or so I thought a lady, and in the first convo she made a sexual innuendo. Huge turn off. American ladies do that. Foreign women don't, Russian girls anyway. I guess they think American men expect that? I don't know. To me it is a red flag
@@conquerorganicchemistry5949 you sound like a fun person to be around.
You gptta be somewhat goodlooking tho
Mostly, but there are exceptions.
My former colleague was a zero in the looks department, but he could charm the pants off women.
Physically, he was Bozo the Clown without the makeup -- & married to boot -- but he was constantly having affairs with really hot women.
He was adept at many of the skills/techniques discussed here.
Having personality to chat up the chicks makes sense. But what I still can't understand is why they'd go on to sleep with him.
Tupac is a little older than me and he’s from the place as me. There was no racial divide. If anything it was the opposite.
FFS those women are actors who are acting, literally on a stage with cameras and in front of an audience. It's not actual flirting, it's marketing.
If you would understand the underlying principles of attraction and psychology, you would soon realize that they aren't acting at all.
@@blueblackbaldwin So you think all of them are wet for Craig Ferguson? You are the psychiatrist, what does that say about you?
@@blueblackbaldwin his answer says all 🤦🏻
Come on,it's clear that it's all staged. And have you ever seen any audience? Do you think these famous women just somehow get there and are all one like the other just dripping wet because of him talking about his tea cup and shit? It has the vibes of flirting, but come on...
They didn’t act the same way with Conan and Leno, though.
It's all part of a show.
😂Irish accent he's from Glasgow that means he is come on you can get it I that's rite Scottish
I think your analysis is pretty perfect👍🏻
Conan and Lenno are really creepy 😂 not only slightly.
Even to watch it as a man is more than cringy🙄 and their faces are creepy without sound.!
To be seriously Conan even looks creepy when he does nothing😂😂😂😂 also his voice.
First of all: be confident, tasteful and witty and stand to your male sight, don't apologize for it. But don't compliment bodyparts🥱
Conan talks to entertain the crowd like a clown... Craig connects really to the women it's a one to one👌🏼 he speaks with them not to them + audience. He wants to enlighten their day and mind with fun AND women are much more calibrated than men. They get it when your joking around even if it's hard stuff.
Craig has charme the others not.... you feel the difference.
If Craig says "i love you" with a smile in his eyes, he talks only with the women.....
when Conan does this it's for the crowd... he tries to simply copy words of Craig👎🏻
In comparison he's a real jerk.
If i was the boss i would fire him........ and search someone charming
if you are disabled person all these tricks don't work.
still a great video tho, Craig is definitely a rizz master
Craig is a god, but they are removing him the netwoks...the wrong people are watching him.
Huh? Who? I honestly haven't heard about this! 🤯😮
You could also see it as all the women who believe they wanna be with him are idiots. They think he is the one they want just because he is good at complimenting or whatever but seeing that he has been divorced 3 times makes you wonder if he is a person you would want to live with. So the question is if you should choose a woman like that even if you had the choice. Just saying this to make people feel less worthless.
Not saying Craig doesn't have flirting skills and he is very likeable guy but both he and his guests have usually had a few drinks before the interviews. Maybe not all but most and he certainly does. It helps to lower inhibition so the guests can be more comfortable talking about such topics as sex. That's why thry call alcohol liquid courage
@@Colin-Fenix well even so most of his guests do and that definitely makes a difference. Also he has made a name for himself so word gets around that he's a flirt. It comes pretty easy when you already have a reputation for it. Regardless of whether or not he's buzzed or not doesn't negate what I said previously.