"If you are scared of relationships.. watch this" - Matthew Hussey
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- Опубликовано: 29 дек 2022
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When someone betrays you, dont betray yourself
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What would happen if you betray yourself.
Así es la verdad
Phenomenal ❤
Exactly
So profound.....you dont trust that they will never betray you, you trust that you will be able to handle it if they do.
That means that you expect that eventually they will betray you. This is why l stopped dating. Men always let me down eventually , no matter how great they are in the beginning
@@topkat8268 They probrably let you down due to misunderstanding, bad communicating skills, and the indirect SHIT TESTS females do that males interpret wrong and females speak emotively, male directly and logically, make any sense now, not to mention female baggage from previous relationships being express subconsciously with even consciously realizing it, etc.?
@@topkat8268That's not what he says.
Bro thats not what he is sayin @topkat8268
@@topkat8268 Having a long happy lasting relationship/marriage is like hitting a jackpot, especially in this generation.
After my last relationship I'm not even looking to get back to dating apps. I'm just going to let life happen and certainly won't give a pass to the things that hurt me again. I'm done with the expectation for a change while I give my everything. I think those bitter steps in life really teach you to refrain from staying in a bad relationship for a long time.
Avoid dating apps then... That is one of the root problems
Also , data shows that you have a low % of chance of finding what you seek there , and probably you will end with mental health problems in the long run.
Human connection has to be present , any online connection has to be a mean to see the other person face to face
Online interactions areone of the problems of our modern society
I did that and really regret it now.
@@kumari6004 😢 same
I totally agree with you I’ve given my all and there’s a lot of men and women who take advantage of your empathy I know I need to keep my guard up abit better because you just don’t know who people are sometimes god bless
You can't love someone completely without trusting them
And the same goes for ourselves, we cannot love ourselves until we trust ourselves.
This is so true
I won’t commit until AFTER they earn my trust!
I leave someone as soon as I lost trust in them.
@MonkeY19803 not necessarily. You trust until the time you can’t trust and then, you deal with the problem there and then. No need to think someone will break your trust when then haven’t given you a doubt not to trust them. People worry too much about things that may happen but might never will. And if you need to trust yourself 100% before trusting others, then you’ll miss a lots of opportunities and that would be a shame. People go with the flow and deal with obstacles as they arise. 😊
it happend to me i love ones somoene more then my self and he cheated on me it hurts so mush but i know i need to walk away befor its ganna hurt even more
I stopped dating, because if you keep doing the same thing over and over and expect a different outcome......it's called insanity!
Jeeeez 😭
sure, if you don't learn from past relationships and make changes with the new ones.
Very helpful interpretation ☺️👌
Nicole there are decent genuine guys out there who don’t or wouldn’t cheat - me being one of them.
It’s just sad that I’m in the minority, but they do exist
Exactly. And you don’t trust yourself not to attract the same type of person again, not until you have resolved your issues first. Totally understand you
ABSOLUTELY! Thank you.. I needed this reminder that I can leave again and again because I've done it. It's scary the older I get but I need to trust myself I CAN and WILL if necessary. Never settle.
Thanks I totally understand this. I need to trust that I can handle it no matter what
You got this!
Its really difficult when your a person that loves deeply & to get hurt again, so giving your body & soul to someone is really frightening.
I love how the host doesn't interrupt or try to include her own things but just stay absorbed, quiet, calm and with such a wonderful listening capacity.. we need more hosts like this!
Words of gold..by far the best advice my ears heared for a broken heart..✌️❤️💐
Facts and more facts 💯 👏 please listen ladies please listen over and over to understand his words. He is speaking truth ladies ❤
I understood how resilient I am after I mustered up enough love for myself to let the relationship go.
I was angry for a while, but I acknowledged I was betraying myself by thinking I can still love him.
This experience has helped me see how I merge my energies and perception of the shared experience in intimate relationships.
I revel in the beauty of the way I healed one step at a time.
Great advice! We learn by our mistakes. What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger!
A friend once told me she was afraid of trusting someone. I said I am not afraid because I have experienced emotional and physical abuse and I am still here. I have loved again and I have no fear.
I,m glad for you! Keep on loving! I am unfortenely in a divorce proces 73 y young ,but i,m pos guy, who still believe in uncondichennal ,true love,❤ i wish y happyness! In y,r further life! P.s i,m sorry f my bad english writing!
The King of relationships🙌 what a blessing🙏
Yea man this is so spot on!
Wow what a clarity of thought which is beautifully expressed in words !!! Amazing
I no that, cheat on me once and I'm out, il never do it to you there's no way I'm letting it happen to me. Life's hard enough with out the person you love stabbing you in the back, I never got cheating anyway if you don't want to be with someone why be with them. There's no one freer then a single person why give up that life if it's not real love
Know vs. No 💞🙏🏼
Because some people don't want love, some people want power and control over another person.
Cheating is for weak individuals (hold on..if it don't apply, let it fly) that need validation..just as they need air to live..they have no self esteem, they are followers that lack leadership in any form, but overall they are insecure, immature people..don't let it hurt you..those poor souls are hurting enough..booo hoo
In canada i know that men cheated on me just to destroy me! They are,sad, pathetic ass***s
There is a real profound powerful msygonism movement going on in canada and it has alot to do with that sick, satanism and "mens clubs" that promote entitlement and male privelege, bdsm, sadism. The "men" in canada arent worth the oxygen they breathe very evil cruel, its the satanism that doesnt allow for love and they have men programmed and brainwashed, indoctrinated into,abusing women! Its pretty scary to live in canada as a single female especially if you are poor and/or vulnerable! Ppl dont know what goes on here with this secret societies and what they are capable of doing, real sick and very scary!😮😢
Coz some just wanna use u to their advantage n once they have achieved what they wanted from u, they will stop making the effort n we think the person suddenly changed .. but it’s not that, now u r not as important to their mission they r showing u their true colours.. each relationship teaches us something.. some teach us what we look for in a relationship n some teach what we absolutely don’t want in a relationship… n where we draw the line. Every relation good or bad teaches us something.. I learned this is the hard way😅
She could have been a co depended to a Narcissist, heavily abused, drained empty and so weak that she didn't have the will to leave‼️A Narcissist want's to control, destroy and dim another humans light ‼️
It could be a variety of things..she could be addicted to that person, co-dependant, or another type of "trauma bond"..you can't just chalk it up to being weak..be openminded..actually in my opinion, you have to be a fuckingsoldier to deal with some of these beasts..sociopaths come in many forms..you could be sleeping next to them tonight..
Yes there are scads of these so called "men" in canada!
You don't trust they will never betrayed you, you just trust you are going to be able to handle it... that's powerful ❤
Wow. That is profound.
I agree with this. Self-trust is important ingredient to trusting others. Work in trusting yourself first.
I’m in a long term 21 years trusting relationship, with all love and some time up and down but in a very steady relationship- however, anything at anytime can happen to this relationship and I better be ready for it- just live each and every day as if it’s your last day on earth, so live with intention, loving, caring, and kindness ❤😊👍
Yes, I Affirm ❤
He healed me within 30 seconds
Cheating must be the hardest thing to cope with … so sad to hear about it happening
… unforgivable
I felt those words at the end too ❤
The relief on her face after the message...
If you look at the videos, podcast, and social media you are seeing that people are speaking out, tired of broken relationships between men and women. The repairing that society is working on is humbling.
So tired of the brokenness in a union of a man and woman is amazing bc all these awesome people are using their wisdom and knowledge to publicly help.
Best thing I've heard today... And it fits best for me.... I know I've strength to walk away from people without getting hurt
Trust in yourself rather than in the other person, simply because you know yourself more than you know the other person. Therefore you don't know what's gone on for them before they met you and while they were with you. Most of the time the person who cheats has deeper issues going on for them that even they're not aware of. The other side of cheating could be fear of intimacy, greed and/or selfishness. Humans are so complex 😉
That's the point! You trust, that if shit happens, you will be able to handle it.
Thank you
So true… my first relationship I was with a guy who would hurt me on purpose emotionally n physically.. I stayed for 7years on n off b4 I finally broke it off for good. N it took me another 5years to regain my self esteem back.. there was a guy who helped me get back but I was too afraid to open up to him n he finally walked away from me. 😅
And then after few years of working on myself, I got into this another relationship first month was great but on the second month I started seeing loads of red flags so in the third month I talked to him about it but instead of trying to work it out he started playing the blame game.. I walked out of that relationship without looking back.. now I know what I don’t want in a relationship n I have enough self confidence to know that I can still survive on my own.. if I could do it b4, I can definitely do it again.
As the saying goes, A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because its trust is not on the branch but on its own wings. 🥰😌
The problem in terms for people to trust again after being betrayed is cultivating trust in anyone else that they are involved with.
This guy should have a podcast!
He does. It’s Matthew Hussey
This!….. is what I needed to hear as a woman without a father or a male guidance I needed to hear this badly and this will solve a lot of my problems or anxiety moving forward in life. I know that I can walk away from anyone now.
Honestly yeah. I cant do it again after this one. I don't mind staying alone forever, its just not worth it anymore
Facts! 💯
His example is exactly what it was for me now, Avenue after having two very hard, fall, long-term relationship breaks this next time around I have read, build myself to be strong enough to walk away, hurt, and all, but I will steal remove myself from the situation
I’ve been betrayed lied to so many times the last two years , her choosing another guy over me I just feel used
Trusting myself & the boundaries I’ve now built is something I’ve reminded myself of almost constantly.
Perfectly stated. Believe and trust yourself. Ahhh but that’s the hard part.
Yep, this last one took me 4 days to see the red flags. Instead of thinking things would get better, or turning myself inside out to conform to his expectations, I walked away. I'm fine and I'm proud of myself.
I'm so happy on my own . I'm not needy n love my own company .. some people find it hard to be on there own. I love it. I Do what i want when I want . Come home when I want 😂 no one to answer to. But that's just me as person..😊
I listen to your advice all the time and this one really blowed me away!
It took me so long to have the strength to walk away.. I’ll be always aware to have the strength if it happens again..we just never know.
Thank you for the advice and your time to share it with us.🙏
That is so powerful. Yes you will handle it and come out stronger.
PREACH!! When I embodied this lesson, it was truly the second most life changing thing that has ever happened to me.
Brilliant and exactly what I need to embody with confidence
I love this man Foreal he’s a life saver
Our strength is what keeps us and allow us to move forward no matter the situation
Finding the strength and the grace to start over is everything.
Absolutely true! 💯
I am NOT the same person as I was when I chose unhealthy people and ultimately got hurt in the most traumatic way with my ex. I have since done the work to better myself, love myself and know when to protect myself too.
Spot on truth.
This is amazing. I hadn't thought of that. I'm terrified of getting back I to something and ending up the way I was during and after my last relationship. It's taken me a long time to recover from it and I am terrified to try again. But this is a different perspective foe me to think about. Thank you
This was well said it takes a lot of the pressure off of you when dating. Waiting and watching for the person to mess up or treat you how the last person did. I trust myself to make good decisions.
Powerful words! Mathew speaking some real truth!
Right on. We grow in love and strength within ourselves
Exactly this happened to me. It took me so many years to even consider dating and even being open to meet someone and date. I finally did. Guess what happened? He ended up being a covert Narcissist but I left him in five months and I realized I had learned so much and gained so much strength to WALKAWAY. Another great thing I learned that this time I was not going to go back to that isolation again and fear. Nope now I can WALKAWAY again if need be and I not only saw all the signs and all the red flags but that I will do so again. So don’t be afraid. With every experience you can become better at dating and walking away and being fine. You find out that you are stronger because you do have the courage to put yourself out there and the mind to leave and continue meeting and dating until you do find someone right.
I still haven't overcome betrayal, it's been 13 years nonetheless the past 2,5 years I've significantly rebuilt much and everyday I feel stronger and certainly trust myself more and more.
It’s not about leaving !!! Man
It’s the realization that your choice proofed itself shity.
It’s the distrust in your own judgment.
Maturity and experience. These are the key factors for everyone
Can't thank this man enough. Thank you so much for all these words. You have helped me so much. I don't know what to write. I'm overwhelmed with emotions. It's sad that most of us are unfair to ourselves. We do so much for others but never do the same thing for ourselves even though we deserve it more than anyone else
You're not who you were several yrs ago, because you now have the benefit of experience and hindsight -- or even one step further-- insight.
Nobody could hurt you, if you dont let they hurt u
This is so true , true facts it’s so hard to even trust peps anymore once u was hurt , being there character it’s hard to trust in that again
REAL TALK.😇
the problem is when you grow up you have responsibilities you can not risk your time and the time of the people who depend on you. For a potential drama, someone else baggeges or a potential bag of worms, toxic person, that might be toxic to not let go. The reality relationship is a tricky thing it is better to give your relationship a chance but set boundries dont give up on yourself. And it better to lean into peaceful relationship though they are rare. even in the most healthy relationship hurt inevitable. Just know, what hurt is toxic and dangerous, and what hurt is normal and you know can deal with it; value the people in your life, value yourself; love unconditionally However, dont be stupid!
THAT is so true! ❤❤❤❤
That's seriously true
Matthew I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. U give me strength and courage to go through this.
I needed to hear this. Thank you.
“You trust that you will be able to handle it if they do “ 🔥🔥🔥🔥♥️♥️♥️♥️
Relationship requires u to b brave!
Self trust
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!
I realized this just lately. You learn to trust yourself!❤
I vow to stay single and not dating forevermore!
Amen. I will never remarry.
This guy speaks such truth and sense
he is right!
One of my biggest learnings has been to trust myself and know I can handle it... thank you for these wise words!
Best advice given
I felt that 💯 We need to have self trust. Trust that we will be able to handle it if someone hurts us. I truly needed to hear this.💕
SO VERY TRUE❤
I needed to hear this so badly. This sounds soooooo right. Thanks a lot.
TRUST that YOU can HANDLE IT and WALK AWAY (SELF-TRUST.). so true we have learnt to spot the red flags from far away and walk away faster from past heart-achew. .. those worlds are GOLD!
..so needed to hear that 💓🙏
... Words from the Universe
True.....thank you.
Dang. FACTS! ❤
Yesss! Right on Matt. This exactly how I feel.
Matt thank 🎉you ❤ I am in that same issue! I hold great men at arms length because of the cheating ex & because I still feel unworthy deep inside. My ex was a malignant narcissist & put me down in devastating ways for many years.
EXACTLY what I've been trying to figure out but couldn't find the words or knew how to explain it. Thank you Matthew ❤️
🔥 🔥 🔥 FACTS!!
Man!!! That!!!!!! Was deeeeeeep......
This gave me a new perspective on my own healing process and being able to date again. Thank you.
Ending is such a good summary, you don't have to trust that they won't cheat on you, but you can always trust that you can deal with it if it happens
Powerful advice.
I've been betrayed by the person I loved and wanted to chose to be with for the rest of my life. I'm broken. I'm still here right now, but now after this morning when he hurt my feelings again over something so small, I now see that I will not be able to take this disrespect much longer. I want to know my man loves me with all of his heart and isn't so quick to ruin my life, hurt my feelings and dismiss or reject me. I'm not emotionally ready to leave because I would love to spend some much needed time with him but... he calls me greedy just because I want to spend time with him. I just... I can't do this anymore. He breaks my heart over and over again. I have to trust myself now and leave this toxic relationship. Sadly and unfortunately. 💔
I hear and know of people, countless times, who can’t let go, understandably. But in the process feeling hurt every got damn day and night for how long?? 2 years? 5 years? 25 years? Countless women have died before their time at the emotional and mental abuse of their partner. Much better to go through the hurt of separation and KNOWING you will get your power back and feel better. It will most definitely take time. But that time invested into YOURSELF is so worth it. It’s like withdrawal from a drug. God bless you and I pray you find your inner strength 🙏🏼
This is the biggest lesson for us all. It's not whether someone else will betray us, it's whether we will fail to walk away, effectively betraying ourselves that matters most.
That's kind of me. I can get into stuff that is not great for me, like a lot of people, but I know that it doesn't take me long to wise up and move on when that happens. I trust that I know how to walk away, even when my decisions aren't perfect or that I pick the best person. Even just knowing I can walk away when necessary, tends to improve who is even attracted to me. They worst ones don't even try. They know they aren't going to get TOO far before I am done.
This is so very true. That I still carry the weight of what other men have done to me and to new relationships, and I ruined a perfect perfect, perfect relationship with a perfect perfect man, because of pushing him away because of what other people did to me. he couldn’t understand that he had to be patient with me and he felt like that he had to fix and be punished for what they did. I couldn’t really make him understand that it wasn’t that he was being made to fix some thing that he didn’t do it was just who it made me who I am today and that is having trust issues. and this person was my very very very best friend before I ever even had got into a relationship with him. Things just took a left turn, because I would react out of jealousy and not trusting. And there were several several several several months that I let myself heal and tried to overcome the things that were done it’s just every time I get in a relationship since that these things have happened to me, and I find myself repeating the pattern of not trusting and and reacting to the way that I used to do things to those people with those people that did those things to me.