I've not seen this consultant before. I loved how she stood up for the bride and had that pep talk when they were alone, reminding her this is Her dress and not to pick to please her entourage.
@@p.martin974 no, orthodox Jews and Orthodox Christians are completely different. Would had been nice of the original comment to add that the bride was a Jew, because most often people only use the word "orthodox" to refer to Orthodox Christians. But maybe that's not really the case in America? Or maybe some Americans haven't heard of Orthodox Christianity and don't even know we exist.
I love that she stuck to her guns and got the dress that she loved. And her consultant was amazing in encouraging her to listen to her own feelings and not everyone else's opinion.
She is Kleinfeld's consultant for religious/modest brides. While is is Jewish, she also works with Muslim and Christian brides who want more modest dresses. They actually bring in a lot of their modest dresses from designers in Utah, where modest dresses are more is demand because of the high number of LDS brides who require, at minimum, covered shoulders. Many of them want long sleeves or inserts for the ceremony itself (which requires long sleeves) and they have shorter sleeves for the reception/ring ceremony. HOwever, there are a handful of Jewish designers there in NYC, too. They just don't necessary sell to Kleinfeld.
My heart broke when her sister said the wide hips comment... you could literally see her face drop after she was so excited. So glad the consultant stood up for her immediately.
It was the "fashion blogger" who started with the cake topper comment! She knew she was wrong cause then the other girls piled on. She afterward waited til someone else made a positive comment. At least she learned.
I had my first date with my Joe on September 3…he proposed on October 15, we were married the following October, for 40 years. He passed away in 2022…I miss him every day.
I’d like to think you touched each other at some point prior to the wedding though! congratulations though, that’s really lovely! When you know, you know, right? ❤
@@sooticablue1664 we did. I can’t explain it we were on the same page, both at a moment that we committed to make work. And I was living in Portugal and he was living in Belgium. We made a promise when we realised it was something special, that we would do all to make it work. I moved to Belgium, later that year, our parents, family also stood with us and every time we have a rougher period, we try to go back to that promise, that feeling and till now, it’s working
The 'nah, na, no' had me! I love this consultant. She's helping the bride out with her dress, not her sister's dress. People need to understand they're there for the bride, not themselves. It's reasons like this that I tend to shop alone these days
One thing I learned for a fact watching so many episodes of this show-Small Entourage and tell your entourage BEFORE you get to the store what style you DO like and which you do NOT like.
Such joy and excitement for the bride! I also loved what the consultant said about it being "respectful and appropriate to turn toward the decision of the bride".
She is, she’s understanding of the religious requirements but also standing up for the bride in a classy way. The first dress was the best, it flattered her, I didn’t see what the mother saw…
I really like that they had a consultant so respective of the bride's beliefs and they were careful not to shoot any immodest shots. I know there are a lot of women concerned with modesty whether it is religious or not, though you could hardly tell from most of the gowns they show on the show.
Is Rochel Leah a Kleinfeld consultant? I love that there's a consultant who understands and lives the needs of religious brides. All the Kleinfeld consultants are excellent but i love that there's no shock and wide eyes at the 5 week timeline and modesty requirements because this is so normal in the Orthodox community. Mazal tov!
I really like they didn't make fun of her being modest. When I got married they kept saying I need to get over it because all wedding dresses show things. I found a place that did respect what I believed in. when my sister got married we had a really bad time. They was suppose to put sleeves on her dress and only put straps on it . The next day was her wedding so her and I made some kind of cap sleeve for it she felt indecent all day. We have never even worn a tank top before and it felt odd to her. Why people can't respect each other I will never understand. There should be wedding dresses for all beliefs. No one should be made to feel strange.
This is one of the reasons why I've decided to start a custom clothing business. My religion also has very clear modesty guidelines. Unfortunately, those without such standards talk down and belittle our needs. I ended up designing and making my best friend a custom wedding dress because of these issues. I'll most likely make my sister's and daughter's too.
I met my husband in an AOL chat room when I was looking for good conversation. The conversation was like watching grass grow and I was about to log off when he asked, “Why aren’t you speaking?l “I said because no one has spoken to me.” He was in another country. We spoke every night for 3 weeks when I realized I needed to end our friendship. I wasn’t going to move and I would never ask him to move. He wouldn’t have it! We met in less than 3 months and h survived my family. I knew when he stepped off the plane he was going to marry me, but said nothing. On the second visit he proposed when we were standing in a waterfall! Then, he returned home. He was back 1 month later and we saw an immigration lawyer who said we needed to wait 30 days before marrying. We have been married well over 20 years and have 5 kids and 2 grandchildren with many more grandchildren to come! We never want to be apart! We are woven together like the triple standard cord with Jesus Christ!
Did you move or did he move? I am guessing he moved as you were not willing to. The same thing happened with my cousin but her husband moved to be with her. She got lucky as she was not willing to move to his country.
I think it's fine that she did this, but I would never say that a Jewish woman who is not frum (all covered up) doesn't admire and follow her religion too. I'm Jewish, and I do not dress frum. Never have. Never will.
@@RK-fz7qc It has a lot to do with me as "a fellow Jew." She's misrepresenting Judaism. I very much doubt she herself is Jewish or she would know that. But I am not personally insulted. I am rectifying a misrepresentation of an entire people.
@@CharlotteIssyvoo I mean, it isn’t “misrepresenting” anything. I appreciate that you’re Jewish and you *can* admire the religion, but you are def not following it if you don’t dress modestly. That doesn’t negate the fact that you are Jewish, doesn’t make you any less of a Jew, but you are just not a practicing Jew who follows the religion. This is fact.
@@RK-fz7qc It's not a fact in any way. You need to back off. There are and have always been many ways to be religiously Jewish. Jews have always debated and discussed this. Thus the Talmud. If you don't know that, you don't know much about our religious history, nor our religious present and future.
So glad to see a wholesome and happy bride with a strong morale compass. Beautiful dress choice and May you enjoy many years of wedded bliss. Shalom to the happy couple.
I am not Jewish but I have so much respect for this bride that wanted a dress that was respectful of her faith and what she thought her soon to be husband would appreciate. What a refreshing video to watch. I never understood brides that want to show half their body parts off by wearing next to nothing in a church or synagogue.
Probably because they have faiths that don’t oppress women. Let’s not pretend that a lot of religions aren’t entirely based on the oppression of women & womens bodily autonomy. Stop pretending you have the moral high ground just because you wear long sleeves. There’s no hate like religious love.
Actually, we think of it more as freedom. The guy only will look at his wife, and other people will look more at the women for their minds instead of their bodies. My parents would not let me out of the house without being properly covered because mom knew that there were weirdos everywhere. My parents wanted me to be seen, not just my looks. I was actually one of those kids who grew into my body slowly. If I did wear body hugging clothes, I would have had a great figure due to my high metabolism. I'm really grateful my parents looked out for me.
You know there are more religions than those whose followers marry in synagogues or churches? Did you also know that each religion has many different streams and branches, many of which demand that men respect women enough not to demean them no matter what they choose to wear, to their wedding or elsewhere? Fun facts!
@CharlotteIssyvoo i definitely know. Only a few branches of my family are religious, and all of my first cousins are reform or conservative jews. I have never looked at them differently.
I love how when she she made her choice everybody was cheering her on. She seems so sweet. It's also very cute how she was not the only one emotional. The family is so cute.
The original Cinderella's dress was wide like that. No one told HER her hips looked wide. It's the shape of the dress. You KNOW HER hips aren't that wide. Use your imagination and celebrate the bride's decision. It's HER DAY!
How beautiful this woman's soul shines through! May she have many years of a happy marriage. I knew the day that I met my husband that I was going to marry him, and he said the same. We had ten wonderful years together before he died. Until we meet again ❤
This bride radiates joy. Her dress is lovely. For reference, my husband and I met in April 2002, were engaged in October 2002, married in January 2003, and are still going strong.
I can listen to the consultant Rochel Leah talk all day. She was dropping serious life advice. And it was nice learning a little about the orthodox Jewish marriage custom.
Met my husband in November. We lived in the same place (separate apts). Spent all our time together. Took an apartment together by March. Married 1 1/2 years later. Together 42 years.
@@silverbee3373 earlier times wide hips was the best ideal for a woman it meant that she would survive the many child births easier than others. There is always the option to remove one or two layers from the underskirts at alteration if she wants too.
So excited for you! 😀😀 I met my husband at a Bible Study that my friend took me to. We went bowling with his family in September , got engaged 2 months later and married 4 months later. We’ve been happily married for 35 years now. God is so good! 🙌🙌 Congratulations!! ❤❤
It was very rude of her mom and sister to put her down. It's a plain, bigger dress but she loves it. She has a beautiful face and figure so let her wear what she wants. Remember ladies take ur time to get to know someone.
I agree with@gardenplots - so rude and hurtful the comment about the big hips by her mum and sister, those closest to you should make comments that:" BIGYOUUP" not put you down in my view, my mum and one of my sisters used to do this to me regularly, its bitchy, supercritical and spiteful in my view and can be very harmful emotionally for the recipient. KHRISTY, HERTFORDSHIRE, UK
So glad she stuck to her guns and got the first dress, which she looks stunning in! And that consultant is the absolute BEST! 110% on the bride's side, with the perfect pep talks in between fittings, and best of all, shutting down the entourage at the merest hint of negativity towards how she looked (and she did not have "wide looking hips"; it was clearly the dress and not at all her)
She got the right dress. The consultant was brilliant. She knew just how to handle the bride and entourage. It was wonderful to see everyone so exhuberant at the end.
In the past thirty years "shells" have become a staple of the Jewish wardrobe. Basically you can go to any secular store and buy anything with a neckline or sleeves that don't fit the modesty criteria, then take it to a store and choose from tens of different colors, fabrics, and styles of shells. Very often you can get the same exact shade and it looks like it's part of the dress or top. In addition to the religious factor, it's also great from a fashion perspective. There's a chain of stores called The Shell Station. Booming business!
I loved this episode. So nice to see a modest girl who is not ashamed of who she is. So many girls on the show want to show everything. They think slutty- sexy equates to beautiful but this girl shows true beauty from the inside as well as beauty on the outside.
I saw this one couple that knew right away they were the one for each other after a few hours. They are happily married for over 25 years now. I guess once you know you just do.
Yes! My husband and I were like that...I knew on our first date I would marry him. He felt the same way. We got married almost a year to the day later, and it's been 23 years! ♡
@@deedranicolehooksYay and good for you that you found your man so early. Time of dating does not dictate if you will be happy or not. Congratulations and hope you are happy for a lifetime.
Yes and no. IF you give it time and it works out then great. But in the honeymoon period hormones mean we often brush things aside, or people can put on an act for a little while until they get what they want. Give people time and the bad ones will eventually do bad things. I notice they didn't mention her age but she is probably quite young and this may be semi arranged. DV can be quite common in these cultures
@@MsJubjubbird Then that depends on you & whether you know how to think rationally & look for the red flags even through the hormones. For some people that only comes with age, but not everyone.
@@JBUHJBUH red flags can be well hidden in the short term. She is young and inexperienced too. Everyone says they know how to think rationally until they don't
We met in November, he moved overseas with the military 3 weeks later. We were engaged after dating (long distance) in April. I moved overseas to join him in May. We married 5 weeks later. We’ve been happily married for almost 38 years, now.
2 weeks after talking we decided to get married 6 months later we did. I love my husband more than anything and have absolutely no regrets even though everyone said it was too fast.
I might be off base here, but the matchmaker doesn’t necessarily need to be orthodox herself… she could be conservative or relaxed/reformed Jewish and still be a matchmaker. I watched several seasons of the Jewish Matchmaker and they were matching all kinds from all different backgrounds accordingly.
@@DeathByBlonde1 you might be right but I cannot imagine that the orthodox would use a reform matchmaker. Look at everyone else there. She didn't fit in although she spoke like she knew. Just not what you would expect.
@ deathbyblond. The matchmaker is orthodox but bending the rules. In the orthodox world we would say she is more modern. Her standards of modesty would be considered not ok by most orthodox people, however, like ALL cultures we have a continuum of people. Some are more conservative than others and some are more stringent than others. In fact, this is exactly what the matchmaking would accomplish - weeding out where you are on that continuum so that by the time you meet you have someone who is in a similar place
@@ivettepassiglia4971Maybe (?) for Orthodox Jews… but not for all Orthodox people, including lots of Orthodox Christians. My ex-husband was Orthodox (from Romania)…most of the religious ppl in Romania and Greece are Orthodox Christians and dress in a modern style rather than a conservative one. I was baptized in an Orthodox Church in Romania as an adult before we married. I remember that I tried on and fell in love with a strapless dress for our wedding and thought I would maybe need a shawl, bolero, etc. to cover my shoulders for the ceremony but that wasn’t even required.
i met my husband one night then had one date and rang my dad and told him i had met the man who i would marry,we have now been married 23 years andstill very happy.
My husband and I met in February and got married in October, it’s been 21 years. So it’s possible to meet someone and get married quickly. And stay together for a long time. Especially if you’re on the same page to start with in your beliefs.
My parents only dated for a few months before they got married (although they vaguely knew each other through friends before dating). They’d both been married before. They’ve been together almost 35 years now and are very happy. Sometimes you just know.
This is the meanest entourage I've seen. The blogger is a jerk. And what's with her scanty mini-dress and GO-GO BOOTS when you're out with conservative Jews? That makes no sense - all attention getting behavior and all about "her". I personally do not care about anyone here but the bride and the consultant. And the mother saying she has "wide hips" - what the heck? That's how a ball gown fits. I'm glad the bride stuck with the dress she loved and wasn't swayed by everyone else. Great consultant.
Orthodox not conservative. Huge difference actually. And not everyone who has orthodox friends is themselves religious. So they can dress how they see fit. Also, the family wasn’t that ‘mean’, I’ve seen so much worse. We as Jews are very opinionated and tell how we see it. The consultant did an amazing job but the family was great and you could see how happy they were for the bride. And to the bride and groom - מזל טוב ❤
It s funny how that first friend said the bride looks like a cake topper... really? )) she herself looks like a cake topper and it s not even her wedding ))
@@tigertbalma high quality store like kleinfeld offers the option of "building up" a gown by adding matching fabric to close up the neckline and add sleeves. In this video you see the consultant explaining that the sleeves would be lace. For regular dresses, we Orthodox Jews would pull a sleeveless dress off the rack and wear a shell (that stretchy shirt) underneath.
@@tigertbalmno. And they said they were gonna build the dress up and give it full sleeves to make it modest. She wouldn’t need to wear the t-shirt (which we call a shell btw)
You know what I love BEST about this video? The modesty of these women. Each one dressed respectfully, even the friend with the go-go boots looked modest but fashionable. One does not have to be slutty to be beautiful.We need more of this in our society. I bet the bride looked spectacularly stunning on her wedding day!
My husband and I met in early December, had our first date December 17th, were engaged December 24th and married February 14th. We were married for 32 years before he passed away.
I love that the second anything was said about her body shape, the consultant immediately said “no no no” to shut em up😅
I've not seen this consultant before. I loved how she stood up for the bride and had that pep talk when they were alone, reminding her this is Her dress and not to pick to please her entourage.
She is Orthodox too... they probably brought her in just for this girl.
She’s Orthodox Jewish and specializes in helping modest or orthodox brides with dress requirements
She only works with the more modest clients
The wide hips comment, really? I’m with the consultant. I don’t see it. The dress looks so flattering on her. She literally looks like a princess.
It seemed like a rather mean thing to say, especially when it wasn't at all true.
she looked fabulous I thought.
She looked amazing! Even if she had wide hips who cares? My kid has a tiny waist and bigger bottom and hips. That’s just her body type. 🤷🏻♀️
Exactly. Her hips are miles away, lady. No one thinks those are her hips. 🤦🏻♀️
She’s gorgeous! If she has wide hips then i must be a hippo!
She looks wonderful in this dress, her hips are perfect!!
Having a consultant who understands the Orthodox community was the key to success here!
She understands the Orthodox community because she herself is Orthodox.
I’m orthodox cristian❤ I hope She’s Happy about her marriage!!❤
@@MitxukiXedits There are more similarities than differences between people of faith, right? Blessings on all!!
@@MitxukiXeditsYou misunderstood. She's an orthodox Jew, not Christian.
@@p.martin974 no, orthodox Jews and Orthodox Christians are completely different. Would had been nice of the original comment to add that the bride was a Jew, because most often people only use the word "orthodox" to refer to Orthodox Christians. But maybe that's not really the case in America? Or maybe some Americans haven't heard of Orthodox Christianity and don't even know we exist.
I love that she stuck to her guns and got the dress that she loved. And her consultant was amazing in encouraging her to listen to her own feelings and not everyone else's opinion.
the best consultant💗
I loved the first one too. Much nicer cut. I thought the second one was a bit frumpy!
I respect the consultant
@@rainbows_trees_clouds_dais1766 I love the first dress except the 3/4 sleeves I’m not a fan of them !
I'm loving this consultant! She is right on point with how she speaks up and classy with how she expresses herself defending the bride.
She is Kleinfeld's consultant for religious/modest brides. While is is Jewish, she also works with Muslim and Christian brides who want more modest dresses. They actually bring in a lot of their modest dresses from designers in Utah, where modest dresses are more is demand because of the high number of LDS brides who require, at minimum, covered shoulders. Many of them want long sleeves or inserts for the ceremony itself (which requires long sleeves) and they have shorter sleeves for the reception/ring ceremony. HOwever, there are a handful of Jewish designers there in NYC, too. They just don't necessary sell to Kleinfeld.
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This consultant is fantastic! She was able to support the bride and reinforce that the bride's choice is what matters.
My heart broke when her sister said the wide hips comment... you could literally see her face drop after she was so excited. So glad the consultant stood up for her immediately.
It was the "fashion blogger" who started with the cake topper comment! She knew she was wrong cause then the other girls piled on. She afterward waited til someone else made a positive comment. At least she learned.
@@kathimorrical9912 yep that's correct and then she palms it to the sister who later looks awful..im not to blame thing.
I had my first date with my Joe on September 3…he proposed on October 15, we were married the following October, for 40 years. He passed away in 2022…I miss him every day.
I’m so sorry to hear he passed. I’m sure Joe was a wonderful man
Sorry for your loss and it is great you both found each other right away. I am sure he will be forever in your heart.
@Ziggimomspal68
So sorry for your loss. That was recent and I'm sure you still hurt.
You were so blessed to have 40 years...
I pray that you will see him again in Heaven…..❤️💫❤️
Truly a love story for this time of our crazy world. Condolences for your loss . blessings
This is the very first time I heard a consultant on this show tell a bride that under no uncertain terms her opinion is most important! 🎉
Randy was on "Team Bride".
@@beckypetersen2680 I’ve never heard him talk to brides like this woman did. He’s way too diplomatic, and waits too long to say something.
I sure wish more consultants would remind the brides of that!
That’s because most of them are trying to make the sale and the brides aren’t paying.
I met my husband on a Saturday, he proposed the next Thursday, we married 3 months later and married for 18 years.
I’d like to think you touched each other at some point prior to the wedding though! congratulations though, that’s really lovely! When you know, you know, right? ❤
You got lucky..enjoy your life together
@@sooticablue1664 we did. I can’t explain it we were on the same page, both at a moment that we committed to make work. And I was living in Portugal and he was living in Belgium. We made a promise when we realised it was something special, that we would do all to make it work. I moved to Belgium, later that year, our parents, family also stood with us and every time we have a rougher period, we try to go back to that promise, that feeling and till now, it’s working
I am not shocked as once you know you know.
Pretty Bride
i feel like she’s the henuinely happiest looking bride i’ve seen on this show. her spirit radiates honesty.
That’s because she’s only known the guy 6 weeks! 😂
@@sooticablue1664exactly. Ain’t no time for the first fight on that timeline. 😂
@@kiat5912 😂😂😂 exactly!
@@sooticablue1664 lmao 💀 it do be like that in the first couple months lol
Who hasn't been that way the first time they fall in love in the initial months? It's an amazing feeling! She is glowing, you're right.
The 'nah, na, no' had me! I love this consultant. She's helping the bride out with her dress, not her sister's dress. People need to understand they're there for the bride, not themselves. It's reasons like this that I tend to shop alone these days
One thing I learned for a fact watching so many episodes of this show-Small Entourage and tell your entourage BEFORE you get to the store what style you DO like and which you do NOT like.
Loved when the consultant said "its not time to be a people pleaser"
This was the best consultant ever! She should be in every episode!!
Her face shined when she was wearing the first one. That is what people helping the bride should be looking at.
Shone
@OceanFrontVilla3 Thank you.
Such joy and excitement for the bride! I also loved what the consultant said about it being "respectful and appropriate to turn toward the decision of the bride".
Holy cow the lady in white and the bow was NOT the bride, damn 😂 can’t imagine what she’ll wear to the actual wedding
I really dont like her Outfit and her attitude
I was wondering about that too! Did she wear a flamboyant white outfit on purpose? 😅
She was credited as "fashion blogger/matchmaker". She was definitely pulling attention from the bride.
@@Mrsg123 She looked like a little kid playing dress-up. Everything covered "up top," w/ a mini-skirt & thigh-high boots!
@@BasicYTHandleyeah very modest dress. NOT.
Rochel Leah is such a wise, compassionate consultant! ❤
She is, she’s understanding of the religious requirements but also standing up for the bride in a classy way. The first dress was the best, it flattered her, I didn’t see what the mother saw…
The smile she had with the first dress was so genuine and beautiful on her.
I really like that they had a consultant so respective of the bride's beliefs and they were careful not to shoot any immodest shots. I know there are a lot of women concerned with modesty whether it is religious or not, though you could hardly tell from most of the gowns they show on the show.
The consultant shares the bride's beliefs. She is also Orthodox.
Is Rochel Leah a Kleinfeld consultant? I love that there's a consultant who understands and lives the needs of religious brides. All the Kleinfeld consultants are excellent but i love that there's no shock and wide eyes at the 5 week timeline and modesty requirements because this is so normal in the Orthodox community. Mazal tov!
I think the consultant she is Jewish as well.
with a name like that, id assume so 😅
I really like they didn't make fun of her being modest. When I got married they kept saying I need to get over it because all wedding dresses show things. I found a place that did respect what I believed in. when my sister got married we had a really bad time. They was suppose to put sleeves on her dress and only put straps on it . The next day was her wedding so her and I made some kind of cap sleeve for it she felt indecent all day. We have never even worn a tank top before and it felt odd to her. Why people can't respect each other I will never understand. There should be wedding dresses for all beliefs. No one should be made to feel strange.
@@christyhull4214 oh thats horrible!
im so sorry that happened to your sister. i don't wear tank tops either, and i would feel similar
This is one of the reasons why I've decided to start a custom clothing business. My religion also has very clear modesty guidelines. Unfortunately, those without such standards talk down and belittle our needs. I ended up designing and making my best friend a custom wedding dress because of these issues. I'll most likely make my sister's and daughter's too.
I met my husband in an AOL chat room when I was looking for good conversation. The conversation was like watching grass grow and I was about to log off when he asked, “Why aren’t you speaking?l
“I said because no one has spoken to me.” He was in another country. We spoke every night for 3 weeks when I realized I needed to end our friendship. I wasn’t going to move and I would never ask him to move. He wouldn’t have it! We met in less than 3 months and h survived my family. I knew when he stepped off the plane he was going to marry me, but said nothing.
On the second visit he proposed when we were standing in a waterfall! Then, he returned home. He was back 1 month later and we saw an immigration lawyer who said we needed to wait 30 days before marrying. We have been married well over 20 years and have 5 kids and 2 grandchildren with many more grandchildren to come! We never want to be apart! We are woven together like the triple standard cord with Jesus Christ!
Did you move or did he move? I am guessing he moved as you were not willing to. The same thing happened with my cousin but her husband moved to be with her. She got lucky as she was not willing to move to his country.
AOL chat!!!!! "A/s/l"?
Good ol days lol
I really respect this bride for admiring and following her religion! She looks absolutely stunning! Wishing her a happy marriage!
I think it's fine that she did this, but I would never say that a Jewish woman who is not frum (all covered up) doesn't admire and follow her religion too. I'm Jewish, and I do not dress frum. Never have. Never will.
@@CharlotteIssyvoo the commenter was just complimenting a fellow jew, why are you getting insulted here? The comment had nothing to do with you
@@RK-fz7qc It has a lot to do with me as "a fellow Jew." She's misrepresenting Judaism. I very much doubt she herself is Jewish or she would know that. But I am not personally insulted. I am rectifying a misrepresentation of an entire people.
@@CharlotteIssyvoo I mean, it isn’t “misrepresenting” anything. I appreciate that you’re Jewish and you *can* admire the religion, but you are def not following it if you don’t dress modestly.
That doesn’t negate the fact that you are Jewish, doesn’t make you any less of a Jew, but you are just not a practicing Jew who follows the religion. This is fact.
@@RK-fz7qc It's not a fact in any way. You need to back off. There are and have always been many ways to be religiously Jewish. Jews have always debated and discussed this. Thus the Talmud. If you don't know that, you don't know much about our religious history, nor our religious present and future.
Wait! The person who is actually dressed like a five year old's version of a 'cake topper', tells the bride SHE looks like a cake topper?
I reckon! Trying to upstage the bride!
Self reflection
nothing wrong with cake toppers and grandma's curtains anyway
Agree, wtf is she wearing lol
She set off my “attention getter” radar.
So glad to see a wholesome and happy bride with a strong morale compass. Beautiful dress choice and May you enjoy many years of wedded bliss. Shalom to the happy couple.
One can have a strong moral compass and still choose not to cover themselves completely! One has NOTHING to do with the other!
I am not Jewish but I have so much respect for this bride that wanted a dress that was respectful of her faith and what she thought her soon to be husband would appreciate. What a refreshing video to watch. I never understood brides that want to show half their body parts off by wearing next to nothing in a church or synagogue.
Probably because they have faiths that don’t oppress women. Let’s not pretend that a lot of religions aren’t entirely based on the oppression of women & womens bodily autonomy. Stop pretending you have the moral high ground just because you wear long sleeves. There’s no hate like religious love.
Actually, we think of it more as freedom. The guy only will look at his wife, and other people will look more at the women for their minds instead of their bodies. My parents would not let me out of the house without being properly covered because mom knew that there were weirdos everywhere. My parents wanted me to be seen, not just my looks. I was actually one of those kids who grew into my body slowly. If I did wear body hugging clothes, I would have had a great figure due to my high metabolism. I'm really grateful my parents looked out for me.
@@girl8488 Did you have any brothers? I hope they too were required to dress modestly.
You know there are more religions than those whose followers marry in synagogues or churches? Did you also know that each religion has many different streams and branches, many of which demand that men respect women enough not to demean them no matter what they choose to wear, to their wedding or elsewhere? Fun facts!
@CharlotteIssyvoo i definitely know. Only a few branches of my family are religious, and all of my first cousins are reform or conservative jews. I have never looked at them differently.
I love the consultant. She has the bride’s interest at heart ❤️
I love how when she she made her choice everybody was cheering her on. She seems so sweet. It's also very cute how she was not the only one emotional. The family is so cute.
The original Cinderella's dress was wide like that. No one told HER her hips looked wide. It's the shape of the dress. You KNOW HER hips aren't that wide. Use your imagination and celebrate the bride's decision. It's HER DAY!
I didn’t understand that comment; it’s a ballgown! It’s supposed to be wide! Her waist looked tiny in it!
@@Mrsg123You didn’t understand that comment cuz that mom doesn’t understand fashion, lol! 😂
How beautiful this woman's soul shines through! May she have many years of a happy marriage.
I knew the day that I met my husband that I was going to marry him, and he said the same. We had ten wonderful years together before he died. Until we meet again ❤
I have been watching and loving SYTTD "religiously" for almost 11 years and finally a bride and her entourage from my world! I LOVE IT!!!!!!
Exactly my feelings😊
Same! It’s so nice to see for once.
Me too
Feel the same way!!
Respect…for this young woman, her traditions & her faithfulness to them. God bless her & her groom.
Plus she is absolutely gorgeous inside and out
@@vickykulig5080 isn’t she? A stunner for sure.
semi-arranged marriages that often lead to DV.
@@MsJubjubbird Only if the man has been raised to see doing that to a woman as somehow being acceptable.
@@JBUHJBUH these are conservative cultures where women are often taught they are subservient to men and vice versa.
This bride is absolutely glowing in her wedding dress! She's beautiful!! All the best to her and her fiance!!!! ❤
This bride radiates joy. Her dress is lovely. For reference, my husband and I met in April 2002, were engaged in October 2002, married in January 2003, and are still going strong.
This consultant should be the head consultant that others look to. She was perfect and I absolutely love her! Kleinfields has the best! ❤️
Met my hubs in Aug ‘97….started dating Mar ‘98…engaged April ‘98….married Oct ‘98.
It does work…25yrs!!!
Im glad her sis came around in the end..it was the perfect dress for this beautiful happy young woman
That sis was a pill. It’s not her wedding.
@@loiscassels8966 sometimes sisters can be like that!
I can listen to the consultant Rochel Leah talk all day. She was dropping serious life advice. And it was nice learning a little about the orthodox Jewish marriage custom.
Met my husband in November. We lived in the same place (separate apts). Spent all our time together. Took an apartment together by March. Married 1 1/2 years later. Together 42 years.
Those ladies, especially the bride, have beautiful hair! I wish the happy couple a long and joy-filled marriage.
If they’re married women, those may be wigs.
Yes! I loved her sister’s hair, it was stunning!
I thought that orthodox women had to wear wigs and only the husband was allowed to see her real hair? But i might have it all upside down.
that girl with the bow wanted that to be her so bad. i literally thought she was the bride at the start
Agree, wearing all white and so over the top but really she's dressed like a toddler.
She’s married already….
@@claireblumenthal3605 More of a reason to not dress like that then for a friends wedding dress shopping day
@claireblumenthal3605 some woman just love the attention a wedding , pregnancy, etc brings
Either that or she wanted to be featured on TV
The sweetest bride yet. Beautiful girl .
Well done. So glad to see an episode with an Orthodox Jewish bride and the explanations needed to clarify the cultural points. Excellent!
@alj770 . I would love to see an episode of a born again Christian bride !
I’m orthodox too and so glad to see us represented on the show!
Aw the dance at the end was so sweet!
I loved this consultant. Wish she was featured more.
What a beautiful young lady! I'm happy she got her dream dress and wish her a lifetime of joy
Lovely bride! What a great consultant Rochel is, so helpful and kind. She really made sure the bride didn’t lose her own voice.
You never tell another woman in front of other people to that they have wide hips it’s just about the right wording and the right time
always blame the dress. So say the dress makes you look wide. It makes it the fault of the dress, not the wearer
In my opinion it´s best to not tell any woman she has wide hips AT ALL.
@@silverbee3373 earlier times wide hips was the best ideal for a woman it meant that she would survive the many child births easier than others.
There is always the option to remove one or two layers from the underskirts at alteration if she wants too.
It is so beautiful! I’m glad she was able to follow her heart and not be influenced by her family
I met my second husband in May and got married on his birthday August 29th. We were married for almost 19 years
So excited for you! 😀😀
I met my husband at a Bible Study that my friend took me to. We went bowling with his family in September , got engaged 2 months later and married 4 months later. We’ve been happily married for 35 years now. God is so good! 🙌🙌
Congratulations!! ❤❤
What is it with the mothers who feel the need to look at their smiling daughters and tell them the dress they like makes their hips look wide or big?
It was very rude of her mom and sister to put her down. It's a plain, bigger dress but she loves it. She has a beautiful face and figure so let her wear what she wants. Remember ladies take ur time to get to know someone.
I agree with@gardenplots - so rude and hurtful the comment about the big hips by her mum and sister, those closest to you should make comments that:" BIGYOUUP" not put you down in my view, my mum and one of my sisters used to do this to me regularly, its bitchy, supercritical and spiteful in my view and can be very harmful emotionally for the recipient. KHRISTY, HERTFORDSHIRE, UK
We're told to be ashamed of our bodies, especially if certain parts are larger or smaller than expected.
Thank Goodness for a wise consultant and her fairy matchmaker.
Melanie is a lovely girl.
So glad she stuck to her guns and got the first dress, which she looks stunning in! And that consultant is the absolute BEST! 110% on the bride's side, with the perfect pep talks in between fittings, and best of all, shutting down the entourage at the merest hint of negativity towards how she looked (and she did not have "wide looking hips"; it was clearly the dress and not at all her)
Great dress...beautiful bride...awesome consultant...
3:58 “you know what you look like?” Says the one with the ridiculous bow 😂
The bow is most likely a ‘hair cover’ to show she is married.
@@Muus76no headbands are not enough of a head covering
Awww this is so wholesome, I love it! Congratulations to this happy bride and her friendly/supportive entourage!
This group looked so fun!!! Blessings to the couple and a lifetime of happiness.
All of these people are just lovely and I wish them the best!
1 of the best episodes, 1 of the most beautiful brides.
It’s the BRIDES DAY; meaning it’s her dress! The first dress looks beautiful on her, like a princess 👑 😊❤
She got the right dress. The consultant was brilliant. She knew just how to handle the bride and entourage. It was wonderful to see everyone so exhuberant at the end.
Admittedly I got excited from the thumbnail because I thought the top was part of the dress and I loved how it looked lol
In the past thirty years "shells" have become a staple of the Jewish wardrobe. Basically you can go to any secular store and buy anything with a neckline or sleeves that don't fit the modesty criteria, then take it to a store and choose from tens of different colors, fabrics, and styles of shells. Very often you can get the same exact shade and it looks like it's part of the dress or top.
In addition to the religious factor, it's also great from a fashion perspective.
There's a chain of stores called The Shell Station. Booming business!
This consultant is amazing! A force of nature!
I am absolutely in LOVE with the fashion sense of her sister, loving that 60’s/70’s look, she looks stunning
My husband proposed to me after knowing him for two weeks. That was 55 yrs ago ❤️
I loved this episode. So nice to see a modest girl who is not ashamed of who she is. So many girls on the show want to show everything. They think slutty- sexy equates to beautiful but this girl shows true beauty from the inside as well as beauty on the outside.
I'm glad she went with 1st. The way she moved in it was enough for me. Joyous.
I saw this one couple that knew right away they were the one for each other after a few hours. They are happily married for over 25 years now. I guess once you know you just do.
Yes! My husband and I were like that...I knew on our first date I would marry him. He felt the same way. We got married almost a year to the day later, and it's been 23 years! ♡
@@deedranicolehooksYay and good for you that you found your man so early. Time of dating does not dictate if you will be happy or not. Congratulations and hope you are happy for a lifetime.
Yes and no. IF you give it time and it works out then great. But in the honeymoon period hormones mean we often brush things aside, or people can put on an act for a little while until they get what they want. Give people time and the bad ones will eventually do bad things. I notice they didn't mention her age but she is probably quite young and this may be semi arranged. DV can be quite common in these cultures
@@MsJubjubbird Then that depends on you & whether you know how to think rationally & look for the red flags even through the hormones. For some people that only comes with age, but not everyone.
@@JBUHJBUH red flags can be well hidden in the short term. She is young and inexperienced too. Everyone says they know how to think rationally until they don't
I loved seeing how happy the bride is.
We met in November, he moved overseas with the military 3 weeks later. We were engaged after dating (long distance) in April. I moved overseas to join him in May. We married 5 weeks later. We’ve been happily married for almost 38 years, now.
My mom and dad got married after 6 weeks of dating and they were happily together for 50 years. If you know they are the one, then they are the one.
Really cute. And love the Brides excitement. And that her group understood that she loved it!
Great consultant. Just great. Would love to see more of her.
2 weeks after talking we decided to get married 6 months later we did. I love my husband more than anything and have absolutely no regrets even though everyone said it was too fast.
This is the support you get with a shared value system. It's very comforting.
I loved the first dress on her she looked stunning in the first dress it suits her
She is so beautiful, the gown radiates joy and classic beauty.
Also I love the matchmaker's outfit, but I thought she was the bride to be
Not dressed the way she was. I'm a little taken back that a matchmaker would be showing so much skin. They are Orthodox and modesty is paramount.
I might be off base here, but the matchmaker doesn’t necessarily need to be orthodox herself… she could be conservative or relaxed/reformed Jewish and still be a matchmaker. I watched several seasons of the Jewish Matchmaker and they were matching all kinds from all different backgrounds accordingly.
@@DeathByBlonde1 you might be right but I cannot imagine that the orthodox would use a reform matchmaker. Look at everyone else there. She didn't fit in although she spoke like she knew. Just not what you would expect.
@ deathbyblond. The matchmaker is orthodox but bending the rules. In the orthodox world we would say she is more modern. Her standards of modesty would be considered not ok by most orthodox people, however, like ALL cultures we have a continuum of people. Some are more conservative than others and some are more stringent than others. In fact, this is exactly what the matchmaking would accomplish - weeding out where you are on that continuum so that by the time you meet you have someone who is in a similar place
@@ivettepassiglia4971Maybe (?) for Orthodox Jews… but not for all Orthodox people, including lots of Orthodox Christians. My ex-husband was Orthodox (from Romania)…most of the religious ppl in Romania and Greece are Orthodox Christians and dress in a modern style rather than a conservative one. I was baptized in an Orthodox Church in Romania as an adult before we married. I remember that I tried on and fell in love with a strapless dress for our wedding and thought I would maybe need a shawl, bolero, etc. to cover my shoulders for the ceremony but that wasn’t even required.
This is beautiful🥺 kuddos to the consultant👏🏻💗
I love when the consultation lady says,”no no no”
The little dance at the end was so nice!
i met my husband one night then had one date and rang my dad and told him i had met the man who i would marry,we have now been married 23 years andstill very happy.
My husband and I met in February and got married in October, it’s been 21 years. So it’s possible to meet someone and get married quickly. And stay together for a long time. Especially if you’re on the same page to start with in your beliefs.
Beautiful dress, beautiful bride, and such a fun group of women...
Great entourage! Great consultant! What a beautiful culture where bride and groom touch for the first time under the chuppah ❤
Beautiful bride inside and out.
My parents only dated for a few months before they got married (although they vaguely knew each other through friends before dating). They’d both been married before. They’ve been together almost 35 years now and are very happy. Sometimes you just know.
This is the meanest entourage I've seen. The blogger is a jerk. And what's with her scanty mini-dress and GO-GO BOOTS when you're out with conservative Jews? That makes no sense - all attention getting behavior and all about "her". I personally do not care about anyone here but the bride and the consultant. And the mother saying she has "wide hips" - what the heck? That's how a ball gown fits. I'm glad the bride stuck with the dress she loved and wasn't swayed by everyone else. Great consultant.
i agree with you totally!
Right?? What's with the mini skirt you stick out like a sore thumb
Orthodox not conservative. Huge difference actually. And not everyone who has orthodox friends is themselves religious. So they can dress how they see fit.
Also, the family wasn’t that ‘mean’, I’ve seen so much worse. We as Jews are very opinionated and tell how we see it. The consultant did an amazing job but the family was great and you could see how happy they were for the bride. And to the bride and groom - מזל טוב ❤
I’ve never seen a dress zip up so perfectly in a fitting like that!! And that’s with a T-shirt under. That’s meant for her
It s funny how that first friend said the bride looks like a cake topper... really? )) she herself looks like a cake topper and it s not even her wedding ))
My dad proposed to my mom 16 hours after their first date. They have been happily married for 30 years with 3 kids. Hope the best for the bride too ❤
I loved this family and this beautiful bride. So naturally lovely and down to earth. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My husband proposed within two months, we got married after 6 months of being together and just celebrated our 31st anniversary.
Kallah, not kale. It means bride in Hebrew, not fiancé in Yiddish, to be precise
Curious,would a orthodox bride wear the dress without the shirt during the ceremony?
@@tigertbalmno she wouldn’t. In an orthodox wedding, the bride is dressed modestly. Meaning, you don’t show elbows or your collarbones. :)
@@tigertbalma high quality store like kleinfeld offers the option of "building up" a gown by adding matching fabric to close up the neckline and add sleeves. In this video you see the consultant explaining that the sleeves would be lace.
For regular dresses, we Orthodox Jews would pull a sleeveless dress off the rack and wear a shell (that stretchy shirt) underneath.
@@tigertbalmno. And they said they were gonna build the dress up and give it full sleeves to make it modest. She wouldn’t need to wear the t-shirt (which we call a shell btw)
@ Thank you for the explanation.
I really enjoyed this episode learning about a wedding culture that I am unfamiliar with. It is awesome! And she is going to be a beautiful bride. :)
You know what I love BEST about this video? The modesty of these women. Each one dressed respectfully, even the friend with the go-go boots looked modest but fashionable. One does not have to be slutty to be beautiful.We need more of this in our society. I bet the bride looked spectacularly stunning on her wedding day!
The go go boots modest? No way with a mini skirt like that. Don’t be blind.
My husband and I met in early December, had our first date December 17th, were engaged December 24th and married February 14th. We were married for 32 years before he passed away.
I love the consultant!!!
Love the dress. Love the consultant, felt the matchmaker was trying to upstage the bride.
I’m so glad she stuck to her choice!