Dr. Gary thank you! Your simple and direct advice resonated with me. I feel like I have lived most of my past 32 years with anger, and at age 52, I feel like I'm finally start moving past it, but as you say it has not been easy and I still fall back into a mindset of anger and even rage at times (never in public, but still). 🙏🙏🙏
Eventually the pain lessens. It sucks to be fooled and left out. It sucks to be lied to and lied about. Life can be weird depending on where you live. Keep Smiling and let them.wonder! Bullying is not okay. Not okay at all.
Very useful Dr Gary Have you made any videos on assertiveness? I have noticed that assertive behaviour can prevent one from getting angry and holding grudges...please advise on assertiveness
Thank you Dr. Gary, I do enjoy what you’re doing, it motivates me and it makes me want to do better in this lifetime. Keep up the good work I do appreciate what you were doing. Thank you, All is well
"Resentment and complaint are appropriate neither for oneself nor others" -Miyamoto Musashi People will hurt us, people will do us wrong, disrespect us, lie n betray.. however learn to be strict with yourself and be tolerant with others. we have no control over the world we only can control our mental faculty
I don't want Revenge! I want Justice! And the Money my X Embezzeled Durring our 21 years Marraige! Yep...l am to blame for believing he actually loved me...as he was really Abusing and Using me!
Really dead on, man, you've helped me, been in the belly of anger, nearly lost everything, just at the rim of the hole,, and i find you, you, It was my mind?
Hard to do when it's your own parents. I had to say goodbye to my dad on the phone years ago, and never saw him again. He died this week, a miserable person. He Hurt me every chance he was given. I finally had to say no more, but it's the biggest deal of your life.
My dad severely Abused me throughout my whole Childhood...up til l finally had to Run Away at 18! Yep...l had been "Grounded" for Months!...l forgave and Forgot...and actually allowed to him to form a bond with my oldest Son (l can't even go there!)...l ended up in a 2 decade Abusive Marraige...than Homeless! He literally had 3 empty houses! I moved into the one across the street from him...where he spent the year Abusing. Gaslighting and trying to push me to Suicide! That's the Thanks you will get from a Covert Narc for that unconditional love! Do not believe all that goody goody bullshit about Forgiveness...its over-rated!
They say...you Forgive others for yourself! Do yourself a favor and don't forgive and forget...unless you want history to repeat itself and to get treated like a Rug!!!!
@@lindasapiecha2515 Yes...we try...with some Success Depending on your Support System. When it was your Foundation with Parents like mine (and mind you...l see their good and still love and respect them...not easy at all...) But if your typical. Patterns Repeat and mine was with Paul for 2 Decades...the Prime of my Life with Paul...Stuck in his Pumpkin...Still am...Abuse is something a Lot of Child Abuse Survivors spend a Lifetime Reliving and trying to Overcome!
Dear Dr. Gary.......why do those betrayers keep coming into my head even though I engage myself in moving forward? Every time I sit to paint.... They just take over.
@@polishherowitoldpilecki5521 normally narcies need to see you to trigger, but if you send them a picture it can work as well!. It is really you calling them normal and they dont like that! if you send them a picture of an apt you shared ..... yes they will laugh on the outside but not on the inside and talk to them sub normal.....no joy there for them...
Hey Doc, I take care of my 91 year old stroke Mother, who was fully functioning before. 4 sons mom built up every one of us. No help, when my brothers wife visits, she is the meanest spirited abusive person I have known, I say nothing because she will take it out on my brother, her and there son. I am ashamed and regretful for allowing her access to Mom, What you just said, Mom has been telling me my whole life, I have difficulty managing this,
My problem is I blame myself for everything and then have tremendous guilt over why i got myself into this relationship when i had alarm bells ringing x
I changed my behavior, I walked away, I moved on, I changed my thoughts and stay away from people that want to do me wrong and betray me. So guess what they did... Groups of people psychotic demented sociopaths are now stalking me. Now what?
My revenge and anger will be gone when I do what they did to me. Payback is a bitch when is comes back to them. Wrath has no equal like a Scorpio that has been wronged!
Wise words but theres nothing better than having the person who hurt you suspended on barbed wire in a stress position while you relieve your frustration with a baseball bat a blow lamp and a blunt pair of pincers oh sweet relief
What do you do when your own daughter has betrayed you, and you want revenge? Don't think I can come back from all she has done to hurt me, I think she may have some mental disorder. I just want peace in my life, she has even turned the g/children against me/
I have bin true betrayal ,I ack just like that I keep happy every day ,and the person who do it to me get so mad when they see me happy keep up the good work I'm a happy person I don't let's nothing negative gets in my way I blank them all, let us be happy,God is good all the Time when they do you wrong they want to see you sad never do that happy likes never before,,,😄😄😀
Pearls of wisdom from Dr Gary. Thank you for these videos, hoping to see more of you soon!
Thank you so much, I really needed this message because I always let anger get the best of me but it's just better to walk away Thanks Dr.
Dr. Gary thank you! Your simple and direct advice resonated with me. I feel like I have lived most of my past 32 years with anger, and at age 52, I feel like I'm finally start moving past it, but as you say it has not been easy and I still fall back into a mindset of anger and even rage at times (never in public, but still). 🙏🙏🙏
Relatives can destroy you, so please watch your back folks.
Eventually the pain lessens. It sucks to be fooled and left out. It sucks to be lied to and lied about. Life can be weird depending on where you live. Keep Smiling and let them.wonder! Bullying is not okay. Not okay at all.
Very useful Dr Gary
Have you made any videos on assertiveness? I have noticed that assertive behaviour can prevent one from getting angry and holding grudges...please advise on assertiveness
Thanks for your words, Dr. Gary! I only hope I can implement them in my life. Your a good guy!
Great Words of Wisdom !! Thank you ...
Paul and Sandy
Thank you Dr. Gary, I do enjoy what you’re doing, it motivates me and it makes me want to do better in this lifetime. Keep up the good work I do appreciate what you were doing. Thank you,
All is well
"Resentment and complaint are appropriate neither for oneself nor others" -Miyamoto Musashi
People will hurt us, people will do us wrong, disrespect us, lie n betray.. however learn to be strict with yourself and be tolerant with others. we have no control over the world we only can control our mental faculty
I don't want Revenge! I want Justice!
And the Money my X Embezzeled Durring our 21 years Marraige!
Yep...l am to blame for believing he actually loved me...as he was really Abusing and Using me!
Thank you sir. I needed these thoughts / tips right now.
Really dead on, man, you've helped me, been in the belly of anger, nearly lost everything, just at the rim of the hole,, and i find you, you, It was my mind?
thank you so much sir for your advice I'm so glad to found your vedeo in RUclips.god bless you.
Hard to do when it's your own parents. I had to say goodbye to my dad on the phone years ago, and never saw him again. He died this week, a miserable person. He Hurt me every chance he was given. I finally had to say no more, but it's the biggest deal of your life.
My dad severely Abused me throughout my whole Childhood...up til l finally had to Run Away at 18! Yep...l had been "Grounded" for Months!...l forgave and Forgot...and actually allowed to him to form a bond with my oldest Son (l can't even go there!)...l ended up in a 2 decade Abusive Marraige...than Homeless! He literally had 3 empty houses! I moved into the one across the street from him...where he spent the year Abusing. Gaslighting and trying to push me to Suicide! That's the Thanks you will get from a Covert Narc for that unconditional love! Do not believe all that goody goody bullshit about Forgiveness...its over-rated!
They say...you Forgive others for yourself! Do yourself a favor and don't forgive and forget...unless you want history to repeat itself and to get treated like a Rug!!!!
Aw best of love to you x
@@bonniebester606 i think it means you detach yourself from that person having control over your emotions x
@@lindasapiecha2515 Yes...we try...with some Success Depending on your Support System. When it was your Foundation with Parents like mine (and mind you...l see their good and still love and respect them...not easy at all...) But if your typical. Patterns Repeat and mine was with Paul for 2 Decades...the Prime of my Life with Paul...Stuck in his Pumpkin...Still am...Abuse is something a Lot of Child Abuse Survivors spend a Lifetime Reliving and trying to Overcome!
Wow, I had managed to "forget" that I might have had a part in the situations where someone has hurt me...
Hurt as much as I did?....no, ten fold.
Thanks I needed to hear this now...
Are you still doing new content?
Sometimes you cannot get away from them, just distance yourself from them.
Dear Dr. Gary.......why do those betrayers keep coming into my head even though I engage myself in moving forward? Every time I sit to paint.... They just take over.
Stress definately makes you sick!
i have several of these issues... as a part of my PTSD my doctor asked me to write to them and tell them i remember what they did and i moved on.
I’m going through something similar.
@@polishherowitoldpilecki5521 normally narcies need to see you to trigger, but if you send them a picture it can work as well!.
It is really you calling them normal and they dont like that!
if you send them a picture of an apt you shared ..... yes they will laugh on the outside but not on the inside and talk to them sub normal.....no joy there for them...
Hey Doc, I take care of my 91 year old stroke Mother, who was fully functioning before. 4 sons mom built up every one of us. No help, when my brothers wife visits, she is the meanest spirited abusive person I have known, I say nothing because she will take it out on my brother, her and there son. I am ashamed and regretful for allowing her access to Mom, What you just said, Mom has been telling me my whole life, I have difficulty managing this,
More I watch things about revenge, more I want to revenge for good and don't think about it AFTER !
My problem is I blame myself for everything and then have tremendous guilt over why i got myself into this relationship when i had alarm bells ringing x
I changed my behavior, I walked away, I moved on, I changed my thoughts and stay away from people that want to do me wrong and betray me. So guess what they did... Groups of people psychotic demented sociopaths are now stalking me. Now what?
Yes I totally agree
Brilliant
Pretty good video!
thanks for this video..subscribed
My revenge and anger will be gone when I do what they did to me. Payback is a bitch when is comes back to them. Wrath has no equal like a Scorpio that has been wronged!
what about if the one who done wrong is my husband cheated and divorce. 😐
Thank you Dr. (y)
Wise words but theres nothing better than having the person who hurt you suspended on barbed wire in a stress position while you relieve your frustration with a baseball bat a blow lamp and a blunt pair of pincers oh sweet relief
What do you do when your own daughter has betrayed you, and you want revenge? Don't think I can come back from all she has done to hurt me, I think she may have some mental disorder. I just want peace in my life, she has even turned the g/children against me/
I have bin true betrayal ,I ack just like that I keep happy every day ,and the person who do it to me get so mad when they see me happy keep up the good work I'm a happy person I don't let's nothing negative gets in my way I blank them all, let us be happy,God is good all the Time when they do you wrong they want to see you sad never do that happy likes never before,,,😄😄😀
Maybe they are not aware of being "betrayed", and you feel angry at yourself for being so naive.
If ur going 4 revenge dig 2 graves...
Dr Gary can i have your email??
it's a family member. and extremely upsetting to not have a relationship with this person.
It hurts alot. I have terrible connections with relatives. No closeness.