Not only is it extremely important to have that conversation with your children but it's also important to BELIEVE your child if or when something happens.
I was in kindergarten when we were taught about “inappropriate” touching and what to do when someone invaded your personal comfort bubble. This education was taught to us through elementary and middle school and high school. Plus, my parents introduced me about assault when I was three or four. It’s never, never too early to talk about that.
Yes my mom and dad didn’t give me the sex talk but they did tell me that if someone ever touches my privates I have to tell them. At least they did that
There is a Netflix show, called Anne With An E, it's a period piece based in the late 1800s. In the third season, there is an episode on consent and portrays an unwanted sexual advance between young adults and the fallout that comes with it. The show skillfully and carefully navigates this topic and most importantly it's done in a family-friendly way (as much as something like that can be). While watching the show with my family, it gave one of my cousins' courage to inform us and talk about her very own experience. It's certainly worth a watch and the show itself covers a lot of difficult topics and issues we battle in modern-day society with grace but without sugar-coating the truth and heaviness of these particular topics. #AnneWithAnE
Diamond Most definitely! It's my absolute favorite series but Netflix is trying to cancel it because it has some sort of conflict with the Canadian company that co-produces the show. It's does a fantastic job of hitting such excruciatingly important topics. The best part is that it's both written AND directed by women! There is a petition going around and it's alright gathered like 60k signatures.
Idil Hussein No, the ratings were fine. However, the excuse they did give was the AGE of the viewers wasn’t what they wanted, which in my opinion made no sense. It’s third season which premiered a few months back had been the Canadians networks highest rated and viewed show. The cancellation went through long before it has even premiered on Netflix for a global audience. The show was a victim of a partnership splitting and people fighting over rights. #renewannewithane
Stay strong love💕 I have an 11 yr old and I have these conversations with her as well! Always tell your parents and/or guardian if anyone and/or makes you feel uncomfortable or doing something that you have to question!
I think that's a good idea. I am a new mommy to a 4.5 month old baby boy and I was like thinking man When would I bring this up? I agree it is a very important conversation to have, because it brings awareness to your kid and also breaks the silence god forbid something does happen. They'll know they can come to you. I think I would kill someone though. I totally understand the fierce parental love and protection firsthand now.
I agree, especially since the people who are more likely to sexually assault your children are people you know. Check out the book Protect the Gift. Such a great guide on how to protect our little ones. Check it out in the library if you need.
My friend’s mom wouldn’t let my friends come to my house because I had an older adult brother. I never understood why until now. I guess she was just being safe
edy ann V i have twin 4 year olds. My fiancé and i wanted one more but decided this wasn’t a world we want to bring another child into. It is tough for sure
@@jadaforsee1820 Hats off to you and all the parents in this time... my husband and I really thought about it well and we decided it wasn't for us. May be selfish but it's got to be so hard!
I dont think it's harder. I imagine it's the same. Whatever is happening now has always been happening. The only difference is that people are more aware now and were trying to start the conversation that for a long time society considered taboo!
edy ann V *A lot of things are hard in life, but it isn’t just about what you like and what you think is easy or hard. Often we have to put our feelings aside, and lend a hand to those that are in need, the same way that we would hope that THEY would do for us, if it was WE that were in their shoes. Sometimes you need to get your head out of your own butt and look around you, and see that there are people that aren’t as lucky as you, that you could help, but don’t want to. That there are children, and generally speaking there are people that need your help, but you won’t extend a hand, because helping will be hard or just “not” for you. There are children that will never feel wanted, and that will never get to have a home where they feel safe and loved, because the people that could’ve given them a chance, thought “it’s just not for me. It’s too hard” A lot of things are not easy to do and can feel inconvenient, but life doesn’t revolve around us. Getting up for work every morning is hard, but we do it anyway because we need the money. I guess the only way you and others like you, will do anything for others, it’s if there is something that you can receive in return. If we have more than enough to bless someone, if we have more than enough space and money, and we can help a child get out of the foster care, so that they can have a home where they no longer have to question if anyone loves them, but we are too lazy and selfish to help, we are nothing. What is the point to existing, if you’re just living for your self?* If more people decided to adopt, there wouldn’t be so many kids feeling unloved and broken
I’ve read Tiffany Haddish’s autobiography and she literally couldn’t read throughout school, she moved schools a lot and was in foster care. So like Loni said for her to come this far is incredible
I feel like it's such an important conversation to have... even BEFORE something like a movement has to be known out... I know for me , my mom has always told me and my older sibling that if ANYONE touches us inappropriately then go tell her immediately... and to be honest i think it has to start at home base because what happens when the kid doesn't know what to do and they haven't been taught about these kinds of things... I would hate that for a child
Jeanie really went in on this topic and I appreciate it so much as a Vietnamese girl growing up in the same environment she grew up in. There needs to be a change in our culture.
Such a serious and deep topic, actually something I spoke about just yesterday on my Series called Speak. I absolutely love you ladies and you guys actually inspired me to start the series :)
It makes me so sick 🤮 to think of what was allowed to happen to Jeanie when she was younger in her culture. Along with what’s been said here, I think it needs to be *HEAVILY* enforced in South Asian and Middle Eastern countries (and those cultures around the world). This kind of violence needs to be stopped!
My mom always talked to my sister and I about inappropriate touching as early as I can remember. I think that her care to ensure that we weren't sexually assaulted saved me from a world of trauma that many individuals face. I have let her know now that I'm an adult that I am forever grateful for her efforts. Protect your kids, dangers are real.
Something like this with the generation raised with the internet and social media can be good or bad. I know people I went to school with who lied about sexual harassment or assault because of attention and now with everything online and hashtags I feel kids and teens are more inclined to fabricate or make up something to be included in the movement and it takes away from those who were ACTUALLY assaulted and harassed and abused.
It’s so important to let your kids know that it might be confusing or scary if something like this happens and you might not want to share because of that but YOU SHOULD! And let them know you’ll BELIEVE and HELP them! They won’t get in trouble and you want to be on their side/team!
I hoenstly think its the equivalent to giving yourself a pat on the back / giving compliments to yourself while looking in the mirror but just on social media..I don’t mind it ! People find any reason to get butt-hurt nowadays and it’s really starting to get on my damn nerves 😂💀
Loni.. girl .. stop it ! Lol, I really used to love her, and so do still love her, but she has been extra annoying and irritating! Tiffany was rained in foster care for some of her older childhood years... that does not mean that she didn’t go to school, it went to some fictional “foster care school that didn’t study phonic.” 🙄 She stays teaching !
Right! That made me mad. I was raised in foster care and i went to a regular public school. Just because you are in foster care doesn't mean your uneducated.
@@zahra-tm3cv She was basically saying her background probably had an effect on how she talks. Which it does for a lot people. She was in a group home not with a foster family. So maybe they didnt have anybody to really help them with their work in the group home.The way that Tiffani talked about the group home on her tv one interview it did not seem like a nurturing place. Its not like Loni was down playing foster care. She basically letting the people who had an issue with Tiffani saying names wrong to dont be so quick to judge. Think about where someone came. Their backgrounds has an effects all parts of their life.
@@kavaniawilson860 I've lived in group homes for 3 years so trust me I know that its not great. Im just saying that being in foster care doesn't mean that you are uneducated. I think Loni just didn't realize that what she was saying was offensive. Maybe she didn't mean it in a rude way but that's how it came off.
The sad thing is that many people aren’t sexual harassing/assaulting others not because it’s the right thing to do, but because they’re scared of getting caught, getting in trouble with the law, or losing things once they’re caught (scholarships, etc.). What’s even sadder is that some people don’t care about the law and do it anyways. 😔
This is so true... In my school several girls were harassed by this one kid in the 10th grade, he would caress them in place I don’t even want to mention. Some girls spoke up, but the kid didn’t have any consequences, unfortunately. But at least, they put new cameras inside the classroom, were the situations mainly happened. AND he started yelling things like “hey *friend* look at you” “come over here you look just *licks lips* so good” to MY FRIEND. She used to just give him dirty looks, but I had to start defending her, I wouldn’t have to do that. I don’t have to do that, not because I don’t care for my friend, this men, and even woman, have to think how this make people feel and hold back. This NEEDS to STOP.
My mother is still married to my abuser. Told me straight up i will never choose you over him. Girls if someone you know has touched you and your family doesnt believe you. Tell your school! Straight up!
I have a history of sexual assault in my life starting at the age of 6 i coming into my adulthood and am just realizing how many times its happened. I wish i had this convo growing up
It’s very sad but just reality that i have twin 4 year olds, i have had to already teach them the correct names of their private parts instead of “kitty” or “monkey” or “pee pee” like alottttt of adults i have talked to have. No shade to anyone but i really wanted them to know their bodies. Fully and be aware. We’ve had the discussion of how to protect our bodies, what type of touches are not okay & who the only people are that should ever see them with their clothes off. (Me, dad and only my mother) my daughter has already started at school getting very upset about the open door policy schools have with bathrooms, i have taught her she can have privacy and in many schools, children are not allowed to shut the door to the bathroom that is in class where teachers and students can clearly see in the stall. She will hold going to the potty for the entire day, which i wish she didn’t but after what she’s been taught, she knows her body is for her eyes only. It’s just the reality these day. So sad that 4 year olds are already taught to be cautious of their body.
Or switch her schools not every school upholds that policy. I know for a fact the schools I'm my town don't, however I dont know what location you are so idk the laws there.
my mom always tells me “idc where you are how old you are who you’re with or even if they put a gun to ur head if someone touches you in a way that makes you uncomfortable tell me”
In highschool i was in something called child safety puppeteers and we went around to elementary schools and put on performances with puppets where they discussed sexual harassment and bullying. It made so many kids come forward to their teachers and tell them about problems they were having at school or at home, because they related to what the puppet was going through:)
I'm with Michael 😂😂 as long as my name is announced and I know it's me I'm all good haha I love ! I love Tiffany and she was probably nervous ! I love the fact that she atleast fought through it and finished it ... she stayed head strong and just did her job ! However let’s not lie though... I do sometimes cringe... like today... The Golden Globe nominations were announced and Charlize Theron’s name was mispronounced cuz it’s not the way I usually hear it...
I watch your show in México by you toube I love your show. And Just want to say im sad because a latín descrimination. Not all peopple are bad. My mexican fellos are so haré workers im proud of them thank you.
I’m in the middle of my internship working as a child victim advocate. The number one lesson I’ve learned is that perpetrators don’t have one look. They come in every race, ethnicity, gender, age, shape and form. It’s so important to explain to your kids the differences between SAFE and UNSAFE touches. Not good and bad. Bad touches can feel good. Stay open with your kids about their questions. Believe when they say something happened. Ask questions.
Also as parents or caregivers, look up safety plan. You come up with a code word for when your child is in trouble, ensure they know how to call 911, and list 5 “Safe” people. Stressing that if something unsafe happens you tell and keep telling those people until they listen and if they commit the unsafe touch they’re no longer safe.
I recently listened to this podcast how parents have no issue talking to their children about strangers and kidnapping etc which is very unlikely situation compared to sexual abuse or molestation which is some crazy number like 1 in 4 children. It's a conversation parents just ignore or dont want to have and yet it's such a horrible reality in our world. Little kids dont know what's right or wrong until an adult tells them. As adults and parents we need to make sure that they hear that type of stuff from the RIGHT person, the GOOD person. Not the abuser who wishes to silence them
Yes thank you guys, please believe when someone says something is going on and isn't right and they don't feel comfortable try to do something. Back when I was a sophomore in high school I had a teacher who would comment very provocative stuff to all the females in the class. A bunch of us got tired of it and were very uncomfortable just walking into the room. So we all went to the guidance office, principal, and dean of students and told them what was going on. They didn't believe us and told us to stop making stuff up to try to get someone in trouble. That teacher left the following year and went to another school and actually acted on it this time instead of just saying stuff and now he is in prison for it. So again I say please please when someone comes and says something believe them.
I think it's important to not just teach kids about boundaries and how to report it....we need to teach kids at a young age to keep your hands and words to ourselves. Prevention is important
Did Loni just say she was raised in the foster care system so they may not study phonics....this is an example of how she speaks with confidence and be so wrong. She's confidently wrong all the time I can't 😑
People should talk to kids about this topic at school and at home because it's imprtant for young kids to know about this topic when they get older.😘😘😀😍❤️❤️😀😍😘😘
I never knew I was sexually assaulted till I was 16. I was sexually assaulted over and over till I was 7 and my family kept it from me till I was 16....
I’m in middle school and I’ve seen and had so many things happen to me and others but I’m still in classes with the person that did it to me and I don’t know what to do
Regan_ 1o1 Hey Regan, I’m sorry that’s happening to you. Know that you do not deserve it and it’s not your fault. I hope it stops and it doesn’t continue. Have you told anybody about it ? It’s best to tell someone you trust about it. If you can speak up i hope the situation changes and u don’t need to see that person ever again
My school has a thing called erins law it’s like in the whole state of Oregon I think and a teacher teach you about good sexual behaviors and what’s acceptable and what’s not
I am a teacher at a school in Australia we have a program in our school district called Respectful Relationships. It covers a number of topics such as resilience, bullying and gender topics. In that program we strive to show students what respectful relationships look like so they can make friendships, working and romantic relationships positive. Just recently a young man in one of my classes sent an email asking a girl in the class for nudes using another students account- the language was disgusting.This young woman was distraught and came to us straight away because she trusted we would take it seriously. The young boy was removed from her class and we had a safety plan written up before we conducted a meeting to discuss what would happen next school year. In the end she asked me to read a speech to him about her feelings and he cried before stating all the things he would do to ensure her safety in the class (he had made a list of stuff). Both these students were in the high achievers class and when I was taking him away from the meeting he said "I love that class but if she does not feel safe with me I will leave it". It was a really powerful moment because I could tell he had learnt. Fortunately for him she felt that he had learnt and has signed him off to come back in to the accelerated program. I was so impressed by how seriously everyone took the incident parents, leaders and students.
I talk to both of my daughters about it. They are 10, 14. But I start when they are younger. My daughter was 7 years old when her father molestation her.
@@Sssssssslf THANK YOU FOR THIS COMMENT 👏 It really is super weird, if she doesn't want children then why does it matter to strangers or anyone who isn't her!?
It's weird that sometimes I don't think these women see their double standards when it comes to women. They praise LeBron posting about his accomplishments but when Ariana Grande called herself hard working on Instagram they were all annoyed and said only other people should be giving you compliments...
In most cases I think the abuser is a family member or family friend. I think we should really tell our children about this and that it can be anyone. I like the idea of talking about this in schools but also I believe it is parents responsibility not the schools. It seems like parents these days think its the teachers responsibility to raise their children. Also I think the black community specifically needs help on how to deal with these claims and stop ignoring it when your son or daughter tells you it was a family memeber. Had I had this conversation and had my mother supported me I would have been able to deal with what happened to me better.
Oh Im correcting! If they can say Tom and Linda. They gon say my namr right!!! Okayyyy! Not letting it slide. Say it right. However people were overreacting on Tiffany tho🙄
But she wasnt saying it to be mean. She clearly was making a statement to the people who had a problem with Tiffany saying the names wrong. She was just saying take her background into account because your background, the area you lived in or whatever does effect how you talk. And Tiffany was in a group home so maybe they did not give them much help with school work. She wasnt with a foster family She said it from her own mouth that she wasnt a strong student
Another point I want to make is that.... sometimes we have to be even more cautious in urban communities as well because I remember looking at a movie about these black women talking about their past experiences while they were getting prepared for their grandmothers funeral... and one of the characters revealed that she was raped by a boy she liked but she wasn't ready to take that next step ( the situation happened over 20 years ago ) and she went home and told her mom and dad and they said they wouldn't even turn in the boy because he was also black... it was just sad to see we are so afraid of that outcomes that we don't focus on the overall picture... JUSTICE !!! Women it's ok to stand yo for yourselves and help other women realize " you've been through it , so have I , let's stand together hand in hand as we fight for justice for this to come to an end "
I know too many people that were raped as kids by their step dads, they told their mom’s and the moms didn’t care and stayed with the rapists. One of those poor kids told her mom and her mom slapped her in the face saying it wasn’t true. And one of the kids told the mom, she didn’t believe him and now he has to antidepressants, or he’s suicidal. Some of you parents deserve to get hung for ignoring your child’s cry for help. But God is merciful. So repent and ask your children for forgiveness if you didn’t believe them. IF YOUR CHILD CANT GO TO YOU FOR HELP, WHO ARE THEY GOING TO GO TO????? *Children are pure minded. They don’t go around making false sexual allegations about anyone. BELIEVE THEM! LOOK OUT FOR THEM AND GO ABOVE AND BEYOND FOR THEM.* I have an ex friend who’s girlfriend would beat up her daughter and other kids that she had, and starved her and her brothers -little kids were babies, two, three; and he never said anything. He went to jail twice for dating that type of women, where he neglected to tell the cops about the abuse that the kids were facing. Basically, he dated two abusive women, saw the abuse and never said anything. (None of the kids were his, but HE SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING OR DONE SOMETHING.) But the guy is a rat, and dated that type of women and even had a baby with one of them in the end. He was deported back to his country not that long ago, because he was here illegally and because he had two counts of I think it’s called “accessory to child abuse” and I am not sorry that he got deported. If I had seen him before he left; I would’ve given him an earful........ that’s why he’s not my friend anymore. The little girl was so skinny.... she even came to church one time with her arm broken, and when she was taken to the doctors, she told them what happened. She said that her mom had “grabbed her hard by the neck and had broken her arm and that her arm was hurting”. THE BABY WAS LIKE 4/5 at the time... AND THE GUY KNEW but didn’t say anything, and he got jailed. So did the mom. I know God is merciful to those that repent, but man. I could’ve broken his face and the mom’s face too
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Not only is it extremely important to have that conversation with your children but it's also important to BELIEVE your child if or when something happens.
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YES THIS! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
i wish my middle school would’ve told us “slap a** friday” was sexual harassment and held the boys accountable
Kimberly zuniga yes I remember slap ass Friday too !!! That was definitely sexual harassment :(
Jackey Alvarado Boys don’t believe in sexual harassment as long as they are having fun, they don’t care that girls arent cool with it
Alex James you cant be that daft
Kimberly zuniga that was a thing in your middle school? Even the name sounds discomforting. I’m sooo sorry about that 🥺
@@alexjames2510 which is wrong
I was in kindergarten when we were taught about “inappropriate” touching and what to do when someone invaded your personal comfort bubble. This education was taught to us through elementary and middle school and high school.
Plus, my parents introduced me about assault when I was three or four. It’s never, never too early to talk about that.
Lenalight same
Bd from the 213 🤣😂Good! That’s how it should be done!
Yes my mom and dad didn’t give me the sex talk but they did tell me that if someone ever touches my privates I have to tell them. At least they did that
I think I could have avoided so many problems if I had this kind of conversation as a kid.
Same. I didn't realize what happened until I was a lot older.
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Alicia Cecilia Just curious, What did you describe it as when you were younger?
@@animebabe539 to be honest, I don't remember. He made it into a game.
@@Kittyalyy I'm sorry you went thru something horrible
There is a Netflix show, called Anne With An E, it's a period piece based in the late 1800s. In the third season, there is an episode on consent and portrays an unwanted sexual advance between young adults and the fallout that comes with it. The show skillfully and carefully navigates this topic and most importantly it's done in a family-friendly way (as much as something like that can be). While watching the show with my family, it gave one of my cousins' courage to inform us and talk about her very own experience. It's certainly worth a watch and the show itself covers a lot of difficult topics and issues we battle in modern-day society with grace but without sugar-coating the truth and heaviness of these particular topics. #AnneWithAnE
I love this show, it's beautifully done and definitely underrated.
Diamond Most definitely! It's my absolute favorite series but Netflix is trying to cancel it because it has some sort of conflict with the Canadian company that co-produces the show. It's does a fantastic job of hitting such excruciatingly important topics. The best part is that it's both written AND directed by women! There is a petition going around and it's alright gathered like 60k signatures.
Mia McKenzie I think it really is getting cancelled but I think it was because of ratings.
Idil Hussein No, the ratings were fine. However, the excuse they did give was the AGE of the viewers wasn’t what they wanted, which in my opinion made no sense. It’s third season which premiered a few months back had been the Canadians networks highest rated and viewed show. The cancellation went through long before it has even premiered on Netflix for a global audience. The show was a victim of a partnership splitting and people fighting over rights. #renewannewithane
Mia McKenzie Didn't know that! Hope it makes a strong comeback, I really like it😌😌
Thanks to the real I’m 13 and school doesn’t teach me these things so thank you 💓
Your parents should teach you this as will sweetie. I hope that you have someone in your life that you can talk to!
Do you really need to be taught this?
Alice Craz there are kids I go to school with who actually need to hear this tho
Nicole I am honestly shocked
Stay strong love💕 I have an 11 yr old and I have these conversations with her as well! Always tell your parents and/or guardian if anyone and/or makes you feel uncomfortable or doing something that you have to question!
The second your kid starts going over peoples house without you. The talks needs to be had family or not.
I think that's a good idea. I am a new mommy to a 4.5 month old baby boy and I was like thinking man When would I bring this up? I agree it is a very important conversation to have, because it brings awareness to your kid and also breaks the silence god forbid something does happen. They'll know they can come to you. I think I would kill someone though. I totally understand the fierce parental love and protection firsthand now.
All that to say, thanks for the advice ;)
It needs to be before that. In the black community it happens often between family members when the children are very young.
I agree, especially since the people who are more likely to sexually assault your children are people you know. Check out the book Protect the Gift. Such a great guide on how to protect our little ones. Check it out in the library if you need.
My friend’s mom wouldn’t let my friends come to my house because I had an older adult brother. I never understood why until now. I guess she was just being safe
I've never heard anyone pronounce the word "uncomfortable" like Tamera does lol she really emphasizes every syllable
Or how she says Monfs, instead of months. Lol
It's really annoying
I seriously dodged a bullet by not having children. It's got to be tougher than ever to bring up kids in this day in age.
edy ann V i have twin 4 year olds. My fiancé and i wanted one more but decided this wasn’t a world we want to bring another child into. It is tough for sure
@@jadaforsee1820 Hats off to you and all the parents in this time... my husband and I really thought about it well and we decided it wasn't for us. May be selfish but it's got to be so hard!
I dont think it's harder. I imagine it's the same. Whatever is happening now has always been happening. The only difference is that people are more aware now and were trying to start the conversation that for a long time society considered taboo!
I feel the same way. I'm afraid to have kids, especially a daughter with all the things that goes on.
edy ann V *A lot of things are hard in life, but it isn’t just about what you like and what you think is easy or hard. Often we have to put our feelings aside, and lend a hand to those that are in need, the same way that we would hope that THEY would do for us, if it was WE that were in their shoes. Sometimes you need to get your head out of your own butt and look around you, and see that there are people that aren’t as lucky as you, that you could help, but don’t want to. That there are children, and generally speaking there are people that need your help, but you won’t extend a hand, because helping will be hard or just “not” for you. There are children that will never feel wanted, and that will never get to have a home where they feel safe and loved, because the people that could’ve given them a chance, thought “it’s just not for me. It’s too hard” A lot of things are not easy to do and can feel inconvenient, but life doesn’t revolve around us. Getting up for work every morning is hard, but we do it anyway because we need the money. I guess the only way you and others like you, will do anything for others, it’s if there is something that you can receive in return. If we have more than enough to bless someone, if we have more than enough space and money, and we can help a child get out of the foster care, so that they can have a home where they no longer have to question if anyone loves them, but we are too lazy and selfish to help, we are nothing. What is the point to existing, if you’re just living for your self?*
If more people decided to adopt, there wouldn’t be so many kids feeling unloved and broken
Jeannie was real heated on this subject for obvious reasons.. that sweat moustache says it all 🗣
I feel intimidated when people correct me in front of a crowd. When I’m taken a side and corrected i feel less embarrassed 😳
For all parents: Protect the Gift is a great book to read on protecting your children from bad behavior and sexual assault.
This is super important and I wish I had something like this when I was a kid!
Jeannie gives me chills when she speaks
sad knowing jeannie has been through this but wasnt yet comfortable to talk about it. she is so strong, love her.
Lol adrienne gave Loni the side eye when she started talking about tiffany being in foster care.
Great advice Tamera. Using nicknames for private parts can cause you to miss the signs of sexual abuse!!!
I just adore jeanie’s admiration for everything
00966591844057 I love you I am Pakistan boy
I’ve read Tiffany Haddish’s autobiography and she literally couldn’t read throughout school, she moved schools a lot and was in foster care. So like Loni said for her to come this far is incredible
As a mental health therapist I have had this conversation as young as 4, for my own daughter she was 2
I feel like it's such an important conversation to have... even BEFORE something like a movement has to be known out... I know for me , my mom has always told me and my older sibling that if ANYONE touches us inappropriately then go tell her immediately... and to be honest i think it has to start at home base because what happens when the kid doesn't know what to do and they haven't been taught about these kinds of things... I would hate that for a child
Jeanie really went in on this topic and I appreciate it so much as a Vietnamese girl growing up in the same environment she grew up in. There needs to be a change in our culture.
This topic is so very important but pple try to wave it. I appreciate you ladies of the real 4 dis 🙏🏾❤
Such a serious and deep topic, actually something I spoke about just yesterday on my Series called Speak. I absolutely love you ladies and you guys actually inspired me to start the series :)
It makes me so sick 🤮 to think of what was allowed to happen to Jeanie when she was younger in her culture. Along with what’s been said here, I think it needs to be *HEAVILY* enforced in South Asian and Middle Eastern countries (and those cultures around the world). This kind of violence needs to be stopped!
My mom always talked to my sister and I about inappropriate touching as early as I can remember. I think that her care to ensure that we weren't sexually assaulted saved me from a world of trauma that many individuals face. I have let her know now that I'm an adult that I am forever grateful for her efforts. Protect your kids, dangers are real.
👏👏👏👏👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 great parenting Loni, wish I had a mother like that. Abuse messes up lives
13:32 Adrienne is a whole mood
RubyRim Yessssss
Ikr she gave loni the side eye 😌
I really like you girls, and I enjoy the different perspectives you each give. From each point of view
Something like this with the generation raised with the internet and social media can be good or bad. I know people I went to school with who lied about sexual harassment or assault because of attention and now with everything online and hashtags I feel kids and teens are more inclined to fabricate or make up something to be included in the movement and it takes away from those who were ACTUALLY assaulted and harassed and abused.
It’s so important to let your kids know that it might be confusing or scary if something like this happens and you might not want to share because of that but YOU SHOULD! And let them know you’ll BELIEVE and HELP them! They won’t get in trouble and you want to be on their side/team!
I hoenstly think its the equivalent to giving yourself a pat on the back / giving compliments to yourself while looking in the mirror but just on social media..I don’t mind it ! People find any reason to get butt-hurt nowadays and it’s really starting to get on my damn nerves 😂💀
Loni.. girl .. stop it ! Lol, I really used to love her, and so do still love her, but she has been extra annoying and irritating! Tiffany was rained in foster care for some of her older childhood years... that does not mean that she didn’t go to school, it went to some fictional “foster care school that didn’t study phonic.” 🙄 She stays teaching !
Right! That made me mad. I was raised in foster care and i went to a regular public school. Just because you are in foster care doesn't mean your uneducated.
But she wasnt a strong student. Tiffani said that herself on an interview on tv one
@@kavaniawilson860 but that had nothing to do with her being in foster care
@@zahra-tm3cv She was basically saying her background probably had an effect on how she talks. Which it does for a lot people. She was in a group home not with a foster family. So maybe they didnt have anybody to really help them with their work in the group home.The way that Tiffani talked about the group home on her tv one interview it did not seem like a nurturing place. Its not like Loni was down playing foster care. She basically letting the people who had an issue with Tiffani saying names wrong to dont be so quick to judge. Think about where someone came. Their backgrounds has an effects all parts of their life.
@@kavaniawilson860 I've lived in group homes for 3 years so trust me I know that its not great. Im just saying that being in foster care doesn't mean that you are uneducated. I think Loni just didn't realize that what she was saying was offensive. Maybe she didn't mean it in a rude way but that's how it came off.
Loni love the new lashes.. looks more natural
The sad thing is that many people aren’t sexual harassing/assaulting others not because it’s the right thing to do, but because they’re scared of getting caught, getting in trouble with the law, or losing things once they’re caught (scholarships, etc.). What’s even sadder is that some people don’t care about the law and do it anyways. 😔
If you act comfortable, your child will feel comfortable
This is so true...
In my school several girls were harassed by this one kid in the 10th grade, he would caress them in place I don’t even want to mention. Some girls spoke up, but the kid didn’t have any consequences, unfortunately. But at least, they put new cameras inside the classroom, were the situations mainly happened.
AND he started yelling things like “hey *friend* look at you” “come over here you look just *licks lips* so good” to MY FRIEND. She used to just give him dirty looks, but I had to start defending her, I wouldn’t have to do that. I don’t have to do that, not because I don’t care for my friend, this men, and even woman, have to think how this make people feel and hold back.
This NEEDS to STOP.
My mother is still married to my abuser. Told me straight up i will never choose you over him. Girls if someone you know has touched you and your family doesnt believe you. Tell your school! Straight up!
I have a history of sexual assault in my life starting at the age of 6 i coming into my adulthood and am just realizing how many times its happened. I wish i had this convo growing up
It’s very sad but just reality that i have twin 4 year olds, i have had to already teach them the correct names of their private parts instead of “kitty” or “monkey” or “pee pee” like alottttt of adults i have talked to have. No shade to anyone but i really wanted them to know their bodies. Fully and be aware. We’ve had the discussion of how to protect our bodies, what type of touches are not okay & who the only people are that should ever see them with their clothes off. (Me, dad and only my mother) my daughter has already started at school getting very upset about the open door policy schools have with bathrooms, i have taught her she can have privacy and in many schools, children are not allowed to shut the door to the bathroom that is in class where teachers and students can clearly see in the stall. She will hold going to the potty for the entire day, which i wish she didn’t but after what she’s been taught, she knows her body is for her eyes only. It’s just the reality these day. So sad that 4 year olds are already taught to be cautious of their body.
Or switch her schools not every school upholds that policy. I know for a fact the schools I'm my town don't, however I dont know what location you are so idk the laws there.
my mom always tells me “idc where you are how old you are who you’re with or even if they put a gun to ur head if someone touches you in a way that makes you uncomfortable tell me”
In highschool i was in something called child safety puppeteers and we went around to elementary schools and put on performances with puppets where they discussed sexual harassment and bullying. It made so many kids come forward to their teachers and tell them about problems they were having at school or at home, because they related to what the puppet was going through:)
I had a lady in church call me Stephanie for a good 6 months before I had the guts to tell her it was Sarah . 😂
Sarah omg something similar happened to me in middle school 😩
I'm with Michael 😂😂 as long as my name is announced and I know it's me I'm all good haha I love ! I love Tiffany and she was probably nervous ! I love the fact that she atleast fought through it and finished it ... she stayed head strong and just did her job ! However let’s not lie though... I do sometimes cringe... like today... The Golden Globe nominations were announced and Charlize Theron’s name was mispronounced cuz it’s not the way I usually hear it...
I watch your show in México by you toube I love your show. And Just want to say im sad because a latín descrimination. Not all peopple are bad. My mexican fellos are so haré workers im proud of them thank you.
I’m in the middle of my internship working as a child victim advocate. The number one lesson I’ve learned is that perpetrators don’t have one look. They come in every race, ethnicity, gender, age, shape and form. It’s so important to explain to your kids the differences between SAFE and UNSAFE touches. Not good and bad. Bad touches can feel good. Stay open with your kids about their questions. Believe when they say something happened. Ask questions.
Also as parents or caregivers, look up safety plan. You come up with a code word for when your child is in trouble, ensure they know how to call 911, and list 5 “Safe” people. Stressing that if something unsafe happens you tell and keep telling those people until they listen and if they commit the unsafe touch they’re no longer safe.
I recently listened to this podcast how parents have no issue talking to their children about strangers and kidnapping etc which is very unlikely situation compared to sexual abuse or molestation which is some crazy number like 1 in 4 children. It's a conversation parents just ignore or dont want to have and yet it's such a horrible reality in our world. Little kids dont know what's right or wrong until an adult tells them. As adults and parents we need to make sure that they hear that type of stuff from the RIGHT person, the GOOD person. Not the abuser who wishes to silence them
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Yes thank you guys, please believe when someone says something is going on and isn't right and they don't feel comfortable try to do something. Back when I was a sophomore in high school I had a teacher who would comment very provocative stuff to all the females in the class. A bunch of us got tired of it and were very uncomfortable just walking into the room. So we all went to the guidance office, principal, and dean of students and told them what was going on. They didn't believe us and told us to stop making stuff up to try to get someone in trouble. That teacher left the following year and went to another school and actually acted on it this time instead of just saying stuff and now he is in prison for it. So again I say please please when someone comes and says something believe them.
Very important. I'd add that a discussion about incest should be included in this. It's highly underreported, but very common.
I always remember what my teacher says " hands to your self".
there is another book i read about sexual harassment called “maybe he likes me” I think it really shows what can happen in school especially middle
I think it's important to not just teach kids about boundaries and how to report it....we need to teach kids at a young age to keep your hands and words to ourselves. Prevention is important
Did Loni just say she was raised in the foster care system so they may not study phonics....this is an example of how she speaks with confidence and be so wrong. She's confidently wrong all the time I can't 😑
Anyone else think Adrienne’s hair is fricken awesome lol.
People should talk to kids about this topic at school and at home because it's imprtant for young kids to know about this topic when they get older.😘😘😀😍❤️❤️😀😍😘😘
I think Lebron was mostly saying this to his younger self and I love it. He did the work so why not take a bow.
My mom always made sure me and my brother always used the proper names and not "nicknames."
When I heard Kobe's name I realised he passed not long after this! RIP King
Can someone please write the books that Tamera listed please?
Loni's fit look like venom's suit w the white spider on the chest lol
Not sure why Loni thought education had anything to do with phonetics...
Loni looks so good💚💚💚
I never knew I was sexually assaulted till I was 16. I was sexually assaulted over and over till I was 7 and my family kept it from me till I was 16....
I’m in middle school and I’ve seen and had so many things happen to me and others but I’m still in classes with the person that did it to me and I don’t know what to do
Regan_ 1o1 Hey Regan, I’m sorry that’s happening to you. Know that you do not deserve it and it’s not your fault. I hope it stops and it doesn’t continue. Have you told anybody about it ? It’s best to tell someone you trust about it. If you can speak up i hope the situation changes and u don’t need to see that person ever again
My school has a thing called erins law it’s like in the whole state of Oregon I think and a teacher teach you about good sexual behaviors and what’s acceptable and what’s not
I am a teacher at a school in Australia we have a program in our school district called Respectful Relationships. It covers a number of topics such as resilience, bullying and gender topics. In that program we strive to show students what respectful relationships look like so they can make friendships, working and romantic relationships positive. Just recently a young man in one of my classes sent an email asking a girl in the class for nudes using another students account- the language was disgusting.This young woman was distraught and came to us straight away because she trusted we would take it seriously. The young boy was removed from her class and we had a safety plan written up before we conducted a meeting to discuss what would happen next school year. In the end she asked me to read a speech to him about her feelings and he cried before stating all the things he would do to ensure her safety in the class (he had made a list of stuff). Both these students were in the high achievers class and when I was taking him away from the meeting he said "I love that class but if she does not feel safe with me I will leave it". It was a really powerful moment because I could tell he had learnt. Fortunately for him she felt that he had learnt and has signed him off to come back in to the accelerated program. I was so impressed by how seriously everyone took the incident parents, leaders and students.
I talk to both of my daughters about it. They are 10, 14. But I start when they are younger. My daughter was 7 years old when her father molestation her.
Where’s the father now?
Adrianne needs to stop saying 'Adelts'. They're called 'Adults' lol
yesss, I remember I was sexually abused by my classmates in recess in the second grade.
My middle school teacher is about sexual harassment every year in a 2 hour assembly
i hope someday jeanie will have a baby even by a surrogate with her frozen eggs.. because her babies will be so cute and really smart
Its so bizarre that strangers want her to reproduce so bad
Just said that bc baby jeanie is really cute! 😍 i apologize if i ever hit a sensitive spot- you are kind of right but i wasnt forcing :)
@@Sssssssslf THANK YOU FOR THIS COMMENT 👏 It really is super weird, if she doesn't want children then why does it matter to strangers or anyone who isn't her!?
@@saramichele7366 _girl_ right?! It's just weird, I don't get it
@@Sssssssslf I can see where they would think the babies would be cute bcs she's attractive. But to be so passionate about it is so strange lol
Loni they mispronounce names too but rarely! You’re the one that messes up the most that it’s known! That’s why the girls said shadeee
It's weird that sometimes I don't think these women see their double standards when it comes to women. They praise LeBron posting about his accomplishments but when Ariana Grande called herself hard working on Instagram they were all annoyed and said only other people should be giving you compliments...
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Gabourey Cinnabon ha ha ha!!
Wish in Middle School free booty Friday was considered sexual harassment but no all they said was kids gonna be kids 😒😒😒😒 it was annoying
The good touch bad touch talk starts at age 3. Doctors will tell you that. I have never been uncomfortable giving my kids real conversation.
Right
In most cases I think the abuser is a family member or family friend. I think we should really tell our children about this and that it can be anyone. I like the idea of talking about this in schools but also I believe it is parents responsibility not the schools. It seems like parents these days think its the teachers responsibility to raise their children. Also I think the black community specifically needs help on how to deal with these claims and stop ignoring it when your son or daughter tells you it was a family memeber. Had I had this conversation and had my mother supported me I would have been able to deal with what happened to me better.
There isnt a way to let them rehearse them right before the show
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That was not a smooth transition. Talking to you kids about sexual harassment 😥😥😥➡➡➡CONGRATS LEBRON!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉
Oh Im correcting!
If they can say Tom and Linda. They gon say my namr right!!! Okayyyy!
Not letting it slide. Say it right.
However people were overreacting on Tiffany tho🙄
I went to work today
Loni what does Tiffany being in foster care have to do with her mispronouncing a name. You talk to damn much
Adrienne's face when she said that lol
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Haddish has flat out said she did not learn how to read until much later in life.
Haddish has flat out said she did not learn how to read until much later in life.
But she wasnt saying it to be mean. She clearly was making a statement to the people who had a problem with Tiffany saying the names wrong. She was just saying take her background into account because your background, the area you lived in or whatever does effect how you talk. And Tiffany was in a group home so maybe they did not give them much help with school work. She wasnt with a foster family She said it from her own mouth that she wasnt a strong student
HE DESERVES IT. Anybody who doesnt like it is hating
wtfffff maybe they don't study phonics looolllllll
Lonnie what do foster care has to do with it... Tiffany she apologize Lonnie you have been making no sense at all
R.I.P. Kobe Bryant
Another point I want to make is that.... sometimes we have to be even more cautious in urban communities as well because I remember looking at a movie about these black women talking about their past experiences while they were getting prepared for their grandmothers funeral... and one of the characters revealed that she was raped by a boy she liked but she wasn't ready to take that next step ( the situation happened over 20 years ago ) and she went home and told her mom and dad and they said they wouldn't even turn in the boy because he was also black... it was just sad to see we are so afraid of that outcomes that we don't focus on the overall picture... JUSTICE !!! Women it's ok to stand yo for yourselves and help other women realize " you've been through it , so have I , let's stand together hand in hand as we fight for justice for this to come to an end "
#RIPKobe
I know too many people that were raped as kids by their step dads, they told their mom’s and the moms didn’t care and stayed with the rapists. One of those poor kids told her mom and her mom slapped her in the face saying it wasn’t true. And one of the kids told the mom, she didn’t believe him and now he has to antidepressants, or he’s suicidal. Some of you parents deserve to get hung for ignoring your child’s cry for help. But God is merciful. So repent and ask your children for forgiveness if you didn’t believe them. IF YOUR CHILD CANT GO TO YOU FOR HELP, WHO ARE THEY GOING TO GO TO????? *Children are pure minded. They don’t go around making false sexual allegations about anyone. BELIEVE THEM! LOOK OUT FOR THEM AND GO ABOVE AND BEYOND FOR THEM.* I have an ex friend who’s girlfriend would beat up her daughter and other kids that she had, and starved her and her brothers -little kids were babies, two, three; and he never said anything. He went to jail twice for dating that type of women, where he neglected to tell the cops about the abuse that the kids were facing. Basically, he dated two abusive women, saw the abuse and never said anything. (None of the kids were his, but HE SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING OR DONE SOMETHING.) But the guy is a rat, and dated that type of women and even had a baby with one of them in the end. He was deported back to his country not that long ago, because he was here illegally and because he had two counts of I think it’s called “accessory to child abuse” and I am not sorry that he got deported. If I had seen him before he left; I would’ve given him an earful........ that’s why he’s not my friend anymore. The little girl was so skinny.... she even came to church one time with her arm broken, and when she was taken to the doctors, she told them what happened. She said that her mom had “grabbed her hard by the neck and had broken her arm and that her arm was hurting”. THE BABY WAS LIKE 4/5 at the time... AND THE GUY KNEW but didn’t say anything, and he got jailed. So did the mom. I know God is merciful to those that repent, but man. I could’ve broken his face and the mom’s face too
14:40 ok tam just brag if you want but dont try to make it seem like what youre saying is relevant lmaooo
what in the world does being in foster care have to do with pronouncing names?? thats a stretch. she could have asked for the names before she went up
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Such a ignorant comment by lani on the care leavers being less educated.
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Jeannie isn’t my fav
It's not Gabrielle either, It's Gabourey "GaBuRé" !!