How to Win Back His Trust

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  • Опубликовано: 27 авг 2024
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    In this week's episode of LOVELife I take a thoughtful caller question on overcoming trust issues. How do you 'rebuild the house' after it's been torn down? Reach a level of forgiveness, or put someone at ease that something won't happen again? That's what we get into in this call...
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Комментарии • 315

  • @TheHouseOffice
    @TheHouseOffice 2 года назад +73

    "Sometimes we want peoples' forgiveness before we've earned it." PREACH IT MAN!!

  • @cristinavillagracia9196
    @cristinavillagracia9196 7 лет назад +152

    "Proactive honesty" i love it. I think ppl should always do that regardless. If someone trusts you blindly, never prove them blind.

    • @EyesOfAbraxis
      @EyesOfAbraxis 6 лет назад +2

      Cristina Villagracia that is an absolutely brilliant quote that I actually took the time to write down.

    • @karamira7809
      @karamira7809 3 года назад

      After several fight and arguments between me and my husband, all thanks to this great hacker who finally hack my husband cell phone and link his social media account with mine, so i can now see all my husband chat and messages right away from my phone, without his knowledge you can contact him crystalhacker1@gmail .com or on WhatsApp +44 7520 648089

  • @reginabanda987
    @reginabanda987 6 лет назад +298

    I feel like my heart is having a headache. I’m so broken right now 😓😞

    • @PatriciaGodislove
      @PatriciaGodislove 5 лет назад +4

      I'm sorry, do you need someone to talk

    • @uyennguyen5741
      @uyennguyen5741 5 лет назад +2

      Im sorry, I’m here for you 🤗

    • @rubberducky1507
      @rubberducky1507 4 года назад +1

      I hope you are now doing better 🙂

    • @monicafrost2179
      @monicafrost2179 3 года назад

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    • @cosplara
      @cosplara 3 года назад

      Me too girl:(

  • @Sszz501
    @Sszz501 4 года назад +44

    1.Find the root cause , 2.Resolving the issue within ourself, (truly understanding the “WHY”), 3.Proactive honestly , 4.Make a PACT with the person (give me your trust again)

  • @narutoseiga
    @narutoseiga 9 лет назад +150

    Thank you so much Matt! i just have my boyfriend back because of this vdo. I followed every step every word you said. Telling him what causes your bad behaviour is the key. My bf didn't agree to open up to me again at first but the next day when he calmed down a little more he gave me the chance i asked for. I couldnt say enough how much i appreciated your help and your vdos

    • @TheNothing40
      @TheNothing40 6 лет назад +4

      narutoseiga So how are things working now?

    • @praisethesun9014
      @praisethesun9014 4 года назад +2

      I’d like to know as well

    • @karamira7809
      @karamira7809 3 года назад

      After several fight and arguments between me and my husband, all thanks to this great hacker who finally hack my husband cell phone and link his social media account with mine, so i can now see all my husband chat and messages right away from my phone, without his knowledge you can contact him crystalhacker1@gmail .com or on WhatsApp +44 7520 648089

    • @hearditb4
      @hearditb4 Год назад

      8 Years on… Did things work out for you guys?

    • @narutoseiga
      @narutoseiga Год назад +8

      @@hearditb4 I’m surprised to get a notification for this post. Happy to answer that yes, we’re still together, happier than before 😁

  • @giorgosstenos9483
    @giorgosstenos9483 4 года назад +89

    you helped me so much. i thought i would never win his trust back. im so glad i found your video and the way you explain things is sooo good

    • @naihmakhan3102
      @naihmakhan3102 4 года назад +1

      So did u win back his trust

    • @Andrewbait
      @Andrewbait 4 года назад

      Did you cheat?

    • @mendesarmy5930
      @mendesarmy5930 4 года назад +2

      I wish he would never forgive you
      A cheater is always a cheater

    • @Josh-kt6jh
      @Josh-kt6jh 3 года назад

      Iambeastboy agreed how ever have to say we have no idea if that what she did. There more ways than one to break someone’s trust

    • @karamira7809
      @karamira7809 3 года назад

      After several fight and arguments between me and my husband, all thanks to this great hacker who finally hack my husband cell phone and link his social media account with mine, so i can now see all my husband chat and messages right away from my phone, without his knowledge you can contact him crystalhacker1@gmail .com or on WhatsApp +44 7520 648089

  • @alliyahwebb7030
    @alliyahwebb7030 6 лет назад +88

    I tried to save myself from a situation so I lied to him I will forever regret and hate myself for it whether we are still together or not

    • @janeryan2709
      @janeryan2709 4 года назад +4

      Tell him the truth!

    • @aji.v9418
      @aji.v9418 4 года назад

      i feel you

    • @cosplara
      @cosplara 3 года назад

      Me too:*

    • @cosplara
      @cosplara 3 года назад

      Same:(

    • @karamira7809
      @karamira7809 3 года назад

      After several fight and arguments between me and my husband, all thanks to this great hacker who finally hack my husband cell phone and link his social media account with mine, so i can now see all my husband chat and messages right away from my phone, without his knowledge you can contact him crystalhacker1@gmail .com or on WhatsApp +44 7520 648089

  • @alexandralumme1138
    @alexandralumme1138 3 года назад +22

    After trust has been broken - never hide something and excuse it for yourself as “I don’t want to risk him worrying in vain”. If you feel the need to hide it, he should know and be prepared. Because if he finds out in some other way, you will just be way less credible and you only prove that you’re still not to be relied on.

    • @Tati843
      @Tati843 Год назад

      This was well said and this just happened to me

  • @Lateralus46x2
    @Lateralus46x2 7 лет назад +15

    Bang on... second to lose, takes work to rebuild.

  • @Angela-222-44
    @Angela-222-44 9 месяцев назад +3

    Matthew, you literally saved my relationship in one day. This was the best and most important video I’ve ever seen. Thank you for helping me and healing us.

  • @Potaytoren
    @Potaytoren 8 месяцев назад +6

    I’m currently trying to fix trust between me and my boyfriend as I did something that hurt him. I took accountability and made it clear it would never happen again. I explained why it happened to him and once again explained why I would never hurt him like that again. I told him I would do whatever it takes and however long it takes to gain his trust back. I’ve promised to make it work but he just doesn’t seem too interested in a relationship with me anymore. It breaks my heart because it wasn’t something I was able to control at the time.

    • @_R0LLN0.21
      @_R0LLN0.21 6 месяцев назад

      Now how you feel ? Even he not doing bad to you ?

    • @Potaytoren
      @Potaytoren 6 месяцев назад

      @@_R0LLN0.21he gave up on me completely and threatened me.

    • @_R0LLN0.21
      @_R0LLN0.21 6 месяцев назад

      @@Potaytoren okay...i said because my trust worthy betray me today... And it's feel like my heart is itching and breaking

    • @Potaytoren
      @Potaytoren 6 месяцев назад

      @@_R0LLN0.21yeah, I understand how you feel. I’m sorry to hear that.

  • @lineakristensen1821
    @lineakristensen1821 5 лет назад +91

    The love of my life is heartbroken and its my fault. He loves me but is so scared to let me in. I miss him so so much. I've written him a long mail and he said he looked forward to reading it so thats always something. But I'm so sad :(

    • @RUBBERTRADERS
      @RUBBERTRADERS 4 года назад +1

      How does it go now?I hope you are feeling better.

    • @Andrewbait
      @Andrewbait 4 года назад

      What did you do

    • @lineakristensen1821
      @lineakristensen1821 4 года назад +3

      @@Andrewbait i was with someone else. But this was before we even met orcalled ourselves bf/gf. And he was being distant.
      Guess he's been betrayed before who knows.
      We tried to move passed itbut then a lot of stuff happened in his family and we kinda fizzled.

    • @karamira7809
      @karamira7809 3 года назад

      After several fight and arguments between me and my husband, all thanks to this great hacker who finally hack my husband cell phone and link his social media account with mine, so i can now see all my husband chat and messages right away from my phone, without his knowledge you can contact him crystalhacker1@gmail .com or on WhatsApp +44 7520 648089

  • @mljrotag6343
    @mljrotag6343 4 года назад +28

    I think it entirely depends on how that trust was broken and to what degree. Some things are very serious and others less so. How you lost the trust matters.

    • @hannvazquez9992
      @hannvazquez9992 3 года назад +2

      My boyfriend broke me up because l lied about color of my eyes. I met him online and told him the truth after we met. He went livid and broke me up. I feel like garbage.

    • @abhayjamwal2373
      @abhayjamwal2373 Год назад

      ​@@hannvazquez9992 😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @hearditb4
      @hearditb4 Год назад

      @@abhayjamwal2373 Why are you laughing like it’s funny? My girlfriend just broke up with me after finding out i had 32 teeth instead of 34. I’ve devastated. I wish i had 34 teeth and me and her would still be together 😔

  • @Quallenforscherin
    @Quallenforscherin 10 лет назад +9

    Especially liked the point of explaining why there won't be a second disappoinment. Thanks!

  • @mrscillalatte
    @mrscillalatte 10 лет назад +52

    I really wish you would do a VIDEO on HOW to walk away from someone that you LOVE forever!

  • @patchouliessence3218
    @patchouliessence3218 8 лет назад +35

    I have learned from past mistakes in my life...thank you Matt ...I made a pact never to break trust again because of insecurity. I hoped at the same time that we both could trust each other because it goes both ways...the trust issue.

  • @bberes3972
    @bberes3972 4 года назад +17

    I really hurt him, not by cheating rather than stab him in the back! I love him more than everything and I would never give up on him. It months now he moved on, but every minute he is in my mind. I do not think I ever will be over him ! --- 1 ) I do not even know whether I fight for him ! as I proved I do not deserve him. 2) How much time I should give him? 3) He does have someone new but I do not think it is serious. - I just do not know what to do. He does not give me a clear answer ! - YEs he has narc personality but tthats why i love him .

    • @patman_for_sure
      @patman_for_sure 4 года назад +4

      GET AWAY FROM HIM!!
      For the sake of your mental peace, don't get close to a narcissist.
      Trust me, if you love him for his narcissism, then it's really gotten bad on the inside.
      It's a blessing in disguise. Give it time and distance and your life will heal.
      Please, believe me. Narcissists are VERY dangerous!!

  • @KimWilsonTV
    @KimWilsonTV 7 лет назад +48

    This information does not apply to relationships with narcissists. If your partner is a narc....run, and keep running!

    • @mamtanagvekar8250
      @mamtanagvekar8250 6 лет назад

      Kim Wilson TV 😂😂😂😂😂 running!!

    • @karamira7809
      @karamira7809 3 года назад

      After several fight and arguments between me and my husband, all thanks to this great hacker who finally hack my husband cell phone and link his social media account with mine, so i can now see all my husband chat and messages right away from my phone, without his knowledge you can contact him crystalhacker1@gmail .com or on WhatsApp +44 7520 648089

  • @lunani.x
    @lunani.x 5 лет назад +3

    THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!This guy said he liked me but then he gave up on me but I want him to forgive him and bring his attention back!Thank you so much

  • @misss.7863
    @misss.7863 9 лет назад +31

    How do you give back trust though without thinking that he/she might hurt you the same way again? If he/she has already cheated once, then there's a chance that he/she would do it again whether or not a pact has been made.

    • @greencoolmoss
      @greencoolmoss 2 года назад +1

      Refer to first point

    • @doomguy9049
      @doomguy9049 2 года назад +2

      Realistically you don't have a good reason to trust someone who has cheated on you already, if you do decide to it's a decision made on blind faith, not sound logic.

    • @misss.7863
      @misss.7863 2 года назад +1

      @@doomguy9049 I agree.

    • @user-dm1xh6bz3i
      @user-dm1xh6bz3i Месяц назад

      Leave them and move on

  • @FreeaQySariSin
    @FreeaQySariSin 9 лет назад +30

    When he said "I need that trust again", omg you just killed me .. I would have never expected that. I wish I knew this earlier!

  • @ABRASILERA17
    @ABRASILERA17 2 года назад +7

    I'm afraid its too late, that Im not worthy of his love simply because I dont believe I can heal myself enough to grow out of the very person that we've both come to resent, I am afraid that it is too late and that regardless if I heal, change, grow and earn him back, the trauma I caused will still haunt his heart and his psyche

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  • @jcardosa02
    @jcardosa02 5 лет назад +13

    I broke his trust by snooping in his phone I am trying so hard to prove myself. To prove that it came from being cheated on in the past and he hasn’t even ever cheated. He just does things sometimes that look like my ex

    • @SheWasHere
      @SheWasHere 5 лет назад +4

      In this exact situation. I'm not sure he'll ever forgive me

    • @lioneshawallace1790
      @lioneshawallace1790 5 лет назад +2

      smoothie càrdôza me too girl

    • @paigeparrott3488
      @paigeparrott3488 4 года назад +1

      Same :(

    • @pamdahle
      @pamdahle 3 года назад +2

      If he is that upset about you looking at his phone, are you sure he doesn’t have something to hide? Would you be upset if he looked at your phone? I’m not upset by it, but my bf is. He is also hiding things from me.

    • @tavyntuxhorn3845
      @tavyntuxhorn3845 3 года назад

      Look up “insecurities in relationships”

  • @tkangel6362
    @tkangel6362 5 лет назад +6

    Thank you so much,I hope this will help cause I just lost his trust

  • @rozanna29
    @rozanna29 2 года назад +8

    It hurts so bad that he doesnt believe me.. He is the only man in my life and I am in love with him

    • @abdulazizabubakar6199
      @abdulazizabubakar6199 2 года назад

      What @ sap him I pray for the universe grant your heart desired I know of a great man called Dr Wilson who helped in resolving life issues and challenges.....

    • @vanessa9798
      @vanessa9798 Год назад +1

      Hey just wanted to know if you’re doing better now? I am going through the same thing and it sucks because I truly love him now

  • @milenastoyanovabg
    @milenastoyanovabg 10 лет назад +7

    Hello Matthew, this video was AWESOME, very insightful. You are my favorite coach in love relationships!! Thank you!

  • @Jch79
    @Jch79 5 лет назад +6

    She doesn't want to say that she cheated and wants a way to manipulate him. Once you cheat on a guy you will never earn back his trust, no matter what this guy, or your husband/boyfriend has said.

    • @doomguy9049
      @doomguy9049 2 года назад

      Yeah women don't really *get* how much worse it is for men to have their woman step out on them, and frankly they don't care.

  • @joyful1553
    @joyful1553 10 лет назад +2

    you speak from the heart Matthew. Bless you!

  • @sthl3285
    @sthl3285 Год назад +1

    THANK YOU i followed what u said exactly and we got back together 😭😭

    • @sxtegt2303
      @sxtegt2303 Год назад

      You’ll cheat again once it feels comfy

  • @jenniferd4438
    @jenniferd4438 2 года назад +6

    I lost his trust because I told a friend of his that he seems insecure when I socialize, Not in secret, with his other friends. Now this friend of his told his other friends about this, and the story had gotten all twisted around. I did not mean for this to happen For for anything to get out like that 😞
    All I said to his friend was “ I better go outside and look for him because it won’t look good to him that we’re talking”. I’m not flirting with this man, we were just talking about family and I brought up about how my boyfriend may seem insecure us talking.
    That’s all I said, and this guy told other friends, and now my boyfriend of 5 years wants to break up with me. What do I do? It seems like an innocent mistake 😢

    • @KK-vs3vz
      @KK-vs3vz 2 года назад

      Hi Jennifer, hope everything got better between you both. Could we get an update?

  • @annedf6872
    @annedf6872 4 года назад +4

    I should really watch this videos before and nooot after I already messed up and did say the “wrong” things after wards.

  • @cprime4097
    @cprime4097 6 лет назад +3

    This information is invaluable. Very helpful on so many levels!

  • @abeerchograni6255
    @abeerchograni6255 7 лет назад +5

    Thank you for you question cause you helped me very much

  • @evangelinecruceanu8753
    @evangelinecruceanu8753 10 лет назад +6

    You are extremely intelligent !

  • @emilyevans4465
    @emilyevans4465 5 лет назад

    I like this guy, he’s a good spokesman

  • @XxxcrossroadzXxx
    @XxxcrossroadzXxx 10 лет назад +46

    I do not agree with the whole pact thing, how can someone trust you after you have broken his or her trust, based on your words. I think that trust will come after the actions have been made not the words being said!

    • @coquitah
      @coquitah 8 лет назад +7

      +Em M I think the pact is a start, showing the commitment by stating the consciousness of the importance of the situation is a good thing, but it means nothing if there are no actions involved.

    • @akid2609
      @akid2609 6 лет назад +2

      "Rebuild the house"

    • @tisetsoportia2187
      @tisetsoportia2187 5 лет назад +1

      Agree actions should be the one that speaks not by just saying

    • @EmoCupcakee29
      @EmoCupcakee29 5 лет назад +1

      Em M I think he means they have to say they will try and give trust again eventually

    • @1hcc994
      @1hcc994 4 года назад +1

      The pact is supposed to lead to trust because you're actions will continually honour your pact.

  • @faithkhama9034
    @faithkhama9034 3 года назад +2

    I'm really glad I found Ur channel.... You really teach me so much. Such useful n practical information

  • @kellylorene1320
    @kellylorene1320 10 лет назад +42

    Matt, what if u broke ur partner's trust (not by cheating on him)but by making him insecure by smthg u said yet didn't mean then he completely shutdown. He still wanna have u but the pain seems to stay there no matter how hard he tries to forget it? What can that person do to fix thgs and gain his partner's broken trust again? 
    P.S: any advice from anyone who reads this comment would help a lot!

    • @karinnamerino7232
      @karinnamerino7232 8 лет назад +5

      +Kelly Lorene I was wondering the exact same thing.

    • @cristinaswan986
      @cristinaswan986 7 лет назад +24

      +Kelly Lorene, +Karrina Merino First of all, you need to give him space, so he can understand if he can get over something like this or not. Then if he wants to forget it as you said, but doesn't seem to be able to do that, that's where you help him, by making him feel more secure in the relationship and helping him understand why he ever wanted to be with you in the first place. So, if even after you say you're sorry and explain why you did it and that you're not going to do it again and you show him through actions that you mean it - and he still can't seem to forget, which is basically his unwillingness to forgive you, then I would argue you do not need such a man in your life. We all make mistakes, now you might have said it without even realizing it was hurting him and that doesn't absolve you of your fault, but when you go with that to a person who truly loves you and you are honest about it and explain all of that- your person, would eventually sooner rather than later forgive and forget about it. Because being so controlled by your own emotions isn't healthy at all, and if he can't get over himself for just one second to put himself in your shoes, then you deserve someone better. You shouldn't be looking over your shoulder and walking on eggshels all your life just because they can't handle their own feelings in a kind understanding and adult way. How more accomodating do you want to be to a manchild? Or do you actually want to love and be loved by a man who wouldn't get completely shutdown by some words you didn't even mean?

    • @stolenart4070
      @stolenart4070 7 лет назад +1

      Kelly Lorene girl you better say this ! Thank you I will read and read this

    • @caucasianafrican1435
      @caucasianafrican1435 6 лет назад +7

      So, she hurt him, but if he doesn't forgive her on your terms, as quickly as you want him to, he's a manchild. You sound like someone shitty to have a relationship with.

    • @SavageLife84
      @SavageLife84 5 лет назад +5

      it's extremely hard almost impossible to get a man into a space with u that he was once,.. 1) men we naturally don't want love, we want excitement and variety, if u get one to settle with u only, u truly have his heart over all people, and to shatter that, u have shattered his inner being, 2, we have pride which is the biggest thing,.. thirdly, a woman, no matter how much he loves u, u lose full value to him. U were precious, his jewel his everything, the one thing in the world he doesn't have to share, to share yourself with another person makes u worthless to him.. that's y we can't stay or if we can, it'll always be there in our minds.. to keep it 100, especially when u married, he has to have a full mental view change in order to get over and move on. Nearly impossible. I mean he literally himself gotta want to be with u no matter what and that's rare..most times pride is stronger. Our pride is equal to a woman's emotions, it's who we are, so it hard to beat his nature, let alone u. That's like getting a woman to not be emotional ever, Good luck..

  • @mirandacoughlan2014
    @mirandacoughlan2014 3 года назад +2

    so i made the mistake of telling someone's secret. I regret it deeply everyday. This person no longer is talking to me and said he never wants to be friends again. I've tried everything to change his mind but so far nothing's worked. This person means the world to me and it hurts me knowing how much I've hurt him. I really hope this works :(

  • @RoxaneHedge
    @RoxaneHedge 9 лет назад +4

    Well I thought listening to this would make me feel better but taking into consideration the fact that the person I want may somehow deep down want to gain back the trust of his ex. I dont feel too confident about relationships now I dont think I am able.

    • @patman_for_sure
      @patman_for_sure 4 года назад

      How are you doing now?
      Did things get better?

  • @faryalmahreen6327
    @faryalmahreen6327 8 лет назад +3

    i am in the same situation. it helped a lot. love it.❤

  • @valiantzildjian1021
    @valiantzildjian1021 Год назад +1

    I cheated on my bf, because there was a void inside of me, I felt so invalidated. Then I realized that I had been too needy and was not contented. Now I am so guilty, it agonizes me every second, I feel shame. Now what I am doing to prove to him I wont do it again is by loving him without asking anything in return, as it was the root of the betrayal at the 1st place. I dont ask for his trust, I dont ask for anything. I am proving myself that I wont go anywhere even if I am not receiving anything back from him. I hope he would give me another chance.

    • @Mrs.Mensah0110
      @Mrs.Mensah0110 Год назад

      How is it going now?

    • @Ombr.re__
      @Ombr.re__ 9 месяцев назад

      Co ask

    • @valiantzildjian1021
      @valiantzildjian1021 8 месяцев назад

      @@Mrs.Mensah0110 he never spoke fo me again and ghosted me. I am not mad at him tho, I am mad at myself. Women doesn't get as much chances as we can give. We are forbidden to make mistakes because that's going to be the end of it.

  • @ashitabanerjee2710
    @ashitabanerjee2710 5 лет назад +1

    Your suggestion was helpful. Thank you

  • @ChuChild
    @ChuChild 5 лет назад +5

    Sad thing is I haven't done anything to break his trust. He just has trust issues.

  • @backho5882
    @backho5882 2 года назад +1

    I lied about smoking because I know how he feels about it yet he met me smoking...I feel bad but he can be so judgemental it's hard to live to his standards

  • @castawayxx
    @castawayxx 6 лет назад +10

    I have watched so many of your videos lately because I've been having troubles in my relationship for a while. I did one stupid thing today which could possibly cause him to stop trusting me, and I wanna make it right because it really is a stupid thing and I reacted impulsively, following my own stupid logic, but I love him too much and he means too much to me and I'm ready to do whatever it takes to fix things. Hopefully I will, I will definitely listen to your advice, it means a lot, truly.

    • @jcardosa02
      @jcardosa02 5 лет назад +3

      Mari T I agree. The pact thing is not something I agree with I feel as tho he needs to see some change and then maybe u can have the pact later but I don’t think it’s necessary bc if you change he will learn to trust u if he’s easy :)

    • @breguet101
      @breguet101 4 года назад +1

      I hope you told him ? He deserves honesty, we all do.

  • @nyasiataylor2614
    @nyasiataylor2614 8 месяцев назад

    Love this video !! I’m trying to trust him again

  • @Lovy18
    @Lovy18 Месяц назад

    Im not a simp nor do i cheat but i lied to my man 💔😔 and now im regretting he said he'll forgive me but i know deep inside he's hurt and things will never be the same again

  • @katie014100
    @katie014100 10 лет назад

    One of your best Matt.

  • @aizagracevillarta1853
    @aizagracevillarta1853 8 лет назад +2

    i hope it will work on me...thanks for this video

  • @Sss-kd9nt
    @Sss-kd9nt 10 лет назад +1

    This is really helpful. Thanks Matt!

  • @rosiemo4438
    @rosiemo4438 3 года назад +2

    What happens when you’ve done all of this and there’s still resentment even though you never cheated and were never unfaithful

  • @ashsingh1311
    @ashsingh1311 6 лет назад +1

    its true its really works but take lot of time

  • @sabrinamorris53
    @sabrinamorris53 3 года назад +7

    What if they're constantly punishing you while you're trying to gain that trust back? How long does that last? Or does that mean it can't be gotten back? 😔

  • @monilohani768
    @monilohani768 3 года назад +3

    I also love with someone but problem is that I did a mistake..I m 5 year elder than him...and I hiding my age from them...but the problem is ..now I confess my age and he got sock...he don't talk to me ...I break his trust I have regret...I love him a lot..I don't know what to do..at beginning he knows that I m Just 2 &1/2 year elder then him ...due to some reason...and with my insecurities..I did that mistake..what should I do 🙏🏻...I want him back I love him a lot

  • @TheMasterShogun
    @TheMasterShogun 4 месяца назад

    My ex left me for another man because she felt panic and thought it wouldn’t work out. She found out after that everything that she wanted was right around the corner, but she pulled the plug too soon. I forgave her for leaving me in fear, but I will never forgive her for having someone else ready as my replacement. She regrets what she did, but she clings to this other man out of fear of loneliness. She wants me back, but she shows no effort of doing what is right by me. I’m only getting over her because I know how selfish she is, but she won’t stop stalking me.

  • @elizabethtaworid538
    @elizabethtaworid538 5 лет назад +12

    I really need help I broke the trust of my partner and I love him and I need him back have been begging but he is saying that we can’t be together anymore

    • @mendesarmy5930
      @mendesarmy5930 4 года назад +4

      I wish he won't take you back

    • @elizabethtaworid538
      @elizabethtaworid538 4 года назад

      @iambestboy why

    • @ibrahimshareef8677
      @ibrahimshareef8677 4 года назад

      what led to breaking his trust?

    • @elizabethtaworid538
      @elizabethtaworid538 3 года назад +1

      Ibrahim Shareef he tracked my phone and saw some stuffs he was not suppose to see

    • @ibrahimshareef8677
      @ibrahimshareef8677 3 года назад +2

      @@elizabethtaworid538 if you were in a relationship then there's no such thing as "that he's not supposed to see" right?!
      Anyways...that's the past and you obviously sound like you regret it and want to change so kudos to that 👍!
      If you don't mind me asking, Are you guys together now

  • @sandradeguzman106
    @sandradeguzman106 7 лет назад +1

    thank you for your great advise matt

  • @llzahra2
    @llzahra2 2 года назад +2

    I really need someone to talk im so bad 💔😭😭😭

  • @mandamoase8804
    @mandamoase8804 6 лет назад +9

    My ex says he wants to go back out with me but he keeps bringing up the trust thing

    • @Annie-zo6lp
      @Annie-zo6lp 4 года назад +1

      Same

    • @TiffanysBunnyGang
      @TiffanysBunnyGang 3 года назад

      Same and the sad thing is his lack of trust is because his ex lied and told him I was cheating but I wasn’t. The mistake I made was not telling him about a text message from a male neighbor that had nothing to do with me cheating. The neighbor actually told me he was cheating on me with the girl that told him I was cheating on him. Confusing I know. I knew it was a lie so I didn’t want to fight about it & now he says that he can’t trust me and thinks that I deleted any messages I didn’t want him to see but there was truely nothing going on. It’s so frustrating! We only had communication because our kids played together. But he believes because I kept this text from him that I am lying about cheating too. I was able to prove that a lot of what they said was lies and they haven’t proved 1 thing they said about me even though they claim to have text, pictures & videos. 🤦🏼‍♀️ I just don’t see how he doesn’t realize that they are full of crap!!!!

  • @mayaportland8805
    @mayaportland8805 9 лет назад

    Cheating is the most hurtful experience one can do to it's spouse.
    If it's for a short time, if they break up right away and for good and real regret is showed to you, then it's worth forgiving...maybe.
    If the cheating took a long time and strong feelings were between cheaters... you are better leaving that person because the hurt won't stop when they stop seeing their mistress, ( actually they will keep lying to you, and will continue seeing that person behind your back now) you'll be hunted for a very long time by sordid details, wake up in the night screaming for revenge, crying without control in any public space, your self image shattered by your spouse putting another person sexually above you for long time...
    It's just not worth.

  • @dylanbuchman8128
    @dylanbuchman8128 10 лет назад

    Omg so good! So helpful! Matt, I adore you

  • @klacey7494
    @klacey7494 7 лет назад +8

    My Boyfriend is mad at me for something i didnt do. What do i do?

  • @hannvazquez9992
    @hannvazquez9992 3 года назад

    I was in a long distance relationship and l was not serious. I lied to him about the color of my eyes and then we became closer and l felt so afraid and ashamed to tell the truth. I told him when we met in person and he dumped me. He was livid. It has been two months and he told me he cannot trust me anymore. That l could have told him earlier and let him decide if he wanted to meet me or not. I still feel like an horrible person.

  • @monicalevyt
    @monicalevyt 7 лет назад

    Yes, this just helped me a lot.

  • @mariammostafa7261
    @mariammostafa7261 4 года назад

    I did hurt my closest friend, we are not talking anymore. I hope I could get his trust back.

  • @debeshsutradhar9018
    @debeshsutradhar9018 4 года назад

    I don't know if Mr Hussey would ever read this. However, I had to mention something when you spoke about the "PACT". I think what you said is absolute wrong. Extremely immoral thing to ask a betrayed spouse. If one cannot cherish and respect the trust of the spouse and betrays, does not have any right to ask for it while "reset". Mr. Hussey, there are 3 things in life must be earned or else it will always be taken for granted: MONEY, RESPECT and TRUST. You DO NOT ask him/her blindly to trust you again, you earn it, nature it and treasure it.

  • @adelelmechrafi1583
    @adelelmechrafi1583 4 года назад

    Nice advice. I will go on it.

  • @brooklynsampson198
    @brooklynsampson198 6 лет назад +1

    I'm gonna try this advice.. and think about stuff, honestly l really want to work things out with this guy.. l messed up this one night..

  • @myriamchai
    @myriamchai 10 лет назад +7

    Matthew,
    I must to stay, I think that you live difficult love stories and in the same time so much more beautiful ones!
    and in plus, you are awesome ;)
    Love that you're gourou, because you work for love
    Kiss

  • @nanasvlogsfatimayunusahass2001
    @nanasvlogsfatimayunusahass2001 4 года назад

    This is so interesting, I will try this

  • @reba_raz7592
    @reba_raz7592 3 года назад

    What a great advice!

  • @davidlucas8383
    @davidlucas8383 7 лет назад +1

    wow.. u make me me strong in this fact.. thank you so much..

  • @jenniferlambrix7911
    @jenniferlambrix7911 4 года назад +2

    My husband does not trust me I had an attitude toward him and my stepson I was being selfish and childish and I need to know what to do to earn his trust again

    • @breguet101
      @breguet101 4 года назад

      Why doesn't he trust you, just your attitude ?

  • @ariakingston5759
    @ariakingston5759 2 года назад

    Thank you for posting this

  • @daniellegonzales143
    @daniellegonzales143 8 лет назад +1

    This is phenomenal advice. Thanks Matthew!!

  • @TiffanysBunnyGang
    @TiffanysBunnyGang 3 года назад

    I’ve done this but he won’t accept that I’m telling the truth. I didn’t tell him something because I didn’t want to fight about it. He can be difficult to talk to sometimes. His ex told him I was cheating. The thing I didn’t tell him had nothing to do with me cheating on him but now he keeps insisting that I’m not telling him the truth about cheating even though I am. Just because I didn’t tell him about this other thing. I explained why I didn’t tell him and assured him it would never happen again. I was trying to avoid an argument over something I deemed to not be important anyways. I was honest, admitted my mistake and explained why. Is there anything else I can do. Is this a lost cause? He had trust issues to begin with & after the ex told him I was cheating he started seeing signs everywhere. Like looks I was giving a neighbor to show interest when I was looking at everyone exactly the same way. It became an obsession but it never really happened.

  • @peaceforu3161
    @peaceforu3161 8 месяцев назад +1

    We fight because of me and then he don't talk to me for a day and then I called him at the evening and then he switch off his mobile phone and feel so much anxious like I want to talk to him just for one time but he don't want to and then I opened Instagram and scrolling the reels and I got one reel that he'll leave you one day something something and then I go to my block list and then unblocked my ex for jo reason and I just scrolling the chats and then I find one chat where I said plz don't leave me don't talk to any another girl I love you so much and then I'm starting crying I feel like my current also leave me like he did and i screenshoted that chat and then my boyfriend saw that chat everything is ruined by mee I just hate my self I love him alot like and I can't live without him he is my everything things are not same as it was we were very happy in our love life but ruined everything
    Every fucking thing how can I gain trust now he don't trust me anymore

    • @_R0LLN0.21
      @_R0LLN0.21 6 месяцев назад

      You can't...it's only possible if he is stupid

  • @finahusna6243
    @finahusna6243 3 года назад +1

    When the right time to tell it to him?

  • @mariamdagher4139
    @mariamdagher4139 9 лет назад +1

    Thank you so much,,, you helped me a lot, it was amazing & you are amazing!

  • @20twelvevolution
    @20twelvevolution 10 лет назад +9

    But why would someone trust someone again when they have proven that they are not trust worthy in the first place? I think it's absurd to ask someone to do this when you messed up, but then again I would never take a cheater back.

  • @tresnawatiiis8736
    @tresnawatiiis8736 5 лет назад

    I love you Matthew 😍 thank you so much

  • @mrseloisadeleon6210
    @mrseloisadeleon6210 5 лет назад +2

    What didn’t help is my ex husband sent my fiancée a very explicit Vedic of a moment we shared when we were married and my fiancée was very hurt. I don’t understand when that had nothing to do with him.

    • @heyguys3238
      @heyguys3238 4 года назад +1

      Mrs Eloisa Deleon
      If someone can't accept your past they have no business in your future💕

  • @lilitakla977
    @lilitakla977 8 лет назад +2

    love this

  • @amosmomekam5706
    @amosmomekam5706 5 лет назад

    Thank you so much Sir

  • @ee528
    @ee528 8 лет назад

    This video is very good.

  • @shealynn6506
    @shealynn6506 6 лет назад

    Thank you this is very helpful

  • @elubymkusankhoma330
    @elubymkusankhoma330 3 года назад

    Thank you for this

  • @2Bonita08
    @2Bonita08 6 лет назад +1

    If he can't tell you that his trust was damaged in the first place, is there any way for it to recover?

  • @apsarapahari4384
    @apsarapahari4384 11 месяцев назад

    Thank you ♥️

  • @adelaideabroquah807
    @adelaideabroquah807 4 года назад

    thanks very much

  • @annacallisto7491
    @annacallisto7491 5 лет назад

    Thank you so much

  • @monicajoao5031
    @monicajoao5031 5 лет назад

    Thanks, this was very helpful

  • @electricbill872
    @electricbill872 4 года назад +5

    I broke him. And then i broke me.

    • @thepr1ntgnome430
      @thepr1ntgnome430 4 года назад +1

      You also broke grammar

    • @electricbill872
      @electricbill872 4 года назад +1

      @@thepr1ntgnome430 dude english isn't my first language. I bet you can't say a word in greek..

    • @thepr1ntgnome430
      @thepr1ntgnome430 4 года назад

      @@electricbill872 Well I am fluent in 4 languages and familiar with 3 more. There is no excuse for bad grammar in English, try to learn Dutch or French and you will feel hardship for nothing.
      btw English was my 4th language

    • @electricbill872
      @electricbill872 4 года назад +1

      @@thepr1ntgnome430 look, l am not going to argue with you and btw "english was my 4th language" is not even correct, so you shouldn't try to satirise my way of writing. I advise you to practice more so you don't embarrass yourself😁.

    • @thepr1ntgnome430
      @thepr1ntgnome430 4 года назад

      @@electricbill872 lool see you can learn it pretty fast. Why would you embarass yourself then?

  • @lauraheidorn4767
    @lauraheidorn4767 8 лет назад +1

    I am pretty good in my relationship but there is one thing that I do wrong. I compare this relationship to my previous one (not a lot but sometimes). For example, today I was upset because I said that I had to do all the cleaning and working a job and couldn't get guy x to do much at all in terms of housework to help me out. He said well I'm not that guy and you need to stop thinking about that. Everything we do as a couple is a team effort. I said I know but I need to get out of this mindset I have. It's bad. But he was wrong today too. I know he didn't mean it but he never should've said it. He said if we don't do things as a team I can just go back to my dad's and that's that. Again I know he didn't mean it but it did hurt a little. So we both said things that we shouldn't have.

  • @farheenali8006
    @farheenali8006 Год назад +2

    I had sexual relationships before meeting my current boyfriend and I lied about it. Before going on a trip with him, i still was indulged in such activities. That was cheating on my part, because I had committed to him by that time. I feel ashamed of myself. I used to be a slut who didn't care about people's feelings. His heart is broken to pieces because of me. I don't know what to do. I can't let him go. I feel guilty. I want to rebuild our relationship. I would never do it again. I don't know what to do

    • @zoeygonzaga3253
      @zoeygonzaga3253 10 месяцев назад

      Hi did you get back together?

    • @NastiaKossiak
      @NastiaKossiak 7 месяцев назад

      I also wanna know if you got back together, or what happenned?

    • @farheenali8006
      @farheenali8006 7 месяцев назад

      I got married to him. We are happy together.

    • @alisha9049
      @alisha9049 6 месяцев назад

      @@farheenali8006how did u regain his trust?

  • @Kayanamae
    @Kayanamae 3 года назад

    This is great!!!

  • @meganvlad1818
    @meganvlad1818 8 лет назад

    U r brilliant.

  • @changethestory2826
    @changethestory2826 2 года назад +1

    What if you did all this and then still did the same thing that caused the distrust more than 2 times. And the person is still giving you another chance but they've clocked out but they're still there.

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  • @brooklyndemercede5343
    @brooklyndemercede5343 4 года назад +1

    1:20 5:15