Hello Elise. Just want to say I love watching your videos and to ask if you have thought about moving your large mirror on the wall where your green hutch was. It would reflect the window across the room and would help to add light.
Elise your videos are always good. I’m sorry you’re feeling poorly and pray you feel better soon. Don’t rush into doing anything and allow your body to heal. I love those green dishes you took out of your cabinet. As for your paint color on your table you will pick the right one. These colors pick up some of the colors in the pictures you have against the wall. A skylight will bring nice light into the room. Good on you sticking to your ideal. Relationships are a very personal thing and open ones are not for everybody. As you get older a person wants more in life, a partner that has the same needs as you will come into your life at the right time. Be true to yourself always. Be well and see your next post soon. ❤❤❤
It seems that *most* people have recovered from the trauma of losing the green cabinet and then you throw us into the agony of painting the table. We are on a rollercoaster Elise, stop torturing us 😂
So sorry to hear you aren't well Elise ❤ take the time out you need. Your first date was interesting if nothing else 😂 onwards and upwards. Your a lady who I feel will never settle for second best. Loving this new project you're working on, look forward to seeing it complete. Until then, take care. Blessings from Ireland ❤
Even sick, you are stunning! 😍 Hope your cold is short lived and you feel better sooner then later! I never heard that before about bringing out your male energy...I am now looking at my relationship with my husband a little differently. My husband rarely takes the lead but I love it when he does. I find it takes a lot of energy to bring out this male energy you speak of. (We're 57 by the way and been together for 38 yrs) I really admire you for how you view relationships and dating...as well as your creative style and just how AMAZING you are. I always enjoy your videos. Love you Elise...Happy 2024! 😘❤️🥰
Hi Elise! Interesting to hear about your date. My first date in 2023 was with a guy as well who is a poly, and he did not share this with me until the 5th date, so you are lucky your guy was open about it, not wasting your time. I also understand the struggle about wanting a guy who is in their masculine and wanting to lean back into your feminine while they take charge. I had strickt rules going into dating last year about this, I don't message them first, I don't propose dates first, and I don't reach for the bill first. It was very tough at first, but now I am in a relationship for over five months and I am happy I didn't settle before him, because he is wonderful. So heads up and keep going! :)
This wild berry paint! So cute! And that Tulipposter. All of them is so beautiful. But do you now what is the nicest? Your red Hair in the snowing Garden. Greetings from Germany 😘
If there's anything my friends and I have learned the hard way in dating, it is that men that don't make the effort initially(plan the date, insist on paying, open doors, etc) are ones that will stay that way and make you suffer in a relationship. They are "below bare minimum effort men" and seek women who will do most of the work and won't ever appreciate these women.
Why is the man obligated to pay? Why is the man obligated to plan the date? Why should he invest in the woman when she doesn't put any effort in beyond showing up? Why do women automatically expect to be treated like they're made of gold and don't do anything in return?
i had a friend years ago, a older lady neighbor who use to tell me when we discussed my dates ,she always said go 1st class.......... never settle for less..................Hugs.
I'm glad he was honest with you and told you on the first date. The reason he let you take control of the date is the same reason he wants open relationships. He does not want any responsibility. He wants to sit back and do as he pleases with no consequences. That's fine - it's his life. Glad you know yourself and know that that would not work for you. Big Hugs
I actually appreciate people like your date. They didn't waste your time by lying about what they wanted from a relationship just for their own gratification. If it isn't right it's super nice to know before investing a lot of time and energy into it and getting hurt. Kudos to him.
Hey Elise. Just a little FYI when painting...... always put a white primer or white base coat. The wood is as if you are painting over a tan or brown, which changes the true color of what you have chosen. That is why it dried darker. So proud of you and all you have accomplished through all the trials and hardships. Be Blessed!
Hi Elise, I was 16(ish) when i started the following you because of your dreadlocks. When I was that age I couldn’t understand how you struggled with life and feeling down somedays. Now I’m turning 21 and I understand you very well. You were my comfort person and now I feel more closer to you. Love you 💛
I would absolutely keep the wood on the dining table, I feel like once you have the skylights it will look so classic and give you a needed masculine touch in your house! Everything in balance ⚖️
I have a dark wood dining set right next to a picture window, so I can appreciate your comment. It wouldn't hurt to wait, but I know that Elise can come up with some really creative options, although I don't agree with every choice she has made. It's always enjoyable to see how it all ends up.
I know it's her house and she don't care about my oppinion. However she keeps changing her mind of what she wants. She buys furnitures and paints them then 6 monthes later she has a different idea and sells them. Now she bought a table she wants to paint and put in a skylight. I think with prober lighting the dinningroom would be fine without a skylight. It won't add any value to the house if she wants to sell it.
I’m so glad you opted to leave the relationship. Sounds like someone to stay away from. You are worth more than that. Hold your head up high. You’re a beautiful person and worth so much more than that. I’m so proud of you.
Meeting a person for real is probably better than texting and texting. It is easier to size up a situation and make a decision. Be well quickly, Elise!
People got caught up discussing whether people are being “judgmental” regarding open relationships! The fact of the mater is, Elise does not want one and doesn’t believe in them! End of the story! 😂
Hi Elise! I've been a long time subscriber now. I want to thank you for being you, because you've inspired me and made me hopeful of a future I can strive toward. I've been attempting to have my own living space for years, and seeing you have the freedom to create and bend your environment to suit who you are as a person is inspiring. Now I have that for myself as well. Hope you're having a good day!!
At 58 I have been on quite a lot of dates. Some good, some bad. I see each as a learning experience, which you seem to have done as well. It is a positive action on your part to have a drink and listen to someone, and learn about different ways of life, without judgement-knowing the spark was not there! Bravo!
The big picture of tulips in the gold frame has some great colours for your sitting room. Your sofa has some reddish undertones in it, that's why the redder sample works better than the purplish one. Try looking at the rusty red side of burgundy. A soft white like your fireplace used as a contrast design on top would soften the expanse. Perhaps different sized lacy stencils randomly placed. You could copy or reverse the colours on a sideboard. Artist with adhd here. Forgive the stream of ideas. You know what works for you.❤
I think you should perhaps wait until your sky lights are in before deciding on a colour. I actually like the wood as is and maybe a runner or table cloth in a similar colour could serve as a temporary solution to see if you can live with it xx
Hello Elise! I enjoy your videos, no matter what you want to share with us! I have to say that I agree 100% with you about what are you looking in a relationship! If that was your first impression with your date, imagine what is going to happen later! There is no point of dating someone that is not serious, wasting your time and energy! I wish you to feel better, allow yourself time to rest and heal! Love to you 💖 from a grandma!
Always enjoy your videos. It amazes me how clean you paint. I make a complete mess. I could not imagine laying a piece of plastic over my cream rug and painting on it. My rug would be destroyed. As always, love your style and creativity.
Always good to see you, Elise. Hope your cold is of short duration. One thing to be thankful for is the guy being that honest. Most guys, in my experience, who live like that try to string you along as long as possible.
Honestly people saying they prefer "Open relationships" are juste people who don't want commitment and don't want to put the hard work into what a sane and healthy relationship is. I hope your next date brings you more joy than this one !
@@MadAboutBrows I think you’re the one being judgmental. If a date tells you they don’t want commitment on day one, then it is correct to assume they are not willing to put work into a relationship. That’s fair and not judgmental at all.
@@MadAboutBrows You do realize syphilis is back with a vengeance these days, right? Do you really want to trust your man not to bring that "gift" home to you? Just how "open" would you like your man to be? Lol.
Some thoughts on the open wall: consider removing the door and instead hang vintage fabric draperies across the open doorway to close the opening for any drafts, etc. That would open up the usable wall area for the art and future furniture installments. The fabric could be either solid or vintage design and even changed out for winter/summer. Color paint: Look at colors used in your favorite art pieces for inspiration. Get well.
Hi Elise, the beginning clip of your house and yard was amazing!! I can't get over all the things you do, you paint like a pro!!! and as always your fashion is flawless!
I also live in a very cold climate (Minnesota). I do not understand constantly bemoaning the dark days. I prefer spring and summer but there is beauty in all seasons. Maybe it is our age differences, or stages of life, but I choose to be happy in my here and now. Your home will be fun to watch evolve. ❤
Having a man who makes you feel comfortable enough to be in your feminine energy is sooooooo nice. I previously dated so many men where I had to be very much in my masculine, and it was exhausting. My current boyfriend, and the man that I plan on marrying, make me feel so comfortable and safe. It feels wonderful to embrace my feminine energy fully and I wouldn't trade it for the world. I totally understand what you are looking for.
I really like that outfit with the white hat and the white gloves. That looks really nice. I'm also wondering if you received what I sent you yet? One package was in a bubble mailer and it was a painting my mother did and the other was in a box and it was just a mishmash of things that I put together. I didn't put tracking on the boxes unfortunately it would have been very very expensive. I just sent it normal and it was being directed to your shop of course. My first name is Melodie C and it was coming from Ontario Canada. If and when you do receive it and I really hope you do I hope you like everything and you seriously do not have to do a video on it at all or even mention it you can just let me know if you received it. Just thought I would do something nice for christmas.
Yes, as far as that date, as they say, scrape your shoe and move on. 😁 Get better, lots of rest and lots fluids. You work really hard. Your house is adorable. Love your clothes as well. Take care.
What!!! Open relationship! What an idiot! Good riddance to him Elise!! Just the thought of open relationship makes me sick to my stomac. You are so right when you say, that you want to have someone who cherishes you, who is in his masculine energy but still no macho man. A good balance is needed. The more I watched you over the years, the more I think you would be better of with an older man. The young ones will never match your strength, indipendance and uniqueness. But that is just my opinion of course. ;-) Take care and take care of that cold. 💖
Elise you are an absolutely gorgeous looking girl…but even you cannot get away with wearing the teapot-cozy fortune teller hats…they are unflattering on everyone, you look amazing in berets and any hat, just not that fortune teller hat…forgive me, I don’t mean to be rude…just stating fact…
Sick in bed, candle going, hot herb tea, feeling dreary in January is for the birds. But then your video popped up, and I must say, my day just got a little brighter! Love both the colors you chose, didn’t think I would, but you always surprise me with your choices. Loved this video, we love just hearing from you, and no expectations from your subscribers. 🌞🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻
Elise, I also would suggest a primer first to neutralize the dark wood. I would also suggest that you might want to wait until the skylight is in since you mentioned the difference of tones closer or further from the window light. Also have you considered how the color will look with the wood of your chairs? I can definitely sense your excitement for redecorating so be sure to think out your long term goals. Have fun and thanks for sharing your journey.
Hello from Iowa where we have had temps below zero. I love your videos very much. I am concerned about your table being painted. There are other options using tablecloths, runners, placemats, etc.for many different colors during seasons and holidays. That way your dinnerware, flowers and such can cordinate better. Get well soon.
“Open relationship” is just an excuse for immature people to avoid making a decision and committing to anything real. Good for you for recognizing what you don’t want and what doesn’t work for you; next time, you’ll recognize that sooner and waste no time with someone who can’t provide what you want or need.
love the second purple colour! for your table, and maybe someone more mature to date with your old soul, not too much older of an fella, but maybe someone with a different background, and not so artsy so to enjoy from a friendship point of view first, and maybe more established, to do things with, like dinner, traveling, and shopping together, having a home as well, like you in doing things together❤the table would look perfect in a white shabby chic, maybe two toned as well.
I think your table would be beautiful in white paint, then distressed. It would brighten up the space along with the skylight. You could then change out table runners and decor with different color schemes and items for the pop of color and interest, without the commitment.
Loving your color choices. Can’t wait to see what you pick. I love your style so know whatever it is, it will look amazing. Sorry your date didn’t go the way you would have liked. I think it’s good that you know yourself and won’t pursue a second date with someone who doesn’t share your values. Please don’t apologize for a video not being interesting. I show up for you, which I’m sure is the same for most of your followers. I think it’s a testimony to your strength and character that you show up at all when you’re sick. Take care and I hope you’re feeling better soon.💐
To my mind a man that wants an "open" relationship is just looking for cheap thrills, he doesn't want to commit to the relationship and is not interested in something deep. That would be a major warning to me. I think you were very smart in how you dealt with him, having that type of "relationship" is a very shallow way to live. You know your own mind and are a smart woman, so I'm sure you will eventually find a decent man for yourself. I pray you're feeling better next time we see you. Drink honey with ginger in hot water, it will help.
One thing that I've been doing a lot recently with my artwork is using a color wheel when I get stumped on color. You could check and see what is compatible with rust a gold tones. My guess is probably a deep, warm egg plant color. Your home is looking so beautiful and cozy!
It makes me absolutely crazy to see you paint in the living room on your white rug!! I know you have a plastic down but.......! The hard wood floor was much better! Open relationships?.... Uh...I don't think so!!
Elise, You may want to take some Whole Food Organic Vitamin C. When a cold starts, take Zinc. Make sure your Vitamin D level is good. That is shown in bloodwork. Maybe some Magnesium too. Helps with sleep, mood, helps with muscle and nerve too. Any supplements should be Organic Whole Food and not big box or drugstore type. You will benefit more from the whole food supplements because they do no thave fillers and synthetic ingredients. Good Luck, hope you feel better soon!
ELISE U NEED THE COLOR, EGG PLANT. IF' ur hanging ur Wall Art on that back wall. It would be best to leave the wall white. Be blessed 🙏🏾 hope u feel better soon 💜😷
Are you serious!? You are going to have a purple table with a rust/orangy colored couch!!!?? Omg. Those two colors do not go together! I just don't understand you. Those 2 colors together are hideous. Please, rethink this.
I'm excited to see how your new home project turns out! I like that you share your opinions on your life and what you are looking for towards your future...I think you're feet are on solid ground which having a good foundation is necessary for building on! Blessings Elise 👍👏😊💖
I really appreciate this I feel the same about relationships unfortunately most of the gay population it seems has moved to open relationships. In my eyes your just always leaving an opportunity to find the next best thing
Is that first date guy for real? First of all, if he could sense anything about you before your first date, he would know you are not into open relationships. Second of all, he's got a lot of nerve not bringing that up before you met, instead of wasting your time. Lastly, he's cheap. Lol. You deserve so much better than that. Beautiful sweet, smart lady. ❤
Hi Elise, the colours you've been testing are lovely but they don't connect in any way with the colours of your sofa or dining chairs. I suggest that you might pick out a colour from your dining chairs that will also connect with your sofa. Hope you're feeling much better soon.
I like the purple paint with the red tone, but I can't wait to see what you do with the living room. Your whole aura is monogamy. You work hard at relationships with your viewers, the customers at your shop and website, your family and friends, so you definitely need a one on one romantic relationship. I love the vest jacket.
Hope you feel better soon, Elise! Sorry your date was a dud, but good that you found out right at the beginning, and not after your heart was committed. When I was in my mid-20s I decided I was going to date more like guys do and not tie myself down to one guy. That lasted about two weeks and then I met my husband. 😂 That was 37 years ago, we've been married 35 years. So much for playing the field! In all seriousness, though, I think having a more laid-back "I'm just in it for fun" outlook helped me to relax and maybe not have as much of an "I need to find Mr. Right RIGHT NOW" aura. Or... maybe it was just the right time/right place. Who knows? Whatever it was ... it worked.
I think waiting on the dining room paint may be wise. I say get the side board first!!!!! be patient my friend!!!! Cheers and yes try the large mirror where the green hutch used to be, you can always move it back if you hate it lol. Hugs
Hello Elise, you are a very beautiful being inside and out and first of all I wish you all the luck in the world finding a partner on a dating site... in my era (60's - 70's) there was something called "courtship" and it was carried out by man (as in most animal species). From the most humble and illiterate man, to the most exalted and educated, they had to develop this skill which they perfected over the years, experiences and of course maturity. But it was a long process, and most had a hard time getting a woman's attention. What I'm getting at is that in these modern times, men have lost their ability to conquer, to court... it's not necessary because now an Excel table does it for him... and women have accepted it that way...and that is, I believe (it is just my opinion) where both genres have lost a lot. I may sound corny...but watching couples lately I realize that they miss something that they can't name and that they don't even understand what it is..."that first eye contact with other eyes that makes your spine tingle... .those furtive glances to locate the person in the party room, that moment when the man gathered all the courage in the world to approach you to ask you for a dance and then he was afraid to "squeeze" you too hard during the dance, that moment of asking you your name and "what you did", how old were you, who was your favorite actor, how many brothers did you have...etc., etc...there was human interaction, we looked into each other's eyes, we touched each other (subtle touches but they meant a lot and that made us feel a lot)...all that has been lost, they allowed technology to replace it, which is impossible...that's why today new generations unconsciously look for something else even though they don't even know what it is...because as everything...Love, compassion, respect, admiration, courage... we have carried them in our genetic history since the beginning of the centuries and no computer program can erase or replace them. NO, I don't think a dating site replaces human interaction or romance, but I also know that technology has won the battle. (they have taken away men's ability to conquer and court…and women were the biggest losers by settling for that), but that's just my opinion. Total respect for that of others.
The paint is drying darker as you should always use a primer on wood, dry then apply your paint color and it will dry its true color. Welll, that color really clashes with your couch in a baddd way. 😢sorry. You videos are always enjoyable, please don’t ever feel like they are boring sweetie. I will keep you in my prayers that you get well asap. Stay in and take care of yourself. Well, at least he didn’t string you along, you’ve got to appreciate his quick honesty. I cannot imagine trying to date in this day and time. Sweetie, your Mr Right will come when the time is so right. I hope you don’t get bummed out over it. Enjoy being single and enjoying life. You live such an amazing life for a 30 yr old. Can’t wait to see what you do with your dining area. The skylight is going to be amazing. Lots of love and thank you’s from me, Karla in Oklahoma
I'm so sad the green cabinet went away..I loved it! I love the second color for the table. I'm sorry you don't feel well but admire that you power through. Please take care and have a lovely new year!
Only you Elise, would paint dark purple while sitting on a white rug!😂 can’t wait to see the skylight going in! Your little house is really looking beautiful. Get well soon 🙂
Why don't you do a gallery wall you need something on that brick wall. If that's going to be your table color don't you think it's going to look funny with your rust colored sofa?
Stuck in bed with covid, your video made my day. Thank you, Elise. I like the more reddish colour for your table, but you know, what you are doing, I am sure. As for your cold: Hope you get better soon!
A guy who wants an open relationship and let's you pay? He sounds like a real winner to me. I wouldn't care how cute or edgy he was he'd be history! You made the right decision to 86 him. He sounds like a loser and he is because he lost out on a beautiful woman who could have offered him love but he chose lust instead.🧚✨💫
Are you not taking into consideration the color of your couch? They are going to be in the same room. Why do you think the purple colors go with that couch!? Man. I don't get it. You are going to make this space look like a clown show with all if the clashing colors. Just sayin!
Open relationships are super common where I live. I don’t get it though. Everyone I’ve spoken to says “it’s unrealistic to expect one person to be able to give you everything you need. So being open allows you to get your needs met.” To me, it sounds like people don’t have values and don’t want to really put in the work. But that’s my opinion based on the conversations I’ve had with poly folks.
It’s important, if there are kids, that a relationship be monogamous. Anyway, if you fall for someone & they want to date others, that’s a recipe for misery.
The problem with people that want 'open relationships' is that their partners don't always know they are in an open relationship! One stays faithful and the other one doesn't. I'd hate to be looking for a serious relationship with a man these days, the old saying "why buy the cow when the milk is free" holds true and there's lots of FREE MILK these days. 💜
Wait you are painting the table cause it’s too dark but then you’re painting it dark purple? I’m confused. Why not sand and restain in a lighter shade?
why don't you put the giant mirror where the green cabinet was, so it directly reflects the light of the window? (And a new cabinet where the mirror is now)
I agree if you like a take charge guy let him see it immediately ,don’t try to prove your independence,they will see it in the relationship and never talk about a past relationships on a 1st date no , your learning about each other not the past ,your dating lessons are for you to grow not tell a new person , you can share what you learned not bore a person with details about it they will feel your comparing them and that isn’t a good start , just shine smile a lot ! be your true self if they are compatible it will happen organically . Dates are not a resume or job interview just talk about fun & things your excited about & enjoy your selves .
Still a great vlog, Elise; sorry you're a bit under the weather. Love seeing your outfits. You elevate dress to an art form. Thanks for the inspo on transforming a living space & furniture. The dating world can be daunting. You're a great girl, so the Universe is, no doubt, still shuffling the deck 'til the best & highest surfaces. ❤❤❤
I agree with you about open relationships. It’s not for me either and I’m 57. I personally love living alone with my two Chihuahuas. I’ve been watching your videos for a few years now and I enjoy them. ❤
Glad you’re not seeing that man again, there’s no such thing as an open relationship. There are committed relationships, friendships and there’s booty calls. You don’t want to be someone’s side gig, you’re worth much more than that. So many cold viruses around at the moment, I’ve had 3 since late December.
I asked this previously but do you have access to an oil heater for your studio? DeLonghi makes a good one. Here in the US (Texas) we are having a Covid outbreak (my husband just got over it with Paxlovid). I am curious if you have it in Denmark too? I sure hope you get better very soon. Elderberry is helpful for illness. And IMO an open relationship is for people that can not commit to monogamy and prefer variety.
Hello Elise. Just want to say I love watching your videos and to ask if you have thought about moving your large mirror on the wall where your green hutch was. It would reflect the window across the room and would help to add light.
Exactly my suggestion I posted on her last video.
Elise your videos are always good. I’m sorry you’re feeling poorly and pray you feel better soon. Don’t rush into doing anything and allow your body to heal.
I love those green dishes you took out of your cabinet. As for your paint color on your table you will pick the right one. These colors pick up some of the colors in the pictures you have against the wall. A skylight will bring nice light into the room.
Good on you sticking to your ideal. Relationships are a very personal thing and open ones are not for everybody. As you get older a person wants more in life, a partner that has the same needs as you will come into your life at the right time. Be true to yourself always.
Be well and see your next post soon. ❤❤❤
Yes that mirror on that wall will be bringing in so much light into the space!
It seems that *most* people have recovered from the trauma of losing the green cabinet and then you throw us into the agony of painting the table. We are on a rollercoaster Elise, stop torturing us 😂
Get well soon, Elise. You are a goddess and deserve a BIG love with a wonderful guy who is a match for you and I'm sure he's out there X
awww thaanks 🥰
Love the dark red for the table! Always ❤ your videos.
Of the purples the second one is better. A rosey burgundy would be nice with you style but a sage green would be nice too.
So sorry to hear you aren't well Elise ❤ take the time out you need. Your first date was interesting if nothing else 😂 onwards and upwards. Your a lady who I feel will never settle for second best. Loving this new project you're working on, look forward to seeing it complete. Until then, take care. Blessings from Ireland ❤
Even sick, you are stunning! 😍 Hope your cold is short lived and you feel better sooner then later!
I never heard that before about bringing out your male energy...I am now looking at my relationship with my husband a little differently. My husband rarely takes the lead but I love it when he does. I find it takes a lot of energy to bring out this male energy you speak of. (We're 57 by the way and been together for 38 yrs) I really admire you for how you view relationships and dating...as well as your creative style and just how AMAZING you are. I always enjoy your videos. Love you Elise...Happy 2024! 😘❤️🥰
Add more brown to your paint color😊
The vest is incredible! your outfit is perfect!
Feel better soon🥰 The paint colours are awesome.
Hi Elise! Interesting to hear about your date. My first date in 2023 was with a guy as well who is a poly, and he did not share this with me until the 5th date, so you are lucky your guy was open about it, not wasting your time. I also understand the struggle about wanting a guy who is in their masculine and wanting to lean back into your feminine while they take charge. I had strickt rules going into dating last year about this, I don't message them first, I don't propose dates first, and I don't reach for the bill first. It was very tough at first, but now I am in a relationship for over five months and I am happy I didn't settle before him, because he is wonderful. So heads up and keep going! :)
This wild berry paint! So cute! And that Tulipposter. All of them is so beautiful. But do you now what is the nicest? Your red Hair in the snowing Garden. Greetings from Germany 😘
Get well soon! 🤧
Hola hermosa!!! Siento mucho por tu perdida
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If there's anything my friends and I have learned the hard way in dating, it is that men that don't make the effort initially(plan the date, insist on paying, open doors, etc) are ones that will stay that way and make you suffer in a relationship. They are "below bare minimum effort men" and seek women who will do most of the work and won't ever appreciate these women.
I have paid for my own drink and think first dates should pay for theirs. But a real man, one who sees value in you, insists on paying.
Why is the man obligated to pay? Why is the man obligated to plan the date? Why should he invest in the woman when she doesn't put any effort in beyond showing up? Why do women automatically expect to be treated like they're made of gold and don't do anything in return?
i had a friend years ago, a older lady neighbor who use to tell me when we discussed my dates ,she always said go 1st class.......... never settle for less..................Hugs.
I'm glad he was honest with you and told you on the first date. The reason he let you take control of the date is the same reason he wants open relationships. He does not want any responsibility. He wants to sit back and do as he pleases with no consequences. That's fine - it's his life. Glad you know yourself and know that that would not work for you. Big Hugs
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I actually appreciate people like your date. They didn't waste your time by lying about what they wanted from a relationship just for their own gratification. If it isn't right it's super nice to know before investing a lot of time and energy into it and getting hurt. Kudos to him.
I agree...except..I think something like that should be announced on their dating profile.
I agree!
True this
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“kudos to him” meanwhile he made her pay and sounded like a fuckboy, your standards are in the depths of hell
Hey Elise. Just a little FYI when painting...... always put a white primer or white base coat. The wood is as if you are painting over a tan or brown, which changes the true color of what you have chosen. That is why it dried darker. So proud of you and all you have accomplished through all the trials and hardships. Be Blessed!
And put a second coat of paint on to really see the color.
Why not paint the table a shade of green
Yes I think so too the color she's choosing will clash with her rust-colored sofa?
@@mocarra100 I think they will be complimentary.
Good point! Never thought of that
Hi Elise, I was 16(ish) when i started the following you because of your dreadlocks. When I was that age I couldn’t understand how you struggled with life and feeling down somedays. Now I’m turning 21 and I understand you very well. You were my comfort person and now I feel more closer to you. Love you 💛
I would absolutely keep the wood on the dining table, I feel like once you have the skylights it will look so classic and give you a needed masculine touch in your house! Everything in balance ⚖️
I have a dark wood dining set right next to a picture window, so I can appreciate your comment. It wouldn't hurt to wait, but I know that Elise can come up with some really creative options, although I don't agree with every choice she has made. It's always enjoyable to see how it all ends up.
Agree.
I know it's her house and she don't care about my oppinion. However she keeps changing her mind of what she wants. She buys furnitures and paints them then 6 monthes later she has a different idea and sells them. Now she bought a table she wants to paint and put in a skylight. I think with prober lighting the dinningroom would be fine without a skylight. It won't add any value to the house if she wants to sell it.
As far as skylights not adding any value to the resale of the house, I would check with a realtor, first.@@rikkemeek1506
That "open" relationship crap seems to be more and more common place, it just gives me the ick.
I’m so glad you opted to leave the relationship. Sounds like someone to stay away from. You are worth more than that. Hold your head up high. You’re a beautiful person and worth so much more than that. I’m so proud of you.
Meeting a person for real is probably better than texting and texting. It is easier to size up a situation and make a decision. Be well quickly, Elise!
People got caught up discussing whether people are being “judgmental” regarding open relationships! The fact of the mater is, Elise does not want one and doesn’t believe in them! End of the story! 😂
Hi Elise! I've been a long time subscriber now. I want to thank you for being you, because you've inspired me and made me hopeful of a future I can strive toward. I've been attempting to have my own living space for years, and seeing you have the freedom to create and bend your environment to suit who you are as a person is inspiring. Now I have that for myself as well. Hope you're having a good day!!
I agree Lenara!❤..Elise is so inspiring, as she putters around creating a beautiful life! So many valuable lessons !
At 58 I have been on quite a lot of dates. Some good, some bad. I see each as a learning experience, which you seem to have done as well. It is a positive action on your part to have a drink and listen to someone, and learn about different ways of life, without judgement-knowing the spark was not there! Bravo!
The big picture of tulips in the gold frame has some great colours for your sitting room. Your sofa has some reddish undertones in it, that's why the redder sample works better than the purplish one. Try looking at the rusty red side of burgundy. A soft white like your fireplace used as a contrast design on top would soften the expanse. Perhaps different sized lacy stencils randomly placed. You could copy or reverse the colours on a sideboard.
Artist with adhd here. Forgive the stream of ideas. You know what works for you.❤
I think you should perhaps wait until your sky lights are in before deciding on a colour. I actually like the wood as is and maybe a runner or table cloth in a similar colour could serve as a temporary solution to see if you can live with it xx
Hello Elise! I enjoy your videos, no matter what you want to share with us!
I have to say that I agree 100% with you about what are you looking in a relationship!
If that was your first impression with your date, imagine what is going to happen later!
There is no point of dating someone that is not serious, wasting your time and energy!
I wish you to feel better, allow yourself time to rest and heal!
Love to you 💖 from a grandma!
Always enjoy your videos. It amazes me how clean you paint. I make a complete mess. I could not imagine laying a piece of plastic over my cream rug and painting on it. My rug would be destroyed. As always, love your style and creativity.
I KNOW RIGHT ???
SHE IS SO NEAT & TIDY
I think that every time I watch her paint on that rug. 😅😅
Always good to see you, Elise. Hope your cold is of short duration. One thing to be thankful for is the guy being that honest. Most guys, in my experience, who live like that try to string you along as long as possible.
Honestly people saying they prefer "Open relationships" are juste people who don't want commitment and don't want to put the hard work into what a sane and healthy relationship is. I hope your next date brings you more joy than this one !
You're very judgemental of people who think differently than you, what a closed mind you have 👎
Exactly! No one should ever settle for that BS.
💯💥 I'm so glad she held onto her standards and boundaries. That's very healthy minded.
@@MadAboutBrows I think you’re the one being judgmental. If a date tells you they don’t want commitment on day one, then it is correct to assume they are not willing to put work into a relationship. That’s fair and not judgmental at all.
@@MadAboutBrows You do realize syphilis is back with a vengeance these days, right? Do you really want to trust your man not to bring that "gift" home to you? Just how "open" would you like your man to be? Lol.
Some thoughts on the open wall: consider removing the door and instead hang vintage fabric draperies across the open doorway to close the opening for any drafts, etc. That would open up the usable wall area for the art and future furniture installments. The fabric could be either solid or vintage design and even changed out for winter/summer. Color paint: Look at colors used in your favorite art pieces for inspiration. Get well.
This is brilliant idea 😍😍😍
Thats a great idea!
Hi Elise, the beginning clip of your house and yard was amazing!! I can't get over all the things you do, you paint like a pro!!! and as always your fashion is flawless!
I also live in a very cold climate (Minnesota). I do not understand constantly bemoaning the dark days. I prefer spring and summer but there is beauty in all seasons. Maybe it is our age differences, or stages of life, but I choose to be happy in my here and now. Your home will be fun to watch evolve. ❤
You've taught me so much about taking your time and waiting for what you want in your home...and in life!
A house is never really finished; always evolving.
I'm sorry, the violet color along with the orange, gold & greens just don't jive together. IMO.
Having a man who makes you feel comfortable enough to be in your feminine energy is sooooooo nice. I previously dated so many men where I had to be very much in my masculine, and it was exhausting. My current boyfriend, and the man that I plan on marrying, make me feel so comfortable and safe. It feels wonderful to embrace my feminine energy fully and I wouldn't trade it for the world. I totally understand what you are looking for.
I really like that outfit with the white hat and the white gloves. That looks really nice. I'm also wondering if you received what I sent you yet? One package was in a bubble mailer and it was a painting my mother did and the other was in a box and it was just a mishmash of things that I put together. I didn't put tracking on the boxes unfortunately it would have been very very expensive. I just sent it normal and it was being directed to your shop of course. My first name is Melodie C and it was coming from Ontario Canada. If and when you do receive it and I really hope you do I hope you like everything and you seriously do not have to do a video on it at all or even mention it you can just let me know if you received it. Just thought I would do something nice for christmas.
Elise, when testing the paint colours, it will look different against dark stained wood, unless you are sanding it down first 😊
True! I wonder what the rose shade over the purple would look like!
Yes, as far as that date, as they say, scrape your shoe and move on. 😁 Get better, lots of rest and lots fluids. You work really hard. Your house is adorable. Love your clothes as well. Take care.
What!!! Open relationship! What an idiot! Good riddance to him Elise!! Just the thought of open relationship makes me sick to my stomac. You are so right when you say, that you want to have someone who cherishes you, who is in his masculine energy but still no macho man. A good balance is needed. The more I watched you over the years, the more I think you would be better of with an older man. The young ones will never match your strength, indipendance and uniqueness. But that is just my opinion of course. ;-)
Take care and take care of that cold. 💖
Keep your personal boundaries at your comfort level. The internet is mercilessly nosy and opinionated.
I'm a bit concerned about the purple/red clashing with the couch colour???
Elise you are an absolutely gorgeous looking girl…but even you cannot get away with wearing the teapot-cozy fortune teller hats…they are unflattering on everyone, you look amazing in berets and any hat, just not that fortune teller hat…forgive me, I don’t mean to be rude…just stating fact…
That isn't fact is a subjective opinion ❤️
Sick in bed, candle going, hot herb tea, feeling dreary in January is for the birds. But then your video popped up, and I must say, my day just got a little brighter! Love both the colors you chose, didn’t think I would, but you always surprise me with your choices. Loved this video, we love just hearing from you, and no expectations from your subscribers. 🌞🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻
Hope you get well soon 🌤
Elise, I also would suggest a primer first to neutralize the dark wood. I would also
suggest that you might want to wait until the skylight is in since you mentioned
the difference of tones closer or further from the window light. Also have you
considered how the color will look with the wood of your chairs? I can definitely
sense your excitement for redecorating so be sure to think out your long term
goals. Have fun and thanks for sharing your journey.
Hello from Iowa where we have had temps below zero. I love your videos very much. I am concerned about your table being painted. There are other options using tablecloths, runners, placemats, etc.for many different colors during seasons and holidays. That way your dinnerware, flowers and such can cordinate better. Get well soon.
You need a real man, true love, you and he will know when you meet, I never allow a woman to pay whether I am attracted or not. Feel better.
“Open relationship” is just an excuse for immature people to avoid making a decision and committing to anything real. Good for you for recognizing what you don’t want and what doesn’t work for you; next time, you’ll recognize that sooner and waste no time with someone who can’t provide what you want or need.
love the second purple colour! for your table, and maybe someone more mature to date with your old soul, not too much older of an fella, but maybe someone with a different background, and not so artsy so to enjoy from a friendship point of view first, and maybe more established, to do things with, like dinner, traveling, and shopping together, having a home as well, like you in doing things together❤the table would look perfect in a white shabby chic, maybe two toned as well.
I think your table would be beautiful in white paint, then distressed. It would brighten up the space along with the skylight. You could then change out table runners and decor with different color schemes and items for the pop of color and interest, without the commitment.
Loving your color choices. Can’t wait to see what you pick. I love your style so know whatever it is, it will look amazing. Sorry your date didn’t go the way you would have liked. I think it’s good that you know yourself and won’t pursue a second date with someone who doesn’t share your values. Please don’t apologize for a video not being interesting. I show up for you, which I’m sure is the same for most of your followers. I think it’s a testimony to your strength and character that you show up at all when you’re sick. Take care and I hope you’re feeling better soon.💐
Well put
Definitely!🎉..I don't need a performance, Elise in every day life is an inspiring reality!❤
To my mind a man that wants an "open" relationship is just looking for cheap thrills, he doesn't want to commit to the relationship and is not interested in something deep. That would be a major warning to me. I think you were very smart in how you dealt with him, having that type of "relationship" is a very shallow way to live. You know your own mind and are a smart woman, so I'm sure you will eventually find a decent man for yourself. I pray you're feeling better next time we see you. Drink honey with ginger in hot water, it will help.
One thing that I've been doing a lot recently with my artwork is using a color wheel when I get stumped on color. You could check and see what is compatible with rust a gold tones. My guess is probably a deep, warm egg plant color. Your home is looking so beautiful and cozy!
Your big mirror would reflect the light in the room incase you haven’t checked it out…..im sure you have….lol
It makes me absolutely crazy to see you paint in the living room on your white rug!! I know you have a plastic down but.......! The hard wood floor was much better! Open relationships?.... Uh...I don't think so!!
Elise, You may want to take some Whole Food Organic Vitamin C. When a cold starts, take Zinc. Make sure your Vitamin D level is good. That is shown in bloodwork. Maybe some Magnesium too. Helps with sleep, mood, helps with muscle and nerve too. Any supplements should be Organic Whole Food and not big box or drugstore type. You will benefit more from the whole food supplements because they do no thave fillers and synthetic ingredients. Good Luck, hope you feel better soon!
And furthermore I highly recommend the the VIMERGY brand as being of the highest and purest quality
ELISE U NEED THE COLOR, EGG PLANT. IF' ur hanging ur Wall Art on that back wall. It would be best to leave the wall white. Be blessed 🙏🏾 hope u feel better soon 💜😷
Are you serious!? You are going to have a purple table with a rust/orangy colored couch!!!?? Omg. Those two colors do not go together! I just don't understand you. Those 2 colors together are hideous. Please, rethink this.
I'm excited to see how your new home project turns out! I like that you share your opinions on your life and what you are looking for towards your future...I think you're feet are on solid ground which having a good foundation is necessary for building on! Blessings Elise 👍👏😊💖
Thank you 🥰
I really appreciate this I feel the same about relationships unfortunately most of the gay population it seems has moved to open relationships. In my eyes your just always leaving an opportunity to find the next best thing
Hope you get well soon, as for dating I know I’m old fashioned and will probably get shot down for this but the man should always pay first. ❤
I think january is meant to be a slow, restfull month.
Is that first date guy for real? First of all, if he could sense anything about you before your first date, he would know you are not into open relationships. Second of all, he's got a lot of nerve not bringing that up before you met, instead of wasting your time. Lastly, he's cheap. Lol. You deserve so much better than that. Beautiful sweet, smart lady. ❤
Hi Elise, the colours you've been testing are lovely but they don't connect in any way with the colours of your sofa or dining chairs. I suggest that you might pick out a colour from your dining chairs that will also connect with your sofa. Hope you're feeling much better soon.
I like the purple paint with the red tone, but I can't wait to see what you do with the living room. Your whole aura is monogamy. You work hard at relationships with your viewers, the customers at your shop and website, your family and friends, so you definitely need a one on one romantic relationship. I love the vest jacket.
Hope you feel better soon, Elise!
Sorry your date was a dud, but good that you found out right at the beginning, and not after your heart was committed.
When I was in my mid-20s I decided I was going to date more like guys do and not tie myself down to one guy. That lasted about two weeks and then I met my husband. 😂 That was 37 years ago, we've been married 35 years. So much for playing the field! In all seriousness, though, I think having a more laid-back "I'm just in it for fun" outlook helped me to relax and maybe not have as much of an "I need to find Mr. Right RIGHT NOW" aura. Or... maybe it was just the right time/right place. Who knows? Whatever it was ... it worked.
I think waiting on the dining room paint may be wise. I say get the side board first!!!!! be patient my friend!!!! Cheers and yes try the large mirror where the green hutch used to be, you can always move it back if you hate it lol. Hugs
Hello Elise, you are a very beautiful being inside and out and first of all I wish you all the luck in the world finding a partner on a dating site... in my era (60's - 70's) there was something called "courtship" and it was carried out by man (as in most animal species). From the most humble and illiterate man, to the most exalted and educated, they had to develop this skill which they perfected over the years, experiences and of course maturity. But it was a long process, and most had a hard time getting a woman's attention. What I'm getting at is that in these modern times, men have lost their ability to conquer, to court... it's not necessary because now an Excel table does it for him... and women have accepted it that way...and that is, I believe (it is just my opinion) where both genres have lost a lot. I may sound corny...but watching couples lately I realize that they miss something that they can't name and that they don't even understand what it is..."that first eye contact with other eyes that makes your spine tingle... .those furtive glances to locate the person in the party room, that moment when the man gathered all the courage in the world to approach you to ask you for a dance and then he was afraid to "squeeze" you too hard during the dance, that moment of asking you your name and "what you did", how old were you, who was your favorite actor, how many brothers did you have...etc., etc...there was human interaction, we looked into each other's eyes, we touched each other (subtle touches but they meant a lot and that made us feel a lot)...all that has been lost, they allowed technology to replace it, which is impossible...that's why today new generations unconsciously look for something else even though they don't even know what it is...because as everything...Love, compassion, respect, admiration, courage... we have carried them in our genetic history since the beginning of the centuries and no computer program can erase or replace them. NO, I don't think a dating site replaces human interaction or romance, but I also know that technology has won the battle. (they have taken away men's ability to conquer and court…and women were the biggest losers by settling for that), but that's just my opinion. Total respect for that of others.
En mörk abergine färg kan vara väldigt mystisk och kan passa till de bruna nyanser som dina möbler har.
Please please do not paint the dinning table … I love your style n flair for fashion n interiors but it will be a mistake to paint a table … 💕
At least he was honest,unlike most.You made a good decision as he is not done playing yet!❤Get better soon!
Those pictures will make a great gallery wall
You made the right decision, I'm the same all or nothing, in a relationship 💞
Hope you ate feeling better ❤. I have never done an open relationship. I have been happily married for 28 years 😊
Flowers 🌺 do not chase the bees 🐝. Love and light little one 🎨X
I love the Twiggy One!❤🇨🇦
Your house makeovers have quickly become favorites of mine!
I love that hutch!!! Open relationships are for the man, not any woman. It is selfish and juvenile and says he never wants to commit, so he's a waste.
The paint is drying darker as you should always use a primer on wood, dry then apply your paint color and it will dry its true color.
Welll, that color really clashes with your couch in a baddd way. 😢sorry. You videos are always enjoyable, please don’t ever feel like they are boring sweetie. I will keep you in my prayers that you get well asap. Stay in and take care of yourself. Well, at least he didn’t string you along, you’ve got to appreciate his quick honesty. I cannot imagine trying to date in this day and time. Sweetie, your Mr Right will come when the time is so right. I hope you don’t get bummed out over it. Enjoy being single and enjoying life. You live such an amazing life for a 30 yr old. Can’t wait to see what you do with your dining area. The skylight is going to be amazing. Lots of love and thank you’s from me, Karla in Oklahoma
I'm so sad the green cabinet went away..I loved it! I love the second color for the table. I'm sorry you don't feel well but admire that you power through. Please take care and have a lovely new year!
How would the large mirror look where the large cabinet was? It would reflect the light from the opposite window wall. ☺️
Only you Elise, would paint dark purple while sitting on a white rug!😂 can’t wait to see the skylight going in! Your little house is really looking beautiful. Get well soon 🙂
Why don't you do a gallery wall you need something on that brick wall. If that's going to be your table color don't you think it's going to look funny with your rust colored sofa?
I hope you’re soon well, Elise! Being sick definitely affects one’s optimism for the new year. This, too, shall pass.
Stuck in bed with covid, your video made my day. Thank you, Elise. I like the more reddish colour for your table, but you know, what you are doing, I am sure. As for your cold: Hope you get better soon!
A guy who wants an open relationship and let's you pay? He sounds like a real winner to me. I wouldn't care how cute or edgy he was he'd be history! You made the right decision to 86 him. He sounds like a loser and he is because he lost out on a beautiful woman who could have offered him love but he chose lust instead.🧚✨💫
PS You made the right choice selling the cabinet. It's pretty but not right for your home.
Are you not taking into consideration the color of your couch? They are going to be in the same room. Why do you think the purple colors go with that couch!? Man. I don't get it. You are going to make this space look like a clown show with all if the clashing colors. Just sayin!
Wow. Hello miss sunshine ☀️
Open relationships are super common where I live. I don’t get it though. Everyone I’ve spoken to says “it’s unrealistic to expect one person to be able to give you everything you need. So being open allows you to get your needs met.” To me, it sounds like people don’t have values and don’t want to really put in the work. But that’s my opinion based on the conversations I’ve had with poly folks.
It’s important, if there are kids, that a relationship be monogamous. Anyway, if you fall for someone & they want to date others, that’s a recipe for misery.
It's very selfish too. No give and take is a dead end dark street....
The problem with people that want 'open relationships' is that their partners don't always know they are in an open relationship! One stays faithful and the other one doesn't. I'd hate to be looking for a serious relationship with a man these days, the old saying "why buy the cow when the milk is free" holds true and there's lots of FREE MILK these days. 💜
Wait you are painting the table cause it’s too dark but then you’re painting it dark purple? I’m confused. Why not sand and restain in a lighter shade?
why don't you put the giant mirror where the green cabinet was, so it directly reflects the light of the window? (And a new cabinet where the mirror is now)
Love your explanation about relationships. You deserve someone special and don't settle for anything less.
I agree if you like a take charge guy let him see it immediately ,don’t try to prove your independence,they will see it in the relationship and never talk about a past relationships on a 1st date no , your learning about each other not the past ,your dating lessons are for you to grow not tell a new person , you can share what you learned not bore a person with details about it they will feel your comparing them and that isn’t a good start , just shine smile a lot ! be your true self if they are compatible it will happen organically . Dates are not a resume or job interview just talk about fun & things your excited about & enjoy your selves .
Still a great vlog, Elise; sorry you're a bit under the weather. Love seeing your outfits. You elevate dress to an art form. Thanks for the inspo on transforming a living space & furniture. The dating world can be daunting. You're a great girl, so the Universe is, no doubt, still shuffling the deck 'til the best & highest surfaces. ❤❤❤
I agree with you about open relationships. It’s not for me either and I’m 57. I personally love living alone with my two Chihuahuas. I’ve been watching your videos for a few years now and I enjoy them. ❤
Move your mirror where the china cabinet is and it will reflect light hence more light.
Glad you’re not seeing that man again, there’s no such thing as an open relationship. There are committed relationships, friendships and there’s booty calls. You don’t want to be someone’s side gig, you’re worth much more than that.
So many cold viruses around at the moment, I’ve had 3 since late December.
I asked this previously but do you have access to an oil heater for your studio? DeLonghi makes a good one. Here in the US (Texas) we are having a Covid outbreak (my husband just got over it with Paxlovid). I am curious if you have it in Denmark too? I sure hope you get better very soon. Elderberry is helpful for illness. And IMO an open relationship is for people that can not commit to monogamy and prefer variety.