Withdrawal of physical intimacy, kissing, touching, etc.. is a betrayal that I would say is just as hard as infidelity to deal with. It is willing isolation and denial to your your partner of stability and security of the relationship. Day by day, a chipping away of the foundation, eventually leading to the collapse of the relationship.
Yet again not addressing the problem of why someone would withdraw in the first place. What about a partner who doesn't listen, or a partner who repeatedly insists on his way of doing something, or a partner who cares more about being "right" and prioritises this above everything else. When you have this type of partner you withdraw and you refuse physical intimacy of any kind because your attempts at reconciliation meet with - NO change. I think your videos over simplify the dynamics of intimate relationships - you appear to be identifying one partner and one set of behaviours as the responsibility for breakdown of trust. It is ALWAYS a two-way process. Both partners carry wounds and both partners need to learn self-awareness and both partners need to do the shadow work - as in work to recognise what they have inadvertently repressed - watch those triggers. BOTH partners can be triggered.
After being celebat for 6 years I got involved. Specified I needed truth if addicted to porn. He's a church man and since I caught him twice looking at it I can't really move forward. I have an 11 year old and in my opinion porn is gateway to pedophilia. Not only did he lie but when I caught him he threw a tantrum threw his phone and another time said computer was hacked.
Leave. You are right. Perversion is NEVER satisfied. It's not natural or normal. Protect your child. If he's not willing to get help and move ...also if he's a believer He shouldn't be having sex unmarried either.
Withdrawal of physical intimacy, kissing, touching, etc.. is a betrayal that I would say is just as hard as infidelity to deal with. It is willing isolation and denial to your your partner of stability and security of the relationship. Day by day, a chipping away of the foundation, eventually leading to the collapse of the relationship.
Yet again not addressing the problem of why someone would withdraw in the first place. What about a partner who doesn't listen, or a partner who repeatedly insists on his way of doing something, or a partner who cares more about being "right" and prioritises this above everything else. When you have this type of partner you withdraw and you refuse physical intimacy of any kind because your attempts at reconciliation meet with - NO change.
I think your videos over simplify the dynamics of intimate relationships - you appear to be identifying one partner and one set of behaviours as the responsibility for breakdown of trust. It is ALWAYS a two-way process. Both partners carry wounds and both partners need to learn self-awareness and both partners need to do the shadow work - as in work to recognise what they have inadvertently repressed - watch those triggers. BOTH partners can be triggered.
After being celebat for 6 years I got involved. Specified I needed truth if addicted to porn. He's a church man and since I caught him twice looking at it I can't really move forward. I have an 11 year old and in my opinion porn is gateway to pedophilia. Not only did he lie but when I caught him he threw a tantrum threw his phone and another time said computer was hacked.
Leave. You are right. Perversion is NEVER satisfied. It's not natural or normal. Protect your child. If he's not willing to get help and move ...also if he's a believer He shouldn't be having sex unmarried either.
You need to leave this relationship. A church person isn’t without faults. This guy lies and is using porn to cope with life difficulties.
Oh dear, women betray men all the time.