Went from "Aww, poor guy" to "AUGH THE SECONDHAND EMBARRASSMENT" Stuart's post-breakup behavior reminds me of how I acted back in middle school, I was pretty creepy and desperate for a relationship. Hope Stuart grew out of that phase
I had a Stuart phase myself after my first break-up to be honest. I had a very similar mentality, combined with the same circumstances of no access to therapy, not really supportive parents, and even though I did go to school I rarely hanged out with almost anyone outside of it (ever). So witnessing this whole thing is second hand embarrassment on another level. EDIT: Dear god, it gets worse. EDIT 2: HOW DID IT GET EVEN WORSE.
Wow, if I had a nickle for every time I saw wowza made a video featuring a talking rat, I’d have two nickels. Which isn’t a lot, but it’s weird that it happened twice
@@chappellroanmemesno no it's not don't you say that about my favorite cartoon (/j ik it's old) tbh I think the jokes hold up tho especially from doofenshmirtz, or maybe it's just the nostalgia talking
Online relationships (not just romantic btw) DO NOT have to be so taxing. A lot of people need to hear this, because I needed to in the past, and in a way I still do. An online friendship shouldn't be just getting a message when the other is having a breakdown, with you only distracting them and never truly helping them get better, and doing nothing else of substance in the relationship. You can be the one doing this, obviously, and you need to evaluate that for yourself. Instead of that type of friendship, it's so much better when you're doing calls just to play Kahoot and laugh your asses off, or when you're excitedly ranting about a new hobby you picked up. I have two online friends who I've been close to for more than a year now but I'm only now really realizing how important they are to me. They know each other as well, and we've planned a big series of calls to just do whatever and have fun. We do help each other out when we're feeling down because we want to see each other be okay but that is in no way the focus of our friendships. This isn't because we have perfect mental health and don't get as sad as most others or whatever. We just feel happy around each other, so comfort during bad times isn't the only/main situation in which we try to talk to each other. They are probably the best friends I've ever had online, and they are the people I'm closest to in general right now. I hope all of you guys can have friends as good as those, because every single one of you deserves it. Btw, irl relationships can get bad in the same way that I've talked about but with irl relationships at least you can get a _way_ better gauge of how much your relationship is benefitting both of you.
As someone who went to highschool at one point, I can say that having a teenage boy thirst after you, especially one who’s from a rocky background and isn’t the best student, is both one of the most charming, yet skin-crawlingly disturbing feelings in the world. In my sophomore year, I dated a boy from a very broken JW background named Dave for a month who constantly told me he wanted to marry and have children with me, kept his eyes completely open whenever we kissed, and cried because I got my hair cut short because it “made me lose my feminine beauty”. He also broke down in tears when I came out to him as bisexual on the phone and explained to him that I wanted to have my tubes tied as an adult. I don’t know where poor little Dave is now. He could be a Tibetan monk or a resident of Point Nemo for all I know. Edit: My favorite scenes in Stuart Little are when Stuart nearly drowns in the washing machine and when he gets bullied by the funny cat voiced by Nathan Lane.
Update: I got it back and it’s working with all the data in tack. Turns out the issue was the drive being bad, which is mainly due to me TODAY finding out I’ve been turning off my computer wrong, after 8 years…
One word: limerence. A lot of people struggle with it but the term hasn't spread widely enough yet. It's basically what's happened here; a debilitating fixation on the person you're in love with to the point that you're existentially not okay if they aren't around or responding the way you want them to. It's really hard to be rational with it as the feelings that come with it are disproportionate to reality (e.g. feeling euphoric or filled with despair the whole day after just one text message). It's often born out of trauma or really low self-esteem, so it often takes therapy to overcome. Time may make it less intense, but usually time isn't the answer at all as a limerence is able to last as long as it has fuel or depending on the sort of pedestal the person has put their "beloved" on (so like decades). Some people are able to keep the feelings to themselves and just sort of wither away inside while others openly express it and hurt others. I had it for over a decade before realizing how much of my life it was stealing. It transfers from person to person so that it always seems like "the One" is just around the corner when it's really this demon of a disorder taunting you. It's hard to get out of but not impossible. Awareness is the first step.
Maybe this is a well known thing, but I post this anyway: If you cringe at behaviour of your past self that means you have improved and already are a better version of yourself now! :)
Bro was probably getting groomed by older women and that’s so sad to me. Hope he’s in a better place now, and I’ve definitely dealt w actual creeps that acted like him before so I feel you on that end.
I must admit, the part from 4:35 to 5:02 (including the 'you have your whole life ahead of you' segment) really uplifted my mood. Lately, I've been dealing with a recent breakup with a guy who I thought was my reason to live and my everything. He made so many promises: a good future, good treatment, and basically everything I could wish for, including his love to me no matter what. Yet, he ended up dumping me just five months later. As time goes on, I'm slowly realizing that it's probably better this way. He was incredibly neglectful towards me, lied about practically everything, and even ignored me for days (knowing it would lead me to mental breakdowns and panic attacks, which it did, multiple times) before finally breaking up with me. Though I still miss him to some extent, I'm also relieved that bastard's gone from my life.
I had a similar experience with my ex-girlfriend who I was with for about two years. I'm long over what happened now, but that segment made me feel a little better too. I know this comment is a little old, but I hope you're doing better these days and know you've got a bright future ahead of you.
Yup, i definitely see where this is going....these type of guys are the reason why i dropped most of the social media ,i shouldn't feel responsible or guilty for your mental state.And guys say most girls are emotionally draining ,but damn these were on a whole other lvl...still i hope they changed this whole charade of "off little poor me with no emotional girly to support me that i can also hope i will date someday🥺👉👈💕" 💀
I swear to god mine were never 16 like stuart ,they were either 25 or 30....never spoke to them but jeez beggining for mental health and advice from a 14 year old girl on FB really says a lot abt them....
I can relate to this since I've always been that one friend who you could vent to, especially cause I always felt shitty when they had nobody to talk with about their problems, like parents or even friends. But I've also had many experiences where they kept exchanging that affection and support that I was giving for...love (None of them ever saw my face either), which then results in them feeling even more shitty cause you're not interested or are already in a relationship. But when I think about it, I really don't regret at least trying to make them feel better and support them whenever they needed a shoulder to lean on, I'm so happy I've managed to help a few old friends of mine with their struggles and overall remove some burdens. Of course with some it didn't work out but at the end of the day I just gave them a little push, the rest was up to them to figure out. I also went through what Wowza did in few instances where it was so mentally draining, that all the frustration and anger piled up to the point of having an argument, sometimes because they've been at it for months and only ever talk to you when they're feeling down, while not showing progress of them getting better. Still though, if you've got a friend who's going through stuff, try to cheer them up a bit and show that you're there for them, that they're not alone. Of course you don't have to if you don't want the responsibility or are afraid to make it worse, but just casually chatting can seriously help someone take their mind off things and yknow, just have a nice day with their friend.
As an aroace person it's honestly my worst nightmare for someone to use me and disrespect my boundaries in that way. (Thankfully it has never happened to me though) Also, as someone who is homeschooled I can understand the isolation he feels, but even then I would never do the things he does and it's simply not an excuse for it.
Yo, Stuart: Clinging to people like a remora isn't good for you, and sometimes time away from friends or partner is just what was needed. It gives you time to think about things and how you want the relationship to go moving forward. It also gives you time to enjoy yourself and do things that *you* as an individual like to do. While it's good to be able to rely on your partner for emotional support, it's equally important to remember your partner needs space and to give her it when she needs it. She still cares, she just needs time to herself. And when she's back, she'll appreciate your company even more. When you're feeling lonely and are worried someone hasn't gotten back to you, think about why them not getting back to you is affecting you so much. You'll come to realize the reason you're scared is because of something in the past that is entirely unrelated to your friend or partner. Once you come to realize that it'll be a lot easier to do stuff for yourself. I know it's lonely being homeschooled. There were points in my life where I went totally reclusive and it was painful. The feelings of not belonging and the idea that nobody cares about you is horrible. It's no wonder you'd hold on to any relationship you can so tightly. A lot of people have gone through what you're going through and eventually made it to the other side. Even if you take longer to get there, that's fine. It gets better. Just remember you're an individual and it's going to be okay.
i had a poor time with a toxic online friend; it went basically the same way, where in the end she blocked me. I was hysterical at first bc even though it was toxic i still missed her a lot - but now I've realized how much I've changed; I've been more productive, I've been spending more time with family and going places instead of staying in my room and on my phone. I realize I'm still young and I have my whole life ahead of me. This situation gave me experience and ridded me of an addiction I didnt even realize I had. Making friends will be harder now but I'm optimistic. I'm glad the issue resolved itself for you, and I hope Stuart is doing better now too :)
i hate online guys like this they make me so uncomfy ☹️☹️☹️ sorry you hsd to go thru it, it's always taxing to deal with these kinds of ppl (ur a better person than i am i would've blocked his ass without a second thought 💀)
This happens when we have 0 relationship/sex ed and talking about this stuff is taboo or you will get laughed at by "the boys tm" or have media discussing these topics and how to act in an okay way and even then that can be dismissed and parents would just call it grooming or whatever.
When saying the Beautiful part. It took a second for me to realize that record scratch was real, and not just my own brain imagining it as that is exactly the sound I imagined in that moment. 😂
I had a friend like this. She was not trying to be romantic with me but she was venting to me daily about the most unimportant issues and complained if I didn't answer immediately to make her feel better :/ she started posting very conspiratorial stuff (covid was caused by the government for example) and that gave me an excuse to block her
I once was on a group with weird toxic friends. One Time they maked me cried so I left, but one of the group member reached out and talked to me. Then out of nowhere asked me to play truth or dare... Then he dared me to tell him that I liked him.. And then send the screenshot TO THE FUCKING GROUP THAT I WAS CRYING ABOUT LIKE 5 MINUTES AGO WTF
This same thing has happened to me and it's SO awkward. I relate SO MUCH to the "he's sad -> i comfort him -> he gets better -> he flirts with me -> i tell him no -> he's sad" loop in special. It was so hard to get out of it because I never want to hurt anyone's feelings, but that kind of stuff is so taxing emotionally, it genuinely sucks I also feel really bad for people like Stu. :( People like him typically are so alone they'll cling onto anyone who's nice to them, which is probably why he was hitting on you without even knowing what you look like. It's really creepy (saying from experience) but also really sad at the same time.
You know, while you were commenting "oh this is boring, oh should I even be making this", I was already thinking "WOW this is really well-done! This person is funny as hell." So like. Yeah. It was good!!
This gave me 2nd-hand embarrassment and memories of being on skype as a young teen. I hope he grew out of it like I did. I was always very possessive over friends I had online, and even now i still struggle with it; now Im 20 and I've been dating a guy I've known online for 5 1/2 years, so thats one good thing that came out of it. Life always gets better when you escape a cringe phase.
"I was so scared of being a bad friend that I trapped myself in an emotionally draining relationship." Im currently in a friendship where Im the one having to put up with having been dependent on, so this video is really appreciated. If distancing is all I can so then im going for it man. Thanks.
If he was homeschooled then.. I kinda understand why he was the way he was.. He had nobody with him actually, idk if his family was that caring too.. maybe when Kitty started to be his gf he feelt loved for the first time and that's why it took him so long to move on.. and when you showed care, he had a "crush" on you... It happens to me too, not in that way anymore but when someone shows a little bit of care towards me I feel like I want to be with that person forever (in a platonic way) Idk how to fix that shit tho, I hope I can get help soon lol
New raccoon story, goooood! And, i guess a lot of people can relate to the absolute, horrible. Disaster, burning trash pile that is online relationships, trying to understand and communicate things through text is...kinda hard sometimes, and it's even worse when it gets misunderstood. It works sometimes, and sometimes it goes SO HORRIBLY WRONG if you dont stop it as soon as it starts to go wrong So stay safe all you wonderful people out there, and value urself. (Amazing video as always)
Others problems should not become yours. I know the saying "put others before yourself," but if that means that you'll be unhappy, don't. And honestly online relationships of any kind are not supposed to be a responsibility. If you don't like someone, don't hang out with them. Theres absolutely no shame in cutting anybody off, just dont be mean about it.
Thank God I wasn't this type of mentality when I first met my GF online. We're still together for almost 9ish years and we've both grown a lot from this experience~
I kinda related to this story. I mean not the part of people getting into me and i don't like that, i mean the part of being hard to "let people go". Sometimes I accidentally become friends with people that I don't even like in the first place, and even though our friendship has gone well in the beginning, that person simply starts to get... annoying, i mean they haven't done anything necessarily bad but i just didn't vibe with the person and found them quite annoying, we simply didn't connect. And when that happens, it's kind of hard to cut off that friendship, because you seem like the villain, the other person haven't done anything wrong and you simply cut them out of your life, but also if you keep them in your life, things are only gonna get worse, either for you or for both. This happened to me once, gladly I managed that out.
0:06 I paused the vid to read, and as I got through the second paragraph, the letters started waving again! While the vid was still paused! Pretty neat
On one side I feel so bad for you having to have this experience on the other hand the other the kid was homeschooled and that is a fate worse than death itself like no wonder why he was like that, not that boys that go to school can't be like this but at least they tend to have friends and more distractions like school projects and tests. I think this is the old if you not liking the person just block them this can feel mean and unfair but in the end your mental health is more important and blocking someone rarely affects them more than they feeling hurt for some hours/days
8:59 Omggg i’ve felt this kind of relief b4, i had a superslidel “friend” on discord, we used to stay on calls for seven to nine hours and say nothing (on mute), and overall they were just acting like a pick me, “I’m so sad…” “Can we call…?”and they have told me they loved me several times in a srs way, like: YOU DONT EVEN KNOW ME??? And then one time they sent me a link of, and i’m not making this up, DEAD BODIES. anyways i blocked them because i’m too young to be dealing with that stuff
Can’t believe I used to act similar to this guy. Glad I’ve both woken up and done some growing up since. Wish I could apologize to all the past friends I’ve burdened with that but no use in crying over spilled milk. Haven’t really seen your channel before or anything from story time animators, but this was a very funny and entertaining video!
not quite the same, but my older brother has no access to therapy right now, and he has literally zero friends and is unsure of how to get good ones after getting burned really bad in high school, so when he's having one of his really bad days, I'm his only outlet. I do my best but there's only so much energy I can devote to his problems. setting boundaries and sticking to them is really important in situations like this. tough skill to learn, but sometimes you gotta be firm about needing time and space to yourself. The therapist is entitled to be out sometimes.
i was a stuart in the past, and i really look at this moments as a huge step for me to grow up people need to think how the other person feels, don't be manipulative and dependent with people, y'all won't win anything with it and those things will stay with you for a while don't be assholes
man i get this so much. i have a friend who i haven’t seen since SECOND GRADE (im in HS now) and all he really does is rant about things he likes in paragraphs in my dms. i don’t really have any common ground with him and he’s homophobic and im gay but every time i think about saying anything i feel bad cause he was homeschooled and doesn’t really have any friends.
The "loverboy" in the title made me think this would go in a very different direction ("loverboy" is a human trafficking scam which involves making someone fall in love with you to manipulate them). But I was once a "therapist friend" and it was draining. My friend would always vent at me about stuff, never moving on from his issues for years. He would also snap at me about made-up problems and never apologize for it. Unfortunately, I had a crush on him (I'm a guy and he's not into men, so I had no chance) which blinded me to how toxic this behavior was. It hurt a lot to do so, but I felt so much better after breaking things off with him.
This is so funny to me, me being someone who is happily dating and living with a person who I got to know through discord in 2017 It really do be like that sometimes
I have ran into situations with people like this a very few times. I haven't spoken to these people for several months and we only talked for like 5 minutes before. Then one day they all of a sudden Dm me doing this whole trauma dump, and saying there going to do terrible things. They talked about sensitive topics in a very unsensitive way, which ticked me off because I was a victim of that topic and they were throwing it around and splashing a joke about it here and there like they were lying about it for attention, like it was nothing. They didn't know I was also a victim of such things, but besides that, you shouldn't show up in a strangers DMs, tell them serious horrid things out of no where, then treat it like its some kind of joke. Also what do people expect me to say to them, most of the time when I try to comfort or give helpful advice, they always shoot me down, and try to make the situation sadder. WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME?!!? If your looking for help, don't go seeking for it just to refuse it, by then it just becomes very attention seeking, and that's a great way to get blocked or cut off connections. I have been through hardship and I don't let it hold me back. I improved and move forward, all my fears are well in the past, and can no longer hurt me. I have a big friend group of around to 7 people, were all very caring to each other. If things happened to me, I would give them updates, but never in a manner that I try to bring down the mood of everyone else. I take there advice and they have also came around to help me. I make it clear when I'm seeking help or just letting them know what's currently going on just in case I would need help later on. I have also helped them in the past. A very short example was when one of my friends in the group got covid and there food delivery was very poor quality. They would often get food that would expire soon, or they were missing core things like eggs, milk, bread. It was hard for are friend to make decent meals, so they told us about it and we offered to deliver a care package at their doorstep. A hand full of us went to a store and asked are sick friend what kind of food they like. They gave us a general list and we went shopping. We had several boxes of all kinds of food dropped off at their door. They were so thankful. Obviously a situation like this wont happen or work if its online friends all over the world, but it is what it is.
I almost became like stuart. I was messaging girls left and right on Discord until something snapped in me without the whole arguement or anything. It was a simple "Am I being creepy? This one is obviously not interested and maybe i should just live my life. Yeah that sounds like a good plan. With me and my friends, just hanging out." Now i treat everyone i meet like my friend, including girl's. I'm very glad to know that being creepy isn't gonna lead me anywhere in life, except restraining orders and "stop talking to me" and oh yeah most importantly PRISON! The friend life is the way in my book.
Something that took me a few relationships to realize as a guy is this 10:28. When you are a guy who doesn't get a lot of positive words from the people around you (which is sadly like 80% of us), its hard to know when a girl is just being polite or actually has feelings for you, especially because girls are conditioned to be nice to everyone for their own safety. It kinda sucks, but to turn this into advice: Girls, just say "You are making me uncomfortable, please stop, i don't want to be in a relationship with you" straight to someone, especially if you don't feel threatened and if they keep pushing just block them. I got blocked once by a girl and that really opened my eyes to not be an idiot. And Guys, if she says no, stop. And if you get blocked, reflect on what you could have done to deserve that. Anyway, grandpa mode done.
Thank you for this video, we need to have more Stewart awareness for those who haven't been trapped by a situation like this yet and for those who currently are.
My ex girlfriend was like stuart. She would constantly text me and try to get me to forgive her cheating on me. She sent paragraphs upon paragraphs of how she was the victim. She claimed that "YoU dOnt spend tim with MeE" when I'm still sixteen, and working 40 hours a week. I got irritated, snapped, and I yelled at her, and called it quits. So...yeah... Sorry for the load of garbage I just typed. Had to get it out there.
I was a bad online friend for a long time. I removed myself from all those spaces and been reflecting on my actions and realizing why they were wrong. I am sorry to anyone on either side of that kind of friendship bc its truly not fun for either party. I wish more mental health resources were available to people especially young people. When you are young and going through mental issues its so easy to wake up one morning and realize you have been a monster for years. People shouldnt have to go through that. I hope anyone struggling in friendships like this knows that it will get better if we as a society can learn how to take care of ourselves rather than perpetuating the idea that other people can cure our inner pain.
A good friend of mine went through something similar recently in a relationship, at least starting from when Stuart started flirting with you. Some of which I sort of witnessed first hand. Among another experience or two I've had online, stuff like this is why I don't get online dating and think it's more risk than it's worth (though I'm also speaking as someone with no dating experience, but I can't be alone on this, right?). On another note, one thing I've had to learn and am still learning is the fact that wanting/trying to be there for a friend when they're in need or feeling down is totally fine and even expected, but you can't tear yourself up over what you can't control.
I had a Stuart in my life though it was more a friend thing where they wanted me to be with em all day everyday, luckily I was able to get out of it. Also I can’t get over that Stuart Little was used in this- That movie horrified me as a kid lol, just the uncanny smile of that mouse makes me shiver.. Hopefully Stuarts watching this learns something to not be a Stuart
Tbh, discord people are hit and miss, had waayyy too many people who just refused to get better and i just felt stuck and drained and felt the need to put all of my emotional battery into a paragraph, he feels better (or not) then the cycle continues days later. To be honest all people need is to be self aware or have acess to more friends
Yeah, been in the same place you were in, except they might of been actively wanted to manipulate me. Upside, my stress response is become turtle. Which, had them get more agressive towards me, which only made the turtleing worse for them. still suffered way to long in that relationship, but oh well. you jut got to learn the hard way some times
This happened to me as an adult and the two people who broke up had so much drama after breaking up it wasn't even funny. I'm glad I'm not past of the close friend group. OMG, it's still like High Scool even when you get out of it. smh Things are better now. ❤
I was very relieved to hear them blocking you was the end of the story. That's a very good outcome honestly, I hear of it escalating much worse than that. Thanks for sharing your story, I've been in a situation where they needed me to be a Stuart and it was therapeutic to hear this alternative version of the same unhealthy relationship dependency.
I think this is a coming of age thing for all afabs (or even just outwardly nice people) who grew up on the internet. something similar happened to me and it ended up getting bad. remember that you are the steward (pun unintentional) of your own time and you owe nothing to anyone. the block button can be a fantastic tool in cases like this, as can being direct. "You are making me uncomfortable" is a valid thing to say. Boundary setting is an important thing to learn early, as it can have a huge impact later in life.
I've been watching so many videos about other people's messed up online friendships today - it's so nostalgic but also therapeutic as a teenager in the mid-late 00s who was SO AFRAID to draw boundaries with people i met online and got taken advantage of as a result.
WHY DO I RELATE WITH THIS, i had a friend like this where i would try to comfort them as much as possible but they sometimes kept acting weird and somehow dont realize it, all of my friends had also weird experiences with them and blocked them everywhere, but i felt so bad for them because they seem nice and just really mentally ill, and tbh i relate to them on some level so i couldnt just leave them, but then there would be some massive breakdown where they would hint at either ending themselves or how they felt like nobody loved them and then me trying to comfort them and then they instantly turn a 360 and say that they know they're loved and they're living a normal happy life and get confused over why i was comforting them, BRO LITERALLY VENTED TO ME ABT HIS ISSUES LIKE 5 MINUTES BEFORE WDYMMMM, and it became so frustrating having someone who wont just accept your friendship or help and push you away, in the end they did this abt 3-4 times before i gave up and just blocked and avoided, they seem to have other friends which was nice and i do hope they get better.
I feel its normal to feel temporary sadness of not finding love yet or having a breakup but... woah there my guy please try to think of the beauty in life a tiny but more maybe? idk but focusing on that a ton isnt healthy and probably made him feel worse about his problems. Im glad you ended it with him
This video reminded me of my bad experiences in highschool days which i won't go to detail. I glad you ended the friendship, it can creepy at times and emotionally draining. I have a feeling that they just manipulated you and using you as therapist.
Good and entertaining story. And the moral is good too. Everyone will be cringe at some point, it happens. But try not to be, and try to learn from other people’s past mistakes, as well as your own, of course. Also, break-ups can be hard. Especially your first one(s). And especially if you’re young and have yet to realise how much life and opportunity is in the world and ahead of you. I am remembering this quote: “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” - Winston Churchill Keep going so you can get out of Hell and to a better place. You can’t change how much a break-up hurts and sucks. And taking some time to process it is also fine. But at some point, you can and should *choose* to try and move on. Sure, having a partner may have been the best thing to ever happen to you. And while we all have probably heard the “There’s plenty of fish in the sea.” There’s also the “if it happened once, it can happen again.” But you just need to go chase the opportunity again, just like you did the first time. But also, moving on from a break-up is difficult. And while working on yourself is good and important advice. I would first suggest focusing on other good things in life. If you still have other good things in life aside from your ex-partner, focus on those! If you don’t, go get some! Treat yourself! Buy ice cream, go to a movie, play a game, read a book, or most ideally - hang out or be active with good family or friends. Use every not harmful tool at your disposal to escape your funk! So you can focus more on what’s good instead of what’s bad (or that one big bad). It’s definitely not easy, but you can do it! Just try your best to not give up and keep yourself from negative spiralling. And if you fail, that’s okay too! Just take a moment, and get ready to try again. Your next partner(s) are out there waiting for you right now. ;p
When you consistently show care when someones at their lowest and they continue to not improve or take advantage of the opportunity, its often shown that the relationship turns toxic rather fast and if not fast, then it will be quiet burning.
this is very much giving trauma.. to the point i am very wary of talking to ppl, esp when they're super vulnerable. i mean dont got me wrong, ill help but ill definitely give a few reality checks once in a while
I'll be honest I couldn't have been patient enough with Stuart to go without dragging him across hot coals HARD I try to be supportive and nice as much as possible but if I notice that being taken advantage of like you were here, I put that crap down immediately
How do i get secondhand embarrassment from situations ive seen play out like 20 times. Im the sort of curious person to join dating and c0rn servers just to talk to the people, this is like tuesday for me and yet this video hit the cringe note. Good iob, wow person.
I had never noticed the stray blob of pixels that are attached to the same png as Sad Stuart (around 3 minutes in, you can see it wobbling at the same time as him, to his left)
I was that kind of person last year I mean my story is a bit more complicated and dramatic and honestly feeling this way is so damn HARD AGH 💀 Gl to every stuart out there!!
Some people just don't know how to interact with others. Over the years, I've come to learn that being kind usually just digs a deeper hole... if there's a problem, it's better to be honest about it. How they respond to your honesty is up to them.
Went from "Aww, poor guy" to "AUGH THE SECONDHAND EMBARRASSMENT"
Stuart's post-breakup behavior reminds me of how I acted back in middle school, I was pretty creepy and desperate for a relationship. Hope Stuart grew out of that phase
No fr I was gonna say RIP Stuart until the rest happened 😭
I was the same why brah
Literally it’s a phase like the second ur in a relationship u realize it’s not all sunshine and rainbows and happy everyday
"New boyfriend she would talk too on discord" mmm yeah i can already see where this is going
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On discord, any kind of relationship other than little internet friendship have the potential to get really toxic
@Juniper_Wippersnache as long as you know how to stay safe, yes
this goes for every relationship wether online or not tbh lol. it all relies on maturity of the individuals
me n my ex who I was forced to date fr🔥🔥
The "age doesn't bother me" is verrrrryyyyy concerning
after he called you beautiful i started to understand why kitty broke up with him
AS SOON AS HE SAID BEAUTIFUL , I knew all hell was gonna break loose 😂😭
You were not his friend, you were his psychologist, never stablish a helper x victim relashionship with a stranger
I can't believe Stuart from the hit movie "Stuart Little" would use discord and online date. Truly a fallen star...
I had a Stuart phase myself after my first break-up to be honest. I had a very similar mentality, combined with the same circumstances of no access to therapy, not really supportive parents, and even though I did go to school I rarely hanged out with almost anyone outside of it (ever). So witnessing this whole thing is second hand embarrassment on another level.
EDIT: Dear god, it gets worse.
EDIT 2: HOW DID IT GET EVEN WORSE.
A “STUART PHASE” I’m DEAD 😭
I also got something similar going on, and I regret so much for bein like that
I'm glad I already got a poggers boyfriend who doesn't use emotions to manipulate me. It's the bare minimum, but whatever.
shocking how the lowest bar, the bare minimum is so rare and valuable
good for you, susie deltarune.
sussie deldababunbanbneune
You know It’s a good day when Wowza uploads
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Wow, if I had a nickle for every time I saw wowza made a video featuring a talking rat, I’d have two nickels. Which isn’t a lot, but it’s weird that it happened twice
stuart little is a mouse, if mice count pikachu makes it three
when can we stop with this "it's weird that it happened twice" reference it's getting so old
@@wigwagstudios2474phineas and ferb is getting old too 😡
@@chappellroanmemesno no it's not don't you say that about my favorite cartoon (/j ik it's old)
tbh I think the jokes hold up tho especially from doofenshmirtz, or maybe it's just the nostalgia talking
@@klutzykaya6439 noo it’s my fav show too I swear idk if it’s a hyperfixation but I’ve loved it for years
Online relationships (not just romantic btw) DO NOT have to be so taxing. A lot of people need to hear this, because I needed to in the past, and in a way I still do. An online friendship shouldn't be just getting a message when the other is having a breakdown, with you only distracting them and never truly helping them get better, and doing nothing else of substance in the relationship. You can be the one doing this, obviously, and you need to evaluate that for yourself. Instead of that type of friendship, it's so much better when you're doing calls just to play Kahoot and laugh your asses off, or when you're excitedly ranting about a new hobby you picked up. I have two online friends who I've been close to for more than a year now but I'm only now really realizing how important they are to me. They know each other as well, and we've planned a big series of calls to just do whatever and have fun. We do help each other out when we're feeling down because we want to see each other be okay but that is in no way the focus of our friendships. This isn't because we have perfect mental health and don't get as sad as most others or whatever. We just feel happy around each other, so comfort during bad times isn't the only/main situation in which we try to talk to each other. They are probably the best friends I've ever had online, and they are the people I'm closest to in general right now. I hope all of you guys can have friends as good as those, because every single one of you deserves it. Btw, irl relationships can get bad in the same way that I've talked about but with irl relationships at least you can get a _way_ better gauge of how much your relationship is benefitting both of you.
I def needed to hear this. Ty
Going through weird mental things, and the video and this comment honestly helped me understand it all better
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@@demosuarusyt3227 ok
@@leofrun thank you for acknowledging me, I Feed off of that (I’m being serious)
As someone who went to highschool at one point, I can say that having a teenage boy thirst after you, especially one who’s from a rocky background and isn’t the best student, is both one of the most charming, yet skin-crawlingly disturbing feelings in the world.
In my sophomore year, I dated a boy from a very broken JW background named Dave for a month who constantly told me he wanted to marry and have children with me, kept his eyes completely open whenever we kissed, and cried because I got my hair cut short because it “made me lose my feminine beauty”. He also broke down in tears when I came out to him as bisexual on the phone and explained to him that I wanted to have my tubes tied as an adult.
I don’t know where poor little Dave is now. He could be a Tibetan monk or a resident of Point Nemo for all I know.
Edit: My favorite scenes in Stuart Little are when Stuart nearly drowns in the washing machine and when he gets bullied by the funny cat voiced by Nathan Lane.
Currently going through computer hell and just came back from a mental break down, I really needed this
Hope it gets better soon
@@placeholderdoe I just dropped it off at bestbuy
@@Crystreyay
Update: I got it back and it’s working with all the data in tack. Turns out the issue was the drive being bad, which is mainly due to me TODAY finding out I’ve been turning off my computer wrong, after 8 years…
One word: limerence. A lot of people struggle with it but the term hasn't spread widely enough yet. It's basically what's happened here; a debilitating fixation on the person you're in love with to the point that you're existentially not okay if they aren't around or responding the way you want them to. It's really hard to be rational with it as the feelings that come with it are disproportionate to reality (e.g. feeling euphoric or filled with despair the whole day after just one text message). It's often born out of trauma or really low self-esteem, so it often takes therapy to overcome. Time may make it less intense, but usually time isn't the answer at all as a limerence is able to last as long as it has fuel or depending on the sort of pedestal the person has put their "beloved" on (so like decades). Some people are able to keep the feelings to themselves and just sort of wither away inside while others openly express it and hurt others. I had it for over a decade before realizing how much of my life it was stealing. It transfers from person to person so that it always seems like "the One" is just around the corner when it's really this demon of a disorder taunting you. It's hard to get out of but not impossible. Awareness is the first step.
Maybe this is a well known thing, but I post this anyway: If you cringe at behaviour of your past self that means you have improved and already are a better version of yourself now! :)
thanks for that lol
Bro was probably getting groomed by older women and that’s so sad to me. Hope he’s in a better place now, and I’ve definitely dealt w actual creeps that acted like him before so I feel you on that end.
I must admit, the part from 4:35 to 5:02 (including the 'you have your whole life ahead of you' segment) really uplifted my mood. Lately, I've been dealing with a recent breakup with a guy who I thought was my reason to live and my everything. He made so many promises: a good future, good treatment, and basically everything I could wish for, including his love to me no matter what. Yet, he ended up dumping me just five months later.
As time goes on, I'm slowly realizing that it's probably better this way. He was incredibly neglectful towards me, lied about practically everything, and even ignored me for days (knowing it would lead me to mental breakdowns and panic attacks, which it did, multiple times) before finally breaking up with me.
Though I still miss him to some extent, I'm also relieved that bastard's gone from my life.
You’ll get through this!
@@placeholderdoe tysmm
I had a similar experience with my ex-girlfriend who I was with for about two years. I'm long over what happened now, but that segment made me feel a little better too. I know this comment is a little old, but I hope you're doing better these days and know you've got a bright future ahead of you.
@@hurpdederp glad you’re better from it now, remember you probably have more than half your life ahead of you. Wishing you well
@@hurpdederp thanksss
Yup, i definitely see where this is going....these type of guys are the reason why i dropped most of the social media ,i shouldn't feel responsible or guilty for your mental state.And guys say most girls are emotionally draining ,but damn these were on a whole other lvl...still i hope they changed this whole charade of "off little poor me with no emotional girly to support me that i can also hope i will date someday🥺👉👈💕" 💀
I swear to god mine were never 16 like stuart ,they were either 25 or 30....never spoke to them but jeez beggining for mental health and advice from a 14 year old girl on FB really says a lot abt them....
I can relate to this since I've always been that one friend who you could vent to, especially cause I always felt shitty when they had nobody to talk with about their problems, like parents or even friends.
But I've also had many experiences where they kept exchanging that affection and support that I was giving for...love (None of them ever saw my face either), which then results in them feeling even more shitty cause you're not interested or are already in a relationship.
But when I think about it, I really don't regret at least trying to make them feel better and support them whenever they needed a shoulder to lean on, I'm so happy I've managed to help a few old friends of mine with their struggles and overall remove some burdens. Of course with some it didn't work out but at the end of the day I just gave them a little push, the rest was up to them to figure out.
I also went through what Wowza did in few instances where it was so mentally draining, that all the frustration and anger piled up to the point of having an argument, sometimes because they've been at it for months and only ever talk to you when they're feeling down, while not showing progress of them getting better.
Still though, if you've got a friend who's going through stuff, try to cheer them up a bit and show that you're there for them, that they're not alone.
Of course you don't have to if you don't want the responsibility or are afraid to make it worse, but just casually chatting can seriously help someone take their mind off things and yknow, just have a nice day with their friend.
You're a hero! May good karma come to u.
As an aroace person it's honestly my worst nightmare for someone to use me and disrespect my boundaries in that way. (Thankfully it has never happened to me though)
Also, as someone who is homeschooled I can understand the isolation he feels, but even then I would never do the things he does and it's simply not an excuse for it.
Yo, Stuart: Clinging to people like a remora isn't good for you, and sometimes time away from friends or partner is just what was needed. It gives you time to think about things and how you want the relationship to go moving forward. It also gives you time to enjoy yourself and do things that *you* as an individual like to do. While it's good to be able to rely on your partner for emotional support, it's equally important to remember your partner needs space and to give her it when she needs it. She still cares, she just needs time to herself. And when she's back, she'll appreciate your company even more.
When you're feeling lonely and are worried someone hasn't gotten back to you, think about why them not getting back to you is affecting you so much. You'll come to realize the reason you're scared is because of something in the past that is entirely unrelated to your friend or partner. Once you come to realize that it'll be a lot easier to do stuff for yourself. I know it's lonely being homeschooled. There were points in my life where I went totally reclusive and it was painful. The feelings of not belonging and the idea that nobody cares about you is horrible. It's no wonder you'd hold on to any relationship you can so tightly. A lot of people have gone through what you're going through and eventually made it to the other side. Even if you take longer to get there, that's fine. It gets better. Just remember you're an individual and it's going to be okay.
Classic manipulation, if you're in a similar situation, cut contact asap.
i had a poor time with a toxic online friend; it went basically the same way, where in the end she blocked me. I was hysterical at first bc even though it was toxic i still missed her a lot - but now I've realized how much I've changed; I've been more productive, I've been spending more time with family and going places instead of staying in my room and on my phone. I realize I'm still young and I have my whole life ahead of me. This situation gave me experience and ridded me of an addiction I didnt even realize I had. Making friends will be harder now but I'm optimistic. I'm glad the issue resolved itself for you, and I hope Stuart is doing better now too :)
Love how you reuse assets and build a whole ass wowza universe, the happy bloke from past uploads on the bus bg... ahh the little things...
i hate online guys like this they make me so uncomfy ☹️☹️☹️ sorry you hsd to go thru it, it's always taxing to deal with these kinds of ppl (ur a better person than i am i would've blocked his ass without a second thought 💀)
This happens when we have 0 relationship/sex ed and talking about this stuff is taboo or you will get laughed at by "the boys tm" or have media discussing these topics and how to act in an okay way and even then that can be dismissed and parents would just call it grooming or whatever.
When saying the Beautiful part.
It took a second for me to realize that record scratch was real, and not just my own brain imagining it as that is exactly the sound I imagined in that moment. 😂
I had a friend like this. She was not trying to be romantic with me but she was venting to me daily about the most unimportant issues and complained if I didn't answer immediately to make her feel better :/ she started posting very conspiratorial stuff (covid was caused by the government for example) and that gave me an excuse to block her
Your storytelling format is so entertaining, love from Argentina!
knowing when and where to set boundaries is always important
Meowskivich! Hello, m8!
@@Misack8 howdy howdy
Not that easy
I once was on a group with weird toxic friends. One Time they maked me cried so I left, but one of the group member reached out and talked to me. Then out of nowhere asked me to play truth or dare... Then he dared me to tell him that I liked him.. And then send the screenshot TO THE FUCKING GROUP THAT I WAS CRYING ABOUT LIKE 5 MINUTES AGO WTF
Humans are a cruel species
never fall in love with a little fella named stuart.
Jokes on everyone, I don’t feel romantic attraction :3
This same thing has happened to me and it's SO awkward. I relate SO MUCH to the "he's sad -> i comfort him -> he gets better -> he flirts with me -> i tell him no -> he's sad" loop in special. It was so hard to get out of it because I never want to hurt anyone's feelings, but that kind of stuff is so taxing emotionally, it genuinely sucks
I also feel really bad for people like Stu. :( People like him typically are so alone they'll cling onto anyone who's nice to them, which is probably why he was hitting on you without even knowing what you look like. It's really creepy (saying from experience) but also really sad at the same time.
You know, while you were commenting "oh this is boring, oh should I even be making this", I was already thinking "WOW this is really well-done! This person is funny as hell."
So like. Yeah. It was good!!
This gave me 2nd-hand embarrassment and memories of being on skype as a young teen.
I hope he grew out of it like I did.
I was always very possessive over friends I had online, and even now i still struggle with it; now Im 20 and I've been dating a guy I've known online for 5 1/2 years, so thats one good thing that came out of it.
Life always gets better when you escape a cringe phase.
I actually feel bad for him as well based on your story he’s showing signs of either bipolar or autism which I have.
"I was so scared of being a bad friend that I trapped myself in an emotionally draining relationship." Im currently in a friendship where Im the one having to put up with having been dependent on, so this video is really appreciated. If distancing is all I can so then im going for it man. Thanks.
The way he was acting towards you could be why Kitty broke up with him
If he was homeschooled then.. I kinda understand why he was the way he was..
He had nobody with him actually, idk if his family was that caring too.. maybe when Kitty started to be his gf he feelt loved for the first time and that's why it took him so long to move on.. and when you showed care, he had a "crush" on you...
It happens to me too, not in that way anymore but when someone shows a little bit of care towards me I feel like I want to be with that person forever (in a platonic way)
Idk how to fix that shit tho, I hope I can get help soon lol
New raccoon story, goooood!
And, i guess a lot of people can relate to the absolute, horrible. Disaster, burning trash pile that is online relationships, trying to understand and communicate things through text is...kinda hard sometimes, and it's even worse when it gets misunderstood.
It works sometimes, and sometimes it goes SO HORRIBLY WRONG if you dont stop it as soon as it starts to go wrong
So stay safe all you wonderful people out there, and value urself.
(Amazing video as always)
Others problems should not become yours. I know the saying "put others before yourself," but if that means that you'll be unhappy, don't. And honestly online relationships of any kind are not supposed to be a responsibility. If you don't like someone, don't hang out with them. Theres absolutely no shame in cutting anybody off, just dont be mean about it.
I don't think we should shame him for not caring about being with older people because often it's a sign of something awful going on in their life.
Thank God I wasn't this type of mentality when I first met my GF online.
We're still together for almost 9ish years and we've both grown a lot from this experience~
Oh damn
Same
I kinda related to this story. I mean not the part of people getting into me and i don't like that, i mean the part of being hard to "let people go". Sometimes I accidentally become friends with people that I don't even like in the first place, and even though our friendship has gone well in the beginning, that person simply starts to get... annoying, i mean they haven't done anything necessarily bad but i just didn't vibe with the person and found them quite annoying, we simply didn't connect. And when that happens, it's kind of hard to cut off that friendship, because you seem like the villain, the other person haven't done anything wrong and you simply cut them out of your life, but also if you keep them in your life, things are only gonna get worse, either for you or for both.
This happened to me once, gladly I managed that out.
0:06 I paused the vid to read, and as I got through the second paragraph, the letters started waving again! While the vid was still paused! Pretty neat
"online boyfriend"
*Somethings wrong, i can feel it*
1:02 This feels weirdly right. Like I only know these characters for a minute but they fit all their roles.
This gives me flashbacks. I had some guy like that in middle school
watching this video slowly become a horror story is terrifying
On one side I feel so bad for you having to have this experience on the other hand the other the kid was homeschooled and that is a fate worse than death itself like no wonder why he was like that, not that boys that go to school can't be like this but at least they tend to have friends and more distractions like school projects and tests.
I think this is the old if you not liking the person just block them this can feel mean and unfair but in the end your mental health is more important and blocking someone rarely affects them more than they feeling hurt for some hours/days
8:59 Omggg i’ve felt this kind of relief b4, i had a superslidel “friend” on discord, we used to stay on calls for seven to nine hours and say nothing (on mute), and overall they were just acting like a pick me, “I’m so sad…” “Can we call…?”and they have told me they loved me several times in a srs way, like: YOU DONT EVEN KNOW ME??? And then one time they sent me a link of, and i’m not making this up, DEAD BODIES. anyways i blocked them because i’m too young to be dealing with that stuff
Can’t believe I used to act similar to this guy. Glad I’ve both woken up and done some growing up since. Wish I could apologize to all the past friends I’ve burdened with that but no use in crying over spilled milk. Haven’t really seen your channel before or anything from story time animators, but this was a very funny and entertaining video!
not quite the same, but my older brother has no access to therapy right now, and he has literally zero friends and is unsure of how to get good ones after getting burned really bad in high school, so when he's having one of his really bad days, I'm his only outlet. I do my best but there's only so much energy I can devote to his problems. setting boundaries and sticking to them is really important in situations like this. tough skill to learn, but sometimes you gotta be firm about needing time and space to yourself. The therapist is entitled to be out sometimes.
i was a stuart in the past, and i really look at this moments as a huge step for me to grow up
people need to think how the other person feels, don't be manipulative and dependent with people, y'all won't win anything with it and those things will stay with you for a while
don't be assholes
I've had some Stuart's in my life. Remember: No means no!
man i get this so much. i have a friend who i haven’t seen since SECOND GRADE (im in HS now) and all he really does is rant about things he likes in paragraphs in my dms. i don’t really have any common ground with him and he’s homophobic and im gay but every time i think about saying anything i feel bad cause he was homeschooled and doesn’t really have any friends.
The "loverboy" in the title made me think this would go in a very different direction ("loverboy" is a human trafficking scam which involves making someone fall in love with you to manipulate them).
But I was once a "therapist friend" and it was draining. My friend would always vent at me about stuff, never moving on from his issues for years. He would also snap at me about made-up problems and never apologize for it. Unfortunately, I had a crush on him (I'm a guy and he's not into men, so I had no chance) which blinded me to how toxic this behavior was. It hurt a lot to do so, but I felt so much better after breaking things off with him.
stuart really reminds me of my friends ex. he would constantly panic when she didnt respond in 2 minutes
This is so funny to me, me being someone who is happily dating and living with a person who I got to know through discord in 2017
It really do be like that sometimes
Racoon story telling is funny storytelling.
I have ran into situations with people like this a very few times. I haven't spoken to these people for several months and we only talked for like 5 minutes before. Then one day they all of a sudden Dm me doing this whole trauma dump, and saying there going to do terrible things. They talked about sensitive topics in a very unsensitive way, which ticked me off because I was a victim of that topic and they were throwing it around and splashing a joke about it here and there like they were lying about it for attention, like it was nothing. They didn't know I was also a victim of such things, but besides that, you shouldn't show up in a strangers DMs, tell them serious horrid things out of no where, then treat it like its some kind of joke. Also what do people expect me to say to them, most of the time when I try to comfort or give helpful advice, they always shoot me down, and try to make the situation sadder. WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME?!!?
If your looking for help, don't go seeking for it just to refuse it, by then it just becomes very attention seeking, and that's a great way to get blocked or cut off connections. I have been through hardship and I don't let it hold me back. I improved and move forward, all my fears are well in the past, and can no longer hurt me. I have a big friend group of around to 7 people, were all very caring to each other. If things happened to me, I would give them updates, but never in a manner that I try to bring down the mood of everyone else. I take there advice and they have also came around to help me. I make it clear when I'm seeking help or just letting them know what's currently going on just in case I would need help later on. I have also helped them in the past.
A very short example was when one of my friends in the group got covid and there food delivery was very poor quality. They would often get food that would expire soon, or they were missing core things like eggs, milk, bread. It was hard for are friend to make decent meals, so they told us about it and we offered to deliver a care package at their doorstep. A hand full of us went to a store and asked are sick friend what kind of food they like. They gave us a general list and we went shopping. We had several boxes of all kinds of food dropped off at their door. They were so thankful. Obviously a situation like this wont happen or work if its online friends all over the world, but it is what it is.
I almost became like stuart. I was messaging girls left and right on Discord until something snapped in me without the whole arguement or anything. It was a simple "Am I being creepy? This one is obviously not interested and maybe i should just live my life. Yeah that sounds like a good plan. With me and my friends, just hanging out."
Now i treat everyone i meet like my friend, including girl's. I'm very glad to know that being creepy isn't gonna lead me anywhere in life, except restraining orders and "stop talking to me" and oh yeah most importantly PRISON!
The friend life is the way in my book.
LOL THE DISCORD NAME BEING "LIL STU" 😭
Loneliness has become an epidemic that is going to be really hard to get rid of
Something that took me a few relationships to realize as a guy is this 10:28.
When you are a guy who doesn't get a lot of positive words from the people around you (which is sadly like 80% of us), its hard to know when a girl is just being polite or actually has feelings for you, especially because girls are conditioned to be nice to everyone for their own safety.
It kinda sucks, but to turn this into advice:
Girls, just say "You are making me uncomfortable, please stop, i don't want to be in a relationship with you" straight to someone, especially if you don't feel threatened and if they keep pushing just block them. I got blocked once by a girl and that really opened my eyes to not be an idiot.
And Guys, if she says no, stop. And if you get blocked, reflect on what you could have done to deserve that.
Anyway, grandpa mode done.
Thank you for this video, we need to have more Stewart awareness for those who haven't been trapped by a situation like this yet and for those who currently are.
My ex girlfriend was like stuart. She would constantly text me and try to get me to forgive her cheating on me. She sent paragraphs upon paragraphs of how she was the victim. She claimed that "YoU dOnt spend tim with MeE" when I'm still sixteen, and working 40 hours a week. I got irritated, snapped, and I yelled at her, and called it quits. So...yeah...
Sorry for the load of garbage I just typed. Had to get it out there.
as someone who went through discord hell i approve
I was a bad online friend for a long time. I removed myself from all those spaces and been reflecting on my actions and realizing why they were wrong. I am sorry to anyone on either side of that kind of friendship bc its truly not fun for either party. I wish more mental health resources were available to people especially young people. When you are young and going through mental issues its so easy to wake up one morning and realize you have been a monster for years. People shouldnt have to go through that.
I hope anyone struggling in friendships like this knows that it will get better if we as a society can learn how to take care of ourselves rather than perpetuating the idea that other people can cure our inner pain.
that became a horror story rather quickly
A good friend of mine went through something similar recently in a relationship, at least starting from when Stuart started flirting with you. Some of which I sort of witnessed first hand. Among another experience or two I've had online, stuff like this is why I don't get online dating and think it's more risk than it's worth (though I'm also speaking as someone with no dating experience, but I can't be alone on this, right?).
On another note, one thing I've had to learn and am still learning is the fact that wanting/trying to be there for a friend when they're in need or feeling down is totally fine and even expected, but you can't tear yourself up over what you can't control.
Youre just a good storyteller regardless, kept me hooked the entire time ngl
I had a Stuart in my life though it was more a friend thing where they wanted me to be with em all day everyday, luckily I was able to get out of it.
Also I can’t get over that Stuart Little was used in this- That movie horrified me as a kid lol, just the uncanny smile of that mouse makes me shiver..
Hopefully Stuarts watching this learns something to not be a Stuart
Tbh, discord people are hit and miss, had waayyy too many people who just refused to get better and i just felt stuck and drained and felt the need to put all of my emotional battery into a paragraph, he feels better (or not) then the cycle continues days later.
To be honest all people need is to be self aware or have acess to more friends
Yeah, been in the same place you were in, except they might of been actively wanted to manipulate me. Upside, my stress response is become turtle. Which, had them get more agressive towards me, which only made the turtleing worse for them. still suffered way to long in that relationship, but oh well. you jut got to learn the hard way some times
Your story-telling gets better with each video. :3c
This happened to me as an adult and the two people who broke up had so much drama after breaking up it wasn't even funny. I'm glad I'm not past of the close friend group. OMG, it's still like High Scool even when you get out of it. smh Things are better now. ❤
Even if the resolutions aren't "satisfying" I promise these are still incredibly entertaining and, at least for me, very relatable
All problems start from discord i swear
I was very relieved to hear them blocking you was the end of the story. That's a very good outcome honestly, I hear of it escalating much worse than that.
Thanks for sharing your story, I've been in a situation where they needed me to be a Stuart and it was therapeutic to hear this alternative version of the same unhealthy relationship dependency.
I have unfortunately had the displeasure of having a similar experience 😭😭😭😭
I love your videos, I only wish they were longer 😪😪
I think this is a coming of age thing for all afabs (or even just outwardly nice people) who grew up on the internet. something similar happened to me and it ended up getting bad. remember that you are the steward (pun unintentional) of your own time and you owe nothing to anyone.
the block button can be a fantastic tool in cases like this, as can being direct. "You are making me uncomfortable" is a valid thing to say. Boundary setting is an important thing to learn early, as it can have a huge impact later in life.
ye.
I've been watching so many videos about other people's messed up online friendships today - it's so nostalgic but also therapeutic as a teenager in the mid-late 00s who was SO AFRAID to draw boundaries with people i met online and got taken advantage of as a result.
WHY DO I RELATE WITH THIS, i had a friend like this where i would try to comfort them as much as possible but they sometimes kept acting weird and somehow dont realize it, all of my friends had also weird experiences with them and blocked them everywhere, but i felt so bad for them because they seem nice and just really mentally ill, and tbh i relate to them on some level so i couldnt just leave them, but then there would be some massive breakdown where they would hint at either ending themselves or how they felt like nobody loved them and then me trying to comfort them and then they instantly turn a 360 and say that they know they're loved and they're living a normal happy life and get confused over why i was comforting them, BRO LITERALLY VENTED TO ME ABT HIS ISSUES LIKE 5 MINUTES BEFORE WDYMMMM, and it became so frustrating having someone who wont just accept your friendship or help and push you away, in the end they did this abt 3-4 times before i gave up and just blocked and avoided, they seem to have other friends which was nice and i do hope they get better.
I feel its normal to feel temporary sadness of not finding love yet or having a breakup but... woah there my guy please try to think of the beauty in life a tiny but more maybe? idk but focusing on that a ton isnt healthy and probably made him feel worse about his problems.
Im glad you ended it with him
This video reminded me of my bad experiences in highschool days which i won't go to detail. I glad you ended the friendship, it can creepy at times and emotionally draining. I have a feeling that they just manipulated you and using you as therapist.
THAT IS THE SAME SHEIT I HAD TO GO THROUGH BUT HE TOLD ME THAT HIS GIRLFRIEND WAS BAD AND MADE ME UNFRIEND HER
ive had so many guys like this in my life, its so exhausting and awkward man😭
Good and entertaining story. And the moral is good too.
Everyone will be cringe at some point, it happens. But try not to be, and try to learn from other people’s past mistakes, as well as your own, of course.
Also, break-ups can be hard. Especially your first one(s). And especially if you’re young and have yet to realise how much life and opportunity is in the world and ahead of you.
I am remembering this quote: “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” - Winston Churchill
Keep going so you can get out of Hell and to a better place.
You can’t change how much a break-up hurts and sucks. And taking some time to process it is also fine. But at some point, you can and should *choose* to try and move on.
Sure, having a partner may have been the best thing to ever happen to you. And while we all have probably heard the “There’s plenty of fish in the sea.” There’s also the “if it happened once, it can happen again.” But you just need to go chase the opportunity again, just like you did the first time.
But also, moving on from a break-up is difficult. And while working on yourself is good and important advice. I would first suggest focusing on other good things in life. If you still have other good things in life aside from your ex-partner, focus on those! If you don’t, go get some! Treat yourself! Buy ice cream, go to a movie, play a game, read a book, or most ideally - hang out or be active with good family or friends. Use every not harmful tool at your disposal to escape your funk! So you can focus more on what’s good instead of what’s bad (or that one big bad).
It’s definitely not easy, but you can do it! Just try your best to not give up and keep yourself from negative spiralling. And if you fail, that’s okay too! Just take a moment, and get ready to try again. Your next partner(s) are out there waiting for you right now. ;p
When you consistently show care when someones at their lowest and they continue to not improve or take advantage of the opportunity, its often shown that the relationship turns toxic rather fast and if not fast, then it will be quiet burning.
Bro this is to relatable I been on both. Sides sadly when I was a kid 😂
this is very much giving trauma.. to the point i am very wary of talking to ppl, esp when they're super vulnerable. i mean dont got me wrong, ill help but ill definitely give a few reality checks once in a while
I'll be honest I couldn't have been patient enough with Stuart to go without dragging him across hot coals HARD
I try to be supportive and nice as much as possible but if I notice that being taken advantage of like you were here, I put that crap down immediately
How do i get secondhand embarrassment from situations ive seen play out like 20 times.
Im the sort of curious person to join dating and c0rn servers just to talk to the people, this is like tuesday for me and yet this video hit the cringe note. Good iob, wow person.
I had never noticed the stray blob of pixels that are attached to the same png as Sad Stuart (around 3 minutes in, you can see it wobbling at the same time as him, to his left)
I was that kind of person last year
I mean my story is a bit more complicated and dramatic and honestly feeling this way is so damn HARD AGH 💀
Gl to every stuart out there!!
Some people just don't know how to interact with others. Over the years, I've come to learn that being kind usually just digs a deeper hole... if there's a problem, it's better to be honest about it. How they respond to your honesty is up to them.