Lol so I've been married for 12 years and have 5 kids ages 13-8mo. At this point, our dirty talk consists of a few phrases like, the kids are all asleep and they have the baby occupied. We are a joking type couple too so I'll be cooking or cleaning in a room alone and he'll come in and say, funny how we meet here alone right now haha. It doesn't always have to be so serious ladies. It can be silly seductive too. But that's just my thoughts.
Yes! Lol I've been with my husband since I was 14. I'm 31 now. We had our first daughter when I was about to turn 21 so my whole adult life with him has been that way. A relaxed humorous start to it. I dig it though. Love this community!
Agreed. We have 6 children ages 13-1 married 11 years. What works for your home works for you. We can take what we need leave what doesn’t work for our household. I remember just having 1 or 2 kids verses now and it’s not the same.
Great tips! The one about sleeping naked or laying naked is especially great. When my husband told me how much he appreciated my sleeping naked & how it made him feel like I was his woman, I slept naked from then on. It was a small thing that made a big difference. Also, making sex a priority can transform a marriage. It’s a daily habit in my marriage. When I learned that sex feels like a need to a husband, I made the decision to meet that need regardless of my feelings. These small adjustments (that I made AFTER) the toddler years, have reaped many benefits in my marriage. God bless all the wives & wives-to-be! You are so needed & valued.
That would be very hard for me at this stage in my codependency and people pleasing recovery to have sex regardless of how I feel. I have done that for years and I have had sex through tears and through rage. It has been so damaging to myself. My husband now is not abusive or mean but its still hard to do this for him. My husband is not a people pleaser so he is not one to cave easily..I am and it leaves me feeling resentful when it is not reciprocated. I pray that I can change.
@@FFlores79 dear sister, you can change. All things are possible with God. Get in God’s presence & meditate on his word. It will transform your thinking & therefore your life. Rage & resentment are not your master; & not from God. Living by faith means that even though you might have certain feelings; you get to decide whether to obey your feelings or obey God’s word. His word is the truth; & scripture says that you shall know the truth & it will make you free….free from the codependency, rage & anything else that’s not from God. Blessings to you my dear sister. 🤗
My mom told me about an Indian pastor who has a conference and he taught on marriage n said that a husband and wife should sleep naked- I don't know the exact sermon n words he said but he said it was very important .The next morning when he woke up n walked out of his hotel room, he saw pajamas on everyone's balcony just hanging out n he knew, what he preached the previous night got through to every single one of the married couples. It improves marriages so much.
I been married for almost 9 years and it was HORRIBLE and I would blame him......I started watching and listening your videos.....and it help me in a clear gentle way open my eyes and understanding I was at fault with a lot of that misery......and I will continue to listen and watch your videos.......and seek the Lord.....to better my home and marriage...... thank you for taking the time to actually do this and share this kind of talks...my mom was always a single mother I never remember her ever to this day have a man or husband or anything...so I never even understood the importance of these very basic things...even as clean your bedroom and have it inviting....like I thought it was normal......so you can imagine I'm eye opener to the other mature talks you have here....I was super embarrassed and hurt and shy of how sloppy and cold I was before......thank you for helping me in the area of being a godly wife.
I honestly struggle with “auditory seduction” ohhhh my I get sooo awkward 🤦🏾♀️ Lord help me I am 9 months into marriage & I absolutely love it. Your channel has blessed me so much x
Why do you think the Lord wants to help you with that?? Some things are just worldly sis, don't take it too seriously what certain people say about things. People have been having sex since they have been wearing very covered clothing. Your husband's sexual desire for you is not based on this or that. Christian people focus too much on this.
@@ASmith-jn7kf You hit the nail on the head! A lot of this advice is from a worldly perspective, we are not called to do all this. If it feels awkward, don't do it. Show up in other ways♡
Your videos are always a blessing, i watch them while i take care of the home or cook (by the way i love watching you do the same, it's very encouraging and inspiring to see the way you clean, cut vegetables, store etc haha). Your accurate words infuse in me the will to do good and to do better. It teaches me how i can grow in my marriage. But the best thing it does in me, is get my ego down and makes me focus on my husband, our home and their needs and not myself, as i fight feminism around me.
Especially on those nights you've set aside for intimacy! A bulging stomach can affect our self esteem during intimacy also, and we don't want to feel self conscious during those moments- it detracts from the enjoyment and connection.
I find that lighting is a big one for me in an effort to create a space that is helpful to get in the mood. I’ll put a lamp on rather than overhead lights. It’s not so stark but adds a “romantic” atmosphere.
Hey Bindi! I was reading your RUclips about/bio section and was really inspired and struck by your clarity of identity found in the Lord. Can you make a video about you came to Christ, what your college/young adult years were like, how you and your husband met, and how you grew in your faith over the years? Or if you’ve already made one can you link it lol! Im not married (or even dating ha) but I do love your content!
Your videos are just so informative and intriguing! Not filled with "fluff" if you know what I mean. I binged all your marriage and homemaking videos a few months ago (listened to a couple a day), and then I went through withdrawal because my daily lesson/routine was broken because I watched them all lol. Now when you drop a video I get so excited like a new episode of my fave show! Lol. I would totally pay for this type of content on patreon or something. I've never paid or would consider other you tubers even though I enjoy them as well. But the way you articulate, the way you give parables like Christ does, the way you bring the lesson together is just top notch/high quality and just your overall essence just stands out and is much appreciated. I'm grateful to be on a similar path and I am grateful to have your guidance and wisdom. Keep them coming please! 🙏🏽
The outfit my husband loves to see me in the most is something comfy. He says I look sexy in my loose linen sleeping gown or in baggy sweatpants. He loves to see his lady comfortable lol He is the person with the highest empathy I’ve ever met, so that might be part of why
aww i luv this! men are so varied, my husband does not relate to a lot of advice given about what "men" like or want, but that has helped me see more nuance in life.
I greatly enjoy the intentionality of Bindi's word choice when discussing and describing intimate things. It is something I want to get back in the habit of doing.
Thank you for making these kinds of videos. This may be uncomfortable to talk about but this is the kind of thing I need to hear and be prompted to act upon!! More of these kinds of videos! Seriously!!
I love listening to you, how you talk about sex makes it seem so uncomplicated, beautiful and good. Which is my experience, too, but it’s rate to find people talk about in such a manner. Thank you.
Be a flirt! I flirt with my husband a lot. Just last night he was filing his nails and I playfully asked him if he had plans for later. He said no slyly and kept on filing. He definitely did have plans for later but adding that playfulness made the anticipation a little more fun.
This is such great advice! I needed someone to tell me this when I first got married. It wasn’t until I learned and figured out most of this on my own over 5 years of marriage did I realize the importance of preparing for and spontaneity in sex. On another side note, your clothes folding game is amazing, please share where you learned how to do it so well. Laundry has always been one of those things that kill me smh 😅
My Husband and I have been Married for 26 years. One thing I have always done is come to bed, being Fresh and Clean. On the some what selfish side. It is a Self Esteem Booster for me. Over the years There is a lot of things I believe the Lord has made me think of. 1 is to wear pretty Bra’s and Panties that match. To lay out particular Underwear for My Husband, while he is taking a shower. That lets him know I would like to be Intimate with Him. Lighting Candles shortly before Bed, is something else I do. I Prayed for ways to discreetly show him/ let him know. With having 4 Children in the house. Another Thing I have done Recently, Now that Our Children are 23,21,16&15. Is shortly after he comes home from work I serve what ever he would like to Drink(Coffee, Tea, Hot Apple Cider). But, I request a Kiss first. On his Days off I bring him Coffee in Bed. I am Definitely going to be More Mindful of Coming to bed Naked. I think to Myself often, it is not Attractive to Wear long pajamas and what I call Granny Panties.
I have totally forgotten about this subject. Have been angry and arguing bc he won’t learn new tricks. But I finally give up, I accept him as he is. Will work on this subject.
Thanking God for your videos. You have been very helpful. I pray to God you continue maybe with a book(s) podcast but I’ll gladly take RUclips for now. ❤️
Could you make a video on how to approach the awkward topic of a husband having bad hygiene? Mine always has bad breath, 2-day old underwear, body odor ect so while I do love making effort for him to be attractive he isn’t doing the same! And it’s a big turn off 😅
The teeth thing, probably be straight forward, see if it could also be an underlying health issue, but other than being straight forward about it, I can’t think of any other approach. Maybe someone else would have other ideas. As far as body odour goes, start inviting him into your shower, wash him and massage him and make it worthwhile. Lay out some new underwear that you’d like him to wear. When he does shower and smell good, embrace him, draw a long breath and tell him how the smell of him straight of the shower turns you on. Hope this helps
Any women been married 25 years or longer? Cuz this advice is great for women who are still child bearing and not smack dab in the middle of menopause, a long term marriage and low libido from low estrogen. Sex, marriage and people change with age, and THAT conversation, and how wives are as different from night and day as menopause changes them psychologically, physically, mentally, biologically, and spiritually, is DIAMETRICALLY different than one regarding sex when she is young. We become different women. First half is spent building and the second half is spent rebuilding. Everything. Including sex.
i would love to hear more about that stage too! it is such a diservice to us all that our elders don't prepare us and each recent generation has to learn these things while in the midst of it. :/
YES. I am no currently menopausal, but we have been married for 20 years. It gets harder, as life gets busier. My life is waaaaayyy busier with teens than it was with 2 little kids. Plus, you start taking each other for granted & have lower energy. Add to the fact that most of your friends (if we're going to really be honest & evaluate the situation in america) are likely divorced by the time you've been with the same man for 20 years. They all just keep rebooting & never get to the point where things have gotten kind or rote or drab. Alot of my acquaintances are on marriage #2 or even #3! So every few years that get that new relationship boost, that a long term married couple does not get. Its a frustrating time in life for a woman.
I don’t like this idea of having sex when I don’t feel like it. Why can’t our husbands respect us when we say we aren’t feeling well or we are not mentally in the headspace for sex? Should I force myself too? Then that can breed resentment and more particularly for someone who was raped and sexually abused God forbid I view my spouse as one of those guys and have those bad feelings towards him. I have no problem serving my spouse but I’m human too, if I’m being neglected emotionally and the connection is bad then why am I expected to dish out sex when I’m not being poured into. This is my situation so I’m saying this to say what do I do?
You should never force yourself if you have been the victim of sexual abuse however and I am SO very sorry for what happened to you. As a counselor, I will tell you that as you continue to work on that trauma with a safe, trauma-informed practitioner, you will actually start to see and feel a difference in your desire for your husband. Often for those who have had sexual trauma the brain creates a state in the body where you very rarely "feel" like doing anything even when in most cases you do enjoy it when you do. This is where, as a part of trauma therapy, you learn 'choices lead and feelings follow' but not always immediately. In retraining that harmed part of yourself you can actually retrain your mind to discern the difference between safety with your spouse(assuming they are a safe person) and what happened to you. Often the victims of sexual abuse use sex with their spouse(without knowing they are doing this) as a way to bring safety and power around sex back to themselves even though their spouse was not the one who harmed them. Remind yourself that you are safe with your spouse and you may not feel like it but that is, in part, due to your mind and body "remembering" an old experience and this can be relearned. Prayers for you as you navigate bravely this!
@@Dragonfly20233 thank you so much for your reply! I am going to seek out a trauma specialist cause I suspected this had a part to play. God bless you 💕
Oh Boy. Don't do a single one of these things (other than I do shower regularly) and have been married for almost 20 years. But not too much trouble in the bedroom - hubby is easy to please & has a good sense of humor. But I do think my life is drastically different than yours, even though I would consider myself a Christian, Traditional Wife. My bedroom is in serious need of decluttering, but it becomes the dumping ground anytime I need to clean up the downstairs (company is coming!). We are farmers - every season of our life is BUSY & we are usually exhausted. My hubby works nights - we never go to bed together. And we have homeschooled for 9 years - we are NEVER alone! The biggest issue now is that we have teens that DO NOT GO TO BED at a reasonable time & we only have 1 bathroom. There is no privacy. You can hear everything in this old farmhouse & then when you want/need to use the bathroom? you can NEVER get into it! No privacy is the biggest mood killer. Honestly it was easier when we PUT the kids to bed at a certain time & then had a couple of hours by ourselves. This too shall pass, I guess.
I would definitely say this is for a wife who gets along with her husband and is loved by her husband well. 😔It is extremely difficult to have sex or feel/act sexy for a husband who doesn’t really care to show you the love you desire even when you communicate well and do everything to try to show him love.
It’s okay just be a good biblical wife to him, it’s not just on you to accommodate his needs it’s on him as well. Bible says wife is a reflection of her husband, of he wants more that what your giving he needs to do his part as well so ur not tired out. Gods got y’all pray for the intimacy, until then just keep being a good wife and nothing more.
@MetaMothesis yes. Very sound advice. This is what the Lord has had me doing since day one! He just has to actually open up and allow him to do the work. ♥️🙏 but we did have some breakthrough this last week! 🥲 praise YAH! God was able to bring him to tears of thankfulness for me as a wife and for our children and funnily God said if you love her why don’t you do the dishes for her? 🤣 so funny because as an aside in my prayer once I told God taking care of all the cleaning and cooking would be so much easier if he helped me do the dishes once in a while (because we don’t have a dish washer so I’m ALWAYS washing them all day to keep up lol) Thank you for your prayers and advice!
@@shs_author yes I’ve been having it my heart to fast, I always worry about doing it because I’m breastfeeding and because I used to struggle with anorexia and bulimia before I received his Holy Spirit
I love wearing sexy underwear and bras under my usual plains clothes .. it’s my own little secret but it brings me more sense of sexiness knowing I got a really cute lingerie underneath my sweatpants lol
I have been married 8 years now and I give my husband full Body Massages (yes with the oil in the body) and then sometimes I do the Face then the Head, if I go a long time without giving him a massage he will start just talking about them (his way of asking or missing them) , and sleeping with nothing on a big Yes.
Its always on the women to be biblical, and the men can do whatever!! We do not worship our husbands, marriage or sex! Some women cannot have sex for years within their marriage, and are made to feel guilty!
The Bible definitely doesn't push that, thankfully, just some Christians. I dom't think that is Bindi's intention though. I do think that Christians can try to match the worlds focus on sexuality but in a "christian" way when that is not necessary. if a Godly husband is so caught up in sex, there is introspection to be done imo. but if it works for ppl, ig it doesn't matter.
I do not like dirty talk. I prefer to let the natural and involuntary sounds we make do all the talking for us. But my husband does like dirty talk and I struggle with it. Even when he tells me what to say it feels so awkward.
In proverbs it talks about a foolish adulterous woman that lures men with sweet words. So there is something to it outside of porn as we know it today. However the one to speak those sweet little words should rightfully be coming from you to your husband. If that is one of his love languages, make it a point to be more intentional about it. Or even if you say it how he wants and feel awkward just laugh about it and say how awkward it feels, but make light of it. I think there is something so fun to be able to have a laugh in that time. Say it playfully sometimes if that helps, not necessarily sensually but playfully. But it might make it easier for you with time. If he has a fantasy, what better person to fulfill it that you?
Bindi, can you please open up a a and a and make it a video? I’m sure others like myself have questions we would love your wisdom on. Please let me know 🙏🏾
Hello Bindi, Thank you so much for your videos. I just wanted to ask if you can recommend good books on biblical womanhood, parenting or wifehood. Thank you
I stutter I'm surprised my husband feels seduction at all lol. I just wear my best when he comes home and make food and that seems to work. He likes to flirt with me as I'm trying to clean so yeah he makes me be behind on cleaning lol. Btw cotton underwear comes in lace too if you're like me you're allergic to non cotton under garments. Amazon is life.
Song of Solomon may be an aide in auditory seduction instead of using the world’s WAP (think filthy female rappers here) lingo.. just a thought - takes more thought & creativity but it will make you think without taking society’s way of taking the low road. Just say what you appreciate about what God gave them..imo
My ex husband used to initiate sensual encounters 4 times each night. It was way too much for general purpose. I never learned to enjoy or appreciate or desire that sensuality at all.
Really good tips! Thanks so much for sharing! Another good suggestion would be to give each other a massage...that really works well to improve intimacy. also taking a bubble bath together....lots of fun!
For various reasons, auditory sensuality and sleeping naked are not comfortable for everyone. I was married 39 years, and didn’t ever feel comfortable with either of these.
How would a woman do some of these things when she has 3 teenage boys in the house? My husband and I have 4 children, 3 teen boys and one 8yr old girl. I feel very tied up in my sexuality because of this. I have an attractive body type and if I even wear tight jeans my husband is thinking sexy thoughts, but the fun of the pre bedroom foreplay is nullified bc kids are always around us all day! 😤😖 It's really made it hard for us to enjoy sex because it feels as of we can only start something once we are in our bedroom with the door shut and locked and no one bugging us, which really kills the desire consistently.
I have a question. Should I have sex with my future husband if I don’t feel like having sex with him just to please him? What if I don’t feel like it? What if I’m tired or I just don’t feel turned on or into it? Should I make myself do sexual things for him just to please him? Is this a command from God? Please let me know I would appreciate it.. thank you.
Thank you for your input. After studying I found that refusing sometimes or for valid purposes is okay. It goes both ways, a wife shouldn’t force a man and a man shouldn’t force his wife. Force takes away loving as one flesh. Both spouses should have healthy boundaries which keep each other from abusing each other sexually or taking advantage of the blessing that sex is. Demanding sex or thinking you are owed it simply because “the Bible says so, so give me what I want despite how you are feeling” is toxic and sinful. I think that cutting of sex and always saying no is sinful, or saying no for the wrong reasons is wrong ! Of course its wrong to take away sex from a marriage when it’s coming out of the wrong reasons. But I believe its okay to be able to say no sometimes where both people understand each other and not feel like you are just being used as a sex toy, which is also a sin to mistreat your spouse and treat them like an object rather than a person. There are plenty of websites online that speak on this subject and mostly all of them agree that sex is an obligation in marriage, but it should also be consensual and loving because it is both people after all who are involved, not just one. Both bodies do belong to each other during marriage, but not in an abusive, manipulative or ungodly way. Both should talk about how they are feeling in regards to sex and work out what they can for both of their well being. As someone put it, “it isn’t always a sin to say no, but it’s a sin to always say no.” An example would be a husband refusing her wife because he is feeling horribly depressed, but they talk about it and he promises to have sex with her and do what he can to full-fill her sexual needs when he is feeling better, and they both agree to this because they care about each other’s well being. I think this is a loving example.
Nope!!! If you’re not in the mood he can wait! I personally think that telling him exactly when you’ll be ready to engage again is better than doing it when you’re not into it mentally! We should enjoy it too!!
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If you ever started a podcast I would 100% listen to every episode.
Yes!!! I pray she is led by the Lord to do so.
Agree!
Me tooooooo!!!!
I would too!!
Oh me toooo and I’m not even married, but I’d still listen to the marriage ones haha
Lol so I've been married for 12 years and have 5 kids ages 13-8mo. At this point, our dirty talk consists of a few phrases like, the kids are all asleep and they have the baby occupied. We are a joking type couple too so I'll be cooking or cleaning in a room alone and he'll come in and say, funny how we meet here alone right now haha. It doesn't always have to be so serious ladies. It can be silly seductive too. But that's just my thoughts.
Silly seductive is a way of life my husband and I have mastered lol
Agreed!
Yes! Lol I've been with my husband since I was 14. I'm 31 now. We had our first daughter when I was about to turn 21 so my whole adult life with him has been that way. A relaxed humorous start to it. I dig it though. Love this community!
Agreed. We have 6 children ages 13-1 married 11 years. What works for your home works for you. We can take what we need leave what doesn’t work for our household. I remember just having 1 or 2 kids verses now and it’s not the same.
My husband is frequently saying sexually explicit things to me. He thinks it’s awesome when I initiate anything sexual.
Great tips! The one about sleeping naked or laying naked is especially great. When my husband told me how much he appreciated my sleeping naked & how it made him feel like I was his woman, I slept naked from then on. It was a small thing that made a big difference. Also, making sex a priority can transform a marriage. It’s a daily habit in my marriage. When I learned that sex feels like a need to a husband, I made the decision to meet that need regardless of my feelings. These small adjustments (that I made AFTER) the toddler years, have reaped many benefits in my marriage. God bless all the wives & wives-to-be! You are so needed & valued.
Wow, the wisdom! HalleluYah sis and thanks for your beautiful comment 💕💕💕
@@s.sflower Awww…praise God/Yah!!! 🙌🏾 My pleasure; & thank you for your kind reply. 🙏🏾🤗
That would be very hard for me at this stage in my codependency and people pleasing recovery to have sex regardless of how I feel. I have done that for years and I have had sex through tears and through rage. It has been so damaging to myself. My husband now is not abusive or mean but its still hard to do this for him. My husband is not a people pleaser so he is not one to cave easily..I am and it leaves me feeling resentful when it is not reciprocated. I pray that I can change.
@@FFlores79 dear sister, you can change. All things are possible with God. Get in God’s presence & meditate on his word. It will transform your thinking & therefore your life. Rage & resentment are not your master; & not from God. Living by faith means that even though you might have certain feelings; you get to decide whether to obey your feelings or obey God’s word. His word is the truth; & scripture says that you shall know the truth & it will make you free….free from the codependency, rage & anything else that’s not from God. Blessings to you my dear sister. 🤗
My mom told me about an Indian pastor who has a conference and he taught on marriage n said that a husband and wife should sleep naked- I don't know the exact sermon n words he said but he said it was very important .The next morning when he woke up n walked out of his hotel room, he saw pajamas on everyone's balcony just hanging out n he knew, what he preached the previous night got through to every single one of the married couples. It improves marriages so much.
I been married for almost 9 years and it was HORRIBLE and I would blame him......I started watching and listening your videos.....and it help me in a clear gentle way open my eyes and understanding I was at fault with a lot of that misery......and I will continue to listen and watch your videos.......and seek the Lord.....to better my home and marriage...... thank you for taking the time to actually do this and share this kind of talks...my mom was always a single mother I never remember her ever to this day have a man or husband or anything...so I never even understood the importance of these very basic things...even as clean your bedroom and have it inviting....like I thought it was normal......so you can imagine I'm eye opener to the other mature talks you have here....I was super embarrassed and hurt and shy of how sloppy and cold I was before......thank you for helping me in the area of being a godly wife.
I honestly struggle with “auditory seduction” ohhhh my I get sooo awkward 🤦🏾♀️ Lord help me
I am 9 months into marriage & I absolutely love it. Your channel has blessed me so much x
Why do you think the Lord wants to help you with that?? Some things are just worldly sis, don't take it too seriously what certain people say about things. People have been having sex since they have been wearing very covered clothing. Your husband's sexual desire for you is not based on this or that. Christian people focus too much on this.
Lol it’s whatever you’re comfortable with and you and your husband will develop your own talk which to me is more special than something forced lol😊
@@ASmith-jn7kf You hit the nail on the head! A lot of this advice is from a worldly perspective, we are not called to do all this. If it feels awkward, don't do it. Show up in other ways♡
@@ASmith-jn7kf Have you read Song of Solomon?
Saaame! Sometimes, I practice in the mirror, and I feel ill at myself 😂 like...you sound like a fool
Your housekeeping practices are beautiful. I feel rejuvenated and even more ready to serve my future family. Thank you ❤
Love this video Bindi! Me and my Husband got married last year. I found your channel when we were engaged. You have been very helpful!
@Mrs. Mingo I sub your channel
@@Clifye Thank you! 🥰
I started listening to this and stopped what I was doing to go clean our room 🙂 Thanks for the practical tip!
I’m in my 50’s this topic has needed to come into the light in healthy ways in the church for many years. I’m glad to see that starting to happen.
You are out here saving lives!
Your videos are always a blessing, i watch them while i take care of the home or cook (by the way i love watching you do the same, it's very encouraging and inspiring to see the way you clean, cut vegetables, store etc haha). Your accurate words infuse in me the will to do good and to do better. It teaches me how i can grow in my marriage. But the best thing it does in me, is get my ego down and makes me focus on my husband, our home and their needs and not myself, as i fight feminism around me.
First of all, lovely video ❤️
My tip is very basic: serve dishes that are jummy and easy to digest
Feeling bloated is just no fun
Especially on those nights you've set aside for intimacy! A bulging stomach can affect our self esteem during intimacy also, and we don't want to feel self conscious during those moments- it detracts from the enjoyment and connection.
Yes…. Ain’t nothing sexy about dirty talk if you are holding in a fart🫠
@@deec3561 girl! Hilarious 😂
@@deec3561 🤣🤣🤣
@@deec3561 that made me laugh out loud 😂😂😂
I find that lighting is a big one for me in an effort to create a space that is helpful to get in the mood. I’ll put a lamp on rather than overhead lights. It’s not so stark but adds a “romantic” atmosphere.
Hey Bindi! I was reading your RUclips about/bio section and was really inspired and struck by your clarity of identity found in the Lord. Can you make a video about you came to Christ, what your college/young adult years were like, how you and your husband met, and how you grew in your faith over the years? Or if you’ve already made one can you link it lol! Im not married (or even dating ha) but I do love your content!
These talks are much needed during this time! Your voice is so therapeutic🤗
Like the new channel name
Your videos are just so informative and intriguing! Not filled with "fluff" if you know what I mean. I binged all your marriage and homemaking videos a few months ago (listened to a couple a day), and then I went through withdrawal because my daily lesson/routine was broken because I watched them all lol. Now when you drop a video I get so excited like a new episode of my fave show! Lol. I would totally pay for this type of content on patreon or something. I've never paid or would consider other you tubers even though I enjoy them as well. But the way you articulate, the way you give parables like Christ does, the way you bring the lesson together is just top notch/high quality and just your overall essence just stands out and is much appreciated. I'm grateful to be on a similar path and I am grateful to have your guidance and wisdom. Keep them coming please! 🙏🏽
The outfit my husband loves to see me in the most is something comfy. He says I look sexy in my loose linen sleeping gown or in baggy sweatpants. He loves to see his lady comfortable lol
He is the person with the highest empathy I’ve ever met, so that might be part of why
aww i luv this! men are so varied, my husband does not relate to a lot of advice given about what "men" like or want, but that has helped me see more nuance in life.
You are truly a sister with so much wisdom. Thank you for your videos. They are extremely helpful to both married and unmarried.
I greatly enjoy the intentionality of Bindi's word choice when discussing and describing intimate things. It is something I want to get back in the habit of doing.
Thank you for making these kinds of videos. This may be uncomfortable to talk about but this is the kind of thing I need to hear and be prompted to act upon!! More of these kinds of videos! Seriously!!
This is brilliant advice, Bindi. Thanks so much. More advice like this, please- unadulterated by the world! The hotel analogy is gold.
As a military wife and 3 deployments and countless trainings i swear half my marriage has been " auditory seduction" 🙋♀️
PLEASE DO MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS SIS!!! IT’S VERY INFORMATIVE, MOTIVATING, AND OF COURSE A BLESSING TO GODLY MARRIAGES!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you.
I love listening to you, how you talk about sex makes it seem so uncomplicated, beautiful and good. Which is my experience, too, but it’s rate to find people talk about in such a manner. Thank you.
Be a flirt! I flirt with my husband a lot. Just last night he was filing his nails and I playfully asked him if he had plans for later. He said no slyly and kept on filing. He definitely did have plans for later but adding that playfulness made the anticipation a little more fun.
It’s so funny because this morning I was hoping you had a video up today.
This is such great advice! I needed someone to tell me this when I first got married. It wasn’t until I learned and figured out most of this on my own over 5 years of marriage did I realize the importance of preparing for and spontaneity in sex. On another side note, your clothes folding game is amazing, please share where you learned how to do it so well. Laundry has always been one of those things that kill me smh 😅
It looks similar to the Marie Kondo folding method
Can we see how you upkeep your physical In regards to toning I noticed them biceps 🤷🏾♀️ they look amazing
My Husband and I have been Married for 26 years. One thing I have always done is come to bed, being Fresh and Clean. On the some what selfish side. It is a Self Esteem Booster for me. Over the years There is a lot of things I believe the Lord has made me think of. 1 is to wear pretty Bra’s and Panties that match. To lay out particular Underwear for My Husband, while he is taking a shower. That lets him know I would like to be Intimate with Him. Lighting Candles shortly before Bed, is something else I do. I Prayed for ways to discreetly show him/ let him know. With having 4 Children in the house. Another Thing I have done Recently, Now that Our Children are 23,21,16&15. Is shortly after he comes home from work I serve what ever he would like to Drink(Coffee, Tea, Hot Apple Cider). But, I request a Kiss first. On his Days off I bring him Coffee in Bed. I am Definitely going to be More Mindful of Coming to bed Naked. I think to Myself often, it is not Attractive to Wear long pajamas and what I call Granny Panties.
#relationshipgoals
Thank you so much for this video. Been married 10.5 years and enjoy all of your videos
Love the content, but also taking notes on the folding technique 🤯
me too, I was like what type of folding origami is this lol
🤣😅 same lololol
WOW! This was AMAZING! Very in depth, yet respectful! God Bless you woman of God!♥️♥️
I think a great tip would be, don’t forget to be spontaneous 🤗
Sometimes that is so attractive !
BRING IT OUT SIS!!!great word play!!
Beautiful! Love seeing couples actually build their homes together! #couplegoals
My far my favorite channel! Thank you so much for your videos!
I have totally forgotten about this subject. Have been angry and arguing bc he won’t learn new tricks. But I finally give up, I accept him as he is. Will work on this subject.
I love how you fold clothes, and the homemaking. Beautiful advice to wives Amen
So blessed by your videos and especially this one is getting me excited for marriage 😂❤
Taking a warm shower or bath/jacuzzi together..just taking your time..I found that nice
Love the timing of cleaning the cucumbers...ok but all jokes aside love your channel and content!
I'm happy to have found you. God bless you so much.
These videos are such a blessing! Thank you for sharing 🖤
So enlightening , definitely learned a lot I didn’t realize was so key!
Thank you Bindi.... Once again saying what I need to hear.
I have been so encouraged by your videos. Lots to think about and try to apply. Thanks for all your hard work on them!
Thanking God for your videos. You have been very helpful. I pray to God you continue maybe with a book(s) podcast but I’ll gladly take RUclips for now. ❤️
Could you make a video on how to approach the awkward topic of a husband having bad hygiene? Mine always has bad breath, 2-day old underwear, body odor ect so while I do love making effort for him to be attractive he isn’t doing the same! And it’s a big turn off 😅
The teeth thing, probably be straight forward, see if it could also be an underlying health issue, but other than being straight forward about it, I can’t think of any other approach. Maybe someone else would have other ideas.
As far as body odour goes, start inviting him into your shower, wash him and massage him and make it worthwhile. Lay out some new underwear that you’d like him to wear. When he does shower and smell good, embrace him, draw a long breath and tell him how the smell of him straight of the shower turns you on. Hope this helps
@@tfeya777 yes!! positive reinforcement is so helpful! and maybe make brushing teeth something ya'll do together every day as part of a routine!
“The art form of auditory seduction.. lying in the state of undress” Blessed me tremendously ✅
Can you talk about what women should do if you have a higher sex drive than your husband?
Any women been married 25 years or longer? Cuz this advice is great for women who are still child bearing and not smack dab in the middle of menopause, a long term marriage and low libido from low estrogen. Sex, marriage and people change with age, and THAT conversation, and how wives are as different from night and day as menopause changes them psychologically, physically, mentally, biologically, and spiritually, is DIAMETRICALLY different than one regarding sex when she is young. We become different women. First half is spent building and the second half is spent rebuilding. Everything. Including sex.
i would love to hear more about that stage too! it is such a diservice to us all that our elders don't prepare us and each recent generation has to learn these things while in the midst of it. :/
YES. I am no currently menopausal, but we have been married for 20 years. It gets harder, as life gets busier. My life is waaaaayyy busier with teens than it was with 2 little kids. Plus, you start taking each other for granted & have lower energy. Add to the fact that most of your friends (if we're going to really be honest & evaluate the situation in america) are likely divorced by the time you've been with the same man for 20 years. They all just keep rebooting & never get to the point where things have gotten kind or rote or drab. Alot of my acquaintances are on marriage #2 or even #3! So every few years that get that new relationship boost, that a long term married couple does not get. Its a frustrating time in life for a woman.
My husband wouldnt complain if I turned up in a Hessian sack grunting like a stuck pig. 😂😂😂 Praise the lord.
Hi! Could you possibly do a video on advice/ how to prepare and be ready for your honeymoon. (All the above)
Outstanding. Good job
I don’t like this idea of having sex when I don’t feel like it. Why can’t our husbands respect us when we say we aren’t feeling well or we are not mentally in the headspace for sex? Should I force myself too? Then that can breed resentment and more particularly for someone who was raped and sexually abused God forbid I view my spouse as one of those guys and have those bad feelings towards him. I have no problem serving my spouse but I’m human too, if I’m being neglected emotionally and the connection is bad then why am I expected to dish out sex when I’m not being poured into. This is my situation so I’m saying this to say what do I do?
You should never force yourself if you have been the victim of sexual abuse however and I am SO very sorry for what happened to you. As a counselor, I will tell you that as you continue to work on that trauma with a safe, trauma-informed practitioner, you will actually start to see and feel a difference in your desire for your husband. Often for those who have had sexual trauma the brain creates a state in the body where you very rarely "feel" like doing anything even when in most cases you do enjoy it when you do. This is where, as a part of trauma therapy, you learn 'choices lead and feelings follow' but not always immediately. In retraining that harmed part of yourself you can actually retrain your mind to discern the difference between safety with your spouse(assuming they are a safe person) and what happened to you. Often the victims of sexual abuse use sex with their spouse(without knowing they are doing this) as a way to bring safety and power around sex back to themselves even though their spouse was not the one who harmed them. Remind yourself that you are safe with your spouse and you may not feel like it but that is, in part, due to your mind and body "remembering" an old experience and this can be relearned. Prayers for you as you navigate bravely this!
@@Dragonfly20233 thank you so much for your reply! I am going to seek out a trauma specialist cause I suspected this had a part to play. God bless you 💕
"Auditory seduction" I struggle with this. I should express myself to my husband.
Oh Boy. Don't do a single one of these things (other than I do shower regularly) and have been married for almost 20 years. But not too much trouble in the bedroom - hubby is easy to please & has a good sense of humor. But I do think my life is drastically different than yours, even though I would consider myself a Christian, Traditional Wife. My bedroom is in serious need of decluttering, but it becomes the dumping ground anytime I need to clean up the downstairs (company is coming!). We are farmers - every season of our life is BUSY & we are usually exhausted. My hubby works nights - we never go to bed together. And we have homeschooled for 9 years - we are NEVER alone! The biggest issue now is that we have teens that DO NOT GO TO BED at a reasonable time & we only have 1 bathroom. There is no privacy. You can hear everything in this old farmhouse & then when you want/need to use the bathroom? you can NEVER get into it! No privacy is the biggest mood killer. Honestly it was easier when we PUT the kids to bed at a certain time & then had a couple of hours by ourselves. This too shall pass, I guess.
I would definitely say this is for a wife who gets along with her husband and is loved by her husband well. 😔It is extremely difficult to have sex or feel/act sexy for a husband who doesn’t really care to show you the love you desire even when you communicate well and do everything to try to show him love.
Don’t chase him at all. Work on yourself always .. see how he’ll eventually start chasing again.
It’s okay just be a good biblical wife to him, it’s not just on you to accommodate his needs it’s on him as well. Bible says wife is a reflection of her husband, of he wants more that what your giving he needs to do his part as well so ur not tired out. Gods got y’all pray for the intimacy, until then just keep being a good wife and nothing more.
@MetaMothesis Amen, continue to be submissive, fast and watch God
@MetaMothesis yes. Very sound advice. This is what the Lord has had me doing since day one! He just has to actually open up and allow him to do the work. ♥️🙏 but we did have some breakthrough this last week! 🥲 praise YAH! God was able to bring him to tears of thankfulness for me as a wife and for our children and funnily God said if you love her why don’t you do the dishes for her? 🤣 so funny because as an aside in my prayer once I told God taking care of all the cleaning and cooking would be so much easier if he helped me do the dishes once in a while (because we don’t have a dish washer so I’m ALWAYS washing them all day to keep up lol)
Thank you for your prayers and advice!
@@shs_author yes I’ve been having it my heart to fast, I always worry about doing it because I’m breastfeeding and because I used to struggle with anorexia and bulimia before I received his Holy Spirit
Thank yo so much dear. You’re videos inspire me lots.
priceless information. bless you.
I love wearing sexy underwear and bras under my usual plains clothes .. it’s my own little secret but it brings me more sense of sexiness knowing I got a really cute lingerie underneath my sweatpants lol
Your videos are so beautiful. I love listening, new subscriber ❤
Your video are so helpful! Thank you.
Hi, your clothing are amazingly georgeous! I would buy some but, I wonder if shipping to country of UE in Europe is possible.
Me neither, Im still learning!
I have been married 8 years now and I give my husband full Body Massages (yes with the oil in the body) and then sometimes I do the Face then the Head, if I go a long time without giving him a massage he will start just talking about them (his way of asking or missing them) , and sleeping with nothing on a big Yes.
Question: Do Christian Traditional Women like it when their husbands are virgins? Is it a problem if we don’t have any experience on the honeymoon?
I love this channel💖💖
Thank you for this very informative video and would you mind doing how to make bedroom nice and decorative . Thank you
Please start a podcast!
Can you do a day In life? I’d love to know how you start your day!
I don't do auditory seduction very often, I do textual seduction (if that's even a good way to describe it).
Thank you so very much for sharing!
Its always on the women to be biblical, and the men can do whatever!! We do not worship our husbands, marriage or sex! Some women cannot have sex for years within their marriage, and are made to feel guilty!
The Bible definitely doesn't push that, thankfully, just some Christians. I dom't think that is Bindi's intention though. I do think that Christians can try to match the worlds focus on sexuality but in a "christian" way when that is not necessary. if a Godly husband is so caught up in sex, there is introspection to be done imo. but if it works for ppl, ig it doesn't matter.
I do not like dirty talk. I prefer to let the natural and involuntary sounds we make do all the talking for us. But my husband does like dirty talk and I struggle with it. Even when he tells me what to say it feels so awkward.
Does that come from the influence of porn in our society?
@@kerrymartin7557 What are you referring to? That he likes it or that I’m uncomfortable with it? I’d say both are probably impacted.
@@edenredeemed well both, I suppose.
In proverbs it talks about a foolish adulterous woman that lures men with sweet words. So there is something to it outside of porn as we know it today.
However the one to speak those sweet little words should rightfully be coming from you to your husband. If that is one of his love languages, make it a point to be more intentional about it. Or even if you say it how he wants and feel awkward just laugh about it and say how awkward it feels, but make light of it. I think there is something so fun to be able to have a laugh in that time. Say it playfully sometimes if that helps, not necessarily sensually but playfully. But it might make it easier for you with time. If he has a fantasy, what better person to fulfill it that you?
@@lisamedla I understand your point but the cross and dirty talk aren’t really comparable.
Bindi how do you redeem yourself when despite your efforts to change your not so tidy habits in an argument your husband calls you "nasty".
Bindi, can you please open up a a and a and make it a video? I’m sure others like myself have questions we would love your wisdom on. Please let me know 🙏🏾
Hello Bindi, Thank you so much for your videos. I just wanted to ask if you can recommend good books on biblical womanhood, parenting or wifehood. Thank you
Great points!
Thank you!💜💙💗
Loved this so much
Thank you for this!
I stutter I'm surprised my husband feels seduction at all lol. I just wear my best when he comes home and make food and that seems to work. He likes to flirt with me as I'm trying to clean so yeah he makes me be behind on cleaning lol. Btw cotton underwear comes in lace too if you're like me you're allergic to non cotton under garments. Amazon is life.
Thank you very much for this video! I'm not married yet but I hope to be married soon :D
Hmmm ... Very interesting. Thanks ❤️
Song of Solomon may be an aide in auditory seduction instead of using the world’s WAP (think filthy female rappers here) lingo.. just a thought - takes more thought & creativity but it will make you think without taking society’s way of taking the low road. Just say what you appreciate about what God gave them..imo
Yep I love this
yes!! plus it is so much more beautiful and Godly.
My ex husband used to initiate sensual encounters 4 times each night. It was way too much for general purpose. I never learned to enjoy or appreciate or desire that sensuality at all.
Really good tips! Thanks so much for sharing! Another good suggestion would be to give each other a massage...that really works well to improve intimacy. also taking a bubble bath together....lots of fun!
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For various reasons, auditory sensuality and sleeping naked are not comfortable for everyone. I was married 39 years, and didn’t ever feel comfortable with either of these.
Thank you for your videos 🥰
Everything is so different when you have kids 🤣
Where is part 1?
How would a woman do some of these things when she has 3 teenage boys in the house? My husband and I have 4 children, 3 teen boys and one 8yr old girl. I feel very tied up in my sexuality because of this. I have an attractive body type and if I even wear tight jeans my husband is thinking sexy thoughts, but the fun of the pre bedroom foreplay is nullified bc kids are always around us all day! 😤😖
It's really made it hard for us to enjoy sex because it feels as of we can only start something once we are in our bedroom with the door shut and locked and no one bugging us, which really kills the desire consistently.
Hi Bindi, I like your content but I was just wondering if this is advisable to watch for a single like me🤔😐
Another great video
I have a question. Should I have sex with my future husband if I don’t feel like having sex with him just to please him? What if I don’t feel like it? What if I’m tired or I just don’t feel turned on or into it? Should I make myself do sexual things for him just to please him? Is this a command from God? Please let me know I would appreciate it.. thank you.
Thank you for your input. After studying I found that refusing sometimes or for valid purposes is okay. It goes both ways, a wife shouldn’t force a man and a man shouldn’t force his wife. Force takes away loving as one flesh. Both spouses should have healthy boundaries which keep each other from abusing each other sexually or taking advantage of the blessing that sex is. Demanding sex or thinking you are owed it simply because “the Bible says so, so give me what I want despite how you are feeling” is toxic and sinful. I think that cutting of sex and always saying no is sinful, or saying no for the wrong reasons is wrong ! Of course its wrong to take away sex from a marriage when it’s coming out of the wrong reasons. But I believe its okay to be able to say no sometimes where both people understand each other and not feel like you are just being used as a sex toy, which is also a sin to mistreat your spouse and treat them like an object rather than a person. There are plenty of websites online that speak on this subject and mostly all of them agree that sex is an obligation in marriage, but it should also be consensual and loving because it is both people after all who are involved, not just one. Both bodies do belong to each other during marriage, but not in an abusive, manipulative or ungodly way. Both should talk about how they are feeling in regards to sex and work out what they can for both of their well being. As someone put it, “it isn’t always a sin to say no, but it’s a sin to always say no.” An example would be a husband refusing her wife because he is feeling horribly depressed, but they talk about it and he promises to have sex with her and do what he can to full-fill her sexual needs when he is feeling better, and they both agree to this because they care about each other’s well being. I think this is a loving example.
Nope!!! If you’re not in the mood he can wait! I personally think that telling him exactly when you’ll be ready to engage again is better than doing it when you’re not into it mentally! We should enjoy it too!!
You should have sex with your current husband, not your future husband. That is what is pleasing to the Lord. Sex outside of marriage is a sin
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Okay I wanna know what the man talking about if us women are over here discussing these things