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It's great to see people be friends first and then have a flourishing relationship. Unfortunately, it's extremely unlikely that happens in the modern day as we socially enforce "dating multiple people" and "having sexual experience", which means people will ignore the idea of their friendship becoming more, as they're constantly outsourcing intimacy elsewhere.
IMO the world is big enough to where if you think those words are true, chances are someone else will(clearly at least 30+ people did). Chin up king/queen, we're all gonna make it
Being able to be a burden to your partner is huge. It's a strong test of the relationship when, say, one party breaks an arm or leg and the other has to care for them. If your partner loses respect and admiration for you because they now have the care for you, it's a very telling sign of how they view you.
I found the right partner after beings friends for about 4 yrs. We would have a chat and friendship, and we found ourselves in agreement in so many things. (She was impressed by my coffee machines)! We have been together for over 20 yrs now.
It's great to hear this. I've always been of the opinion be yourself. If they didn't like it, they weren't right for you anyway, hear I am take it or leave it.
Not to confuse 'Pretending to be someone you're not' with 'you're perfect the way you are'. The way you worded that was almost like "Chris said I can be a piece of shit, but it's everyone elses problem' - which is deffs not the message he's trying to convey.
Hey Everyone 🤠 Find the parts that interest you: 0:20 - Advice for choosing a good partner 2:00 - How Courtney and I connected 4:00 - Feeling safe to be a burden 5:49 - Women helping men express emotions 6:58 - Strength in sharing emotions 8:30 - Balancing vulnerability and masculinity Chat with videos via Bumpups 🌲
I remember when Courtney was with Steve Cook and I found her really annoying. So I was skeptical when she and Chris got together, but clearly they were a much better match and got the best out of eachother. Glad for them.
I'm sure we all fantasise about finding a partner who could really transform our lives and allow us both to develop. But reality is harder than that and we have to settle with who we can actually find. Be grateful for what we do have of course.
Notable is that success/drive (2nd in an Olympian competition) combined with a willingness to emote is what was seen as attractive. Emoting alone is not going to have this effect. Put yourself out their AS you pursue your authentic path to building in the world; only broadcasting your hardships will not attract the kind of partner you would desire to do life with
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
This is more like winning the lottery than 1950's courtship. He's in a position as a hyper alpha at the top of the physical hierarchy. Most men will not be able to satisfy their wife's desire or lust for past exes or future opportunities. Too many women today have wandering eyes and the illusion of grass is greener and infinite choice. I'd take this with a massive grain of salt. Most women will perceive vulnerability as weakness..... well unless you are a 6'1 gigachad on top of the world of physique. In this case, literally. The balancing act is heavily skewed towards a much longer leash towards genetically gifted men vs the average Joe. It doesn't take the modern woman very long to catch the ick or revert into a masculine role if her man isn't on point emotionally, say more than 90% of the time.
You don't even know this lady. You just assumed she was your version of a modern woman and came up with a whole scenario in your head. Do you even talk to women on a regular basis?
@dahliaherrod4301 Firstly, I wasn't talking about his woman. I was referring to the fact that any man who is by definition a gigachad has a much longer leash when it comes to expressing emotions and being vulnerable around a woman. She knows she won, and it's her best option. This is an exceptional case, and his wife probably does love him to this extent. Most women will also do the same for gigachad. Most men are not gigachad; therefore, grass is greener and wandering eyes and ick factor when emotionally vulnerable too often or given a short leash. Look at the divorce stats and who initiates them.
Want to did the right woman? Treat her well, take her out to dinner, pay for some things, etc. Then, watch what happens if you lose your job and hit hard times. Most will start looking for another man, flirting, ignoring you, isolating you, etc. If she stays and supports you and still wants to show you love etc, then you found a good one. That all takes time to vet, so it isn't overnight. Also, if they want to move super fast and sleep with you in the first week or month, RUN. There have been many in that cave before you and if you could see the walls, there would be PLENTY if warnings 😂.
My 50 Year old self Pls All look into star signs And then and also be a man and be. Woman understand our deepest dimension Men need to provide and be strong Woman have babies and support and are the rocks that hold a beautiful family ❤
I see this as very easily debunkable. This isn't the way it is for the average man, at all. You don't show your weakness to your woman and she goes 'Oh wow how strong of him?!' It'd rather be 'Oh now I am the masculine side over here'
@@MsSassyBlondie why is it always extremes with females? Who said _constantly_ We get it, we're walking ATMs, but the least yall could do is understand how statistics work.
@@jxxxhyah yes, gonna live my relationships with dishonesty and constantly withholding information from my partner because a youtube comment told me I'd be single if I didn't, thank you
That all depends on needs and how much room you’re willing to give people. What is transformation? Do we even want transformation? In an age where robots are coming out, some dudes just want a robot
Would it be unfair to say that if you're a very burly, jacked guy, you get more slack to be emotional with a woman whereas more or less, this is bad advice for the average man?
I could be wrong, but mabey less to do with physical traits being jacked etc. and more to do with masculinity and the energy you put out. If your a masculine man it’s probably more positively received by a woman when your being emotional. However if your not very masculine or you don’t cultivate your masculinity and then display emotions it is received less positively.
I'm sorry Chris, I like your videos a lot, but this "I uploaded 1 video and she reached out to me" is pure luck and him being a chad in the first place, I've been uploading videos for 3 months straight and not even 1 woman reached out to me so that's just him being lucky, not a replicable plan.
That's wonderful, however don't forget he is CBUM. Not saying his wife is not authentic, but will she do the same if he wasn't CBUM? The bottom line is that you can rationalize how much you want, but he is the Alpha Man most women want! He is successful!
There is truth to this. Im not mad about it. I just do my best to work hard in the gym myself and run a business. But many men and women get sooooo mad when you dare to say that women won't even look at a guy unless certain criteria are met. Its unconscious gaslighting. Love IS conditional. Deal with it
Not saying I disagree with any of this per se, but I have to ask: what special qualifications does a bodybuilder have for dishing out life/relationship advice?
@@SuChendrgn I agree with you - everyone has their own human experience. So coming back to my question: if its just basic human experience (ie: bleeding obvious common sense) why don't we have just anyone on? What special wisdom does a bodybuilder bring to the table? Do nice muscles help with this?
Its never about the qualifications. People follow him because he is a role model. How did you end up finding this? Some random married person of the street could share the same wisdom. Its not about the person that tells it but how well you listen to them.
@@teun_haan I found Chris a while back because he was interviewing someone I was interested in - whoever it was they were an expert in their given field & knew their onions. I certainly don't 'follow' either of the Chris' here or regard them as role models though I concede the advice given in this show could be useful if you'd never figured it out yourself. But still... no one better, more lucid or articulate out there than a bodybuilder? Its not "the person that tells it" or "how well you listen". If they're talking nonsense listening closely won't help you at all. Its what they say that matters most. Chris Bumstead is a smart articulate guy & I like him, but he's on the show because he's a bodybuilder - not a philosopher or life coach. Anyway if you liked this stay tuned for next week's show. Jordan Peterson will be on giving advice about the best workout for legs and arms and a list of his favourite whey proteins.
well help me out then please: know any woman who's smart, moral (yes, including - maybe especially - THAT), attractive, and sane? and is on the same exact page as i am (i will explain what page that is if you find someone with the first four criteria, which you won't) regarding beliefs and values??
worry about your own health first and foremost, you're probably not even close to healthy like most people. This is weird, concerning yourself with strangers on a personal level
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It's great to see people be friends first and then have a flourishing relationship. Unfortunately, it's extremely unlikely that happens in the modern day as we socially enforce "dating multiple people" and "having sexual experience", which means people will ignore the idea of their friendship becoming more, as they're constantly outsourcing intimacy elsewhere.
IMO the world is big enough to where if you think those words are true, chances are someone else will(clearly at least 30+ people did). Chin up king/queen, we're all gonna make it
*When you’re with the right person, it’s not just your love life that transforms; it’s your mindset, your focus, and even your outlook on challenges.*
I am so grateful that I have this with my wife. She's the best thing that happened to me and she's helped become the best version of myself.
Yeah I’m so glad I have this with your wife too
@@jamesangel140 His wife is the best thing that happened to me too. @rafaelalamilla5583 kidding
Being able to be a burden to your partner is huge. It's a strong test of the relationship when, say, one party breaks an arm or leg and the other has to care for them. If your partner loses respect and admiration for you because they now have the care for you, it's a very telling sign of how they view you.
I found the right partner after beings friends for about 4 yrs. We would have a chat and friendship, and we found ourselves in agreement in so many things. (She was impressed by my coffee machines)!
We have been together for over 20 yrs now.
You’re lucky
It's great to hear this. I've always been of the opinion be yourself. If they didn't like it, they weren't right for you anyway, hear I am take it or leave it.
Not to confuse 'Pretending to be someone you're not' with 'you're perfect the way you are'.
The way you worded that was almost like "Chris said I can be a piece of shit, but it's everyone elses problem' - which is deffs not the message he's trying to convey.
Hey Everyone 🤠
Find the parts that interest you:
0:20 - Advice for choosing a good partner
2:00 - How Courtney and I connected
4:00 - Feeling safe to be a burden
5:49 - Women helping men express emotions
6:58 - Strength in sharing emotions
8:30 - Balancing vulnerability and masculinity
Chat with videos via Bumpups 🌲
I remember when Courtney was with Steve Cook and I found her really annoying. So I was skeptical when she and Chris got together, but clearly they were a much better match and got the best out of eachother. Glad for them.
Chris is going to be so annoyed in 2 to 5 years 😂😂😂😂 stay single men
My boy C-Bum is right about being yourself. What he left out is the part of being attractive and have status (be good at what you do).
8:26 Now that is the Main point why she still respects him
Amen
Quit overcoming and just be vulnerable and see what happens
Wow great clip. The fact that this side of intimate relationships is being articulated so well to a wide audience is great to see. Great stuff.
I'm sure we all fantasise about finding a partner who could really transform our lives and allow us both to develop. But reality is harder than that and we have to settle with who we can actually find. Be grateful for what we do have of course.
Be grateful to the rock in your shoe.
3:45 - 4:50. You describe that extremely well. It is heartbreaking when you can't work together during tough times. 😢
It’s probably good to find your fortune first and then meet someone.
He is sharing some super powerful truths! He found a gem as a wife
In my book when you’re Mr. Olympia, you can talk about whatever you want 💪🏽
Notable is that success/drive (2nd in an Olympian competition) combined with a willingness to emote is what was seen as attractive.
Emoting alone is not going to have this effect.
Put yourself out their AS you pursue your authentic path to building in the world; only broadcasting your hardships will not attract the kind of partner you would desire to do life with
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Bot
She was with Steve cook she cheated on him with Chris and now Chris and them are all happily ever after let’s get the facts straight that’s who she is
Dang sounds like a foundation on sand
Being cruel to people you don’t know online makes you a bad person. You’re a bad person. Reflect on that.
Very valuable talk,
many thanks!
I WILL CHOOSE THE RIGHT PARTNER
just want a loyal wife that puts up a strong fight❤
no such thing exists, and don't get married, you dont need it and theres no benefit.
Just get some hobbies bro and stack money for the future. You don't need a partner.
I’m still waiting for my love… I have hope. ❤
You seem like a down to earth person
A game plan and a dating coach would be better
cbum is really wise and I love him for his authenticity.
This is more like winning the lottery than 1950's courtship. He's in a position as a hyper alpha at the top of the physical hierarchy. Most men will not be able to satisfy their wife's desire or lust for past exes or future opportunities. Too many women today have wandering eyes and the illusion of grass is greener and infinite choice.
I'd take this with a massive grain of salt. Most women will perceive vulnerability as weakness..... well unless you are a 6'1 gigachad on top of the world of physique. In this case, literally. The balancing act is heavily skewed towards a much longer leash towards genetically gifted men vs the average Joe. It doesn't take the modern woman very long to catch the ick or revert into a masculine role if her man isn't on point emotionally, say more than 90% of the time.
Good point
Modern American woman**
You don't even know this lady. You just assumed she was your version of a modern woman and came up with a whole scenario in your head. Do you even talk to women on a regular basis?
good chance she's already cheated on this guy anyway
@dahliaherrod4301 Firstly, I wasn't talking about his woman. I was referring to the fact that any man who is by definition a gigachad has a much longer leash when it comes to expressing emotions and being vulnerable around a woman. She knows she won, and it's her best option. This is an exceptional case, and his wife probably does love him to this extent. Most women will also do the same for gigachad. Most men are not gigachad; therefore, grass is greener and wandering eyes and ick factor when emotionally vulnerable too often or given a short leash. Look at the divorce stats and who initiates them.
Proverbs 18:22
important part : met her AFTER he won mr O.
that is false.
@@calvinyouttitham5076 1:40
Didn’t she leave him once?
Mr.O interesting...
Women don't typically go after someone that muscular. It's not in the type 5 of physiques for us. It actually comes across more scary than hot.
Wow what a vibe, this is it
Want to did the right woman? Treat her well, take her out to dinner, pay for some things, etc. Then, watch what happens if you lose your job and hit hard times.
Most will start looking for another man, flirting, ignoring you, isolating you, etc. If she stays and supports you and still wants to show you love etc, then you found a good one. That all takes time to vet, so it isn't overnight. Also, if they want to move super fast and sleep with you in the first week or month, RUN. There have been many in that cave before you and if you could see the walls, there would be PLENTY if warnings 😂.
My 50
Year old self
Pls
All look into star signs
And then and also be a man and be. Woman understand our deepest dimension
Men need to provide and be strong
Woman have babies and support and are the rocks that hold a beautiful family ❤
I see this as very easily debunkable. This isn't the way it is for the average man, at all. You don't show your weakness to your woman and she goes 'Oh wow how strong of him?!' It'd rather be 'Oh now I am the masculine side over here'
Not necessarily. I mean, it’s not attractive to constantly be vulnerable and soft, but there should be enough trust to be that when you need to be.
Never show your woman your emotions
@@MsSassyBlondie why is it always extremes with females?
Who said _constantly_
We get it, we're walking ATMs, but the least yall could do is understand how statistics work.
This guy is an Olympian and got a wife by crying on video. Dude is a stud.
@@jxxxhyah yes, gonna live my relationships with dishonesty and constantly withholding information from my partner because a youtube comment told me I'd be single if I didn't, thank you
So can choosing the wrong partner.
That all depends on needs and how much room you’re willing to give people. What is transformation? Do we even want transformation? In an age where robots are coming out, some dudes just want a robot
Damn Bro , 22 second since its uploaded and Im here...
Thank you very much
Homeless wife, I say good bye
Most men are already too emotional. They need to know how to be more masculine when their woman needs them too
To be able to pick the right partner, you need to have at least 2 options. I dont have those kinds of options.
SO TOO can choosing the WRONG one
Would it be unfair to say that if you're a very burly, jacked guy, you get more slack to be emotional with a woman whereas more or less, this is bad advice for the average man?
Yup
I could be wrong, but mabey less to do with physical traits being jacked etc. and more to do with masculinity and the energy you put out. If your a masculine man it’s probably more positively received by a woman when your being emotional. However if your not very masculine or you don’t cultivate your masculinity and then display emotions it is received less positively.
I WILL ACTUALIZE SHOWING UP AS THE MAXIMUM IN THE RELATIONSHIP
Don't listen to this dude. Never cry in front of your woman or any girl you're interested in. It's the fastest way to turn a woman off.
Mr.O big brained
I'm sorry Chris, I like your videos a lot, but this "I uploaded 1 video and she reached out to me" is pure luck and him being a chad in the first place, I've been uploading videos for 3 months straight and not even 1 woman reached out to me so that's just him being lucky, not a replicable plan.
Very Simplistic, considering the you today is different than the you in 20 years, and so on.
That's wonderful, however don't forget he is CBUM.
Not saying his wife is not authentic, but will she do the same if he wasn't CBUM?
The bottom line is that you can rationalize how much you want, but he is the Alpha Man most women want! He is successful!
Give it 10 years 😂😂😂
That is beautiful
So win mr Olympia first?
Having huge muscles doesnt hurt either
Choosing the right partner. That’s a thing only the top 20% can do.
There is truth to this. Im not mad about it. I just do my best to work hard in the gym myself and run a business. But many men and women get sooooo mad when you dare to say that women won't even look at a guy unless certain criteria are met. Its unconscious gaslighting. Love IS conditional. Deal with it
@ I do all those same things, including running a business. Women do not give a shit.
@FDE4L I completely understand where you are coming from. It still frustrates me too.
Why would anyone get married today?
Not saying I disagree with any of this per se, but I have to ask: what special qualifications does a bodybuilder have for dishing out life/relationship advice?
Why would you need ‘special qualifications’ for that? It’s human experience. Everyone has their own insight that is valuable to someone else.
@@SuChendrgn I agree with you - everyone has their own human experience. So coming back to my question: if its just basic human experience (ie: bleeding obvious common sense) why don't we have just anyone on? What special wisdom does a bodybuilder bring to the table? Do nice muscles help with this?
Its never about the qualifications. People follow him because he is a role model. How did you end up finding this?
Some random married person of the street could share the same wisdom. Its not about the person that tells it but how well you listen to them.
@@teun_haan I found Chris a while back because he was interviewing someone I was interested in - whoever it was they were an expert in their given field & knew their onions.
I certainly don't 'follow' either of the Chris' here or regard them as role models though I concede the advice given in this show could be useful if you'd never figured it out yourself. But still... no one better, more lucid or articulate out there than a bodybuilder?
Its not "the person that tells it" or "how well you listen". If they're talking nonsense listening closely won't help you at all. Its what they say that matters most. Chris Bumstead is a smart articulate guy & I like him, but he's on the show because he's a bodybuilder - not a philosopher or life coach.
Anyway if you liked this stay tuned for next week's show. Jordan Peterson will be on giving advice about the best workout for legs and arms and a list of his favourite whey proteins.
A life experience
I don't think most women want to see you cry your eyes out the first time. It's nice to live Chad life.
I hope I have arms like these dudes someday.
Bi polar women isn’t a vibe
CBum for coolest dude 2024
Tell him to come back after 20 yrs at least, and then give me relationship advice 😂 I’ve been married for 15, this sounds like kindergarten.
Step one: Don’t pick a woman above an eight. The crazy hot matrix is real.
Wait. He met his wife by crying on video? Dude is a stud.
100% 🙌🔥❤️
well help me out then please: know any woman who's smart, moral (yes, including - maybe especially - THAT), attractive, and sane? and is on the same exact page as i am (i will explain what page that is if you find someone with the first four criteria, which you won't) regarding beliefs and values??
Choosing the wrong one.......can totally screw your life up...I have witnessed this.....I've been lucky
People see him with a shirt and are like mid physique
What he's talking about only works if you look good.
My wife is angry hurt and just kinda a mean person she hates herself and is mostly miserable to be around
CBUM: if you are putting on a show….
💯
He just called us all out!
Lesson learned move forward.
People first have so many sexual partners then suddenly they find the best woman or man. WTFFF. 😂
First Comment I guess
Yes for him the right partner was 💉
Huge fan, come to Pakistan
nah bro aint no one coming to pakistan brother fuck that
What a joke !
❤🙌
This guy cried to get sympathy poon 😂
Is chris going to stop steroids now that he's done? Worried about his health.
worry about your own health first and foremost, you're probably not even close to healthy like most people. This is weird, concerning yourself with strangers on a personal level
Firsty first mofos 😂♥️☝🏼
1st.